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That was exactly what my Dad wanted. Us to give him attention constantly and never hurt his feelings. His feelings were the only feelings allowed and they ONLY feelings that matters and he would often TELL us how we felt.
exactly my father!! very touchy very sensitive; demands us to worship him, while we must be rocks and take his punches and knives and swords thrown by his bitter spiteful tongue! my heart races and comes to my throat every time I go visit him.
The false beliefs : 1.There is something wrong with me. I’m .. all the negatives.. so I will not be loved by others. 2. I’m powerless over how I feel. Nobody can help therefore am a victim. 3. Others feelings are more important than mine and am responsible for their feelings. 4. I can control how others think of me and treat me. 5. Resisting others control over me is essential for my integrity. Resisting is the only way not to lose myself. 6. I can’t handle pain, discomfort, fears, hurt, grief, boredom, shame, loneliness etc. so I need substances, anger, addictions to handle this. WE FEAR WE CANT SURVIVE OUR OWN FEELINGS. 7. If I change others I will be changed too as a result. 8. If I only work on changing me it won’t change others. Please listen to what he says though. I wrote this down only so when I come to this video again I’ll have it written as notes. Thank u so much Jerry for ur work.
Thanks for sharing this. God bless. Nehemiah 8:10 (KJV) Then he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; for the joy of the LORD is your strength.
It took me years to sit with my feelings while I sorted them out. After a lifetime of shattered crazy family chaos I learned to wait a minute before I reacted.
This hit home. My mom loves me when I mold myself to her needs and make her happy, masking my personality. But if I express hurt at her behavior or point out something I dislike, or express a vulnerability, I am nothing but trash to her. She has no trouble throwing me away for months at a time until shes ready to come back and pretend it never happened, and call me unreasonable if I’m not willing to pretend she did nothing wrong.
Myths 1 I am defective: unloveable, and insignificant 2 I am powerless for how I feel and my reactions. 3 other peoples feelings are more important than mine. 4 I can control what others think of me and how they treat me. 5 resisting others control over me is essential to my integrity. 6 I can’t handle real feelings so I can only be angry. 7 If I change others then I’ll be changed. 8 If I only work on changing me it won’t change anyone else.
I can relate to every one of these. The one that really sticks out to me and I found out about it on my first 4th step was how others control me. I guess I really didn't understand what you were saying about that. I do know that when I stopped reacting to the people who controlled me then they did not want anything to do with me.
If they want nothing to do with you, that is up to them to decide same like we can decide to stop reacting to them. Often when we stop reacting we break the circuit ❤️
I found that comment very interesting. I have a couple of people at work who I am reacting badly to and I do not wish to have that feeling any more. They want to control me and it bothers me but it’s not really important so I just would like to move past this without causing offence.
minute 21 healed me!!!!!! I have that experience all the time. Grieving things before they come so that I am prepared. Those words fell on me. Thank you.
That's wonderful Monica Thanks for watching “Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist” Workshop Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time On Zoom Topics: The Illusions of the Narcissist The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists Living in the War Zone 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist 10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have And more… Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos. Q & A Role Plays Volunteer participation You will receive the recorded workshop You will receive the notes for the workshop www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
I was told to just fit in. Didn’t know what that meant. I started a new school in high school and my mom said i have the opportunity to be anyone i want to be and my reply was i just want to be who i am. That didn’t go over well I just leaned to hide my self better by not expressing my self I remember a few years later when i was working being so insecure. I felt like people thought i was very ugly and weird and I couldn’t look in the eyes of anyone I only felt good when i was alone It took me years to finger out my family wasnt normal. Decades later I still cant have a conversation with my sister that doesjt turn into an insulting demeaning mess I haven’t lived near my family for decades and i dont call them so these random messages even decades after my mom passed i disassociate myself with. Generational damage continues on my family. Kind of fascinating what i get accused of from people i have learned not to even speak to
There IS an internal logic between 2 and 3 though. "I cannot control MY feelings, they come in response to what others do, THEREFORE others' feelings come as response to what *I* do." and vice versa.
A couple years ago a mental healthcare professional told me that I am young and don't yet have the confidence that will come with age. I would have liked to believe that but I know that there's a lot of work for me to do.
Feeling same way ~ it's understandable that we get to this point at times: overwhelmed , confused, and discouraged with all of life. I had an extremely bad night with this last night. I feel a little more at peace and comfort this morning~ but I know it wont be the last time I feel that way. I saw your comment and identified with it and I want ypu to know that you are not alone in feeling this way about life. And that it is completely normal to feel this way although painful. Please know that I am praying for comfort, strength, and peace for you and for all of us in the midst of these storms we face daily. God loves us and has given us one another to come along side and encourage each other in the darkness. Peace and comfort I pray over you. God Bless and keep you always.
Well Sanna, If you think life if is disappointing wait till you die. Massive disappointment. Everyone promises heaven and all you get is worms and decay. Try keeping your muscle tone with no blood flow, complicated as it is, its the only way we've figured out how to get any thing done.
Thank you, again! It is interesting how when one person in a group learns to "grow up" it can free others to look inside themselves and grow. Your videos are so packed w important information that I have to watch them over and over.
These are powerful beliefs to overcome. I have come to this very late in life. I often think that the damage done is insurmountable. I can help others but there seems to be no help for me. 😟😟😢😢
For decades (with a handful of times I remember inbetween), I could jeer understand how people could let go and just be themselves. I thought of it like a roller coaster where it climbs and you let go as it sets off down the first slope. I'd reach the top, climb out mentally and cling on to the scaffolding for grim death. I always wanted to flow with the ride but just couldn't. It came from a cascade of bad events post toxic childhood which reinforced my childhood beliefs and kept me stuck. At those bad times when your parents were meant to be there for you, I got the opposite and fell deep into the abyss. It's like they wanted me to fail!
I will be listening to this podcast a lot. As an INFJ personality-type, I am susceptible to believing in myths about feelings more than most other personality types. Growing up in a narcissistic family, I banked on every one of these myths. I didn't understand when my siblings ignored them, especially when they claimed they were untrue!!!!! Jerry does a good job of unraveling where these myths attach to us, and how we manipulate ourselves when we act on them. No wonder I felt like I was play-acting all the time!!!
You are amazing Thank you! I’m going to listen to this with my teenagers, they need to understand how most people feel bc it’s the new society nowadays. So many if not most people feel this way.
Mr. Wise, you are hitting so many areas that are 100% on target for me. I've spent many, many years trying to change my parents and even grandparents by showing them a more 'normal' way to live and be, only to have fallen flat every time and blame myself. Wish I had this knowledge 20 years ago, it's so freeing!
Wow!! I can relate to EVERYTHING in this video. I am avoident of my feelings often. But I am learning to deal with my feelings now. Yes dealing with grief and loss was so unbearable for me. And when my Mum passed away 5 months ago, I have learnt so much since then. It has been very hard and very sad. But day by day I am getting through my feelings more. Thank you Jerry 😊
Thank you, Jerry for your wonderful videos. It is all very helpful. We have learnt and grow and heal and change so much because of you. Love from South Africa
Jerry as always such good content. #6 was a very helpful new insight of fearing I can’t handle my emotions.. did not totally understand the overwhelming feelings is really an unconscious fear of how I could not handle my own emotions. The old message “ you should not feel this or that” just freezes and causes overwhelm when I do feel the feelings that are typically normal.. sadness, grief, aloneness. I liked the message I can feel those feelings but not be overwhelmed or stuck in them and there is definitely “ nothing wrong with you! Thank you so much!❤️Thanks for helping us “Be Wise!” 😁
Wow I’m going to have to listen to this again and again. So many nuggets of wisdom in this. A lot of the points totally hit home for me. Thank you Jerry ❤️
Very valuable information. You mentioned that resisting control is not helpful either and I was wondering what is your definition of resisting as it relates to this video? You mentioned stepping away - what does stepping away look like if is different than resisting or pushing people away? Thank you!
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You're looking healthier and healthier. Maybe you'll share your journey with us sometime 😊 Thank you for your work on these videos. You're able to connect with your viewers in was others cannot.
I love your talks.great info.!! You are making a differance.would love to take your classes but I'm on Disability but if I ever can I sure will do the work.in the meantime I'll put what I'm learning to practice and send as many ppl your way as I can.Thank You for the wisdom you are sharing..such a gift.❤
You are so welcome I have another workshop coming up in April 10, 2021 “Overcoming Shame and Guilt with Family-of-origin Work It will be April 10th Saturday 1-5pm EST on Zoom Sign up on website to get info on workshops www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/event-details/overcoming-guilt-and-shame-through-family-of-origin-work-workshop Sign up now for early bird price I also have three other workshops for rent or sale on my website: • Introduction to Self-Differentiation-Workshop • Reducing Your Reactivity-Workshop • Getting Your Family-of-Origin Out of You-Workshop www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Please join as a paid member for $1.99/month on my TH-cam channel, click JOIN and support the free videos on my TH-cam channel, also you will get notifications of upcoming events and additional
You are so welcome Thank you for watching… “Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist” Workshop Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time On Zoom Topics: The Illusions of the Narcissist The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists Living in the War Zone 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist 10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have And more… Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos. Q & A Role Plays Volunteer participation You will receive the recorded workshop You will receive the notes for the workshop www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
To be me is to be wrong (something my parents would say if they were truthful about me). What a con job! My father wanted me to be powerless so he could elevate himself, my mother so she could fuse with me. You think your parent will be your biggest cheerleader so you end up believing you're defective! Every time I've had issues which has been a lot because of life lived with a faulty map of the world that they handed me! Then blamed me for getting messed up! They don't want to help you be stronger, they want you to stay stuck in the mud so they can play rescuer hero/victim and blame you. Teated like an adult as adult child adult nd adult nd child as an adult!
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I am very very disappointed in people. Hell is other people!!
That was exactly what my Dad wanted. Us to give him attention constantly and never hurt his feelings. His feelings were the only feelings allowed and they ONLY feelings that matters and he would often TELL us how we felt.
Wow, Are we siblings?
@@user-lo4wl6wd7f Maybe, Lol.
exactly my father!! very touchy very sensitive; demands us to worship him, while we must be rocks and take his punches and knives and swords thrown by his bitter spiteful tongue! my heart races and comes to my throat every time I go visit him.
Same here 😢
That's my mother
Never depend on others to make you happy, you'll suffered tremendously
That is so insanely true.😂💯💕
Thank you. I need my daughter (21 years old) to know this.
This is one of the must know life wisdom 💯
AMEN!!
The false beliefs :
1.There is something wrong with me. I’m .. all the negatives.. so I will not be loved by others.
2. I’m powerless over how I feel. Nobody can help therefore am a victim.
3. Others feelings are more important than mine and am responsible for their feelings.
4. I can control how others think of me and treat me.
5. Resisting others control over me is essential for my integrity. Resisting is the only way not to lose myself.
6. I can’t handle pain, discomfort, fears, hurt, grief, boredom, shame, loneliness etc. so I need substances, anger, addictions to handle this. WE FEAR WE CANT SURVIVE OUR OWN FEELINGS.
7. If I change others I will be changed too as a result.
8. If I only work on changing me it won’t change others.
Please listen to what he says though. I wrote this down only so when I come to this video again I’ll have it written as notes. Thank u so much Jerry for ur work.
I have number 1 VERY BAD!! 😞😞
Thank you..
Thank you for the notes!
👍
Thanks for sharing this. God bless. Nehemiah 8:10 (KJV) Then he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; for the joy of the LORD is your strength.
It took me years to sit with my feelings while I sorted them out. After a lifetime of shattered crazy family chaos I learned to wait a minute before I reacted.
This hit home. My mom loves me when I mold myself to her needs and make her happy, masking my personality. But if I express hurt at her behavior or point out something I dislike, or express a vulnerability, I am nothing but trash to her. She has no trouble throwing me away for months at a time until shes ready to come back and pretend it never happened, and call me unreasonable if I’m not willing to pretend she did nothing wrong.
Stunned at how powerfully these 8 hit me. Especially #1 and #4. You are changing lives. THANK YOU from deep down. A blessing.
Myths
1 I am defective: unloveable, and insignificant
2 I am powerless for how I feel and my reactions.
3 other peoples feelings are more important than mine.
4 I can control what others think of me and how they treat me.
5 resisting others control over me is essential to my integrity.
6 I can’t handle real feelings so I can only be angry.
7 If I change others then I’ll be changed.
8 If I only work on changing me it won’t change anyone else.
I can relate to every one of these. The one that really sticks out to me and I found out about it on my first 4th step was how others control me. I guess I really didn't understand what you were saying about that. I do know that when I stopped reacting to the people who controlled me then they did not want anything to do with me.
If they want nothing to do with you, that is up to them to decide same like we can decide to stop reacting to them. Often when we stop reacting we break the circuit ❤️
@@jerrywise My experience is that they just find someone else to react with and that is totally fine with me.
@@darinsmith2458 I’ll edit- “we break the circuit with us”
@@jerrywise i totally understand that
I found that comment very interesting. I have a couple of people at work who I am reacting badly to and I do not wish to have that feeling any more. They want to control me and it bothers me but it’s not really important so I just would like to move past this without causing offence.
minute 21 healed me!!!!!! I have that experience all the time. Grieving things before they come so that I am prepared. Those words fell on me. Thank you.
That's wonderful Monica
Thanks for watching
“Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist”
Workshop
Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC
July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time
On Zoom
Topics:
The Illusions of the Narcissist
The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists
Living in the War Zone
7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist
10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently
Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding
Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment
Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents
Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have
And more…
Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos.
Q & A
Role Plays
Volunteer participation
You will receive the recorded workshop
You will receive the notes for the workshop
www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
I was told to just fit in. Didn’t know what that meant. I started a new school in high school and my mom said i have the opportunity to be anyone i want to be and my reply was i just want to be who i am. That didn’t go over well I just leaned to hide my self better by not expressing my self
I remember a few years later when i was working being so insecure. I felt like people thought i was very ugly and weird and I couldn’t look in the eyes of anyone
I only felt good when i was alone
It took me years to finger out my family wasnt normal. Decades later I still cant have a conversation with my sister that doesjt turn into an insulting demeaning mess
I haven’t lived near my family for decades and i dont call them so these random messages even decades after my mom passed i disassociate myself with. Generational damage continues on my family. Kind of fascinating what i get accused of from people i have learned not to even speak to
There IS an internal logic between 2 and 3 though. "I cannot control MY feelings, they come in response to what others do, THEREFORE others' feelings come as response to what *I* do." and vice versa.
I'm trying hard to stop family pain with my mothering. I had to cut out my parents. I felt like they were slowly killing me.
Sorry you went through that. I pray that things get better for you in Jesus' name. AMEN.
@@ladennayoung2939amen. Is the answer... our true helper.
Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪
My mother can control us. Trust me. She grows controlling power everyday
Dad still tries, on the rare times I deal with him. He is overbearing. I am so done with that!
A couple years ago a mental healthcare professional told me that I am young and don't yet have the confidence that will come with age. I would have liked to believe that but I know that there's a lot of work for me to do.
looking good, brother
Life is so complicated, a big dissapointment. All life goes on things like this. I am deeply disappointed in life.
Feeling same way ~ it's understandable that we get to this point at times: overwhelmed , confused, and discouraged with all of life. I had an extremely bad night with this last night. I feel a little more at peace and comfort this morning~ but I know it wont be the last time I feel that way. I saw your comment and identified with it and I want ypu to know that you are not alone in feeling this way about life. And that it is completely normal to feel this way although painful. Please know that I am praying for comfort, strength, and peace for you and for all of us in the midst of these storms we face daily. God loves us and has given us one another to come along side and encourage each other in the darkness. Peace and comfort I pray over you. God Bless and keep you always.
Well Sanna, If you think life if is disappointing wait till you die.
Massive disappointment.
Everyone promises heaven and all you get is worms and decay. Try keeping your muscle tone with no blood flow, complicated as it is, its the only way we've figured out how to get any thing done.
Thank you, again! It is interesting how when one person in a group learns to "grow up" it can free others to look inside themselves and grow. Your videos are so packed w important information that I have to watch them over and over.
You’ve made such a difference in my healing and recovery. I love you and appreciate you very much. Thank you 🙏🏽
These are powerful beliefs to overcome. I have come to this very late in life. I often think that the damage done is insurmountable. I can help others but there seems to be no help for me. 😟😟😢😢
I wish that there was a love button. Mr Wise, thank-you
Thanks Jerry....you make yourself SO RELATABLE....God bless you.
You are so welcome
For decades (with a handful of times I remember inbetween), I could jeer understand how people could let go and just be themselves. I thought of it like a roller coaster where it climbs and you let go as it sets off down the first slope. I'd reach the top, climb out mentally and cling on to the scaffolding for grim death. I always wanted to flow with the ride but just couldn't. It came from a cascade of bad events post toxic childhood which reinforced my childhood beliefs and kept me stuck. At those bad times when your parents were meant to be there for you, I got the opposite and fell deep into the abyss. It's like they wanted me to fail!
I will be listening to this podcast a lot. As an INFJ personality-type, I am susceptible to believing in myths about feelings more than most other personality types. Growing up in a narcissistic family, I banked on every one of these myths. I didn't understand when my siblings ignored them, especially when they claimed they were untrue!!!!! Jerry does a good job of unraveling where these myths attach to us, and how we manipulate ourselves when we act on them. No wonder I felt like I was play-acting all the time!!!
You are amazing Thank you! I’m going to listen to this with my teenagers, they need to understand how most people feel bc it’s the new society nowadays. So many if not most people feel this way.
Great idea - teens will benefit from this for sure.
Mr. Wise, you are hitting so many areas that are 100% on target for me. I've spent many, many years trying to change my parents and even grandparents by showing them a more 'normal' way to live and be, only to have fallen flat every time and blame myself. Wish I had this knowledge 20 years ago, it's so freeing!
Wow!!
I can relate to EVERYTHING in this video. I am avoident of my feelings often. But I am learning to deal with my feelings now.
Yes dealing with grief and loss was so unbearable for me. And when my Mum passed away 5 months ago, I have learnt so much since then. It has been very hard and very sad. But day by day I am getting through my feelings more.
Thank you Jerry 😊
Jerry, you calm my inner being. Thank you, beauty-full soul, for sharing to me what you know. I adore. 🔥🌹
Wow, thank you
Number 3 is a killer but they are all so much of my inner life. It is a daily struggle.
Thank you, Jerry for your wonderful videos. It is all very helpful.
We have learnt and grow and heal and change so much because of you. Love from South Africa
Thank you!You are a Good person!!!!
So nice of you
My mom says that only I am responsible for my own happiness.
Jerry as always such good content. #6 was a very helpful new insight of fearing I can’t handle my emotions.. did not totally understand the overwhelming feelings is really an unconscious fear of how I could not handle my own emotions. The old message “ you should not feel this or that” just freezes and causes overwhelm when I do feel the feelings that are typically normal.. sadness, grief, aloneness. I liked the message I can feel those feelings but not be overwhelmed or stuck in them and there is definitely “ nothing wrong with you! Thank you so much!❤️Thanks for helping us “Be Wise!” 😁
Danke!
Thank you for the support, I really appreciate it! ❤️
Wow I’m going to have to listen to this again and again. So many nuggets of wisdom in this. A lot of the points totally hit home for me. Thank you Jerry ❤️
Fantastic!
@@jerrywise How do you know all this Jerry? 🤩😅
I did preparatory grief for all my family when I was around 10
Very valuable information. You mentioned that resisting control is not helpful either and I was wondering what is your definition of resisting as it relates to this video? You mentioned stepping away - what does stepping away look like if is different than resisting or pushing people away? Thank you!
resonate, need to watch this a few times for it to sink in. much appreciated Jerry
Your work does not only change, but also safe lives. Especially during still very harsh corona measures in Southern Germany😷🤐😷🤐😷😷
Timi, its always my pleasure to make videos that helps and I'm glad that it was helpful to you and your healing journey.
I simply want to say thank you. Your work a blessing to me.
You are so welcome
Thank you; I will need some time to let all that sink in Dr. Wise.
Thank you so very much, JERRY! ❤
Jerry , you are the best!
Thank you 😊 Jerry 💞
You are so welcome
I think I’ll never be happy after my narcissistic family destroyed my life of things I loved
Must learn how make self happy.S3lf care 1st...
So good!! I am going to rewritten into the positive instead of the negative 🌻🙏❤️😘🥰😍🌹🌹🌹🌹
Great teaching, thank you.
You are very welcome
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Excellent work!
You're looking healthier and healthier. Maybe you'll share your journey with us sometime 😊
Thank you for your work on these videos. You're able to connect with your viewers in was others cannot.
Someday I will share my stories
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I love your talks.great info.!! You are making a differance.would love to take your classes but I'm on Disability but if I ever can I sure will do the work.in the meantime I'll put what I'm learning to practice and send as many ppl your way as I can.Thank You for the wisdom you are sharing..such a gift.❤
You are so welcome
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“Overcoming Shame and Guilt with Family-of-origin Work
It will be April 10th Saturday 1-5pm EST on Zoom
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Self-reinvention is a greatest gift ACoNs can give themselves. Thank you Jerry for helping me heal further and move on with my life.
Thank you so very much for this wonderful vid.Very very helpful!
Glad it was helpful!
Thankyou. loved your quotes at the end. Not overdone , just enough for impact❤🌹🙏🍁
Great video - thank you!
Thanks SO much Jerry, this is a very helpful video! Truly appreciated 🙏🏼
Thank you! Your videos are truly helpful.
Glad you like them!
Jerry you're a breath of light in my shadowed and stifling world. Shine on you amazing diamond.
Very helpful ! So much to learn and much is contained in this video. 🙏🥰
Glad it was helpful!
Beautiful. Amazing work. Thank you 🙏🏼
In short: Feeling overwhelmed by the issues due to lack of proper upbringing & everything else.
Sorry for your loss, Doctor Jerry Wise.
18:45 🤯🙏🏽💕
❤❤needed this
Thank you so much!
You're welcome!
Be Wise🙏
Thanks!
Nice video dud, keep it up
Great video and I love the final quotes, especially the one by Tolstoy.
Thank you ❤
Glad you liked it!
thank you
You are so welcome
Thank you for watching…
“Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist”
Workshop
Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC
July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time
On Zoom
Topics:
The Illusions of the Narcissist
The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists
Living in the War Zone
7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist
10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently
Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding
Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment
Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents
Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have
And more…
Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos.
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Role Plays
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www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/events
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Amaizing content💝
Exactly my childhood💖🙏
There's something wrong witht my narcissistic dad, not me!
To be me is to be wrong (something my parents would say if they were truthful about me). What a con job! My father wanted me to be powerless so he could elevate himself, my mother so she could fuse with me. You think your parent will be your biggest cheerleader so you end up believing you're defective! Every time I've had issues which has been a lot because of life lived with a faulty map of the world that they handed me! Then blamed me for getting messed up! They don't want to help you be stronger, they want you to stay stuck in the mud so they can play rescuer hero/victim and blame you. Teated like an adult as adult child adult nd adult nd child as an adult!
Do you have a link for the workshop on Dec. 5th?
@@joemark4949 thank you!
It's 3:33 pm ❤️
Keep it up❤️ ❤️
Everybody is the family have jokers lol 😂😂😂😂
and I was the teachers daughter, hmmm
All of them….
So why does this happen with narcissistic survivors?
Hmmm. It’s sad that you were a pastor and considered the family prayer a “burden.”
Yes, because it is based decades of family expectations and family roles not in loving God etc
So true. @@jerrywise
They are have cancer now lol 😂😂😂, it s only marketing
Such an incredible video. Pure gold.
Thank you so much
You're most welcome
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Welcome!