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- ENFJs are perfect and wonderful and never have any problems. Just kidding, they’re human like everyone else. Here’s some typical examples of ENFJ bad habits and silly quirks and things an ENFJ might say.
Hey! My name is Erik Thor, and thanks to all the help from my viewers and patrons at patreon.com/erikthor I've been able to build a living on the side of my part-time job making videos about different personality types. I seek to cover Carl Jung and the sixteen personality types in the MBTI from an original perspective. I believe there are sixteen, not eight cognitive functions. I write about them at www.erikthor.com/cognitive-functions.
I also develop successful personality tests that can accurately predict your personality type. www.erikthor.com/test/personality-test with high accuracy. Try it out and share your results with me!
Why do I do it? Because I want to spread more flow and happiness in the world. I believe we spend too much time going against our own true nature, denying ourselves nad pretending to fit in. We should break free and find ourselves and find a lifestyle more suited to our needs and values. If we can do that, the world will be a better place, for everyone. Join the community @ / discord
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#10 having imaginary conflicts with others. That was the most relatable thing in the world for me haha
this is crazy lol so so true....
Omgggg I didn't even know this was a thing others did
omg yesss i've had dreams about it
Omg, i thought i was the only one did that😭
Hello Erik. I'm an ENFJ. I so get you about the agreeing with everyone. But for me, it's about being able to see so many perspectives, kind of understanding people's views even when they oppose my own? I often say, "I'm not excusing someone's behavior, but I can see the reason why so-and-so behaved a certain way."
Oh my goodness yes I do that alllllll the time
Saaaame
I call it being able to empathize with just about anything 😂
Yes!
1. Hugging everyone
1. Caring too much what everyone thinks
2. Being chameleons
3. Searching for identity to the tribe
4. Crazy plans
5. Changing a plan mid-plan
6. Contradicting themselves
6.5 Agreeing with everyone
7. Driving themselves crazy to please others
8. Always choosing what's leftover
9. Never letting others help
10. Having imaginary conflicts with others
10.5 Switching from anger to guilt
11. Babbling incoherently
12. Revealing too much about themselves
13. Always like everyone
12 , ahhh I hate this one in me 😂😂😂
1. Is my biggest problem
2. yes
3. always
6. yes
7. like crazy
9. Only if i really trust people when they say im not a burden for them.
10. yesss also when im worried about sombody i imagine ways to help them
12. yes i want to make friends but sometimes so i will be open but sometimes even when its not safe just to let people like me
omg i feel all of them
6. Agreeing with everyone ... NoYea-ish ... mostly in new settings/with new people. I want to be able to see things from everyone’s perspective ... but no, I don’t agree with everyone ... if so, maybe for the peace. Who am I fooling, it’s mostly close family members I don’t agree with.
8. I do not take what is leftover. I care too much about specific flavours and what I really want to have in a specific moment.
Also, I need to have things organised and in order for myself - not for others (even if it means a lot to me that others feel well and comfortable in my home etc.). I need order to be able to think clearly and feel a good energy flow. Clutter, dirt and disarray, especially in my own home, disturbes me greatly.
Hi from Sweden 🇸🇪👋💁♀️✨
Sabin Yes! So much time imagining different ways to help someone I worry about. Not only imagining, I read up on topics and do research and make lists/problem solving plans on my phone and computer for those I worry for. If they only knew ...
i think ENFJ people are ones who never thought they are ENFJ...I need 28 years of my life to realize that I am ENFJ and I am freaked out when I finally found my personality type. I have been so confused about it since kid lol
It took me 36 years. I thought entj, intj, infj and here i am
INFP>INFJ>ENFJ. Thank God for OP's single decider videos. I finally typed myself correctly. It was a struggle.
Glad to hear I am not the only one confused...I thought I was ENTJ, then one day I got the test once again and found out how ENFJ like us have deep emphaty to others...that's when we often position ourselves like other's characters. So many confusion that's true!
Word 32 hrs for me
It took me 24 years
"You're ALL my best friends!" LMAO
Dear God it was like looking in a mirror lol
Time to feel guilty!
Im a bit worried... i do the caring to that crazy level 😯🤔😳
ikr.. it's to the point where its fucking weird now......
He shouldn't know me like that.
"I'm SO DONE with Patrick!!" He never says "hi" in the morning. ... "Why can't he be normal and ask me about my day?" LOL OMG this is so cute!
I'm a 52-year-old ENFJ. Some of these things are tempered as you grow older.
Thank you !
37 year old ENFJ female and can confirm. I am quite close to tipping over to being an ENTJ though ...
@@TL-ch1xd The "F" is really not super helpful. It's more of a deficit.
Thank you for taking away my doubt of being an ENFJ-This is me completely!
"What do you think is more me?"
HAHAH that one hurt! Every time I'm unsure about what I like best and ask someone I care about.
For an ENFJ not saying good morning is a huge deal. Lol.
Mostly true to the point for an ENFJ. Although during important moments as an ENFJ I will also confront the person if I find their values are twisted and immoral. So I won’t shy away fm conflict sometimes if it’s necessary to standup for yourself and others. So we’re not that much of a ppl pleaser
Agreed. We like to see others smile and happy but compromising our values to please them is something that will not happen.
I can agree.
I'm an ENJF too and I feel like if we have to describe ENJF in one word it is 'Caring' because we love everyone sooo unconditionally so we are very giving and caring...And many people are not that true and caring so we get hurt easily because we care each and everyone person so truely and we only want love and we give love this makes us unique and beautiful mostly we see few can get bored or irritate of us but many of love our personality because we are caring like a mother and strong like a father at the same time !!
@peachykeen08 oh sorry
Aku Aku that made me feel so good, thank you for sawing how caring we are.
@@Deanna_Marie_ 😊😊😊
I'm also an ENFJ! Here give me a high five
What I wanted to say is : all the 16 types are pretty caring, the thing is not all of them show effection in a way we would understand or feel
ENFJ'S usually show effection in order to make a better environment for themselves since we are most comfortable knowing we have good social status, because we learn best among people just as much we like teaching them
Thanks for reading 💓💖
Absolutely
Leave us aloneeee 😂😂😂
OMG, when you said I should go on a retreat, I was like a «he totally reads my mind» type of thing! I am over 40 and the very fact that I still feel I don't really know myself is still there, but learning I was an ENFJ is fairly new. That alone is a game-changer cause I can learn and work on better coping mechanisms ...
I need to watch this again - I have never seen myself before
Haha, great video! As an INFP I love ENFJs!
This was pretty similar to me since I’m an INFJ! I also know at least two ENFJs who have gone on wild retreats with things like constant meditation or no speaking.
OMG! No talking… I could Not, my mouth has a mind of its own… but hurting others is Out of the question…LMAO😜🎯
Hi Erik, unfortunately...-great job💯💐as always, truth is sometimes hard to take, but it’s absolutely correct. I am like this, and driving me crazy 😂🤣Thanks for this. Greetings 💝truly ENFJ 💪🤷♀️🥰
Oh he is good! How has he fully understood my behavior... Guilty of behaving like this all the time...
And there's the overshare.. Followed by the guilt.. Im babbling...
This is terrible 😲🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I feel exposed 😂 thank you for this video 💜👏👏
Laughing so hard because this is all me! 😂😭
Duuuuddeeee, I could not stop laughing, this was SPOT ON. 😂😂😂
Omg why can i relate to all of this? 😭😳😂
I feel so called out
OMG! That’s me completely! I never realised there were other people like this! Thank you! Love this! You’re amazing!
when I was a boy my father broke a lot of this tendencies. being neat and perfect would draw criticism just as much as messiness. Being everyone's friend was proof that you had no friends at all. Trying to do things people didnt ask for is a no no. being Over emotional was grounds for a bit of hazing in the household. if you have friends who were not quite as popular but shared your interests then you were with a Nerd herd. "dont go for what you love, go for what I want." would be (and still is) the sum total of our conversations about what I want to do with my life. otherwise? I never mentioned anything at all. kinda sad.
100% can relate... Thanks for letting me know, I will now change for the better.
Typical ENFJ, changing for the better, "goals" etc haha!! Good stuff though, and wonderful choice of name there Mr or Mrs Zen.
if I had a dollar for every imaginary conflict I've had with people, I'd be a millionaire. I have the BEST arguments for hours ...alone...in my own head...complete, total, start to finish, knockdown, drag-out fights. Of course I'm the only one present in this fight, but that's not the point. My god, it's like looking at 150 twins of me.
The breakfast in bed/cleaning bit is hilarious. That is me. This entire thing is actually me :)
hahahahha!!! This is literally my thoughts every single day. Love this.
Classic ENFJ - Says they are going to talk about 10 things. #13.. !!!
haha well spotted!! so trueee
So true! Erik, you're a genius 😁
Well, we do love hugs...
Hahaha being way too extra in the morning 😂
Why am I crying...
You're not alone ... I cried, too. I think because we realize we're not alone in the way we are. It kind of feels like coming home to one's authentic self and finding there's a whole bunch of us 😋.
@@susannerechlin6656 so beautifully put. Although I have the kindest friends, I never met someone wired like me and here you all are...
I love when you act out this personality type. Awesome.
This was so real, it was scary... I need to call my therapist...
I LOVE EVERYTHING U SAID IM AN ENFJ AND THAT IS EXCTLLY HOW I THINK N ACT
Very accurate the imaginary conflicts with others!
PD: The lightning wakes up my bad ENFJ side 😤😂
I think your Priceless! From another ENFJ-A! You just be exactly who You are…. I am no longer worried about what others think of me. We ENFJ’s are so altruistic we look fake, but too bad! We are generally good ppl. If that’s all ppl said about me in my obituary then I’ll be a happy Girl! You know we try too hard, when just trying is GOOD enough!
Lately... I've been single and it's hell... so when I meet guys I like... I go for a hike and imagine the whole relationship from one end to the other... just so, on the other side of the hike, I am done with feeling alone and I don't need the guy to even show up. That let's me walk away feeling good. I'm going crazy, aren't I?
Came across this and oh my God!! This is just all me I was laughing at the clever use of situations...this was a laugh riot
That was deep
Imaginary conflicts cracked me so hard. Bwahahahahahaha!!! OMG! That's me! LOL
Oh my god why is this so accurate
I feel attacked 😂
Love this video!
As an ENFJ to an ENFJ ... You could try a shorter haircut if you want a change, it would suit you!
I have an Enfj coworker and they act exactly like this. Cooking for everyone and revealing too much about themselves.
let me receive your hug.. and thanks for the video this is so me
The first point made me laugh. That’s definitely not my problem but that’s been a lot of conscious effort
I needed to hear #12 today. And I recognize so much of this video...
U r so genuine & adorable! As an ENFJ, I relate to u so much!
How about all of these things are pretty spot on. Yes, I overdo everything and yes, I don't want to be hurt.
It's not really caring what other people think. Rather it's gaining input as to people motivations. "Are you motivated to do this or that?" Then using that information to make an internal logic based decision. It would appear from the outside to be caring what people think, but that's a limitation in language (which is biased towards thinking).
OMG, LIKE I JUST DISCOVERED ALL MY BAD HABITSS WELL DESCRIBED HERE 🙃🙃🙃
I'm an ENFJ...this is literally me...lol
Omg...so me..same thoughts..planned to go on a solo and not talk and just meditate too..often change plans suddenly..indeed a walking contradiction..a chameleon...even called a liar and fake...never asked for help if possible..and the rest is still me...this is all me..
#1 #4 😂 #6 for sure lol wanting to go on a retreat alone and later changing it to invite lots of people later lol …#7 … we’ll just all of them lol … ESPECIALLY #9 and #10 😂 omg you literally sound just like me hahaha
This is so me! I can relate.
Omg!!! This is on point 🤣
7 and 9. It's called a "covert contract". You do then you expect.
Revealing too much!! I'm Sooo Guilty of this!!!
I met this wonderful person whilst travelling... Couldnt help but contemplate the complexity of the human soul and what is "identity".
Well people are never the same because from moment to moment they change, thoughts, feelings, growth we are never the same with each given moment.
"depends on consciousness, not on substance" nor on the soul. We are the same person to the extent that we are conscious of the past and future thoughts and actions in the same way as we are conscious of present thoughts and actions. If consciousness is this "thought" which "goes along with the substance [...] which makes the same person", then personal identity is only founded on the repeated act of consciousness.
I feel called out!
You’re adorable
Infp here 🥳
This is sooo asmr 🥺
I'm still confused whether i'm an infj or enfj 😣 coz i could relate to both types
Love your pop dolls!!
OMG I do/say all those things... this was creepy haha I loved it.
You are sooooo sweeettt!! 🥰
Lol loved this video! I do ALL of these things...
Searching for my identity was a slapped on my face.
Hahahaha incrível cara!
Thank you 🥰
So relatable 🤯
LOL This was so funny. Very cute! LOL
this hit too hard
Scary how accurate this is
your accent with J = to die for :)
why does your impersonation sound so much like me! But I'm an ENFP (apparently) haha.
omg lol that's sooo funny hahahahah wow. I feel bad for us lol
I care way too much about what other people think... what do you guys think I should do? 🤣🤣🤣
Wonderful! My personal opinion-Be careful of your verbiage.
Ugggghhhh
I'm interested in the retreat. :D #ENFJgang
@ErikThor I was watching this video and thought we could be best friends!!! 😀😂🐒
oh no thats on point 😭✋🏾
0.52, it didn't last very long hahahha!!
I didn't like how this started off, it sounded like a shit on ENFJ's but then...it made me laugh, cause it's all true!
Perfection hahahaha
I feel attacked-
Information is revealed in order to gain a connection, it is nothing to do with the self-benefit. Connection - that thing which is perhaps the most important thing in society. The thing that prevents addictions, abuse, violence, people feeling isolated, suicide... you know that stuff. Perhaps something not to mock? But rather to celebrate?
Youre so adorable😊awwwww
Maybe you do this to avoid criticism? Maybe you do this to avoid being hurt or wounded by people? Oh damn. You right😢
dam im an enfj and i have it all dam
Sooooo true💯😭😭😭
Lol this is so me weird man
Hug. Yuck! Possible ENFJ here. Hugs are only for extreme situations!
OMG THIS IS SO ME WHY
All points 100% true about me :O