Coworkers Are Not Your Friends, But They Can’t Be Your Enemy
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Sometimes coworkers can't be trusted because they share whatever personal information you have to others around work. Be careful what you share with you coworkers.
Levels of trust is so big! Def suggest watching my video about trust at work (with coworkers) from last week!
@@JenniferBrick Do you have a levels of trust video? I personally don’t trust coworkers regarding my personal life and professionally I monitor what I say and opinions. I don’t gossip about other coworker. As a general rule, I don’t say anything that I wouldn’t mind repeated and all emails are written with the fore thought that they might forward it to someone else, so be professional and watch the tone.
Yes! Last week I released a video called Can You Trust Your Coworkers and talk about levels of trust in it!
Trust nobody, question everything
That's why a lot people want to keep their work life and personal life completely separate.
Don’t trust your coworkers. They will gossip about you.
High fives! True and true
I actually invite gossip. It is inevitable and if they want to waste their time gossiping I suppose I'm honoured.
It's like High School all over again.
When they all gang up on you, tell lies to get you fired but it backfires on them and you still have to work with them it’s difficult believe me.
And laugh in your face
Professional people understand that they are in a workplace--you and your co workers are there for a paycheck. Ya need money. Your co workers need money. It's professional behavior to treat your co workers in what I call a "Business-like friendly" manner. Don't talk to them like friends and don't show any traces of hostility towards people you don't generally like. I have been in hostile, toxic workplaces. Tight cliques were formed. There was hostility by these groups towards others. There was gossiping. All of that stuff. Toxic, toxic, TOXIC.
I agree with this so much!
I totally agree. Best to just stay neutral
Two of my closest friends were former co workers.
However, we became better friends after we stopped being co workers.
I've had the same experience a few times!
Interesting
@@JenniferBrickthen why are you propagating something else in video which is not true?
Like my dad used to say.
"You don't have to like your coworkers you just have to work with them. And no one is forcing you to work there"
wise man
Even co workers you get on with should be treat with ⚠️
Especially those you get along very well...
I just have an ongoing internal dialogue with myself. It has kept me from cursing out several coworkers in the past lol.
Having a coping strategy is important! Make sure you have an after work outlet so you're not bottling it all up.
This are all great tips! The biggest things in my opinion is focusing on the task at hand and being kind. If you can do that you’ll be good 99% of the time. Great video!
Totally agree, kindness and focus on impact really cuts a lot of drama at work
@@JenniferBrick Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
I have a coworker who everyone thinks is cool. Yet he trashes all of them behind their backs.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
People getting along with each other, depends upon mutual respect, understanding and cooperation. You can throw in good manners, being courteous and being considerate. Those things must exist or else you won't get along.
👆💯💥 values!
They are your friends until you submit resignation
I agree that we do not have to feed negativity at work. I absolutely will not do that necessarily. However, I used to be more helpful, more of a leader, but I have toned it down since my efforts have not been reflected in my pay or how I am being treated and talked about. I have pulled back my energy quite a bit.
@1:13 "You don't have to like anyone" 😆
But I mean, facts 🤷🏼♀️🤣
I cant trust my coworkers because i know they will backstab me.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Co workers are definitely your enemies. Just don't turn them into nemesis
Worked with this kid who acted like he was my friend always trying to tell me how to live my life while talking trash behind my back to co-workers and boss. One of the worst people I had to work with for years . So thankful I left that job and toxic people .
That character is my favorite at work. Never a dull moment. XD
I hate being on teams with people who don't give a shit. I prefer to work in groups at my discretion. I feel that it's natural that your going to over share at some point. It's important to watch your back and document your interactions with dubious co-workers.
I work with everyone because it is work. I had a colleague tell me I do not work with Jo, and my impression of that person was that she was unprofessional, immature a d petty. So, I work with everyone!
"we expect everyone here to treat their coworkers with a certain amount of respect".. I've always lived by this one and practiced it.. Ben Affleck in Boiler Room stole the words from my mouth
Love this quote!
@@JenniferBrick I have always believed in this. Watch the movie, it's a good one
Added it to my watch list!
Don't tell anyone any complaints you have about someone for being difficult, because they'll hear it from that person you told in confidence.
Yes, this. It's too juicy not to share, especially if they have known the other person for a long time
True
Yes, very true, learned the hard way.
You can always use this to have things spread you want people to know ("don't tell anyone"). Then you'll know if you can trust that person, and they will know you know they blabbed.
expose them
The best managers and supervisors are those that inspire. Those who lead through fear will find it works short term, but your team will be so dysfunctional that you will barely get assignments done without being asked if someone is doing an assignment correctly.
They are other people who took a job that put y'all in the same room. Not much more to that. I don't need a work bestie anymore. I do my thing, go home and not worry about what HR or someone thinks because they are going to misconstrue everything any who!
😢😢😢😢😮I have been at a new job for about a year now. 😢😢😢😢I thought things were really going well but I've had 2 issues recently with a couple of coworkers that misunderstood me.They then ran to the VP to complain about me. One said I had hurt his feelings. I had NO IDEA WTF he is talking about. A couple of weeks later he pulled the same sh*t. Then he complained to anyone who would listen about me. The crazy thing about it is he and I got along great up until now. It's BIZARRE. Thank God the VP seemed to understand that this guy seemed to misunderstand me and that his perception of the situation must have been way off. I'm going to handle this little "girly man" with kid gloves from now on. What a fkng p*ssy!!! What kind of man goes running to his manager and says "She hurt my feelings"???? Give me a break!!! 😂😅😊
A few temp jobs ago I was paired with a female who openly disliked me from the very second we met. She spoke to me, no yelled at me, in the most derogatory terms. I really wanted to hit her, but I just kept my mouth shut because I needed the job and didn't want to be arrested. How she was allowed to speak to me like that I have no idea.
see, their upper management should've taken care of this awful behavior, sounds toxic!
This is why I work for myself
I appreciate this, and other things you have shared. I liked and subscribed. I am extremely professional, and one of the very few, due to the nature of what I do which I won't go into. I probably alienate people because they don't understand why I don't slack and joke around and goof off. I tend to built relationships by telling management about something someone did good or that had a positive impact. Regarding management, there is absolutely no point in working hard to try to get them to like you. You are, essentially a company tool. What is important is that they see what they need to see, which usually involves confidence and leadership ability.
I walked into 2 women gossiping about me, and I was not staying anywhere near them.
It’s strange but there are some co- workers that feel that friends and co-workers are the same .. I have seen this and some go as far as feeling like a family.. I always wonder what’s going on in a person’s mind to feel that way.. this is really of low intelligence. I never wanted to feel that way about co-workers .. that is just sad and depressing to think about.
Against my better judgement, I "jumped in" too quickly with a coworker at work and we became "besties". We shared intimate secrets with each other and hung out outside of work. Long story short, for whatever reason, she isn't speaking to me and she unfriended me on social media. We work in the same department and it's incredibly awkward. I don't know how to handle this. Should I continue only speaking when spoken to?
Maybe you guys have to resolved the issue.
Same thing happened to me
Move on, and don't repeat this mistake next time. Slowly get to know someone
😮😮😢😢😢😮😮😢😢People are so G*DDAMN WEIRD!!! I'm so over their BS. I've been working since I was 16 and I'm 56 now. I do not trust ANYONE at work. People you swear are your friends will talk sh*t about you behind your back. You cannot reveal very intimate things about yourself to ANY coworker. If things go south between you then you'll regret telling them any personal stuff. I've been at a new company for about a year now. I THOUGHT my coworkers were great people but I'm now seeing them for who they really are and it AIN'T pretty. A guy who I got along GREAT with went running to the Vice President to tell him that I had "hurt his feelings." WTF??? I told the VP I had no idea what he was talking about.
I only greet them good morning and focus on my work I also don't hangout with them only I make work related conversation with them that's it and at last I don't say bye just pack my bag and leave that office as soon as possible
I ran into an enemy at work. But he doesn't know that I have alot of friends so ill be successful, but these enemies are going to make me VERY SUCCESSFUL!!!!
I have had to work thru emotional baggage of past co-worker and now am stuck with replacement with same attitude from South America who are very savvy socially. Being professional is a challenge when you know they are opportunistic and play the victim card. Requires a lot of inner strength.
I have a co-worker who refuses to reply-all. I see this as a gatekeeping behavior; she's trying to maintain control. For what reason, I am not sure. I've asked her so many times, so many ways, to copy me on emails about projects that I'm responsible for. I still - on a regular basis - find out that she has left me out of the loop. This undermining behavior is so irritating, but she goes about it in a way that if I bring it up, I will appear to be causing drama on the team.
Ultimately, everything you do, regardless of your motives, is to help YOU look better. Unless you have a great relationship with every coworker you've ever had after you've left a job, then they aren'y your friends. Unfortunately, It's everyone for themselves.
I had a situation where I quit a job without notice. I was being bullied, and the supervisor was part of it. So I knew that attempting to get another job was going to be hard. In my career, almost every employer wants a supervisory reference. And it has to be within a year. I was stuck. So just by luck I applied for a job that was a small business and they rate you by how you perform, not by references. I shadowed another person and then showed them what I know. I worked for this company for 9 months. No references!! No deep dives into "why" I quit or sob stories to tell. It was a great job. I left on great terms and they gave me the fantastic references I needed to go back to the original type of job that I do.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
I’m gonna ask my two senators to nominate Jennifer for an advisory job at the US Dept of Labor
Me right now = 😊😊😊
Just treat them at their level. Go in for the paycheck and go out until you can find something better.
Its not possible to survive like this for a long time. Yes there are few coworkers we have to adjust like said in video but if everyone including boss is unlikable or not adjusting, it wont be possible to survive
So true , so true . This one person that I worked with lied 🤥 about domestic abuse and makes up a bunch of sob stories just to gain sympathy and use people for lunch 🥗 She used me !! and stopped talking me once she got promoted.And guess what happened? She is a manager now. Now she preys on other soft hearted people like me. Lesson here. do not make friends at work.
Oh but they "can" be your enemy when they gossip, take credit for your work, and lie to cover their mistakes....
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
I am interested in any and all career advice you have to offer. I greatly appreciate you helping someone like myself cancel self-limiting behaviors related to the workplace.
Havent had a full time job in awhile and got way to friendly and personal with them it was toxic and a few turned on me. after I left they never checked up on me or I never heard from them again. I feel silly for thinking they were friends
I over share so much lmao but I rarely feel bad after it feels good to rant and vent to people who have no stakes in my life hahaha
Manager/management has to like you or else your out the door. Corporate 101. If not, your pretty much screwed
They don't have to like you per se, I've had a manager who personally hated me advocate for my promotion because it made him look good and advanced his career.
making your boss look good goes a long way to advance your career
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Always great content Jennifer ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks friend!
If I'm upset fir having a bad ..some get angry...others understand
Co workers are not your friends and not also your enemies, but they are media people around you.
I don't trust some of them. They pretend they like you .
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
I've found that nowadays young people compliment and act like they are my boss, I dislike this and make me not trust them.
They can't be your enemies ? Really now :) Wait until some conflicts of interest start forming and you'll change that opinion super fast. My advice, go in, do the job, clock out, get paid, period.
Yes please make the how to be more likable at work video 🙌🏾
Thank you for this advice...so very needed Ms. Brick.
Hope it helps!
I only had 1 real friend from my previous jobs. While I did get along with everyone at work, she was the coworker that I would consider as a real friend.
Thanks!
Always happy to share!
They are not my freinds.. But how can be the envious monsters are not my haters
I just got out of a toxic work environment and now I'm looking for something better. I had a zoom interview today but it was a little weird. The hiring manager saw me on the zoom interview but I couldn't see her. I could only hear her on the zoom interview. I dont want to be in another bad work environment but is this a red flag?
If you were required to turn yours on and they did not reciprocate it's weird. Not sure if it's a red flag would need more context, but in future feel free to clarify 'Oh is this video on or off'
@@JenniferBrick ok thank you for clarifying. I've had a couple of zoom interviews this week that were the same way. It just felt shady to me. The zoom interview I had today didnt reciprocated but I had my video camera on.
Even when I do my best there is one gal who is nadty to just about all..or even be neutral with she spread lies to boss who appears to believe her and a few others I tell truth..but hard to say if believe me..but she and ithers adore the brat
Minimize contact as much as possible. Stick to pleasantries, and when you have to meet/collaborate keep notes, send recaps etc. Your much more important effort isn't on dealing with them it's being unignirably awesome so that their drama because relevant.
Thank you for your tips! You are definitely our career bestie! 😊
🙏🙏🙏🌎🇺🇸 Be silent if you have to. Respect please thank you avoid gossip.
You look great in Yellow!
My pleasant behaviour ends, when I have to explain the SAME thing over and over again to a coworker on a daily basis... and then they ask why am I being a D to them. Like "b*tch I told you 5 times nicely and you still can't do your job properly..."
Not everyone is smart 🤷🏼♀️
I feel your frustration.
"you don't have to like anyone"
good, I don't. I don't think they know, though lol
I don't think I'm being difficult, I'm friendly, but I'm not big on chit-chat, I'm busy lol
Some coworkers dont deserve your help, just walk away.
I really do not like any of my co supervisors enough to go out after work and have drinks. The reason is I usually end up having to fix their mistakes or finish their work for them, because they forgot, could not get to it or did not know how to do it. I will help them get through it by explaining how the process works how I do it, but every week it's the same thing. So I feel like I'm wasting my breath and my time trying to help them finish their work and teach them how to do it on their own because the same thing happens week after week. What burns me up is that come annual reviews we all seem to be fully successful even though I'm at the top end of fully successful or exceptional they don't like to give supervisors exceptional because then there's no room to grow that's what I've heard but for the people that aren't quite making it to be in the same category as I am Burns me because they don't finish their work
NOT all you tube bloggers VIEW the EXACT same footage so i'll say in grade school we learn FACT vs OPINION and through the years CERTAIN meaning a NON specific number of coworkers have been friends enemies and/or neutral
🌎🙏🙏🙏🇺🇸 Be professional. Only there for work to provide for yourself and your family. Just be professional at your job
I love your channel
I think right.i learn to adapt about that.thank you this video..
should never be biased either
A very good Lesson I learned recently
Theirs no point in helping a coworker when they are negative no matter even if it’s a logical point. Just get through it with minimal exposure to them and walk away. I don’t agree with this tip
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
I’ve worked with some loose screws in my youth one guy you could make a Hollywood film on his compulsive lying others were just back stabbers and would ruin you in a heart beat to jump at any opportunity. Easiest way around it don’t engage because that’s what they want you to do, don’t add them on Facebook or any social media profiles, never engage in personal conversation about finances or relationship troubles etc. Be careful when doing a favor like covering a shift on your day off unless you get it in writing that they are going to cover your day off then walk away, don’t work or accept OT when they don’t pay OT, never start earlier than you need to or stay later than required if it’s out of your control then make sure you get paid for it. Be careful with after work drinks don’t indulge too much into the open bar and start spewing out I hate this guy I hate this boss etc as I can guarantee even though everyone is laughing and agreeing with your statements from the heart in the heat of the moment as someone is highly likely reporting back to management.
Co workers not your friends not your enemy they are your pay check nothing more
as usual ... Very helpful stuff..just like always
Great advice .
There some good co workers out there to br friends with
Co workers dont care I just ignore them an tell them to stay away from me
My situation is that this "co-worker" want me out of the company and to take my job
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Thanks 👍
Should i re think a job if they tell you .You have to pay for your drug test out of your own money.
I can't make that decision for you. I am off the opinion that preemployment checks are the responsibility of the employer.
I just saw the time period this comment was made. Just in the future, I would try to find a job in which they pay for those AFTER you accept their job offer. Drug tests were covered by the casino I was hired by before cannabis became legalized for recreational use.
🌎🙏🙏🙏🇺🇸 Be professional. Be silent if you have to.
I disagree with the working with coworkers you don't like. Not everyone is like you, and not everyone is as mature as you. Coworkers that dislike will treat you as such, an ENEMY! But yes, you can turn an enemy into a friend.
Coworkers is really just like high school. No difference at all. There are cliques, nerds, jocks, cool kids, loners, snitches, gossipers, kiss-asses, etc. I can go on. Same crap, different age.
I got my third concussion in 2019 and it changed my behavior and I guess my frontal lobe is broken because I no longer have a filter I never got complaints I always had a poor filter but I never got complaint at work but now my last two jobs in a row have complaints of me being inappropriate and it's ruining my life and my career and this comment I'm making is probably inappropriate I'm just going to set two rules for myself rule number one only talk about what we're working on and rule number two only ask questions if it's anything else I'm just not going to say it because I can't gauge what is appropriate and what is not appropriate and I can't read people
Co-workers cannot and will not mind their own effin business
As a HR Manager in management consulting, for many years, I actually do think you can be friends with people at work. Research also shows it’s important for businesses.
- That doesn’t mean that if you’re not friends with a coworker that you can’t work with them productively. And many of these tips apply, and are very insightful. I especially agree with the idea that you ensure success of others and that builds personal brand. I’ve always said - if you want to be successful- be generous. This doesn’t mean spend all your time helping others with their jobs - but it does mean taking a few minutes to give people information, introducing them to other company contacts, giving them functional support - and then letting them execute the rest of the way on it. That absolutely builds personal brand - and company collaboration, which is especially important in today’s knowledge based economy, but is true in any industry.
There are different kinds of friends. I think some people are confused what friendships are. They are not always emotionally codependencies. That’s not just a friendship - that’s a codependency. That does indeed not make a good situation to have at work. At the same time, a friend is someone you can ask opinions of and they give you an honest opinion, without you getting offended, because you trust they have the company and your interests at heart. Likewise, a friend is someone you can give honest feedback to, and help them, and who will not be offended. Healthy and constructive debate and analysis is actually healthy for an organization, because few professional initiatives are black and white.
A friend and a good coworker is someone you can disagree with, about topics like approach, without thinking less of the person.
A friend is someone who is happy with your success, and whose success you can be happy about, without jealousy or comparison.
A friend is someone who shares your values of integrity, for example, which hopefully map to the values of the company as well.
A friend will help when they can, and who you help when you can - that’s true for business and for friendships.
I think it’s fair to say that the topics that you talk about with your work friends is not the same as the topics with your non-work friends. For ex, don’t talk about your dating life. Keep away from topics like religious perspectives (unless you both work for a religious organization). Don’t talk about politics (unless you work for a political organization). You don’t need to talk about your medical issues in detail, or at all. If you want to talk about your deep seated emotions about how your family treated you, that’s not necessarily a topic to talk about with work friends (and might recommend getting a therapist). These are topics you might talk about with your non-work friends.
If someone is gossipy, competitive (vs collaborative) with their colleagues, self-absorbed, manipulative, dishonest, disrespectfully disagrees (respectfully disagreeing is healthy), a bully, does not follow through, then I don’t want them as a colleague. That’s toxic. Toxicity is like cancer and if it is not eliminated ASAP, it will grow to the rest of the team, and distract from everyone’s energy from the missions at hand. That person won’t last with me or in my company. Hard stop.
I think friendships are important for businesses, actually. They spawn creativity in problem solving and team performance optimization. After 25 years, I’ve found that creating relationships between people is what makes everyone successful - when in a collaborative company. If someone is not making friends, maybe because they have a different personality style or interests, but has valuable perspectives and are well intended, I’ll happily overlook they don’t have friends, and try to make sure their perspectives are heard and are included. The colleagues who are valuable will see and embrace the ideas of that employee as well. The competitive or political ones may not - and that is indeed on them, and does indeed make them look bad.
I recommend reading some of the research from organizations like Harvard Business Review, or the Center of Creative Leadership, if you’d like to learn more about the power of friendships at work.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Frenemies they are
🙏🙏🙏🌎 Be professional.
Xuck em they cant make you tell them personal business or be unprofessional.
Co workers can be a snitch to
I'm the Manager, I trained them, they work for me. 🤷😂
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
🙏🙏🙏🇺🇸🌎 Be professional.
But then how do you make friends. I’m disabled and can’t leave the house because of the pandemic. So am I just going to be alone forever!
Yes.
This is why I hated Capitalism for a reason.
Are u bald