The funny thing is that whoever made this list probably doesn’t have to worry about being taken to one of these places because nobody is asking her out anyway ☠️
Anti social people are definitely the most delusional about standards and stuff lol. Like they don’t understand if they were in a group they would IMMEDIATELY be kicked out and asked to not hang out with them anymore for their nonsense opinions.
America is the fattest nation on Earth and there's fast food everywhere from Miami to Montana These women will spend their own money on fast food but feel disrespected by a man taking them to a chain restaurant with better quality food.
Simps bro. It literally doesn't matter how shrill and annoying a woman is, there's at least *one* puberty-bearded man whose spine was slowly removed who's gonna say yes.
I took my wife to the Cheesecake factory a couple of years ago. Even ordered cheesecake as desert for the two of us. After I paid the bill and we left she told me she had a great time, but she thought it was too expensive! Later that week she downloaded a copycat recipe for their pumpkin cheesecake and learned how to make that. She told me she could make an entire cheesecake for what we paid for one slice at the Cheesecake factory after tip and tax. One of the many reasons I love my wife!
This list is actually very helpful. If you ask a woman on a date to one of those places and she finds it unacceptable, it tells you immediately that you shouldn't be dating her.
I disagree, that hookah bar thing sounds absolutely terrible, the gym doesn't seem like an ideal place to date, and going to someone's house before you know them (for women certainly) is incredibly risky. Also family event isn't for the first date.
@@eyesofascension8678 yes of course. But a hookah bar isn't where you can best get to know someone, same with the gym. As for going to the persons home, when it's the first date it's simply taking a massive risk. And a family gathering just doesn't fit. 99% of other places perfectly fine, but where still Matters, just not more than the person. Would you go to a strip club for a date? Go to a loud festival? For a first date? You need to pick somewhere that you can talk. It's why I don't like a bar, because it's far to loud to hear what the other is saying. Than there's no point to the date.
@@eyesofascension8678lol sorry bro, but if you’re inviting a girl to your house, the gym, or a hookah bar for the first date there’s something weird about you and women are totally within their rights as normal people to reject that.
Both genders should think of it more as ways to get to know each other. Gym isn't best, but at least it is a public place, get a chance to work out your nerves, chop it up a bit between sets and if things don't end to want to see the person again at least you all got to use that time to get a good workout.
My husband and I had a first date at a movie theater and then went for ice cream afterwards. In that trip to ice cream, we discussed the movie. You really get to learn about a person when they discuss the movie metaphors and deeper meanings. By the time we were at Oberweise, we had soooo much to discuss. He has been my best friend for nine years and counting! 🥰
Yeah I think as long as you’re going somewhere after to talk it’s fine. And movie dependent obviously. Imagine if your first date was watching Jack & Jill 🤢
I’m a woman and if someone took me to Red Lobster and I didn’t have to pay, I’d be psyched. These girls are way too picky and think far too much of themselves.
All these people like flame cheesecake factory and heck that was considered boujee for me as a kid. I was so bummed i couldnt go with my friends this one time because i had a doctors appointment. Like i dont know but its like my childhood pinnacle.
"Pick-Me! Pick-Me!" This is the most pathetic thing I've ever heard in my life. Do you regularly meet men that cannot even pay for a date at Red Lobster? Where are you finding men? The homeless shelter? Or cheapskates that refuse that to even pay for Red Lobster? Either way, he's either a cheapskate or can't ever properly support a family. Why would you want that man? Then it says volumes that you pathetically go on dates and expect to pay. Your standards are SO LOW that even paying for a date is not a give in. You think too LOW of yourself and men know they don't have to put in any effort. That says more about YOU not these women.
@@1libra. The only reason I'd turn down Cheesecake Factory is because every one I've been to is too loud. You have to shout to converse and a first date should include talking! Otherwise, I love the place.
There was a girl on tktok that was honestly offended that a guy would take someone that looked like her to The Cheesecake Factory. My thought was hell dump her and take me lol
@@oh-mylag8812...I know, right? And we don't even have to have dinner, just get me a piece of cheesecake and a coffee and I will be happy and tell you good pick for the date 😊
I'm from a rather rural area and I think the closest Cheesecake Factory is over an hour and a half away. I've never been and always wanted to go. I'd be pumped if someone took me there! We don't have much for fine dining in my area anyways. Olive Garden is one of the nicest places I've ever eaten 😂😂😂
Cheesecake Factory is a no-no? Why? I’m not a terribly classy lady myself, so that’s my idea of a fancy dinner. I like Cheesecake Factory. Also, if ur date says _church_ is a no-go, drop her. She’s not marriage material, cuz she’s certainly not going to do a good job caring for you, your kids, or the household needs in general.
@@nathanstroud2223idk, I think it could be. It’s in the same vein as taking her home to meet your parents in a way, because for a lot of people, church is where your friends and family are. To me, it would be a major red flag if my date refused to attend church with me, for the reason that as a Christian, my faith is the most important part of my life. If he doesn’t share that, we wouldn’t be on the same moral foundation, and we wouldn’t work. I understand for non-believers that it might be awkward to attend church for a date, but non-believers wouldn’t even consider that in the first place.
My wife and I had our first date at a coffee shop. I showed up to pick her up, she said Starbucks isn't far, lets, just walk, and so we walked for miles through the freezing rain to a Starbucks that was actually just a coffee stand is a grocery store. I learned some very important things about my future wife that day. 1) She is very confident in her decisions once she has made up her mind. 2) She will go to great lengths to get coffee, but it doesn't have to be good coffee. 3) She is terrible at directions, and all the technology in the world can't change that. There was a Starbucks about two blocks from her house, just the opposite direction from where we headed.
I think these women should reach out to women who are actually married to get a reality check. My wedding anniversary is this Wednesday, and my husband and I may just go out with our 3 kids if we don’t find babysitting. And guess what, some of the places on the list we definitely went to when dating, while engaged, while married, with kids, or by ourselves when we get babysitting for kids. It’s okay to have preferences, but no man wants a woman who is impossible. Edit: I know this is all in reference to first dates, however, if you can’t accept some of these things for a first date, when will they actually be acceptable?
For these women no I don't know if there being serious or trying to be funny. But this is a first date not an anniversary where I would understand you would want to go to somewhere you wouldn't normally go to.
These are certified single cat ladies, they will never be taken seriously by a man. They can wish for all these fancy 5 star dates but it's not likely to happen.
I was 18, a freshman in college when my husband took me on our first date. We went to a Chipotle style mom and pop Mexican restaurant and then went to coed rugby practice. We've been married 11 years. If I were a man and a woman told me her makeup was hundreds of dollars, that would be a big red flag.
My concealer is like $1.88, and my color changing lip balm is $1, and they're better quality than any of the expensive stuff I used to buy. My moisturizer is beef tallow that I got for around $20 which is enough to last me around a year. I love getting a good deal. These chicks are trippin'😂
Oh absolutely. One specific item or two that's expensive, especially if she has sensitive skin and it's the oy one she doesn't react to (it's a real thing) is fine. The rest? Nope
30+ years ago, I asked my beautiful wife on our first date. I took her to a rodeo, in which I was competing. She had no idea because I told her it would be horses and dancing. As fate would have it, I won my competition and spent the entire winnings on her that night dancing, and food, and company and I took her home the next day. We’ve been together ever since. I noticed this wasn’t on the list, so I was ahead of my time
Isn't a rodeo technically a sporting event LoL. That's pretty cool that you took her and then won your event. Imagine how it would have gone if you hadn't...
@@Joreel well, since I didn’t have enough money to buy gas to get us back home, it wouldn’t have went well. As far as a sport, humm…. I guess I will have to Concede to your insight there
Our first date was to a motorcycle race, that I was also competing in lol. You had better luck in the winning department than I did though, I sent a chain through the case about half way through the race.
@@Lithic_Goose That has to have been a fun date. I remember going to motorcycle races when I was a kid back in the late 70s and early 80s. It was a lot of fun watching them flying all around the track
Honestly, a 1st date is to GET TO KNOW someone. If someone took me to a 5star restaurant on a 1st date and paid for everything I would feel like he was either trying to impress me with money or expecting something more than just conversation. In that case I'd be trying to pay my portion of the meal. Keep 1st dates light and fun!!!
Very respectable. Frankly, a lot of the women with these standards DO want to be impressed by money because they want to be spoiled. When someone calls themselves a princess, I believe them. Avoid those who act like they deserve to be treated like royalty. Find people who are content as paupers and look for spontaneous exchses to treat them to a taste of royalty. The former has expectations. The latter has gratitude.
I met my husband at a small concert venue for local bands. We both got false info that the show started an hour before it actually did. We were the only ones there, so we started chatting and waited for the show to start. The whole concert ended up being like a first date because we hit it off so well. I needed a cab back home and he offered to drive me home. When he dropped me off, we exchanged numbers and a kiss. Our first official date was at a bar so we could chat over drinks. He bought me flowers at the bar, and I was won over by him. He is my best friend and we have three children together, so far. No matter the date location, how well you two click is what matters. If you two are meant to be, a free date at the park will be enough. If someone is picky about the date location, that is a good indication they see you as a resource and not someone they care to form a bond with.
What a cute story 🥹🥹🥹 like me and my husband, we met at church and he asked me to have tacos at a small mexican taco spot and i was immediately in love i didn’t even care where we were
@@brc8149 We get a lot of funny looks, though. I am a small white woman and he is a tall dark Mexican man, PLUS we have an 18 year age gap. We look like an odd pair, but love can find you when you aren't looking! We just went there to have fun alone, but we found our soul mates. Funny thing is he didn't initiate anything at all- I was the one who told him I wanted to see him again. He was afraid I thought he was too old. 🤣
My first date with my now-husband was to mass followed by coffee and bouldering. He proposed to me outside the same church and we got married in the same church. It was a dream wedding for both of us and the fact that it was at our “first date” spot just made it so special. I get that a first date to church is not for everyone. But imagine being so entitled you think that 98% of first date spots are “not good enough” for you. The right person won’t care how much money you spend on them or where you go. Sometimes less is more!
Congrats, and I think that is the kind of story that your Grandkids will enjoy (especially the little girls). I can imagine a family picnic like in a movie. “Grandma, how did you and Grandpa meet?”
I get that you went to other places after but isn’t going to church the equivalent of going to the cinema? Unless you’re both already members of the church of course, you’re just going to sit together and watch in silence, no conversation.
@@segazoranot sure about Catholics, but I know in conservative Protestant circles the church you attend and your standing in it can be a huge part of your sales pitch as a guy. Does your church match the girl's doctrine? Do the old people at the church know and vouch for you? Are you obviously a regular? My husband and I both visited each other's churches very early on while dating and our standing dates were at worship services and Bible studies. It's part of the culture - and unlike movie theaters churches can be very well illuminated and (depending on the denomination) hella chatty.
My husband and my first date was supposed to be a nicer coffee shop, but it didn't work out so we went to Starbucks. We talked for like SIX hours and it was amazing. It's perfect because you can stay for 20 minutes if it's awkward, or several hours if it goes really well!
That is why simple coffee dates are great, or grabbing coffee and going for a walk in a public park, etc. Somewhere that you can casually talk and get to know each other, honestly the idea of "dinner and a movie" is probably the worst first date you could come up with because you can't talk in the movie and do you really want your first impression of someone being them watching you eat and trying to talk between bites?
Win. Everyone needs to learn, coffee or bakery (take and hangout parks) it is perfect to date. No wonder everyone wants a spoiler lover, never be greedy on their wallets and showered on them. Only about personality, kind and respectful.
I got my wife an engagement ring for $2k, and after she said yes, she went with me to take it back and exchange it for one that was $500, because she said the other one was too expensive. These girls out here are a nightmare. Glad i got my wife.
My fiancé and I did a lot of these. We’re in love and got engaged after 3 months. Our wedding is next year. Our first 3 dates were in the span of 2 weeks and they were as follows: 1st date: Pizza Hut and Bowling 2nd date: we took a walk around our local shopping area and got ice cream. We walked around IKEA and went to Dave and busters. We had a blast. (We became boyfriend and girlfriend on this date.) 3rd date: we took a walk in a local town near the water and went to Golden Corral. We spent over an hour and a half in the parking lot after we had dinner talking and being very cute. I told her I loved and that I felt like our relationship was very special. I think I told her I wanted to marry her. We had an amazing time and love one another.
This is creepy how similar we are. My husband and I had our first date at the movies and Pizza Hut, we were engaged after 3 months and married the following year. We’ll be celebrating 16 years in December.
Im sorry but I don’t know a single person who has ever gone to Golden Corral. Im convinced that they are a front for illegal activities. We even have a Golden Corral on our main road that I’ve never seen ANYONE at, not even employees. You can’t be real 😂😂😂😂 (of course jk but forreal 🫣)
@anna-mh5ct I would love to know where a Golden Corral is at! Before Covid I got a gift card to one and the only one near me closed down before lockdowns were lifted. Still have the gift card tho lol
I'm somewhat thankful that gal put a $200 minimum on a first date and listed the cost of her products. That's a great way for every guy to know how high maintenance and costly she will be if things went further than a first date. Good on her for letting everyone know her price up front.
Imagine, as expensive as car repairs are, if they charged by the tool they used. You'd be bankrupt the moment the charged you for the $45K diagnostic computer. She's only using $5 worth of both eye cream and moisturizer for that date anyway, but wants to be compensated like she bathed in a whole bottle. I wish I might!! 🤨
I dont think it's wrong to not pay that much in makeup. People value different things. That person is only about appearance. It's great to look your best or try to and not overdo it.
Had a first date at Applebee's in 2014. We've now been very happily married for 8 years. It's not about the place, it's about the connection. Love can blossom anywhere.
My husband and I had our first date at a comic book convention and then went for pizza in a fast-food-ish place. I had horrible allergies and my face was red from the sneezing and blowing. It was far from ideal, but we had a great time nonetheless and been married for 9 years. People with such ridiculous standards have lonely lives ahead of them.
My first date with my husband was a Cold Stone that was inside a gas station... 2 kids and 14 years later and I'm sure im far happier than the women who wrote this list lol
If you really were, you really wouldn't need to perform or compete with random strangers on the internet. No one asked about your life. And marriage and kids doesn't mean a damn thing because men marry, sleep with, and have kids with women with women they don't like all the time. It never ceases to amaze me how dunce or naive some of you are.
@@Miaspear31hookah bar is basically where people smoke Shisha (its a water pipe that people use a mix of tobacco to smoke from). You go to a Hookah if you want drinks while smoking from the water pipe. Hookah coffee shop i would say is more preferable but that is just personal preference.
My very first date with my fiancé was at a local coffee shop. Not only was it the best first date ever, but we met online, and he drove an HOUR AND A HALF to meet me for the first time. There was instant chemistry, and I sincerely think it's because we kept it so casual. We had the best time, and our second date was Deadpool 2 in theaters. We discovered how each of us treats movies, and that was important to us. Our 3rd date was bowling in a rinky-dink spot two cities away from my house!! What is wrong with having a casual fun time with someone? Is that not the absolute best way to get to know them?
Is an 1,5 hour drive very long for a date?) I didn't think so. That's why my husband made a lot of over 3 hours rides to me. Not in car, but metro+train. Yup, our country is too big to count hours of ride for a date😂 But dates are similar: restaurants, walks, bowling, cinema, escape rooms, skiing, amusement parks etc.
Just because you have a “cheap” first date, doesn’t mean it will be that way forever. My husband took me to Applebees for our first date & he proposed to me in Rome, Italy. Don’t be “too good” for a reasonable first date. You never know how it could turn out!
The girls like that aren't looking for what is going to happen in the future, they are looking to have someone around to will pay for everything, when they can't/won't any longer its on to the next person even if that is directly after the first date.
If this video continues to prove anything to me, is that if any person who is single and wants something romantic, the best thing to do is to stay OFF of social media. Stop letting your mind become affected by false notions and bad behavior from others. Embrace the idea of making a warm connection with someone you're attracted to, by simply being yourself. All it takes is having a level head with your anxiety, then walking up to someone to introduce yourself.
I've been asking people with confidence for months, I've had a 0% success rate. I'm a 6'2 17 year old muscular handsome young man, and still I'm told no every time I talk to a girl. The only successful relationships I've had have been from girls asking me out.
I am SO glad I am not a young woman in today's society. My late husband took me to search a junk yard!! Wait! That isn't on the "no" list. 😂 He did good and I had a blast.
I'll take a wild guess and say you had an old car that you couldn't get parts for. So he impressed you by pulling something off a junker and making it work. (My dad was on a first-name basis with the junkyard owner, so I know a bit about that.) 😁
As someone who has been married over ten years, with small kids, it is very difficult to find time to go out at all. I would be more than happy to go any of these places if we could do it without the children.
Consider once a week buying some of his favorite foods or having him pick up yours to go (maybe the kids just have budget friendly chicken nuggets and fries) having a family meal and then putting a movie on for the kids (paying the oldest to “babysit” while your just in another room) while you guys go watch a movie or talk over candlelight in another room.
My sister’s boyfriend took her to the movies on their first date because they were already really good friends, and were very passionate about this movie in particular. They loved it, and he was such a gentleman to her. I agree you shouldn’t go to the movies on a first date if you’ve never met the person, but it is such a great date idea for people who just want to spend time together.
“If you are a girl and you do not like ice cream dates you’ve got your head screwed on wrong because they are adorable” is one of the many reasons why I love Brett.
I went on my first date with my husband nearly 19 years ago at an Olive Garden. I didn’t care where we ate, I just felt so lucky he wanted to spend his time and money (we were both dirt broke) on me. He even opened the car door for me and scooted out the chair for me to sit down at the table first. He was so sweet and chivalry is SEXY. I was smitten and still am. Guys, don’t settle for entitled women, you deserve better.
New “is she the one” test: take someone on a first date to one of these places and if she acts like she’s too good for it then just leave the date. You’ll save yourself a lot of trouble.
@@HorologicRannygazoo yeah, going to the house was one of the few I could understand. For all the woman knows under those circumstances it could be some Ted Bundy leaving her locked up in the basement or something crazy. But, for first dates, I don't know, always thought they should be low pressure environment, try to get to know a person so you can distinguish if it is worth time and money. Not going broke on the first damn date.
My first date with my boyfriend was a restaurant his parents went to all the way back when my bf was still in his moms belly. I thought it was super sweet he was sharing this sentimental place with me. It is now our anniversary spot and we went back for our 1 year anniversary and even wore the same clothes we wore the year prior.
The first date with my wife was at Subway. We had a date scheduled before that, but she got a migraine and had to cancel, so this was just a quick makeup date. We just celebrated 26 years of marriage.
That would be a no for me. I hate subway. I would go to almost any other sandwich shop. But I don't think men should spend too much on a first date. Meeting for coffee and going Dutch sounds fine.
I think the veracity of the list is questionable in the very least. Honestly what I think happened was that whoever made it contacted hundreds of girls and one said: "Oh, I dont want to date on fast foods because I'm on a diet" and she automatically puts on the list. So the result is a list where probably there was 3 to 5 points made by a majority and the rest just 1 or 2 in those hundreds said so she added.
My fiancé and I had our first date at Olive Garden and it was so special. 😊 He picked it after I told him that I loved Italian food, so points for him for actually listening and then do something that he knew I’d like. We talked and we got to know each other. It was the start of our love story and I will always be grateful to him for it. ❤ Some of these women are never gonna get married or even have a boyfriend. 🤦🏽♀️ And that’ll be their fault.
Went to Olive Garden for the first time about a year ago with the lady. Their food was average but their salad was phenominal. Taught me a lot about what I like and don't like in a salad. Also opened up the idea for an Italian date night where I'd make bread and do up a big bowl of salad, she'd get red wine drunk, and we'd watch HBO's Rome. Thanks Olive Garden 😎👍
And then the same feminist say where are all the good men 😂😂😂 The good men are either focusing on themselves or they picked good women who aren’t golddiggers and crazy feminists who actually enjoy their presence and have good chemistry with them.
olive garden was my ex’s and my spot for the 8 years we dated. we loved that place, no matter how much crap we got for it. it was so much better than the one time he took me out to a fancy place.. what a disaster. never did that again, lol. now with my current boyfriend, we’re all about the movies and then chinese buffet! we have so much fun together! who cares where you go, as long as you’re having fun with the person and getting to know them. rock on, fellow olive garden lover!
@@Snakebyte3301 if you're referring to modern fraud 'feminists' atleast indicate so because actual feminists are not bad people and all they want is for women to have the choice to pursue what they want in life, should that be being a workaholic or a housewife. It sounds like you hear these frauds call themselves feminists and you believe them when they couldn't be farther from the true definition of feminism.
I fully support women making lists like this, it helps highlight those worth pursuing instead. So yes, tell me where you don't want me to take you, and be explicit, if you share one, then share them all, because I don't want to waste time needlessly. Man, I'm just so glad my girl is into me, and not just what I can do for her lifestyle wise.
@@bradleyfirby648 Thankfully, it's not hard to find a girl to date (granted not as easy as some women think it is), but being a foreigner where I live means I attract a lot of women who see me as their ticket out. They tend to be quick to offer sex, try other things they think that a lot of men might appreciate, but they don't keep my attention because it's disingenuous and they never learn how to interact with me. So when I find one that doesn't give those vibes, who shows me other wife-quality things about her, I definitely want to keep this one. 😉
The last first date I went on was a walk in the park with our dogs. I didn’t have money at the time but still wanted to date and meet people. I never went on a date that I couldn’t afford to at least pay for myself. The dog walk went really well. It was quiet, we got to know each other and it was nice having my dog there to calm my nerves. A year and many dates later we are now engaged. ❤
I went on a first date with a woman who suggested going to an amusement park. We were able to see what we liked and disliked. Dated for 2 years and the only reason it ended was she moved to another state. Still friends and have been for years.
I literally took my now wife to Applebees as our first “date”. Then we proceeded to go to almost all the other places on that list in the next 3 years of dating. We are both regular working class people and come from working class families that didn’t have much growing up. I think upbringing has a lot to do with the women that made this ridiculous list.
Rolling my eyes so hard. My husband took me first to a movie ( we were friends before we started dating) the second was to IHOP, where we had our "where is this going " talk. Over 10 years later he's taken me to much nicer place. These ladies are ridiculous.
My now husband didn't spend any money on our first few dates. Our first date was a camping trip with my family, followed by him teaching me military hand to hand combat for self defense. He didn't take me out anywhere until months into our relationship, we were usually at home playing video games together instead. And now I have half a dozen little blue boxes from Tiffany. He spends more on me than he ever has on himself. These women are stupid to scare nice guys off on the first date.
I have been with my wife just over 20 years. In that time, I realize more and more that the setting isn't all that important. It was each other's company that we enjoyed the most. I don't expect people who are just dating to feel this way but know that this is how you start to feel if you are with the right one.
The first time I had dinner with my now husband we went to IHOP and I got treated to silly jokes, random conversation, history lessons, and just a great time and it wasn’t even a first date yet. I actually paid because I made the most money at the time so I felt like it was the nice thing to do. We met as friends and were with friends on that day but it started something that is so strong, it’s stronger than even death. (I saved his life with CPR when we were dating and if I hadn’t done CPR he would have died. We were sharing an apartment and I was in the kitchen and he was in the bedroom. We were talking and he stopped responding. When I walked in and found him, his heart had stopped and he wasn’t breathing. Luckily everything turned out fine.) Years later we have a bond that most people will never understand. We’ve been through so many ups and downs, more than many people would ever have in 10 lifetimes. Technically I don’t even know what our first date was. We don’t even know what the date is that we technically even started dating. We met and things just kind of happened and then we were living together. I wouldn’t take it back for any reason. Most of our time was spent just doing what we do now, ordering food in, watching anime and movies, and talking about anything and everything. You would think after a certain time you would run out of things to say but it’s been 10 years now and that hasn’t happened yet.
Coffee dates and ice cream dates were normally my first go to. I did it mainly because you could to nice places with a casual vibe and actually get to know someone before going for more involved options. I didn’t realize it also screened out those I didn’t want to afford as well😂😂😂. Met my wife on a ice cream date so I recommend those highly.
Ice cream dates like at Friendly’s were always so damn cute, especially when she’d suggest it first…and we first met during the summer, too. I happened to work at Dunkin Donuts at the time so she’d come in sometimes and I’d be serving her coffee lol along with her mom and brother. Nice family, nice girl.
More and more men: declaring the market too expensive and pulling out. Women: keep raising the prices! I'm sure that this will end well. It's not like we'd collapse our whole society just by ensuring male/female dynamics are completely broken. Right?
My husband and I met when we were both active duty. I had to go underway for a few weeks but he wanted to take me on a date before I left so we literally ran over to Chick fil A and I left right after. We’ve been together for five years, married, multiple kids, he’s the love of my life.
In all honesty, as a young lady myself, I'd absolutely be down for the Costco date! Walking around and trying all the free samples sounds like a blast 😂
@@RowingCrow maybe it's an age thing. At 45 I see Costco as an errand that I do once a month and end up exhausted at the end. Tons of work. But then again if a guy offered to take me to Costco even on a date, I would appreciate the company and the help with the bags! Gotta see those muscles in action!
Married almost 50 years first official date. Arranged by a fellow dorm member and her roommate was in the student union. We had already met twice in school functions so it was meant to be. I was student projector operator for Audio Visual Aids and was scheduled to be the projectionist for the coming Friday student Movie in the Chem Hall. I invited her to come and be with me in the projection booth. Best free date ever. Went to student union for a snack after. Both of us were very poor collage students on scholarships and school work jobs.
I think the only valid ones are: - The gym, church, and family events (these are pretty self-explanatory) - Your house (You don't know each others, he could be a psycho) - Requires LONG drive (Again you don't know each other, he could be a psycho or if the dates fail, he may need to bring you all the way back and that's one awkward drive 😅)
@adorkychristiandad So true, I moved recently from a dense city to the suburbs and my perception of a long drive change. For that, people need to go by their standards or just avoid isolated places for both of their safety.
My husband stood me up on our first date! He totally forgot about me and played video games with his brother. I gave him a second chance and here i am over a decade later, married to the sweetest man ever. We laugh about our "first date" now.
After a lot of wasted first dates, I believe in the 50/50 rule. No longer in the mood to over pay for a possible one time deal. Let alone, if you have to put a ton of makeup product on, that's borderline catfishing to finding out she looks way different after she takes her makeup off. ha
Spanx are even worse. If I take a woman on a $300 date and get back to her place and she takes off a shaper, I'm suing. I'm not even kidding, small claims court, bait and switch, give me $150.
My current boyfriend and I’s first date was at an Olive Garden. Not once did I think “ugh chain restaurant”, I was just happy to be there. I didn’t even want him to pay but he didn’t even let me take out my wallet 😅 He’s done nothing but treat me like a princess, and not necessarily with money but with time and affection… I love him so much. As a woman, the concept of turning down a date bc it’s not “fancy” enough is… Depressing
It shows the priorities of the woman, the date isn't about finding love for her, it's about finding someone who will spoil her, and pay for all her shit. It's selfishness and entitlement, and I hope no guy falls for a girl like that cause it isn't going to end well
I priced what I would want to have at Olive Garden in the last day or so. It was Coke, chicken fettuccine and chocolate lasagna. It was about thirty three dollars before tip and tax. It shocked my dad.
I absolutely, without a trace of irony love Olive Garden. The closest one to the small Wyoming town I live in is a 2.5 hour drive. Whenever I travel I get so excited if I see one and beg my husband to take me there. 😂 I’m a sucker for their zuppa tuscano - I even learned how to make it so I can have it without driving hours to get it. It’s pretty good but just not the same without their salad and breadsticks to go with!
My first date with my fiancé was just a casual coffee date. Now we watch Brett and the DW crew every day and are getting married. Don't overlook simplicity and expect the most on a first date because you think you're hot sh*t or something (for lack of a better term). The point is to simply meet and converse. Get to know one another. Humble yourself. Have fun. Otherwise I suggest you stay single and embittered forever, constantly thinking you're of high value when you're merely a snobby...well...you know..
Ian...are you gay? If you're not and you are a straight male, I suggest you edit your comment and add an 'e' to "fiancé." Fiancé refers to a man while fiancée refers to a woman. However, if you are gay or one of the 23,000 different genders, just ignore my comment. 😉
A lot of younger women today are sadly entitled far beyond practical levels. They've been called special and princess far too much and told by social media their farts smell like roses and all men are pigs/toxic. You have a lot of Western women now that are like, "Well if I go out with you, what am I getting out of it? I better be getting a great meal and something else!" And forget the whole point of going out is whether he spends money or not, you're getting HIS COMPANY/TIME too... If you don't want to appreciate that or are just physically not attracted AT ALL, politely say no and go on with your day...
My boyfriend and my first date was a movie, we saw Freeguy in theatres, walked around the outdoor mall, got frozen yogurt, and walked and sang a song all the way to the car. It was so much fun and our second official date ended up being Six Flags and afterwards we danced to that same song that we sung on our first date in a neighborhood Walmart parking lot. Two years later, and I don’t know how much happier I could get!❤ I adore him and he’s so incredibly romantic. These off limit date spots are ridiculous and a very small portion of them deserve to be thrown in a blazing inferno. The rest? Seriously, who doesn’t love a good coffee date??
When you're going on a lot of first dates it can get expensive and exhausting coming up with ideas. I think my brother had a great system when he was dating. He took everyone on the same first date. First dinner at Wendy's, then a drive up the canyon. It was cheap, it provided plenty of opportunity to talk and get to know someone, and you have beautiful scenery along the way. One girl he took on this date was a little put off by it because she felt she was worth more than a trip to Wendy's, but afterwards she said it was one of the best dates she'd been on despite being so low key. They started dating and now they're married and perfect for each other. It's not what you do that matters, it's who you're with.
There are a couple on this list I agree with. 1. Movies - cant get to know someone. On third or fourth day is fine but not the first. 2. Your house - I wouldnt be comfortable at someones house i barely know (but if its a good friend that I am dating his house is fine) 3. Family functions - this could be awkward if you dont know the family or barely know the person youre on a date with (again if its a good friend i am on a date with no problem) 4. Long drives - mainly because i hate doing that in general regardless of the reason so its just a personal preference. All the food places mentioned sound great to me! Love those places!
I agree with your list and for a lot of the same reasons. 1. Movies get in the way of getting to know someone. And you're "locked into" the date for the next 90-120 minutes. Then you spend more time talking about the movie than what each other is about. 2. Don't go to a stranger's house. It's their home turf and they could take advantage of you under those circumstances. And don't bring a stranger into your home. Now they know where you live and can harass you at their convenience if the date goes badly. 3. Family functions are home turf. You are obligated to follow along with the family even if you really don't want to. And again, the goal is to get to know your date. Getting to know the family should happen later. 4. Long drives are just an inconvenience. Paying for gas or an Uber is not cheap and an added expense. And it also raises the date's standards/expectations of you. Try to set yourself up for success and keeping it local helps keep the price and expectations in a more maintainable spot. You sound like you're pretty reasonable to go on a date with. I am sure your boyfriend/fiance appreciates that about you.
My husband and I had our first date at Panera Bread. It was spontaneous and we were in college. Did we also do fancy dates? Sure. We had one date in NYC eating fancy food and going to museums. We also had movie dates, lots walks in the park and hiking (because we didn't have money), coffee shops, etc. But the place a man brings a woman for a first date DOESN'T have to be fancy. Bigger milestones (anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, engagements) that's when you get fancy--when you've demonstrated worth.
The woman in the black leather dress basically treats a date like a business transaction. She's showing up and presenting the guy with a bill for what she feels she's owed for putting on makeup and showing up. Any woman that expects a guy to drop hundreds on a first date is someone guys should run, don't walk, away from.
My general approach when I was dating was to take a girl on an activity I wanted to do anyway. If we didn't mesh, at least I would have something to enjoy. My first date with my wife hit on about 3 of this woman's "no-go" list (dinner at Carraba's, Bowling, Drinks). It is the women who make these kinds of lists that make videos in their late 30s asking "where have all the good men gone?!" while being surrounded by a house full of cats.
A woman in her 30s trying to finally settle down saying “where are all the good men??”, are like the men in their 30s who are finally deciding to get a job and say “why can’t I find a good job??”. Maybe you shouldn’t have been wasting your time all those years because everyone else your age had one years ago 😂. Those men expect to find a job that pays 6 figures and those women expect to find a man who makes 6 figures 😂. Neither will ever get what they’re looking for and neither will admit it is their own fault.
Here’s an idea for a much more interesting list. Have a bunch of happily married (at least 5 years) women message you and tell you where their husbands took them on their first date. I would LOVE to see that list. I bet a lot of those places would make the top 10.
Our first date was the local pizza joint and some German beer right after work. Ten years later and he’ll still buy the same German beer for us to share.
My fiance took me out of town to a bar I never went to. Im a bartender so it's nice to get out of my local bars because, I can be anonymous and relax. I beat him to the check because I was pretending he wasn't taking me on a date and we were still "just friends". Yeah friends that take you out when you've had a bad day. He proposed at the same small bar restaurant and I think lunch was maybe 25 bucks.
Married six, together 11 years. My husband and I went for a walk at a park and had pie at village inn. We like the pie so much we bought a whole one and ate it back at my aunts place while smoking hookah and talking. We have two kids now.
1st dates should be something that encourages conversation/interaction. Anywhere is fine as it sounds like fun or interesting to both of you. This is when you decide if you are any good hanging out together. Sooner or later that will become the most important part of a relationship.
Whoever came up with that list, and the women who agreed on it don't deserve any type of boyfriend with that extremely entitled mentality. I agree with them on not going to nightclubs, bars, the gym, and movies for 1st dates. House and church aren't even typical dating spots so I don't know why those were up there. But those list of excluded restaurants was insane. Not everyone can afford 5-star restaurants. If these young ladies wanna go to 5-star restaurants sure they can go, but me and other decent guys don't have to pay for them. They can go alone.
Hm? I feel like bars and movies are pretty typical first dates ("Want to go grab some drinks together?" or "Hey, want to go see that new blockbuster with me?").
Me over here racking my brain trying to think of something more expensive than Olive Garden 😄 I don't like expensive 5 star restaurants because they give such tiny proportions. 😂
First date with a girl at Olive garden. When i asked her there, she was thrilled, but she said "if you asked me to Walmart I would have gone," and she offered to pay as well (I didnt let her, but it was a huge green flag). We are about to celebrate our 6 month anniversary and they've been the happiest 6 months of our lives even through some rough life events. Willing to go anywhere and offering to pay are two of the biggest green flags hands down, they say so much about someones character.
My policy is, if I have asked them out then I will always pay for the dinner or whatever the main activity is. But if we get an ice cream or something after, I am sort of looking for them to pay.
There should be an official name for this list. That way we know when a woman agrees with it she can refer to it by name. It will help a lot of guys to dodge bullets if the lady says she agrees with "the list". Do us a favor and name it something so we can identify the red flags easier. Thank you to all the ladies out there who self identify as walking red flags!
@@ems3991 The women that made this list are entitled narcissists. Nobody should date them. No place would satisfy them. They just want the most expensive dinner and extra money afterwards so they can move on to their next prostitute John.
@@ems3991 OK but the ones on the list are not terrible dates, they're standard dates. Had she have said it were just dates that this group of women, plus her, didn't like then that would've been fine. However, she's speaking on all women's behalf and we are not _all_ that picky.
My wife of 31 years and I never really dated in the traditional sense. We first met when a mutual friend put together a group of people to go out and see Disney's Fantasia when it was in rerelease. A few weeks later, we ran in to each other at a science fiction convention. We spent almost the entire next 48 hours together. Then, we found out that we only lived half a mile from each other. After that, we just spent time together. After work, usually I would go to her place or sometimes she would come to mine. We would have a simple meal and spend the evening reading or watching TV and *talking* to each other about things we were both interested in. I remember one time, I had her over to my place and I cooked a fancy meal. I remember the look on her face. She was absolutely marveled, not only by the fact that I could cook, but that I was doing this for her. We went on a few traditional dates but not that many. I remember Valentine's day at a romantic, but overpriced, Italian restaurant, where she was a bit shocked to discover that people actually do eat escargot and that I was one of them. To this day I can't get her to try them. I remember going out to a couple of theater productions. She had never seen live theater before but enjoyed it very much. We got engaged after about seven months, and married a further eight months after that. We've been very happy ever since, but I honestly could not tell you what our first real date was. All I can say is, I would never have dated the incredibly shallow women I see in videos like these.
The first date my wife and I had was at an obscure pizza place in Little Rock, Arkansas. It was kind of a blind date arraigned by my boss and a friend of hers. She and I had met before and that meeting went thusly. Judy: "You got a damn bathroom in this place?" Me: No, I just piss in the alley." No more words were spoken between the two of us. Anyway, we ate a fantastic pizza and then went up onto Pinnacle Mountain just outside L.R. The scenic overlook was closed, but we parked at the gate and hiked 1/4 mile up to the overlook to watch an electrical storm come in. The "light show" was FANTASTIC! It never dawned on us that we were on the highest point anywhere near. Two little lightning rods watching the light show. We got caught by a Park Ranger and he politely gave us a ride back to our car and left us with a warning not to come back when the park was closed. We got married about 9 months later and have been together for 43+ yrs. now. And to think it all started with two rude comments.
My first date with my husband was at a small pizza joint. We loved going to small, “hole in the wall” restaurants. They always had the best food. We loved being together when we had nothing, and we love being together after we’ve worked hard to build a life together. I’ll tell you, life will get hard and you won’t always have the luxury of a fancy date, but you’ll have someone who loves you to help you get through the hard stuff, and that’s a blessing. This woman’s priorities are super screwed up. That’s why she’s single.
Only in a first world country will people turn down free food when offered. Especially when the one refusing the free food is among the marginalized class. I guarantee you any woman who contributed to that list will be in a fast food drive thru when the period cravings come.
@@lethalbox909Pussy privilege, it's the truest and most powerful privilege of all. In no other scenario will a poor average looking, barely competent person seriously act as if they're equal to (if not, superior to) a high-earning, handsome and intelligent person. In which case, we'd call that poor person CRAZY.
As someone with some social anxiety, first dates that are an activity are infinitely better than dinner. Dinner means I have to constantly be trying to think of something to say. An activity takes that pressure off. This goes for friend dates too... a hike is way better than lunch lol
This is my recommendation for most people. Choose an activity that allows silence to be normal. Maybe the activity will create natural topics, too. Actually, when my, now, husband asked me for a dinner date, I asked if we could go biking instead. Made things more comfortable for me.
If you can be bought for $200 I expect services rendered in exchange. Absurd expectations in modern dating I’m so thankful I don’t have to do that anymore.
During Lockdowns, when everything was shut down, I took a girl on a first date to Home Depot. If a girl likes you, she will meet you anywhere within reason on a first date as long as you are confident, have it well planned out, and take the lead.
My wife and I never really dated, as such. We met, fell in love, and just went out doing things together. After we moved to Australia (she's from the USA originally), she wanted me to teach her fishing, so I bought her a pink rod, took her to what I thought was not too bad of a spot (while she weeped at the beauty of it), and taught her fishing. Messed up hair, in dirty old clothes, bait streaks on her jeans, and absolutely beaming the whole time, squealing and giggling her head off when she caught a few fish (her squid project came later). It will be 28 years on Saturday since her arrival in Australia, and we're heading for a holiday somewhat near that spot. I came home from work today to find she has her rod and reel and crab net propped up right in front of my car with a love note. That's what quality in a woman looks like.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 years now. We met in a bar and we both never go out to bars. Our first date was a walk through a wooded park in northwest TN. We spent so long that we got locked in and had to call the sheriffs office to come unlock the gates. Genuinely the best night of our lives. I’m just glad she found me when she did because I had resigned to just being single. Dating in todays age is so stressful and hard for men. It may take you 50-100 women before you find someone with decent morals and ideology, and even then nothing says it’s going to work out in the end. People don’t date to marry anymore and I’m convinced it has ruined the scene.
Costco is a good idea. Low key, walking and talking, and plenty of things you can key off of to bring up in conversation. Sounds perfect. And you do such a fantastic job at transitioning to the sponsors. 👏🏼
The standard is so pathetically LOW for men that walking in Costco is an option, lol. You are supposed to be competing for a mate. I think some of you don't get that.
Saw a friend repost this and told them, “If she says no to about 90% of those places, she ain’t the one.” I took my gf on our first date to a grocery store deli (a La Whole Foods, Sprouts), and it ended with a first kiss. We can’t get enough of each other. But what I want to know is where did this generation this delusion where they feel insanely entitled.
I can't believe chain restaurants are unexceptionable for a first date? The cheese cake factory and Red Lobster have always been considered a celebration or fancy night out. Maybe I came from a family that was a little lower income in the middle-class but damn.
*unacceptable But yeah, this is an unreasonable list. Steer away from women who have this mindset. They're not looking for love, they're looking for a fancy dinner night for free.
I never went to the cheesecake factory until my husband asked me out on our first date lmao I was 25 🤣 I ordered the $14 tacos because I didn't want to spend too much money and he ordered a $40 steak 🤣
My current boyfriend and I went on our first date to Olive Garden because he asked me what my favorite restaurant was. He was able to crack my shell, I'm very shy on first dates. We just passed our 2 year anniversary and I couldn't be happier. I'll never understand putting monetary value over effort and being genuine.
The first date my husband took me on was a 4-wheeler ride around his family's farm. It was great because I got to see what was important to him early on. It was a great way to get to know him. It was a scary and vulnerable thing on his part because rejection of that first date would have felt like rejection of him. Men out there, don't date women with entitlement issues. It's a sign that they aren't going to admit to or accept responsibility for their mistakes. They'll always think you owe them.
11 years ago my now husband surprised me with a first date to Olive Garden. We had been friends before then and we had spent some time talking and getting to know each other for a few weeks prior. We fell in love, got married, and now have a baby girl. This chick and her little posse have very little, if any, appreciation for what truly matters in life.
Look, my brother spent $2.50 on googly eyes and took his now-wife around Walmart to stick them onto random objects for their first date. She was delighted! Personally, I feel that if a man offers to take me on a first date, has a plan, and shows up on time, the dollar amount they spend doesn't matter. Sure, take me out to a chain restaurant or for ice cream! Take me on a hike or a walk or dancing or whatever, I don't care. The purpose of a date is to get to know someone, and as long as you give me some idea of what to expect, I'm probably not going to turn you down. I'd actually rather a man not spend exorbitant sums on a first date.
A hike or any activity outdoors is always a win. It's the only first date I'll do now unless the weather prevents it. I put thought into the location and have a plan for where to go afterwards if it goes well and time permits. Dinner as a first date is often not an option for me. One week early this year I had 5 first dates in a week and I didn't want a 2nd with any of them. The bills for that week if I'd have taken them all out to dinner....Nope. A good woman with similar interests as me will always be happy with a thought out plan and beautiful scenery.
My first date with my husband was frisbee golf at the park. He bought me a disc of my own. Neither one of us had ever played before. We got to know each other and it immediately gave us something to talk about to break the ice. I enjoyed myself so much I asked if he wanted to get ice cream and we did. Happily married with one child and plans for more. Finding your person shouldn’t come with an admissions price. These women are out of control lol
And I thought the dating scene 10 years ago was rough. The dating scene nowadays is just on another level of difficulty. Good luck to everybody out there still trying because it looks like you might need it.
My first date ever, and with my now husband, was at Cracker Barrel, followed by marble slab, when we were 19 and 22. Didn’t bother me that we saved money because I was raised by sane parents who taught me the value of a dollar, and I was just so happy that a great man like him wanted to spend time with me. Modern Women have lost the purpose to dating and how special it can be
My wife and I met at a birthday party with the coffee we were drinking as the ice breaker. Our first date was at a coffee shop. Nearly all our dates were exploring coffee shops. I proposed to her at that first date coffee shop. We’ve been together for 8 years with a 3 year old daughter. Coffee dates = happy marriage
Honestly if I was being taken out for a free meal, I'd appreciate that someone wants to not only do that but spend time with me and get to know me. And for those that say 'it's about valuing your worth' I AM valuing myself. I'm being respectful, not entitled. That's got more worth to me than pride ever would.
My first date with my now husband was over a cup of coffee. That coffee date lasted for three hours. We went on bowling dates, walked along the beach, went out to eat,etc. We have been married almost 19 years. I still look back on the first dates with fond memories.
I think their fear of a coffee date is there is nothing to do BUT talk...and the man will discover how shallow and vapid she is. Cute little coffee shops with in-house-made pastries were my fave dates as a teen.
My first date with my now husband was baking cookies together. We knew each other through church and were friends for a year prior to dating, so I didn’t have any safety alarms as I already had a good read on his character. We are going on 12 years of marriage in November with 2 kids (and one on the way). These girls need to be looking for a good man, not an expensive date. That said they are doing the guys a favor and flagging themselves as high maintenance right off the bat.
My wife and I went to a popular Mexican restaurant on our 1st date. It was a drinks only date at the bar. We met there on a Thurs. so both had work in the morning. Thursday, shorter dates are great. Because if it goes great, u can line up a 2nd date for the weekend. Pro tip men…. If the 1st date is going well, line up the 2nd date then. This way there is no game BS of when do I call, text. Ur already lined up. I did this several times. Always worked to eliminate the “how long do I wait to call/text” crap.
The first date with my wife was supposed to be a group date with a picnic and then a church function. It ended up being just the two of us on a picnic and then a church function. We were already friends, but we got to know each other better on the picnic and then we were filled with the spirit. We have been happily married for 27 years and are madly in love with each other.
When you think Gen Zers can’t get any worse 😂 My first date with my fiancé was takeaway lunch (dumplings) + walking coffee in the cold December due to covid restrictions. We went to the zoo because it was the only place open to the public 😆 Time passed so fast that we ended up drinking mulled wine at night in the terrace of a random restaurant because the waiter was generous enough to let us sit 🤣 he almost missed the last train back home. Here we are, 3 years later, planning our wedding 🙃
Moments like these make me grateful that ive been taken since 2020. Our first date was at a park and weve been having strolls at parks, beaches, walkways, etc etc till we went to grab some tea, food, etc etc dates. One of the most wholesome, down to earth people ive met. Meanwhile i always wonder if these women nowadays just care about food more than their potential soulmate. Its sad.
Why can’t you get to know someone when you go to see a movie? It’s actually perfect, because you two go see something together and then have a coffee after to discuss it! It’s less awkward than just sitting at a cafe. It’s such a neutral and fun topic, but you might learn a lot about a person just based on that.
This list is hilarious. 5 years ago my husband and I went on our first date. Started at Starbucks, then went to REI, got lunch at chipotle, got ice cream and walked through the park, did VR, and saw a movie. So many things on this list we did, we are happily married and expecting our first baby. 😂
Your first date is literally my IDEAL kind of date. We get coffee, economically conscious food that's delicious, and we get to have a lot of fun where drinking is not the main attraction. Love it!
Literally the longest date ever. We spent 12 hours together. And surprisingly I wanted to see him the next day too. 😂 10/10 recommend doing things where you get to know a person.
The funny thing is that whoever made this list probably doesn’t have to worry about being taken to one of these places because nobody is asking her out anyway ☠️
REAL
Anti social people are definitely the most delusional about standards and stuff lol. Like they don’t understand if they were in a group they would IMMEDIATELY be kicked out and asked to not hang out with them anymore for their nonsense opinions.
Boom 💥 😂 👏👏👏
America is the fattest nation on Earth and there's fast food everywhere from Miami to Montana
These women will spend their own money on fast food but feel disrespected by a man taking them to a chain restaurant with better quality food.
Simps bro.
It literally doesn't matter how shrill and annoying a woman is, there's at least *one* puberty-bearded man whose spine was slowly removed who's gonna say yes.
I took my wife to the Cheesecake factory a couple of years ago. Even ordered cheesecake as desert for the two of us. After I paid the bill and we left she told me she had a great time, but she thought it was too expensive! Later that week she downloaded a copycat recipe for their pumpkin cheesecake and learned how to make that. She told me she could make an entire cheesecake for what we paid for one slice at the Cheesecake factory after tip and tax. One of the many reasons I love my wife!
That's so incredibly wholesome
Good for you bro. I wish I could find a woman like that
Smart lady, sounds like you’ve got yourself a real catch!
@fliesinthesugarbowlshooflyshoo you can, go to another country
She's a keeper. 😂😂😂
This list is actually very helpful. If you ask a woman on a date to one of those places and she finds it unacceptable, it tells you immediately that you shouldn't be dating her.
I disagree, that hookah bar thing sounds absolutely terrible, the gym doesn't seem like an ideal place to date, and going to someone's house before you know them (for women certainly) is incredibly risky. Also family event isn't for the first date.
@@maxime2445 It's about getting to know the person, not where you go. If where you go is your focus, you aren't fit for dating. Or society.
@@eyesofascension8678 yes of course. But a hookah bar isn't where you can best get to know someone, same with the gym. As for going to the persons home, when it's the first date it's simply taking a massive risk. And a family gathering just doesn't fit. 99% of other places perfectly fine, but where still Matters, just not more than the person. Would you go to a strip club for a date? Go to a loud festival? For a first date? You need to pick somewhere that you can talk. It's why I don't like a bar, because it's far to loud to hear what the other is saying. Than there's no point to the date.
@@eyesofascension8678lol sorry bro, but if you’re inviting a girl to your house, the gym, or a hookah bar for the first date there’s something weird about you and women are totally within their rights as normal people to reject that.
Both genders should think of it more as ways to get to know each other. Gym isn't best, but at least it is a public place, get a chance to work out your nerves, chop it up a bit between sets and if things don't end to want to see the person again at least you all got to use that time to get a good workout.
My husband and I had a first date at a movie theater and then went for ice cream afterwards. In that trip to ice cream, we discussed the movie. You really get to learn about a person when they discuss the movie metaphors and deeper meanings. By the time we were at Oberweise, we had soooo much to discuss. He has been my best friend for nine years and counting! 🥰
Exactly. Movie first then somewhere to discuss. You get to know them a bit.
What movie, just out of curiosity?
Having had milkshakes from Oberweis, I’m a tad jealous. They’re so good and I’m so far (in California). I go there every time I visit my parents.
Yeah I think as long as you’re going somewhere after to talk it’s fine. And movie dependent obviously. Imagine if your first date was watching Jack & Jill 🤢
I’m a woman and if someone took me to Red Lobster and I didn’t have to pay, I’d be psyched. These girls are way too picky and think far too much of themselves.
All these people like flame cheesecake factory and heck that was considered boujee for me as a kid. I was so bummed i couldnt go with my friends this one time because i had a doctors appointment. Like i dont know but its like my childhood pinnacle.
Right? The cheddar biscuits cover bad conversation.
Where do they wanna go? Antarctica?
"Pick-Me! Pick-Me!" This is the most pathetic thing I've ever heard in my life. Do you regularly meet men that cannot even pay for a date at Red Lobster? Where are you finding men? The homeless shelter? Or cheapskates that refuse that to even pay for Red Lobster? Either way, he's either a cheapskate or can't ever properly support a family. Why would you want that man? Then it says volumes that you pathetically go on dates and expect to pay. Your standards are SO LOW that even paying for a date is not a give in. You think too LOW of yourself and men know they don't have to put in any effort. That says more about YOU not these women.
@@1libra. The only reason I'd turn down Cheesecake Factory is because every one I've been to is too loud. You have to shout to converse and a first date should include talking! Otherwise, I love the place.
Honestly, a woman NOT being absolutely pumped about a date in the cheesecake factory is an immediate red flag.
There was a girl on tktok that was honestly offended that a guy would take someone that looked like her to The Cheesecake Factory. My thought was hell dump her and take me lol
@@oh-mylag8812...I know, right? And we don't even have to have dinner, just get me a piece of cheesecake and a coffee and I will be happy and tell you good pick for the date 😊
I'm from a rather rural area and I think the closest Cheesecake Factory is over an hour and a half away. I've never been and always wanted to go. I'd be pumped if someone took me there! We don't have much for fine dining in my area anyways. Olive Garden is one of the nicest places I've ever eaten 😂😂😂
AGREED. Their pizza and raspberry lemonade are my jam
The cheesecake factory is not even good, it’s 5 pages of microwaved food.
Man, whoever made that list has some of the most unrealistic standards I’ve ever seen. And I’ve dated feminists in college.
Cheesecake Factory is a no-no? Why? I’m not a terribly classy lady myself, so that’s my idea of a fancy dinner. I like Cheesecake Factory. Also, if ur date says _church_ is a no-go, drop her. She’s not marriage material, cuz she’s certainly not going to do a good job caring for you, your kids, or the household needs in general.
@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBroRight? Does this woman think Christian women aren’t real? 🤣
@@SabbathPriest33 I still don't know if I would call going to church "a date."
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@@nathanstroud2223idk, I think it could be. It’s in the same vein as taking her home to meet your parents in a way, because for a lot of people, church is where your friends and family are. To me, it would be a major red flag if my date refused to attend church with me, for the reason that as a Christian, my faith is the most important part of my life. If he doesn’t share that, we wouldn’t be on the same moral foundation, and we wouldn’t work. I understand for non-believers that it might be awkward to attend church for a date, but non-believers wouldn’t even consider that in the first place.
My wife and I had our first date at a coffee shop. I showed up to pick her up, she said Starbucks isn't far, lets, just walk, and so we walked for miles through the freezing rain to a Starbucks that was actually just a coffee stand is a grocery store. I learned some very important things about my future wife that day. 1) She is very confident in her decisions once she has made up her mind. 2) She will go to great lengths to get coffee, but it doesn't have to be good coffee. 3) She is terrible at directions, and all the technology in the world can't change that. There was a Starbucks about two blocks from her house, just the opposite direction from where we headed.
I think these women should reach out to women who are actually married to get a reality check. My wedding anniversary is this Wednesday, and my husband and I may just go out with our 3 kids if we don’t find babysitting. And guess what, some of the places on the list we definitely went to when dating, while engaged, while married, with kids, or by ourselves when we get babysitting for kids.
It’s okay to have preferences, but no man wants a woman who is impossible.
Edit: I know this is all in reference to first dates, however, if you can’t accept some of these things for a first date, when will they actually be acceptable?
Where do they wanna go? Antarctica?
For these women no I don't know if there being serious or trying to be funny. But this is a first date not an anniversary where I would understand you would want to go to somewhere you wouldn't normally go to.
Well said, Kairi.
@@Venzynt They also mentioned places where that require a long drive. Probably includes Antarctica.
These are certified single cat ladies, they will never be taken seriously by a man. They can wish for all these fancy 5 star dates but it's not likely to happen.
I was 18, a freshman in college when my husband took me on our first date. We went to a Chipotle style mom and pop Mexican restaurant and then went to coed rugby practice. We've been married 11 years. If I were a man and a woman told me her makeup was hundreds of dollars, that would be a big red flag.
Mom and Pop Mexican restaurants are some of the best, Chipotle, not so much.
@@brn2579Yeah Chipotle honestly deserves to be on the list because of all the health contaminations and outbreaks they’ve had
My concealer is like $1.88, and my color changing lip balm is $1, and they're better quality than any of the expensive stuff I used to buy. My moisturizer is beef tallow that I got for around $20 which is enough to last me around a year. I love getting a good deal. These chicks are trippin'😂
Yeah I’d rather no makeup come be ugly as shit at least your not lying
Oh absolutely. One specific item or two that's expensive, especially if she has sensitive skin and it's the oy one she doesn't react to (it's a real thing) is fine. The rest? Nope
30+ years ago, I asked my beautiful wife on our first date. I took her to a rodeo, in which I was competing. She had no idea because I told her it would be horses and dancing. As fate would have it, I won my competition and spent the entire winnings on her that night dancing, and food, and company and I took her home the next day. We’ve been together ever since. I noticed this wasn’t on the list, so I was ahead of my time
Isn't a rodeo technically a sporting event LoL. That's pretty cool that you took her and then won your event. Imagine how it would have gone if you hadn't...
@@Joreel well, since I didn’t have enough money to buy gas to get us back home, it wouldn’t have went well. As far as a sport, humm…. I guess I will have to
Concede to your insight there
Our first date was to a motorcycle race, that I was also competing in lol. You had better luck in the winning department than I did though, I sent a chain through the case about half way through the race.
You're on a boss level. 😅
@@Lithic_Goose That has to have been a fun date. I remember going to motorcycle races when I was a kid back in the late 70s and early 80s. It was a lot of fun watching them flying all around the track
Honestly, a 1st date is to GET TO KNOW someone. If someone took me to a 5star restaurant on a 1st date and paid for everything I would feel like he was either trying to impress me with money or expecting something more than just conversation. In that case I'd be trying to pay my portion of the meal. Keep 1st dates light and fun!!!
Very respectable. Frankly, a lot of the women with these standards DO want to be impressed by money because they want to be spoiled. When someone calls themselves a princess, I believe them. Avoid those who act like they deserve to be treated like royalty. Find people who are content as paupers and look for spontaneous exchses to treat them to a taste of royalty. The former has expectations. The latter has gratitude.
The funniest thing.. the list never said for the guy to go to their house..
I met my husband at a small concert venue for local bands. We both got false info that the show started an hour before it actually did. We were the only ones there, so we started chatting and waited for the show to start. The whole concert ended up being like a first date because we hit it off so well. I needed a cab back home and he offered to drive me home. When he dropped me off, we exchanged numbers and a kiss. Our first official date was at a bar so we could chat over drinks. He bought me flowers at the bar, and I was won over by him. He is my best friend and we have three children together, so far.
No matter the date location, how well you two click is what matters. If you two are meant to be, a free date at the park will be enough. If someone is picky about the date location, that is a good indication they see you as a resource and not someone they care to form a bond with.
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I got a cry lump in my throat picturing this 🩵🩵
What a cute story 🥹🥹🥹
like me and my husband, we met at church and he asked me to have tacos at a small mexican taco spot and i was immediately in love i didn’t even care where we were
@@brc8149 We get a lot of funny looks, though. I am a small white woman and he is a tall dark Mexican man, PLUS we have an 18 year age gap. We look like an odd pair, but love can find you when you aren't looking! We just went there to have fun alone, but we found our soul mates. Funny thing is he didn't initiate anything at all- I was the one who told him I wanted to see him again. He was afraid I thought he was too old. 🤣
@@lynnnduhhx0 How sweet. Yes, love will show itself in any place. Those who care about the date location in that severity aren't looking for love.
My first date with my now-husband was to mass followed by coffee and bouldering. He proposed to me outside the same church and we got married in the same church. It was a dream wedding for both of us and the fact that it was at our “first date” spot just made it so special.
I get that a first date to church is not for everyone. But imagine being so entitled you think that 98% of first date spots are “not good enough” for you.
The right person won’t care how much money you spend on them or where you go. Sometimes less is more!
Congrats, and I think that is the kind of story that your Grandkids will enjoy (especially the little girls). I can imagine a family picnic like in a movie. “Grandma, how did you and Grandpa meet?”
Man goes bouldering, nails the send!
I get that you went to other places after but isn’t going to church the equivalent of going to the cinema? Unless you’re both already members of the church of course, you’re just going to sit together and watch in silence, no conversation.
What the hell is a bouldering? You wen to a quarry or something! 😁
@@segazoranot sure about Catholics, but I know in conservative Protestant circles the church you attend and your standing in it can be a huge part of your sales pitch as a guy. Does your church match the girl's doctrine? Do the old people at the church know and vouch for you? Are you obviously a regular? My husband and I both visited each other's churches very early on while dating and our standing dates were at worship services and Bible studies. It's part of the culture - and unlike movie theaters churches can be very well illuminated and (depending on the denomination) hella chatty.
My husband and my first date was supposed to be a nicer coffee shop, but it didn't work out so we went to Starbucks. We talked for like SIX hours and it was amazing. It's perfect because you can stay for 20 minutes if it's awkward, or several hours if it goes really well!
That is why simple coffee dates are great, or grabbing coffee and going for a walk in a public park, etc. Somewhere that you can casually talk and get to know each other, honestly the idea of "dinner and a movie" is probably the worst first date you could come up with because you can't talk in the movie and do you really want your first impression of someone being them watching you eat and trying to talk between bites?
You are absolutely correct 👍
Win. Everyone needs to learn, coffee or bakery (take and hangout parks) it is perfect to date. No wonder everyone wants a spoiler lover, never be greedy on their wallets and showered on them. Only about personality, kind and respectful.
WOW! this is so awesome me and my wife met at a Starbucks for our first date and talked for almost 4 hours
What the heck did you talk about for 6 hours?
I got my wife an engagement ring for $2k, and after she said yes, she went with me to take it back and exchange it for one that was $500, because she said the other one was too expensive. These girls out here are a nightmare. Glad i got my wife.
My fiancé and I did a lot of these. We’re in love and got engaged after 3 months. Our wedding is next year. Our first 3 dates were in the span of 2 weeks and they were as follows:
1st date: Pizza Hut and Bowling
2nd date: we took a walk around our local shopping area and got ice cream. We walked around IKEA and went to Dave and busters. We had a blast. (We became boyfriend and girlfriend on this date.)
3rd date: we took a walk in a local town near the water and went to Golden Corral. We spent over an hour and a half in the parking lot after we had dinner talking and being very cute. I told her I loved and that I felt like our relationship was very special. I think I told her I wanted to marry her.
We had an amazing time and love one another.
You might have problems now. I think a lot of Pizza Huts have eliminated their dining areas.
@@enigmanemo9352Well, it's done, I'll never date.
This is creepy how similar we are. My husband and I had our first date at the movies and Pizza Hut, we were engaged after 3 months and married the following year. We’ll be celebrating 16 years in December.
Im sorry but I don’t know a single person who has ever gone to Golden Corral. Im convinced that they are a front for illegal activities. We even have a Golden Corral on our main road that I’ve never seen ANYONE at, not even employees. You can’t be real 😂😂😂😂 (of course jk but forreal 🫣)
@anna-mh5ct I would love to know where a Golden Corral is at! Before Covid I got a gift card to one and the only one near me closed down before lockdowns were lifted. Still have the gift card tho lol
I'm somewhat thankful that gal put a $200 minimum on a first date and listed the cost of her products. That's a great way for every guy to know how high maintenance and costly she will be if things went further than a first date. Good on her for letting everyone know her price up front.
@@joebadger6969 No, Chad and Tyrone are broke and in debt, working 80 hours a week just to stay even. They just won't admit it.
Rigging cost more than the hull is worth.............
Imagine, as expensive as car repairs are, if they charged by the tool they used. You'd be bankrupt the moment the charged you for the $45K diagnostic computer. She's only using $5 worth of both eye cream and moisturizer for that date anyway, but wants to be compensated like she bathed in a whole bottle. I wish I might!! 🤨
Placing a minimum cost on meeting up with a guy is not a date, its an escort service
I dont think it's wrong to not pay that much in makeup. People value different things. That person is only about appearance. It's great to look your best or try to and not overdo it.
Had a first date at Applebee's in 2014. We've now been very happily married for 8 years. It's not about the place, it's about the connection. Love can blossom anywhere.
Most women don't care about love, it's just how much you spend on them. How much they can get out of you.
Applebee's here as well. Happily married and together 13 years.
especially with an olive blossom. wait is that applebees im thinking about?
@@zerogrey3798who hurt you💀
My husband and I had our first date at a comic book convention and then went for pizza in a fast-food-ish place. I had horrible allergies and my face was red from the sneezing and blowing. It was far from ideal, but we had a great time nonetheless and been married for 9 years. People with such ridiculous standards have lonely lives ahead of them.
I hope you guys at least enjoyed the comic books
My first date with my husband was a Cold Stone that was inside a gas station... 2 kids and 14 years later and I'm sure im far happier than the women who wrote this list lol
If you really were, you really wouldn't need to perform or compete with random strangers on the internet. No one asked about your life. And marriage and kids doesn't mean a damn thing because men marry, sleep with, and have kids with women with women they don't like all the time. It never ceases to amaze me how dunce or naive some of you are.
Yeah I’m a girl and all of these places are just fine except for hookah bar I’m not sure what that is
Where do they wanna go? Antarctica?
@@Miaspear31hookah bar is basically where people smoke Shisha (its a water pipe that people use a mix of tobacco to smoke from). You go to a Hookah if you want drinks while smoking from the water pipe. Hookah coffee shop i would say is more preferable but that is just personal preference.
I read “Stone Cold” and pictured someone getting a stunner at a gas station on your first date. 😂😂
My very first date with my fiancé was at a local coffee shop. Not only was it the best first date ever, but we met online, and he drove an HOUR AND A HALF to meet me for the first time. There was instant chemistry, and I sincerely think it's because we kept it so casual. We had the best time, and our second date was Deadpool 2 in theaters. We discovered how each of us treats movies, and that was important to us. Our 3rd date was bowling in a rinky-dink spot two cities away from my house!! What is wrong with having a casual fun time with someone? Is that not the absolute best way to get to know them?
You are absolutely right, that’s why I believe those woman making that list are only looking for a free fancy meal not a boyfriend or husband
Bowling was my first date. My parents first date was bowling.
Is an 1,5 hour drive very long for a date?)
I didn't think so. That's why my husband made a lot of over 3 hours rides to me. Not in car, but metro+train. Yup, our country is too big to count hours of ride for a date😂
But dates are similar: restaurants, walks, bowling, cinema, escape rooms, skiing, amusement parks etc.
My wife and I’s first date was a brewery. Worked out well
Just because you have a “cheap” first date, doesn’t mean it will be that way forever. My husband took me to Applebees for our first date & he proposed to me in Rome, Italy. Don’t be “too good” for a reasonable first date. You never know how it could turn out!
And just because the first date is $$$ expensive, it doesn't mean every date SHOULD be $$$ expensive.
The girls like that aren't looking for what is going to happen in the future, they are looking to have someone around to will pay for everything, when they can't/won't any longer its on to the next person even if that is directly after the first date.
If this video continues to prove anything to me, is that if any person who is single and wants something romantic, the best thing to do is to stay OFF of social media. Stop letting your mind become affected by false notions and bad behavior from others. Embrace the idea of making a warm connection with someone you're attracted to, by simply being yourself. All it takes is having a level head with your anxiety, then walking up to someone to introduce yourself.
Enough confidence to step up to the plate and enough humility to take a strike-out.
I've been asking people with confidence for months, I've had a 0% success rate. I'm a 6'2 17 year old muscular handsome young man, and still I'm told no every time I talk to a girl. The only successful relationships I've had have been from girls asking me out.
the best part about that $200 minimum girl video is that you can see her friend is cringing and not wanting to be any part of that nonsense
😂 Right?!
What is funny is that she clearly got ready and spend all the time and expensive make up to go out that night without a guy likely just to find one.
i damn near fell out my chair when she said "my serum". Bitch you got Lycanthropy or something?
It's hilarious that she's rattling off how much her makeup costs. Who gives a shit?
I am SO glad I am not a young woman in today's society. My late husband took me to search a junk yard!! Wait! That isn't on the "no" list. 😂 He did good and I had a blast.
Were you two looking for anything in particular? Find anything interesting?
Oh, you reminded me of a scavenger hunt I went on with my late husband! So much fun ❤ Junk yard? That would be an awesome date!
I'll take a wild guess and say you had an old car that you couldn't get parts for. So he impressed you by pulling something off a junker and making it work. (My dad was on a first-name basis with the junkyard owner, so I know a bit about that.) 😁
Honestly searching junkyards are fun as heck, it reminds me of being a kid and going hunting for treasure
Sounds fun!
As someone who has been married over ten years, with small kids, it is very difficult to find time to go out at all. I would be more than happy to go any of these places if we could do it without the children.
I couldn't agree more
Consider once a week buying some of his favorite foods or having him pick up yours to go (maybe the kids just have budget friendly chicken nuggets and fries) having a family meal and then putting a movie on for the kids (paying the oldest to “babysit” while your just in another room) while you guys go watch a movie or talk over candlelight in another room.
My sister’s boyfriend took her to the movies on their first date because they were already really good friends, and were very passionate about this movie in particular. They loved it, and he was such a gentleman to her. I agree you shouldn’t go to the movies on a first date if you’ve never met the person, but it is such a great date idea for people who just want to spend time together.
“If you are a girl and you do not like ice cream dates you’ve got your head screwed on wrong because they are adorable” is one of the many reasons why I love Brett.
I guess the only real arguement anyone could try to make is if they have issues with dairy, but that hardly gives any footing to that stupid list.
@@xanthiusdrake2775 Brett had some valid issues with the list, especially "movies" and "Hookah bar" stood out to me as bad choices.
I live in Minnesota and there is currently a wind chill of -22° F. I would love to go for ice cream! ❤ it’s not just a summertime thing lol
I went on my first date with my husband nearly 19 years ago at an Olive Garden. I didn’t care where we ate, I just felt so lucky he wanted to spend his time and money (we were both dirt broke) on me. He even opened the car door for me and scooted out the chair for me to sit down at the table first. He was so sweet and chivalry is SEXY. I was smitten and still am. Guys, don’t settle for entitled women, you deserve better.
New “is she the one” test: take someone on a first date to one of these places and if she acts like she’s too good for it then just leave the date. You’ll save yourself a lot of trouble.
That test's just crazy enough to work!
That was already the test in the first place.
Except "Your House". Not a good idea to just leave the date if it's your house.
@@HorologicRannygazoo yeah, going to the house was one of the few I could understand. For all the woman knows under those circumstances it could be some Ted Bundy leaving her locked up in the basement or something crazy.
But, for first dates, I don't know, always thought they should be low pressure environment, try to get to know a person so you can distinguish if it is worth time and money. Not going broke on the first damn date.
A friend of mine did this to an extreme and took his future wife to a really good hot dog stand.
My first date with my boyfriend was a restaurant his parents went to all the way back when my bf was still in his moms belly. I thought it was super sweet he was sharing this sentimental place with me. It is now our anniversary spot and we went back for our 1 year anniversary and even wore the same clothes we wore the year prior.
The first date with my wife was at Subway. We had a date scheduled before that, but she got a migraine and had to cancel, so this was just a quick makeup date. We just celebrated 26 years of marriage.
That would be a no for me. I hate subway. I would go to almost any other sandwich shop. But I don't think men should spend too much on a first date. Meeting for coffee and going Dutch sounds fine.
@@michelebrown6143
Eat Fresh!
Wow true love story ❤
I think the veracity of the list is questionable in the very least. Honestly what I think happened was that whoever made it contacted hundreds of girls and one said: "Oh, I dont want to date on fast foods because I'm on a diet" and she automatically puts on the list. So the result is a list where probably there was 3 to 5 points made by a majority and the rest just 1 or 2 in those hundreds said so she added.
My fiancé and I had our first date at Olive Garden and it was so special. 😊 He picked it after I told him that I loved Italian food, so points for him for actually listening and then do something that he knew I’d like. We talked and we got to know each other. It was the start of our love story and I will always be grateful to him for it. ❤
Some of these women are never gonna get married or even have a boyfriend. 🤦🏽♀️ And that’ll be their fault.
Went to Olive Garden for the first time about a year ago with the lady. Their food was average but their salad was phenominal. Taught me a lot about what I like and don't like in a salad. Also opened up the idea for an Italian date night where I'd make bread and do up a big bowl of salad, she'd get red wine drunk, and we'd watch HBO's Rome. Thanks Olive Garden 😎👍
And then the same feminist say where are all the good men 😂😂😂 The good men are either focusing on themselves or they picked good women who aren’t golddiggers and crazy feminists who actually enjoy their presence and have good chemistry with them.
olive garden was my ex’s and my spot for the 8 years we dated. we loved that place, no matter how much crap we got for it. it was so much better than the one time he took me out to a fancy place.. what a disaster. never did that again, lol.
now with my current boyfriend, we’re all about the movies and then chinese buffet! we have so much fun together! who cares where you go, as long as you’re having fun with the person and getting to know them.
rock on, fellow olive garden lover!
@@Snakebyte3301 if you're referring to modern fraud 'feminists' atleast indicate so because actual feminists are not bad people and all they want is for women to have the choice to pursue what they want in life, should that be being a workaholic or a housewife. It sounds like you hear these frauds call themselves feminists and you believe them when they couldn't be farther from the true definition of feminism.
Olive Garden is not authentic Italian
I fully support women making lists like this, it helps highlight those worth pursuing instead. So yes, tell me where you don't want me to take you, and be explicit, if you share one, then share them all, because I don't want to waste time needlessly. Man, I'm just so glad my girl is into me, and not just what I can do for her lifestyle wise.
Amen bro, already having a girlfriend is a godsend, gotta keep her to avoid being thrown into this shark pool
@@bradleyfirby648 Thankfully, it's not hard to find a girl to date (granted not as easy as some women think it is), but being a foreigner where I live means I attract a lot of women who see me as their ticket out. They tend to be quick to offer sex, try other things they think that a lot of men might appreciate, but they don't keep my attention because it's disingenuous and they never learn how to interact with me. So when I find one that doesn't give those vibes, who shows me other wife-quality things about her, I definitely want to keep this one. 😉
The last first date I went on was a walk in the park with our dogs. I didn’t have money at the time but still wanted to date and meet people. I never went on a date that I couldn’t afford to at least pay for myself. The dog walk went really well. It was quiet, we got to know each other and it was nice having my dog there to calm my nerves. A year and many dates later we are now engaged. ❤
I went on a first date with a woman who suggested going to an amusement park. We were able to see what we liked and disliked. Dated for 2 years and the only reason it ended was she moved to another state. Still friends and have been for years.
That sounds like the best first date ever. Sorry things didn’t work out though mate. Glad to hear you stayed friends.
I literally took my now wife to Applebees as our first “date”. Then we proceeded to go to almost all the other places on that list in the next 3 years of dating. We are both regular working class people and come from working class families that didn’t have much growing up. I think upbringing has a lot to do with the women that made this ridiculous list.
I was offended at the list 😂😂😂 chili's is my fiance and mine go to
All of this, what you said couldn't be more right.
Completely agree. Not everything on this list are great first dates, but some are great for 2nd or 3rd loose and casual dates.
yea like whats wrong with chilis?@@SpicyPlur
Rolling my eyes so hard. My husband took me first to a movie ( we were friends before we started dating) the second was to IHOP, where we had our "where is this going " talk. Over 10 years later he's taken me to much nicer place. These ladies are ridiculous.
My now husband didn't spend any money on our first few dates. Our first date was a camping trip with my family, followed by him teaching me military hand to hand combat for self defense. He didn't take me out anywhere until months into our relationship, we were usually at home playing video games together instead. And now I have half a dozen little blue boxes from Tiffany. He spends more on me than he ever has on himself. These women are stupid to scare nice guys off on the first date.
There's no where better to have the where is this going talk
Then at IHOP
Man those Pancakes are amazing
I have been with my wife just over 20 years. In that time, I realize more and more that the setting isn't all that important. It was each other's company that we enjoyed the most. I don't expect people who are just dating to feel this way but know that this is how you start to feel if you are with the right one.
It's a stretch to call them ladies. Street trash is more like it.
The first time I had dinner with my now husband we went to IHOP and I got treated to silly jokes, random conversation, history lessons, and just a great time and it wasn’t even a first date yet. I actually paid because I made the most money at the time so I felt like it was the nice thing to do. We met as friends and were with friends on that day but it started something that is so strong, it’s stronger than even death. (I saved his life with CPR when we were dating and if I hadn’t done CPR he would have died. We were sharing an apartment and I was in the kitchen and he was in the bedroom. We were talking and he stopped responding. When I walked in and found him, his heart had stopped and he wasn’t breathing. Luckily everything turned out fine.) Years later we have a bond that most people will never understand. We’ve been through so many ups and downs, more than many people would ever have in 10 lifetimes. Technically I don’t even know what our first date was. We don’t even know what the date is that we technically even started dating. We met and things just kind of happened and then we were living together. I wouldn’t take it back for any reason. Most of our time was spent just doing what we do now, ordering food in, watching anime and movies, and talking about anything and everything. You would think after a certain time you would run out of things to say but it’s been 10 years now and that hasn’t happened yet.
Coffee dates and ice cream dates were normally my first go to. I did it mainly because you could to nice places with a casual vibe and actually get to know someone before going for more involved options. I didn’t realize it also screened out those I didn’t want to afford as well😂😂😂. Met my wife on a ice cream date so I recommend those highly.
Ice cream dates like at Friendly’s were always so damn cute, especially when she’d suggest it first…and we first met during the summer, too. I happened to work at Dunkin Donuts at the time so she’d come in sometimes and I’d be serving her coffee lol along with her mom and brother. Nice family, nice girl.
More and more men: declaring the market too expensive and pulling out.
Women: keep raising the prices!
I'm sure that this will end well. It's not like we'd collapse our whole society just by ensuring male/female dynamics are completely broken. Right?
“Wait I’ve seen this one before”
Yeah I’m sure that’s never happened to any nation throughout history 😅
Maybe this is why men think so much about the Roman Empire
@@awsambdamanOr study, read and look up a LOT about it and it's demise....
@@awsambdamanI'm more a fan of local Italian than Olive Garden.
My husband and I met when we were both active duty. I had to go underway for a few weeks but he wanted to take me on a date before I left so we literally ran over to Chick fil A and I left right after. We’ve been together for five years, married, multiple kids, he’s the love of my life.
Yeah, I was always thought first dates should be low pressure casual.
In all honesty, as a young lady myself, I'd absolutely be down for the Costco date! Walking around and trying all the free samples sounds like a blast 😂
Plus you can get a hotdog and some fries for like 7 bucks.
You forgot to mention the cakes.
You would like that as a FIRST date? That's what the list is about.
Literally my dream date. I love Costco.
@@RowingCrow maybe it's an age thing. At 45 I see Costco as an errand that I do once a month and end up exhausted at the end. Tons of work. But then again if a guy offered to take me to Costco even on a date, I would appreciate the company and the help with the bags! Gotta see those muscles in action!
Women - we want equality
Also women - you must spend at least $200 on me on our 1st date
Yeah those two chicks are just, ugh, just no.
Married almost 50 years first official date. Arranged by a fellow dorm member and her roommate was in the student union. We had already met twice in school functions so it was meant to be. I was student projector operator for Audio Visual Aids and was scheduled to be the projectionist for the coming Friday student Movie in the Chem Hall. I invited her to come and be with me in the projection booth. Best free date ever. Went to student union for a snack after. Both of us were very poor collage students on scholarships and school work jobs.
Where do they wanna go? Antarctica?
I think the only valid ones are:
- The gym, church, and family events (these are pretty self-explanatory)
- Your house (You don't know each others, he could be a psycho)
- Requires LONG drive (Again you don't know each other, he could be a psycho or if the dates fail, he may need to bring you all the way back and that's one awkward drive 😅)
yea family event as a first date sounds like it would be awkward af and first dates are already kind of awkward
I would add church too. It sounds nice, but depending on their denomination you could be sitting in Sunday Service all day.
What is a long distance? That's kind of a relative standard.
@adorkychristiandad So true, I moved recently from a dense city to the suburbs and my perception of a long drive change. For that, people need to go by their standards or just avoid isolated places for both of their safety.
Can you not drive?
My husband stood me up on our first date! He totally forgot about me and played video games with his brother. I gave him a second chance and here i am over a decade later, married to the sweetest man ever. We laugh about our "first date" now.
After a lot of wasted first dates, I believe in the 50/50 rule. No longer in the mood to over pay for a possible one time deal. Let alone, if you have to put a ton of makeup product on, that's borderline catfishing to finding out she looks way different after she takes her makeup off. ha
i only pay on the first date if she is a virgin
Spanx are even worse. If I take a woman on a $300 date and get back to her place and she takes off a shaper, I'm suing. I'm not even kidding, small claims court, bait and switch, give me $150.
My current boyfriend and I’s first date was at an Olive Garden. Not once did I think “ugh chain restaurant”, I was just happy to be there. I didn’t even want him to pay but he didn’t even let me take out my wallet 😅 He’s done nothing but treat me like a princess, and not necessarily with money but with time and affection… I love him so much. As a woman, the concept of turning down a date bc it’s not “fancy” enough is… Depressing
It shows the priorities of the woman, the date isn't about finding love for her, it's about finding someone who will spoil her, and pay for all her shit. It's selfishness and entitlement, and I hope no guy falls for a girl like that cause it isn't going to end well
How Patriarchal and Sexist thing to do!😂😂
I priced what I would want to have at Olive Garden in the last day or so. It was Coke, chicken fettuccine and chocolate lasagna. It was about thirty three dollars before tip and tax. It shocked my dad.
I absolutely, without a trace of irony love Olive Garden. The closest one to the small Wyoming town I live in is a 2.5 hour drive. Whenever I travel I get so excited if I see one and beg my husband to take me there. 😂 I’m a sucker for their zuppa tuscano - I even learned how to make it so I can have it without driving hours to get it. It’s pretty good but just not the same without their salad and breadsticks to go with!
My first date with my fiancé was just a casual coffee date. Now we watch Brett and the DW crew every day and are getting married. Don't overlook simplicity and expect the most on a first date because you think you're hot sh*t or something (for lack of a better term). The point is to simply meet and converse. Get to know one another. Humble yourself. Have fun. Otherwise I suggest you stay single and embittered forever, constantly thinking you're of high value when you're merely a snobby...well...you know..
Ian...are you gay? If you're not and you are a straight male, I suggest you edit your comment and add an 'e' to "fiancé."
Fiancé refers to a man while fiancée refers to a woman.
However, if you are gay or one of the 23,000 different genders, just ignore my comment. 😉
lmao typo. Thanks for the catch.@@TheRealPureBlood
A lot of younger women today are sadly entitled far beyond practical levels. They've been called special and princess far too much and told by social media their farts smell like roses and all men are pigs/toxic. You have a lot of Western women now that are like, "Well if I go out with you, what am I getting out of it? I better be getting a great meal and something else!" And forget the whole point of going out is whether he spends money or not, you're getting HIS COMPANY/TIME too...
If you don't want to appreciate that or are just physically not attracted AT ALL, politely say no and go on with your day...
Congrats to you & your wife. Need more families in America
My boyfriend and my first date was a movie, we saw Freeguy in theatres, walked around the outdoor mall, got frozen yogurt, and walked and sang a song all the way to the car. It was so much fun and our second official date ended up being Six Flags and afterwards we danced to that same song that we sung on our first date in a neighborhood Walmart parking lot. Two years later, and I don’t know how much happier I could get!❤ I adore him and he’s so incredibly romantic. These off limit date spots are ridiculous and a very small portion of them deserve to be thrown in a blazing inferno. The rest? Seriously, who doesn’t love a good coffee date??
People who don’t like coffee 😆
When you're going on a lot of first dates it can get expensive and exhausting coming up with ideas.
I think my brother had a great system when he was dating. He took everyone on the same first date. First dinner at Wendy's, then a drive up the canyon. It was cheap, it provided plenty of opportunity to talk and get to know someone, and you have beautiful scenery along the way. One girl he took on this date was a little put off by it because she felt she was worth more than a trip to Wendy's, but afterwards she said it was one of the best dates she'd been on despite being so low key. They started dating and now they're married and perfect for each other.
It's not what you do that matters, it's who you're with.
There are a couple on this list I agree with.
1. Movies - cant get to know someone. On third or fourth day is fine but not the first.
2. Your house - I wouldnt be comfortable at someones house i barely know (but if its a good friend that I am dating his house is fine)
3. Family functions - this could be awkward if you dont know the family or barely know the person youre on a date with (again if its a good friend i am on a date with no problem)
4. Long drives - mainly because i hate doing that in general regardless of the reason so its just a personal preference.
All the food places mentioned sound great to me! Love those places!
Perfectly reasonable objections. Espesially 2 and 3, those should come after you've decided to be a couple.
I agree with your list and for a lot of the same reasons.
1. Movies get in the way of getting to know someone. And you're "locked into" the date for the next 90-120 minutes. Then you spend more time talking about the movie than what each other is about.
2. Don't go to a stranger's house. It's their home turf and they could take advantage of you under those circumstances. And don't bring a stranger into your home. Now they know where you live and can harass you at their convenience if the date goes badly.
3. Family functions are home turf. You are obligated to follow along with the family even if you really don't want to. And again, the goal is to get to know your date. Getting to know the family should happen later.
4. Long drives are just an inconvenience. Paying for gas or an Uber is not cheap and an added expense. And it also raises the date's standards/expectations of you. Try to set yourself up for success and keeping it local helps keep the price and expectations in a more maintainable spot.
You sound like you're pretty reasonable to go on a date with. I am sure your boyfriend/fiance appreciates that about you.
Long drives can also be a danger stranger scenario.
My husband and I had our first date at Panera Bread. It was spontaneous and we were in college. Did we also do fancy dates? Sure. We had one date in NYC eating fancy food and going to museums. We also had movie dates, lots walks in the park and hiking (because we didn't have money), coffee shops, etc. But the place a man brings a woman for a first date DOESN'T have to be fancy. Bigger milestones (anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, engagements) that's when you get fancy--when you've demonstrated worth.
The woman in the black leather dress basically treats a date like a business transaction. She's showing up and presenting the guy with a bill for what she feels she's owed for putting on makeup and showing up. Any woman that expects a guy to drop hundreds on a first date is someone guys should run, don't walk, away from.
For her, the line between her and a prostitute are very blurry.
AKA the Oldest Profession in the World.
Did you see how her friend in the white dress was ready to leave her behind?
This is such a delusional age we're in 🙄
My general approach when I was dating was to take a girl on an activity I wanted to do anyway. If we didn't mesh, at least I would have something to enjoy. My first date with my wife hit on about 3 of this woman's "no-go" list (dinner at Carraba's, Bowling, Drinks). It is the women who make these kinds of lists that make videos in their late 30s asking "where have all the good men gone?!" while being surrounded by a house full of cats.
A woman in her 30s trying to finally settle down saying “where are all the good men??”, are like the men in their 30s who are finally deciding to get a job and say “why can’t I find a good job??”. Maybe you shouldn’t have been wasting your time all those years because everyone else your age had one years ago 😂. Those men expect to find a job that pays 6 figures and those women expect to find a man who makes 6 figures 😂. Neither will ever get what they’re looking for and neither will admit it is their own fault.
So true
A woman who shared this list summed it up perfectly;
"Dam!, this list sounds like we dont wanna go ANYWHERE for a first date"
Here’s an idea for a much more interesting list. Have a bunch of happily married (at least 5 years) women message you and tell you where their husbands took them on their first date. I would LOVE to see that list. I bet a lot of those places would make the top 10.
Judging from this comment section, you're definitely right about the overlap.
Our first date was the local pizza joint and some German beer right after work. Ten years later and he’ll still buy the same German beer for us to share.
My fiance took me out of town to a bar I never went to. Im a bartender so it's nice to get out of my local bars because, I can be anonymous and relax. I beat him to the check because I was pretending he wasn't taking me on a date and we were still "just friends". Yeah friends that take you out when you've had a bad day. He proposed at the same small bar restaurant and I think lunch was maybe 25 bucks.
Married six, together 11 years. My husband and I went for a walk at a park and had pie at village inn. We like the pie so much we bought a whole one and ate it back at my aunts place while smoking hookah and talking. We have two kids now.
Honestly, I don't even remember where our first date was. We were in high school when we met, but if I had to guess it was probably a movie. XD
1st dates should be something that encourages conversation/interaction. Anywhere is fine as it sounds like fun or interesting to both of you. This is when you decide if you are any good hanging out together. Sooner or later that will become the most important part of a relationship.
Whoever came up with that list, and the women who agreed on it don't deserve any type of boyfriend with that extremely entitled mentality. I agree with them on not going to nightclubs, bars, the gym, and movies for 1st dates. House and church aren't even typical dating spots so I don't know why those were up there. But those list of excluded restaurants was insane. Not everyone can afford 5-star restaurants. If these young ladies wanna go to 5-star restaurants sure they can go, but me and other decent guys don't have to pay for them. They can go alone.
Where do they wanna go? Antarctica?
Hm? I feel like bars and movies are pretty typical first dates ("Want to go grab some drinks together?" or "Hey, want to go see that new blockbuster with me?").
@@nothinglikeburntvagbars aren’t bad, but you can’t really talk on movie dates
Me over here racking my brain trying to think of something more expensive than Olive Garden 😄 I don't like expensive 5 star restaurants because they give such tiny proportions. 😂
@@mrlean5078Unless you're both nerds and you go for dessert afterward to talk way too much about the movie. 😂 Done that.
First date with a girl at Olive garden. When i asked her there, she was thrilled, but she said "if you asked me to Walmart I would have gone," and she offered to pay as well (I didnt let her, but it was a huge green flag). We are about to celebrate our 6 month anniversary and they've been the happiest 6 months of our lives even through some rough life events. Willing to go anywhere and offering to pay are two of the biggest green flags hands down, they say so much about someones character.
My policy is, if I have asked them out then I will always pay for the dinner or whatever the main activity is. But if we get an ice cream or something after, I am sort of looking for them to pay.
There should be an official name for this list. That way we know when a woman agrees with it she can refer to it by name. It will help a lot of guys to dodge bullets if the lady says she agrees with "the list". Do us a favor and name it something so we can identify the red flags easier. Thank you to all the ladies out there who self identify as walking red flags!
"Gold diggers first date"
"red flags for men"
The Lifestyle TM date location list.
It's called "The Gold Digger's Manual, Appendix 7"
Call it _"Hypergamy's List"_
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If you're only with him because he dropped $200, that's not a "date" per se.
There's a different word for that transaction.
I support this. This will greatly help men avoid getting trapped by a shallow type of women.
Dude, ramen or happy hour is like $20 a person. Or tacos. There are so many better options than the ones on the list that aren't fancy restaurants.
@@ems3991 The women that made this list are entitled narcissists. Nobody should date them. No place would satisfy them. They just want the most expensive dinner and extra money afterwards so they can move on to their next prostitute John.
@@ems3991 OK but the ones on the list are not terrible dates, they're standard dates. Had she have said it were just dates that this group of women, plus her, didn't like then that would've been fine. However, she's speaking on all women's behalf and we are not _all_ that picky.
My wife of 31 years and I never really dated in the traditional sense. We first met when a mutual friend put together a group of people to go out and see Disney's Fantasia when it was in rerelease. A few weeks later, we ran in to each other at a science fiction convention. We spent almost the entire next 48 hours together. Then, we found out that we only lived half a mile from each other. After that, we just spent time together. After work, usually I would go to her place or sometimes she would come to mine. We would have a simple meal and spend the evening reading or watching TV and *talking* to each other about things we were both interested in. I remember one time, I had her over to my place and I cooked a fancy meal. I remember the look on her face. She was absolutely marveled, not only by the fact that I could cook, but that I was doing this for her. We went on a few traditional dates but not that many. I remember Valentine's day at a romantic, but overpriced, Italian restaurant, where she was a bit shocked to discover that people actually do eat escargot and that I was one of them. To this day I can't get her to try them. I remember going out to a couple of theater productions. She had never seen live theater before but enjoyed it very much. We got engaged after about seven months, and married a further eight months after that. We've been very happy ever since, but I honestly could not tell you what our first real date was. All I can say is, I would never have dated the incredibly shallow women I see in videos like these.
The first date my wife and I had was at an obscure pizza place in Little Rock, Arkansas. It was kind of a blind date arraigned by my boss and a friend of hers. She and I had met before and that meeting went thusly. Judy: "You got a damn bathroom in this place?" Me: No, I just piss in the alley." No more words were spoken between the two of us. Anyway, we ate a fantastic pizza and then went up onto Pinnacle Mountain just outside L.R. The scenic overlook was closed, but we parked at the gate and hiked 1/4 mile up to the overlook to watch an electrical storm come in. The "light show" was FANTASTIC! It never dawned on us that we were on the highest point anywhere near. Two little lightning rods watching the light show. We got caught by a Park Ranger and he politely gave us a ride back to our car and left us with a warning not to come back when the park was closed. We got married about 9 months later and have been together for 43+ yrs. now. And to think it all started with two rude comments.
Sometimes when you know, you know lol.
I have never loved a first date more!!!
What a great story! ❤❤❤
The list mentions nothing about shady warehouse districts, cemeteries, civil war battlefield tours, or natural history museums.
My first date with my husband was at a small pizza joint. We loved going to small, “hole in the wall” restaurants. They always had the best food. We loved being together when we had nothing, and we love being together after we’ve worked hard to build a life together. I’ll tell you, life will get hard and you won’t always have the luxury of a fancy date, but you’ll have someone who loves you to help you get through the hard stuff, and that’s a blessing. This woman’s priorities are super screwed up. That’s why she’s single.
Only in a first world country will people turn down free food when offered. Especially when the one refusing the free food is among the marginalized class.
I guarantee you any woman who contributed to that list will be in a fast food drive thru when the period cravings come.
Excellent observation. Narcissism is rapidly becoming the only truly American made export.
@@lethalbox909Pussy privilege, it's the truest and most powerful privilege of all.
In no other scenario will a poor average looking, barely competent person seriously act as if they're equal to (if not, superior to) a high-earning, handsome and intelligent person.
In which case, we'd call that poor person CRAZY.
In what way are pampered princesses marginalized?
@@davidz3879 It's literally like Cartman on Maury "WHATEVA! I DO WHAT I WANT 💅"
@@davidz3879 IDK ask the government, they're the ones that have women as a protected class.
As someone with some social anxiety, first dates that are an activity are infinitely better than dinner. Dinner means I have to constantly be trying to think of something to say. An activity takes that pressure off. This goes for friend dates too... a hike is way better than lunch lol
Agreed
This is my recommendation for most people. Choose an activity that allows silence to be normal. Maybe the activity will create natural topics, too.
Actually, when my, now, husband asked me for a dinner date, I asked if we could go biking instead. Made things more comfortable for me.
Literally what I did with my beau, we went on a hike at the mountains on our first "official" date, where he asked me out at the very end.
If you can be bought for $200 I expect services rendered in exchange. Absurd expectations in modern dating I’m so thankful I don’t have to do that anymore.
I feel bad for the youth today. It's very very sad.
During Lockdowns, when everything was shut down, I took a girl on a first date to Home Depot. If a girl likes you, she will meet you anywhere within reason on a first date as long as you are confident, have it well planned out, and take the lead.
My wife and I never really dated, as such. We met, fell in love, and just went out doing things together.
After we moved to Australia (she's from the USA originally), she wanted me to teach her fishing, so I bought her a pink rod, took her to what I thought was not too bad of a spot (while she weeped at the beauty of it), and taught her fishing. Messed up hair, in dirty old clothes, bait streaks on her jeans, and absolutely beaming the whole time, squealing and giggling her head off when she caught a few fish (her squid project came later).
It will be 28 years on Saturday since her arrival in Australia, and we're heading for a holiday somewhat near that spot. I came home from work today to find she has her rod and reel and crab net propped up right in front of my car with a love note.
That's what quality in a woman looks like.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 years now. We met in a bar and we both never go out to bars. Our first date was a walk through a wooded park in northwest TN. We spent so long that we got locked in and had to call the sheriffs office to come unlock the gates. Genuinely the best night of our lives. I’m just glad she found me when she did because I had resigned to just being single. Dating in todays age is so stressful and hard for men. It may take you 50-100 women before you find someone with decent morals and ideology, and even then nothing says it’s going to work out in the end. People don’t date to marry anymore and I’m convinced it has ruined the scene.
Costco is a good idea. Low key, walking and talking, and plenty of things you can key off of to bring up in conversation. Sounds perfect.
And you do such a fantastic job at transitioning to the sponsors. 👏🏼
And a meal of samples 😂
The standard is so pathetically LOW for men that walking in Costco is an option, lol. You are supposed to be competing for a mate. I think some of you don't get that.
Saw a friend repost this and told them, “If she says no to about 90% of those places, she ain’t the one.”
I took my gf on our first date to a grocery store deli (a La Whole Foods, Sprouts), and it ended with a first kiss. We can’t get enough of each other.
But what I want to know is where did this generation this delusion where they feel insanely entitled.
Social media. She has "ballers" in her DMs so she thinks she deserves to be taken to a Michelin star restaurant on a the first date.
I can't believe chain restaurants are unexceptionable for a first date? The cheese cake factory and Red Lobster have always been considered a celebration or fancy night out. Maybe I came from a family that was a little lower income in the middle-class but damn.
*unacceptable
But yeah, this is an unreasonable list. Steer away from women who have this mindset. They're not looking for love, they're looking for a fancy dinner night for free.
I never went to the cheesecake factory until my husband asked me out on our first date lmao I was 25 🤣 I ordered the $14 tacos because I didn't want to spend too much money and he ordered a $40 steak 🤣
Obviously these women don’t like bread, because who doesn’t love some cheddar bay biscuits?!
Stuff like this is part of why I'm not really looking to date atm.
My current boyfriend and I went on our first date to Olive Garden because he asked me what my favorite restaurant was. He was able to crack my shell, I'm very shy on first dates. We just passed our 2 year anniversary and I couldn't be happier. I'll never understand putting monetary value over effort and being genuine.
The first date my husband took me on was a 4-wheeler ride around his family's farm. It was great because I got to see what was important to him early on. It was a great way to get to know him. It was a scary and vulnerable thing on his part because rejection of that first date would have felt like rejection of him. Men out there, don't date women with entitlement issues. It's a sign that they aren't going to admit to or accept responsibility for their mistakes. They'll always think you owe them.
I met my husband in college, so him taking me anywhere on a first date that he spent money on me was super sweet and showed he cared.
How to tell someone you’re off the market without telling them you’re off the market.
11 years ago my now husband surprised me with a first date to Olive Garden. We had been friends before then and we had spent some time talking and getting to know each other for a few weeks prior. We fell in love, got married, and now have a baby girl. This chick and her little posse have very little, if any, appreciation for what truly matters in life.
Look, my brother spent $2.50 on googly eyes and took his now-wife around Walmart to stick them onto random objects for their first date. She was delighted!
Personally, I feel that if a man offers to take me on a first date, has a plan, and shows up on time, the dollar amount they spend doesn't matter. Sure, take me out to a chain restaurant or for ice cream! Take me on a hike or a walk or dancing or whatever, I don't care. The purpose of a date is to get to know someone, and as long as you give me some idea of what to expect, I'm probably not going to turn you down. I'd actually rather a man not spend exorbitant sums on a first date.
A hike or any activity outdoors is always a win. It's the only first date I'll do now unless the weather prevents it. I put thought into the location and have a plan for where to go afterwards if it goes well and time permits. Dinner as a first date is often not an option for me. One week early this year I had 5 first dates in a week and I didn't want a 2nd with any of them. The bills for that week if I'd have taken them all out to dinner....Nope. A good woman with similar interests as me will always be happy with a thought out plan and beautiful scenery.
My first date with my husband was frisbee golf at the park. He bought me a disc of my own. Neither one of us had ever played before. We got to know each other and it immediately gave us something to talk about to break the ice. I enjoyed myself so much I asked if he wanted to get ice cream and we did. Happily married with one child and plans for more. Finding your person shouldn’t come with an admissions price. These women are out of control lol
And I thought the dating scene 10 years ago was rough. The dating scene nowadays is just on another level of difficulty. Good luck to everybody out there still trying because it looks like you might need it.
My first date ever, and with my now husband, was at Cracker Barrel, followed by marble slab, when we were 19 and 22. Didn’t bother me that we saved money because I was raised by sane parents who taught me the value of a dollar, and I was just so happy that a great man like him wanted to spend time with me. Modern Women have lost the purpose to dating and how special it can be
Yep 100% the big negative I don’t think most men would categorize dating as a fun event anymore
My wife and I met at a birthday party with the coffee we were drinking as the ice breaker. Our first date was at a coffee shop. Nearly all our dates were exploring coffee shops. I proposed to her at that first date coffee shop. We’ve been together for 8 years with a 3 year old daughter.
Coffee dates = happy marriage
Thats smart actually. My man loves coffee
Yeah, no coffee dates? This list is dumb and ridiculous. The list of what's "acceptable" is probably a lot shorter.
Made sense, both of you are at least awake and in good sense. I've seen love that started in a bar/clubs and most of them ended in the gutter.
Honestly if I was being taken out for a free meal, I'd appreciate that someone wants to not only do that but spend time with me and get to know me. And for those that say 'it's about valuing your worth' I AM valuing myself. I'm being respectful, not entitled. That's got more worth to me than pride ever would.
My first date with my now husband was over a cup of coffee. That coffee date lasted for three hours. We went on bowling dates, walked along the beach, went out to eat,etc. We have been married almost 19 years. I still look back on the first dates with fond memories.
I think their fear of a coffee date is there is nothing to do BUT talk...and the man will discover how shallow and vapid she is.
Cute little coffee shops with in-house-made pastries were my fave dates as a teen.
those things are insane wtf
Church is weird, so are family functions.
Not having subway on that list is weird
My first date with my now husband was baking cookies together. We knew each other through church and were friends for a year prior to dating, so I didn’t have any safety alarms as I already had a good read on his character. We are going on 12 years of marriage in November with 2 kids (and one on the way). These girls need to be looking for a good man, not an expensive date. That said they are doing the guys a favor and flagging themselves as high maintenance right off the bat.
My wife and I went to a popular Mexican restaurant on our 1st date. It was a drinks only date at the bar. We met there on a Thurs. so both had work in the morning. Thursday, shorter dates are great. Because if it goes great, u can line up a 2nd date for the weekend.
Pro tip men…. If the 1st date is going well, line up the 2nd date then. This way there is no game BS of when do I call, text. Ur already lined up. I did this several times. Always worked to eliminate the “how long do I wait to call/text” crap.
The first date with my wife was supposed to be a group date with a picnic and then a church function. It ended up being just the two of us on a picnic and then a church function. We were already friends, but we got to know each other better on the picnic and then we were filled with the spirit. We have been happily married for 27 years and are madly in love with each other.
You filled her with your spirit?
@americandissident9062 have some respect.
@@alexiesmith6859 Kek
When you think Gen Zers can’t get any worse 😂 My first date with my fiancé was takeaway lunch (dumplings) + walking coffee in the cold December due to covid restrictions. We went to the zoo because it was the only place open to the public 😆 Time passed so fast that we ended up drinking mulled wine at night in the terrace of a random restaurant because the waiter was generous enough to let us sit 🤣 he almost missed the last train back home. Here we are, 3 years later, planning our wedding 🙃
Moments like these make me grateful that ive been taken since 2020. Our first date was at a park and weve been having strolls at parks, beaches, walkways, etc etc till we went to grab some tea, food, etc etc dates. One of the most wholesome, down to earth people ive met. Meanwhile i always wonder if these women nowadays just care about food more than their potential soulmate. Its sad.
Why can’t you get to know someone when you go to see a movie? It’s actually perfect, because you two go see something together and then have a coffee after to discuss it! It’s less awkward than just sitting at a cafe. It’s such a neutral and fun topic, but you might learn a lot about a person just based on that.
This list is hilarious. 5 years ago my husband and I went on our first date. Started at Starbucks, then went to REI, got lunch at chipotle, got ice cream and walked through the park, did VR, and saw a movie. So many things on this list we did, we are happily married and expecting our first baby. 😂
Your first date is literally my IDEAL kind of date. We get coffee, economically conscious food that's delicious, and we get to have a lot of fun where drinking is not the main attraction. Love it!
Literally the longest date ever. We spent 12 hours together. And surprisingly I wanted to see him the next day too. 😂 10/10 recommend doing things where you get to know a person.
@@iamme25yago he did pay for everything. Ever the gentleman. ❤
Is your husband available for a date? 😂
@@iamme25yago sounds like she might be worth the money.