Heat makes lettuce bitter. Try picking it first thing in the morning before the plant can get hot or keeping the plants in the shade during the hot parts of the day.
Dr. K is incredibly empathetic. "Yeah, that sounds like an impossible situation." That was a statement loaded with empathy and his actions were too. I'd love to see him and Brene Brown have a conversation one day. Did anyone else see how incredibly soft he got with her when he realized she was upset? I love this channel bc it's been so hard to find a therapist or psychiatrist that really understands, listens, connects, and wants to help you. It's so clear he picked the right path.
As a person in a grad program for counseling. His videos are extremely valuable to me. Like he exemplifies everything we discuss on a weekly basis in my classrooms.
here I thought I had a pretty good idea of what BPD is and does to a person, but listening to Minx and seeing her sadness and frustration really helped me understand how truly hopeless it must sometimes feel. really greatful she was brave enough to be vulnerable, so that we could all learn a little about such a misunderstood diagnosis. much love.
@@dylan1160 Some need to explore first in order to truly find themselves before others. It may seem out of place but it would help the psyche of in a ever changing. World.
Well the only time that it ends up being not true is when you pass instead. And I have a feeling that you won't be complaining to anyone about it anymore anyway.
Christ, the moment when Minx started breaking down about not being able to control explosive emotions for no reason other than that something minorly inconvenient happened, or someone just BARELY scratched the surface of something slightly irritating. I've ruined A LOT of relationships that way. :(
I'm very sorry to hear that. That's why I love that Dr K. Puts in the effort he does to spread as much information and resources as he can. That whole section about learning and practicing forgiveness is such a big part. (Of course not all of it.) I sincerely hope you're on your own journey of self care and improvement.
Being a kid with ADHD when you’re my age was awful man. I only found out last year I had it when I finally saw a psychiatrist and so much shit made sense. When you’re a 27 year old and you were in school when mental health wasn’t really discussed or cared about, with a boomer ass Dad who only saw the things you couldn’t do the same as everyone else, shit was rough. I wasn’t able to perform in school the same way other kids were, but I was able to write a 211 page novel by 10th grade. Nobody ever ASKED me “why can’t you do your school work?” It was always “You need to do your school work like everyone else”. When I was in 10th grade, I couldn’t pass algebra because I couldn’t focus. So the schools solution was to take away my English class(where I was excelling), and replace it with another period of Algebra. When I continued to fail, because I was only given expectations and not support, things just continued to get worse and I’ve felt like a failure for the majority of my life. Therapy helped open the door and your coaching program is helping me walk through it. Things are finally getting better - I have an understanding of me and how I operate, I finally have some explanations, I’m not a failure, I’m just different. Anyone out there struggling - keep trucking man. It doesn’t stay downhill forever. You’re not stupid, you’re not inadequate, you’re not less than anyone else because you don’t learn the same way as other people. You’ve got this ❤️
Thanks for sharing - I had a really similar experience in high school. My grades were terrible, so they would take away things that I actually cared about and was good at. It was embarrassing and only made me resentful.
For real bro. The look on my father's face any time I couldn't do something perfectly (even things he nor anybody else never taught me) was a look of unadulterated disgust/impatience/rage/disappointment/hatred.... (And the loud sighs, or the exclamations of "Oh my GOD", as though I was the worst person alive) I think that shit like this should be considered a crime. You can't even measure how much it fucks you up; it's seared into my neurons.
@@specialk8168 I feel you man. I’m a pretty “gifted” kid, I was top of my class all the way until I hit 9th grade where the idea of school kinda became something that didn’t interest me anymore. But I had set those expectations up my entire life so my Dad expected me to always be that straight A student, even if it wasn’t what I wanted. Constant feelings of failure, constant disappointment, punishment, both physical and emotional abuse, and a lot of other awful things have happened like my two best friends dying, one in high school and the other in my early 20’s didn’t help. But taking the good with the bad is a great way to find balance again, take your life back, and realize that expectations are bullshit. The only thing that matters is you and what you want to do with your life.
Just to ask did you have trouble with pronouncing words , difficult to understand sentences, therefor you would read the sentence over and over loose focus? I havnt been diagnosed with adhd but have with bpd , but I say words wrong, I don't understand thing, always had a hsrd time focusing , even reading, and maths , i always feel stupid. 😞
Regarding similarities of ADHD’s RSD, BOD, and trauma, as well as the ADHD grief mentioned at the end of the video: The BPD sounds really similar to the Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria that comes with ADHD, in a few ways: In BPD, RSD, and other trauma response situations, we’re way quicker to perceive a vibe shift (e.g., frame-by-frame transition of a smiling face to a scowling one), way quicker to react to it, and with a much more heightened emotional response. For RSD, this is most often manifested in being hypersensitive to the possibility that we are being rejected, that our friends secretly hate us, etc., and our emotional response (even when we are self-aware of what is happening, and completely assured that our brain’s emotional “guard dogs” are, in fact, barking at their own shadows) will be equivalent to what we would be feeling if the imagined rejection was actually real, and that baseline is higher on top of it. An easy explanation for this, is of course, the tragically high rates of rejection and isolation most of us with ADHD experience as children, from our peers as well as our family, teaching us that we need to be quicker to avoid another emotional disaster like the previous ones we’ve actually faced, so that maybe this time, we’ll be able to react quickly enough to fix the situation or cut our losses. It’s extremely common for adults recently diagnosed with ADHD to actually go through a mourning process, grieving over the lost years and potentially avoidable trauma and misery, the wasted potential, the realization that we’ve been so complicit in our own bullying due to the internalized ableism we are only just discovering, longing to go back and comfort our past childhood selves are we wept over yet another inability to “just be normal”, etc. I just saw a post yesterday about the way adults tend to dismiss the grief of children over “small” issues such as a broken toy or a change of plans as “excessive” or “unreasonable” or “disproportionate”, while failing to consider their capacity to experience an adult range of emotions with only a tiny fraction of the perspective adults are privileged with: to them, this is actually the worst thing they’ve ever experienced, in their whole (short) lives, and their emotional responses are, in fact, quite proportionate to the cause. When we add the emotional dysregulation (affect lability, etc.) of ADHD, it’s all extremes, all the time, and often shifting too quickly for us to fully process at the time… and all of this begins to burst out when adult diagnosis breaks the dam. We spend our entire childhoods experiencing such crushing and confusing loss, in excess of the norm, while simultaneously having our desperate struggles to just survive discounted and mocked by those around us (even by well-meaning parents!), only to finally find out that it’s not our fault, to begin unpacking the misunderstandings and lies we’ve dealt with, to look up from the wreckage of our lives to see the overwhelming challenge of healing before us… yeah, it’s no wonder it’s so rare for ADHD to exist without comorbid ODD, anxiety, depression, and so on-how could it not?
Wow, this is EXACTLY how I felt after being diagnosed at 19. The feeling of healing and figuring out the whole neurodivergence thing while still also feeling the need to catch up to those who are neurotypical or even our own expectation is exhausting when we haven’t even yet gotten to process and grieve the past.
"many successful women have BPD". It's the rage. *It's the RAGE.* And the urge to prove yourself all the damn time. It's like narcicism turned inside out.learning to turn the thermostat down but keep the rage at a low simmer is what makes the success stew.
Can we take a minute to appreciate just how talented Dr.K is? I have been watching a lot of these videos, and it seems like no matter who he talks with, he always manages to bring light to some really important topics. When he and Minx deviate from the original lecture he still manages to cover new ground and bring everything back together in the end. I am so impressed by this man's capabilities Dr.K is really inspiring.
Gardener chiming in: The greens we're used to getting at the grocery stores are typically much milder in flavour than what you can grow in your garden. Part of this is simply chlorophyll which is bitter. The chlorophyll itself may have some nutritional value and indicates that the plant is more photsynthetically active, possibly more productive in terms of other nutrients as well. So there's a double edge there. Heat stress, particularly when the plant's bolting process has been triggered, can also compel a chemical change that makes foliage more bitter. Not sure if this is a defensive mechanism or just a byproduct of the plant switching its energy into making flowers/seeds instead of leaves. Commercial growers, of course, try to avoid this in store produce as it definitely doesn't sell well. Much of it is varietal selection and breeding which is based on several priorities. - Marketing may have simply determined that more neutral tasting greens sell better. Homegrown mustards and arugula will be much spicier than the storebought stuff, too. People who grew up eating iceberg lettuce are not ready for that intensity. Growers may be selecting varieties and conditions that favour milder flavours. - There are also logistic reasons influencing varietal choices: In the case of fruits including tomatoes, the produce is harvested under-ripe. Starches, which are structurally stiffer, haven't yet converted to sugars and the produce is sturdier for transport. They gas the produce with ethylene when it arrives in the region of consumption to force that conversion which would have happened on the parent plant. In the case of leafies, where ethylene would just rot them, they may have simply selected/bred varieties which are starchier or sturdier for any other reason. This doesn't directly undermine flavour, but if a farmer selling to an aggregator has to choose between shelf-life and flavour, they usually go with shelf life. - The last market factor in terms of varietal selection is water weight, which is the profit motive at work. We pay for produce usually on weight. If they can grow something that grows fast and holds a lot of water, they can make more from their investment in volume than a smaller, more nutrient-dense variety that may not be padded with so much water.
In the mid 90's my little brother's elementary school teacher was a witch. She tried to force my bro onto Ritalin, but the problem was her. His doctor was like, "F-that, this teacher is NOT a Doctor." LoL. Doc prescribed placebos for my bro and miraculously the teacher was appeased. The sad thing is that my brother had to own the stigma of being called over the intercom everyday to "take your Ritalin" when he wasn't even on them. The problem was 100% a teacher who wasn't qualified to keep elementary school kids on task. Placebo can be an effective treatment for the patients, but he just needed motivation. That doctor was a Saint.
@@chrischickering1959 That's ridiculous. Teachers need to understand the effect they have on the rest of their students lives. An immutable characteristic for you, but THEY, in fact, can learn to not be a A-hole. 💀
That’s a badass doctor. We need way more of professionals like that looking after our children… too many exist who exemplify a character that of the teacher.
How did this happen when you just listed at least 3 things that are illegal and go against HIPPA regulations? The intercom disclosing an individuals medication alone would have gotten the whole school sued...
I'm glad these videos are potentially being made again. Despite the recent controversy with the channel, streamers sharing their experiences with mental health is something that has a long-reaching effect for the community. Shows we all relate. There is a way to communicate these ideas without overstepping boundaries.. Transparency in the intended motivations for engaging in discussion and overt disclaimers
@@Mackieee There were a few youtubers calling out the doctor for blurring the line between patient/friend, claiming that Reckful's sessions for example were mishandled, and that there is more manipulation going on than meets the eye. It's a complicated issue. I personally believe despite the underlying incentives he's trying to do an overall good thing. We're all human and prone to corruption given enough power. When there are a lot of people being helped out for the better, we should give the man the benefit of the doubt, while insisting on reasonable transparency
@@disheveling ah I see. The guy can only do so much, hes not acting as a therapist and he makes that pretty clear.. these are all consenting adults just talking about their life experiences. Just because hes a doctor doesn’t mean he cant not be at work when streaming lol
“When I cry, it brings color to my face & I’m kinda feeling cute right now.” Thank you for helping me understand why my tearful tizzies almost always end with me realizing that I’m not hideous.
I was given Oxy as a pain killer after I had open hear surgery. I was surprised that the hospital let me leave without so much as a warning. If I didn't know anything about addiction, I could easily see myself having gotten addicted to Oxy.
Not a doctor but I thought the issue with doctors prescribing oxy was that they were giving too high of a dose relative to the injury/recovery. Plenty of people have been on prescribed opiates for multiple years without abuse, but that can be dependent on the doctor’s discretion as well as the doctor/patient relationship.
@@ToxicHorsePucky another issue is a medical predisposition to opiate addiction, people can be addicted after one single dose and so giving someone like that oxy is real bad also taking it for years will cause chemical dependence and cause withdrawals if you stop
@@seorwhite3333 fr, I hadnt done any drugs yet when i got my wisdoms out. I was floating off the oxys lol. Now i look back like damn tg they didn't give me too many
As a prolific gardener who goes on tangents to anyone who will listen about garden plants, the veggie garden conversation cracked me up. It's every conversation I have, given enough time to drift to plants.. But also if your lettuce turns bitter it's usually because it got too hot and started to flower! Lettuce and most leafy greens like cold weather :)
Im in the beginning of the episode so far and i want to make one quick note: As a kid with ADHD, my meds quieted the absolute storm in my head. Ive always equated it living in a train depot or trying to cross the road on the corner of a busy intersection. Theres a constant din of chatter, loudspeakers that are unintelligible, trains bustling by or cars whishing past, someone's radio is turned way up and i can't quite figure out where the music is coming from or when it'll be safe to cross the road, o just know i need to get over there and there is no pedestrian cross button. Most days, about an hour after taking my meds, Rush hour in the depot slows down and that busy intersection goes from rush hour traffic to light traffic and now I can see the cross walk and now theres a button. Meds just make it easier for me to hear my train ticket being called or makes it like ive pressed the cross walk button and now I just have to watch for the walking man traffic light to light up. More possibly to come!
Same, I have ADD. And same with my autism, its exhausting af and many people don't really know how different autism can be. I have a milder form of autism and many don't believe I'm autistic. It's complicated.
Yeah but there was this weird story of someone getting shot on the head and when they got to the hospital it got cured? Or it like went away but it was A LUCKY shot forgot the story or name of the person. Not saying you should but its weird and lucky it happend.
Damn it Dr. K your ability to understand the people you talk with hits beyond the screen even. I'm getting feels despite not suffering from the same issues. AoE healing at it's best. What a Sweet Potato you are.
This is such a fun interview. Then again, that's two people with ADHD, how ever well managed. It's bound to be jumping around topics and be enjoyable to watch (that is, as long as no one is very depressed).
@@Dayrunner13 He said he had attention problems and would have probably diagnosed as having ADHD if he was tested as a kid/teen. And trusting his own assessment combined with like ~80% of kids with ADHD keeping at least some symptoms for life, I'd say he's ADHD enough to at least be able to follow such a jumpy conversation without any problems.
Realizing now at 22 that my "spacey behavior" throughout elementary middle and high school (which still tends to permeate through my college experience) is actually inattentive ADHD has been...frustrating but also very enlightening. My therapist four years ago diagnosed me with depression and anxiety and I kind of just rolled with it and didn't look any further into it. Cue me realizing that I face a lot of the same issues as my roommate who has ADHD then researching symptoms and being perplexed at how many of them lined up with my experiences exactly. It's easy to go undetected when I already struggle with the executive dysfunction that comes along with depression. I always thought that those with ADHD _had_ to have hyperactive tendencies but evidently that isn't the case at all. I've since learned that it's very undiagnosed, especially in girls/women. It suddenly makes a lot more sense as to why the various antidepressants I've used have never done much of anything for me--while SSRIs raise your serotonin levels, they actually simultaneously decrease the production of dopamine. Aka the neurotransmitter that those with ADHD lack. Sort of a recipe for disaster.
Splitting pills can cause an issue with absorption. Basically, the pill might not work at all...or be way less effective than it could be if you didn't break it. It's not recommended except for specific pills that CAN be split bc they are super fast acting and so absorb quickly anyway. A pharmacist will be able to tell you if you should never split them or if it's a med that can be split in half. Lots of them can't be.
For a lot of medications the distribution of the active substance(s) isn't guaranteed to be equal throughout the tablet, one part of the tablet could contain all of it or none at all, or it could contain an imbalance of multiple interacting substances causing side effects.
BPD goes from you’re my one and only favorite person ever to i can’t stand your sight in a couple of minutes and back to i love you when angy resolves.. i dated a psychiatrist and she couldn’t deal with or understand me.. no human and not even god can deal with being around this. it really hurts to feel forced to distance yourself from everyone because of how unpredictable and alienating and hurtful this mental illness is
I'm very grateful to Minx for sharing what she did. The way she feels in relationships down to the way she talks to Dr. K mirror so much of my past experience, and I feel a little bit less alone for that. Thank you Minx.
Glad to see you are bringing attention to these common issues that I feel like are often overlooked. Personnaly I would greatly appreciate it if you could maybe also talk about dyslexia ^^
1:26:06 "idk, I just did what you did, idk what you were doing" DR K SO WHOLESOME This has been beyond the most helpful interview I'VE EVER seen on your channel. Not to say the others are less helpful, BUT THIS ONE speaks a lot to issues I've struggled with and many of my friends have struggled with. I really appreciated how he worked with her throughout the entire stream. He keeps up with her pace and has LOTS of patience, empathy, and active listening, and still makes all the right points in a near flawless execution. Completely impressive.
I feel that Minx will watch this stream back many times in her life in the future (I would) and learn A LOT from it each and every time. I rewatch streams like these when I need A DAMN GOOD reminder!
So many great topics in this video. The seriousness of casually being prescribed something you could potentially become addicted to, and then dependent on it to function. Getting stuck in "black" thinking and having an ENTIRE day be ruined by failure or rejection. And lettuce! :D
This was soooooo good. Really related to Minx and her issues with relationships and BPD and wanting desperately to connect with people but being so frustrated and stuck with feeling things like anger and rejection SO HARD so just giving up and isolating. I cried in the middle of Whole Foods on this part when she was being so honest and emotional. I hope she can continue with DBT and getting help bc she really is a special amazing person. Dr. K saves all!! Thank you so much!!!!
I have two kids with adhd, with one of them medication works wonders, it's like night and day. Around 3pm is when the difference is most visible; without it he acts like he's kinda drunk but with a lot of energy, but I've been teaching him that the medication is a tool not a solution, and he needs to learn ways to manage his brain also without it (adhd is a family trait, we have LOTS of experience finding solutions). But with my other kid, I'm not dead certain the medication makes any difference at all; and it may turn out that with the second kid it's not actually a chemical thing at all.
Yeah, there’s something like 20% of us that meds just don’t help (at least the meds currently available). Dr. Russell Barkley talks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo being a variant of/confused with ADHD (but technically distinct) that doesn’t respond to meds.
I also don't think people without ADHD really understand what it is like. It's not so much a lack of focus but rather a very intense, uncontrollable focus on a single thing at a time and an inability to split that focus. I have to tell my friends all the time that I can't hear them when I'm reading/talking/listening to something/someone else. When I take my meds, however, it allows me to more easily direct where that focus goes (on top of turning the air around me a little thicker so that I cant vibrate as much) but it still doesn't allow me to split that focus or TOTALLY control it.
Lettuce farmer here, bitter lettuce occurs when the plant begins to bolt, bolting is when the plant will produce a shoot and then flower to reproduce, bitter lettuce is fine, just a bit less delectable, to ensure your lettuce quality, you pick leaves for about a week and a half after plant maturation, and then pick the whole head, that or just pick the whole head early on, plants are fascinating:) also ADHD gäng y'all
As someone that has been diagosed with ADHD and has suspected for several years now that I also meet the criteria for BPD, I felt this entire session so hard. So grateful for this extremely validating experience.
loving these videos, mised them. few tips: the background can be a bit distracting at time, flashing lights is not ideal also, would love to see the chat
I just now noticed the green light LOL. I have ADHD, so I mainly just passively listen to Dr. K’s videos. I only glance over at the screen when he’s entering “lecture mode” and writes notes haha.
lettuce turned bitter because it essentially sprouted. I grew some lettuce before, in the heat they'll sprout which changes the chemical make up of the lettuce, making it bitter.
I hope there are more videos about BPD in the future. I know ADHD, depression and anxiety are more widely spread and relatable, but this was so informative and empathetic at the same time... I've rarely seen both in videos about BPD.
this really made me realize how much im relating to Minx's bpd struggles, tho I kinda just said to myself "enough" and closed myself away from people and all the drama that always happens, but now even when I would like to be social again I think all that trauma from many last attempts are holding me back making it sure that I don't forget what can and possibly will happen again...
im also on adderall (20mg extended release) and i agree it doesnt rly change my ability to focus, more like it helps me not procrastinate? like when i have a task i need to get done i can instantly get up and do it, rly improves my ability to prioritize my actions over whatever my brain is going on about lol
i like to explain it like.. it doesn't help you think, or focus, it just helps you turn your thoughts into actions. so like instead of thinking about cleaning my room all day, i'll actually clean my room.
This is so eye opening. I'm trying to go to sleep right now but I had to comment on how this, at least I feel has given me a massive insight into my own issues. Certain stress loops where I'm ultimately trying to satisfy someone(s) and beating myself up for even thinking in this way, and affectively tightening my grip to the point where it hurts me, and doesn't allow me to enjoy every day as I should. Thanks Dr K and thanks Minx (I know it's 7 months old now) I really think this conversation could help unlock a lot more enjoyment from life, and hopefully help me find the field I'm destined to be in and make the impact I have so desired instead of working as a means to an ends, again thankyou both.
As someone with BPD I really appreciate hearing Minx open up about this. I’ve been watching her content for a while so it makes me feel better about myself because it’s really hard to not feel constant guilt for my past actions, so I really appreciate this interview ❤
on the topic of Oxy: I live in Canada and somehow it's gotten to be that oxy is covered by our healthcare but other non-opiate pain-killers aren't. So doctors are encouraged to prescribe oxy because it's dirt cheap compared to any alternatives. I know someone who went through a major surgery, was prescribed oxy for the pain and ended up throwing it out and just pushing through with zero pain killers because she was too scared to use oxy because she has a predisposition towards addiction and everything else was insanely expensive.
after watching this and googling more about “borderline personality disorder”, and hearing dr. k mention “emotional dysregulation disorder” and thinking for a few months that i might have whatever “emotional dysregulation” is, i didn’t realize they are terms for the same diagnosis. because of this video i plan to get tested for borderline personality disorder/emotional dysregulation disorder.
If anyone else was confused like Mynx (and myself) while he was teaching the meditation, he did switch the order: At 1:28:29 he starts by going up. When he does it again at 1:29:02 (really fast) he goes down, and again at 1:30:24 he goes down again, where Mynx expresses her confusion! So if that tripped up anyone else, you're not alone :)
I'm really happy I watched this today. In terms of BPD, I experience all of the things that Minx explained - to the extend that I experienced all of the anecdotes she gave, to a tee, just this week. I’m really uplifted with the knowledge this session gave me, and thanks for giving me some tools to work on it. Thanks Dr. K and Minx.
Grow your lettuce hydroponically, you won't even need the dirt. There are even "curtains" of butter lettuce you can hang anywhere with sunlight(and power for the water pump).
I can't believe it took me this long to watch this video, I had it stored on my to watch for a good part of a year. It would've helped me understand someone very close to me with BPD much better sooner. Thank you so much for a very educative video, and thank you Justaminx for being so open and vulnerable!
Thank you for doing these discussions again. I get so much from this. I can't follow your lectures but these conversations are knowledge and understanding gold for me. Thank you!
This was an amazing video. I am so glad that you are doing interviews again. They are so helpful to me. When you talk academicaly about a subject, it kinda helps and it kinda doesn't. In an interview, we get so see a real person reclecting on stuff you say and it helps so much more. Also thank you for all your content, it helped me so much in my life and if there wasn't for you, I probably wouldn't have access to this stuff
1:30:30 "You need activity and grounding for meditation. Silence is going to be filled with your negative thoughts." My god. This is so true. I've only recently realized how bad it is to keep my mind unoccupied as someone with ADHD. Why has no one ever told me this before?
Holy shit you're incredible. My sister has BPD and she has given me the surface level explanation a number of times from her lived experience, but I'm very analytical and need to see the abstractions behind it and the way you boiled it down to the "and" vs. "but" distinction and essentially being unable to do divergent thinking made it completely click. My sister did DBT a number of times and eventually stuck with it long enough for it to have had a profoundly positive impact on her life, and I actually went through the DBT Skills Workbook myself to learn a bit of mindfulness as I have ADHD and difficulty regulating my emotions, but it didn't quite do the same thing for me that it was able to do for her. It makes a tonne more sense now. I score in the 92nd percentile for trait openness and divergent thinking is basically my default way of thinking and I suspect compared to the general population I heavily over-index on it.
PLEASE - Add "BPD" to the title! It was probably the most helpful video for me considering that I might qualify for both ADHD and BPD - and there is less content for the second one for now. Great video, much love
The idea that adhd medication doesn't improve focus as much as it improves our ability to change focus more easily is fascinating and something I must agree with.
This is the most ADHD stream I have ever watch. In a half hour they went from talking about BPD and ADHD to growing lettus and potatoes with a lot in between lol.
These conversations with streamers or viewers are so beneficial to me. I don't have bpd, or ADHD but I relate to some of this and just learning how to think through things and understanding myself and the people around me is so beneficial. Genuinely every single one of these interviews/conversations has helped me in some way and I've seen them all!
Here is the answer to the medication dilemma proposed n the beginning of this video, coming from my point of view as a diagnosed ADHD'er. It does not (necessarily just) improve your concentration ability, it mostly reduces the effort it takes to do either/both of the following; 1 - Getting started on something you need to do. Since we are used to viewing even the smallest of tasks (especially ones that we are generally not interested in doing) as big, out of proportion mountains that we need to climb. 2 - Needing the mental fatigue to keep going, especially in the early stages of starting on something. A nice example is the 'Marble Machine' (great music video btw). During the wind-up of the machine, you can see that it takes effort to get it going and it needs to slowly get up to speed. Same with a steam train getting up to speed. This time is critical, because this takes the most mental effort. I think this is where you see those results of kids being able to better follow up on their parents requests of them, because it takes less effort to follow up on them as this is where the medication helps. It counteracts the neurotransmitters efficiency problem, which is causing this increase in required mental energy. Further, once this marble machine, aka our ADHD brain, is up to speed, it takes less effort. Though it's not fully autonomus at that poing either, the crank has to kept being turned. Of course when we work on something that we are very interested in, we can get into hyperfocus where we actually can experience an advantage above neurotypical people. When you put a kid (or adult, for that matter) with ADHD in a test environment and tell them to perform all these tasks while monitoring them, with or without medication I think generally they'll be able to do it without much difference. Because this is such an abstravt enviromnent than the one that they are used to. In their familiar environment all the 'escapes' (or excuses) we have to avoid our repsonsibilities are all there and ready available. In such a controlled environment, with the added pressure for performance (which we thrive under), the result will likely be the same. The difference there internally (between these tests on or off medication) would be the mental energy it consumes. Probably the person that took the medicine will feel less drained after these tests than the one without. (Not counting the comedown or crash we feel where we get past the medicine's halflife) I hope this offers some insight, at least for how I ecperience and view it.
The medicine takes the noise away. Stops the super highway of input. Dulls the sensitivity to sound and light. I distinctly remember the first time I took it, just quiet, for once.
I really appreciated the extra consideration that DrK gave, such as the bowel movents. DrK is looking at the person and supplying science instead of starting from judgements and applying morality
I'm an agronomic engeneer and the bitterness of lettuce may be correlated with the rise of temperature. In fact it's one of the common causes. Did u remember if it was getting hotter when it happened? Hope that helped. Oh and btw, it's not harmful to eat it. It's an natural process of maturation of the plant.
I want this video to show me how to keep going with my life, and i just realized that a farm of potatoes, lettuce and peas is a damn good idea, now i have something to do. Thanks doc!
Don't wacthing streams but consuming streamer's content on youtube, I love the Minx roleplays, but I am glad to know her being herself too with this video! She seems like a nice person to have around!
I've been taking Diazepam for 20 years due to anxiety. Recently, finally, I've had a consultation with a psychiatrist & have a further appointment in September this year. I'm confused, stressed, angry as I don't have a concrete diagnosis - fundamentally I have a neurodevelopmental disorder "could be ADHD", but due to the timescale (51 y o now) could not diagnose me with ADHD. I now have traits of emotional unstable, antisocial & paranoia, just traits...what does this mean ? Who am I ? Where do I start to begin to look at my life, my identy ?
@@bobobsen Thanks Bob 👍I needed a response. Yeah it is frustrating...waiting until September feels like a lifetime away, but I'll look on the bright side, better late than never. Thanks again
Get a second opinion, you can be diagnosed with ADHD at any age. That’s a myth and you have it for life, it’s not something that goes away. ADHD meds will help with anxiety 9 times out of 10 so the fact that you haven’t been prescribed them is terrible advice from your psychiatrist
@@TheConvectuoso Thanks for this advice. I do have another appointment & therapy to come,so hopefully I'll get a full correct diagnosis. I think the traits I have now have developed from the ADHD, I'm guessing - if that makes sense! They offered me Quetiapine which is an antipsychotic drug to control my over thinking & help me regulate my emotions, but I need to quit the diazepam as both medications are sedatives & could be dangerous. Thanks
Thank you Dr. K!!! I love your interview videos so much!!! I never use exclamations, so that shows how much I love these things! I'm so glad that the whole Mr. Girl drama didn't phase you, and if it did it only was a means making sure everyone involved is engaged with in the most professional way possible.
(Bitter lettuce is probably too much sun, not enough water. Especially in Texas - I'm in Florida, mine needs dappled sun cool temps only, and regular watering)
As someone with 0 experience with bpd. I really really appreciate this. I feel like all i knew about bpd was how difficult it can be to deal *with* a person woth bpd. And as far as i know ive never known anyone with it! So thats not based on experience. God yeah bpd is represented really badly generally and im glad i know a bit better now.
1:03:00 I can relate to the BPD split mindedness, or B/W mindedness. One thing that really helps me not lapse into the habit and allow it to take over my thinking is to just remember I won't feel like it forever, and if I do something mean because of how I feel in the moment, I will actually feel regret or ashamed about it later. I call it the "fog of war/angry vision/red tinted glasses/danger mode eyes" whatever because it makes everything feel worse, but if you remember it's just your mind putting you on like red alert mode over something maybe objectively small, you can get through the initial raging without doing anything rash. I've had a LOT of instances of being stupidly angry at friends who I love a lot, but I have to remember that they have no idea how I feel in that moment and if I blow up at them it's going to look like I'm going nuts for no reason, like from their perspective it will have come out of nowhere, and that's not nice.
from what i know, hot and sunny spots make lettuce bitter, try growing it in a shadier spot or give it one of those growing cloth thingies to protect from the sun and heat
Watching the video at a faster pace and the rotating green background is very distracting. Maybe a more square image would be better. Less background and more zoomed into the faces.
I actually had pretty darn bad BPD, and since I started trying my best to go against it and form better relationships and (meditate and such thx to you), I actually don't feel the symptoms barely anymore and I felt it slowely going away. but thank you dr. k.
Man, when he talks about kids with ADHD being socially isolated but knowing how to be funny that resonated.
I felt that😭😭🥺
I like how everyone think they're the funny kid lol.
@@badplayer4348 being funny is a common social skill
What time was this at?
I'm ADHD, socially isolated, and also am one of hte unfunny ones! 😭😭😭
"Lets talk about ADHD"
*30 minutes later*
"Do you boil your lettuce?!"
ADHD in a nutshell! :D
Exactly I love it 😂
I was literally going down into the comments to say basically this xD
@@weakamna That's a no brainer of course derp.
Conversation in a nutshell. Staying on topic is for homework
By the way lettuce gets bitter when it's spending more energy to grow the flowers than the leaves or when it's trying to grow too quickly
Interviews are back let's go!!!
Literally how I feel. I prefer the interviews much more than the reddit posts
@@marcomendex8780 I like the reddit posts but only particular subjects, I like the interviews no matter what they talk about
Awesome
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
I was sooo waiting for these interviews to return...
Heat makes lettuce bitter. Try picking it first thing in the morning before the plant can get hot or keeping the plants in the shade during the hot parts of the day.
Thank you, this was the most important part of the lecture above :)
lettuce tastes a bit boring without the bitterness
@@AnarchistMetalhead you are not a morning person i see
Also if it has started to flower (aka bolt), it will turn bitter
Yess
Dr. K is incredibly empathetic. "Yeah, that sounds like an impossible situation." That was a statement loaded with empathy and his actions were too. I'd love to see him and Brene Brown have a conversation one day. Did anyone else see how incredibly soft he got with her when he realized she was upset? I love this channel bc it's been so hard to find a therapist or psychiatrist that really understands, listens, connects, and wants to help you. It's so clear he picked the right path.
As a person in a grad program for counseling. His videos are extremely valuable to me. Like he exemplifies everything we discuss on a weekly basis in my classrooms.
He’s amazing! I would like to apply his empathy
I had a therapist who was similar. The ability for someone to just acknowledge the reality without trying to "make you feel better" is crucial
here I thought I had a pretty good idea of what BPD is and does to a person, but listening to Minx and seeing her sadness and frustration really helped me understand how truly hopeless it must sometimes feel. really greatful she was brave enough to be vulnerable, so that we could all learn a little about such a misunderstood diagnosis. much love.
Huh 🤔 you might need VR for that to fully understand. Other than that leave it to the experts.
@@goliathbroodia942 what are you talking about, my dude?
@@dylan1160 Some need to explore first in order to truly find themselves before others. It may seem out of place but it would help the psyche of in a ever changing. World.
She was awesome. She handle all the stress very well. Minx was really nice and engaged.
I've always loved the saying "this too shall pass". Given enough time it has never ever been wrong.
Well the only time that it ends up being not true is when you pass instead. And I have a feeling that you won't be complaining to anyone about it anymore anyway.
yes, that's because everything passes. even you.
Will pass straight gas 💨💨💨💨
disagree
@@jkleins2869 so my autistic aunt didn’t die?
This girl is so funny, she's so blown away by lettuce I'm dying.
This was so entertaining
xD
Dr. K: And then where does the Adderall go after your stomach?
Justaminx: Out my *sshole
😂
Minx just can't help but generate content, no matter what the topic is supposed to be. The discussion about boiling lettuce was incredible
how
Christ, the moment when Minx started breaking down about not being able to control explosive emotions for no reason other than that something minorly inconvenient happened, or someone just BARELY scratched the surface of something slightly irritating. I've ruined A LOT of relationships that way. :(
I'm very sorry to hear that. That's why I love that Dr K. Puts in the effort he does to spread as much information and resources as he can. That whole section about learning and practicing forgiveness is such a big part. (Of course not all of it.) I sincerely hope you're on your own journey of self care and improvement.
Being a kid with ADHD when you’re my age was awful man. I only found out last year I had it when I finally saw a psychiatrist and so much shit made sense. When you’re a 27 year old and you were in school when mental health wasn’t really discussed or cared about, with a boomer ass Dad who only saw the things you couldn’t do the same as everyone else, shit was rough. I wasn’t able to perform in school the same way other kids were, but I was able to write a 211 page novel by 10th grade. Nobody ever ASKED me “why can’t you do your school work?” It was always “You need to do your school work like everyone else”. When I was in 10th grade, I couldn’t pass algebra because I couldn’t focus. So the schools solution was to take away my English class(where I was excelling), and replace it with another period of Algebra. When I continued to fail, because I was only given expectations and not support, things just continued to get worse and I’ve felt like a failure for the majority of my life. Therapy helped open the door and your coaching program is helping me walk through it. Things are finally getting better - I have an understanding of me and how I operate, I finally have some explanations, I’m not a failure, I’m just different.
Anyone out there struggling - keep trucking man. It doesn’t stay downhill forever. You’re not stupid, you’re not inadequate, you’re not less than anyone else because you don’t learn the same way as other people. You’ve got this ❤️
Thanks for sharing - I had a really similar experience in high school. My grades were terrible, so they would take away things that I actually cared about and was good at. It was embarrassing and only made me resentful.
For real bro. The look on my father's face any time I couldn't do something perfectly (even things he nor anybody else never taught me) was a look of unadulterated disgust/impatience/rage/disappointment/hatred.... (And the loud sighs, or the exclamations of "Oh my GOD", as though I was the worst person alive) I think that shit like this should be considered a crime. You can't even measure how much it fucks you up; it's seared into my neurons.
@@himbourbanist same happened with me 🗿
@@specialk8168 I feel you man. I’m a pretty “gifted” kid, I was top of my class all the way until I hit 9th grade where the idea of school kinda became something that didn’t interest me anymore. But I had set those expectations up my entire life so my Dad expected me to always be that straight A student, even if it wasn’t what I wanted. Constant feelings of failure, constant disappointment, punishment, both physical and emotional abuse, and a lot of other awful things have happened like my two best friends dying, one in high school and the other in my early 20’s didn’t help. But taking the good with the bad is a great way to find balance again, take your life back, and realize that expectations are bullshit. The only thing that matters is you and what you want to do with your life.
Just to ask did you have trouble with pronouncing words , difficult to understand sentences, therefor you would read the sentence over and over loose focus? I havnt been diagnosed with adhd but have with bpd , but I say words wrong, I don't understand thing, always had a hsrd time focusing , even reading, and maths , i always feel stupid. 😞
Regarding similarities of ADHD’s RSD, BOD, and trauma, as well as the ADHD grief mentioned at the end of the video:
The BPD sounds really similar to the Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria that comes with ADHD, in a few ways: In BPD, RSD, and other trauma response situations, we’re way quicker to perceive a vibe shift (e.g., frame-by-frame transition of a smiling face to a scowling one), way quicker to react to it, and with a much more heightened emotional response. For RSD, this is most often manifested in being hypersensitive to the possibility that we are being rejected, that our friends secretly hate us, etc., and our emotional response (even when we are self-aware of what is happening, and completely assured that our brain’s emotional “guard dogs” are, in fact, barking at their own shadows) will be equivalent to what we would be feeling if the imagined rejection was actually real, and that baseline is higher on top of it. An easy explanation for this, is of course, the tragically high rates of rejection and isolation most of us with ADHD experience as children, from our peers as well as our family, teaching us that we need to be quicker to avoid another emotional disaster like the previous ones we’ve actually faced, so that maybe this time, we’ll be able to react quickly enough to fix the situation or cut our losses.
It’s extremely common for adults recently diagnosed with ADHD to actually go through a mourning process, grieving over the lost years and potentially avoidable trauma and misery, the wasted potential, the realization that we’ve been so complicit in our own bullying due to the internalized ableism we are only just discovering, longing to go back and comfort our past childhood selves are we wept over yet another inability to “just be normal”, etc. I just saw a post yesterday about the way adults tend to dismiss the grief of children over “small” issues such as a broken toy or a change of plans as “excessive” or “unreasonable” or “disproportionate”, while failing to consider their capacity to experience an adult range of emotions with only a tiny fraction of the perspective adults are privileged with: to them, this is actually the worst thing they’ve ever experienced, in their whole (short) lives, and their emotional responses are, in fact, quite proportionate to the cause. When we add the emotional dysregulation (affect lability, etc.) of ADHD, it’s all extremes, all the time, and often shifting too quickly for us to fully process at the time… and all of this begins to burst out when adult diagnosis breaks the dam. We spend our entire childhoods experiencing such crushing and confusing loss, in excess of the norm, while simultaneously having our desperate struggles to just survive discounted and mocked by those around us (even by well-meaning parents!), only to finally find out that it’s not our fault, to begin unpacking the misunderstandings and lies we’ve dealt with, to look up from the wreckage of our lives to see the overwhelming challenge of healing before us… yeah, it’s no wonder it’s so rare for ADHD to exist without comorbid ODD, anxiety, depression, and so on-how could it not?
Wow, this is EXACTLY how I felt after being diagnosed at 19. The feeling of healing and figuring out the whole neurodivergence thing while still also feeling the need to catch up to those who are neurotypical or even our own expectation is exhausting when we haven’t even yet gotten to process and grieve the past.
Very well put.
I was diagnosed with ADD when I was graduating tertiary education and felt the same exact way. Thank you so much for sharing
this is messed up because this fits me exactly but i cant di anything about it
Makes sense being that RSD is not a legitimate diagnosis.
"many successful women have BPD".
It's the rage.
*It's the RAGE.* And the urge to prove yourself all the damn time. It's like narcicism turned inside out.learning to turn the thermostat down but keep the rage at a low simmer is what makes the success stew.
Been doing biofeedback meditation and have been playing with using a simmering anger to move into a relaxed focus.
Yeahhh it's like "who are you calling a failiure? Me?". It's the weaponisation of anger and pride to rub in to the doubter's face.
Can we take a minute to appreciate just how talented Dr.K is? I have been watching a lot of these videos, and it seems like no matter who he talks with, he always manages to bring light to some really important topics. When he and Minx deviate from the original lecture he still manages to cover new ground and bring everything back together in the end. I am so impressed by this man's capabilities Dr.K is really inspiring.
He is the master of "Yea, and..." to get the person on board with his line of thinking
Gardener chiming in: The greens we're used to getting at the grocery stores are typically much milder in flavour than what you can grow in your garden.
Part of this is simply chlorophyll which is bitter. The chlorophyll itself may have some nutritional value and indicates that the plant is more photsynthetically active, possibly more productive in terms of other nutrients as well. So there's a double edge there.
Heat stress, particularly when the plant's bolting process has been triggered, can also compel a chemical change that makes foliage more bitter. Not sure if this is a defensive mechanism or just a byproduct of the plant switching its energy into making flowers/seeds instead of leaves. Commercial growers, of course, try to avoid this in store produce as it definitely doesn't sell well.
Much of it is varietal selection and breeding which is based on several priorities.
- Marketing may have simply determined that more neutral tasting greens sell better. Homegrown mustards and arugula will be much spicier than the storebought stuff, too. People who grew up eating iceberg lettuce are not ready for that intensity. Growers may be selecting varieties and conditions that favour milder flavours.
- There are also logistic reasons influencing varietal choices: In the case of fruits including tomatoes, the produce is harvested under-ripe. Starches, which are structurally stiffer, haven't yet converted to sugars and the produce is sturdier for transport. They gas the produce with ethylene when it arrives in the region of consumption to force that conversion which would have happened on the parent plant. In the case of leafies, where ethylene would just rot them, they may have simply selected/bred varieties which are starchier or sturdier for any other reason. This doesn't directly undermine flavour, but if a farmer selling to an aggregator has to choose between shelf-life and flavour, they usually go with shelf life.
- The last market factor in terms of varietal selection is water weight, which is the profit motive at work. We pay for produce usually on weight. If they can grow something that grows fast and holds a lot of water, they can make more from their investment in volume than a smaller, more nutrient-dense variety that may not be padded with so much water.
Thanks, mate, that info is interesting, no sarcasm
In the mid 90's my little brother's elementary school teacher was a witch. She tried to force my bro onto Ritalin, but the problem was her. His doctor was like, "F-that, this teacher is NOT a Doctor." LoL. Doc prescribed placebos for my bro and miraculously the teacher was appeased. The sad thing is that my brother had to own the stigma of being called over the intercom everyday to "take your Ritalin" when he wasn't even on them. The problem was 100% a teacher who wasn't qualified to keep elementary school kids on task. Placebo can be an effective treatment for the patients, but he just needed motivation. That doctor was a Saint.
bully teachers are the worst. I'm an identical twin and we had a teacher blame us for not being able to tell us apart. wtf
@@chrischickering1959 That's ridiculous. Teachers need to understand the effect they have on the rest of their students lives. An immutable characteristic for you, but THEY, in fact, can learn to not be a A-hole. 💀
That’s a badass doctor. We need way more of professionals like that looking after our children… too many exist who exemplify a character that of the teacher.
Bro this runs deeper then u think. A lot of evil people in this world
How did this happen when you just listed at least 3 things that are illegal and go against HIPPA regulations? The intercom disclosing an individuals medication alone would have gotten the whole school sued...
I'm glad these videos are potentially being made again. Despite the recent controversy with the channel, streamers sharing their experiences with mental health is something that has a long-reaching effect for the community. Shows we all relate. There is a way to communicate these ideas without overstepping boundaries.. Transparency in the intended motivations for engaging in discussion and overt disclaimers
Nice pfp.
What was the controversy?
@@Mackieee There were a few youtubers calling out the doctor for blurring the line between patient/friend, claiming that Reckful's sessions for example were mishandled, and that there is more manipulation going on than meets the eye. It's a complicated issue. I personally believe despite the underlying incentives he's trying to do an overall good thing. We're all human and prone to corruption given enough power. When there are a lot of people being helped out for the better, we should give the man the benefit of the doubt, while insisting on reasonable transparency
@@disheveling ah I see. The guy can only do so much, hes not acting as a therapist and he makes that pretty clear.. these are all consenting adults just talking about their life experiences. Just because hes a doctor doesn’t mean he cant not be at work when streaming lol
Yeah, but hopefully it won't just be mostly streamers. Still, I'm glad interviews are coming back regardless
“When I cry, it brings color to my face & I’m kinda feeling cute right now.” Thank you for helping me understand why my tearful tizzies almost always end with me realizing that I’m not hideous.
You need help
"where does it go after the stomach" "out my asshole" when i tell you i BURSTED out laughing omg minx is so funny
Fucking classic. I laughed so hard.
Finally conversations again... been about time xD tbh the best way to learn this stuff.
I freakin love JustaMinx. I'm glad Dr. K. also thought she was so fun to talk to.
I was given Oxy as a pain killer after I had open hear surgery. I was surprised that the hospital let me leave without so much as a warning. If I didn't know anything about addiction, I could easily see myself having gotten addicted to Oxy.
To be honest when I had my teeth extracted they gave me painkillers, and now I get why people were addicted to them, you just feel great.
@@seorwhite3333 see, I felt awful when I was on that stuff after elbow surgery and never wanted to take them again
Not a doctor but I thought the issue with doctors prescribing oxy was that they were giving too high of a dose relative to the injury/recovery. Plenty of people have been on prescribed opiates for multiple years without abuse, but that can be dependent on the doctor’s discretion as well as the doctor/patient relationship.
@@ToxicHorsePucky another issue is a medical predisposition to opiate addiction, people can be addicted after one single dose and so giving someone like that oxy is real bad also taking it for years will cause chemical dependence and cause withdrawals if you stop
@@seorwhite3333 fr, I hadnt done any drugs yet when i got my wisdoms out. I was floating off the oxys lol. Now i look back like damn tg they didn't give me too many
BPD is too cruel, man. I hope every person going through it finds happiness and peace ❤️
1:24:07 That was touching, you can tell she needed to hear that. You're both wonderful people.
As a prolific gardener who goes on tangents to anyone who will listen about garden plants, the veggie garden conversation cracked me up. It's every conversation I have, given enough time to drift to plants.. But also if your lettuce turns bitter it's usually because it got too hot and started to flower! Lettuce and most leafy greens like cold weather :)
Seconding this! :)
Hearing Minx talking about dissociating for funsies hits me way too deep than I want to admit...
Yep. Masking fur survival is a thing....
Im in the beginning of the episode so far and i want to make one quick note:
As a kid with ADHD, my meds quieted the absolute storm in my head. Ive always equated it living in a train depot or trying to cross the road on the corner of a busy intersection. Theres a constant din of chatter, loudspeakers that are unintelligible, trains bustling by or cars whishing past, someone's radio is turned way up and i can't quite figure out where the music is coming from or when it'll be safe to cross the road, o just know i need to get over there and there is no pedestrian cross button.
Most days, about an hour after taking my meds, Rush hour in the depot slows down and that busy intersection goes from rush hour traffic to light traffic and now I can see the cross walk and now theres a button. Meds just make it easier for me to hear my train ticket being called or makes it like ive pressed the cross walk button and now I just have to watch for the walking man traffic light to light up.
More possibly to come!
Let me be honest with all of you…if I could get rid of my ADHD, I would!
Same
Same mate I take medication but in reality I would rather do an a single intensive surgery if it existed
Same, I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago, started taking medication and I'm starting to feel the difference
Same, I have ADD. And same with my autism, its exhausting af and many people don't really know how different autism can be. I have a milder form of autism and many don't believe I'm autistic. It's complicated.
Yeah but there was this weird story of someone getting shot on the head and when they got to the hospital it got cured? Or it like went away but it was A LUCKY shot forgot the story or name of the person.
Not saying you should but its weird and lucky it happend.
Damn it Dr. K your ability to understand the people you talk with hits beyond the screen even. I'm getting feels despite not suffering from the same issues. AoE healing at it's best. What a Sweet Potato you are.
Oh my god this might be the funniest guest on this whole interview series. I'm gonna check out her streams.
This is such a fun interview. Then again, that's two people with ADHD, how ever well managed. It's bound to be jumping around topics and be enjoyable to watch (that is, as long as no one is very depressed).
W8. Dr. K also has adhd?
@@Dayrunner13 yeah, is he?
@@Dayrunner13 He said he had attention problems and would have probably diagnosed as having ADHD if he was tested as a kid/teen. And trusting his own assessment combined with like ~80% of kids with ADHD keeping at least some symptoms for life, I'd say he's ADHD enough to at least be able to follow such a jumpy conversation without any problems.
@@Dayrunner13 he said "Im kind of ADHD too" at 1:31:00, not sure if he means it clinically though
@@Dayrunner13 Not at all LMAO. He explained countless times that people with ADHD have a "wind" mind, wheres he has a "water" mind
Watched this live, incredible interview and an amazing level of openness from Minx that I never expected. Would love to see her back!
I love when he knows he has to be serious and handles that so well
Realizing now at 22 that my "spacey behavior" throughout elementary middle and high school (which still tends to permeate through my college experience) is actually inattentive ADHD has been...frustrating but also very enlightening. My therapist four years ago diagnosed me with depression and anxiety and I kind of just rolled with it and didn't look any further into it. Cue me realizing that I face a lot of the same issues as my roommate who has ADHD then researching symptoms and being perplexed at how many of them lined up with my experiences exactly. It's easy to go undetected when I already struggle with the executive dysfunction that comes along with depression. I always thought that those with ADHD _had_ to have hyperactive tendencies but evidently that isn't the case at all. I've since learned that it's very undiagnosed, especially in girls/women. It suddenly makes a lot more sense as to why the various antidepressants I've used have never done much of anything for me--while SSRIs raise your serotonin levels, they actually simultaneously decrease the production of dopamine. Aka the neurotransmitter that those with ADHD lack. Sort of a recipe for disaster.
Also for Minx, thank you very much for opening up. I saw myself in you so much and this really helped me! ♥️
I love how Dr. K felt it necesasry to write Asshole, draw an arrow to it, and then underline it mid-conversation.
Yesss finally! It's been awhile since we've done an interview
I was really interested to hear what Dr. K was gonna say about splitting Adderall. Oh well, I'm sure he'll touch on it in a future video.
Yeah i wish he'd finished his thought
Splitting pills can cause an issue with absorption. Basically, the pill might not work at all...or be way less effective than it could be if you didn't break it. It's not recommended except for specific pills that CAN be split bc they are super fast acting and so absorb quickly anyway. A pharmacist will be able to tell you if you should never split them or if it's a med that can be split in half. Lots of them can't be.
For a lot of medications the distribution of the active substance(s) isn't guaranteed to be equal throughout the tablet, one part of the tablet could contain all of it or none at all, or it could contain an imbalance of multiple interacting substances causing side effects.
BPD goes from you’re my one and only favorite person ever to i can’t stand your sight in a couple of minutes and back to i love you when angy resolves.. i dated a psychiatrist and she couldn’t deal with or understand me.. no human and not even god can deal with being around this. it really hurts to feel forced to distance yourself from everyone because of how unpredictable and alienating and hurtful this mental illness is
I'm very grateful to Minx for sharing what she did. The way she feels in relationships down to the way she talks to Dr. K mirror so much of my past experience, and I feel a little bit less alone for that. Thank you Minx.
Glad to see you are bringing attention to these common issues that I feel like are often overlooked. Personnaly I would greatly appreciate it if you could maybe also talk about dyslexia ^^
1:26:06 "idk, I just did what you did, idk what you were doing" DR K SO WHOLESOME
This has been beyond the most helpful interview I'VE EVER seen on your channel. Not to say the others are less helpful, BUT THIS ONE speaks a lot to issues I've struggled with and many of my friends have struggled with.
I really appreciated how he worked with her throughout the entire stream. He keeps up with her pace and has LOTS of patience, empathy, and active listening, and still makes all the right points in a near flawless execution. Completely impressive.
I feel that Minx will watch this stream back many times in her life in the future (I would) and learn A LOT from it each and every time. I rewatch streams like these when I need A DAMN GOOD reminder!
So many great topics in this video. The seriousness of casually being prescribed something you could potentially become addicted to, and then dependent on it to function. Getting stuck in "black" thinking and having an ENTIRE day be ruined by failure or rejection. And lettuce! :D
This was soooooo good. Really related to Minx and her issues with relationships and BPD and wanting desperately to connect with people but being so frustrated and stuck with feeling things like anger and rejection SO HARD so just giving up and isolating. I cried in the middle of Whole Foods on this part when she was being so honest and emotional. I hope she can continue with DBT and getting help bc she really is a special amazing person. Dr. K saves all!! Thank you so much!!!!
Dr. K the ultimate healer is now back on the battlefield.
Crit heal is our religion
I have two kids with adhd, with one of them medication works wonders, it's like night and day. Around 3pm is when the difference is most visible; without it he acts like he's kinda drunk but with a lot of energy, but I've been teaching him that the medication is a tool not a solution, and he needs to learn ways to manage his brain also without it (adhd is a family trait, we have LOTS of experience finding solutions). But with my other kid, I'm not dead certain the medication makes any difference at all; and it may turn out that with the second kid it's not actually a chemical thing at all.
Yeah, there’s something like 20% of us that meds just don’t help (at least the meds currently available). Dr. Russell Barkley talks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo being a variant of/confused with ADHD (but technically distinct) that doesn’t respond to meds.
I often hesitate before watching the ADHD VODs as I don't really feel concerned, but I always end up learning things that could help me.
This is becoming my favorite channel. I’m having a hard time now and your content helps me hold on until I can figure out how to get help
I also don't think people without ADHD really understand what it is like. It's not so much a lack of focus but rather a very intense, uncontrollable focus on a single thing at a time and an inability to split that focus. I have to tell my friends all the time that I can't hear them when I'm reading/talking/listening to something/someone else. When I take my meds, however, it allows me to more easily direct where that focus goes (on top of turning the air around me a little thicker so that I cant vibrate as much) but it still doesn't allow me to split that focus or TOTALLY control it.
Lettuce farmer here, bitter lettuce occurs when the plant begins to bolt, bolting is when the plant will produce a shoot and then flower to reproduce, bitter lettuce is fine, just a bit less delectable, to ensure your lettuce quality, you pick leaves for about a week and a half after plant maturation, and then pick the whole head, that or just pick the whole head early on, plants are fascinating:) also ADHD gäng y'all
As someone that has been diagosed with ADHD and has suspected for several years now that I also meet the criteria for BPD, I felt this entire session so hard. So grateful for this extremely validating experience.
loving these videos, mised them.
few tips: the background can be a bit distracting at time, flashing lights is not ideal
also, would love to see the chat
Lol if the background is distracting then the chat will be sensory overload
@@Xx3SPAZxX chat is entertaining and helps me stay engaged in the video, the flashing lights not so much.
@@Xx3SPAZxX sorry if chat overloads your senses, i don’t believe that is the case with most people tho
im glad chat is gone tbh i found it super distracting because they were just memeing half the time
I just now noticed the green light LOL.
I have ADHD, so I mainly just passively listen to Dr. K’s videos. I only glance over at the screen when he’s entering “lecture mode” and writes notes haha.
lettuce turned bitter because it essentially sprouted. I grew some lettuce before, in the heat they'll sprout which changes the chemical make up of the lettuce, making it bitter.
I hope there are more videos about BPD in the future. I know ADHD, depression and anxiety are more widely spread and relatable, but this was so informative and empathetic at the same time... I've rarely seen both in videos about BPD.
Yay, interviews are back!
A masterclass in having a conversation with ADHD
this really made me realize how much im relating to Minx's bpd struggles, tho I kinda just said to myself "enough" and closed myself away from people and all the drama that always happens, but now even when I would like to be social again I think all that trauma from many last attempts are holding me back making it sure that I don't forget what can and possibly will happen again...
im also on adderall (20mg extended release) and i agree it doesnt rly change my ability to focus, more like it helps me not procrastinate? like when i have a task i need to get done i can instantly get up and do it, rly improves my ability to prioritize my actions over whatever my brain is going on about lol
i like to explain it like.. it doesn't help you think, or focus, it just helps you turn your thoughts into actions.
so like instead of thinking about cleaning my room all day, i'll actually clean my room.
These descriptions are both very accurate for me too.
This is so eye opening. I'm trying to go to sleep right now but I had to comment on how this, at least I feel has given me a massive insight into my own issues. Certain stress loops where I'm ultimately trying to satisfy someone(s) and beating myself up for even thinking in this way, and affectively tightening my grip to the point where it hurts me, and doesn't allow me to enjoy every day as I should.
Thanks Dr K and thanks Minx (I know it's 7 months old now) I really think this conversation could help unlock a lot more enjoyment from life, and hopefully help me find the field I'm destined to be in and make the impact I have so desired instead of working as a means to an ends, again thankyou both.
As someone with BPD I really appreciate hearing Minx open up about this. I’ve been watching her content for a while so it makes me feel better about myself because it’s really hard to not feel constant guilt for my past actions, so I really appreciate this interview ❤
on the topic of Oxy: I live in Canada and somehow it's gotten to be that oxy is covered by our healthcare but other non-opiate pain-killers aren't. So doctors are encouraged to prescribe oxy because it's dirt cheap compared to any alternatives.
I know someone who went through a major surgery, was prescribed oxy for the pain and ended up throwing it out and just pushing through with zero pain killers because she was too scared to use oxy because she has a predisposition towards addiction and everything else was insanely expensive.
That's fucked up, wow.
I see Canada is less than ideal in many more areas that I thought, lately. ^^
after watching this and googling more about “borderline personality disorder”, and hearing dr. k mention “emotional dysregulation disorder” and thinking for a few months that i might have whatever “emotional dysregulation” is, i didn’t realize they are terms for the same diagnosis. because of this video i plan to get tested for borderline personality disorder/emotional dysregulation disorder.
If anyone else was confused like Mynx (and myself) while he was teaching the meditation, he did switch the order: At 1:28:29 he starts by going up. When he does it again at 1:29:02 (really fast) he goes down, and again at 1:30:24 he goes down again, where Mynx expresses her confusion! So if that tripped up anyone else, you're not alone :)
I'm really happy I watched this today.
In terms of BPD, I experience all of the things that Minx explained - to the extend that I experienced all of the anecdotes she gave, to a tee, just this week.
I’m really uplifted with the knowledge this session gave me, and thanks for giving me some tools to work on it.
Thanks Dr. K and Minx.
Grow your lettuce hydroponically, you won't even need the dirt. There are even "curtains" of butter lettuce you can hang anywhere with sunlight(and power for the water pump).
I gotta do this for my guinea pigs, tired of spending $15/week on lettuce alone.
I can't believe it took me this long to watch this video, I had it stored on my to watch for a good part of a year. It would've helped me understand someone very close to me with BPD much better sooner.
Thank you so much for a very educative video, and thank you Justaminx for being so open and vulnerable!
always happy to see minx, even better to see her on this channel! felt like I related a lot.
ngl this has been one of the most fun interviews
Thank you for doing these discussions again. I get so much from this. I can't follow your lectures but these conversations are knowledge and understanding gold for me. Thank you!
This was an amazing video. I am so glad that you are doing interviews again.
They are so helpful to me.
When you talk academicaly about a subject, it kinda helps and it kinda doesn't.
In an interview, we get so see a real person reclecting on stuff you say and it helps so much more.
Also thank you for all your content, it helped me so much in my life and if there wasn't for you, I probably wouldn't have access to this stuff
1:30:30
"You need activity and grounding for meditation. Silence is going to be filled with your negative thoughts."
My god. This is so true. I've only recently realized how bad it is to keep my mind unoccupied as someone with ADHD. Why has no one ever told me this before?
Holy shit you're incredible. My sister has BPD and she has given me the surface level explanation a number of times from her lived experience, but I'm very analytical and need to see the abstractions behind it and the way you boiled it down to the "and" vs. "but" distinction and essentially being unable to do divergent thinking made it completely click. My sister did DBT a number of times and eventually stuck with it long enough for it to have had a profoundly positive impact on her life, and I actually went through the DBT Skills Workbook myself to learn a bit of mindfulness as I have ADHD and difficulty regulating my emotions, but it didn't quite do the same thing for me that it was able to do for her. It makes a tonne more sense now. I score in the 92nd percentile for trait openness and divergent thinking is basically my default way of thinking and I suspect compared to the general population I heavily over-index on it.
PLEASE - Add "BPD" to the title! It was probably the most helpful video for me considering that I might qualify for both ADHD and BPD - and there is less content for the second one for now. Great video, much love
The idea that adhd medication doesn't improve focus as much as it improves our ability to change focus more easily is fascinating and something I must agree with.
This is the most ADHD stream I have ever watch. In a half hour they went from talking about BPD and ADHD to growing lettus and potatoes with a lot in between lol.
and that was absolutely awesome for me :) yeah my adhd was happy, especially that my recent fixation is city gardening xd
These conversations with streamers or viewers are so beneficial to me. I don't have bpd, or ADHD but I relate to some of this and just learning how to think through things and understanding myself and the people around me is so beneficial. Genuinely every single one of these interviews/conversations has helped me in some way and I've seen them all!
Minx is so funny and I relate to her struggles. Thanks for the fantastic hour you guys!
Here is the answer to the medication dilemma proposed n the beginning of this video, coming from my point of view as a diagnosed ADHD'er.
It does not (necessarily just) improve your concentration ability, it mostly reduces the effort it takes to do either/both of the following;
1 - Getting started on something you need to do. Since we are used to viewing even the smallest of tasks (especially ones that we are generally not interested in doing) as big, out of proportion mountains that we need to climb.
2 - Needing the mental fatigue to keep going, especially in the early stages of starting on something. A nice example is the 'Marble Machine' (great music video btw). During the wind-up of the machine, you can see that it takes effort to get it going and it needs to slowly get up to speed. Same with a steam train getting up to speed. This time is critical, because this takes the most mental effort.
I think this is where you see those results of kids being able to better follow up on their parents requests of them, because it takes less effort to follow up on them as this is where the medication helps. It counteracts the neurotransmitters efficiency problem, which is causing this increase in required mental energy.
Further, once this marble machine, aka our ADHD brain, is up to speed, it takes less effort. Though it's not fully autonomus at that poing either, the crank has to kept being turned.
Of course when we work on something that we are very interested in, we can get into hyperfocus where we actually can experience an advantage above neurotypical people.
When you put a kid (or adult, for that matter) with ADHD in a test environment and tell them to perform all these tasks while monitoring them, with or without medication I think generally they'll be able to do it without much difference. Because this is such an abstravt enviromnent than the one that they are used to. In their familiar environment all the 'escapes' (or excuses) we have to avoid our repsonsibilities are all there and ready available. In such a controlled environment, with the added pressure for performance (which we thrive under), the result will likely be the same.
The difference there internally (between these tests on or off medication) would be the mental energy it consumes. Probably the person that took the medicine will feel less drained after these tests than the one without.
(Not counting the comedown or crash we feel where we get past the medicine's halflife)
I hope this offers some insight, at least for how I ecperience and view it.
Dr. K is so good. I love seeing his interviews, and I think this has been an especially good one.
Sounds like Minx has a great mom, she was 100% right about being careful with Oxycontin.
The medicine takes the noise away. Stops the super highway of input. Dulls the sensitivity to sound and light. I distinctly remember the first time I took it, just quiet, for once.
Yaaaay, interviews, I love them so much, thanks a lot Dr. K
I really appreciated the extra consideration that DrK gave, such as the bowel movents. DrK is looking at the person and supplying science instead of starting from judgements and applying morality
Yeeees! So excited to see interviews again!
I'm an agronomic engeneer and the bitterness of lettuce may be correlated with the rise of temperature.
In fact it's one of the common causes.
Did u remember if it was getting hotter when it happened?
Hope that helped.
Oh and btw, it's not harmful to eat it. It's an natural process of maturation of the plant.
I want this video to show me how to keep going with my life, and i just realized that a farm of potatoes, lettuce and peas is a damn good idea, now i have something to do. Thanks doc!
The highlight of this is Dr K realizing he may have eaten shady lettuce
Don't wacthing streams but consuming streamer's content on youtube, I love the Minx roleplays, but I am glad to know her being herself too with this video! She seems like a nice person to have around!
I've been taking Diazepam for 20 years due to anxiety.
Recently, finally, I've had a consultation with a psychiatrist & have a further appointment in September this year. I'm confused, stressed, angry as I don't have a concrete diagnosis - fundamentally I have a neurodevelopmental disorder "could be ADHD", but due to the timescale (51 y o now) could not diagnose me with ADHD. I now have traits of emotional unstable, antisocial & paranoia, just traits...what does this mean ? Who am I ?
Where do I start to begin to look at my life, my identy ?
That must be incredibly frustrating
@@bobobsen Thanks Bob 👍I needed a response. Yeah it is frustrating...waiting until September feels like a lifetime away, but I'll look on the bright side, better late than never. Thanks again
Get a second opinion, you can be diagnosed with ADHD at any age. That’s a myth and you have it for life, it’s not something that goes away.
ADHD meds will help with anxiety 9 times out of 10 so the fact that you haven’t been prescribed them is terrible advice from your psychiatrist
@@TheConvectuoso Thanks for this advice. I do have another appointment & therapy to come,so hopefully I'll get a full correct diagnosis.
I think the traits I have now have developed from the ADHD, I'm guessing - if that makes sense!
They offered me Quetiapine which is an antipsychotic drug to control my over thinking & help me regulate my emotions, but I need to quit the diazepam as both medications are sedatives & could be dangerous. Thanks
@Marko Stevanovic Thanks Marko 👍
This might be the greatest crossover I never knew I wanted
Thank you Dr. K!!! I love your interview videos so much!!! I never use exclamations, so that shows how much I love these things! I'm so glad that the whole Mr. Girl drama didn't phase you, and if it did it only was a means making sure everyone involved is engaged with in the most professional way possible.
(Bitter lettuce is probably too much sun, not enough water. Especially in Texas - I'm in Florida, mine needs dappled sun cool temps only, and regular watering)
Dr. K makes my stress go down
Big love to Minx. Thanks for this interview.
As someone with 0 experience with bpd. I really really appreciate this. I feel like all i knew about bpd was how difficult it can be to deal *with* a person woth bpd. And as far as i know ive never known anyone with it! So thats not based on experience. God yeah bpd is represented really badly generally and im glad i know a bit better now.
1:03:00 I can relate to the BPD split mindedness, or B/W mindedness. One thing that really helps me not lapse into the habit and allow it to take over my thinking is to just remember I won't feel like it forever, and if I do something mean because of how I feel in the moment, I will actually feel regret or ashamed about it later. I call it the "fog of war/angry vision/red tinted glasses/danger mode eyes" whatever because it makes everything feel worse, but if you remember it's just your mind putting you on like red alert mode over something maybe objectively small, you can get through the initial raging without doing anything rash.
I've had a LOT of instances of being stupidly angry at friends who I love a lot, but I have to remember that they have no idea how I feel in that moment and if I blow up at them it's going to look like I'm going nuts for no reason, like from their perspective it will have come out of nowhere, and that's not nice.
This was an amazing talk! Maybe also reflect BPD in the title, as I have the feeling that was talked about more than ADHD was
from what i know, hot and sunny spots make lettuce bitter, try growing it in a shadier spot or give it one of those growing cloth thingies to protect from the sun and heat
Really insightful episode! Loved the chemistry between you guys.
Watching the video at a faster pace and the rotating green background is very distracting.
Maybe a more square image would be better.
Less background and more zoomed into the faces.
Yeah a video about adhd with this type of background is a nightmare 😂😂
Me, who went to the comments 2 minutes in:
"Haha, if that isn't the most ADHD comment"
...."wait a minute"
I actually had pretty darn bad BPD, and since I started trying my best to go against it and form better relationships and (meditate and such thx to you), I actually don't feel the symptoms barely anymore and I felt it slowely going away. but thank you dr. k.
Trying to learn to meditate when you're panicking is like trying to learn kungfu when you're getting jumped.
Good analogy