Time to be Honest: I'm struggling...
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Today I'm going to brutally honest with y'all I've had a rough time since being sick and life just seems a little heavier than usual, with only 3 weeks between camps it feels like I have a massive mountain to climb before I leave next week. BUT a problem shared shared is a problem halved so thank you all for being my ear this week! And for anyone else struggling at the moment during these darker days - you're not alone!
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Daniel is a top bloke. Just because you're living your dream, doesn't mean it'll be easy. You got this Phily!
Coming from someone twice your age... people have always been struggling and have mostly kept their challenges to themselves. It's finally considered acceptable to be open about our feelings. 🙂
Being your age (maybe) I agree . . .
me three.... Also this is the time of year (northern hemisphere) that is known to have the highest incidence of depression. Shortest days of the year, rainy and cold in some places, low vit d in our bodies.. some people stressing about upcoming holidays...all around poo sandwich time of the year.
Great video, thanks. Admitting you're struggling should not have such a negative stigma. Struggling is the opposite of giving up. It shows strength.
You got this! Knowing your videos are a week or more behind, hopefully the stressful week is over now and you can enjoy your trip to the US. ❤ Love the grind! ❤
I needed this vid! Oct-Dec is normally my fave time of year but past few weeks I've felt like blu tac stretched too thin.
Something about the change in weather, wanting to be busy but struggling to keep up with a relentless schedule, realising I'm probably going to flop some of my new years resolutions. Multiple existential crisis about what I'm doing with my life.
Thanks for sharing your struggles, it's always reassuring to know you aren't alone. We're all gonna make it, one way or another!
I very rarely comment on social, but just wanted to say how awesome you are and proud of yourself you should be. It doesn't matter how old you are, no one ever has it all figured out, as "together" as it may seem they are. I'm 44 years old and constantly question myself and what I'm doing. Don't let anyone make you feel like you don't have the right to have those moments of self-doubt just because you chose to follow your dreams or a path that isn't "traditional" according to someone else's standard. You're a trailblazer and making your own path that is right for you. Follow those dreams and don't let anyone minimize the hard work and sacrifice you are making to follow them! Where some would say privileged, I prefer to say that you're a professional athlete, entrepreneur and business owner, which in my opinion is way more difficult than working for someone else because you're chosen to invest in yourself. Just remember to take a deep breath, even if it's just 5 min a day. You've got this!
thank you so much for making this video! have been feeling a bit of the same and it was nice to have voice given to that feeling. cheers to allowing ourselves to feel the feels, being met with support and understanding, and giving ourselves permission to take care of ourselves ❤
I am not one to comment very often, but hearing you open up about struggeling really got to me. Also the constant doubt and feeling like you’re doing life wrong is really getting to me. So whilst I am not glad for you that you’re feeling that way, I am glad you’re sharing it. Best of luck in Flagstaff!💪🏻
It really is most of us some of the time right! Thank you ❤️
my hat is off to you for your incredible level of commitment and hard work and your humour and realism. It's fun to grab a coffee and watch.
Thank you ❤️
Hard is hard, even if it's not the same as someone else's hard or if it could be worse. It's still valid. I do hope things slow for you soon and you can catch your breath ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this message! ❤ I needed this today and you are such a huge inspiration. It's okay to not be okay sometimes.
Great video and so relatable. Was feeling exactly the same for the last couple of days and can 100% relate.. Keep the Content coming.. All the best for your trip and next training block :)
Just wanted to say your slogan really sticks with me when I find things tough, because life is a grind (I bought one of your T-shirts). I’ve been having health issues the last couple of months which have felt like they’ve come out of nowhere and caused me a lot of anxiety. Self care is really important, don’t burn yourself out. Health is wealth.
Just subscribed. Thanks for sharing the best and the bad times. Love your channel, keep it up!
Thank you for sharing this video. Appreciate the honest moments you shared. It not only helps show you struggling, but also how you adjusted by skipping your gym session (and the tips you offered for when people are struggling). It was also great seeing you get a run in on a treadmill. Treadmills get a bad reputation, but they can be a useful tool. Keep up the good work!
It's a really strong thing to do, to admit when you're having a challenging time. The more people who talk about it, the more we all realise we're not alone or going mad and you know it's not just you. I'm 49 and I still haven't got a clue, I'm still making it up, wanting to really pursue my dreams (acting and writing) and just muddling through. My poor Dad isn't well at all and my sister and I are supporting them but it's changed our routines so much and I'm so tired. But you take each day as it comes and as you said it's okay to do the bare minimum. Looking after yourself is so important. You look like you're training so well and working so hard, but just make sure you balance everything to get to the start line. I got Good for Age for London so I'll be starting marathon training again January. So excited but those cold long runs......!! Keep going Philly. You've got this. 🙂
But why did I tear up when you said that I can cry and you’ll be here 😭🫶🏼 guess I’m due for a good cry too
Thanks so much for this Phily, for your honesty, for saying that it's OK to do the bare minimum at times when you're struggling, and also for showing yourself walking up a hill 😃 I do it a lot since I moved to a VERY hilly region this autumn where there are basically no flat stretches longer than 500m at all and it feels very much like I'm cheating or being sluggish. I'm struggling as well atm. Also had a cold and then the coughing phase after as I also have asthma. I signed up for a 53km race with a lot of altitude early next spring and due to my illness I couldn't run for a whole week and felt really down about that as well, but today I went out for just a short run in the snow and am feeling slightly more positive now. Good luck to you, for the tests as well as everything else you've got coming up! Would love to buy some merch but can't afford it rn. And thanks again for sharing this, it's weird to say I like to see that other people are suffering as well, that's not what I mean 😖😄, but it is comforting to know that others go through similar stuff as well and it's not the end of the world.
U know Philly, it took me until 40 years old to have an epiphany (while I was our running as a matter of fact) & realise life is generally 99.9% made up as you go, & that no one tells you how to be an adult😂 It’s like my Mum’s fav saying to anyone that is about to have kiddos “they don’t come with instruction manuals…u just do the absolute best you can, mostly on the fly”🤣Many have tried to give us life instruction manuals (books/podcasts etc.) but I haven’t come across 1 yet that has it completely nailed, & applicable to everyone! You may not realise it sometimes but ur crushing it, & you inspire me everyday…& I know many others also! I’m so glad u have a Daniel in your life you can vent to & is beside you through this wild ride we call life!!! U got this Philly!!!!🙌🏼💪🏼🫶
So so true!! ❤️
The best part about you, well there are so many, BUT keeping things real and relatable to “average” runners earns a load of respect.
Thanks for sharing Phily - for me, watching this video with a coffee was my little thing for today :)
Its ok not to be ok.
There is no judgement here. Quite the opposite. We need more runners being open about struggling-or just having “low” times generally. For something as “simple”
As running, be it your job, your avocation, your hobby, your stress relief, or whatever, it’s deceivingly complex.
I may not be doing 95 mpw, but I do push 80 when I’m in peak
Marathon training, I I put that on a schoolteacher’s schedule. It’s taken me many years to realize how important taking a step back and prioritizing my own mental and emotional wellness is.
Phily, you and Daniel are real people, and you both inspire. Keep up the greatness, keep loving the grind, and keep loving yourselves and one another!
So important to talk about it, when we're not feeling 100% - took me a long time to learn this, so good for you Phily.
My daughter has that same little stuffy! You have a lot on your plate. Good luck to you. Cheering for you
You and Daniel are inspiring to many! You are appreciated!💕
I did a 100mile running challenge in Oct running approx. 5km a day and I found a new appreciation for how much time and effort goes into training, imagining you doing that volume in a week literally blows my mind, not to mention everything else you have to fit in on top.
Thank you for sharing how you're feeling. I think Christmas is a really difficult time, especially with needing to see loads of people, go out for dinner/drinks, buy presents, go out when it's light which is about 4 hours in the day ha. It's really tough. Take it easy, you're doing great. Dial back on the levers that aren't important/necessary (new merch a good start), do the bare minimum (which for you is still so much ha!) and look after yourself.
You’re an inspiration. Keep up the good work!
Credit to you for being open about this. Just because you are a paid full time athlete does not make it easy. You are still the one has to do all the sessions, make sacrifices, travel a lot, be under the spotlight with performances etc. It makes sense. Whatever our jobs though, we are all trying to juggle these things of exercise, family, sleep, clean house etc. Sometimes you just have to accept some things need to slip!
Watching this whilst being on the treadmill at 5AM on a Sunday before going to work… But LOVE THE GRIND (and this video) ❤
Phily and Daniel, you’ve got a great thing going here! No need to overthink it - just keep doing what you’re doing! 👍
You're doing great Phily! You got this!
Without downs, there wont be ups. Life is like that. You cant stop the waves from coming, but I find the moment I recognize I am going down, I am on my way up again. Love the grind! 😍
Very raw Phily. One thing at a time and shorten your timeframes. Don’t get overwhelmed. You’re going great - look what you’ve achieved this year. People follow the myth of pursuit of happiness. Life isn’t like that, it’s ups and downs. And it’s about finding the best way to navigate that imo. Keep going! And keep talking to Daniel.
Not sure how I found your site, glad I did. Trying to get back into running, late in life. Love your frenetic energy. I sense some Existential Anxiety. Suffered greatly from that myself. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Stoicism, Secular Buddhism gave me some tools that helped. But life is just crazy, confusing and ... short. But as you have observed that's ok, that's the essence of modern life - its nuts and then its over. Good luck on your journey. Be present in this moment and let go, not of direction, but of destinations. This doesn't mean that we don't set goals or plan. It means that you should be 100 percent engaged in what you are doing now. A key teaching in Buddhism. Your sense of humour, authenticity and down to earth attitude are awesome. Cheers and thanks for the running advise. Daniel L. from Canada. (you are already amazing)
You've got this Philly!!! 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's so encouraging hearing that also people from whom you think life seems amazing and great almost all the time, are going through similar crises sometimes! Give yourself some time, believe in yourself and I am 100% sure, you will be absolutely great and amazing in your next race! I really like your channel and not only because my boyfriend also called Daniel :) LOL
Thank you so much you’re too kind!
Watching this on a Tuesday that feels like a Monday and like I'm swimming up a hill. No but honestly this video assured me that it's ok to sit in the struggle bus sometimes, we're still moving forward.
Really enjoy those cute English roads! UK is such a cool place!
I’m in the same place as you with triathlon, sometimes you really question your life choices 😅
Love your videos, keep going !
This sleep ad made me go back to sleep for a few more hours. I hope the struggles lessens up a little for you
I’m 58 and still have difficult times and still haven’t figured out what I want to do for the rest of my life. Good luck figuring it out.
Thanks for letting your subscribers (dare I say cyber space friends?!) follow along on your journey. We are cheering for you from the sideline!! 🎉❤
Take care champ.
You're doing great with your training! It's ok to feel not amazing all the time, like you said. SAL-MON for dinner :D haha yes Daniel making dinner is the best :D Hope it was good. Hope the VO2MAX test went well!
Sing more! Please! Everyone like this if you agree!
So much good lore in this one.
I assume that you are being honest with me so no need to say that!!!! Feel better and keep the content flowing..... back to the treadmill for my long run today.
Your videos make me laugh. I love your content and you are doing great!!!!
This is my favorite TH-cam channel. Thanks for sharing!! I hope things start to look up mentally for you. I feel the same way. 1 question I’ve been wondering forever…do runners pause their watches at lights? I feel like it’s not necessary to pause…but sometimes I feel like I stand there for 4-5 minutes…maybe that’s me caring too much about the Strava results?
Yup, 1000% always pause 😂
I can’t even express how much you walking up that hill means to me rather than running up it. Thanks for that. I had to stop and walk for a few seconds twice during my run today because a stupid side stitch and I was so mad. It’s okay. Everything is fine.
awww I’m glad, that one is a stinker in particular! Jakob Ingebritsen also walks up hills on easy runs if his HR goes too high, no shame in it at all!
it takes an incredible effort to be a professional athlete that isn't well supported to do the work when at times you really just want to skip some sessions. Not to mention the extreme amount of doubt that must creep in at times questioning life. For that reason alone you're a very special person for following your dreams while trying your best to make the rest work.
Hilly Phily.
One day, you will see clearly that who/what you really are, is the observer of your thoughts, feelings and emotions... and it will all get that little bit easier.
Well done for listening to your feelings and not just shutting them down.
It is okay to love your life AND still have a really hard time
I came here because of Matt Fox from Sweat Elite, I am staying because of the shhnacks and the honesty.
I've never once managed to hug a cat :(
Dogs on the other hand!
It's funny how sometimes a cold gives us a better deep voice (when it doesn't remove it altogether) but I pretty much always lose my falsetto from a cold.
I have the same mug as you 😊
"home home"? me too...and i left over 35 years ago
Frist few minutes of this vid, not gonna lie, no idea what is going on :)
Go Philly!!!
you should do whatever seems the most fun to you
I work outdoors, sometimes I struggle to run when its cold. Being cold all the time gets a little OLD 🤣
No wonder you are having a hard time, apart from all the end of year pressures etc that we get you no longer have your little training group AND you are not getting the nice bread and pain au chocolat after LR. You need to find a nice local boulangerie that you can incorporate in your run at this time of year. French Food Coach. My new new job title.
dang that camera stayed stable while you're running... dji osmo?
There's a voice In there 🤣👏👏
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36k viewers and it's your job? Yikes. I know what that pays. Well, as long as you got food on the table 👏👏👏
It would be funny to drop a 12 on the VO2 Max test. What could they say? Your results speak for themselves. “But how does she do it?!?!”
13:39 None of us are judging you, but I think your cat might be... 😾🤔
Phily, NOBODY really has it together. Love yourself and your loved ones. The grind is just as much mental, love it too.
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Struggling is a good thing. Struggle well. You know how to do it, like the final 10K of a marathon. Smile.
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Do a review video of Valencia. 3x british women running the olympic standard. Lily and Clara 2.25 aand sonia 2.28 and I know you can get it in Houston in January. British running is on fire!
Was that piss stop or pitstop phily?
You should sing more 😂
It’s chusday (I’m American)
What’s your MBTI? I’m an INFJ
Discount code used mid video 👍🙌👌 #pauseforxmaspressies
Drop your mileage and just train for the 800 for 1 month
You and me both Philly, you and me both. p.s. please don't sing!
well just make sure you have your baby by the time you hit your mid 30's.. don't wait too long.
I’m sorry what now? Who said I was having a baby?! 😂
@@PhilyBowden You have to! it's like the whole purpose of life, everything that you have learned and gained wisdom on needs to be passed on, so your child can go further with it than you did if they so choose, when you look into the babies eyes, you will be so glad you made the decision to have him/her!
There is more to life than earthly accomplishment. I am certain the answer is being in relationship with the one that created you. That is God, not your mom and dad :). A life serving God through faith in Jesus is a place of joy unspeakable in every circumstance of life conceivable. If you have never considered putting your faith in Jesus to redeem your soul, and then follow his example to serve the one true God I encourage you to do just that. If you do that I am certain that you will find a level of life fulfillment that you have never experienced before.
I lasted a minute before bailing, good god, get to the point!