Bunch of borsesh1t. Not taking accountability for your own free Will and will power is insane. Blaming some imaginary disease for not being able to stop doing something is taking accountability from your own mind and own life choices and saying it’s because of this etc. perhaps the problem is after taking one, you choose to not care anymore, he lowers his inhibitions and practices his free Will of not stopping.
@@maxwellokafor1071 ever had a voice in your head telling you non stop to drink water because you are very thirsty and you can't cope without... welcome to alcoholism or any drug addiction
I’m an addict and alcoholic. Black out drunk with no shut off point but to black out. And did ICE for 7 years total it ran its course. But proud to say I’m 41 months sober Now.
My ex-husband died two weeks ago to alcoholism at the age of 40. I have resented and been so angry every time he "chose the first drink" because he also couldn't stop the disease once it began. It ravaged his body with congestive heart failure killed him, leaving our three kids with no father. It's a family disease that destroys everyone around them.
It must hurt you to listen to people like Hitchins pretending they know what's up about a condition you watched a loved one die from. 💔 you have my deepest sympathy.
❤biggest hugs hunny! Losing a spouse is very difficult especially with children. Somedays it's so difficult but I made it to the next day! Sending love ❤️ from one widow to another!
Oh, I’m so sorry. I think a lot of us understood your reaction. It is so incredibly frustrating to try and try to explain that they aren’t just hurting themselves but the family too. And, as we all know, it’s rare that talking has any effect at all. Or it’s your fault somehow. I lost my father to it when I was young. And my brother got wet brain disease, where alcohol pickles the brain. He’s in a state facility now. I live in an over 55 neighborhood and the drinking is unbelievable. You’d think they’d know better. Nope. It’s like a freshman dorm. At this age, they can’t even see that their wives and kids are just tolerating them and even making fun of them. It’s insidious. I truly hate alcohol and the status it seems to hold in society.
@@olualafe3577Not quite. With drugs, the government does everything humanly possible to destroy your life. The only way to possibly come back is to become a cheerleader for the drug war
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. My thoughts will be on my new associations, people who are not using and who have found a new way of life. So long as I follow that way, I have nothing to Fear!
I have more experience the Mr Perry .. There are 1000s of alcoholics who can have 2 or 3 even 4 then stop.... So that's you have control.... It's that first thought of drinking say at noon or 3 pm.. thats control it self discipline. A self discipline problem . Typical liberal making excuses... its weak and backwards
@@MyKarva It’s obvious you’ve never been there or you wouldn’t have made this comment. It makes perfect sense if you’re an alcoholic. And yes, of course drinking daily or habitually would classify you as an alcoholic.. but the premise behind the quote is the ability to quit once you’ve started, which if you’re an alcoholic, is nearly impossible to do.
I was drunk in my past...I stop drinking when my first child was ill and died. I promise to God,that in his memory ,I would never drink anymore,for the rest of my life. Since than ,11 years. He saved me of this drug.
@@thenoneckpeoplerepresentat8074 ehh I'd say it's more 50/50. I've known plenty of addicts and alcoholics who were genuinely nice people that just made bad decisions. There _are_ plenty of addicts who are horrible people, though I think it's fair to say most of those horrible people were already bad to begin with, drugs just enhanced it.
As a addict all i have to add is how much i admire him for being able to say "im a drug addict" on tv. It seems easy, but to make that declaration not in your mind but on tv is very brave
I’ve never tried drugs in my life, but I can absolutely believe it takes serious courage to admit it out loud and ask for help. Every day you take another step forward is amazing! Well done!
Truly. Having been addicted to most things and successfully quit nearly everything cold turkey, alcohol has proved itself to be the worst. I think heroin gets a bad rap from people that have never done it... it sucked hard but and thought I was gonna die, but once it was over, it was over for good. It was gone and not even a question about going back. Alcohol is a different beast. It's never gone. I'm sure everyone has different brain chemistry, so that may not be the case for everyone but I've known more than a few people that kicked H and say that alcohol is much harder to quit.
It is indeed brave, and I think, important. Breaking the stigma is the only way we as a society can move from vilifying addicts, to helping them regain control of their life.
" Awareness proceed control" It's so important for ourselves to refect when we are "irrational". It's rational and is you take notice of what happened, how you felt, what that reflexive voice said, etc. You'll discover patterns, and hopefully then causes.... Please seek professional care if you have an issue that you want help with. These ideas have helped me
I thought the same, especially with a topic that touched him so personally and deeply. He's really humble to admit his addiction too, later on of course, with the hopes to help others going through the same hell.
He understood it decently, but in fact as an alcoholic he actually doesn't have a choice even in using. He implied that his loss of choice comes after first taking it, but the fact is that he actually had no control over staying sober. That's the crux of the issue and one that, unfortunately, gets lost in the rooms of AA quite a lot.
Rip Matthew. I understand how people say u have a choice but like Matt said after that first drink and you’re an addict/alcoholic, there is almost nothing that will stop u from keeping it going for that night, even if u realize u hate what ur doing and will regret it in the morning
@@gbbarn Hey! that’s true. The withdrawal symptoms go away and are temporary. That’s what I meant. You won’t suffer forever through the dts or shakes or terrible feelings that come with it.
Sad for Matthew. He clearly knew what a huge problem he had. He clearly had to fight EVERY DAY, to NOT take a drink, or take a drug. I suppose this happens after the body/brain becoming conditioned to habitually being overindulged with alcohol/drugs. I think the time to PREVENT this from happening, is as a YOUNG person. I think when a person USES these drugs to EXCESS---repeatededly---as a young person---they are CREATING the ADDICTION, which they then have to FIGHT against, the rest of their life. Young people BEWARE, it is NOT COOL, AT ALL, to get drugged or drunk HABITUALLY, or you will be CONTROLLED by your ADDICTION. Sad, but PREVENTABLE.
is it though ?depression is with you always , a drink that gets into your hand then in your mouth that isn’t , yes the thought of i want a drink is but the action of pouring alcohol down your throat isn’t
“I’m in control of the first drink” is the perfect way to describe it. Six and a half years sober here. RIP Matthew, and thanks for standing up and speaking out. ❤
@@HorusHerotic / It doesn't, always, work that way. Alcohol effects people, effects their mind, effects the control of their mind. He said it right; he can control the first drink, than..... non mind works equall..........
I have all kinds of ways to avoid the first drink. But no way to avoid the second and every subsequent drink after that. It's all unintentional self medication for undiagnosed causes of low serotonin, low dopamine, low oxytocin, or high GABA
Yes, Perry was very authentic and relatable. And correct. The first drink was his choice, and he had to probably had to move Mountains to make sure that he was never in a place where he really wanted to have a first drink.
My Dad was an alcoholic ( he did get sober at the age of 54) and I'm a former opioid addict- prescription opioids,no heroin or fentanyl. Idk know if I would say alcohol is the most dangerous drug but the fact that it's legal and available basically everywhere makes it the most tempting and hardest to stay away from for an alcoholic. That's what is scary and dangerous about it. Matthew Perry had it rough,being both an alcoholic and an opioid addict. Then there was the Ketamine and when he mixed it with the Buprenorphine (which is what I take) it was over. Buprenorphine(Subutex) is safe by itself but very dangerous if mixed with with things.
Prohibition of substances doesn’t really work. Not their manufacture and distribution. But restrict their use, we have to. Not for kids or around them, not at work, not not behind the wheel, not on the sidewalk. Those sorts of restrictions make sense.
@@bryanaa196 I don't think Hitchens understands that a belief is an ideology, the irony of your cult is you always assume Infallibility Which is the same hypocrisy So the difference is Perry at least has the humility to admit to error You are not so brave
Some people have different pain tolerances and some people have different addiction tolerances. Technically you could walk on a broken ankle but most people cant fight through pain like that. You can't blame someone for having a different limit then you might personally have.
Thank you! It’s called addiction for a reason. Most of us can drink or do a drug and not get addicted. Aren’t we lucky. But that’s just it, luck. We don’t have to fight so hard to not pick up another drink bec our brain is not wired to it as strongly as an addicts is. We absolutely are not having the same experience inside. It took me years to understand that and stop being so judgmental. This guy is an ass who I think is just jealous bec he’s the brother of Christopher Hitchens who was a very heavy drinker and yet wildly successful in his professional and personal life. Even Chris apparently thought his brother was obnoxious and snobby.
There is nothing in the brain that makes you do this though. Can you point to a single study which shows the brain controls a subset of the populations behaviour to drink alcohol?
@@ritatownsend7408 I just wrote a long comment saying something similar. I find this man snobby and infuriating. He knows nothing about addiction. I'm embarrassed for him. It astounds me that after over 1 million deaths in America from the opioid crisis that started in the 90s( The Sackler family and their lies about Oxycontin-) that there is still so much judgement and ignorance about addiction. There's a book and a movie called Dopesick starring Michael Keaton that came out years ago. I highly recommend that anyone who has an addict in their family, especially an opioid addict, and they don't understand why their family member or even close friend acts the way they do in their addiction, watch Dopesick. If you don't have time for that, at least Google how addiction changes the addict's brain chemistry. I can't listen to this judgemental man speak for one more second. Unbelievable.
He started the alcoholic disease? You should maybe think about getting help.for yourself, the sooner the better. Tell you therapist what you juat told us.
My dad passed about 21 years ago a month before my 10th birthday. He died from liver failure from all the drinking he'd done in his life. He didn't have an easy life so I don't blame him for what he did but seeing him slowly turn yellow and then be confined to the very bed he would die in made it so that I would never pick up an alcoholic drink in my life. Those who experience addiction and overcome it are some of the strongest people in the world. I'm sorry your father wasn't able to break his addiction in time. You never really know the battles that others are fighting.
@@jenrich111 Poor guy for sure. By ignorance I mean he convinced himself and fully believed something that wasn't true. If he understood that he DOES have the power to stop, then perhaps he would have felt some hope to recover. One always has the power of choice. Always. To believe otherwise is dooming oneself.
@@js7127 People who believe they can become a millionaire have a better chance of becoming one than someone who doesn't. When it comes to life and death, it's wise to adopt the mentality that will enable you to live.
I am an alcoholic I consciously choose every day not to buy alcohol or accept if offered. This is not easy for me but I feel good when I wake up in the morning.
@@bushraa6527 no thanks That's not healthy for me it's all about health and staying strong sometimes I will get a beer and can't help myself but it's better than drinking a gallon every nite
My father is a recovering alcoholic and his sentiment is the same as Matthew Perry’s. He would tell me “one drink was too many and a thousand was never enough.” He’s 37 years sober and I’m so proud of him. Addiction is a deadly disease and the addicts in our life need our tough love and support ❤
He spoke so calmly and clearly to this uneducated man about something that had such a huge impact on his life. He sat there calmly while it must have been extremely difficult not to react. He responded in such an excellent way… I wish he was still with us… Maybe he would have been if we lived in a world where addiction was taken seriously and actual help was provided. Not the kind of help that is cheapest, but actual help and support. Support from everyone. We don’t need to understand everything to be supportive. We can have no clue at all and still be there for someone. We can ask them how we can help and visit meetings so we know how to not enable, but still help. But being famous comes with its own problems. It must have been lonely. It’s so sad that he is gone… I haven’t been able to watch friends since I heard he passed. Chandler was my favorite 😢
I agree with them both … I drank for over 10 years every day, and I decided one day to quit and that’s what I did And to this day, I can go out once a month. I have three drinks and go home. You do make the choice you choose to take that first drink knowing it’s gonna be hard not to take the second. You can choose to go home and not drink. It is a choice.
@JasonFelton-rm1rx Congrats man. I like to hear about people that can still enjoy it with control. I used to drink very heavily every day. The lady I married asked me to only drink on my weekends and to tone down how much I drank, after several incidents of me acting like a total douche. I've been doing that ever since, just drinking on days off, and not on my sunday. I dont drink a full day before work so I have a day of rest. I had to quit telling myself that I had to get drunk, or that I needed to get drunk. It was so childish. Now sometimes I drink water inbetween my beer to stay hydrated, lol. I cant do hangovers anymore. I like that the older I get, the less I feel that I need it, and I enjoy my sober days a lot more than I used to.
@@TheWayIsPeace try and sit with that empty feeling and really understand the shape of it. What exactly do you feel is missing? When you understand that you can then start building yourself back up everyday with positive small steps and affirmations directly addressing that feeling. Hang in there
My father’s whole family are alcoholics. He doesn’t drink at all for that reason. Growing up when we went to dinner parties and seeing him being the only adult not drinking, I always felt so proud of him and respected him so much for it. He said he wanted to set a good example for me. ❤
You'll see that only the junkies and alcoholics are agreeing with perry. Addiction is a choice. And weak people always blame their bad choices on everything but themselves.
Hitchens missed the point that Perry was choosing to not take the first drink. It doesn't matter whether he could choose to take the next or not. Why did Hitchens want so badly for Perry to drink?!
@@watamatafoyuhe didn’t. And didn’t say that either. You do have a choice whether it’s the first drink or the second. If you didn’t you’d be murdering people to get alcohol after a few sips if it wasn’t available. Just because it’s a strong pull towards craving doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice. The science is that the urge is strong not that you literally don’t have free will, which is why addict talk is so nauseating.
@@amostlyreasonableguyI take it you’re a “normie”? Here the deal, imagine if you chose to have an anesthesia that put you into a partial comma where you don’t remember what you’re doing and are severely impaired as well. Pretty much in a “trance” The decision was sober and conciliation but what happens during the impaired period is foggy and you lost control of your actions. Taking more of the drug is not a conscious act. The trance has taken over and the “spirit” of the addict is no longer making the decisions, it’s the drug doing it for the addict. Maybe this analogy helps ?
I applaud Matthew Perry's courage to openly admit his addictions. He is absolutely right. I have 12 years clean, and to this day, I still make a conscious effort to avoid people, places, and things that could possibly lead me to that first drink or drug
Matthew Perry was a celebrity crybaby trying to get attention any way he could by preying on the very sentiments you're expressing here. It's not brave. It's airing your dirty laundry for attention.
@@mattmarzula I disagree. I believe many people with addictions will be helped if they can speak about it, share their experiance. It may encourage others to quit too, or to hang in there staying clean. It can help if you hear others go through same. What you are saying is that people should not speak about their problems, and keep it to yourself. That is not healthy. He had enough attention, he really didn't need to beg for it.
@@mattmarzula smh. You clearly know very little about addiction. At the end of the day, you are entitled to your opinion, even if it is wrong. Then there are some people who just want to disagree for no reason
I miss you, Mathew….I met him in The Beverly Hills Hotel in 2005. I was there for the Rose Bowl and in burnt orange (Hook’em Horns). I heard someone calling out “Julie”. It was Mathew. He thought I was a friend of his. We laughed, talked on the way down to the cafeteria. When I entered, I saw a sea of red and one person made a remark about Vince Young, I looked at Mathew. He told the guy his stat was wrong and then said “Guys, don’t look at me, I’m a Bruins fan”. I picked up my food and we walked back up together. I will always love him for that. When I met him, he was not in a good place, he was heavy and looked tired but he was such a good man. He was a kind man. RIP Mathew
@@sheilawoods2709He had no respect for life itself. A master manipulator. Idolization of fame is unhealthy. They're just regular people, only more f*ched up.
Wow. My dad was an alcoholic. Once he took one drink he would be on a drinking spree for the next several months. I did not know that this was a common trait. My dad stopped drinking and got immersed in church and never touched alcohol again until died. The latter 20 years of his life was a blessing for him and our entire family.
Amazing story. He realized that he needed to never touch alcohol again, once he accepted that, he moved on with his life. I believe it’s a choice, a choice to stay away from bars and the liquor store.
Everything always starts with a choice. Don’t ever let anyone attempt to use emotion to claim otherwise. I used to be a drunk. I didn’t start drinking till I was 30 and for ten years I would give up shifts at work to have time off to drink. Hell, I would even pay people to take the shift. Can’t have no call no shows and keep a job. For about 5 years I worked enough to pay my bills and drink. I ate poorly, was out of shape. But thankfully my mind is strong and I was able to quit cold turkey. I thank God every day. I share the same addiction but he has other things that also contribute to that extreme bender after having one drink. It’s definitely common for some alcoholics to get paid Friday and not be seen again for a week. Most of us don’t know how to use our brain to help us. Humans over think the wrong way and pollute our thoughts. If we can cut through the BS and stop lying to ourselves we can all fight our demons. I was so bad that I’d go to sleep with 3 beers on the table and if I woke I’d pound one. Then the next if I woke again. Some nights I woke at 4 am in cold January and started drinking all day. Those were all choices made by me. If you have a hard time finding that inner you, talk to someone. It’s there it just need to be woken up. God bless anyone struggling
If you want to learn more read the Doctor’s Opinion from the AA big book, it’s interesting whether or not it applies to you. Sounds like your dad got all he could out of the program, great to hear.
Except he chose to have that first drink knowing he won't be able to stop. Also he chose to let his addiction control him instead of him control his addiction, life is made up of choices but the problem with alcoholics is they can't admit they made the choice so they blame the drink instead of themselves. I used to have a drinking problem but at least I can admit it was my poor choices that lead to that and not the alcohol. I always say never trust the words of an addict because the first thing they will do is make an excuse to have another drink, or another cigarette, or another hit of that drug, any excuse to justify to themselves why they need to keep doing it
@@the_awakening6044 I don’t disagree with you. In fact I agree. I’m just saying he said it without an attitude. He disagreed but remained civil. Hard to do it seems these days.
Matthew is wrong. He chooses to have the first drink... and then blames that first drink when he chooses to have more. it is still his choice. no accountability for his actions is why he is the way he is now.....
I’ve never been around this debate, perhaps because I don’t drink. But I am familiar with the notion of agency, and how some choices begin to take away your agency. For example, deciding to play around with sex, and then getting pregnant, leads you to less agency for whether or not you want a kid. Some people believe that killing the baby is a feasible choice, while others realize that adoption or parenting are feasible choices too. Drinkers seem to think that drinkers only have one choice after the first drink - to drink more. No, they also have alternative choices that they are able to make. They just don’t want to do the hard thing. It’s hard to parent, it’s hard to give up a kid for someone else to take care of, but it’s easy to just kill it before ever having to meet it. Next I’m gonna hear how abortions are just part of a sex addiction.
I am an alcoholic. I have to stop myself after my first drink. And at times it is very hard but even when I'm drunk I can stop. The struggle is very real and a wonderful opportunity to become stronger
Actually, he was lying about being clean & died of a drug overdose. I was disappointed to find that out. I think he wanted to be the guy got clean & saved people from the hell he went through & saved other families from the hell he put his family through. I absolutely respect the fact that he used his fame & platform to try & help; I wish he had succeeded.
Much respect for what? For delcaring is dependence? Nobody is born unable to stop drinking; if today he's addicted it's because he choose in the past, several times.
Even that level of control, although it sounds nice and it’s a good mindset to build a healthy lifestyle that takes precaution very seriously - thus highly increasing the likelihood of staying sober, is not necessarily true. I sort of think that the same mental process that makes using seem like not a choice once you have the first one (and no one can explain exactly why that’s the case) is the same thing that one might go through when exposed to enough emotional stress. It like free will isn’t really a thing. But there are things you can do nonetheless to reduce the likelihood of a certain outcome (using), to a degree.
@@sly9263that's why it doesn't originate from addicts, it originates from peer researched journals and clinical tests. the understanding of which is above your paygrade, it doesn't need to make sense to you.
@sly9263 addiction is a compulsive mental obsession. No different that people who smoke or speed or eat too much. You can say it's just lack of self control, ans it is. But it's way more cunning than that.
I am a drug addict and alcoholic and i know the truth is that it is my choice and saying different is just an excuse. Being addicted to drugs or alcohol means that you must use to avoid physical and mental withdrawal.
I dated an alcoholic for 3 years. She would drink listerine if there was no alcohol in the apartment and she didn’t have money. She destroyed everything in her life including our relationship. Addiction is real
I’m an alcoholic with a short stint so far in recovery and I can completely relate to her. Pretty much lost everything in my life twice because of it and legal issues too. Alcohol is terrible and I hope she’s doing better now. Sorry you had to go through that, I know what I’ve put my significant others through.
@@jeffreybouche3817 hope you´re feeling better now, every person has more than one chance in life, if you are self-aware it´s more than 95% of the addicts can do, masive respect for that and good luck with your journey, believe in it :)
No one’s arguing it’s not real it’s just that it’s not a disease or some uncontrollable thing. It’s like anything else in life you can give in to, you can also not give into it
14 months sober. I'm sorry Matthew that the addiction took your life. You were a beautiful man and will live on in spirit through your acting. We all loved you so much, you brought us such happiness. Rest easy now Matthew, thank you making us laugh and bringing such joy to our lives ❤
BS. As someone who knows numerous recovered addicts it's 100% a choice. That's not to say we should vilify or shame addicts but Perry is pretending like he had absolutely no agency over his choices. I had always heard that he got sober, which was obviously a choice, and that fact alone destroys his victim mentality. I wonder if he seriously believed it was good messaging to tell young people that existing as an addict isn't a choice and there's no point in trying to quite?
Hold on kids. Can’t bash something you’ve never experienced. Alcohol is PROVEN to lower inhibitions, and give you a high. The mind of an addict is structured so that when the limbic system is activated when consuming alcohol, they almost completely lose their ability to regulate their decisions. It’s all about feelings at that point. You idiots have no clue what being an addict means. People don’t get to that point without feeling like shit about the decisions they make, yet they lose the ability to regulate their decisions once they are high. It is what it is, nobody likes it and there is no point arguing what an addict goes through. Yes an addict has physical control over the act of drinking, but the mind rationalizes the behavior until lives are destroyed.
At 40 years old, it finally caught me. I was drinking 3 fifths a day, plus whatever I came across. Went to rehab 3 times. If I’d known better, I’d have seen this coming when I was a freshman in college. One drink was never enough, and I always drank more than everybody else at the party. I was chasing a feeling that couldn’t be caught. Now, the only way to avoid issues is to avoid the first drink, and it works well for me. Clean 6 years and doing fantastic.
So happy to hear that. One day at a time. Good luck to you. Alcoholism begins in many ways and for many reasons. My father never drank. My mother never drank. Most of my many uncles were heavy drinkers. Thankfully, I grew up in a quiet household; no drinking, no arguments, no drugs, no violence. I never drink, well, maybe one glass but it stops there. Again, all the best for your.
You say rehab 3 times. So I have a question. Alcoholic here myself. Would you say rehab is worth it or can you just do it by yourself? I have a Job, I have bills, im considering going to rehab but if I do I literally lose everything I've ever worked for, house, car... Etc. So I'm wondering if I just do the 12 steps, start goin to AA meetings, can I just do it on my own as long as I make sure I do not drink taking it one day at a time or is rehab completely necessary because I've heard of Soo many people going to rehab 3-4 times before they get sober so to me it seems like it's almost a waste of time. Yes or no?
@torrel8074 it is brave because society teaches us to be strong and not fidget in front of temptations...weak people are strong when they admit their weakness and demons...he articulated the problem quite well
Writing a book doesn’t give you a degree in psychology or medicine- addiction is very hard to control, the dopamine rush takes over to the point where it’s literally painful to not use whatever it is
He's aware. Peter and his brother Christopher were two incredibly brilliant minds that's views stood on polar opposite side. Unfortunately, Christopher's own addictions caused him a long, difficult fight with cancer which he lost at too young of an age. Peter's stance is predictable.
@@skepchica I’ve heard of other similar situations where that would’ve resulted in relatives being more sympathetic. However, I can understand the reason for his point of view, regardless of whether it’s true or not.
@@ankitamenon8780 They had a very strained relationship. Some people mask pain or get mad at the wrong things because it makes it easier to cope with the loss.
"So genuine" he was a multi millionaire who couldn't get it together with everything handed to him. Then he's here on tv giving excuses as to why he can't control himself. Yeah what a great guy lol
@@daytondane1617it’s common sense truth. If you’ve ever been addicted yourself or know someone who has come out of it , they will usually agree. They just had to make the hard choice and be honest
Someone literally can't even have alcoholism and sit here on camera and say how week they are and enable the making a good choice without you bringing a politics does that say something about your f****** b******* man
He has an emotional dependency on the feeling that it gives him. He just wants to feel better and better and better but in the long run, it’s ruining his health.
He handled that with such grace. Some people will never master the art of having a civil conversation with someone they disagree with but this man had it down.
It's a lot easier when the other person isn't constantly interrupting, talking over him, or screaming. It takes two people to have a civil conversation.
He was taking a real teaching moment. I love it. I think his point is so important that people don’t understand. It’s always the 1st you’re in control of then it’s literally chemistry.
Thank you, I am very blessed, and I am also empathic. I don't have to go through something to understand the severity of it. I can not imagine not being able to stop drinking, I think God I don't have a problem with alcohol. I hear Matthew saying he can control that first drink, and that is a choice, but after the 1st drink, the choice is taken away, and you lose control of the situation. I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict, and not everyone who tries a vice becomes addicted...
@@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws very true. I would certainly never have chosen to be an addict. But I can tell you this, and many may not understand, but I'm glad that I am. I live a program now that not only helps me stay off drugs, but it has changed everything else about me as well. I wouldn't be the person I am today (admittedly, flawed) without this program and where I started.
Not that blessed. I had a severe depression about ten years ago. Now the apathy in me is so strong I don't feel desire for anything in this life including drugs and alcohol.
your supposed to be able to stop drinking. i sip till im buzzed then set it down or put it away for later. What makes them drink and not able to stop? other than themselves. americas had this issue with all drugs.
@brandonmartin5785 Yes, that's how it's "supposed" to be. For many, it's casual, but for some, it's an addiction. My friends mom was killed by a drunk driver when we were kids. Ironically, his dad had a very hard time dealing with it and started drinking, and it killed him years later. He couldn't stop.
@@brandonmartin5785 you "sip til you're buzzed and then put it down" because you are not an addict. It's as simple as that. Not everyone who has a drug and alcohol problem is an addict. Your ability to stop is exactly what makes you 'not' an addict. There are genetic and environmental factors that make a person more or less susceptible to certain types of addiction. These are the realities of human behaviour that have been studied at length and it's simply not enough to assume that there is a 'one fits all' for addiction, trauma, mental illness, whatever have you.
@@brandonmartin5785did some quick research on binge drinking, looks like various European countries rank much higher than the US in terms of incidence of binge drinking. Perhaps you just see a lot of American media/content about the subject
@@678friedbed some people genuinely cannot fight the compulsion to maintain their intoxication. Whether that's a weakness of character, a moral failing, a mental problem, whatever. It's just the truth. it's a choice, sure, and a choice so heavily clouded by their mental problem that calling it a choice is a bit ridiculous. One drink ruins their inhibition to not continue drinking. If someone says "after one drink I cannot stop" you do not press them to drink.
He said right at the end. The first drink is YOUR choice. “I’m a drug addict so I’m not to blame for my decisions, it’s an illness”. Yes, being delusional and not accountable is an illness.
Ive been an addict (def worse than most of y’all) and depressed and both were a choice. The only time where it’s slightly logical to claim otherwise is when physically addicted.
Teaching people that it’s understandable to be degenerate alcoholic because medical science says it’s not your fault. What a beta cuck. Rip bitchboy chandler bing
@@MineisbiggerHow did he not? He wrote about it, became clean and helped others that had an addiction. He was a savior for many. He quit ALL drugs and Alcohol, how did he not fight at his fullest against it?
Working in a decade sober. My wife was sent to me 14 years ago and through her love patience and really hard work she’s (we) turned my life around. Without her I wouldn’t have made it. I remember every single time I look at her how lucky I am. Stay strong out there and find your rock to anchor yourself.
Asking for and receiving help is a life skill. For all the tough guys out there who want to comment about not being tough enough or whatever, to an actual alcoholic, quitting is impossible to do alone. Most things in life are impossible to do alone, and if you think otherwise, just re-examine yourself.
Good for you for recognizing her and respecting her enough to change. I too was saved by an amazing woman mine was opiates for 26 plus years but she was patient loving and truly cared for me and in seeing that this person was not going to leave me so I needed to either die faster to help her or fix myself. It's an amazing thing finding the love to break the cycles. Awesome to read what you wrote. Ty for sharing. Have a positive day
Your lucky you have a compassionate wife, cuz let me tell you...many women today would see you as a burden or problem weighing their life down and leave. I'm glad you had her.
I'm almost 5 years sober. Not from alcohol but stronger. It's extremely difficult at times but I hated the old me and love the new me. It gets better ❤️
As a former drug addict and a former alcoholic. The only way for you to stop is to choose not to do it. 1 drink leads to multiple, one line leads to multiple, one blunt leads to hotbox competitions.... If you want to be sober. You have to remove yourself from all future possibilities of relapse. Friends that want you to relapse are not friends. My best friend showed up to my house on my 28th birthday with a case of beer and I told him I have been sober for 2 months. He respected my decision and never asked me to drink with him again. Edit: I should add that I'm about to turn 34 and I'm still sober. True friends won't tempt you. They will support you.
U say "bad decision", but why would u do it in first place if u feel that way. To me that sounds absolutely backwards. I use and i love to use and never regret.
Yeah I think I agree with both people here. All of the facts Matthew Perry is stating are true, addictive habits have a tendency to self-perpetuate like that. However, I have to side with Hitchens that society should hold him as responsible for the 2nd drink as for the 1st. Factually speaking, free will does not exist. We are physical systems driven by a combination of deterministic and random processes, and each of these precludes the concept of free will. You can't pick and choose where to claim "My BRAIN made me do it!" and deny that you made one particular decision with free will. Either we should hold ourselves accountable for every action we choose, or for none of them.
Stil can always quit people do it. Mentally tough people Atleast the Weaks one never recover. The weaks ones never loved there family. The weak ones abused there family til they got that bad. Don’t feel bad for people who are addicted they fucked everyone in there life over without hesitation
I feel bad that he passed but there are millions that struggle with addiction whether it's eating gambling porn smoking drinking drugs only difference between him and most of world he's famous and people make excuses for him
The fact Peter Hitchens did this interview is captivating. His brother, Christopher was one of the most brilliant minds of our time, yet met with an early demise because of his own addictions. Given their relationship of being polar opposite, his cold stance makes sense. Need to watch this whole thing.
I come from a family of addicts. I’ve chosen to keep away from everything because of that. I chose to not drink because of the fear it could destroy my life.
Was so lucky to meet Matthew Perry, in a business context. I introduced myself in such a dorky way: “Hi, I’m Jesse from Canada.” The rest of the meeting Mr. Perry teased me, in a good natured way. “Nice to meet you, Jesse from Canada. What do you think, Jesse from Canada?” He kept everyone laughing and loose. He was just like his character on Friends, but with more kindness and less snark. It was a celebrity encounter I will always cherish .
My brother lost his battle with alcoholism after he struggled to come to terms with 2 family deaths within a year , one of which was my 18 year old son . My younger brother and I found him face down on his bed after he had chocked on his own blood following a esophageal rupture ( burst throat stripped by alcohol ) he was the 3rd death our family had in 18 months . My son died 18 , my brother 44 and my father 63 . I’m sitting here aged 57 with a heavy heart and struggle daily with depression which sometimes includes laughter , some days I want to live and some I don’t .
Sorry for your loss, hoping you continue to find things in life that bring you joy comfort and remembrance of the loved ones youve lost. Keep fighting there’s always something to live for
I came from a large family At 40 I had no deaths in the family Then 5 deaths in 4yrs. Mom dad 2 brothers and one sister in law. Life is messy. I don’t drink or do drugs Ever. I go to church and ask God for help. Much love from Coleman TX
I wished that somebody could save him before he died. Beautiful man he was. Prayers for whole his familly and prayers that he found freedom in the light. He will always live connected in our heart ❤❤❤❤
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Here's the deal, if he says he took Step One knowing there is "no effective mental defense against the first drink" but then he says he just has the power of choice, in his mental defenses, then he was a walking contradiction. Get it? Step One in AA is up to page 43 in their book, describing this problem. With no booze in his body it seems he was Powerless, beyond human aid. Yet here he was using human aid and his mental defenses against the first drink. Again, humbly I say most of the members have no idea that being Powerless against the first drink means WITHOUT any alcohol in your body at the time. Otherwise it's just like any other person, if you shouldn't drink then DONT DRINK... no illness, no alcoholism. But the people who understand the Step One admission , this minority of the alcoholics become WILLING... TO DO WHATEVER. . it takes. They go through the recovery program without having to be reminded to do so, without encouragement, KNOWING they MUST become recovered or else they'll drink against their own will. Matthew drank even though he chose to NOT DRINK.
@@godlygamer911it’s an expression it doesn’t literally have to mean his ghost leaves from his body and goes to heaven or something. A soul is just the personality or qualities the person has that control their body.
He's not special there's literally hundreds of millions of people on earth who struggle with this exact problem and don't get to disclose it on TV and actually face major consequences for it so in reality you should feel happy for him because he's better off than most
My sobriety date is December 1st 2010, which is also my daughter’s birthday. I was so broke and broken it was the only gift I could give her that year. A promise of sobriety! My car was repossessed, I had an eviction notice on my door and no job. By the grace of God I got sober that day. Matthew is absolutely correct! I could never have just one drink! Once the phenomenon of craving kicks in after that first drink I couldn’t stop! The allergy he talks about! It’s real, I know, I’ve been there. One is too many and a thousand is not enough! Ask any alcoholic or drug addict. I don’t know if I’ll ever drink again, I just know that I’m not going to drink today! I take it one day at a time!
If you go and have a drink today..... you're making a choice to do so. "Allergy" or not, if you take that 2nd drink, you've still made the choice. No doubt addiction is dysfunction. But lets never take the road you choose out of the equation.
I've never struggled with alcohol but have other addictions. As an addict I am powerless but have a choice. I know I probably won't develop a drinking habit if I have one drink, but why take the chance. I must never allow myself to compromise my choice to someone who just cannot understand the mind of an addict.
Mate, how you said "it was the only gift I could give her" brought me to tears. That's beautiful and the fact you did it for her is even more beautiful. That's a real Father and Dad. I hope you've stayed strong and gained so many beautiful memories with your daughter. Family is everything 🤜🤛💗
Congratulations! 🎉. I'm proud of you! I know we don't know each other, but I've lost friends to that shit and I know the escape from it is difficult. So, I truly mean when I say I'm proud of you. ❤ Keep up the hard work! Please know I'm rooting for you. Always
No, after following active actual drug addicts in replacement medical treatment for drug addicts and how the society treats them will absolutely enforce them to get some support from a drying when the society around them reverily discriminates them and fails them! Plus most suffer from adhd or add which means a normal rewarding system is not working as intended after doing something normally rewarding like completing a task. Think about never getting a feeling of satisfaction from doing anything. And how You treat them.
He still though is in denial. The choice comes with the first drink. If you know you cant stop at one drink, then choosing to drink the first is choosing every drink after that because you know one always ends up in a 5 day bender.
Before I had even realized I had a substance abuse problem, I felt for this man. Even after knowing the consequences from people telling me time and time again how life crushing addiction will be, my curiosity still overcame my will power. After going through my decades of struggle I’m now 3 years sober and eternally grateful for those who showed me how. Knowing the mental battle drugs can have on a person, I truly hope Matthew Perry is at peace.
After I realized that I was addicted, I told myself I could stop but it just got worse and worse and worse. Hiding it was so exhausting. I finally almost died and I can't go back. 11 years sober. Congrats to you and thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Dont ever give in! I know how lucky I am.. I dont have an addictive personality. And I at 66 years old have lost too many friends to addiction, as well as way too many enemies. I would rather have them here fighting me or fighting alongside me.
@@nancymcnally7849I did all kinds of stupid stuff that resulted in my own misery but accepted my responsibility and stopped. The actual problem was you only told yourself to stop. Not that you actually did. All that one last time, I can stop anytime but I chose not to, I'll stop tomorrow, addiction is the only disease you can cure by a pragmatic outlook and staying home. The truth in my opinion is that opium addicts are why the gooberment makes it hard for people legitimately suffering from chronic pain to get opiates. Alcohol and nicotine kill more people than opiates but those seem to be acceptable losses. If you're diabetic you may find ozempic, wegovy, mounjaro, etc difficult because overweight lazy denialists need it to lose weight while diabetics have to scramble to switch to whatever they can get. The overweight people won't die without those drugs but diabetics could. What happened to Adderall for all the people with ADHD going into mental crisis because the dea limits how much can be made and so went into mental crisis because they couldn't get it for over a year and still can't. No wonder America has become such a shit show. No one admits to having any responsibility. If Donald Trump ends up in jail or Biden ends up in jail it will be their own fault. Quit accusing everyone else for your own inadequacies. Sack up.
I would say he knew he had no choice BUT to have that conversation because he didn't much want to go there again. 😢 He actually seemed very determined, at last. Rest in peace, Matthew.
@thomashovgaard3134 Actually, I suspect it's ill fitting dentures from tooth loss and a somewhat haggard appearance from all the years of substance abuse.
At the end of the day it's you. I used to drink nearly half a bottle of Jameson a night. And decided I wanted to stop. Haven't drank since. Tired of grown ass people who can't take accountability for their actions. It's 100% on you.
@@vitald8796 Nothing you say will matter. Your addiction wasn't as bad as theirs, or you were lucky you could stop, etc, etc... It's all the same denial that they made a choice to use, and to become an addict.
@@notusingmyrealname15 idc. Stop making excuzed cause you aren't grown up yet to stop doing what you know is killing you. Your a grown ass adult, no one to blame but yourself. It's your own fault.
It’s extra sad when the victim of addiction is outspoken and is well aware of it, and how powerless said addiction can make them feel. RIP Matthew Perry
Gambling is another horrific addiction! I've seen many people unable to control it. Like Matt said, the most willpower comes before the first drink or before the first bet, after that the addiction takes over!
Bullshit....... you are in control EVERY A TIME THROUGH YOUR ADDICTION..... you make your own choices people... it's NOBODY ELSE'S FAULT....... it's your fault.... it's NOT CHEMICALS CONTROLLING YOU... it's you controlling yourself..... face the truth and grow
Brave is to grow up and know ppl love you and you need to change not tell the world and that’s somehow brave . Get your shit straight (no if’s or buts )
@@alvarosanchez4461okay sorry not all of us have perfect meanigful lives I’m literally homeless and have no one but Mary Jane you’re so entitled and privileged it’s disgusting
Matthew Perry you missed by many especially by this recovery addict me myself and I never met but I am blessed today and I am thankful and grateful for your honesty on addiction PLEASE REST IN PEACE ❤️🔥❤️🤙🙏
Strength is not doing it in the first place!! Anybody can speak truth,, not anybody as the strength or discipline not to do what is harming them. This guy is pure weak. No strength here, just dude speaking truth.
your ideology is absolutely disgusting. People fall, everyone makes mistakes. I hope one day you open your eyes and learn some compassion and understanding. Hope one day you grow to be a real adult.
@@robertgallentine1095 🤣 chill out Joel! Bout people fall, yeah agreed but why they fall, cuz they damn weak!! You didn't say sh*t but a word. Those who can resist temptation of any kind, is someone who as self control, meaning strength. Those who give into temptation are those without self control, meaning weak. Speaking facts as nothing to do with being compassionate or not!! Bout my comment is disgusting. That comment alone shows a lot bout you!
Funny enough he is being dishonest here to himself and everyone he’s speaking to. All just boils down to an obsession with offloading personal responsibility onto another entity besides yourself.
@@MrMakingwavesmedia calling yourself an alcoholic and preventing yourself from having the first drink is being accountable for your actions lol What are you talking about? please learn science and biology before you comment
Man, R.I.P. Matthew. All these clips are coming to light where he talks about this horrific disease and you realise he was self aware and carried himself with a transparent sense of humility. Not many people can admit the problem for the fear of public consequences.
@@nomadicabbut you haven’t been in his shoes, you have only ever been in your own. His challenges were not the same as yours nor your ability to overcome them.
The sad part is he was touring the country telling everyone how clean he was and how hard it is to stay clean. During this time he was doing drugs and denying it.
It’s most likely related to an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (adhd/autism spectrum disorder). The executive function is greatly impaired resulting in poor decision making and it doesn’t stop there. If you are interested or curious, I recommend researching the topic and making an appointment with a good therapist/psychologist (or whoever diagnoses and treats these issues). If you are adhd or autistic, Just learning about the disorder(s) will help anyone who suffers. There are a lot of good resources available today to help with stuff like this. Almost every addict I’ve known (including myself) is neurodivergent.
@@tjluthe No... it does seem necessary. People care more about this guy who destroyed his own life through lack of control, but don't care about someone else that was not at fault for their own death. People have this "death cult" like mentality when it comes to famous people. Perry, Ledger, Carradine, Petty, Prince, and many many others... all dying from various "addictions". Instead of rebuking sin, we celebrate sin... and when someone calls it out... people like you come out of the wood work to try and stop it. It's like you want more people to die as a victim instead of understanding their life is more valuable to them than clowns like you!
Sadly that's what most people see. The best part of this is the most glossed over. Mr. Perry found a way to stop himself to not take the first drink, he came to understand himself (his choice). That's the point Hitchens should focus on. Because that's where the control lies. Of course we are humans (animals) and we have behavioral circuits that drive us into bad habits very often. Even when we devise a system to control ourselves it will always be implemented imperfectly. We are wired to focus on the negative, evolutionary selection, and naturally we are drawn to news cycles and gossip/politics which reflect that. Focusing on his vulnerabilities is far below focusing on his tenacity to overcome those through responsibility. Sadly I think Mr. Perry is focused too much on the miscommunication of Mr. Hitchens way of putting things instead of coming to see the good in overcoming his own adversity through that conversation.
Al Jourgenson from Ministry was an alcoholic, long time heroin addict plus had other addictions. On the 'Just One Fix' filmclip, his stumbling/staggering and nodding off isn't faked. They had to keep propping him up on his stool because he was stoned off his head. He said out of all the addictions he's had, alcohol was the hardest to kick. He got off heroin cold turkey but needed help to stop drinking. I'm the opposite. I was drinking Jacks or Beam (whatever was handy) straight from the bottle before getting out of bed to numb myself for the day but kicked the alcohol quite easily. I'd had alcohol poisoning more than once so I guess that helped me stop. Now I can't STAND the smell of whiskey, scotch or bourbon🤢. It's the heroin that hit me hard. 20+ yrs later and I still have that particular monkey on my back. Even though I'm on methadone. Anyone who says addiction's a state of mind need to go through withdrawals and/or DTs. Definitely no mind over matter there.
Just turned 40 last week and im 4years sober. I never want to go back to the person i used to be. I also lost my brother to alcoholism 7 years ago. I cannot just have that one drink ever again
My dad always said “when I have a drink, I feel like a new man, the problem is that this new man also wants a drink”.
Real 💯
Great line! 😅
Wise man 💯💯
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😂😂😂
“First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald
What did Scott Fitzgerald do to you?
Bunch of borsesh1t. Not taking accountability for your own free Will and will power is insane. Blaming some imaginary disease for not being able to stop doing something is taking accountability from your own mind and own life choices and saying it’s because of this etc. perhaps the problem is after taking one, you choose to not care anymore, he lowers his inhibitions and practices his free Will of not stopping.
@@OngoGablogian73he wrote a book
@@AnonymousF11but why f. him?
@@maxwellokafor1071 ever had a voice in your head telling you non stop to drink water because you are very thirsty and you can't cope without... welcome to alcoholism or any drug addiction
I’m an addict and alcoholic. Black out drunk with no shut off point but to black out. And did ICE for 7 years total it ran its course. But proud to say I’m 41 months sober Now.
Good job!!
41 years sober. Congratulations. 🙏
By choice?
That’s great! Congratulations 🤗
Well done you 👏 😊
41 months? That’s absolutely amazing. Really. I am a complete stranger but I’m absolutely delighted for you. Live well, my friend. ❤
My ex-husband died two weeks ago to alcoholism at the age of 40. I have resented and been so angry every time he "chose the first drink" because he also couldn't stop the disease once it began. It ravaged his body with congestive heart failure killed him, leaving our three kids with no father. It's a family disease that destroys everyone around them.
It must hurt you to listen to people like Hitchins pretending they know what's up about a condition you watched a loved one die from. 💔 you have my deepest sympathy.
I’m so sorry hon. Wishing you strength and peace. 💚
I wish I could give you and you family a big hug ❤ I’m so sorry for all you’re going through
❤biggest hugs hunny! Losing a spouse is very difficult especially with children. Somedays it's so difficult but I made it to the next day! Sending love ❤️ from one widow to another!
Oh, I’m so sorry. I think a lot of us understood your reaction. It is so incredibly frustrating to try and try to explain that they aren’t just hurting themselves but the family too. And, as we all know, it’s rare that talking has any effect at all. Or it’s your fault somehow. I lost my father to it when I was young. And my brother got wet brain disease, where alcohol pickles the brain. He’s in a state facility now.
I live in an over 55 neighborhood and the drinking is unbelievable. You’d think they’d know better. Nope. It’s like a freshman dorm. At this age, they can’t even see that their wives and kids are just tolerating them and even making fun of them. It’s insidious.
I truly hate alcohol and the status it seems to hold in society.
“One drink is too many and a thousand never enough.”
My brother
Same as drugs.
@@olualafe3577Not quite. With drugs, the government does everything humanly possible to destroy your life. The only way to possibly come back is to become a cheerleader for the drug war
@@nonyabeeswax7111 real schizo hours
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. My thoughts will be on my new associations, people who are not using and who have found a new way of life. So long as I follow that way, I have nothing to Fear!
Matthew was vulnerable, honest and sincere. He'll always have a place in my heart.
Sincere perhaps, but it's not "proved" what he's saying.
I have more experience the Mr Perry ..
There are 1000s of alcoholics who can have 2 or 3 even 4 then stop....
So that's you have control....
It's that first thought of drinking say at noon or 3 pm.. thats control it self discipline. A self discipline problem . Typical liberal making excuses... its weak and backwards
@@tayzk5929As an x addict, FACTS.......
He was also known to visit Epstiens Isalnd
And he has a hole in his heart from being max vaxd
My wife's uncle once told me, "Being an alcoholic is not how often you drink. It's not being able to stop when you do." True words.
Hands down…. Shit is no joke if it ever gets ahold of you. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Agreed. Also applies to gambling with bankroll, Perhaps even porn pending your … load 😅 , And weed is weed 😊
Actually it's consistently drinking every day without fail... if you have 1 glass of wine per day your classed as an alcoholic.
??? That's a double negative and makes no sense 😕.
@@MyKarva It’s obvious you’ve never been there or you wouldn’t have made this comment. It makes perfect sense if you’re an alcoholic.
And yes, of course drinking daily or habitually would classify you as an alcoholic.. but the premise behind the quote is the ability to quit once you’ve started, which if you’re an alcoholic, is nearly impossible to do.
I was drunk in my past...I stop drinking when my first child was ill and died. I promise to God,that in his memory ,I would never drink anymore,for the rest of my life. Since than ,11 years.
He saved me of this drug.
Well done my friend
@@verovero8952 perhaps your child’s sole purpose for coming into your life was to save you from yourself. Glad you are sober.
@@verovero8952 good man well done 🕊️
I am so sorry you lost your child but I am so happy you got clean.
I don't know you, but you sound like an awesome individual. Congratulations on your sobriety.
I'm 62 days sober
Stay strong bro. Working on a decade rn.
I’m sober since 6/6/24 after a three month relapse! Glad to be here!
@@petetownshend5297that's like 10 days ago lololol
Get it you got this
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259 days sober here and never felt better, never thought I’d be able to do it either. RIP Matt, clear to see he was a genuinely good guy
You don’t know if he was a good guy or not. The vast majority of hardcore addicts are not nice people.
@@thenoneckpeoplerepresentat8074 ehh I'd say it's more 50/50. I've known plenty of addicts and alcoholics who were genuinely nice people that just made bad decisions. There _are_ plenty of addicts who are horrible people, though I think it's fair to say most of those horrible people were already bad to begin with, drugs just enhanced it.
Gratz bro I'm trying myself I'm 3 days and climbing.
Congrats. Every day clean is a day won
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@@ZuuShuTankaei-os7yccongrats. One day at a time does it.
As a addict all i have to add is how much i admire him for being able to say "im a drug addict" on tv. It seems easy, but to make that declaration not in your mind but on tv is very brave
I’ve never tried drugs in my life, but I can absolutely believe it takes serious courage to admit it out loud and ask for help. Every day you take another step forward is amazing! Well done!
I think that's more down to the world he lives in, he knows it's out there anyway.
Truly. Having been addicted to most things and successfully quit nearly everything cold turkey, alcohol has proved itself to be the worst.
I think heroin gets a bad rap from people that have never done it... it sucked hard but and thought I was gonna die, but once it was over, it was over for good. It was gone and not even a question about going back.
Alcohol is a different beast. It's never gone.
I'm sure everyone has different brain chemistry, so that may not be the case for everyone but I've known more than a few people that kicked H and say that alcohol is much harder to quit.
It is indeed brave, and I think, important. Breaking the stigma is the only way we as a society can move from vilifying addicts, to helping them regain control of their life.
" Awareness proceed control" It's so important for ourselves to refect when we are "irrational". It's rational and is you take notice of what happened, how you felt, what that reflexive voice said, etc. You'll discover patterns, and hopefully then causes....
Please seek professional care if you have an issue that you want help with. These ideas have helped me
Matthew is extremely professional and collected while upset. Impressive.
Yes
he sure was
I thought the same, especially with a topic that touched him so personally and deeply. He's really humble to admit his addiction too, later on of course, with the hopes to help others going through the same hell.
That's because he went through actual counseling and such and learned to deal with it in a healthy way
@@Cheddar.0420before or after he died in a K-hole?
He had a clear understanding of his personal issues and was very honest, truthful and willing to share. RIP.
He understood it decently, but in fact as an alcoholic he actually doesn't have a choice even in using. He implied that his loss of choice comes after first taking it, but the fact is that he actually had no control over staying sober. That's the crux of the issue and one that, unfortunately, gets lost in the rooms of AA quite a lot.
He appeals for help.. The control is to stay away from the 1st drink.
He is definitely drunk in this interview!
Rip Matthew. I understand how people say u have a choice but like Matt said after that first drink and you’re an addict/alcoholic, there is almost nothing that will stop u from keeping it going for that night, even if u realize u hate what ur doing and will regret it in the morning
look up MTHFR gene mutation
2.5 years sober here. Was so hard to get past that first few months. If you’re reading this and struggling, it goes away one day.
As an alcoholic, how did you do it???
No it doesn't, it's a life-long struggle. You might think you're over it, that you have been sober for over a decade. But you only need one bad day.
@@gbbarn Hey! that’s true. The withdrawal symptoms go away and are temporary. That’s what I meant. You won’t suffer forever through the dts or shakes or terrible feelings that come with it.
Proud of you
Sad for Matthew. He clearly knew what a huge problem he had. He clearly had to fight EVERY DAY, to NOT take a drink, or take a drug. I suppose this happens after the body/brain becoming conditioned to habitually being overindulged with alcohol/drugs. I think the time to PREVENT this from happening, is as a YOUNG person. I think when a person USES these drugs to EXCESS---repeatededly---as a young person---they are CREATING the ADDICTION, which they then have to FIGHT against, the rest of their life. Young people BEWARE, it is NOT COOL, AT ALL, to get drugged or drunk HABITUALLY, or you will be CONTROLLED by your ADDICTION. Sad, but PREVENTABLE.
The fact that he accepted his situation not trying to hide it and worked towards it deserves recognition
Damned if you do damned if you dont.
Yes but also removes accountability and Blame
@@davidtrujillo146 and no need to do anything about it. This is what undeserved money do to you. Just like winning the lottery
NO.. Deserves correction... I am drinking.. Oh because the 1st drink mad me is not an excuse..
Bro he died ☹️
It's like telling people with depression to "snap out of it".
is it though ?depression is with you always , a drink that gets into your hand then in your mouth that isn’t , yes the thought of i want a drink is but the action of pouring alcohol down your throat isn’t
EXACTLY!!! I suffer from severe depression, sever anxiety and PTSD. If anyone said that to me, I would be in total disbelief of what was said.
@@user-wy9ep8kq1f it’s not the same though
not really. you cannot choose not being depressed.
@@minnie383 but you can choose not to pour drink down your throat ….
“I’m in control of the first drink” is the perfect way to describe it. Six and a half years sober here. RIP Matthew, and thanks for standing up and speaking out. ❤
His outcome suggests that he was incorrect
@@davidrickard7977He has a choice. Unfortunately he didn't take control... RIP
He's equally in control of the second
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It doesn't, always, work that way.
Alcohol effects people, effects their mind, effects the control of their mind.
He said it right; he can control the first drink, than.....
non mind works equall..........
I have all kinds of ways to avoid the first drink. But no way to avoid the second and every subsequent drink after that. It's all unintentional self medication for undiagnosed causes of low serotonin, low dopamine, low oxytocin, or high GABA
11.5 years sober from heroin, my last go woke up to my friend all blue. Was a wake up call. RIP Gal Babich
I can’t imagine how any of that was for you. Be well.
Sorry for your loss, but happy to hear you woke up. Stay strong. God bless.
Wow. So sorry. Hope you are doing better.
13.5 Here Brother, Keep It Up & Keep Fighting ❤❤❤❤
How’d you do it?
Rest in Peace Mr. Perry. He was honest. May you be remembered for your honesty, kindness and generosity. Gone way too soon :(
Maybe he didn’t have a choice over the first one
@YTSFACTS4444yes, he died last week. Its only been global.news.....
& the laugh he provided all of us
Yes, Perry was very authentic and relatable. And correct. The first drink was his choice, and he had to probably had to move Mountains to make sure that he was never in a place where he really wanted to have a first drink.
@YTSFACTS4444
Yes, he died about a week ago .
As a recovering drug addict and alcoholic,the most dangerous drug is alcohol,and it is legal.!
And it is for a reason.
You are 100% right is the begging of all addictions in most
Part !
My Dad was an alcoholic ( he did get sober at the age of 54) and I'm a former opioid addict- prescription opioids,no heroin or fentanyl. Idk know if I would say alcohol is the most dangerous drug but the fact that it's legal and available basically everywhere makes it the most tempting and hardest to stay away from for an alcoholic. That's what is scary and dangerous about it. Matthew Perry had it rough,being both an alcoholic and an opioid addict. Then there was the Ketamine and when he mixed it with the Buprenorphine (which is what I take) it was over. Buprenorphine(Subutex) is safe by itself but very dangerous if mixed with with things.
Legal and in your face everywhere you go.
Prohibition of substances doesn’t really work. Not their manufacture and distribution.
But restrict their use, we have to. Not for kids or around them, not at work, not not behind the wheel, not on the sidewalk. Those sorts of restrictions make sense.
How incredibly vulnerable to use his own experience so publicly to debate this man
It was his whole life. He wrote a book about his addiction, so it became his identity.
I don't think he won the debate though. He knows he will get hooked but kept having that first drink.
Who else's experiences would be use?
@@Danaher7it became his identity bc he wrote a book? Pretty sure it was his id bc it was his id, and he wrote a book bc that was his id.
@@bryanaa196 I don't think Hitchens understands that a belief is an ideology, the irony of your cult is you always assume Infallibility
Which is the same hypocrisy
So the difference is Perry at least has the humility to admit to error
You are not so brave
Anyone who downplays addiction doesn't know what it is. Period.
Weakness. The result speaks for itself
@@SettG4moron
@@SettG4 Ignorance. Your comment speaks for itself
Lmao average andrew tate fan@@SettG4
Some people have different pain tolerances and some people have different addiction tolerances. Technically you could walk on a broken ankle but most people cant fight through pain like that. You can't blame someone for having a different limit then you might personally have.
He knew what he was.
An addict.
My respect for his honesty and his struggle.
Rest well.
The biggest defeat is to accept what you are and never struggle for change, That is the biggest failure.
Respect for his honesty? Do you have that respect for a pedophile that comes out and admits his "addict"?
Man stfu
@@hewadsaad1378addiction is lifelong even if you aren't currently using. You don't change addiction, you can only change your behaviors.
I was here men do this alot.
Yup and to be the big man and acknowledge that, and for the third party to lay attack after is bullshit, matt handled his ass
Mathew Perry is absolutely 100%, correct. He's stating an absolute fact of the disease of alcoholism
Thank you! It’s called addiction for a reason. Most of us can drink or do a drug and not get addicted. Aren’t we lucky. But that’s just it, luck. We don’t have to fight so hard to not pick up another drink bec our brain is not wired to it as strongly as an addicts is. We absolutely are not having the same experience inside. It took me years to understand that and stop being so judgmental.
This guy is an ass who I think is just jealous bec he’s the brother of Christopher Hitchens who was a very heavy drinker and yet wildly successful in his professional and personal life. Even Chris apparently thought his brother was obnoxious and snobby.
There is nothing in the brain that makes you do this though.
Can you point to a single study which shows the brain controls a subset of the populations behaviour to drink alcohol?
@@ritatownsend7408 We also lost Christopher because of his addictions. Peter's stance is predictable.
@@ritatownsend7408 I just wrote a long comment saying something similar. I find this man snobby and infuriating. He knows nothing about addiction. I'm embarrassed for him. It astounds me that after over 1 million deaths in America from the opioid crisis that started in the 90s( The Sackler family and their lies about Oxycontin-) that there is still so much judgement and ignorance about addiction. There's a book and a movie called Dopesick starring Michael Keaton that came out years ago. I highly recommend that anyone who has an addict in their family, especially an opioid addict, and they don't understand why their family member or even close friend acts the way they do in their addiction, watch Dopesick. If you don't have time for that, at least Google how addiction changes the addict's brain chemistry. I can't listen to this judgemental man speak for one more second. Unbelievable.
He started the alcoholic disease? You should maybe think about getting help.for yourself, the sooner the better. Tell you therapist what you juat told us.
Please stay strong people. My dad just passed away because of his addiction. If you are sober, keep going!
Sorry for your lost!! My uncles passed from addiction to Crystal and Alcohol
My dad passed about 21 years ago a month before my 10th birthday. He died from liver failure from all the drinking he'd done in his life. He didn't have an easy life so I don't blame him for what he did but seeing him slowly turn yellow and then be confined to the very bed he would die in made it so that I would never pick up an alcoholic drink in my life. Those who experience addiction and overcome it are some of the strongest people in the world. I'm sorry your father wasn't able to break his addiction in time. You never really know the battles that others are fighting.
I buried my life long friend because of alcoholusm last saturday and i'm also alcohlic. We were only 35, he was younger than me.
@@metsatrollI'm sorry😢 how often did he drink and what? I'm struggling with alcoholism currently and need help 😢 I'm 43
@@metsatrollI'm truly sorry for your loss. 😢
As an alcoholic myself, I am truly impressed by his honesty and openness on that topic.
when you have not exhibited self control for as long as Matt did, there is no shame only excuses.
you always have a choice. you just looking for excuses
I don't drink anymore. But I will always be an alcoholic. @@sumonnostelga9369
Read his book. It's heartbreaking accountability. 💔
It’s not honest when you admit to saying your first drink is a choice, and then refuse to believe it was your choice.
admire his honesty and understanding of himself
You admire the ignorance that lead to his death?
@@dcsnare315x The cause of his death is really none of our business - poor guy. Explain what you mean by ignorance?
@@jenrich111 Poor guy for sure. By ignorance I mean he convinced himself and fully believed something that wasn't true. If he understood that he DOES have the power to stop, then perhaps he would have felt some hope to recover. One always has the power of choice. Always. To believe otherwise is dooming oneself.
@@dcsnare315x Evidently you are a millionaire because you believe yourself to be so. If you are not it must be pure ignorance that you are not one.
@@js7127 People who believe they can become a millionaire have a better chance of becoming one than someone who doesn't. When it comes to life and death, it's wise to adopt the mentality that will enable you to live.
Easiest thing in the world is to sit on your high horse
Judging others about a problem you’ve never had
I am an alcoholic I consciously choose every day not to buy alcohol or accept if offered. This is not easy for me but I feel good when I wake up in the morning.
try fasting and stopping for the sake of GOD, love GOD more than your desires
@@bushraa6527 no thanks That's not healthy for me it's all about health and staying strong sometimes I will get a beer and can't help myself but it's better than drinking a gallon every nite
God bless u my brother 🙏🏼 stay strong 💪🏼
I'm proud of you. You are powerful and strong. You've got this friend. :)
Sounds like you're doing all the right things.
Keep doing what you're doing.
So tragic he passed. There's such a gentle, sincere and sad energy about him. Rest peacefully, truly peacefully Matthew. 💔
Most alcoholics and addicts have hearts of gold, when they’re sober
@@LieutDann
I guess because of her sensibility and her deep comprehension of our life they drink.
Yea, he's not even sober right here. The character traits you assign to him are those of an individual who's blasted.
MATTHEW PERRY RIp your life wasn't in vain.Make awareness
You chose to drink if you took the first one based on what matt said.
My father is a recovering alcoholic and his sentiment is the same as Matthew Perry’s. He would tell me “one drink was too many and a thousand was never enough.” He’s 37 years sober and I’m so proud of him. Addiction is a deadly disease and the addicts in our life need our tough love and support ❤
Good luck!!
It's so hard to stay on the right track now days..
I fight it everyday.
The man takes a drink, the man takes to the drink, the drink takes the man.
Fornication music Intoxication Devils 3 tools since Adam
Cancer is a disease. Addiction is a choice. You can't just choose to not have cancer. How do you bear addiction? You choose to
That's why. Make alcohol haram end of...
He spoke so calmly and clearly to this uneducated man about something that had such a huge impact on his life. He sat there calmly while it must have been extremely difficult not to react. He responded in such an excellent way…
I wish he was still with us… Maybe he would have been if we lived in a world where addiction was taken seriously and actual help was provided. Not the kind of help that is cheapest, but actual help and support. Support from everyone.
We don’t need to understand everything to be supportive. We can have no clue at all and still be there for someone. We can ask them how we can help and visit meetings so we know how to not enable, but still help. But being famous comes with its own problems. It must have been lonely.
It’s so sad that he is gone… I haven’t been able to watch friends since I heard he passed. Chandler was my favorite 😢
uneducated man 😂
I completely agree with you. I find this man that Matthew Perry is talking to be uneducated, judgemental and infuriating.
@@danielle6228 now go and look up Peter hitchens and see how uneducated he is 🤣 they are both dead !
13 years sober from drugs❤ Rest in peace Matthew ❤
That's awesome! Drugs are awesome. Until they're not 😮 I should really think about going stone sober like you. Probably for the best
I agree with them both … I drank for over 10 years every day, and I decided one day to quit and that’s what I did
And to this day, I can go out once a month. I have three drinks and go home.
You do make the choice you choose to take that first drink knowing it’s gonna be hard not to take the second. You can choose to go home and not drink. It is a choice.
@JasonFelton-rm1rx Congrats man. I like to hear about people that can still enjoy it with control. I used to drink very heavily every day. The lady I married asked me to only drink on my weekends and to tone down how much I drank, after several incidents of me acting like a total douche. I've been doing that ever since, just drinking on days off, and not on my sunday. I dont drink a full day before work so I have a day of rest. I had to quit telling myself that I had to get drunk, or that I needed to get drunk. It was so childish. Now sometimes I drink water inbetween my beer to stay hydrated, lol. I cant do hangovers anymore. I like that the older I get, the less I feel that I need it, and I enjoy my sober days a lot more than I used to.
Congratulations ❤
@@TheWayIsPeace try and sit with that empty feeling and really understand the shape of it. What exactly do you feel is missing? When you understand that you can then start building yourself back up everyday with positive small steps and affirmations directly addressing that feeling. Hang in there
My father’s whole family are alcoholics. He doesn’t drink at all for that reason. Growing up when we went to dinner parties and seeing him being the only adult not drinking, I always felt so proud of him and respected him so much for it. He said he wanted to set a good example for me. ❤
You'll see that only the junkies and alcoholics are agreeing with perry. Addiction is a choice. And weak people always blame their bad choices on everything but themselves.
Hitchens missed the point that Perry was choosing to not take the first drink. It doesn't matter whether he could choose to take the next or not. Why did Hitchens want so badly for Perry to drink?!
Stunning and brave
@@watamatafoyuhe didn’t. And didn’t say that either. You do have a choice whether it’s the first drink or the second. If you didn’t you’d be murdering people to get alcohol after a few sips if it wasn’t available. Just because it’s a strong pull towards craving doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice. The science is that the urge is strong not that you literally don’t have free will, which is why addict talk is so nauseating.
@@amostlyreasonableguyI take it you’re a “normie”? Here the deal, imagine if you chose to have an anesthesia that put you into a partial comma where you don’t remember what you’re doing and are severely impaired as well. Pretty much in a “trance” The decision was sober and conciliation but what happens during the impaired period is foggy and you lost control of your actions. Taking more of the drug is not a conscious act. The trance has taken over and the “spirit” of the addict is no longer making the decisions, it’s the drug doing it for the addict. Maybe this analogy helps ?
I applaud Matthew Perry's courage to openly admit his addictions. He is absolutely right. I have 12 years clean, and to this day, I still make a conscious effort to avoid people, places, and things that could possibly lead me to that first drink or drug
Stay strong! ❤️❤️❤️
Matthew Perry was a celebrity crybaby trying to get attention any way he could by preying on the very sentiments you're expressing here. It's not brave. It's airing your dirty laundry for attention.
@@mattmarzula I disagree. I believe many people with addictions will be helped if they can speak about it, share their experiance. It may encourage others to quit too, or to hang in there staying clean. It can help if you hear others go through same. What you are saying is that people should not speak about their problems, and keep it to yourself. That is not healthy. He had enough attention, he really didn't need to beg for it.
@@JackyHeijmans thank you!
@@mattmarzula smh. You clearly know very little about addiction. At the end of the day, you are entitled to your opinion, even if it is wrong. Then there are some people who just want to disagree for no reason
I miss you, Mathew….I met him in The Beverly Hills Hotel in 2005. I was there for the Rose Bowl and in burnt orange (Hook’em Horns). I heard someone calling out “Julie”. It was Mathew. He thought I was a friend of his. We laughed, talked on the way down to the cafeteria. When I entered, I saw a sea of red and one person made a remark about Vince Young, I looked at Mathew. He told the guy his stat was wrong and then said “Guys, don’t look at me, I’m a Bruins fan”. I picked up my food and we walked back up together. I will always love him for that. When I met him, he was not in a good place, he was heavy and looked tired but he was such a good man. He was a kind man. RIP Mathew
Wow you were specially blessed to have met Mr. Perry ❤️👩🏼🦱👍🏼❤️🥰👍🙏🏻🕊🙏🏻❤️
Soo sad what happened to him totally avoidable too 😢💔🙏🏻
@@sheilawoods2709He had no respect for life itself. A master manipulator. Idolization of fame is unhealthy. They're just regular people, only more f*ched up.
Wow. My dad was an alcoholic. Once he took one drink he would be on a drinking spree for the next several months. I did not know that this was a common trait. My dad stopped drinking and got immersed in church and never touched alcohol again until died. The latter 20 years of his life was a blessing for him and our entire family.
Amazing story. He realized that he needed to never touch alcohol again, once he accepted that, he moved on with his life. I believe it’s a choice, a choice to stay away from bars and the liquor store.
That's what Hitchens is trying to say. Personal responsibility is not popular in our postmodern culture
Everything always starts with a choice. Don’t ever let anyone attempt to use emotion to claim otherwise. I used to be a drunk. I didn’t start drinking till I was 30 and for ten years I would give up shifts at work to have time off to drink. Hell, I would even pay people to take the shift. Can’t have no call no shows and keep a job. For about 5 years I worked enough to pay my bills and drink. I ate poorly, was out of shape. But thankfully my mind is strong and I was able to quit cold turkey. I thank God every day. I share the same addiction but he has other things that also contribute to that extreme bender after having one drink. It’s definitely common for some alcoholics to get paid Friday and not be seen again for a week. Most of us don’t know how to use our brain to help us. Humans over think the wrong way and pollute our thoughts. If we can cut through the BS and stop lying to ourselves we can all fight our demons. I was so bad that I’d go to sleep with 3 beers on the table and if I woke I’d pound one. Then the next if I woke again. Some nights I woke at 4 am in cold January and started drinking all day. Those were all choices made by me. If you have a hard time finding that inner you, talk to someone. It’s there it just need to be woken up. God bless anyone struggling
If you want to learn more read the Doctor’s Opinion from the AA big book, it’s interesting whether or not it applies to you. Sounds like your dad got all he could out of the program, great to hear.
I’m happy you were able to have your father at the end. It’s good that he stopped. I wish the same for mine.
Well spoken and not disrespectfully either.
The grin on Matt’s face is like ‘you fool…’
Except he chose to have that first drink knowing he won't be able to stop. Also he chose to let his addiction control him instead of him control his addiction, life is made up of choices but the problem with alcoholics is they can't admit they made the choice so they blame the drink instead of themselves. I used to have a drinking problem but at least I can admit it was my poor choices that lead to that and not the alcohol. I always say never trust the words of an addict because the first thing they will do is make an excuse to have another drink, or another cigarette, or another hit of that drug, any excuse to justify to themselves why they need to keep doing it
@@the_awakening6044 I don’t disagree with you. In fact I agree. I’m just saying he said it without an attitude. He disagreed but remained civil. Hard to do it seems these days.
Matthew is wrong. He chooses to have the first drink... and then blames that first drink when he chooses to have more. it is still his choice. no accountability for his actions is why he is the way he is now.....
Bet he wouldn't have gone to a cancer ward full of children and tell them he has a disease?
He had a choice...
So impressed by the way Matthew handled himself. He stayed calm, didn't raise his voice, and was totally frank.
Well obviously he's weak😂😂
He died and Hitchens was right
And now he's dead
I’ve never been around this debate, perhaps because I don’t drink. But I am familiar with the notion of agency, and how some choices begin to take away your agency. For example, deciding to play around with sex, and then getting pregnant, leads you to less agency for whether or not you want a kid. Some people believe that killing the baby is a feasible choice, while others realize that adoption or parenting are feasible choices too. Drinkers seem to think that drinkers only have one choice after the first drink - to drink more. No, they also have alternative choices that they are able to make. They just don’t want to do the hard thing. It’s hard to parent, it’s hard to give up a kid for someone else to take care of, but it’s easy to just kill it before ever having to meet it. Next I’m gonna hear how abortions are just part of a sex addiction.
What did hitchens say that was right?@@persona7-7-7
I am an alcoholic. I have to stop myself after my first drink. And at times it is very hard but even when I'm drunk I can stop. The struggle is very real and a wonderful opportunity to become stronger
Check out the freedom model for addictions
Rare to see a celebrity not spouting some prepared script, but being an open, honest human being. Much respect ❤
Actually, he was lying about being clean & died of a drug overdose. I was disappointed to find that out. I think he wanted to be the guy got clean & saved people from the hell he went through & saved other families from the hell he put his family through. I absolutely respect the fact that he used his fame & platform to try & help; I wish he had succeeded.
And look what they did to him.
@@southbug27And you believe that?
The whole diatribe was pre-scripted by the 12-step bullshit society.
Much respect for what? For delcaring is dependence? Nobody is born unable to stop drinking; if today he's addicted it's because he choose in the past, several times.
"I have control of the first drink..."
That's wisdom speaking right there!
Even that level of control, although it sounds nice and it’s a good mindset to build a healthy lifestyle that takes precaution very seriously - thus highly increasing the likelihood of staying sober, is not necessarily true. I sort of think that the same mental process that makes using seem like not a choice once you have the first one (and no one can explain exactly why that’s the case) is the same thing that one might go through when exposed to enough emotional stress. It like free will isn’t really a thing. But there are things you can do nonetheless to reduce the likelihood of a certain outcome (using), to a degree.
😂😂😂
So I guess the moral of the story is don't have the first drink..
Right - it's like someone jumping off a bridge saying they have a disease because they can't stop gravity. How about not dff the bridge
Then perhaps you should not have that first drink of you have control of the first drink. So in way the journalist has a point.
You can see the pain and anger on Matthew's face. Its heartbreaking.
Easier to call it a disease than your lack of self control
@@sly9263facts.
@@sly9263easier to blame the person for a lack of self control than it is to admit it's a complex problem and they need help from a support network
@@sly9263that's why it doesn't originate from addicts, it originates from peer researched journals and clinical tests. the understanding of which is above your paygrade, it doesn't need to make sense to you.
@sly9263 addiction is a compulsive mental obsession. No different that people who smoke or speed or eat too much. You can say it's just lack of self control, ans it is. But it's way more cunning than that.
I am a drug addict and alcoholic and i know the truth is that it is my choice and saying different is just an excuse. Being addicted to drugs or alcohol means that you must use to avoid physical and mental withdrawal.
@@travisyayes6343 well said
I dated an alcoholic for 3 years. She would drink listerine if there was no alcohol in the apartment and she didn’t have money. She destroyed everything in her life including our relationship. Addiction is real
I’m an alcoholic with a short stint so far in recovery and I can completely relate to her. Pretty much lost everything in my life twice because of it and legal issues too. Alcohol is terrible and I hope she’s doing better now. Sorry you had to go through that, I know what I’ve put my significant others through.
@@jeffreybouche3817 hope you´re feeling better now, every person has more than one chance in life, if you are self-aware it´s more than 95% of the addicts can do, masive respect for that and good luck with your journey, believe in it :)
No one’s arguing it’s not real it’s just that it’s not a disease or some uncontrollable thing. It’s like anything else in life you can give in to, you can also not give into it
@@eliasspeed5882 Some people literally can't.
@@eliasspeed5882 you just argued it’s not real lmao
14 months sober. I'm sorry Matthew that the addiction took your life. You were a beautiful man and will live on in spirit through your acting. We all loved you so much, you brought us such happiness. Rest easy now Matthew, thank you making us laugh and bringing such joy to our lives ❤
Well done
I'm 82 days sober.
Longest streak was 12 years🎉
@@WhisperingWempe you're a freakin' champion. I know many people who have lost their lives to addiction. So keep kicking ass ✌12 years wow💪
@@Matthew-LAMF thank you
One day at a time🌱
I did not take his life, wake up to who did
Keep it up, keep kicking ass my dude, still fight it 13 years sober now. And my kids defo help.
What a special gift for him to share this type of humility. So needed in not just Hollywood but the world.
@wills. X 186,000. 🌺
What f****** humility? He's lying to everybody's face saying he can't control his arm bringing alcohol to his mouth. Give me a f****** break
What humility? He's not taking personal responsibility, that's what he's doing.
BS. As someone who knows numerous recovered addicts it's 100% a choice. That's not to say we should vilify or shame addicts but Perry is pretending like he had absolutely no agency over his choices. I had always heard that he got sober, which was obviously a choice, and that fact alone destroys his victim mentality. I wonder if he seriously believed it was good messaging to tell young people that existing as an addict isn't a choice and there's no point in trying to quite?
Hold on kids. Can’t bash something you’ve never experienced. Alcohol is PROVEN to lower inhibitions, and give you a high. The mind of an addict is structured so that when the limbic system is activated when consuming alcohol, they almost completely lose their ability to regulate their decisions. It’s all about feelings at that point. You idiots have no clue what being an addict means. People don’t get to that point without feeling like shit about the decisions they make, yet they lose the ability to regulate their decisions once they are high. It is what it is, nobody likes it and there is no point arguing what an addict goes through. Yes an addict has physical control over the act of drinking, but the mind rationalizes the behavior until lives are destroyed.
Im an alcoholic but I've been sober for 5 years, and he's right.
At 40 years old, it finally caught me. I was drinking 3 fifths a day, plus whatever I came across. Went to rehab 3 times. If I’d known better, I’d have seen this coming when I was a freshman in college. One drink was never enough, and I always drank more than everybody else at the party. I was chasing a feeling that couldn’t be caught. Now, the only way to avoid issues is to avoid the first drink, and it works well for me. Clean 6 years and doing fantastic.
So happy to hear that. One day at a time.
Good luck to you. Alcoholism begins in many ways and for many reasons.
My father never drank. My mother never drank. Most of my many uncles were heavy drinkers. Thankfully, I grew up in a quiet household; no drinking, no arguments, no drugs, no violence. I never drink, well, maybe one glass but it stops there. Again, all the best for your.
@@dracorpgroup thank you for that. Best to you as well.
@@croatiancroissant28776All the best. You stay on that road 😃
You say rehab 3 times. So I have a question. Alcoholic here myself. Would you say rehab is worth it or can you just do it by yourself? I have a Job, I have bills, im considering going to rehab but if I do I literally lose everything I've ever worked for, house, car... Etc. So I'm wondering if I just do the 12 steps, start goin to AA meetings, can I just do it on my own as long as I make sure I do not drink taking it one day at a time or is rehab completely necessary because I've heard of Soo many people going to rehab 3-4 times before they get sober so to me it seems like it's almost a waste of time. Yes or no?
When a man is speaking the truth, he is not a coward, and will walk through the fire. Rip Matt
It's not brave to admit a problem and then say its not his fault
❤
@torrel8074 thats not what hes saying....
@torrel8074 it is brave because society teaches us to be strong and not fidget in front of temptations...weak people are strong when they admit their weakness and demons...he articulated the problem quite well
@@torrel8074r:woosh
"Dont ask why the addiction, ask why the pain" - Dr Gabor Matè
🎯❗️
Nah ask why the addiction for sure
100 percent!!
@@braidynchapman5103The answer to your question is always gonna be pain. Whether it's physical, mental, emotional etc..
Now ask why the pain
this this this this this...
Writing a book doesn’t give you a degree in psychology or medicine- addiction is very hard to control, the dopamine rush takes over to the point where it’s literally painful to not use whatever it is
He's aware. Peter and his brother Christopher were two incredibly brilliant minds that's views stood on polar opposite side. Unfortunately, Christopher's own addictions caused him a long, difficult fight with cancer which he lost at too young of an age. Peter's stance is predictable.
@@skepchica I’ve heard of other similar situations where that would’ve resulted in relatives being more sympathetic. However, I can understand the reason for his point of view, regardless of whether it’s true or not.
@@ankitamenon8780 They had a very strained relationship. Some people mask pain or get mad at the wrong things because it makes it easier to cope with the loss.
The lip shake and pause after he said “can’t stop” was so genuine, RIP Matthew
Wow it's almost like he CHOSE to end up there
"So genuine" he was a multi millionaire who couldn't get it together with everything handed to him. Then he's here on tv giving excuses as to why he can't control himself. Yeah what a great guy lol
@@23Butanedione ah yes because money can solve all problems… ffs you sound like a child
Dear GOD please have mercy on us!!!
@@23ButanedioneI think he explained the situation. Maybe see if you can turn on the captions?
Addiction hurts everyone. Yesterday, today and for many days to come and go. Rest in peace Mathew
you said a mouthful!
He did it to himself. Sad.
This is definitely a truth i've never heard before
Mathew lost big time!😮
@@daytondane1617it’s common sense truth. If you’ve ever been addicted yourself or know someone who has come out of it , they will usually agree. They just had to make the hard choice and be honest
He was well aware of his vunerability. His candid admission is commendable. If only our politicians were so open and honest. RIP Mr Perry.
He was retarded, you always have the choice, rest in piss lol
This really has nothing to f****** do with politics you low IQ f****** minion
It's so baffling that the world has controlled your mind
Someone literally can't even have alcoholism and sit here on camera and say how week they are and enable the making a good choice without you bringing a politics does that say something about your f****** b******* man
@@frozensunsetHow has it? Elaborate or your words mean nothing
Honestly what Matthew said was 100% correct. I can't have just one beer. One turns into 20
If you’re undeveloped mentally, sure.
I love matthew perry rest in peace. A truly amazing soul ❤
He has an emotional dependency on the feeling that it gives him. He just wants to feel better and better and better but in the long run, it’s ruining his health.
@@carolhill6017He’s gone over, so this is an old interview.😢😢😢
@@amythompson7700
Well golly gee whiz! Thanks for pointing that out, Captain Obvious! 🙄
I despise Matthew Perry. He's the quintessential narcissistic manipulator. And self destructor.
He handled that with such grace. Some people will never master the art of having a civil conversation with someone they disagree with but this man had it down.
That's what you do when you don't want to just make a point but have people understand and embrace it 😊
Yes, I agree with the lady the mother of my kids as one of them would never agree.
Yes indeed! What the world needs now: communication bridges!!
It's a lot easier when the other person isn't constantly interrupting, talking over him, or screaming. It takes two people to have a civil conversation.
He was taking a real teaching moment. I love it. I think his point is so important that people don’t understand. It’s always the 1st you’re in control of then it’s literally chemistry.
For those of you who don't understand Matthew, you are blessed.
For those of us who do understand, remember, we do recover.
29 years, 4/23/1994.
Thank you, I am very blessed, and I am also empathic. I don't have to go through something to understand the severity of it.
I can not imagine not being able to stop drinking, I think God I don't have a problem with alcohol.
I hear Matthew saying he can control that first drink, and that is a choice, but after the 1st drink, the choice is taken away, and you lose control of the situation.
I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict, and not everyone who tries a vice becomes addicted...
@@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws very true. I would certainly never have chosen to be an addict.
But I can tell you this, and many may not understand, but I'm glad that I am. I live a program now that not only helps me stay off drugs, but it has changed everything else about me as well. I wouldn't be the person I am today (admittedly, flawed) without this program and where I started.
32 years 4.30.91
Some do, some don't obviously.
Not that blessed. I had a severe depression about ten years ago. Now the apathy in me is so strong I don't feel desire for anything in this life including drugs and alcohol.
So in the end, Matthew proved Hitchens correct. He makes a choice NOT to take that first drink. The choice is and always was HIS.
The worst thing I've seen is someone telling an alcoholic to just have one drink.
your supposed to be able to stop drinking. i sip till im buzzed then set it down or put it away for later. What makes them drink and not able to stop? other than themselves. americas had this issue with all drugs.
@brandonmartin5785 Yes, that's how it's "supposed" to be. For many, it's casual, but for some, it's an addiction. My friends mom was killed by a drunk driver when we were kids. Ironically, his dad had a very hard time dealing with it and started drinking, and it killed him years later. He couldn't stop.
@@brandonmartin5785 you "sip til you're buzzed and then put it down" because you are not an addict. It's as simple as that. Not everyone who has a drug and alcohol problem is an addict. Your ability to stop is exactly what makes you 'not' an addict. There are genetic and environmental factors that make a person more or less susceptible to certain types of addiction. These are the realities of human behaviour that have been studied at length and it's simply not enough to assume that there is a 'one fits all' for addiction, trauma, mental illness, whatever have you.
@@brandonmartin5785did some quick research on binge drinking, looks like various European countries rank much higher than the US in terms of incidence of binge drinking. Perhaps you just see a lot of American media/content about the subject
Hubs drives over the road. Home only 4 days a month. I NEVER drink when he's home.
I have so much respect for the late Matthew Perry's brutal honesty. Most people lie about their shortcomings. Rest in peace GREAT MAN.
Glad he's gone dude sounds like a huge pussy "I don't have any self control and I'm a sad sack of a man" what a loser
except he was lying. he can stop after the first drink. he chooses not to.
Mathew Perry is a pussy for choosing to drink and use
@@678friedbedyou're such a great listener
@@678friedbed some people genuinely cannot fight the compulsion to maintain their intoxication. Whether that's a weakness of character, a moral failing, a mental problem, whatever. It's just the truth.
it's a choice, sure, and a choice so heavily clouded by their mental problem that calling it a choice is a bit ridiculous. One drink ruins their inhibition to not continue drinking.
If someone says "after one drink I cannot stop" you do not press them to drink.
7 years sober here, one day at a time. RIP Matthew. 🙏 We miss you.
Congratulations
Congratulations, you are a conqueror and my prayers for thousands of days more 🙏
U will return. Weak minds always allow a substance to control them. Yeah congrats on being an adult and doing the right thing.
Congratulations 👏
Hi. I am over 3 yrs sober 🙏
He said right at the end. The first drink is YOUR choice.
“I’m a drug addict so I’m not to blame for my decisions, it’s an illness”. Yes, being delusional and not accountable is an illness.
Addiction, like depression is something you don't really understand until you go through it.
Ive been an addict (def worse than most of y’all) and depressed and both were a choice. The only time where it’s slightly logical to claim otherwise is when physically addicted.
@@samb202 it's a choice to keep the way it is. It's a choice when you can fight against against by seeking professional help.
not true but your entitled to your own opinion at least in the USA
Yess
I went through addiction it is a choice. I've also been miserable most my life until I decided I could be happy.
Matthew Perry helped people learn what addiction can do to ANY life. He fought as hard as he could.
Teaching people that it’s understandable to be degenerate alcoholic because medical science says it’s not your fault. What a beta cuck. Rip bitchboy chandler bing
Nope he didn't fight as hard as he could have
Absolutely 💯% FACT
@@MineisbiggerHow did he not? He wrote about it, became clean and helped others that had an addiction.
He was a savior for many.
He quit ALL drugs and Alcohol, how did he not fight at his fullest against it?
@@Mineisbiggeron what basis do you say that?
Working in a decade sober. My wife was sent to me 14 years ago and through her love patience and really hard work she’s (we) turned my life around. Without her I wouldn’t have made it. I remember every single time I look at her how lucky I am. Stay strong out there and find your rock to anchor yourself.
Asking for and receiving help is a life skill. For all the tough guys out there who want to comment about not being tough enough or whatever, to an actual alcoholic, quitting is impossible to do alone. Most things in life are impossible to do alone, and if you think otherwise, just re-examine yourself.
Good for you for recognizing her and respecting her enough to change. I too was saved by an amazing woman mine was opiates for 26 plus years but she was patient loving and truly cared for me and in seeing that this person was not going to leave me so I needed to either die faster to help her or fix myself. It's an amazing thing finding the love to break the cycles. Awesome to read what you wrote. Ty for sharing. Have a positive day
I'd like to get to know your wife 😉
Your lucky you have a compassionate wife, cuz let me tell you...many women today would see you as a burden or problem weighing their life down and leave. I'm glad you had her.
Sent to you? Thai bride from Ebay?
I'm almost 5 years sober. Not from alcohol but stronger. It's extremely difficult at times but I hated the old me and love the new me. It gets better ❤️
As a former drug addict and a former alcoholic. The only way for you to stop is to choose not to do it. 1 drink leads to multiple, one line leads to multiple, one blunt leads to hotbox competitions.... If you want to be sober. You have to remove yourself from all future possibilities of relapse. Friends that want you to relapse are not friends. My best friend showed up to my house on my 28th birthday with a case of beer and I told him I have been sober for 2 months. He respected my decision and never asked me to drink with him again.
Edit: I should add that I'm about to turn 34 and I'm still sober. True friends won't tempt you. They will support you.
Thank you
You’re like me, my drug of choice was “more”. So yea, choosing “no” to the first one is most certainly the correct choice
You and your friends sound hella lame lol
The best quote I heard (don't know where it's from): "One drink is too much because 10 is not enough".
I'm proud of you.
I’m an addict and this is very true you stay away from the first bad decision and there won’t be any thing to regret
Absolutely.. hadn’t a sip of alcohol for over 3 years but that shit will stick in my head forever…
U say "bad decision", but why would u do it in first place if u feel that way. To me that sounds absolutely backwards.
I use and i love to use and never regret.
Yeah I think I agree with both people here. All of the facts Matthew Perry is stating are true, addictive habits have a tendency to self-perpetuate like that. However, I have to side with Hitchens that society should hold him as responsible for the 2nd drink as for the 1st.
Factually speaking, free will does not exist. We are physical systems driven by a combination of deterministic and random processes, and each of these precludes the concept of free will. You can't pick and choose where to claim "My BRAIN made me do it!" and deny that you made one particular decision with free will. Either we should hold ourselves accountable for every action we choose, or for none of them.
I agree,I've been there,still am,first drink on it goes.
Stil can always quit people do it. Mentally tough people Atleast the Weaks one never recover. The weaks ones never loved there family. The weak ones abused there family til they got that bad. Don’t feel bad for people who are addicted they fucked everyone in there life over without hesitation
You can see how he is emotionally fighting against the inner rage. I wish someone could had helped him to gain strength. 😢 I miss you, Matthew!
God bless you and one day I hope too see you in heaven
I feel bad that he passed but there are millions that struggle with addiction whether it's eating gambling porn smoking drinking drugs only difference between him and most of world he's famous and people make excuses for him
He died from Drug Overdose….
He unfortunately had bit to many LINES
@@user-ux1bi4sy9she did not!
He definitely looks like a mess. I thank God I Never got famous! The Devil is real. Look at Hollyweird!
The fact Peter Hitchens did this interview is captivating. His brother, Christopher was one of the most brilliant minds of our time, yet met with an early demise because of his own addictions. Given their relationship of being polar opposite, his cold stance makes sense. Need to watch this whole thing.
I come from a family of addicts. I’ve chosen to keep away from everything because of that. I chose to not drink because of the fear it could destroy my life.
love that, and I’m just the same. Sobriety is a choice whether you’re an addict or not.
Smartest thing you will ever do!!!!! ❤
why screw with the enjoyment of sober thinking - i like reading , chess…
The thing is, not everyone is privy to this information before they take that first drink. Then it's too late.
@@PMSSTOOGE Not everyone's privy to free will? what on earth...
Was so lucky to meet Matthew Perry, in a business context. I introduced myself in such a dorky way: “Hi, I’m Jesse from Canada.”
The rest of the meeting Mr. Perry teased me, in a good natured way. “Nice to meet you, Jesse from Canada. What do you think, Jesse from Canada?” He kept everyone laughing and loose. He was just like his character on Friends, but with more kindness and less snark. It was a celebrity encounter I will always cherish .
Wow, Jesse from Canada, what a delightful story
From Tony from England
Cool story bro. Canada is a good country and you’re a good man.
He sounds annoying.
You need to lighten up@@johnnysins4158
I appreciate you sharing this good story with us, Jesse from Canada! What a great memory!
My brother lost his battle with alcoholism after he struggled to come to terms with 2 family deaths within a year , one of which was my 18 year old son . My younger brother and I found him face down on his bed after he had chocked on his own blood following a esophageal rupture ( burst throat stripped by alcohol ) he was the 3rd death our family had in 18 months . My son died 18 , my brother 44 and my father 63 . I’m sitting here aged 57 with a heavy heart and struggle daily with depression which sometimes includes laughter , some days I want to live and some I don’t .
Sorry for your loss, hoping you continue to find things in life that bring you joy comfort and remembrance of the loved ones youve lost. Keep fighting there’s always something to live for
@antoniopalmero4063. I’m so touched by your story, I’m sorry for what you have been through, please accept love, peace & empathy from me.
Been there as well...brother, father and best friend, who I grew up with, gone within a year!
Hang in there buddy...keep yourself busy!
That’s rough you have my condolences
I came from a large family
At 40 I had no deaths in the family
Then 5 deaths in 4yrs.
Mom dad 2 brothers and one sister in law.
Life is messy. I don’t drink or do drugs
Ever. I go to church and ask God for help.
Much love from Coleman TX
I wished that somebody could save him before he died.
Beautiful man he was.
Prayers for whole his familly and prayers that he found freedom in the light.
He will always live connected in our heart ❤❤❤❤
I have respect for people who tell truth instead of all lies
Perry didn't understand Step One. He was under the impression he was in control. He missed it, he died as a result.
@@406MenaceRacecar i guess taking drugs is a form of lying to yourself . I would know . 12 years down the drain. all friendships and ex's all gone . .
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Here's the deal, if he says he took Step One knowing there is "no effective mental defense against the first drink" but then he says he just has the power of choice, in his mental defenses, then he was a walking contradiction. Get it? Step One in AA is up to page 43 in their book, describing this problem. With no booze in his body it seems he was Powerless, beyond human aid. Yet here he was using human aid and his mental defenses against the first drink. Again, humbly I say most of the members have no idea that being Powerless against the first drink means WITHOUT any alcohol in your body at the time. Otherwise it's just like any other person, if you shouldn't drink then DONT DRINK... no illness, no alcoholism.
But the people who understand the Step One admission , this minority of the alcoholics become WILLING... TO DO WHATEVER. . it takes. They go through the recovery program without having to be reminded to do so, without encouragement, KNOWING they MUST become recovered or else they'll drink against their own will. Matthew drank even though he chose to NOT DRINK.
Me too. I prefer that, that those who think are better because they have never been in that position like the other interviewer.
👍
I always felt a profound sadness for this man in life. I really, truly hope his soul is at peace.
It is, because souls aren't real and he's dead
@@godlygamer911it’s an expression it doesn’t literally have to mean his ghost leaves from his body and goes to heaven or something. A soul is just the personality or qualities the person has that control their body.
@@mattfuentes4678theyre real alright and unfortunately his didnt go anywhere good
He's not special there's literally hundreds of millions of people on earth who struggle with this exact problem and don't get to disclose it on TV and actually face major consequences for it so in reality you should feel happy for him because he's better off than most
Truly hope he accepted Jesus as Lord and savior 🙏
I feel so much better when I don’t drink. It doesn’t mean the body never craves it. R.I.P Matthew.
I’m 27 and I’m starting to notice drinking doesn’t make me happy anymore… it makes me feel so bad everytime and I’m not talking about hangover.
@@seveneyes77I’m the same age and feel the same
Fr bro im only 20 and after a noght out i just feel like i wasted my time and money
❤🙏
ngl drinking looks so fun sometimes, but seeing how my family acts when alchol gets involved, I'll stick to my arizona tea
I'm still broken that he passed, RIP
My sobriety date is December 1st 2010, which is also my daughter’s birthday. I was so broke and broken it was the only gift I could give her that year. A promise of sobriety! My car was repossessed, I had an eviction notice on my door and no job. By the grace of God I got sober that day. Matthew is absolutely correct! I could never have just one drink! Once the phenomenon of craving kicks in after that first drink I couldn’t stop! The allergy he talks about! It’s real, I know, I’ve been there. One is too many and a thousand is not enough! Ask any alcoholic or drug addict. I don’t know if I’ll ever drink again, I just know that I’m not going to drink today! I take it one day at a time!
May god show you the right way mate. The reason you quit it for is the best reason why you won’t go back at it again. Stay strong brother!
If you go and have a drink today..... you're making a choice to do so. "Allergy" or not, if you take that 2nd drink, you've still made the choice.
No doubt addiction is dysfunction. But lets never take the road you choose out of the equation.
Praise God. Amen. Glad you’re better
I've never struggled with alcohol but have other addictions. As an addict I am powerless but have a choice. I know I probably won't develop a drinking habit if I have one drink, but why take the chance. I must never allow myself to compromise my choice to someone who just cannot understand the mind of an addict.
Mate, how you said "it was the only gift I could give her" brought me to tears. That's beautiful and the fact you did it for her is even more beautiful. That's a real Father and Dad. I hope you've stayed strong and gained so many beautiful memories with your daughter. Family is everything 🤜🤛💗
A year and half clean from meth and narcotics. I am so thankful to still be alive today
Congratulations! 🎉. I'm proud of you! I know we don't know each other, but I've lost friends to that shit and I know the escape from it is difficult. So, I truly mean when I say I'm proud of you. ❤ Keep up the hard work! Please know I'm rooting for you. Always
Congratulations!! Keep it up. I've been in drug assisted rehabilitation for 5 years. I feel more sane not being high all the time
Congratulations me too ❤
Let's fudging go, girl!
Amen, 5 years for me
Thank you, Matthew Perry, for shining a light on people who get left in the dark. It’s rare to see someone stand up for a drug addict or an alcoholic.
You're absolutely right I praise this man and I pray for his family
He was just being weak.
No, after following active actual drug addicts in replacement medical treatment for drug addicts and how the society treats them will absolutely enforce them to get some support from a drying when the society around them reverily discriminates them and fails them! Plus most suffer from adhd or add which means a normal rewarding system is not working as intended after doing something normally rewarding like completing a task. Think about never getting a feeling of satisfaction from doing anything. And how You treat them.
He still though is in denial. The choice comes with the first drink. If you know you cant stop at one drink, then choosing to drink the first is choosing every drink after that because you know one always ends up in a 5 day bender.
@@thumper84that’s why he said he’d protect himself from having that first drink. do you not watch what you comment on?
Kudos to Matthew Perry on speaking up and educating on the proven science behind addiction.
Before I had even realized I had a substance abuse problem, I felt for this man. Even after knowing the consequences from people telling me time and time again how life crushing addiction will be, my curiosity still overcame my will power. After going through my decades of struggle I’m now 3 years sober and eternally grateful for those who showed me how. Knowing the mental battle drugs can have on a person, I truly hope Matthew Perry is at peace.
Amen
may you stay blessed and sober
After I realized that I was addicted, I told myself I could stop but it just got worse and worse and worse. Hiding it was so exhausting. I finally almost died and I can't go back. 11 years sober. Congrats to you and thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Dont ever give in! I know how lucky I am.. I dont have an addictive personality. And I at 66 years old have lost too many friends to addiction, as well as way too many enemies. I would rather have them here fighting me or fighting alongside me.
I would say look at William Burroughs but maybe you're just a cautionary tale.
@@nancymcnally7849I did all kinds of stupid stuff that resulted in my own misery but accepted my responsibility and stopped. The actual problem was you only told yourself to stop. Not that you actually did. All that one last time, I can stop anytime but I chose not to, I'll stop tomorrow, addiction is the only disease you can cure by a pragmatic outlook and staying home. The truth in my opinion is that opium addicts are why the gooberment makes it hard for people legitimately suffering from chronic pain to get opiates. Alcohol and nicotine kill more people than opiates but those seem to be acceptable losses. If you're diabetic you may find ozempic, wegovy, mounjaro, etc difficult because overweight lazy denialists need it to lose weight while diabetics have to scramble to switch to whatever they can get. The overweight people won't die without those drugs but diabetics could. What happened to Adderall for all the people with ADHD going into mental crisis because the dea limits how much can be made and so went into mental crisis because they couldn't get it for over a year and still can't. No wonder America has become such a shit show. No one admits to having any responsibility. If Donald Trump ends up in jail or Biden ends up in jail it will be their own fault. Quit accusing everyone else for your own inadequacies. Sack up.
Say what you want but he was very brave to be this open about his issues, I know most of us would be too embarrassed to have this conversation
I would say he knew he had no choice BUT to have that conversation because he didn't much want to go there again. 😢
He actually seemed very determined, at last. Rest in peace, Matthew.
brave? hes drunk
Brave is not a word here when he is denying being able not make a choice to stop being an addict. Difficult? For sure, but not brave.
@thomashovgaard3134 Actually, I suspect it's ill fitting dentures from tooth loss and a somewhat haggard appearance from all the years of substance abuse.
@@thomashovgaard3134: Right. He is either drunk or high on something.
For those who don't know what he talking about, consider yourself lucky, addiction is real and it'll tear the best down, rip Matthew
At the end of the day it's you. I used to drink nearly half a bottle of Jameson a night. And decided I wanted to stop. Haven't drank since.
Tired of grown ass people who can't take accountability for their actions. It's 100% on you.
@@vitald8796 if you can stop on your own you aren't an alcoholic mate
@@vitald8796night? So you in reality didn't Have a major problem becouse you werent drinking all Day.
@@vitald8796 Nothing you say will matter. Your addiction wasn't as bad as theirs, or you were lucky you could stop, etc, etc...
It's all the same denial that they made a choice to use, and to become an addict.
@@notusingmyrealname15 idc. Stop making excuzed cause you aren't grown up yet to stop doing what you know is killing you. Your a grown ass adult, no one to blame but yourself. It's your own fault.
39 years sober today and still scared of that first drink. The fear has kept me sober. I feel for Matthew and all others who can’t escape the demon.
It’s extra sad when the victim of addiction is outspoken and is well aware of it, and how powerless said addiction can make them feel. RIP Matthew Perry
Don't smoke anything, that people tells you it just makes you lose weight
Hypnosis cures all addictions
Ditto to Chandelier
Gambling is another horrific addiction! I've seen many people unable to control it. Like Matt said, the most willpower comes before the first drink or before the first bet, after that the addiction takes over!
@@BST-lm4po why not get hypnotized?
His confession is beautiful.
yes may he rest in ^peace
Bullshit....... you are in control EVERY A TIME THROUGH YOUR ADDICTION..... you make your own choices people... it's NOBODY ELSE'S FAULT....... it's your fault.... it's NOT CHEMICALS CONTROLLING YOU... it's you controlling yourself..... face the truth and grow
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BEAUTIFUL???
Lol. Beautiful cause you want to follow in on his footsteps. Drink thenpn say its3not your faulr1😂. Useless hmans
If you have no experience, you don't know. He had experience and was brave enough to tell the world about it. RIP
Brave is to grow up and know ppl love you and you need to change not tell the world and that’s somehow brave . Get your shit straight (no if’s or buts )
@@alvarosanchez4461okay sorry not all of us have perfect meanigful lives I’m literally homeless and have no one but Mary Jane you’re so entitled and privileged it’s disgusting
@@alvarosanchez4461like come on way to tell everyone you’re either a child or have had no hardships in your life
@@nyrea8163 I have one beer after that I can’t control myself 🙄. Sad that his dead but that’s on him . Got no self control go hind under a rock
Yup the same when people talk about abuse never being abused. They don’t f***** now how to be in that situation
Matthew Perry you missed by many especially by this recovery addict me myself and I never met but I am blessed today and I am thankful and grateful for your honesty on addiction PLEASE REST IN PEACE ❤️🔥❤️🤙🙏
His honesty shows his strength. Rest in peace.
What strength
Strength is not doing it in the first place!! Anybody can speak truth,, not anybody as the strength or discipline not to do what is harming them. This guy is pure weak. No strength here, just dude speaking truth.
your ideology is absolutely disgusting. People fall, everyone makes mistakes. I hope one day you open your eyes and learn some compassion and understanding. Hope one day you grow to be a real adult.
@@robertgallentine1095 🤣 chill out Joel!
Bout people fall, yeah agreed but why they fall, cuz they damn weak!! You didn't say sh*t but a word. Those who can resist temptation of any kind, is someone who as self control, meaning strength. Those who give into temptation are those without self control, meaning weak. Speaking facts as nothing to do with being compassionate or not!! Bout my comment is disgusting. That comment alone shows a lot bout you!
Funny enough he is being dishonest here to himself and everyone he’s speaking to. All just boils down to an obsession with offloading personal responsibility onto another entity besides yourself.
Matt stuck his neck on line & was truthful… not many people do that but he did it to help .. no glory just help 😢.
not taking accountabillity for your own actions is by no means truthful it is called narcissism. This is why he is dead now.
Yea? How’s that working out for him?
Christopher hitchens brother, talking to Matthew Perry, is one of the most unbelievably ignorant people in academia.
@@MrMakingwavesmedia calling yourself an alcoholic and preventing yourself from having the first drink is being accountable for your actions lol What are you talking about? please learn science and biology before you comment
How delusional are you? Where is he now? How good did blindly following what he was saying here help him?
Man, R.I.P. Matthew. All these clips are coming to light where he talks about this horrific disease and you realise he was self aware and carried himself with a transparent sense of humility. Not many people can admit the problem for the fear of public consequences.
Not a disease..weak willpower....i have been in them shoes
@@nomadicabhush!
He also claimed to invent sarcasm back in the friends days... js
@@nomadicabbut you haven’t been in his shoes, you have only ever been in your own. His challenges were not the same as yours nor your ability to overcome them.
@@nomadicabfalse information bozo. It is a disease, and that’s a fact!!!!
The sad part is he was touring the country telling everyone how clean he was and how hard it is to stay clean. During this time he was doing drugs and denying it.
Rest in peace, my friend many of us suffer from addiction. You will be missed.
Right here, my man. We work every day to stay away. Rip Matthew. I feel this 100%
It’s most likely related to an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (adhd/autism spectrum disorder).
The executive function is greatly impaired resulting in poor decision making and it doesn’t stop there. If you are interested or curious, I recommend researching the topic and making an appointment with a good therapist/psychologist (or whoever diagnoses and treats these issues). If you are adhd or autistic, Just learning about the
disorder(s) will help anyone who suffers. There are a lot of good resources available today to help with stuff like this. Almost every addict I’ve known (including myself) is neurodivergent.
He wished death on Keanu Reeves in his book. he's a T W A T
Matthew is dead??
You knew him?
Appreciate his honesty.
He's not afraid to be vulnerable and expose his weakness.
You mean "was"
@@patrickt1087not even necessary
@@tjluthe No... it does seem necessary. People care more about this guy who destroyed his own life through lack of control, but don't care about someone else that was not at fault for their own death.
People have this "death cult" like mentality when it comes to famous people. Perry, Ledger, Carradine, Petty, Prince, and many many others... all dying from various "addictions".
Instead of rebuking sin, we celebrate sin... and when someone calls it out... people like you come out of the wood work to try and stop it.
It's like you want more people to die as a victim instead of understanding their life is more valuable to them than clowns like you!
He wasn't honest. He died never taking responsibility for his choices.
Sadly that's what most people see. The best part of this is the most glossed over. Mr. Perry found a way to stop himself to not take the first drink, he came to understand himself (his choice).
That's the point Hitchens should focus on. Because that's where the control lies. Of course we are humans (animals) and we have behavioral circuits that drive us into bad habits very often. Even when we devise a system to control ourselves it will always be implemented imperfectly.
We are wired to focus on the negative, evolutionary selection, and naturally we are drawn to news cycles and gossip/politics which reflect that. Focusing on his vulnerabilities is far below focusing on his tenacity to overcome those through responsibility.
Sadly I think Mr. Perry is focused too much on the miscommunication of Mr. Hitchens way of putting things instead of coming to see the good in overcoming his own adversity through that conversation.
I’m glad finally someone is admitting alcohol is a drug
Alcohol is one of the worst drugs. And we sell it on every street corner.
Not just a drug, but A toxin.
@@MyLiverismyEnemy username checks out
Al Jourgenson from Ministry was an alcoholic, long time heroin addict plus had other addictions. On the 'Just One Fix' filmclip, his stumbling/staggering and nodding off isn't faked. They had to keep propping him up on his stool because he was stoned off his head. He said out of all the addictions he's had, alcohol was the hardest to kick. He got off heroin cold turkey but needed help to stop drinking. I'm the opposite. I was drinking Jacks or Beam (whatever was handy) straight from the bottle before getting out of bed to numb myself for the day but kicked the alcohol quite easily. I'd had alcohol poisoning more than once so I guess that helped me stop. Now I can't STAND the smell of whiskey, scotch or bourbon🤢. It's the heroin that hit me hard. 20+ yrs later and I still have that particular monkey on my back. Even though I'm on methadone.
Anyone who says addiction's a state of mind need to go through withdrawals and/or DTs. Definitely no mind over matter there.
sugar is a drug apparently it is more addictive than cocaine
Just turned 40 last week and im 4years sober. I never want to go back to the person i used to be. I also lost my brother to alcoholism 7 years ago. I cannot just have that one drink ever again