UPDATE:-my daughter chose her stepdad to walk her down the isle update So I took your guys advice and I spoke with my daughter and decided before that even if she didn’t change her mind I wouldn’t miss her wedding or cut her off I spoke to her and let her know that what she is choosing to do hurt me and that if she still wants her stepdad to walk her down the isle that is her choice but I won’t support her but will be there to support her She said she still wants me there but that her mum has apparently said she wants stepdad to walk her down the isle as a way of accepting him into the family She said if she refuses she won’t be coming and neither will stepdad and she will never speak to them again. I asked if she is really doneone she wants in her life setting demands to maintain a relationship and you’ll never guess who I got a furious call from, her mother. She was saying I manipulated my daughter into saying she never wanted to see them Again and uninvited them I will be in 3 months time walking my daughter down the isle
These update is from another story where mother run away with her ap leaving op and their daughter and come back when daughter was teenager. Op allow his daughter to get in touch with her mother and her husband but then after couple of years when daughter was getting married she manipulate her to make her step dad walk her down the aisle or she will abandon her again. Daughter scared decides to do but after seeing her dad getting hurt she says no to her mother.
I guarantee you she believes her mum was the one who paid for her tuition and her car and everything else she has and she probably thinks you don’t care about her seeing as tho you gave her so much freedom and didn’t ask her what she got up to when she was at her mums.. you definitely let yourself get treated like a source of money and nothing more
OP made the mistake so many betrayed spouses do: he kept quiet about everything thinking he was being the bigger person, being classy, being the adult in the room. It never works like that in real life, that only works in fiction. He covered up his ex wife's cheating, he allowed ex wife's and her new husband to spin the narrative that they had paid for everything that OP had paid for and generously donated. He allowed them to fill the daughter's head with lies and manipulation, thinking in the end it would pay off to take the high road. It didn't. It never does.
Ya it's just stupid not telling the truth and allowing ppl to lie and take everything from you. It doesn't make you a bigger person it makes you a bigger idiot.
This is the biggest problem a lot of us have : thinking that taking the high road or being the "bigger person" means that you don't need/have to explain the situation for what it is. When its true meaning is to be truthful in your words and actions about everything to anyone concerned, whilst not going the "extra mile" to blame and shame the other party any further (Kind of like a "proportionate revenge" : after being slapped by someone for the wrong reason ; instead of beating the hell out of them, you just slap them in return, nothing more.)
Bingo. If his daughter was 12, she was old enough to know the truth. This isn't about being petty, it is about a number practical matters which you need prepare her for. 1. So she can make an informed decision on who to live with -- either then or later when custody comes up. 2. So you aren't lying to her. So others don't have to lie to her. 3. So she can protect herself against being manipulated by the mother, the guy, or other family. 4. So she can protect herself physically. Children living with a non-male relative are 17 times more likely be be abused. 5. So she knows not to fully trust her mother on advice, relationships, things she says about you, etc. 6. So she can get useful help from therapists, other family members, friends, etc. 7. So she won't blame you or everyone else who lied to her. 8. So you don't get into games where you have to buy her affections (or allow her mom or stepdad to buy her affections) and can be raised properly. 9. So that her boyfriends, husband, future in-laws, etc. know the deal. 10. So that you can set boundaries with your ex. Including going no contact, not attending family events with her, and having clear boundaries when things like college, weddings, and other things come up. Daughter gets to make clear decisions and see the consequences of her mom's cheating in context.
No he exited the story like a loser. He lost long before to the man that stole his wife, and now his daughter. Showing his stupid Yacht is in no way a boss exit, it's petty at best, and ridiculously childish. A cuckold loser. All his life this Mr nice guy, payed for affection, he let the other guy steal everything from him. This guy payed child support, the whole tuition of the daughter, meanwhile the mother and her new Hubby benefited full from that, since they didn't have to pay anything for her and still have her love. Buying things is not a way to earn respect or love. This man is a real loser.
He should have disowned her after publicly telling her and everyone else the truth about why he is not paying and how unappreciative his daughter had been over the years for all the things he did. He should also point how much of a loser and homewrecker the stepfather is and send him the bill for everything he paid for with receipts since he is the dad now, and ask for reimbursement since he is taking on the role of father of the bride and walking her down the aisle.
It must have been real awkward for the daughter to learn that the father was the only person funding her life. She definitely pictured him as a dead beat, thought she didn’t need him. Then tried to use him as a piggy bank.
He got treated that way because he gave the daughter everything she ever wanted and never made her work for anything. Then he did nothing when she started to disrespect him
“I let her do whatever she wanted” Big mistake. Giving someone everything they want and letting them do whatever they want can turn even the kindest person completely evil eventually. Sad story man. I feel for you. I wouldn’t bother talking to her again if it was me. She’s gonna be coming around eventually asking how much her inheritance is going to be. Bank on it. Just ghost them both. One more thing: demand an apology from everyone who gave you a hard time about it. I don’t care if it’s your own parents. Ghost anyone that doesn’t apologize.
First mistake. You were manipulated by your cheating wife not to tell your daughter about the cheating. So many get it wrong, children are as part of the marriage as the married themselves, if you cheat on one you are cheating on the union and everyone involved must be aware
I bet the daughter think op cheated and left the family. Too often the husband keep quiet about cheating wife only to have it backfired because the wife has already told everyone a lie
OP found it "cute" that his daughter had fun with and loves her new stepdad, the one that mom cheated on OP with, ruined his family, broke his home? That's cute? How do you not have a problem with AP being such a big part of your kids lives? Never heard of grooming? You can't live your life like a simp doormat and then get upset when you get treated as such. Ungrateful sure, immature you bet, disrespectful obviously, but you allowed her to grow up this way. She is not a hypocrite for acting in the manner you allowed her to all her life, and then you change how you behave. Lastly, OP still kept the cheating a secret? After all the horrible things his ex and daughter said after he decided to not pay for the wedding. Why still keep the secret? Unless at the beginning of the story you meant you kept it a secret from your daughter to protect your ex wife and not the daughter.
That’s why you shouldn’t cover the fact abt your ex cheating for your kids, this is the result of trying to be a bigger person when in fact you’re just being a kind fool 😅😅 I always tell my parents that if shit happens I want to know why so I can make my decisions, don’t sugar coat it. When I was younger, there’re females calling my dad up at night via work phone, so I knew that they knew my dad from work and sometimes it’s really an urgent work-related incident, sometime it’s just them trying to find a mistress career. I usually whine very loud calling for my dad to read me more bedtime story or to fix my blanket. He loved it so I did it a lot. Mom told me later that I made things a lot easier for her since she didn’t know which call was really about work but when it was, those associates find it’s cute that I’m a daddy’s girl and that my dad was somewhat a daughter’s fool 😂😂
WE never told her about the cheating lol That protects the EX -wife only the fact the family is destroyed you mays well let the kids know why it happened.
While I applaud he tried to keep everything as good as he could he really should have let his daughter know who was paying because she probably automatically assumed it was her mother and stepdad and they used the wedding wanting the stepdad to walk her down as some manipulation to both daughter and OP. But never keep anything bottled up. Always set the record straight so the daughter has a clear picture instead of a biased one sided picture.
Yea don't bite the hand that feeds you if your daddy's little girl stay Daddy's Little girl! Cuz other people don't give a s*** about you only your dad does😂
You didn’t tell the truth to her about the situation.Of course this should be done in an age appropriate way. Since you never told her the truth someone else was able to tell the narrative. In that version of the truth you maybe the villain.
Well, to be fair… she was slapped in the face with the reality. or at least the fact that her dad was the one funding her life. Slowly she will learn everything is a lie
UPDATE:-my daughter chose her stepdad to walk her down the isle update
So I took your guys advice and I spoke with my daughter and decided before that even if she didn’t change her mind I wouldn’t miss her wedding or cut her off
I spoke to her and let her know that what she is choosing to do hurt me and that if she still wants her stepdad to walk her down the isle that is her choice but I won’t support her but will be there to support her
She said she still wants me there but that her mum has apparently said she wants stepdad to walk her down the isle as a way of accepting him into the family
She said if she refuses she won’t be coming and neither will stepdad and she will never speak to them again.
I asked if she is really doneone she wants in her life setting demands to maintain a relationship and you’ll never guess who I got a furious call from, her mother.
She was saying I manipulated my daughter into saying she never wanted to see them Again and uninvited them
I will be in 3 months time walking my daughter down the isle
So it was her mom the whole time. That’s got to be the best ending to the story I could have expectee
That is Not the Update for this Story its from another story
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These update is from another story where mother run away with her ap leaving op and their daughter and come back when daughter was teenager.
Op allow his daughter to get in touch with her mother and her husband but then after couple of years when daughter was getting married she manipulate her to make her step dad walk her down the aisle or she will abandon her again.
Daughter scared decides to do but after seeing her dad getting hurt she says no to her mother.
@@rohanchalke3378 Yup I was going to say the same thing. These are not the same story and leads me to believe this is fake.
I guarantee you she believes her mum was the one who paid for her tuition and her car and everything else she has and she probably thinks you don’t care about her seeing as tho you gave her so much freedom and didn’t ask her what she got up to when she was at her mums.. you definitely let yourself get treated like a source of money and nothing more
same here thats why she never thanked the bio father
OP made the mistake so many betrayed spouses do: he kept quiet about everything thinking he was being the bigger person, being classy, being the adult in the room. It never works like that in real life, that only works in fiction. He covered up his ex wife's cheating, he allowed ex wife's and her new husband to spin the narrative that they had paid for everything that OP had paid for and generously donated. He allowed them to fill the daughter's head with lies and manipulation, thinking in the end it would pay off to take the high road. It didn't. It never does.
Ya it's just stupid not telling the truth and allowing ppl to lie and take everything from you. It doesn't make you a bigger person it makes you a bigger idiot.
This is the biggest problem a lot of us have : thinking that taking the high road or being the "bigger person" means that you don't need/have to explain the situation for what it is. When its true meaning is to be truthful in your words and actions about everything to anyone concerned, whilst not going the "extra mile" to blame and shame the other party any further (Kind of like a "proportionate revenge" : after being slapped by someone for the wrong reason ; instead of beating the hell out of them, you just slap them in return, nothing more.)
Bingo. If his daughter was 12, she was old enough to know the truth. This isn't about being petty, it is about a number practical matters which you need prepare her for.
1. So she can make an informed decision on who to live with -- either then or later when custody comes up.
2. So you aren't lying to her. So others don't have to lie to her.
3. So she can protect herself against being manipulated by the mother, the guy, or other family.
4. So she can protect herself physically. Children living with a non-male relative are 17 times more likely be be abused.
5. So she knows not to fully trust her mother on advice, relationships, things she says about you, etc.
6. So she can get useful help from therapists, other family members, friends, etc.
7. So she won't blame you or everyone else who lied to her.
8. So you don't get into games where you have to buy her affections (or allow her mom or stepdad to buy her affections) and can be raised properly.
9. So that her boyfriends, husband, future in-laws, etc. know the deal.
10. So that you can set boundaries with your ex. Including going no contact, not attending family events with her, and having clear boundaries when things like college, weddings, and other things come up. Daughter gets to make clear decisions and see the consequences of her mom's cheating in context.
He exited the story like a boss
No he exited the story like a loser. He lost long before to the man that stole his wife, and now his daughter. Showing his stupid Yacht is in no way a boss exit, it's petty at best, and ridiculously childish. A cuckold loser. All his life this Mr nice guy, payed for affection, he let the other guy steal everything from him. This guy payed child support, the whole tuition of the daughter, meanwhile the mother and her new Hubby benefited full from that, since they didn't have to pay anything for her and still have her love. Buying things is not a way to earn respect or love. This man is a real loser.
He should have disowned her after publicly telling her and everyone else the truth about why he is not paying and how unappreciative his daughter had been over the years for all the things he did. He should also point how much of a loser and homewrecker the stepfather is and send him the bill for everything he paid for with receipts since he is the dad now, and ask for reimbursement since he is taking on the role of father of the bride and walking her down the aisle.
Your first mistake was not telling her the truth. Second mistake allowing them to call the narrative
Yup! Which is why you shouldn't care about the blowback when you call them out on their BS in the first place.
This. Daughter needed to know about the affair.
He lost the moment he decided not to tell his daughter about why her parents split up.
Never bite the hand that feeds you!
It must have been real awkward for the daughter to learn that the father was the only person funding her life.
She definitely pictured him as a dead beat, thought she didn’t need him. Then tried to use him as a piggy bank.
He got treated that way because he gave the daughter everything she ever wanted and never made her work for anything. Then he did nothing when she started to disrespect him
“I let her do whatever she wanted”
Big mistake. Giving someone everything they want and letting them do whatever they want can turn even the kindest person completely evil eventually.
Sad story man. I feel for you. I wouldn’t bother talking to her again if it was me. She’s gonna be coming around eventually asking how much her inheritance is going to be. Bank on it. Just ghost them both.
One more thing: demand an apology from everyone who gave you a hard time about it. I don’t care if it’s your own parents. Ghost anyone that doesn’t apologize.
First mistake. You were manipulated by your cheating wife not to tell your daughter about the cheating. So many get it wrong, children are as part of the marriage as the married themselves, if you cheat on one you are cheating on the union and everyone involved must be aware
First mistake he made: marrying a manipulating weavel.
I bet the mom and step dad told the daughter that they paid for the car and tuition and op didn't pay for anything.
I bet the daughter think op cheated and left the family. Too often the husband keep quiet about cheating wife only to have it backfired because the wife has already told everyone a lie
The daughter may become like her mom someday and cheat on her fiance/husband too! 🤔🙄🤨
Nope, the first reaction was how they really feel.
That’s the way to do it!
I bet the mother lied to daughter about who paid for everything. Daughter is just like the mother
Boss move 😂
Real stoic man!
OP found it "cute" that his daughter had fun with and loves her new stepdad, the one that mom cheated on OP with, ruined his family, broke his home? That's cute? How do you not have a problem with AP being such a big part of your kids lives? Never heard of grooming? You can't live your life like a simp doormat and then get upset when you get treated as such. Ungrateful sure, immature you bet, disrespectful obviously, but you allowed her to grow up this way. She is not a hypocrite for acting in the manner you allowed her to all her life, and then you change how you behave. Lastly, OP still kept the cheating a secret? After all the horrible things his ex and daughter said after he decided to not pay for the wedding. Why still keep the secret? Unless at the beginning of the story you meant you kept it a secret from your daughter to protect your ex wife and not the daughter.
All girls become their mother.
When someone's doing you a favor, don't get demanding.
That’s why you shouldn’t cover the fact abt your ex cheating for your kids, this is the result of trying to be a bigger person when in fact you’re just being a kind fool 😅😅 I always tell my parents that if shit happens I want to know why so I can make my decisions, don’t sugar coat it. When I was younger, there’re females calling my dad up at night via work phone, so I knew that they knew my dad from work and sometimes it’s really an urgent work-related incident, sometime it’s just them trying to find a mistress career. I usually whine very loud calling for my dad to read me more bedtime story or to fix my blanket. He loved it so I did it a lot. Mom told me later that I made things a lot easier for her since she didn’t know which call was really about work but when it was, those associates find it’s cute that I’m a daddy’s girl and that my dad was somewhat a daughter’s fool 😂😂
Yup would leave them and leave then never return
WE never told her about the cheating lol That protects the EX -wife only the fact the family is destroyed you mays well let the kids know why it happened.
Omg I need an update
Here it's is :- www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/fhA0TKf6YW
Bro this one is like crack I need this update lol
@@TALESSIDEAre you sure that this is the right update in this story?
Interesting story
As soon as the divorce was finalized, the dad should have informed the daughter of the mothers infidelity as the reason for the divorce.
Op actually sacrificed his life for her but she took it as a "joke"
Daughter FA’d and FO’d
While I applaud he tried to keep everything as good as he could he really should have let his daughter know who was paying because she probably automatically assumed it was her mother and stepdad and they used the wedding wanting the stepdad to walk her down as some manipulation to both daughter and OP. But never keep anything bottled up. Always set the record straight so the daughter has a clear picture instead of a biased one sided picture.
He told her on the phone he was paying for her college. She’s just an ungrateful evil chick.
This story may be BS but it is entertaining BS.
The Reddit post, has a link to his instagram post.
And the comments are all just Reddit people.
Unacceptable! What a brat!
Yea don't bite the hand that feeds you if your daddy's little girl stay Daddy's Little girl! Cuz other people don't give a s*** about you only your dad does😂
Never count on a woman to behave morally.
seriously? pathetic
@@Adwiti_Mishra I agree, the absence of a moral fiber in women is quite pathetic.
@@alwaysright3943 generalizing and saying "never count on a woman to behave morally" is pathetic. your mother is a woman too.
The mother is nuts
Where's the rest
I wanted to ask about that as well because it seems like the creator of this channel probably didn't do their research correctly on the updates.
You should have told you paid everything
Control the narrative always else this
You didn’t tell the truth to her about the situation.Of course this should be done in an age appropriate way. Since you never told her the truth someone else was able to tell the narrative. In that version of the truth you maybe the villain.
Well, to be fair… she was slapped in the face with the reality. or at least the fact that her dad was the one funding her life.
Slowly she will learn everything is a lie
So" you are a worthless father?
this father is an AO
badass
Hell yeah, that’s how you handle it