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Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so. I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day! We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name. Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
It's funny how the Bible teaches the wife to submit to her husband. I guess in you're world this means nothing. Co-leading means she's leading. Do better than bowing down to these feminist.
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says. There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal. Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other. It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both. And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you. And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas. To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other. I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
@@joygibbons5482 “To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you."” Genesis 3:16
Not strong grounds for this "single headship, plural leadership" stance. Christ is our head... and leader. Man is the head of his wife... and leader. He should sacrifice and serve and lead like Jesus, but he is her leader. She is from his side because she is equal, but not in leadership. Paul addresses women's roles similarly.
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently) I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems. Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
@@Raufm3 He leads our home in a biblical way. He’s a very slow angered, kind understanding man and he our needs before his every single day he has not once complained in 16 years takes his head ship very seriously. And in return, I can’t do nothing but respect him and let him lead me. He also encourages me to be closer with God. Marriage is hard and if two people are not led by God I just don’t see how you could make it especially in this world today. This world is all about “self”. And if you live your life like God commands you too you do what he says do not what your flesh says do. And I’ll tell you this I couldn’t live without God.
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
@MarkDriscoll #26:48 ...here you're in error and contradictory to Scripture... infact you contradicted yourself earlier when Adam Named Eve... and neither Adam nor Eve were "perfect"... good in creation... but not and never was perfect... "To the woman he said, I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 " A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing-if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety." 1 Timothy 2:11-15 "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body." Ephesians 5:23 .... Man DOES have dominion over his wife.... and Man does have dominion over Woman according to the word of God
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Men you are the leader you will give an account Don’t abuse it Women be submissive to him Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you So don’t
@@joygibbons5482Normally, men of God are super kind, problem is the frequent misunderstandings between masculine and feminine logic in my humble opinion
SO much tip toeing around the elephant in the room. Women and feminism. If they don’t submit to their husbands ( or fathers) then satan reigns in the home, church and state, and not God. There is no such thing as “they’re both in charge”. Genesis 3:17 “ … and you’ll desire to control your husband, but he will RULE over YOU”.
This is 💯 it. Even the smallest amount of feminism is incompatible with God’s design in marriage and families. It’s a cancer in the church, and everyone is too scared to say it.
Im so sorry nobody stole anyone's wife or husband. The problem is every one of us neglected and reject the commands written in the Holy Bible, because of that and our greed and sexual lusts (Matthew 4:4; cf Matthew 15:19) we all imitated and followed the devil and screwed up our own lives. It is our fault! We must take responsibility for our own actions (1 John 1:9). Also, because we neglected and rejected the written Word of God, we also followed false teachers. Again, it's our fault. Same as if you reject the Lord Jesus Christ and His finished work on the cross you go to hell and thats your fault.
48:57 ....but what about when its reversed? I would hope that God would say to the wife "Until you treat my son different, you're on your own. I'm not going to help the woman who's hurting my son." Emotional abuse and using physical intimacy as the weapon is hurtful and has given the enemy a virtual playground in my marriage currently :(
Exactly. And while husbands are called to forgive and love endlessly (like Jesus does the church), this kind of toxic femininity will damage the man and the marriage irreparably. And nobody is holding women accountable for their sins.
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
After becoming well-acquainted with female nature, I have absolutely no desire to get married. Sex is a carrot on a stick, a taste of the forbidden fruit that brings toil and suffering into your life.
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
Godly Christian leadership is never supposed to be abusive or selfish. With that context being said, it's very confusing to tell a man that he is not his wife's ruler. She is called to obey him. You talked about how Christ leads the church. Did Christ not give the church commands? Did Christ not teach the church that if you love him you will keep his Commandments? Did Christ not tell the church that all authority was given unto him? Are we not called to teach each other to observe all things whatsoever he has commanded us? Are you really saying that Christ is not the ruler of the church? That is absolutely silly. A husband's leadership should be selfless, sacrificial, and demonstrated in service, but he is still the leader of his wife. A home where a man is a strong leader and a wife is a sincere follower is a good home.
This is the biggest problem with Egalitarianism. God gave us the picture of Christ and His bride to illustrate marriage. If you start with a feminist view of marriage, that picture doesn’t work. We must not equivocate like Mark Driscoll has here. Men lead the family. Like Jesus leads the church. So you can’t be a jerk to her and insist on your way (because Jesus didn’t). But a man’s failure (where Jesus never failed) in no way makes that an invalid picture of what we aim for. To lose this is to lose the most important concept God gave us about both Christ and our marriages.
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
All this talk about men taking responsibility for literally everything, and I'm not saying that I don't agree that we shroud act responsible. Of course we should. I just want to know why these kinds of messages are never preached to woman. Why are they never held accountable for their own sin?
"Your wife is your Toughest Challenge." *explains how she is your toughest challenge*....'Okay well See Ya!' ...I thought supposed to get some type of advise here. What was the point of this?
A husband and children are an inconvenience. I have a set of great grandparents that were married for many years. They couldn’t stand each other. Each cooked their own meals and wouldn’t eat what the other prepared. When you sat at their table you asked each may I please have a bit of what they cooked. Grandma may I please have some of your green beans? Grandpa may I please have a pork chop? My great grandpa refused to make funeral services for my great grandma. My great aunt made the funeral arrangements and paid for the service. He didn’t attend the service and refused to be buried next to her. He outlived her by 15 years. He still talked horribly about her until he passed. From what I was told, they never liked each other. My grandmother didn’t remember her parents liking each other. When people my age saw how many older people were miserable in marriage, why would anyone want marriage. My grandmother and grandfather were happy in marriage. My dad and mom had a miserable marriage. The best thing my parents did was divorce.
Im tired of co leadership bull. Christ does not co lead us and we are to love like Christ and women are to honor her husband like she would honor Christ! DONT BE SCARED TO BE THE HEAD. A person with 2 heads is a monster.
Pastor, I have to disagree with you where you mention a man does not have dominion over her. Where does it say that in the Bible? The fact is Adam named his wife. God made man over woman. In the curse to the woman, God gave her pain in child birth and a desire to rebel against male headship. It says her husband will have to dominate her. Domination isn't abuse. It means he has to tell her no. Adam's sin was listening to his wife instead of God. Adam idolized his wife instead of God. They both were guilty of idolatry, except Eve wanted to be God, and Adam idolized his wife by, in his mind, Adam replaced God with Eve. It's still a trend today. Happy wife. Happy life is what people tell you to do. I say no. It's a work of Satan. God wrote throughout showed male headship. Remember the daughters of Zion? Remember Jezebel and Ahab? These are female dominated stories that warn of feminism and women equality. Equality in positions is the Devil's work. You are to direct and lead your house. You don't give your house over to the devil. Being a leader also means you have to be patient and loving because God is patient with us. Being a biblical man means you are the leader. A marriage isn't a 50/50 partnership. The woman is the submissive and the man is the dominant. It's that way in God's house. The father is above the Son. Jesus submitted to his father. We submit to Jesus. When we submit to Jesus, we submit to the father.
Great message but I have some concerns/critiques. Men are the dominant role, that's what it means to be a leader. Men don't call the shots and take the shots from a submissive position. A headship is inherently dominant, that doesn't mean to be abusive and chauvinistic though. Be dominant over your family but completely submitted to God, it becomes sinful when one or both is neglected. For a man to be submissive (unless to God which would include serving your wife's holy needs) is passivity, not sure why Driscoll keeps going back and forth and honestly contradicting himself at points. I think its because as God-fearing men we want to be as respectful as possible but I think sometimes what we consider to be chauvinism is not. Its just another result of men growing soft and women becoming overly entitled because they've been raised to think they're a Disney princess and that they can do no wrong and have no issues that need to be addressed. I don't understand why people are afraid to talk about this, women are to be submissive and obedient as the church is submissive to Christ. People used to call it witchcraft and rebellion when women were out of line...does that not perfectly reflect the Bible's teaching of us as Christ's Bride?? Of course it does, this sort of teaching seems to advocate for women being treated as men in some ways that they should not because Driscoll seems to be pulling punches due to an issue in his marriage which would explain why his wife wants to argue when he talks about marriage...women need to know their place at times but men are afraid to acknowledge that. Does Christ not discipline and rebuke His Bride because of His love for Her?? All I'm trying to say is women do not get to have their cake and eat it too, if they want the privilege of being treated like a princess and being thoroughly taken care off, they don't get the dominant privilege/burden of leadership. We have to remember that men not only call the shots but also take the shots. We represent our wives and take responsibility for them, women do not call the shots and that can be a burden but they get the privilege of not taking the shots. They have the privilege of living with a lot less pressure and get to have/be a bigger blessing of love and joy than men do but have the burden of having to trust their husbands decision making and control over her life. I believe we men are to be the example of holiness and discipline to our house, when we meet this expectation respect will be given to us by our family and our wives will not try and overrule us, she shouldn't be scared but she should have a reverence (fear) for her husband that he does not have for her as we do with Christ. He adores the beauty of His Holy Bride but we as the Church adore Him as our Mighty King and Majesty. We cannot get away from the hierarchal nature of God even the Godhead itself is hierarchical and has dominant/submissive roles that we are to reflect via our gender. The battle of the genders is demonic and carnal, gender roles are of God and it takes a Spirit lead person to acknowledge and agree with that. A true women of God will not try and wrestle with her husband for dominance and a true man of God will understand the futility of arguing, the weight of dominance ruins women as they were not made to carry the load, when they carry the load it crushes them and their soul becomes dark...they were created to be a unique reflection of God's goodness and light.
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
Sorry Pastor Mark is way off and confused about what the Bible says about headship in a marriage. Kind of taints the rest of his sermon. Had to unsubscribe. I find it hard to trust what else he says now. He needs to go back and read his Bible more.
I disagree strongly here. Yes the women part yes we can agree. But telling me people they need to be married for the full christian experience is dead-wrong gospel. You are fully complete in Christ Jesus either if your married or not.
The wife is to lovingly be in submission to her husband. We have input but ultimately the husband is the Head of the family. I don't believe we rule together.
I get tired of women saying "strong independent woman" or especially "strong independent black woman" (I'm a blk married woman by the way) These are single and married women saying this. It's ok to be strong but they act like being married is a sin. Also, these same women I know that are still waiting on a husband ain't ready to submit....They still go out to clubs LOLOL...what they want is a strong independent marriage LOLOLOL I love being married to my husband...He is definitely my blessing from the Lord.
@@catnagle3762 Great... My husband and I are strong. Nothing is wrong with being strong, man or woman. The problem is the so called "I don't need a man or husband to raise my children...ON PURPOSE" having multiple children out of wedlock and a lot of times with multiple men. God created man...then he create for the man a helpmeet...Woman...A wife...
Jesus mentioned the sanctity of marriage in the Bible several times. He was tempted by the Pharisees regarding the subject and used the first book of the Bible Genesis as an example of how God designed marriage to be and how sacred it really is. Amen
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying. That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white. I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband. I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride. Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
Pastors should not reinvent doctrine for fear of their wives. Proverbs 30:6 "Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you, and you be found a liar". Scripture in the strictest form is the blueprint for marriage, not fairy tales, the culture or the wife.
This video has been removed from Mark Driscolls channel! It still can be found by typing "Your wife is your toughest challenge" in youtube search bar but MANY recent comments are NOT there! ------Huh!!!
As always, I appreciate much of what you said here. There is one thing I would like to point out in love. I know it is not popular but what you taught about dominion 31:00 is not biblical (Eph 5: 21-33, 1Co 11:3-12). When we become part of the Church, we become one with Christ. We become one by accepting HIS domination and authority over us. To say that a man is the head of the house but has equal dominion. Is like telling Christ HE is the head of the Church but has no authority / dominion over her. When a man submits to GOD and loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. He has dominion over his household, but he will never abuse that dominion in any way. If he does, he is not loving her as Christ loves the Church. He has final say but also takes full responsibility. That is what a leader / head does. This is the arrangement set by GOD. When it is accepted before and throughout the marriage. All potential power struggles in the house are eliminated.
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
There are good girls out there, just watch out for narcissistic traits or signs of entitlement, and do test your future wife a looot, then follow your heart, may Jesus guide and bless you brother!
Sooo.... there is no rank structure in the home ? 😅😅😅 ... Theres rank structure in 1.the work place 2. In government 3. In the military 4. IN THE HAVENS And All the spiritual world ... But yet have No Dominion over my wife ??? Im not a boss at home ? 😅😅 ... really? .... sorry man , you cant have it both ways ... leadership requires a degree of Authority and Authority requires submission...
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Do you have a job, are you part of the church, were you in the military, do you have a government where you live, and more. Our lives have been set up for us in an order of leadership and authority with Christ being the head. (That's strait from the bible!) Would you make the same comment that you made to me - to your boss at work, to your pastor, to your drill sergeant, to your mayor, to your governor, to your president? That is where mankind gets the idea from. It includes things like command, leadership, authority, rank, position, function order, standing and more. It says in the world that man was made a little lower than the angels (which we don't totally understand) but it is talking about an order set up by God Himself! (Christ being the head) Like I said in a previous comment, with that authority comes much responsibility! A bully, I don't think so! Just a confident man of God who is living by the word of God, being the best husband, father, and servant that he can! That's while loving and cherishing my family and would die for them (while living for them) every day!
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
Genesis 1:16 16Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. "Desire" is not "contrary" The Hebrew word there means "a longing"
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” . Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
So because I haven’t found a GOOD GOD FEARING man I’m going to be old, alone and have (multiple) STDs when I’m 50, regardless if I’m sleeping around??? You lost me with that
Hi Mark - you stated at 26.50 in your video "man does not have dominion over the woman". please clarify that statement and please read to us and comment on 1 corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:22-23, Genesis 3:16, 1Timothy 2:11-12. Now us men are also to obey the word in how we act to our wives (very important) but the word SPECIFICALLY talks about the order of leadership and authority in the family. YES, I am to walk side by side with my wife in the raising of our children as well as much more but........please read those scriptures! Odd hearing this from you especially after reading the title of the video! Please take my comment in love and not criticism my brother!
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Pastor Mark, please do a sermon on wives who refuse to respect their husbands. My wife is a wonderful woman- I love her deeply- but she has a hard, independent streak (I think from her father dying when she was a baby, growing up with a single mother). She agrees “intellectually” with Biblical gender roles, but in practice her heart is far far far from wanting to practice any respect. I am committed to lead and am not passive. It is a delicate balance to avoid huge arguments, and all I can do is constantly forgive her for sinning against me. And pastor, I am wearing thin. I’m doing everything I can - I am a good, hard working man who puts God first. I have no desire to dominate anyone (indeed it seems she has the desire to dominate ME). I will absolutely not abdicate. But I don’t know how to handle this - I have no hope of changing her by my efforts- that won’t work. But nothing is working. Please help
Have you ever read the book “The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman” by GS Youngblood. It has a lot of tips and advice on this matter.
As a woman these are excellent. It's not just men who should be listening to these.
Its not just if the man won’t lead, the devil will. There’s another side. If the woman wont follow the man’s leadership is a problem too and what I have faced in my marriage and satan has destroyed it. She claims to be a christian but doesn’t care about what Gods Word says about marriage. Just saying there is more to it than just the man not leading.
Look forGods leadership maybe she can be Influenced by Jezebel not necessarily possessed so fast pray and ask God to send Holy Spirit to send fire in Jesus name.
The fact that you left such a comment is proof you aren't leading properly, because you don't understand what leadership is. Satan could not have destroyed your marriage nor mislead your wife if you had been leading to begin with. If she doubts your leadership it's likely because you have shown yourself in the past to be unreliable. And here you are publicly blaming the woman just like Adam and telling the world it isn't your fault the marriage God put you in charge of is failing. If you hired someone to run your business and came back to find it in ruin, only for him to tell you it was the secretary's fault because she wouldn't listen to him or recognize his authority...you'd fire that guy right?
1 Cor 11:3&4 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God, 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered dishounoreth his head (Christ)....can someone please take the time to explain to me how pastors preach with their heads covered ...(cap)?
Correct, I also notice a lot of non-submitting women out there, even a lot of Christians.
Same thing happened to my Christian marriage. She comes up with many excuses and ideas why to abandon the marriage bond without putting in the effort to make it work. 💔
"Even if God gave you everything, if you don't lead it.... you lose it". We learn so much from you, Pastor Mark. Thank you
wow.🤔😬😳
It’s difficult to lead a women who refuses to be led.
“More fathers, less government.”
The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.
@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.
@@cccdy6375 can’t lose if you refuse to play the game
@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏
@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so.
I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.
I always call my wife "my love" because that's exactly what she is.. she has all of my love. She's my best friend, and my gift from God. ❤ She's the best thing that happened to me and I thank God for her every day!
We don't always agree, and sometimes we get into arguments. We also deal with a lot of stress, but at the end of the day, she's my everything and I try to let her know that as much as I can. She's faithful, loving and respectful to me, and we never call each other a bad name.
Don't be toxic to each other, ever. Once you start doing that. It's a curse on the relationship.
i had saved my wife mob no as my love but sadly we divorced.may god take care of her.
You need to reach the young men
It's funny how the Bible teaches the wife to submit to her husband. I guess in you're world this means nothing. Co-leading means she's leading. Do better than bowing down to these feminist.
God's Word is EVERYTHING..His True and Living Word+
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
I’d love to see something like this for women. ❤ biblical guidance and direction for women beyond just the “submit” message we so often see.
It’s not just about submitting to your husband, doing what he says.
There is trust that he will make wise decisions, trust that he will keep you safe-physically, financially, spiritually. There is respect and appreciation, which is reciprocal.
Men and women have different roles because we think differently, we have different things we are good at but they complement each other.
It’s kind of like riding on the back of a motorcycle your husband is driving. You put your life in his hands, you trust he will take care of you and keep you safe and do what is best for both of you. And you both pray to Jesus for guidance and protection from whatever may come at you both.
And as a wife you take care of your husband so he can take care you.
And if he is making a decision that you don’t agree with you don’t just do it, you talk about it together. Either you understand his thinking or you give him some other ideas.
To submit doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it can be the best relationship you ever imagined when you both love to see each other happy. There is no competition, you complement each other.
I have been married for a long time and I fall deeper in love with my husband all the time.
Hopefully his wife would do one
That is the timeless message for women. It is this way, because it goes against the fallen nature of women, to control and dominate- especially the husband.
@@subjecttochrist sad you can only see 2 alternatives. Control and dominate or be controlled and dominated
@@joygibbons5482 “To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you."”
Genesis 3:16
Not strong grounds for this "single headship, plural leadership" stance. Christ is our head... and leader. Man is the head of his wife... and leader. He should sacrifice and serve and lead like Jesus, but he is her leader. She is from his side because she is equal, but not in leadership. Paul addresses women's roles similarly.
As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.
Too late for me, my wife already left me for another man, please always pray together for your marriage
same here god bless u and fill the gap
You can’t lead today’s women. They are owned by the government, “Satan”
As a young single woman that absolutely breaks my heart 💔I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying Jesus fills in the gap for you and your marriage.
The SSPX Roman Catholic Church ripped my family apart. My Wife filed for Divorce when I left and went back to my Church (Milestone Church) in TX. Please pray for my family as God guides us through this season.
Been there and over last 10 years learned it Jezebel and why 70 to 80% of divorces are initiated by women, because they harden their hearts to Yahweh and refuse to humbly submit to him. The corrupt court systems actually enable this by incentivising child support and government assistance. If Mark would have read Isaiah 4 & 47 he wouldn't have a stage, because it clearly looks exactly like America today and what it will look like on the next few year? Read those verses and Revelation 2: 20 that leads to Revelation 6-18 (where we are currently)
I openly teach this sound doctrine when most turn to the doctrines of demons to stay popular. Not me. I will not cowar like these hired hands.
Unfortunately the devil has had a hold on women in our country. Statistics state that over 70% of divorces are initiated and filed by women.
@@FAKERED7Are you serious?
Can you explain how the SSPX achieved this? The way you word it you sound like you’re saying it was a deliberate effort on their part. If not then what do you mean? How does an entire organisation of traditional Catholics, ‘rip a family apart’?
@@richyburnettthis is my question, too. Doesn't sound on-brand.
I don’t know if you’ll see this comment or not but this is exactly the message I needed because of the struggles I’m going through thank you
Woman & wife that watches every week! 👋 thanks guys. I love pastor Mark & his sermons/messages
Line of the night, " I can't be with one woman" "Let me tell ya, she's gonna change, you're gonna get some variety" SO TRUE!! 😆
That line was gold 😂😂😂
Just hope she has Jesus before that change happens.
🤣😢indeed
Lol
Find an old guy with a beat up Bible and a smiling wife and talk with him. Quote of the day!
Why is it that our society always puts the happiness of the wife before the husband? I think an even better quote would be to say find a husband and wife who both have beat up Bibles and are BOTH smiling. Marriage isn't just about the woman.
Right, because she is smiling after you knelt down and did exactly what she told you to do, sheesh
Bingo! Right to the point
Didn't need to watch the rest of the 50mins.
Yes patronizing tired cliched quote of the day from condescending Pastor Mark. The men who do what he says will be shamed on Father’s and Mother’s Day and in every sitcom regardless.
This sermon convicted me. Paster mark, thank you. My wife is gods daughter, Beautiful i have to do better.
Eve was brought to Adam
Man was made for God
Women were made for man
Don’t abuse this
We all come from women
This is a story with a talking snake. You silly gullible man.
The landscape for young men to find a woman is horrible. Social Media, mostly TikTok, has set unrealistic standards in women. This makes too many young men not even try. Worthy young women need to speak out and be seen.
The dating scene and the way young people seem to do it is so sad. Young women seem to be doing such crazy things. Christian values have shrank in America.
And feminism, which is in the churches, does not help. Check out the comments under most YT men's issues vids and they're littered with plenty of Christian men who were messed over by Christian women and churches. Many were divorced by their Christian wives, and the churches turned their backs on the men. It's a mess for single men, Christian or non-Christian, really.
I'm so excited to make my girlfriend my wife. Shes such a good woman and even though there are problems (like with any relationship) they are OUR problems that GOD will help us solve. They arent my problems or her problems theyre our problems.
Edit: and I'm glad that God trusts me to lead this beautiful woman.
Good luck, Jordan.
Good luck! She won’t be the same person in 5 years or sooner. You better understand that
@@chadsullivan9778Spot on! What exactly happens to women after some years of marriage?
Lead? Are her father? No wonder you have problems.
@@A100Aic isn't this the Christian language in regards to marriage? Why do you find the verb lead problematic? An Ernst question..
I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).
The real problem is Preachers not preaching the gospel. Issues we see today in our culture are issues of the heart, and the only thing that can change a sinful heart is the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To many ministries are trying to sell their books or “Secret Sauce” when dealing with life issues when they should preach the gospel itself and these issues would resolve themselves.
A-MEN
This popped into my head while listening to the beginning of your sermon. “I am preparing you to have the huge family you’ve always wanted.” I had a counter thought of “you have no one” I responded with I may not have many people I can call family and friends. But God calls me beloved.
I have one friend like really 1 friend but I have 5 kids and a wife it'll happen for you. God's got you in, Jesus name
Brother! Keep faith and all you ask for will be given! Do not doubt it in your heart but keep faithful and keep Hos commandments and you will move mountains. I'll be praying for you Brother
God bless you!!! You have a family in Christ, we are all your family an there are many of us, LOVE YOU BROTHERS!
Do you guys think we are at the very end of endtimes now? With all the crazy stuff happening in the world now? Definetly a lot more shady stuff going on now then say a decade ago. Some watchmen online seem to think so too.
Love having a strong God-fearing Christian man♥️ I thank God every day for him.
Me too, AMEN!
What are his virtues that you do like or can't live without?
@@aracelibelaski4768What are his virtues that you do like or can't live without?
@@Raufm3 He leads our home in a biblical way. He’s a very slow angered, kind understanding man and he our needs before his every single day he has not once complained in 16 years takes his head ship very seriously. And in return, I can’t do nothing but respect him and let him lead me. He also encourages me to be closer with God. Marriage is hard and if two people are not led by God I just don’t see how you could make it especially in this world today. This world is all about “self”. And if you live your life like God commands you too you do what he says do not what your flesh says do. And I’ll tell you this I couldn’t live without God.
@tinafreeman6245 Wow! You, loving God and your husband this way, say a lot about too! May God bless your family amen 🙏
WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!
Very well said and absolute truth!
I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.
Something demonic could be influence, like the jezabel spirit.
Keep praying for her and asked the lord for his guidance.
@dougbrown7023 how did it turn out brother?
Mark is teaching men how to get destroyed in marriage and how to set men up for divorce. This is message is not biblical.
Wife and boy mom! 🙋♀️ I tune in every week. Real Men has been transformative for our entire family!
@MarkDriscoll #26:48 ...here you're in error and contradictory to Scripture... infact you contradicted yourself earlier when Adam Named Eve... and neither Adam nor Eve were "perfect"... good in creation... but not and never was perfect...
"To the woman he said,
I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
Genesis 3:16
" A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing-if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety." 1 Timothy 2:11-15
"For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body."
Ephesians 5:23 ....
Man DOES have dominion over his wife.... and Man does have dominion over Woman according to the word of God
@shenanigansofmannanan AMEN to that. --- The truth of Gods word! NOT opinion or feelings!
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Men you are the leader you will give an account
Don’t abuse it
Women be submissive to him
Women when u try to take control from him he will rule over you
So don’t
Or even better, avoid men altogether
@@joygibbons5482Normally, men of God are super kind, problem is the frequent misunderstandings between masculine and feminine logic in my humble opinion
SO much tip toeing around the elephant in the room. Women and feminism. If they don’t submit to their husbands ( or fathers) then satan reigns in the home, church and state, and not God. There is no such thing as “they’re both in charge”. Genesis 3:17 “ … and you’ll desire to control your husband, but he will RULE over YOU”.
This is 💯 it.
Even the smallest amount of feminism is incompatible with God’s design in marriage and families.
It’s a cancer in the church, and everyone is too scared to say it.
It is a reality!!!
Im so sorry nobody stole anyone's wife or husband. The problem is every one of us neglected and reject the commands written in the Holy Bible, because of that and our greed and sexual lusts (Matthew 4:4; cf Matthew 15:19) we all imitated and followed the devil and screwed up our own lives. It is our fault! We must take responsibility for our own actions (1 John 1:9). Also, because we neglected and rejected the written Word of God, we also followed false teachers. Again, it's our fault.
Same as if you reject the Lord Jesus Christ and His finished work on the cross you go to hell and thats your fault.
48:57 ....but what about when its reversed? I would hope that God would say to the wife "Until you treat my son different, you're on your own. I'm not going to help the woman who's hurting my son." Emotional abuse and using physical intimacy as the weapon is hurtful and has given the enemy a virtual playground in my marriage currently :(
Exactly. And while husbands are called to forgive and love endlessly (like Jesus does the church), this kind of toxic femininity will damage the man and the marriage irreparably. And nobody is holding women accountable for their sins.
The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!
Yes I know that in order to have control over any issue… I gotta make me the problem. It’s called humility❤
After becoming well-acquainted with female nature, I have absolutely no desire to get married. Sex is a carrot on a stick, a taste of the forbidden fruit that brings toil and suffering into your life.
We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!
I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.
Great post about your Stoic dad. I grew up in the 60’s. Same thing with my dad.
He is spot on about marriage! Great sermon. ❤
57 yr old man, 38 yr marriage and I really needed to hear this. Thank You
The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one
This sermon was amazing. Love the humor and seriousness. Everything you say is so true. Everyone needs to watch this. I will share this to no end
No. His wife is his biggest challenge. Projecting to its fullest extent. My wife is my glory.
She has to live with MD. She is a victim or heroine.
What is your recipe for a happy marriage / joyful wife?
@@Raufm3 be honest with one another. Be gentle. Be courageous.
IT'S SAD WOMEN JUST WANT TO COMPLAIN AND ARGUE OVER NOTHING ! GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE ! LOLOLOLOLOL
I'm a wife in waiting!
Just found pastor Mark today!
Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.
💯- I’m in this place sadly
Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤
Leave them young boys alone, wierdo.
LORD, i pray every man gets the urge to watch this video. this is beautifully said, so biblical.
Great insights & analysis of today’s culture! Thank God for this man that can teach the Bible with humility, self deprecation / transparency & humor! Every young man should hear this sermon. I’ll be 67 soon and only wish I’d been exposed to this teaching when I was 18!
It’s sad how wrong this guy is he doesn’t understand the image of God so he teaches the wrong image
Godly Christian leadership is never supposed to be abusive or selfish. With that context being said, it's very confusing to tell a man that he is not his wife's ruler. She is called to obey him. You talked about how Christ leads the church. Did Christ not give the church commands? Did Christ not teach the church that if you love him you will keep his Commandments? Did Christ not tell the church that all authority was given unto him? Are we not called to teach each other to observe all things whatsoever he has commanded us? Are you really saying that Christ is not the ruler of the church? That is absolutely silly. A husband's leadership should be selfless, sacrificial, and demonstrated in service, but he is still the leader of his wife. A home where a man is a strong leader and a wife is a sincere follower is a good home.
This is the biggest problem with Egalitarianism.
God gave us the picture of Christ and His bride to illustrate marriage. If you start with a feminist view of marriage, that picture doesn’t work.
We must not equivocate like Mark Driscoll has here.
Men lead the family. Like Jesus leads the church. So you can’t be a jerk to her and insist on your way (because Jesus didn’t).
But a man’s failure (where Jesus never failed) in no way makes that an invalid picture of what we aim for. To lose this is to lose the most important concept God gave us about both Christ and our marriages.
My husband gave me a new name right after we got engaged..he named me "Joan" and told me that it means "God's gift"...which i didn understand back then.
That is so sweet!!!!
What lmao
All this talk about men taking responsibility for literally everything, and I'm not saying that I don't agree that we shroud act responsible. Of course we should. I just want to know why these kinds of messages are never preached to woman. Why are they never held accountable for their own sin?
"Your wife is your Toughest Challenge." *explains how she is your toughest challenge*....'Okay well See Ya!' ...I thought supposed to get some type of advise here. What was the point of this?
A husband and children are an inconvenience. I have a set of great grandparents that were married for many years. They couldn’t stand each other. Each cooked their own meals and wouldn’t eat what the other prepared. When you sat at their table you asked each may I please have a bit of what they cooked. Grandma may I please have some of your green beans? Grandpa may I please have a pork chop? My great grandpa refused to make funeral services for my great grandma. My great aunt made the funeral arrangements and paid for the service. He didn’t attend the service and refused to be buried next to her. He outlived her by 15 years. He still talked horribly about her until he passed. From what I was told, they never liked each other. My grandmother didn’t remember her parents liking each other. When people my age saw how many older people were miserable in marriage, why would anyone want marriage. My grandmother and grandfather were happy in marriage. My dad and mom had a miserable marriage. The best thing my parents did was divorce.
Im tired of co leadership bull. Christ does not co lead us and we are to love like Christ and women are to honor her husband like she would honor Christ! DONT BE SCARED TO BE THE HEAD. A person with 2 heads is a monster.
Pastor, I have to disagree with you where you mention a man does not have dominion over her. Where does it say that in the Bible? The fact is Adam named his wife. God made man over woman. In the curse to the woman, God gave her pain in child birth and a desire to rebel against male headship. It says her husband will have to dominate her. Domination isn't abuse. It means he has to tell her no. Adam's sin was listening to his wife instead of God. Adam idolized his wife instead of God. They both were guilty of idolatry, except Eve wanted to be God, and Adam idolized his wife by, in his mind, Adam replaced God with Eve. It's still a trend today. Happy wife. Happy life is what people tell you to do. I say no. It's a work of Satan. God wrote throughout showed male headship. Remember the daughters of Zion? Remember Jezebel and Ahab? These are female dominated stories that warn of feminism and women equality. Equality in positions is the Devil's work. You are to direct and lead your house. You don't give your house over to the devil. Being a leader also means you have to be patient and loving because God is patient with us. Being a biblical man means you are the leader. A marriage isn't a 50/50 partnership. The woman is the submissive and the man is the dominant. It's that way in God's house. The father is above the Son. Jesus submitted to his father. We submit to Jesus. When we submit to Jesus, we submit to the father.
Great message but I have some concerns/critiques. Men are the dominant role, that's what it means to be a leader. Men don't call the shots and take the shots from a submissive position. A headship is inherently dominant, that doesn't mean to be abusive and chauvinistic though. Be dominant over your family but completely submitted to God, it becomes sinful when one or both is neglected. For a man to be submissive (unless to God which would include serving your wife's holy needs) is passivity, not sure why Driscoll keeps going back and forth and honestly contradicting himself at points. I think its because as God-fearing men we want to be as respectful as possible but I think sometimes what we consider to be chauvinism is not. Its just another result of men growing soft and women becoming overly entitled because they've been raised to think they're a Disney princess and that they can do no wrong and have no issues that need to be addressed. I don't understand why people are afraid to talk about this, women are to be submissive and obedient as the church is submissive to Christ. People used to call it witchcraft and rebellion when women were out of line...does that not perfectly reflect the Bible's teaching of us as Christ's Bride?? Of course it does, this sort of teaching seems to advocate for women being treated as men in some ways that they should not because Driscoll seems to be pulling punches due to an issue in his marriage which would explain why his wife wants to argue when he talks about marriage...women need to know their place at times but men are afraid to acknowledge that. Does Christ not discipline and rebuke His Bride because of His love for Her?? All I'm trying to say is women do not get to have their cake and eat it too, if they want the privilege of being treated like a princess and being thoroughly taken care off, they don't get the dominant privilege/burden of leadership. We have to remember that men not only call the shots but also take the shots. We represent our wives and take responsibility for them, women do not call the shots and that can be a burden but they get the privilege of not taking the shots. They have the privilege of living with a lot less pressure and get to have/be a bigger blessing of love and joy than men do but have the burden of having to trust their husbands decision making and control over her life. I believe we men are to be the example of holiness and discipline to our house, when we meet this expectation respect will be given to us by our family and our wives will not try and overrule us, she shouldn't be scared but she should have a reverence (fear) for her husband that he does not have for her as we do with Christ. He adores the beauty of His Holy Bride but we as the Church adore Him as our Mighty King and Majesty. We cannot get away from the hierarchal nature of God even the Godhead itself is hierarchical and has dominant/submissive roles that we are to reflect via our gender. The battle of the genders is demonic and carnal, gender roles are of God and it takes a Spirit lead person to acknowledge and agree with that. A true women of God will not try and wrestle with her husband for dominance and a true man of God will understand the futility of arguing, the weight of dominance ruins women as they were not made to carry the load, when they carry the load it crushes them and their soul becomes dark...they were created to be a unique reflection of God's goodness and light.
Your flesh is your toughest challenge
I’m 34 and not married. It’s kind of hard to meet someone to marry 🤷🏼♂️
38 here, and 20:35 was a bit of a slap in the face. I have barely found any women to date, much less marry.
Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.
One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.
What happened to the wife is supposed to submit to her husband in everything?
Amen
Sorry Pastor Mark is way off and confused about what the Bible says about headship in a marriage. Kind of taints the rest of his sermon. Had to unsubscribe. I find it hard to trust what else he says now. He needs to go back and read his Bible more.
Single woman here, continuing to learn and grow from some personal experiences and continue to prepare myself for being a good wife someday!
Your comment is very refreshing
AMEN THE BATTLE REALLY BEGINS IN MARRIAGE . Be strong fellas . Its up to godly men to lead.
I still believe in the resurrection power for myself, and my wife. We've been divorced for over four years now, but i still believe!
I disagree strongly here. Yes the women part yes we can agree. But telling me people they need to be married for the full christian experience is dead-wrong gospel. You are fully complete in Christ Jesus either if your married or not.
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
Marriage sounds awesome and with over half ending in divorce the half minimal are good Marriages...no wonder men dont want marry. Men choose peace.
My fiance and I are so grateful for your teachings. I plan on ordering the book for his birthday 😊
If those graphs of married and unmarried women and men went beyond age 55, the results would be far, far more abysmal.
The wife is to lovingly be in submission to her husband. We have input but ultimately the husband is the Head of the family. I don't believe we rule together.
Exactly. He needs to check his bible again. I think he missed a few things there.
I get tired of women saying "strong independent woman" or especially "strong independent black woman" (I'm a blk married woman by the way) These are single and married women saying this. It's ok to be strong but they act like being married is a sin. Also, these same women I know that are still waiting on a husband ain't ready to submit....They still go out to clubs LOLOL...what they want is a strong independent marriage LOLOLOL I love being married to my husband...He is definitely my blessing from the Lord.
I’m blessed to be married to a strong Warrior! He calls me Queen and I call him my Warrior!
@@catnagle3762 Great... My husband and I are strong. Nothing is wrong with being strong, man or woman. The problem is the so called "I don't need a man or husband to raise my children...ON PURPOSE" having multiple children out of wedlock and a lot of times with multiple men. God created man...then he create for the man a helpmeet...Woman...A wife...
😮 it happened to me a long time ago..... But don't blame him. These cold ruthless heartless women never loved us.....
Jesus mentioned the sanctity of marriage in the Bible several times. He was tempted by the Pharisees regarding the subject and used the first book of the Bible Genesis as an example of how God designed marriage to be and how sacred it really is. Amen
Sleeping on your own couch?? Don't be so weak son!!
This has to be be one of the best studies I have heard on this subject. Mark, thank you for clearly stating the way God has laid this out. God is good to give us good teachers.
Do you believe we are at the end of endtimes now?
@@dayseven28 if you are asking me, yes, I believe the Rapture is closer then we think and I believe this war is escalating things.
@@dayseven28100% I have ZERO doubts that we’re living in the last days!
As a woman I approve of this message
The head is the head
If something has 2 heads it’s a monster
A king is the leader no co leader
Whether people want to diss or second-guess Driscoll, it’s clear he does care a lot about what he’s doing and is serious about what he’s saying.
That alone is helpful and raises the bar, bc it seems like not many men really do
Sure, until you realize how far off he is from teaching us to follow Yahshua. That's to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.
This popped up and spoke to me so much. I forwarded it to my fiance. Sadly he got really defensive? Said why is there always video’s on men, what about women, they have to submit. I am so trying to see Godly leadership in him, overlook flaws etc, but Spiritual leadership is what I need in a man. I was married 17 years to a “Christian” alcoholic, the drinking and issues with that were bad but the lack of spiritual head of the home is what hurt the most. I would try show him his ways, scripture on being drunk or lukewarm and was rebuffed and told scripture is not black and white.
I feel torn. I love this man. When he is in a good mood he calls me God’s daughter, reads the bible and prays with me. When he gets upset he turns on me, I can’t express needs, and I don’t even see Christian character/fruits, let alone any of the biblical qualities of a husband.
I am scared to marry him. Having to leave one marriage due to alcohol abuse was bad, and I don’t want to end up in a worse situation. He can be very harsh, refuse to hear my heart and flip it back on me. I am often scared to talk. I love him. But I also want to be happy, to feel safe and secure 😢 he makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or it’s all my fault. He has massive pride.
Please pray for wisdom. I don’t need perfection, but the constant mood flips are hard to deal with.
Sugar, that whole"submit" thing is bad news. Can you put off the wedding? I wish you the very best and ask you to listen to your discernment. Listen to that 35 minute segment again.
I say run. Wait on the Lord
Don’t marry him. That’s a lot of red flags
I made that mistake.. Don’t do it. Being unequally yoked does not work even if he displays some signs of a Christian man. If he’s not true believer, run. Wait on Gods timing.
What about the teaching from Paul about staying single being better?
If that was my daughter I would re evaluate my parenting. I wouldn't place blame on the husband.
Pastors should not reinvent doctrine for fear of their wives. Proverbs 30:6 "Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you, and you be found a liar". Scripture in the strictest form is the blueprint for marriage, not fairy tales, the culture or the wife.
Brother, take that hat off when you’re conversing with my Lord!!!!
Happily married then???isn't it the heart the Lord looks at isn't it!!!
It's the heart your lord loooks at????
My lord looks at your heart not the outward appearance
This video has been removed from Mark Driscolls channel! It still can be found by typing "Your wife is your toughest challenge" in youtube search bar but MANY recent comments are NOT there! ------Huh!!!
As always, I appreciate much of what you said here. There is one thing I would like to point out in love. I know it is not popular but what you taught about dominion 31:00 is not biblical (Eph 5: 21-33, 1Co 11:3-12). When we become part of the Church, we become one with Christ. We become one by accepting HIS domination and authority over us. To say that a man is the head of the house but has equal dominion. Is like telling Christ HE is the head of the Church but has no authority / dominion over her. When a man submits to GOD and loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. He has dominion over his household, but he will never abuse that dominion in any way. If he does, he is not loving her as Christ loves the Church. He has final say but also takes full responsibility. That is what a leader / head does. This is the arrangement set by GOD. When it is accepted before and throughout the marriage. All potential power struggles in the house are eliminated.
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Mark is pandering to the culture (or his wife) here
My wife used to tell me, leave your superintendent hat outside!
61 y/o man 41 years of marriage this was so good I’m learning a lot
Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.
There are good girls out there, just watch out for narcissistic traits or signs of entitlement, and do test your future wife a looot, then follow your heart, may Jesus guide and bless you brother!
It is not good that man should be alone….
Not good for woman either!
Sooo.... there is no rank structure in the home ? 😅😅😅 ...
Theres rank structure in
1.the work place
2. In government
3. In the military
4. IN THE HAVENS And All the spiritual world ...
But yet have No Dominion over my wife ??? Im not a boss at home ? 😅😅 ... really? .... sorry man , you cant have it both ways ... leadership requires a degree of Authority and Authority requires submission...
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Yeah this guy doesn’t know what he’s talking about. It’s not scriptural what he’s preaching.
Do you have a job, are you part of the church, were you in the military, do you have a government where you live, and more. Our lives have been set up for us in an order of leadership and authority with Christ being the head. (That's strait from the bible!) Would you make the same comment that you made to me - to your boss at work, to your pastor, to your drill sergeant, to your mayor, to your governor, to your president? That is where mankind gets the idea from. It includes things like command, leadership, authority, rank, position, function order, standing and more. It says in the world that man was made a little lower than the angels (which we don't totally understand) but it is talking about an order set up by God Himself! (Christ being the head) Like I said in a previous comment, with that authority comes much responsibility! A bully, I don't think so! Just a confident man of God who is living by the word of God, being the best husband, father, and servant that he can! That's while loving and cherishing my family and would die for them (while living for them) every day!
@@mrzee1958 who you talking to mate? That comment I made was not at you, but at the person who made the video. Your 100% correct.
Steve, sorry bro, that comment was not to you! I agree with you 100% bro! @@stevec5192
An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..
The success of a man can be seen in the countenance of his wife.
Genesis 1:16
16Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
"Desire" is not "contrary"
The Hebrew word there means "a longing"
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” .
Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness
Doesn't the weaker vessel scripture have to do with holding the spirit not physical strength?
So because I haven’t found a GOOD GOD FEARING man I’m going to be old, alone and have (multiple) STDs when I’m 50, regardless if I’m sleeping around??? You lost me with that
Hi Mark - you stated at 26.50 in your video "man does not have dominion over the woman". please clarify that statement and please read to us and comment on 1 corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:22-23, Genesis 3:16, 1Timothy 2:11-12. Now us men are also to obey the word in how we act to our wives (very important) but the word SPECIFICALLY talks about the order of leadership and authority in the family. YES, I am to walk side by side with my wife in the raising of our children as well as much more but........please read those scriptures! Odd hearing this from you especially after reading the title of the video! Please take my comment in love and not criticism my brother!
Please read the last line in Genesis 3:16 especially in the amplified bible version!
Hate to break it to you, but Mark really does not give a FUCK.
I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!
Pastor Mark, please do a sermon on wives who refuse to respect their husbands.
My wife is a wonderful woman- I love her deeply- but she has a hard, independent streak (I think from her father dying when she was a baby, growing up with a single mother).
She agrees “intellectually” with Biblical gender roles, but in practice her heart is far far far from wanting to practice any respect.
I am committed to lead and am not passive. It is a delicate balance to avoid huge arguments, and all I can do is constantly forgive her for sinning against me. And pastor, I am wearing thin.
I’m doing everything I can - I am a good, hard working man who puts God first. I have no desire to dominate anyone (indeed it seems she has the desire to dominate ME). I will absolutely not abdicate. But I don’t know how to handle this - I have no hope of changing her by my efforts- that won’t work.
But nothing is working. Please help
Don't give up my brother. He who is in you is STRONGER than him who is in the world! 🙏🏾
@@missionpossible6796 amen! Thank you brother
Have you ever read the book “The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman” by GS Youngblood. It has a lot of tips and advice on this matter.
I am definitely struggling trusting my husband
I’m sorry….is this a joke?