3 Things To NEVER Do On a First Date

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    Talking too much about yourself
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  • @NUKEzone29
    @NUKEzone29 4 ปีที่แล้ว +832

    Treat a girl like a celebrity she’ll treat you like a fan

    • @davidlozano5047
      @davidlozano5047 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Altimate Lad Gaming Genius. Just genius

    • @mahroukkamel1476
      @mahroukkamel1476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Then treat her like a fan :P

    • @sahatromartua7216
      @sahatromartua7216 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@davidlozano5047 genius at stealing people comment

    • @1028dash
      @1028dash 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Classic line honestly . Rings very true

    • @albertthepeacock8020
      @albertthepeacock8020 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If she breathes she a thot

  • @bahaatamer1245
    @bahaatamer1245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +430

    1. Stop over-complimenting!
    2. Spoiling her!
    3. Talking about yourself!

    • @vhp99
      @vhp99 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It says on the description

  • @oksaysok537
    @oksaysok537 4 ปีที่แล้ว +435

    Wow. Karen. Your elbows are so smooth.

  • @taurus-ug3fp
    @taurus-ug3fp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +626

    bro if her name was Karen, it wasn't your fault

    • @hunterbowman4207
      @hunterbowman4207 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      For sure😂

    • @danielrgoldman341
      @danielrgoldman341 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Indeed nigga

    • @darkfire_5439
      @darkfire_5439 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I want to like this comment but I don't wanna destroy the 69 balance

    • @MrAnsatsuken
      @MrAnsatsuken 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@darkfire_5439
      *Nice.*

    • @nnnnnnnnn8888
      @nnnnnnnnn8888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      DarkFire -2F destroyed

  • @carljeromeaquilos8725
    @carljeromeaquilos8725 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    So basically don't be too much
    Too much compliment
    Too much gifts
    Too much talk about yourself

  • @AlMoSiCe210
    @AlMoSiCe210 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Wow Karen, your skin is very clear. You must have a really great self care regimen.

  • @YourWingmam
    @YourWingmam 5 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Oooh, I like that phrase: if you put her on a pedestal, she’ll look down on you. #truth ✔️
    And the other two are major turnoffs to high value girls. Key words: high value.
    Great insights!

    • @godleftmeunfinished8052
      @godleftmeunfinished8052 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We call those type of people simps

    • @carjgustav2845
      @carjgustav2845 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      God left me Unfinished amen 🙏🏽

    • @ashtar4413
      @ashtar4413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan

  • @alexistorres3644
    @alexistorres3644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    This channel is mad underrated, love it❤

  • @somniato7759
    @somniato7759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    DON'T be the Nice Guy

    • @trippleEX
      @trippleEX 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      then how do i be the bad guy?

    • @Ian-sm3su
      @Ian-sm3su 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Flare X I'm the bald guy

    • @aaryannaik641
      @aaryannaik641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ian 9876 😂 I know what you doing here

  • @blairclarkjr.4791
    @blairclarkjr.4791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    “I could tell she was getting creeped out but I couldn’t stop”

    • @sal_strazzullo
      @sal_strazzullo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same happened to me 😱 so awkward to think about my past dates

    • @mrblue6014
      @mrblue6014 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Omg 🤣

  • @awesomebroke
    @awesomebroke 4 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    compliment her hair while she's wear hijab.

  • @joshuank7533
    @joshuank7533 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Great video. Someone who actually gives proper and non stale advices. Appreciate it man !

  • @natebenetard5100
    @natebenetard5100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    While I agree with you that over complementing a girl is a turnoff, I disagree with the why behind it. Instead of weakness, girls often dont believe your being genuinely honest when complementing repeatedly. It often comes across as rehearsed like your reading from a script you made before the date. Or in certain cases it seems like your trying too hard and they lose the thrill of the hunt from the date if they know your already hooked on her

  • @dragonbread1477
    @dragonbread1477 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    on the first date of me and your aunt Robin, I said "I think I'm in love with you"

    • @brentpentiah4586
      @brentpentiah4586 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😂😂😂 you're a legend

    • @somniato7759
      @somniato7759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      HIMYM

    • @draconshot928
      @draconshot928 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So ryan how do I get a girl to run away from me screaming?

    • @sal_strazzullo
      @sal_strazzullo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That could work if said as a joke tho

  • @sidneytaylor3938
    @sidneytaylor3938 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you so much!! Honestly when I clicked on this video and watched the “pedestal” analogy was a realization i had to face the hard way and thanks to you bring this to the forefront of the video this made me a more aware individual so thank you for all the you do and keep it up! 👍🏾

  • @wile123456
    @wile123456 4 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    90% of letting the girl talks sounds like a horribly unequal date

    • @kontraktofficial7620
      @kontraktofficial7620 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      lol

    • @chrisneek9516
      @chrisneek9516 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      she s not your friend

    • @taylemounes
      @taylemounes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      bruh...
      in that, he means that you should be interested in da gurl & not talk ONLY bout urself
      and as Dale Carnegie says: "to be interesting you must e genuinely interested in other people"

    • @ItzZehDiego
      @ItzZehDiego 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Believe me, it works very well. Women usually say far more words daily than men on average, so it's relatively natural. Also, it works as a measure of making sure she's constantly involved in working to get information from you (which women generally enjoy the process of), keeping a layer of mystery for you (which undoubtedly makes you more attractive), and is a good measure of making she's interested in you. A girl will talk to you a lot when she's comfortable with you.
      On a side note: IMO, the first qualification for going out with a girl is her interest. Too many dudes will peruse women who barely give time to even begin listening to them.

    • @superfighters654
      @superfighters654 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He literally said to let the girl do 90% of the comment, the dude Wile didn’t misinterpret anything

  • @scorpionwins6378
    @scorpionwins6378 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    3 things TO DO on a first date:
    1) Arrive in separate cars. Don't offer to pick her up. Instead have a destination in mind and a time in which you want her to be there.
    2) Suggest paying the tab separately. If you insist on paying, have her take care of the tip.
    3) Have the activities planned out ahead of time. Women like when a guy takes the initiative. Never say to her "Soooo....where do you wanna go?"

    • @finn3131
      @finn3131 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why not pick her up?

    • @Luka1180
      @Luka1180 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It depends. If the woman is more of an avoidant and/or independent attachment type person, they often like being in more control.

    • @happythecat9231
      @happythecat9231 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I already fucked up step one 😂

  • @pufifa
    @pufifa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    5:20 "it's almost scientifically proven" *LOL_WHAT*

    • @askerzie
      @askerzie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      not quite there yet lmao

    • @kader6473
      @kader6473 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It actually is.

    • @sal_strazzullo
      @sal_strazzullo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@askerzie lmfao

  • @Crimsontears83
    @Crimsontears83 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Wait! He can afford to go to Le Fancie??? Damn, he is balling!

  • @bermudezeg
    @bermudezeg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very good content. Nice tone. Keep it up. Like your videos. I get re enforcement from them form my dates. I try to reflect on what went wrong and seen your videos give me ideas on what to improve. On mistake for me was going to the dancing clubs in the first date, which I new nothing about, but me being me I accepted a challenge. So we went, first thing was it was loud, which made it extra hard to listen to her and second I new nothing about dancing 💃. But I tried but anybody whose been to a Latin clubs those dances are not joke. Also she saw friends there and that interfered with the date. But lesson learned take them out to a quiet place and something your familiar to.

  • @foreignlovedreams
    @foreignlovedreams 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes, a quite nice list not to do. I would like to add also a few points not to do on your first:
    - Ask the waiter to split the bill without checking with your date.
    - Pay the whole bill without checking with her whether you may pay it.
    - End the evening expecting a kiss.
    - Talk about money or your salary.

  • @cutespheal3442
    @cutespheal3442 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    the art is so cute! who draws it?

  • @HowlingSaguaro97
    @HowlingSaguaro97 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "I really like this girl, her cute face, slim figure, bubbly personality...pretty much everything" yep thats it dude. A cute face and slim figure, and like...maybe their bubbly personality I guess, you really knew this girl and liked her.

    • @thecanbean7368
      @thecanbean7368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah, I don't know what he was thinking finding a girl physically attractive AND liking her as a person. To think people assumed Hitler was dead all these years...

  • @eltoneagle8136
    @eltoneagle8136 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Once she gets to know you more and there's no more mystery she'll probably dumb you for someone else

    • @freddy4554
      @freddy4554 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      And that will happen after 3 months

    • @Weenaid
      @Weenaid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not always, a relationship is not if YOU are interesting but how well you get along together a relationship should be like 2 best friends in love.

  • @cnjimsko429
    @cnjimsko429 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    that's why I fucked up myself everytime, too mmany stupid useless compliments.... thanks G

  • @RedMau5_97
    @RedMau5_97 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Definitely made the compliment mistake a few times...

  • @illtakeapotatochipandeatit4490
    @illtakeapotatochipandeatit4490 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ok so I'm a girl watching this cause I was board anyways if I'm having to do 80% to 90% of the talking let's just say we aren't going to have much conversation. Thanks social anxiety

    • @Ian-sm3su
      @Ian-sm3su 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Honestly I feel a good 60-40 female to male ratio of talking or so works well. If I don't say much I'm probably not interested in you tbh lol

    • @rock2946
      @rock2946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Ian-sm3su I agree. A more balanced out convo is definitely preferable (especially for those with social anxiety).

  • @rudymontes5272
    @rudymontes5272 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great Video as Always man!

  • @bonehawk1562
    @bonehawk1562 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wow Karen, you’re so amazing it’s like your a freaking goddess, I want to give you everythiiiiiiiing

  • @justjay8165
    @justjay8165 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The money part is 1000%%% true and being too affectionate at first then not being affectionate anymore

  • @tiegz9770
    @tiegz9770 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As a girl, I approve this message.

  • @fork2693
    @fork2693 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    keep in mind, i have never gone on a date, but with the first thing when he was complimenting to much, it just physically hurt

  • @aleriaproductions2869
    @aleriaproductions2869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bro you're brilliant

  • @noahg6121
    @noahg6121 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Respect the drip Karen

  • @justinthompson5779
    @justinthompson5779 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just found your channel and I like it a lot thank you

  • @kgs3532
    @kgs3532 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    after an hour I have a date and I'm watching this video just to make everything perfect and grate for her, I really hope everything will be okay

  • @creyetivemedia
    @creyetivemedia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very useful things. Thanks!

  • @kiwi9065
    @kiwi9065 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You got a Crush on Karen? You have a cursed taste

  • @bullmoose6739
    @bullmoose6739 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It isn’t about spoiling her, it’s about commitment to the relationship.

  • @MrAnthonyDraft
    @MrAnthonyDraft 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So... I never did the don't but I also partially did the do's...
    Not all is lost I think

  • @Cabstationanimated270
    @Cabstationanimated270 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's greatly appreciated and it helps, age is not a barrier!

  • @angelus_solus
    @angelus_solus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Be sparing on the compliments. Easy.
    Be sparing on financial goodies. I'm on SSI and make less than most people at McDonald's, so I doubt that would be a problem.
    Let her talk the most or don't talk about yourself so much. There's not much I can think of to say about me, and I'm not accustomed to talking to other people anyway, so again....easy.
    Hard part is finding someone who wants to get that far.

    • @Ian-sm3su
      @Ian-sm3su 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just build up the confidence, understand that you are in control of your own life. Go out and just talk to people, you'll get there fam.

  • @K4Khyron
    @K4Khyron 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    your videos are a pelasure to see and and have an awesome narrative. ty for share. I wish you more sucess.

  • @siavashrohani1604
    @siavashrohani1604 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Enjoyable and informative.

  • @redmoon03
    @redmoon03 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    A girl followed me on ig a while ago, we didn't have any contact nor texting. Is it weird if I just ask her out? Like " Hey we've been following eachother for a while now so I was thinking we should find a day and meet, maybe hangout a lil bit and get to know eachother? " Something like that

  • @melvin3509
    @melvin3509 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I would like her to do 80-90% of the talking, but when I got to know her outside of the planned first date, she didn't talk too much and it caused some awkward silence.
    So I thought I should talk more in the first date, to not let the awkward silence happen, but now you say I shouldn't talk so much. What shall I do then?

  • @Zlion-xl4bn
    @Zlion-xl4bn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can you make a video on how to ask a shy girl out? Pls

  • @mustafakahlil6367
    @mustafakahlil6367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Step one : get her to say yes

  • @trevorphilips235
    @trevorphilips235 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like the mystery part

  • @zzzdee1980
    @zzzdee1980 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is helpful as fudge

  • @niveshproag3761
    @niveshproag3761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pretty sure you made your friend up

  • @guvnor035
    @guvnor035 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ohhhh shitttt i just found the first thing is what i always fuck up with thankyou

  • @fishing_with_chaz
    @fishing_with_chaz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Getting a girl to do 80 to 90% of the talking is very hard if they can't carry a conversation and are dull

    • @ryanputrantwo
      @ryanputrantwo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I actually don't think that is the best advice; or at least on the surface level. I do think you should listen more and ask more questions and be a better listener if you're the one chasing but sometimes there has to be some sort of incentive/question/topic to really bring someone out of their shell. A topic related to your life may inspire the other person to bring up something about theirs but yeah, questions is probably how you do it.

    • @justjay8165
      @justjay8165 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes you are right man it’s hard with shy dull girls

  • @brabbit5220
    @brabbit5220 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg u so under rated

  • @chonk9499
    @chonk9499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Building on the first tip, what do you do rather than compliment?

  • @thearithmos3408
    @thearithmos3408 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good job👍

  • @elikyiael8740
    @elikyiael8740 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    KAREN, FOR THE LOVE OF, SERIOUSLY KAREN

  • @xdygmnyrdf
    @xdygmnyrdf 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    She didnt like your compliments because they were obviously fake and sugarcoated. Being fake makes you seem unreliable and unpredictable, and doesnt make you a likeable person.

  • @nielsenth1801
    @nielsenth1801 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    If you start to throw so many nice comments to ANYONE (male or female) you make it sound like you're worshipping them which makes everyone uncomfortable.
    This has happened to me only while extremely drunk a few times...

  • @kaliberaiz8703
    @kaliberaiz8703 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good thing I didn't do any of this... but be honest I didn't make this mistakes, but what I did was say something awful. Is there anyway I can speak with you?

  • @itschmodo872
    @itschmodo872 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks Man For The Advice 10/10

  • @julianagnero934
    @julianagnero934 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nevermind

  • @TheRealTaolf
    @TheRealTaolf 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been on 4 and so far only one of them was bad

  • @MinAnime-dg7um
    @MinAnime-dg7um 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Help me what should I do to revert a friend zone and get the girl I like to stop kissing and f**king others and pay attention to me and start dating with me, and start being girlfriend and boyfriend?

    • @Kotello
      @Kotello 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just move on buddy, I know it sounds impossible right now but at the very least consider that option.

  • @mrblue6014
    @mrblue6014 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man you told the obvious 😂

  • @belt5419
    @belt5419 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    BRO GIRLS GOTTA DO SOMETHING TOO WTF IS THIS IM SAF

  • @OniiChode
    @OniiChode 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I dated a girl twice botched both, and she seem losing interest in me. How do I salvage this?

  • @person7407
    @person7407 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    At the beginning you were definitely acting strangely, it's uncomfortable and it looks creepy. It's not showing weakness or putting her on a pedestal it's discomfort.

  • @flyaway6646
    @flyaway6646 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Never compliment a girl for what she didn't work her Ash off.

  • @serbianbro5322
    @serbianbro5322 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would reccomand every guy watch Craig Ferguson flirt a bit.

  • @kerob-sx6kx
    @kerob-sx6kx 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I cant even get a date anyway

  • @Majd_qaryouti
    @Majd_qaryouti 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tip number one: NEVER date a Karen

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The compliments thing has too much and ya saying em too often

  • @ironwox
    @ironwox 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    so go to a quite cheap place. stop talking to be mysterious and complement her once . got it

  • @desmondmoonbear8149
    @desmondmoonbear8149 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow Karen

  • @striderfox71
    @striderfox71 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh I've been good then lol

  • @clementgauthier8728
    @clementgauthier8728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    azertyyy

  • @AgnivaGhosh009
    @AgnivaGhosh009 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    1. I never compliment anyone
    2. I am poor
    3. I have nothing to showoff..

  • @theparadoxzone2396
    @theparadoxzone2396 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dating is too much now days. Plus you have to be good enough to even have a girl interested to date you in the first place. Forever alone here I come old friend.

  • @kingdeweybeatz6127
    @kingdeweybeatz6127 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow Karen