This story hits different now that I'm grown. I was blindsided with a man like Franklin, fell in love with potential. I was successful and young, he struggled with being a provider. I had everything he wanted and he constantly got mad at me. Wish I had a little more guidance, I became pregnant treatment got worse. He destroyed my place and broke up most of things. I had a little girl and gave him chances to step up; he blamed me for everything wrong with his life. I don't know if he got it together but I'm happily married and my daughter is now 14.
@SimplyAdia ... I don't know you abs ah very proud of you and how you decided to improve and let the zero alone. Congratulations on your wonderful life!
So happy for you! I stayed married to this type of man for 8 yrs! Currently getting a divorce and I am soo looking forward to my freedom! I have and a 7yr old and a 7month old!!! Idc, I’m done!
If you're a black woman in your forties you've had one of these struggle relationships. The Black movies from the 90's and early 00's had us thinking we can build a man even if we were destroying ourselves in the process. Thank God for deliverance!
I'm in my mid-30s and ALMOST got caught up in one of these type of struggle love situations. Thank God I had the discernment to see it for what it was before I got in too deep!
He is home before her, he forgot to pick up his own child. She is washing the dishes and he wanted her to change the baby. Can't he change his child diaper?
A wise older woman told me once "if it starts off wrong, it won't end up right" that's what happens, they got together he was still married, and morally it was wrong for him to start another family before tying up the loose ends; the drinking on the job, etcetera. He had to get himself all the way together first in order for him to be the man he wanted to be and needed to be. I was so happy to see him come back as a better man. From experience it doesn't always happen this way for us women of color, sometimes they come back after the children are grown(as was in my case) and too much time has passed and far too much damage has been done(especially to our sons growing up without their fathers). I love Terry McMillen as an author who also gave us "Waiting to exhale" I enjoyed revisiting this film because it ends the way it began, with Love and Black Love is the Best Kind of Love!!! To All of my Black Men out there Stay Strong and just Hold on and Know that You Are So Loved!!
I had to look at this movie a second time. Taught me a lesson or two: take time to know a man; never moved him into your place; listen to what he's not saying, and don't support him financially and no husband benefits. That man was trash. I felt her pain.
@Joel Johnson It wasn't the goals that was the problem. He made alot of excuses for himself not realizing the world don't stop for nobody. And he just kept digging a deeper hole while dragging women and children down with him. Now she also had a role in that. Its okay to love someone but don't coddle them. He should of never moved in. And she should have allowed him time to get his stuff together. And if he real about wanting better he will be better. He definitely loved her but sadly love...is not enough sometimes.
Women have to realize the business part of the relationship. If a man doesn’t bring anything good to bring to the table or he doesn’t have much to lose as you do, leave him alone.
Even tho he was toxic, u can't really blame him for that one lol I mean, they didn't have social media or cell phones back then, so it's not like he could holla at her any other way 🤷🏾♂️
This movie triggers me to no end. My face was drowned throughout the whole movie. Lol! I watched this at age 27 and now at 49 and I’m still pissed with Franklin. Ugh‼️🙄🤦🏽♀️
So many red flags from the beginning. That was some real life sh:+ & still does. Thank God for growth and knowing my worth and to teach other women (young up and coming). Them old ones 🤦🏽♀️
@Joel Johnson it was real but at the same time it wasn’t because he didn’t really love her when she told him i love you. He hesitated when they were sitting on the stairs. Zora was desperate for a man and the only thing that kept him around was the dick. When he asked her why am i here? He looked at her like u using me for my dick . It comes a time when a woman wants more than a big dick and good sex. That’s what his ex wife told him, she said well tell her to call me I’ll tell her girl a big dick and worth all this stress. That’s on period ….
We'll do anything to NOT BE ALONE 😩 I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY, When we realize this, it becomes a I want you there or I don't. Either way, we good with it.
Where has this movie been hiding? I love love love loved this movie. Thank you for posting it. This leading lady never let you down in whatever movie she stars in. She has a way of making all of her roles come to life.
Sanaa Lathan is a Very Beautiful and Talented actress and I agree she does bring these characters to life. I can't wait to see her win an Oscar someday..
@@nigerjenkins6372 No that’s not her singing. I have the actual DVD (showing my age😳). It’s Melky Jean and Sedeck Jean singing, siblings of Wyclif Jean.
I loved this movie. It’s so interesting to see how he motivated her and she inspired him. In the end they found each other again he became that successful contractor and she a song writer. She gave him a second chance to put her family back together because she never stopped loving him and he still loved her
I feel for everybody's situation. Men can really mess up their lives and women accept far too much. Franklin wasn't a bad guy, but he made bad decisions (drinking on the job, not getting his divorce). Zora did too (accepting his excuses). They didn't help each other in the beginning, just made each others' situations harder. A man has no business stepping to a woman with nothing to offer and a woman has no business letting him. Separate what you know from how you feel ladies (and gentlemen).
He told her in the beginning he didn’t had much to offer and she accepted him anyway. She just didn’t know he was so irresponsible. Sex can cloud your judgment.
WOW!! ALWAYS LOVED THIS MOVIE. MY DAUGHTER WAS SIX MONTHS OLD WHEN WE SAT ON THE SOFA WATCHING THIS MOVIE.TOGETHER. SHE IS NOW TWENTY ONE AND A SENIOR IN COLLEGE. MEMPHIS , TENNESSEE AUGUST 30, 2021 6:15am
There was three critcal errors she made ....#1 She slept with him on the second night #2 She gave him a key to her apartment and #3 She had a baby by him now let that sink in...
All women need to watch this movie before they head out on a first date got to be more careful when dating guys that don't have their business together
They were two good people just not good together. They both needed to get themselves together before they could have a successful relationship. The timing was just not right.
Weak male who blames and gets angry at everyone else for his failures. Girl, this is the perfect case of 'I can do bad all by myself.' No one is worth this much stress
@@edger_rush4057 No I am not! I would never waste my days with that type-I’ve wasted days with other types-but never a Franklyn Swift. I’m speaking from 57 yrs of observing human behavior and counseling others. I’m not a fan of any adult who blame others for their failures or take out that anger on others
Unpopular opinion: This is not a romantic movie . It is a typical struggle movie that get promoted to BW to accept any treatment as long as you got a “man”. He purposely did not tell her till she basically fell in love with him all of his problems. She is in a situation where she is paying majority of the bills, working, cooking, cleaning,trying to jumpstart a music career, and has epilepsy. All he brings her is no high school diploma, two kids he can’t take care of, and a wife that he still is married to . Then he basically tries to guilt trip her into keeping his baby when they are both already horribly struggling especially her since she is carrying 80 percent of the weight . He can’t keep a job to save his life .Then he has the audacity to make a comment insinuating that she should be grateful she has man . Once the baby comes, he can’t even remember to pick HIS child up and does not change diapers . When he gets upset, he messes up the furniture that her and HIS a child will have to live in. Unfortunately, this is the reality of many BW who are in relationships. They get gaslighted and treated like mules. A slim amount of intimacy from a man is enough for some women to accept this treatment . I would never thank god.
Thank you. I agree with you 100%. This movie is the same propaganda that is promoted to Black women over and over again to keep us in these struggle relationships and single parents. We are told to settle for not even the bare minimum that other races of women are taught to expect from a man. This is why Terri McMillan books are popular. I’m happy for her success, but all her books and movies are just like Tyler Perry movies. Black woman you are a mule, be happy that any Black man breathed near you, sacrifice your life for everyone but yourself. This movie is what not to do and what not to settle for in relationships and life.
You are on point this is so true he is not a Godly man his life was not in order she had a promising career before he gave her his life now she can’t keep a Job or money she missable like him
Yes I miss my beloved Momm 😢 💔 She will be gone 1 year this May 25th It has been so hard 😫 😪 😢 and I can't Believe she's not with me anymore But I will never ever forget her !!
@@sandraturner3838 my mom passed October 8th 2015 and the pain still the same and her bday is October 11th 😭 I can't say it'll get better the pain never go away and yes she is watching you always so make her proud
@@dimples5257 Yes I will and I have friends that still have their Mom's and don't realize how blessed they are and don't know what's really in store for them Until their Mom's pass away and there's No true way to prepare for it because After the burial you have to force yourself. To get back in your daily routines and J have family but at the same time I feel Soo lonely and very sad 😥 like I was Left and she went on a trip without me And will return soon and everything will be back to normal but everything on Earth will never be the same because Nothing can replace her and she touched Many lives and I will never forget her and Keep her memories alive as much as Possible and she was a noble woman
It’s sad. My brother is a 16 yr old aspiring actor and he is sad that the “everyday black movie” isnt made anymore. 😟. There ain’t movies like Boyz in the hood, Baby Boy, or Love Jones being made. I love these types of films man
Well he did try to find a job, he just kept getting turned down so he played it like he wasnt doing shit and she should've have never tried to baby him in the first place by saying she got him when he told her he couldnt afford to stay with her, she should have said okay let me know when you get it together lol
This brings back so many memories. I remember when the book first came out and when the movie came out I fell in love with black love even more. I wanted to be in love all over again 😘 They both played their roles to the fullest. The concerns in relationships are still relevant today💯The soundtrack is all that and more. Thank you for posting 🔥🔥🔥
I don't look at it as a Black man experience, more as a man thing- a life lesson if you will. Sometimes we as women ignore signals because we want love in our lives, passion, desire. To feel beautiful.
He was uncertain about his contribution She stayed true to course ..without being bitter because when he did come back he had made honest stride towards his real sense of belonging as a Father and worthy to earn her heart back Great movie !!!!
@@canadamonroe6229 Thank you for saying this!! Only black women are encouraged and even in some ways shamed into accepting struggle love, even by other black women. It's so sick!
This movie just tells me to get a private investigator if I'm gonna date a black man. Got the nerve to act like he the prize choosing talmbout "she don't be just yapping like them other girls, she listens" like we dogs. Then gaslighting her to think she's in the wrong to not want the dudes Tyler Perry pushes on us to settle for....or for expecting truthfulness and responsibility. We stay having to raise these fools. Grow up before y'all date and waste black women's time.
I know for real, this movie has a lot of parallels to what BW are dealing with today,. Like he literally smashed up everything he built in her flat out spite, all because he was told that his lazy azz attitude will not be tolerated. 🙄. "I am not divorced, I am separated".... umm no 😒
@Joel Johnson No, a man who strives to do good is not a fool. His erratic behavior and gaslighting is. He throws tantrums and wants to fix it with sex. He watched her struggle while he sat home without taking care of the house. Men don't need this explained to them. They're not angry about a comment section full of women who know better. They agree when they know their rightful places.
@Joel Johnson No, dusty. Real love is having enough respect for yourself and a future partner to be at your best so that you have something of value to bring to the table instead of expecting someone to struggle with you and your toxic bullshit. If you are significantly struggling, especially financially, you shouldn't even be entertaining the thought of dating anyone. You should be so focused on getting your shit together so that you can be an asset to your future partner instead of a liability.
@@estherbeckley420 I watched this as a kid and thought their love was sooo strong, growing up it’s shocking to realize how toxic they were to each other lol
Great for a storyline of what to stay away from. This is struggle love to the max. This movie kinda personifies how a lot of our men became. We empathized with their struggles, support them IN EVERY WAY, deal with that building boy phase and all. These days, many women are over it and the men are trying to get women back into this type of subjection. That's why KS is their voice. They are and have been bullying women into settling for them. The threat is "Well, you'll be alone." They get that from older women too. Explore you racial options. That doesn't mean any others are the holy grail. Still, explore to widen your pool. Its crazy because we can see brothers' pain and we really try to fill that void but we can't. That's why many give up on themselves. They need the Most High before being married and being in relationships. Healing to them and us
I date all, I refuse to put up with bullcrap just bc I'm trying to stay in my race category. Watched many great women in my life do it and saw firsthand how that affected them.
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
@Joel Johnson If that's love, I really don't want it. Thank you. Too often as women maybe out of desperation or from a society that tells us we must have a man-any, so many women settle for toxic mediocre love. Well I will pass.
I love this movie.. I was just about to turn 5 years old when this film came out , use to watch it late nights with mama & auntei's & them 💜 Now that I'm older Of course I see the movie in a whole different perspective most definately learned alot from it , theres so many deep messages within the movie being conveyed It will always && forever be one of the best Challenged Love Stories there is. I absolutely recommend, if haven't seen it before. Hope You all enjoy .!!
@A cherished Gem, I remember a co worker back then, suggesting Disappearing Acts. I just don't remember reading Mama though. Dang I'll have to revisit it. I enjoy all Terri's book. I have all her hardcovers except those two. You know sometimes, you can just reread a book, because it's like there is always something new that you may not have picked up on before, or it's like you're visiting an old friend, or even transporting yourself, back to the first time your read it. Something very comforting about rereading good books.
@@goodmeasure777 Mama is a very good book. The only 2 books I read twice was Jubilee by Margaret Walker and Morning Glory by LaVyrle Spencer. Morning Glory is now a movie but the book is always better.
Franklin was selfish . And sadly she let this man knock her up. He was already unstable with two children from a previous relationship (marriage) that he was barely providing for. Girl, you should have RAN !!! 💨💨🏃🏾♀ faster than Hussein Bolt. Franklin was no good. Franklin( his character) represent how grimey NY dudes are, as he only wanted her for stability and to carry his seed. She would have faired well not meeting him.
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This story hits different now that I'm grown. I was blindsided with a man like Franklin, fell in love with potential. I was successful and young, he struggled with being a provider. I had everything he wanted and he constantly got mad at me. Wish I had a little more guidance, I became pregnant treatment got worse. He destroyed my place and broke up most of things. I had a little girl and gave him chances to step up; he blamed me for everything wrong with his life. I don't know if he got it together but I'm happily married and my daughter is now 14.
@SimplyAdia ... I don't know you abs ah very proud of you and how you decided to improve and let the zero alone.
Congratulations on your wonderful life!
So happy for you! I stayed married to this type of man for 8 yrs! Currently getting a divorce and I am soo looking forward to my freedom! I have and a 7yr old and a 7month old!!! Idc, I’m done!
I’m very proud of you. Thank you for sharing
Oh man, I had this on VHS when I was about 19. A lot of this hits different after you've experienced life a little, lol.
Yes indeed Shai.
Word
If you're a black woman in your forties you've had one of these struggle relationships. The Black movies from the 90's and early 00's had us thinking we can build a man even if we were destroying ourselves in the process. Thank God for deliverance!
We know better know & wouldn't dare!!!
Amen to that!!!!!
I'm in my mid-30s and ALMOST got caught up in one of these type of struggle love situations. Thank God I had the discernment to see it for what it was before I got in too deep!
Amen 🙏🏽……
That's why I only date Ballers!
This movie just made 21 this year and STILL bangin'!
@Nyamekye Akua Sanaa Lathan is 49 in real life. When Disappearing Acts came out she was 29.
This was a book first
@@gwendolynsurles8821 a good book too!
This aint no love story boys and girls, this is a cautionary tale. Pay attention.
Say on because they made a poopy
Exactly, he was toxic, a user and a liar!
Facts!
🗣bingo ‼️‼️‼️
Amen🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️
Black Struggle Love is for the birds!
THANKYOU.!!! PREACH.! Honey.!! ☝️🙏 Let the Church Say AMEN.!!
YES IT IS and I want NO parts of it!!!
Wisdom Speaks . Your speaking WISDOM .
None at all sis. Wouldn't have looked twice!!
Q.: How about 'Struggle Love' in other colors? What kind of birds are those for?
Dang …He caused her trouble, added struggle and stress to her life and cost her money from the very first encounter! Red flags from the word “Go.”
This movie is a prime example of how the wrong person can come into your life, and ruin it when discernment is not used.
not so much the wrong person because he did indeed love her he just wasn't right for her in the begining, he had a lot of work to do.
@@nicolejames6796 That's still make him the wrong person
He is home before her, he forgot to pick up his own child. She is washing the dishes and he wanted her to change the baby. Can't he change his child diaper?
True
EXACTLY
A wise older woman told me once "if it starts off wrong, it won't end up right" that's what happens, they got together he was still married, and morally it was wrong for him to start another family before tying up the loose ends; the drinking on the job, etcetera. He had to get himself all the way together first in order for him to be the man he wanted to be and needed to be. I was so happy to see him come back as a better man.
From experience it doesn't always happen this way for us women of color, sometimes they come back after the children are grown(as was in my case) and too much time has passed and far too much damage has been done(especially to our sons growing up without their fathers). I love Terry McMillen as an author who also gave us "Waiting to exhale" I enjoyed revisiting this film because it ends the way it began, with Love and Black Love is the Best Kind of Love!!! To All of my Black Men out there Stay Strong and just Hold on and Know that You Are So Loved!!
Thanks queen
Very well truthful.
Nicole James "WOW" my granddaughter told me the same thing everytime .
And that is why I’ve always loved sitting at the feet of older generations!!! Their wisdom far exceeds any book you read!!!
@@sharita7270 Yes ma'am, I truly miss the Matriarchs of my family, but I carry their invaluable words of wisdom with me Always. 😊💞
I haven't seen this movie in years. These types of movies dont exist anymore. Miss the early 2000's!
Yup! The tv movies back then were so good they could have been released in theaters.
I had to look at this movie a second time. Taught me a lesson or two: take time to know a man; never moved him into your place; listen to what he's not saying, and don't support him financially and no husband benefits.
That man was trash. I felt her pain.
Absolute basura
@Joel Johnson It wasn't the goals that was the problem. He made alot of excuses for himself not realizing the world don't stop for nobody. And he just kept digging a deeper hole while dragging women and children down with him. Now she also had a role in that. Its okay to love someone but don't coddle them. He should of never moved in. And she should have allowed him time to get his stuff together. And if he real about wanting better he will be better. He definitely loved her but sadly love...is not enough sometimes.
It was so good they didn't interrupt with commercials
@Mrs. Lovely u
@Mrs. Lovely Rifht
19:32 when the refrigerator lost its innocence
Ha ha ha ha. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 girl u r funny
Now it's 5 yrs of therapy and a mental condition 😂
Just unsanitary, I wish I would have my naked ass booty in my fridge. I'll beat my own ass for that nasty shit 🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿♀️
Women have to realize the business part of the relationship. If a man doesn’t bring anything good to bring to the table or he doesn’t have much to lose as you do, leave him alone.
I should have done tht, now 19 years in the marriage and still the breadwinner. At least wesly snipes was romantic. Life is not fair I tell you
His baby mama was over it and not having it. She was fed up wit his bs🤣🤣🤣
Rightfully so!!
she really kicked pestley snipes to the curb lol
@@EDifyer881 not soon enough, apparently!!
Wesley Snipes really popped up at her crib unannounced 😂.that’s a Sucker move in the beginning stages
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💯💯💯
Periodt
Even tho he was toxic, u can't really blame him for that one lol I mean, they didn't have social media or cell phones back then, so it's not like he could holla at her any other way 🤷🏾♂️
This movie triggers me to no end. My face was drowned throughout the whole movie. Lol! I watched this at age 27 and now at 49 and I’m still pissed with Franklin. Ugh‼️🙄🤦🏽♀️
Watching in 2021...This movie needs to be added back into BET’s lineup!
So many red flags from the beginning. That was some real life sh:+ & still does.
Thank God for growth and knowing my worth and to teach other women (young up and coming). Them old ones 🤦🏽♀️
I agree, this is a real life scenario. And people can learn from this as a cautionary tale.
This was truly a good movie
I showed my daughter this movie as a guide of what not to do! No struggle love over here
I don't blame you! I'm over here dying laughing but I don't blame you.
Franklin really wasn’t shit. He ain’t have nothing going for himself and had the nerve to be an asshole at times.. hell tf no!
Yes! He was just like half the dudes in my city
In the book he was even worse
I've read the book and I totally hate him!
@@erikarepaja2543 I need to read the book then!
@Joel Johnson it was real but at the same time it wasn’t because he didn’t really love her when she told him i love you. He hesitated when they were sitting on the stairs. Zora was desperate for a man and the only thing that kept him around was the dick. When he asked her why am i here? He looked at her like u using me for my dick . It comes a time when a woman wants more than a big dick and good sex. That’s what his ex wife told him, she said well tell her to call me I’ll tell her girl a big dick and worth all this stress.
That’s on period ….
We'll do anything to NOT BE ALONE 😩 I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY, When we realize this, it becomes a I want you there or I don't. Either way, we good with it.
Yes! It took me years to come to that realization. So glad I did
Popping up at someone's house unannounced is very disrespectful.
Mine anyways
I hate it too. Too much disrespect
I would have walked right past him as if he wasn't even there. That was audacious of him.
Definitely 👌🏾
I wouldn't have even felt eith that
Where has this movie been hiding? I love love love loved this movie. Thank you for posting it. This leading lady never let you down in whatever movie she stars in. She has a way of making all of her roles come to life.
Sanaa Lathan is a Very Beautiful and Talented actress and I agree she does bring these characters to life. I can't wait to see her win an Oscar someday..
@@nicolejames6796 was that her singing Sanna
@@nigerjenkins6372 No that’s not her singing. I have the actual DVD (showing my age😳). It’s Melky Jean and Sedeck Jean singing, siblings of Wyclif Jean.
don't like her
Inspiration since 2006 💛
I loved this movie. It’s so interesting to see how he motivated her and she inspired him. In the end they found each other again he became that successful contractor and she a song writer. She gave him a second chance to put her family back together because she never stopped loving him and he still loved her
All the reasons why it's one of my favorite movies
This is a NO
Exactly
That's true
@Joel Johnson Thank you Joel...No struggle dust love for me!
This story was mesmerizing to me when my sneaky behind read it as a kid. Now that I’m grown ...No.
Exactly sis, grown you see this through different lenses.
Fa real
Same!
I was thinking the same thing.
Girl, yes. This is a hot mess
Sanaa Lathan is a rare pure beauty 💕
I haven't seen this movie since the 1990's.....Love the acting....salute to brother Snipes....still kicking it in 'Coming Two America 2' :D
He looks like a Pharoah in this film doesn't he, very handsome and Royal.
@Joel Johnson UMMM ok :D
I feel for everybody's situation. Men can really mess up their lives and women accept far too much. Franklin wasn't a bad guy, but he made bad decisions (drinking on the job, not getting his divorce). Zora did too (accepting his excuses). They didn't help each other in the beginning, just made each others' situations harder. A man has no business stepping to a woman with nothing to offer and a woman has no business letting him. Separate what you know from how you feel ladies (and gentlemen).
Amen
He was a bad man. Not really a man at all, by misusing those women's energy, love, and time. He was a big, charming, inefficient child.
He told her in the beginning he didn’t had much to offer and she accepted him anyway. She just didn’t know he was so irresponsible. Sex can cloud your judgment.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.....Amen and Amen
Haven't seen this movie in a long time, It's still a good movie
'On a lonely night in Brooklyn,' I think its the prettiest song I've heard in decades.
WOW!! ALWAYS LOVED THIS MOVIE. MY DAUGHTER WAS SIX MONTHS OLD WHEN WE SAT ON THE SOFA WATCHING THIS MOVIE.TOGETHER. SHE IS NOW TWENTY ONE AND A SENIOR IN COLLEGE. MEMPHIS , TENNESSEE AUGUST 30, 2021 6:15am
I wouldve left the minute ge told me he is married
She should have never given them the keys to her apartment!!!
Should have never given him the time of day!
Her feelings were already involved. You stay and try to make the situation what you want/need it to be because of feelings, not facts.
But she still wanted him after the fact
@@dignifiedblackman4742 Because she was dumb and desperate.
I must of read the book three or four times as it was that good. Really enjoyed the film too. Franklin was a dusty lol but came through in the end
He literally smashed up everything he done the flat out of spite 🙄 that is dusty logic for real
@Joel Johnson I know, but he spent a lot of time on that carpentry, just to go smash it up like that 😭
There was three critcal errors she made ....#1 She slept with him on the second night #2 She gave him a key to her apartment and #3 She had a baby by him now let that sink in...
I luv dis Film!!!! I’m not tired still watching it in 2021.
This movie is a life lesson..
All women need to watch this movie before they head out on a first date got to be more careful when dating guys that don't have their business together
Facts
They were two good people just not good together. They both needed to get themselves together before they could have a successful relationship. The timing was just not right.
Right like she had her shit together
And he need to get this together
You’re correct. They both needed to get themselves together first before inviting a relationship.
Great analysis.
That's facts 💯
This was a heart warming and reality movie.
Men like him are a big no
Tell her to Call me...id tell her the Big Dig aint Worth ALL Da STRESS!... Fr
Facts!!!!
That Part.
Been there done that
I saw this ten years ago. That one line always stayed wit me, even tho I'm a man.
Once y'all let him in it's a wrap
Weak male who blames and gets angry at everyone else for his failures. Girl, this is the perfect case of 'I can do bad all by myself.' No one is worth this much stress
Sound like your speaking from experience
@@edger_rush4057 No I am not! I would never waste my days with that type-I’ve wasted days with other types-but never a Franklyn Swift. I’m speaking from 57 yrs of observing human behavior and counseling others. I’m not a fan of any adult who blame others for their failures or take out that anger on others
@@marfialennox2642 I like that,thank you for reminding me that human beens are still on earth, I would love to get to know you are you single?
@@edger_rush4057 I’m unavailable, sir
@@marfialennox2642 😂💀💀💀
Ugh and she played his mom in Blade 😍
And that weight looked so good on Sanaa
Unpopular opinion: This is not a romantic movie . It is a typical struggle movie that get promoted to BW to accept any treatment as long as you got a “man”.
He purposely did not tell her till she basically fell in love with him all of his problems. She is in a situation where she is paying majority of the bills, working, cooking, cleaning,trying to jumpstart a music career, and has epilepsy. All he brings her is no high school diploma, two kids he can’t take care of, and a wife that he still is married to . Then he basically tries to guilt trip her into keeping his baby when they are both already horribly struggling especially her since she is carrying 80 percent of the weight . He can’t keep a job to save his life .Then he has the audacity to make a comment insinuating that she should be grateful she has man . Once the baby comes, he can’t even remember to pick HIS child up and does not change diapers . When he gets upset, he messes up the furniture that her and HIS a child will have to live in.
Unfortunately, this is the reality of many BW who are in relationships. They get gaslighted and treated like mules. A slim amount of intimacy from a man is enough for some women to accept this treatment .
I would never thank god.
Thank you. I agree with you 100%. This movie is the same propaganda that is promoted to Black women over and over again to keep us in these struggle relationships and single parents. We are told to settle for not even the bare minimum that other races of women are taught to expect from a man. This is why Terri McMillan books are popular. I’m happy for her success, but all her books and movies are just like Tyler Perry movies. Black woman you are a mule, be happy that any Black man breathed near you, sacrifice your life for everyone but yourself. This movie is what not to do and what not to settle for in relationships and life.
@@victorialake9474 yes I agree especially in the Tyler Perry movies . They all have to struggle in some way to get love.
Agree
You are on point this is so true he is not a Godly man his life was not in order she had a promising career before he gave her his life now she can’t keep a Job or money she missable like him
You spoke nothing but Facts 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This movie made me never look at refrigerator the same.😂😂😂😂😂
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@SARA CTFU. Gurl! I got 2 beers that's been sitting in the fridge since this pandemic started. Damn.🤣
😂😂😂😂
Rite ☺️
That fridge just defrosted all by itself!🤣
Lord I pray tht none of my children will be in this kind of situation. Love shdnt be this hard. Too much struggling
"A Bunch Of Bull#&!@"
😂😂😂 The scene at the dinner table with her friend and the husband
He was better in New Jack city.. he wasn't believable as this guy
One of Terry McMillan good book/film.
Destroying the apartment was the worse thing that the guy did, that's unforgettable
It's so crazy my mother name was terry mcmillan (married name)🥰 I miss her so much
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Yes I miss my beloved Momm 😢 💔
She will be gone 1 year this May 25th
It has been so hard 😫 😪 😢 and I can't
Believe she's not with me anymore
But I will never ever forget her !!
@@sandraturner3838 my mom passed October 8th 2015 and the pain still the same and her bday is October 11th 😭 I can't say it'll get better the pain never go away and yes she is watching you always so make her proud
@Natasha Luo aman to that
@@dimples5257 Yes I will and I have friends that still have their Mom's and
don't realize how blessed they are and
don't know what's really in store for them
Until their Mom's pass away and there's
No true way to prepare for it because
After the burial you have to force yourself. To get back in your daily routines and J have family but at the same time I feel
Soo lonely and very sad 😥 like I was
Left and she went on a trip without me
And will return soon and everything will
be back to normal but everything on
Earth will never be the same because
Nothing can replace her and she touched
Many lives and I will never forget her and
Keep her memories alive as much as
Possible and she was a noble woman
We accept a lot.
…and that’s the problem
@@kamila927 yes it is!!!
Too much... waaaay too much
I'll always love this movie I also read the book years ago excellent. Not seeing movies and hearing soundtracks like these anymore breaks my heart!!
It’s sad. My brother is a 16 yr old aspiring actor and he is sad that the “everyday black movie” isnt made anymore. 😟. There ain’t movies like Boyz in the hood, Baby Boy, or Love Jones being made. I love these types of films man
I see the good & the bad. Lessons learned at the end, and not from the beginning. 💜 wonderful movie!
2nd thought, he got lazy and didn't contribute at all to the relationship
Right
The minute that girl said.. all I want is you... He was like alright now and just went left 🙄
@@delledaye2035 Too needy and she was insecure
Well he did try to find a job, he just kept getting turned down so he played it like he wasnt doing shit and she should've have never tried to baby him in the first place by saying she got him when he told her he couldnt afford to stay with her, she should have said okay let me know when you get it together lol
Yeah this movie is just promoting black struggle love
Sweet, real movie.
Terry Mcmillan ...great writer
The first book i read in two days! I liked the book better though
It was set int the 80s right? The book that is
Me tooooo!!
This brings back so many memories. I remember when the book first came out and when the movie came out I fell in love with black love even more. I wanted to be in love all over again 😘 They both played their roles to the fullest. The concerns in relationships are still relevant today💯The soundtrack is all that and more. Thank you for posting 🔥🔥🔥
Mary,,
I agree with you 💯 percent...
Coming from a man's perspective franklin hopefully learned something....
Black women are so beautiful and elegant period loved this movie for 2021
Thanx for the upload!!! I loved the book
and this movie!!
Thank you for posting this. I’ve been wanting to see it for a long time.
I love this movie ... I looked for it this week ... thank you.
What a movie. ❤ it. Whew its very Realistic and Emotional. I'm getting this on DvD. Thanks for posting.
One of my favorite movies
I swear people sleep on this movie
Yes I love this movie one of my favorites
A favorite of mine also
Classic, I nearly experienced this kinda tale. Its a beautiful movie...
OMG!this is my movie,thank you for uploading this💜
Both of them played in Blade.
Yes she was his Mom...lol
Like the first time all over again!!! Now I can truly appreciate with age and wisdom
What's so sad alot of black men are like this in real life lol
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I don't look at it as a Black man experience, more as a man thing- a life lesson if you will. Sometimes we as women ignore signals because we want love in our lives, passion, desire. To feel beautiful.
Sad but true!
Wesley Sniped, Makes me want to just melt in his arms Lol.
@SARA Sorry You feel that way , Hope your stomach feels better Lol
@SARA I know You heard the terms, Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, That's me Laughing so hard, Have A Good Day Ok .
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Wesley Snipes was hella fine back in his hey day. New Jack City era back When he was popular actor at the time.
Still fine
He was uncertain about his contribution She stayed true to course ..without being bitter because when he did come back he had made honest stride towards his real sense of belonging as a Father and worthy to earn her heart back Great movie !!!!
Stop promoting struggle love. No one would ever find this bs acceptable for a White woman.
@@canadamonroe6229 Thank you for saying this!! Only black women are encouraged and even in some ways shamed into accepting struggle love, even by other black women. It's so sick!
This is my movie. I read the book before I watched the movie. I enjoyed both. Great acting.
Thanks ❤️this one of my favorite movies 🍿
When I first saw this in 2002 I used to watch it everyday! I know this movie like the back of my hand.
Lol me too
I have watched this movies so many times so that I have it in my mind when I see or hear the words Disappearing Acts
I Love "A Song For You"!!!
Watched this movie so much... Know it word for word 😁💜
Me too lol
@@theresadyer9856 😁
Me too, its one of my favorites
Me too girl ☺️ it never gets old lol
Best love story ever... I watched this at least 1000 times since it aired on HBO years ago
This movie just tells me to get a private investigator if I'm gonna date a black man. Got the nerve to act like he the prize choosing talmbout "she don't be just yapping like them other girls, she listens" like we dogs. Then gaslighting her to think she's in the wrong to not want the dudes Tyler Perry pushes on us to settle for....or for expecting truthfulness and responsibility. We stay having to raise these fools. Grow up before y'all date and waste black women's time.
I know for real, this movie has a lot of parallels to what BW are dealing with today,. Like he literally smashed up everything he built in her flat out spite, all because he was told that his lazy azz attitude will not be tolerated. 🙄. "I am not divorced, I am separated".... umm no 😒
This movie was not cute
Nail on the 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
@Joel Johnson No, a man who strives to do good is not a fool. His erratic behavior and gaslighting is. He throws tantrums and wants to fix it with sex. He watched her struggle while he sat home without taking care of the house. Men don't need this explained to them. They're not angry about a comment section full of women who know better. They agree when they know their rightful places.
@Joel Johnson No, dusty. Real love is having enough respect for yourself and a future partner to be at your best so that you have something of value to bring to the table instead of expecting someone to struggle with you and your toxic bullshit. If you are significantly struggling, especially financially, you shouldn't even be entertaining the thought of dating anyone. You should be so focused on getting your shit together so that you can be an asset to your future partner instead of a liability.
I’m sorry but Franklin was a user and master manipulator. Good woman or not can’t nobody fix a grown ass man who don’t wanna change
My thoughts exactly.
@@estherbeckley420 I watched this as a kid and thought their love was sooo strong, growing up it’s shocking to realize how toxic they were to each other lol
So many women mistake this for love. The Bible says that if a man doesn't feed his own family he's worse than a traitor.
@@frankiphoenix8699 Exactly! When I re-watch old movies I mostly have a different opinion.
True facts Franki much love to your comment!
Outstanding movie....
From start to finish....
Highly recommended......
Upload is straight quality......
Great sound track as well.....
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Great for a storyline of what to stay away from. This is struggle love to the max. This movie kinda personifies how a lot of our men became. We empathized with their struggles, support them IN EVERY WAY, deal with that building boy phase and all. These days, many women are over it and the men are trying to get women back into this type of subjection. That's why KS is their voice. They are and have been bullying women into settling for them. The threat is "Well, you'll be alone." They get that from older women too. Explore you racial options. That doesn't mean any others are the holy grail. Still, explore to widen your pool. Its crazy because we can see brothers' pain and we really try to fill that void but we can't. That's why many give up on themselves. They need the Most High before being married and being in relationships. Healing to them and us
Amen
I date all, I refuse to put up with bullcrap just bc I'm trying to stay in my race category. Watched many great women in my life do it and saw firsthand how that affected them.
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I forgot how beautiful Wesley was, real love, black love is beautiful, Terry McMillan knows and values the importance of sister friends!🥳💚👏🏼
Yes, she does, Love me some Terry McMillen.
Is that Sanna voice
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
@Joel Johnson If that's love, I really don't want it. Thank you. Too often as women maybe out of desperation or from a society that tells us we must have a man-any, so many women settle for toxic mediocre love. Well I will pass.
In today's world would Franklin be a High Value Man, Simp, Educated Lame or a Dusty 😉 Love the book, beautiful characters ❤️
Definitely a dusty...
Dust bucket.
Dustyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Dusty.
Dusty
What a Beautiful Movie,No Cursing,No Cheating,Very UPLIFTING!
This was my first African American novel I ever read at age 13 I was hooked
I love this movie.. I was just about to turn 5 years old when this film came out , use to watch it late nights with mama & auntei's & them 💜 Now that I'm older Of course I see the movie in a whole different perspective most definately learned alot from it , theres so many deep messages within the movie being conveyed It will always && forever be one of the best Challenged Love Stories there is. I absolutely recommend, if haven't seen it before. Hope You all enjoy .!!
My absolute Favorite!!!
I find myself watching this movie very often.
Mama was the first Terry McMillan book I read and Disappearing Acts the second book.
Yes I love the mama book!!!
“A Day Late And A Dollar Short” is floating around on YT.
@A cherished Gem, I remember a co worker back then, suggesting Disappearing Acts. I just don't remember reading Mama though. Dang I'll have to revisit it. I enjoy all Terri's book. I have all her hardcovers except those two. You know sometimes, you can just reread a book, because it's like there is always something new that you may not have picked up on before, or it's like you're visiting an old friend, or even transporting yourself, back to the first time your read it. Something very comforting about rereading good books.
@@goodmeasure777 Mama is a very good book. The only 2 books I read twice was Jubilee by Margaret Walker and Morning Glory by LaVyrle Spencer. Morning Glory is now a movie but the book is always better.
I read how stella got her groove back ALSO
This proves if you good I'm bed some women will overlook and put up with almost anything
Sad but kinda true
Love the Music.😉
Franklin was selfish . And sadly she let this man knock her up. He was already unstable with two children from a previous relationship (marriage) that he was barely providing for. Girl, you should have RAN !!! 💨💨🏃🏾♀ faster than Hussein Bolt. Franklin was no good. Franklin( his character) represent how grimey NY dudes are, as he only wanted her for stability and to carry his seed. She would have faired well not meeting him.
@Tina Bless her star??? Are u talking about her singing career? And what about Jamaican men?
@Tina Bless oh I thought Jamaicans prided themselves on being hard working stand up people.
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This was a great movie. I watched this for the first time to.
This was a beautiful movie.
These women haven't aged at all.
Love this movie and I have watched it about 10x..
66k
Just a good as the first time I watched it!!!!!!
After he tore up her apartment absolutely NOT Would I speak to him again. No coming back from dat!
Enjoyed it years ago.