NTA he madè the assumption that you were cheating on him without him having to sit down with you and alex to clear it all up. Now that you moved on and is happy now he wants to reconcile lol hes a joke. Get a restraining order against Eric
Though, OP should have informed Ex of Alex’s visit. Eric is the AH, (he seems to have some trust issues that he never addressed) made an assumption and overacted by not talking to OP to clear the air and just filing for divorce, especially when she and Alex were just talking to the couch. I literally had a similar experience where I once forgot to tell my bf that a friend of mine was coming over to our place to hang out. When he came back from work, he was annoyed but instead of storming out of our apartment and ending our relationship, he later talked to me about his feelings of being not told about my friend’s visit and just wanted to let know whenever I was hanging out with friends at home with some heads-up (he had always done for me). Problem solved right there and never had a problem about it since as we give each other heads-up about any hang-outs with friends every time. Eric didn’t talk OP and now has to deal with the consequences that he solely ruined his marriage because he refused to communicate rationally.
Agreed. Her husband was probably trying to finish his work early and eager to come home, then saw the wife sitting on a sofa with an unfamiliar man. Happy and laughing with the guy looking at the album...while he was dead tired and wishing her wife to welcome her home. Anybody will feel frustrated in that tired condition. However, the husband should take a few days to cool off and return to the wife to discuss the issue.
This sounds like another story I've heard. The childhood friend was a mutual friend who had come over to deliver wedding invitations. She had a kid with the new husband in that one, and they had to move cause the first husband wouldn't stop sending flowers and showing up. The first husband seemed genuinely delusional and eventually moved to South Korea for business.
Wow, your resilience is truly inspiring. You've come so far and have built a life filled with love and support. Here's to new beginnings and leaving the past where it belongs!
He was cheating - and after getting dumped by gf/new wife? he thought the ex was still waiting for him - surprise- she wasn’t - then his fragile male ego couldn’t except the new reality - she moved on without him- good for her
Have you ever seen one of those cat videos, that show when the cat smells something it doesn't like, and it does that dramatic gagging? Yeah that's how the beginning of this story feels like😂
The only A is/was "Eric," and the simple truth is that he really took things really past the point of "comfortable" really fast. "David" had a reason to be upset, and the OP is very much in the right of doing what she did and how she handled it. The fact that he so easily assumed she cheated showed that "Eric" wasn't the person he presented to her when they met, and his boundaries crossing behavior after seven years just confirms that. The stalker "Eric" is the real person, who he always was, and that is the problem. "David" and the OP did smart with the extra security measures, and while "Eric" now may have "gotten the message", I hope someone tells the OP what I am saying and think is very much the reality: "Eric" didn't "disappear": he was always the obsessive man who eventually would do what he did. If he had not left. the OP would be telling us about how she escaped "Eric" after seven years of him steadily becoming more obsessive and abusive. I really pity the next woman that enters any kind of relationship with "Eric"... as she may not get out alive.
She told her husband when her ex-husband contacted her, but didn't tell her ex-husband when an old male friend contacted her. At least she learned her lesson. We can't really blame Eric for jumping to conclusions. Just because they weren't making out at the time, doesn't mean they weren't doing it. I also find it hypocritical that OP desperately tried to call Eric after the misunderstanding to explain her side. But when Eric tried to contact her to try to apologize for his mistake, she shot him down instantly. Eric absolutely turned into a stalker in the end, but OP could have had one single in-person conversation with him before it got to that point. She could have just told her husband she would go to a coffee place with him. A public place where nothing could happen. OP has some communication issues.
I don’t think it’s hypocritical of her to not entertain eric and his needs to explain himself. It’s been 7 years since this happened, she moved on and explained to him that she doesn’t have any interest in talking with him or seeing him. But when all this happened she kind of had a right to a chance to explain herself since they were married. He didn’t want to hear her out and they divorced. End of that story. But she was a total dumb ass for not telling him about Alex, pure idiocy.
I agree with the first part but she instantly tried to explain and was shut down, he had to wait 7 years (or forever hadn’t he met the friend) to apologise, she knew she messed up and wanted to explain, he didn’t think he was wrong in any way until he met the friend.
If she did cheat but she didn’t cheat it’s not as if he walked in on them making out or screwing they weren’t even cuddling. So yeah dude massively overreacted and what he should have done was calm down, give it a few days and then allow her to explain everything instead of taking off and going silent until her friend was finally able to tell him NOTHING HAPPENED. So unless she was caught in the act yes he should have gave her an opportunity to explain.
He was not available. He gets home as late as 2 am? The last thing you want to hear at that time is oh I met a friend and we want to ho for a drink. He should have even given her the benefit of doubt. And 7 years is a long time to cool off
@@adeolaobayan7735 that's no excuse she knew she was going to meet up with him and she could have called before hand to talk with him about it. Second there is no way he should still be there at 2am. Seven years is a long time but this could've been avoided if she communicated. No excuse.
@@ceded6543i agree because she should have told him but she said he came home early so they weren’t there at 2 am, which wasn’t even the time he was usually back, she said sometimes he came back even at 2 am. But also she was wrong for not telling him but all that happened afterwards was his fault
Yeah with everything explained in this way, Eric does seem to look like the AH… but I also have to side with Eric with his initial reaction. Everyone seems to only think that insecurities are formed but that’s not and never have been the case. Incase yall forgot, insecurities can be caused also, especially by people who you trust. OP didn’t tell Eric that her ex-boyfriend was coming over, and the way he encountered them definitely had the looks of cheating. Yeah Eric shouldn’t have reacted the way he did but I completely u defeat destined based on how the situation looked when he got home and saw OP and her ex all laughing and sitting close together. This whole thing made Eric insecure about himself and that’s valid, so I put some of the blame on OP for not even informing him that it was her ex. Yall are stupid for thinking it’s his fault for the insecurities but fail to consider that maybe OP’s actions of inviting her ex and not even telling Eric that it was her ex and was caught in a way that someone could see as cheating made him feel insecure about himself. Yall are dumb
Alex isn't even her ex. Alex was a childhood friend that moved away in high-school. They were only chatting and reminding old times when Eric came in. Eric was the complete AH by walking out n not even hearing OP's side. So you're completely wrong.
Was he so busy that you had no time to tell him about your old friend coming to your town and you calling him over? Had it been his female college friend sitting with him going through the albums and both laughing happily, what would you have thought? However busy he was and you were in your jobs, should you not have kept regular conversations going on?
Was OP’s husband so busy that she had no time to tell him about her old friend coming to their town and calling him over? Had it been his female college friend sitting with him going through the albums and both laughing happily, what would she have thought? She says she had left her job and he was very busy with a difficult case in the office. Should she not have kept regular conversations going on? She comes across as shallow and entitled. Feel sorry for Eric who was shattered for different reasons.
That's a bit of an asshole move. Imagine a guy who works his ass off trying his best, and then when he decides to surprsie you he finds out you are meeting with some guy behind his back in his own house and at his own couch. You have no empathy for him. I can imagine the hurt he carried for the long 7 years. He deserved some closure, that's for sure. He doesn't deserve reconciliation after so long, but he definitely deserved a final meeting, even if it is supervised by your new husband.
She was sitting on the couch with his old friend; not making out with him.. A man that walks away without one word, is not a man who is in love with you..
I think it's wife's fault. .... I mean... Imagine going home after work and finding your wife with her a strange man without telling you... ... She's definitely cheating on me. ..... All she had to do was tell him that a friend would visit her house and none of that would have happened.
She was wrong for that but he didn’t give her a chance to explain so it’s his fault that he only found out after 7 years. Also what kind of marriage doesn’t allow a mistake? If he divorced her this fast then he didn’t actually care
@@mookizzo_candy5495 So you are saying now that if you came home and found your partner with someone else in the house late at night and without him telling you, you would find it normal and not suspect betrayal and you would wait to hear an excuse while feeling that this excuse is just hiding the truth? ..... I see that his reaction is normal and the matter is not lack of interest on his part but on the part of the wife because she did not care to tell him that a friend of hers would visit her
@@mookizzo_candy5495situations like these are definitely grounds for thinking that your partner is cheating. In this particular situation, there was nothing the wife could do or say to defend herself when she was caught with her ex sitting next to each other laughing and giggling. If I saw that, regardless of what the reason for the visit, the first thing I’d think of is they’re cheating on me. That’s not an insecure thought, it’s normal but people make it out to be feeling insecure.
@@none-of-your-business00-6 I didn’t say that. I would be upset, and he’s right for that, but I would also leave, wait a few DAYS and then either try and find the truth myself or try and have a conversation. That would be the mature/rational thing to do. I started by saying the wife was wrong for not telling him, but she made a mistake, how are things supposed to go forward if a mistake is met with a 7 YEARS silence? Also I never said that he had to believe her side (truth or not) but that he decided to walk out and therefore doesn’t have the right to be upset he wasn’t informed since he willingly didn’t listen. The wife did something wrong, the point I was making wasn’t about that, but her being wrong doesn’t make him 100% right.
@@jefmarquez2863 could you be so kind to tell me where I said the husband was insecure? My statement was: - the wife was wrong, the husband was right to be upset. The husband was NOT right to be upset after he chose not to listen to her - in his mind leaving was the most logical thing to do - fair - but now he doesn’t get to be angry.
Me personally I think both of them are in the wrong op for going extreme just because Eric wants to have closure but op decided not to which caused this whole mess yes Eric became a bit crazy but we can’t ignore that if op just gave him the closure he needed this mess wouldn’t have happened and no am not just saying op is a bad person am saying that both op and Eric are a bit bad people
What closure? Eric decided on his own "closure" when je chose to walk out and divorce without talking it over with her. Eric also believed someone else before accepting there was nothing wrong! And he sure as hell doesn't want "closure" while screaming "I'M NOT GIVING UP THAT EASYLY!".
@@jeniferesparza7770 yes he ended up as a stalker but you if you think it over op did the same thing Eric did when he saw op and Alex together he didn’t want to listen to op or Alex and when Eric wanted to reach out and apologise for his behaviour op just did what he did which caused Eric to become more erratic and I kinda feel bad for Eric cause he wanted to make things right with op but she turned him down immediately but it ended up with him becoming crazy how are some people not seeing this
@@nemesis676reaper op tried to explain herself about what really happened, but he never tried to listen, so she gave up and accepted that he didn’t want anything to do with her, went through with the divorce, and moved on. It took him SEVEN YEARS to find out the truth from the supposed “affair partner”, and now he wants closure, or to get her back. What about the closure that she never got from him? So, is his closure more important than her’s? If so, why? Why does his closure matter more? He lived without “closure” for seven years, SEVEN YEARS with no contact with the op, probably wanted “closure” because he didn’t want to feel guilty for his actions, he is just being selfish. She moved on, she got a job, she got married, she got her dream house, so she wanted nothing to do with him anymore. The closure is just for his benefit only. Did she called him multiple times in the past? Yes Did she text him multiple times in the past? Yes Did she emailed him multiple times? Yes Did ask friends and family about him multiple times? Yes But, Did she accepted that the divorce was inevitable? Yes Did she accepted that HE wanted nothing to do with her anymore? Yes Did she leave him alone? Yes Did she lose her mind about the lack of closure? No Did she track him down? No Did she give him unnecessary gifts to him? No Did she stalk him? No Did she follow him to his car? No Did the police came after her? No Did she really believe that there is an “us” for fight for? No Did she made him feel threatened? No Did she made him consider moving away? No Did she made him get security cameras? No Did she love bombed him? No Did she track his schedule? No Did she track him at a time where he should have been alone? No she did not The ex did all of that, and a few more that I didn’t mention. She is giving him a taste of his own medicine, and I guess he doesn’t like it
She told her husband when her ex-husband contacted her, but didn't tell her ex-husband when an old male friend contacted her. At least she learned her lesson. We can't really blame Eric for jumping to conclusions. Just because they weren't making out at the time, doesn't mean they weren't doing it. I also find it hypocritical that OP desperately tried to call Eric after the misunderstanding to explain her side. But when Eric tried to contact her to try to apologize for his mistake, she shot him down instantly. Eric absolutely turned into a stalker in the end, but OP could have had one single in-person conversation with him before it got to that point. She could have just told her husband she would go to a coffee place with him. A public place where nothing could happen. OP has some communication issues.
@@drippingwithdopenessand you’re stupid for thinking that. A normal person who sees that their wife was sitting on the couch giggling and laughing with a man he doesn’t know will definitely think they’re cheating on them. Yeah Eric may have ended up being the crazy person in the end, but OP was the one who didn’t tell him that her ex was stopping by and was caught in a position that is grounds for thinking they’re cheating. It’s OP’s fault for not informing him about who was visiting, but it’s also Eric’s fault for what happened in the end. But overall, OP was lowkey the one that started this.
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NTA he madè the assumption that you were cheating on him without him having to sit down with you and alex to clear it all up. Now that you moved on and is happy now he wants to reconcile lol hes a joke. Get a restraining order against Eric
tbf, she did invite a guy at hime without mentioning it beforehand. Terrible communication from both side
What does NTA mean
@@Notathleticmoon”Not the Butthole”, it’s a Reddit thing :)
@@titan8084that is what I tried to say in my comment but miss worded it and I was tired when I made it
Totally agree. It’s crazy how people just assume the worst without getting the full story. A restraining order sounds like a good idea.
Though, OP should have informed Ex of Alex’s visit. Eric is the AH, (he seems to have some trust issues that he never addressed) made an assumption and overacted by not talking to OP to clear the air and just filing for divorce, especially when she and Alex were just talking to the couch.
I literally had a similar experience where I once forgot to tell my bf that a friend of mine was coming over to our place to hang out. When he came back from work, he was annoyed but instead of storming out of our apartment and ending our relationship, he later talked to me about his feelings of being not told about my friend’s visit and just wanted to let know whenever I was hanging out with friends at home with some heads-up (he had always done for me). Problem solved right there and never had a problem about it since as we give each other heads-up about any hang-outs with friends every time.
Eric didn’t talk OP and now has to deal with the consequences that he solely ruined his marriage because he refused to communicate rationally.
Agreed. Her husband was probably trying to finish his work early and eager to come home, then saw the wife sitting on a sofa with an unfamiliar man. Happy and laughing with the guy looking at the album...while he was dead tired and wishing her wife to welcome her home. Anybody will feel frustrated in that tired condition. However, the husband should take a few days to cool off and return to the wife to discuss the issue.
This sounds like another story I've heard. The childhood friend was a mutual friend who had come over to deliver wedding invitations. She had a kid with the new husband in that one, and they had to move cause the first husband wouldn't stop sending flowers and showing up. The first husband seemed genuinely delusional and eventually moved to South Korea for business.
Yeah, me too. For a moment I thought this was the same history
Wow, your resilience is truly inspiring. You've come so far and have built a life filled with love and support. Here's to new beginnings and leaving the past where it belongs!
Is this even real ?
He able to get divorce papers next day ??
If he had them prepared, some lawyers will keep the paper in hand just waiting for use.
Not hard to get. I got mine in one day. Best day ever!!! 😊
You actually can get them the same day and also be divorced the same day too. It's rare but does happen, I'm a Business Lawyer but yeah
Yeah, it seems unreal. The speed of those divorce papers is definitely questionable.
@@Sagasofbetrayal Remember, Britney Spears was married and legally divorced in 55 hours
He was cheating - and after getting dumped by gf/new wife? he thought the ex was still waiting for him - surprise- she wasn’t - then his fragile male ego couldn’t except the new reality - she moved on without him- good for her
Op dodged a bullet woth eric he is insecure u were with alex nothing sexual ir inappropriately just reconnectinc
Have you ever seen one of those cat videos, that show when the cat smells something it doesn't like, and it does that dramatic gagging? Yeah that's how the beginning of this story feels like😂
Eric sounds mental and controlling
The only A is/was "Eric," and the simple truth is that he really took things really past the point of "comfortable" really fast. "David" had a reason to be upset, and the OP is very much in the right of doing what she did and how she handled it. The fact that he so easily assumed she cheated showed that "Eric" wasn't the person he presented to her when they met, and his boundaries crossing behavior after seven years just confirms that. The stalker "Eric" is the real person, who he always was, and that is the problem. "David" and the OP did smart with the extra security measures, and while "Eric" now may have "gotten the message", I hope someone tells the OP what I am saying and think is very much the reality: "Eric" didn't "disappear": he was always the obsessive man who eventually would do what he did. If he had not left. the OP would be telling us about how she escaped "Eric" after seven years of him steadily becoming more obsessive and abusive.
I really pity the next woman that enters any kind of relationship with "Eric"... as she may not get out alive.
I would never have accepted the friend request
That would have stopped the problem before it started.
How did he find her home?
In another telling of this story Op found out an old mutual friend from when they were married told him.
Why you not tell your spouse about the planned visit? Weird
She told her husband when her ex-husband contacted her, but didn't tell her ex-husband when an old male friend contacted her. At least she learned her lesson. We can't really blame Eric for jumping to conclusions. Just because they weren't making out at the time, doesn't mean they weren't doing it. I also find it hypocritical that OP desperately tried to call Eric after the misunderstanding to explain her side. But when Eric tried to contact her to try to apologize for his mistake, she shot him down instantly. Eric absolutely turned into a stalker in the end, but OP could have had one single in-person conversation with him before it got to that point. She could have just told her husband she would go to a coffee place with him. A public place where nothing could happen. OP has some communication issues.
Yes I fully agree with you i tried to say that but I accidentally miss worded
I don’t think it’s hypocritical of her to not entertain eric and his needs to explain himself. It’s been 7 years since this happened, she moved on and explained to him that she doesn’t have any interest in talking with him or seeing him.
But when all this happened she kind of had a right to a chance to explain herself since they were married. He didn’t want to hear her out and they divorced. End of that story.
But she was a total dumb ass for not telling him about Alex, pure idiocy.
I agree with the first part but she instantly tried to explain and was shut down, he had to wait 7 years (or forever hadn’t he met the friend) to apologise, she knew she messed up and wanted to explain, he didn’t think he was wrong in any way until he met the friend.
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@@RevampedCoffeeCowhat was so confusing about OPs statement?
If she actually did cheat all of y’all wouldn’t been saying that Eric should’ve sit down and talk to her.
If she did cheat but she didn’t cheat it’s not as if he walked in on them making out or screwing they weren’t even cuddling. So yeah dude massively overreacted and what he should have done was calm down, give it a few days and then allow her to explain everything instead of taking off and going silent until her friend was finally able to tell him NOTHING HAPPENED. So unless she was caught in the act yes he should have gave her an opportunity to explain.
Bruh who tf bonds over environmental shit lmao... drill baby drill
Kinda the AH. Why wouldn't you tell your husband that you all got back in contact and that he was visiting. It's called respect.
He was not available. He gets home as late as 2 am? The last thing you want to hear at that time is oh I met a friend and we want to ho for a drink. He should have even given her the benefit of doubt. And 7 years is a long time to cool off
@@adeolaobayan7735 that's no excuse she knew she was going to meet up with him and she could have called before hand to talk with him about it. Second there is no way he should still be there at 2am. Seven years is a long time but this could've been avoided if she communicated. No excuse.
@@ceded6543i agree because she should have told him but she said he came home early so they weren’t there at 2 am, which wasn’t even the time he was usually back, she said sometimes he came back even at 2 am. But also she was wrong for not telling him but all that happened afterwards was his fault
If you let him back into your life you're a mug
Yeah with everything explained in this way, Eric does seem to look like the AH… but I also have to side with Eric with his initial reaction. Everyone seems to only think that insecurities are formed but that’s not and never have been the case. Incase yall forgot, insecurities can be caused also, especially by people who you trust. OP didn’t tell Eric that her ex-boyfriend was coming over, and the way he encountered them definitely had the looks of cheating. Yeah Eric shouldn’t have reacted the way he did but I completely u defeat destined based on how the situation looked when he got home and saw OP and her ex all laughing and sitting close together. This whole thing made Eric insecure about himself and that’s valid, so I put some of the blame on OP for not even informing him that it was her ex. Yall are stupid for thinking it’s his fault for the insecurities but fail to consider that maybe OP’s actions of inviting her ex and not even telling Eric that it was her ex and was caught in a way that someone could see as cheating made him feel insecure about himself. Yall are dumb
Alex isn't even her ex. Alex was a childhood friend that moved away in high-school. They were only chatting and reminding old times when Eric came in. Eric was the complete AH by walking out n not even hearing OP's side. So you're completely wrong.
Was he so busy that you had no time to tell him about your old friend coming to your town and you calling him over?
Had it been his female college friend sitting with him going through the albums and both laughing happily, what would you have thought?
However busy he was and you were in your jobs, should you not have kept regular conversations going on?
First of all, OP forgot the main rule of marriage: when wanting to talk to someone of the opposite sex, tell your partner! 🤬🤬🤬
Quite aggressive don't you think?
And not just the opposite sex, just anyone. And Eric should have talked as well if he was going to divorce anyway.
What is this the 1920’s?
@@savanahsdollhouse lol, no but I still think you could tell someone who's coming over, cuz like... Idk
Was OP’s husband so busy that she had no time to tell him about her old friend coming to their town and calling him over?
Had it been his female college friend sitting with him going through the albums and both laughing happily, what would she have thought?
She says she had left her job and he was very busy with a difficult case in the office.
Should she not have kept regular conversations going on?
She comes across as shallow and entitled.
Feel sorry for Eric who was shattered for different reasons.
She didn’t tell him? Yea the story is obviously fake, but she caused that divorce. So she’s TA for that one, but he’s TA for repeatedly contacting her
That's a bit of an asshole move. Imagine a guy who works his ass off trying his best, and then when he decides to surprsie you he finds out you are meeting with some guy behind his back in his own house and at his own couch. You have no empathy for him. I can imagine the hurt he carried for the long 7 years. He deserved some closure, that's for sure. He doesn't deserve reconciliation after so long, but he definitely deserved a final meeting, even if it is supervised by your new husband.
It was also an AH move to not at least hear her out he didn't believe her but believed Alex.that a bit of a 🚩
She was sitting on the couch with his old friend; not making out with him.. A man that walks away without one word, is not a man who is in love with you..
He doesn't deserve any sort of meeting. He didn't even let her explain and just ghosted her without any explanation. He deserved the karma he got.
He doesn’t deserve anything.
She definitely should've told her husband beforehand
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I think it's wife's fault. .... I mean... Imagine going home after work and finding your wife with her a strange man without telling you... ... She's definitely cheating on me. ..... All she had to do was tell him that a friend would visit her house and none of that would have happened.
She was wrong for that but he didn’t give her a chance to explain so it’s his fault that he only found out after 7 years. Also what kind of marriage doesn’t allow a mistake? If he divorced her this fast then he didn’t actually care
@@mookizzo_candy5495 So you are saying now that if you came home and found your partner with someone else in the house late at night and without him telling you, you would find it normal and not suspect betrayal and you would wait to hear an excuse while feeling that this excuse is just hiding the truth? ..... I see that his reaction is normal and the matter is not lack of interest on his part but on the part of the wife because she did not care to tell him that a friend of hers would visit her
@@mookizzo_candy5495situations like these are definitely grounds for thinking that your partner is cheating. In this particular situation, there was nothing the wife could do or say to defend herself when she was caught with her ex sitting next to each other laughing and giggling. If I saw that, regardless of what the reason for the visit, the first thing I’d think of is they’re cheating on me. That’s not an insecure thought, it’s normal but people make it out to be feeling insecure.
@@none-of-your-business00-6 I didn’t say that. I would be upset, and he’s right for that, but I would also leave, wait a few DAYS and then either try and find the truth myself or try and have a conversation. That would be the mature/rational thing to do. I started by saying the wife was wrong for not telling him, but she made a mistake, how are things supposed to go forward if a mistake is met with a 7 YEARS silence? Also I never said that he had to believe her side (truth or not) but that he decided to walk out and therefore doesn’t have the right to be upset he wasn’t informed since he willingly didn’t listen. The wife did something wrong, the point I was making wasn’t about that, but her being wrong doesn’t make him 100% right.
@@jefmarquez2863 could you be so kind to tell me where I said the husband was insecure? My statement was: - the wife was wrong, the husband was right to be upset. The husband was NOT right to be upset after he chose not to listen to her - in his mind leaving was the most logical thing to do - fair - but now he doesn’t get to be angry.
Me personally I think both of them are in the wrong op for going extreme just because Eric wants to have closure but op decided not to which caused this whole mess yes Eric became a bit crazy but we can’t ignore that if op just gave him the closure he needed this mess wouldn’t have happened and no am not just saying op is a bad person am saying that both op and Eric are a bit bad people
What closure? Eric decided on his own "closure" when je chose to walk out and divorce without talking it over with her. Eric also believed someone else before accepting there was nothing wrong! And he sure as hell doesn't want "closure" while screaming "I'M NOT GIVING UP THAT EASYLY!".
@@BiaAiroldiTrixie hey am not defending him am just saying that he did overreacted but you can’t argue that op made some mistakes also
He should have accepted that she doesn’t want anything to do with him, and he took it too far multiple times
@@jeniferesparza7770 yes he ended up as a stalker but you if you think it over op did the same thing Eric did when he saw op and Alex together he didn’t want to listen to op or Alex and when Eric wanted to reach out and apologise for his behaviour op just did what he did which caused Eric to become more erratic and I kinda feel bad for Eric cause he wanted to make things right with op but she turned him down immediately but it ended up with him becoming crazy how are some people not seeing this
@@nemesis676reaper op tried to explain herself about what really happened, but he never tried to listen, so she gave up and accepted that he didn’t want anything to do with her, went through with the divorce, and moved on. It took him SEVEN YEARS to find out the truth from the supposed “affair partner”, and now he wants closure, or to get her back.
What about the closure that she never got from him? So, is his closure more important than her’s? If so, why? Why does his closure matter more?
He lived without “closure” for seven years, SEVEN YEARS with no contact with the op, probably wanted “closure” because he didn’t want to feel guilty for his actions, he is just being selfish.
She moved on, she got a job, she got married, she got her dream house, so she wanted nothing to do with him anymore. The closure is just for his benefit only.
Did she called him multiple times in the past? Yes
Did she text him multiple times in the past? Yes
Did she emailed him multiple times? Yes
Did ask friends and family about him multiple times? Yes
But,
Did she accepted that the divorce was inevitable? Yes
Did she accepted that HE wanted nothing to do with her anymore? Yes
Did she leave him alone? Yes
Did she lose her mind about the lack of closure? No
Did she track him down? No
Did she give him unnecessary gifts to him? No
Did she stalk him? No
Did she follow him to his car? No
Did the police came after her? No
Did she really believe that there is an “us” for fight for? No
Did she made him feel threatened? No
Did she made him consider moving away? No
Did she made him get security cameras? No
Did she love bombed him? No
Did she track his schedule? No
Did she track him at a time where he should have been alone? No she did not
The ex did all of that, and a few more that I didn’t mention.
She is giving him a taste of his own medicine, and I guess he doesn’t like it
She told her husband when her ex-husband contacted her, but didn't tell her ex-husband when an old male friend contacted her. At least she learned her lesson. We can't really blame Eric for jumping to conclusions. Just because they weren't making out at the time, doesn't mean they weren't doing it. I also find it hypocritical that OP desperately tried to call Eric after the misunderstanding to explain her side. But when Eric tried to contact her to try to apologize for his mistake, she shot him down instantly. Eric absolutely turned into a stalker in the end, but OP could have had one single in-person conversation with him before it got to that point. She could have just told her husband she would go to a coffee place with him. A public place where nothing could happen. OP has some communication issues.
Eric was always a stalker. He just hadn't hd enough time to expose himself
An adult doesn’t jump to conclusions they talk. Clearly you are dense. She said she didn’t want contact and then he stalked her. wtf is wrong with ?
@@drippingwithdopenessand you’re stupid for thinking that. A normal person who sees that their wife was sitting on the couch giggling and laughing with a man he doesn’t know will definitely think they’re cheating on them. Yeah Eric may have ended up being the crazy person in the end, but OP was the one who didn’t tell him that her ex was stopping by and was caught in a position that is grounds for thinking they’re cheating. It’s OP’s fault for not informing him about who was visiting, but it’s also Eric’s fault for what happened in the end. But overall, OP was lowkey the one that started this.
@@jefmarquez2863 and you’re stupid if you run from something without communicating.