Usually after scripting phone calls I become disappointed that it didn’t actually go the way I thought it would. Most of the time the conversation is more simple or I’m asked something different than what I was expecting.
How do you get yourself to make the call? Often times I will script but I still can't make the call due to the pressures of navigating conversations and I have to ask my mom to make the call for me
I don’t have an official diagnosis yet, but I can relate to the getting immersed into tv shows/movies and getting extremely attached to “my” characters. I think it’s why I enjoy a lot of media that other people consider bad, because if there’s at least one character I see myself in then I don’t care as much about how good the rest of it is, lol.
lol i can definitely relate to the shower bit. Having a really bad depression made it even worse because it always felt like such a CHORE because i had to do EVERY step not just one or two.
I've been able to do a quick rinse shower sometimes if I can't do more. I know it's better than nothing, but it still feels so wrong! Chopping my hair certainly helped, less of a chore when I do need to wash it.
About the rehearsing thing, does anyone do it so much sometimes that it feels like the conversation has already happened? Or sometimes I think I've shared a piece of info with other people when really I've only done it in my head? For the media and getting absorbed in movies and shows etc... I totally get you. I was out at the cinema once with a friend and a few minutes in the movie she started talking to me and I was like "YOU'RE RUINING MY IMMERSION" like... we can talk after??? Though I usually have a buffer that lasts a good hour after watching a movie at the cinema where I'm just like "holy shit" and i can't process the outside world because I'm still lost in the movie Also, writing a full response to a small request feels like I'm at work 😭I'm definitely a heart/thumbs up reaction autistic too haha
When I rehearse something, I do the same. And with the media thing, I also just keep on thinking, like, "That movie was so good, I really loved the ending." And then I just analyze every part of the movie and try to relive it. Like, I just can't stop thinking about it.
I play whole situations threw my head constantly, sometimes over and over again. And I am pleasantly surprised when they obviously don't play out as planed in reality.
So I really struggle with phone calls, and I genuinely once had someone suggest that before a phonecall, i should plan out what I’m going to say first… and that was how i learned that that’s not a thing that everyone just does all the time, because she really thought she cooked there 😅😭
I never realized the deeper/different connection to media. I totally relate to the idea of being present in a piece of media, and to finding it strange that people can just casually "watch" a movie in the background without really paying attention. Also, if a crew sock is sitting even a little bit rotated from perfectly lined up on my foot, it will ruin my day unless I fix it, haha.
I relate so much to your shower routine bc I have the same exact one and I can't change it up either! I can shower without washing my hair but it feels weird and slightly uncomfortable... I rarely do it.
I got the flavor of autism where I am less immersed in movies than NTs seem to be. I feel like real life MST3K, which I warn people about, not to watch anything with me unless they're into roasting films or TV shows too. I've never been into any fandoms quite like others seem to be, especially other autistic people who tend to REALLY be. I'm a little jelly, it would give me so many more things to connect with other people over. Fiction novels were never my thing, either, though I have a fantastic imagination and mind's eye and can really visualize those fantasies. 😢 I am a big music and art person, though. Textiles are intriguing to me.
Not autistic myself, though there's a lot of overlap in my own mental health, I think I find autistic people comforting for that reason. I love that you own your quirks, you look so excited talking about them as you should be. They make you unique and relatable at the same time.❤
I totally agree with the messaging thing. I have no idea how to respond, because if I don't say anything then they'll think I didn't see it, but if I do respond then it will be like what you said. Idk 😭
I'm a pebbler, like a penguin. I send memes and posts to my people. Probably overwhelming them, but it's how I stay in communication. Like a penguin gives stones, I send memes. I also get upset if I don't get responses from them. I relate to characters in shows, I preplan social events, to the point where I have overwhelmed myself and stay home. I'm 61 and I've been secretly living like this since I can remember my first dose of rejection.
I often have difficulty enjoying film adaptations of books I love, partially because the characters and the scenes don't match what they look like in my head. Whenever I bring that up in conversation, no one can relate. I used to be surprised not everyone vividly hallucinates while reading a good story, but apparently it's not that common? 😅 I also project myself into characters, more often when I was kid I think. I remember being particularly invested in Matilda, Anne Shirley, Frankenstein's monster, and Ramona Quimby at various times. I have sensory issues with jewelry. I can tolerate some jewelry sometimes, but lately I haven't been wearing any. Jewelry can make a great fidget toy sometimes though. I have a tiny tambourine on a chain necklace that is perfect for that!
I got told off in a Discord server, for reacting with emojis too much (spamming them....?), yet the amount of comments being spammed were well beyond what I was doing. Anyone with notifications on, would be getting so many every second, because the comments were so short, yet I couldn't react with emoijs that didn't do anything to notifications. 🙄🤯So I just left the server....
I'm undiagnosed but listening to you it's pretty obvious that I am. I like having correct ways of doing things. If there's no order I will forget stuff. Plus my way often is correct because I worked it out the hard way, and overthought it. Do we think too much or do they think too little ? 🤔
I can't say i relate to all of the things here but the text thing really gets to me because 2 of my friends told me they were sad because they thought i was angry or not their friend for just sending a reaction. I told them no not at all and explained my thinking. However they kept getting sad by it every time so i promised to send replies but it is so tiring 😮💨
This is the type of thing where I’m like yeah, ofc we should alter behaviour if it’s upsetting people, but also people should maybe try to understand our thinking and struggles? Compromise can be fantastic, but it feels like it’s always the autistic person having to compromise 😅
@DanaAndersen yeah I try to not always be the one accommodating others, but i gave up with this one and hope there might be other areas my friends are better at accommodating me 🙈
I'm having struggles with a friend right now because of that. Well, because I don't reply quickly. But I am also trying to find the line of what I am able to do. I understand it's difficult for them. But it's also very difficult for me to change that behaviour and even more difficult to feel bad about it when it doesn't work. It's a very important friendship to me, but I am honestly thinking to reshape it a little because of the stress it gives me.
My scripting is very subconscious. I don't know what I am expecting but if a conversation goes out of my subconscious plan/layout I can feel it going 'off the rails' and then I see the conversation fall apart 😂 I think my subconscious plan is like greeting, ask about life, say joke, answer question, joke, say goodbye. But if they ask a question that sends me off somewhere or they ask something I should know but don't because I'm not in a state to reflect that's when it goes wrong 😅 fun hey? I love it. Actually jokes aside almost every convo I come out of successfully I literally feel like I should be given a medal 🥇
i wore small captive ball earrings for many years and i totally kept checking them every 20 minutes to make sure the ball was centered and i would tug on them as well. i never even thought about it until now that you mention it! even now that i stopped wearing earrings i still sometimes catch myself reaching to tug at my earlobe for no reason lol yep they still there.
Are we the same person? 😂 Your videos are so relatable, I didn’t connect some of these things to autism until now but recognized them in myself way before I knew I was autistic. I love your videos
I do the react thing too, if something doesn't require words why waste time xD, I even sometimes skip the "hi how are you" thing and get straight to the point. I'm the same with jewlry too, got some about but I rarly wear it as always ajusting it or stimming with it xD. So jelly of ya ability to immerse yourself in media, adhd and Aphantasia make it very hard to focus and visualise myself in media, even with video games and VR I struggle thought they do make it a little easier.
That must be what's going on with me, too. I am AuDHD, myself, and I just can't "experience" the film. I do notice lots of details and hyperfixate on them, which just makes me prone to commenting on or roasting. Or, I will recognize an actor and want to know their whole bio so I'll start looking up the cast of the film and reading all the little facts.
I totalllly get the routine thing in the shower. I have baths and I find it hard to change it up although I can if I absolutely have to. If it's quick one I'll get in and wash the main parts quickly and get out again but it doesn't feel very nice at all. I really don't like showers very much either but I will have one if there's no other option. I'm not diagnosed autistic but have some of the traits so considering paying for an assessment as waiting for the NHS is taking years.
I can relate with everything you said. I need to execute my activities always in the same manner, bathing, brush my teeth, going to work etc. But I can flexibilize a little when extremely necessary, example: brushing my teeth, I divide them in sections and with circular movements in front and side superficies I count series of ten, so I do a minimum of 10 series(100 circular movements) on the front, on the left side and on the right side, that when I'm in a hurry. If not, I do longer series. My bath start on top of the head and finishes on my toes, I can move faster but I need to do all the steps. I also immerse myself completely in the series, movies, games and music. I also constantly identify myself in characters. 😅
💜💜💜💜 I never really realised my issues with jewelry and clothing sitting right. I too have just stopped wearing earrings and necklaces. Don't get me started on bangles and watches 😅
CHARACTERS ARE SO SPECIAL TO ME TOO! The total immersion is so great. I wish everyone had that experience, because to go through life just observing media instead of being part of it….feels sad. I have always told my friends and family that I’m part Alvin Seville and part Sheldon Cooper. And actually, I live on a perpetual sliding scale between the two, sometimes more toward one and sometimes the other. I have ADHD and am Autistic. My brain is having an identity crisis 24-7 because I somehow hate change and crave change, love organization and my organization system is so messy that it doesn’t look organized. I’m super social, but I’m so annoyed by talking to people because it seems like I always mess it up, but if I sit alone in my room, I just go entirely stir-crazy or get so tired I fall asleep. I’m such a creative thinker, but then I veer into inside the box thinking some days and just CANNOT be creative. I love science and music and I use music as brain medicine to help “calm” me down, by which I mean relieve my anxiety because my brain’s still hyper and that’s how I love it. 😂 Also socks are EVIL. I have to get a certain brand and a certain fabric or my day is ruined.
I used to script a lot, especially w crushes, which made them quite imaginary. In my 30s, i quit letting myself be shy because "everyone must be a bit like me." I was with the feminist science fiction community at the time, so my assumption might have been true. That was the beginning of the end of my scripting. Ooooo, and the other thing, yes I always respond if I read a message, but yes, thats emoji time.
I relate so much to the jewelery thing! Like I feel the pressure that they must sit right for me to look presentable. But I have no clue how other people keep them straight, like do they move around and fidget less? But also no clue how a necklace turns around on its own, like if I turn my head to the side then back, shouldn't it twist a bit but then come back to the center again when my head does? Do I move weird and asymmetric? It's a weird anxiety I have.
I HATE "your name" fanfiction. My brain automatically reads "your name" instead of replacing it with a name. The characters are usually completely different than me, as well! If I wanted a fanfic with me as a character, I'd write it myself!
Another great video! The immersion in films is an autism thing too? Get out of here, I do that, but I had no idea it was related. Not a bracelet wearer, but I've always found watches really difficult, either too loose and sliding (and not facing the right way, grr) or too tight and distracting. To be honest, I hate having anything on my forearms, it has to get really cold before I'll wear a jumper without the sleeves rolled up. Also, reactions to messages are there to be used; go wild, I know I do. Like you say, someone say's "we'll be there in an hour", I'm going to use a thumbs-up, why would I spend time typing "OK, I'll see you then" or something? Hope the massive bang wasn't anything bad.
scripting is the only way I can survive telephone calls. I hate calling, and when I have to make a phone-call, I script it hours or even days ahead.
Usually after scripting phone calls I become disappointed that it didn’t actually go the way I thought it would. Most of the time the conversation is more simple or I’m asked something different than what I was expecting.
How do you get yourself to make the call? Often times I will script but I still can't make the call due to the pressures of navigating conversations and I have to ask my mom to make the call for me
I don’t have an official diagnosis yet, but I can relate to the getting immersed into tv shows/movies and getting extremely attached to “my” characters. I think it’s why I enjoy a lot of media that other people consider bad, because if there’s at least one character I see myself in then I don’t care as much about how good the rest of it is, lol.
Yeah I also love that we can react to messages with emojis now, it saves a lot of time thinking about what to respond ❤
lol i can definitely relate to the shower bit. Having a really bad depression made it even worse because it always felt like such a CHORE because i had to do EVERY step not just one or two.
I've been able to do a quick rinse shower sometimes if I can't do more. I know it's better than nothing, but it still feels so wrong! Chopping my hair certainly helped, less of a chore when I do need to wash it.
About the rehearsing thing, does anyone do it so much sometimes that it feels like the conversation has already happened? Or sometimes I think I've shared a piece of info with other people when really I've only done it in my head?
For the media and getting absorbed in movies and shows etc... I totally get you. I was out at the cinema once with a friend and a few minutes in the movie she started talking to me and I was like "YOU'RE RUINING MY IMMERSION" like... we can talk after??? Though I usually have a buffer that lasts a good hour after watching a movie at the cinema where I'm just like "holy shit" and i can't process the outside world because I'm still lost in the movie
Also, writing a full response to a small request feels like I'm at work 😭I'm definitely a heart/thumbs up reaction autistic too haha
When I rehearse something, I do the same. And with the media thing, I also just keep on thinking, like, "That movie was so good, I really loved the ending." And then I just analyze every part of the movie and try to relive it. Like, I just can't stop thinking about it.
I play whole situations threw my head constantly, sometimes over and over again. And I am pleasantly surprised when they obviously don't play out as planed in reality.
Omg yes. Somehow my brain ist still surprised when the conversation doesn't go as planned even tho it happened so many times by now..
I do this with adhd is there any correlation? I constantly plan things like an order of events
So I really struggle with phone calls, and I genuinely once had someone suggest that before a phonecall, i should plan out what I’m going to say first… and that was how i learned that that’s not a thing that everyone just does all the time, because she really thought she cooked there 😅😭
I never realized the deeper/different connection to media. I totally relate to the idea of being present in a piece of media, and to finding it strange that people can just casually "watch" a movie in the background without really paying attention. Also, if a crew sock is sitting even a little bit rotated from perfectly lined up on my foot, it will ruin my day unless I fix it, haha.
I relate so much to your shower routine bc I have the same exact one and I can't change it up either! I can shower without washing my hair but it feels weird and slightly uncomfortable... I rarely do it.
6:36 I get the same feeling and immersion, with imagination in full power but while reading books
I got the flavor of autism where I am less immersed in movies than NTs seem to be. I feel like real life MST3K, which I warn people about, not to watch anything with me unless they're into roasting films or TV shows too. I've never been into any fandoms quite like others seem to be, especially other autistic people who tend to REALLY be. I'm a little jelly, it would give me so many more things to connect with other people over.
Fiction novels were never my thing, either, though I have a fantastic imagination and mind's eye and can really visualize those fantasies. 😢
I am a big music and art person, though. Textiles are intriguing to me.
Not autistic myself, though there's a lot of overlap in my own mental health, I think I find autistic people comforting for that reason. I love that you own your quirks, you look so excited talking about them as you should be. They make you unique and relatable at the same time.❤
I have to have my sock seams straight. I have had some socks that twist in my one pair of shoes when I walk. I can't wear them in those shoes.
I totally agree with the messaging thing. I have no idea how to respond, because if I don't say anything then they'll think I didn't see it, but if I do respond then it will be like what you said. Idk 😭
I'm a pebbler, like a penguin. I send memes and posts to my people. Probably overwhelming them, but it's how I stay in communication. Like a penguin gives stones, I send memes. I also get upset if I don't get responses from them. I relate to characters in shows, I preplan social events, to the point where I have overwhelmed myself and stay home. I'm 61 and I've been secretly living like this since I can remember my first dose of rejection.
The right way to load the dishwasher!😏
I often have difficulty enjoying film adaptations of books I love, partially because the characters and the scenes don't match what they look like in my head. Whenever I bring that up in conversation, no one can relate. I used to be surprised not everyone vividly hallucinates while reading a good story, but apparently it's not that common? 😅
I also project myself into characters, more often when I was kid I think. I remember being particularly invested in Matilda, Anne Shirley, Frankenstein's monster, and Ramona Quimby at various times.
I have sensory issues with jewelry. I can tolerate some jewelry sometimes, but lately I haven't been wearing any. Jewelry can make a great fidget toy sometimes though. I have a tiny tambourine on a chain necklace that is perfect for that!
I got told off in a Discord server, for reacting with emojis too much (spamming them....?), yet the amount of comments being spammed were well beyond what I was doing. Anyone with notifications on, would be getting so many every second, because the comments were so short, yet I couldn't react with emoijs that didn't do anything to notifications. 🙄🤯So I just left the server....
I'm undiagnosed but listening to you it's pretty obvious that I am. I like having correct ways of doing things. If there's no order I will forget stuff. Plus my way often is correct because I worked it out the hard way, and overthought it. Do we think too much or do they think too little ? 🤔
I have to do things in a certain order otherwise I also forget things. I suspect that I am AuDHD, like my children both are.
@@faeriesmakyes it makes more stress to forget to
It's today that I learned what scripting is and that I've been doing it my whole life. It's always been how I learned to mask better.
I can't say i relate to all of the things here but the text thing really gets to me because 2 of my friends told me they were sad because they thought i was angry or not their friend for just sending a reaction. I told them no not at all and explained my thinking. However they kept getting sad by it every time so i promised to send replies but it is so tiring 😮💨
This is the type of thing where I’m like yeah, ofc we should alter behaviour if it’s upsetting people, but also people should maybe try to understand our thinking and struggles? Compromise can be fantastic, but it feels like it’s always the autistic person having to compromise 😅
@DanaAndersen yeah I try to not always be the one accommodating others, but i gave up with this one and hope there might be other areas my friends are better at accommodating me 🙈
@@radishraven9 ahhh, those neurotypical friends 🧡
I'm having struggles with a friend right now because of that. Well, because I don't reply quickly. But I am also trying to find the line of what I am able to do. I understand it's difficult for them. But it's also very difficult for me to change that behaviour and even more difficult to feel bad about it when it doesn't work. It's a very important friendship to me, but I am honestly thinking to reshape it a little because of the stress it gives me.
My scripting is very subconscious. I don't know what I am expecting but if a conversation goes out of my subconscious plan/layout I can feel it going 'off the rails' and then I see the conversation fall apart 😂 I think my subconscious plan is like greeting, ask about life, say joke, answer question, joke, say goodbye. But if they ask a question that sends me off somewhere or they ask something I should know but don't because I'm not in a state to reflect that's when it goes wrong 😅 fun hey? I love it. Actually jokes aside almost every convo I come out of successfully I literally feel like I should be given a medal 🥇
i wore small captive ball earrings for many years and i totally kept checking them every 20 minutes to make sure the ball was centered and i would tug on them as well. i never even thought about it until now that you mention it! even now that i stopped wearing earrings i still sometimes catch myself reaching to tug at my earlobe for no reason lol yep they still there.
Are we the same person? 😂 Your videos are so relatable, I didn’t connect some of these things to autism until now but recognized them in myself way before I knew I was autistic. I love your videos
Ahaha thank youuuuu, it’s always such a big relief to have people relate and find out it’s not just me 😂💕
I do the react thing too, if something doesn't require words why waste time xD, I even sometimes skip the "hi how are you" thing and get straight to the point. I'm the same with jewlry too, got some about but I rarly wear it as always ajusting it or stimming with it xD. So jelly of ya ability to immerse yourself in media, adhd and Aphantasia make it very hard to focus and visualise myself in media, even with video games and VR I struggle thought they do make it a little easier.
That must be what's going on with me, too. I am AuDHD, myself, and I just can't "experience" the film. I do notice lots of details and hyperfixate on them, which just makes me prone to commenting on or roasting. Or, I will recognize an actor and want to know their whole bio so I'll start looking up the cast of the film and reading all the little facts.
definitely the character thing, so so much that my masking consists of switching between these characters' personas
I totalllly get the routine thing in the shower. I have baths and I find it hard to change it up although I can if I absolutely have to. If it's quick one I'll get in and wash the main parts quickly and get out again but it doesn't feel very nice at all. I really don't like showers very much either but I will have one if there's no other option. I'm not diagnosed autistic but have some of the traits so considering paying for an assessment as waiting for the NHS is taking years.
I guess it blows my mind that people don’t script social interactions in there head. It’s how I’ve survived thus far 🙃
I can relate with everything you said. I need to execute my activities always in the same manner, bathing, brush my teeth, going to work etc. But I can flexibilize a little when extremely necessary, example: brushing my teeth, I divide them in sections and with circular movements in front and side superficies I count series of ten, so I do a minimum of 10 series(100 circular movements) on the front, on the left side and on the right side, that when I'm in a hurry. If not, I do longer series.
My bath start on top of the head and finishes on my toes, I can move faster but I need to do all the steps.
I also immerse myself completely in the series, movies, games and music.
I also constantly identify myself in characters.
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Before emojis I couldn’t always tell what emotion was behind some sentences, that at times led to misunderstandings on both sides 😬
💜💜💜💜 I never really realised my issues with jewelry and clothing sitting right. I too have just stopped wearing earrings and necklaces. Don't get me started on bangles and watches 😅
5:58 THEY HAVE WHAT ⁉️
lol took a second to hear sets
CHARACTERS ARE SO SPECIAL TO ME TOO! The total immersion is so great. I wish everyone had that experience, because to go through life just observing media instead of being part of it….feels sad.
I have always told my friends and family that I’m part Alvin Seville and part Sheldon Cooper. And actually, I live on a perpetual sliding scale between the two, sometimes more toward one and sometimes the other.
I have ADHD and am Autistic. My brain is having an identity crisis 24-7 because I somehow hate change and crave change, love organization and my organization system is so messy that it doesn’t look organized. I’m super social, but I’m so annoyed by talking to people because it seems like I always mess it up, but if I sit alone in my room, I just go entirely stir-crazy or get so tired I fall asleep. I’m such a creative thinker, but then I veer into inside the box thinking some days and just CANNOT be creative. I love science and music and I use music as brain medicine to help “calm” me down, by which I mean relieve my anxiety because my brain’s still hyper and that’s how I love it. 😂
Also socks are EVIL. I have to get a certain brand and a certain fabric or my day is ruined.
I used to script a lot, especially w crushes, which made them quite imaginary. In my 30s, i quit letting myself be shy because "everyone must be a bit like me." I was with the feminist science fiction community at the time, so my assumption might have been true. That was the beginning of the end of my scripting. Ooooo, and the other thing, yes I always respond if I read a message, but yes, thats emoji time.
I relate so much to the jewelery thing! Like I feel the pressure that they must sit right for me to look presentable. But I have no clue how other people keep them straight, like do they move around and fidget less? But also no clue how a necklace turns around on its own, like if I turn my head to the side then back, shouldn't it twist a bit but then come back to the center again when my head does? Do I move weird and asymmetric? It's a weird anxiety I have.
I'm not autistic, but I was fixing the clasp on my necklace exactly as you said that 😂
thank you!
I HATE "your name" fanfiction. My brain automatically reads "your name" instead of replacing it with a name. The characters are usually completely different than me, as well! If I wanted a fanfic with me as a character, I'd write it myself!
Scripting beforehand, post-mortem afterwards to identify any mistakes & make sure I won't make them again! 💚
Another great video!
The immersion in films is an autism thing too? Get out of here, I do that, but I had no idea it was related.
Not a bracelet wearer, but I've always found watches really difficult, either too loose and sliding (and not facing the right way, grr) or too tight and distracting. To be honest, I hate having anything on my forearms, it has to get really cold before I'll wear a jumper without the sleeves rolled up.
Also, reactions to messages are there to be used; go wild, I know I do. Like you say, someone say's "we'll be there in an hour", I'm going to use a thumbs-up, why would I spend time typing "OK, I'll see you then" or something?
Hope the massive bang wasn't anything bad.
Yes to almost everything!
I very much relate to all of these fjsjfjfjs
off topic but i love your hair!!!
Typo in the title: Thought
You are me.
You should learn about the Jungian archetypes. Or rather, you will, when you’re supposed to, when it’s right. 😂