This is so true. I grew up with a narc father and everything was always so unstable. He was like a dark cloud in that things got brighter when he’d leave.
This is my current challenge! Thank you! My challenge is clearer! I’m planning on changing my life and I’m STILL fighting those narc voices in my head!
Thank you Renee! ❤ To everyone listening and relating...for those that feel this really hit.... You are not alone! We CAN reprogram and live our best lives....beyond this BS we were taught! 💖
I realized recently this has been a part of my life. Very beautifully said. Literally had tears streaming listening to this. I had done so well working through the childhood issues, then my marriage went south, I left and he brutally killed himself. The last message was incredibly cruel with details on how and who he cheated on me with, nearly the entire time, I had no idea. It was like all the childhood trauma was right back and more. Found a therapist, have my 3rd session next week. It’s hard seeing the sun when the clouds are so dark. Thank you for your video.
Thank you for this, I thought I was a freak of nature for always reminding myself to not be too happy not laugh too much. Or I’ll jinx myself into something bad. Apparently I’m not alone in this insanity..
Thank you for clarifying with so much grace the negative effects of not understanding happiness. Just when I thought I understood what happiness looks and feels like I now see how distorted it was. You save me and thank you for speaking to the little girl in me, that was stuck at the crossroads confuse and trying to create happiness while not knowing what happiness is supposed to look and feel like. Thanks you for taking that little girl hands and guiding her from the crossroad.
this was so absolutely spot on for me. It is like you were there during my childhood. I wonder if you would do a tapping sequence for this issue (including guilt for feeling happy as well as the fears and patterning you so correctly named. THANK YOU! your videos are wonderful.
One of the best informative video I come across, thank you I really appreciate it. Note: Even if feeling happy/ joyful is hard, sit with it, don't fight, be comfortable with being uncomfortable, you're teaching yourself a new habit, it's all gonna be worth it, even if not now, do it for your future self & the next generation.
I awoke today so down with the worthless tapes running telling me I’m too old to pursue returning to massage therapy. It was so hard to say to myself I am worthy, I’m not too old and to broken. I cried for hours then prayed that my mom’s ghost stop haunting my soul. The echoes quieted. Minute by minute. Difficult. Thank for this video.
They teach me how to destroy myself, and then blamed me for being a doormat! I was not taught how to manage money and blamed for not being as good as her at managing money. I know I’m holding the shame in my body and I’m learning how to find it and release it! You help Miss Renee! More than you know!
My family ripped me apart wheb i was little they still living in joy for what they did to me, and they live with so much satisfaction that they destroyed an innocent child
Thankyou ❤ very insightful! I realised I’ve been afraid of feeling joy. I have been afraid to surrender to the divine and be held in the love and safety of Mother Earth and know on an instinctual level that I am safe. Thankyou. I now know the reason why and I’m ready to grow into fulfilment 😁💕🤩
I love your channel, I love the soft, gentle, compassionate way you present and share these insights. I feel as though I'm sitting & listening to my dearest friend, a sister, someone who deeply knows and understands how I feel. Someone who's been there and found her way out with a loving, compassionate, heart in tact if not polished like gold in the fire of adversity. You're a role model, of which I have so precious few. My happiness dilemma: while there was chronic, ongoing, abuse of a loved one (grandchild, child, parent) I felt like I would not only be abandoning them in their misery, but a proxy in their abuse unless I devote my life commiserating with them until there's a happy outcome and I can celebrate with them. It has to do with the pain I felt/feel as an unwanted 3rd girl before "the boy" Middle/Lost/Invisible/Scapegoated child watching my siblings and everyone else 'being happy', playing games, pursuing adventures, having friends even doing things they shouldn't for 'fun' while I kept to myself, none of them even taking notice of my exclusions. If I were asked to join in it was likely because they needed someone as an 'enemy' in their games so I declined and kept to myself in solitary activities (reading, drawing, playing alone, daydreaming of another life & organizing. I loved organizing. Still do). I also have a kind of enmeshment with the scapegoated, misfits in my family. Their freedom and ultimate happiness is what would make me happy. I would do anything in my power to make their journey a little easier after having experienced a lifetime in that trap. What I now realize is that it is only by setting my focus on my own healing & therapy that I have a chance of helping first myself and possibly my loved ones. I hope to someday be able to talk with them as openly, truthfully, and compassionately as I experience you speaking to me.
Justified, or fakin it till you make it. The creator granted us the inailianable right/obligation to the pursuit of happiness. Lemmings follow each other even if.😮
There is a narcissist in every family. I am an Indian. I have a narcissist father. I married an Austrian and went to live with his family. His father was a narcissist. There is no escape. My father made my brother a narcissist. Is there an ent to this Renee? I love your videos. Thank you 🙏
Oh anytime i had any good milestone or any joy, i was demolished wayyy past whatever joy or milestone id experienced. I was destroyed and debased by my own family
What if it’s a long term marriage to a person with the narcissistic disorder? Would it feel hard or weird to be happy with a healthy relationship after that long history with the narcissist?
This is so true. I grew up with a narc father and everything was always so unstable. He was like a dark cloud in that things got brighter when he’d leave.
This is my current challenge! Thank you! My challenge is clearer! I’m planning on changing my life and I’m STILL fighting those narc voices in my head!
Many don’t even recognise that a fear of success and happiness is a thing but it most certainly is. Great video. Thank you.
Thank you Renee! ❤
To everyone listening and relating...for those that feel this really hit.... You are not alone! We CAN reprogram and live our best lives....beyond this BS we were taught! 💖
I realized recently this has been a part of my life. Very beautifully said. Literally had tears streaming listening to this. I had done so well working through the childhood issues, then my marriage went south, I left and he brutally killed himself. The last message was incredibly cruel with details on how and who he cheated on me with, nearly the entire time, I had no idea. It was like all the childhood trauma was right back and more. Found a therapist, have my 3rd session next week. It’s hard seeing the sun when the clouds are so dark. Thank you for your video.
Thank you for this, I thought I was a freak of nature for always reminding myself to not be too happy not laugh too much. Or I’ll jinx myself into something bad. Apparently I’m not alone in this insanity..
Yes!
Thank you for clarifying with so much grace the negative effects of not understanding happiness. Just when I thought I understood what happiness looks and feels like I now see how distorted it was. You save me and thank you for speaking to the little girl in me, that was stuck at the crossroads confuse and trying to create happiness while not knowing what happiness is supposed to look and feel like. Thanks you for taking that little girl hands and guiding her from the crossroad.
this was so absolutely spot on for me. It is like you were there during my childhood. I wonder if you would do a tapping sequence for this issue (including guilt for feeling happy as well as the fears and patterning you so correctly named. THANK YOU! your videos are wonderful.
One of the best informative video I come across, thank you I really appreciate it.
Note: Even if feeling happy/ joyful is hard, sit with it, don't fight, be comfortable with being uncomfortable, you're teaching yourself a new habit, it's all gonna be worth it, even if not now, do it for your future self & the next generation.
Nailed it! Thank you so much xoxo
Thank you 🌸
You are a gift to the world ❤️
I awoke today so down with the worthless tapes running telling me I’m too old to pursue returning to massage therapy. It was so hard to say to myself I am worthy, I’m not too old and to broken. I cried for hours then prayed that my mom’s ghost stop haunting my soul. The echoes quieted.
Minute by minute. Difficult.
Thank for this video.
They teach me how to destroy myself, and then blamed me for being a doormat! I was not taught how to manage money and blamed for not being as good as her at managing money. I know I’m holding the shame in my body and I’m learning how to find it and release it! You help Miss Renee! More than you know!
thanks of the awareness!
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Currently dealing with this. Thank you for the validation that my feelings are real & okay. Thank you 🙏🏼
My family ripped me apart wheb i was little they still living in joy for what they did to me, and they live with so much satisfaction that they destroyed an innocent child
Thankyou ❤ very insightful! I realised I’ve been afraid of feeling joy. I have been afraid to surrender to the divine and be held in the love and safety of Mother Earth and know on an instinctual level that I am safe. Thankyou. I now know the reason why and I’m ready to grow into fulfilment 😁💕🤩
All that I can say is that this video is amazing! Thanks so much.
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏
So much love to you for creating such amazing content! I hope you will continue 🥰
❤️🥺🙏🏻 Thank you! This was so needed ❤️❤️❤️
I love your channel, I love the soft, gentle, compassionate way you present and share these insights. I feel as though I'm sitting & listening to my dearest friend, a sister, someone who deeply knows and understands how I feel. Someone who's been there and found her way out with a loving, compassionate, heart in tact if not polished like gold in the fire of adversity. You're a role model, of which I have so precious few.
My happiness dilemma: while there was chronic, ongoing, abuse of a loved one (grandchild, child, parent) I felt like I would not only be abandoning them in their misery, but a proxy in their abuse unless I devote my life commiserating with them until there's a happy outcome and I can celebrate with them. It has to do with the pain I felt/feel as an unwanted 3rd girl before "the boy" Middle/Lost/Invisible/Scapegoated child watching my siblings and everyone else 'being happy', playing games, pursuing adventures, having friends even doing things they shouldn't for 'fun' while I kept to myself, none of them even taking notice of my exclusions. If I were asked to join in it was likely because they needed someone as an 'enemy' in their games so I declined and kept to myself in solitary activities (reading, drawing, playing alone, daydreaming of another life & organizing. I loved organizing. Still do).
I also have a kind of enmeshment with the scapegoated, misfits in my family. Their freedom and ultimate happiness is what would make me happy. I would do anything in my power to make their journey a little easier after having experienced a lifetime in that trap. What I now realize is that it is only by setting my focus on my own healing & therapy that I have a chance of helping first myself and possibly my loved ones. I hope to someday be able to talk with them as openly, truthfully, and compassionately as I experience you speaking to me.
May god bless you you're so wise and intelligent. This helped me a lot 🥺❤️
So true! 😢
Thank you so much Renee for this video and all that you do. I really appreciate you.
I love you😭😭😭😭😭
Could u do tapping for this issue??
thank you x 100000
Thanks you for this video
Justified, or fakin it till you make it. The creator granted us the inailianable right/obligation to the pursuit of happiness.
Lemmings follow each other even if.😮
❤❤❤ appreciated.
There is a narcissist in every family. I am an Indian. I have a narcissist father. I married an Austrian and went to live with his family. His father was a narcissist. There is no escape. My father made my brother a narcissist. Is there an ent to this Renee?
I love your videos. Thank you 🙏
Nice
Oh anytime i had any good milestone or any joy, i was demolished wayyy past whatever joy or milestone id experienced. I was destroyed and debased by my own family
What if it’s a long term marriage to a person with the narcissistic disorder? Would it feel hard or weird to be happy with a healthy relationship after that long history with the narcissist?
Someone help me with this... Or I might go mad.