My grandmother, who was raised by her very elderly aunts (actual Victorians) was more my role model than my hippie mom (nothing against that she was just wild and I was quiet). I was trained to fairly Victorian manners by my grandmother who was a career artist and kept a beautiful home from the 40s to the early 90s. My grandfather was a physics professor and a dean. I loved the propriety of their household.. oh the books(!) and all the beautiful antiques from my grandmother's aunts Victorian homes :)
There is a beauty to proper manners. It is, after all, a way of showing respect. I think what really is lacking in our generation is respect. Respect for the food, respect for the cook, etc. Throw it in the microwave, eat from the carton...not exactly elegant.
🤔--- sitting on the toilet eating my lunch and making a poopy I guess that's a big No-No right🤔 and here I thought that was multitasking when I'm at work....😂
My parents put great emphasis on table manners. My grandparents were from Scotland and very Victorian/Edwardian. So, if my parents missed anything, my grandparents were right there to correct it. At an early age my brothers and sisters knew how to take tea, have a formal meal with numerous dishes, and silverware as well as glasses. My dad kept a sharp eye on all of us at the table, and when I had friends from school stay for dinner he would nonchalantly watch them as well. We were very at ease dinning out and actually astounded waiters/ waitress' with ordering, using multiple silverware and glasses. It was all a big payoff, as I would attend numerous formal dinners in Boston at the finer hotels, and I felt like I was sitting at my own dinning room table. I still have my dads sharp eye for manners when out dining. 😊😊😊😊😊😊
I took a course when I was high school on how to eat properly at the table. Of course it was my great grandmother teaching it. I felt so proud when I hosted my first dinner party after the course. I knew how to make polite dinner conversations and everything. I actually enjoyed it.
Eating a meal should be a pleasure, not a much of people scoffing for down their throats. My grandchildren and husband do that, why do I even cook? I have mentioned this, but to no avail, I sometimes get eat in another room, I thought about filming them, but would they get it??
@@ellendolber2765 I think your over thinking it. They probably eat so fast cause your cooking just taste that good. I agree people should eat slower. People are too disconnected now a days.
I love the "people today" comments, as though no one in previous generations ever had bad manners. These films/books/lectures existed specifically because people used bad manners, and those guides and lessons were created to combat them.
to be fair most of the people who chastise 'people of this generation' are just hoping to make themselves seem more valuable by giving the impression that _they_ are the sorts who always sit at a table using the correct spoons and side china. it's just petty preening
If you remembered those times as we older folks do, you'd understand that there is a fundamental difference in attitude. Now a lot of ill mannered people see nothing wrong in that. Back in the stone ages people were aware they didn't know the rules and apologized if they thought they were giving offense and many aspired to do better. An example is the coarsening of speech. A polite person would not throw around "f" bombs etc. and if one slipped out the speaker would apologize profusely. Manners isn't just about what fork to use. And yes you're right, the books etc. were created because people didn't know but they sold because people wanted to learn. Today, as I said, people disparage the whole idea.
When I was growing up...we had a book of etiquette by Emily Post and used it often. Our society doesn't care about etiquette anymore, like we once did.
I care... Actually, I recently have a formal dinner in a Luxus hotel in Germany... Nobody knows nothing 🤦♀️, I have to tell my husband what fork was for the starter.... When they bring the butter, a woman by my side asked loud and seriously: why they bring ice-cream first??? I told it was butter (with discretion) and she get upset, like "you will not correct me" (I'm hispanic, maybe that was the problem but is not my fault, I learned manners from my parents) and she didn't believe me, she asked someone else and he doesn't knows also, so they call the weiter to ask him, and he say, my lady, this is fine butter alla fine herbs from the Alps of Austria.... 🙁
1000 8 1000 ....I am so grateful for my mother teaching me good manners in everything and I have passed it on to my children and grandchildren. I too care, we all should.
My grandmother taught me table etiquette. Ironically, it was actually fun learning because I realized the importance & value behind the methodology and even at a young age. Additionally, I remember as I grew older and got my first job when I was cleaning up the fast food restaurant lobby that to my chagrin and shock some people left behind all kinds of messes. It was annoying to clean up after these heathens. I used to think were they raised in a barn & I wonder if they eat like this in their own homes too? Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised. I learned real fast regardless of someone's social status that some people lack proper etiquette. I always took pride in making sure the lobby was impeccably clean because whether or not anyone is noticing you ALWAYS want to do your best at anything you pursue. As long as table manners and other etiquette is taught, and people are willing to learn & put it into practice, then of course I think it's as relevant today as it was in Mrs. Post's time. Manners AND class are good values that are timeless; they transcend SES & help to maintain order and help to avoid bad behavior and hurt feelings.
I agree! I work in a fast food restaurant, and a few months ago I was wiping one of the tables, and I saw a pool of ketchup on the table and someone wrote "CLEAN ME" on it!! 😩😣 I'm not saying I'm this perfectly mannered woman, but please, just have some manners lol.
I love coupons: God bless you! A job worth doing, is a job worth doing well. Every single person who is employed, needs to have this tattooed on their forehead. No matter what position you hold, President or street sweeper, your job matters and so do you. Take pride in all you do.
I was raised this way.....If you were lucky enough to have been raised with good manners you owe your mother (grandmother, father, nanny whoever) so much. Proper manners will help you through life. And it is so easy to learn them when you are young...not so easy when you are grown and have to break old habits.
Table Manners (1947) 1000am 16.5.23 i have never been out for a meal so i have no concept of table etiquette and would, a la tony montana, come across as a bit of a lag in that respect. i would certainly go out for a meal with this young lady as she doesn't seem too happy about the food she's being forced to eat or cogitate upon. in that she would be more than pleased to order the food of her choosing and that would make for a very amiable meal and after dinner chin wag - irrespective of my lax table manners.
I'm 58 years old. My dear mother, who taught home economics in the 50s & 60, taught me much of what is shown here...i especially remember the eating of soup where the spoon is drawn away from oneself. it does make for a cultured appearance. naturally, i never employ that formality when its all you can eat at golden corral and cracker barrel.
btinsley1 I’m 58 too, and absolutely. The only one thing I disagreed with is you never ever blow your nose at the table! A sudden sneeze is one thing... But blowing your nose at the table? At one of my dinner parties, I had someone use my (Linen) napkins to blow their nose at the table.
I thought using the soup spoon like that was just being “snotty” (in a nod to what @btinsley1 said about the rude linen napkin nose-blower) until I learned there really was a reason for that - that the bowl, instead of your lap, may catch any drips! I remember thinking how ingenious that really was. Lol!
This is a very American way of table manners. In Europe it is simply not done to only use the fork while eating and leaving the knife aside. Also the silverware is placed waaaay to far from the plates. But I guess table manners and table settings are somewhat dependent on times, places and culture ;-) .
As I watched this, I remembered everything shown here was what I learned growing up and I know people still eat this way, yet I do not practice most of this anymore. I'm deffinitely going to slow down and be more conscious of how I eat.
We eat dinner at the table, I still teach my children to keep their elbows off the table, use a napkin, chew with their mouths closed and ask to be excused once finished. I don't set the table in a formal manner for everyday meals but I do for special occasions or holidays. These were things I was taught by my grandmother and I try to keep going in my home as well as regular, everyday manners (holdng doors, saying please and thank you, being clean and well groomed etc) I wish more people made even the slightest effort to show some pride in themselves these days.
Heidi Thomas Some of it seems a bit excessive. Actually, I miss those days when there were so many niceties. Seems healthy to have that structure. That era had its problems, too. But still nothing wrong with thoughtful manners.
Wow! That holding a piece of bread against the last bits of food onto your fork is absolutely brilliant! I had no idea that a polite way to do that actually existed! If food is delicious I never leave it on my plate so I just nudged it with my fingers and think that the polite thing to do was a waste of food! This is so empowering!
You can always use a butter knife if there is no bread. That's how I was taught, anyway. Just guide the food onto the fork with the knife. We were also taught to twist the pasta into a spoon, and I don't know how anyone could make it through a plate of spaghetti with just a fork lol.
@@THE-X-Force it's also good manners to have some bread on the table though, even if there's not a course to use it with per se, someone might want or need a piece.
I remember telling people at the table that if their spicy food made their nose run, to PLEASE blow it in the restroom and I would make sure and do the same as well. So gross when people do this at the table.
Oh lord. I was once seated next to a man of higher 'class' and his nose was running. It didn't help that the open fire about 15 feet away was causing the moisture to glimmer. I kept waiting for he or his wife to produce a handkerchief, but no.... Shall never forget, tho I can't remember the meal. Lesson- I always have a spare hanky about me rather than just one.
Some ppl can't make it to the bathroom before the snot runs down their face so which is more disgusting. Seeing snot or letting them blow their nose? Especially if they have a bad bad cold. They'd be stuck in the toilet never getting to eat. We neemorman ets at the table for sure but some things r just archaic. Maybe just expect an excuse me. Pardon me. I apologize for having a killer cold with this snot coming out of my head non stop undonctrolably and than thanks for not relugsting me to the washroom my entire visit. 😜
Heather Smith I would’ve stood up and pointed at his snotty face and said go clean that snot off you’re face you snot faced snotter and wipe your ass while you’re there you smell like shit
If you must belch during the meal, hold it in like your life depends on it. It shows good manners. Even if you have a stroke and die. When dying at the meal table, be sure to face forward towards your plate. It will let your host know you are done with your meal, after all, it`s only good manners.
Bethlehem Eisenhour: You know it's not recommended unless you know that all of your guests at the table are of the same faith as you, right? The last thing you want to do is make any of your guests uncomfortable by imposing a religious ritual they are not familiar with, or don't share.
Because God is the Great I AM, and He created everyone at the table and knows the number of hairs on their heads and knows the date and hour they’re appointed to meet Him Face-to-face, you bet I’m going to honor Him by thanking Him for His goodness in supplication of my sustenance. Political correctness dies in the lake of brimstone too so it’s of no good use to me now or ever. No one said it had to be a formal public sermon - Jesus called out certain forms of public prayers - but a few seconds of a bowed head and silent grateful appreciation is most certainly appropriate.
Grabs bread with hands to stop up the juice tearing it apart and placing rest of bread on the table to use soon enough, or balling up the pieces of bread into bread balls to see whose can bounce higher before eating.
8:20 "If the coughing lasts you should leave the table" NEVER DO THIS. People have died because they are choking or coughing on food and go to the bathroom to avoid being disruptive and then have no one to save them.
This was before Dr. Heimlich. It is really disgusting when someone is Heimliched at the table. I have seen it but you don't let someone die. The time it happened in front of me was a group meal at the synagogue and everything was paper. I just got people who were able to salvage their plates to do so and gathered everything up in the paper cloth.
Yes, the spaghetti always needs to be cut into tiny bits before eating, that is unless you have the maid to do it for you...and then we have people smoking at the table and according to you, that is good manners...
I'd rather be a happy, well adjusted, relaxed slob than an uptight weirdo who feels such a basic animalistic function as eating needs to be tightly controlled by militant rules and strictly monitored behaviours. I'm now off to sit in front of the TV in my underpants eating pizza straight out of the box.
Here’s one for fine restaurant.... there is still food on the plate but you are finished eating. Lay the knife and fork together across the plate center.... but the fork should be tines down. That ‘tines down’ signals you are finished to the waiter and the plate is removed without interruption or conversation from the food server. I bet you didn’t know that.
😂 I remember being sooo thirsty at an office party - however, I couldn't remember if my glass was on the right, or the left - so, I took the one on the left - my boss gave me a wicked look because I took his drink.😬 Left (4 letters) = fork Right (5 letters) = knife, glass Decades ago & I STILL fret about it!😵
Lovely video! Still can't get over how differently we in the UK hold our knife and fork. Seem so strange to put the knife down and swap hands with the fork!
Also, i was taught that it was poor manners to cut anything with the fork. I was surprised to hear that was "correct." Also, taking inedible food out of your mouth with your fingers is okay? Huh. My dad was from Denmark...he ate burgers and fries with a knife and fork. Lol. Picking food up with your hands was frowned upon. After 40 or 50 years in Canada, he did eventually eat chicken and ribs with his fingers...but so very gingerly. 😄
I’m originally from the UK and taught my American-born children to use a knife and fork properly from the youngest age. When we would eat in public (here in the US), people would comment on how nice it looked. It WAS a pleasure for everyone to watch them eat using cutlery properly in the British way - not just for me.
Really! The lady said blow your nose if you must,well that is disgusting to do at the dinner table. I would prefer if the person would remove themselves from the table and go into the restroom to blow their nose. Also smoking at the dinner table should not be allowed at all,because you are going to have non smokers eating at the dinner table.
Back then though, literally almost everybody smoke. Even people that didn't smoke for the most part didn't really complain about it. I remember even when I was a kid going to restaurants that still allow smoking, and it was just a normal thing to deal with. You had non-smokers walking around stinking like smoke from other people. I can't imagine that people smelled too fresh
A simple sneeze or to dab a nose is one thing but of course if you want to really have a good long blow then best to excuse yourself to another room. This is my take on Australian manners anyway. Many communities are now varied in cultural diversity and it is best to take queues from your hosts. It is their event. As hosts they will do their best to make you comfortable. Guests in turn should be respectful and appreciative of the hospitality given them by their hosts.
These old videos remind me of the videos we had to watch in elementary school about how to deal with caps/explosives (as the school was right next to a military base so finding this stuff wasnt unheard of)
And when breaking wind, break towards your left, never towards your right. And if per chance any poo were to slip out, try to inconspicuously dab it with your napkin. Make glib conversation about events of the day to divert peoples attention from what you`re doing. And then use your finger bowl as a miniature bidet and place it under your butt and dab your fingers in it and gently splash your butt with the clean water then pat dry with the clean side of your napkin. Then place your napkin clean side up on your plate so no-one will know you had an unforseen accident. Then go on with your next meal course...…….and of course be sure to ask for a clean napkin,,,,,it`s only good manners.
@@amberola1b Priceless comic genius! My stomach aches from the laughter! Thank you, thank you, thank you! This pretentious garbage is so offensive when one considers that, in 1947 even more than now, the majority of the human population never had enough to eat anyway. Some of the more imbecilic comments here are embarrassing to intelligent Americans. But we have the same airheads in Britain, I'm sad to say. Follow the advice of Greeks and Italians: If there's no mess on the table, you didn't enjoy the meal!
@RUFUS T. FIREFLY I'm a left-hander too and I always have problems with some people but I don't care anymore. It's also not okay to force people to use the other hand. The brain of a left-hander is diffrent and we use our left brain side more than right. U can get a disorder when people force you to use the other hand especially by kids. In my country its not allowed anymore to force people to do this and parents or teachers can get charged for assault. My aunt did this to my cousin and she got problems with the law
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Hugo QP By the clothes the young lady’s wearing it looks like the early 1950s... Non-Italian’s used to break the Spaghetti before cooking. My Irish Nan (Grandmother) used to cut up our spaghetti on our places when we were little. 😊
I'm so bothered by the way they are passing the serving plates and bowls with their thumbs in the dish. That's a lot of hands in the same dishes. I work in food service and its proper to keep your fingers out of the interior surface of any plate or bowl served
Melanie Toth went to my favorite restaurant and the worker lifted a baby high chair (he swings the chair with the legs of the chair in the air above my table) I was instantaneous disgusted. Finger in bowls/ top of glasses when serving drinks definitely a major no no!
@@minemine1137 I was raised in an Italian household in the 50s and 60s. If I cut my spaghetti and ate it like she did, I'd have gotten a crack across the mouth...jk. But I would have gotten a,"What the hell is that?".
Healthy and Loving Life if ribs are on the menu you really do need a finger bowl because they’re very sticky and messy when my host doesn’t bring me a finger bowl 🍲 I wipe my hands all over the tablecloth it’sure raises eyebrows sometimes
restaurants in India and middle eastern countries still practice finger bowls.. always have..we eat with our hands..makes sense lol Even if we don’t dirty our hand. It still comes at the end of the meal; with a slice of lime.
Clenched fist holding the utensils. Bringing your face down to your plate. Elbows raised high. Speaking with food in your mouth. I see these things every time I go out for a meal. And that's just the in laws. Tee hee.
Maxi D because our country seems to be taking in all kinds of people from the Middle East that Are more used to eating with goats and pigs than at a kitchen table no thank you they can stay in their icaveman world or Europe
I used to get smacked with my elbows on the table. And I also was not allowed to drink anything while I was eating I can only drink after my meal. This is why I sit on the toilet and eat my meals. I learned to multitask if they can only see me now....😂
Emily Post came from a world most of us would never have encountered - Fifth Avenue balls, high society galas, wealth and privilege. Hence the table settings, behavior, etc. relate primarily to more formal meals rather than a simple middle class family gathering ("those households without a maid"). Some of the points are universal - blowing your nose in front of everyone like you're playing a trumpet - but the proper use of the finger bowl is a point most of us can skip.
Aadamtx: I agree; but if you have been taught the formal rules of dining, it is an easy matter to accomodate a simple meal. The reverse, however, is not true. Having said that, I find I am no longer putting out butter and fish knives, or the full compliment of glasses (let alone finger bowls) when setting my table for guests; so there is the point that a very formal table can make your guests uncomfortable these days.....
I too agree, but once one learns the "rules", then one can apply and adjust them to any situation. I don't use finger bowls, but I do wash my mouth and hands in the bathroom after eating, and I expect the same from my kids. I don't want sticky fingers touching everything in the house.
@@heidithomas5455 My husband and I like artichokes. I always put out finger bowls when we have them. You aren't expected to do a surgical scrub, but you should get the worst of the oil off your fingers with one. At formal dinners it is very rude to get up and leave the table mid-meal, even to blow your nose. You handle that as you would breaking wind. As discretely and silently as possible and the POLITE people around you will pretend not to notice.
My Mom had a copy of the 1960 edition of the Vogue Book f Etiquette Book of Etiquette. the emphasis was on "etiquette rules" as a means of making people comfortable at meals, They were not high-falutin' notions but practical, humane guidelines. The book also included wonderful advice on how to address many kinds of people in person or in correspondence--just in case you might meet the Pope or an ambassador. And that edition also had advice on hiring servants, and how to outfit them with appropriate clothes.
Regarding the bread on the tablecloth, Emily Post says in my 1945 edition, p. 345: Guest helps self to roll and lays it on tablecloth, always. No bread plates on table when there is no butter, and no butter is ever served at a formal dinner.
JD Aragón wrong! I’m from Australia and we never use the side of the form to cut. We always use a knife and fork and the fork always stays in the left hand as it should. Americans are the only western culture I know of that cut up their food and then change the fork to the right hand. It’s a silly act and very inefficient.
Clearly this woman has never eaten spaghetti before... in a perfect world, all stands of noodles will make it on the fork in a perfect order... but we do not live in a perfect world.
Besides just cut the strands into smaller sections that can easily be scooped onto your fork without having to "load" your fork. It's easier and saves one from getting sauce all over ones blouse!!! No drips!!!!
@@johnny-becker more then one way to skin a pole cat, darlin!!! I hate doing laundry with a passion, so finding ways to eat, short of wearing bibs is something I totally strive for!!!
I'm definitely born in the wrong era! I was born in 1960 and I still love learning about home ec, etiquette,... I even love older clothing styles & mid century furniture!
@@carolynridlon3988 I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. I was born in 1963 and feel I was born in the wrong era. I really can’t relate to this world. I’m very old fashioned, only relate to lifestyle, music, tv, etc from 50’s, 60’s. Also love mid century houses and decor. I have several pieces of mid century furniture.
This is a lovely film, and I recognize that many of these table rules were established for efficient yet graceful service and to avoid confusion about the 'right' utensil or the order of serving. I grew up in the 70's and 80's with polite yet somewhat lax parents and little experience with formal dinners (though my paternal grandmother cared very much about conventional etiquette). So I grew up knowing what NOT to do, but not what I SHOULD do, if that makes any sense. I read about table etiquette and I enjoy these films too.
I sure wouldn't eat asparagus with my fingers if they were drowning in Hollandaise sauce like the ones in the video. Nor if they were overcooked into mushiness.
Not ostentatious at all. They are done quietly by habit. Far superior to how people are depicted in the movies where they gesticulate with their utensils and wave them around in the air like rapiers.
@@fergusmallon1337 What movies have you been watching? And telling someone which way to tilt their spoon to eat their soup is fairly ostentatious and has not real function.
@@HobbyHillsVideos Casual American style. But at the level of Emily Post, you should hang onto your fork and not transfer hands. Children need to change hands as they eat; adults should be able to manage just fine without changing hands.
@@bobbbxxx No, it was always considered the other way. Probably to separate the "blue bloods" from the immigrants. Why should children change? It's awkward and takes more dexterity. Euro is much better.
@@Meira750 If someone is giving a tutorial as to the polite way to eat, he should learn to grasp a utensil in either hand and not flip them back and forth. It's not hard to do and looks MUCH less awkward than handing them over to the other hand (which looks gauche, to my eye)_
About 45 years ago my grandmother looked at me like I was a bug on the wall. And through her horrified contorted disappointed face told me to go forward with your soup spoon knock and then eat it the soup. ........ FU grandma for making eating soup a source of soul crushing angst for my whole fail of a life. I miss her.
You were being a boor. You should have waited until after dinner or stepped outside. Are you that seriously addicted? I live in a country where people smoke like fiends but they have basic manners regarding doing it.
It's all about being *prepared.* A table setup this way makes food easy to eat. Nowadays we're so far removed from these habits; if someone is in the kitchen when we sit down to eat and we're missing a spoon, we just yell into the kitchen and a spoon comes flying back. I like the way things are done in this video. Everything is in its place, well prepared ahead of time and the food is ready to be consumed. This is what *Donald Trump* mean when he said it's time to *Make America Great Again*
Sandy Hook still has a small film industry, because it's only 60 miles (about an hour) from NYC. I am from this area and there are a lot of movie stars living in Fairfield county, of which Sandy Hook, Newtown is a part of.
I think one reason a lot of this is not taught anymore is that society has become less formal in general. My parents taught us the basics but not the finer points.
these actors have that weird mid-atlantic accent that some actors would affect back then to sound more sophisticated and/or sound neutral and non-regional. by the 50's it was pretty much gone.
Well I'd rather here a mid Atlantic accent, regardless of how affectatious it sounds, than to hear today's people say 'like' and 'you know' after every other word.
Letty Guerra • Like, it’s kinda easier to tell when, you know, people really can’t, like, come up with words of, you know, their own, which just, like, shows they’re using, like, a fifth of, you know, what’s that thing up there inside their, like, you know, their skull? Oh, right, it’s like, the brain! You know?
I don't. Unfortunately, virtually everybody else I know does! They just do not know any better. It was the way they were brought up. You know like, "Candy put your soup spoon on the right. Then decide whether to put your phone on the left of that or to put your phone on the right side of your salad fork.
@@roverworld7218 That is cute if you're in Italy and you don't mind wearing your food (Italians have never been known for their table manners), and some cultures eat with just their hands, but in the civilized world we strive for grace and elegance at a proper dinner table. Italians also shove their napkins in their collars ... in every mob movie I have ever seen while eating spaghetti. If you're in well heeled company, pick up the soup spoon.
We we're trained to be able to manage a fork well enough to eat REAL pasta (not whatever that cut up limp stuff was) with just a fork. Having to use a spoon to assist was considered crass.
I had a cousin who would blow her cigarette smoke right in her dining companions' faces...God,I hated eating with her. I've no problem eating with someone who wants a cigarette after a meal, but there's such a thing as treating others the way you'd want to be treated..I doubt even another smoker would want that blown their way.
My grandmother, who was raised by her very elderly aunts (actual Victorians) was more my role model than my hippie mom (nothing against that she was just wild and I was quiet). I was trained to fairly Victorian manners by my grandmother who was a career artist and kept a beautiful home from the 40s to the early 90s. My grandfather was a physics professor and a dean. I loved the propriety of their household.. oh the books(!) and all the beautiful antiques from my grandmother's aunts Victorian homes :)
It sounds like a lovely memory, Melanie! Cheers 🥂
There is a beauty to proper manners. It is, after all, a way of showing respect. I think what really is lacking in our generation is respect. Respect for the food, respect for the cook, etc. Throw it in the microwave, eat from the carton...not exactly elegant.
I hope u pass it on
What a past. Lucky lady. Toth? That’s actually an ethnic group in Europe.
That's so wonderful, wish we could see photos of your grandmother's home
"Eat as quietly as possible" some people need a refresher on that pointer lol
me, eating raw cookie dough straight out of the fridge: well OBVIOUSLY you tip the spoon away from you don’t be an animal
Karis 😂😂
Drinking milk out of the container and sticking it back in the fridge is a big No-No I guess to write🤔😂
🤔--- sitting on the toilet eating my lunch and making a poopy I guess that's a big No-No right🤔 and here I thought that was multitasking when I'm at work....😂
Lmao
"I don't usually eat raw cooky dough -BUT when I do 'I east it woth a fork and a knife on a dish"
-JK LEL
My parents put great emphasis on table manners. My grandparents were from Scotland and very Victorian/Edwardian. So, if my parents missed anything, my grandparents were right there to correct it. At an early age my brothers and sisters knew how to take tea, have a formal meal with numerous dishes, and silverware as well as glasses. My dad kept a sharp eye on all of us at the table, and when I had friends from school stay for dinner he would nonchalantly watch them as well. We were very at ease dinning out and actually astounded waiters/ waitress' with ordering, using multiple silverware and glasses. It was all a big payoff, as I would attend numerous formal dinners in Boston at the finer hotels, and I felt like I was sitting at my own dinning room table. I still have my dads sharp eye for manners when out dining. 😊😊😊😊😊😊
That’s so cool. (:
Old fashioned pompous crap I'd say stupid
I took a course when I was high school on how to eat properly at the table. Of course it was my great grandmother teaching it.
I felt so proud when I hosted my first dinner party after the course. I knew how to make polite dinner conversations and everything. I actually enjoyed it.
You were blessed.
This is very relaxing to me
Eating a meal should be a pleasure, not a much of people scoffing for down their throats. My grandchildren and husband do that, why do I even cook? I have mentioned this, but to no avail, I sometimes get eat in another room, I thought about filming them, but would they get it??
I understand
@@ellendolber2765 I think your over thinking it. They probably eat so fast cause your cooking just taste that good. I agree people should eat slower. People are too disconnected now a days.
If i eat at that pace I get hungrier as I dine.
@@ellendolber2765 you should film them, when I saw myself in some situations it really made me change some of my bad habits. It works :)
I love the "people today" comments, as though no one in previous generations ever had bad manners. These films/books/lectures existed specifically because people used bad manners, and those guides and lessons were created to combat them.
AndWhatIsThisNow It's more untaught than Bad. And shown, not combatted. Generally..
Yes but they embraced the info, unlike today's crop who are disparaging the entire concept.
to be fair most of the people who chastise 'people of this generation' are just hoping to make themselves seem more valuable by giving the impression that _they_ are the sorts who always sit at a table using the correct spoons and side china. it's just petty preening
If you remembered those times as we older folks do, you'd understand that there is a fundamental difference in attitude. Now a lot of ill mannered people see nothing wrong in that. Back in the stone ages people were aware they didn't know the rules and apologized if they thought they were giving offense and many aspired to do better. An example is the coarsening of speech. A polite person would not throw around "f" bombs etc. and if one slipped out the speaker would apologize profusely. Manners isn't just about what fork to use. And yes you're right, the books etc. were created because people didn't know but they sold because people wanted to learn. Today, as I said, people disparage the whole idea.
@@Meira750 listen, I'm sorry that you can't handle the evolution of society. It's no longer impolite to show ankle, people swear, deal with it.
Born in 1872 died in 1960.
She would definitely gasp at this generations table manners.
Lack there of!
Yes. Please bring back politeness, manners, and etiquette; what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.
@@Lughnerson no!
"Thereof", one word.
God this sweaty old hog reminds me of one of my big fat old aunts, ugh Feminine hygiene bad enough to gag a maggot
It is proper to eat however you damn well please while you are watching the game.
When I was growing up...we had a book of etiquette by Emily Post and used it often. Our society doesn't care about etiquette anymore, like we once did.
I care... Actually, I recently have a formal dinner in a Luxus hotel in Germany... Nobody knows nothing 🤦♀️, I have to tell my husband what fork was for the starter.... When they bring the butter, a woman by my side asked loud and seriously: why they bring ice-cream first??? I told it was butter (with discretion) and she get upset, like "you will not correct me" (I'm hispanic, maybe that was the problem but is not my fault, I learned manners from my parents) and she didn't believe me, she asked someone else and he doesn't knows also, so they call the weiter to ask him, and he say, my lady, this is fine butter alla fine herbs from the Alps of Austria.... 🙁
... And everybody feels uncomfortable, she looks embarrassed, and then people was talking about me and how I know that stuff... 😐🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
1000 8 1000 ....I am so grateful for my mother teaching me good manners in everything and I have passed it on to my children and grandchildren. I too care, we all should.
@@tillietrue9397 Exactly, I really belive about manners like the soul of all human values.
I took etiquette class when I was growing up
My grandmother taught me table etiquette. Ironically, it was actually fun learning because I realized the importance & value behind the methodology and even at a young age. Additionally, I remember as I grew older and got my first job when I was cleaning up the fast food restaurant lobby that to my chagrin and shock some people left behind all kinds of messes. It was annoying to clean up after these heathens. I used to think were they raised in a barn & I wonder if they eat like this in their own homes too? Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised. I learned real fast regardless of someone's social status that some people lack proper etiquette. I always took pride in making sure the lobby was impeccably clean because whether or not anyone is noticing you ALWAYS want to do your best at anything you pursue. As long as table manners and other etiquette is taught, and people are willing to learn & put it into practice, then of course I think it's as relevant today as it was in Mrs. Post's time. Manners AND class are good values that are timeless; they transcend SES & help to maintain order and help to avoid bad behavior and hurt feelings.
I agree! I work in a fast food restaurant, and a few months ago I was wiping one of the tables, and I saw a pool of ketchup on the table and someone wrote "CLEAN ME" on it!! 😩😣 I'm not saying I'm this perfectly mannered woman, but please, just have some manners lol.
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God bless you! A job worth doing, is a job worth doing well. Every single person who is employed, needs to have this tattooed on their forehead. No matter what position you hold, President or street sweeper, your job matters and so do you. Take pride in all you do.
I was raised this way.....If you were lucky enough to have been raised with good manners you owe your mother (grandmother, father, nanny whoever) so much. Proper manners will help you through life. And it is so easy to learn them when you are young...not so easy when you are grown and have to break old habits.
I feel that same way.
My grandmother would always say, proper manners can be used no matter rich or poor & will never go out of style.
She was right!
Table Manners (1947) 1000am 16.5.23 i have never been out for a meal so i have no concept of table etiquette and would, a la tony montana, come across as a bit of a lag in that respect. i would certainly go out for a meal with this young lady as she doesn't seem too happy about the food she's being forced to eat or cogitate upon. in that she would be more than pleased to order the food of her choosing and that would make for a very amiable meal and after dinner chin wag - irrespective of my lax table manners.
I'm 58 years old. My dear mother, who taught home economics in the 50s & 60, taught me much of what is shown here...i especially remember the eating of soup where the spoon is drawn away from oneself. it does make for a cultured appearance. naturally, i never employ that formality when its all you can eat at golden corral and cracker barrel.
btinsley1
I’m 58 too, and absolutely. The only one thing I disagreed with is you never ever blow your nose at the table! A sudden sneeze is one thing... But blowing your nose at the table? At one of my dinner parties, I had someone use my (Linen) napkins to blow their nose at the table.
I thought using the soup spoon like that was just being “snotty” (in a nod to what @btinsley1 said about the rude linen napkin nose-blower) until I learned there really was a reason for that - that the bowl, instead of your lap, may catch any drips! I remember thinking how ingenious that really was. Lol!
@@janedoe805 o no, really? That's soooo rude! 🤢
I still employ that formality at Golden Corral and Cracker Barrel.....since when did Cracker Barrel have all you can eat?
btinsley1 I never had heard that about the soup spoon. Makes sense, though!
I’m a Puerto Rican girl from the Bronx. My father made sure I had impeccable table manners! No elbows on the table Mable. 😂
This video was made 1947 and it's been on TH-cam 11 years ago what a grateful to be here in 2023 ❤
This is a very American way of table manners. In Europe it is simply not done to only use the fork while eating and leaving the knife aside. Also the silverware is placed waaaay to far from the plates. But I guess table manners and table settings are somewhat dependent on times, places and culture ;-) .
So true!
Why tf am I even watching this ? I like to eat in my room with no pants on. I'm liberated.
tavern2468 I eat in bed in my underwear...teehee! 🥳
mk toohtwo you are my hero
Keeping it classy I see.
tavern2468 😏
🤔--- I guess sitting on the toilet eating a bagel is wrong then?🤔
I'm going to get started on my table manners right way! At least after I finish my dinner anyway
It's good to have aspirations of self improvement!
@@lettyguerra371 Actually, they're a pretty good guideline, altho they seem stuffy.
As I watched this, I remembered everything shown here was what I learned growing up and I know people still eat this way, yet I do not practice most of this anymore. I'm deffinitely going to slow down and be more conscious of how I eat.
We eat dinner at the table, I still teach my children to keep their elbows off the table, use a napkin, chew with their mouths closed and ask to be excused once finished. I don't set the table in a formal manner for everyday meals but I do for special occasions or holidays. These were things I was taught by my grandmother and I try to keep going in my home as well as regular, everyday manners (holdng doors, saying please and thank you, being clean and well groomed etc) I wish more people made even the slightest effort to show some pride in themselves these days.
@@Ghhop I applaud your efforts. It does take a lot of conscious thought, but it pays off in the end.
Heidi Thomas Some of it seems a bit excessive. Actually, I miss those days when there were so many niceties. Seems healthy to have that structure. That era had its problems, too. But still nothing wrong with thoughtful manners.
My Mom would always ask in mock horror: “What would Emily say?”! ☺️
Same here. I realized how easy it is to succumb to societies new "standards"
Wow! That holding a piece of bread against the last bits of food onto your fork is absolutely brilliant! I had no idea that a polite way to do that actually existed! If food is delicious I never leave it on my plate so I just nudged it with my fingers and think that the polite thing to do was a waste of food! This is so empowering!
Down in the Ozarks in our single wide we just licked the plates.
You can always use a butter knife if there is no bread. That's how I was taught, anyway. Just guide the food onto the fork with the knife. We were also taught to twist the pasta into a spoon, and I don't know how anyone could make it through a plate of spaghetti with just a fork lol.
@@THE-X-Force it's also good manners to have some bread on the table though, even if there's not a course to use it with per se, someone might want or need a piece.
I remember telling people at the table that if their spicy food made their nose run, to PLEASE blow it in the restroom and I would make sure and do the same as well. So gross when people do this at the table.
Yes
Oh lord. I was once seated next to a man of higher 'class' and his nose was running. It didn't help that the open fire about 15 feet away was causing the moisture to glimmer. I kept waiting for he or his wife to produce a handkerchief, but no.... Shall never forget, tho I can't remember the meal. Lesson- I always have a spare hanky about me rather than just one.
Awenda Lol. It wasn’t me, it was someone else. I was just trying to enjoy my meal. Say what, blood ?!?
Some ppl can't make it to the bathroom before the snot runs down their face so which is more disgusting. Seeing snot or letting them blow their nose? Especially if they have a bad bad cold. They'd be stuck in the toilet never getting to eat. We neemorman ets at the table for sure but some things r just archaic. Maybe just expect an excuse me. Pardon me. I apologize for having a killer cold with this snot coming out of my head non stop undonctrolably and than thanks for not relugsting me to the washroom my entire visit. 😜
Heather Smith I would’ve stood up and pointed at his snotty face and said go clean that snot off you’re face you snot faced snotter and wipe your ass while you’re there you smell like shit
lovely video. with that background music it felt like the three stooges were close to the set😂
If you must belch during the meal, hold it in like your life depends on it. It shows good manners. Even if you have a stroke and die. When dying at the meal table, be sure to face forward towards your plate. It will let your host know you are done with your meal, after all, it`s only good manners.
Don't forget to give thanks.. I see so many just sit and start chowing down, Even in yourself you can give thanks to God with no one hearing you.
"Them what's able,
Get to the table;
Any more in the kitchen,
Let it come a'pitchin'.
A-men
Dig in.
The appropriate way to give thanks is, "Thank you, (insert host/hostess name here), for inviting me."
Bethlehem Eisenhour: You know it's not recommended unless you know that all of your guests at the table are of the same faith as you, right? The last thing you want to do is make any of your guests uncomfortable by imposing a religious ritual they are not familiar with, or don't share.
Because God is the Great I AM, and He created everyone at the table and knows the number of hairs on their heads and knows the date and hour they’re appointed to meet Him Face-to-face, you bet I’m going to honor Him by thanking Him for His goodness in supplication of my sustenance. Political correctness dies in the lake of brimstone too so it’s of no good use to me now or ever. No one said it had to be a formal public sermon - Jesus called out certain forms of public prayers - but a few seconds of a bowed head and silent grateful appreciation is most certainly appropriate.
@@gomphrena-beautifulflower-8043 God bless you..
“The silverware has been set according to courses”
*eats cup noodles with a plastic fork*
slurps the juice....
😂😂👍
Grabs bread with hands to stop up the juice tearing it apart and placing rest of bread on the table to use soon enough, or balling up the pieces of bread into bread balls to see whose can bounce higher before eating.
lmao thank you....😂🌭🤡😁😂
@@heidithomas5455 lmao i love it....😂♥️🤡🌭😁😂😂
8:20 "If the coughing lasts you should leave the table" NEVER DO THIS. People have died because they are choking or coughing on food and go to the bathroom to avoid being disruptive and then have no one to save them.
Jason Baylor My dad died that way.
You can "leave the table" but not the room....to avoid coughing all over everyone.
@@mk202 so sorry. That is just terrible.
This was before Dr. Heimlich. It is really disgusting when someone is Heimliched at the table. I have seen it but you don't let someone die. The time it happened in front of me was a group meal at the synagogue and everything was paper. I just got people who were able to salvage their plates to do so and gathered everything up in the paper cloth.
@@daphnechristensengreenlee4593 If you're choking, you can't move. It's total panic mode.
I have to say, it’s lovely seeing good table manners. People today are slobs at the table...such a shame
Yes, the spaghetti always needs to be cut into tiny bits before eating, that is unless you have the maid to do it for you...and then we have people smoking at the table and according to you, that is good manners...
Table? who even eats at the table anymore. All meals are eaten in front of the boob tube.
@@amberola1b Burp... pardon me!
I'd rather be a happy, well adjusted, relaxed slob than an uptight weirdo who feels such a basic animalistic function as eating needs to be tightly controlled by militant rules and strictly monitored behaviours. I'm now off to sit in front of the TV in my underpants eating pizza straight out of the box.
@@becpurcell6773 You can say what you like, but the way Lady Purcell eats her pizza infront of the telly... has a certain ... je ne sais quoi... BURP
Here’s one for fine restaurant.... there is still food on the plate but you are finished eating. Lay the knife and fork together across the plate center.... but the fork should be tines down. That ‘tines down’ signals you are finished to the waiter and the plate is removed without interruption or conversation from the food server. I bet you didn’t know that.
or care...
😂 I remember being sooo thirsty at an office party - however, I couldn't remember if my glass was on the right, or the left - so, I took the one on the left - my boss gave me a wicked look because I took his drink.😬
Left (4 letters) = fork
Right (5 letters) = knife, glass
Decades ago & I STILL fret about it!😵
B = bread plate on the left, D = drink glass on the right. Make a small "b" and "d" with your fingers to remember. :) That's the only way I can do it.
@@thatjpwing I'm going to remember this. Thanks to you both
I am writing this down.
Is spoon 🥄 to the right?
Forgive yourself and laugh a wee bit. Your boss never gave it another thought, or laughed years later.
"in a house without a maid . . ."
😮
Lovely video! Still can't get over how differently we in the UK hold our knife and fork. Seem so strange to put the knife down and swap hands with the fork!
Also, i was taught that it was poor manners to cut anything with the fork. I was surprised to hear that was "correct." Also, taking inedible food out of your mouth with your fingers is okay? Huh. My dad was from Denmark...he ate burgers and fries with a knife and fork. Lol. Picking food up with your hands was frowned upon. After 40 or 50 years in Canada, he did eventually eat chicken and ribs with his fingers...but so very gingerly. 😄
@@daphnechristensengreenlee4593 She was wrong about removing food. It comes out the way it went in.
@@daphnechristensengreenlee4593 Even Queen Victoria ate chicken-or some bits of it [--with her fingers.
I’m originally from the UK and taught my American-born children to use a knife and fork properly from the youngest age. When we would eat in public (here in the US), people would comment on how nice it looked. It WAS a pleasure for everyone to watch them eat using cutlery properly in the British way - not just for me.
Really! The lady said blow your nose if you must,well that is disgusting to do at the dinner table. I would prefer if the person would remove themselves from the table and go into the restroom to blow their nose. Also smoking at the dinner table should not be allowed at all,because you are going to have non smokers eating at the dinner table.
Back then though, literally almost everybody smoke. Even people that didn't smoke for the most part didn't really complain about it. I remember even when I was a kid going to restaurants that still allow smoking, and it was just a normal thing to deal with. You had non-smokers walking around stinking like smoke from other people. I can't imagine that people smelled too fresh
A simple sneeze or to dab a nose is one thing but of course if you want to really have a good long blow then best to excuse yourself to another room. This is my take on Australian manners anyway. Many communities are now varied in cultural diversity and it is best to take queues from your hosts. It is their event. As hosts they will do their best to make you comfortable. Guests in turn should be respectful and appreciative of the hospitality given them by their hosts.
I use the tablecloth Blow globs of snot hard chunks and slimy snot right on the tablecloth. Thank you Last Days I
These were the days following, when male dinner guests left the table to smoke cigars/drink brandy in a separate room (Georgian era). 🥃🚬
If I get lucky and it very spicy food. I need to blow my nose at least 3 time.
These old videos remind me of the videos we had to watch in elementary school about how to deal with caps/explosives (as the school was right next to a military base so finding this stuff wasnt unheard of)
Always remember: when breaking wind at table, make sure it's SBD.
A little tip from your uncle Mike.
Just Me • You may be Uncle Mike but my cousin Ricky taught us all we ever needed to know about dinnertime SBD’s!💨🙄😁
And when breaking wind, break towards your left, never towards your right. And if per chance any poo were to slip out, try to inconspicuously dab it with your napkin. Make glib conversation about events of the day to divert peoples attention from what you`re doing. And then use your finger bowl as a miniature bidet and place it under your butt and dab your fingers in it and gently splash your butt with the clean water then pat dry with the clean side of your napkin. Then place your napkin clean side up on your plate so no-one will know you had an unforseen accident. Then go on with your next meal course...…….and of course be sure to ask for a clean napkin,,,,,it`s only good manners.
@@amberola1b
Priceless comic genius! My stomach aches from the laughter! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
This pretentious garbage is so offensive when one considers that, in 1947 even more than now, the majority of the human population never had enough to eat anyway.
Some of the more imbecilic comments here are embarrassing to intelligent Americans. But we have the same airheads in Britain, I'm sad to say.
Follow the advice of Greeks and Italians: If there's no mess on the table, you didn't enjoy the meal!
amberola1b You should have just stopped at "breaking left, not right." Brilliant there.
Man, thanks for the tip. I never knew 💨🍴
Thank you for sharing this. Many in society could benefit from this. God Bless You & stay safe.
Can I please go back in time.
The only place in my life where being left-handed has caused problems. If I ate with my right hand? It wouldn't be pretty.
@RUFUS T. FIREFLY I'm a left-hander too and I always have problems with some people but I don't care anymore. It's also not okay to force people to use the other hand. The brain of a left-hander is diffrent and we use our left brain side more than right. U can get a disorder when people force you to use the other hand especially by kids. In my country its not allowed anymore to force people to do this and parents or teachers can get charged for assault. My aunt did this to my cousin and she got problems with the law
I'm right-handed. Lots of people 🙄 find 💙 me beautiful 😍, especially 😍 my little baby 🐤 12-year-old brother 💙. He thinks that I'm beautiful 😍, cool 😎, awesome 👌, and nice.
Being left handed is your parents' fault. No one is born left handed.
@@hannahduggan3599 who cares? What does your comment have to do with the OP's left handed comment.🙄
@@seanleith5312 your acting like being left handed is bad lol
What on eath was going on with that spaghetti?
It looked like overcooked Chef Boyardee and why was it all cut up like they were feeding a toddler?
Hugo QP
By the clothes the young lady’s wearing it looks like the early 1950s... Non-Italian’s used to break the Spaghetti before cooking. My Irish Nan (Grandmother) used to cut up our spaghetti on our places when we were little. 😊
@@janedoe805 Why would you think it was the early 1950's when the title quite clearly says it is 1947? Or is it possible that you can't read?
@@Bentcypress As if early 50s is not that far from 1947.
Candace Rain you just can’t read obviously
@@sukmi7799 What's that? I'm way smarter than you? I know thank you!!🤪
I'm so bothered by the way they are passing the serving plates and bowls with their thumbs in the dish. That's a lot of hands in the same dishes. I work in food service and its proper to keep your fingers out of the interior surface of any plate or bowl served
Melanie Toth went to my favorite restaurant and the worker lifted a baby high chair (he swings the chair with the legs of the chair in the air above my table) I was instantaneous disgusted. Finger in bowls/ top of glasses when serving drinks definitely a major no no!
Also-bartenders are suppose to pour & serve a beer/gass in the middle. I notice many have fingers on the rim.
Ho me i was confused with rolling spaghetti in your fork but the spaghetti is cut in small pieces!
@@minemine1137 I was raised in an Italian household in the 50s and 60s. If I cut my spaghetti and ate it like she did, I'd have gotten a crack across the mouth...jk. But I would have gotten a,"What the hell is that?".
Bro chill it was different times, they didn't even know smoking gave you cancer at this time. Things that seem dirty now were normal back then.
I love the idea of a finger bowl. When and why did they go out of style?
I'm always so grateful when the server brings one, if the food dictates. You shouldn't have to ask, for instance when the dish is mussels.
Healthy and Loving Life if ribs are on the menu you really do need a finger bowl because they’re very sticky and messy when my host doesn’t bring me a finger bowl 🍲 I wipe my hands all over the tablecloth it’sure raises eyebrows sometimes
@@baronsorgi1 haha
restaurants in India and middle eastern countries still practice finger bowls.. always have..we eat with our hands..makes sense lol Even if we don’t dirty our hand. It still comes at the end of the meal; with a slice of lime.
i grew up with them at every meal we had sat at the table and i’m 18.. it’s still a thing in some cultures aha
Thank you for posting it!!! It is very helpful!! :)
Table manners are beautiful ❤
Clenched fist holding the utensils. Bringing your face down to your plate. Elbows raised high. Speaking with food in your mouth. I see these things every time I go out for a meal. And that's just the in laws. Tee hee.
My dad always told my brother..bring your food to your mouth not your mouth to your food ..brother never learned.. LoL
Scot & Sam Ain’t immigration great
Maxi D because our country seems to be taking in all kinds of people from the Middle East that Are more used to eating with goats and pigs than at a kitchen table no thank you they can stay in their icaveman world or Europe
@Maxi D Ignore him. He's a troll looking for attention. Don't even respond.
I used to get smacked with my elbows on the table. And I also was not allowed to drink anything while I was eating I can only drink after my meal. This is why I sit on the toilet and eat my meals. I learned to multitask if they can only see me now....😂
Emily Post came from a world most of us would never have encountered - Fifth Avenue balls, high society galas, wealth and privilege. Hence the table settings, behavior, etc. relate primarily to more formal meals rather than a simple middle class family gathering ("those households without a maid"). Some of the points are universal - blowing your nose in front of everyone like you're playing a trumpet - but the proper use of the finger bowl is a point most of us can skip.
Aadamtx: I agree; but if you have been taught the formal rules of dining, it is an easy matter to accomodate a simple meal. The reverse, however, is not true. Having said that, I find I am no longer putting out butter and fish knives, or the full compliment of glasses (let alone finger bowls) when setting my table for guests; so there is the point that a very formal table can make your guests uncomfortable these days.....
I too agree, but once one learns the "rules", then one can apply and adjust them to any situation. I don't use finger bowls, but I do wash my mouth and hands in the bathroom after eating, and I expect the same from my kids. I don't want sticky fingers touching everything in the house.
An amazingly large number of middle class households did have a maid of all work back then. It wasn't that unusual.
@@heidithomas5455 My husband and I like artichokes. I always put out finger bowls when we have them. You aren't expected to do a surgical scrub, but you should get the worst of the oil off your fingers with one. At formal dinners it is very rude to get up and leave the table mid-meal, even to blow your nose. You handle that as you would breaking wind. As discretely and silently as possible and the POLITE people around you will pretend not to notice.
My Mom had a copy of the 1960 edition of the Vogue Book f Etiquette Book of Etiquette. the emphasis was on "etiquette rules" as a means of making people comfortable at meals, They were not high-falutin' notions but practical, humane guidelines. The book also included wonderful advice on how to address many kinds of people in person or in correspondence--just in case you might meet the Pope or an ambassador. And that edition also had advice on hiring servants, and how to outfit them with appropriate clothes.
These people look like they were have it a terrific time.....let the party begin...these crazy kids. 🤗
Good, clean fun!
😂😂
I was given an etiquette book at a very young age. The only thing I can remember from it is coloring the drawings.
Love the video. Watched it twice. Then sent it to some friends my age (old) for a good chuckle.
Ah, “in a house without a maid.....” lmao. Very different time, sadly gone.
In my country we still have maids??
Don't crush my dream 😄
Don't crush my dream 😄
Many more people hire a cleaning service or a nanny nowadays than in the last few decades.
i had maids in africa lmao
These videos are educational and always so up-to-date
Regarding the bread on the tablecloth, Emily Post says in my 1945 edition, p. 345: Guest helps self to roll and lays it on tablecloth, always. No bread plates on table when there is no butter, and no butter is ever served at a formal dinner.
Exactly!
Many restaurants seem to provide only a spoon for dessert leaving you to chase the dessert round the plate.
I love this video because we can hear the film going through the spools (:
The fashion was lovely
Agreed.
I especially liked the suit jacket and ascot of the dark-haired lady. Very sharp.
I was taught not to cut food with the side of the fork? But I love this and wish more people cared about proper table etiquette!
Cultures change. Formality is only a mask of elegance. Rich pron people get bored so they feel the need to invent rules to feel more exclusive.
JD Aragón wrong! I’m from Australia and we never use the side of the form to cut. We always use a knife and fork and the fork always stays in the left hand as it should. Americans are the only western culture I know of that cut up their food and then change the fork to the right hand. It’s a silly act and very inefficient.
I infamously cut my french toast with my fork. Can’t help it .....
Natalie Wisz I was taught to tear food apart with my hands at Denny’s fine restaurants when the welfare checks came out chewing is also optional
Bart Watts It's polite and makes you look more patient.
Very helpful video, thank you
LOVE IT!!
Clearly this woman has never eaten spaghetti before... in a perfect world, all stands of noodles will make it on the fork in a perfect order... but we do not live in a perfect world.
Besides just cut the strands into smaller sections that can easily be scooped onto your fork without having to "load" your fork. It's easier and saves one from getting sauce all over ones blouse!!! No drips!!!!
@@michaellarenee4856 Now that's smart thinking!
@@johnny-becker always has worked for me!!!
@@michaellarenee4856 No effort required. If the pasta is cooked long enough, the weight of the fork, assuming it is metal, will do the work for you
@@johnny-becker more then one way to skin a pole cat, darlin!!! I hate doing laundry with a passion, so finding ways to eat, short of wearing bibs is something I totally strive for!!!
These foods all look awful. Like awful awful. The pasta was so overcook, an Italian will die of heart attack just by looking at it!
I don't know Like mum • Remember this is just a documentary teaching mannerisms and to ignore the food itself (though I tend to agree with you😖)
I don't like my pasta rubbery. Neither do I like it mushy. That spaghetti looked perfect.
I did, but the salad revived me.
I love this so much. It was the year my Dad was born so love it even more. I was not meant to live in this time....
I'm definitely born in the wrong era! I was born in 1960 and I still love learning about home ec, etiquette,... I even love older clothing styles & mid century furniture!
@@carolynridlon3988 I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. I was born in 1963 and feel I was born in the wrong era. I really can’t relate to this world. I’m very old fashioned, only relate to lifestyle, music, tv, etc from 50’s, 60’s. Also love mid century houses and decor. I have several pieces of mid century furniture.
This should be required viewing for everyone.
And no side plate at the end for her bread...left it on the tablecloth ttut tut lol
Derek Blake yes, I caught that too. Blame the lack of bread plate on the hired help.😄
Absolutely proper if no butter is served.
Meira Avrahami Not anywhere I’ve eaten.
I think its more comfy and appropriate if we use knife and fork when eating a whole fruit and not a spoon
👏👏👏👏 loved this video.
This is a lovely film, and I recognize that many of these table rules were established for efficient yet graceful service and to avoid confusion about the 'right' utensil or the order of serving. I grew up in the 70's and 80's with polite yet somewhat lax parents and little experience with formal dinners (though my paternal grandmother cared very much about conventional etiquette). So I grew up knowing what NOT to do, but not what I SHOULD do, if that makes any sense. I read about table etiquette and I enjoy these films too.
It is always better not to risk eating asparagus with your fingers.
In my (thankfully limited) experience,it's better not to risk eating asparagus,period,lol.
I sure wouldn't eat asparagus with my fingers if they were drowning in Hollandaise sauce like the ones in the video. Nor if they were overcooked into mushiness.
She sets hunk of bread right on the tablecloth lol.
Oops prop guy forgot to give her a bread plate when he set the table.
This 😂😂😂😂
J aune It's a clean matt; that's considered ok (I think?).
Nope, dry bread, without butter, at a formal setting goes on the cloth. Odd but true.
Meira Avrahami Thank you, Meira.
Wish I could go back in time, I hate the classless society we’ve become
ME TOO!!!! Can't stand this society!!
S K well boohoo get over it 🙄 that’s what people were saying in the 60s
How relax and decent they were
I wonder what the correct etiquette is for sink-eating.
Don't lean over more than 45 degrees, and NEVER put your feet in the sink/
Some of these things are a bit ostentatious but some are to reduce making a mess and are logical enough
Not ostentatious at all. They are done quietly by habit. Far superior to how people are depicted in the movies where they gesticulate with their utensils and wave them around in the air like rapiers.
@@fergusmallon1337 What movies have you been watching? And telling someone which way to tilt their spoon to eat their soup is fairly ostentatious and has not real function.
Wonderful and wise. How lovely.
4:40 Keep your fork in your left hand, and do not switch it from left to right as this woman does.
Fork in left hand, European style. Fork switched from left to right after cutting food, American style.
@@HobbyHillsVideos Casual American style. But at the level of Emily Post, you should hang onto your fork and not transfer hands. Children need to change hands as they eat; adults should be able to manage just fine without changing hands.
@@bobbbxxx No, it was always considered the other way. Probably to separate the "blue bloods" from the immigrants. Why should children change? It's awkward and takes more dexterity. Euro is much better.
@@Meira750 If someone is giving a tutorial as to the polite way to eat, he should learn to grasp a utensil in either hand and not flip them back and forth. It's not hard to do and looks MUCH less awkward than handing them over to the other hand (which looks gauche, to my eye)_
About 45 years ago my grandmother looked at me like I was a bug on the wall. And through her horrified contorted disappointed face told me to go forward with your soup spoon knock and then eat it the soup.
........ FU grandma for making eating soup a source of soul crushing angst for my whole fail of a life. I miss her.
Yep, I lit up a cigarette the other day at a dinner party and was thrown out. Certainly not good manners.
Did you ash that shit in their mashed potatoes?
You were being a boor. You should have waited until after dinner or stepped outside. Are you that seriously addicted? I live in a country where people smoke like fiends but they have basic manners regarding doing it.
@@Meira750 I know I'm such a uncouth individual.
@@electronsauce ashed that shit right in there and left the butt smoldering in the mash as I stormed out.
I could have used this before I went on the cruise. There were so many silverware, I didn't know what to do.
It's all about being *prepared.* A table setup this way makes food easy to eat.
Nowadays we're so far removed from these habits; if someone is in the kitchen when we sit down to eat and we're missing a spoon, we just yell into the kitchen and a spoon comes flying back.
I like the way things are done in this video. Everything is in its place, well prepared ahead of time and the food is ready to be consumed.
This is what *Donald Trump* mean when he said it's time to *Make America Great Again*
When i saw “Sandy Hook” in the beginning, all i could say was “y i k e s”
Sandy Hook still has a small film industry, because it's only 60 miles (about an hour) from NYC. I am from this area and there are a lot of movie stars living in Fairfield county, of which Sandy Hook, Newtown is a part of.
Yes me too
Me too
Same
Ditto
I love to see people eat that have good table manners!
my romanian grandmother often said that i go so far with the manners like Emily Post,now I know who she was 😀
Table manners need to return as they make for cultured and refined living !
I think one reason a lot of this is not taught anymore is that society has become less formal in general. My parents taught us the basics but not the finer points.
these actors have that weird mid-atlantic accent that some actors would affect back then to sound more sophisticated and/or sound neutral and non-regional. by the 50's it was pretty much gone.
They also- apparently, filmed this in Connecticut, so it might be a weird old-timey New England accent.
Matt M it’s the mid-Atlantic accent. It was apparently supposed to be easy to understand all across the USA.
Well I'd rather here a mid Atlantic accent, regardless of how affectatious it sounds, than to hear today's people say 'like' and 'you know' after every other word.
Letty Guerra • Like, it’s kinda easier to tell when, you know, people really can’t, like, come up with words of, you know, their own, which just, like, shows they’re using, like, a fifth of, you know, what’s that thing up there inside their, like, you know, their skull? Oh, right, it’s like, the brain! You know?
*Trans-Atlantic
Lovely
Thank you
Emily Post does not tell you what to do when using your cell phone during a meal?
Gordon Easton Anyone who would be that rude can shove it up their ass.
You don't use your cellphone during a meal
I don't. Unfortunately, virtually everybody else I know does! They just do not know any better. It was the way they were brought up. You know like, "Candy put your soup spoon on the right. Then decide whether to put your phone on the left of that or to put your phone on the right side of your salad fork.
One word: Don’t.
It’s interesting to see table manners in different cultures!
I love this😭
While watching this, I almost choked on my Big Mac! LOL
Googling America's Test Kitchen for best finger bowl.
That isn't how to properly eat spaghetti. Spaghetti is eaten properly with a fork and large spoon.
...along with with a large napkin tucked into your collar.
Actually I remember reading in the early 1990s that IS how upper class Italians eat Spaguetti. The other manner mentioned is considered lower class.
@@roverworld7218 That is cute if you're in Italy and you don't mind wearing your food (Italians have never been known for their table manners), and some cultures eat with just their hands, but in the civilized world we strive for grace and elegance at a proper dinner table. Italians also shove their napkins in their collars ... in every mob movie I have ever seen while eating spaghetti. If you're in well heeled company, pick up the soup spoon.
You do not eat it with a freaking spoon.
We we're trained to be able to manage a fork well enough to eat REAL pasta (not whatever that cut up limp stuff was) with just a fork. Having to use a spoon to assist was considered crass.
The confidence that woman has to put her bread on the table just goes to show how clean that table cloth must have been.
Or that her hygienic standards were low.
Of course the cloth was clean. That was standard to put the bread on the table. Americans have become too germaphobic.
When in doubt,pinkie out! ~Patrick Star
I was born in '65 and was taught 'hold fork in one hand to assist cutting, then switch to eat'. Nonsensical absurdity.
I was taught to use my fork& knife to cut my food & never touch your food with your hands🍗🧀🥞🍦🍪🍽🍴🥄🔪
Same here
Pretty sure that spaghetti was Chef Boyardee lol.
I had a cousin who would blow her cigarette smoke right in her dining companions' faces...God,I hated eating with her. I've no problem eating with someone who wants a cigarette after a meal, but there's such a thing as treating others the way you'd want to be treated..I doubt even another smoker would want that blown their way.
Best part is picking up the plate when you are finished and licking off the gravy ... yummm
Were those collards? They looked sooo good.
3 minutes in and I’m already lost
Oh Emily how we need you now
I once made the mistake of applying makeup at a dinner party, my wife was furious with me !