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Yash I’m making crazy gains in the gym from SR. I cannot stop looking at my arms but it’s making my insecurities worse…. Makes no sense I thought bigger arms would make me more secure, but I was more happy when I was a pencil
I’m 27, I’ve come a long way but lust is a constant struggle. I have experienced that true relational platonic conversation with one of my coworkers. She’s also very spiritual and we’ll get into some awesome conversations and understanding. I feel no physical attraction to her so that makes it very easy. My goal is to be able to do that with any girl
Absolutely nailed it. My platonic relationship with a good female friend of mine has my guy mates completely baffled, its hilarious actually. The purity of the relationship is incredibly powerful, deep. Well said 👏🏻
I used to be lost, and lived life unconsciously until I got to breaking point where I almost lost my life. But then i found God and have been on SR for 5months now, I don't even have an intention of sex till am married, I ve been committed to spiritual practice, am a christian, chasing my higher purpose but am still grappling with poverty, I barely eat two square meal(my business is still struggling), sometimes when I have a little money (which never really lasts) and be free for sometime, I see how beautiful my life could be, am more relaxed,compassionate and have good and more energy to give but when am struggling and broke, its like all hell let loose..it brings out all the negative thoughts, experiences, less confidence, low energy, and I never know why God chooses to make me go through so much pain even when am doing everything to live right.. The attacks is just too pronounced at this moment unlike when I was living in sin. Any night my house mate comes home with a random girl, I get these sleeping paralysis.
I get you man. Somehow life seems harder when you decide to follow God’s path because you no longer have this escape things like porn, prostitutes, masturbation, casual sex, alcohol, etc. that seemingly help us relieve the pain we go through in life. When we finally choose to follow God’s plan we basically embrace that suffering (hence carry our own crosses) full on, and it helps us realize just how much pain and suffering we had been escaping from for our entire lives. We had been cowards for our entire lives. Sin and vices create the illusion that life was somehow easier or more manageable when we had them, we must never forget how lowly those things got us, we tend to forget those things, how close we came to destruction. Those things are a venom that acts slowly and doesn’t make us realize how horribly it is destroying us until it happens. But there is hope with God. Even though life seems more difficult now without those sins and vices, there’s something I’m certain about, God is with me in every single process, God is holding me and telling me that no matter how hard the situation is, he is there and he won’t allow me to be destroyed, not like that, not how sins and vices were destroying me. Process is tough but there is going to be redemption by brother. Trust in God. I’m suffering greatly as I write this, but trust in God. He is all and everything, bless you. Amen.
When you can't cover the struggle with anything, it gets really hard. I hope your business to grow, and I hope you get an easier experience with financial security🎉
Perfect timing for this video…yeah there is something that happens after sex I think to me now it’s the wanting to connect in that way rather than just getting each other off,but there is something when it’s not acted upon on when there’s a lot of sexual tension between both people, it’s like constant foreplay that doesn’t go away…a ton of energy…
yes. In fact, I was talking about it the other day with a friend of mine, that in mainstream society it is often said that the couples that are doing the best or are happiest are the ones that have the most s3x. Then however, you see that the vast majority of couples who base their relationship on the physical and relationships, at a time when one of those things is disturbed, it starts to shake the relationship. However, we have observed that when you have less s3x with your partner, the relationship for some reason usually works much better, it's like on the one hand, when you do it, you get it with much more desire and you continue to see your partner sexually with that novelty with which you saw it at the beginning, which those who do it every day lose and when you do it, you do it with a purpose (such as having children), which makes it much more special. It makes you connect spiritually to the other person, which makes the relationship that much stronger.
I've followed you for awhile now, I really enjoy your talks but I have neglected to comment, I feel compelled to this time. I think it's important that you know that there are those of us who listen. Please keep on. Thanks
When I was 15, I got arrested and was in Juvie for 8 months. During that time, ONLY my platonic GFs came to see me and wrote me. There's something to this phenomenon
Neale Donald Walsch speaks at length in 'conversations with god book 1 chapter 8 page (121) ironically, "the purpose of relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see 'show up' not what part of another you can capture and hold. There can be only one purpose for relationships - and for all of life: to be and decide who you really are" for example, i have found this chapter to be a continual concious reference, i am still attracted to high level healthy relation, and i am also (mostly) incredibly content alone.
That was spot on! Sex always changes the relationship. Have experienced the sweetness and high vibes of a plutonic relationship with a beautiful woman. Amazing!
Dude Yash, I freaking love you man! I watch your videos pretty damn often probably 3-5 times a week. When im on the computer doing work, or in the gym. You're no Alan Watts or Ram Dass, but you sure have a lot of insight and understanding and humility and vulnerability to share your experiences. Definitely makes you more likable and relatable compared to the mysticism of gurus/putting one of a pedestal.
I used to have platonic relationships when I was younger, probably due to a mother complex. You are right. I didn't even have sex with her but brought the topic up which made things change. I don't even care anymore.
11:00 this exact situation just so happened to manifest itself into my life. I really needed to see this video. I’m reasonating with every thing you just explained, right now in my life 🙏🏽
Good talk jazz, so true, forget about the sex so you can free yourself from the anticipation of having sex and you get a better appreciation of the female energy
Intrestingly is that in Buddhism, gods (devas and devis) in heaven have sex with each other only in the lowest levels of heaven. As you go higher in the levels of heaven, couples dont have sex anymore, they hold hands and smile at each other. As you go higher, they dont even hold hands anymore, they only look at each other and smile. And even higher, they dont smile anymore, they only look at each other in the eyes. And the higher levels of heaven are supposed to be more pleasurable and pleasent than the lower ones.
Yes, and the devas in the lowest levels that do have sex, do so without ejaculating, there is only an exchange of energy (because devas aren't born in the way humans are).
This is a very insightful video because I seen it play out in real time! Now I was the type of person to avoid sex & Intimacy at all levels (Unfortunately My brain was polluted by pornography at age 12 still dealing with the repercussions of that). But I just felt like a creep like me having these desires made be have this deep rooted sense of shame and Embarassment. However one day I met this girl and she came up to me and we Hit it off. Things moved so quickly we became very vulnerable and I exposed my secrets that I never told anyone else irl. So to make a long story short I came to realize that she didn't really love me in the way I thought she did she slept with me (whilst having troubled past and being in a connection already mind you) and I just allowed it to happen. I never would've went for this type of connection at all before but for some reason this person was deadlocked on me and I'm still trying to figure it out. We eventually broke it off after 5 months and I'm still picking up the pieces to this day. Anyone got any insight on this?
@@brokenwing8018 Yeah I know for next time. To be fair this was my first "Relationship" so I had no guidelines or expectations of what to expect from the connection.
Stubborn close minded individuals & pleasure driven boys won’t see what you’re saying or understand it but ik I definitely do 68 days no pmo 26 days SR Retention FTW 🙌 💪🗣️🗣️🗣️
The term pure and impure are duality. Maybe it's not the fact that purity is lost maybe it's just that with sexual relationship the depth is much more so one person might have abandonment issues so emotionally manipulates another person to stay. Also someone might be controlling or abusive. Maybe sex is too much intimate and fear of losing another person comes in. sex brings forward the shadow side and insecurity in person. Relationship are meant for bringing forward toxic behaviour so that we can be aware of our trauma and cure them. And in platonic friendship there is not much to lose. So things are not so serious. The thing is both are different and neither is pure and impure.
We seem to share this trait as I have had just as many female friends as male. And yes, they tend to be more intimate with me... sometimes too much. But overall it is quite rewarding as you get a different perspective.
Thanks Yash. That really helped. Was thinking all last night about reaching out to a beautiful woman I had a great platonic relationship with a few years ago. Your video really put things in perspective. Also, from the movies you reference, I think you would really enjoy the new Dev Patel Indian action movie - Monkey Man!
i know you can give me no answer but ive been going to spaa as youve suggested but the complusion to act out is strong not to mention edging and it makes my life unmanagable and its this cycle that i feel am at the mercy of, not really a question but what to do 🤣
Could it be that the sex activates the biological software. Like the expectations and anxieties arising in preparation for having to raise a child together. Then some "distance" would be percieved as we revert from a purer connection to the more strategic "Earth survival game" software i.e how do i influence him to stay to increase the survival of this child. Just a thought that arose from what you said. Very interesting video and topic either way.
Hi Yash I have a question I'd be so grateful if you could help me with this! It's regarding blueballs I'm around 2 months in have spent the night with two girls without releasing but I get a serious case of blueballs is this just something that need to be worked through and transitioned? Thank you in advance Yash I appreciate all your brilliant advice if it wasn't for you I would of relapsed by now due to lack of knowledge sending you love and blessings brother ❤🙏🏻
the less sexually stimulated you become the less the blue balls. But you cant help getting stimulated because the sexual nature is deep. So you need to seek individual divine inner guidance in the moment how to navigate that and be patient with your progress.
Do you think or did you observe that some girls, after you had sex and were sharing a deep connection, after a while you'd decide to keep it platonic, and the girl would tend to leave the relationship and be more attracted by a new encounter that includes great sex + connection? I'm observing something like this in my 2+ years relationship. About two months ago I detached myself from sex and in resonance with your videos, something shifted in me. Made so much sense also because I need to create material stability, so I need all my life force, can't waste it in sex and lust at all. She was frustrated about it. Kind of aggressive in the way she talked. It almost felt like she was threatening me, like "if we can't have sex, I think we're done as a couple". I felt her defensive. Then, after some days and one more calmer confrontation, I felt we got closer because of the absence of sex. Though she met a guy 6 months ago (doing plant medicine), younger, bigger, stronger (maybe my insecurity is talking here haha but I thought I'd mention the physical difference cause it might matter in her behaviour). They shared great connection, amazing sex, and she says she feels like they're twin flames (some concept she didn't believe until recently as she felt insecure and she saw some comfort in believing it). I think I processed the sadness from the possibility of ending this relationship, she did as well at the same time. Though no, I think I'll probably feel more sadness when it happens. But the point is, I'm wondering if she might be living an illusion (well, sure, everything is an illusion) as she identified this new man as father material because of the sexual alchemy and the physical traits (he's not there materially though neither emotionally, for now). And I wonder if women can be kind of addicted to drama and strong feelings, because their relationship is not smooth. They're not 100% transparent. Sometimes he needs space and doesn't communicate much by writing, and she feels insecure in these moments. She told him to simply tell her when he needs space. Which is something she required previously when they were communicating heavily by text and voice memos. I guess her natural instinct - sexual instinct which is highly correlated to the biological program of being a mother - is strong and as you said in some video, there's nothing we can do as men if she wants a kid and we don't. We'll enjoy the friendship and intimacy nevertheless :) Keeping the best. Anyway... I'm quite detached from this. But I share it as I find it interesting. And I'm learning a lot with her in these years.
At this point in my life sex, no doubt about it, it’s purpose is only to bring life, im sure you can figure out why it has pleasure in the mix but we some how figured out how to reverse engineer organic technology.
3:45 So you're saying it is possible to have casual sex without any energetic consequences, not even on a deep subconscious level? The possible energetic exchange is one of the many reasons I as a man don't participate in hook up culture, I do not want to take on any energy from a sexual partner that does not serve me, aside from the fact that I don't want to be led by pure lust. Never experienced sex outside of a loving relationship, it is simply not appealing to me. However I do want to understand the other side more to get a more complete perspective but that might be hard without having direct experience with it myself. Or maybe I already have all I need to know from past lives, I don't know haha. What are your thoughts about this?
@BeyondTheAlchemy too lengthy to make a video about it? 😉 haha I'll leave that up to you or rather The Divine 🙏🏽 I think it is a complex and controversial topic but oh so interesting.
I may get some side ways glances for this comment but he we go: I wanted to experience sex at a time in my life where my options were very limited so I got a doll. A quick internet search would reveal that current dolls are pretty realistic, and while a huge hassle, they did allow me to experience sex in a safe environment with little to no consequences. I was then able to eventually let go and have been practicing SR to varying degrees of success for the past 9 months. This is not advice! I'm merely providing my experience so universe might use it in a way to benefit someone.
yes the universe has no standards or mental concepts as to what is the “proper” way to do something or how to be free. Its all paradoxical and in the end whatever works at helping one to become free- Then so be it!
¿ How you doing Yash , I just wanted to interject . Between the sixth seventh minute you said that folks after sex tend not to care as much . I just believe that happens because after the act is over , it's like " mission complete ." With nothing more to achieve . Especially if you're not pursuing one for a higher purpose such as children or marriage . Okay , I just thought I'd share . Thanks for your wisdom . It's appreciated . Later
Hey Yash! Think you could make a vid on Money? I lost LOTS of it recently and would love to hear your perspective to help get me out of the occasional despair. Thanks
Interesting info on devdasi women i didnt know about that then i googled it and they just say they are temple priestesses but it misses out the tantric sexual stuff, is it secret knowledge that they do that in south india or is it known widely over there ? Western accounts seem to skip over that part of devdasis
Thanks, Yash. I’m married and have a new electric platonic friendship. She says she likes both me and my wife. I know in Satsang you told someone in a similar situation to continue, but it feels like I’m playing with fire. Am I deluding myself to think it can remain platonic? It feels like a test from the universe with high stakes and my mind is afraid of failing.
“ It feels like a test from the universe with high stakes and my mind is afraid of failing.” Yes thats what it is. But what to do if thats the assignment. Stay present and super open to divine power to guide ur thoughts and actions and perceptions and allow u to see the broader outcome and consequences of any actions u take 👍
Hey yash, been aggressively trying to quit porn&masturbation for awhile now, been on the cycle of relapsing and starting over. I think it’s time for me to look for some guidance been thinking about therapy but there is a small number of male therapist in my area and they are not accepting new clients. Is there anyway we can speak? I want to rid myself of this demon once and for all, porn and masturbation are the main things holding me back in life.
One thing I did that changed my life which has led me to my streak of 35 days which is probably the longest I’ve went this year is simply fulfill your purpose. By this I mean give you things that give you healthy dopamine for me it’s spending time with dogs and helping people out as well as gardening. Find what brings you that warmth and love. If you’re into religion dive deep into it while on retention. But simply trying to do retention and playing video games all day or scrolling on social media will not mix together. I unplugged my PS4 and next thing yk my streak evolved into me being more present and confident. Hopefully my testimony can you help you out. Also don’t beat yourself up when you relapse. Life is about the journey not the destination. Have a good day soldier.
I can see some reasons. To receive the female energy, to give the male energy, to connect to them beyond the male/female roles, to awaken higher after they trigger something in you that causes you to look at it better when it might have been hidden or dormant before...I can go on
I've never had a platonic relationship with a woman before. I tried, but I've never been attracted to a woman and tried being her friend first. Also, when a woman likes me I don't friendzone her because I thought that was cruel. Plus she's lose attraction and move on anyway.
I think that's what he was talking about when he said that if you want to have kids/family and all that, then yeah it can be a good thing. But also on a more subtle level, I think he's saying that sometimes when you have sex, it's like now you have all these expectations of the other person's role, and you can actually stop seeing them as clearly for who they are and instead you form a mental concept of who they "should" be after sex...hence all the issues that can start happening.
Is it different when you have tantric sex with a girl? Thank you Yash 🙏🏽 And I feel like the way you explained it is exactly the way how this video helps people.
How do you see god, is it good is it maybe beyond good and bad?? I see it the last way, beyond concepts, but i want to see your opinion, and if its good how can he allow bad things to happend? I just dont know, i want to know what is this evil force or enemy that some people talk about
Hi Yash, hope you're able to read this, I recently had sex with a girl I really wanna be friends with, we ended up doing it. I feel a little bit of regret since we did it intoxicated with alcohol. I still want to be able to continue this friendship with her but there seem to be just a little bit of awkwardness ever since we had sex. Do I continue with this friendship and just control myself and make it more wholesome for the next few months? Should that fix it? I need your advice.
its out of ur hands. Our whole life is actually. Just be present in the moment and see how inner feeling and guidance directs you to speak and act with her and then let it all unfold.
i intuitively know what youre saying is true but will i have the strengh to say no to sex? im only 20 but ive slept with over 20 women and i feel like im done intellectually but i still have some desires or unrealized fantasies, but like i know they are empty i already know even though i never did them, i also feel like im gonna stop masturbating very very soon. im so done with it i dont even wanna do it. i wouldve failed twice yesterday but something just happened to where i was like no i dont wanna do this. somethign that hasnt happened the last 9 months i was struggling with this pmo. felt like i didnt do it. i still edge tho because it is so subtle but i keep catching myself. im guessing i will meet a self realized girl when iam truly self realized and theres no more internal battle or pull to do what i already know is empty. i just wanna be free of this so bad. imagine a life where girls arent constantly on my mind. i already know how lovely it is to just sit in nature for hours and i can do this in perfect peace because ive already quit like 80% of my addictions and im really balanced. imagine life free of this as well. i already get flashbacks to certain states when i was a child again because iam literally becoming a child once again. at least feeling like it. things look like i looked at them for the first time, im amazed at trees and birds and im in heaven. i didnt think this was possible, its beautiful every second spent in awareness is blissful and a present which fills you up with love. its like i recognize the gift therefore the gifter therefore the love which i receive and idk it makes me tear up sometimes when im just sitting there.
This is the exact state I want to reach but just seems so difficult. Like why I was born into a society that's so sex driven? I want the Innocence I had as child when sexual things were so devoid from my thoughts. This Body feels like a prison and I desperately want to escape the cycles but I continue to fail over and over again.
Ha! Of course "totally honest and open" does not get you laid. Women want to have sex with a fantasy that's been sold to them by social media, not the real you.
Yes, Better the message parlors. In the bars there were too many prostitutes Who Expected to become a good girl thanx to you and the next client. By the way that' s the past. Since I became husband and father in my late 40s i Lost all my interest into erotic stuff. Except sometimes when I was still an Active drinker and dirty fantasies came to my attention leaving a sense of guilt. There s not anything spiritual in my lack of Lust, I suspect Is Simply a lack of Energy and I don' t care or my mind tricks me pretending I don' t care.
I think sex creates the 3rd energy of the trilogy… we want to experience pleasure but we’re still these spiritual beings. We try to manipulate the system but we’re still subject to the rules in a sense. Hmm thank you for sharing! 🤔🙏☀️
Do you think or did you observe that some girls, after you had sex and were sharing a deep connection, after a while you'd decide to keep it platonic, and the girl would tend to leave the relationship and be more attracted by a new encounter that includes great sex + connection? I'm observing something like this in my 2+ years relationship. About two months ago I detached myself from sex and in resonance with your videos, something shifted in me. Made so much sense also because I need to create material stability, so I need all my life force, can't waste it in sex and lust at all. She was frustrated about it. Kind of aggressive in the way she talked. It almost felt like she was threatening me, like "if we can't have sex, I think we're done as a couple". I felt her defensive. Then, after some days and one more calmer confrontation, I felt we got closer because of the absence of sex. Though she met a guy 6 months ago (doing plant medicine), younger, bigger, stronger (maybe my insecurity is talking here haha but I thought I'd mention the physical difference cause it might matter in her behaviour). They shared great connection, amazing sex, and she says she feels like they're twin flames (some concept she didn't believe until recently as she felt insecure and she saw some comfort in believing it). I think I processed the sadness from the possibility of ending this relationship, she did as well at the same time. Though no, I think I'll probably feel more sadness when it happens. But the point is, I'm wondering if she might be living an illusion (well, sure, everything is an illusion) as she identified this new man as father material because of the sexual alchemy and the physical traits (he's not there materially though neither emotionally, for now). And I wonder if women can be kind of addicted to drama and strong feelings, because their relationship is not smooth. They're not 100% transparent. Sometimes he needs space and doesn't communicate much by writing, and she feels insecure in these moments. She told him to simply tell her when he needs space. Which is something she required previously when they were communicating heavily by text and voice memos. I guess her natural instinct - sexual instinct which is highly correlated to the biological program of being a mother - is strong and as you said in some video, there's nothing we can do as men if she wants a kid and we don't. We'll enjoy the friendship and intimacy nevertheless :) Keeping the best. Anyway... I'm quite detached from this. But I share it as I find it interesting. And I'm learning a lot with her in these years.
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Yash I’m making crazy gains in the gym from SR. I cannot stop looking at my arms but it’s making my insecurities worse…. Makes no sense I thought bigger arms would make me more secure, but I was more happy when I was a pencil
Yes, I can relate
I’m 27, I’ve come a long way but lust is a constant struggle. I have experienced that true relational platonic conversation with one of my coworkers. She’s also very spiritual and we’ll get into some awesome conversations and understanding. I feel no physical attraction to her so that makes it very easy. My goal is to be able to do that with any girl
stop watching video and playing with your self and your kill it
@@opticalman6417lol true but what about the the spritiual attacks
Absolutely nailed it. My platonic relationship with a good female friend of mine has my guy mates completely baffled, its hilarious actually. The purity of the relationship is incredibly powerful, deep.
Well said 👏🏻
Is there sexual tension there as well?
I used to be lost, and lived life unconsciously until I got to breaking point where I almost lost my life. But then i found God and have been on SR for 5months now, I don't even have an intention of sex till am married, I ve been committed to spiritual practice, am a christian, chasing my higher purpose but am still grappling with poverty, I barely eat two square meal(my business is still struggling), sometimes when I have a little money (which never really lasts) and be free for sometime, I see how beautiful my life could be, am more relaxed,compassionate and have good and more energy to give but when am struggling and broke, its like all hell let loose..it brings out all the negative thoughts, experiences, less confidence, low energy, and I never know why God chooses to make me go through so much pain even when am doing everything to live right.. The attacks is just too pronounced at this moment unlike when I was living in sin. Any night my house mate comes home with a random girl, I get these sleeping paralysis.
Stay strong my brother. God bless you 💗
I get you man. Somehow life seems harder when you decide to follow God’s path because you no longer have this escape things like porn, prostitutes, masturbation, casual sex, alcohol, etc. that seemingly help us relieve the pain we go through in life.
When we finally choose to follow God’s plan we basically embrace that suffering (hence carry our own crosses) full on, and it helps us realize just how much pain and suffering we had been escaping from for our entire lives.
We had been cowards for our entire lives. Sin and vices create the illusion that life was somehow easier or more manageable when we had them, we must never forget how lowly those things got us, we tend to forget those things, how close we came to destruction. Those things are a venom that acts slowly and doesn’t make us realize how horribly it is destroying us until it happens.
But there is hope with God. Even though life seems more difficult now without those sins and vices, there’s something I’m certain about, God is with me in every single process, God is holding me and telling me that no matter how hard the situation is, he is there and he won’t allow me to be destroyed, not like that, not how sins and vices were destroying me.
Process is tough but there is going to be redemption by brother. Trust in God. I’m suffering greatly as I write this, but trust in God. He is all and everything, bless you. Amen.
When you can't cover the struggle with anything, it gets really hard. I hope your business to grow, and I hope you get an easier experience with financial security🎉
@@JuanRamónSilva-Pianohomie we are in same situation. You just put tears on me right now with this message. Thanks my man. May God bless you🤗
Its gonna get better dude trust the process… its gonna take time but if you stay on SR everything will come your way
Perfect timing for this video…yeah there is something that happens after sex I think to me now it’s the wanting to connect in that way rather than just getting each other off,but there is something when it’s not acted upon on when there’s a lot of sexual tension between both people, it’s like constant foreplay that doesn’t go away…a ton of energy…
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Intimacy= "in to me see"
Thanks for your amazing videos ❤
yes. In fact, I was talking about it the other day with a friend of mine, that in mainstream society it is often said that the couples that are doing the best or are happiest are the ones that have the most s3x. Then however, you see that the vast majority of couples who base their relationship on the physical and relationships, at a time when one of those things is disturbed, it starts to shake the relationship.
However, we have observed that when you have less s3x with your partner, the relationship for some reason usually works much better, it's like on the one hand, when you do it, you get it with much more desire and you continue to see your partner sexually with that novelty with which you saw it at the beginning, which those who do it every day lose and when you do it, you do it with a purpose (such as having children), which makes it much more special. It makes you connect spiritually to the other person, which makes the relationship that much stronger.
I've followed you for awhile now, I really enjoy your talks but I have neglected to comment, I feel compelled to this time. I think it's important that you know that there are those of us who listen. Please keep on. Thanks
That's exactly how I feel too right now about to comment on this one again after some time
When I was 15, I got arrested and was in Juvie for 8 months. During that time, ONLY my platonic GFs came to see me and wrote me.
There's something to this phenomenon
good example!
Godamn bro you're shinning bright on this video, you got higher didn't ya? great content.
Neale Donald Walsch speaks at length in 'conversations with god book 1 chapter 8 page (121) ironically, "the purpose of relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see 'show up' not what part of another you can capture and hold.
There can be only one purpose for relationships - and for all of life: to be and decide who you really are" for example, i have found this chapter to be a continual concious reference, i am still attracted to high level healthy relation, and i am also (mostly) incredibly content alone.
That was spot on! Sex always changes the relationship. Have experienced the sweetness and high vibes of a plutonic relationship with a beautiful woman. Amazing!
There were a lot of arranged marriages in Ireland years ago and I've been told that they worked very well, thank you for the video,
It's funny that you bring this up because I have such a deep connection with plationc GFs than I ever have with romantic GFs
Dude Yash, I freaking love you man! I watch your videos pretty damn often probably 3-5 times a week. When im on the computer doing work, or in the gym. You're no Alan Watts or Ram Dass, but you sure have a lot of insight and understanding and humility and vulnerability to share your experiences. Definitely makes you more likable and relatable compared to the mysticism of gurus/putting one of a pedestal.
Video very much pertains to a situation im in and you pretty much validated my thoughts on it. Funny thing is i stumbled onto your video.
Right on, a topic I’ve been pondering about. Well said.
I used to have platonic relationships when I was younger, probably due to a mother complex. You are right. I didn't even have sex with her but brought the topic up which made things change. I don't even care anymore.
Nakedness inside, you are incredible at putting words to a feeling, thank you Yash!
Always hitting me in the heart. We have walked a very similar path. ❤
11:00 this exact situation just so happened to manifest itself into my life. I really needed to see this video. I’m reasonating with every thing you just explained, right now in my life 🙏🏽
Good talk jazz, so true, forget about the sex so you can free yourself from the anticipation of having sex and you get a better appreciation of the female energy
Intrestingly is that in Buddhism, gods (devas and devis) in heaven have sex with each other only in the lowest levels of heaven. As you go higher in the levels of heaven, couples dont have sex anymore, they hold hands and smile at each other. As you go higher, they dont even hold hands anymore, they only look at each other and smile. And even higher, they dont smile anymore, they only look at each other in the eyes. And the higher levels of heaven are supposed to be more pleasurable and pleasent than the lower ones.
yes 👍
Yes, and the devas in the lowest levels that do have sex, do so without ejaculating, there is only an exchange of energy (because devas aren't born in the way humans are).
Great video. Thank you.
This is a very insightful video because I seen it play out in real time! Now I was the type of person to avoid sex & Intimacy at all levels (Unfortunately My brain was polluted by pornography at age 12 still dealing with the repercussions of that). But I just felt like a creep like me having these desires made be have this deep rooted sense of shame and Embarassment. However one day I met this girl and she came up to me and we Hit it off. Things moved so quickly we became very vulnerable and I exposed my secrets that I never told anyone else irl. So to make a long story short I came to realize that she didn't really love me in the way I thought she did she slept with me (whilst having troubled past and being in a connection already mind you) and I just allowed it to happen. I never would've went for this type of connection at all before but for some reason this person was deadlocked on me and I'm still trying to figure it out. We eventually broke it off after 5 months and I'm still picking up the pieces to this day. Anyone got any insight on this?
We hit it off...things moved quickly...she could be covert narc...use caution when things move quickly....I have been burned
@@brokenwing8018 Yeah I know for next time. To be fair this was my first "Relationship" so I had no guidelines or expectations of what to expect from the connection.
@@jarryj1995 It may not be over...watch for the hoover... !! Dr. Ramani on YT has great info and insight if you suspect covert narc. Good luck.
This video helped me to frame my past experiences, thats how its helped me
Stubborn close minded individuals & pleasure driven boys won’t see what you’re saying or understand it but ik I definitely do
68 days no pmo
26 days SR
Retention FTW 🙌 💪🗣️🗣️🗣️
Yash I was just watching your video and you are such a beauty man. I just appreciate you very much
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The term pure and impure are duality.
Maybe it's not the fact that purity is lost maybe it's just that with sexual relationship the depth is much more so one person might have abandonment issues so emotionally manipulates another person to stay. Also someone might be controlling or abusive. Maybe sex is too much intimate and fear of losing another person comes in. sex brings forward the shadow side and insecurity in person. Relationship are meant for bringing forward toxic behaviour so that we can be aware of our trauma and cure them.
And in platonic friendship there is not much to lose. So things are not so serious. The thing is both are different and neither is pure and impure.
We should use healthy and intelligent discernment about who we choose to be involved with when sex brings these things up though
9:19 they help, for reviewing
We seem to share this trait as I have had just as many female friends as male. And yes, they tend to be more intimate with me... sometimes too much. But overall it is quite rewarding as you get a different perspective.
Thanks Yash. That really helped. Was thinking all last night about reaching out to a beautiful woman I had a great platonic relationship with a few years ago. Your video really put things in perspective.
Also, from the movies you reference, I think you would really enjoy the new Dev Patel Indian action movie - Monkey Man!
Love watching your video ❤
i know you can give me no answer but ive been going to spaa as youve suggested but the complusion to act out is strong not to mention edging and it makes my life unmanagable and its this cycle that i feel am at the mercy of, not really a question but what to do 🤣
Stay on the path! 💗
Pim-pu5dj said it!
Master yash,
Can you tell us what kundelini is and your experience with it in your sweet and simple words?
Its one of many expressions or paths that consciousness may experience as an expression of accelerated evolution or Self Realization
Could it be that the sex activates the biological software. Like the expectations and anxieties arising in preparation for having to raise a child together. Then some "distance" would be percieved as we revert from a purer connection to the more strategic "Earth survival game" software i.e how do i influence him to stay to increase the survival of this child. Just a thought that arose from what you said. Very interesting video and topic either way.
Great timing, i was just thinking the other day if it's ever necessary to have sex in a relationship.
Maybe people could hold off on sex until they understand each other and build up relationship habits then have sex and back off when there’s problems.
Hi Yash I have a question I'd be so grateful if you could help me with this! It's regarding blueballs I'm around 2 months in have spent the night with two girls without releasing but I get a serious case of blueballs is this just something that need to be worked through and transitioned? Thank you in advance Yash I appreciate all your brilliant advice if it wasn't for you I would of relapsed by now due to lack of knowledge sending you love and blessings brother ❤🙏🏻
the less sexually stimulated you become the less the blue balls. But you cant help getting stimulated because the sexual nature is deep. So you need to seek individual divine inner guidance in the moment how to navigate that and be patient with your progress.
@@BeyondTheAlchemythank you Yash! It is painful but I'm channeling the energy upwards it's a gradual process appreciate you brother ❤
@@marvinlang3777thank you brother ill do that too ❤
Do you think or did you observe that some girls, after you had sex and were sharing a deep connection, after a while you'd decide to keep it platonic, and the girl would tend to leave the relationship and be more attracted by a new encounter that includes great sex + connection?
I'm observing something like this in my 2+ years relationship. About two months ago I detached myself from sex and in resonance with your videos, something shifted in me. Made so much sense also because I need to create material stability, so I need all my life force, can't waste it in sex and lust at all. She was frustrated about it. Kind of aggressive in the way she talked. It almost felt like she was threatening me, like "if we can't have sex, I think we're done as a couple". I felt her defensive. Then, after some days and one more calmer confrontation, I felt we got closer because of the absence of sex.
Though she met a guy 6 months ago (doing plant medicine), younger, bigger, stronger (maybe my insecurity is talking here haha but I thought I'd mention the physical difference cause it might matter in her behaviour). They shared great connection, amazing sex, and she says she feels like they're twin flames (some concept she didn't believe until recently as she felt insecure and she saw some comfort in believing it). I think I processed the sadness from the possibility of ending this relationship, she did as well at the same time. Though no, I think I'll probably feel more sadness when it happens. But the point is, I'm wondering if she might be living an illusion (well, sure, everything is an illusion) as she identified this new man as father material because of the sexual alchemy and the physical traits (he's not there materially though neither emotionally, for now). And I wonder if women can be kind of addicted to drama and strong feelings, because their relationship is not smooth. They're not 100% transparent. Sometimes he needs space and doesn't communicate much by writing, and she feels insecure in these moments. She told him to simply tell her when he needs space. Which is something she required previously when they were communicating heavily by text and voice memos.
I guess her natural instinct - sexual instinct which is highly correlated to the biological program of being a mother - is strong and as you said in some video, there's nothing we can do as men if she wants a kid and we don't. We'll enjoy the friendship and intimacy nevertheless :) Keeping the best.
Anyway... I'm quite detached from this. But I share it as I find it interesting. And I'm learning a lot with her in these years.
Very good!
Good video ;)
I don't have comparision 🤷♂
At this point in my life sex, no doubt about it, it’s purpose is only to bring life, im sure you can figure out why it has pleasure in the mix but we some how figured out how to reverse engineer organic technology.
3:45 So you're saying it is possible to have casual sex without any energetic consequences, not even on a deep subconscious level? The possible energetic exchange is one of the many reasons I as a man don't participate in hook up culture, I do not want to take on any energy from a sexual partner that does not serve me, aside from the fact that I don't want to be led by pure lust. Never experienced sex outside of a loving relationship, it is simply not appealing to me. However I do want to understand the other side more to get a more complete perspective but that might be hard without having direct experience with it myself. Or maybe I already have all I need to know from past lives, I don't know haha. What are your thoughts about this?
that would take a bit of a lengthy conversation
@BeyondTheAlchemy too lengthy to make a video about it? 😉 haha I'll leave that up to you or rather The Divine 🙏🏽 I think it is a complex and controversial topic but oh so interesting.
I may get some side ways glances for this comment but he we go:
I wanted to experience sex at a time in my life where my options were very limited so I got a doll.
A quick internet search would reveal that current dolls are pretty realistic, and while a huge hassle, they did allow me to experience sex in a safe environment with little to no consequences.
I was then able to eventually let go and have been practicing SR to varying degrees of success for the past 9 months.
This is not advice! I'm merely providing my experience so universe might use it in a way to benefit someone.
yes the universe has no standards or mental concepts as to what is the “proper” way to do something or how to be free. Its all paradoxical and in the end whatever works at helping one to become free- Then so be it!
¿ How you doing Yash , I just wanted to interject . Between the sixth seventh minute you said that folks after sex tend not to care as much . I just believe that happens because after the act is over , it's like " mission complete ." With nothing more to achieve . Especially if you're not pursuing one for a higher purpose such as children or marriage . Okay , I just thought I'd share . Thanks for your wisdom . It's appreciated . Later
Hey Yash! Think you could make a vid on Money? I lost LOTS of it recently and would love to hear your perspective to help get me out of the occasional despair. Thanks
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@@BeyondTheAlchemy thanks!! Anything on the topic of material losses?
Hey Yash, Do you have any recommendations for a symptomatic tick bite?
u can try fasting or juicing for some days and see if it washes out the toxins from the system
@@BeyondTheAlchemy Thanks!
You once said you have a third channel on Shadow concepts, but I can't find it. What should I search for? Thanks
www.youtube.com/@transcendingshadows/videos
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It’s a double edged sword as with everything. But I think that’s what you call dualism.
Question, how do you deal with feeling a void or emptyness while on semen retention?
its a temporary sensation. Its because the mind is coming out of its habitual track and so this is the feeling it creates. It passes 👍
@@BeyondTheAlchemy I had a feeling i just needed to stand tall though it, thanks man much appreciated 🙏
When someone say to me that i dont understand what this enemy is all about because i am still a slave for them, what do i do??
Tell them you’re coming to understand in your own way and.nobody understands the enemy totally- that’s what this game of evolution is all about
Interesting info on devdasi women i didnt know about that then i googled it and they just say they are temple priestesses but it misses out the tantric sexual stuff, is it secret knowledge that they do that in south india or is it known widely over there ? Western accounts seem to skip over that part of devdasis
secret knowledge for sure.
the question one ones needs to be asking them self
why are you doing it and is it worth it
yes that video is coming next week in “extreme” way..:)
Thanks, Yash. I’m married and have a new electric platonic friendship. She says she likes both me and my wife. I know in Satsang you told someone in a similar situation to continue, but it feels like I’m playing with fire. Am I deluding myself to think it can remain platonic? It feels like a test from the universe with high stakes and my mind is afraid of failing.
“ It feels like a test from the universe with high stakes and my mind is afraid of failing.”
Yes thats what it is. But what to do if thats the assignment. Stay present and super open to divine power to guide ur thoughts and actions and perceptions and allow u to see the broader outcome and consequences of any actions u take 👍
Hey yash, been aggressively trying to quit porn&masturbation for awhile now, been on the cycle of relapsing and starting over. I think it’s time for me to look for some guidance been thinking about therapy but there is a small number of male therapist in my area and they are not accepting new clients. Is there anyway we can speak? I want to rid myself of this demon once and for all, porn and masturbation are the main things holding me back in life.
You can see my website link for information about that (the link is in the video description box.
One thing I did that changed my life which has led me to my streak of 35 days which is probably the longest I’ve went this year is simply fulfill your purpose. By this I mean give you things that give you healthy dopamine for me it’s spending time with dogs and helping people out as well as gardening. Find what brings you that warmth and love. If you’re into religion dive deep into it while on retention. But simply trying to do retention and playing video games all day or scrolling on social media will not mix together. I unplugged my PS4 and next thing yk my streak evolved into me being more present and confident. Hopefully my testimony can you help you out. Also don’t beat yourself up when you relapse. Life is about the journey not the destination. Have a good day soldier.
Yeah I don't do female friends. Aside from in groups. I don't see a reason for a man to hang out alone with a women if their not pursuing them.
I can see some reasons. To receive the female energy, to give the male energy, to connect to them beyond the male/female roles, to awaken higher after they trigger something in you that causes you to look at it better when it might have been hidden or dormant before...I can go on
I've never had a platonic relationship with a woman before. I tried, but I've never been attracted to a woman and tried being her friend first.
Also, when a woman likes me I don't friendzone her because I thought that was cruel. Plus she's lose attraction and move on anyway.
is that your real hair ?
..:) OF course..
Wouldn’t you be even closer after sex considering you both care about each other?
I think that's what he was talking about when he said that if you want to have kids/family and all that, then yeah it can be a good thing. But also on a more subtle level, I think he's saying that sometimes when you have sex, it's like now you have all these expectations of the other person's role, and you can actually stop seeing them as clearly for who they are and instead you form a mental concept of who they "should" be after sex...hence all the issues that can start happening.
“image word” said it👍
Is it different when you have tantric sex with a girl? Thank you Yash 🙏🏽 And I feel like the way you explained it is exactly the way how this video helps people.
u can see this playlist about tantra:
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@@BeyondTheAlchemy thank you 🙏🏽
How do you see god, is it good is it maybe beyond good and bad?? I see it the last way, beyond concepts, but i want to see your opinion, and if its good how can he allow bad things to happend? I just dont know, i want to know what is this evil force or enemy that some people talk about
It’s way beyond
Hi Yash, hope you're able to read this, I recently had sex with a girl I really wanna be friends with, we ended up doing it. I feel a little bit of regret since we did it intoxicated with alcohol. I still want to be able to continue this friendship with her but there seem to be just a little bit of awkwardness ever since we had sex. Do I continue with this friendship and just control myself and make it more wholesome for the next few months? Should that fix it? I need your advice.
its out of ur hands. Our whole life is actually. Just be present in the moment and see how inner feeling and guidance directs you to speak and act with her and then let it all unfold.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy Thank you so much.
i intuitively know what youre saying is true but will i have the strengh to say no to sex? im only 20 but ive slept with over 20 women and i feel like im done intellectually but i still have some desires or unrealized fantasies, but like i know they are empty i already know even though i never did them, i also feel like im gonna stop masturbating very very soon. im so done with it i dont even wanna do it. i wouldve failed twice yesterday but something just happened to where i was like no i dont wanna do this. somethign that hasnt happened the last 9 months i was struggling with this pmo. felt like i didnt do it. i still edge tho because it is so subtle but i keep catching myself. im guessing i will meet a self realized girl when iam truly self realized and theres no more internal battle or pull to do what i already know is empty. i just wanna be free of this so bad. imagine a life where girls arent constantly on my mind. i already know how lovely it is to just sit in nature for hours and i can do this in perfect peace because ive already quit like 80% of my addictions and im really balanced. imagine life free of this as well. i already get flashbacks to certain states when i was a child again because iam literally becoming a child once again. at least feeling like it. things look like i looked at them for the first time, im amazed at trees and birds and im in heaven. i didnt think this was possible, its beautiful every second spent in awareness is blissful and a present which fills you up with love. its like i recognize the gift therefore the gifter therefore the love which i receive and idk it makes me tear up sometimes when im just sitting there.
This is the exact state I want to reach but just seems so difficult. Like why I was born into a society that's so sex driven? I want the Innocence I had as child when sexual things were so devoid from my thoughts. This Body feels like a prison and I desperately want to escape the cycles but I continue to fail over and over again.
Ha! Of course "totally honest and open" does not get you laid. Women want to have sex with a fantasy that's been sold to them by social media, not the real you.
I think sex is only for procreation and not recreation
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Yes, Better the message parlors. In the bars there were too many prostitutes Who Expected to become a good girl thanx to you and the next client. By the way that' s the past.
Since I became husband and father in my late 40s i Lost all my interest into erotic stuff. Except sometimes when I was still an Active drinker and dirty fantasies came to my attention leaving a sense of guilt.
There s not anything spiritual in my lack of Lust, I suspect Is Simply a lack of Energy and I don' t care or my mind tricks me pretending I don' t care.
I think sex creates the 3rd energy of the trilogy… we want to experience pleasure but we’re still these spiritual beings. We try to manipulate the system but we’re still subject to the rules in a sense. Hmm thank you for sharing! 🤔🙏☀️
Yes its true!
Do you think or did you observe that some girls, after you had sex and were sharing a deep connection, after a while you'd decide to keep it platonic, and the girl would tend to leave the relationship and be more attracted by a new encounter that includes great sex + connection?
I'm observing something like this in my 2+ years relationship. About two months ago I detached myself from sex and in resonance with your videos, something shifted in me. Made so much sense also because I need to create material stability, so I need all my life force, can't waste it in sex and lust at all. She was frustrated about it. Kind of aggressive in the way she talked. It almost felt like she was threatening me, like "if we can't have sex, I think we're done as a couple". I felt her defensive. Then, after some days and one more calmer confrontation, I felt we got closer because of the absence of sex.
Though she met a guy 6 months ago (doing plant medicine), younger, bigger, stronger (maybe my insecurity is talking here haha but I thought I'd mention the physical difference cause it might matter in her behaviour). They shared great connection, amazing sex, and she says she feels like they're twin flames (some concept she didn't believe until recently as she felt insecure and she saw some comfort in believing it). I think I processed the sadness from the possibility of ending this relationship, she did as well at the same time. Though no, I think I'll probably feel more sadness when it happens. But the point is, I'm wondering if she might be living an illusion (well, sure, everything is an illusion) as she identified this new man as father material because of the sexual alchemy and the physical traits (he's not there materially though neither emotionally, for now). And I wonder if women can be kind of addicted to drama and strong feelings, because their relationship is not smooth. They're not 100% transparent. Sometimes he needs space and doesn't communicate much by writing, and she feels insecure in these moments. She told him to simply tell her when he needs space. Which is something she required previously when they were communicating heavily by text and voice memos.
I guess her natural instinct - sexual instinct which is highly correlated to the biological program of being a mother - is strong and as you said in some video, there's nothing we can do as men if she wants a kid and we don't. We'll enjoy the friendship and intimacy nevertheless :) Keeping the best.
Anyway... I'm quite detached from this. But I share it as I find it interesting. And I'm learning a lot with her in these years.