IT IS TIME TO SHUT THIS RELATIONSHIP DOWN BY RC BLAKES

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  • IT IS TIME TO SHUT THIS RELATIONSHIP DOWN BY RC BLAKES
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  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  ปีที่แล้ว +438

    Please share this for the next few days. This is going to FREE many people.

    • @mariono244
      @mariono244 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You are a blessing to many - May God bless you eternally. Since you came back from South Africa, your messages have been absolutely transforming. May God Bless you Father Blakes.

    • @MrsLC-tp8oj
      @MrsLC-tp8oj ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you for the message Mr. RC Blakes.

    • @dachelmyles9487
      @dachelmyles9487 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi brother Blakes really great video but it kept jumpin in and out .

    • @queendippy1857
      @queendippy1857 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks Bishop. We looking forward to seeing you in South Africa

    • @karenricks5630
      @karenricks5630 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amin I will everday

  • @sanjananair1702
    @sanjananair1702 ปีที่แล้ว +519

    1. Inconsistent energy (Love is consistent)
    2. You're constantly breaking your morals/values. Trying to win them but losing yourself.
    3. You're made to second guess your own worth.
    4. You're playing detective - either they aint right or you need to heal n not ready for a relationship (if you're healed, the right person will gain unquestionable trust through consistent behaviour)
    Test before you invest but dnt play detective
    5. When you're parenting more than partnering. (Only they can re-parent themselves, if their parent didn't do it right. You cannot)
    6. You're kept a secret.
    7. You're the only one hurting. They don't care/unbothered.

    • @JF-zs8yy
      @JF-zs8yy ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ❤❤❤

    • @victoriamichelomusale377
      @victoriamichelomusale377 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks

    • @CarolynVan
      @CarolynVan ปีที่แล้ว +17

      #5 😳. I know what this is like. Really became unhappy about it. It changed the way I saw him as a partner, and ultimately made me realize we were not aligned on what healthy, harmoneous, mature relationships are / the commitment to the courage it takes.

    • @THESEER55
      @THESEER55 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sanjana Nair, yesssss, you're right. Also he's already STILL married and you've got engaged to him and he's hiding you out until...... Come on WOMEN, are you that DESPERATE??
      What If it was you in those shoes??
      Know The WHOLE STORY. Hear it's ENTIRETY.

    • @truthcooperator4683
      @truthcooperator4683 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have this with my mother, I'm sick of it. I am done with her. I have tried so many times throughout the years, all my life. Always end up hurt by her. Enough!

  • @niaelbryant2336
    @niaelbryant2336 ปีที่แล้ว +1073

    The sadest factor is old men 50+ playing games like they are in the prime of their life.

    • @kellynorman8042
      @kellynorman8042 ปีที่แล้ว +130

      No kidding this last clown I was involved with turned 66 yesterday!!! Played me & I allowed it nearly a year. Bye clown.

    • @ritadoran5039
      @ritadoran5039 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      Couldn't agree more and think they are going to live forever

    • @tunisiaruth
      @tunisiaruth ปีที่แล้ว +123

      Seems like the late 40's to early 50's are dealing with something that I don't have time for.

    • @Nikita_848
      @Nikita_848 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Takes 2 to play. But I agree with you. It's pitiful.

    • @kellynorman8042
      @kellynorman8042 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      @@tunisiaruth no kidding I'm 57 thought I'd date older man. My goodness, I know men that are in their 30s 40s 50s more mature. Honestly, social media and dating apps have ruined many men. I'm worthy more than a slide left, slide right! No more dating apps for me. Facebook dating was worst met OLD BIG CLOWNS

  • @crystalgrose
    @crystalgrose ปีที่แล้ว +142

    “You cannot hold on to people that God has not ordained.” 💯💥

  • @yeshuachristdrivenandinspi6998
    @yeshuachristdrivenandinspi6998 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    " The door is STILL working" LOVE IT❤

  • @letticiamutama6860
    @letticiamutama6860 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    One of the signs you need to shut it down is when you start asking yourself if it's time to shut it down and asking others(including the internet) for advice

    • @kimmie9398
      @kimmie9398 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yessss….. Lord help me!!!!

    • @shecreates365
      @shecreates365 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes....I need deliverance.

  • @Dr.I.D.Pendleton
    @Dr.I.D.Pendleton ปีที่แล้ว +441

    I've been listening to Pastor Blakes since 2020. His biblical teachings helped me end the abusive relationship I was in for almost 2 decades 🙌🏿

    • @kayfleming5180
      @kayfleming5180 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Good for you!! ❤❤❤

    • @annetteprince9615
      @annetteprince9615 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Congratulations

    • @CMALady72
      @CMALady72 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Stay blessed and hang in there. RC Blake’s and Mrs. Lisa is truly a wonderful blessing to all.

    • @mr.krackemup
      @mr.krackemup ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Huhhhmmmm. 2 decades n an Abusive Relationship u stated right ? U telling the world u were n a 2 decade marriage and it was Abusive huh ?????? Something is totally wrong with what u stated, trust me. Plus it's always 3 sides to every story right ?? Too bad the other party isn't here stating their side to us and the world. Something is missing here folks, don't believe all u see.

    • @kayfleming5180
      @kayfleming5180 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mr.krackemup you sound just like an abuser. Always justifying abuse with that “3 sides to every story” crap. Go get therapy for your misogyny.

  • @Dr.I.D.Pendleton
    @Dr.I.D.Pendleton ปีที่แล้ว +43

    You should not have to play private detective with a man you're in a relationship with. A good man won't make you doubt his loyalty.

  • @SweetTreatsBy_Marie
    @SweetTreatsBy_Marie ปีที่แล้ว +246

    I listened to this message 5x and each time it made me see clearly of the unloved situation-ship that I allowed myself to be in . Oh how I feel so stupid and used . I distanced myself weeks ago but I’m totally letting go of what should have never been. Thank you 🙏🏾 Mr. Blakes

    • @ms.monroe7315
      @ms.monroe7315 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Don't feel stupid. We live and we learn. It was a teachable moment for you. I too have learned a lesson from a previous situationship. Mr. Blakes has opened my eyes to a lot of new things I thank God he put him along the way of my journey. Keep your head up and Stay blessed 💗🦋

    • @SweetTreatsBy_Marie
      @SweetTreatsBy_Marie ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@ms.monroe7315 Thank you 🙏🏾 2023 will be a better year

    • @thelanguage6907
      @thelanguage6907 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same here .

    • @marywesley7130
      @marywesley7130 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love it

  • @iammarycarter
    @iammarycarter ปีที่แล้ว +211

    This was one of the best messages that he could have presented. I just recently DECIDED to walk away from a 200lb cancerous individual. I've allowed him to stay 8 years knowing all the while he was sent to destroy me. I knew from day 3 and I stayed. I give God the glory I feel at ease, my heart feels happy again. Anytime I feel like I miss him I remember all of the pain,all of the tears, all of the gas lighting, all the times where I felt unworthy and quickly I smile and say Thank you Jesus. For women going through I pray for your strength, I pray for you healing and breakthrough. Thank you Pastor Blakes!

    • @WEFamilia
      @WEFamilia ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Is Jesus name AMEN!!
      CONGRATULATIONS Love

    • @conickasparks3746
      @conickasparks3746 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen sis I'm trying 2get there Now walking into this new year 2023

    • @teresalyle2431
      @teresalyle2431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you sir!!for being so clear and keeping it simple.Many dont know anything about game and life.Thank God for you!

    • @TheDrMinipark
      @TheDrMinipark ปีที่แล้ว

      Where alot of these men are raised by single mothers or where they are raised by two parents homes?

    • @beingevolved4801
      @beingevolved4801 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How did you do it, its year 3 for me and it, Ive left and hes left me but I keep going back and he is so mean to me!! I lost everything, I love him, but he does do me right!! I need help! I am hurting so bad!!

  • @kareena174
    @kareena174 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    AUTHENTIC LOVE IS CONSTANT UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!!!!!!!!! Felt that

  • @marcycat
    @marcycat ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Many women would like a relationship for companionship. Today, not many men have husband qualities. So, it's a much longer process for women to meet a man of integrity.

  • @Alicia_j
    @Alicia_j ปีที่แล้ว +104

    2023 is going to be all about me & it will be blessed by the Lord!!!
    Thank you God 🙏🏼

    • @serene2414
      @serene2414 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Amen 🙏🏽 I repeat your declaration 2023 is all about me and the many blessings arriving.

    • @abierliovas7827
      @abierliovas7827 ปีที่แล้ว

      2023 is going to be all about me & it will be blessed by the lord 🙏 🙌

    • @thelanguage6907
      @thelanguage6907 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen in agreement

    • @Lucy-joseh
      @Lucy-joseh ปีที่แล้ว

      Am also on the same journey I thank God am in this it's 8 yrs pastor RcBlackes God bless you..

  • @cynthiawalsh262
    @cynthiawalsh262 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    The MAN is ON POINT. Clear, direct, honest, specific … ALL IN; ALL GOD … Thank you!

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I appreciate that 😊

  • @roro-qx6fr
    @roro-qx6fr ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Since I never had a father I adopted you as my virtual dad. Thank you for all the lessons so far.

    • @90charim
      @90charim ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cool

    • @Tamara-gj1ey
      @Tamara-gj1ey ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I as well adopted

    • @daphnepilchard5203
      @daphnepilchard5203 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @classy6211
      @classy6211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same girl same! Stays putting us on game 🙏🏼

  • @paradiselivinginpurpose
    @paradiselivinginpurpose ปีที่แล้ว +170

    "He's not making love to you - he is having SEX with you!" ~ RC Blakes
    Couldn't have said it better! Thanks for repeating it 3 times for some of us in the back that needed to hear it clearly!!!
    Love from Trinidad and Tobago
    Love your teachings.
    💞

    • @missrese868
      @missrese868 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Truth

    • @mirandadavis2730
      @mirandadavis2730 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      DEEP. HE SAID THAT

    • @kellyanne4207
      @kellyanne4207 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I always knew the difference but when I saw it happening in my own decades long relationship I felt crushed.

  • @annaberniofficial
    @annaberniofficial 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    They manipulate you emotionally by overpromising and then under-delivering... thank you Pastor

  • @jenniferw5735
    @jenniferw5735 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    I needed this. Ended something this morning after listening to this, with an man who's energy was inconsistent. Focusing on myself....

    • @BoomsMom09
      @BoomsMom09 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Praying your strength, I did the same prior to listening to this, however after I prayed to release all the messages coming to me to confirm Im doing right. We are worthy of greater. Much love ❤️

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good for you!

  • @ellenbettenhausen7449
    @ellenbettenhausen7449 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    If I learned this lesson twenty years earlier... How different would my life be 😳 thank you so much for teaching me now, Pastor Blakes. You make a difference to my life now and I keep coming back to your channel, some videos need to be watched over and over again until the message gets through to my soul and it heals, it really does! ❤

    • @HoneyBlonde26
      @HoneyBlonde26 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Amen! 🙏🏽

    • @KKP20111
      @KKP20111 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Definitely!

    • @lynellb
      @lynellb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Absolutely!!

    • @GuidetteExpert
      @GuidetteExpert ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also great to motivate you to breakup or put boundaries and follow trough with the punishment by reading statistics on the effects on not doing it.

    • @LH-jt1qk
      @LH-jt1qk ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes indeed❤️

  • @lovephotography1966
    @lovephotography1966 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    If I had been introduced to you 5 yrs ago I wouldn't have been a 14 yrs. Fiancé. It has been 7 Mos since I found the courage to leave. I'm healing slowly.

    • @nadinehughes8486
      @nadinehughes8486 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm glad we all found this man of God, I have been a silly woman, NO MORE THANK U PASTOR I TO. WAS RAISED WITH OUT A FATHER,I'VE ALWAYS HAD A HEAVENLY FATHER THANK YOU LORD, 😊

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Damnit. These Men ain't ish

    • @crystalgeter.6294
      @crystalgeter.6294 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes on Point 👉☝️

    • @barbarasims8467
      @barbarasims8467 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You did the right thing. Keeping healing, praying, and loving yourself.

    • @andreamegec9836
      @andreamegec9836 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dear im 17 years fiancee housemaker, a friend roomade girlfriend

  • @michellewitter9814
    @michellewitter9814 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Not in a relationship currently. B3en almost 2 years and I'm at peace and happy!!!!! Better to be single any day than trauma bonded

    • @Moonstruck212
      @Moonstruck212 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Truth! I'm free as well. Thankyou God ♥️

    • @catrinaslade9450
      @catrinaslade9450 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm free as well! Praise God! ❤

    • @chipie4318
      @chipie4318 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Say it louder , peace of mind is everything. Don’t get me wrong finding a right person is a blessing and marriage is a beautiful thing ❤

    • @HisaLight2mypath
      @HisaLight2mypath ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely . Specially when they start to play mind games and mess up our head and heart.

  • @iwig2714
    @iwig2714 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    10.5 years why do we as smart women wait so long hoping and wishing but GOD turned my Discernment switch on and I walked. It's still fresh but GOD will keep me strong.

  • @Signal_light_instructor
    @Signal_light_instructor ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Authentic love is consistent in all circumstances

  • @beatlestitchmuserart7399
    @beatlestitchmuserart7399 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I am so sad and know my relationship has hit it's expiration date. I can't hurt anymore from this broken man....

    • @Moonstruck212
      @Moonstruck212 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed!

    • @missjackie7983
      @missjackie7983 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's right sister, stop breaking your own heart and protect your peace!

    • @privateperson1461
      @privateperson1461 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      A broken man will have you entangled with sad thoughts months after the break up. It's been 6 months....almost 7 if I keep ruminating into 2023! Pray for Ro.

    • @charlesdial7152
      @charlesdial7152 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My marriage is over after 22yrs and I am scared and don't know what to do because I've been with her for so long. She is taking it better than me and I don't like that she is not trippin out. We come from different sides of the tracks.

    • @tanilovesallpeople8473
      @tanilovesallpeople8473 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@charlesdial7152 hi I just want to say I'm so sorry u are going through this I'm keeping u in my prayers normally I don't usually comment but when I seen this comment I had to comment on this I also pray peace in your life everything will be ok god has your back and he loves u may God bless u and your beautiful heart

  • @24_xx
    @24_xx หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This man is golden ! I love him as a dad he truly makes me feel loved … and he has helped me through my darkest time in life … I thank you so much God bless you always! Thank you for making these videos ❤️

  • @heavenlyearthangel88
    @heavenlyearthangel88 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Facts!!!! IT IS TIME TO SHUT THIS RELATIONSHIP DOWN!!!! I'm ready for the new!!!!

  • @iamqueen9696
    @iamqueen9696 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I’m no longer in my toxic situationship! But all these points made were about my previous partner!!! Thank God I left it 2 months ago 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @mel9390
    @mel9390 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "A clown 🤡with a crown 👑"
    I love that! Describes my ex to a tea! Wealthy widower played me like a fiddle...kept me in the closet for years...no functions, no invites, no outings..I was in love but he was probably just in lust.. disgraceful and deceptive behaviour given he was in his 70's. Thank you RC Blakes for your advice🙏

  • @ComplimentsOfMae
    @ComplimentsOfMae ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I need to listen to this every day so I can continue to heal

  • @iwig2714
    @iwig2714 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow so true you so on point he was inconsistent and emotionally unavailable that's a dangerous man to deal with.

  • @elliecurie
    @elliecurie 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This made me cry RC. You were talking about me and what my ex put me through with the inconsistencies, hot and cold, empty promises. Holy Spirit is helping me break the soul tie and he’s using your teachings to help me do that. Thank you.

  • @lawandatoomcgee5950
    @lawandatoomcgee5950 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks for this session. I told a guy that wanted to date me, that I didn't want anyone husband's. I felt like he was married. I kept asking him was he married. He kept assuring me that he wasn't. I started repenting and asking Father God to expose him. I found out he is married. Now, I'm trying to break it off and my emotions were in the way. This segment balanced me back to realization... thanks RC Blakes

  • @childofgod9628
    @childofgod9628 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    It is time & I am ready to move on, from this place. There is nothing to hold onto. Why hold on, I am ready to move on.

  • @jessebradford7130
    @jessebradford7130 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It's scary how aware and accurate you are.

  • @lisabrown9286
    @lisabrown9286 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Your ability to see, understand, and address the most complex thought processes - it’s like you’ve actually lived what I’m experiencing. Uncanny. Truly an anointing. Thank you

  • @missf0rd2you94
    @missf0rd2you94 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Confirmation. I just let a relationship go that wasn’t serving me I was loosing myself trying to be what that man needed. I was being a wife with no ring and us women we wonder why we’re not married because we giving our milk away for free! Why would he buy it. This was right at my door. It is hard but I feel good knowing I’m putting me first praying my way that I stay focused and pour back into me! Thankyou for these messages WE NEED TO HEAR IT! I ain’t gone send you no emails 🤣‼️

    • @teew1895
      @teew1895 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same here except he said we were married because the Bible doesn't mention a license. So when I said I left after the 1000th time he told me to get out cause he didn't want me; now he wants to get married today and go to counseling. It's been 5 years of this rollercoaster. Now I've found myself again and God has given me strength. I can just kick myself. Not to mention the verbal and physical abuse. Never again! I left with only the clothes on my back. I knew I was out of the will of God, went against my morals and principles, and lost myself trying to please him. He didn't give 2 cents about me. I have peace and joy through all my tears. I know I'll make it with God.

  • @ed000
    @ed000 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Following you about 5 years ago taught me how to love myself, understand the tricks, manipulation men play on women. Your videos -
    " When loving you is killing me", Father daughter talk, Queenology etc helped me to recognise abuse. The more I learn,the more I shut it down. My peace and self-love are my priorities. Amen to the prayer. Thank you, Merry Christmas and stay blessed.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolutely. I peep game now with the speed of light cos of all the wisdom ive been garnering from him. When we know better we do better.

  • @small11989
    @small11989 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Thank you RC Blakes❤, just got myself out of a 12 year marriage and it covered all the points in this video, so sad. I feel lighter, brighter and my soul feels free. You inspired me and gave me the strength as did the Lord. God bless you 🙏🏻

    • @teew1895
      @teew1895 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yesssss! Same here. I have so much peace and joy in my little hotel room with just the clothes on my back. Through all the tears I'm finding myself.

  • @melaniegenuinely
    @melaniegenuinely ปีที่แล้ว +47

    You're saving lives Bishop through your obedience!!!

  • @MissLeaaaaa
    @MissLeaaaaa ปีที่แล้ว +135

    I’ve been following you since February, Bishop. You have really changed my life and kept me grounded. I fall short sometimes but I’m thankful to have God and you to always run back to when I need to get my mind right. I am always telling my friends about your channel and anyone who will listen! Lol. You and your wife are truly amazing! ❤️😇

    • @naomirivera4837
      @naomirivera4837 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Me2 sister his so respectful to us Queens he's so good God bless him God bless us all God bless you little sister

    • @nawhatererr
      @nawhatererr ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here!

  • @Pacifica74
    @Pacifica74 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Letting them go is the easier part. It's the moving on and finding someone else - that's very hard because the first part is in your control; the other part you have no control over.

    • @barbarasims8467
      @barbarasims8467 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Seek God for a spouse, by praying.

  • @Oluwafunmmilola
    @Oluwafunmmilola ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Thank you so much RC Blakes ! I was depressed 2 years ago, there was no one to talk to, no shoulders to cry on. Here I was on TH-cam and I saw one of your videos . Listening to you brought the healing I needed at that time. I have unlearned a lot of BS and learnt a lot. God bless you RC . Your videos are life changing

  • @trinawilliams3459
    @trinawilliams3459 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Powerful I am 58 he is 67 he lives in another City I never traveled to his house but he been to my 🏠 twice he won't be 🔙 he TOLD me he is a very busy man at almost 70 😳 🤦🏾‍♀️ I PRAYED AND MOVED FORWARD ⏩ LOVED THIS MESSAGE PASTOR RC BLAKES 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @martinwallen5877
    @martinwallen5877 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am delighted 😊 that you showed up to help me save my life from a demon!

  • @reliajohnson9706
    @reliajohnson9706 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I love this pastor. He tells it like it is.😀

    • @everett552
      @everett552 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😆😆😆.....He sure does. Nothing but the truth. Gotta love him. Bless his heart! ❤️

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ALWAYS. He's even more amazing in person. I visited his church. Everyone was so warm and kind.

    • @nadinehughes8486
      @nadinehughes8486 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes!!!!!!!!!!! Sis SO TRUE GOD'S SPEED

  • @lottreceboyce5515
    @lottreceboyce5515 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This saved my whole future life when it comes to shutting down relationships that do not serve me any good. Thank u for this

  • @nancyntokozomahlangu4512
    @nancyntokozomahlangu4512 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    This is one of my favorite subscriptions..
    Going through alot alone especially being unemployed fighting suicidal thoughts I always come here to listen to queenology. Theres always something that's uplifting to remind me how I managed to heal and move past difficult situations.It's been 3yrs now I don't regret joining this platform

  • @aidaortiz7219
    @aidaortiz7219 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you so much, Pastor Blakes. This was filmed one year ago, but I received this message at the right time. God bless you and your family.

  • @HA-ut7np
    @HA-ut7np ปีที่แล้ว +16

    That intro song 💜 great reminder who we really are as women. Our value.

    • @jornfox3545
      @jornfox3545 ปีที่แล้ว

      do you know who sings the song ?

  • @thebeamli
    @thebeamli ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This came right on time. I shut it down quick. My intuition, God, told me to let it go, some godly woman I seek counsel from told me to let go, I had a dream, but the short you made "let it go on your terms" sealed the deal. He wasn't a bad man, he even had good intentions, but my spirit was drained around him, his vision was selfish, and he wasn't leading his own life towards any good so he definitely wouldn't have been able to lead me.

  • @Coachkmore
    @Coachkmore ปีที่แล้ว +44

    You’re never in trouble with me Pastor, the tough love you give is always needed, keep preaching louder than the shouting, I know I need it to continue my growth and constant healing Thank You so much for all you do, Amen

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Always very needed. No one tell it like he does. You can feel the love and passion behind the reprimand. Everything he says don't send me no emails, I always say I wish someone would...cos he tells all facts.

  • @YolandaRevealed
    @YolandaRevealed ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This was confirmation that I did the right thing. Thank you! 👏🏽💯🎯

  • @kimruff8334
    @kimruff8334 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Pastor Blake is not only giving wonderful life changing wisdom, he is also VERY funny. I laugh from my belly whenever I listen to him. He is hilarious. I enjoy his teachings and delivery!

  • @nikkyshamz2696
    @nikkyshamz2696 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    ALL of this. You keep dropping gems and constant reminders for us that we must not allow ourselves to get played or go out sad in these streets. Thank you very much ❤️

    • @shaunierockett4964
      @shaunierockett4964 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes the guy I felt so strongly for told me I played myself…and as I sat in my thoughts he was right!💔so I will heal now💔❤️‍🩹❤️

  • @mitz1919
    @mitz1919 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    And when he said they are redefining who u are in ur own mind.. wow!

  • @sabrinasmith933
    @sabrinasmith933 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Looking forward to this, I'm totally looking at it with the perspective of business relationships as I'm going through great difficulty this year and friends stabbing me in the back. It's so hurtful. It's time to shut it down and move fresh into 2023.

  • @MsNaturralBeauty
    @MsNaturralBeauty ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My favorite part “we don’t need no counseling, no meetings with the pastor it’s time to shut it down”

  • @CC-qf6zz
    @CC-qf6zz หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Every woman should hear this down in their soul. Every young girl Should listen to this And take it in BEFORE They get entangled with someone. Excellent advice!

  • @mrs.bernard5415
    @mrs.bernard5415 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Whew! the best pastor hands down.... would have been nice to have met you at 18 yrs of age... nonetheless still and always will be grateful to have crossed paths Pastor.
    Thank you

  • @angelafayesims1563
    @angelafayesims1563 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lord....Ty for Pastor RC Blakes, Jr. & his healing & surrendered life to you!!! And, Thank You God for his transparency & Agape love for All your children, To Be Awakened!!❤🙏💪🙌😊🎶💯🙏

  • @joyceengham3882
    @joyceengham3882 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Wow!! This is powerful oh how I wish I could have heard this when I was younger. Bishop I thank God that I can share this with my daughters and granddaughters. Am praying that they receive this message in love.

    • @dawnirey8843
      @dawnirey8843 ปีที่แล้ว

      I needed this message 2 years ago. God bless this wisdom 🙏

  • @lakeshacollins8825
    @lakeshacollins8825 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    A much needed message for the world today!! We need to know what is from God and what is not! Thank you Bishop Blakes! 🙏🏽💙

  • @chasityborel7943
    @chasityborel7943 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    After I heard number one, I didn’t need to hear anymore! That one right there said it all! 🙌🏾 Thank you Bishop

  • @Pmason718
    @Pmason718 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve watched a ton of videos but this video by itself is the reason I’ve decided to shut it down.

  • @Unebellecreole
    @Unebellecreole ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Pastor, thank you so much! 🙏. I needed this message. Pretty much everything you said describes my life, and I'm ready to shut this mess down. Lord, please help me find another place to call home and help me figure out how I am going to make it financially because that is the only thing keeping me trapped in a situation that I know you did not ordain. Hallelujah!

    • @islip376
      @islip376 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Walk in faith, God is our source sis. You’ll be ok. Pray and believe 🙏🏽❤️

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      God will never leave you nor forsake you 🙏

    • @Unebellecreole
      @Unebellecreole ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Kesha Pressley, I trust that God will make a way for me.

    • @Unebellecreole
      @Unebellecreole ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@beefaye6861 Thank you so much for that reminder. ❤️

    • @missjackie7983
      @missjackie7983 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not only does every state have a homeless shelter with tons of resources for both men and women who are in abusive relationships and need a place to stay, money, etc, there are also down payment assistance programs in every state, free money that you do not have to pay back for a down payment on a home or a condo. For example in Georgia you can get up to $15,000, in New York you can get up to $40,000. It's how I got my home that I'm in now when I was in an abusive relationship. And remember, abuse is not just physical. it can be emotional, spiritual, financial! Wherever you are at if you don't have a smile on your face? You are being abused! And you do not have to be there!!

  • @simplyme8650
    @simplyme8650 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I always walk out of here fully restored. Thank you Pastor Blakes! May the Almighty keep filling your cup of wisdom 🙏🏾

  • @lauriemendoza4671
    @lauriemendoza4671 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This message was amazing Pastor! Your presentation was completely on point and so relevant and timely for me. I left a toxic marriage and am on the healing journey. I regularly listen to your teachings as I put myself back together and discover the new me. Thank you Sir! I look forward to your new book.

  • @rahabmbuchucha7410
    @rahabmbuchucha7410 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for allowing God to use to save his people you are truly a blessing.

  • @vivavidadela
    @vivavidadela ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was married 20 years to a narcissist until these videos and working on myself helped me free myself. I always felt like he was just sex with me. It never felt like making love and it disgusted me.

  • @lisablakes8085
    @lisablakes8085 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    There is a problem with streaming in Texas right now. We will replay this tomorrow evening! So sorry everyone!

    • @nyashakurasha7699
      @nyashakurasha7699 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you mama Li. We are sticking it out and watching. Then we'll replay again tomorrow. Paps is on point, as usual. So grateful for you both.

    • @naomirivera4837
      @naomirivera4837 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh man but thanks MrsRC ❤️🙏🏼

    • @whiterose4062
      @whiterose4062 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!!!!!

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes ma'am, cldnt get it last night. Just replayed this morning. So blessed ❤️

    • @THESEER55
      @THESEER55 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lisa Blakes, please PRAY for and you and Bishop to talk on these women that get engaged to already Married men. So very sad. We as WOMEN should NEVER get or Allow ourselves to jump into that situation. We should NOT interfere with a COVENANT MARRIAGE. GOD IS NOT PLEASED. This is happening now.....

  • @QIKWIA
    @QIKWIA ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Imma watch and learn tonight......but I already know inside what the answer in MY situation is
    ....
    🙏🏿Thank you Bishop Blakes for always bringing the truth!

  • @StampedByB
    @StampedByB ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This message was on time!!!!! Preach Pastor!!!!!!!! My God!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @mslailamay
    @mslailamay ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It’s so painful when you gotta shut a marriage down.

    • @barbarasims8467
      @barbarasims8467 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      But you will make it. Call on God for help.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      It is but it's worse to remain in a so called marriage that's abusive.

  • @leobeaupre858
    @leobeaupre858 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    God will not deny a repented Heart.
    My God makes all thing's New again.
    My God will not go against His Word.
    My God is Still a Faithful God 🙌 🙏 ✨️

  • @BrendaBaBoom
    @BrendaBaBoom ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Excellent video! I prioritize and value my EMOTIONAL currency in relationships because it provides protection of my soul.

    • @HisaLight2mypath
      @HisaLight2mypath ปีที่แล้ว

      Indeed. The pain is too much when they start playing mind games and disappearing.

  • @GAR12630
    @GAR12630 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ‘Intentionally recalibrating your self-esteem to a level that affords them the ability to manage you’ 😳

  • @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407
    @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Timely! You helped me smile and even giggle. Being a private detective 🕵️‍♂️ in a relationship is clearly draining and not healthy. The right person will help build trust with his energy being consistent.

  • @livingadventures
    @livingadventures ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I had to cut off a guy whom I knew from family friends. He strung me along and gas lighted me. Toxic guy wanted my attention on his terms. He cut me off after I deleted him from my social media. I feel at peace.

  • @veeoby3364
    @veeoby3364 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Gosh, this was made just for me. Unbelievable, every single point applied to me. Was in a closet for about 3 years. I shut it down couple months ago but regret I should have done it sooner.

    • @ddddddno24
      @ddddddno24 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congratulations. I hope you will pull deep and not be pulled in.

  • @cyrilschaap-tm8um
    @cyrilschaap-tm8um ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Pastor After this sermon I'm 56yrs woman I'm ready for committed to marriage now, I'm heal 🙏

  • @SoffyLoves
    @SoffyLoves ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Oh Pastor, you hit the nail right on the head again, but thank you. I ended it and I feel so much better now.

  • @tsakie88
    @tsakie88 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Sir. It's 2:30 am in South Africa 🇿🇦and here I am listening to you speak. I needed this more than anything. Thank you so much. God bless 🙌

  • @lashawnshipp8271
    @lashawnshipp8271 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yes indeed! Preach Bishop! I put out the trash last year because it wasn't a healthy relationship for me. It's good to see positive videos like this. Listening to your videos are good for the mind, body, and soul. I've learned so much listening to your video. Can't nobody run game on me listening to you Bishop. I pray I meet you and Lisa one day. God bless you and your family. 😘

  • @rosemaryespinosa8906
    @rosemaryespinosa8906 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    46:44 “It was my mother that taught me: Lisa is your first woman, she’s your first priority”. Priceless! ❤❤

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Amazing to hear him recite his mother. 👏🌱🥲

    • @michellete8545
      @michellete8545 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah that’s a good mama.
      It’s sad but a lot of moms act like they are the wife and it’s sick and weird. Can’t let go of their sons. How can a man grow if he’s treated as a childish possession?

  • @montana3877
    @montana3877 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Time to Shut this DOWN"
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️this!!!! Bishop Thank You sir!!!! More Blessings to you

  • @Velvetta01
    @Velvetta01 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "Okay, Praise the Lord"... Just love this message Pastor!!!

  • @tanjapersona9123
    @tanjapersona9123 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Pastor Blakes you're so direct and you put your finger on every hurt spot, because you're so right. I'm listening to you since 2020. Because of the pandemic I had to work from home and had every freedom to listen to anything I wanted too. And I chose your queenology classes, haha. Yeah they're teachings, I'm telling you. Before 2020 I've fooled myself with too many dumb situationships.
    And every single time listening to you, I find myself laughing. Because the examples you give are so spot on. Like the DOA, you got me rolling there. I can't get even mad at you because you're right and you're funny telling it. You serve sir!

  • @tunisiaruth
    @tunisiaruth ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you for sharing this message. Many times we know but just need to hear it. 🙏🏿

  • @rhardy00004
    @rhardy00004 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He was definitely talking to me on this one, energy is everything

  • @TheDewhite61
    @TheDewhite61 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pastor Blakes, I am not in church at the moment and haven't been for quite a number of years.
    I listened to this podcast and wanted to let you know that You have saved My self esteem. I lost Myself 😞 6 months ago ...
    I intend to continue listening to your teachings and coaching.
    It's time for Me to "Shut It Down".
    I can't thank You enough ‼️🤗

  • @ameliastewart8484
    @ameliastewart8484 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I had a wedding but not a marriage but Thank God I’m free

  • @sheilablanton4894
    @sheilablanton4894 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you always pastor Blake's 🙏 your always giving us good lessons..

  • @kingro1868
    @kingro1868 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I bought both books just now queenology and father daughter talk!! I need this. ❤❤Thank you and thank God for leading me to listen to him speak through you...

  • @Coachkmore
    @Coachkmore ปีที่แล้ว +13

    All points HEARD! And added to my wisdom of consistent growth and vetting while dating, thank you Pastor🙏🏾

  • @QueenJ215
    @QueenJ215 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am SOOO happy I found you! 🙌🏼🙏🏼 Praise God the Holy Spirit is talking to me through you...I am 53, saved & keep allowing my flesh to make ALL the mistakes in choosing men you speak about in EVERY video. 😂 My God I needed you a WHOLE bunch of years ago!!!! 😂 Thank God it's not too late for me...after listening & adhering these principles into my life, my God ONE day, if it is to be...I WILL have the right man & THEN husband God ordained me to be a Queen for & to. Right now I am enjoying being a Queen to me... 💯 I love you Pastor Blakes & I know Lady Blakes (Lisa) is PROUD to be your wife. 😊 I love you two & God bless you for empowering women all over the world, all ages & races...you are phenomenal King. 🙏🏼 Happy Holidays to you & yours. 🎄🥂🎁❤️⛄❄️🎶💚 I've been watching ALL your videos ,every night I run to my phone to find one I have missed. 💯😊

  • @iluvbnajsmom7473
    @iluvbnajsmom7473 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Bishop,
    You're HELPING❣️🙏🏾✝️❤️

  • @Only1Nancy
    @Only1Nancy ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is the one, can’t wait!

  • @trulycay5714
    @trulycay5714 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    holy spirit take the wheel. . shut everything down that doesn't come from you

  • @dorrisevans2265
    @dorrisevans2265 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Pastor RC Blakes Jr. Thank you, and Lisa, for speaking and teaching us as a people to understand the biblical structure and to value this
    gift of life from our Lord Jesus Christ.
    In Jesus name.
    "Know Your Worth 💯"...
    Amen. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @TheRobinAskew
    @TheRobinAskew ปีที่แล้ว +6

    RC, you spoke a word with this one! YES! Sending this to everyone! Thank you so much!