(I have bpd myself)I've never seen someone talk about the positive side of mental health issues, I cant even describe how grateful i am that you guys made this video to help educate people. It makes me feel less alone
Yeah most things make people with BPD look psychotic and only really talk about the manipulative weirdos and completely dysfunctional people. The rest of us that are sane, respectful, and quiet never get talked about. We just need some guidance so we don't turn into the dysfunctional ones xP
Same, I’m in the process of getting formally diagnosed but my specialist said that she’s leaning into the fact that I do have this condition. The hyper-empathy and loyalty here is super real, because I always strive to see the best in people regardless of their rocky past, however, I’m working on seeing myself in the same way.
I think I might have bpd. I've been thinking this since the age of 20. I'll be 23 this year. My boyfriend thinks I might have it too after doing his own research based off of my behavior. I want to get a diagnosis and I don't know where to go
i don’t think i’ve ever clicked a video faster than i did with this one. as someone with bpd i’m so happy to see a video like this. i’m excited to watch the whole thing ❤️
This video is particularly true for people who have BPD as a result of trauma. Once you accept your brain is actually working correctly and protecting you, even a psychotic episode. You then can appreciate the positives of BPD. Emotional connection is amazing.
@@1968leg There are no positives. Borderlines have a feeling of emotional connection. They don't actually connect. That's why they often continue the cycle of trauma onto others.
I've recently been diagnosed with BPD and I've been feeling down for the past four days.. And this video literally warmed my heart... I don’t know if I can ever thank you guys enough for what you do... Love you Psych2Go 💖
Nothing wrong with been BPD, is part of our reuro diversity. We need to learn to navigate in our modern society. This video is amazing, we have a lot of positive trails, people learn to love you for what you’re. Everyone has baggage and we accept them. I try to be a better person every day but other must try too. I send you a lot of support and encourage. My only advice, say I’m sorry as soon as you realize you hurt someone with your mood swings. Sometimes we say things that we don’t mean it, and I can’t why I said it.
I have bpd according to my therapist and psychiatrist and it’s been a process accepting this, BUT I think sometimes it’s a super power. And hell, if I can survive this, and learn to overcome it and live with it, kudos to me and everyone else who can too. There are good traits to it c: it doesn’t have to control you nor does it define you. There is always hope :D
I'm not usually one for over sharing but I've just finished my first week of chemotherapy and I won't lie I'm scared of how it's affecting me, but your enthusiasm for the topic helped put my mind at ease. So thank you, you have no idea how much I needed this today
You are strong, remember that your mind is stronger than everything, so practice ways to cure what you can with thoughts, manifestation and positive energy. So your way through this becomes easier, happier and it might even cure you faster, I believe you can control many aspects of your body with your mind (it takes time, believing and practice)
@@anthonyszymon3032 Thank you for sharing. Over the last 50 years, I've lots of experience with loved ones having cancer and hiv, I've seen information & support help immensely. Treatment has improved a lot. I hope your treatments go well. a friend of mine recommended a healer and caster for me, she helped me out.
I've never been officially diagnosed with BPD. But I have a feeling that I do have it. Every explanation of BPD perfectly describes how I've been since I was a kid...
Since U was a Kid? BPD often shows not until you grow up. Most ppl get symptoms when there 20 or older. BPD signs are often confused with other common illnesses like ADHS / (c)ptsd / autism / BAS. Pls dont self diagnos yourself and Go see a therapist :) (sry for my english, i tried my best)
@@mandelkk2200 by kid I mean when I was teenager into my early 20s. Also, I am not self diagnosing because there's a good chance I could be wrong, but I could right too. Either Way, it is just a feeling that maybe...
I've been diagnosed with BPD a year ago, the process to accept and try to keep up with life on a daily basis but seeing videos like this honestly brings me to tears. I am 17, and it's a challenge going through high school with this, everyone tags you as someone weird but seeing that somebody believes we have nice traits it's beautiful. My heart is filled with joy and happiness. A big hug from Chile
you will come out of this with more light, more love and more healing towards yourself and people involve in this process... Love light and blessings:)
Being diagnosed so early in your life is such a blessing! I myself have struggled unknowingly for many many years and am relieved now knowing what's going on and wish I had known it earlier! ☀️
I was diagnosed with BPD since my teenage. Spent my whole life fighting this disastrous disorder. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment did wonders in my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here. and mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on this planet i wish people would all realize. they could solve a lot of problems, more than just mental treatments, environmental clean up; the possibilities are endless with fungus.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.
I agree with the loyalty... but personally, I show that there is intense loyalty until situations, emotions, or other things start to go wrong and build up inside, then the bad overtakes the good, and one self-sabotages the relationship... a BIG negative in BPD. But, we try, and we move. Thank you for a beautiful, re-assuring video
Loved this! I have always wanted to work in social work, but always hesitated because of my BPD. It was until recently I realized that having BPD is actually a pro instead of a con because of our compassion and empathy. I am finally pursuing my mental health and social service degree! Can't wait to graduate and start helping others.
Don't. BPD is no "superpower". Since when is a negative disability beneficial? That is twisted, borderline-esque logic right there! Especially since "evil for the sake of evil" is the innate modus operandi of BPD, and narcissits (defence against their extremely fragile, delusional, empty-ego)! Personality offsets the extent of the disorders, hence it manifests differently.
Thank you for this. I am on the borderline spectrum and I could relate to all of these points except being energetic because I also suffer from chronic depression and anemia. It was nice to see someone say nice things about BPD, not just bad things.
As someone with BPD I got to admit that I've never recognized these things as something "special" - I thought everyone is able to be as empathetic, good at managing other peoples crisis and having a bigger amount of resilience. It's beautiful to see someone talk about these things as "positive traits" for something that's negatively covered. Thank you for this video ❤️
thank you for this video, im actually doing a speech about BPD in my class! from what i read, i hope people with bpd are okay and know we’re with them if they need help, but even if someone doesn’t have it, the same thing. may god bless you all :)
Jim Carrey has spoken about depression before many times and lives with it but he'll always make us smile no matter what with BPD without being diagnosed officially.
TW: suicide Thank you, thank you so much for sharing this video. Ive felt very hopeless with my condition. My former partner kept telling me that i never change and never tried when really I've tried everything, countless therapists, meds, and self help books to help me get better. The internet doesn't help either as I keep reading people 'survived' someone with BPD. That they don't recommend having relations with us. It left me so hopeless that I'll forever destroy other people's lives because of this condition. I even tried to end it all yesterday. So thank you. Maybe i can start over again now with a new hope.
It's because BPD is traditionally seen as one of the "dangerous" diagnoses. It's us, antisocials and schizophrenics that are considered dangerous and therefore stigmatised something awful...
My Mom had BPD. I wish she could have saw this after she was diagnosed. She wanted to be an author and script write. She only ever heard and was told the negative aspects of it. I think she believed it wouldn't allow her to be successful. But a few weeks ago I realized some of the most creative, outgoing, and successful people in the creative world are nerodivergent. I hope those watching this with BPD realize how awesome and cool you really are! My mother had many issues with her BPD and addiction, but everyone in my family knew she was the most loving, caring, and empathic person to grace my family tree.
I think this will be the only time I will ever comment on a TH-cam Video. I was diagnosed recently with BPD and everything has felt so much harder lately. I am glad that I finally have a diagnosis that explains what Ive always felt and have been feeling for so long, but getting this diagnosis has been incredibly isolating. No one usually talks about the positive things about BPD, and only hearing negative things when learning about the mental illness that I have has sent me into a dark spiral. I really needed to see this video and know that there are some positives when it comes to BPD. For the first time in a long time I actually feel better and hopeful. Thank you so much for making this video I love yall sm
I was diagnosed with BPD traits in my early 20's, but my doc never told me until a few months ago, during a session in which I pretty much diagnosed myself, and he admitted I was right and said he never told me because of the social stigma BPD can cause and because of the fear knowing to have It can cause, but I was aware of this, felt just a bit dizzy for a couple of days, and then everything clicked in the right position in my brain. Now I have an explanation for a lot of stuff I did in the past, good and bad things, and I know better now that if I survived the lowest points in my life as a BPD, I Will survive in the future. Also, as the video points out, when I am in a good mood I experience almost superhuman feelings of joy and strenght. BPD really is a superpower if you know how to use It and accept the bad moments for what they are: Just a price to pay for being helpful and inspiring for others, for being able to feel much deeper love, joy, euphoria. We are restless warriors and precious people, always remember that!!!
Good evening, bpd fellas! I recently had another one of those “crashes”, and now I am back! I wish all of you the best, and remember, you are NEVER ALONE, and every thing you feel is VALID❤❤❤. Btw, absolutely LOVED the video, it arrived at the perfect time. Thanks a lot for caring guys!❤❤❤
There is a narcissist that I know. Absolute drama, all the damn time. All you need to do is remember to breathe and know there are people out there ten times worse than you think of yourself.
Good video, but some thoughts on a couple of points. Loyalty, especially when forged from bpd can be a double-edged sword. I love intensely, but it's also intertwined with idealization, which causes me to either pull away or lash out. People with bpd can love so much that it causes a great sense of grief, and it can quickly turn to anger and resentment when they don't get what they want from the people they love. I'm certainly not energetic. BPD causes me to have severe, treatment resistant depression, so I simply feel like a burden. I and many with the disorder can become emotionally burned out trying to solve other peoples' problems, thinking it will validate them in some way. I've grown more numb to the plight of others, due to feeling like my efforts weren't reciprocated and I've pulled away from people to shield me from further harm. I think all of the points are valid, but they come with caveats.
YES! I have quiet bpd, and I'm like if a therapy dog was a person. also, I'm a digital illustrator, and I swear any illustrations I put my ENTIRE mood swing into turn out as some of my best. I have a couple pieces from over a 2 years ago, and I've improved SO much since then, but I made them when I was feeling either my worst or most manic, and still consider them to be some of my best. They're proudly displayed near the top of my portfolio! A lot of neurodivergent people around me wish they could be neurotypical, and trust me I understand, and I am quite honestly in a PRIVILEGED enough position that my BPD and ADHD haven't been much worse for me, but I'm not sure I would have it any other way. When it's bad it's awful, but on the other end, I feel like I'm able to experience deeper connection to people than neurotypicals neurologically can, and when things are going good, and my coping strategies are working, it can be a beautiful thing.
That is SO true. I was baffled when I discovered other people didn't feel so strongly about their friends and relationships in general. I discovered I am more sensitive to light than (apparently) most. And a little to sound as well. I don't feel the need to label myself anything but hypersensitive at this point. Because I feel like if someone close to me had taken the time to help me with these strong emotions and sensations.. And through other traumatic events.. This disorder wouldn't have happened. I think deep down we are all like the video describes. And then the way the world has dealt with our intensity, and vice versa, is what made us sick. We have such incredible minds, open, creative, feeling..
@@guesswho5790 prefacing this by saying: hoo boy this turned into the most bpdhd rant of all time about the nature of the human condition, i wouldn't blame you if you don't want to read through it. I almost erased it and started over but eh, what the hell. original comment: mhm! for example, adhd was likely a desirable trait in humans before we became settlers. hypersensitivity also doubles as high sensory perception, people with adhd tend to intuitively catch on to skills that require working with one's hands, intuition, and senses such as tool crafting, foraging, and hunting. I believe bpd symptoms could potentially be much the same, and the negative ones are a product of the way we live now. black and white thinking could lead to a strong sense of solidarity within the group that they are part of, while being less hesitant to act on perceived outside threat. I think the issue is that we live in a very disconnected society. that applies to interpersonal connections, as well as the existance of smaller, more closely knit groups having some benefits we've given up for the sake of modernization. the biggest i can think of is allowing people to work in ways they're actually good at, rather than forcing every lower class worker's nose into the same, or very similar grindstone unless they're fortunate enough to be able to make it through self employment. I'm by no means a primitivist, i think the ways humans have advanced are absolutely incredible, though I do have to think that honestly MUCH of psychiatry is a result of neurodivergence that was once accepted with compassion, largely regardless of if it gave specialized abilities or was disabling, now being indicative of a defective drone. As someone who is also transgender, I choose to believe in the relative compassion of all working class people, even those who want me dead. of course, if someone is a physical threat to my safety because i dared to exist in public they are still scum, but I'm not sure I can blame them entirely either. it's the fault of the ruling class who have a vested financial interest in cultivating an oppressed class through directly producing ableist, racist, xenophobic, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic propaganda. we live in a global economy built on war and cheap thrills for those of us just trying to get by, of course we're all mentally ill. both those who are fighting for acceptance and those who are fighting for some perverted concept of tradition they've been brainwashed into have a lot of the same problems. we all divide ourselves and others into smaller demographics until we don't have enough people fighting with us to do anything meaningful. to do anything productive we have to band together in our humanity, shed these preconceived bigotries, forgive those who have taken those steps to educate themselves and change for the better, and stand together as people who refuse to be divided and made to fight against each other any longer. but that feels so insurmountable. i think in that hopelessness, it's really important for people to create, unapologetically, with no expectation to be compensated. I'm too scared right now, but I think street art is one of the most amazing forms of art in the world. the idea that it cost someone their material safety to put there, in the hopes that someone or anyone would be moved by it, knowing they would never even know that person's name
My BPD friends were the sweetest and most caring I’ve ever met. They changed my life helping me to overcome self harm. They never believed it themselves but they were amazing, beautiful people.
Really needed to see something positive about BPD today. Definitely agree with this list, especially when it comes to being passionate, resilient (I had a manager once say she didn't know how I was still going someday after everything I've gone through" and creative :)
I have been diagnosed with bpd and this video literally made me cry, tears of joy ❤. I‘m having a really bad episode right now and I feel like I’m loosing all the progress I made over the last 2 years since my worst episode. Thank you for reminding me of the good aspects about being neurodivergent, remembering my higher self or „superpower“ really helps me do get back into that healthy mindset, the normal mode we bpd people feel we sometimes only can hold for a couple of hours. Reminding me of these really helps me to get thru the day and makes the moments where I’m the person I want to be longer and more sustainable, hopefully until the day where I can say I love myself and if let go of my trauma ❤️🫶
I am so happy to see this! When I was diagnosed I got supper happy, "I literally have a manual with instructions online and medicines to help me! I can work now!" But then all I saw online was a list of all the worse of me, the things I had years of work, by miself, to hide. It was not easy. Also, we see lots of videos were people sheer their terrible experiences with bpd and how people with bpd are terrible, how is hard to date them, and even professionals saying those stuff! Suddenly I felt like a monster, so many people hate who has bpd! We are "manipulators, possessive, crazy, selfish..." This are de dark side that I always run away... And that was all that people could see as soon as I share my "condition". I had to tell my boyfriend in the beginning, I tell people because I need the to understand when my mood change to the oposit suddenly... People get confuse so I try to explain. Then they look online. Then they see only the worse. This video makes me really happy, it shows the part that I like and love, the part that makes me happy of being who I am. It is hard to deal with the bad days and all the "craziness" thoughts, that, even if you know that are crazy you believe on it. But with the treatment... I really love the person I am and without bpd I would not be me. I love my empathy, my creativity, how I can fully embrace and make people that I love feel understood and valid. Thank you to reminde us of that. Thank you to share one content to help see more than the bad... Cause, for real, the love that I have for "my art" (writing), Is the best thing. I love my intensity, I love how I can use it to explain and give more sides to my characters... If you have bpd... I think you are kind of lucky. If you take your treatment serious (no energetic and no alcohol are really important folks, sorry but is true) you really start to love yourself. And appreciate you more. I always knew my life was hard... But now I feel so proud to myself for being able to endure to 27y with no help! And with the anxiety medicines... If my young me could know how "normal" thinking can be... Well... The time by myself made me really appreciate the treatment and love miself and trust the love of people around me. I really hate when I see people with bpd that don't value the treatment and don't put effort on that. Or that know that there is a treatment, and choose not to persue it. I know that is hard to start, to move, to take action... But now that I know the "sun", I really hate to see people in the dark. Go get treatment my loves! For real... Life will always be hard... But with more stable emotions everything is better. Even the bad days. Is all easier.
Omg!! Your coment made my day... you made me feel that the same level of intense and empathic person as of me is sending me a warm hug through their kind words.. Love light and blessings your way thank you for your comment it felt like a warm hug to me..😇🤗
@@christinewilcox6857 well, each bpd person have particularity. In my case I use a medicine to stabilize my humor and a anti-anxiety medicine. But only medicine is not enough, Is also good lots of self care, online study and look for videos that help to deal with emotions. I use internet a lot to help me, I write my feelings with details until I get tired and realize that... I don't care, Is so silly to spend so much on that! A jornal help me a lot. Each person find their way... but you have to look and try to improve. Medicines and therapy are great, I truly don't think I could live without my medicines. I always take them with care, and if I use anything that interact with them (energetics, alcohol...) I see the difference. Eat well, sleep well, take your medicine and accept yourself. Be your own best friend, encourage you, also remind yourself that you don't need to be more than you are, that you are doing your best and respecting your limits. That each mistake is a learning chance and that people are able to forget and forgive. And, if they are not, why do you need them in your life? Life naturally filtrate who stays... work hard on being your self support, and surround yourself of people who can appreciate you... but remember that you have to do the same for them. Internet have all kinds of asmr and raike videos that calm me a lot... And I think that is it for me. Just... I don't do therapy. I would like to, I would like to improve... but I didn't find someone that I like... this is terrible to say, I know, but therapy helped me a lot in the beginning. Oh! Also, find what is really bringing you your intense feelings! Understand yourself is REALLY important, for you and for others. Even with the medicines, once my father moved a plant from the kitchen window to the window by my bed. He said that I was not watering on the window but by my bed I would do that. I snapped and get irrationally angry at him that day (I usually hate when people move my stuff aroud and my dad does not live with me, but even though was too much anger), then I had time by myself and realized... I was not angry because he move my plant! I was angry because I live in the house that my grandmother used to live when she was alive.... and that was the place where she put this specific plant: by the window kitchen. As soon my grandma died the house change a lot, they exchange the mobile, etc... her room was not there anymore, her sofa, her... but there was where she put that kind of plant, and was a plant I use to buy for her. Being able to understand I felt lass crazy and unfair, I was also able to explain my reaction to my father and he even thanked me. My grandma was his beloved mother. Now that plant is always by the window, and even if she is dry, she will always stay there... and when I look at her I realize how this is important to me... and feel that my grandma is still around. That plant give me a sense of normality. And I don't feel embarrassed by my reaction anymore. How we feel, how we react... there is always a reason, and we need to get over the embarrassment and think about the feeling, understand it. Sometimes you realize is something selfish and silly... but the reason is always easier to deal than a "irrational" feeling or reaction. This for me is really important. Love yourself is not about have a great self-esteem, Is about support. Is about be patient with yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself... be to yourself the same that you would be for the person you love the most. This kind of care will make you love yourself. And will make you love others more... also, will make you protect yourself from people that is no worthy, the same way you protect a friend
I am in tears watching this! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I have been going through something recently and have been spirialing and this video just HELPED ME OUT SO MUCH!! It's hard to focus on the good with this diagnosis when you're in crisis. But thank you so much, truly.
Usually this disorder is always seen as "negative" and always angry or over emotionally only even manipulative. BPD is also hard to diagnose and very rare for some people with it to find someone to stay.
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee bipolar have more mood swings and can't control their emotions usually when they go to those manic highs and lows. BPD usually knows what's going on but can't help it. Honesty they are more similar to hyper sensitive people.
@@keip4568 BPD has more mood swings than bipolar. Bipolar mood swings *at most* occur in the span of weeks. Borderline mood swings can occur within seconds. Borderline is also much more difficult to live with. I say live with, because unlike bipolar, medication doesn't help regulate BPD. You just have to learn to deal with it, and it's pointless trying to fight the mood swings. Note: I'm not saying that bipolar is, nor that any mental illness is easy to live with, just that medication doesn't really help with Borderline.
BPD both broke me and motivated me to heal. It's like seeing heaven without dying and meeting the devil without trying, with both trying to talk to you
Timestamps 1). Borderline empathy paradox 1:27 2). Creative 2:37 3). Loyal 3:41 4). Resilient 4:35 5). Energetic 5:13 6). Passionate 5:50 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
The intro is true. This helps me accept myself more, and labelling brings me a sense of settling. I’ve always known i have some sort of mental issue; but the earliest diagnosis on my depression back in grade 7, feels really outdated (i’m in first year, college). And i’ve always doubted if i have bipolar, or this bpd. And, thanks. I love these traits of mine, when hearing someone else saying them like this. Thank you. And yes, accepting that i have a fear of abandonment can be challenging. I’m learning. Still learning, ever learning. You got this, fellow humans, and fellow BPD-havers. What worse could happen, after all that you survived. Trust me, i’m a good witch (with BPD) lolol
I'm in the process of being diagnosed with bpd, it's been a long arduous process and it hit me like a sledgehammer when I was first asked if I'd peen referred prior for it by my GP. I cried watching this because I didn't think there could be a positive side to it. Thank you for this
Absolutely beautiful video! I have experienced all of these traits through my lenses. These feelings often are a huge inspiration for my music! I also feel lucky to have a wife also having BPD. The beginnings were rough (2 BPD in a bucket, sounds like disaster), but she is the most honest, helpful, caring and generous person I know. After 4 years of being together it is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I often feel extremely lucky to have found somebody to be able to feel and understand me in such a deep fashion. ❤Thank you waifu! ❤
As someone with BPD, thank you so much for making this video. I’ve never seen or heard anyone talk about the positives of having borderline, so this is so refreshing and can help educate so many people, as they probably have only heard the negative side of the disorder. As hard as it is to navigate life with the struggles we have to deal with as people with BPD, at least in my personal experience, the positives like being overly empathetic and knowing how to help others in times of need make it a little more bearable. All of these strengths that come with it have become the things I love most about myself and what makes me proud to be me. To anyone who thinks they may have BPD or have been recently diagnosed, you are not alone and you are not what society thinks you are just because you have a mental health disorder. There are going to be things in life that neurodivergent people may not have to deal with, but because you may have to, it will only make you stronger. You will be okay. ❤️❤️❤️
This video and the other one about 9 things you should know about BPD. My friends said thank you so much. As it has helped them to understand me so much more and be able to be there for me more. It’s improved my relationships. And it has helped me to feel more normal. Something that is so normal and natural to me is alien to others. Thank you
can you do a video on positive traits of anti social personality disorder? I think itd be a great way to show we arent all just heartless sadists. Alot of us are just very logical and grounded in reality and self aware of alot of manipulation tactics EVERYONE does
had to add, the best people for jobs like doctors, and surgeons because of the "lack of empathy" and the drive to do the best job and not get emotional, (and other jobs that are necessary for society) and there is A LOT of the population with this diagnosis in the society that no one will suspect they have it- especially because of the high-status jobs and logic and i think self-control more than most regular people because of the self-aware, statistic everyone knows someone who has it. the stigma is only because the diagnosis is in the public eyes connected with those who commit crimes (those who also suffer from trauma and bad childhood) so it's known to the media. and most of the diagnoses are for people that search for help for depression and found out they have an anti-personal disorder. if i will be sick and needed a doctor to save my life i would absolutely trust more of a doctor with this diagnosis. (i have bpd, its not a biased opinion, just something I'm interested in and done my research, it's very unfair to watch) so agree 100% ! sorry for the misspells, I'm not an american.
I find people without empathy but still care somehow to be the most fascinating thing ever xD Unfortunately I'm pretty sure ASPD only comes as a diagnosis after a crime has been committed right? They sure kinda screw people over with most disorders that are just trying to live decent, Normal lives.
@@RaptureDragon1 Its morso that our empathy works differently. Some sociopaths do care about a select few people like family, friends, pets, maybe even groups of people like the homeless while also being able to treat everyone else like chess pieces without remorse. Even those we actually care about, I could move on quickly if they died. I have softer spots for people who have autism and are HSP, in a way where I should coach them on how to survive in this cutthroat world, doesn't mean I wont try to con them out of 10 dollars though.
@@yeajjjjjj sociopath is a loaded and misunderstood word. as BPD technically im a sociopath too because i can just choose to do horrible things at any moment if i wanted to lol. used to not be that way but society and commie politics have made me that way (I FOOOKING HATEEE COMMIES REEE especially the CCP right now.) i remember watching a documentary about a guy with ASPD and he was describing his dads death that same way, he knew he was gone forever and never coming back, but he didnt feel bad about it, he just thought "thats the way things are now" its such a foreign concept to me because i get emotional over the stupidest shit as a guy because the BPD. i shed tears over the dumbest movies sometimes xD
i don't understand what's bpd from what I've read, but my feelings do change quickly, and swing from extreme closeness to extreme dislike. thankyou for talking about the positive aspects and the brighter side of a mental health issue; it's soo relieving and many people seem to find it warm ♡
@@man_5i thank you, my partners been diagnosed w bpd recently and were both trynna make it work w lots of communication and “dbt skills”. so my advice for you is, dont try to stay silent/manage it all by urself in your current situation. talk to someone u trust and find a solution through therapy. i know its hard, exhausting & very uncomfortable, but trust me, being stuck w this kinda mental disorder is worse. i believe in u stranger.
I’ve been diagnosed today. It’s the first time they even start mentioning it to me I’ve been looking at videos reading books the whole day and it all seems so negative 😫 Thank you for this ❤️
My goodness this made me cry. Thank you for this video. Its easy to only see the negative in my BPD. I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY. ONE MORE THING. WE WORK HARD IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY EVEN IF ITS JUST TO GET A SMALL LAUGH OUT OF THEM.
This is so beautiful that it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for this video. I've never seen or heard anyone explain the positive sides of bpd which mainly made me see the negative side of it....until now!❤
I've had BPD since my mid teens. Early on,I was barely functional and crippled by it. Now, in my mid 30s, I'm far less intense. The secret is to find something that matters to you to distract yourself with. For me that was going back to college and determining to learn a new language from a culture I love to the point of fluency (and over time, I was even able to combine the two passions!). I still have symptoms including ones that seriously negatively impact me, but finding something to do with my time and energy other than spiral or over focus on others made an 80% improvement in my condition. It's the Buddhist concept of monkey mind - there's a monkey living in a cage in your head and if you don't keep it busy, it'll start throwing excrement around and destroying everything.
I was recently diagnosed with it so learning this will help me a lot with my healing process, I got over my PTSD and it's encouraged me to get my other issues resolved
the part about being passionate about something brought tears to my eyes. I have always felt like i was just a "nerd" because once i like something, i like it 100% i want to learn the ins and outs of it and master it
I have BPD I felt relieved because I knew that I wasn’t going crazy but I hate how I have it because nobody understands what it’s like they just think I’m dramatic or crazy but hearing the positive side of BPD gives me hope to keep going 💕
I think more of us need to come forward with our stories of BPD and how it effects our lives. This is very complex and hard at times to understand. I found this video to be very educational and informative Thank you! 🕊☮I love the art work!!
I have EUPD (BPD), CPSTD, Autism. It’s so strange others don’t understand how loyal and caring we can be. I just want to give others the smile, shine, support, love, gifts, fun I never got. But I always mess it up.
Thank you! I have bpd and currently I've been struggling a lot... I just feel like sh*t 99% of the time... this video really cheered me up a bit cause it's true but I just can't really see it most of the time...hearing someone say it... just thank you!
Sometimes i feel like i have BPD, but now i'm in therapy, i want to know what's with me and My mental health, i hope everything gets better and I hope to find an answer to my doubts.
This video is right in so many level. I'm not sure about energetic though. It so true they can empathize, care for others etc. But often they do get hurt when others stab them in the back. And it's soo true if a BPD person is made upset....yeah it can be sooo challenging 😰
Such a wonderfully positive video about borderlines, who so very often get vilified in the media, especially after the Depp Vs Heard trial when it was revealed Amber Heard has BPD. I think the stigma against the disorder is worse than ever before, so content like this is really important. Thank you!
What I love is that there are finally terms that can help people make sense of "their nature" terms like "neurodivergent." Not everyone has the same brain makeup/chemistry, We're all have our own unique challenges and super-powers.
@@shotjohnny BPD is already extraordinarily difficult to treat, selling it as a superpower is like telling a paranoid schizophrenic they're uniquely gifted and that's why they're able to hear the ants in the wall. It's a way of softening reality and buying further into the distortions that perpetuate the disorder, not a way of understanding what is actually occurring.
This video made me cry. It’s extremely moving to hear positive things about BPD. I don’t meet the criteria because my behavior is effective now but I still feel things as intensity and I am grateful for that. Thank you for this video
I dont have a diagnosis due to personal problems I feel like i have bpd not only because of this video but because some people told me that something is wrong about me and stuff i cant even visit a psychologist to know exactly what is wrong why the heck am i saying it here i just wanted to tell that your videos are very helpful
It's beautiful to be able to see the rose for its thorns that such an isolating, horrific, and painful condition can also aid a person to be truly, genuinely kind, and support from experience. I find and remind myself, for all the suffering my mental health has endured, I have the experience to talk to just about anyone, no matter how bad their life and situation is. I think that's beautiful, too.
This video made my day & night as it gave me the opportunity to see the good aspects of something that I always consider negative when having BPD. I never connected my emphatic, creative and endless energy as a positive aspect of this disorder and I am glad that Psycho2go made this revealing video about it. I am on tears of joy and sadness but I know that maybe our mission is to balance the mood of others or simply cheer them up and create more understanding and less judgment. Big hug to all the creators of this channel, I learnt a lot about myself and others throughout all the information that you spread. Big hug to all my BPD soul brothers and soul sisters in this wonderful journey called life ❤
It was midterm exams and my lovely grandfather passed away and actually i become a emotional support person for my mother, aunt and grandmother and could barely grief, on that moment i was feeling pain but it took me one day to get over it and study for my exam and on that moment i thought that somethings wrong with me. how can i get over this tragic this quick? and now you guys mentioned it on video, i had no clue that it was related to BPD, by the way im self diagnosed and all of the other signs that you said, i and my friends say to me and now im kinda loving BPD, cause they say if you love your mental issue it will become easier to you.. ;)
Well, this made me cry. Got diagnosed back in late 2020, and while I've learned to handle my emotions it can still feel like a lot sometimes. So thanks for reminding me how far I've come.
Thank you so so much for this. I have recently been diagnosed with BPD and have really been struggling with this diagnosis. It was so helpful to see something saying it CAN be a positive. Thank you thank you
When I was diagnosed with BPD it was a relief. It explained so many things in my life and it gave me a lot of tools to manage my condition.Thank you for this video
Thank you for this video. BPD can be difficult to handle for anyone close to the person, and especially as the person themselves. It never helps when many healthcare professionals themselves have such a skewed view of BPD, making it intimidating to get help when you need it sometimes, or even admitting that you are diagnosed with the disorder. We need more videos like these to educate the general population. DBT saved my life, unfortunately I had to go to the other side of the country to get the therapy. Many people haven’t gotten the same opportunity as I have and thus there is a lot of untreated BPDers out there. Untreated, this was unmanageable for me, and I know I made life hard for those around me, even though it was never intentional. If you have been diagnosed with BPD I would highly recommend Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. If it is not offered in your area, advocate for it.
This is a light in the tunnel since I recently got diagnosed with BPD, I felt relieved to finally find an answer on why I act like I act, however I was scared for what could imply, but the video gave me things to see as a bright part of myself
I have been diagnosed with BPD and I cried watching this. After knowing that I have BPD, it felt a curse. I researched for solutions, and even in this day and time, there is still no known cure for it. But this video made me realize that maybe the cage that I'm trapped in is not so bad after all.
Thank you so much for this video. I've read so many literature about bpd since I got diagnosed and I've never found positive perspective of it. So thank you again! It helps a lot in finding some self love and chanalizing that negative traits into positive outcomes. I have questions though... I can find myself in every trait you mentioned here except one small part in the last trait. I do get very passionate and people I'm surrounded with think I "desappear" in anything I'm passionate about. They also think I'm exaggerating and crossing my bounderies (I sometimes forget to meet my physical needs such as eating, drinking or even using a toalet). And they're right. I actually love this trait but I can't say I'm following my passions, and I definitely need someone to push me and motivate me to follow them, because it seem I can't do it by myself. I think it's because I have too many of them so I can't do all of them and because of my all-or-nothing way of thinking, I end up doing nothing I'm passionate about... ? Or I'm burned out because it's so hard for me to find balance between my job, hobby and relationships (familly, friends, girlfriend) and because when I do start to do something I'm passionate about, I'm on a highway to burn out sindrom because I don't respect my own bounderies. ? Or I'm "chameleonizing" with my girlfriend, so it's hard for me to distance myself from her interests and needs in order to let myself get lost into smthng I'm passionate about. ? It's so confuzing but I think I'm on the right track in this analysis. Am I? Could I be right about all three possible explanations? Are there more of them? Anyway, my heart calls for some creative projects, but somehow I always end up not doing any of it. I know I have that in me and that I can be succesful in everything I'm passionate about, if I just put my energy, time and effort in it, but I simply don't do it. (Maybe because it means I have to sacrifice my time with my girlfriend??). Speeking of girlfriend I'm very passionate in this relationship and I often find myself between two "flames" - I want to spend time with her as much as possible, she's my centre (I know it's not good for me of our relationship - I am working on it), but I also want to do my creative projects and I simply can't prioritize because whatever I choose, I'll feel regret because I haven't choose another. So one excludes the other. And that drives me crazy and pushes me into dark places of my mind... Does this sound familliar to anyone? Is this normal for someone with bpd? How do I overcome this? I'm in therapy (gestalt) over two years now and I still can't seem to find the answer that works for me and finally make that step foreward...
Thank you for highlighting some positivity in a sometimes controversial subject. Cant be shouted enough for people that suffer mentally they need motivational support.
We definitely try to raise awareness as well so thank you @Psych2go for your work very well done. If you struggle with BPD as I have feel free to reach out for support, to vent and have a listener or for advice if you want & need. Just support.
I have heard of BPD as just a generalized disorder. It was tossed around a lot when I used to watch TikTok more. Now I understand about what it ACTUALLY is. And...I think it hits a lot in me that I haven't be able to explain before. Imma show this to my boyfriend and see his reaction. He is very in tune to me, so he'll understand more than I can.
Diagnosed finally. What a relief to understand why I am so not like "normal" ppl. Understand a whole lot more of my life now. Can cope better, also 💪🙏😘
Watching this video as someone with BPD this really got me emotional 😭💗… I’ve been so hard on myself lately, and I’ve been really wishing I didn’t have BPD.. but this video really helped me when I really needed it
Oh this just made me cry uncontrollably the whole video lmao. I was diagnosed 3 years ago now I think with me being confirmed I have had BPD. And anytime I see videos like this that twist the narrative to a positive look just makes me remember and cry lmao.. Great job ^_^.
I remember a artist on deviantart who had bpd I never got close with her but she is one of the sweetest people I seen. The creativity and hyper empathy she had with her artwork and how she interact with people was positive. She also wasn't afraid to talk about her experiences with bpd. I talked to her about it I admitted to her BPD did sound like tough mental condition though I wasn't sure if tough is the right word. She responded and said "Yeah tough is the right word cause how I feel can get intense at times."
I was diagnosed after 3yrs of psychotherapy, so releaved to know, what I've been dealing with my whole life. Daily routines, mindfullness and meditation helps me. I also write a daily journal and poems for my own amusement. Do things you like to do, it will make you feel better ❤
Thank you, I've recently discovered that I have BPD very suddenly, but for me it was a very crushing discovery, and I had a breakdown over it. I saw the worst sides, like having no stable relationships, being instable, chaotic and sometimes unintentionally rude. having no clear pattern of behaviour s. I thought it was the cause of all my problems in life. So this helped me see that I'm not alone and that it's ok, and it's my trait that makes me my own person
(English isn't my first language, sorry) siempre he sentido una conexión especial con este canal, llevo años siguiendo su canal y este año en particular he notado muchas coincidencias bonitas, temas y preocupaciones de interés salen justo al tiempo que lo necesitaba, en especial con este video, mi color favorito es el violeta y tengo diagnóstico de TLP (BPD), así que me encantó la miniatura de este video, sentí que fue justo para mí y el video en sí igual me gustó bastante!! 💜 Muchas gracias, en serio :')
The more videos and info I take in about bpd, the more a LOT of things begin to add up. I even align with this positive list, though for me the energy is less of a jittery hyperactive energy and more endurance energy, like pretty much insomnia levels of staying awake, usually doing something I enjoy, which I tend to put my whole being into, video games, music, writing, I think my 250 hours and seven Baldur's Gate 3 characters can speak for that, especially factoring in the four 12 hour shifts I work every week, but thats literally just how I do things, and it will shift every so often, I'll play a certain game for a month or two, I'll continue writing the story I'll never finish that I've been writing for like 8 years, I'll jump back into furry shit or music and all my wallpapers on my phone and pc will change, might even get merch or related impulse buys, it's like an intense cycle of passions. On any given day you'd never know what category the gameshow wheel would spin to, but you'd know the lot it was picking from very well, expectedly unpredictable.
The loyalty is such a double edged sword. We ride or die but are so empathetic we choose the wrong people and will always reaffirm the feelings of abandonment and betrayal.
There is a beautiful song about the good traits of BPD. It has a strange name, "Zombie Eaters," but it is quite accurate. It is by a band called Faith No More. 🙏
I needed this. I'm bawling. It's so rare anyone positively depicts what it's like to have BPD. I've had many people abandon me. But there are a few who understand that I need understanding in order to get better. The ones who have stuck around are greatly appreciated and loved beyond measure by someone like me.
(I have bpd myself)I've never seen someone talk about the positive side of mental health issues, I cant even describe how grateful i am that you guys made this video to help educate people. It makes me feel less alone
Me neither. I enjoyed this video, immensely.
Yeah most things make people with BPD look psychotic and only really talk about the manipulative weirdos and completely dysfunctional people. The rest of us that are sane, respectful, and quiet never get talked about.
We just need some guidance so we don't turn into the dysfunctional ones xP
💕💝🌎Thanks 2 Psych2go ☺️☺️🙏🏻
Same, I’m in the process of getting formally diagnosed but my specialist said that she’s leaning into the fact that I do have this condition. The hyper-empathy and loyalty here is super real, because I always strive to see the best in people regardless of their rocky past, however, I’m working on seeing myself in the same way.
I think I might have bpd. I've been thinking this since the age of 20. I'll be 23 this year. My boyfriend thinks I might have it too after doing his own research based off of my behavior. I want to get a diagnosis and I don't know where to go
i don’t think i’ve ever clicked a video faster than i did with this one. as someone with bpd i’m so happy to see a video like this. i’m excited to watch the whole thing ❤️
Agree since I was recently diagnosed with this
I was thinking th same thing ! I too have BPD and this is actually reakky on point !
I think I have BPD... Im gonna find a doctor to help me out
I save it when it's uploaded now I'm watching. 😝😂😘😇
I was trying to defend bpd in a Tumblr post and got kicked out
I started crying halfway through the video. Didn't realize how desperately i needed this. Thank you so much.
Same🌝
@@zerosenseofself Borderlines cry when a leaf falls from a tree. Crying for you is nothing special.
Me too🥲☺️
This video is particularly true for people who have BPD as a result of trauma. Once you accept your brain is actually working correctly and protecting you, even a psychotic episode. You then can appreciate the positives of BPD. Emotional connection is amazing.
@@1968leg There are no positives. Borderlines have a feeling of emotional connection. They don't actually connect. That's why they often continue the cycle of trauma onto others.
I've recently been diagnosed with BPD and I've been feeling down for the past four days.. And this video literally warmed my heart... I don’t know if I can ever thank you guys enough for what you do... Love you Psych2Go 💖
Nothing wrong with been BPD, is part of our reuro diversity.
We need to learn to navigate in our modern society.
This video is amazing, we have a lot of positive trails, people learn to love you for what you’re. Everyone has baggage and we accept them. I try to be a better person every day but other must try too.
I send you a lot of support and encourage.
My only advice, say I’m sorry as soon as you realize you hurt someone with your mood swings. Sometimes we say things that we don’t mean it, and I can’t why I said it.
@@kaneezfatima6007 Four days? That sounds more like bi-polar
I have bpd according to my therapist and psychiatrist and it’s been a process accepting this, BUT I think sometimes it’s a super power. And hell, if I can survive this, and learn to overcome it and live with it, kudos to me and everyone else who can too. There are good traits to it c: it doesn’t have to control you nor does it define you. There is always hope :D
Radical acceptance will help you so much.
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee "Radical acceptance" Stop getting all your ideas from the internet
It helps me I use it every day they teach it to you in dbt, I highly suggest you so dbt.
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee what's that gonna do radical acceptance don't exist
@@ryan.1990 Imagine taking the time to criticize someone over the origin of their semantics. They mean well, let it be.
I'm not usually one for over sharing but I've just finished my first week of chemotherapy and I won't lie I'm scared of how it's affecting me, but your enthusiasm for the topic helped put my mind at ease. So thank you, you have no idea how much I needed this today
You are strong, remember that your mind is stronger than everything, so practice ways to cure what you can with thoughts, manifestation and positive energy. So your way through this becomes easier, happier and it might even cure you faster, I believe you can control many aspects of your body with your mind (it takes time, believing and practice)
@@anthonyszymon3032 Thank you for sharing. Over the last 50 years, I've lots of experience with loved ones having cancer and hiv, I've seen information & support help immensely. Treatment has improved a lot. I hope your treatments go well. a friend of mine recommended a healer and caster for me, she helped me out.
@@nancysainhigh1354 wow, how can i get in touch, does she cure other sickness?
@@justinclynes481 yes, name is Luana Kae Branigan
@@nancysainhigh1354 wow, found her website, thank you very much for this.
I've never been officially diagnosed with BPD. But I have a feeling that I do have it. Every explanation of BPD perfectly describes how I've been since I was a kid...
From what I have read, if you were traumatized as a child, chances are higher to have bpd.
Me, too. My mom definitely had it and I’m pretty sure I do too. This was really nice to hear the positive aspects and I agree with them all. 💕
@@tornadocupcake I didn’t know that, but that makes sense. Thanks.
Since U was a Kid? BPD often shows not until you grow up. Most ppl get symptoms when there 20 or older. BPD signs are often confused with other common illnesses like ADHS / (c)ptsd / autism / BAS. Pls dont self diagnos yourself and Go see a therapist :) (sry for my english, i tried my best)
@@mandelkk2200 by kid I mean when I was teenager into my early 20s. Also, I am not self diagnosing because there's a good chance I could be wrong, but I could right too. Either Way, it is just a feeling that maybe...
I've been diagnosed with BPD a year ago, the process to accept and try to keep up with life on a daily basis but seeing videos like this honestly brings me to tears. I am 17, and it's a challenge going through high school with this, everyone tags you as someone weird but seeing that somebody believes we have nice traits it's beautiful. My heart is filled with joy and happiness. A big hug from Chile
you will come out of this with more light, more love and more healing towards yourself and people involve in this process... Love light and blessings:)
Being diagnosed so early in your life is such a blessing! I myself have struggled unknowingly for many many years and am relieved now knowing what's going on and wish I had known it earlier! ☀️
chilee 🤝 warm hugss
@@Mylove-lj8ne There are no nice traits of this disorder. You can still be a good person regardless of your condition.
I was diagnosed with BPD since my teenage. Spent my whole life fighting this disastrous disorder. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment did wonders in my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here. and mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on this planet i wish people would all realize. they could solve a lot of problems, more than just mental treatments, environmental clean up; the possibilities are endless with fungus.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
My first experience with shrooms cleared my mind and I started seeing the world on a whole new level
I agree with the loyalty... but personally, I show that there is intense loyalty until situations, emotions, or other things start to go wrong and build up inside, then the bad overtakes the good, and one self-sabotages the relationship... a BIG negative in BPD. But, we try, and we move. Thank you for a beautiful, re-assuring video
Loved this! I have always wanted to work in social work, but always hesitated because of my BPD. It was until recently I realized that having BPD is actually a pro instead of a con because of our compassion and empathy. I am finally pursuing my mental health and social service degree! Can't wait to graduate and start helping others.
Don't. BPD is no "superpower". Since when is a negative disability beneficial? That is twisted, borderline-esque logic right there! Especially since "evil for the sake of evil" is the innate modus operandi of BPD, and narcissits (defence against their extremely fragile, delusional, empty-ego)! Personality offsets the extent of the disorders, hence it manifests differently.
@@Human_01 I think you need to go to the ward yourself with that shit talking buddy
Thank you for this. I am on the borderline spectrum and I could relate to all of these points except being energetic because I also suffer from chronic depression and anemia. It was nice to see someone say nice things about BPD, not just bad things.
As someone with BPD I got to admit that I've never recognized these things as something "special" - I thought everyone is able to be as empathetic, good at managing other peoples crisis and having a bigger amount of resilience. It's beautiful to see someone talk about these things as "positive traits" for something that's negatively covered. Thank you for this video ❤️
Most borderlines abuse people closest to them (at the time at least) and then proceed themselves empathetic?
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@@Southghost5997please dont comment this on people with bpd’s stuff it can make us super upset
@@chipkid Flushing a toilet can make a borderline upset. What's your point?
@@Southghost5997 it’s just extremely rude
thank you for this video, im actually doing a speech about BPD in my class! from what i read, i hope people with bpd are okay and know we’re with them if they need help, but even if someone doesn’t have it, the same thing. may god bless you all :)
Jim Carrey has spoken about depression before many times and lives with it but he'll always make us smile no matter what with BPD without being diagnosed officially.
BPDs are funny they do just about anything for attention lmao
We just over here trying at lyfe still xD
@@goddosyourself7970what is your problem with people with BPD? I’ve seen you reply negative things about BPD multiple times.
@@Frostfern94 if I told you then youtube would probably block the message so you couldnt know
TW: suicide
Thank you, thank you so much for sharing this video. Ive felt very hopeless with my condition. My former partner kept telling me that i never change and never tried when really I've tried everything, countless therapists, meds, and self help books to help me get better. The internet doesn't help either as I keep reading people 'survived' someone with BPD. That they don't recommend having relations with us. It left me so hopeless that I'll forever destroy other people's lives because of this condition. I even tried to end it all yesterday.
So thank you. Maybe i can start over again now with a new hope.
It's because BPD is traditionally seen as one of the "dangerous" diagnoses. It's us, antisocials and schizophrenics that are considered dangerous and therefore stigmatised something awful...
As a man with BPD where we often already get overlooked, thank you for this video.
im also a man with bpd!
My Mom had BPD. I wish she could have saw this after she was diagnosed. She wanted to be an author and script write. She only ever heard and was told the negative aspects of it. I think she believed it wouldn't allow her to be successful. But a few weeks ago I realized some of the most creative, outgoing, and successful people in the creative world are nerodivergent. I hope those watching this with BPD realize how awesome and cool you really are! My mother had many issues with her BPD and addiction, but everyone in my family knew she was the most loving, caring, and empathic person to grace my family tree.
I think this will be the only time I will ever comment on a TH-cam Video. I was diagnosed recently with BPD and everything has felt so much harder lately. I am glad that I finally have a diagnosis that explains what Ive always felt and have been feeling for so long, but getting this diagnosis has been incredibly isolating. No one usually talks about the positive things about BPD, and only hearing negative things when learning about the mental illness that I have has sent me into a dark spiral. I really needed to see this video and know that there are some positives when it comes to BPD. For the first time in a long time I actually feel better and hopeful. Thank you so much for making this video I love yall sm
I was diagnosed with BPD traits in my early 20's, but my doc never told me until a few months ago, during a session in which I pretty much diagnosed myself, and he admitted I was right and said he never told me because of the social stigma BPD can cause and because of the fear knowing to have It can cause, but I was aware of this, felt just a bit dizzy for a couple of days, and then everything clicked in the right position in my brain. Now I have an explanation for a lot of stuff I did in the past, good and bad things, and I know better now that if I survived the lowest points in my life as a BPD, I Will survive in the future. Also, as the video points out, when I am in a good mood I experience almost superhuman feelings of joy and strenght. BPD really is a superpower if you know how to use It and accept the bad moments for what they are: Just a price to pay for being helpful and inspiring for others, for being able to feel much deeper love, joy, euphoria. We are restless warriors and precious people, always remember that!!!
Good evening, bpd fellas! I recently had another one of those “crashes”, and now I am back! I wish all of you the best, and remember, you are NEVER ALONE, and every thing you feel is VALID❤❤❤.
Btw, absolutely LOVED the video, it arrived at the perfect time. Thanks a lot for caring guys!❤❤❤
as somebody with bpd who’s constantly worried about being a terrible person, this video is very helpful 🥲
There is a narcissist that I know. Absolute drama, all the damn time. All you need to do is remember to breathe and know there are people out there ten times worse than you think of yourself.
You should seek therapy or constant supervision if you're in doubt
Good video, but some thoughts on a couple of points.
Loyalty, especially when forged from bpd can be a double-edged sword. I love intensely, but it's also intertwined with idealization, which causes me to either pull away or lash out. People with bpd can love so much that it causes a great sense of grief, and it can quickly turn to anger and resentment when they don't get what they want from the people they love.
I'm certainly not energetic. BPD causes me to have severe, treatment resistant depression, so I simply feel like a burden. I and many with the disorder can become emotionally burned out trying to solve other peoples' problems, thinking it will validate them in some way. I've grown more numb to the plight of others, due to feeling like my efforts weren't reciprocated and I've pulled away from people to shield me from further harm.
I think all of the points are valid, but they come with caveats.
YES!
I have quiet bpd, and I'm like if a therapy dog was a person. also, I'm a digital illustrator, and I swear any illustrations I put my ENTIRE mood swing into turn out as some of my best. I have a couple pieces from over a 2 years ago, and I've improved SO much since then, but I made them when I was feeling either my worst or most manic, and still consider them to be some of my best. They're proudly displayed near the top of my portfolio! A lot of neurodivergent people around me wish they could be neurotypical, and trust me I understand, and I am quite honestly in a PRIVILEGED enough position that my BPD and ADHD haven't been much worse for me, but I'm not sure I would have it any other way. When it's bad it's awful, but on the other end, I feel like I'm able to experience deeper connection to people than neurotypicals neurologically can, and when things are going good, and my coping strategies are working, it can be a beautiful thing.
That is SO true. I was baffled when I discovered other people didn't feel so strongly about their friends and relationships in general. I discovered I am more sensitive to light than (apparently) most. And a little to sound as well. I don't feel the need to label myself anything but hypersensitive at this point. Because I feel like if someone close to me had taken the time to help me with these strong emotions and sensations.. And through other traumatic events.. This disorder wouldn't have happened. I think deep down we are all like the video describes. And then the way the world has dealt with our intensity, and vice versa, is what made us sick. We have such incredible minds, open, creative, feeling..
@@guesswho5790 prefacing this by saying: hoo boy this turned into the most bpdhd rant of all time about the nature of the human condition, i wouldn't blame you if you don't want to read through it. I almost erased it and started over but eh, what the hell.
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mhm! for example, adhd was likely a desirable trait in humans before we became settlers. hypersensitivity also doubles as high sensory perception, people with adhd tend to intuitively catch on to skills that require working with one's hands, intuition, and senses such as tool crafting, foraging, and hunting. I believe bpd symptoms could potentially be much the same, and the negative ones are a product of the way we live now. black and white thinking could lead to a strong sense of solidarity within the group that they are part of, while being less hesitant to act on perceived outside threat. I think the issue is that we live in a very disconnected society. that applies to interpersonal connections, as well as the existance of smaller, more closely knit groups having some benefits we've given up for the sake of modernization. the biggest i can think of is allowing people to work in ways they're actually good at, rather than forcing every lower class worker's nose into the same, or very similar grindstone unless they're fortunate enough to be able to make it through self employment. I'm by no means a primitivist, i think the ways humans have advanced are absolutely incredible, though I do have to think that honestly MUCH of psychiatry is a result of neurodivergence that was once accepted with compassion, largely regardless of if it gave specialized abilities or was disabling, now being indicative of a defective drone. As someone who is also transgender, I choose to believe in the relative compassion of all working class people, even those who want me dead. of course, if someone is a physical threat to my safety because i dared to exist in public they are still scum, but I'm not sure I can blame them entirely either. it's the fault of the ruling class who have a vested financial interest in cultivating an oppressed class through directly producing ableist, racist, xenophobic, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic propaganda. we live in a global economy built on war and cheap thrills for those of us just trying to get by, of course we're all mentally ill. both those who are fighting for acceptance and those who are fighting for some perverted concept of tradition they've been brainwashed into have a lot of the same problems. we all divide ourselves and others into smaller demographics until we don't have enough people fighting with us to do anything meaningful. to do anything productive we have to band together in our humanity, shed these preconceived bigotries, forgive those who have taken those steps to educate themselves and change for the better, and stand together as people who refuse to be divided and made to fight against each other any longer. but that feels so insurmountable. i think in that hopelessness, it's really important for people to create, unapologetically, with no expectation to be compensated. I'm too scared right now, but I think street art is one of the most amazing forms of art in the world. the idea that it cost someone their material safety to put there, in the hopes that someone or anyone would be moved by it, knowing they would never even know that person's name
I have BPD and this is very me. It's nice to hear some positive things, I always feel like a total space alien
My BPD friends were the sweetest and most caring I’ve ever met. They changed my life helping me to overcome self harm. They never believed it themselves but they were amazing, beautiful people.
TY for focusing on the positive things about us. Those of us with BPD get sh*t on a lot. It's nice to hear positive attributes about us. Thanks ❣️❣️
Really needed to see something positive about BPD today. Definitely agree with this list, especially when it comes to being passionate, resilient (I had a manager once say she didn't know how I was still going someday after everything I've gone through" and creative :)
I have been diagnosed with bpd and this video literally made me cry, tears of joy ❤. I‘m having a really bad episode right now and I feel like I’m loosing all the progress I made over the last 2 years since my worst episode.
Thank you for reminding me of the good aspects about being neurodivergent, remembering my higher self or „superpower“ really helps me do get back into that healthy mindset, the normal mode we bpd people feel we sometimes only can hold for a couple of hours. Reminding me of these really helps me to get thru the day and makes the moments where I’m the person I want to be longer and more sustainable, hopefully until the day where I can say I love myself and if let go of my trauma ❤️🫶
I am so happy to see this! When I was diagnosed I got supper happy, "I literally have a manual with instructions online and medicines to help me! I can work now!"
But then all I saw online was a list of all the worse of me, the things I had years of work, by miself, to hide. It was not easy.
Also, we see lots of videos were people sheer their terrible experiences with bpd and how people with bpd are terrible, how is hard to date them, and even professionals saying those stuff!
Suddenly I felt like a monster, so many people hate who has bpd! We are "manipulators, possessive, crazy, selfish..."
This are de dark side that I always run away... And that was all that people could see as soon as I share my "condition". I had to tell my boyfriend in the beginning, I tell people because I need the to understand when my mood change to the oposit suddenly... People get confuse so I try to explain.
Then they look online.
Then they see only the worse.
This video makes me really happy, it shows the part that I like and love, the part that makes me happy of being who I am. It is hard to deal with the bad days and all the "craziness" thoughts, that, even if you know that are crazy you believe on it.
But with the treatment... I really love the person I am and without bpd I would not be me. I love my empathy, my creativity, how I can fully embrace and make people that I love feel understood and valid.
Thank you to reminde us of that. Thank you to share one content to help see more than the bad... Cause, for real, the love that I have for "my art" (writing), Is the best thing. I love my intensity, I love how I can use it to explain and give more sides to my characters... If you have bpd... I think you are kind of lucky. If you take your treatment serious (no energetic and no alcohol are really important folks, sorry but is true) you really start to love yourself. And appreciate you more.
I always knew my life was hard... But now I feel so proud to myself for being able to endure to 27y with no help!
And with the anxiety medicines... If my young me could know how "normal" thinking can be...
Well... The time by myself made me really appreciate the treatment and love miself and trust the love of people around me.
I really hate when I see people with bpd that don't value the treatment and don't put effort on that. Or that know that there is a treatment, and choose not to persue it.
I know that is hard to start, to move, to take action... But now that I know the "sun", I really hate to see people in the dark.
Go get treatment my loves! For real... Life will always be hard... But with more stable emotions everything is better. Even the bad days. Is all easier.
Omg!! Your coment made my day... you made me feel that the same level of intense and empathic person as of me is sending me a warm hug through their kind words.. Love light and blessings your way thank you for your comment it felt like a warm hug to me..😇🤗
@@christinewilcox6857 well, each bpd person have particularity. In my case I use a medicine to stabilize my humor and a anti-anxiety medicine. But only medicine is not enough, Is also good lots of self care, online study and look for videos that help to deal with emotions. I use internet a lot to help me, I write my feelings with details until I get tired and realize that... I don't care, Is so silly to spend so much on that! A jornal help me a lot. Each person find their way... but you have to look and try to improve. Medicines and therapy are great, I truly don't think I could live without my medicines. I always take them with care, and if I use anything that interact with them (energetics, alcohol...) I see the difference. Eat well, sleep well, take your medicine and accept yourself. Be your own best friend, encourage you, also remind yourself that you don't need to be more than you are, that you are doing your best and respecting your limits. That each mistake is a learning chance and that people are able to forget and forgive. And, if they are not, why do you need them in your life?
Life naturally filtrate who stays... work hard on being your self support, and surround yourself of people who can appreciate you... but remember that you have to do the same for them.
Internet have all kinds of asmr and raike videos that calm me a lot...
And I think that is it for me. Just... I don't do therapy. I would like to, I would like to improve... but I didn't find someone that I like... this is terrible to say, I know, but therapy helped me a lot in the beginning.
Oh! Also, find what is really bringing you your intense feelings! Understand yourself is REALLY important, for you and for others.
Even with the medicines, once my father moved a plant from the kitchen window to the window by my bed. He said that I was not watering on the window but by my bed I would do that. I snapped and get irrationally angry at him that day (I usually hate when people move my stuff aroud and my dad does not live with me, but even though was too much anger), then I had time by myself and realized... I was not angry because he move my plant! I was angry because I live in the house that my grandmother used to live when she was alive.... and that was the place where she put this specific plant: by the window kitchen. As soon my grandma died the house change a lot, they exchange the mobile, etc... her room was not there anymore, her sofa, her... but there was where she put that kind of plant, and was a plant I use to buy for her.
Being able to understand I felt lass crazy and unfair, I was also able to explain my reaction to my father and he even thanked me. My grandma was his beloved mother. Now that plant is always by the window, and even if she is dry, she will always stay there... and when I look at her I realize how this is important to me... and feel that my grandma is still around. That plant give me a sense of normality. And I don't feel embarrassed by my reaction anymore.
How we feel, how we react... there is always a reason, and we need to get over the embarrassment and think about the feeling, understand it. Sometimes you realize is something selfish and silly... but the reason is always easier to deal than a "irrational" feeling or reaction.
This for me is really important.
Love yourself is not about have a great self-esteem, Is about support. Is about be patient with yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself... be to yourself the same that you would be for the person you love the most. This kind of care will make you love yourself.
And will make you love others more... also, will make you protect yourself from people that is no worthy, the same way you protect a friend
I am in tears watching this! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I have been going through something recently and have been spirialing and this video just HELPED ME OUT SO MUCH!! It's hard to focus on the good with this diagnosis when you're in crisis. But thank you so much, truly.
Usually this disorder is always seen as "negative" and always angry or over emotionally only even manipulative.
BPD is also hard to diagnose and very rare for some people with it to find someone to stay.
It often gets mis diagnosed as bipolar
@@DetriotQueenBeeNikkieDee bipolar have more mood swings and can't control their emotions usually when they go to those manic highs and lows.
BPD usually knows what's going on but can't help it. Honesty they are more similar to hyper sensitive people.
No, they don't I have both and I always struggle more with bpd.
@@keip4568 BPD has more mood swings than bipolar. Bipolar mood swings *at most* occur in the span of weeks. Borderline mood swings can occur within seconds. Borderline is also much more difficult to live with. I say live with, because unlike bipolar, medication doesn't help regulate BPD. You just have to learn to deal with it, and it's pointless trying to fight the mood swings.
Note: I'm not saying that bipolar is, nor that any mental illness is easy to live with, just that medication doesn't really help with Borderline.
@S P Smith medication won't help bpd only therapy does. Dbt.
BPD both broke me and motivated me to heal.
It's like seeing heaven without dying and meeting the devil without trying, with both trying to talk to you
Timestamps
1). Borderline empathy paradox 1:27
2). Creative 2:37
3). Loyal 3:41
4). Resilient 4:35
5). Energetic 5:13
6). Passionate 5:50
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
The intro is true.
This helps me accept myself more, and labelling brings me a sense of settling. I’ve always known i have some sort of mental issue; but the earliest diagnosis on my depression back in grade 7, feels really outdated (i’m in first year, college). And i’ve always doubted if i have bipolar, or this bpd.
And, thanks. I love these traits of mine, when hearing someone else saying them like this. Thank you. And yes, accepting that i have a fear of abandonment can be challenging. I’m learning. Still learning, ever learning. You got this, fellow humans, and fellow BPD-havers.
What worse could happen, after all that you survived. Trust me, i’m a good witch (with BPD) lolol
You shine a huge light in the abysmal darkness of mental health... thank you.
I'm in the process of being diagnosed with bpd, it's been a long arduous process and it hit me like a sledgehammer when I was first asked if I'd peen referred prior for it by my GP.
I cried watching this because I didn't think there could be a positive side to it. Thank you for this
Absolutely beautiful video!
I have experienced all of these traits through my lenses. These feelings often are a huge inspiration for my music!
I also feel lucky to have a wife also having BPD. The beginnings were rough (2 BPD in a bucket, sounds like disaster), but she is the most honest, helpful, caring and generous person I know.
After 4 years of being together it is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I often feel extremely lucky to have found somebody to be able to feel and understand me in such a deep fashion.
❤Thank you waifu! ❤
As someone with BPD, thank you so much for making this video. I’ve never seen or heard anyone talk about the positives of having borderline, so this is so refreshing and can help educate so many people, as they probably have only heard the negative side of the disorder. As hard as it is to navigate life with the struggles we have to deal with as people with BPD, at least in my personal experience, the positives like being overly empathetic and knowing how to help others in times of need make it a little more bearable. All of these strengths that come with it have become the things I love most about myself and what makes me proud to be me. To anyone who thinks they may have BPD or have been recently diagnosed, you are not alone and you are not what society thinks you are just because you have a mental health disorder. There are going to be things in life that neurodivergent people may not have to deal with, but because you may have to, it will only make you stronger. You will be okay. ❤️❤️❤️
This video and the other one about 9 things you should know about BPD.
My friends said thank you so much. As it has helped them to understand me so much more and be able to be there for me more. It’s improved my relationships.
And it has helped me to feel more normal. Something that is so normal and natural to me is alien to others. Thank you
can you do a video on positive traits of anti social personality disorder? I think itd be a great way to show we arent all just heartless sadists. Alot of us are just very logical and grounded in reality and self aware of alot of manipulation tactics EVERYONE does
had to add, the best people for jobs like doctors, and surgeons because of the "lack of empathy" and the drive to do the best job and not get emotional, (and other jobs that are necessary for society) and there is A LOT of the population with this diagnosis in the society that no one will suspect they have it- especially because of the high-status jobs and logic and i think self-control more than most regular people because of the self-aware, statistic everyone knows someone who has it. the stigma is only because the diagnosis is in the public eyes connected with those who commit crimes (those who also suffer from trauma and bad childhood) so it's known to the media. and most of the diagnoses are for people that search for help for depression and found out they have an anti-personal disorder. if i will be sick and needed a doctor to save my life i would absolutely trust more of a doctor with this diagnosis. (i have bpd, its not a biased opinion, just something I'm interested in and done my research, it's very unfair to watch) so agree 100% ! sorry for the misspells, I'm not an american.
I definitely agree!!
I find people without empathy but still care somehow to be the most fascinating thing ever xD
Unfortunately I'm pretty sure ASPD only comes as a diagnosis after a crime has been committed right? They sure kinda screw people over with most disorders that are just trying to live decent, Normal lives.
@@RaptureDragon1 Its morso that our empathy works differently. Some sociopaths do care about a select few people like family, friends, pets, maybe even groups of people like the homeless while also being able to treat everyone else like chess pieces without remorse. Even those we actually care about, I could move on quickly if they died. I have softer spots for people who have autism and are HSP, in a way where I should coach them on how to survive in this cutthroat world, doesn't mean I wont try to con them out of 10 dollars though.
@@yeajjjjjj sociopath is a loaded and misunderstood word. as BPD technically im a sociopath too because i can just choose to do horrible things at any moment if i wanted to lol. used to not be that way but society and commie politics have made me that way (I FOOOKING HATEEE COMMIES REEE especially the CCP right now.)
i remember watching a documentary about a guy with ASPD and he was describing his dads death that same way, he knew he was gone forever and never coming back, but he didnt feel bad about it, he just thought "thats the way things are now"
its such a foreign concept to me because i get emotional over the stupidest shit as a guy because the BPD. i shed tears over the dumbest movies sometimes xD
i don't understand what's bpd from what I've read, but my feelings do change quickly, and swing from extreme closeness to extreme dislike. thankyou for talking about the positive aspects and the brighter side of a mental health issue; it's soo relieving and many people seem to find it warm ♡
thats sounds like a very common trait of bpd. u should go see a doctor/therapist. sending u energy
@@lacyyyy thankyou so much for the energy, hope everything's fine for you ^~^
@@man_5i thank you, my partners been diagnosed w bpd recently and were both trynna make it work w lots of communication and “dbt skills”. so my advice for you is, dont try to stay silent/manage it all by urself in your current situation. talk to someone u trust and find a solution through therapy. i know its hard, exhausting & very uncomfortable, but trust me, being stuck w this kinda mental disorder is worse. i believe in u stranger.
I am diagnosed with bpd. This video brought beauty to my condition!! It brought tears to my eyes. Thank you!!
I’ve been diagnosed today. It’s the first time they even start mentioning it to me I’ve been looking at videos reading books the whole day and it all seems so negative 😫 Thank you for this ❤️
I sobbed uncontrollably while watching this, not because I’m sad but because you showed me that there IS hope.
Thank you so much..
My goodness this made me cry. Thank you for this video. Its easy to only see the negative in my BPD. I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY.
ONE MORE THING. WE WORK HARD IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY EVEN IF ITS JUST TO GET A SMALL LAUGH OUT OF THEM.
This is so beautiful that it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for this video. I've never seen or heard anyone explain the positive sides of bpd which mainly made me see the negative side of it....until now!❤
I've had BPD since my mid teens. Early on,I was barely functional and crippled by it. Now, in my mid 30s, I'm far less intense. The secret is to find something that matters to you to distract yourself with. For me that was going back to college and determining to learn a new language from a culture I love to the point of fluency (and over time, I was even able to combine the two passions!). I still have symptoms including ones that seriously negatively impact me, but finding something to do with my time and energy other than spiral or over focus on others made an 80% improvement in my condition. It's the Buddhist concept of monkey mind - there's a monkey living in a cage in your head and if you don't keep it busy, it'll start throwing excrement around and destroying everything.
I relate to a lot of these. People tell me that I’m one of the most genuine people they know. ❤
I was recently diagnosed with it so learning this will help me a lot with my healing process, I got over my PTSD and it's encouraged me to get my other issues resolved
I see a ton of my personality traits scattered all _over_ this video! Thanks for Uploading this!
the part about being passionate about something brought tears to my eyes. I have always felt like i was just a "nerd" because once i like something, i like it 100% i want to learn the ins and outs of it and master it
I have BPD I felt relieved because I knew that I wasn’t going crazy but I hate how I have it because nobody understands what it’s like they just think I’m dramatic or crazy but hearing the positive side of BPD gives me hope to keep going 💕
I think more of us need to come forward with our stories of BPD and how it effects our lives. This is very complex and hard at times to understand. I found this video to be very educational and informative Thank you! 🕊☮I love the art work!!
I have EUPD (BPD), CPSTD, Autism. It’s so strange others don’t understand how loyal and caring we can be. I just want to give others the smile, shine, support, love, gifts, fun I never got. But I always mess it up.
I was always afraid of my BPD but now i dont have to be. thank you.
Thank you! I have bpd and currently I've been struggling a lot... I just feel like sh*t 99% of the time... this video really cheered me up a bit cause it's true but I just can't really see it most of the time...hearing someone say it... just thank you!
i feel the same way. Good luck to you buddy, we can outlive our bad.
i recently got diagnosed with bpd and ive been struggling with over analyzing my negative traits, so this was nice to see
Sometimes i feel like i have BPD, but now i'm in therapy, i want to know what's with me and My mental health, i hope everything gets better and I hope to find an answer to my doubts.
This video is right in so many level. I'm not sure about energetic though. It so true they can empathize, care for others etc. But often they do get hurt when others stab them in the back. And it's soo true if a BPD person is made upset....yeah it can be sooo challenging 😰
Such a wonderfully positive video about borderlines, who so very often get vilified in the media, especially after the Depp Vs Heard trial when it was revealed Amber Heard has BPD. I think the stigma against the disorder is worse than ever before, so content like this is really important. Thank you!
Once someone lies to me my view of them changes forever. It’s like I never really knew them, and they don’t value me enough to tell the truth :/
Please make videos on how to overcome disorders/traumas..it is something what we need now
What I love is that there are finally terms that can help people make sense of "their nature" terms like "neurodivergent." Not everyone has the same brain makeup/chemistry, We're all have our own unique challenges and super-powers.
I'm not so sure that's a good thing if it displaces words like "psychosis".
@@EdgarFriendlysCivicsTeacher Why would having more terms to choose from displace words like "psychosis"??
@@shotjohnny BPD is already extraordinarily difficult to treat, selling it as a superpower is like telling a paranoid schizophrenic they're uniquely gifted and that's why they're able to hear the ants in the wall.
It's a way of softening reality and buying further into the distortions that perpetuate the disorder, not a way of understanding what is actually occurring.
This video made me cry. It’s extremely moving to hear positive things about BPD. I don’t meet the criteria because my behavior is effective now but I still feel things as intensity and I am grateful for that.
Thank you for this video
I dont have a diagnosis due to personal problems
I feel like i have bpd
not only because of this video but because some people told me that something is wrong about me and stuff
i cant even visit a psychologist to know exactly what is wrong
why the heck am i saying it here
i just wanted to tell that your videos are very helpful
It's beautiful to be able to see the rose for its thorns that such an isolating, horrific, and painful condition can also aid a person to be truly, genuinely kind, and support from experience. I find and remind myself, for all the suffering my mental health has endured, I have the experience to talk to just about anyone, no matter how bad their life and situation is. I think that's beautiful, too.
This video made my day & night as it gave me the opportunity to see the good aspects of something that I always consider negative when having BPD. I never connected my emphatic, creative and endless energy as a positive aspect of this disorder and I am glad that Psycho2go made this revealing video about it. I am on tears of joy and sadness but I know that maybe our mission is to balance the mood of others or simply cheer them up and create more understanding and less judgment. Big hug to all the creators of this channel, I learnt a lot about myself and others throughout all the information that you spread. Big hug to all my BPD soul brothers and soul sisters in this wonderful journey called life ❤
It was midterm exams and my lovely grandfather passed away and actually i become a emotional support person for my mother, aunt and grandmother and could barely grief, on that moment i was feeling pain but it took me one day to get over it and study for my exam and on that moment i thought that somethings wrong with me. how can i get over this tragic this quick? and now you guys mentioned it on video, i had no clue that it was related to BPD, by the way im self diagnosed and all of the other signs that you said, i and my friends say to me and now im kinda loving BPD, cause they say if you love your mental issue it will become easier to you.. ;)
It is really nice to see some positive things being spoken for us. This video makes me extremely happy ❤
Well, this made me cry. Got diagnosed back in late 2020, and while I've learned to handle my emotions it can still feel like a lot sometimes. So thanks for reminding me how far I've come.
I needed this. Been on a spiral the past week.
It's refreshing to see a video showing our good side.
Thank you so so much for this. I have recently been diagnosed with BPD and have really been struggling with this diagnosis. It was so helpful to see something saying it CAN be a positive. Thank you thank you
When I was diagnosed with BPD it was a relief. It explained so many things in my life and it gave me a lot of tools to manage my condition.Thank you for this video
Thank you for this video. BPD can be difficult to handle for anyone close to the person, and especially as the person themselves. It never helps when many healthcare professionals themselves have such a skewed view of BPD, making it intimidating to get help when you need it sometimes, or even admitting that you are diagnosed with the disorder. We need more videos like these to educate the general population. DBT saved my life, unfortunately I had to go to the other side of the country to get the therapy. Many people haven’t gotten the same opportunity as I have and thus there is a lot of untreated BPDers out there. Untreated, this was unmanageable for me, and I know I made life hard for those around me, even though it was never intentional. If you have been diagnosed with BPD I would highly recommend Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. If it is not offered in your area, advocate for it.
I've never knew the existence of this thing called BPD and after watching this video today, I just found out that I'm one of the people with BPD
This is a light in the tunnel since I recently got diagnosed with BPD, I felt relieved to finally find an answer on why I act like I act, however I was scared for what could imply, but the video gave me things to see as a bright part of myself
I have been diagnosed with BPD and I cried watching this. After knowing that I have BPD, it felt a curse. I researched for solutions, and even in this day and time, there is still no known cure for it. But this video made me realize that maybe the cage that I'm trapped in is not so bad after all.
Thank you so much for this video. I've read so many literature about bpd since I got diagnosed and I've never found positive perspective of it. So thank you again! It helps a lot in finding some self love and chanalizing that negative traits into positive outcomes.
I have questions though...
I can find myself in every trait you mentioned here except one small part in the last trait.
I do get very passionate and people I'm surrounded with think I "desappear" in anything I'm passionate about. They also think I'm exaggerating and crossing my bounderies (I sometimes forget to meet my physical needs such as eating, drinking or even using a toalet). And they're right.
I actually love this trait but I can't say I'm following my passions, and I definitely need someone to push me and motivate me to follow them, because it seem I can't do it by myself.
I think it's because I have too many of them so I can't do all of them and because of my all-or-nothing way of thinking, I end up doing nothing I'm passionate about... ?
Or I'm burned out because it's so hard for me to find balance between my job, hobby and relationships (familly, friends, girlfriend) and because when I do start to do something I'm passionate about, I'm on a highway to burn out sindrom because I don't respect my own bounderies. ?
Or I'm "chameleonizing" with my girlfriend, so it's hard for me to distance myself from her interests and needs in order to let myself get lost into smthng I'm passionate about. ?
It's so confuzing but I think I'm on the right track in this analysis. Am I? Could I be right about all three possible explanations? Are there more of them?
Anyway, my heart calls for some creative projects, but somehow I always end up not doing any of it.
I know I have that in me and that I can be succesful in everything I'm passionate about, if I just put my energy, time and effort in it, but I simply don't do it. (Maybe because it means I have to sacrifice my time with my girlfriend??).
Speeking of girlfriend I'm very passionate in this relationship and I often find myself between two "flames" - I want to spend time with her as much as possible, she's my centre (I know it's not good for me of our relationship - I am working on it), but I also want to do my creative projects and I simply can't prioritize because whatever I choose, I'll feel regret because I haven't choose another. So one excludes the other. And that drives me crazy and pushes me into dark places of my mind...
Does this sound familliar to anyone? Is this normal for someone with bpd?
How do I overcome this?
I'm in therapy (gestalt) over two years now and I still can't seem to find the answer that works for me and finally make that step foreward...
Thank you for highlighting some positivity in a sometimes controversial subject. Cant be shouted enough for people that suffer mentally they need motivational support.
So true cant be stated enough the positivity and motivational support is so needed.
We definitely try to raise awareness as well so thank you @Psych2go for your work very well done. If you struggle with BPD as I have feel free to reach out for support, to vent and have a listener or for advice if you want & need. Just support.
Thank you for spreading awareness. we appreciate the support.
i've been diagnosed with bpd a few months ago. thank you for this video, it made me feel so understood i wish everybody saw it
Pete Davidson was also diagnosed with bpd. The article I read about it was very informative.
One of my best friends has BPD and she is wonderful! All of these points I thought of her! I linked her to this video I hope she watches it!
I have heard of BPD as just a generalized disorder. It was tossed around a lot when I used to watch TikTok more. Now I understand about what it ACTUALLY is. And...I think it hits a lot in me that I haven't be able to explain before. Imma show this to my boyfriend and see his reaction. He is very in tune to me, so he'll understand more than I can.
This was so refreshing to watch consindering the stigma ❤ Thank you for your channel. I absolutely love it.
I was so happy when I got my diagnosis, it explained so much and I finally felt like I wasn't going crazy.
Diagnosed finally. What a relief to understand why I am so not like "normal" ppl. Understand a whole lot more of my life now. Can cope better, also 💪🙏😘
Watching this video as someone with BPD this really got me emotional
😭💗…
I’ve been so hard on myself lately, and I’ve been really wishing I didn’t have BPD.. but this video really helped me when I really needed it
As someone with BPD I say thank you for making this video ❤️
Oh this just made me cry uncontrollably the whole video lmao. I was diagnosed 3 years ago now I think with me being confirmed I have had BPD. And anytime I see videos like this that twist the narrative to a positive look just makes me remember and cry lmao.. Great job ^_^.
I remember a artist on deviantart who had bpd I never got close with her but she is one of the sweetest people I seen. The creativity and hyper empathy she had with her artwork and how she interact with people was positive. She also wasn't afraid to talk about her experiences with bpd. I talked to her about it I admitted to her BPD did sound like tough mental condition though I wasn't sure if tough is the right word. She responded and said "Yeah tough is the right word cause how I feel can get intense at times."
I was diagnosed after 3yrs of psychotherapy, so releaved to know, what I've been dealing with my whole life. Daily routines, mindfullness and meditation helps me. I also write a daily journal and poems for my own amusement. Do things you like to do, it will make you feel better ❤
Thank you, I've recently discovered that I have BPD very suddenly, but for me it was a very crushing discovery, and I had a breakdown over it. I saw the worst sides, like having no stable relationships, being instable, chaotic and sometimes unintentionally rude. having no clear pattern of behaviour s. I thought it was the cause of all my problems in life. So this helped me see that I'm not alone and that it's ok, and it's my trait that makes me my own person
(English isn't my first language, sorry) siempre he sentido una conexión especial con este canal, llevo años siguiendo su canal y este año en particular he notado muchas coincidencias bonitas, temas y preocupaciones de interés salen justo al tiempo que lo necesitaba, en especial con este video, mi color favorito es el violeta y tengo diagnóstico de TLP (BPD), así que me encantó la miniatura de este video, sentí que fue justo para mí y el video en sí igual me gustó bastante!! 💜 Muchas gracias, en serio :')
we don’t often hear these… thank you
The more videos and info I take in about bpd, the more a LOT of things begin to add up. I even align with this positive list, though for me the energy is less of a jittery hyperactive energy and more endurance energy, like pretty much insomnia levels of staying awake, usually doing something I enjoy, which I tend to put my whole being into, video games, music, writing, I think my 250 hours and seven Baldur's Gate 3 characters can speak for that, especially factoring in the four 12 hour shifts I work every week, but thats literally just how I do things, and it will shift every so often, I'll play a certain game for a month or two, I'll continue writing the story I'll never finish that I've been writing for like 8 years, I'll jump back into furry shit or music and all my wallpapers on my phone and pc will change, might even get merch or related impulse buys, it's like an intense cycle of passions. On any given day you'd never know what category the gameshow wheel would spin to, but you'd know the lot it was picking from very well, expectedly unpredictable.
Thank you so much I have bpd and it helps so much to not only see us as monsters or dangerous, I love and feel deeply and that’s awesome
The loyalty is such a double edged sword. We ride or die but are so empathetic we choose the wrong people and will always reaffirm the feelings of abandonment and betrayal.
This made me cry ;) thank you. I felt understood instead of judged. ❤
There is a beautiful song about the good traits of BPD. It has a strange name, "Zombie Eaters," but it is quite accurate. It is by a band called Faith No More. 🙏
I needed this. I'm bawling.
It's so rare anyone positively depicts what it's like to have BPD.
I've had many people abandon me.
But there are a few who understand that I need understanding in order to get better.
The ones who have stuck around are greatly appreciated and loved beyond measure by someone like me.