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If you are searching for your twin, watch movies that cause emotions, for me it is Armageddon, when Bruce Willis says sorry I have to break my promise, I could never no matter how many times watching that show, not have tears running down my face. You can also use comedy, just ask yourself, was that me? No matter what I do in the wilderness I have to make sure I am in a comfortable place at the end of the day with a shower, yes I shower everyday in the wild.
My name means “twin”. I’ve always felt that I have another “twin” out there somewhere. It’s a deep thing. Don’t know if it means that I have major twin energy (I can relate to anyone or anything) or that I am “looking for” my “twin”. What if my “twin” is already “inside me”. What if my “other half” is already within ? Maybe I’m chasing after my “twin” right now (my higher self)? 🤷🏽♂️ I love this mysterious, weird, beautiful life :)
Thank you Yash. Just a few days ago I went on a date and was more vulnerable than I’ve ever been around a women in years. The next day she says she’s not interested. Hurts like hell because in my mind I’m being authentic and genuine so who wouldn’t be attracted to that. Anyways, a lot of emotions coming up to be felt and it’s super challenging to not shut down. Thank you for sharing and being so authentic and vulnerable. It sparks something inside me and I really appreciate it. 💙🙏
Why do you think that someone must find you attractive if you are being authentic? I think you saved yourself time by being authentic and showing her who you are 🙂 the goal of being authentic is not to be liked, is to welcome who resonates with you and reject those who do not. Respect for being authentic ✌🏽
Rejection is protection. Women view vulnerability as a weakness and it's a major turn off for them. Haven't you noticed yet all the men who don't care about women are the ones who have them chasing them. If you have a big heart consider yourself fucked in regards to love. Her interest in you will always be what's in it for her. Please respect yourself and stop giving these women your time and attention. Accept the truth that you will be alone the rest of your life
Donald i hope you realize how much tremendous value youre giving out with your videos, I’m truly surprised of how much insight and perspective you got about these different topics in your plain field👍🏾
Transcend that a$$ 😅 I think this is so true. I’m divorced in my 30s now after a spiritual awakening and tried dating again but it all seems like a weird exchange that you described. It makes me sad but also it’s liberating to not rely on a man or feel I have to give to him. Do you think “love” is real or maybe this is all deep emotional damage (mom/dad issues) for us that keeps us in this loop? It’s sad to see what people do for “love” and a false sense of security.
Personal love isn't real- meaning it will fluctuate and even turn into the opposite. But a divine appreciation for God or the Universe’s unique expression through so many forms is stable love. But that love cant be cultivated or created. Its revealed the more inwardly balanced we become.
@BeyondTheAlchemy Beautifill and truthful words sir. Still though, don't forget the mystery.... You might always be surprised and find yourself in a loving romantic human embrace out of the blue. The point is to feel the sadness until you legitimately are so universally loved in this moment. Seeing couples can make you feel more universal love and beauty. It simply doesn't matter what the result is but let's not decide that a particular result is not viable just because of our experience. I feel in a relationship already while sitting alone in my room
I’d like to hear your opinion on queer relationships. The feminine and masculine energies are still at play and I’ve seen many gay relationships go wrong because the partners aren’t prepared/don’t expect to have the responsibility of the opposite sex. As a transgender man, now that I’m walking the world as a man I’m expected to take care of my girlfriends. That was a shock to me because I didn’t think of that consequence of transitioning! Your videos are a great guide to understanding the social roles I have placed upon myself. Thanks for the videos. Much love
Again, another of your videos and its like my life before and here i am practising celibacy and total abstinance 5 or more years now....6 mins in and talk of men which yes, my father leaving this world was big for me and yet, he finally became the father i never knew in life.. 😊🎉❤
Both of my grandparents stayed together until they passed...RIP. I think they stayed together, not because they were religious, but they both went through hard times together and had a strong bond to each other. And seeing their interactions, I think they ended up realizing the faults of the other person and just let the little things go. The understanding of each other, desire to compromise and ability to work as a team was essential for them. Thanks for the discussion.
if our internal male/female mandala were complete, we would never experience the pain of loneliness at all. What is important is to observe at how we handle desirous energy at the moment.
I can't even imagine a woman being attracted to me. Even if one was, what is the point? Im not special. Why would I wanna do stuff that I can do by myself with another person? I dont care about impressing anyone. Other people ruin things or take away from those things. "Those who wish to experience beautiful things must often be ready to travel alone." Why let myself be drained by a creature who decides to leave one day because she sees me at a strange angle making breakfast or something and feels disgusted. Anything so fleeting and unstable isnt worth it to me
yes, I know. Then the possible pitfall is they are too cold and not vulnerable. Too masculine.. I was with one. They make good friends though.. Generally speaking.
47 yr old dude here. Loving your videos. It's really inspiring me right now. I'm about 3 weeks into a SR streak and in a few days I'll be signing in to a 30 day meditation retreat. Any advice? It's been 5 yrs since I had this kind of confidence about a SR attempt. Thanks for the help. I'm curious about your chinese astrology. May I ask what year you were born in or even your whole date of birth?
Preface: this is a critique so it is written in the spirit of promoting contemplation, discussion and the balancing of perspectives. It's written out of love and respect for everyone who finds it. It's split into two parts because apparently TH-cam enforces a 10,000 character limit on comments. After watching this video I was left thinking: this seems like such a coherent insight, but why does it feel noxious? There's a certain grain of truth here, the essence of which can in and of itself be disheartening, but it's more or less the same thing the culture has been beating us over the head with for decades. The whole 'guys want sex & beauty while women want security & reliability' angle really is less than half the story. I appreciate that it's not a complete rendering of the author's overarching view but it's the portion that is both the most obvious and insidious presented as an entire video with some spiritual bells on. Without the more complete picture, it leads men to stay in soul sucking jobs and women to exercise their bodies into unsustainable and unhealthy physiques and that's just the beginning. The worst of it is the alienation that comes from a misunderstanding which is retrograde to the connection that relationships are really about. There is a message of acceptance built in here; but the video is still likely to engender bitterness because the mostly male audience just hears 'women are using you because karma's a bitch' or something to that effect and it confirms what they already think they know from their manospheric osmosis. The yin-yang of it has to be brought into focus and morphs hugely over time. The culture has radically changed the playing field around these romantic drives; women are allowed and expected to become professionals and physical strength has less to do with the quality of an average human's work. Conversely men are allowed and expected to contribute to household duties, the raising of children and the bringing of a sensitive touch to the bedroom. More of the traditionally masculine is being subsumed into the feminine and vice versa. There's all kinds of discourse speculating that this shift is artificial, that humans aren't really content on a biological or psychic level living under these conditions. I know people who think this way, but surely this early on in the social experiment we should be taking all of those assumptions with a grain of salt? I've been blessed to speak candidly with older women who have shared that in the latter years of their marriage their sex drive has continued or increased where their husband's has completely flatlined. The cliche is that this is because their spouse is 'banging his secretary' or needs an endless supply of mates or whatever but that wasn't the impression i got. I think despite the pressure from society men really do organically lose interest in sex at some point and often that's actually earlier than it is for women. We equate masculinity and now to an extent femininity with sex drive to such a degree that this idea is still a taboo and flies under the radar of popular culture. We use words like impotent and frigid to implicitly humiliate people with a low sex drive, but does it occur to us for how short a duration humans are sexually 'in their prime'? The fact many of our best memories are from childhood before sexuality entered our gestalt should be a clue that sex isn't nearly the whole picture of happiness across the lifespan regardless of gender, though I know the hardcore Freudians would disagree. To use an opposite and more personal example, as a young man i have been used for sex, both by women I'm in a relationship with and occasionally women i barely know. Even if I was also using them, I never felt i got what i wanted. And not in a Buddhist you-can-never-get-what-you-want type of way. Instead I was left with the feeling that what I'd been seeking with them was a lasting emotional and spiritual connection and that the sex hadn't brought me any closer to that (indeed in most cases meaningless sex puts a short fuse on the relationship). Despite the narrative around my gender and how it relates to my needs, following that path has consistently led me to dissatisfaction even on a primal level. What I suspect I'm really doing is entering those encounters in the hope of discovering a lifelong friendship, even though some chaps may think that's just me drinking the soul mate Kool aid. Returning to the yin-yang, I think the framing of 'she wants stuff and i want an orgasm' makes a lot of sense to the male psyche and that's why it's the dominant narrative in masculine culture. It divides things up into a cosmic balance where you (the man) can have pure joy for a while, but only if you give her (the divine feminine) the fruits of your labour which will require toiling, thinking, hunting and all the things that men may pretend to do begrudgingly but really love nearly as much as the orgasm (when they do them right at least). These are all ethics which fuel the exalted economy. As an added bonus, we have received the biblical idea that our desire to please women is what leads us astray into misery and sin a la Adam and Eve. So we also feel less to blame for the shit show our lives inevitably unfold into at some point when we begin wearing the consequences of what was really well-disguised greed. I'll emphasise here that women are increasingly occupying this same state of mind-but the dynamics are different because of how skewed the cultural narrative is toward male agency and protagonism. The problem is that when some of it becomes distorted and you begin doing that manstuff (or nowadays personstuff) that we broadly call work in such a way that you don't enjoy it and it becomes genuinely burdensome, you even moreso feel the potential of pure joy being withheld from you and project that onto the opposite sex. This leads not only to resentment but really to a complex misogyny. After all, if you hold this perspective as a heterosexual man, women become the ones keeping your happiness from you or doling it out to you at their whim, which makes you feel like the 'weaker sex' who is effectively enslaved to their will. This is why until they fall in love most straight men resent women on some level and why they feel like they're getting a bad deal out of surface level gender equality. What's worse is that in this paradigm women aren't getting a good deal either. This perception tars their legitimate pursuit of love with the brush of transaction, insinuating them as prostitutes en masse (as is mentioned explicitly in the video). All of this discounts the very real need for emotional security and connection between male and female both. It also puts female sexuality directly into an awkward predicament after having just emerged triumphantly from the shadow of suppression in the last couple of centuries. Because if men getting sex is them getting what they are owed, how can that be reconciled with the rightful demand for the sexual satisfaction of women?
A misunderstanding can emerge that guys need to work hard to satisfy their partner sexually. Accordingly they may bring all of their insecurity and status anxiety into the bedroom, worrying that they aren't really making her come or that they don't last long enough or aren't big enough. And if that's their attitude, then it's not just going to be bad sex. It's going to be humiliating sex, which is antithetical to everything men are conditioned to want. But if you can change your perspective to realize it's two people coming together to celebrate the joy of love and unity, so powerful it can literally create new life, you're probably going to have a good time regardless of how hard anyone is working. And if you don't, you're not going to freak out or beat yourselves up because you love each other and recognize that, among friends, things don't have to always be someone's fault. This should also be a subtle cosmic clue that the chemistry isn't the way you think it is if you're stuck in the orgasm-for-things ideology. Returning to the general cultural tendency to misread feminine sexuality, many of the rare female proponents of superficiality as being at the core of it are very young, very beautiful women who men understandably pay a disproportionate amount of attention to. These young women recognise the degree to which they are being objectified and probably feel that they are entitled or even encouraged to articulate their sexual desires along similar lines. They may list some throwaway traits they seek in men which come easily to mind and confirm the worst fears of some already cynical people. It normally shakes out in aggregate to be something like a rich jester in high heels with abs. But savvy folk know that a delightful skid mark of bullshit graces the back of those otherwise painfully sterile tighty-whiteys. Especially because none of that is very interesting. If what you're bringing to the table is interesting, people will pay attention. Women are able to fudge the numbers quite a bit on their ideal partner accordingly. And it doesn't necessarily have much to do with security or reliability. To some degree, they seem to be able to decide who they want to sleep with, and this is sort of unthinkable to redpills because they believe they themselves don't have this power and are instead on a take it or leave it basis with Lady Lust. And it's true that men do find beauty especially interesting. But the crazy thing is that men do also have this power, they're just not as attuned to it. To be clear I'm not saying it's the power to sleep with people you don't want to sleep with, I'm saying it's the power to adjust who you want to sleep with based on factors other than their physical appearance or even status. This is a siddhi that men can also attain to. That claim will bend someone's mind if enough people read this, but I think it's really true. In conclusion I think there's a usefulness to identifying the romantic dance as a kind of karmic game to promote spiritual growth (using the word karmic loosely). Part of the game though has to be the integration of the other into the self to the degree that you realise all their desires are within you and that you will therefore probably act out all the roles you're attributing externally at some point regardless of your sexual identity. That way there is a compassion which runs in parallel to the negotiation rather than a tribalistic sense of injustice which can lead to anger or despair. My intention with this is not to say that anyone is wrong or even that that I'm especially right. I think that discussion like this is valuable because it attracts exactly the people who need to be engaging with it from across the globe which really is a beautiful and elegant thing, especially in the face of so much bleakness around the Internet and its existential merits or lack thereof. I hope I've helped bring balance to the force by writing this extended TH-cam comment essay and that it's given you something to think about as you all have done for me. All the best, Q
Please note: This is a very over generalised perspective/information. Based on the general socialised mentaly condition persons this information is certainly a good point of reference to pay more attention to your own doings, intentions and personal evolution.
..:) Of course its a “general”. Im talking to potentially thousands of people who are at all different levels of consciousness and spiritual maturity. One on one or in a group could be totally different. And yes I am addressing the “conditioning”.👍
There are "qualified" people calling semen retaining bad because of higher chance to get prostate cancer. Can you enlighten me with your thoughts on it?
Its simply not true. The opposite is true. Read or listen to people who have actual experience (real yogis for one), rather than brainiacs who just live in their mind and speculate. But I understand the concern as we live in a very backwards misinformed society
I totally agree on the nature part. But don’t there a healthy way to incorporate the sexual ego? Like both are very aware of themselves. But still they get their needs met. Isn’t a guy automatically taking responsibility for the girl which makes him feel good? Why can’t that be a part of spirituality.
But I already said that was the case (the “ideal” situation and partnership); “Like both are very aware of themselves. But still they get their needs met. Isn’t a guy automatically taking responsibility for the girl which makes him feel good?”
But what about some girls who prioritise security but then they find out they are not sexually compatible with husband. I don't think saying that girls prioritise security is always true. Yes in marriage they prioritise security. But in relationship in their younger years they prioritise attraction and chemistry.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy I actually meant that men driven by lust prioritise looks and overlooks other factors like friendship shared interests etc and later relationship don't work. Similarly when girls prioritise security and overlooks other factors like chemistry, they also gets disappointed in the long run.
i think its a bit misleading saying that a woman only loves you because you give her security. women are humans just like men and both can love others because of who they are, security and lust are whats important when choosing a mate and saying that they love you because of your money or because of how you look is making a massive disservice to humans and makes then seem like emotionless robots. a woman can truly love you for who you are but they might not choose you as a mate if you lack the material security (which is for the BABY btw)
thanks for the content, may i ask, i just started SR and i am actively avoiding PMO and any arousing thoughts, day 9 without erection and any kind of edging, but im still starting to get onset of blue balls and indigestion problems which i feel are from SR... any tips on avoiding blue balls? ty
Hey bro Yash, about the guy who said "it hurts to know she didn't really love me," will the same be said if it was a woman on the receiving end? If a man left a woman for a younger, more beautiful, or sexually open woman etc. Can the woman who was left, say "it hurts to know he didn't really love me?" I'm asking to enlighten on this cuz it sounds like men are the ones who feel the hurt or do women feel hurt in a different way? 🙂
For women, security is primary for marriage, yes. But mostly only for marriage/long term relationship success. When it comes to instant sexual attraction, muscle and looks still come first though. This is why a lot women of today in marriages withdraw from sex with their husband after they have locked them down, and then secretly cheat or go on ladies nights because they still yearn for that lustful thrill.
Yes women live with a interesting dichotomy. The instincts play in such a way that there biological self really loves the alpha male (daring and exciting) but also loves the beta male for security-- if we have to use these silly sterotypical words just to illustrate the point. But Anyway, this is mainly for mainstream level of consciousness. A woman who has transcended that loves the inner being of a man-- irregardless of so called “alpha” or “beta”.
@@BeyondTheAlchemyin the video you said it’s not possible only if the universe wants them together etc. can you explain how a relationship can function beneath the superficial needs of the sexual ego?
Hey yash hope you doing good.... Iam on sr first days i felt soo good my voice eye muscle everything is booming but after a month it is all gone can you tell what happened where that energy goes all of sudden
Am I a bad person for no longer wanting women friends? I’ve had many of them for years and it seems to just make the void for a relationship even worse. It’s not fair to them but it just feels like self sabotage at this point until that desire is quenched. Of course like everyone else you long for the female energy. But after letting my last one go it seems like I can’t kid myself any longer to only ever have it again if it’s someone I can be intimate with.
this is a stage. It brings up the desire we have to have more deeper and usually physical intimacy/ But it all gets balanced and worked out later. Trust the process.
I wonder if you realize how far reaching your net is cast. just the scale from sex addict all the way up to individuals who have transcended the sexual energy. I’ve felt the divine pull towards your videos for a while now, and I am vibrating on a much higher frequency and am connecting with your “soul”, likely the way you intended for people to. or the divine in you rather. I just want you to know your videos met me at the right time, and in the right way and have helped me map this uncharted side of reality. also, I’m curious, do you rewatch your videos before and or after you post them?
..:) I appreciate that... I think Im unaware of the “reach” for the most part. And no, I dont watch my videos before I post them. I will check out a timestamp though when someone says I said something funny sometimes and then usually laugh..:)
hm, i want to believe that relationship with women can be pure and I want to experience it in my life, is there really no other person who also wants the pure relationship and transcend our lustful desires to something better? I don't want to believe that, world would be too boring if everyone just operates on a program, ah this is so boring... but generally I know what Yash speaks about. So you say there is no chance to meet a pure girl who are authentic and there is no dogma in relationship and want to be truly loved by God by me?
Almost everyone tries to experience that but it’s seen clearly after some time that there’s no escaping duality (human limitations). But if the limitations are bearable and not too intense and you overall enjoy her then 👍
I think there are many more nuances than lust and security, at least in my relationship experiences and in others whom I am close to. I am actually surprised by your perspective. You have such an evolved awareness in every other area. I think I've watched almost every one of your videos. This one was kind of different..lol..idk what to call it but disheartening.
of course, I cant go over all the factors in such short video and yes im generalizing and on top of that Im talking to a predominantly male audience... Thats the tax of doing videos on controversial and complex subjects. But the essence of what im sharing still usually applies to most people in 1 way or another simply because of the way biology is set up.
I'm really glad that this came through in the comment section (even though it was a ways down). I'm going to put a copy of my reply without this part in the main comment section so it can reach as many people as possible. Preface: this is a critique so it is written in the spirit of promoting contemplation, discussion and the balancing of perspectives. It's written out of love and respect for everyone who finds it. After watching this video I was left thinking: this seems like such a coherent insight, but why does it feel noxious? There's a certain grain of truth here, the essence of which can in and of itself be disheartening, but it's more or less the same thing the culture has been beating us over the head with for decades. The whole 'guys want sex & beauty while women want security & reliability' angle really is less than half the story. I appreciate that it's not a complete rendering of the author's overarching view but it's the portion that is both the most obvious and insidious presented as an entire video with some spiritual bells on. Without the more complete picture, it leads men to stay in soul sucking jobs and women to exercise their bodies into unsustainable and unhealthy physiques and that's just the beginning. The worst of it is the alienation that comes from a misunderstanding which is retrograde to the connection that relationships are really about. There is a message of acceptance built in here; but the video is still likely to engender bitterness because the mostly male audience just hears 'women are using you because karma's a bitch' or something to that effect and it confirms what they already think they know from their manospheric osmosis. The yin-yang of it has to be brought into focus and morphs hugely over time. The culture has radically changed the playing field around these romantic drives; women are allowed and expected to become professionals and physical strength has less to do with the quality of an average human's work. Conversely men are allowed and expected to contribute to household duties, the raising of children and the bringing of a sensitive touch to the bedroom. More of the traditionally masculine is being subsumed into the feminine and vice versa. There's all kinds of discourse speculating that this shift is artificial, that humans aren't really content on a biological or psychic level living under these conditions. I know people who think this way, but surely this early on in the social experiment we should be taking all of those assumptions with a grain of salt? I've been blessed to speak candidly with older women who have shared that in the latter years of their marriage their sex drive has continued or increased where their husband's has completely flatlined. The cliche is that this is because their spouse is 'banging his secretary' or needs an endless supply of mates or whatever but that wasn't the impression i got. I think despite the pressure from society men really do organically lose interest in sex at some point and often that's actually earlier than it is for women. We equate masculinity and now to an extent femininity with sex drive to such a degree that this idea is still a taboo and flies under the radar of popular culture. We use words like impotent and frigid to implicitly humiliate people with a low sex drive, but does it occur to us for how short a duration humans are sexually 'in their prime'? The fact many of our best memories are from childhood before sexuality entered our gestalt should be a clue that sex isn't nearly the whole picture of happiness across the lifespan regardless of gender, though I know the hardcore Freudians would disagree. To use an opposite and more personal example, as a young man i have been used for sex, both by women I'm in a relationship with and occasionally women i barely know. Even if I was also using them, I never felt i got what i wanted. And not in a Buddhist you-can-never-get-what-you-want type of way. Instead I was left with the feeling that what I'd been seeking with them was a lasting emotional and spiritual connection and that the sex hadn't brought me any closer to that (indeed in most cases meaningless sex puts a short fuse on the relationship). Despite the narrative around my gender and how it relates to my needs, following that path has consistently led me to dissatisfaction even on a primal level. What I suspect I'm really doing is entering those encounters in the hope of discovering a lifelong friendship, even though some chaps may think that's just me drinking the soul mate Kool aid. Returning to the yin-yang, I think the framing of 'she wants stuff and i want an orgasm' makes a lot of sense to the male psyche and that's why it's the dominant narrative in masculine culture. It divides things up into a cosmic balance where you (the man) can have pure joy for a while, but only if you give her (the divine feminine) the fruits of your labour which will require toiling, thinking, hunting and all the things that men may pretend to do begrudgingly but really love nearly as much as the orgasm (when they do them right at least). These are all ethics which fuel the exalted economy. As an added bonus, we have received the biblical idea that our desire to please women is what leads us astray into misery and sin a la Adam and Eve. So we also feel less to blame for the shit show our lives inevitably unfold into at some point when we begin wearing the consequences of what was really well-disguised greed. I'll emphasise here that women are increasingly occupying this same state of mind-but the dynamics are different because of how skewed the cultural narrative is toward male agency and protagonism. The problem is that when some of it becomes distorted and you begin doing that manstuff (or nowadays personstuff) that we broadly call work in such a way that you don't enjoy it and it becomes genuinely burdensome, you even moreso feel the potential of pure joy being withheld from you and project that onto the opposite sex. This leads not only to resentment but really to a complex misogyny. After all, if you hold this perspective as a heterosexual man, women become the ones keeping your happiness from you or doling it out to you at their whim, which makes you feel like the 'weaker sex' who is effectively enslaved to their will. This is why until they fall in love most straight men still hate women-at least in part-and why they feel like they're getting a bad deal out of surface level gender equality. What's worse is that in this paradigm women aren't getting a good deal either. This perception tars their legitimate pursuit of love with the brush of transaction, insinuating them as prostitutes en masse (as is mentioned explicitly in the video). All of this discounts the very real need for emotional security and connection between male and female both. It also puts female sexuality directly into an awkward predicament after having just emerged triumphantly from the shadow of suppression in the last couple of centuries. Because if men getting sex is them getting what they are owed, how can that be reconciled with the rightful demand for the sexual satisfaction of women?
A misunderstanding can emerge that guys need to work hard to satisfy their partner sexually. Accordingly they bring all of their insecurity and status anxiety into the bedroom, worrying that they aren't really making her come or that they don't last long enough or aren't big enough. And if that's their attitude, then it's not just going to be bad sex. It's going to be humiliating sex, which is antithetical to everything men are conditioned to want. But if you can change your perspective to realize it's two people coming together to celebrate the joy of love and unity, so powerful it can literally create new life, you're probably going to have a good time regardless of how hard anyone is working. And if you don't, you're not going to freak out or beat yourselves up because you love each other and recognize that, among friends, things don't have to always be someone's fault. This should also be a subtle cosmic clue that the chemistry isn't the way you think it is if you're stuck in the orgasm-for-things ideology. Returning to the general cultural tendency to misread feminine sexuality, many of the rare female proponents of superficiality as being at the core of it are very young, very beautiful women who men understandably pay a disproportionate amount of attention to. These young women recognise the degree to which they are being objectified and probably feel that they are entitled or even encouraged to articulate their sexual desires along similar lines. They may list some throwaway traits they seek in men which come easily to mind and confirm the worst fears of some already cynical people. It normally shakes out in aggregate to be something like a rich jester in high heels with abs. But savvy folk know that a delightful skid mark of bullshit graces the back of those otherwise painfully sterile tighty-whiteys. Especially because none of that is very interesting. If what you're bringing to the table is interesting, people will pay attention. Women are able to fudge the numbers quite a bit on their ideal partner accordingly. And it doesn't necessarily have much to do with security or reliability. To some degree, they seem to be able to decide who they want to sleep with, and this is sort of unthinkable to redpills because they believe they themselves don't have this power and are instead on a take it or leave it basis with Lady Lust. And it's true that men do find beauty especially interesting. But the crazy thing is that men do also have this power, they're just not as attuned to it. To be clear I'm not saying it's the power to sleep with people you don't want to sleep with, I'm saying it's the power to adjust who you want to sleep with based on factors other than their physical appearance or even status. This is a siddhi that men can also attain to. That claim will bend someone's mind if enough people read this, but I think it's really true. In conclusion I think there's a usefulness to identifying the romantic dance as a kind of karmic game to promote spiritual growth (using the word karmic loosely). Part of the game though has to be the integration of the other into the self to the degree that you realise all their desires are within you and that you will therefore probably act out all the roles you're attributing externally at some point regardless of your sexual identity. That way there is a compassion which runs in parallel to the negotiation rather than a tribalistic sense of injustice which can lead to anger or despair. My intention with this is not to say that anyone is wrong or even that that I'm especially right. I think that discussion like this is valuable because it attracts exactly the people who need to be engaging with it from across the globe which really is a beautiful and elegant thing, especially in the face of so much bleakness around the Internet and its existential merits or lack thereof. I hope I've helped bring balance to the force by writing this extended TH-cam comment essay and that it's given you something to think about as you all have done for me. All the best, Q
Hmm... probably it is the first time I would not 100% agree with Yash. It sounded like you've got some projection towards women in general and the final conclusions are based on your hurtful experience. Maybe I am wrong, maybe you are right, maybe the truth is somewhere in the middle 🙂 I think most of the women just want to be really seen and cherished. As men want to feel like they CAN do it. The way you are constructing this video that women are snakes and manipulative. It does not resonate with me. On the other hand, maybe my opinion is too good about people (men including) in general and I do not have enough wisdom and experience to make the conclusions yet 💁🏻♀️ Nevertheless, I agree that it is a never ending lesson for souls to overcome instincts, expand higher self and achieve a real love which goes beyond oneself needs 👏🏼
Yes, but the wanting to “be seen and cherished” is another way they seek security and if they dont get it then theres consequences. Its a form of how the instinct for attention or security is a bit extreme. But guys have their own things (excessive instinctual demands) as well
He didn't present women as snakes more than he described men as dogs. His expression here is balanced and seems healthy. Yes, you can see the past hurtful experience but you can also see that now all that is left is wisdom and there is no resentment. I will say that although what he says is true, no one can summarize all phonemena in a YT video so it's good to learn and also leave room for unknown possibilities which you feel deeply 😉
Ive learnt alot from these videos & have found that women become overtly, subconsciously more submissive to an empathetic uninterested man for no reason. So either way, your kinda screwed
Man, i'm tired of women allways getting excused for their actions, there is something off with that... I'm really trying hard to see the best in women nowadays, but when it comes to the guys THEY ALL CHOOSE ... Man... They choose the devil again and again and again... Because of money and security? Not so sure about that. But I want to be wrong... Am I missing something?
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A woman wants a man with security. A man wants a woman with attractive traits.
You are so right to call “relationships” a subtle prostitution
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Never seen someone appreciate a forest , feels natural but sounds weird. 😅
Casino is probably the last greatest gangster film ever made.
If you are searching for your twin, watch movies that cause emotions, for me it is Armageddon, when Bruce Willis says sorry I have to break my promise, I could never no matter how many times watching that show, not have tears running down my face. You can also use comedy, just ask yourself, was that me? No matter what I do in the wilderness I have to make sure I am in a comfortable place at the end of the day with a shower, yes I shower everyday in the wild.
Yes! Armageddon, was Real Good!
“ coz I don’t wanna miss a thing!”
My name means “twin”. I’ve always felt that I have another “twin” out there somewhere. It’s a deep thing. Don’t know if it means that I have major twin energy (I can relate to anyone or anything) or that I am “looking for” my “twin”. What if my “twin” is already “inside me”. What if my “other half” is already within ? Maybe I’m chasing after my “twin” right now (my higher self)? 🤷🏽♂️
I love this mysterious, weird, beautiful life :)
Thank you Yash. Just a few days ago I went on a date and was more vulnerable than I’ve ever been around a women in years. The next day she says she’s not interested. Hurts like hell because in my mind I’m being authentic and genuine so who wouldn’t be attracted to that. Anyways, a lot of emotions coming up to be felt and it’s super challenging to not shut down.
Thank you for sharing and being so authentic and vulnerable. It sparks something inside me and I really appreciate it. 💙🙏
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Why do you think that someone must find you attractive if you are being authentic? I think you saved yourself time by being authentic and showing her who you are 🙂 the goal of being authentic is not to be liked, is to welcome who resonates with you and reject those who do not. Respect for being authentic ✌🏽
Rejection is protection. Women view vulnerability as a weakness and it's a major turn off for them. Haven't you noticed yet all the men who don't care about women are the ones who have them chasing them. If you have a big heart consider yourself fucked in regards to love. Her interest in you will always be what's in it for her. Please respect yourself and stop giving these women your time and attention. Accept the truth that you will be alone the rest of your life
@@JeremyPezzeca It's actually not the truth. Plenty of authentic men are in a relationship. Plenty of sages are/were in a relationship as well.
@@d.e.9066 thank you for this 🙏 it strikes home.
I am a woman and binge on your videos and practice retention. God bless friend
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Donald i hope you realize how much tremendous value youre giving out with your videos, I’m truly surprised of how much insight and perspective you got about these different topics in your plain field👍🏾
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I go by Yash...:)
Great reference to Ginger in Casino 👍 Breaks my heart when she betrays Sam with Nicky 😞 Hard to watch that movie again for that very reason.
good movie wasnt it..:)
You are right about a balanced relationship that's the best thing living in extremis places will just reuin everything
Yea Yash this life is truly a trip…
Good video man. You made me feel like engaging in the comments which is a rare thing.
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Transcend that a$$ 😅 I think this is so true. I’m divorced in my 30s now after a spiritual awakening and tried dating again but it all seems like a weird exchange that you described. It makes me sad but also it’s liberating to not rely on a man or feel I have to give to him. Do you think “love” is real or maybe this is all deep emotional damage (mom/dad issues) for us that keeps us in this loop? It’s sad to see what people do for “love” and a false sense of security.
Personal love isn't real- meaning it will fluctuate and even turn into the opposite. But a divine appreciation for God or the Universe’s unique expression through so many forms is stable love. But that love cant be cultivated or created. Its revealed the more inwardly balanced we become.
Hey I believe love is very real and god created us in pairs.. don’t give up on love, it is what makes life worth living
Theres a difference between personal love and universal love
@BeyondTheAlchemy
Beautifill and truthful words sir.
Still though, don't forget the mystery.... You might always be surprised and find yourself in a loving romantic human embrace out of the blue. The point is to feel the sadness until you legitimately are so universally loved in this moment. Seeing couples can make you feel more universal love and beauty. It simply doesn't matter what the result is but let's not decide that a particular result is not viable just because of our experience. I feel in a relationship already while sitting alone in my room
@@BeyondTheAlchemy I strongly agree
It’s a division tactic once your awake and with a sleeper it’s not going to work
The problem is you can always have to hope to have money. But if you are ugly or old you are done. Very little can be done.
This man is spittin. all facts
I’d like to hear your opinion on queer relationships. The feminine and masculine energies are still at play and I’ve seen many gay relationships go wrong because the partners aren’t prepared/don’t expect to have the responsibility of the opposite sex.
As a transgender man, now that I’m walking the world as a man I’m expected to take care of my girlfriends. That was a shock to me because I didn’t think of that consequence of transitioning!
Your videos are a great guide to understanding the social roles I have placed upon myself. Thanks for the videos. Much love
Everything is good when we are in inner synch. That’s the most important
Again, another of your videos and its like my life before and here i am practising celibacy and total abstinance 5 or more years now....6 mins in and talk of men which yes, my father leaving this world was big for me and yet, he finally became the father i never knew in life.. 😊🎉❤
We don’t Accept things we’ve already transcended, we Allow them to happen. I see them very differently.
Wherever this man lives I need to go there. Looks at those woods!!! It’s a jungle!
Both of my grandparents stayed together until they passed...RIP. I think they stayed together, not because they were religious, but they both went through hard times together and had a strong bond to each other. And seeing their interactions, I think they ended up realizing the faults of the other person and just let the little things go. The understanding of each other, desire to compromise and ability to work as a team was essential for them. Thanks for the discussion.
Yes, exactly! Great example!
Camera quality is awsome.
one of your best videos, thank u so much
if our internal male/female mandala were complete, we would never experience the pain of loneliness at all. What is important is to observe at how we handle desirous energy at the moment.
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had to drop a like when you brought up Casino
Just on time 🙏
I can highly recommend you the book: "On being humans"
Very interesting view on the biology of humams, sex and others stuff...
Not a bs video
I can't even imagine a woman being attracted to me. Even if one was, what is the point? Im not special. Why would I wanna do stuff that I can do by myself with another person? I dont care about impressing anyone. Other people ruin things or take away from those things.
"Those who wish to experience beautiful things must often be ready to travel alone."
Why let myself be drained by a creature who decides to leave one day because she sees me at a strange angle making breakfast or something and feels disgusted. Anything so fleeting and unstable isnt worth it to me
First I look at the purse - J. Geils
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Many women are financially independent today though and don't need security in there eyes
yes, I know. Then the possible pitfall is they are too cold and not vulnerable. Too masculine.. I was with one. They make good friends though.. Generally speaking.
All these vids resonate. All of them. I appreciate you ❤️🔥
47 yr old dude here. Loving your videos. It's really inspiring me right now. I'm about 3 weeks into a SR streak and in a few days I'll be signing in to a 30 day meditation retreat. Any advice? It's been 5 yrs since I had this kind of confidence about a SR attempt. Thanks for the help. I'm curious about your chinese astrology. May I ask what year you were born in or even your whole date of birth?
Good!
October 19 1974
3:50 pm
Detroit Michigan 👍
@@BeyondTheAlchemylibra Tiger???!!!!! Great sign dude. Bro, my birthday is Oct 18th!!!!!!! 1976.
Very good!
Thank you Yash! I'm so grateful for your videos. They really do help me with learning how to keep the ego in check! Blessings Brother! 🌞 🌴
You always get it on point, keep up my friend.
Yash i love you so much 😍
This is very useful and now some things are starting to make much more sense, hehe. Thank you very much
Love meets needs not wants
Wonderful talk and I love this topic and how you break it down 😍
Thanks man....
Oooo ur on here Yash…. 🤩 ❤
Great video
The only thing I miss about the Navy was everybody was just dating to get freaky. Lol
Amazing talk brother thank you as always for sharing this wisdom 👊🏻 #gainzlikethese
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Preciate this sound wisdom
Preface: this is a critique so it is written in the spirit of promoting contemplation, discussion and the balancing of perspectives. It's written out of love and respect for everyone who finds it. It's split into two parts because apparently TH-cam enforces a 10,000 character limit on comments.
After watching this video I was left thinking: this seems like such a coherent insight, but why does it feel noxious? There's a certain grain of truth here, the essence of which can in and of itself be disheartening, but it's more or less the same thing the culture has been beating us over the head with for decades. The whole 'guys want sex & beauty while women want security & reliability' angle really is less than half the story. I appreciate that it's not a complete rendering of the author's overarching view but it's the portion that is both the most obvious and insidious presented as an entire video with some spiritual bells on.
Without the more complete picture, it leads men to stay in soul sucking jobs and women to exercise their bodies into unsustainable and unhealthy physiques and that's just the beginning. The worst of it is the alienation that comes from a misunderstanding which is retrograde to the connection that relationships are really about. There is a message of acceptance built in here; but the video is still likely to engender bitterness because the mostly male audience just hears 'women are using you because karma's a bitch' or something to that effect and it confirms what they already think they know from their manospheric osmosis.
The yin-yang of it has to be brought into focus and morphs hugely over time. The culture has radically changed the playing field around these romantic drives; women are allowed and expected to become professionals and physical strength has less to do with the quality of an average human's work. Conversely men are allowed and expected to contribute to household duties, the raising of children and the bringing of a sensitive touch to the bedroom. More of the traditionally masculine is being subsumed into the feminine and vice versa.
There's all kinds of discourse speculating that this shift is artificial, that humans aren't really content on a biological or psychic level living under these conditions. I know people who think this way, but surely this early on in the social experiment we should be taking all of those assumptions with a grain of salt?
I've been blessed to speak candidly with older women who have shared that in the latter years of their marriage their sex drive has continued or increased where their husband's has completely flatlined. The cliche is that this is because their spouse is 'banging his secretary' or needs an endless supply of mates or whatever but that wasn't the impression i got. I think despite the pressure from society men really do organically lose interest in sex at some point and often that's actually earlier than it is for women.
We equate masculinity and now to an extent femininity with sex drive to such a degree that this idea is still a taboo and flies under the radar of popular culture. We use words like impotent and frigid to implicitly humiliate people with a low sex drive, but does it occur to us for how short a duration humans are sexually 'in their prime'? The fact many of our best memories are from childhood before sexuality entered our gestalt should be a clue that sex isn't nearly the whole picture of happiness across the lifespan regardless of gender, though I know the hardcore Freudians would disagree.
To use an opposite and more personal example, as a young man i have been used for sex, both by women I'm in a relationship with and occasionally women i barely know. Even if I was also using them, I never felt i got what i wanted. And not in a Buddhist you-can-never-get-what-you-want type of way. Instead I was left with the feeling that what I'd been seeking with them was a lasting emotional and spiritual connection and that the sex hadn't brought me any closer to that (indeed in most cases meaningless sex puts a short fuse on the relationship).
Despite the narrative around my gender and how it relates to my needs, following that path has consistently led me to dissatisfaction even on a primal level. What I suspect I'm really doing is entering those encounters in the hope of discovering a lifelong friendship, even though some chaps may think that's just me drinking the soul mate Kool aid.
Returning to the yin-yang, I think the framing of 'she wants stuff and i want an orgasm' makes a lot of sense to the male psyche and that's why it's the dominant narrative in masculine culture. It divides things up into a cosmic balance where you (the man) can have pure joy for a while, but only if you give her (the divine feminine) the fruits of your labour which will require toiling, thinking, hunting and all the things that men may pretend to do begrudgingly but really love nearly as much as the orgasm (when they do them right at least).
These are all ethics which fuel the exalted economy. As an added bonus, we have received the biblical idea that our desire to please women is what leads us astray into misery and sin a la Adam and Eve. So we also feel less to blame for the shit show our lives inevitably unfold into at some point when we begin wearing the consequences of what was really well-disguised greed. I'll emphasise here that women are increasingly occupying this same state of mind-but the dynamics are different because of how skewed the cultural narrative is toward male agency and protagonism.
The problem is that when some of it becomes distorted and you begin doing that manstuff (or nowadays personstuff) that we broadly call work in such a way that you don't enjoy it and it becomes genuinely burdensome, you even moreso feel the potential of pure joy being withheld from you and project that onto the opposite sex. This leads not only to resentment but really to a complex misogyny. After all, if you hold this perspective as a heterosexual man, women become the ones keeping your happiness from you or doling it out to you at their whim, which makes you feel like the 'weaker sex' who is effectively enslaved to their will.
This is why until they fall in love most straight men resent women on some level and why they feel like they're getting a bad deal out of surface level gender equality. What's worse is that in this paradigm women aren't getting a good deal either. This perception tars their legitimate pursuit of love with the brush of transaction, insinuating them as prostitutes en masse (as is mentioned explicitly in the video). All of this discounts the very real need for emotional security and connection between male and female both.
It also puts female sexuality directly into an awkward predicament after having just emerged triumphantly from the shadow of suppression in the last couple of centuries. Because if men getting sex is them getting what they are owed, how can that be reconciled with the rightful demand for the sexual satisfaction of women?
A misunderstanding can emerge that guys need to work hard to satisfy their partner sexually. Accordingly they may bring all of their insecurity and status anxiety into the bedroom, worrying that they aren't really making her come or that they don't last long enough or aren't big enough. And if that's their attitude, then it's not just going to be bad sex. It's going to be humiliating sex, which is antithetical to everything men are conditioned to want.
But if you can change your perspective to realize it's two people coming together to celebrate the joy of love and unity, so powerful it can literally create new life, you're probably going to have a good time regardless of how hard anyone is working. And if you don't, you're not going to freak out or beat yourselves up because you love each other and recognize that, among friends, things don't have to always be someone's fault. This should also be a subtle cosmic clue that the chemistry isn't the way you think it is if you're stuck in the orgasm-for-things ideology.
Returning to the general cultural tendency to misread feminine sexuality, many of the rare female proponents of superficiality as being at the core of it are very young, very beautiful women who men understandably pay a disproportionate amount of attention to. These young women recognise the degree to which they are being objectified and probably feel that they are entitled or even encouraged to articulate their sexual desires along similar lines. They may list some throwaway traits they seek in men which come easily to mind and confirm the worst fears of some already cynical people. It normally shakes out in aggregate to be something like a rich jester in high heels with abs.
But savvy folk know that a delightful skid mark of bullshit graces the back of those otherwise painfully sterile tighty-whiteys. Especially because none of that is very interesting. If what you're bringing to the table is interesting, people will pay attention. Women are able to fudge the numbers quite a bit on their ideal partner accordingly. And it doesn't necessarily have much to do with security or reliability.
To some degree, they seem to be able to decide who they want to sleep with, and this is sort of unthinkable to redpills because they believe they themselves don't have this power and are instead on a take it or leave it basis with Lady Lust.
And it's true that men do find beauty especially interesting. But the crazy thing is that men do also have this power, they're just not as attuned to it. To be clear I'm not saying it's the power to sleep with people you don't want to sleep with, I'm saying it's the power to adjust who you want to sleep with based on factors other than their physical appearance or even status. This is a siddhi that men can also attain to. That claim will bend someone's mind if enough people read this, but I think it's really true.
In conclusion I think there's a usefulness to identifying the romantic dance as a kind of karmic game to promote spiritual growth (using the word karmic loosely). Part of the game though has to be the integration of the other into the self to the degree that you realise all their desires are within you and that you will therefore probably act out all the roles you're attributing externally at some point regardless of your sexual identity. That way there is a compassion which runs in parallel to the negotiation rather than a tribalistic sense of injustice which can lead to anger or despair.
My intention with this is not to say that anyone is wrong or even that that I'm especially right. I think that discussion like this is valuable because it attracts exactly the people who need to be engaging with it from across the globe which really is a beautiful and elegant thing, especially in the face of so much bleakness around the Internet and its existential merits or lack thereof. I hope I've helped bring balance to the force by writing this extended TH-cam comment essay and that it's given you something to think about as you all have done for me. All the best,
Q
Thank you
Godbless
Can you delve deeper into the Yogini situation?
Please note: This is a very over generalised perspective/information.
Based on the general socialised mentaly condition persons this information is certainly a good point of reference to pay more attention to your own doings, intentions and personal evolution.
..:) Of course its a “general”. Im talking to potentially thousands of people who are at all different levels of consciousness and spiritual maturity. One on one or in a group could be totally different. And yes I am addressing the “conditioning”.👍
How do you feel about the woman wanting to look attractive when going out and saying “I want people to think I’m hot”?
It’s a stage we all have to go through
Yogini? Hhmm interesting
Whats your opinion on spiritual entities and visions of demons or aliens/higher dimensional beings???? And what play does they have in this world???
There are "qualified" people calling semen retaining bad because of higher chance to get prostate cancer. Can you enlighten me with your thoughts on it?
Its simply not true. The opposite is true. Read or listen to people who have actual experience (real yogis for one), rather than brainiacs who just live in their mind and speculate. But I understand the concern as we live in a very backwards misinformed society
I totally agree on the nature part.
But don’t there a healthy way to incorporate the sexual ego?
Like both are very aware of themselves. But still they get their needs met. Isn’t a guy automatically taking responsibility for the girl which makes him feel good?
Why can’t that be a part of spirituality.
But I already said that was the case (the “ideal” situation and partnership);
“Like both are very aware of themselves. But still they get their needs met. Isn’t a guy automatically taking responsibility for the girl which makes him feel good?”
@@BeyondTheAlchemy thank you !!
Yash where is the forest you shoot this video? Thanks!
Can u pls talk about the importance of females not orgasming? Would it work the same as semen retention?
Yes, I made a whole channel for you..:)
www.youtube.com/@divinefemininity10/videos
@@BeyondTheAlchemy cool, I will check it out, thanks :)
@@BeyondTheAlchemy oh wow, you did a great job. I am super impressed...
But what about some girls who prioritise security but then they find out they are not sexually compatible with husband.
I don't think saying that girls prioritise security is always true. Yes in marriage they prioritise security. But in relationship in their younger years they prioritise attraction and chemistry.
Yes, Younger years are the best! More pure.
I didnt understand your point--to Your first question-...
@@BeyondTheAlchemy I actually meant that men driven by lust prioritise looks and overlooks other factors like friendship shared interests etc and later relationship don't work.
Similarly when girls prioritise security and overlooks other factors like chemistry, they also gets disappointed in the long run.
i think its a bit misleading saying that a woman only loves you because you give her security. women are humans just like men and both can love others because of who they are, security and lust are whats important when choosing a mate and saying that they love you because of your money or because of how you look is making a massive disservice to humans and makes then seem like emotionless robots. a woman can truly love you for who you are but they might not choose you as a mate if you lack the material security (which is for the BABY btw)
if people are transcending the mainstream level of consciousness and sense pleasures then of course all of this becomes more possible.
thanks for the content, may i ask, i just started SR and i am actively avoiding PMO and any arousing thoughts, day 9 without erection and any kind of edging, but im still starting to get onset of blue balls and indigestion problems which i feel are from SR... any tips on avoiding blue balls? ty
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Hey bro Yash, about the guy who said "it hurts to know she didn't really love me," will the same be said if it was a woman on the receiving end?
If a man left a woman for a younger, more beautiful, or sexually open woman etc. Can the woman who was left, say "it hurts to know he didn't really love me?"
I'm asking to enlighten on this cuz it sounds like men are the ones who feel the hurt or do women feel hurt in a different way? 🙂
They also hurt.
The hurt may be deeper cause you cannot turn the clock backwards
For women, security is primary for marriage, yes. But mostly only for marriage/long term relationship success. When it comes to instant sexual attraction, muscle and looks still come first though. This is why a lot women of today in marriages withdraw from sex with their husband after they have locked them down, and then secretly cheat or go on ladies nights because they still yearn for that lustful thrill.
Yes women live with a interesting dichotomy. The instincts play in such a way that there biological self really loves the alpha male (daring and exciting) but also loves the beta male for security-- if we have to use these silly sterotypical words just to illustrate the point.
But Anyway, this is mainly for mainstream level of consciousness. A woman who has transcended that loves the inner being of a man-- irregardless of so called “alpha” or “beta”.
@@BeyondTheAlchemyin the video you said it’s not possible only if the universe wants them together etc. can you explain how a relationship can function beneath the superficial needs of the sexual ego?
Hey yash hope you doing good.... Iam on sr first days i felt soo good my voice eye muscle everything is booming but after a month it is all gone can you tell what happened where that energy goes all of sudden
it was honeymoon stage. Then alchemy starts and you have to bear this up and down thing for awhile. Later it will get stabilized.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy can you give me your email address or something where we can talk i need you help
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Am I a bad person for no longer wanting women friends? I’ve had many of them for years and it seems to just make the void for a relationship even worse. It’s not fair to them but it just feels like self sabotage at this point until that desire is quenched. Of course like everyone else you long for the female energy. But after letting my last one go it seems like I can’t kid myself any longer to only ever have it again if it’s someone I can be intimate with.
this is a stage. It brings up the desire we have to have more deeper and usually physical intimacy/ But it all gets balanced and worked out later. Trust the process.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy thought so. Much appreciated my man as always 🙏💙
I wonder if you realize how far reaching your net is cast. just the scale from sex addict all the way up to individuals who have transcended the sexual energy.
I’ve felt the divine pull towards your videos for a while now, and I am vibrating on a much higher frequency and am connecting with your “soul”, likely the way you intended for people to. or the divine in you rather.
I just want you to know your videos met me at the right time, and in the right way and have helped me map this uncharted side of reality.
also, I’m curious, do you rewatch your videos before and or after you post them?
..:) I appreciate that... I think Im unaware of the “reach” for the most part.
And no, I dont watch my videos before I post them. I will check out a timestamp though when someone says I said something funny sometimes and then usually laugh..:)
What propels a woman to have a 1 night stand ? Is it subconsciously because they’re trying to turn that into a relationship and commitment?
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Not always. Sometimes girls just wanna have fun and that is all 🙂
“De” said it right.
hm, i want to believe that relationship with women can be pure and I want to experience it in my life, is there really no other person who also wants the pure relationship and transcend our lustful desires to something better? I don't want to believe that, world would be too boring if everyone just operates on a program, ah this is so boring... but generally I know what Yash speaks about. So you say there is no chance to meet a pure girl who are authentic and there is no dogma in relationship and want to be truly loved by God by me?
Almost everyone tries to experience that but it’s seen clearly after some time that there’s no escaping duality (human limitations). But if the limitations are bearable and not too intense and you overall enjoy her then 👍
@@BeyondTheAlchemy ok, thank you
@@InnaWersjaciebiewe are out here. Trust and believe.
@@DJSaraTonin i do
I think there are many more nuances than lust and security, at least in my relationship experiences and in others whom I am close to. I am actually surprised by your perspective. You have such an evolved awareness in every other area. I think I've watched almost every one of your videos. This one was kind of different..lol..idk what to call it but disheartening.
of course, I cant go over all the factors in such short video and yes im generalizing and on top of that Im talking to a predominantly male audience... Thats the tax of doing videos on controversial and complex subjects. But the essence of what im sharing still usually applies to most people in 1 way or another simply because of the way biology is set up.
I'm really glad that this came through in the comment section (even though it was a ways down). I'm going to put a copy of my reply without this part in the main comment section so it can reach as many people as possible.
Preface: this is a critique so it is written in the spirit of promoting contemplation, discussion and the balancing of perspectives. It's written out of love and respect for everyone who finds it.
After watching this video I was left thinking: this seems like such a coherent insight, but why does it feel noxious? There's a certain grain of truth here, the essence of which can in and of itself be disheartening, but it's more or less the same thing the culture has been beating us over the head with for decades. The whole 'guys want sex & beauty while women want security & reliability' angle really is less than half the story. I appreciate that it's not a complete rendering of the author's overarching view but it's the portion that is both the most obvious and insidious presented as an entire video with some spiritual bells on.
Without the more complete picture, it leads men to stay in soul sucking jobs and women to exercise their bodies into unsustainable and unhealthy physiques and that's just the beginning. The worst of it is the alienation that comes from a misunderstanding which is retrograde to the connection that relationships are really about. There is a message of acceptance built in here; but the video is still likely to engender bitterness because the mostly male audience just hears 'women are using you because karma's a bitch' or something to that effect and it confirms what they already think they know from their manospheric osmosis.
The yin-yang of it has to be brought into focus and morphs hugely over time. The culture has radically changed the playing field around these romantic drives; women are allowed and expected to become professionals and physical strength has less to do with the quality of an average human's work. Conversely men are allowed and expected to contribute to household duties, the raising of children and the bringing of a sensitive touch to the bedroom. More of the traditionally masculine is being subsumed into the feminine and vice versa.
There's all kinds of discourse speculating that this shift is artificial, that humans aren't really content on a biological or psychic level living under these conditions. I know people who think this way, but surely this early on in the social experiment we should be taking all of those assumptions with a grain of salt?
I've been blessed to speak candidly with older women who have shared that in the latter years of their marriage their sex drive has continued or increased where their husband's has completely flatlined. The cliche is that this is because their spouse is 'banging his secretary' or needs an endless supply of mates or whatever but that wasn't the impression i got. I think despite the pressure from society men really do organically lose interest in sex at some point and often that's actually earlier than it is for women.
We equate masculinity and now to an extent femininity with sex drive to such a degree that this idea is still a taboo and flies under the radar of popular culture. We use words like impotent and frigid to implicitly humiliate people with a low sex drive, but does it occur to us for how short a duration humans are sexually 'in their prime'? The fact many of our best memories are from childhood before sexuality entered our gestalt should be a clue that sex isn't nearly the whole picture of happiness across the lifespan regardless of gender, though I know the hardcore Freudians would disagree.
To use an opposite and more personal example, as a young man i have been used for sex, both by women I'm in a relationship with and occasionally women i barely know. Even if I was also using them, I never felt i got what i wanted. And not in a Buddhist you-can-never-get-what-you-want type of way. Instead I was left with the feeling that what I'd been seeking with them was a lasting emotional and spiritual connection and that the sex hadn't brought me any closer to that (indeed in most cases meaningless sex puts a short fuse on the relationship).
Despite the narrative around my gender and how it relates to my needs, following that path has consistently led me to dissatisfaction even on a primal level. What I suspect I'm really doing is entering those encounters in the hope of discovering a lifelong friendship, even though some chaps may think that's just me drinking the soul mate Kool aid.
Returning to the yin-yang, I think the framing of 'she wants stuff and i want an orgasm' makes a lot of sense to the male psyche and that's why it's the dominant narrative in masculine culture. It divides things up into a cosmic balance where you (the man) can have pure joy for a while, but only if you give her (the divine feminine) the fruits of your labour which will require toiling, thinking, hunting and all the things that men may pretend to do begrudgingly but really love nearly as much as the orgasm (when they do them right at least).
These are all ethics which fuel the exalted economy. As an added bonus, we have received the biblical idea that our desire to please women is what leads us astray into misery and sin a la Adam and Eve. So we also feel less to blame for the shit show our lives inevitably unfold into at some point when we begin wearing the consequences of what was really well-disguised greed. I'll emphasise here that women are increasingly occupying this same state of mind-but the dynamics are different because of how skewed the cultural narrative is toward male agency and protagonism.
The problem is that when some of it becomes distorted and you begin doing that manstuff (or nowadays personstuff) that we broadly call work in such a way that you don't enjoy it and it becomes genuinely burdensome, you even moreso feel the potential of pure joy being withheld from you and project that onto the opposite sex. This leads not only to resentment but really to a complex misogyny. After all, if you hold this perspective as a heterosexual man, women become the ones keeping your happiness from you or doling it out to you at their whim, which makes you feel like the 'weaker sex' who is effectively enslaved to their will.
This is why until they fall in love most straight men still hate women-at least in part-and why they feel like they're getting a bad deal out of surface level gender equality. What's worse is that in this paradigm women aren't getting a good deal either. This perception tars their legitimate pursuit of love with the brush of transaction, insinuating them as prostitutes en masse (as is mentioned explicitly in the video). All of this discounts the very real need for emotional security and connection between male and female both.
It also puts female sexuality directly into an awkward predicament after having just emerged triumphantly from the shadow of suppression in the last couple of centuries. Because if men getting sex is them getting what they are owed, how can that be reconciled with the rightful demand for the sexual satisfaction of women?
A misunderstanding can emerge that guys need to work hard to satisfy their partner sexually. Accordingly they bring all of their insecurity and status anxiety into the bedroom, worrying that they aren't really making her come or that they don't last long enough or aren't big enough. And if that's their attitude, then it's not just going to be bad sex. It's going to be humiliating sex, which is antithetical to everything men are conditioned to want.
But if you can change your perspective to realize it's two people coming together to celebrate the joy of love and unity, so powerful it can literally create new life, you're probably going to have a good time regardless of how hard anyone is working. And if you don't, you're not going to freak out or beat yourselves up because you love each other and recognize that, among friends, things don't have to always be someone's fault. This should also be a subtle cosmic clue that the chemistry isn't the way you think it is if you're stuck in the orgasm-for-things ideology.
Returning to the general cultural tendency to misread feminine sexuality, many of the rare female proponents of superficiality as being at the core of it are very young, very beautiful women who men understandably pay a disproportionate amount of attention to. These young women recognise the degree to which they are being objectified and probably feel that they are entitled or even encouraged to articulate their sexual desires along similar lines. They may list some throwaway traits they seek in men which come easily to mind and confirm the worst fears of some already cynical people. It normally shakes out in aggregate to be something like a rich jester in high heels with abs.
But savvy folk know that a delightful skid mark of bullshit graces the back of those otherwise painfully sterile tighty-whiteys. Especially because none of that is very interesting. If what you're bringing to the table is interesting, people will pay attention. Women are able to fudge the numbers quite a bit on their ideal partner accordingly. And it doesn't necessarily have much to do with security or reliability.
To some degree, they seem to be able to decide who they want to sleep with, and this is sort of unthinkable to redpills because they believe they themselves don't have this power and are instead on a take it or leave it basis with Lady Lust.
And it's true that men do find beauty especially interesting. But the crazy thing is that men do also have this power, they're just not as attuned to it. To be clear I'm not saying it's the power to sleep with people you don't want to sleep with, I'm saying it's the power to adjust who you want to sleep with based on factors other than their physical appearance or even status. This is a siddhi that men can also attain to. That claim will bend someone's mind if enough people read this, but I think it's really true.
In conclusion I think there's a usefulness to identifying the romantic dance as a kind of karmic game to promote spiritual growth (using the word karmic loosely). Part of the game though has to be the integration of the other into the self to the degree that you realise all their desires are within you and that you will therefore probably act out all the roles you're attributing externally at some point regardless of your sexual identity. That way there is a compassion which runs in parallel to the negotiation rather than a tribalistic sense of injustice which can lead to anger or despair.
My intention with this is not to say that anyone is wrong or even that that I'm especially right. I think that discussion like this is valuable because it attracts exactly the people who need to be engaging with it from across the globe which really is a beautiful and elegant thing, especially in the face of so much bleakness around the Internet and its existential merits or lack thereof. I hope I've helped bring balance to the force by writing this extended TH-cam comment essay and that it's given you something to think about as you all have done for me. All the best,
Q
What is a bubble gun chewing girl?
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a very superficial girl..
Hmm... probably it is the first time I would not 100% agree with Yash. It sounded like you've got some projection towards women in general and the final conclusions are based on your hurtful experience. Maybe I am wrong, maybe you are right, maybe the truth is somewhere in the middle 🙂
I think most of the women just want to be really seen and cherished. As men want to feel like they CAN do it. The way you are constructing this video that women are snakes and manipulative. It does not resonate with me. On the other hand, maybe my opinion is too good about people (men including) in general and I do not have enough wisdom and experience to make the conclusions yet 💁🏻♀️
Nevertheless, I agree that it is a never ending lesson for souls to overcome instincts, expand higher self and achieve a real love which goes beyond oneself needs 👏🏼
Yes, but the wanting to “be seen and cherished” is another way they seek security and if they dont get it then theres consequences. Its a form of how the instinct for attention or security is a bit extreme.
But guys have their own things (excessive instinctual demands) as well
He didn't present women as snakes more than he described men as dogs. His expression here is balanced and seems healthy. Yes, you can see the past hurtful experience but you can also see that now all that is left is wisdom and there is no resentment. I will say that although what he says is true, no one can summarize all phonemena in a YT video so it's good to learn and also leave room for unknown possibilities which you feel deeply 😉
Hey do we the Bible say you need a women then , really confused , I understand the male/female conflict but don’t we need to be together
Ive learnt alot from these videos & have found that women become overtly, subconsciously more submissive to an empathetic uninterested man for no reason. So either way, your kinda screwed
Man, i'm tired of women allways getting excused for their actions, there is something off with that... I'm really trying hard to see the best in women nowadays, but when it comes to the guys THEY ALL CHOOSE ...
Man... They choose the devil again and again and again... Because of money and security?
Not so sure about that.
But I want to be wrong... Am I missing something?
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