Happy Thursday. Let me say here that doing something for your mental health (in the realm of normal) is never a bad thing. You are the only person that can care for yourself and look after yourself. I am hoping when I go back to Germany that I will be in a better head space to tackle the negative energy that is floating around the country :( I know that it is a temporary problem and it is not how I know German people to act.
There are assholes everywhere. But there are also many dark-skinned people who never hear the N-word in Germany. you shouldn't take it personally. it is definitely not the color of your skin. I too get insulted from time to time by people of the same skin color, namely Caucasians. later found out that the person has Alzheimer's and so on. I just think that you're just so stressed out. Corona demands a lot from us. I'm also pretty annoyed at the moment.
I'm white , but foreigner and live in Germany 20 years now . Working, paying bills , speak perfect German and face racism regularly. It's everywhere. Sometimes I just wonder will I find a place to live , where I can live without hostility.
Not that you need anyone's opinion, ever, but - you did the right thing for you!! Everything you said made perfect sense. You're a grown ass woman and owe no one anything. Also, fuck those people, what the heck. You had the chance to get a vaccine on top of everything, how cool is that!!! I'm happy for you. Enjoy your trip and your family and friends :) Ganz liebe Grüße aus Heidelberg!
@@dice3704 I don't know if it's racism because then you would be attacked because of your white skin color. You have to get a thick coat. The nerves are just a little bit bare at the moment. There are Karens as well as in Germany. You just don't know what's behind it, often it's a mental illness, schizophrenia, psychosis and so on. there is a woman who washes the sidewalk with water at this time of year .... And she obviously also commits a criminal offense because she deliberately sprayed someone that is assault. - I once learned in driving school. If you drive through a puddle of water and do not pay attention and the passer-by gets wet then it is a physical injury. 😊 I'm digressing now. It is a very uncomfortable situation to be verbally abused and it is completely unexpected ...that hits you especially when you've had a bad day. My question is also how many positive letters, opinions, gestures, kind words have you heard in this country?
This is my 3rd month in Germany. I'm here as an exchange student and I can relate so much! I've never felt so unwelcomed in any country and I was wondering if I'm the only one. Can't wait to leave.
@@psimca Wow, that region is even reputed to be "friendly" compared to Bavaria, where I am currently. Thank you, now I know that the only solution is to move completely out of this crappy country.
I live in Belgium and used to have a German friend that lived in Brussels (we were just friends). The few years she lived in Belgium we did everything together, nearly every weekend (concerts, museums, out eating, citytrip, I even drove her to job interviews and waited outside for 3 hours). When she returned to Germany, and I visited her a few times a year I noticed things had changed. Afterwards she mailed me she didn't want any contact anymore. It seems she only knew me or wanted to be friends with me when it benefitted her. In Germany she had other friends, so goodbye me.
I think during those moments that you share with her those moments you would had noticed something about her, it's not possible that you couldn't noticed it before.
I spoke to some foreigners living in Germany. They have their own life stories and bad experience here. But what their are all agreed with was that they travel back and forth to their country of origin (every 3-6 months) to get back to their normal mental state otherwise "you can get crazy in Germany". The amount of hate and aggression in Germany is enormous.
@@vorname-kk2tvgermans are miserable themselves. How can a person walk around their whole life with a frown and not be miserable and most of your women look like men that’s why it’s full of Thai brides and gays and it is the most boring country I have ever been to
Unfortunately the ‘nastiness’ had nothing to do Corona. Empathy is not a common trait in Germany and Austria. Many people are living their protagonist lives and everyone else is just in their way.
I'm German and this attitude of Germans is the biggest reason why I live happily in the US for 36 years now. Every time I went back to Germany I got traumatized because I just am not used to this low kind of interaction anymore and don't want to join them. The neighbor of my family in Germany poisoned their new little trees that were supposed to build a nice property line because she is a Zugereiste" referring to my mother moving there from Northern Germany because she got married to my dad 25 years ago. I was mistreated and my kids emotionally abused by teachers after we moved from Berlin to Northern Germany. German people are harsh, always looking for the negative, always finding fault even when the job was done 120%. It is also interesting that women are the worst. I am a psychologist, Psychology was "invented" in Germany but the Germans have never heard of applying it to daily life and their interaction with each other. Interesting is also that they never follow local rules when they are visiting foreign countries. They are incredibly disrespectful and ignorant and always argue, lecture and criticize! It's annoying, very shameful and very very embarrassing!
Wow, watching this after a year and now as a Ukrainian refugee in Germany, I can tell I had almost exactly the same experience with old people here in Germany, they are the craziest bulliest people I've ever met in my life, sorry you had to go through that.
I lived in Germany before the pandemic and encountered the same rude behaviour almost everywhere I went. So, no excuse. I’m really sorry for your negative experience. I totally feel you. I hope you are in a better place now. X
I’ve been to Germany many times and longest stay was 90 days and I have to tell you, they are not friendly people. You can’t just have casual conversation with the butcher or cashier so friendship is hard to establish.
@@Joeladgra Germans are well aware of the American penchant for friendliness to strangers, which many dismiss as superficial and fake (while at the same time acknowledging the German reputation worldwide for negativity and coldness).
I hate Germany, people are so unfriendly. Unfortunately can’t leave because the father of my kids is German and does not want to leave. When the kids move out I am going back to NL.
There is a difference between being straightforward and being mean. There’s also a difference between being nice and being fake (that goes for america)
Was married to an African, he joined me in Germany ( he has a university degree) and run away to Holland after 5 months. He couldn’t stand the cops and racism of Germans
@@DARKSEID76some Germans confuse friendlyness with being fake...they literally don't understand it. And immediately equate "fake friendlyness" with the "always bad" US culture, to make themselves feel better. I think a healthier mindset for Germany is to own its traits, it is what it is, instead of trying to undermine every other culture. But the same Germans Im talking about are also the ones that love to feel superior about their way of doing things
After 4 years of living here in Berlin, I am finally done with this country and I am leaving. I am the only asian in our apartment building and an elderly couple living above constantly attacks me. It all started from a one time incident of me cooking Pasta with "garlic" in it. Apparently the elderly couple above is allergic to garlic. It left a bad first impression and since then they have been aggressively making me feel that I don't belong. They called the apartment owner to complain about my cooking, it then escalated to my husband's smoking when they can no longer complain about my cooking. They then claim that I am cooking something exotic and I should go back to where I come from. Everytime they know we are cooking, they shout and make loud remarks. I never even cook with spices anymore, my life here has been bland like the RACIST germans living above me. They traumatized me so much to the point of causing my miscarriage due to the constant attacks. My mistake was never telling the doctors about this nor asking some professional help. It took awhile for me to accept it was RACISM as I have never experienced this ever. I lived as a Digital Nomad before settling in Berlin and I was never treated like this before. So I was in denial for a long time. The final straw for me was when the Racists called the apartment owner and complained that I cooked "two times" in a day. I am so traumatized by living here in Germany that I am in the process of selling everything in the apartment to leave in a month. I would rather contribute my high taxes to where I am wanted and definitely it's not in Germany.
I’m so sorry. I’m also an asian living here in Berlin and faced similar situations like you. The city or the country itself is a complete joke. They all are so entitled, rude and out of touch. I always wonder how this country became so rich 😂
Berlin has become such a sh…hole.lived there many years ago and loved it but when I went back recently, it felt full of hate, anger and jealousy. I couldn’t wait to leave
The whole thing with people telling you to return to africa reminds me of when i returned to germany from the US, people in school would constantly bully me and tell me to return to the US not knowing i was actually from Würzburg. When they found out i wasn’t actually american their attitude changed. People need to be kind
No, people need to respect the local cultural traditions in their area. I moved from a medium sized S.Texas town to a smaller one about 45 mi. away, the locals shut us out for several years until they knew they could trust us. This has everything to do with the outsider than with the locals. This brat should've walked around the old woman, but that's not what she wanted to do. She forced this negative interaction to happen, not the other way around.
@@retireorbust You are 100% wrong, Randy. Systemic racism and police brutality against Black and brown people is a public health crisis in the US and the fact that Germany has racism does not change that.
I lived 17 years in Germany and I agree with you . What you think about Germany I just fehlt the same . I am portuguese andI fehlt awful there for your reason.That Why I decided come back home. Actualy I got married a German thats why I landed there. But it was really bad. Because arrogance is everywhere.
@@Fragenzeichenplattearogance looks like you exactly. Living in bubble how everything is so great in Germany and best but when someone point out some bad things in Germany you go nuts. Even tho i have no bad expiriance with people offending me or so i can feel how much they talk about greatness of Germany and act like others have no watter and electricity except them. Im not mad and i dont even think they do it purposly, they are just thought like that. They look everything trough money and dont understand the concept that quality of life doesnt equal the money. Place where i live people are nice and much better then i expected honestly, and even if i come a cross to some "im/we are above you", im enough self confident and inteligent to answer them and left them speachless., so it doesnt really troubles me at all. But i can understand people are dealing with different things in your country and you should too.
I'm very surprised by the dislikes. Your experience in Germany is totally valid, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! You have the right to live wherever you feel most comfortable and accepted. Hope you're doing well, currently
Her experience however, can not be summarized as a sort of generalization, from my honest opinion. There are people that have good experiences in other countrys, and people that don't. Plus, such as she has the right to talk about her experience, and express how she felt, so have people the right to express if they are disagree.
@@SardonicSoul Yeah. The comment section here is wild. I know there are some real assholes in the US. I'd never generalize like that. That's a narrow world view. I get it, but I also want to see the good sides of any place.
I have been dealing with the same situations for the last 12 years.. my advice, do not move here unless you are desperate.. shitty weather, some people are rude and nasty. Some times its racism, mostly it's just the way they are.. i haven't got used to this kind of co-existance, and i dont think i will ever do.. and trust me, the money is not worth it...
No matter what how hard you work, still these people complain and one mistake then you are finished!! I am going through this very difficult phase where these people keep reminding me how terrible am I, although I give my best.
@@Adam-nw1vy avoid working at remote areas! Go for interview, give a trial if you like it then say yes! Second tip would be complete your C1 and then apply, it would help you as options will remain open to you. In this way you will choose the company and not the other way around.
We spend most of my life in Germany. Have university degrees, earn above average.. our first languages is German.. But we never felt accepted! These people are full of negativity, hate and racism. Since we have a small baby, we have decided to finally leave this country. It makes me sick to see how much they hate kids, especially when they're not Bio Deutsch.
@@Mohan778 nein, ich denke mir auch ab und an wie es für Leute erst sein muss die eben auch anders aussehen? Gestern in der Ubahn hatte ich so eine Situation beobachtet, schrecklich...
@toufak Sich über angeblichen Rassismus und Hass auskotzen, aber selbst mit so einem rassistischen, gehässigen Mist kommen. Ich jedenfalls habe noch nie erlebt, dass Deutsche rassistisch sind oder einen Hass auf Kinder haben. Vielleicht liegts ja am Ende doch an Dir, ganz unabhängig von der Herkunft.
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.
I am from Serbia and came here because of bombing from nato , but also because the Pflegedienstleitung from Germany ( Universitätsklinik) came to Belgrade to “fish” nurses for Germany. The government here is not able to solve problem of “Personalmangel” in healthcare for 50 years…Incapable politicians here. So, Germany has never invest 1 cent in our growing up and education and become professionals for free. They don’t appreciate that at all.
Thank you so so so very much for this video and to everyone who commented. All this time I thought I was the problem! I’ve changed myself tried everything to be accepted in society, wondered what I did wrong but at a certain point I couldn’t figure it out anymore. The world is big and my whole life the life experience in Germany (as a Black woman) was my world. I need to travel until to explore other worlds, people and other mentalities. I’ve always gave the people in this country the benefit of the doubt but you and the people in the comments had the same experiences - the society and atmosphere in this country is so rude and extremely negative. It almost crushed my spirit. So thankful for the internet! I’ve once told a therapist that I feel like I’m surrounded by predators. If you don’t have good friends, a family or a safe home - it’s very hard here to say the least.
I know exactly what you mean. Just leave as soon as you can, it will not get better. I persoanlly waited too long and regret it now. The whole world is in front of you and no, not everywhere is like it's in Germany. I feel truly happy now living in another country with friendly, loyal, open people , and going to buy groceries I know I will not be yelled at by a cashier for no apparent reason. Happiness is in the small things.
@@Shikami85 forgot to take a basket (corona times). At the post office the lady at the counter wasn't very nice either when I needed a package to be shipped the same way I shipped it last time. Raising her voice is apparently the greatest idea in her mind to make her point and tell me it's not possible. But it's quite a frequent thing to happen there.
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.
This is very true. My parents came to Germany 50 years ago and we still face daily racism and rude German behavior. People are so negative and toxic and they hate you when you are successful and they love to destroy your success when they can. It’s called “Schadenfreude“
In my opinion there aren't many countries where it's easier to make friends than Germany, especially former Eastern Germany. You often hear that Germans are cold and it's easier to make to make friends in Southern Europe or the US for example. But that's nonsense. The difference is that Germans are more honest and less superficial than other people. Go to Spain or the US for example and you will fast get to know people and they tell you bullshit like "You are always welcome here" or "You'll always have a place to stay when you are in the area" but they never mean it. If a German tells you can stay at his place you can be sure that he means it. I have friends from all over the world and they all say how easy it is to make real friends here. On the other hand people I know who moved to the US or other other places that are known for there welcoming attitude complain that it almost impossible to make real friends. It's easy to find people to hang out or party but not real friends. This feedback I got EVERY SINGLE TIME.
@@Fragenzeichenplatteexactly you treat people as untitled for wanting human connection this is normal for everyone to want human connection only in Germany is it considered untitled to want to have friends your people are miserable but just because you all hide it well doesn’t mean you life isn’t shit
Hayley you're NOT offensive at all. I agree with everything you said in this video. These are also the reasons why I want to leave Germany. The most things I don't like is really poor customer service, unfriendly people, people suddenly screaming at you on the street/making fun of you/sometimes even threatening you (mostly drunk people). Germans in general are really so pessimistic and too serious. I had many experiences where people literally stared at me, because I'm not following the boring fashion, which is common in Germany. Of course not every German is like that, but still most people are just unbelievably rude, without even knowing the person. Especially for introverts it's so hard to survive in German society. You're always made fun of: You're so quiet, you never say anything didn't realize you were here. (Are people just dumb or don't they realize that this is hurting) I miss my time in other countries where all people are friendly and want to integrate you into their culture/ introduce you to their friends. I lived in Singapore for a little less than 1 year and you just realize the differences. I had a reversed culture shock when I came back to Germany. As soon as I get the opportunity I will leave BRD.
Been here for nine months. Trying to find the good in Germans daily, but boy is it difficult! Boy do I have stories, too. Praying that what I'm experiencing does not rub off on me!!!
Someone speaks the truth. Thank you. There's a psychological saying that goes: "If you want to understand someone's true character, observe them under stress." This resonated with me deeply and reminds me of my time living in Sweden. They absolutely hate immigrants. And if you happen to have dark hair and skin, like I do, well, you're screwed. I was so happy to be back in the US.
Lithuanian here, who moved to Germany when i was just a lil child. Can relate to everything you spoke about and i also plan to move out of here. The negativity is just... let´s say i am speechless. Still after being here for a longer time now
@@adrena7321 Move to Germany. Despite what people say about Germany on here (which is totally valid), it is miles ahead of the US in everything. This is just my opinion, but up to you which country you want to move to. Good luck with wherever you decide to go my friend :)
Ist menschlich nicht deutsch, in anderen Ländern ist das auch nicht anders, teilweise sogar schlimmer. Finde eher die Deutschen lassen sich gegenseitig ziemlich in Ruhe, aber kann nur von den Städten sprechen, auf dem Land mag das anders sein..
Alles schlecht - Alles gut, Überall anders besser - Deutschland Deutschland über alles... = das ist für mich typische deutsch. Arschlöcher gibts überall und immer - und in diesen Zeiten überhaupt kein Wunder (Indien, Ungarn, Trump/USA, Brasilien, Polen, Russland, Weissrussland, Indonesien Myanmar, Nordkorea, China usw. usw. usw. usw......)! Die grundsätzliche Fragestellung sollte immer sein: "Bist du ein Faschist (etc.), oder ein Mensch?" und Punkt!
Even as a German, other German people say I am weird because I am a cheerful person who enjoys to laugh and have fun😂 Someday someone told me why I was laughing and whether I was laughing about her😂🙄
Same thing happened to me. I was bullied in school for being generally happy and louder than the other people there. I moved to France now and I have to say, it’s way better and easier to make friends. Everyone accepted me instantly and they were really kind, compared to the people I met in Germany.
Es tut mir sehr leid, dass du so eine schlechte Erfahrung machen musstest. Fühl dich mal ganz fest gedrückt und ich wünsche dir alles Gute. Du bist eine so liebe Person und ich liebe deine Art.
I have been experiencing lots of negativity in Germany too😢 My German boyfriend's parents are awful to me. His mom sends me mean messages and I told his parents I was born and raised in America but they still continue to ask me questions about China. My boyfriend's dad even pick things out of his soup at an Asian restaurant and ask me what everything is even though I said many times "sorry, I don't know." I feel like if a white person say they are American, they wouldn't be questioned more but many Germans keep making me feel like I can't be a real American😔
Exactly. Germans have culture of associating ethnicity and nationality, and sees countries as ethnic states. To their view, Germany almost certainly is a white country where they "tolerate" nonwhites at their whims and demands. America too is a white country, which is only slightly more tolerant because of history of immigration.
But based on your name you are also Asian. Many have been jn America for generations. But our ethnic ancestry never gets wiped away. If I moved to tokyo my future kids would never be 100% Japanese. They could know the language and culture. But ancestry still not japanese.
I was on my way to my job in Germany. At a train station the was a guy with a musicbox and who sang rock hits live there. And he was really good! No one...absolutely NO ONE looked at him. Every single person ignored him, just like trying hard not to move the eyes in his direction! It was very very weird for me. But then two security guys came to him and wanted just to see his papers, that he is allowed to do this. Only at that moment everyone started to look at this situation with a big nasty smile on their face. They wanted to see him get arrested or like that. He showed them something and they went away. This was the perfect picture of germany.
yes exactly "the perfect picture of germany" - I myself have experienced very similar situations. something is very very wrong with germans and it honestly spooks me sometimes.
How awful. I've been living in Germany for 8 years and one of the main characteristics of German people is unfortunately the lack of tact, sensitivity and empathy. Many people have absolutely no manners. I've been battling with depression for nearly two years now and as a way to get overcome it and open up, I invited someone over and cooked dinner...what I got mostly was a critique of my apartment and questions such as when or if I was going to get the German citizenship. I mean, where is basic human decency and kindness?
@@ygt2813 i think, like you said, that there are mean people everywhere. I live in latin america and here is a lot of gossip and bad vibes as well as good people but always the bad ones stands up because of their cruelty. Human been, no matter their race, nationality, gender etc have two faces from where they can choose. We, the good ones, just need to bw brave and learn to identify the ones that will not deserve our company.
At least Germans have common sense, honesty and respect for human life. Not like wackos in the Wild West shooting people over an argument about dog sizes.
@Lester Matthew what does this statement even mean?? Did you not read the part about DEPRESSION in the post above? We're in the middle of a fuckin' pandemic...if we're not going to change our ways about how we treat people, then we have failed as a society, and I don't mean only Germany.
@Lester Matthew I don't even get your point. It feels like we don't even speak the same language. But no, when someone is in a depression (and believe me, with the current pandemic, it will probably not be a minority anymore), what one needs is encouragement and lots of support, not condescending "tips" that are going to make you feel like worthless shit. No one in a depression needs that because a depressed person is usually pretty hard on themselves already.
Germany does a really good job at letting you know you don't belong there. Some days I am shocked with how people treat me in Germany. Girl I am right there with you!! Coming home to America for a visit REALLY SOON! Stay strong!!!
Don't want to generalize, but my experience of working with Germans has been the same.. they don't treat people with respect and are very rude for no reason.. would never recommend anyone to go there and work or just work with them in offshore environment.
I myself am german but grew up in the US and moved back to start an Ausbildung (my high school diploma was not "annerkannt"). I feel so relieved to hear other people share the same experiences that I had when returning. I am very torn right now, still have 1.5 years left of my ausbildung but am seriously considering moving back to an english speaking country. The social system, health care, food, relatively strong job market, I could go on and on about the lots of benefits that make day to day life better, but sometimes I really question if it's all worth it. The negativity and seemingly "anti-(insert literally anything here) community" just puts such an extreme drag on my mood, and the worst part is that I've noticed myself (after three years) also assimilating and becoming more negative. Its just such a hard compromise to make. If anyone has any advice for me, please let me know because its a really hard decision. Anyways, sending everyone who struggles with similar issues lots of strength
Hi, I have same Situation. I'm from Iran and my high school diploma was not anerkannt. I just wasted my time here. after german passport I want left germany this country is shithole. My advise is usa is better to improve your life and there is never red line for people but germany is like prison.
Being German and living in Germany I can very much relate to this. I had elderly ladies screaming at me for no good reasons in an elevator and even those ones I've known for years who are living in the same street. But it was not only German elderly ladies. It's not only old people, but younger ones and older ones, men and women. Lots of people are in a very bad place! I even witnessed colleagues in the office screaming at each other. It was a conversation about whether it's harder right now for people with children and that quickly turned into a heated discussion. ("People who don't have children can't understand our problems with working in home office at all. You have no way of knowing what it's like. You can't understand/comprehend/empathize.") As soon as Germans start talking SOMEONE needs to be right. Usually the younger person or the one considered to be inexperienced is supposed to agree with everything the older person says. In Germany you will NEVER hear people say: Let's agree to disagree! I've also met a lot of young men telling me that they are depressed because of all the new rules and regulations like not being able to go to the gym and at the same time losing their jobs. Germans have a tendency to take all this (the pandemic) very seriously while at the same time taking it personally. Although all this certainly has some pretty devastating consequences the economic and personal crisis might also be a chance for some people to reinvent themselves, to learn new skills and prove to themselves that they are resilient or can at least become stronger. There is a saying that might be helpful: "Die Lage ist hoffnungslos, aber nicht ernst." That translates as: "The situation is hopeless, but not serious." I think you can also find this quote in the great ironic book "The Pursuit of Unhappiness" (=Anleitung zum Unglücklichsein) by the psychologist Paul Watzlawick. Even if there is no hope and everything seems dark, you should never take life too seriously because this world is and has always been a crazy place and there is just no alternative to optimism. Right now I have to look for a new job for the third time in the crisis because all of the places I worked at could no longer offer me a job due to Corona and the government's rigid policies that may or may not be helpful. Still, I know I have to stay focused on being (and becoming more) successful and calm. I can't always do it, though. I just tell everyone around me that I have good days and bad days right now and to please judge me for what I do and say on the better days. We will all have to apologise to a lot of people after the crisis and negativity is not the best attitude, but certainly right now it's a very common one.
thanks for sharing this phrase about hopeless and not serious, it helps me to accept stupid mistakes that i do almost everyday. i will try to read this book also, thanks 🫂
But the Pandemic or Plandemic - Conspiracy affects the Whole World dear. The point here is RACISM but, you know what?, I have a son working on your Country Germany. He is Engeenier Molecular, he says that the people is very NICE with him!!!, they're asking him to stay in Germany forever🤗, could you believe that?. He is a Scientist and he is beautiful my son, he is very very educated and dedicated. He is a very lovely young, he is American, so respectful American.
I must say that I cannot relate to any of this. Nobody screamed at me. It's like all these people are living in a parallel world where people go batshit crazy. Yes, there are assholes but I haven't witnessed an increase. People here are awesome.
I feel sorry for you. I live in Berlin for 5 years and experienced rude behavior too. I'm totally 'white' eastern European girl and, working all the time, quite well educated and speak good German and still treated like stupid 'Putzfrau' by some German ppl.
I stopped saying that I am Polish and eventually escaped to the Netherlands, which is amazing. People are kind and I am not bullied at all anymore. In Germany it was insane. They destroyed my country and act like they are superior, it is so ironic. This hate thowards Poles is very deep in the culture and even older then Germany 😆
It's the reason me - I'm German - and my Indian husband don't even consider moving to Germany. I have some friends who got a bit offended when I told them the reason for us continuing to staying in India. They get very defensive saying 'But most people are not racist.' And I tell them, true, most people we know personally aren't - cause else I wouldn't be associating with them - but that doesn't help if every single day in day-to-day life you run into at least a dozen instances of microaggressions, 'othering' or outright racism. It begins with the being stared at, continues over the condescending tone some people adopt when talking to someone of different skin color - the assumption being the POC should be 'grateful' to be allowed to be there, and many media-fueled ignorant assumptions about my husband's home country - and ends with outright random slurs. It doesn't help that the people we know closely are not like that, if you're exposed to this kind of stuff on a daily, it just slowly grinds away at you. And frankly, even people we do know initially had a very hard time talking to my husband as a person and not just as a foreigner. The strong in-/outgroup thinking in German culture just seems to make it very hard for many people to interact with POC as people and not as a cardboard standup of the stereotype in their head. It takes time for people to warm up and shed their insecurity in front of the perceived 'other', but by that time you on the other side already heard so many weird borderline offensive things from them, it's hard to come around at that point. Frankly, I just refuse to have my husband have to deal with this on a daily. He's a highly educated entrepreneur who has been supporting both of us for 10 years and counting. I do work, but whatever I earn is negligible to what he brings to the table. He's ambitious, driven, smart, and innovative, and my admiration of those traits made me fall in love with him. I bristle with rage at the very thought of random people looking down on him due to his skin color. And we make these kinds of experiences basically every time we come to visit my parents. We try to laugh it off. But every single time we just know all the more, yeah, that's not the place to live for us. And my parents are living in a big city, mind. All of this makes me sad and ashamed, especially as I've felt nothing but welcome in India in a decade of living here, even when I did nothing to deserve it. People are just so happy to learn I like it here and want to stay here. That's enough justification for them for my presence here. If we should ever move internationally we only consider countries with a strong immigration culture (US, UK, Canada or maybe Australia) or Southern European countries like Spain, Portugal or Italy (neither of which gave us a bad but a more humane vibe when visiting). And yeah, generally just the negative vibe, that eternal omnipresent "Geht nicht."-attitude from small mundane things to major life-changing bureaucratic issues. It's so contrary to our lifestyle, we just can't with it.
@@raxiutrw6464 you are pissed of course if goverment dont give a shit about the country and fool you around and now that ronna hoax bullshit many lose their jobs.. what you expect? can you be happy in this situration?
@@hyenalaughingmatter8103 of course not . I love this country with heart but its not related to 2020 . Im here from 2017 . 😊 What would you feel when your professor attack you ? Would you be happy ? We need a safe place to study and then leave . They treat students like a shit. So we leave the country . Germans will be alone with refugee . Thats the future . I see this .... 😔
@@raxiutrw6464 I wonder how a Syrian village would treat a German, if they decided to move in 300 Germans and start their new lives. How many would have trouble locating their heads in a month? You're a foreigner. If you don't like it, leave and go some place else.
@@austntexan abolutely you have right . But Germans are very different and have learned about the human right and other countries a lot . They are more educated. They have learned about history. But entrance of too many people in a same time was the biggest fault of merkel which no one can forgive
I am usually a talkative person but lm learning to be quiet and respond with smiles or nods when l interact with people here.It’s really helped to maintain my mood because unhappiness and bitterness are super contagious.If you interact a lot with unhappy people it’s hard to not be dragged into the drama and your words misinterpreted even if they know lm not fluent in their language.Being here has been difficult but l have really learnt how to be independent and learning that my happiness is my responsibility and only mine.
She very easily could've simply walked around the elderly woman but she chose the confrontation. I'm glad the old woman stood her ground and gave her a piece of her mind. This girls story is fiction and didn't happen as she's relayed here. Old people don't seek out conflict, but young people do.
I was planning to take my masters in Germany but I'm now having second thoughts. I've never experienced racism, but I'll probably experience it there since I'm asian.
i had such an encounter with a Racist lady in Düsseldorf Airport. i was taking my Coffee and looking for a place to sit, there was one with electrical socket so i plugged my Laptop i took some time to do some work while charging it. There was a Phone charging near me, one Lady came angry to me and was yelling " Er will mich Klauen er will mich Klauen" , someone Translated to me that she was accusing me of trying to stealing it. Lady i am a Computer System Engineer i almost certainly make multiple times your salary and maybe your entire yearly income in one month. I am no Refugee still they deserve respect and you end up making yourself looking like human garbage
Schäm dich nicht für die Arschlochigkeit anderer, das bringt nichts außer schlechte Laune. Sei selbst einfach kein Arschloch (manchmal nicht einfach) und schreite nach Möglichkeit ein, wenn du so etwas bemerkst :)
Jetzt lassen wir doch mal die Kirche im Dorf: blöde Leute gibt es überall auf der Welt, in Spanien in Frankreich, in Deutschland und ganz besonders viele in den USA. Zum Beispiel die 82 Millionen Idioten, die Trump gewählt haben. Wegen einer blöden alten Frau Deutschland zu verlassen zeigt, dass da wohl doch nicht so viel emotionale Bindung vorhanden war. Amerikaner sind halt generell etwas oberflächlich
@@autoalfred lustig, dass, genau wie bei der alten Dame, deine Stereotype über US-Amerikaner deine Reaktion bestimmen. Erstens sie macht deutlich "that it was the straw that broke the camels back." Anstatt sofort in die defensive zu gehen, "das machen die anderen doch auch", wäre es vielleicht besser einfach zuzuhören und die Kritik anzunehmen. Als Deutsche oder deutsch-aussehende werden wir nie erleben, was es heißt in Deutschland als nicht deutsch aussehender zu leben. Es steht uns nicht zu, ihre Erlebnisse zu hinterfragen. Jeder Dunkelhäutige, den ich kenne erzählt mir von Rassismuserfahrungen. Allerdings sagen diese auch, dass Sie in Berlin (zumindest im Südwesten) nicht häufig Rassismus erleben. Trotzdem müssen wir zu hören und es ernst nehmen, wenn davon berichtet wird.
I’m in Germany right now and I’m READY to go. It’s been so hard and depressing lately. I’ve been here almost 3 years and haven’t seen my family since I’ve been here. I’ve enjoyed Germany but it’s time for a change.
Yeah I felt like if I stayed any longer I might start disliking Germany and I don't want that to happen. Sometimes time away helps you see things in a new light
Being away from family is the worst part for me. Not everyone can afford to fly back and forth a lot. Taking a break from being overseas may be all that you need.
I just came to Germany magdeburg and cannot wait to get back to the UK. Wish I never came. Arrogant rude people. Having travelled to many countries this is the worst I've had so far.
@@NairaKa He's a German douchebag who can't accept the truth lol. He just proves that everyone is right with their opinions and expierences they made with Germans. Btw. did you know Germans are the most hated folk in the EU?
I am from Poland and Germans treat me as if I was a sub human. When they are not rude, they constantly watch me, it can also get nasty on a road when they see you have a car with Polish license plates...
You are right honey. I feel very very sorry for you and I‘m ashamed for those people. Be sure, there are a lot of people in Germany, who are nice and worth of you getting them to know. I send a big hug to Florida. Lass den Kopf nicht hängen. 🤗🌻
Omg!!! I am a south Asian living in germany since 4yrs, I have experienced some of the similar situation u have mentioned in the video😖 Even I felt the same,Germany has so much negativity n negative energy , people are rude for no reason, which is making me more depressed !!! I thought it’s only me who is feeling so until I saw this video!!! I can totally relate to the instances u have faced😔These 4 years of my stay in Germany has been the lowest point in my life so far I can say!!! I spoke to my husband about how I feel staying here, we are planning to move to someother country soon once the pandemic gets better✌🏻
@@sumimaind even at my workplace if I ask a simple question or questions related to the topic that I am not aware of ,the reply I get is so rude and blunt as if I have committed a sin. Its so depressing here. Despite of all the modern facilities and technology ,I feel totally empty. I already made up my mind that I will be leaving this country .
I am so sorry what happened to you. I am living and working in Gemany. My family lives in Greece and my other half in Cyprus. Last months were terrible in Germany especially at work. My customers know that we have a pandemic and less stock and every day I received angry phone calls and mails. I was sitting every day in my home office with stomach and head ache. Nobody around had the time to listen to me and give me some advise. So I listened every day to my music, did some gym etc. but this didn't help that much. Few weeks ago I've decided to make a small break and to go Cyprus. I've had to do a lot of paper work, expensive covid test etc. and Germans around me were like: how dare you travelling during corona and you will harm the environment by taking a plane. It was the best decision ever. I feel like a human right now... PS: the lockdown here is much harder then in Germany and people still behave like human.
I can understand how you feel as a business owner in Germany (assuming you are one since you said customers). People don't seem to have any regard that there is a human being on the other side, and that not everyone can be perfectly punctual and on time, and have whatever they want in stock at all times. I am American Indian, and my fiancé is native German and has his own business too, and if it's some consolation, Germans are rude to him as well. It's a good thing you took the break and headed over to Cyprus. Lockdown in Germany sounds like a nightmare. I was so grateful to be home in California where the sun shines at least.
Germany is a tough place to live...You have to REALLY know who you are, be able to live on " your own", be completely self-reliant, be able to ignore people with bad vibes and become more self-centred..I always say, if you can live here and find any kind of happiness, you can live anywhere..Big hug to you...Human beings deserve more though..❤️
i agree with the point about ignoring people with bad vibes, and maybe you're right, once a person being able to adapt to german environment they might be able to adapt anywhere else as well. Germans are direct, expressive and self-centered.
Yeah self sufficient also means coming here with a load of cash to live, because after 4 years and thousands of applications you realize that even with two higher degree, fluency in two languages, nobody is going to give you a job, and if they do it will be low paid or freelance work, which won’t even be paid on a monthly basis. The country is a complete nightmare. You have to buy every kind of insurance imaginable in order to protect yourself. In the end you will be miserable and will have drained your savings. That is how tough it is!
Ich hab aktuell echt das Gefühl die Leute hier drehen komplett durch. Es tut mir sehr leid für dich, dass du solche schlimmen Dinge erleben musstest. :( erhol dich gut in Florida und ich hoffe du gibst Deutschland nicht auf. ❤️
@@MCoos-dw9yr hier wird nicht soviel berichtet. Wenn etwas passiert wird es heruntergespielt oder man verschließt die Ohren und Augen. Was du machst ist nämlich genau das Problem. Man zeigt aufs angeblich so rassistische Amerika statt vor der eigenen Tür zu kehren. Genau wie George Floyds tot soviel Aufmerksamkeit hier erregt hat obwohl es hier einen Attentat zur gleichen Zeit auf deutsche mit Migrationshintergrund in Hanau gab. Was in den USA passiert hat dich nicht zu interessieren. Setzt dich mit dem Rassismus hier auseinander.
@@MCoos-dw9yr mach dir Gedanken um den Osten, wo es no Go Areas und man sich mit nicht deutschen Aussehen nicht hintrauen kann statt die Gedanken um Florida zu machen
I have just completed my generalistische Pflegeausbildung or general nursing diploma last month that is in March. Thamk you Germany for breaking me mentally and emotionally! But I came out strong.
Oh hayley, you really gave me some strength through this video. I moved from Germany to Sweden last year but I had to return to Germany around Christmas due to the pandemic and have been here since. During these months here I have been getting so sad, hopeless and fearful.. I am going back to Sweden tomorrow and I am just so anxious, I haven’t slept in a few days, couldn’t eat, my stomach has been hurting and I’ve been crying and being sad because I feel this immense fear of going there for some reason because I feel like I can’t handle things getting even worse than this and here I at least have my family and my dog. This gave me hope that this anxiety might have come from the general anxiety and depression level in Germany right now (because I remember that I haven’t felt like this at all before Christmas) and that things might look way brighter once I am there again Thanks for sharing this video, I hope you will get a lot of positive energy in Florida! Love, Johanna
I go trough the same thing at the moment!! Exactly since Christmas when the lockdown started in Germany I started to feel like this. You are not alone in this🤗 send you all the good vibes and try to remember that everything in life In temporary🌸
I live in Germany but near the border of Netherlands. I visit Netherlands once a week to recharge. People there know how to smile. Can't wait to finish my Masters and leave. 😅😅😅 🫠
Those German Karens. 🤦♂️ Totally get you and I agree. Germans in general are not in a good vibe now. The winter has been far too long and that along with the pandemic has definitely pushed some people to the dark side. Still, I'm positive about the next few months. ❤️
@@HayleyAlexis and Euro! There will be Euro Cup, so Germans have to become more positive 😁 Hope you will recharge, have a lot of quality time with your family and come back to sunny, positive, happy Germany with Biergartens and all that stuff !
Hi Sweetie, I am German living in Florida for 42 years now. I married a GI. I remember one of the trips back “home” where we just landed in Frankfurt. I had a stroller and a 1 year old. Stressful flight etc. etc. and I waited for someone to let me into the escalator line. No one did so I had to push my way in and I said in German real loud “I know I am back in Germany because everyone is so rude”. My husband was embarrassed but it was true. People just looked at me. I am sure they would have told me to go back where I came from if I had an accent. That was 38 years ago. Nothing seems to have changed. I understand the lock down and weather. The weather can surely get to you over there. I am not in Florida for the weather, never have been. The heat and hurricanes get to me, but you try to grow where you are planted. Love your videos and honesty. Wish you all the best. Who is Thiesi? P. S. My Granddaughter is mixed and my daughter and she have been living with us for 3 years now. She is beautiful. I love her so.
It’s insane because I literally just moved back to Florida from Spain for the same reason, things got so ugly there as well! I hope you’re feeling better and happier now, that’s the most important thing.
i am born and raised in germany studied here, work and pay my taxes. Still many people discriminate me just because my Name is turkish. The problem in germany is not rasicm its more that a lot of german people feel they are superior over you what make the country cold and depressed.
There is nothing wrong with being Turkish you can live in Germany and still accept your own true identity as Turkish migrant. Our fathers worked a lot to get in your place and we should never apologise for who we are.
No, the issue is that many people from turkey don't want to be part of the community. They only want the benefits. My best friend is from turkish descent. Third generation. Good education, good income. Years back he told me, that turkish people always speak badly about germans behind their backs. The issue is that turkish people feel superior, right?
As a native german I‘m ashamed for those peoples behavior and it‘s making me so angry that it‘s just not that commun around here to show stragers kindness. And its making me sad that tose are the ones to represent us in such a bad way. I can just hope for it to get better and please try not to let them bring you down. Best whishes from NRW
This girl likely walked into the elderly woman's water-stream, fully expecting that she was going to stop spraying, rather than risk getting her wet. Both my grandparents are German and exactly like this old woman. This girl's entitled attitude permeates her generation. Good on the elderly woman for standing her ground. Germany is her country, not this entitled foreigner's. I would bet money that the retelling here on TH-cam will differ by ~180degrees from what actually went down. If it was that bad, we'd be watching an iPhone video of it. She actually said the old woman was harassing her? This woman was minding her business and couldn't be bothered to stop what she was doing. So freaking what? The girl should've simply walked around her. All of this would've been avoided. A Millennial is not going to impart some grand wisdom/lesson on a woman who's seen 83 years of living. The arrogance of this brat is astounding. If you want to see what happens to a culture when you make too many concessions, come to the USA and spend some real time here. We are living in managed decline in the USA.
@@austntexan So by your analogy if I park my car and suddenly a person is walking behind my car I should just kill that person, since I am only minding my own business of parking my car, instead of waiting like 10 seconds to pass and then finish my parking? This is not entitlement, this is common sense. We don't know why the person is not focused or maybe and he/she it's stressed or is in a hurry. Is it so hard for 10 seconds of your unimportant life to just stop a stupid hose so that person it's not wet? Or maybe idk turn around and wet other things? That old lady did it just to see her reaction and yeah maybe even a n@zi. Maybe that old fag sat as a child to get an autograph from her beloved leader in the 30s.
I'm glad you said in the beginning...although this happens in the U.S. I am talking about Germany. People here love to throw around another place/country when you are addressing GERMANY, just Deutschland, stay focused.
@@karllarsen8797 Karens like the one Haley describes here can be found basically everywhere in Germany (I suspect it's not much different in America). Even as a native German, I occasionally encounter such things (okay, not the rants). I've also witnessed a man on a crowded bus pushing away a woman with a pram and swearing at her because of the colour of her skin. Yes, there are some places in Germany where I wouldn't necessarily walk around alone... and certainly not recommend it to anyone of colour. But even that doesn't mean that something happens there all the time. Supposedly we Berliners are the most tolerant - but even there I'm not so sure. If you want to go on holiday in Germany, you shouldn't let that put you off. You will find friendly people everywhere. The risk of being mobbed is relatively low (as long as you don't throw your rubbish into nature). But if you live here, sooner or later such an incident will happen. I have adopted a tactic that has worked quite well in such cases. There is a song by the Berlin band Die Ärzte that is very well known all over Germany. The song is called "Schrei nach Liebe" (Cry for Love) and is itself a rant against the neo-Nazis. A main part of the chorus is the word "Arschloch" (I think you don't need a translation on that). In the case on the bus, I only started whistling softly the first bars ... After the second stop, half the bus sang along loudly and the guy got off. I don't know if he was ashamed - but it just felt good. So the question is, what do you want to do?
I'm a black women in Germany live here 7 yrs and I agree with her I hate it here..the culture us lifeless ...I rather be poor and happy than have riches and miserable. the people here are so angry..I started walking around angry because of it..its so much more.
@@ChildofGod52 Honest question. Then why did you stay for 7 years? Whats helds you from just leaving? I cant agree to anything you say though :D The culture is full of life I think there are few countries with more fests and celebrations. The people are not angry i think. If you dont like it here there is no reason to stay though :) Good luck in the future :O
@@sumimaind thank you for your comment..I was really going to respond to his message ..but then i thought why!! its makes no sense. any expat living here especially from mixed race can agree to what i said.. and he may comes across pretty harsh...and it doesn't means every German is like that but the majority is...
I am Mexican and did the same myself. I am a permanent resident in the country and not planning on moving but this last winter was INTENSE. I was feeling so depressed and anxious. Just came back from Mexico after staying there for 3 months. Best decision ever. The environment in Germany at the moment is quite toxic. I still love the country tho.
As a german i think it is frightening whats going on right now. I think a lot of this has to do with the lockdown. Since november nearly everything is closed. Many people lost their job. The winter was long and hard. People are getting more and more unfriendly to each other. I hope it will change soon.
Canadian in Germany and I really understand. However I'm from Ontario and they just went into their 3rd lockdown so I don't think going back would've been the best idea.
I think, the problem here is just a “very loud” minority of ignorant and hateful people. Unfortunately, few speak up against them to not get themselves into trouble. This is really sad.
@@muadrico we speak up. Wir sind mehr. But not just behind a screen. Speaking up when you see somebody being treated like that, that's everybody's duty. In Germany, in the U.S., everywhere.
Hi sis. I am there now and can relate to all you said. I'm an African and pray nothing takes me outside daily but it's impossible. Most Germans are highly irrational & mean. Even at the hospitals l still see worse situation and pray nothing takes me there again....Although Germany is a good country🙇
Sometimes, a change of scenery is good for the soul. Here in the U.S. we've had our own set of problems over the past year + especially. Be glad, you haven't been around for that. It was incredibly challenging and stressful. The vitriol and condescension was at an all time high. I think, the whole planet is going bonkers.
Hayley. I'm really sorry from my heart! Your observations are unfortunatly true. I work as a cashier in a german supermarket and the people are horrible these days. People are screaming and shouting at each other about nothing, and being disrespectful to others and us cashiers. I think people are becoming psychotic in a way. We are in lockdown since i-dont-even-remember-anymore, not seeing friends and family and "Ausgangssperre" at 21uhr. And that sadly makes people not only aggressive, but they're projecting their mood on people which seem foreign. Or they get the balls to be openly racist now?! 🤢 I'm angry, I'm outraged, I'm ashamed and I'm deeply sorry. Hope it gets better soon.
This is happening everywhere. It's not just Germany. I hear it from my family in the UK and France and from friends in the USA. It's a sad fact, but Germany is no exception.
Agree with Nadine. My boyfriend is German and live in Lake Konstanz near the Switzerland border and work at Obi in Switzerland 🇨🇭 and he is experiencing rude customer behavior, they are aggressive unkind. He told me one customer told him that no German has a right to say no to him. My boyfriend had to take some time out of work for the sake of his mental health issue
Nadine, I feel you. I used to work part-time at as a cashier in a German city centre discounter and since I usually worked Saturday night shifts I was already accustomed to people being arseholes, but last year, especially the last two weeks I worked there really made it very easy for me to leave (I switched to an office job). My last month working as a cashier was last July and even back then people were behaving horribly and being even more rude and on edge than normal. I can't imagine how it must be like right now, but whenever I see my old colleagues they tell me people still are as nuts as when I left. I think the fact that the supermarket was the only place to go to besides the drugstore and maybe work (for some people) means that it became the one place you had human interaction and for some people going to the store can already be a stress factor. And overall people are just being dicks about "being oppressed" etc. and let all their aggressions out on people who have nothing to do with them, be it a supermarket employee or a person on the street who looks "other" to them...
It was like that way before lockdown. I am Polish and the amount of hate I recived in Germany is beyond disturbing. Killing Poles in concentration camps and distroying the country is not enough. At some point I started saying that I am from Czech Republic, to just have some peace. I escaped to Netherlands and was never happier. People are wonderful here.
I have traveled quite a bit. I spent two weeks in Berlin in 2016 and I have never been treated more poorly in my life than I was treated there by people. I’ll never go back to Berlin.
Berlin is not known for being very welcoming, many people there tend to be a bit rough around the edges. Still... I don't want to make excuses for anybody, I am sorry that you were treated poorly. What happened to you?
@@HayleyAlexis If there ever had been an actual lockdown in Germany, this thing would be over since probably January 2021. Of course, politicians do stupid bullshit to line their own pockets. Fun times to live in certainly. ;-) Oh and BTW as a native german guy, I also thought about leaving this country behind for good. Maybe it's just the suburb / ghetto I live in, who knows.. Thanks for your always interesting videos.
@@sumimaind You haven't been here during the pandemic. There never really was an actual lockdown, the best we did was in March/April 2020. Regardless: If you think the people were rude in 2008, you really don't want to know how they are in 2020/2021. :-)
So sorry for what has happened to you in Germany. Such stories make me SO angry 🤬 hope you’re having a good time with your family ❤️ lots of love from a fellow expat
This is so sad to hear because I love Germany, but I have to say I did experience some racism being there on vacation as a brown skinned Latina as well. I don’t think it will prevent me from going back though, hopefully in the future people are in a better headspace
@Tagedieb But following your logic I could justify any wrong doings as "oh but that happens in other countries too.. I feel like in Germany people say that usually when they don't want to admit that there's a serious issue with racism in this country. It's time to acknowledge the issue and stop using excuses to minimize the racism that happens there.
@@sumimaind Germans have lived there for thousands of years and it’s their country.they built a well run beautiful country. People move there for that reason and then complain about rudeness. Airplanes fly both ways.
I agree with everything in this video. As a German I deal with this negativity, rudeness and envious mindsets on the regular. I’m trying to protect myself from that type of energy but it doesn’t always work. I’ve spent a lot of time in different countries and also in the US and it really made me realize the flaws of this country. My boyfriend is from the US and I love his attitude about things. If I could I would go to Florida right now as well. So good choice girl 🙂 and thank you for your videos 💙
Das freut mich zu lesen! Ich finde juengere Deutsche sehr sympatisch und weltoffen mehr als leider die älteren Herrschaften. Vielleicht im Laufe der Zeit wird diese altmodisch Denkweise gestorben.
Honestly I wish it was just the old people, but its not. I have gotten into fights with family in their 20s and 30s, because they shared racist propaganda on Facebook. People that I would never have expected to agree with stuff like that. It`s shocking to me honestly.
@@lilly_chills Yeah that's sad but true. You can't believe how often I heard people saying "Rassenschande" ( racial disgrace) to me and my black girlfriend. I feel so sorry for her and it makes me angry and at the same time breaks my heart every time. She was born and raised here, german is her mother tongue, even speaks a regional dialect and yet some people don't accept that she is a part of this country and society...
@@devineballer3009 Wow thats terrible, I`m sorry to hear that you have to deal with this stuff. I`ve had my fair share of comments like that when I lived near a US army base in Germany and had a lot of friends of color. Personally I think people that limit themselves to whatever they perceive their race to be (in the end we are all just variations of the same race, homo sapiens ... ) miss out on getting to know a heck of a lot of awesome people. People don`t even know how stupid they look when standing there in their American jeans, british DrMartens boots, indian or chinese made t-shirts, shoving down Italian pizza, turkish döner or greek gyros and at the same time yelling how much they hate foreigners ...
Sorry to over post, but I've also noticed people seem to be making an extra effort to be polite and patient with one another here (US) compared with a few months ago. Makes me feel a little better about humanity.
Lived in northern Germany for 4 years, the whole place is a disgrace. Learnt the language to a high level very quickly but nothing I did was good enough. I was attacked out of the blue for eating a hot dog the wrong way, for the way I walked, for being a single foreign woman. They are a horrible society. It reached a point I couldn’t go to the supermarket 50m away from my home without being attacked somehow. I had neighbors stealing my letters and packages. I tried my best to adapt and mimic their habits and culture, only after 4 years I realized that I was not the issue, they were. Hateful, spiteful people. I was so traumatized that I Sold everything, quit my job, packed my bags and left. Zero regrets.
I ran across this somehow, and your experience absolutely resonates with all people of color in germany. I am American or Arab background married to a German. There is routine aggression and condescension directed at people of color in Germany, but Germans will deny it exists. It is maddening but we all experience it. I've learned to just ignore anyone who is rude and aggressive toward me. I literally ignore them as they try to discipline me and it makes them even more mad. I get satisfaction out of seeing Germans get upset that their aggressive disciplining isn't working. Nothing drives them crazier. Take care.
The issue is much more complex tho, there are many instances of unreasonable prejudice but must german are extremely open minded towards foreigners. Remember the refugee crisis and how must Germans gladly welcomed people. This attitude has changed however, in many cases because of great tragedies that accrued in Germany and it’s neighbours. If you’re a foreigner in any country you have it tough because you are a representative of your country, culture and community. That is the same for everyone. As unreasonable as prejudice is in most cases, I can’t blame many Germans for having become sceptical towards people with seemingly Arabic or Muslim background. You might call me racist for this, but I myself know about the irrationality of this. But at the end, it’s just a natural Defense mechanism and I can’t blame people for judging a group that is not known well to them that they only hear and see terrible crimes from. Most people are decent, humans are social after all. But as a social species we try to protect our own, unfortunately traits like racism evolve from that too. I can’t blame someone for being sceptical about Muslims when you read that a French teacher was beheaded with a kitchen knife on the street simply for teaching kids about religious caricatures (which included one about Mohammed). Stuff like that sticks with people, and I won’t blame them for it. I know better fortunately, I have travelled much and talked much and I choose my friends based on the people they are. Although a similar circle will be inevitable considering that unfortunately chilenos or Turks don’t speak german.
@@musiccer7446 this has nothing to do with the refugee crisis. ppl were mean before corona and before the refugee crisis. you guys always find an excuse for being evil.
Hey! I feel so sorry for how people treated you in Germany. Because no matter how much people are suffering there's is no reason to go ahead and take it out on strangers who havent done anything wrong. I just want you to know that we are not all like that. However I feel like this lockdown is a bit of a laugh. Yes, there are things that suck but what we are experiencing right now is nothing compared to what people have experienced in some other countries. And you're right, many things seem to be very unorganised. And I think they are thinking about slowly making less restrictions for people who are vaccinated so you might get lucky.
It's very refreshing to see you reflective and aware of a lot of things. There's no need to apologize for your decisions to go to florida. You do you and stay mentally healthy and happy. There's enough people who don't do that for themselves...
I've heard several stories from my friends in the US encountering a lot of entitled and angry people and taking it out on vulnerable groups. They were talking about the same issues: devisiveness, frustration etc I think it is a global issue but every culture handles it a little differently. I understand that it's easier to deal with when the coping mechanisms are part of a culture you grew up with and that's easier to navigate. also, as you mentioned, you are not an immigrant there and in a better position to defend yourself. And you have your family as a resource. I am so sorry you had to experience this at all being in a vulnerable position.
I'm so so so sorry!! I moved from Germany finally to Spain last winter and don't regret it. However, I think we also romanticize expat life. It's hard!!
@@nidersenogih5794 Wechselt immer mal wieder. Gerade gehen die Zahlen aufgrund von Feiern und Co. wieder hoch. Das ist sehr schade. Jedoch kann man weiterhin auf den Terrassen der Bars sitzen, und da kann man gut Abstand halten.
Americans, especially the Millennials, have a difficult time understanding the concept of "when in Rome, do as the Romans do". She should've respected the old woman and walked around her. The girl purposefully walked into the lady's water stream, expecting that she'd stop...but the old woman wan't bluffing. Good for her. This "negative" interaction would've never happened had the girl simply compromised and walked around on the street. She made the decisions to press the issue with the old woman. This girl is lying. Old people just want to be left alone. They're not interested in harassing anyone but when pressed, you may get a prickly response. They're built of stronger stuff than the last 2 generations of Americans, no question.
That's why I left Germany a long time ago. As a native born German I know my people very well and it's not only the pandamic. I don't want to go further in it. But I am an American citizen now an I'm glad about it.
Ich habe auch den Eindruck, dass hier in Deutschland alle Leute wirklich mit ihren Nerven am Ende sind und dadurch viel gereizter und unfreundlicher sind, als üblicherweise. Genieße deine Zeit in Florida! 😎
ich stimme zu! Das Land ist reich und alles funktioniert relativ gut aber die Leute sind immer schlecht gelaunt und negativ. Ich bin froh das ich dort nicht mehr wohne...
@@sumimaind Das Land mag reich sein, immerhin finanziert es die komplette EU, die Bürger jedoch zählen zu den ärmsten Europas und obwohl sie immer mehr effektiver und fleißiger als alle anderen arbeiten nimmt man ihnen stets alles weg und verteilt es in Europa um.
hi hayley, i understand you 100%. I live in germany, everytime i visit my family in bosnia i dont want go back to germany, cause im afraid, i live with fear there every day, my stomach hurts every day. I got sick there with depression but through medicaments i became better, after lockdown and covid my problems are back.But my life is there, my work, my wonderful boyfriend, but right now the work is killing me. Especially through covid people changed in a negative direction. I just feel emptyness there and fear, especially through this crazy restrictions. Yes hayley you are right, its a lot of evil going on there. I would say im a sensitive person and try to take care of the feelings of the orhers but i ve been punched so many times in my face with mean words. A lot of narcissists. I wish you luck🙏🏻spend a good time in florida.
I have to agree. As an introvert and a sensitive person Berlin is the worst place for someone like that. Realized it too late but I'm so much happier now not living there.
@@Adam-nw1vy I would think so. It's not like you are bombarded with negativity there. But if you're sensitive to other peoples emotions/ reactions and like deep connections, I don't think it's the best place to be. It's in the little mundane everyday interactions, rude impolite communication is embedded in German culture. If you live there long enough, you'll know. There are good things in Germany too, but just something to be aware of.
I'm so so sorry that this happened to you. I'm German myself and you're absolutely right. The pandemic has brought out the worst in people. I'm so sorry!
das ist nicht wegen der Pandemie, die arme war nur 5 wochen hier und sie kennt nicht die Deutsche und wie verklemmt und zurückhaltend sind, dass sie einfach Hass gegen AUSLÄNDER oder auch mit einander entwickeln, die Deutsche sind halt so von Natur her und das ist die traurige Wahrheit
No, Germans have always been like that. And they're never going to change. They've always been rude and unwelcoming. That's just the country. Not even some Germans want to still live here.
@@missmichellevp Was für eine scheiße du laberst, wenn du Selbsthass hast, lass es für dich sein und mach uns Deutsche nicht fertig, was ein Troll, übrigens, ich habe auch mit nicht deutschen schlechte Erfahrung gemacht, sind wohl auch alle unhöflich...
Sorry but this is true, I'm living already 30 Years in Germany and I'm still for them an immegrant and I experienced a lot cases like you. They are the unfriendliest people in the world. And that is true!!! Really!!
I am sorry no one believed your experiences..I am very white American and was treated very badly in Europe multiple times especially Germany..and I am a very friendly person. (Years before covid) I have seen others share bad experiences in Europe online or just saying many Europeans are cold/unfriendly only to get gaslit by a ton of people! What is people's problem..I'm afraid to visit Germany again, even though some were sweet.
I was born white in the US and I have lived in Germany since 2008. Many, many Germans go out of their way to exclude people who are not in their tribe. I have lost jobs (more than one) in Germany because of this tribal mentality. The question is what steps are needed to join their tribe and if it is even worth it. In daily life I regularly receive comments from native Germans regarding how the US mentality is more optimistic and happy than the pessimistic unhappy German mentality. These same Germans talk about moving out of Germany.
As an Asian who have lived for 2 yrs in Germany, i can say the rudeness of the people here especially the old ones are intensely insane even before pandemic so i really feel you. So negative, bitter and jealous in life. They hate seeing happy, positive expats because they’ve lived their lives miserable all their years here. I had my share of countless racism, negative behavior from a neighbor, even a family member of my husband. I always tell my husband, if it wasn’t for you, i am so ready to leave this country in a heartbeat. I am just fortunate to be married to a really nice and very patient German husband that made me stay and i always tell him i can’t wait to leave this country the soonest. If you see in all social media platforms about Germany, the negative and very bad experiences of foreigners especially are at the same level and very commonly happening here. Too bad, such a beautiful country but very mean and rude people. So im not really impressed even if they’re doing great in their economy. And because of that, i have learned to appreciate the Asian and American friendliness. Germans hate Americans for being fake, but hey, that’s not being fake, that’s what you call, SOCIAL SKILLS which Germans don’t have. Not all are the same but sadly A LOT OF THEM HERE!!!
OMG. This happened to me too! I’m American and I told my German husband that if it wasn’t for him, I would not choose Germany as the country I live in. I hope that in the future we are able to move to America or Canada. Canada is my dream country. The negativity is sometimes overwhelming here and when I came here, I felt like I was such a bubbly and happy person and I almost feel like I’m being drained of that because everyone else around me is so negative and rude. :( I miss friendliness and talking to random strangers and giving compliments to random strangers and even little things like saying,”excuse me.” It feels like Germans never say excuse me when they pass by you. I have been walking in the city center or in the shop, and I’ll have a German just slam into my arm and then after they push past me, they keep walking as if it never happened! They don’t even turn around and go,”Oh, I’m sorry!” One time it really hurt me and pushed me into the wall of a shop at the city center. I even looked at my husband and I was like,”why would she do that? I even moved over for her to pass by and she still bumped into me.” If everyone was friendlier, people would not be so negative!!
@Jean juju I completely agree with you, that's exactly how it is. I've lived in Southern Europe for 25 years and I assure you that racism does not only exist in Germany although the majority are nice people. Sometimes simply not belonging to a special group of people can make you fee excluded. I understand Haily so well, people like this old lady make me feel ashamed to being born here but then again I think it's up to us to stand up against racist attitudes, no matter where they take place!
@Jean juju Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry that happened to you! I know how frustrating it can be.. I think everyone should just be kind to each other, no one knows what the other person is going through… I always end up biting my tongue here because I don’t want to get into any trouble as I’m not a native, but sometimes it’s so hard and I get close to saying something. But I guess it is better to leave it anyway! And yes there are racists and a**holes in every country, for sure. America has a massive racism problem that runs deep to the core. So I’m in no way saying one country is better than the other.. . Every country has problems. This is just something I noticed about Germany since moving here a few years ago
So close to Sweden and yet so different. That in- your-face rudeness would never work here. Over here, people are taciturn (quiet), reserved, but not rude. Also, Sweden never locked down, no state authoritarianism. Especially during Covid, I felt blessed that I call Sweden my home. The comments from other people here about their experiences confirm my feeling that it's best I avoid Germany. It seems very negative, passive-aggressive.
The stares are real girl. Specially in the smaller towns. I didn’t feel uncomfortable in bigger cities but wow they definitely let you know you’re an outsider in the smaller towns and villages .
@@MarkusPape France and England are international multi culture places ,Germany is a single mono culture and narrow minded race that can't integrate in global world ,and they know it , thank god they felt pain in WW2 when bombed by US and its allies.
I can so much relate to this. I’m German too but couldn’t stand the negativity and rudeness anymore that’s why I moved to Australia right before covid happened and yeah it’s hard without my family and friends but the moment I ‘m watching your video I’m like yes it was the right decision that I left and can’t imagine going back.
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.
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Happy Thursday. Let me say here that doing something for your mental health (in the realm of normal) is never a bad thing. You are the only person that can care for yourself and look after yourself. I am hoping when I go back to Germany that I will be in a better head space to tackle the negative energy that is floating around the country :( I know that it is a temporary problem and it is not how I know German people to act.
There are assholes everywhere. But there are also many dark-skinned people who never hear the N-word in Germany. you shouldn't take it personally. it is definitely not the color of your skin. I too get insulted from time to time by people of the same skin color, namely Caucasians. later found out that the person has Alzheimer's and so on. I just think that you're just so stressed out. Corona demands a lot from us. I'm also pretty annoyed at the moment.
I'm white , but foreigner and live in Germany 20 years now . Working, paying bills , speak perfect German and face racism regularly. It's everywhere. Sometimes I just wonder will I find a place to live , where I can live without hostility.
Not that you need anyone's opinion, ever, but - you did the right thing for you!! Everything you said made perfect sense. You're a grown ass woman and owe no one anything. Also, fuck those people, what the heck. You had the chance to get a vaccine on top of everything, how cool is that!!! I'm happy for you. Enjoy your trip and your family and friends :) Ganz liebe Grüße aus Heidelberg!
@@dice3704 I don't know if it's racism because then you would be attacked because of your white skin color. You have to get a thick coat. The nerves are just a little bit bare at the moment. There are Karens as well as in Germany. You just don't know what's behind it, often it's a mental illness, schizophrenia, psychosis and so on. there is a woman who washes the sidewalk with water at this time of year .... And she obviously also commits a criminal offense because she deliberately sprayed someone that is assault. - I once learned in driving school. If you drive through a puddle of water and do not pay attention and the passer-by gets wet then it is a physical injury. 😊 I'm digressing now. It is a very uncomfortable situation to be verbally abused and it is completely unexpected ...that hits you especially when you've had a bad day. My question is also how many positive letters, opinions, gestures, kind words have you heard in this country?
@@Bla274 in Heidelberg war ich mal auf eine Hochzeit eingeladen😊
This is my 3rd month in Germany. I'm here as an exchange student and I can relate so much! I've never felt so unwelcomed in any country and I was wondering if I'm the only one. Can't wait to leave.
I absolutely agree, although I was born in Germany
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What region or city were you in if I may ask?
@@Stardust3567 Bochum in Nordrhein-Westfalens
@@psimca Wow, that region is even reputed to be "friendly" compared to Bavaria, where I am currently. Thank you, now I know that the only solution is to move completely out of this crappy country.
I live in Belgium and used to have a German friend that lived in Brussels (we were just friends). The few years she lived in Belgium we did everything together, nearly every weekend (concerts, museums, out eating, citytrip, I even drove her to job interviews and waited outside for 3 hours). When she returned to Germany, and I visited her a few times a year I noticed things had changed. Afterwards she mailed me she didn't want any contact anymore. It seems she only knew me or wanted to be friends with me when it benefitted her. In Germany she had other friends, so goodbye me.
Btw I'm not saying all Germans are like that.
Yeah, that was really toxic. Sorry that happened to you.
I think during those moments that you share with her those moments you would had noticed something about her, it's not possible that you couldn't noticed it before.
@@DekerO03 who understands women ? :-)
Planning to leave germany soon. Its not working for me
I spoke to some foreigners living in Germany. They have their own life stories and bad experience here. But what their are all agreed with was that they travel back and forth to their country of origin (every 3-6 months) to get back to their normal mental state otherwise "you can get crazy in Germany". The amount of hate and aggression in Germany is enormous.
@user-qy6nr9yp3s
I have never read so much nonsense and lies.
@@vorname-kk2tvgermans are miserable themselves. How can a person walk around their whole life with a frown and not be miserable and most of your women look like men that’s why it’s full of Thai brides and gays and it is the most boring country I have ever been to
It's 100 % true. I don't know a foreigner in Germany who hasn't been either verbally or fiscally attacked by local residents.
@@hristinaradeva6761 That is such bullshit and you know it.
I feel that as a german too whenever I come back from abroad and learn that society can be friendlier
Unfortunately the ‘nastiness’ had nothing to do Corona. Empathy is not a common trait in Germany and Austria. Many people are living their protagonist lives and everyone else is just in their way.
That is so true ! I felt so isolated in Germany
I'm German and this attitude of Germans is the biggest reason why I live happily in the US for 36 years now. Every time I went back to Germany I got traumatized because I just am not used to this low kind of interaction anymore and don't want to join them.
The neighbor of my family in Germany poisoned their new little trees that were supposed to build a nice property line because she is a Zugereiste" referring to my mother moving there from Northern Germany because she got married to my dad 25 years ago.
I was mistreated and my kids emotionally abused by teachers after we moved from Berlin to Northern Germany.
German people are harsh, always looking for the negative, always finding fault even when the job was done 120%. It is also interesting that women are the worst.
I am a psychologist, Psychology was "invented" in Germany but the Germans have never heard of applying it to daily life and their interaction with each other.
Interesting is also that they never follow local rules when they are visiting foreign countries. They are incredibly disrespectful and ignorant and always argue, lecture and criticize! It's annoying, very shameful and very very embarrassing!
probably they apply psychology, but in a negative way towards others.
Psychology was invented by a Jew ...
But they request foreigners must obey their rules and enjoy preaching the foreigners even though they are the one who are wrong😅
Women have bad attitude yes , it is odd …
You are talking "Geschichten aus dem Paulanergarten" from ... 1988 (2024 minus your 36 years in the US). When the Berlin Wall was still up. Seriously?
Wow, watching this after a year and now as a Ukrainian refugee in Germany, I can tell I had almost exactly the same experience with old people here in Germany, they are the craziest bulliest people I've ever met in my life, sorry you had to go through that.
Same here
100% true
Go back and defend the frontline, you coward.
Some of them were probably Nazis in the 1930s.
@@AnimatedBlastthat would make these people over 100 years old.
Thank you for your honesty. I left Berlin after 5 years. Tension in the air with angry locals is palpable
As a german, don’t go to Berlin! Its really the worst big city in Germany! Go to Leipzig or Hamburg instead, it’s way better!
@@TheRealF.ckingJesuspls give us more knowledge
I so totally agree with you, 10 years in germany....cant wait to leave it for good!
I lived in Germany before the pandemic and encountered the same rude behaviour almost everywhere I went. So, no excuse. I’m really sorry for your negative experience. I totally feel you. I hope you are in a better place now. X
i wonder who will put an effort to part of a rude society for decades.
I’ve been to Germany many times and longest stay was 90 days and I have to tell you, they are not friendly people. You can’t just have casual conversation with the butcher or cashier so friendship is hard to establish.
@@Joeladgra Germans are well aware of the American penchant for friendliness to strangers, which many dismiss as superficial and fake (while at the same time acknowledging the German reputation worldwide for negativity and coldness).
@@ingilizcetvim Not my mother. Nearly 70 years ago she left Germany and its negativity behind and never looked back.
@@dkim2011”superficial, fake” 💀 I’ll take that any day over that bullsh!t y’all think is acceptable
I hate Germany, people are so unfriendly. Unfortunately can’t leave because the father of my kids is German and does not want to leave. When the kids move out I am going back to NL.
There is a difference between being straightforward and being mean. There’s also a difference between being nice and being fake (that goes for america)
@@TheRealF.ckingJesus She said she’s from the Netherlands, so why are you droning on about America?
@@DARKSEID76 that was just an example for the thing I said? I wasn’t referencing her
Was married to an African, he joined me in Germany ( he has a university degree) and run away to Holland after 5 months. He couldn’t stand the cops and racism of Germans
@@DARKSEID76some Germans confuse friendlyness with being fake...they literally don't understand it. And immediately equate "fake friendlyness" with the "always bad" US culture, to make themselves feel better. I think a healthier mindset for Germany is to own its traits, it is what it is, instead of trying to undermine every other culture. But the same Germans Im talking about are also the ones that love to feel superior about their way of doing things
LOL the fact that many people watched this and shared their similar stories proves a point. I’m 5 years in and I wanna leave too
6 months in, I despise it here too.
sameee
3 months. hating everything here
Then leave. If you have a problem, leave.
@@MozartOfficial already did😂😂😂
After 4 years of living here in Berlin, I am finally done with this country and I am leaving. I am the only asian in our apartment building and an elderly couple living above constantly attacks me. It all started from a one time incident of me cooking Pasta with "garlic" in it. Apparently the elderly couple above is allergic to garlic. It left a bad first impression and since then they have been aggressively making me feel that I don't belong. They called the apartment owner to complain about my cooking, it then escalated to my husband's smoking when they can no longer complain about my cooking. They then claim that I am cooking something exotic and I should go back to where I come from. Everytime they know we are cooking, they shout and make loud remarks. I never even cook with spices anymore, my life here has been bland like the RACIST germans living above me.
They traumatized me so much to the point of causing my miscarriage due to the constant attacks. My mistake was never telling the doctors about this nor asking some professional help. It took awhile for me to accept it was RACISM as I have never experienced this ever. I lived as a Digital Nomad before settling in Berlin and I was never treated like this before. So I was in denial for a long time. The final straw for me was when the Racists called the apartment owner and complained that I cooked "two times" in a day.
I am so traumatized by living here in Germany that I am in the process of selling everything in the apartment to leave in a month. I would rather contribute my high taxes to where I am wanted and definitely it's not in Germany.
If you can, try the US. We have our problems but Asians as a group are the highest income earners. Bureaucracy is simpler too.
India is a better place for you:)No problem with garlic😂😂😂
I’m so sorry. I’m also an asian living here in Berlin and faced similar situations like you. The city or the country itself is a complete joke. They all are so entitled, rude and out of touch. I always wonder how this country became so rich 😂
@@jordinhanCan you go deeper? I’ve never been to Germany
Berlin has become such a sh…hole.lived there many years ago and loved it but when I went back recently, it felt full of hate, anger and jealousy. I couldn’t wait to leave
The whole thing with people telling you to return to africa reminds me of when i returned to germany from the US, people in school would constantly bully me and tell me to return to the US not knowing i was actually from Würzburg. When they found out i wasn’t actually american their attitude changed. People need to be kind
No, people need to respect the local cultural traditions in their area. I moved from a medium sized S.Texas town to a smaller one about 45 mi. away, the locals shut us out for several years until they knew they could trust us. This has everything to do with the outsider than with the locals. This brat should've walked around the old woman, but that's not what she wanted to do. She forced this negative interaction to happen, not the other way around.
@@austntexan what the old woman did wasnt excusable. There was zero justification for that. Its not hard to not be a POS
I'm so tired of the media pushing racism in the U.S. They're idiots. The fact is the U.S. is the least racist country in the world.
@@retireorbust a nation divided
@@retireorbust You are 100% wrong, Randy. Systemic racism and police brutality against Black and brown people is a public health crisis in the US and the fact that Germany has racism does not change that.
I lived 17 years in Germany and I agree with you . What you think about Germany I just fehlt the same . I am portuguese andI fehlt awful there for your reason.That Why I decided come back home. Actualy I got married a German thats why I landed there. But it was really bad. Because arrogance is everywhere.
@@Fragenzeichenplattearogance looks like you exactly.
Living in bubble how everything is so great in Germany and best but when someone point out some bad things in Germany you go nuts.
Even tho i have no bad expiriance with people offending me or so i can feel how much they talk about greatness of Germany and act like others have no watter and electricity except them.
Im not mad and i dont even think they do it purposly, they are just thought like that.
They look everything trough money and dont understand the concept that quality of life doesnt equal the money.
Place where i live people are nice and much better then i expected honestly, and even if i come a cross to some "im/we are above you", im enough self confident and inteligent to answer them and left them speachless., so it doesnt really troubles me at all.
But i can understand people are dealing with different things in your country and you should too.
I'm very surprised by the dislikes. Your experience in Germany is totally valid, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! You have the right to live wherever you feel most comfortable and accepted. Hope you're doing well, currently
Well said.
There are no dislikes
Thank You! Sorry for the people with so much Hate in their Hearths. Missing the beauty of life. 🇺🇲❤️🙏
Her experience however, can not be summarized as a sort of generalization, from my honest opinion. There are people that have good experiences in other countrys, and people that don't. Plus, such as she has the right to talk about her experience, and express how she felt, so have people the right to express if they are disagree.
@@SardonicSoul Yeah. The comment section here is wild. I know there are some real assholes in the US. I'd never generalize like that. That's a narrow world view. I get it, but I also want to see the good sides of any place.
I have been dealing with the same situations for the last 12 years.. my advice, do not move here unless you are desperate.. shitty weather, some people are rude and nasty. Some times its racism, mostly it's just the way they are.. i haven't got used to this kind of co-existance, and i dont think i will ever do.. and trust me, the money is not worth it...
cannot agree more to this, you summarized the whole feeling 👏🏼👏🏼
No matter what how hard you work, still these people complain and one mistake then you are finished!! I am going through this very difficult phase where these people keep reminding me how terrible am I, although I give my best.
Yes
@@saniya7649 Is it because of work? Is there a way to avoid, for example if you work remotely? Or you will be harassed everywhere?
@@Adam-nw1vy avoid working at remote areas! Go for interview, give a trial if you like it then say yes! Second tip would be complete your C1 and then apply, it would help you as options will remain open to you. In this way you will choose the company and not the other way around.
We spend most of my life in Germany. Have university degrees, earn above average.. our first languages is German.. But we never felt accepted! These people are full of negativity, hate and racism. Since we have a small baby, we have decided to finally leave this country. It makes me sick to see how much they hate kids, especially when they're not Bio Deutsch.
Bist du aus der Türkei?
@@Mohan778 nein, ich denke mir auch ab und an wie es für Leute erst sein muss die eben auch anders aussehen? Gestern in der Ubahn hatte ich so eine Situation beobachtet, schrecklich...
@toufak Sich über angeblichen Rassismus und Hass auskotzen, aber selbst mit so einem rassistischen, gehässigen Mist kommen. Ich jedenfalls habe noch nie erlebt, dass Deutsche rassistisch sind oder einen Hass auf Kinder haben. Vielleicht liegts ja am Ende doch an Dir, ganz unabhängig von der Herkunft.
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.
I am from Serbia and came here because of bombing from nato , but also because the Pflegedienstleitung from Germany ( Universitätsklinik) came to Belgrade to “fish” nurses for Germany. The government here is not able to solve problem of “Personalmangel” in healthcare for 50 years…Incapable politicians here. So, Germany has never invest 1 cent in our growing up and education and become professionals for free. They don’t appreciate that at all.
Thank you so so so very much for this video and to everyone who commented. All this time I thought I was the problem! I’ve changed myself tried everything to be accepted in society, wondered what I did wrong but at a certain point I couldn’t figure it out anymore. The world is big and my whole life the life experience in Germany (as a Black woman) was my world. I need to travel until to explore other worlds, people and other mentalities. I’ve always gave the people in this country the benefit of the doubt but you and the people in the comments had the same experiences - the society and atmosphere in this country is so rude and extremely negative. It almost crushed my spirit. So thankful for the internet! I’ve once told a therapist that I feel like I’m surrounded by predators. If you don’t have good friends, a family or a safe home - it’s very hard here to say the least.
I know exactly what you mean. Just leave as soon as you can, it will not get better. I persoanlly waited too long and regret it now. The whole world is in front of you and no, not everywhere is like it's in Germany. I feel truly happy now living in another country with friendly, loyal, open people , and going to buy groceries I know I will not be yelled at by a cashier for no apparent reason. Happiness is in the small things.
@@Vivi-vg9lx Wow the cashier screams at you ? For what ?
@@Shikami85 forgot to take a basket (corona times). At the post office the lady at the counter wasn't very nice either when I needed a package to be shipped the same way I shipped it last time. Raising her voice is apparently the greatest idea in her mind to make her point and tell me it's not possible. But it's quite a frequent thing to happen there.
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.
@@Shikami85 yesm screams, also bus drivers and neighbours and hausmeisterss
I left Germany after 5 years. It was just too hard to make friends.
This is very true. My parents came to Germany 50 years ago and we still face daily racism and rude German behavior. People are so negative and toxic and they hate you when you are successful and they love to destroy your success when they can. It’s called “Schadenfreude“
In my opinion there aren't many countries where it's easier to make friends than Germany, especially former Eastern Germany.
You often hear that Germans are cold and it's easier to make to make friends in Southern Europe or the US for example. But that's nonsense. The difference is that Germans are more honest and less superficial than other people. Go to Spain or the US for example and you will fast get to know people and they tell you bullshit like "You are always welcome here" or "You'll always have a place to stay when you are in the area" but they never mean it. If a German tells you can stay at his place you can be sure that he means it.
I have friends from all over the world and they all say how easy it is to make real friends here. On the other hand people I know who moved to the US or other other places that are known for there welcoming attitude complain that it almost impossible to make real friends. It's easy to find people to hang out or party but not real friends.
This feedback I got EVERY SINGLE TIME.
@@PeterLE2 Lol, Germans are literally the biggest backstabbers.
@@majormononoke8958 yes 100% true
@@Fragenzeichenplatteexactly you treat people as untitled for wanting human connection this is normal for everyone to want human connection only in Germany is it considered untitled to want to have friends your people are miserable but just because you all hide it well doesn’t mean you life isn’t shit
Hayley you're NOT offensive at all. I agree with everything you said in this video. These are also the reasons why I want to leave Germany. The most things I don't like is really poor customer service, unfriendly people, people suddenly screaming at you on the street/making fun of you/sometimes even threatening you (mostly drunk people). Germans in general are really so pessimistic and too serious.
I had many experiences where people literally stared at me, because I'm not following the boring fashion, which is common in Germany.
Of course not every German is like that, but still most people are just unbelievably rude, without even knowing the person.
Especially for introverts it's so hard to survive in German society. You're always made fun of: You're so quiet, you never say anything didn't realize you were here. (Are people just dumb or don't they realize that this is hurting)
I miss my time in other countries where all people are friendly and want to integrate you into their culture/ introduce you to their friends. I lived in Singapore for a little less than 1 year and you just realize the differences. I had a reversed culture shock when I came back to Germany.
As soon as I get the opportunity I will leave BRD.
Been here for nine months. Trying to find the good in Germans daily, but boy is it difficult! Boy do I have stories, too. Praying that what I'm experiencing does not rub off on me!!!
Unfortunately kindness and Germans cannot be put in the same sentence
Someone speaks the truth. Thank you. There's a psychological saying that goes: "If you want to understand someone's true character, observe them under stress." This resonated with me deeply and reminds me of my time living in Sweden. They absolutely hate immigrants. And if you happen to have dark hair and skin, like I do, well, you're screwed. I was so happy to be back in the US.
Now imagine people darker than you with heavier accents. It's insane!
The most dumbest people I ever know. I'm done with them.
Lithuanian here, who moved to Germany when i was just a lil child. Can relate to everything you spoke about and i also plan to move out of here. The negativity is just... let´s say i am speechless. Still after being here for a longer time now
What do you mean about negativity??
I'm thinking of moving from Lithuania to Germany (or the US). I need to make up my mind
uh, so sad :( asholes are everywhere, thats not a specific german problem, i hope.
@@freakjof6143 no IT IS!
Negativity? Isn’t Lithuania the country with the highest suicide rate in Europe?
@@adrena7321 Move to Germany. Despite what people say about Germany on here (which is totally valid), it is miles ahead of the US in everything. This is just my opinion, but up to you which country you want to move to. Good luck with wherever you decide to go my friend :)
I am a native german. and you are telling the truth. We like to complain about other people. i feel sorry about that
Ist menschlich nicht deutsch, in anderen Ländern ist das auch nicht anders, teilweise sogar schlimmer. Finde eher die Deutschen lassen sich gegenseitig ziemlich in Ruhe, aber kann nur von den Städten sprechen, auf dem Land mag das anders sein..
Alles schlecht - Alles gut, Überall anders besser - Deutschland Deutschland über alles... = das ist für mich typische deutsch. Arschlöcher gibts überall und immer - und in diesen Zeiten überhaupt kein Wunder (Indien, Ungarn, Trump/USA, Brasilien, Polen, Russland, Weissrussland, Indonesien Myanmar, Nordkorea, China usw. usw. usw. usw......)! Die grundsätzliche Fragestellung sollte immer sein: "Bist du ein Faschist (etc.), oder ein Mensch?" und Punkt!
@@b.b.8163 Bist du ein Sozialist oder Kommunist?
@@mikeh.7025 etwas dazwischen
My highest respect for your honesty!
I will leave soon to Malaysia!
Even as a German, other German people say I am weird because I am a cheerful person who enjoys to laugh and have fun😂 Someday someone told me why I was laughing and whether I was laughing about her😂🙄
German people still have post traumatized in their genes...? Post world war, they are just hard working developing their country....?
Is that the reason they are stiff n no colors..?
@@askew358 what do you mean
Same thing happened to me. I was bullied in school for being generally happy and louder than the other people there. I moved to France now and I have to say, it’s way better and easier to make friends. Everyone accepted me instantly and they were really kind, compared to the people I met in Germany.
Stimmt! 😅
Its "Lagerkoller", but no reason for being racist. Sorry you had to deal with that
Es tut mir sehr leid, dass du so eine schlechte Erfahrung machen musstest. Fühl dich mal ganz fest gedrückt und ich wünsche dir alles Gute. Du bist eine so liebe Person und ich liebe deine Art.
@@HayleyAlexis Als Amerikanerin hat man zum Glück Optionen und wenn’s einem irgendwo nicht gefällt, dann geht man eben woanders hin.
@@mikeh.7025 Kann man doch als Deutsche(r) auch.
@@crose6102 Hier geht’s aber gerade um Amerikaner
@@sumimaind Alle, ja ? Manchmal liegt's auch an einem selbst.
I have been experiencing lots of negativity in Germany too😢 My German boyfriend's parents are awful to me. His mom sends me mean messages and I told his parents I was born and raised in America but they still continue to ask me questions about China. My boyfriend's dad even pick things out of his soup at an Asian restaurant and ask me what everything is even though I said many times "sorry, I don't know." I feel like if a white person say they are American, they wouldn't be questioned more but many Germans keep making me feel like I can't be a real American😔
Your looks must be Chinese.
Exactly. Germans have culture of associating ethnicity and nationality, and sees countries as ethnic states. To their view, Germany almost certainly is a white country where they "tolerate" nonwhites at their whims and demands. America too is a white country, which is only slightly more tolerant because of history of immigration.
I would break the relationship off if I were you
@@val-schaeffer1117 As an American living in Europe this seems true of Europe generally.
But based on your name you are also Asian. Many have been jn America for generations. But our ethnic ancestry never gets wiped away. If I moved to tokyo my future kids would never be 100% Japanese. They could know the language and culture. But ancestry still not japanese.
I was on my way to my job in Germany. At a train station the was a guy with a musicbox and who sang rock hits live there. And he was really good! No one...absolutely NO ONE looked at him. Every single person ignored him, just like trying hard not to move the eyes in his direction! It was very very weird for me.
But then two security guys came to him and wanted just to see his papers, that he is allowed to do this. Only at that moment everyone started to look at this situation with a big nasty smile on their face. They wanted to see him get arrested or like that. He showed them something and they went away.
This was the perfect picture of germany.
So basically germans are suicidal and depressed
I am not German but I would be happy not to listen to loud music at a train station. That is annoying
yes exactly "the perfect picture of germany" - I myself have experienced very similar situations. something is very very wrong with germans and it honestly spooks me sometimes.
Thats Germany in a nutshell.
Yes! Exactly, the best description of Teutonic nature 🤢
How awful. I've been living in Germany for 8 years and one of the main characteristics of German people is unfortunately the lack of tact, sensitivity and empathy. Many people have absolutely no manners. I've been battling with depression for nearly two years now and as a way to get overcome it and open up, I invited someone over and cooked dinner...what I got mostly was a critique of my apartment and questions such as when or if I was going to get the German citizenship. I mean, where is basic human decency and kindness?
Wrong friends
@@ygt2813 i think, like you said, that there are mean people everywhere. I live in latin america and here is a lot of gossip and bad vibes as well as good people but always the bad ones stands up because of their cruelty. Human been, no matter their race, nationality, gender etc have two faces from where they can choose. We, the good ones, just need to bw brave and learn to identify the ones that will not deserve our company.
At least Germans have common sense, honesty and respect for human life. Not like wackos in the Wild West shooting people over an argument about dog sizes.
@Lester Matthew what does this statement even mean?? Did you not read the part about DEPRESSION in the post above? We're in the middle of a fuckin' pandemic...if we're not going to change our ways about how we treat people, then we have failed as a society, and I don't mean only Germany.
@Lester Matthew I don't even get your point. It feels like we don't even speak the same language. But no, when someone is in a depression (and believe me, with the current pandemic, it will probably not be a minority anymore), what one needs is encouragement and lots of support, not condescending "tips" that are going to make you feel like worthless shit. No one in a depression needs that because a depressed person is usually pretty hard on themselves already.
Germany does a really good job at letting you know you don't belong there. Some days I am shocked with how people treat me in Germany. Girl I am right there with you!! Coming home to America for a visit REALLY SOON! Stay strong!!!
Im natural born german and i got every time tretted like i didnt belong to germany, your not alone
Well said
Don't want to generalize, but my experience of working with Germans has been the same.. they don't treat people with respect and are very rude for no reason.. would never recommend anyone to go there and work or just work with them in offshore environment.
People don’t come to Germany any more - that is why they are taking immigrants and pay them . They hope that they can use them someday.
I myself am german but grew up in the US and moved back to start an Ausbildung (my high school diploma was not "annerkannt"). I feel so relieved to hear other people share the same experiences that I had when returning. I am very torn right now, still have 1.5 years left of my ausbildung but am seriously considering moving back to an english speaking country. The social system, health care, food, relatively strong job market, I could go on and on about the lots of benefits that make day to day life better, but sometimes I really question if it's all worth it. The negativity and seemingly "anti-(insert literally anything here) community" just puts such an extreme drag on my mood, and the worst part is that I've noticed myself (after three years) also assimilating and becoming more negative. Its just such a hard compromise to make. If anyone has any advice for me, please let me know because its a really hard decision.
Anyways, sending everyone who struggles with similar issues lots of strength
Hi, I have same Situation. I'm from Iran and my high school diploma was not anerkannt. I just wasted my time here. after german passport I want left germany this country is shithole. My advise is usa is better to improve your life and there is never red line for people but germany is like prison.
I'm Syrian journalist I was doing well before the war but after that I moved here. Since 5 years I'm working as delivery 😂 I'm moving out very soon
Being German and living in Germany I can very much relate to this. I had elderly ladies screaming at me for no good reasons in an elevator and even those ones I've known for years who are living in the same street. But it was not only German elderly ladies. It's not only old people, but younger ones and older ones, men and women. Lots of people are in a very bad place!
I even witnessed colleagues in the office screaming at each other. It was a conversation about whether it's harder right now for people with children and that quickly turned into a heated discussion. ("People who don't have children can't understand our problems with working in home office at all. You have no way of knowing what it's like. You can't understand/comprehend/empathize.") As soon as Germans start talking SOMEONE needs to be right. Usually the younger person or the one considered to be inexperienced is supposed to agree with everything the older person says. In Germany you will NEVER hear people say: Let's agree to disagree!
I've also met a lot of young men telling me that they are depressed because of all the new rules and regulations like not being able to go to the gym and at the same time losing their jobs. Germans have a tendency to take all this (the pandemic) very seriously while at the same time taking it personally.
Although all this certainly has some pretty devastating consequences the economic and personal crisis might also be a chance for some people to reinvent themselves, to learn new skills and prove to themselves that they are resilient or can at least become stronger.
There is a saying that might be helpful: "Die Lage ist hoffnungslos, aber nicht ernst." That translates as: "The situation is hopeless, but not serious." I think you can also find this quote in the great ironic book "The Pursuit of Unhappiness" (=Anleitung zum Unglücklichsein) by the psychologist Paul Watzlawick.
Even if there is no hope and everything seems dark, you should never take life too seriously because this world is and has always been a crazy place and there is just no alternative to optimism. Right now I have to look for a new job for the third time in the crisis because all of the places I worked at could no longer offer me a job due to Corona and the government's rigid policies that may or may not be helpful. Still, I know I have to stay focused on being (and becoming more) successful and calm. I can't always do it, though.
I just tell everyone around me that I have good days and bad days right now and to please judge me for what I do and say on the better days. We will all have to apologise to a lot of people after the crisis and negativity is not the best attitude, but certainly right now it's a very common one.
thanks for sharing this phrase about hopeless and not serious, it helps me to accept stupid mistakes that i do almost everyday. i will try to read this book also, thanks 🫂
But the Pandemic or Plandemic - Conspiracy affects the Whole World
dear. The point here is RACISM but, you know what?, I have a son working on your Country Germany. He is Engeenier
Molecular, he says that the people is very NICE with him!!!, they're asking him
to stay in Germany forever🤗, could you
believe that?. He is a Scientist and he is
beautiful my son, he is very very educated and dedicated. He is a very
lovely young, he is American, so respectful American.
That there are many people who like to ''win'' a discussion is not unique to Germany.
I find it easier to disagree with ppl without anyone taking things personally in Germany compared to the US.
It’s very refreshing and interesting
I must say that I cannot relate to any of this. Nobody screamed at me. It's like all these people are living in a parallel world where people go batshit crazy.
Yes, there are assholes but I haven't witnessed an increase. People here are awesome.
I feel sorry for you. I live in Berlin for 5 years and experienced rude behavior too. I'm totally 'white' eastern European girl and, working all the time, quite well educated and speak good German and still treated like stupid 'Putzfrau' by some German ppl.
I stopped saying that I am Polish and eventually escaped to the Netherlands, which is amazing. People are kind and I am not bullied at all anymore. In Germany it was insane. They destroyed my country and act like they are superior, it is so ironic. This hate thowards Poles is very deep in the culture and even older then Germany 😆
Berlin is the shithole of germany you can´t compare it with Germany.
Ohh noo, I'm also eastern European, Croatian, I don't speak a word of German and I plan on moving there...how the hell will I be treated then😥
@@maxmustermann8167 but it's the hearth of Germany, right?
@@shafuimcoming5151 No, nobody in Germany likes Berlin.
me too - Swedish girl one year in Germany moving back home and will never step an other foot in Germany 💔
aren't all northen europeans like Germans , rude , stoic and cold ?? I'm just curious
🤣😂🤣😂
Swedish here too...I appreciate the "softer" ways of communication here, and the overall culture.
America is the greatest country on the planet.
It's the reason me - I'm German - and my Indian husband don't even consider moving to Germany. I have some friends who got a bit offended when I told them the reason for us continuing to staying in India. They get very defensive saying 'But most people are not racist.' And I tell them, true, most people we know personally aren't - cause else I wouldn't be associating with them - but that doesn't help if every single day in day-to-day life you run into at least a dozen instances of microaggressions, 'othering' or outright racism. It begins with the being stared at, continues over the condescending tone some people adopt when talking to someone of different skin color - the assumption being the POC should be 'grateful' to be allowed to be there, and many media-fueled ignorant assumptions about my husband's home country - and ends with outright random slurs. It doesn't help that the people we know closely are not like that, if you're exposed to this kind of stuff on a daily, it just slowly grinds away at you.
And frankly, even people we do know initially had a very hard time talking to my husband as a person and not just as a foreigner. The strong in-/outgroup thinking in German culture just seems to make it very hard for many people to interact with POC as people and not as a cardboard standup of the stereotype in their head. It takes time for people to warm up and shed their insecurity in front of the perceived 'other', but by that time you on the other side already heard so many weird borderline offensive things from them, it's hard to come around at that point.
Frankly, I just refuse to have my husband have to deal with this on a daily. He's a highly educated entrepreneur who has been supporting both of us for 10 years and counting. I do work, but whatever I earn is negligible to what he brings to the table. He's ambitious, driven, smart, and innovative, and my admiration of those traits made me fall in love with him. I bristle with rage at the very thought of random people looking down on him due to his skin color. And we make these kinds of experiences basically every time we come to visit my parents. We try to laugh it off. But every single time we just know all the more, yeah, that's not the place to live for us. And my parents are living in a big city, mind.
All of this makes me sad and ashamed, especially as I've felt nothing but welcome in India in a decade of living here, even when I did nothing to deserve it. People are just so happy to learn I like it here and want to stay here. That's enough justification for them for my presence here.
If we should ever move internationally we only consider countries with a strong immigration culture (US, UK, Canada or maybe Australia) or Southern European countries like Spain, Portugal or Italy (neither of which gave us a bad but a more humane vibe when visiting).
And yeah, generally just the negative vibe, that eternal omnipresent "Geht nicht."-attitude from small mundane things to major life-changing bureaucratic issues. It's so contrary to our lifestyle, we just can't with it.
Thank you for speaking up about this. I absolutely feel the same about the current atmosphere in Germany. So mentally straining.
@@raxiutrw6464 you are pissed of course if goverment dont give a shit about the country and fool you around and now that ronna hoax bullshit many lose their jobs.. what you expect? can you be happy in this situration?
@@hyenalaughingmatter8103 of course not . I love this country with heart but its not related to 2020 . Im here from 2017 . 😊
What would you feel when your professor attack you ? Would you be happy ? We need a safe place to study and then leave . They treat students like a shit. So we leave the country . Germans will be alone with refugee . Thats the future . I see this .... 😔
@@raxiutrw6464 I wonder how a Syrian village would treat a German, if they decided to move in 300 Germans and start their new lives. How many would have trouble locating their heads in a month? You're a foreigner. If you don't like it, leave and go some place else.
@@austntexan abolutely you have right . But Germans are very different and have learned about the human right and other countries a lot . They are more educated. They have learned about history. But entrance of too many people in a same time was the biggest fault of merkel which no one can forgive
@@raxiutrw6464 i'm kinda worried about the refugees if that's the case
I am usually a talkative person but lm learning to be quiet and respond with smiles or nods when l interact with people here.It’s really helped to maintain my mood because unhappiness and bitterness are super contagious.If you interact a lot with unhappy people it’s hard to not be dragged into the drama and your words misinterpreted even if they know lm not fluent in their language.Being here has been difficult but l have really learnt how to be independent and learning that my happiness is my responsibility and only mine.
She very easily could've simply walked around the elderly woman but she chose the confrontation. I'm glad the old woman stood her ground and gave her a piece of her mind. This girls story is fiction and didn't happen as she's relayed here. Old people don't seek out conflict, but young people do.
Sad but true! I‘m going through the same thing.
I was planning to take my masters in Germany but I'm now having second thoughts. I've never experienced racism, but I'll probably experience it there since I'm asian.
I can relate
Same here 🙋
i had such an encounter with a Racist lady in Düsseldorf Airport. i was taking my Coffee and looking for a place to sit, there was one with electrical socket so i plugged my Laptop i took some time to do some work while charging it. There was a Phone charging near me, one Lady came angry to me and was yelling " Er will mich Klauen er will mich Klauen" , someone Translated to me that she was accusing me of trying to stealing it. Lady i am a Computer System Engineer i almost certainly make multiple times your salary and maybe your entire yearly income in one month. I am no Refugee still they deserve respect and you end up making yourself looking like human garbage
Most of them are human garbage, and certainly awkward people
They are lunatics here
You are not overdramatic , I am leaving for the same reasons too.
OMG! Es tut mir sooo leid! 😔 Ich schäme mich dafür was die Frau zu dir gesagt hat.
Ich arbeite noch an einer direkten Antwort. Aber das ist schon mal sehr gut formuliert, aus meiner Sicht!
Schäm dich nicht für die Arschlochigkeit anderer, das bringt nichts außer schlechte Laune. Sei selbst einfach kein Arschloch (manchmal nicht einfach) und schreite nach Möglichkeit ein, wenn du so etwas bemerkst :)
Ich bin so wütend, wenn ich höre, wie unmöglich sich manche Menschen benehmen. Was läuft nur falsch bei denen? 😡
Jetzt lassen wir doch mal die Kirche im Dorf: blöde Leute gibt es überall auf der Welt, in Spanien in Frankreich, in Deutschland und ganz besonders viele in den USA. Zum Beispiel die 82 Millionen Idioten, die Trump gewählt haben.
Wegen einer blöden alten Frau Deutschland zu verlassen zeigt, dass da wohl doch nicht so viel emotionale Bindung vorhanden war.
Amerikaner sind halt generell etwas oberflächlich
@@autoalfred lustig, dass, genau wie bei der alten Dame, deine Stereotype über US-Amerikaner deine Reaktion bestimmen. Erstens sie macht deutlich "that it was the straw that broke the camels back."
Anstatt sofort in die defensive zu gehen, "das machen die anderen doch auch", wäre es vielleicht besser einfach zuzuhören und die Kritik anzunehmen. Als Deutsche oder deutsch-aussehende werden wir nie erleben, was es heißt in Deutschland als nicht deutsch aussehender zu leben. Es steht uns nicht zu, ihre Erlebnisse zu hinterfragen.
Jeder Dunkelhäutige, den ich kenne erzählt mir von Rassismuserfahrungen. Allerdings sagen diese auch, dass Sie in Berlin (zumindest im Südwesten) nicht häufig Rassismus erleben. Trotzdem müssen wir zu hören und es ernst nehmen, wenn davon berichtet wird.
I think this pandemic has really brought out the worst in people all over the world.
OMG!!! You took the words right out of my mouth! Thank you! People have become horrible!!!
Don't blame the pandemic
Nah people have always been shit everywhere in the world
No, it`s not. Nazis and other racists are particularly numerous in Bavaria and East Germany.
I would say it brought out the worst and also the best.
I’m in Germany right now and I’m READY to go. It’s been so hard and depressing lately. I’ve been here almost 3 years and haven’t seen my family since I’ve been here. I’ve enjoyed Germany but it’s time for a change.
Yeah I felt like if I stayed any longer I might start disliking Germany and I don't want that to happen. Sometimes time away helps you see things in a new light
@@HayleyAlexis Thank you. These are the words I needed to hear.💞
wish u all the luck!
Yes I’ve been here since 2017 , I leave in a few days ! Ready to go for sure !
Being away from family is the worst part for me. Not everyone can afford to fly back and forth a lot. Taking a break from being overseas may be all that you need.
I just came to Germany magdeburg and cannot wait to get back to the UK. Wish I never came. Arrogant rude people. Having travelled to many countries this is the worst I've had so far.
U sure u not just very unlikable?
@@SovermanandVioboy dude stop it 😂
you can t change your people by replying all comments 😂
@@NairaKa He's a German douchebag who can't accept the truth lol. He just proves that everyone is right with their opinions and expierences they made with Germans.
Btw. did you know Germans are the most hated folk in the EU?
@@SovermanandVioboyif anything you prove their point😹
@@NairaKaGerman here. I do want to defend my people, but not the way you think. 😂
I am from Poland and Germans treat me as if I was a sub human. When they are not rude, they constantly watch me, it can also get nasty on a road when they see you have a car with Polish license plates...
Not only with polish!
@@GrigoriosGregorio with all untermensch (No Germanic people)
Are you sure it's not the foreigners being rude? Most Germans are friendly.
Imagine being African /black
You are right honey. I feel very very sorry for you and I‘m ashamed for those people. Be sure, there are a lot of people in Germany, who are nice and worth of you getting them to know. I send a big hug to Florida. Lass den Kopf nicht hängen. 🤗🌻
Omg!!! I am a south Asian living in germany since 4yrs, I have experienced some of the similar situation u have mentioned in the video😖 Even I felt the same,Germany has so much negativity n negative energy , people are rude for no reason, which is making me more depressed !!! I thought it’s only me who is feeling so until I saw this video!!! I can totally relate to the instances u have faced😔These 4 years of my stay in Germany has been the lowest point in my life so far I can say!!! I spoke to my husband about how I feel staying here, we are planning to move to someother country soon once the pandemic gets better✌🏻
Same here, a South Asian. I feel people have become overtly racist and aggressive in the last one year.
Same here!
hey,which country ru gys looking to move?
@@sumimaind I too will be moving out soon...
@@sumimaind even at my workplace if I ask a simple question or questions related to the topic that I am not aware of ,the reply I get is so rude and blunt as if I have committed a sin. Its so depressing here. Despite of all the modern facilities and technology ,I feel totally empty. I already made up my mind that I will be leaving this country .
Thank you so much for making this video. You helped me to realise that I am happy where I currently live. So grateful 😊
I am so sorry what happened to you. I am living and working in Gemany. My family lives in Greece and my other half in Cyprus. Last months were terrible in Germany especially at work. My customers know that we have a pandemic and less stock and every day I received angry phone calls and mails. I was sitting every day in my home office with stomach and head ache. Nobody around had the time to listen to me and give me some advise. So I listened every day to my music, did some gym etc. but this didn't help that much. Few weeks ago I've decided to make a small break and to go Cyprus. I've had to do a lot of paper work, expensive covid test etc. and Germans around me were like: how dare you travelling during corona and you will harm the environment by taking a plane. It was the best decision ever. I feel like a human right now... PS: the lockdown here is much harder then in Germany and people still behave like human.
I can understand how you feel as a business owner in Germany (assuming you are one since you said customers). People don't seem to have any regard that there is a human being on the other side, and that not everyone can be perfectly punctual and on time, and have whatever they want in stock at all times.
I am American Indian, and my fiancé is native German and has his own business too, and if it's some consolation, Germans are rude to him as well.
It's a good thing you took the break and headed over to Cyprus. Lockdown in Germany sounds like a nightmare. I was so grateful to be home in California where the sun shines at least.
Germany is a tough place to live...You have to REALLY know who you are, be able to live on " your own", be completely self-reliant, be able to ignore people with bad vibes and become more self-centred..I always say, if you can live here and find any kind of happiness, you can live anywhere..Big hug to you...Human beings deserve more though..❤️
Hi lails
i agree with the point about ignoring people with bad vibes, and maybe you're right, once a person being able to adapt to german environment they might be able to adapt anywhere else as well. Germans are direct, expressive and self-centered.
Yeah self sufficient also means coming here with a load of cash to live, because after 4 years and thousands of applications you realize that even with two higher degree, fluency in two languages, nobody is going to give you a job, and if they do it will be low paid or freelance work, which won’t even be paid on a monthly basis. The country is a complete nightmare. You have to buy every kind of insurance imaginable in order to protect yourself. In the end you will be miserable and will have drained your savings. That is how tough it is!
@@baqaqipekhebi7148 are you talking about germany?
i am going for my master's next year!
TH-cam would not allow me to correct the typo in the above comment!
Ich hab aktuell echt das Gefühl die Leute hier drehen komplett durch. Es tut mir sehr leid für dich, dass du solche schlimmen Dinge erleben musstest. :( erhol dich gut in Florida und ich hoffe du gibst Deutschland nicht auf. ❤️
@@MCoos-dw9yr video ned gesehen oder ned verstanden?
@@MCoos-dw9yr Lebst Du in Florida?
@@MCoos-dw9yr hier wird nicht soviel berichtet. Wenn etwas passiert wird es heruntergespielt oder man verschließt die Ohren und Augen. Was du machst ist nämlich genau das Problem. Man zeigt aufs angeblich so rassistische Amerika statt vor der eigenen Tür zu kehren. Genau wie George Floyds tot soviel Aufmerksamkeit hier erregt hat obwohl es hier einen Attentat zur gleichen Zeit auf deutsche mit Migrationshintergrund in Hanau gab. Was in den USA passiert hat dich nicht zu interessieren. Setzt dich mit dem Rassismus hier auseinander.
@@MCoos-dw9yr mach dir Gedanken um den Osten, wo es no Go Areas und man sich mit nicht deutschen Aussehen nicht hintrauen kann statt die Gedanken um Florida zu machen
@@MCoos-dw9yr und das sagt ein Ossi. Ich lach mich tot. Wohl noch nie aus deiner Plattenbausiedlung rausgekommen oder?
I have just completed my generalistische Pflegeausbildung or general nursing diploma last month that is in March. Thamk you Germany for breaking me mentally and emotionally! But I came out strong.
Oh hayley, you really gave me some strength through this video. I moved from Germany to Sweden last year but I had to return to Germany around Christmas due to the pandemic and have been here since. During these months here I have been getting so sad, hopeless and fearful.. I am going back to Sweden tomorrow and I am just so anxious, I haven’t slept in a few days, couldn’t eat, my stomach has been hurting and I’ve been crying and being sad because I feel this immense fear of going there for some reason because I feel like I can’t handle things getting even worse than this and here I at least have my family and my dog. This gave me hope that this anxiety might have come from the general anxiety and depression level in Germany right now (because I remember that I haven’t felt like this at all before Christmas) and that things might look way brighter once I am there again
Thanks for sharing this video, I hope you will get a lot of positive energy in Florida!
Love, Johanna
I go trough the same thing at the moment!! Exactly since Christmas when the lockdown started in Germany I started to feel like this. You are not alone in this🤗 send you all the good vibes and try to remember that everything in life In temporary🌸
Teodora Birda thanks teodora❤️
Hope it will feel better when you get here :)
I live in Germany but near the border of Netherlands. I visit Netherlands once a week to recharge. People there know how to smile. Can't wait to finish my Masters and leave. 😅😅😅 🫠
Jesus Christ 😮
Those German Karens. 🤦♂️ Totally get you and I agree. Germans in general are not in a good vibe now. The winter has been far too long and that along with the pandemic has definitely pushed some people to the dark side. Still, I'm positive about the next few months. ❤️
I am betting on June being a good month. All the news I have read from the government regarding restrictions has been positive...
@@HayleyAlexis and Euro! There will be Euro Cup, so Germans have to become more positive 😁 Hope you will recharge, have a lot of quality time with your family and come back to sunny, positive, happy Germany with Biergartens and all that stuff !
She's not just a Karen, she's a Confederate flag waving, Trump voting Karen. (If she were an American)
winter can never be too long lol I'm a winter person, sorry
@@MyvIsLove2 I prefer autumn. Still warm enough for open windows all day but no longer brain-slowingly hot.
Hi Sweetie, I am German living in Florida for 42 years now. I married a GI. I remember one of the trips back “home” where we just landed in Frankfurt. I had a stroller and a 1 year old. Stressful flight etc. etc. and I waited for someone to let me into the escalator line. No one did so I had to push my way in and I said in German real loud “I know I am back in Germany because everyone is so rude”. My husband was embarrassed but it was true. People just looked at me. I am sure they would have told me to go back where I came from if I had an accent. That was 38 years ago. Nothing seems to have changed. I understand the lock down and weather. The weather can surely get to you over there. I am not in Florida for the weather, never have been. The heat and hurricanes get to me, but you try to grow where you are planted. Love your videos and honesty. Wish you all the best. Who is Thiesi? P. S. My Granddaughter is mixed and my daughter and she have been living with us for 3 years now. She is beautiful. I love her so.
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Born there and maybe its the south of Germany but im leaving this fucking place and never coming back
It’s insane because I literally just moved back to Florida from Spain for the same reason, things got so ugly there as well! I hope you’re feeling better and happier now, that’s the most important thing.
i am born and raised in germany studied here, work and pay my taxes. Still many people discriminate me just because my Name is turkish. The problem in germany is not rasicm its more that a lot of german people feel they are superior over you what make the country cold and depressed.
There is nothing wrong with being Turkish you can live in Germany and still accept your own true identity as Turkish migrant. Our fathers worked a lot to get in your place and we should never apologise for who we are.
The 'undercurrent' is still there, well hidden, but still there....
@@callmekhaleesi excuse me? Turkish migrant?! This person was born and raised in Germany! What am I missing here?!
No, the issue is that many people from turkey don't want to be part of the community. They only want the benefits. My best friend is from turkish descent. Third generation. Good education, good income. Years back he told me, that turkish people always speak badly about germans behind their backs. The issue is that turkish people feel superior, right?
@@siemensohm TRUE!!!
As a native german I‘m ashamed for those peoples behavior and it‘s making me so angry that it‘s just not that commun around here to show stragers kindness. And its making me sad that tose are the ones to represent us in such a bad way. I can just hope for it to get better and please try not to let them bring you down.
Best whishes from NRW
This girl likely walked into the elderly woman's water-stream, fully expecting that she was going to stop spraying, rather than risk getting her wet. Both my grandparents are German and exactly like this old woman. This girl's entitled attitude permeates her generation. Good on the elderly woman for standing her ground. Germany is her country, not this entitled foreigner's. I would bet money that the retelling here on TH-cam will differ by ~180degrees from what actually went down. If it was that bad, we'd be watching an iPhone video of it. She actually said the old woman was harassing her? This woman was minding her business and couldn't be bothered to stop what she was doing. So freaking what? The girl should've simply walked around her. All of this would've been avoided. A Millennial is not going to impart some grand wisdom/lesson on a woman who's seen 83 years of living. The arrogance of this brat is astounding. If you want to see what happens to a culture when you make too many concessions, come to the USA and spend some real time here. We are living in managed decline in the USA.
@@austntexan Yeah, good thing thar the elderly woman called her the n-word and said racist things. So glad, you're defending that behavior.......
@@austntexan that's exactly why people have negative attitude about German
@@austntexan So by your analogy if I park my car and suddenly a person is walking behind my car I should just kill that person, since I am only minding my own business of parking my car, instead of waiting like 10 seconds to pass and then finish my parking? This is not entitlement, this is common sense. We don't know why the person is not focused or maybe and he/she it's stressed or is in a hurry. Is it so hard for 10 seconds of your unimportant life to just stop a stupid hose so that person it's not wet? Or maybe idk turn around and wet other things? That old lady did it just to see her reaction and yeah maybe even a n@zi. Maybe that old fag sat as a child to get an autograph from her beloved leader in the 30s.
@@austntexan i read a comment that went like : "Americans should have fed you to the soviets and Israelis "
I'm glad you said in the beginning...although this happens in the U.S. I am talking about Germany. People here love to throw around another place/country when you are addressing GERMANY, just Deutschland, stay focused.
Germans are much more critical of others, compassion is not their forte. Believe me, I have dealt with it for years.
My family dealt with it for years in Auschwitz. Trust me I know lol 🤣
This often depends pretty much on the area in germany. Some areas I wouldn't want to visit, although I am german.
@@M1NDCR4WL3R
Can you help foreigners unfamiliar with Germany by listing areas you would not want to visit?
@@karllarsen8797 Karens like the one Haley describes here can be found basically everywhere in Germany (I suspect it's not much different in America). Even as a native German, I occasionally encounter such things (okay, not the rants). I've also witnessed a man on a crowded bus pushing away a woman with a pram and swearing at her because of the colour of her skin.
Yes, there are some places in Germany where I wouldn't necessarily walk around alone... and certainly not recommend it to anyone of colour. But even that doesn't mean that something happens there all the time.
Supposedly we Berliners are the most tolerant - but even there I'm not so sure. If you want to go on holiday in Germany, you shouldn't let that put you off. You will find friendly people everywhere. The risk of being mobbed is relatively low (as long as you don't throw your rubbish into nature). But if you live here, sooner or later such an incident will happen.
I have adopted a tactic that has worked quite well in such cases. There is a song by the Berlin band Die Ärzte that is very well known all over Germany. The song is called "Schrei nach Liebe" (Cry for Love) and is itself a rant against the neo-Nazis. A main part of the chorus is the word "Arschloch" (I think you don't need a translation on that). In the case on the bus, I only started whistling softly the first bars ... After the second stop, half the bus sang along loudly and the guy got off. I don't know if he was ashamed - but it just felt good.
So the question is, what do you want to do?
Ok, an expert speaks, thanks for the expertise.
Anyone who always grapples with bad thoughts ultimately always thinks badly.
Okay, now i'm scared!... I'm black and have been here for just 4 months... Its a different experience for me so far. I hope I'd keep being this lucky
Ok, your skin tonne is diferrent but at the end of the day all we are human beings so dont be scared , enjoy the trip , good luck
@@rumold9999 👏👏👏
I'm a black women in Germany live here 7 yrs and I agree with her I hate it here..the culture us lifeless ...I rather be poor and happy than have riches and miserable. the people here are so angry..I started walking around angry because of it..its so much more.
@@ChildofGod52 Honest question. Then why did you stay for 7 years? Whats helds you from just leaving? I cant agree to anything you say though :D The culture is full of life I think there are few countries with more fests and celebrations. The people are not angry i think. If you dont like it here there is no reason to stay though :) Good luck in the future :O
@@sumimaind thank you for your comment..I was really going to respond to his message ..but then i thought why!! its makes no sense. any expat living here especially from mixed race can agree to what i said.. and he may comes across pretty harsh...and it doesn't means every German is like that but the majority is...
I am Mexican and did the same myself. I am a permanent resident in the country and not planning on moving but this last winter was INTENSE. I was feeling so depressed and anxious. Just came back from
Mexico after staying there for 3 months. Best decision ever. The environment in Germany at the moment is quite toxic. I still
love the country tho.
As a german i think it is frightening whats going on right now. I think a lot of this has to do with the lockdown. Since november nearly everything is closed. Many people lost their job. The winter was long and hard. People are getting more and more unfriendly to each other. I hope it will change soon.
I am Mexican as well, I kinda wanna do the same as well! I have to work though... I wish I could stay 2 months in 🇲🇽
Canadian in Germany and I really understand. However I'm from Ontario and they just went into their 3rd lockdown so I don't think going back would've been the best idea.
I think, the problem here is just a “very loud” minority of ignorant and hateful people. Unfortunately, few speak up against them to not get themselves into trouble. This is really sad.
@@muadrico we speak up. Wir sind mehr. But not just behind a screen. Speaking up when you see somebody being treated like that, that's everybody's duty. In Germany, in the U.S., everywhere.
Hi sis. I am there now and can relate to all you said. I'm an African and pray nothing takes me outside daily but it's impossible. Most Germans are highly irrational & mean. Even at the hospitals l still see worse situation and pray nothing takes me there again....Although Germany is a good country🙇
Sometimes, a change of scenery is good for the soul. Here in the U.S. we've had our own set of problems over the past year + especially. Be glad, you haven't been around for that. It was incredibly challenging and stressful. The vitriol and condescension was at an all time high. I think, the whole planet is going bonkers.
Hayley. I'm really sorry from my heart!
Your observations are unfortunatly true. I work as a cashier in a german supermarket and the people are horrible these days. People are screaming and shouting at each other about nothing, and being disrespectful to others and us cashiers. I think people are becoming psychotic in a way. We are in lockdown since i-dont-even-remember-anymore, not seeing friends and family and "Ausgangssperre" at 21uhr.
And that sadly makes people not only aggressive, but they're projecting their mood on people which seem foreign. Or they get the balls to be openly racist now?! 🤢
I'm angry, I'm outraged, I'm ashamed and I'm deeply sorry.
Hope it gets better soon.
This is happening everywhere. It's not just Germany. I hear it from my family in the UK and France and from friends in the USA. It's a sad fact, but Germany is no exception.
Agree with Nadine. My boyfriend is German and live in Lake Konstanz near the Switzerland border and work at Obi in Switzerland 🇨🇭 and he is experiencing rude customer behavior, they are aggressive unkind. He told me one customer told him that no German has a right to say no to him. My boyfriend had to take some time out of work for the sake of his mental health issue
Nadine, I feel you. I used to work part-time at as a cashier in a German city centre discounter and since I usually worked Saturday night shifts I was already accustomed to people being arseholes, but last year, especially the last two weeks I worked there really made it very easy for me to leave (I switched to an office job). My last month working as a cashier was last July and even back then people were behaving horribly and being even more rude and on edge than normal. I can't imagine how it must be like right now, but whenever I see my old colleagues they tell me people still are as nuts as when I left.
I think the fact that the supermarket was the only place to go to besides the drugstore and maybe work (for some people) means that it became the one place you had human interaction and for some people going to the store can already be a stress factor.
And overall people are just being dicks about "being oppressed" etc. and let all their aggressions out on people who have nothing to do with them, be it a supermarket employee or a person on the street who looks "other" to them...
i am sorry you have to experience disgusting customers as a cashier. i honor your job and you have done an incredible job during the pandemic
It was like that way before lockdown. I am Polish and the amount of hate I recived in Germany is beyond disturbing. Killing Poles in concentration camps and distroying the country is not enough. At some point I started saying that I am from Czech Republic, to just have some peace.
I escaped to Netherlands and was never happier. People are wonderful here.
Hayley, don't let all this hatred bring you down. We all love you - OK, it may not help you in those situations. But you are in our hearts
You mean her hatred against Germans?
I have traveled quite a bit. I spent two weeks in Berlin in 2016 and I have never been treated more poorly in my life than I was treated there by people. I’ll never go back to Berlin.
Berlin is not known for being very welcoming, many people there tend to be a bit rough around the edges. Still... I don't want to make excuses for anybody, I am sorry that you were treated poorly.
What happened to you?
In berlin we say: Große Klappe mit Herz
@DerBerliner53
Genau wie bei uns im Ruhrgebiet!
Die verstehen unsere Mentalität wahrscheinlich nicht und legen es gleich als Rassismus aus
Berlin is even considered as very rude by many germans. Direct and right in the face. I LOVE IT. (Yes, I am german, lol)
Yes, 6 month of lockdown, bad weather and unfriendly people. hard to get used to it. :-/
I am fine with everything BUT the lockdown
6 months? It has been one year in my city and in the neighbour areas. However , I'm very sorry for you bad experiences in Germany these days.
@@HayleyAlexis If there ever had been an actual lockdown in Germany, this thing would be over since probably January 2021. Of course, politicians do stupid bullshit to line their own pockets. Fun times to live in certainly. ;-)
Oh and BTW as a native german guy, I also thought about leaving this country behind for good. Maybe it's just the suburb / ghetto I live in, who knows..
Thanks for your always interesting videos.
@@sumimaind You haven't been here during the pandemic. There never really was an actual lockdown, the best we did was in March/April 2020.
Regardless: If you think the people were rude in 2008, you really don't want to know how they are in 2020/2021. :-)
Doesn't excuse the racism, tho.
So sorry for what has happened to you in Germany. Such stories make me SO angry 🤬 hope you’re having a good time with your family ❤️ lots of love from a fellow expat
Hello my beautiful friend good evening how are you doing?
This is so sad to hear because I love Germany, but I have to say I did experience some racism being there on vacation as a brown skinned Latina as well. I don’t think it will prevent me from going back though, hopefully in the future people are in a better headspace
What kind of experience?
@Tagedieb more colorful in what sense??
@Tagedieb "An even more colorful Germany"? Great, let's create more societal tension, good idea!
@Tagedieb But following your logic I could justify any wrong doings as "oh but that happens in other countries too.. I feel like in Germany people say that usually when they don't want to admit that there's a serious issue with racism in this country. It's time to acknowledge the issue and stop using excuses to minimize the racism that happens there.
@@sumimaind Germans have lived there for thousands of years and it’s their country.they built a well run beautiful country. People move there for that reason and then complain about rudeness. Airplanes fly both ways.
I was so surprised to learn how rude people are in Germany. Horrible
I agree with everything in this video. As a German I deal with this negativity, rudeness and envious mindsets on the regular. I’m trying to protect myself from that type of energy but it doesn’t always work. I’ve spent a lot of time in different countries and also in the US and it really made me realize the flaws of this country. My boyfriend is from the US and I love his attitude about things. If I could I would go to Florida right now as well. So good choice girl 🙂 and thank you for your videos 💙
So geht es vielen Leuten. Und dann wundern sich alle, wenn man hier aggressiv wird. 😅
Das freut mich zu lesen! Ich finde juengere Deutsche sehr sympatisch und weltoffen mehr als leider die älteren Herrschaften. Vielleicht im Laufe der Zeit wird diese altmodisch Denkweise gestorben.
usa is scheiße
You are really beautiful and in your picture you spread kindness and good moo
Germany is so rough for non-german people, its like its only meant for germans. I lived there for 1 month and i was gone...
typiacal old folks...
I hope that my generation will do better when we are the old ones.
I feel sorry that you had to go through this experience.
Honestly I wish it was just the old people, but its not. I have gotten into fights with family in their 20s and 30s, because they shared racist propaganda on Facebook. People that I would never have expected to agree with stuff like that. It`s shocking to me honestly.
@@lilly_chills Yeah that's sad but true.
You can't believe how often I heard people saying "Rassenschande" ( racial disgrace) to me and my black girlfriend.
I feel so sorry for her and it makes me angry and at the same time breaks my heart every time. She was born and raised here, german is her mother tongue, even speaks a regional dialect and yet some people don't accept that she is a part of this country and society...
@@lilly_chills xD
@@devineballer3009 Wow thats terrible, I`m sorry to hear that you have to deal with this stuff. I`ve had my fair share of comments like that when I lived near a US army base in Germany and had a lot of friends of color. Personally I think people that limit themselves to whatever they perceive their race to be (in the end we are all just variations of the same race, homo sapiens ... ) miss out on getting to know a heck of a lot of awesome people. People don`t even know how stupid they look when standing there in their American jeans, british DrMartens boots, indian or chinese made t-shirts, shoving down Italian pizza, turkish döner or greek gyros and at the same time yelling how much they hate foreigners ...
@@lilly_chills That's so true
Sorry to over post, but I've also noticed people seem to be making an extra effort to be polite and patient with one another here (US) compared with a few months ago. Makes me feel a little better about humanity.
Lived in northern Germany for 4 years, the whole place is a disgrace. Learnt the language to a high level very quickly but nothing I did was good enough. I was attacked out of the blue for eating a hot dog the wrong way, for the way I walked, for being a single foreign woman. They are a horrible society. It reached a point I couldn’t go to the supermarket 50m away from my home without being attacked somehow. I had neighbors stealing my letters and packages. I tried my best to adapt and mimic their habits and culture, only after 4 years I realized that I was not the issue, they were. Hateful, spiteful people.
I was so traumatized that I Sold everything, quit my job, packed my bags and left. Zero regrets.
I ran across this somehow, and your experience absolutely resonates with all people of color in germany. I am American or Arab background married to a German. There is routine aggression and condescension directed at people of color in Germany, but Germans will deny it exists. It is maddening but we all experience it. I've learned to just ignore anyone who is rude and aggressive toward me. I literally ignore them as they try to discipline me and it makes them even more mad. I get satisfaction out of seeing Germans get upset that their aggressive disciplining isn't working. Nothing drives them crazier. Take care.
The issue is much more complex tho, there are many instances of unreasonable prejudice but must german are extremely open minded towards foreigners. Remember the refugee crisis and how must Germans gladly welcomed people. This attitude has changed however, in many cases because of great tragedies that accrued in Germany and it’s neighbours. If you’re a foreigner in any country you have it tough because you are a representative of your country, culture and community. That is the same for everyone. As unreasonable as prejudice is in most cases, I can’t blame many Germans for having become sceptical towards people with seemingly Arabic or Muslim background. You might call me racist for this, but I myself know about the irrationality of this. But at the end, it’s just a natural Defense mechanism and I can’t blame people for judging a group that is not known well to them that they only hear and see terrible crimes from. Most people are decent, humans are social after all. But as a social species we try to protect our own, unfortunately traits like racism evolve from that too. I can’t blame someone for being sceptical about Muslims when you read that a French teacher was beheaded with a kitchen knife on the street simply for teaching kids about religious caricatures (which included one about Mohammed).
Stuff like that sticks with people, and I won’t blame them for it. I know better fortunately, I have travelled much and talked much and I choose my friends based on the people they are. Although a similar circle will be inevitable considering that unfortunately chilenos or Turks don’t speak german.
@@venkyuganda bs its not, its the strongest economy in Europe... every "prediction" that the conflict would affect it, were wrong.
i dont know how you can stay so calm while they discipline you. i get frequently angry. maybe ill give it a try to laugh as loud as I can.
@@musiccer7446 this has nothing to do with the refugee crisis. ppl were mean before corona and before the refugee crisis.
you guys always find an excuse for being evil.
@@bilalhamurabi3362 How often does this "disciplining" happen? Is it mostly at work or it's just everywhere?
Hey! I feel so sorry for how people treated you in Germany. Because no matter how much people are suffering there's is no reason to go ahead and take it out on strangers who havent done anything wrong. I just want you to know that we are not all like that.
However I feel like this lockdown is a bit of a laugh. Yes, there are things that suck but what we are experiencing right now is nothing compared to what people have experienced in some other countries. And you're right, many things seem to be very unorganised.
And I think they are thinking about slowly making less restrictions for people who are vaccinated so you might get lucky.
Hey
It's very refreshing to see you reflective and aware of a lot of things. There's no need to apologize for your decisions to go to florida. You do you and stay mentally healthy and happy. There's enough people who don't do that for themselves...
Good for you. The negativity and the smartass behavior of lots of people here, makes me pity them alot
I've heard several stories from my friends in the US encountering a lot of entitled and angry people and taking it out on vulnerable groups. They were talking about the same issues: devisiveness, frustration etc I think it is a global issue but every culture handles it a little differently. I understand that it's easier to deal with when the coping mechanisms are part of a culture you grew up with and that's easier to navigate. also, as you mentioned, you are not an immigrant there and in a better position to defend yourself. And you have your family as a resource. I am so sorry you had to experience this at all being in a vulnerable position.
I'm so so so sorry!! I moved from Germany finally to Spain last winter and don't regret it. However, I think we also romanticize expat life. It's hard!!
Vorallem in Coranazeiten. Wie ist es zur Zeit in Spanien?
Not in the Netherlands. It is amazing! :) I left Germany, couldn't stand it anymore.
How funny, I decided to go from Spain to Germany, but made a pitstop in the U.S. and now I just don't know where I should go anymore. 😔🤦🏾♀️
@@nidersenogih5794 Wechselt immer mal wieder. Gerade gehen die Zahlen aufgrund von Feiern und Co. wieder hoch. Das ist sehr schade. Jedoch kann man weiterhin auf den Terrassen der Bars sitzen, und da kann man gut Abstand halten.
Americans, especially the Millennials, have a difficult time understanding the concept of "when in Rome, do as the Romans do". She should've respected the old woman and walked around her. The girl purposefully walked into the lady's water stream, expecting that she'd stop...but the old woman wan't bluffing. Good for her. This "negative" interaction would've never happened had the girl simply compromised and walked around on the street. She made the decisions to press the issue with the old woman. This girl is lying. Old people just want to be left alone. They're not interested in harassing anyone but when pressed, you may get a prickly response. They're built of stronger stuff than the last 2 generations of Americans, no question.
Wishing you all the best, enjoy that Florida sunshine! ☀️
That's why I left Germany a long time ago. As a native born German I know my people very well and it's not only the pandamic. I don't want to go further in it. But I am an American citizen now an I'm glad about it.
Wait till you hear the politics
And how dumb the people are 😂😂😂😂
I also live in Germany but sadly cant leave :(
@@arminoprivato why
Welcome to the civilized world, but please don't bring any of your German attitude or customs with you.
Ich habe auch den Eindruck, dass hier in Deutschland alle Leute wirklich mit ihren Nerven am Ende sind und dadurch viel gereizter und unfreundlicher sind, als üblicherweise.
Genieße deine Zeit in Florida! 😎
ich stimme zu! Das Land ist reich und alles funktioniert relativ gut aber die Leute sind immer schlecht gelaunt und negativ. Ich bin froh das ich dort nicht mehr wohne...
@@sumimaind Das Land mag reich sein, immerhin finanziert es die komplette EU, die Bürger jedoch zählen zu den ärmsten Europas und obwohl sie immer mehr effektiver und fleißiger als alle anderen arbeiten nimmt man ihnen stets alles weg und verteilt es in Europa um.
@@maxmustermann8167 Wo steht dein Hut, in den ich eine Mark werfen kann?
hi hayley, i understand you 100%. I live in germany, everytime i visit my family in bosnia i dont want go back to germany, cause im afraid, i live with fear there every day, my stomach hurts every day. I got sick there with depression but through medicaments i became better, after lockdown and covid my problems are back.But my life is there, my work, my wonderful boyfriend, but right now the work is killing me. Especially through covid people changed in a negative direction. I just feel emptyness there and fear, especially through this crazy restrictions. Yes hayley you are right, its a lot of evil going on there. I would say im a sensitive person and try to take care of the feelings of the orhers but i ve been punched so many times in my face with mean words. A lot of narcissists. I wish you luck🙏🏻spend a good time in florida.
I have to agree. As an introvert and a sensitive person Berlin is the worst place for someone like that. Realized it too late but I'm so much happier now not living there.
@@Vivi-vg9lx Would it be better if you have a remote job and try to avoid the negativity as much as possible?
@@Adam-nw1vy I would think so. It's not like you are bombarded with negativity there. But if you're sensitive to other peoples emotions/ reactions and like deep connections, I don't think it's the best place to be. It's in the little mundane everyday interactions, rude impolite communication is embedded in German culture. If you live there long enough, you'll know. There are good things in Germany too, but just something to be aware of.
You are afraid of what?
In Bosnia no covid ?
I'm so so sorry that this happened to you. I'm German myself and you're absolutely right. The pandemic has brought out the worst in people. I'm so sorry!
Das war doch immer so.
das ist nicht wegen der Pandemie, die arme war nur 5 wochen hier und sie kennt nicht die Deutsche und wie verklemmt und zurückhaltend sind, dass sie einfach Hass gegen AUSLÄNDER oder auch mit einander entwickeln, die Deutsche sind halt so von Natur her und das ist die traurige Wahrheit
No, Germans have always been like that. And they're never going to change. They've always been rude and unwelcoming. That's just the country. Not even some Germans want to still live here.
@@missmichellevp Was für eine scheiße du laberst, wenn du Selbsthass hast, lass es für dich sein und mach uns Deutsche nicht fertig, was ein Troll, übrigens, ich habe auch mit nicht deutschen schlechte Erfahrung gemacht, sind wohl auch alle unhöflich...
@@misterplayer7250 Sie hat aber Recht, du Wurst!
Sorry but this is true, I'm living already 30 Years in Germany and I'm still for them an immegrant and I experienced a lot cases like you. They are the unfriendliest people in the world. And that is true!!! Really!!
I am sorry no one believed your experiences..I am very white American and was treated very badly in Europe multiple times especially Germany..and I am a very friendly person. (Years before covid) I have seen others share bad experiences in Europe online or just saying many Europeans are cold/unfriendly only to get gaslit by a ton of people! What is people's problem..I'm afraid to visit Germany again, even though some were sweet.
I was born white in the US and I have lived in Germany since 2008. Many, many Germans go out of their way to exclude people who are not in their tribe. I have lost jobs (more than one) in Germany because of this tribal mentality. The question is what steps are needed to join their tribe and if it is even worth it. In daily life I regularly receive comments from native Germans regarding how the US mentality is more optimistic and happy than the pessimistic unhappy German mentality. These same Germans talk about moving out of Germany.
Never met somebody who talks so much bs. Im from Belgium and working in Germany and NEVER EVER had this problems or even know someone who had this.
@@maxmiot9351yeh Belgians are not exactly known for incredible warmth either 😂😂😂
@@hmu05366 😂😂
@@maxmiot9351Maybe because you are exactly like those German they are talking about. You don’t see yourself in a mirror.
As an Asian who have lived for 2 yrs in Germany, i can say the rudeness of the people here especially the old ones are intensely insane even before pandemic so i really feel you. So negative, bitter and jealous in life. They hate seeing happy, positive expats because they’ve lived their lives miserable all their years here. I had my share of countless racism, negative behavior from a neighbor, even a family member of my husband. I always tell my husband, if it wasn’t for you, i am so ready to leave this country in a heartbeat. I am just fortunate to be married to a really nice and very patient German husband that made me stay and i always tell him i can’t wait to leave this country the soonest. If you see in all social media platforms about Germany, the negative and very bad experiences of foreigners especially are at the same level and very commonly happening here. Too bad, such a beautiful country but very mean and rude people. So im not really impressed even if they’re doing great in their economy. And because of that, i have learned to appreciate the Asian and American friendliness. Germans hate Americans for being fake, but hey, that’s not being fake, that’s what you call, SOCIAL SKILLS which Germans don’t have. Not all are the same but sadly A LOT OF THEM HERE!!!
OMG. This happened to me too! I’m American and I told my German husband that if it wasn’t for him, I would not choose Germany as the country I live in. I hope that in the future we are able to move to America or Canada. Canada is my dream country. The negativity is sometimes overwhelming here and when I came here, I felt like I was such a bubbly and happy person and I almost feel like I’m being drained of that because everyone else around me is so negative and rude. :(
I miss friendliness and talking to random strangers and giving compliments to random strangers and even little things like saying,”excuse me.” It feels like Germans never say excuse me when they pass by you. I have been walking in the city center or in the shop, and I’ll have a German just slam into my arm and then after they push past me, they keep walking as if it never happened! They don’t even turn around and go,”Oh, I’m sorry!”
One time it really hurt me and pushed me into the wall of a shop at the city center. I even looked at my husband and I was like,”why would she do that? I even moved over for her to pass by and she still bumped into me.”
If everyone was friendlier, people would not be so negative!!
The only rude person is you.
Go to Korea
@Jean juju I completely agree with you, that's exactly how it is. I've lived in Southern Europe for 25 years and I assure you that racism does not only exist in Germany although the majority are nice people. Sometimes simply not belonging to a special group of people can make you fee excluded. I understand Haily so well, people like this old lady make me feel ashamed to being born here but then again I think it's up to us to stand up against racist attitudes, no matter where they take place!
@Jean juju Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry that happened to you! I know how frustrating it can be.. I think everyone should just be kind to each other, no one knows what the other person is going through… I always end up biting my tongue here because I don’t want to get into any trouble as I’m not a native, but sometimes it’s so hard and I get close to saying something. But I guess it is better to leave it anyway! And yes there are racists and a**holes in every country, for sure. America has a massive racism problem that runs deep to the core. So I’m in no way saying one country is better than the other.. . Every country has problems. This is just something I noticed about Germany since moving here a few years ago
So close to Sweden and yet so different. That in- your-face rudeness would never work here. Over here, people are taciturn (quiet), reserved, but not rude. Also, Sweden never locked down, no state authoritarianism. Especially during Covid, I felt blessed that I call Sweden my home. The comments from other people here about their experiences confirm my feeling that it's best I avoid Germany. It seems very negative, passive-aggressive.
Yet your king married someone from Germany.
The stares are real girl. Specially in the smaller towns. I didn’t feel uncomfortable in bigger cities but wow they definitely let you know you’re an outsider in the smaller towns and villages .
@@MarkusPape France and England are international multi culture places ,Germany is a single mono culture and narrow minded race that can't integrate in global world ,and they know it , thank god they felt pain in WW2 when bombed by US and its allies.
I can so much relate to this. I’m German too but couldn’t stand the negativity and rudeness anymore that’s why I moved to Australia right before covid happened and yeah it’s hard without my family and friends but the moment I ‘m watching your video I’m like yes it was the right decision that I left and can’t imagine going back.
Lucky you babes
Denk ich auch drüber nach, fand Australien und Neuseeland immer interessant
I had the same experience in Australia last year.
Cool! I would really like to move to Melbourne 🥺💕
It is not really different there, but you will find out yourself sooner or later.
I'm so sorry, you experienced such negative encounters. But it is refreshing to hear even the ugly side of things. Hope it gets better
Americans are too hyper sensitive we must realize that they have a different culture then ours. Americans can be so needy sometimes. I went their twice and the people are straight forward and down to earth!! Planning to visit again this fall. You can't generalize an entire country for some bad experiences.