DR. GABOR MATE: THE 7 IMPACTS OF TRAUMA

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    From his years of experience as a physician and addiction recovery expert, Dr. Gabor Maté has identified 7 major impacts that trauma has on a person. In this video, Gabor explains what the 7 impacts of trauma are. In the full series Healing Trauma & Addiction, he goes more in-depth about the impacts of trauma and how to heal from them.
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  • @lindanorris2455
    @lindanorris2455 วันที่ผ่านมา

    THE ENTIRE WORLD SHOULD BE LISTENING TO THIS MAN, THIS DR.

  • @donnabatchelor5691
    @donnabatchelor5691 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm 58 and still trying to sort out huge family trauma and so much death and loss over the years. It still bubbles up. Being around people is difficult, but I'm pushing myself to socialize more. Thank you for these impacts. It will help me know what to focus on in the future.

  • @Fiawordweaver
    @Fiawordweaver 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +212

    I’m 70. My addictions. Misuse of food and money. Losing my home as a single parent and the shame of failing my children. I write poetry instead of journaling to help me heal. I am healing. Here is one of my poems.
    “My face is a roadmap.
    My face is a roadmap of paralyzed fear
    It lost the contour of shine
    Where sadness appears.
    My face is a roadmap
    To my story afraid to unfold
    My face is a roadmap
    Of all the tears buried beneath the road.
    My face is a roadmap
    Where once there was light
    Molesting father,
    narcissistic mother and brother
    Darkened it
    to ashen abysmal night.
    For years my hidden molestation is what I thought shredded my soul
    that didn’t compare to the narcissistic abuse my mother and my religion bestowed.
    Trampling my heart, lungs, and vocal cords.
    My face is a roadmap
    Of religious demise
    Respect honor your parents at all cost
    Are the lies.
    I didn’t fight back,
    l didn’t utter a word.
    I didn’t even know what was a healthy loving world.
    My face is a roadmap
    Aging lines of frequent attacks
    From a shell of a mother
    Reminding me
    You’re selfish
    Self centered
    Regardless of the mountain of love showered to
    Her impenetrable heart sac.
    My face is a roadmap
    Wiped out by the tidal wave of trauma
    Voice smothered to the depths of all that
    Surreal drama.
    Good days I’m grateful to be alive,
    Rough days I struggle to stay to survive.
    My face is a roadmap
    69 years
    Stained with tears.
    It took years layered with abusive narcissistic tasks
    To turn my roadmap
    Into a pretend happy face mask.
    My face is a roadmap
    It conceals
    Reveals
    A generation of trust built on sand
    A broken trust in me
    Constantly needs
    A helping hand
    Today, I author this piece to drive out my fears
    I want to claim happiness
    What’s left of my years.
    My face is a roadmap
    Also shows joy
    It came with a price
    I’d pay again and again
    To have my precious girl and boy.
    There is a truth to a portion of my heart undefeated
    That truth my two children saved
    With love over their years
    They repeated.
    My face is a roadmap
    Blake stares
    To a far away place
    Where all children are gently loved
    Always kept safe. “
    Kimi swanson Minor

    • @SuperLuckao
      @SuperLuckao 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Wow So touching. I feel ur pain. May God comfort you.

    • @amandalynngibson8332
      @amandalynngibson8332 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Thank you for sharing your poem. I am familiar with some of those roads....
      Amen to the portions of heart
      undefeated.

    • @meyamalgosia1314
      @meyamalgosia1314 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      🙏🏻💚

    • @northstar5919
      @northstar5919 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Watch dr Carter and dr Ramani videos, it may be helpful. Nice poem.

    • @Mudpie68
      @Mudpie68 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      The future of the past is todays memory. And Tomorrows past is the future of all your yesterdays longtime forgotten. Until they circumvent your mind making you remember today……

  • @zinaidanebitno3624
    @zinaidanebitno3624 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +130

    May God bless this human being for every "drop" of knowledge he shares with us.

    • @dmt02459
      @dmt02459 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Mate has shared some useful information, no doubt, but he is only human, and it seems to me his advocacy of things like ayahuasca as a treatment for trauma are highly problematic.

    • @zinaidanebitno3624
      @zinaidanebitno3624 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dmt02459 Why would you think like that?

    • @MarK-dr5ne
      @MarK-dr5ne 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Аминь.

  • @mziwamadodagoba922
    @mziwamadodagoba922 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Favourite point is: you think you’re reacting to the present moment but you’re actually reacting to the past.

    • @trashteamracing8262
      @trashteamracing8262 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This, to me, is the hardest to come to terms with. Sometimes I find myself not taking a chance informed by past experiences, only realizing it after the moment is over. It becomes a vicious cycle.

  • @VanessaAbq
    @VanessaAbq ปีที่แล้ว +163

    I KNOW all of these to be true. 😔 I watched someone I deeply loved struggle with addiction as an attempt to cope with all 6 of these deeply engrained effects of his trauma in his life. He ultimately lost the battle 💔 but at least he’s now in peace.

    • @createone100
      @createone100 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🙏🏻✨💕

    • @VanessaAbq
      @VanessaAbq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@createone100Your comment came right on time. Not sure why but I’m feeling a little ill and heavy today. Your acknowledgment means a lot! 🙏🏽✨💞

    • @createone100
      @createone100 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@VanessaAbq God Bless you, and God Bless all of us who are helping those we hold most dear who are suffering from trauma. 💞

    • @VanessaAbq
      @VanessaAbq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@createone100 Thank you 🙏🏽 and amen! 💞

    • @willjones4199
      @willjones4199 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      My brother lost his battle to addiction too, he was 29. You are not alone. We have some amazing guardian angels

  • @kathystuckless4715
    @kathystuckless4715 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    You nailed it my friend
    I'm almost 51 and I can't seem to climb out of this deep hole I fell in

    • @kaajalknapp3332
      @kaajalknapp3332 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hang in there! I’m the same way.

  • @aspasiaholley
    @aspasiaholley 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    May we all live in a world that is trauma informed🙏🏽Thank you for sharing this.

  • @katekennelly3651
    @katekennelly3651 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Wow. This is the most eloquent and powerful description of trauma I have never encountered. Everyone should watch this to understand what trauma is and how it affects everything: your view of world, your ability to connect to it, your sense of time, and above all, your sense of self

  • @themajor333
    @themajor333 ปีที่แล้ว +264

    1 separation from self
    2 Disconnection from others
    3 Altered worldview- to hostile as opposed to good
    4 lifelong pain- pain that stays with you and results in constant escapism
    5 cognitive development - trauma inhibits brain development
    6 personal shame
    7 difficulty being present

    • @yukio_saito
      @yukio_saito ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Thank you for writing them down ✍

    • @amandalynngibson8332
      @amandalynngibson8332 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Thank you. The chapters in the book of my life.
      I know I have had guardian angels carrying me. My "childhood" bears no resemblance to that which most people experienced. No. I don't want to go through life from the stance of "victim", but I was a little tiny person! Paltry bits only of nurturing, care, attention, security. Abusive older siblings, I was handy scape goat.
      I was on my own.
      Always.
      By 13 I had stopped living with either "parent", as in 1k miles away, not across town. I was legally emancipated @ 14 cuz I needed treatment for a bleeding ulcer.
      This is the Truth. I am grateful for resiliance and innate positivity. Gifts to be sure. The good people who provided what my parents could not give: a safe environment and good role modeling until I was 18. These lyrics
      "This is a lonely lonely life, sorrow is everywhere" (Paul Simon) are true, but "Resiliant" (by Apalachia Rising) is what keeps me going. 🚣‍♀️🙏🕊

    • @btv8787
      @btv8787 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      my hero

    • @rachelkingsley668
      @rachelkingsley668 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@yukio_saito yes thanks to this person for the list

    • @NinaB1977
      @NinaB1977 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That's me in a nutshell.

  • @Sophia-hj3ko
    @Sophia-hj3ko 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Greatest Mind that heals and helps to navigate own self. Thank you, Dr. Mate! Respect and honour to listen to you.

  • @Albisriede
    @Albisriede 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Without Gabor I would never have realized that it was the trauma my then pregnant mother experienced during Allied bombing raids in the Berlin of WWII. I've long contemplated why sudden loud noises startle and shake me to this day. Her then isolation in another country without close loved ones nearby, may have added to this challenging situation and had its traumatic effect on her babe (me). So how does one remedy such injuries 7+ decades later? It ain't easy, and it may never come to pass.

  • @james.yt.00
    @james.yt.00 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    The best explanation of trauma. 💙

  • @pralines100
    @pralines100 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    How true. I always thought I was weirder than everyone else... But no, I've just been traumatized. Almost all the points sit on me + other issues. Finding books and videos about gabor opened my eyes to what has been weighing on me all my life. Now the only thing is...how to get out of it?

  • @StressRUs
    @StressRUs 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I'm a retired psychiatrist and addiction medicine specialist, as well as recovering alcoholic/addict, and a great fan of Gabor, also of Hungarian descent. However, these 7 steps are very flawed and just seat of the pants speculations. Also, he never mentions the most powerful recovery tool, that has healed my own childhood trauma defenses: Group therapy, in my case, 12-step groups. We cannot make this journey alone. Finally, he avoids (?) the spiritual dimension, which is central in my recovery journey. Love and peace for one and all! Just don't try to do it alone.

  • @pammugridge4106
    @pammugridge4106 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This man is a genius..

    • @loladanger
      @loladanger ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m new to his work and I have learned so much 😢

  • @vamama100
    @vamama100 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    It's true. I felt that disconnect out of body feeling. I started counting tiles in washroom and felt I don't see it, feel it asking myself why am I awake but asleep like in a blurr fog or not present. That was in 3rd grade. Uptill now the same. I am alive but aa if not fully awake ever. I can't hold a job. I have triggers all the time. I need attention but all I get is rejectiin. Yes, I married a narcissist who was beating me and I was running away but never escaping. I don't feel swlf worth. I need many things to fill the gap of my mother hating me never ever asking about me or being kind. I had never felt I was deserving of love happiness or money. Little to mention I tried to fill the role for other people to like me, having 30 odd jobs. Never was I longer on a job over a year.

    • @VanessaAbq
      @VanessaAbq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Despite how it feels, please know that you do deserve love, happiness and money. It’s “normal” to feel how you feel given what you’ve been through. Hang in there. It can get better. I’m glad you came across this video and hope you have additional resources to rely on as well!

    • @DeeDee-el8bd
      @DeeDee-el8bd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      sorry for everything you are going through,i have been there to finally encounter Jesus..He was there all the time and turn everything for the better..i opened my heart and let Him in..may God touch your heatt and listen to your prayers in Jesus name.Amen🙏❤️

  • @aameinternational2054
    @aameinternational2054 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    We shall be well

  • @Erri-kb6et
    @Erri-kb6et 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have lifelong pain inside but also my body hurts most of the time. Sometimes I feel I have had enough of this. But listening to Gabor and searching to find what has been going on I slowly begin to feel beter and have hope for the future. I have no need and no wish to see or talk to my parents and brother again. In fact I would prefer that they just dissapear.

    • @beatelanger2919
      @beatelanger2919 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sie sind Stark,Alles Gute,Täter sind Schwach!!!💌💌💌💌💌💌

  • @yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950
    @yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    All completely correct, thank you Gabor. X

  • @bettybodemeh3949
    @bettybodemeh3949 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I just came across your channel.
    Very detailed information. Thank you so much. I understand what I've been dealing with now.

  • @MInk00783
    @MInk00783 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Spot on. Thanks for putting it in words for me.

  • @kimwhitney2064
    @kimwhitney2064 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Confront-Deal-Heal & Move On ‼️

  • @tovecamillamcmorrow5741
    @tovecamillamcmorrow5741 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I have learned so much from this man

  • @thestagediveofficial
    @thestagediveofficial ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so eye opening!

  • @neetaarora7908
    @neetaarora7908 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    So true and well put across. Hope it helps those parenting and significant adults to children, and those who have suffered.... sensitive and with no way to be out of such effects. Thankyou. Bless you.

    • @judithpoulin2351
      @judithpoulin2351 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He should write a book for pregnant moms…

  • @NN-et7xt
    @NN-et7xt 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brilliant x

  • @MariaTResele
    @MariaTResele 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks DR Mate for sharing your wisdom.

  • @christinamoreno9212
    @christinamoreno9212 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for helping me.

  • @kmdvn
    @kmdvn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you It makes a lot sense what your saying, and you've helped me to understand things a little bit

  • @eccololo
    @eccololo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Bravo 👏👏👏.

  • @lynnhavili5332
    @lynnhavili5332 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you blessed Gabor Mate Trauma survivor similar to yourself ! Thank you.

  • @farializ
    @farializ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can relate, so informative and very helpful. Thank you 💯💜

  • @sitinuraini_27
    @sitinuraini_27 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He is amazing ❤

  • @star3006
    @star3006 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Another excellent video .✔️ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @aqelasayeda371
    @aqelasayeda371 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What an amazing human being u are. Truly inspirational. I wish I can one have a theropy session with u.

  • @fantastictraveller
    @fantastictraveller ปีที่แล้ว +8

    These are profound knowledge 💐💐💐

    • @_Lazare
      @_Lazare หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree

  • @karenlindley9265
    @karenlindley9265 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Such a powerful healing light for humanity..🙏🙏🙏💠🌸💕🌺🥺

  • @Nicnac13
    @Nicnac13 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I would love to watch the full series of these

    • @spiritual2020
      @spiritual2020 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There are countless long videos of Gabor Mate being interviewed. They are all good. Just start with one that calls you. ❤

  • @BA-ef4pr
    @BA-ef4pr 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don't have addiction, but I was abandoned prior to (she didn't acknowledge i existed) and just after birth. I wish I could find if this doctor talks about how to self-heal from being abandoned at birth.

  • @alanfrancis9225
    @alanfrancis9225 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s a road of Awarness development making the unconscious conscious. I would probably say for the first 40 years I was 3% conscious. Now after a hell of a lot of work I am up to 30% conscious.
    The body hold our secrets. I left my body to survive. Getting back in is my journey.

  • @martinortiz1019
    @martinortiz1019 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Endless Thanks for your sharng your wisdom!
    You are a blessing to Humanity!
    You deservena Nobel Prize Sir.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No, he is not original. His work is based on the late Carl Rogers.

  • @islandlass74
    @islandlass74 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Exquisite 💚🌲

  • @sharidavis468
    @sharidavis468 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Attachments are pivotal to our well being - I love ur work @drGaborMate - I would love to hear your wisdom re: complex ptsd please

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wisdom? We all have it! GM is not a trained psychotherapist.

  • @kerilotta5421
    @kerilotta5421 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow so true

  • @roxiroxi4181
    @roxiroxi4181 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm recognizing me in different points...i'm very lucky 'cos even in bad sufference most of my life i've never need sustances or need to disappear...instead my love did it! Before the addiction then death from addiction...i've never understand his self destructive desire...he was a so special man and i have to live with my sorrow missing him all the time...

  • @AbdulSamad-qv4tr
    @AbdulSamad-qv4tr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    story of my life

  • @recoveryafterrape
    @recoveryafterrape ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think until letting pain go rather than deal with it.😊

  • @jacintacruz9492
    @jacintacruz9492 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The world is a very bad bad bad place lots of hurt and pain.

    • @PlanetZipp
      @PlanetZipp 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The hardest thing in life is to live.

    • @lovemessenger997
      @lovemessenger997 หลายเดือนก่อน

      3. Altered worldview

  • @fillofchocolate
    @fillofchocolate 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How can I get rid of disability that caused by emotional trauma?

  • @warrenhaven2216
    @warrenhaven2216 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I want to heal. I hope y’all are healing too.

  • @hangryturtle9006
    @hangryturtle9006 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I got the first 3, learned about total depravity, reading the Bible every year. I think forgiveness is a major key to conquering PTSD. My world view is definitely changed, but I don’t need the world to be a good place like I used to, I know it never was good. Look what it did to Jesus. Heaven is the good place we long for. Follow Christ, obey his commands, believe him! Let the world be wicked, and realize that you truly CAN’T trust most people. And realize that God already has a plan in place to deal with ALL of this mess, including your pain. He’s going to wipe every tear from your eyes and I can’t wait to see such perfect love!!!

  • @garioma1344
    @garioma1344 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Two other trauma experts to explore are Bruce Perry and Daniel Siegel. Like Dr Mate, they are amazing. As a former trauma therapist Dr. Mate, Dr Bruce Perry, & Dr
    Siegel were my go to for training. 😉

    • @stacybynum3389
      @stacybynum3389 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I read Dr. Bruce Perry's book What Happened To You and loved it all the way until I got to the end. He and his friend Oprah say that the trauma "didn't happen TO YOU, it happened FOR YOU." and that is bullshit. Go tell that to people who were abused and not protected from harm. Tell that to children who grew up unwanted by their parents. What a disgusting thing to tell people. I am trauma informed. I believe in healing, but that is a harmful ideology. Like gaslighting victims to tell them it happened FOR THEM.

  • @hew195050
    @hew195050 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ALL of the above.

  • @hoperoddy6677
    @hoperoddy6677 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Makes total sense

  • @christinat56
    @christinat56 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Dr Mate, I have to let you know that you you have helped my soul. I needed to understand in order to let go. I’m about to be 54. I am one of seven suffered severe trauma at 4 years old became an amputee no one would comfort me in the hospital all the adults too concerned who was to blame. I just needed a hug. ❤❤❤I am so grateful I saw this pop up for me on TH-cam.. I was ready finally to hear this….you just lite the way the path to save me. I am forever grateful to finally set myself free from dabbling in the past, a lost soul in the dark. ❤❤❤ 🫂

  • @terencehennegan1439
    @terencehennegan1439 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    And to think everyone has trauma !... for this reason alone we all have the responsibility to be introspective rather than putting all the emphasis on the outside. Seems very few are.

  • @jonnicklison449
    @jonnicklison449 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I might have finally found someone who is actually teaching describing my 50yrs of being 😮
    I’m not mad just interested

  • @ShawnTylerMusic
    @ShawnTylerMusic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So how do I work to correct these and heal?

  • @nataliadartchia1781
    @nataliadartchia1781 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The story of my life

  • @monklast9752
    @monklast9752 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stuck. Everything in me tells me to leave. No place to go. Stuck.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There is hope!

  • @savi374
    @savi374 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @nicolecarnevale3226
    @nicolecarnevale3226 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow. All.

  • @-.-Rob-.-XY
    @-.-Rob-.-XY ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wish I didn’t know they are all true

  • @imit23
    @imit23 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How do i subscribe

  • @lugheasy7979
    @lugheasy7979 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So what to do with them if there just here now wondering around lost unless or is it people who groupe up in bubble the issue ? Perception can be tricky 🤔

  • @through.a.barrel.she.breathes
    @through.a.barrel.she.breathes 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lifelong pain for sure.

  • @bigsmith6240
    @bigsmith6240 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I must truly be disconnected with myself because I can honestly say I have NEVER had a gut feeling about anything.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe u did without knowing...

  • @artemiomusica5465
    @artemiomusica5465 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What's the healing ? How one can get healing? How's happening healing from trauma?

    • @tamraya23
      @tamraya23 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good therapist or self-healing
      There are couple TH-cam channels of clinical psychologist that are helpful. One is by Patrick Teehan. Also a book called Coming Home. I’m a trauma survivor so I hope the resources that are helping my self-healing helps you

    • @artemiomusica5465
      @artemiomusica5465 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tamraya23 if you're comfortable about speaking your own trauma could you talk about yours. I would like to know what trauma you have ? And thank you for your comment. I appreciate

    • @tamraya23
      @tamraya23 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@artemiomusica5465 I grew up in a chaotic household with two parents, who grew up in dysfunctional families, constantly arguing and screaming at each other. They were physically and emotionally abusive to me and my siblings.

    • @artemiomusica5465
      @artemiomusica5465 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tamraya23 I understood. If you wish we can be friends.

    • @tamraya23
      @tamraya23 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@artemiomusica5465 support groups would be better (online or in-person). If you can’t get yourself to go to an in-person one then consider online thru TH-cam posts on for example the channel I mentioned or joining online support groups held by therapists. I wish you the best of luck in your healing journey 💜

  • @davidwhitecross9811
    @davidwhitecross9811 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    How do rid yourself of trauma?

  • @carol-us4xn
    @carol-us4xn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Every human being has experienced trauma. They just don't harm, destroy, or murder other people who don't even know them. Sociopaths do that. No excuses or exception to the rule 💯 👌 of law. No one else is responsible for your actions, only you.

  • @africangirl189
    @africangirl189 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I got no traumas with me Alhamdulilah.

  • @Logan13372
    @Logan13372 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Okay so when can I die and stop feeling awful

  • @sarella4
    @sarella4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I knew the root of my coming lede's suffering was TRAUMA the moment in which I was by my parents conceived. Surely, I have not been alone in this knowledge for 74 years. Now, when, finally, I am about to die from a life without a moment ever lived, at least I can give thanks at last for this wonderful man's finally opening the world's eyes to the source of all of its suffering. Dr. Mate is the only and true Messiah, far greater than any Christ who ever lived.

    • @pammugridge4106
      @pammugridge4106 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    • @taralilarose1
      @taralilarose1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He is not a hero, not an angel and definitely NOT the Messiah. So sorry for your suffering which also causes disconnection to YESHUA and Yahweh (God).

    • @johnnyt.sollitto512
      @johnnyt.sollitto512 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Sarella so sorry you’ve had that much pain in your life. But when strangers respond to you here no love ❤️ is real
      Maybe you haven’t experienced much love but believe me lifes brought me to my knees many times - and these hells have been my blessings in hind sight
      Love is real bc God is love. We are all of his creation just not Christ Jesus who came to teach us the way
      Why did he come ? Bc the world had become so disconnected, lost in sin, so far from our creator father - that he came down in his Son to save us - show us the path back home.
      You’re life is just a smaller play of why Christ came down to earth - if he did it for the world - he can do it for you my friend.
      Your trauma just disconnected you from the love from all that truly is…. You can heal and its never too late - o/w I wouldnt be wasting my time
      Just surrender to the Lord in prayer. Lay it all out - asked to be saved - what do you have to lose?
      My friend just passed - LEE AKMAN 5-28-2023 NYC RIP - she was 100 yrs young. That means you have another 26 years - thats a whole lotta time to get back on track and live the life God meant you too
      And its not about doing anything so forget that too old nonsense bullshit - it’s simply about BEING
      Whether you’re a President or street sweeper - what matters is BEING connected to God, to source, living every moment in His presence
      And thats all prayer is about - coming into his presence. In fact you’re in my morning prayers. Will be praying for your renewal in spirit - your trauma disconnected you from your spirit thats all - and with simple prayer and work you can get reconnected to source, God, Christ very easily. Baby steps of faith each day thats all.
      A quick way I found to touch God when I was very low was to help those in worse position than me. Give to receive.
      Believe me brother I do not waste my time. It is all possible and I hate to see anyone in unnecessary pain for any longer than they have to be.
      I as lost too - for decades - its only 2 years now that I’ve been saved. I was like you in a state of hopelessness for many years…..but sometimes thats what it takes.
      Thats why many drug addicts find Jesus… nothing brings. You down to nothing like a good drug habit, lol. But if it gets one to Christ well then damn thats a pretty good drug habit. 😅
      You’re in my prayers. Just ask and yea shall receive. Just get started and NEVER GIVE UP - you will get there. Never too late. God bless 🙏🏼❤️

    • @VanessaAbq
      @VanessaAbq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @sarella4 Even your last days can become beautiful! And no, I’m not gonna say you just need to give your life to Christ, yada, yada, yada. Once upon a time I was that person and would have said that but thankfully that period of my life is over.
      Although that period of time in my life was a very authentic one for me, something still always felt “off.” It still irks me that people don’t understand you just can’t “pray” yourself out of depression, or that you must have sin in your life and need to repent, or whatever other things they may believe. Don’t get me wrong, I believe most people that believe those things have good intentions but they are also, to put it frankly, stuck in the rut of old, traditional beliefs that in the end, just can’t help everyone!
      Anyway, that’s a different discussion for another day but my point is that once I started opening my mind, it turned out that the very things I had been taught to be bad” in Christianity were the very things that actually ended up helping me through the HARDEST days of my life and now I’m better than ever.
      Obviously, I learned that there’s only “one way” but that there is A way (apart from religion) that can lead you to profound peace, joy, love, & gratitude. I know this because it’s my current experience and I hope from this point on, you will discover the things that lead you down the path where you find this to be your experience, too.
      Best wishes!

  • @waindayoungthain2147
    @waindayoungthain2147 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If’s not to explain the trauma hidden behind the violence of the self drama 🎭 in the war it’s overwhelming unacceptable for the defense of real of the country in not human souls the describing of self violence destroyed the others 😟🙏🏻.

  • @florite007
    @florite007 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You know what works great on this? Eft Techniques, the clinical ones

  • @RevolverPicturesYT
    @RevolverPicturesYT ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First!

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    grief and rage constantly rape my soul

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ik the feeling...find a good therapist.

  • @waindayoungthain2147
    @waindayoungthain2147 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why’d to be right in the other sight is your right! What’s about the underlying you had not seen through your honor😟. It’s the manner or your drama drawings !

    • @waindayoungthain2147
      @waindayoungthain2147 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thence the Out of your is the performance to be needed praise🤥😟, it’s not true for the other players was trusted you🙏🏻! What’s ever happened I accepted that to make it better.

  • @taylorheaver6580
    @taylorheaver6580 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Made me feel sick.. 😅

  • @florite007
    @florite007 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Like during the past 3 years PUN when most sleeple were so scared for something invented and then trusted blindly the liars over those telling them the truth

  • @kathleenmartin8249
    @kathleenmartin8249 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So now what? I have been to a multitude of therapist over my lifetime with not much help. Everything cost money and exceedingly hard to find decent therapy.

    • @taralilarose1
      @taralilarose1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Decent therapy only available thru the Word of God!

    • @nodigBKMiche
      @nodigBKMiche 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      buy his book, & start helping your self heal❤❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰

    • @miyaiun4723
      @miyaiun4723 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi. I know its hard, I have been through it and still dealing with it. Havent had therapy. Tried finding answers în so many ways and tried improving and forgiving. I know my parents didnt get what they needed from their parents and ended up treating us in certain ways. I think we have to work on it all the time, try finding the patience of being kinder with everyone around us. Just because this world is full of suffering, and we can try helping in any way we can. We forgive because we understand that certain people cant change because they are too engrained în their ways. Maybe inside they wish they could, maybe they dont..it doesnt matter. We have to try not acting like them. And if we do sometimes, try again. I wish I could take back the times I answered în anger or maybe I didnt do enough for others. I tried, and I keep trying to improve because I know I fall short of certain stuff. And I wish nobody would suffer, so that helps forgiving. Getting to Know God helps with everything, understanding Him and why we have this reality will help you change. I know He tells the truth and He wants us to go back to Him. This life is about us trying to get back to Him. Focus on that and you will see how you will finally understand why things happen the way they do and that will help you. I hope I made some sense. Wishing you all the best.

    • @kathleenmartin8249
      @kathleenmartin8249 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miyaiun4723 After many years of efforts and giving up and over the last two years, I just kept telling myself I am not giving up. I’m staying the course and I think finally I can see the end of the tunnel or some really great things that have happened. I’m off the Lyrica six months which is for the CRPS, which is a chronic pain condition, and I have reoccurring virus that I haven’t had in months as well so I’ve also been practicing heartbreak coherence and forgiveness and mirror work so I have some really good days, but I still have bad days. I agree with you totally it’s a lifelong thing, but at some point not only are we to find our way back to God but to become the person we came here to be. In other words to be the change you wanna see in the world. I’m finally beginning to really believe and feel that I can be happy and grow after a lifetime of struggling but I didn’t have all the things available to me like we do now and isn’t that a gift and something to be grateful for by the way gratitude is a huge key to all of this. There’s always something I can be grateful for. For your feedback, I send you love and wish you joy and peace.

  • @TenDollor
    @TenDollor 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I can't sleep

  • @xmifi
    @xmifi หลายเดือนก่อน

    love trauma. There isnt a single thing in my life that isnt traumatised

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You ❤️ trauma? 😂

  • @miriamwells35
    @miriamwells35 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👍

  • @AnaRanja
    @AnaRanja 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Eu am avut o copilarie foarte fericita lacul meu zapada mea pamantul meu padurea si campiile izvorul meu caii si cainii mei
    Cand am crescut am inceput sa fiu atacata pervers si de personaje pe care nici macar nu le cunosc

  • @zevan6147
    @zevan6147 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👁

  • @papi5377
    @papi5377 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Traume przechodzimy w praktyce niemalże codziennie.
    O czym głośno się nie mówi.

  • @AnaRanja
    @AnaRanja 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Libera exprimare! Si varietatea alegerii
    Nu poti sa mi cenzurezi alegerile numai ca nu ti plac tie

  • @StressRUs
    @StressRUs 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So, basically our dear Gabor is describing Complex PTSD symptoms: flashbacks, emotional self-numbing, toxic shame, reliving nightmares, chronic anxiety, hypervigilance, loss of basic trust, poor attachment behavior, and depression. I just got off the phone with my only living first cousin, who is a classic untreated alanon, and was evicted from her marital home several months ago in huge blow-up with her common-law husband, who she had been essentially enslaved to for 24 yrs., giving him about $80K for their common abode and nearly killing herself to get him to myriad treatments for small cell lung cancer, only to find out he had been smoking all along and his family hid this from her and were unsupportive of her efforts. Her toxic shame spewed in all directions and she was always angry, much like Donald Trump and his MAGAT followers. We have created a national minority of these poor souls by birthing children who we could not care for or protect from abuse. I am, also, one of these and my 12-step groups are filled with such dear souls. Please do not bring another unwanted/unplanned child into this dying world already past all its tipping points for full-on climate collapse.

    • @annalisavajda252
      @annalisavajda252 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes Gabor has mentioned the problems of our world "leaders" being broken people too Trump is strong and intelligent doesn't drink or smoke but I don't know that makes him an overly compassionate person or more so he had an America first attitude many think cruel but Canada can't even care for its own citizens and pretends it can help others? That's just a lie. Unfortunately about the children some women are in domestic abuse situations and being coerced by their spouse and family to breed and have the horror of knowing their childs life is or will b null and void as is their own. Shocking how many think having children will save a marriage or one abused kid needs a sibling for company etc. Certainly the justice system doesn't care much for victims either.

    • @elisem1912
      @elisem1912 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Love and peace for one and all, right? You should take heed of your other post, "Dr."

    • @StressRUs
      @StressRUs หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@elisem1912 Well, I'm not you, so I must be doing something right.

  • @kitschmygrits4836
    @kitschmygrits4836 ปีที่แล้ว

    The frantic music at the end of this clip gave me trauma.

  • @garethevans7602
    @garethevans7602 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wish I didn't identify with every one of those

  • @db9640
    @db9640 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thankyou heard you Australian ABC Radio... trauma and misery from a capitalist exploitive money centric system we are not meant for the sausage factory (damn the colonizers)I live in my pumpkin shell work for three months take nine months off I'm not a spend thrift sunshine & birdsong bread & butter are enough for me.. slowly but surely we are doom are we not..?

  • @waindayoungthain2147
    @waindayoungthain2147 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If No understand what to explain by the parents it’s addictive of no self respect please 😟🙏🏻.

  • @jennj9026
    @jennj9026 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ummm...what about those same descriptors for people in our OWN country! Hello! Wake up.

  • @kforest2745
    @kforest2745 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never turned to addiction that’s oxymoron I was highly motivated to stay true to my nature no fkr gets to fk with that my integrity is solid

  • @siobhanstrauss8492
    @siobhanstrauss8492 ปีที่แล้ว

    My love of voodoo dolls 🤔 “ that’s you that is”

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You know, just about anybody with a reasonably good head on their shoulders could do and say the same things GM is saying. You dont even need to be an MD. Thats the world we live in: pick your topic, learn about it, and pronounce yourself an expert.

    • @elisem1912
      @elisem1912 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Of course. 99% of success is just "showing up."

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@elisem1912 Thanks to ppl's gullibility...a sucker born every minute. I'm not one of them.

    • @elisem1912
      @elisem1912 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@robynhope219 I hope you find what helps.

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤

  • @andreantony5017
    @andreantony5017 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    MAKING MONEY FROM HIS OWN UHEALED TRAUMA