It's out of date because people send messages on the internet now. It's not disrespectful. Hand written letters are like trying to hang on to the Victorian age.
Oddly this year I became much more interested in clothes and because of your channel and others like it I went out and bought a navy suit, black tie and white shirt, quality black leather Oxford shoes. My father saw me in this outfit and some months later passed away. I wore this same outfit to his funeral I'd like to thank you for curating this information so intelligently.
I am in the beginning stage, got me a stone colored coat, a white dress shirt, a brown flatcap and brown derby shoes. Now I am looking for a vest and suit jacket but gradiation is nigh and it's gonna cost me alot....
Well presented Sir. I am a funeral director and I appreciate this. It’s amazing to me how so many people today don’t dress for a funeral and yes, it does matter.
It can be a difficult situation for a man in rural areas (Wyoming, Montana, the Dakotas) who doesn’t have a suit. Driving hundreds of miles to buy a suit for a funeral can be too much for a lower income person.
Thank you. I will be more than prepared for my fathers funeral this Mon. 18,2019 he was 79. I want his service tasteful and elegant. Your video helped me tremendously. 🎈
I watched this video the first time back in November when my grandmother passed. The only exception was to wear my maroon and white striped tie because my grandmother loved the tie. I just want to say thank you Rafael for this video
And please, please don't tell a surviving 28 year old daughter to get regular mammograms at the graveside service of her 58 year old mother who died from breast cancer. This actually happened to me and five years later it still sticks with me. 😕
@Nelson Robert Willismy condolences to you and your family. I hope the funeral was a beautiful send off for your dear sister. May she rest in peace. I send my love to you
That’s so fucking ignorant. I’m sorry you had to hear something like that while going through a tough time. (I’m not saying that everyone who says something like that is disrespectful. There are respectful and appropriate ways of going about it)
I’m sorry that happened to you. Some people feel awkward at funerals and say the most inappropriate things, even if they meant well. And, of course, some people are just jerks. Either way I hope you can let go of the pain eventually. Take care.
Well, it kind of depends on who you, uncle John, and his relatives are. When me and my relatives were at the hospital to have a final look at my grandmother who had just passed away, we talked very nostalgically about what she had done and how she had been in life, which for us obviously included mentioning and laughing about her increadible snoring. It was a very beautiful and comforting session for us all and I got to hang out with relatives who live far away and therefore don't see very often, especially not together at the same time.
Well presented Sir....i remember the day back in 2012 when my nephew died....sometimes i still cry after remembering that incident.....i appreciate this video.....!!!
Great video, it helped me a lot. One addition. In Sweden (and maybe other parts of Europe as well??) a plain white tie is also appropriate to wear if you are a close relative to the deceased. A black tie works too, but from what I have understood that is more for the other attendants. These are the recommendations they give on Swedish funeral-sites. Anyway, thank you for handling this delicate subject so well.
I would add that I have read that an important part of funeral etiquette is for friends of the deceased not to obtrude too much on the immediate family, but to keep a respectful distance, unless invited otherwise.
+JuliusCaesar500 At the end of the day it is a personal event. If the deceased was an artist and wore nothing but colors and he always wanted a colorful funeral with Jazz music, then by all means, go ahead and do that. However, most funerals aren't like that.
Pius X the funeral/memorial is how we honor the deceased. If you are not taking their wishes into consideration when attending one then you are not honoring the individual.
During my aunt’s funeral service, the priest kept mispronouncing her name 4 different ways: Alice, Elise, Eleanor and Ella. My sister finally stood up and yelled at him: “Her name is ELSIE!”
Very important topic which I dealt with last year. We had a memorial service before a cremation and no funeral. We were honored that people came by in whatever they were wearing as many came to/from work. It is a small town and some people actually took time off work. Many didn't know to sign the guest book or to turn off their phones. The deceased had hated flowers and specifically requested no flowers at the service, he requested donations to his church. We assured the funeral home listed this in the announcements and when people contacted them for details. I was surprised that many ignored this and even called and argued with his widow. He had requested closed casket and they bullied her into open casket, which cost her and extra USD1000. Thankfully the chaplain who did the memorial service also knew the deceased request (he had many visits before the man's passing) and the situation and took the flowers to the church so the widow would not have to deal with them. A couple family relationships have still not recovered. I suspect that people are not learning about how to deal with the situation, it needs to be discussed more often.
Very well done in a respectful way. I like how you said it twice: “This is not about you.” That’s really important! I would beg to differ with a couple of statements though......and I realize that funeral customs differ tremendously throughout the world. First, you state that traditional funerals are gradually becoming extinct. While it is true that celebrations of life are becoming very popular, I don’t think traditional funerals will ever die out completely. Second, you stated that you shouldn’t be talking to anyone. While that certainly applies during the formal part of the service, my guess is that you have never attended an Irish wake! When you approach the next of kin to say your condolences, if you were in any way close to the deceased, or if you have come a long way, they will usually invite you to the family home. The family generally wants to have all their friends and relatives around them and they recollect, eat, drink and sometimes sing into the evening. My mother in particular used to enjoy these events, so when my parents died I made sure they had a good wake!
Great Video of Funeral Etiquette In our South-African culture,on the day of the Funeral,the coffin or casket of the deceased arrives either at the House,or Church,and then it is opened for viewing for at least 1 hour or 30 minutes,and then it is closed before it leaves the House to the Church,or before the opening procession inside the Church.
A very respectful video. This point is probably not going to affect most people but if anyone is tempted to wear a stroller suit/stresemann (black jacket and cashmere striped trousers) though historically and technically this would be accepted at a funeral, if you wore that at a funeral in the UK (in my case Scotland) you might be confused for an undertaker and thus one of the funeral organisers. Mourners now tend to wear dark suits and organisers wear strollers
Hello, brand new to your channel and I am really enjoying your videos. I’m a funeral director and I must say I’m very VERY impressed with this video. Thank you so much for covering this topic, it’s such a sensitive situation that I’ve had a lot of people ask me about, you presented the subject beautifully and it made me smile 🙂 thank you very much, sir.
In my hometown in Appalachia, it's a tradition to bring homemade food to a funeral. I'm sure a lot of cultures do that but it was odd going to a funeral and not being expected to bring food for the family
In my aunt's funeral most of the people there didn't wear black but they still showed respect to her by saying their condolences. I wore a black shirt and jeans since I couldn't find my dress pants.
Sehr schönes Video! Ich fande es sehr gut, dass sie so ernst geblieben und respektvoll damit umgegangen sind, Herr Schneider! Grüße aus Stuttgart ~Dario Marić
In my country usualy the funeral is divided in 2 parts. The wake, a place where the people who knew the deceased pay their respects, and the funeral, usually just atended by the family or really close friends of the deceased. Usually the whole service is relatively casual compared to american funerals, as long as you wear dark'ish clothes you're fine, and usually the funeral home has a kitchen where people gathers and talks about the deceased and eat and drink something. When you leave the funeral home you pay your repects to the deceased.
I found this video very helpful. Tomorrow I have to go to a funeral. I have a dark navy suit for just such an occasion, but it's not terribly suited for August weather. I could wear my summer suit or one of my summer blazers, but the colour schemes for those don't seem sombre enough for a funeral. I'll figure out something, but it made me think that if you're looking for a new topic to cover, doing a video on appropriate hot weather funeral attire would be timely, especially considering the fact that there will be many men attending funerals for COVID-related passings right about now.
I am a psychopath, and my nan had recently died, as of this message her funeral (memorial service) is coming up and I didn't know how to act at a funeral since a) I am a psychopath and b) its the first funeral I haver ever been to, so this has really helped thank you. I will be wearing a purple tie since the theme of the service was purple my nans favourite colour.
The Queen diet today. I want to at least honour her death by showing a little bit of elegance, since she was the symbol of elegance and dignity. Honestly the news is heart-breaking. We all shall honour the queen in some way. I believe that an elegant lady should be treated with elegance even, after her passing. That’s why I ended up here. Thank you for showing me how to property say my last goodbyes.
I do wish that you had a ladies channel also. I have no clue about style or fashion. You have however just helped amencly for my husband too be. Thank you.
We got lot's of these; when my Maternal Grandparents died (in Late January 2021 from the deadly Coronavirus pandemic; they died a week apart). We didn't know that there could be some many people paid their respects.
One thing you mustn't do: compliment the catering of the funeral. Really. A guy in my college died, and I went to his funeral to sing (I was part of the church chorus then), after a few weeks, I found the family in a restaurant, met them and said "the service was so nice, I loved the juice". It was very cringy, I don't know why I said it but it sticks with me.
Real things i've seen: suggestions based on observation of over 100 funerals. Do not put the casket in the back of a truck with the tailgate down and think 4 guys can hold it while going up a mountain!!. Since that won't work please don't have the 5th guy lay across the tailgate with his body to block the casket from going out of the back of the truck!!! Leave your cell phone in car. Ditch the casual look, PLEASE drop the gothic for a day!! or forever would be best! Don't get in a fist fight in the Funeral home or on the front row of the service, Don't come inside smelling like weed, or bud. or throw up in the funeral home from too many pain pills don't curse at family or the pastor or priest at the grave side, So when they ask you to play MUSIC(OR YOU IMPOSE YOURSELF TO PLAY)at the grave side. it's not your turn to play like your Guns and Roses, (IDIOT) One dream team pulled up their trucks and played "we love this bar" Meanwhile the poor mother, A very religious woman, Screamed and screamed in sorrow! Please! don't wear flip flops and shorts as a PB, MY SOUL MAN: AT A SUICIDE funeral DO NOT STICK A CIGAR AND BEER BOTTLE IN THE CASKET ::Be respectful of the Family! & Parents. GET OUT of your PJ's!!! and girls please wear more than a shirt, you may think it's ok at a funeral since everyone at the bar loves it. (BUT IT'S NOT) Don't tell the love ones you know how they feel if you haven't experienced that kind of loss! if your not religious: when you feel the need to have some religious leader help you. DON'T CURSE OR SCREAM AT THEM FOR being "religious"! Matter of a fact: why don't you just get the stinking bar owner to preform the funeral! If your over emotional teen is going to a funeral of a suicide, or tradgic teen death. please go with them! It is a sick thing to see the poor mother, of the deceased, having to tend to the emotional needs of "friends" when they have suffered such loss. (these people seemingly grieving more than family members--- overemotinal reaction is selfish attention seeking.) One mother told me: "these (people-that's not what word she used) think it's their funeral to run. IT's NOT! My Child is dead!"
Times post-COVID this hits differently. Just yesterday I found out that a person I knew in my childhood died of the virus and then her husband followed about a month later. I kinda wish I would have been invited to the funeral.
At an "Orthodox" Jewish Funeral, After the Eulogies everyone waits for the Mourner to start the conversation. Then after the burial there is 7 Days of Mourning at Home. The Mourner does not work that week and Prayer Services are held throughout the week at the Mourner's home where people can come and listen to the Mourner talk about the relative.. People provide meals for the Mourners so that they will not have to cook or do anything.
I know nothing of funerals in the USA, but in the UK, they have changed beyond recognition during my lifetime. When I was young, a black suit or morning dress were the only options for men, with black hat held across the chest, and black or dark colours for women. In the last 20 years the dress code at every funeral I've attended has been bright colours, and donations to charity rather than flowers appears to have become the norm. We still keep our traditional funerals togs just in case, but I doubt we'll ever need them again, unless we choose to be buried in them.
This is wonderful, but I don't have most of those clothing items, and the memorial servive I'm going to is in the summer with 90° to 100° weather. So, most of those items won't work. I still don't know what to wear.
Also, personal grooming is important. Wash, shave off stubble, brush your teeth, cut your nails and consider a haircut or at least wash your hair. Make sure your clothes are clean, your shirt is ironed and shoes polished. This is all obvious, yet I have observed every one of these failings.
I'm going to my first funeral because of my Grandma Rossie passed away few days ago and I am broken as of this state I will be going to Florida for first time when my 2 aunts died I didn't go because everyone will think it's too sad or emotional for me even my dad, won't let me go at all to let me learn the first time.
Thank you.......as one who officiates at chapel and grave side service (25 yrs) I have seen it ALL. the subject of dress...well I can say this........on the most part people dress very respectively. But, on one occasion this young girl ( I would say she was in her yearly 20 yrs-------- wore a RED DRESS( shocking )AND HAT, CLOVES, SHOES......,.......SHE STUCK OUT LIKE A SORE THUMB. her so called friends came with her and they were dress like they were going to a ROCK concert!....... Another occasion was in the chapel at the funeral home this low class men dress in jeans, leather vest and head band and wearing side chains. Found out latter they were part of a motorcycle club.........Dr. Bob Lupinacci, PhD
I don’t want etiquette at my “funeral”. I want to be an excuse for the people I actually like to get together, eat good food, and see what I was all about. Good music, living a life where you never stop improving, and treating the way others treat you. I don’t want my body present. I want them to remember me as a person not a body. My after party is gonna have laughter and love 🤘🤘 also if anyone says “fly high Austin” I’m coming back to haunt them.
Until one has read "The Funeral Critic" one has no idea what "funeral etiquette" ought to be. For too long funerals have been too depressing and injurious to the living, whereas the whole point of a funeral is to CELEBRATE the life of the deceased and begin a healing process of the LIVING.
Thank you very much for such an informative video during such a sad time. May I please know the very moving melody/classical piece playing during the video?
Do look sad. Do say they were a great person, regardless of the veracity of that claim. Don’t take a selfie with a finger in the deceased nose. Don’t try to work them like a puppet.
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Sensitive topic presented in the most respectful way. Thank you
+thomas donaldson you are welcome! Please share it, I think many people can benefit from it.
Absolutely. I'm glad he changed the song too. Good man
thomas donaldson condolance to everyone who has lost their loved ones.
Well said, thank you Sir.
It's out of date because people send messages on the internet now. It's not disrespectful.
Hand written letters are like trying to hang on to the Victorian age.
Oddly this year I became much more interested in clothes and because of your channel and others like it I went out and bought a navy suit, black tie and white shirt, quality black leather Oxford shoes. My father saw me in this outfit and some months later passed away. I wore this same outfit to his funeral I'd like to thank you for curating this information so intelligently.
I am in the beginning stage, got me a stone colored coat, a white dress shirt, a brown flatcap and brown derby shoes. Now I am looking for a vest and suit jacket but gradiation is nigh and it's gonna cost me alot....
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Well presented Sir. I am a funeral director and I appreciate this. It’s amazing to me how so many people today don’t dress for a funeral and yes, it does matter.
Depends if you are low class or upper class. Most upper class people won't wear jeans to a funeral.
@@Essays4College upper class wear black or leather jeans.
Hi; I just wanted to ask, what are the requirements for becoming a funeral director?
It can be a difficult situation for a man in rural areas (Wyoming, Montana, the Dakotas) who doesn’t have a suit. Driving hundreds of miles to buy a suit for a funeral can be too much for a lower income person.
It's disrespectful to the dead, how are they going to find out. 🙄
Top notch video about a very difficult subject. Nicely done sir.
+TheSouthcountykid Merci
Thank you. I will be more than prepared for my fathers funeral this Mon. 18,2019 he was 79.
I want his service tasteful and elegant. Your video helped me tremendously. 🎈
I watched this video the first time back in November when my grandmother passed. The only exception was to wear my maroon and white striped tie because my grandmother loved the tie. I just want to say thank you Rafael for this video
And please, please don't tell a surviving 28 year old daughter to get regular mammograms at the graveside service of her 58 year old mother who died from breast cancer. This actually happened to me and five years later it still sticks with me. 😕
@Nelson Robert Willismy condolences to you and your family. I hope the funeral was a beautiful send off for your dear sister. May she rest in peace. I send my love to you
That’s so fucking ignorant. I’m sorry you had to hear something like that while going through a tough time. (I’m not saying that everyone who says something like that is disrespectful. There are respectful and appropriate ways of going about it)
Good good. Let it stick with you forever. It might save your life someday. I'd go hug the person who said that to you. They truely love you.
YES PLEASE DON'T DO THAT
I’m sorry that happened to you. Some people feel awkward at funerals and say the most inappropriate things, even if they meant well. And, of course, some people are just jerks. Either way I hope you can let go of the pain eventually. Take care.
I am preparing for the funeral of my Uncle. He is my Uncle John funnily enough.
Thank you, you were a great man. RIP.
Honestly, same my Uncle John just passed and I came here to prepare. Life has a funny way of working out huh?
DISCLAIMER: this is not the time to talk about the farts of uncle john.
My name is John GUYY and I’m know for this
Well, it kind of depends on who you, uncle John, and his relatives are. When me and my relatives were at the hospital to have a final look at my grandmother who had just passed away, we talked very nostalgically about what she had done and how she had been in life, which for us obviously included mentioning and laughing about her increadible snoring. It was a very beautiful and comforting session for us all and I got to hang out with relatives who live far away and therefore don't see very often, especially not together at the same time.
Always so classy with your delivery of almost every subject for proper men’s behavior and attire.
Rip uncle John
Brilliant!! :-)
He had some nasty farts though
He had many problems with women aswell
@@r3ml3p41too many to mention 😢
If you’re the dead one in a funeral, its impolite to move
Haha
Lol dark humor
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YOU'RE TERRIBLE 😂😂😂
Thank you for the advice, I'll keep that in mind during my funeral tomorrow.
Well presented Sir....i remember the day back in 2012 when my nephew died....sometimes i still cry after remembering that incident.....i appreciate this video.....!!!
+Mandeep Baweja Thank you.
Great video, it helped me a lot. One addition. In Sweden (and maybe other parts of Europe as well??) a plain white tie is also appropriate to wear if you are a close relative to the deceased. A black tie works too, but from what I have understood that is more for the other attendants. These are the recommendations they give on Swedish funeral-sites. Anyway, thank you for handling this delicate subject so well.
Thank you. Got back and everything went well. My favorite piece of advise was to talk to the family and then leave.
Brilliantly presented, timely and sensitive. Your choice of music solidified the effectiveness of your information.
Yes, have *respect* at my funeral.
I would add that I have read that an important part of funeral etiquette is for friends of the deceased not to obtrude too much on the immediate family, but to keep a respectful distance, unless invited otherwise.
Agreed. In this case, let your simple, well mannered presence speak volumes for you.
I live in New Orleans and we have lots of jazz funerals here. My uncle wore a yellow fedora to the funeral.
+JuliusCaesar500 At the end of the day it is a personal event. If the deceased was an artist and wore nothing but colors and he always wanted a colorful funeral with Jazz music, then by all means, go ahead and do that. However, most funerals aren't like that.
Pius X the funeral/memorial is how we honor the deceased. If you are not taking their wishes into consideration when attending one then you are not honoring the individual.
During my aunt’s funeral service, the priest kept mispronouncing her name 4 different ways: Alice, Elise, Eleanor and Ella. My sister finally stood up and yelled at him: “Her name is ELSIE!”
Oof
Very well done and in a respectful manner. My deepest respect for your work and very pleased to be your follower.
Very important topic which I dealt with last year. We had a memorial service before a cremation and no funeral. We were honored that people came by in whatever they were wearing as many came to/from work. It is a small town and some people actually took time off work. Many didn't know to sign the guest book or to turn off their phones. The deceased had hated flowers and specifically requested no flowers at the service, he requested donations to his church. We assured the funeral home listed this in the announcements and when people contacted them for details. I was surprised that many ignored this and even called and argued with his widow. He had requested closed casket and they bullied her into open casket, which cost her and extra USD1000. Thankfully the chaplain who did the memorial service also knew the deceased request (he had many visits before the man's passing) and the situation and took the flowers to the church so the widow would not have to deal with them. A couple family relationships have still not recovered. I suspect that people are not learning about how to deal with the situation, it needs to be discussed more often.
Very well done in a respectful way. I like how you said it twice: “This is not about you.” That’s really important!
I would beg to differ with a couple of statements though......and I realize that funeral customs differ tremendously throughout the world.
First, you state that traditional funerals are gradually becoming extinct. While it is true that celebrations of life are becoming very popular, I don’t think traditional funerals will ever die out completely. Second, you stated that you shouldn’t be talking to anyone. While that certainly applies during the formal part of the service, my guess is that you have never attended an Irish wake! When you approach the next of kin to say your condolences, if you were in any way close to the deceased, or if you have come a long way, they will usually invite you to the family home. The family generally wants to have all their friends and relatives around them and they recollect, eat, drink and sometimes sing into the evening. My mother in particular used to enjoy these events, so when my parents died I made sure they had a good wake!
I think when he said “Don’t talk to anyone”, I think he meant to not talk to someone over the phone who is in no way part of the service.
Great Video of Funeral Etiquette
In our South-African culture,on the day of the Funeral,the coffin or casket of the deceased arrives either at the House,or Church,and then it is opened for viewing for at least 1 hour or 30 minutes,and then it is closed before it leaves the House to the Church,or before the opening procession inside the Church.
A very respectful video. This point is probably not going to affect most people but if anyone is tempted to wear a stroller suit/stresemann (black jacket and cashmere striped trousers) though historically and technically this would be accepted at a funeral, if you wore that at a funeral in the UK (in my case Scotland) you might be confused for an undertaker and thus one of the funeral organisers. Mourners now tend to wear dark suits and organisers wear strollers
Hello, brand new to your channel and I am really enjoying your videos. I’m a funeral director and I must say I’m very VERY impressed with this video. Thank you so much for covering this topic, it’s such a sensitive situation that I’ve had a lot of people ask me about, you presented the subject beautifully and it made me smile 🙂 thank you very much, sir.
Absolutely lovely video, presented in such a beautiful and respectful manor. Thank you so much.
I’ve just been to my pals funeral today it was very sad and your video helped me to prepare for the service 👍
I'm not well versed in these kinds of things. Thank you for posting the video. It was very helpful in a time of need.
As someone inexperienced to this but who knows a friend with a terminal disease, thank you. A welcome change of pace for the video.
Thanks for that, it was very tasteful and informative, as are all of your videos.
+Paul Verrangia Anytime.
In my hometown in Appalachia, it's a tradition to bring homemade food to a funeral. I'm sure a lot of cultures do that but it was odd going to a funeral and not being expected to bring food for the family
In my aunt's funeral most of the people there didn't wear black but they still showed respect to her by saying their condolences. I wore a black shirt and jeans since I couldn't find my dress pants.
I'm a big fan of the channel anyway but I was particularly impressed by how you addresses this topic.
Sehr schönes Video! Ich fande es sehr gut, dass sie so ernst geblieben und respektvoll damit umgegangen sind, Herr Schneider!
Grüße aus Stuttgart
~Dario Marić
Thank you for this informative video. I put an inappropriate outfit back in my closet and pulled my black suit. Much appreciated.
In my country usualy the funeral is divided in 2 parts. The wake, a place where the people who knew the deceased pay their respects, and the funeral, usually just atended by the family or really close friends of the deceased.
Usually the whole service is relatively casual compared to american funerals, as long as you wear dark'ish clothes you're fine, and usually the funeral home has a kitchen where people gathers and talks about the deceased and eat and drink something. When you leave the funeral home you pay your repects to the deceased.
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I found this video very helpful. Tomorrow I have to go to a funeral. I have a dark navy suit for just such an occasion, but it's not terribly suited for August weather. I could wear my summer suit or one of my summer blazers, but the colour schemes for those don't seem sombre enough for a funeral. I'll figure out something, but it made me think that if you're looking for a new topic to cover, doing a video on appropriate hot weather funeral attire would be timely, especially considering the fact that there will be many men attending funerals for COVID-related passings right about now.
I am a psychopath, and my nan had recently died, as of this message her funeral (memorial service) is coming up and I didn't know how to act at a funeral since a) I am a psychopath and b) its the first funeral I haver ever been to, so this has really helped thank you.
I will be wearing a purple tie since the theme of the service was purple my nans favourite colour.
This is a big culture shock for me.
In my country, we just wear regular clothes for funerals.
Thanks for the information, my friend.
Thank you for your sensitive and detailed video
The Queen diet today. I want to at least honour her death by showing a little bit of elegance, since she was the symbol of elegance and dignity. Honestly the news is heart-breaking. We all shall honour the queen in some way. I believe that an elegant lady should be treated with elegance even, after her passing. That’s why I ended up here. Thank you for showing me how to property say my last goodbyes.
I do wish that you had a ladies channel also. I have no clue about style or fashion.
You have however just helped amencly for my husband too be. Thank you.
Very well said. Thank you for doing a nice professional video like this. Its a very hard time.
We got lot's of these; when my Maternal Grandparents died (in Late January 2021 from the deadly Coronavirus pandemic; they died a week apart). We didn't know that there could be some many people paid their respects.
My great ant just pasted away the day in writing this, thanks for all your help.
This video was made very appropriately and respectfully. Thank you.
One thing you mustn't do: compliment the catering of the funeral.
Really. A guy in my college died, and I went to his funeral to sing (I was part of the church chorus then), after a few weeks, I found the family in a restaurant, met them and said "the service was so nice, I loved the juice".
It was very cringy, I don't know why I said it but it sticks with me.
A very classy video.
I'm sure you've helped many people through tough times with this.
This video is excellent help for me during a very difficult time. Ty.
Positively illuminating. I love this video.
Well done. Thank you, as usual.
Bravo. Fantastic video!
Real things i've seen: suggestions based on observation of over 100 funerals.
Do not put the casket in the back of a truck with the tailgate down and think 4 guys can hold it while going up a mountain!!. Since that won't work please don't have the 5th guy lay across the tailgate with his body to block the casket from going out of the back of the truck!!! Leave your cell phone in car. Ditch the casual look, PLEASE drop the gothic for a day!! or forever would be best! Don't get in a fist fight in the Funeral home or on the front row of the service, Don't come inside smelling like weed, or bud. or throw up in the funeral home from too many pain pills
don't curse at family or the pastor or priest at the grave side,
So when they ask you to play MUSIC(OR YOU IMPOSE YOURSELF TO PLAY)at the grave side. it's not your turn to play like your Guns and Roses, (IDIOT)
One dream team pulled up their trucks and played "we love this bar"
Meanwhile the poor mother, A very religious woman, Screamed and screamed in sorrow!
Please! don't wear flip flops and shorts as a PB,
MY SOUL MAN: AT A SUICIDE funeral DO NOT STICK A CIGAR AND BEER BOTTLE IN THE CASKET ::Be respectful of the Family! & Parents.
GET OUT of your PJ's!!!
and girls please wear more than a shirt, you may think it's ok at a funeral since everyone at the bar loves it. (BUT IT'S NOT)
Don't tell the love ones you know how they feel if you haven't experienced that kind of loss!
if your not religious: when you feel the need to have some religious leader help you. DON'T CURSE OR SCREAM AT THEM FOR being "religious"!
Matter of a fact: why don't you just get the stinking bar owner to preform the funeral!
If your over emotional teen is going to a funeral of a suicide, or tradgic teen death.
please go with them! It is a sick thing to see the poor mother, of the deceased, having to tend to the emotional needs of "friends" when they have suffered such loss.
(these people seemingly grieving more than family members--- overemotinal reaction is selfish attention seeking.)
One mother told me: "these (people-that's not what word she used) think it's their funeral to run. IT's NOT! My Child is dead!"
otto man Wow those are some interesting funerals you've witnessed.
otto man And rlly rude people to have to deal with. Kudos to this person.
Thank you for this post. It's really helpful
Was that all the same funeral?
Thank you for your guidence. Did have any idea of what to do. Thanks indeed.
Very well presented with respect and dignity. Thank you.
Well said, indeed. If I may ask, I would like to know the name of the dirge or melody? And thank you for uploading these well-made videos.
+oliver lönnberg Yes Oliver, the name of the melody would be great indeed :)
Did you find the song? I searched about one hour but I only found fast remixes using the melody
Well said. Very respectful.
Thankyou 🌷
The Farts of Uncle John is going to be the name of my new hipster folk band.
I searched for funeral attire, not etiquette... but this was #1
The music is beautiful❤
Times post-COVID this hits differently. Just yesterday I found out that a person I knew in my childhood died of the virus and then her husband followed about a month later. I kinda wish I would have been invited to the funeral.
Excellent. I think this will really help some people. Well presented.
Excellent advice, thank you
You are welcome!
At an "Orthodox" Jewish Funeral, After the Eulogies everyone waits for the Mourner to start the conversation. Then after the burial there is 7 Days of Mourning at Home. The Mourner does not work that week and Prayer Services are held throughout the week at the Mourner's home where people can come and listen to the Mourner talk about the relative.. People provide meals for the Mourners so that they will not have to cook or do anything.
I know nothing of funerals in the USA, but in the UK, they have changed beyond recognition during my lifetime. When I was young, a black suit or morning dress were the only options for men, with black hat held across the chest, and black or dark colours for women. In the last 20 years the dress code at every funeral I've attended has been bright colours, and donations to charity rather than flowers appears to have become the norm. We still keep our traditional funerals togs just in case, but I doubt we'll ever need them again, unless we choose to be buried in them.
This is wonderful, but I don't have most of those clothing items, and the memorial servive I'm going to is in the summer with 90° to 100° weather. So, most of those items won't work. I still don't know what to wear.
Rip to my late mother Miah Marie Zephier. 06/09/1972-07/02/2023 😢
Beautiful video.
Very nice video. Well done.
Actually, sending flowers is still the normal way of sending condolences where I live.
Great vid guys thanks. Worked for me.
I googled how to get rid of a corpse and I ended up here O_O
+John Doe Why would you google that...
+Gentleman's Gazette you've violated the bro code "don't ask, don't tell"
+Spoon I don't see a normal life person googling that...
I thought "Don't ask, don't tell" was the military protocol. 🙂
@@mikelao8434 Man we may be on a video about suits but it's not the 1800s, you can drop the "scoundrels" bit.
Very nice video. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you!
R. I. P Uncle John, 🙏💐🖤
Also, personal grooming is important. Wash, shave off stubble, brush your teeth, cut your nails and consider a haircut or at least wash your hair. Make sure your clothes are clean, your shirt is ironed and shoes polished. This is all obvious, yet I have observed every one of these failings.
Well done and helpful, thanks
Emotional and subtle video. Great.
I love the way he puts in dark satire and profanity but still manages to look as if he's getting away with it😂
Thank you very much for this video. I have shared it.
R.I.P My poor goldfish Garry
It’s been 6 years I’m sorry for your tragic loss
I'm going to my first funeral because of my Grandma Rossie passed away few days ago and I am broken as of this state I will be going to Florida for first time when my 2 aunts died I didn't go because everyone will think it's too sad or emotional for me even my dad, won't let me go at all to let me learn the first time.
I guess this is where the fun is real
Thank you.......as one who officiates at chapel and grave side service (25 yrs) I have seen it ALL. the subject of dress...well I can say this........on the most part people dress very respectively. But, on one occasion this young girl ( I would say she was in her yearly 20 yrs-------- wore a RED DRESS( shocking )AND HAT, CLOVES, SHOES......,.......SHE STUCK OUT LIKE A SORE THUMB. her so called friends came with her and they were dress like they were going to a ROCK concert!....... Another occasion was in the chapel at the funeral home this low class men dress in jeans, leather vest and head band and wearing side chains. Found out latter they were part of a motorcycle club.........Dr. Bob Lupinacci, PhD
Beautiful, well done. M.
Well done.
Well said,,thnks..
I don’t want etiquette at my “funeral”. I want to be an excuse for the people I actually like to get together, eat good food, and see what I was all about. Good music, living a life where you never stop improving, and treating the way others treat you. I don’t want my body present. I want them to remember me as a person not a body. My after party is gonna have laughter and love 🤘🤘 also if anyone says “fly high Austin” I’m coming back to haunt them.
Thank you for sharing.
You should make a video on Men's mourning wear......
Cool video. I will keep these things in mind for future reference.
Thanks my uncle died days ago and his funeral is on Monday... In two days....
Very good. Thank you
Until one has read "The Funeral Critic" one has no idea what "funeral etiquette" ought to be. For too long funerals have been too depressing and injurious to the living, whereas the whole point of a funeral is to CELEBRATE the life of the deceased and begin a healing process of the LIVING.
Thank you very much for such an informative video during such a sad time. May I please know the very moving melody/classical piece playing during the video?
+Joey H Thanks. You find the composer in the credits at the very end.
Did you find the song? I searched about one hour but I only found fast remixes using the melody
My Uncle John passed away recently so I found this video quite ominous...
Thank you G Easy
Do look sad. Do say they were a great person, regardless of the veracity of that claim. Don’t take a selfie with a finger in the deceased nose. Don’t try to work them like a puppet.