I AM NOT MY GRADE. A good or bad grade doesn't define me, it just means I have to try harder in one course than others and I believe I can achieve my goal. If not, I'm gonna be okay, like I said my grades doesn't define my self worth. if you're reading this, have a good day, evening or night.
im failing 3 classes when i tried my hardest and when i get home i get yelled at by my mom saying im not trying at all and she made me feel like i wanted to flunk school or just cry this video brightened up my day thanks
roseta wolf 2015 i definitely feel you. I'm failing math , badly , i do all my work but I fail everything I turn in! I get help but Math is just something I will probably never understand..
Your self worth is not tied to your grades and together we can help take the stress out of studying and make students feel good about themselves again! It is our passions in life, our beliefs, skills, creativity and the way treat others that shapes who we are and our self-worth; NOT our grades or something we can quantify. xx
I needed this, I couldn't sleep all night because I'm so bad at testing. I go to class I understand the math I enjoy doing the homework and I'm like "yeah I got this" and test day rolls around and I get the worst grade when I fell so confident when taking it and I just fail!!! I'm so frustrated.
Madison Cornelius yes very true the sad part is that no matter how much home work I do and get 100% on. My professor only counts our tests :( therefore I'm struggling
I know right!!!! I get straight A's when it comes to assignments and classwork, but when it comes to tests, I'm super slow and end up getting B's and B+'s, so i end up getting super sad. I recently started secondary school from primary school, so I've noticed a drop in my grades.
Luna awwwwww. practise math hard and I'm sure you will do well next time. that is what I have decided to do. I had a political science paper today and I messed up very bad so I introspected and decided I need to pay more attention to it since it was my most neglected subject.
IKR I hate when people judge other people by graded cause i have so many friends who arent the best at schoolwork who are being picked on by certain teachers
you were right cause when I think about it, I hate math. I hate it more than anything. But not because people tell me I suck at it. It's because I keep telling myself I suck at it. Nobody ever told me I'm not good enough to understand it and nobody ever told me I'm not smart enough or that I'm stupid to understand math. I keep telling myself that. I am the problem
Every time I got a bad grade at school, I felt more and more stupid. Every time I got a 3 or 4 out for 6 (a Norwegian grade system), I thought: If I cannot complete this, if I cannot get good grades in this, what can I do? What am I worth?! Nothing!" And I still feel bad every time I make more mistakes in uni now, than I usually do....I just can't stand myself then, sometimes I even cry. And my parents always say to me: you can do it better next time. But I feel bad and stupid anyway....What to do?
I so needed this. I did really badly on my math exam a couple days ago and I had been feeling so bad about that... I haven't really been able to study for anything else properly and that's just been making it worse. I'm generally an anxious person but it's been so bad lately that I can't even focus on my work. I so badly needed this. I still feel bad about my past couple of tests but I'm going to take your advice and I know I can get over it.
I really feel under the water atm, I'm really disappointed and mad. Everything seems sucks. I was a straight A student, my grade was good and I didn't hv any problem regarding grade.But now, the condition is really different. I move school, and everything seems so unusual. My grade drops badly, and I really afraid of it, although I do study really hard. I really nervous regarding my score, and everyone looks way better than I am. It just really hard. I study a lot than before, but the result are so unsatisfying. This video helps me to calm my nerves a bit, ily jess
this made me cry. i tried so hard to get what i wanted which was concert tickets, my mom told me that we would go but then she told me no because i failed only 2 of my exams, she went on a rant of how useless i am and stuff, it made me want to give up afterall. you brightened my day.
It's 1 am right now and I'm currently crying because I probably will not get into my dream school, my gpa is about .3 points lower than I thought it was, and my SAT is still not where I want it. While I have okay grades, I'm certainly not at the top of my class and I always beat myself up for it because I feel like I will never measure up to what I'm "supposed to be" (whatever that means). Anyway, thanks for the video. Watching it definitely helped calm me down and reminded me to keep my perspective in chack.
Watching this the night before my first final exam of the semester, & it’s helping me to feel a lot more calm & relaxed about the exam! I know that I’ve studied as much as I can & that I know what I need to know for the test. Thanks for helping me to realize that! I feel so much calmer now 💖
Thank you so much Jess!!! I'm usually stress out when it comes to finals or any tests and I'm worry whether I'm gonna failed it or not. But when I watched your video, your words made me feel a lot better and stronger now. All this time, when I'm in school, I've always feel anxiety, sad and depress because I'm too slow to learn everything like other people. But I've realized that the results is nothing to me anymore. Grades, tests, research paper, did not mean anything, it just means how much you know your materials. Everybody have their own pace to succeed later on.
I actually just today found out I failed my second of two exams in my International Finance class. This crushed me, because I never fail exams at this rate, and I have very high expectations for myself (my friends say they're way too high lol). I was talking about it in my fraternity group chat, and one of my brothers directed me to this video. Honestly, TH-cam videos never seem to help me, so I was really skeptical. I ended up watching the entire video (I almost never watch videos longer than 5 minutes) and I feel so much better now, this is exactly what I needed so thank you so much! Sorry this is so long lol
I have been talking to myself and my mom about this lately because I've been so stressed out with my grades in school. Even after telling myself that I'm smart and that I work hard, the numbers are really trying hard to tear me apart, and I've been fighting back. It's hard, but in the future, like you said, my work ethic is how people will think of me.
You have no idea what this video means to me. I felt so terrible for how I was doing in a class and to hear someone that gets that. That understands me. Thank you so much for this video!!!!!
it was hard for me as a new high schooler to fail a class that my best friend passed. then I switched schools trying to change and feel better. Now I can face my original school and try again, giving it my all, and taking my grades into account but not because of thinking that's proof of my self-worth but because I have goals and those grades help me get there. You helped me a lot. Every time I watch one, my opinion of life changes each time. You are a special person Jess. Keep doing what you are doing.
Hey Jess! I was wondering if you could do a video about staying motivated to study. I can always get myself motivated to do something but then I get distracted and start procrastination. Anyway I love you and your videos!
I needed this. Since I was little as an African kid I was conditioned to base myself worth with the grades I got. Wasn't to pleased when I saw the grade I got today... But yes we can't control everything
I think you should also address the fact that many people judge others on their grades doing so they also mock and make fun of people that don't get good grades... This makes the person doing bad, sad and all in all makes the that person marks worse. So it is important to support people and that marks/grades are nothing but checkpoints and they can be good or bad but that doesn't mean that the person isn't capable of getting good marks
I'm doing my last exams of the semester of college this week and I get out of one classroom feeling like "yay, I'm awesome" and at the same day, I get out of another test feeling so dumb that I can't even tell. I REALLY needed this video to remind me that my grades are not as important as my health, and family and people around me that like me for what I am, and not what my grades are. Thank you, Jess! Sometimes we just need someone to pull the reality on our faces and get us to realize that we don't need to be so focused on this. This might make me more confident no finish the two final tests I still have this week!
Thank you so much. This is something I really needed because I have a's in all classes but one, and I have been pressuring myself to think that I need an A in that class to move up to the next grade next year. This video reminded me that as long as I am doing my best, my grades don't matter. Again, thank you.
I think this is an important topic. As most people always expect to learn new skills or any skills in minutes or hours and we forget that we came from different life experience and it takes time to learn anything. When we are stressing out it takes even slower to learn because we feel pressured to learn things quickly. Sometimes we even take short cuts or make wrong decisions.
Thank you for making this. Coming from such a competitive environment, I've seen the toxic effects that attached your self worth to your grades can have.
Jess, I really don't know how to thank u. Like legit had a mental breakdown yesterday because of exams and I'm taking all my subjects for higher and I feel like I'm not worthy for all that and don't deserve it cuz I done my prelims and got really bad results cuz I didn't study. Ur talk really motivated me and I cannot thank u enough. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg this video is REALLY REALLY talking to me. I have panic attacks since Im 15. I can manage it now, but I was still get confused between grades and my own value. This video is awesome.. Thank you. ❤
Oh my goodness, this couldn't have come at a better time! I got a D on my Spanish test today and it's really brought me down. This video is a great uplifter, thanks Jess!!
Hey! SO I'm(NOT TO BRAG) an A+ Or A student but when I get a grade I'm disappointed and sad for the entire week. It's amazing because I LITTERALLY told myself YOU ARE NOT YOUR GRADES ALL THE TIME. This video has perfect timing. Thank you so much .
I am having a bad week. Teachers giving way too much work, can’t understand my math teacher, french teacher gives many assignments and I found out yesterday that I have a french midterm exam tomorrow. I cannot believe how messed up our school system is. It is hard for me at home too. My parents are divorced and they are fighting in court and I can’t see my mom because of this. I just don’t know how I will get through life like this. This video helped me feel a little better. Thanks.
You literally saved me. I can't begin to explain how useless and pathetic I have been feeling after this semester. I burnt myself out trying to juggle a masters and study for an important professional school exam and because of my breakdown and anxiety I burnt out and did horrible on my finals which lead to one A and the rest B's and a B- which dropped my GPA. Iv just been crying because I felt like I don't have a chance to get into the profession I want.
I used to think, considering that I live in an Asian family, that grades were everything and a grade only 1 mark above A made my parent's furious thinking that I was not good enough. Thank you for motivating me to try harder not only in grades but things that are important for me, my family and everyone around me that I might impact in any way. Thank you
Its so hard to not think about grades especially since it's junior year and its such a bummer because I messed up my physics and precalc test and a few quizzes already. But after watching this I guess I can breathe and get back on A-Game. Thank you Jess 😣💕
I really needed this. Thank you so much Jess, I got my Christmas term report and exam grades, and I was bawling, my mom was so upset with me and I'm still disappointed because I know I can do better. Hopefully when I see my dad tmrw I won't be as upset. But really and truly, you are very inspirational and I'm so grateful for you and your channel. Have a wonderful day!!
I find it very hard to find my self worth in abstract concepts such as kindness. That's why I find it in more concrete things like my grades. (also because teachers put a lot of pressure on us to perform well) I'm hoping to change this.
Thank you so much for this ❤️ I was freaking out today over my grades because I'm not doing as well as I normally do/would like to and I'm in my last year of high school so I feel like it matters so much. I definitely am guilty of connecting my self worth to my grades and I really needed this video today. Thank you for this reminder.
my classmates used to say that those that get highest grades in class r the smartest n the others r the dumb I had believed in that saying since I was in primary school..... my parents would scold me dumb too when I get bad grades... now I understand that ur grades do not define u at all thks soo much Jess!!
I really needed this! Thank you! To everyone who is reading this, You're not the only one with bad points sometimes, everything is going to be alright, nobody is perfect! ;)
Since Midle School, i had a lot of problems related to Grade Obsession. I've Never failed a class (Which is a fact that i am super grateful for), but i'm Always anxious about grades, especially when it comes to Report Cards. For exemple in the second semester in seventh grade, i was certain that i got good results in every class (which comes out that it actually happened), but there was Always a wild thought that i was going to fail that would Just bump out of nowhere. And i still fighting with This problem to This very day
Hey Jess! Thank you so much for this video! It made me cry :) I have final exams coming up and I always believed that if I don't get the perfect grade, I fail at life..So thank you so so so much! This video felt like a hug during these hard times. :) Keep doing your amazing work, the world needs you. By the way, you always get me in a mood to study, so I often come here to watch your videos because they are so inspiring :) xoxo
thanks to your videos i got an incredible atar and into my first choice university. i just thought i would let you know so that you can keep up the great work and continue to aid other students during their year 12!! thanks again jess xo.
I was in a room with three people I know, I do like them, personally. But I know they're all really smart to the point I feel so small next to them, and everytime i feel like one of them is looking at my work, I feel like I'm about to be judged. And it f****** hurts.
Why does this video not have subtitles? I am deaf so I need to see the subtitles. I subscribed your channel because you have subtitles in every video. I hope you do this too so that I can watch.. thank you
Jess thank you so much...I was so good at beggining of the school year, but now i am not that good.I am so sad...Then, i saw this video.Thank you so much.You are my hero!
Thanks Jess! This is what I needed to hear. I was feeling very stressed about some of my grades. You are right about rating our self worth, it's not based on grades. I'm trying to change my way of thinking, it's slow at times. Haha. :D
Hello, I'm from Germany and actually studying business adminstration. I felt a lot in the way what you mentioned. Thank you very much for helping me opening my eyes.
Thank you so much Jess! This was the exact video I needed. My grades close this Friday and I tend to stress out about everything waaaay too much! I'm so great full for you, your videos, and everything you've taught me!
Sometimes I feel like it doesn't matter how hard I try im just destand to fail, just when my grades get back on track I always end up missing an assignment or flailing a test and my life falls in to little tiny peices and I get home and get yelled at because "I'm not trying." When in reality im trying the hardest I can
This Video is amazing. I'm struggling with this problem a while now. And whenever I get a bad grade i still freak out about it. It happens automaticly. And i must say that this video has touched me very much because i often feel alone with the pressure.So THANK YOU JESS for this message it helps so much and i try to always keep that in my mind for the future . ☺ ps. Sorry if my english is not perfect. I 'm german and i'm still learning it . 🙈
I live in Hong Kong. I'm a Hong Konger. I am excellent and fluent in English. I am horrible in Chinese. I cannot read much Chinese nor write. Hong Kong's official languages are English and Chinese. Most Hong Kongers are horrible in English, no problem. I am horrible in Chinese, I am ruined. I am great in every subject except for Chinese. Yet I beat myself up mentally just for failing one subject.
This really helped me ...the last time I really was happy about my grades was in high school...in varsity things changed.........passed few tests...often think that I am a loser
Thank you for this video💖 I was stressed about my grade and I started having a breakdown and needed just to hear that I’m not my grades so much😁 thank you love you❤️
I really needed this before going into finals week. Thank you. I have been stressed out all semester trying to get to a 4.0 to get into veterinary school.
I'm in an Asian community. Yes as stereotypical it is, my parents especially my mum just feel embarassed with me. I recently had a huge exam and the results came in today, out of 9 subjects, I got 3As 2Bs 4 bloody Cs. I'm so embarassed and I feel so depressed just typing this. All my friends got 8As and i seriously thought I did my best. This made me open my eyes. To take this as a lesson. My mum is still upset but there is nothing else I can do I just need to do better. Thank u so much.
i i was so down yesterday because i scored D+ . of course I didn't notice the fact that I was in a minority of those who actually passed the exam. I needed this !
it's funny that you used the funeral example. I'm in mortuary school right now, and about a month into school we had....one heck of a test. the next class session the professor (who knew how nuts we were all going in the lab after that test) came in and told us we need to chill out because no funeral home we interview at is going to say 'well what grade did you get on this one particular test? oh just a C? well we can't hire you' they're just going to say 'did you pass your boards? did you graduate?'. Now I repeat it to my girlscouts (theyre in high school) when they text me about a test. also one of the upper classmen told me about that same test that the first time I work a funeral where they say "this guy sucked because he failed a test one time" I can say I told you so abd cry about a test grade, but until then I need to relax
my first biology test I got a 44 and I felt horrible and thought I was a disappointment... we have mind maps in the same class, I got 11 out of 12 on them before but now I get 10 out of 12 which is pretty much a dramatic change to your grade and I keep getting them no matter how hard I work on them. also in the same class I'm in a group of 4 and all the girls seem super smart and I feel really dumb around them...
I feel like people feel worthless over bad grades because parents pressure kids, to parents, if you want a child with good grades than instead of taking away electronics try lifting them up and telling them to keep trying or they'll break down easily and give up and get worse grades
I really needed to hear this today. I had a chemistry exam and I was so worried because it didn't feel like I knew the answers even though I had studied my butt off. Ugh...now I just have to wait and see what the results say. Thank you, Jess. ❤
This is sooo so helpful! I have literally been doing this all my life and it even runs through my family! We have found putting too much pressure on ourselves that we have developed anxiety so much to the point where we have had to take therapy and take medication for anxiety 💊 (till the current day) to try to avoid that! It's crazy what we can do to ourselves!!! Thank you so much for this great knowledge!!! 🌱
to be honest I don't really care about grades but what upset me is the stare that teachers give me when handing me the paper and how my classmates starts ignoring me bacause I am not good enough or smart enough
Thank you Jess :) Your advices are always a great motivation to be better and more efective!During one long period i was getting some bad grades but with your help i found a right direction how to think about school in general
This video really touched me Jess. Thank you so much, it means alot. My exams are next month and I was facing a surge anxiety, so much tension you know, but after watching this video I feel so much better and light. Now I am a way more inspired in the correct way. Thank you once again Jess😭 and keep motivating us☺💪
I cannot thank how much it changed my mind..seriously........not about myself but about others I'm pretty good in studies like I never get A always I get A+ but it changed my mind n how I think about others like I used to think that ppl who r not good in studies r dumb foolish n whatever bad I didn't even think that they were great in their own way..never.....but I 'll think after this seriously i always made friend with people who r good in studies n always downtrodden them but from now wait from this very second i stopped it thanks jess n i love u so much u really inspire me it would mean the if u could reply plzz it would mean the whole world n in the same time i dont blame u for not answering coz ur so busy n have work so if u have a time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz reply
I’m currently failing in AICE psychology , I see myself getting bored in class and not into it. I’m not one to quit on things but the only reason I took the class is because I like the teacher very much but It’s only now I’m realizing that you can’t do things for others, so thanks.
I just got my results today and few hours later, I got notification about this video. On point lol. Well I'm somewhat satisfied in the short run with my results right now because I've been able to promote to the next and hopefully final year before University However in the long run, I'm not at all satisfied. I'm planning to excel in all my subjects before June/July where my MOCK exams will be starting If i had to rate how much I consider myself good over 20, they will be such: Accounting- 18/20 French- 15/20 General Paper- 16/20 Economics- 14/20 Maths- 10/20 The four first subjects I believe that I will be able to Improve, HOWEVER Maths is my SOLE problem. Now let's see how will I proceed next year :c
Hey Jess, Thank you for all your tips that you give to others to make us successful in school and life! Especially this video! My eyes watered in the middle and the end of this video. I really glad I found this! I just had so much anxiety about not having all A-s this school year. I am now a Junior in high school and am not performing as well as I did my Freshman year by making C's D's And F's on my tests and quizzes. I really am trying the best I can. My parents are just so strict and won't accept any less than an A from me. But I have never made All A's before. It's just so hard I have lost my love of just going to school to learn. :-(
Thank you so much for this video! I was able to relate so much with everything you said, and you have really made a difference in my life. My AP exams are coming up, and I was really freaking out about them. You were able to assert what I knew deep down; that I really am not my grades. Thank you💕
I'm 15 and I'm not good at my studies no matter how hard I try, I'm not talented, no one understand how I feel, and I literally have no one to talk about how I feel because every time I tell someone about my problems, they always say that I'm worrying too much and tbh, thats not really helping me out.
Hi Jess! I'd asked a question for Q of the week a few weeks ago. It was about how you should not lose yourself in such a competitive world (not just in academics) and not get so overwhelmed; how to resist self doubt. Maybe that could be one of your topics of pep talk. Cheers to my favorite study buddy! :-)
My problem is that I'm always comparing myself to others🙄
Your very right , I so feel u
ThePowerpuffpigs same!!
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Same
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I AM NOT MY GRADE. A good or bad grade doesn't define me, it just means I have to try harder in one course than others and I believe I can achieve my goal. If not, I'm gonna be okay, like I said my grades doesn't define my self worth. if you're reading this, have a good day, evening or night.
Thank you.💜
Thanks!
im failing 3 classes when i tried my hardest and when i get home i get yelled at by my mom saying im not trying at all and she made me feel like i wanted to flunk school or just cry this video brightened up my day thanks
roseta wolf 2015 Try to talk to your mom about it and tell her you were really trying it might work
roseta wolf 2015 i definitely feel you. I'm failing math , badly , i do all my work but I fail everything I turn in! I get help but Math is just something I will probably never understand..
@@alejandrahernandez5062 Math is an art...... Never say you don't have it.... Everybody has it in himself/herself......
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patame im failing ALL the grades yes 😍😍😍😍
Your self worth is not tied to your grades and together we can help take the stress out of studying and make students feel good about themselves again! It is our passions in life, our beliefs, skills, creativity and the way treat others that shapes who we are and our self-worth; NOT our grades or something we can quantify. xx
Study With Jess Thank you Jess! This brighten up my day❤ #PepTalkwithJess ILOVEYOU
Study With Jess keep up the good work
Study With Jess thank you Jess this made me a bit relaxed bcs my exams are going on and I'm really tensed. this gave me the power!!!! love u
thank you so much about this video. please more often to make video like this. When I watch, I feel like we're talk together ^^
Study With Jess Thank you Jess!!😊
This video is amazing.I really needed this❤I just loved it!!👌
I needed this, I couldn't sleep all night because I'm so bad at testing. I go to class I understand the math I enjoy doing the homework and I'm like "yeah I got this" and test day rolls around and I get the worst grade when I fell so confident when taking it and I just fail!!! I'm so frustrated.
Thank you Jess 💕
Cynde Minde I go through the same things! It's crazy to feel so confident and not see it come through on your test grades.
me i feel you girl...
Madison Cornelius yes very true the sad part is that no matter how much home work I do and get 100% on. My professor only counts our tests :( therefore I'm struggling
I know right!!!! I get straight A's when it comes to assignments and classwork, but when it comes to tests, I'm super slow and end up getting B's and B+'s, so i end up getting super sad. I recently started secondary school from primary school, so I've noticed a drop in my grades.
this came at the right time. I needed this. especially after today's bad paper
niharica verma I just got two math tests back and failed them both );
Luna awwwwww. practise math hard and I'm sure you will do well next time. that is what I have decided to do. I had a political science paper today and I messed up very bad so I introspected and decided I need to pay more attention to it since it was my most neglected subject.
niharica verma I got a 1 on my period 2 AP WORLD HISTORY test. I’m so mad
@@amber4079 Albert Einstein once said, "Education is not the learning of facts, but the training of the mind to think"
My exams requiere my parents signature..... Rip
IKR I hate when people judge other people by graded cause i have so many friends who arent the best at schoolwork who are being picked on by certain teachers
Teachers are jerks D:
No they are not my moms a teacher and she's not a jerk
you were right cause when I think about it, I hate math. I hate it more than anything. But not because people tell me I suck at it. It's because I keep telling myself I suck at it. Nobody ever told me I'm not good enough to understand it and nobody ever told me I'm not smart enough or that I'm stupid to understand math. I keep telling myself that. I am the problem
OMG same! I just don't have the patience for it and it ticks me off!
I'm going to need to listen to this everyday.
Thanks so much Jess!
no one can make you feel inferior without your conscent.
Every time I got a bad grade at school, I felt more and more stupid. Every time I got a 3 or 4 out for 6 (a Norwegian grade system), I thought: If I cannot complete this, if I cannot get good grades in this, what can I do? What am I worth?! Nothing!" And I still feel bad every time I make more mistakes in uni now, than I usually do....I just can't stand myself then, sometimes I even cry. And my parents always say to me: you can do it better next time. But I feel bad and stupid anyway....What to do?
The same, 2nd-year Uni know. but her videos help us a lot.
same
im in 11th grade and this video made my day^^
I so needed this.
I did really badly on my math exam a couple days ago and I had been feeling so bad about that... I haven't really been able to study for anything else properly and that's just been making it worse. I'm generally an anxious person but it's been so bad lately that I can't even focus on my work. I so badly needed this. I still feel bad about my past couple of tests but I'm going to take your advice and I know I can get over it.
Abhipsha Sahu I did really bad at my Math exam the other day too. I fell just like you rn
Same. I don't even know what to do anymore... Maths is by far my worst subject.
It’s ok :) you did fine
I feel this
A name for this type of segment could be "Destress with Jess". It is a little cheesy but catchy. I love your videos and your positivity!
Lanae' Bryant I like that!💓
This is exactly my problem, I'm worrying to mutch about my grades. I'm sorry for my Englisch I'm from the netherlands
Your English is Good Though
I really feel under the water atm, I'm really disappointed and mad. Everything seems sucks. I was a straight A student, my grade was good and I didn't hv any problem regarding grade.But now, the condition is really different. I move school, and everything seems so unusual. My grade drops badly, and I really afraid of it, although I do study really hard. I really nervous regarding my score, and everyone looks way better than I am. It just really hard. I study a lot than before, but the result are so unsatisfying. This video helps me to calm my nerves a bit, ily jess
this made me cry.
i tried so hard to get what i wanted which was concert tickets, my mom told me that we would go but then she told me no because i failed only 2 of my exams, she went on a rant of how useless i am and stuff, it made me want to give up afterall. you brightened my day.
Today is my birthday!!!Thank you for this video.SERIOUSLY.I been feeling so low because I've been failing my tests.Thank you.
Inês Magalhães Happy birthday!!!
Marina Plana Thank you!
Happy birthday! :-)
youtube lover Thank you! :-)
in school some things you learn are never gonna need you in you life but you have exams and tests and you ned to stress about stupid things
Nadja Jovanovic Ikr!!I sometimes fe😅😥els like why do I have to study this????
It's 1 am right now and I'm currently crying because I probably will not get into my dream school, my gpa is about .3 points lower than I thought it was, and my SAT is still not where I want it. While I have okay grades, I'm certainly not at the top of my class and I always beat myself up for it because I feel like I will never measure up to what I'm "supposed to be" (whatever that means). Anyway, thanks for the video. Watching it definitely helped calm me down and reminded me to keep my perspective in chack.
How did it end up? I'm currently struggling with the same exact thing lol
@@lali2955 same.
Watching this the night before my first final exam of the semester, & it’s helping me to feel a lot more calm & relaxed about the exam! I know that I’ve studied as much as I can & that I know what I need to know for the test. Thanks for helping me to realize that! I feel so much calmer now 💖
Thank you so much Jess!!!
I'm usually stress out when it comes to finals or any tests
and I'm worry whether I'm gonna failed it or not. But when I watched
your video, your words made me feel a lot better and stronger now. All
this time, when I'm in school, I've always feel anxiety, sad and
depress because I'm too slow to learn everything like other people. But I've realized that the results is nothing to me anymore. Grades, tests, research paper, did not mean
anything, it just means how much you know your materials. Everybody have their own pace to succeed later on.
I actually just today found out I failed my second of two exams in my International Finance class. This crushed me, because I never fail exams at this rate, and I have very high expectations for myself (my friends say they're way too high lol). I was talking about it in my fraternity group chat, and one of my brothers directed me to this video. Honestly, TH-cam videos never seem to help me, so I was really skeptical. I ended up watching the entire video (I almost never watch videos longer than 5 minutes) and I feel so much better now, this is exactly what I needed so thank you so much! Sorry this is so long lol
I have been talking to myself and my mom about this lately because I've been so stressed out with my grades in school. Even after telling myself that I'm smart and that I work hard, the numbers are really trying hard to tear me apart, and I've been fighting back. It's hard, but in the future, like you said, my work ethic is how people will think of me.
You have no idea what this video means to me. I felt so terrible for how I was doing in a class and to hear someone that gets that. That understands me. Thank you so much for this video!!!!!
it was hard for me as a new high schooler to fail a class that my best friend passed. then I switched schools trying to change and feel better. Now I can face my original school and try again, giving it my all, and taking my grades into account but not because of thinking that's proof of my self-worth but because I have goals and those grades help me get there. You helped me a lot. Every time I watch one, my opinion of life changes each time. You are a special person Jess. Keep doing what you are doing.
Hey Jess! I was wondering if you could do a video about staying motivated to study. I can always get myself motivated to do something but then I get distracted and start procrastination. Anyway I love you and your videos!
I needed this. Since I was little as an African kid I was conditioned to base myself worth with the grades I got. Wasn't to pleased when I saw the grade I got today... But yes we can't control everything
I think you should also address the fact that many people judge others on their grades doing so they also mock and make fun of people that don't get good grades...
This makes the person doing bad, sad and all in all makes the that person marks worse. So it is important to support people and that marks/grades are nothing but checkpoints and they can be good or bad but that doesn't mean that the person isn't capable of getting good marks
I'm doing my last exams of the semester of college this week and I get out of one classroom feeling like "yay, I'm awesome" and at the same day, I get out of another test feeling so dumb that I can't even tell. I REALLY needed this video to remind me that my grades are not as important as my health, and family and people around me that like me for what I am, and not what my grades are. Thank you, Jess! Sometimes we just need someone to pull the reality on our faces and get us to realize that we don't need to be so focused on this. This might make me more confident no finish the two final tests I still have this week!
Thank you so much. This is something I really needed because I have a's in all classes but one, and I have been pressuring myself to think that I need an A in that class to move up to the next grade next year. This video reminded me that as long as I am doing my best, my grades don't matter. Again, thank you.
I think this is an important topic. As most people always expect to learn new skills or any skills in minutes or hours and we forget that we came from different life experience and it takes time to learn anything. When we are stressing out it takes even slower to learn because we feel pressured to learn things quickly. Sometimes we even take short cuts or make wrong decisions.
Thank you for making this. Coming from such a competitive environment, I've seen the toxic effects that attached your self worth to your grades can have.
Jess, I really don't know how to thank u. Like legit had a mental breakdown yesterday because of exams and I'm taking all my subjects for higher and I feel like I'm not worthy for all that and don't deserve it cuz I done my prelims and got really bad results cuz I didn't study. Ur talk really motivated me and I cannot thank u enough. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg this video is REALLY REALLY talking to me. I have panic attacks since Im 15. I can manage it now, but I was still get confused between grades and my own value. This video is awesome.. Thank you. ❤
It’s scary how I literally can’t internalise your advice like there’s a voice inside me going no grades=worth
Oh my goodness, this couldn't have come at a better time! I got a D on my Spanish test today and it's really brought me down. This video is a great uplifter, thanks Jess!!
Hey! SO I'm(NOT TO BRAG) an A+ Or A student but when I get a grade I'm disappointed and sad for the entire week. It's amazing because I LITTERALLY told myself YOU ARE NOT YOUR GRADES ALL THE TIME. This video has perfect timing. Thank you so much .
I find it quite annoying that now in school, it's about passing, not learning.
I am having a bad week. Teachers giving way too much work, can’t understand my math teacher, french teacher gives many assignments and I found out yesterday that I have a french midterm exam tomorrow. I cannot believe how messed up our school system is. It is hard for me at home too. My parents are divorced and they are fighting in court and I can’t see my mom because of this. I just don’t know how I will get through life like this. This video helped me feel a little better. Thanks.
ooomg this video was sent to me from the sky.
soo on tiime thank you jess.
You literally saved me. I can't begin to explain how useless and pathetic I have been feeling after this semester. I burnt myself out trying to juggle a masters and study for an important professional school exam and because of my breakdown and anxiety I burnt out and did horrible on my finals which lead to one A and the rest B's and a B- which dropped my GPA. Iv just been crying because I felt like I don't have a chance to get into the profession I want.
I used to think, considering that I live in an Asian family, that grades were everything and a grade only 1 mark above A made my parent's furious thinking that I was not good enough. Thank you for motivating me to try harder not only in grades but things that are important for me, my family and everyone around me that I might impact in any way.
Thank you
Its so hard to not think about grades especially since it's junior year and its such a bummer because I messed up my physics and precalc test and a few quizzes already. But after watching this I guess I can breathe and get back on A-Game. Thank you Jess 😣💕
I really needed this. Thank you so much Jess, I got my Christmas term report and exam grades, and I was bawling, my mom was so upset with me and I'm still disappointed because I know I can do better. Hopefully when I see my dad tmrw I won't be as upset. But really and truly, you are very inspirational and I'm so grateful for you and your channel. Have a wonderful day!!
I find it very hard to find my self worth in abstract concepts such as kindness. That's why I find it in more concrete things like my grades. (also because teachers put a lot of pressure on us to perform well) I'm hoping to change this.
Thank you so much for this ❤️ I was freaking out today over my grades because I'm not doing as well as I normally do/would like to and I'm in my last year of high school so I feel like it matters so much. I definitely am guilty of connecting my self worth to my grades and I really needed this video today. Thank you for this reminder.
I needed this a lot... my exam is going on... wish me luck. I've a very bad preparation in chemistry..:-(
I really needed this. Thank you for making it. I'm a student in engineering school and it helps me a lot.
my classmates used to say that those that get highest grades in class r the smartest n the others r the dumb I had believed in that saying since I was in primary school..... my parents would scold me dumb too when I get bad grades... now I understand that ur grades do not define u at all thks soo much Jess!!
I really needed this! Thank you! To everyone who is reading this, You're not the only one with bad points sometimes, everything is going to be alright, nobody is perfect! ;)
Since Midle School, i had a lot of problems related to Grade Obsession. I've Never failed a class (Which is a fact that i am super grateful for), but i'm Always anxious about grades, especially when it comes to Report Cards. For exemple in the second semester in seventh grade, i was certain that i got good results in every class (which comes out that it actually happened), but there was Always a wild thought that i was going to fail that would Just bump out of nowhere. And i still fighting with This problem to This very day
Thanks so much Jess! I really need this
Hey Jess! Thank you so much for this video! It made me cry :) I have final exams coming up and I always believed that if I don't get the perfect grade, I fail at life..So thank you so so so much! This video felt like a hug during these hard times. :) Keep doing your amazing work, the world needs you.
By the way, you always get me in a mood to study, so I often come here to watch your videos because they are so inspiring :) xoxo
thanks to your videos i got an incredible atar and into my first choice university. i just thought i would let you know so that you can keep up the great work and continue to aid other students during their year 12!! thanks again jess xo.
I was in a room with three people I know, I do like them, personally. But I know they're all really smart to the point I feel so small next to them, and everytime i feel like one of them is looking at my work, I feel like I'm about to be judged. And it f****** hurts.
I don’t have a older sibling or parent to give me this talk. Thank you. This made me feel much better.
Why does this video not have subtitles? I am deaf so I need to see the subtitles. I subscribed your channel because you have subtitles in every video. I hope you do this too so that I can watch.. thank you
Aww!
I wish I could write what she was saying ...
JESS CAPTIONS PLS
Dishu Bansal i hope she's going to put subtitles 💛
Thank you so much.. ☺️
Dishu Bansal , I think she put the captions on because when I watched the video it has it.
I have an AP Psychology test tomorrow that I'm not feeling too good about and this made me feel so much better... thank you! 💕💕
Jess thank you so much...I was so good at beggining of the school year, but now i am not that good.I am so sad...Then, i saw this video.Thank you so much.You are my hero!
Thanks Jess! This is what I needed to hear. I was feeling very stressed about some of my grades. You are right about rating our self worth, it's not based on grades. I'm trying to change my way of thinking, it's slow at times. Haha. :D
of course grades arent everything but i think that when you look deeper into a persons life you see the importance of them in some cases.
Hello,
I'm from Germany and actually studying business adminstration. I felt a lot in the way what you mentioned.
Thank you very much for helping me opening my eyes.
Thank you Jess, for posting this! I really needed to hear this and it's inspired me to stop putting myself down when I get a bad grade. ❤
You made my day Jess... I could never thank u enough :)
Thank you so much Jess! This was the exact video I needed. My grades close this Friday and I tend to stress out about everything waaaay too much! I'm so great full for you, your videos, and everything you've taught me!
Sometimes I feel like it doesn't matter how hard I try im just destand to fail, just when my grades get back on track I always end up missing an assignment or flailing a test and my life falls in to little tiny peices and I get home and get yelled at because "I'm not trying." When in reality im trying the hardest I can
This Video is amazing. I'm struggling with this problem a while now. And whenever I get a bad grade i still freak out about it. It happens automaticly. And i must say that this video has touched me very much because i often feel alone with the pressure.So THANK YOU JESS for this message it helps so much and i try to always keep that in my mind for the future . ☺
ps. Sorry if my english is not perfect. I 'm german and i'm still learning it . 🙈
Sara Middendorf your English is perfect! Well done💓
ThePowerpuffpigs Thank you ☺
I love you so much, thank you for this. Tomorrow I am writing a history exam and this worked. Thank u
I live in Hong Kong. I'm a Hong Konger. I am excellent and fluent in English. I am horrible in Chinese. I cannot read much Chinese nor write. Hong Kong's official languages are English and Chinese. Most Hong Kongers are horrible in English, no problem. I am horrible in Chinese, I am ruined. I am great in every subject except for Chinese. Yet I beat myself up mentally just for failing one subject.
Snowswirl Same here
I cryed watching this. Thank you so much
This really helped me ...the last time I really was happy about my grades was in high school...in varsity things changed.........passed few tests...often think that I am a loser
Thank you for this video💖 I was stressed about my grade and I started having a breakdown and needed just to hear that I’m not my grades so much😁 thank you love you❤️
I really needed this before going into finals week. Thank you. I have been stressed out all semester trying to get to a 4.0 to get into veterinary school.
I'm in an Asian community. Yes as stereotypical it is, my parents especially my mum just feel embarassed with me. I recently had a huge exam and the results came in today, out of 9 subjects, I got 3As 2Bs 4 bloody Cs. I'm so embarassed and I feel so depressed just typing this. All my friends got 8As and i seriously thought I did my best. This made me open my eyes. To take this as a lesson. My mum is still upset but there is nothing else I can do I just need to do better. Thank u so much.
i i was so down yesterday because i scored D+ . of course I didn't notice the fact that I was in a minority of those who actually passed the exam. I needed this !
it's funny that you used the funeral example. I'm in mortuary school right now, and about a month into school we had....one heck of a test. the next class session the professor (who knew how nuts we were all going in the lab after that test) came in and told us we need to chill out because no funeral home we interview at is going to say 'well what grade did you get on this one particular test? oh just a C? well we can't hire you' they're just going to say 'did you pass your boards? did you graduate?'. Now I repeat it to my girlscouts (theyre in high school) when they text me about a test. also one of the upper classmen told me about that same test that the first time I work a funeral where they say "this guy sucked because he failed a test one time" I can say I told you so abd cry about a test grade, but until then I need to relax
my first biology test I got a 44 and I felt horrible and thought I was a disappointment...
we have mind maps in the same class, I got 11 out of 12 on them before but now I get 10 out of 12 which is pretty much a dramatic change to your grade and I keep getting them no matter how hard I work on them. also in the same class I'm in a group of 4 and all the girls seem super smart and I feel really dumb around them...
I needed this so much i got worse grades then ive ever had because of online school making me unmotivated.
I feel like people feel worthless over bad grades because parents pressure kids, to parents, if you want a child with good grades than instead of taking away electronics try lifting them up and telling them to keep trying or they'll break down easily and give up and get worse grades
I really needed to hear this today. I had a chemistry exam and I was so worried because it didn't feel like I knew the answers even though I had studied my butt off. Ugh...now I just have to wait and see what the results say. Thank you, Jess. ❤
This is sooo so helpful! I have literally been doing this all my life and it even runs through my family! We have found putting too much pressure on ourselves that we have developed anxiety so much to the point where we have had to take therapy and take medication for anxiety 💊 (till the current day) to try to avoid that! It's crazy what we can do to ourselves!!! Thank you so much for this great knowledge!!! 🌱
love you Jess !! this video means a lot to me !! please continue such pep talks !! lots of love from India !!!!
thank you Jess, you're in time. I was so stressful because of Latin and Greek but now I feel a little better. Bye from Italy💕
Hey Jess. When I think about school, I start crying. I get overwhelmed and procrastinate and get so stressed. I hate this
to be honest I don't really care about grades but what upset me is the stare that teachers give me when handing me the paper and how my classmates starts ignoring me bacause I am not good enough or smart enough
Thank you Jess :) Your advices are always a great motivation to be better and more efective!During one long period i was getting some bad grades but with your help i found a right direction how to think about school in general
This video really touched me Jess. Thank you so much, it means alot. My exams are next month and I was facing a surge
anxiety, so much tension you know, but after watching this video I feel so much better and light. Now I am a way more inspired in the correct way. Thank you once again Jess😭 and keep motivating us☺💪
I cannot thank how much it changed my mind..seriously........not about myself but about others I'm pretty good in studies like I never get A always I get A+ but it changed my mind n how I think about others like I used to think that ppl who r not good in studies r dumb foolish n whatever bad I didn't even think that they were great in their own way..never.....but I 'll think after this seriously i always made friend with people who r good in studies n always downtrodden them but from now wait from this very second i stopped it thanks jess n i love u so much u really inspire me it would mean the if u could reply plzz it would mean the whole world n in the same time i dont blame u for not answering coz ur so busy n have work so if u have a time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz reply
I’m currently failing in AICE psychology , I see myself getting bored in class and not into it. I’m not one to quit on things but the only reason I took the class is because I like the teacher very much but It’s only now I’m realizing that you can’t do things for others, so thanks.
your pep talk makes my day ,thank you so much Jess, you're amazing !
I just got my results today and few hours later, I got notification about this video.
On point lol.
Well I'm somewhat satisfied in the short run with my results right now because I've been able to promote to the next and hopefully final year before University
However in the long run, I'm not at all satisfied.
I'm planning to excel in all my subjects before June/July where my MOCK exams will be starting
If i had to rate how much I consider myself good over 20, they will be such:
Accounting- 18/20
French- 15/20
General Paper- 16/20
Economics- 14/20
Maths- 10/20
The four first subjects I believe that I will be able to Improve,
HOWEVER Maths is my SOLE problem.
Now let's see how will I proceed next year :c
Hey Jess, Thank you for all your tips that you give to others to make us successful in school and life! Especially this video! My eyes watered in the middle and the end of this video. I really glad I found this! I just had so much anxiety about not having all A-s this school year. I am now a Junior in high school and am not performing as well as I did my Freshman year by making C's D's And F's on my tests and quizzes. I really am trying the best I can. My parents are just so strict and won't accept any less than an A from me. But I have never made All A's before. It's just so hard I have lost my love of just going to school to learn. :-(
this made my day!! thank you!! i was actually sad because i got a grade i was not expecting
Awesome going Jess! You're bringing bout the change
Thanks for the prep talk Jess !
Thank you so much for this video! I was able to relate so much with everything you said, and you have really made a difference in my life. My AP exams are coming up, and I was really freaking out about them. You were able to assert what I knew deep down; that I really am not my grades. Thank you💕
I'm 15 and I'm not good at my studies no matter how hard I try, I'm not talented, no one understand how I feel, and I literally have no one to talk about how I feel because every time I tell someone about my problems, they always say that I'm worrying too much and tbh, thats not really helping me out.
It's hard to not care if you need to redo the grade if you receive 2 fails from 7 exams...
This video came in a really good moment in my life. It honestly help me a lot, thank you so much, Jess.
Hi Jess! I'd asked a question for Q of the week a few weeks ago. It was about how you should not lose yourself in such a competitive world (not just in academics) and not get so overwhelmed; how to resist self doubt. Maybe that could be one of your topics of pep talk.
Cheers to my favorite study buddy! :-)