I've struggled with this issue of disappointment and regret. It has helped me to acknowledge my vulnerability and work toward being at peace with all of the good things I wanted and the bad things that came my way so that I can appreciate the chance to exist, to be alive, to feel the pain and joy, and love and the daily rebirth of each morning. It is a long life. Our sorrows are real. The seasons change and if we look for it we will see the beauty in it harshest realities. I hope you have a community, which also helps. Stay strong and be that desert rose that blooms in trying times.
I'm 35 and I'm having a very hard time this year. I have 3 kids and realize my life's pretty much set now. I feel like nobody truly likes me for me. I question everyone's motives including my wife's. I'm looking into every little thing to much. I have a extreme fear of death as well. So much so it dominates my thoughts past 8pm till I go to sleep. I'm lost right now. Feel like I want to fight everyone for no reason to prove something to myself. I even went out and bought a new Camaro and Truck and a house. Trying to find some help. But I don't wanna ask for help or look weak to my wife. Idk what to do.
@dale gribble Spot on! I just turned 47 a week ago and I have exactly the same thoughts. anxiety and depression is consuming all my thoughts and energy and I'm certain that no car in the world is going to change that, unless I drive it off a clip... A lot of my depression comes not only from what I could've done when younger, but from disappointment on the human race... What we could have achieved (heaven on earth) and look at the world today. Just a huge battleground and a giant waste dump with endless shopping malls. So sad...
Mine was more expensive than a Porche. I used a 1/3 of my retirement to pay off all debt, move to another country, and revamp my lifestyle towards minimalism. My husband has somehow stuck through it all with me and should be joining me in our new country soon. My triggers were severe, chronic stress, related to overwork, poor diet, lack of exercise and deep debt, which is so common to the American lifestyle. Most people thought I was going crazy, and in some ways they were right. But had I stayed in the US, with the current social and political climate, I WOULD have killed myself. I am much better now and am looking forward to what the next chapter in our life brings. (After all this COVID crap is over).
@@elizabethwilson4698 Hi Elizabeth. I was originally from the Czech Republic, so I ended up getting my Czech passport, getting into the UK prior to Brexit, and now I have pre-settled status in the UK as an EU citizen. I love living in Northeast England. People are super nice, stoic, have a great sense of humour, and are mostly non-religious (a huge plus as far as I am concerned). Walking in some of the most gorgeous nature I have ever seen is part of the culture, as is gardening (both great loves of mine). My husband thinks I am just a tiny bit obsessed with sheep and their lambs. Between spring lambs and flowers, I can be a bit of a hazard on the road, because I have a hard time keeping my eyes ON the road, haha. There are sheep, cows, horses, and dogs EVERYWHERE. The stunning historic sites are another bonus. Did I say I am in love with England? ; )
I know exactly what you mean! You do something for 20 years or so then you get stuck with doing things you know. There is going back to college and learning something knew but that's not available for everyone. I feel you!
I had a friend that had the same thoughts on employment that you have had Torres. He found meaning in employment by finding a trilling job. He now robs banks and is on the edge sooo much that he ain't got time to be thinking about meaning.
My wife felt the same for a long tim. No meaningful employment despite having a college degree. Eventually she became content and at peace with being the best mother and wife in the world. She's doing a wonderful work, and her importance to our family gives her new purpose. She is the center of our lives, especially the kids, and we literally can't live without her. Refocus.
what do you call when youre about to get 30 in you still dont get what you want all your goals all your dreams, its becoming more far and you become depressed
Checka Minute, there are tons of stories out there about people thinking they were too old and not giving up. Our dreams aren't on a timeline of our making, sometimes it takes longer and those lessons we learned along the way make our arriving that much sweeter. Practice positivity and listen in to my podcast at Live On Purpose Radio. You can find it at my website, drpauljenkins.com.
I hear you, but the reality is that nobody who achieves anything of real value has done so easily. Put another way, behind every great achievement is a difficult past. My encouragement to you is to not be quick to drop your dreams, but if your current plan to achieve them isn't working, consider changing the plan not the dream.
My mom is 80 and just now learning Spanish as shes always wanted. And we plan to paint together and possibly learn piano together. She made her kids her lifelong dream rather than acheive the other things she wanted. But there is still time for some, in order for her to feel acomplished beyond the incredible job of all shes done with us otherwise.
It happens to all of us. I’m 50 yr Old and went through much of it in my 40s. The light at the end of the tunnel is as such.. at first the regrets set in. Later, you learn how to manage those feelings of regret and somehow come to an “acceptance” of “this is how things turned out, and it’s meant to be this way”... When things begin to turn around and really get better is when you transition out of the “acceptance” phase and into a phase of “embracement” - where you now have learned to truly “embrace” all that has been given to you or not given to you and you begin to find ways to live a life that uses and make the best of what circumstances were handled to you. I know it sounds cliche but moving into this phase has helped me tremendously. For me, it was being single at 40, never married, no children, etc. I eventually came to the mindset that I was going to wake up every day appreciating my time given to improve myself and make the best body - physically, emotionally and mentally for myself. Nowadays, I’m at a point in life where I wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s ultimately the best position to be in. I also found it helpful for me to volunteer at a senior living facility, and a homeless shelter. You’ll find it helps to take your mind off of your issues by helping others cope with theirs.
As I'm turning 40 this year I feel as though I am standing on a mountain top looking out into the vast unknown full of valleys hills and I look back on all my accomplishments my relationships I am so glad I watched this video. as my children get older and my wife I realize the only direction in this lifetime is forward and it makes me want to be a kinder gentler loving person because I know this is the beginning of perhaps the greatest chapter of my life.
your impeding fall into physical and mental weakness, and eventual death is near. Accept it and move on, grandpa. Stop being so emotional like a bittttch
Great video, im 24 and experiencing this ... people around me (including my family) keep telling me im "old enough" for this, and for that ... But it's not coming naturally to me, ie. I dont desire those things that society imposes on you and Id rather be free, alone, happy and ambitious. Im not sure what to do tbh, nobody is wrong/right here, its just the way we humans have built our society :/
malhar jajoo, stay true to yourself and your desires. Let others know that you understand they are coming from a place of love and are happy with your choices.
Rust DDO, I don't know what the specifics are. Try some of the tips for someone older in the video. Look to try something new every day or week. Make a plan and if you need help, consider a coach www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
You should definitely live. Each day is a gift and one you can use to make your life better by 8 as I say. You know 8:00 is coning so do something to make your life better. Apologize, reinforce a healthy behavior. Anything. As you do this it will become a habit and you will see the benefits.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Well, it was apparently OCD. Thank you for responding. It makes every day a hell, not a gift. Every single moment is hell with OCD where you can't relax. It's not really worth living with this. It never goes away fully either.
I'm 35. I'm not going through this but was curious what this means and how to cope with it since I know someone who's experiencing this. Thanks for this video. It's very helpful.
I'm 37 and for months I've been struggling, that leads me to learn about midlife crisis. Thanks to this channel. Just like a camera, needs to refocus to stay focused.
Hello, Mentioned in Quran this way: "We have charged the human to be kind to his parents. With much pain his mother bore him, and with much pain she gave birth to him; his bearing and weaning are thirty months. When he grows to manhood and attains his fortieth year, he says: 'Make me so disposed My Lord, so that I give thanks for the favors with which You have blessed me, my father and mother, and that I will do good deeds that will please You. And, make me righteous and also my descendants. To You I repent, and I am among those who surrender. '
I'm a 60 year old man retired for 5 years and have been feeling this way for some time. Your video was spot on I drink every night I used to work out 3 to 4 times a week but haven't for some time. the only thing in my case I might add is some men in this group probably have certain life burdens that add to there crisis, taking care of loved ones, raising your grand children & so on, this can add to more overwhelming feelings as well. I'll probably look into therapy but will try your 10 seeps for starters. thanks
Mr4444jl, glad to hear you are willing to give the ideas a try. Once you get into it, I think you will begin to feel better. Our stresses don't leave as we get older, but we can deal with them positively.
He could be going through something like this. Nurture your relationship and don't get in the middle of your parent's relationship. That is something they need to work on,
A video that is less downplaying would be nice. I feel like you are addressing the audience as challenged. I am 52, experiencing a lot of things you discuss but speak like you are speaking to an intelligent adult please. ;-)
Thank you thank you so much for your tips. You bring things up that I haven't heard before and make a lot of sense. And I love the friendly and positive way you explain things.
This is happening to me right now. I got sober after 10+ years of smoking marijuana all day every day and drinking alcohol. Now I find myself as a 38 year old man barely hanging on in a tiny studio apartment with a struggling small business. Getting strong impulses to put the business through bankruptcy and getting out but there are so many obligations/debts it's like a huge web of complexity. Having serious depression and bad thoughts about myself. Feeling overwhelmed. Feeling like I want to go to a foreign country and become a monk for 5 years and leave everything behind.
I’m nearly 38 with three kids and going through this right now. I crave speed, adrenaline and excitement to feel free and young, and to get back some lost golden years where I settled down too soon. Please could you expand on what the “upgrade” might entail? Thank you.
Bigburt 82, by "upgrade" I mean an improvement in a particular area of life that you seeking. Based off your short comment, I would like to make a few recommendations. You can take none, one, or all of them: Please check out our Positive Personal Development playlist - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html and/or our Positive Relationship Resources playlist - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html This video that came out on Monday may also be beneficial: "What to Do to MAKE Yourself HAPPY" - th-cam.com/video/CSyRMux1g4Y/w-d-xo.html If you think this may be an issue that affects your life or your family's life deeply, some coaching or counseling might be advisable. I'd like to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to take advantage of this offer, please go here to schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
I’m in the exacte opposite situation. Had 2 consecutive severe burnouts in my late twenties. All of my friends are in a long term relationships and already have 1 or 2 small childeren. I feel I’ve missed the boat and still being single at age 34 with no kids. I hope things are better for you now
@@YZFMANIAC08 I think we will all be facing something different as we aged. some regret not settling down early some regret settling down too early and the grass is always greener on the other side. I am 36 and not married and wished I am. The sad side is that I am dating someone who just hit 41 and going tru midlife crisis and I am left wondering what’s waiting for me down the road. I suggested we break up and take a rest but he is so scared that he will regret losing me if he pursue his desire. But he is also unable to give himself fully and he knows that. I feel like stuck…
at least some people can afford a porche . im 40 and have nothing to show for it and it looks like were headed for yet another recession ... im failing to see the point in trying any more
Am in my late 20s, been feeling like this since I turned 18, bro. Just feel like I should have invented flying cars by now, and I'm not even in engineering or anything. Don't know if I should laugh or cry about it, mostly I choose to laugh.
It's one thing to be depressed about the things you could've done differently yourself and handled your own issues, but what if you've lost all hope in humanity? How to deal with that? Great video btw!
Neo4Ever, I know it can seem hopeless at times, but it isn't. So many people are out in the world doing good. Find a place to volunteer or give back and you will find other people doing the samne.
My drug is food. I hate what I look like after gaining so much but I keep eating for short term pleasure. 44 and unhappy. Are my best days behind me? Seems like it.
Diane L Bruno, I can think of a few people who may have thought that, but they changed their mindset and are embracing life in their 50's, 60's, 70's, and more.
Thank you. You hit the nail on the head in the 1st minute. That's exactly how I have been feeling. I will work on all of your suggestions 👍 I thought my issue was my job that I have had for 21 years now. I thought I just needed a new job but now I understand that may not be the case at all. Thank you
I'm 28 and i turn 29 in a few months. I'm mostly just sad because time seems to fly and i don't want to turn older. I don't want to turn 30, i want to stay young and free from what's expected in the 30s. It's been like that for a while now. I've talked to friends and family but they tell me not to worry, but i can't help it.
Sebastian, I suppose that you don't want to hear me say... I'm in my 50s and don't think the 30s were so bad. OK, I won't say it then. : ) Honestly, life is what you make of it, not what happens to you (even aging). I think you would greatly benefit from reading my book "Pathological Positivity". I am giving it away for free (just ask that you pay for the shipping). If you would like to take advantage of this offer, please go here to order the book: drpauljenkins.info/freebook In the meantime, you may find this video helpful since you say you can't help worrying: "7 Ways To Stop Worrying About The Future" - th-cam.com/video/W9iwGs8E8DM/w-d-xo.html
@CLB Ronin You're never too old to get an education. Starting at 26 might be better than 18+ reason I say that is because you won't get caught up in the party life and younger crowd. Your more mature now and can focus on what really matters
Wow! Thank you so much, very well said, definitely helpful and the answers for us who just realize that what is happening is a mid life crisis. All you said are the best. Thank you so much! This means so much to me, You saved my life. More power and Thank you again!
45 now, quite depressed recently. A lot of regret for making a lot of wrong choices in the pass 30 years, now lead me to nowhere. Last month I had a terrible cut by accident, my logical mind said press the wound and stop the bleeding. My another thought said just let the blood pour out. On the surgical table my logical mind was analysing the risk of anesthesia, my another thought said it would be nice if I never woke up. No one to talk to. It's unfair to pour these negativity to friends. I have a lot ot courses and books, I can never finish them.
Sounds like you could use an accountability partner. Consider getting some coaching. It could help to take you to the next step. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Im 23, my wife is military and we have an 18 month old son. Moved 3200 miles away from our families. I feel like im going through this because I do not have a stable career. The more I look at my son the older he gets, and I feel the pressure of being a father and showing him that I have a career. I work at a grocery store full time and have been for over 3 years now, but I am looking towards starting school or a skillful trade. Woke up at 2 am sitting upright with intrusive thoughts about being someone who just 'gets by.' I am willing to apply myself to something, but im unsure how to begin!
PJ Hill, You are young, try something that sounds interesting to you and see where it takes you. If you are supporting your family and being there for your wife and mother, you are doing what you need to do.
I’m 14 and I often cry, thinking about how death will come one day. I was thinking i may have an “early “midlife” crisis”… Thank you for your video, it really helped me, feeling better!
@@iiCounted-op5jx This is separation anxiety. It comes at the stage where we become truly aware that we are responsible for our own life. Not parents, school nor society will take care of us in the way that only we can take care of ourselves. For the first time we therefore realize our own mortality as a separate individual. That's the challenge for the stage you are in. Welcome to life !
I have always told myself that I would never have a midlife crises as they are just pathetic, however, can one defeat nature? So if not, I do plan on enjoying my midlife crises, still looking fit, great and dancing with someone in the Caribbean who is very hot and most importantly my own age.... As for a cliche' red flashy car, babysitting a kid who is meant to be my partner or some fear/depression induced by age.....ERRRR NOOO.
Thanks bro my mom has been arguing with my dad for the past 2-3 months and she has been acting like someone else and she's way more meaner and I honest to God don't know what to do because I'm only 12 so I can't really help her but I can at least try
I love my midlife awakening, really wish i had it earlier and definately don't want it to go away. Finally seeing thru the stupid success and impress game and realising that i don't have to be a slave to it. The sportscar thing is just a stupid stereotype, to me it's the total opposite, really want to sell my "prestige" car and using the money on something personally important to me 😊 All the best from Norway 😊👍
I thank you for the way you explained how to cope with it. I am a wife I have practiced all my life the 10 tips rules . Is my life style. I believe in it 💯. But my husband is the opposite. He is going through the crisis. I , as a wife I am suffering seeing him getting depressed. But I do understand that is the lack of knowledge that is not helping him to come out safely. I am here supporting him 💯. I would like to add one more tip : Eat healthy... avoid fatty food or fried or read meat. Eat more healthy. Drink plenty water and avoid too much caffeine. I thank you all for the comments. It safes lives and marriages. 🙏🥰.
1:14 (10) Acknowledge what's happening 1:45 (9) Refocus on your achievement. It always could be better, it always could be worse 3:10 (8) Avoid alcohol and other drags 4:12 (7) Think twice about big purchase 4:56 (6) Talk to someone, please 5:39 (5) Think upgrade 6:31 (4) Key relationship 8:17 (3) Physical activity 9:10 (2) Spend some time to quiet all noises (pray, yoga, meditation) 9:55 (1) Practice positivity 11:02 Outro
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john wick, my opinion is those things just mask what is going on, dulls senses. Sounds like you are finding that to be the case. Consider a coach to help you.
My topic for my own subscribers this week. So maybe you're at midlife, maybe younger or even mid twenties and you feel you didn't get what you wanted. You look at someone like Stephen King and suddenly you feel poorly about yourself. Don't. Two mindsets to take here. First, most people don't get everything they wanted--they may get a lot, but not everything. Most talented actors or other artists won't make the big screen. But you evaluate what you did get. Maybe family, maybe you did get to that suburb or maybe your job is getting to help people. But maybe that didn't get you to the Bill Gates level. So what? Everyone has there own path to walk. And guess what, Bill Gates and King didn't get everything either. Stephen King has trouble walking because he got run down by a truck decades ago. See? Second point. There is still time. There are many things I can't do now due to age. Can't join the Marines or become an FBI agent. Can't try again at pro thai kickboxing. But I can travel. I can hike. I can see the world. I can keep writing books and keep plugging that vlog. What is left greatly outnumbers what I didn't get and now can't get. That is the take home point--at thirty, at eighty. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles.
I am so surprised there are not more views on this. I am 55 and going through a bit of mid life crisis “again”. My first one was at 40. The mention of the use of drugs and alcohol is profound as I actually have been drinking more to adjust and numb myself. Very straightforward suggestions Thanks!!
These days midlife crises starts from as soon as u graduate ...( Varies from person to person may be,) ........u realise how things are evolving in every second... the video is ever green for every phase..Thanks
That's just a crisis then, having a crisis because you have no clue what to do after graduating is not the same for someone old enough to retire from a job and wondering if that's all and what's next.
I am 38, acter 3 identity crises + 2 generations (I'm the only surviving generation) - I feel like people who I can identity with (and date 🤦♀️) are the ones past their mid-life crisis.
Its been more than a year since I accomplished my biggest life goal, sat down with myself and said "Is that it?" So much of what you said resonated with me, but the only way I have found that I can now feel alive is by fantasizing about my new life, built atop the shreds of my old one. I am just dying to burn it all down. I know that divorcing my wife and moving to another city would imply that I would end up mostly being lonely. However, I cannot also be in limbo foreover waiting for the crisis to end. I fear I am about to have a major blowup and there is nothing I can do about it. After a decade of hardwork and accomplishing my biggest life goal, its strange to find myself in such a deep depression and so thoroughly confused. I was expecting a red carpet and fulfillment.
Black Knight, interesting how success doesn't always bring happiness. However, happiness (gratitude for what you currently have) will always bring success, though the outside world may not see it. I frequently tell my clients that I will get behind their upgrade all day long, once they realize they don't need it. I'm going to make a few suggestions, and you can take or leave them: Watch "How Gratitude Can Change Your Life" - th-cam.com/video/jKDOl8g__pw/w-d-xo.html Browse through the Positive Personal Development playlist and see if there is anything that sounds interesting to you: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html Consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. They can guide you away from the major blowup and deep depression you mentioned. Here is where you can schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall However you proceed, I want to say thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
Black knight, I feel the same way. I need a total reboot. I've been sad /depressed for a while. I'm 55 and the mortality and questioning everything is driving me crazy.
I’m 20 and thinking about getting back into motocross’s and selling my home and buying land and getting a travel trailer because I’ve become afraid to do the things I used to do my heart hurts and I can’t breathe when I try to ride like I did but I feel I can make a career out of it. is this a the same thing as a mid life crisis?
I am having a hard time with mid life crisis as I am a failure and have no accomplishments in life. Every night I cried myself to sleep and wake up tired and no energy for work.
I'm 60 years old now and wonder, where's this midlife crisis I'm supposed to have experienced by now? I think it's something only experienced in the affluent society. When many people in the first world aren't struggling to survive like in poorer countries they look for things to worry about. I wonder how many of those poor subsistence farmers I saw in rural Egypt, India, or Cambodia have a midlife crises?
Guys; know that you are doing great! Everything is falling into place for you very soon! This is the best time to head in that direction which you were always meant to go. Everything up til now happened for a great Devine reason! You are EXACTLY right where you are supposed to be at this moment in your life, and are headed towards the best phase of your life!!! With that said, you are now about to reap the benefits of your tremendous wisdom gained from all these experiences. Start that workout regimen! Get the wheels moving to start that business that you’ve always had in the back of your head. Today begins the first day of the best of your life! You’re gonna do this! 💪😎👍STAY STRONG !!!
Recently I wake up feeling I don't want to be a part of this anymore and I don't care about anything. Seriously need to re-think my life - if I really want to cope with antidepressants or should rather start using my middle finger more often. No offence, but can't see how this advice could help me. Maybe I should start drinking if it helps others
I’m only 35. Why does these things happen to me?? I don’t know what I want anymore in life. I feel frustrated that I haven’t experienced & achieved much at this point in my life. Then 3 yrs ago, I was diagnosed with a rare blood disease despite living a healthy & active lifestyle which limited my activities & changed my outlook in life. But I’m at my breaking point now. I want a big change in my life.
john mark cagalawan, thank you for watching - I hope the video helped. We have other videos on the Positive Personal Development playlist that you might find useful - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html We have a couple more resources if you are interested. I am giving away my book for free. It's called "Pathological Positivity," and I just ask that you pay for the shipping. You can access that here: drpauljenkins.info/freebook Additionally, we have a free 25 minute call with one of my Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds like it would be helpful, here's the link to schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall Best wishes.
I just turned 40 and I made just about every bad decision a person could make in my 20s and 30s and it's hard not to focus on the regret/ what ifs/ disappointment / and stay in the moment. Then I wanna fix it all in 5 minutes when it took me 40 years of bad choices to get here.I know gratitude for the things I do have is the key but it's hard not to drift back to regret & disappointment. Your video is spot on though. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.
I'm 39 and feeling this right now..i often find myself crying in a corner. Thank you for the tips!
You're so welcome!
Girl, im the same age... so confused. Thanks for ur honesty Queen!!
I've struggled with this issue of disappointment and regret. It has helped me to acknowledge my vulnerability and work toward being at peace with all of the good things I wanted and the bad things that came my way so that I can appreciate the chance to exist, to be alive, to feel the pain and joy, and love and the daily rebirth of each morning. It is a long life. Our sorrows are real. The seasons change and if we look for it we will see the beauty in it harshest realities. I hope you have a community, which also helps. Stay strong and be that desert rose that blooms in trying times.
I feel your pain. 40 here. How the heck did I get here this fast and why aren't I where I wanna be is where I get stuck at.
I'm 35 and I'm having a very hard time this year. I have 3 kids and realize my life's pretty much set now. I feel like nobody truly likes me for me. I question everyone's motives including my wife's. I'm looking into every little thing to much. I have a extreme fear of death as well. So much so it dominates my thoughts past 8pm till I go to sleep. I'm lost right now. Feel like I want to fight everyone for no reason to prove something to myself. I even went out and bought a new Camaro and Truck and a house. Trying to find some help. But I don't wanna ask for help or look weak to my wife. Idk what to do.
I’m only 17
Hank Hill, you have a lot of life in front of you. May you approach it positively.
There’s a lot headed you’re way lads, brace yourselves for literally the ride of your life!
@dale gribble Spot on! I just turned 47 a week ago and I have exactly the same thoughts. anxiety and depression is consuming all my thoughts and energy and I'm certain that no car in the world is going to change that, unless I drive it off a clip...
A lot of my depression comes not only from what I could've done when younger, but from disappointment on the human race... What we could have achieved (heaven on earth) and look at the world today. Just a huge battleground and a giant waste dump with endless shopping malls. So sad...
I'm 18 and I'm having this crisis. I think it's mainly because of my depression
RaNdOm-LiNkSguy 746 I’m 15 lol
You may have just saved my life but definitely my marriage. Thank you
It is truly an honor to be on your team, Darren Gray.
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Overcome a Midlife Crisis" by Harper Daniels has been helpful. It's all in the mind.
Mine was more expensive than a Porche. I used a 1/3 of my retirement to pay off all debt, move to another country, and revamp my lifestyle towards minimalism. My husband has somehow stuck through it all with me and should be joining me in our new country soon. My triggers were severe, chronic stress, related to overwork, poor diet, lack of exercise and deep debt, which is so common to the American lifestyle. Most people thought I was going crazy, and in some ways they were right. But had I stayed in the US, with the current social and political climate, I WOULD have killed myself. I am much better now and am looking forward to what the next chapter in our life brings. (After all this COVID crap is over).
Michelle Maine, glad you went through this, I am sure it wasn't fun, but it sounds like you are in a better place to do good.
Where did you move ?
Michelle you are not alone. We have felt the same.
@@elizabethwilson4698 Hi Elizabeth. I was originally from the Czech Republic, so I ended up getting my Czech passport, getting into the UK prior to Brexit, and now I have pre-settled status in the UK as an EU citizen. I love living in Northeast England. People are super nice, stoic, have a great sense of humour, and are mostly non-religious (a huge plus as far as I am concerned). Walking in some of the most gorgeous nature I have ever seen is part of the culture, as is gardening (both great loves of mine). My husband thinks I am just a tiny bit obsessed with sheep and their lambs. Between spring lambs and flowers, I can be a bit of a hazard on the road, because I have a hard time keeping my eyes ON the road, haha. There are sheep, cows, horses, and dogs EVERYWHERE. The stunning historic sites are another bonus. Did I say I am in love with England? ; )
Cool, what country did you pick over USA To uproot and move your whole existence to that has no more other stress in the climate??
My dilemma is I've hit a wall about finding meaningful employment opportunities.
john wick, please listen to some of the episodes on my podcast, Live On Purpose Radio. You can find it on itunes or at www.drpauljenkins.com.
I know exactly what you mean!
You do something for 20 years or so then you get stuck with doing things you know. There is going back to college and learning something knew but that's not available for everyone. I feel you!
I hear that !
I had a friend that had the same thoughts on employment that you have had Torres. He found meaning in employment by finding a trilling job. He now robs banks and is on the edge sooo much that he ain't got time to be thinking about meaning.
My wife felt the same for a long tim. No meaningful employment despite having a college degree. Eventually she became content and at peace with being the best mother and wife in the world. She's doing a wonderful work, and her importance to our family gives her new purpose. She is the center of our lives, especially the kids, and we literally can't live without her. Refocus.
41 here.. 😂 n im freaking out!!! 🙈
Britt Nicole, no reason to freak out, you can manage this.
People in the 1700's:
13 year old: Oh my God, I'm already half way through my life.
Haha, yep! Thanks for commenting, TheAverageWolfGamer.
Nobel Prize Worthy.
Scratch that
Universe of Universe Worthy
I read people in the past lived just as long as us.
Thank you.
It's unfortunate that I have to search this term on TH-cam. But I am glad that I listened to you.
I joined TH-cam because it is a great way to get information out, to anywhere in the world with internet, vinodztube. So glad you found us.
I’m 16 years old and I feel these things as well.
PiKira, hope my tips can help you.
My husband is going through this for the second time.... this time is not as entertaining! Kinda scary and sad.
Patricia Simon I hope you and your husband well. You both have my blessings.
@@pikira2246 Thank you❣️
I looked forward to turning 16,18 and 21. After those numbers you just don't care anymore lol.
what do you call when youre about to get 30 in you still dont get what you want all your goals all your dreams, its becoming more far and you become depressed
Checka Minute, there are tons of stories out there about people thinking they were too old and not giving up. Our dreams aren't on a timeline of our making, sometimes it takes longer and those lessons we learned along the way make our arriving that much sweeter. Practice positivity and listen in to my podcast at Live On Purpose Radio. You can find it at my website, drpauljenkins.com.
Live On Purpose TV thank you
I hear you, but the reality is that nobody who achieves anything of real value has done so easily. Put another way, behind every great achievement is a difficult past. My encouragement to you is to not be quick to drop your dreams, but if your current plan to achieve them isn't working, consider changing the plan not the dream.
My mom is 80 and just now learning Spanish as shes always wanted. And we plan to paint together and possibly learn piano together. She made her kids her lifelong dream rather than acheive the other things she wanted. But there is still time for some, in order for her to feel acomplished beyond the incredible job of all shes done with us otherwise.
It happens to all of us. I’m 50 yr Old and went through much of it in my 40s. The light at the end of the tunnel is as such.. at first the regrets set in. Later, you learn how to manage those feelings of regret and somehow come to an “acceptance” of “this is how things turned out, and it’s meant to be this way”... When things begin to turn around and really get better is when you transition out of the “acceptance” phase and into a phase of “embracement” - where you now have learned to truly “embrace” all that has been given to you or not given to you and you begin to find ways to live a life that uses and make the best of what circumstances were handled to you. I know it sounds cliche but moving into this phase has helped me tremendously. For me, it was being single at 40, never married, no children, etc. I eventually came to the mindset that I was going to wake up every day appreciating my time given to improve myself and make the best body - physically, emotionally and mentally for myself. Nowadays, I’m at a point in life where I wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s ultimately the best position to be in. I also found it helpful for me to volunteer at a senior living facility, and a homeless shelter. You’ll find it helps to take your mind off of your issues by helping others cope with theirs.
Service is helpful for everyone involved.
insightful thank you.
As someone who is going through it for a second time I say just go with it and see where it takes you. Don't fight it.
Ride the Dragon!
David H, good luck!
Thank you for the advice and perspective David
I'm watching this video to help my father but I can't be straight about it because of my culture any tips
Put the advice in terms of principles. Perhaps that could help.
As I'm turning 40 this year I feel as though I am standing on a mountain top looking out into the vast unknown full of valleys hills and I look back on all my accomplishments my relationships I am so glad I watched this video. as my children get older and my wife I realize the only direction in this lifetime is forward and it makes me want to be a kinder gentler loving person because I know this is the beginning of perhaps the greatest chapter of my life.
Daniel Principato, it sounds exciting, glad you are in our community of positive people.
your impeding fall into physical and mental weakness, and eventual death is near. Accept it and move on, grandpa. Stop being so emotional like a bittttch
Great video, im 24 and experiencing this ... people around me (including my family) keep telling me im "old enough" for this, and for that ... But it's not coming naturally to me, ie. I dont desire those things that society imposes on you and Id rather be free, alone, happy and ambitious.
Im not sure what to do tbh, nobody is wrong/right here, its just the way we humans have built our society :/
malhar jajoo, stay true to yourself and your desires. Let others know that you understand they are coming from a place of love and are happy with your choices.
You say that people around the age of 40-60 have midlife crisis, I am 17 and I have midlife crisis, any tips ?
Rust DDO, I don't know what the specifics are. Try some of the tips for someone older in the video. Look to try something new every day or week. Make a plan and if you need help, consider a coach www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Same. I'm 15 btw
All my horrible mistakes I made all my life are crashing down on me. I wanna die from all the guilt. Is there a name for this? Should I just die?
You should definitely live. Each day is a gift and one you can use to make your life better by 8 as I say. You know 8:00 is coning so do something to make your life better. Apologize, reinforce a healthy behavior. Anything. As you do this it will become a habit and you will see the benefits.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Well, it was apparently OCD. Thank you for responding. It makes every day a hell, not a gift. Every single moment is hell with OCD where you can't relax. It's not really worth living with this. It never goes away fully either.
I'm 35. I'm not going through this but was curious what this means and how to cope with it since I know someone who's experiencing this. Thanks for this video. It's very helpful.
Heart, glad to have you at the channel. I hope this helps with your friend.
I'm 37 and for months I've been struggling, that leads me to learn about midlife crisis. Thanks to this channel. Just like a camera, needs to refocus to stay focused.
Empleyado Ph, Thanks for the feedback, I will take another look.
I think he meant this a metophor, not literally 😌
Hello,
Mentioned in Quran this way:
"We have charged the human to be kind to his parents. With much pain his mother bore him, and with much pain she gave birth to him; his bearing and weaning are thirty months. When he grows to manhood and attains his fortieth year, he says: 'Make me so disposed My Lord, so that I give thanks for the favors with which You have blessed me, my father and mother, and that I will do good deeds that will please You. And, make me righteous and also my descendants. To You I repent, and I am among those who surrender. '
Thank you.
I'm a 60 year old man retired for 5 years and have been feeling this way for some time. Your video was spot on I drink every night I used to work out 3 to 4 times a week but haven't for some time. the only thing in my case I might add is some men in this group probably have certain life burdens that add to there crisis, taking care of loved ones, raising your grand children & so on, this can add to more overwhelming feelings as well. I'll probably look into therapy but will try your 10 seeps for starters. thanks
Mr4444jl, glad to hear you are willing to give the ideas a try. Once you get into it, I think you will begin to feel better. Our stresses don't leave as we get older, but we can deal with them positively.
I'm 21, so far from that stage of my life, but my dad's been acting weird lately. I'm kind of worried he's gonna leave my mom because of that.
He could be going through something like this. Nurture your relationship and don't get in the middle of your parent's relationship. That is something they need to work on,
A video that is less downplaying would be nice. I feel like you are addressing the audience as challenged. I am 52, experiencing a lot of things you discuss but speak like you are speaking to an intelligent adult please. ;-)
Thank you for the feedback, Alien Life.
First of all……X1.25, otherwise this is impossible. You’re welcome……
Thank you.
Am 20 and experiencing this! There's a big void in me that can't be filled
BlacKpiLL 7amood, you can fill whatever void you have in your life. Stay positive and pick one thing to work on.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you, I will!
I dont trust someone who cant properly pronounce the plural of crisis. Only joking this was helpful.
ROY FR, thanks for watching.
Thank you thank you so much for your tips. You bring things up that I haven't heard before and make a lot of sense. And I love the friendly and positive way you explain things.
Thank you, Alexandra Trail. Glad you found the channel.
This is happening to me right now. I got sober after 10+ years of smoking marijuana all day every day and drinking alcohol. Now I find myself as a 38 year old man barely hanging on in a tiny studio apartment with a struggling small business. Getting strong impulses to put the business through bankruptcy and getting out but there are so many obligations/debts it's like a huge web of complexity. Having serious depression and bad thoughts about myself. Feeling overwhelmed. Feeling like I want to go to a foreign country and become a monk for 5 years and leave everything behind.
C, I wish you well and I hope you can work through this. Whatever you decide, I hope you find the peace you desire.
Well... one of the symptoms of my crisis is that I do not have enough money to buy a Prosche...
I hear you!
I’m nearly 38 with three kids and going through this right now. I crave speed, adrenaline and excitement to feel free and young, and to get back some lost golden years where I settled down too soon. Please could you expand on what the “upgrade” might entail? Thank you.
Bigburt 82, by "upgrade" I mean an improvement in a particular area of life that you seeking. Based off your short comment, I would like to make a few recommendations. You can take none, one, or all of them:
Please check out our Positive Personal Development playlist - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html
and/or our Positive Relationship Resources playlist - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html
This video that came out on Monday may also be beneficial: "What to Do to MAKE Yourself HAPPY" - th-cam.com/video/CSyRMux1g4Y/w-d-xo.html
If you think this may be an issue that affects your life or your family's life deeply, some coaching or counseling might be advisable. I'd like to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to take advantage of this offer, please go here to schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.
I started craving roller-coasters when previously I was terrified of them, so weird.
I’m in the exacte opposite situation. Had 2 consecutive severe burnouts in my late twenties. All of my friends are in a long term relationships and already have 1 or 2 small childeren. I feel I’ve missed the boat and still being single at age 34 with no kids. I hope things are better for you now
@@YZFMANIAC08 I think we will all be facing something different as we aged. some regret not settling down early some regret settling down too early and the grass is always greener on the other side. I am 36 and not married and wished I am. The sad side is that I am dating someone who just hit 41 and going tru midlife crisis and I am left wondering what’s waiting for me down the road. I suggested we break up and take a rest but he is so scared that he will regret losing me if he pursue his desire. But he is also unable to give himself fully and he knows that. I feel like stuck…
at least some people can afford a porche . im 40 and have nothing to show for it and it looks like were headed for yet another recession ... im failing to see the point in trying any more
orb art, depends on what you define as success. Figure out what people need in a recession, there is always something.
Maybe I'm early to this but I'm only 29 lol! He said between 40-60.
Okki Consulting Flyin Obayan, you overachiever. Haha.
I think I’ve been in one for 5 years and just figured it out. 😂. Thanks!
Happy to help!
Am in my late 20s, been feeling like this since I turned 18, bro. Just feel like I should have invented flying cars by now, and I'm not even in engineering or anything. Don't know if I should laugh or cry about it, mostly I choose to laugh.
Flying Penguin, you have your life ahead of you. Choose to laugh.
It's one thing to be depressed about the things you could've done differently yourself and handled your own issues, but what if you've lost all hope in humanity? How to deal with that?
Great video btw!
Neo4Ever, I know it can seem hopeless at times, but it isn't. So many people are out in the world doing good. Find a place to volunteer or give back and you will find other people doing the samne.
I'm def having my mid life crisis. It really sucks.
Sorry to hear that. I hope this helps and you get through it understanding a little more about yourself.
My drug is food. I hate what I look like after gaining so much but I keep eating for short term pleasure. 44 and unhappy. Are my best days behind me? Seems like it.
Diane L Bruno, I can think of a few people who may have thought that, but they changed their mindset and are embracing life in their 50's, 60's, 70's, and more.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks I'm trying
I’m 41 and feel like the life I have isn’t the one I envisioned for myself. I feel like I need to make major changes
Danny, no time like the present. Accept it as a gift and make the changes that will benefit you and others around you.
I am 40 now and my existential crisis revisit often, and combine with Midlife crisis, that make me feel anxiety now..
Kiang hy, hopefully some of the other videos on the channel can help with the anxiety.
Thank you. You hit the nail on the head in the 1st minute. That's exactly how I have been feeling. I will work on all of your suggestions 👍 I thought my issue was my job that I have had for 21 years now. I thought I just needed a new job but now I understand that may not be the case at all.
Thank you
You are welcome, Brian's Randomness. I'm glad the video resonated with you. Thanks for being at Live On Purpose TV.
Wonderful video, my son is confronting exactly this phase. Thanks for your compassion help. Warm regardless!
I wish your family the best.
Thank you for your list. The link to your pdf doesn't work.
Updated drpauljenkins.info/portablepositivity
This man gives me midlife depression
Pu abi, thanks for watching.
Is putting stuff to wishlist on online store consider as mid life crisis too?
MercyMe, I don't think so.
Portable positivity link doesn’t work
Try this: drpauljenkins.info/portablepositivity
i have midlife crisis since birth
You are an unusual case. Good luck. Hope the video helps.
I'm 28 and i turn 29 in a few months. I'm mostly just sad because time seems to fly and i don't want to turn older. I don't want to turn 30, i want to stay young and free from what's expected in the 30s. It's been like that for a while now. I've talked to friends and family but they tell me not to worry, but i can't help it.
Sebastian, I suppose that you don't want to hear me say... I'm in my 50s and don't think the 30s were so bad. OK, I won't say it then. : ) Honestly, life is what you make of it, not what happens to you (even aging). I think you would greatly benefit from reading my book "Pathological Positivity". I am giving it away for free (just ask that you pay for the shipping). If you would like to take advantage of this offer, please go here to order the book: drpauljenkins.info/freebook
In the meantime, you may find this video helpful since you say you can't help worrying: "7 Ways To Stop Worrying About The Future" - th-cam.com/video/W9iwGs8E8DM/w-d-xo.html
Live On Purpose TV thank you so much for your reply! I will definitely check it out. Hope you have a great day.
Im 28 and feeling this now. Feel like i havent accomplished much in my 20s and still living with parents
KALi Walker, make a plan and work the plan.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV how do i start:/
I'm in literally the same exact boat but feeling this way because I'll be 29 next month. Was plan on moving out by 30 but might be sooner than that.
@CLB Ronin You're never too old to get an education. Starting at 26 might be better than 18+ reason I say that is because you won't get caught up in the party life and younger crowd. Your more mature now and can focus on what really matters
Thank you for your wisdom.
My wife pointed out to me that I gave into false positivity that got me stuck in denial.
Thank you for watching, consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com for my positivity power-up course.
Wow! Thank you so much, very well said, definitely helpful and the answers for us who just realize that what is happening is a mid life crisis. All you said are the best. Thank you so much! This means so much to me, You saved my life. More power and Thank you again!
You are so welcome, glad we could meet on TH-cam.
Do you play juke box games into middle age?
Some people can. Just depends on the person and what they like to do.
MidLife the the most Underrated and Chu*** TH-camr
Thanks for watching.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV wlcom sir
Hi, the link for the minibook doesn't work.
try drpauljenkins.com.info/portablepositivity
I was looking at Porsches earlier LOL!
Good luck!
45 now, quite depressed recently.
A lot of regret for making a lot of wrong choices in the pass 30 years, now lead me to nowhere.
Last month I had a terrible cut by accident, my logical mind said press the wound and stop the bleeding. My another thought said just let the blood pour out. On the surgical table my logical mind was analysing the risk of anesthesia, my another thought said it would be nice if I never woke up.
No one to talk to. It's unfair to pour these negativity to friends. I have a lot ot courses and books, I can never finish them.
Sounds like you could use an accountability partner. Consider getting some coaching. It could help to take you to the next step. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Im 23, my wife is military and we have an 18 month old son. Moved 3200 miles away from our families. I feel like im going through this because I do not have a stable career. The more I look at my son the older he gets, and I feel the pressure of being a father and showing him that I have a career. I work at a grocery store full time and have been for over 3 years now, but I am looking towards starting school or a skillful trade. Woke up at 2 am sitting upright with intrusive thoughts about being someone who just 'gets by.' I am willing to apply myself to something, but im unsure how to begin!
PJ Hill, You are young, try something that sounds interesting to you and see where it takes you. If you are supporting your family and being there for your wife and mother, you are doing what you need to do.
Thank you so much!! Your speech better than 400 page book about mid age crisis. 🙏🏼😍
N N, glad you are in our TH-cam Community.
I’m 14 and I often cry, thinking about how death will come one day.
I was thinking i may have an “early “midlife” crisis”… Thank you for your video, it really helped me, feeling better!
Kida, thank you!
I'm 17 and going through the same thing, I feel like my life is going to go by so fast and before u know it, I'll be in my deathbed
@@iiCounted-op5jx This is separation anxiety. It comes at the stage where we become truly aware that we are responsible for our own life. Not parents, school nor society will take care of us in the way that only we can take care of ourselves. For the first time we therefore realize our own mortality as a separate individual. That's the challenge for the stage you are in. Welcome to life !
I have always told myself that I would never have a midlife crises as they are just pathetic, however, can one defeat nature? So if not, I do plan on enjoying my midlife crises, still looking fit, great and dancing with someone in the Caribbean who is very hot and most importantly my own age.... As for a cliche' red flashy car, babysitting a kid who is meant to be my partner or some fear/depression induced by age.....ERRRR NOOO.
David Johnson, Sounds like a great plan.
Thank you for this video. I’m turning 37 next week and have been feeling this way for months.
You got this!
you lost me when you got religious
Thanks for trying.
Thanks bro my mom has been arguing with my dad for the past 2-3 months and she has been acting like someone else and she's way more meaner and I honest to God don't know what to do because I'm only 12 so I can't really help her but I can at least try
Glonk, I am not sure what you can do for your mom except to show her you love her and are thinking of her.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV i've shown her this video and she's been acting more different so i think it might have helped
going through the same thing, yet im 14
I'm just here cause I wanted to see if I was the only one who didn't wanna turn 30 😂
You are not alone, but, take it from me who is way over the line, it is great!
LOL! I bought a motorcycle and I'm soooo glad I did! Love your tips!
Wholly Susan, thank you.
This is too soft, we need more tough love :( I am still angry.
English With Phil, I hope you stick with us for a while and maybe another video will resonate with you.
I'm 35 I'm still failing in my life
You can do this. Some people don't peak until later. Keep at it, you will.
I love my midlife awakening, really wish i had it earlier and definately don't want it to go away. Finally seeing thru the stupid success and impress game and realising that i don't have to be a slave to it. The sportscar thing is just a stupid stereotype, to me it's the total opposite, really want to sell my "prestige" car and using the money on something personally important to me 😊 All the best from Norway 😊👍
ABRACADABRA, midlife sounds like a positive place for you.
I thank you for the way you explained how to cope with it. I am a wife I have practiced all my life the 10 tips rules . Is my life style. I believe in it 💯. But my husband is the opposite. He is going through the crisis. I , as a wife I am suffering seeing him getting depressed. But I do understand that is the lack of knowledge that is not helping him to come out safely.
I am here supporting him 💯.
I would like to add one more tip :
Eat healthy... avoid fatty food or fried or read meat. Eat more healthy. Drink plenty water and avoid too much caffeine.
I thank you all for the comments. It safes lives and marriages. 🙏🥰.
Elizabeth Wilson, good advice.
1:14 (10) Acknowledge what's happening
1:45 (9) Refocus on your achievement. It always could be better, it always could be worse
3:10 (8) Avoid alcohol and other drags
4:12 (7) Think twice about big purchase
4:56 (6) Talk to someone, please
5:39 (5) Think upgrade
6:31 (4) Key relationship
8:17 (3) Physical activity
9:10 (2) Spend some time to quiet all noises (pray, yoga, meditation)
9:55 (1) Practice positivity
11:02 Outro
You got it.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV would be great if you could add keynotes with timestamps to the video description, and mark the timeline.
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Overcome a Midlife Crisis" by Harper Daniels has been helpful. It's all in the mind.
Guru Notebooks, our minds are powerful tools.
I needed to hear this thank you
You are most welcome. Live On Purpose offers a free 30 minute coaching and get acquainted session. Here is the calendar: calendly.com/liveonpurpose-team/free
This video deserves millions of views. I am 27 and experiencing this. Its so depressing.
Tracey jeanclaudeg, glad you enjoyed it.
Thx u. God used you to answer my prayers to what was wrong with me, and by God's Grace u drove it all the way home. God blesses you & Your min.
Thank you for watching, Naturally Chosen Bre.
I'm 39 experiencing mid-life I quit drinking but I smoke cannabis to cope but that to has gone stale and not much help.
john wick, my opinion is those things just mask what is going on, dulls senses. Sounds like you are finding that to be the case. Consider a coach to help you.
I'm 17 what am I doing here
Doego, Could be someone in your life may be going through this.
Thanks for supporting us
Giovanni De Maio Langella, you are welcome. Thank you for watching.
My topic for my own subscribers this week. So maybe you're at midlife, maybe younger or even mid twenties and you feel you didn't get what you wanted. You look at someone like Stephen King and suddenly you feel poorly about yourself. Don't. Two mindsets to take here. First, most people don't get everything they wanted--they may get a lot, but not everything. Most talented actors or other artists won't make the big screen. But you evaluate what you did get. Maybe family, maybe you did get to that suburb or maybe your job is getting to help people. But maybe that didn't get you to the Bill Gates level. So what? Everyone has there own path to walk. And guess what, Bill Gates and King didn't get everything either. Stephen King has trouble walking because he got run down by a truck decades ago. See? Second point. There is still time. There are many things I can't do now due to age. Can't join the Marines or become an FBI agent. Can't try again at pro thai kickboxing. But I can travel. I can hike. I can see the world. I can keep writing books and keep plugging that vlog. What is left greatly outnumbers what I didn't get and now can't get. That is the take home point--at thirty, at eighty. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles.
Wonderful! Stay in the realm of "I Cans".
I am so surprised there are not more views on this. I am 55 and going through a bit of mid life crisis “again”. My first one was at 40. The mention of the use of drugs and alcohol is profound as I actually have been drinking more to adjust and numb myself. Very straightforward suggestions Thanks!!
Al V, glad the video is helpful.
I'm about to turn 30 and my life just had major change about to have my second child under 2. I'm feeling it hard as a rock at the moment.
You can do this. There are some hard times and sleepless times ahead, but it will be so worth it!
These days midlife crises starts from as soon as u graduate ...( Varies from person to person may be,) ........u realise how things are evolving in every second... the video is ever green for every phase..Thanks
RENUKA SWAMI, thanks for commenting.
That's just a crisis then, having a crisis because you have no clue what to do after graduating is not the same for someone old enough to retire from a job and wondering if that's all and what's next.
Damn
Its either. Midlife crisos at 27. I also got low testosterone. Ruined my relashionships
C. NEEKAN, sounds like you may need a positivity power-up, you are in the right place.
Thank you
You're welcome
Thank for sharing these 10 idea to the public. That is outstanding generous and very welcomed. I am motivated to practice positivity ☺️
Wonderful! You got this!
I am 38, acter 3 identity crises + 2 generations (I'm the only surviving generation) - I feel like people who I can identity with (and date 🤦♀️) are the ones past their mid-life crisis.
Inkeri Kavantera, and there isn't anything wrong with that. You choose what works for you.
Youre a good man
Thank you, glad you are in our community.
this was surprising helpful. as advertised. 😂
Its been more than a year since I accomplished my biggest life goal, sat down with myself and said "Is that it?"
So much of what you said resonated with me, but the only way I have found that I can now feel alive is by fantasizing about my new life, built atop the shreds of my old one. I am just dying to burn it all down. I know that divorcing my wife and moving to another city would imply that I would end up mostly being lonely. However, I cannot also be in limbo foreover waiting for the crisis to end. I fear I am about to have a major blowup and there is nothing I can do about it.
After a decade of hardwork and accomplishing my biggest life goal, its strange to find myself in such a deep depression and so thoroughly confused. I was expecting a red carpet and fulfillment.
Black Knight, interesting how success doesn't always bring happiness. However, happiness (gratitude for what you currently have) will always bring success, though the outside world may not see it. I frequently tell my clients that I will get behind their upgrade all day long, once they realize they don't need it. I'm going to make a few suggestions, and you can take or leave them:
Watch "How Gratitude Can Change Your Life" - th-cam.com/video/jKDOl8g__pw/w-d-xo.html
Browse through the Positive Personal Development playlist and see if there is anything that sounds interesting to you: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html
Consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. They can guide you away from the major blowup and deep depression you mentioned. Here is where you can schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
However you proceed, I want to say thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
Black knight, I feel the same way. I need a total reboot. I've been sad /depressed for a while. I'm 55 and the mortality and questioning everything is driving me crazy.
I’m 20 and thinking about getting back into motocross’s and selling my home and buying land and getting a travel trailer because I’ve become afraid to do the things I used to do my heart hurts and I can’t breathe when I try to ride like I did but I feel I can make a career out of it. is this a the same thing as a mid life crisis?
Brian Lopez, this does not sound like mid life crisis. Make sure you can do this before you sell everything and take drastic measures.
I’m about to be 16 and I have stayed up for weeks I’m scared of growing old and knowing life might end and missing my child hood
Alpha_blaugos B, You are missing more of your youth by worrying so much. Decide what you are going to do today and don't think about tomorrow.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I’ll focus on the now thank you
I am having a hard time with mid life crisis as I am a failure and have no accomplishments in life. Every night I cried myself to sleep and wake up tired and no energy for work.
niu745, see a doctor, there may be something else going on here.
I'm 60 years old now and wonder, where's this midlife crisis I'm supposed to have experienced by now? I think it's something only experienced in the affluent society. When many people in the first world aren't struggling to survive like in poorer countries they look for things to worry about. I wonder how many of those poor subsistence farmers I saw in rural Egypt, India, or Cambodia have a midlife crises?
Abitibi_Doug, I am not sure. That would be an interesting study. We do know that external things such as possessions and money do not make us happy.
Guys; know that you are doing great! Everything is falling into place for you very soon! This is the best time to head in that direction which you were always meant to go. Everything up til now happened for a great Devine reason! You are EXACTLY right where you are supposed to be at this moment in your life, and are headed towards the best phase of your life!!! With that said, you are now about to reap the benefits of your tremendous wisdom gained from all these experiences. Start that workout regimen! Get the wheels moving to start that business that you’ve always had in the back of your head. Today begins the first day of the best of your life! You’re gonna do this! 💪😎👍STAY STRONG !!!
Thanks for your encouragement and positivity.
Recently I wake up feeling I don't want to be a part of this anymore and I don't care about anything. Seriously need to re-think my life - if I really want to cope with antidepressants or should rather start using my middle finger more often. No offence, but can't see how this advice could help me. Maybe I should start drinking if it helps others
Not sure how drinking would help, in fact, it might make things worse. Try to establish positive behaviors that will help you now and in the future.
Nice wig
Haha.
I’m only 35. Why does these things happen to me?? I don’t know what I want anymore in life. I feel frustrated that I haven’t experienced & achieved much at this point in my life. Then 3 yrs ago, I was diagnosed with a rare blood disease despite living a healthy & active lifestyle which limited my activities & changed my outlook in life. But I’m at my breaking point now. I want a big change in my life.
Agent, try my positivity power-up course. It could change your outlook and open up some doors for you.
Was wondering what was happening to me for the last 9 months - this was an eye opener.
Daniel Wambua, fantastic
I am 27 and experiencing this ...
john mark cagalawan, thank you for watching - I hope the video helped. We have other videos on the Positive Personal Development playlist that you might find useful - th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html
We have a couple more resources if you are interested. I am giving away my book for free. It's called "Pathological Positivity," and I just ask that you pay for the shipping. You can access that here: drpauljenkins.info/freebook
Additionally, we have a free 25 minute call with one of my Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds like it would be helpful, here's the link to schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Best wishes.
I just turned 40 and I made just about every bad decision a person could make in my 20s and 30s and it's hard not to focus on the regret/ what ifs/ disappointment / and stay in the moment. Then I wanna fix it all in 5 minutes when it took me 40 years of bad choices to get here.I know gratitude for the things I do have is the key but it's hard not to drift back to regret & disappointment. Your video is spot on though. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.
We got you. Consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com.
Thank you !!! I am 42 and needed this so much, God bless you ❤️
JD A, glad you are in our positive minded community.
I am 24
You have lots of life ahead of you.