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How I Stopped Attaching Grades to my Sense of Self Worth: Mindset of Success. | ad
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In such a linear education system, it's easy to live in a bubble of grades. Overthinking breeds perfectionism and insecurity; it's unsurprising we begin to tie ourselves to numbers on a piece of paper! In this video, I'm going to talk about why you should still CARE, but in a healthier way. Caring about grades is different to defining yourself within them.
I hope this helps at least 1 person! Little pre-teen me needed this message. ✨
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One thing I'd like to add is that a grade represents your ability to conform your work to the system's expectations. It doesn't have anything to do with your understanding of the topic sometimes
Can't agree more, thank you for sharing!!
In year 12 I was predicated E and D for my a levels. My teachers put that reputation on my for always getting the lowest, so when I did my AS exams, I did get the lowest. It wasn’t until after summer and the start of Y13 that I decided that I am better than their expectation of me... to basically fail. This mindset shift helped me so much... despite still being predicted E in maths, E in physics and D in chemistry, I came out with AAA..... I didn’t let the expectation of me from my teachers drag me down any longer... this video message is so important!
Well done!!!!!!
Congratulations, it's awesome !
Wow that's amazing! Congratulations x
Thank you all :) just wanted to share, as if it wasn’t for my mind shift, I wouldn’t be where I am today, hopefully it encourages others :)
Ben Carson can be a great example because no one believed he can do it but he said,"I can do what anyone can do but better".
since going to university, my mindset has shifted from "need good grades to move on and get into university" to "need/want to learn these skills because I'm passionate about them and so I can achieve my dream career". A big, happy shift. I check grades so much less often and focus instead on diving into the content.
Same here
Me : **is literally in tears because of thinking about grades**
Jade : it’s okay to cry :-)
Me : **cries twice as hard**
Hope u do well!
Why is this me though?!
This is so, SO important. Nowadays its so easy to get caught up in comparison to other people and having something physical and quantifiable to label yourself with. It’s a shame, but I’m so glad you’ve shed light on this!! Thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I’m a medical student at uni and everyone around me is super competitive in my bubble so it can get really exhausting but as you said there’s a lot more to life!!☀️ ((by the way- you’ve inspired me to start my own channel (!!) where I’ll talk about my experience to and through uni, would LOVE any support/feedback💛💛💛))
I can't agree more. 🌟
And honestly this means so much!! I just watched a few of your videos and left some feedback ;) what you're doing is amazing! You have such a warmth to your videos and I can't wait to see where it takes you! 🦋
UnJaded Jade ahhh thank you so so much for your kind words Jade!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 (totally fangirling rn)You’re deffo my inspo- can’t wait for more vids :))💛🥰
I learned this the hard way when I entered uni. I was so used to have perfect grades, and then reality crushed me, I wasn't "perfect" anymore and was so sad about it. Eventually I got better and learned that I have so much room for improvement, mistakes only make you wiser, and a grade does not longer define my self-worth.
3 videos in 3 days?!!!! Jade you are treating us!! 💞
Just watched your video tonight Imogen! It was really useful, especially as I'm in Year 12 and applying for uni in September
This is so relatable. Today I was filling out some questions for our Y11 yearbook. We were asked about our best memory at school. Then I realised that when I look back at my school experience, I only remember revising, doing work and stressing about grades. It’s difficult for me to distinguish grades from my sense of accomplishment but I’m getting there. :)
I'm almost 26 and about to start my second year in uni. I dropped out when I was 20 due to mental health issues, second time's the charm I guess.
It's nice to go on this journey with you:) ❤
Wow !!♡
proud of you!
I hope I can get to that mindset one day. I am so far from it. Grades are who I am and each bad grades genuinely feels life-ruining to me.
This is such an important message. Learning is about what you learn not the grade you get from it. During lockdown I've been doing free online courses-I don't get a grade, just the knowledge and it's so much fun!
I'm studying abroad and just yesterday I failed my first exam ever, I'm very depressed because de grade of the exam is 100% the final grade of the subject and I've never failed a subject before so perfect timing for this video ♥️
I just started my A level, i was so insecure as my friends are way smarter than me. I've been crying, I blamed myself so being stupid and not academically inclined like the others
me too😔
I struggled with this too during A Levels but you have to go at your own pace and please (I know its easier said than done) remember that you are your own person! Revise because you love your modules and the content and I promise that learning for passion rather than learning for a grade will give you better results :) sending love x
Thank you Kate Allison! Your kind words really mean a lot to me😭😭😭😭
I have an exam coming up right after June 20th in Korea, and although I'm studying hard it is clearly harder to understand the content I'm learning cuz most of the classes are cut down from 50 mins to 20~25min. So I was kind of in that "what if I don't get good grades OMG" mood until I saw this..... All of your words are soo true! We are more than our grades!
Thank you sooooo much for uploading this video, I loved it, and I'm sure everybody else did as well xx
My first step for learning to love learning and valuing education again is changing my current A-Level subjects , ones that I believed I had to be doing in order to be seen as intelligent ,subject's that i thought would increase my self confidence because getting a good grade in them would mean I was "really clever" just because all 3 are seen as "facilitating subjects", and only keeping one of which I am currently taking because I truly enjoy it and finally taking the two "softer" subjects that I really wanted to take at A-level, because taking those subjects should not make me feel like Im not good enough because they are not who I am, they are what I enjoy.
I wish we could just learn on our own, at our own pace and then be tested on our skills and receive help accordingly .
I 100% agree! We need to be treated as people not numbers!
ikr that would make our life much less stressful eh
I’ve definitely noticed a change in my mindset towards grades in my two years (so far) studying at university. I used to care a lot about my grades and constant failure made me feel like I wasn’t smart enough, but it’s slowly teaching me a lot about failure and trial and error and most importantly that GRADES aren’t everything! Thank you for sharing this important message! ♥️
This is so true! The school system leaves me waiting on edge and counting the days until the next test or exam and it’s so toxic, sometimes you’ve just got to step back and realise life is worth so much more than a letter!!💘
I’m not sure why I cried while watching this video but I did. I’m going into Year 11 this September and I feel so much pressure from me and my teachers. I’m one of those people who feels guilty when they don’t work but I don’t want my mental health to worsen because all I do is work. The GCSE system is so corrupted and I’m so worried about trying to learn and remember everything. Thank you for helping me in a way I’m not to sure of. I really appreciate it!
It's so refreshing every time you talk about this, Jade! When I was in college, I failed my As and A2 chem and biology exams over and over again. Not for lack of effort, they were just really challenging for me. At first I severely let it rule my mental health, I felt so ashamed I didn't tell anyone how I felt for a year, because I was the 'smart kid'. But slowly I realised I could define my own reasons for studying, not just to get the 'approval' from friends and family, but because it was a way to explore the world through learning. What helped me - Every time I studied, I'd write at the top why I found the topic interesting or questions I was curious about - and on my desk, put notes from my friends telling me no matter what grade I got, or what stage I was at, I'm loved and accepted anyway.
Thank you for such an amazing video. Have a lovely day, Jade :D
Your friends' messages are so cute, I love that idea! I'm glad you're feeling better now
@@camembertfanpage Thanks so much for the comment, this made my day
@@lewisallen7013 I'm currently studying for my Biology A-levels next week and I'm actually enjoying it at the moment, so yeah I'm doing great! Hope you have a nice day too, Lewis! :)
I’m just finishing up Final Year at uni and honestly I wish I could have heard this at the start of the journey!! The fun in learning has definitely been taken away, but one thing university has taught me is that ‘average’ of grades really help out in the long run. One or two bad grades will never make you drop a whole sub-level!
I had a test a couple weeks back and when my lecturer gave us our grades I was genuinely shocked because I thought I did well. The day of, I called my lecturer to see where I went wrong and how I could improve for my finals. In that call, a few things happened that I won't disclose but the general vibe that she was giving me was how I should be ok with what I got because a few of my classmates failed. That's literally what she said I can't make this up. She also wants us to think out of the box but what she wants is her perspective on things which is so frustrating because we're not mind readers!? Anyways, that experience made me honestly really disappointed at her and the educational system itself cause I really thought we left all of this in high school.
ps. you're such an inspiration to me Jade xx
I know where you're coming from. All my A-level biology mocks were so hard that most of the class would fail and I would be congratulated for getting a D. Everyone dreaded biology and when the exams came they were even harder than predicted. I ended up getting an A* because of the boundaries but the way we were tested in class definitely negatively impacted many students so they came to do badly in the exams.
Jade, every video you make I think "wow, this is Jade's best ever video" and then you come out with something like this. I am blown away by the thought you have put into this, and by the way you so articulately discussed the point you want to make.
I'm a PhD student -- in fact, I'm about to finish my PhD and start a position as a postdoc researcher, and while I kind of have my shit together nowadays, during school, and especially during my A Levels, I had this "grades are everything" mindset that you describe. I invested a huge amount emotionally into getting good grades. This destroyed my already fragile mental health, and I did seriously badly in my final exams, meaning I missed out on my first choice university, and only just scraped into my insurance choice. For someone who had been considered Oxbridge material a couple of years previously, this felt like a massive failure. Fortunately, once I got to uni I found a really supportive environment, and got counselling (and medication) for my mental health, something I would recommend to everyone, even if you think your problems are too small to warrant going to a counsellor!
Your video spoke to a part of me that I'd almost forgotten existed: that terrified seventeen year old who was fixated on getting As to the exclusion of everything else. I wish I'd been able to watch your videos back then; I think it would have made an enormous difference to my mindset, my outlook and my overall well being.
To everyone else, I want to reiterate Jade's point: it's ok to be upset when you get a bad grade (or even a lot of bad grades, as I did). I know it doesn't seem like it now, but take it from someone nearly ten years distant from their A Levels: you grades do not matter that much. You will be fine. In fact, you will thrive, no matter what that piece of paper on results day says. You can achieve your goals; the path just might be a little different to what you're planning right now.
I study education studies at uni and even the teachers tell us how the education system is flawed! We have so many debates about the linear system and now like I you actually enjoy what I learn and my course has no exams 🙌🏻 so I feel so much less pressure as I can spend more time on essays
Damm, this hit me hard when I did bad on my end of year maths. Thanks, Jade for healing my scars that still hurt me to this day
I always had the reputation of getting A's in everything at school and honestly I put so much pressure on myself to keep this up which has affected my mental health massively even now at University! Really needed this, thank you so much 💜
You have no idea how much I needed this especially in med school where competition is super high and you feel stupid all the time surrounded by very smart people who always seem to thrive. You work just as hard, but the result does not quiet reflect the hard work that you’ve put in :(
i needed this so so much. i genuinely have been going through this literal crisis and the anxiety of school has been so real but this video came at the right time and i’m so grateful for this video and for you 🥺💞💓💗
Jade, your videos make me so happy. You’re the big sister we all need 🥺🥺🥺💕💕💕💕
You're sooo amazing jade I really needed this and it's just helped me realise how grades aren't everything and that's what is really important
Jade this is amazing!! Thank you so much for this!! I’ve always had a mindset that grades were all that matter and all of my self worth was attached to my grades - this was so incredible!! x
Thank you so much for this video, I've watched it 3 or 4 times since I started sixth form last September, at times when I've been feeling especially stressed and overly worried about grades, and this video just grounds me every time and puts everything into perspective xx
Hey Jade, i just wanted to say thank you so much for this video! I really needed to hear those words :) I've been struggling with comparison regarding my grades and my productivity level a lot lately. Plus I felt like I forgot about the reason why I wanted to study at university and why I loved it in the first place. Thank you for reminding me that it's about learning and growing. Have a nice day!! 💜🌻
A very important message, trying to remember it right now as I'm taking taking my highschool finals. you for being such an inspiration! ✨🌻
Thank you for this, so many people needed to hear it. Myself included! Especially with school/ Uni being online, everyone is more worried about their grades/ how it will affect their future.
The absolute truth!! i feel like it is something that really changes at university for a lot of people when you are not in such close proximity to the people you are against if that makes sense. In school, comparing is so easy as classes are small but it would be impossible to upkeep that bad habit at university when there are hundreds. Honestly so glad you put this out there x
Such an important video, thank you sooooo much for making this! As someone who was labelled "the smart one" from year 7, I found it really difficult to come to terms with not naturally "getting" all of of my subjects at GCSE and it destroyed my mental health. Although I don't have my A-Levels this year anyway (thanks corona), the work I did on my self-worth to ensure I could approach all of my learning with a curious compassionate mindset definitely would've left me feeling so much better going into each exam, and I wish I'd discovered this mindset earlier. Thank you for making this resource so that other people can gain this view sooner - you may well save lives, as well as generally improving them. You go, Jade x
so glad to see you talking about this. i adore study-based social media but i do think it is east to get caught up in grades when they are so prevalent in the media you are consuming!! it’s great to see you talking about how they’re not the be all and end all, i’m sure a lot of viewers (myself included) have benefited xx
It's so true. I had so much stress a few months ago about my finals (middle school), and I think that studying because you enjoy it, because you wanna learn, because you wanna grow... that's 1 of the best things I could have done for myself. And I still doing it, thinking about school as a privilege and opportunity.
You are such a role model for me. I love you and your family Jade. I am really proud of you for getting those results . I hope you are proud of them too. Love from Pakistan!! ✨
This Topic isn’t spoken about ENOUGH! It’s so sad that people tie their self worth to a letter or number when really, we’re all special in our own way whether we want to accept it or not, it’s just something that ‘is’ if you know what I mean💛 Doing a Maths degree has put me in these kind of situations a lot; I’m still on my way to changing my perspective but progress is still being made😊✨ It does make me think though, Jade, Maybe if you did get into oxford you wouldn’t have learnt how to detach yourself nearly as much as if you went to Minerva💓So happy it’s all worked out for you in the end! X
This video and the rest have really helped me. In my high school, we start GCSEs from Year 9 and when I started in September, I really felt pressured. Since I found your channel, you have really inspired and have helped me develop a better mindset-especially this video. Keep up the good work. 😊
Really needed to hear this. I’m 26 and in my 3rd year of my course and I have had serious self doubt because I feel like I’m not smart enough for my course, or that I can’t find the best way to study and utilise my time. This video gave me some clarity into my thinking pattern and I hope I can adapt to the growth mindset. Thank you Jade 💕
I needed this. Right now. Jade came through. I’ve had my results back and they were bad. Really bad. But I’ve had to learn that my grades are only a number. And they are for what they are and can be improved. Jade, thank you x
You are more than a number!
Yes!! I'm sure you're amazing!! You can do better, learning is a process xx
@@helenjames6982 Thank you, it’s very lovely of you x
@@rebeccathompson8712 Thank you lovely x
this is a something i really needed, as someone who has always chased perfectionism, and now having landed on not the best grades, i realised how deeply rooted this mindset is, and here, now, i thankyou for saying such kind and comforting words.
Jade,Thanks a lot for all your effort you put in your videos,because of you I was able to get my life so much better,thanks jade!!
Omg this video truly felt like a real conversation with you! Thank you so much! Also, I wanted to say that since I've been at uni, my feelings towards grades changed as well! Now I genuinely just want to learn content because I am curious and passionate about what I chose to study!
This is so so so important! There is always scope for improvement if you haven't done well...you just have to keep fighting till you master it !
Hey! This video has come at a perfect time. This quarantine has been so difficult and my grades have really been suffering. It’s made me sad but I remember that grades can’t take away my passion for knowledge
Jade, this is the video that will benefit so many, including me. Thank you 🙏 You have the power to make an impact on so many and you’ve helped me reach my potential in recent years so thank you thank you thank you xxx
Exactly what I needed! Thank you, Jade! 🌼✨
you're such a beautiful person inside out. sending hugs and love you kind smart stunning qween.
Thank you so much Jade, I really needed this. Italian education system is based on grades. If you get good grades, you're clever, you will succeed in life. If you don't, you're stupid, you won't do anything in your life. In middle school I was the best student in my class. In high school I found 20 more people who were the best in their class. Somebody (like me) can't stand this, I started overthinking a lot, I have so much anxiety and all I want to do is find again the pleasure of learning, the fun, the passion and your video definitely helps.
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Same!
Meeee!
i love this video! I actually used to obsess over grades and it ruined my friendships a bit, my mental health, and my overall well being. Right now i still obsess the tinyest bit but i’m slowly getting over them and starting to care less.
Thank you so much Jade for this.
As a medical entrance student, the pressure is real.
And the hardest part is, along with the fluctuating grades, so does my mood, my self worth fluctuates and I instantly fall back with one bad prformance.
To every student, I would like to tell you that grades are a important PART of you, but they are not the defining boundary of you as a person, as a soul.
This video was so needed. Whenever I get a grade I’m unhappy with I immediately put myself down and find myself in a very negative mindset where I think “I’m so bad at this, I’m never going to pass” etc
Thanks for the video Jade!
I'm stressing out, the A level exams here are postponed until next year and this video reminded me of the fact that i need to relax.
Thank you again
Lots of love to you from Mauritius Island ♥️
I have never seen a man so genuine as this guy, he's really a man of his words..
This gives such an important message about the UK education system as a whole. Keep this sort of content going Jade! xx
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Thank You !
Finally !!! Somone who understands !!!! I always cared about grades , sry I ment obsessed over grades... And I can't explain how much it drove me insane ... because of that I never really found someone who understands me , someone who is like me , and although I was admired with my good grades but I was also made fun of .... ppl would laugh at how much I care and dont even get me started on if I cry about it 😑😑😑 or when I get a "bad" grade ppl laugh at how "not that bad" it is ..... and really it gets too overwhelming and stressful and hard then they'll be that one person who tells me to just "let go" it's not that easy for me !! Why don't they understand 😓 I am really glad I found you jade finally someone who does in fact understand I cant thank you enough 🥺🥺🥺
Yay!!!!!finally early...love you so much Jade. You always inspire and motivate in my studies
This is the video I needed to see when I was younger! Great video as always ✨
Thank you for raising the point about teachers! Both my parents are teachers and I think it's sometimes forgotten that they are under huge amount of stress alot of the time x
i know i'm a little late to this - but thank you so much for this video!
i just got my grades for this semester - in one class especially - i got a grade that I am VERY disappointed with, and have been so hard on myself because of that.
thank you so much for this, genuinely, because it's something I really needed to hear.
this is exactly what i needed, thank you
I love you Jade at this moment I needed to hear this do damn much you are such a pure person and a true motivator ♥️🥺
I'm currently working on developing a growth mindset and it has changed so much for me! I can only recommend it to everybody to try it out for some time!!
Jade ..u r such an amazing human being and I just love how positive u r 💛💘
Thank you Jade!! OMG been needing this so muchhhh ❤️❤️
Yess Jade!! 💗💗 You are truly an inspiration xx
Thank you so much for doing these kind of videos, you’re helping so many
I always need a good Jade talk to re-prioritize my academic goals :)) THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU :))
Loving the 3 uploads in 3 days! Definitely be needing this for a level results day this year!
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Thank you so much Jade... Needed this!!
Love ya!! 💛💛😊🤗🤣😇
Wow, Jade you are so inspiring and positive I look up to youuu ahhh 🥺💓✨
I got back an assignment today and I got a pretty average score for it. I have spent the entire day feeling bad about it. But really, now that the day is over, I feel sad for having felt so sad lol. Grades and scores are really just numbers that only tell us what we could get done in a certain period of time. They should never be given the power to define our full potential. Also, this video makes me feel so much better. Thank you, Jade. ❤️
I just love the way she speaks❤️
I’ve been loving all of your recent upload !!
Thanks for this! As someone who has finished their third year of uni with a high 2.1 average I was so upset as I know I could’ve gotten a first but my motivation and mental health was terrible, so I think I shouldn’t beat myself up about it as much as I am rn
Such an imprtant message! I have had a lot of struggles in the past because of my grades. I always achieved very good grades but my mental health was really bad. I felt like I needed to get A* because if I didn't, I would kind of loose my identity...
Luckily I managed to get over that and now I still achieve good grades and still care about grades, but there isn't so much preasure anymore :)
So I got a really mediocre score on a mock I took yesterday and I started to cry my eyes out. I would keep calling myself stupid, dumb and worthless on the basis of my scores. My parents have always been supportive and have told me the exact same thing as jade did in this video. But I would always disagree and be like " no , I worked so hard and didn't get the score I wanted so that means I'm probably dumb to not even get into college" (bc I have my final exams in July this year which will get me into college/uni..)which is a stupid stupid mindset.
EVERYTHING you spoke in this video I resonated with. I'm going to try to not measure my self worth on the basis of my scores and instead focus on the learning! This video came out at the perfect time and I watched it the first thing in the morning, so I'm going to take this as a sign to work hard but not go down in motivation just bc of a number and instead take it positively.
Thank you jade for this video! I truly don't know what I would've done without your videos :)
PS. Sorry for the looong ramble
Ahhhh love this! Love you Jade❤️
Really needed this, after A-levels were cancelled I felt so lost and low but this gave me a lift💛x
Nice message . In a system that says grades are everything it’s easy to think that they define us. They don’t.
Oh my God.How much I have missed your talks like this
I really needed to hear this, thank you ❤️
VERY early for me! Love the video, thank so much for your amazing good vibes and light.
this couldnt have come at a better time. education should be fun. thanks Jade
unjaded jade three days in a row 😲am i in heaven?😂❤
Genuinely speaking this lady is clarifying my life style with my academic performance. P.S she's very calming.
Thank you Jade 💛💛💛 need this right now x
This video was very reassuring! Your such an inspiration! 💓
I totally and wholeheartedly agree with what you are saying! 👍 You are very inspiring! 🥰
I have changed my perspective on grades in a different way after starting university. I’ve started to see the value in non academic activities too- I will more often choose go to that sports match or meet up with my friends instead of revising sometimes because these things will have greater lasting memories and build bonds for life. You could be missing out on memories for life- you don’t make memories for life at your desk! Social activities can also be intellectual and healthy too, you just have to view them in that way!
I really needed to hear this. Thank u a lot ❤
This is so inspirational!! I was so overwhelmed by exams which I never expected I will have that experience in college too :( I am much relieved~~ thank! :) BTW I'm really happy that you will visit Korea soon~~!!
OMG! I’m here so soon! Errr.... Thank you so much! Such an inspiration! (Which feels like what all the comments say) But you make everything seem better :) Thank you!!!
🥺 thank you so much, genuinely
Such an inspiring video!!! So many people should hear this!!
I needed this so bad THANK YOU JADE