We missed EJ & FJ talks. Good to see FJ. EJ had me laughing when she said "Walmart is on fire. I'm an honorary member and have to go spray something" 🤣🤣🤣
Amen, more friends ask me for money than family. It make it very difficult to even share promotions and raises with folk, bc they can start all of a sudden being an unsolicited CPA😆.
My family pet peeve is when my mother tells the rest of the family my business. Whether it’s good or bad they always know before I announce anything. Ughh !! For instance, she was the first to tell everyone about my pregnancy , they knew that my daughters father passed away (he was estranged), and they knew that I was moving. I’m like… how in the…. Do y’all know this. It can only be one person smh 🤦♀️
Personally I consider it a sign of lack of respect especially when you are an adult. Just because you are my mother doesn't mean that I'm less of a person and that my feelings doesn't matter.
I felt it when EJ said "I'm drained." Being a natural giver myself, I felt that on a whole other level. One thing I have noticed is that takers don't really have a limit, so it's crucial for a giver to know when to say no, which is something I'm learning to do now. You can't always save everybody, as much as you may want to, you can't
People don’t like being asked on a daily for money! They will avoid you cause everytime you come around , they are going to be like here she comes, I wonder how much she gon ask me for this time... it is draining and frustrating cause then the question becomes, what are they doing with their money ? Idk 🤷♀️
Biggest family pet peeve: they would “volunteer “ me to babysit! Like “oh, she ain’t got no kids, all she do is stay in the house!” Ummmmm?🤔 Why in the hell would I wanna keep some kids that YOU try’na avoid? Oh that pisses me off! 🤬🤬🤬🤬
A family member of mine made the mistake of popping up unannounced after a two hour drive and when he showed up, I left through the back door with my phone on silent and disappeared from the house for the rest of the day (It was an errand day, so I just went and did those). He ain’t never tried that shit again without giving me at least 24 hours notice.
A girlfriend I have known for years pulled this stunt earlier this year. She and her husband were on the road and decided to make a stop in town and because she saw a few people while here, she thought it would be okay to come by. I gave her some kind of excuse like I was not at home or something. She wanted to be insistent and I told her next time perhaps. She hasn't tried that again.🤨
God bless that back door 😂! I wish I had that luxury! I was house-sitting for a relative once and someone (it could only have been either a particular guy or particular girl) turned up at 4am and rang the buzzer to the block a few dozen times. When I didn’t respond, they rang a neighbour’s buzzer, who let them into the block, and they spent over 30mins knocking on the door and flipping the letterbox trying to get in. Lord, I wished I had a back door that day! I couldn’t even leave the room to pee because the letterbox & peephole faced the hallway which led to every room in the house. It was either the girl - who was couch-surfing at the time - or the guy, who hadn’t been laid in ages and knew I’d be there alone and was on a predatory vibe 🥺
Definitely A: Popping Up unannounced 1. You don’t know if I want company 2. I could not be at home 3. I could be having family time 4. May not be feeling well 5. The list could go on and on
Less than 30 seconds in and I’m laughing, thank you Mr. and Mrs. J😂😆🤣💀! My biggest family pet peeve is my family being worried about my marital status and uterus😶😆😆😆
I'm 42 people still on that baby shit....I told yall at 13 I was never having them Lord. I got married 10 yrs ago. We invited 25 people a piece. Some folks still didn't know 3 yrs in. Most found out f=om FB Pics WE didn't post but u know....nig$#@ or us with wedding rings on....the shock like we ode the world info They know when it's for them to know. Don't ask me nothing. I hope u marry and reproduce and they be late on all the news😂💯🤷🏾♀️
I don't even answer the door. I've had friends knock for 30 minutes, peep through windows and try to open doors, because I will not answer pop-ups. I will have my tv blasting and as loud as I want to be or quiet as I want to be. I don't pretend that I'm not home because I'm a whole grown-up and don't owe any explanations as to why I don't want to answer the door. That is utter disrespect to me. Rude. I have a house phone, cell phone and several email addresses; don't pop up 😂 And I'm tired of people asking me for money. Just because I'm retired at 39 doesn't mean I want to pass it out. I get asked for money at least twice a month. My "I ain't e-much got it" game is stronger than ever. 😂 I used to give hundreds and thousands of dollars to ungrateful people, now I'm like, "I ain't e-much got it". 😂
You sound Just like me. I use to loan hundreds and thousands. Never was paid back. I use to treat to things but was treated to little or nothing. I retired early at 46 due to health related issues. People act like I retired because I won the lottery. I'm drained and I'm done. Only about me and my kids now.
Taking stuff without asking! My sister does this and it angers me often! Every time I purchase something I don’t intend to share it. When I finally told her it bothers me her response was “I didn’t think I had to ask.” My response was “if you don’t purchase it do not touch it.” Now she has to replace whatever she eats, drinks, or takes without asking me. I let it go on too long and I didn’t realize she had no respect for me or my stuff.
Anyone can pop up but you won’t get in! I remember one time when a family member of mines stopped by unannounced and I was sitting in my living room with the shades open. It was a nice day and I just finished cleaning the house so I decided to kick my feet up and watch television. He knocked on the door then the window because he could see me in my living room chilling. I didn’t miss a thing that was being said on the TV because I never acknowledged that azz. Needless to say he never stopped by unannounced again and he tells everybody don’t stop by NeNe’s house if she didn’t invite you cause you’re not getting in😃
My biggest pet peeve just popping up. Maybe I'm burrowing under my top sheet and 2 comforters. Now, I gotta see what you want AND fuss because you didn't call. 🙄
EJ the family talk show host! Love y’all but please don’t pop up unannounced, EJ. Better call first, friend!😂😂 See, it all starts at popping up unannounced because now that you’re here unannounced in my space, you might ask for money or take something I didn’t say you could borrow.😂
Taking things without asking is my biggest pet peeve. Growing up as the oldest of the three girls my sisters always “borrowed” my stuff. I hated going to look for something and it wasn’t there because one of them had “borrowed” it. Yes, I’m still slightly traumatized. 😑
I'm youngest of 7 and everybody took my stuff without asking, including my parents. I'm also traumatized, my answer to anyone wanting to borrow something of mine is always a hard no.
Popping up unannounced: You're asking to be left at the door looking crazy. Being in my personal business: If I don't tell you, you don't need to know. Taking my "stuff" without asking: I hope you're not attached to your fingers.
Mine is when my family keep asking me when I'ma have some kids. Or try to sneak diss me because I don't have any......Ok. am I obligated to have kids?? That mess get on my last nerve😂 out of the choices EJ gave, it would be taking things without asking
You better live your life! I'm just glad you're not treating your seed like a garden and planting everywhere! Plant your seed(s) where it's going to be nurtured and in the right season. If this ain't your season, then go buy dolls for everyone that asks about a baby then ask them to babysit your hypothetical (doll) baby. 😂😂
And they'll keep coming up with versions. 'Why are breastfeeding? Why aren't you breastfeeding? Oh, you're too involved...let the child do what she wants. Lord, why don't you know what you're baby's up to?' Etc. Etc. And the it's all 'when is your cild getting married? When is she gonna have a baby?" 😬
I am 100% with you EJ. DO NOT ASK ME FOR MONEY. Especially not some so-called loan. People who know me, already know to respect themselves and not to utter that questions cause I GOT QUESTIONS which will justify my NO in the end.
My biggest family pet peeve is my mother used to tell my business to others before I was ready for them to know. I solved that by tailoring what I share with her. Popping up unannounced doesn’t bother me because I won’t answer the door 🤷🏾♀️.
Lol yup. I've moved to another city two hours away and I need to spend some holidays at my own house please and thanks. Or I know they don't mean any harm asking us to come over on Thanksgiving but it means you assume I'm not cooking. I'm grown I'm cooking on Thanksgiving myself even if it's just a little something.
I’m the queen of having family members knock on my door, my blinds are open, they see me, I see them, and I just sit on my couch and continue to drink my juice. Cause you ain’t call me and ask to come over….
My biggest family pet peeve is asking for our time on the weekends. We feel obligated to go to a family event. My husband and I work full time jobs and we have 4 children (aged 18,12,8 and 4 at home (it's a total of 5 tho he is 23). Our life is busy every day don't ask us to come to your baby's 1 year old birthday party. Lol..The weekends are all we got awesome topic.. love it Ej and Fj.
Mine is when the older folk think they can say whatever to you. And then say I don’t mean no harm. When I was younger you could have got away with it cause I had respect. But I’m in my 30’s now Aunt Lucy you can get this work too.
I don't have to deal with any of the things mentioned in this video BUT, I certainly have a pet peeve!! I hate when folks ask me to take them somewhere! Ugh!!!!!! For me that's the worst! I always end up waiting for the person, they have 6 places they need to go "real quick", and they think cars run on love. 😂😂
Popping up unannounced without a doubt is my biggest pet peeve. I had to ask some family members to please stop doing it as it was getting out of hand and stressing me out
I got so tired of my family asking me when was I going to have a baby. Now that's father time has ended that. It's when are you getting married. WHEN I GET MARRIED I SAID!!
I love this. It shows what FJ and EJ are comfortable with. I’m with FJ, don’t show up at my place unannounced. I am comfortable with the “no’s”. We all have our own boundaries.🤷🏽♀️ Thanks, EJ and FJ.
I just moved on the same street as my mother and sister. Had to let them know “don’t knock on my door without calling first; you will be standing there!”
6:16 to 6:40 This part! I used to help folks with a giving heart ...remembering when I didn't have or just needed help (as the last resort) for something. I always paid folks back. A switch clicked after I asked for some money one time from one of the few that used to asked me all the time. That is when I woke up and had to tell everyone no from that point. To this day, only one person has paid me back. No attempt from others to even mention some type of payback plan. It is not even about the money but about the type of person one is that can ask but then forget (or don't even care). It is true what they say. Only give what you can afford to lose. Actually, just say no.
This is a great discussion! My biggest family pet peeve is when my in-laws pop up at our house. Not only do they pop up, but they are from another state so we feel obligated to let them in and they stay for a few days SMH. This always ruins our weekend
What does your hubby say to his parents? Lord I had the best In-laws. They would never when we used to live in the same state. We moved to another state. My mother only visited our home 1 time in the seven years we lived as a married couple in the same state.
We need MORE of these talks. I absolutely ADORE y'all. EJ, you are my favorite TH-camr HANDS DOWN and I love and look forward to your videos and I LOVE when you and Hubby do these. Please do more!!!! I love you guys 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Asking for money. I had a family member always asking for money, but I didn't have extra to lend. I would explain I needed back by a certain time and she always swore I would have it, but I had to harass her to get it. Once she didn't get it back to me for 6 months I finally cut her off completely. Peace of mind at last
Turns out my friend was texting me for money as I was watching this video. I live in a new state and recently lost my job but I told her I’ll try to “scrape something together”. Then she texted me at 7a asking if I’m up, she knows daggone well I’m up Lol I blame myself, I should’ve flat out said no 🤦🏾♀️
My BIGGEST FAMILY PET PEEVE is when they say their coming to family functions and then don't show up. If you're in charge with bringing the potato salad or the extra chairs GIVE A SISTA A HEADS UP SO I CAN GET A BACK UP!!! I understand things come up and you have an emergency but every family function. STOP IT!! Or if you're asking us to include you in the head count when making reservations at the restaurant and you don't show that's rude & awkward. Another family pet peeve is when you airing family drama on the "Obama's Internet" better known as FACEBOOK..WHY SWAY WHY??? THAT'S THE MOST CRAZIEST THING EVER BUT YOU DON'T TELL WHAT YOU DO??? NOW THAT'S STUPID..As you can see I get upset 😡 over this craziness 🤣🤣
the money part always gets me. When I started making grown folks money and posting my travels overseas on social media, all kinds of cousins and aunts that I hadn't seen or talked to in YEARS were suddenly sliding into my DM's asking for money. One BROKE DRUNCLE asked for $8,000, knowing GOOD N WELL he didn't have the means to pay it back. Luckily I can block them and have no issues.
It's assuming, because I'm retired, I'm available (or want) to babysit, dog sit, house sit, go get this/that/the other, pick-up little Susie/Tommy. I don't. That it; that's all.
Popping up unannounced is the worst. I just done open the door. Car be sitting out front, tv all loud, looking at me through the window and I still ain’t moving. Call me before you get dressed to leave so I can tell you to stay at home. But I love them though 🤣🤣
I get so offended if someone takes without asking. I’ll give people so much, but be respectful and ASK me first. I may say no for a reason. That truly upsets me 😡
My sister called me to talk about a cousin of ours whom she(my sister)tried a pop-up visit on; she thought because she drove from Georgia visiting our home town in Blytheville, Arkansas that it was ok to just drop by to see his new house. He came to the door and told her they were not having company that day and advised her to call him when she wanted to visit instead of popping up, he said goodbye and closed the door. She was pissed! I laughed so hard!! Of course didn't see what was funny and then proceeded to talk about him and his wife. I cut her off mid sentence and told her I would've did the same thing, he was well within his rights as THE HOME OWNER! He don't need nobody's permission to not let you in sweetie.
Money! Sometimes family make u feel like ur house is bugged or something cause whenever u have just lil bit extra don’t matter if it’s 5 or 10 dollars someone is callin asking for that exact amount
Mine is walking off with things and not asking!!! All of the other issues can be addressed with assertiveness and boundaries but a THIEF!?! I can't stand to have something come up missing that I want or need in that moment 😣
I’m gonna have to say my biggest pet peeve is when they try and insert me into their drama. I come from a very messy dramatic family who seems to want to fight all year then come together at funerals and holidays like nothing ever happened. That doesn’t work for me. I’d rather co exist drama free and move in love or not at all. That’s just me though.
Yessss! Exactly! Like no I dont actually want to know or care anything about your drama! Please leave me out of everything!!!! E'rrrythang!! I want to miss all of the drama. And also, if you rope me into the drama and then talk to everyone as normal--im not even going to start on that one
Preach on it! When I finally moved out on my own out from around all that drama, I completely distanced myself from all of them and now sometimes go a couple of years in between seeing any of them and I'm fine with that!
You & me both! I just commented somewhere that I’m in a situation of my own and my friend texted me for money last night. I told her my situation but said I’ll try to get her something. She was on my line at 7a That’s what I get! Shoulda said no and just shut it down
I could be sitting on my porch and someone pop up announced. Will get a hello and goodbye all in one breath… And Lordt knows don’t ask for me money as I have mastered in the last year the art of NO with no explanation… point blank period😃
The older I've gotten, the easier things have become for me. (a) Popping up unannounced- I will leave you outside (I don't care who you are) (b) Asking for money -NO! (That's a complete sentence, no explanation needed) (c) Being in your personal business- You tell mine, Imma tell yours! (d) Taking things without asking- you won't get invited back to my house again (unless you're my sister)
Being in my business I think. Because it feels like it's always the ones who don't come around and don't talk to me that have A Thought about whatever is going on with me. Like I don't consider my mama as being in my business when she says something or asks me a question. That's care and interest. But people who don't come around, don't call, don't nothing? They can shut their mouths. It stresses me out so much to have, like an aunt who's not spoken to me a handful of times in the past decade express an opinion about my disability or ask when I'm going to get married or anything else really. Just because you're family doesn't mean you're not strangers.
My pet peeve is the same as EJ. Particularly those family members who ONLY call when they need money. Literally months between communications. No texts, no emails, not even a meme. But when they do pick up the phone it's because they want or need something...usually money. You're right. It's exhausting.
My biggest family pet peeve is people showing up unannounced. My house may not be as clean as I would like to visitors. I think the second the is borrowing things without asking. Then there are some relatives who don’t return what they borrowed.
These comments make me love and appreciate my family even more than I already do!! My family doesn’t do this either but my pet peeve would likely be asking for money because who really has disposable income these days to be giving away? Any extra dollars need to be going to Savings Retirement or Emergency funds. We have a few friends that ask for money but it don’t be our families.
E. When I’m talking to YOU and you hand the phone to THEM!!😡🤬 example: having conversation with mom, aunt or brother and I say “how is such and such (your boyfriend, wife etc) and you “here they is” and Just PUT THEM ON THE PHONE!! I 👏🏼 Did 👏🏼 Not 👏🏼 ask 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 speak 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 THEM! I have now started hanging up as IF we got disconnected 🙄
My grandmother gathered my aunt, uncle his wife and his two kids one Christmas to show up around eight in the morning. This was after calling to tell my dad (not ask him) that they were coming over. Dad said no, please don’t come here, everybody had been up late, he and mom were exhausted etc etc we’re going to bed. But I guess she thought she would bully her way inside. Let me tell you how pissed they all were that they weren’t allowed in. I get it from my dad, lmao I’m an introvert don’t show up at my house unannounced, you will be ignored.
One of my biggest family pet peeves is when some want you to cross oceans for them, when they won't even jump over a puddle for you.
Chile.....
This is my life. I couldn't even get a ride to work from the same people who hit me up for gas money when I'm not even riding.
Oooooooh weeeeee I know people like that!!! Awesome comment
Good analogy! 🙋🏽♀️I can relate!
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We missed EJ & FJ talks. Good to see FJ. EJ had me laughing when she said "Walmart is on fire. I'm an honorary member and have to go spray something" 🤣🤣🤣
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I'll see ya there! 👍🏾
I’m using that line
" It's my bracket " Best answer EVER!!
Amen, more friends ask me for money than family. It make it very difficult to even share promotions and raises with folk, bc they can start all of a sudden being an unsolicited CPA😆.
My biggest pet peeve is not on this list…being taken for granted!!😡👊🏽
Good addition to the list - just went through this!😡
@@lafredasias5286 I've been going through it all my life with my family. I've learned and am still learning how to say NO!
Same, been burnt too many times by that
PREACH! Me too
That's the whole list, my friend
Can we PLEASE have more “We Just Wanna Talk” videos!!! Y’all are such a great team!
My family pet peeve is when my mother tells the rest of the family my business. Whether it’s good or bad they always know before I announce anything. Ughh !! For instance, she was the first to tell everyone about my pregnancy , they knew that my daughters father passed away (he was estranged), and they knew that I was moving. I’m like… how in the…. Do y’all know this. It can only be one person smh 🤦♀️
Stop telling her your business. Announce it to everyone at the same time. My momma can barely hold water, too. 😂
My mother is the same way. And gets the details all kinds of wrong. LoL
It's a mom thing in my opinion and it's annoying. That's why I don't tell y'all things 😂
I just stopped telling my mom stuff.
Personally I consider it a sign of lack of respect especially when you are an adult. Just because you are my mother doesn't mean that I'm less of a person and that my feelings doesn't matter.
FJ’s “I ain’t got it” was very believable. I can tell, he’s been practicing.
I had to learn to say no to giving/borrowing money. Since I did make the money. I have to say no, now. Takers have no limits to their taking.
Amen. 🤣
When you publicly just low key just told your family to stay tf outta your pockets! 🤣🤣🤣
This is a nice one… very subtle but out there for the ones who needs to hear it🚫💸
I felt it when EJ said "I'm drained." Being a natural giver myself, I felt that on a whole other level. One thing I have noticed is that takers don't really have a limit, so it's crucial for a giver to know when to say no, which is something I'm learning to do now. You can't always save everybody, as much as you may want to, you can't
Same here
Remember “no” is a full sentence. You don’t have to explain yourself.
People don’t like being asked on a daily for money! They will avoid you cause everytime you come around , they are going to be like here she comes, I wonder how much she gon ask me for this time... it is draining and frustrating cause then the question becomes, what are they doing with their money ? Idk 🤷♀️
Yes
@Nina Cass learning this one and not apologizing for saying No
Biggest family pet peeve: they would “volunteer “ me to babysit! Like “oh, she ain’t got no kids, all she do is stay in the house!” Ummmmm?🤔 Why in the hell would I wanna keep some kids that YOU try’na avoid? Oh that pisses me off! 🤬🤬🤬🤬
My momma be doing this to me like when did I agree to watch yo bad AZZ kids
what you say 'yeah I DONT HAVE KIDS" my point exactly !! lol!!
That popping up unannounced gone pet the peeve everytime!
A family member of mine made the mistake of popping up unannounced after a two hour drive and when he showed up, I left through the back door with my phone on silent and disappeared from the house for the rest of the day (It was an errand day, so I just went and did those). He ain’t never tried that shit again without giving me at least 24 hours notice.
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This was cold but too funny!! 😆😆
That was hardcore!! I bet that learned his A$$. You boss!🤣🤣🤣🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
A girlfriend I have known for years pulled this stunt earlier this year. She and her husband were on the road and decided to make a stop in town and because she saw a few people while here, she thought it would be okay to come by. I gave her some kind of excuse like I was not at home or something. She wanted to be insistent and I told her next time perhaps. She hasn't tried that again.🤨
God bless that back door 😂! I wish I had that luxury!
I was house-sitting for a relative once and someone (it could only have been either a particular guy or particular girl) turned up at 4am and rang the buzzer to the block a few dozen times. When I didn’t respond, they rang a neighbour’s buzzer, who let them into the block, and they spent over 30mins knocking on the door and flipping the letterbox trying to get in. Lord, I wished I had a back door that day! I couldn’t even leave the room to pee because the letterbox & peephole faced the hallway which led to every room in the house.
It was either the girl - who was couch-surfing at the time - or the guy, who hadn’t been laid in ages and knew I’d be there alone and was on a predatory vibe 🥺
Definitely A: Popping Up unannounced
1. You don’t know if I want company
2. I could not be at home
3. I could be having family time
4. May not be feeling well
5. The list could go on and on
Less than 30 seconds in and I’m laughing, thank you Mr. and Mrs. J😂😆🤣💀! My biggest family pet peeve is my family being worried about my marital status and uterus😶😆😆😆
Olay? it's always "when I'm finna get some grandkids?" 😆 🤣
C'MON EYES N THIGHS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They are just naturally funny together! 😆💀😆
That part. Once I got married then it was, when are y'all having kids. In my sarcastic tone I would say, let me invite you out of my bedroom.
I'm 42 people still on that baby shit....I told yall at 13 I was never having them
Lord. I got married 10 yrs ago. We invited 25 people a piece. Some folks still didn't know 3 yrs in. Most found out f=om FB Pics WE didn't post but u know....nig$#@ or us with wedding rings on....the shock like we ode the world info
They know when it's for them to know. Don't ask me nothing. I hope u marry and reproduce and they be late on all the news😂💯🤷🏾♀️
That Oprah Winfrey "what" took... me... out 💀💀💀💀💀
Kudos to giving “the vaginal canal” its props🤣🤣🤣Its the popping up unannounced for me…or calling me to say, “I’m on my way over!” 👀”over where?!”
Right! When did I say, you could come by, first of all?
Fred gave her the same reaction she gives him sometimes when she mentioned the canal. lol
I don't even answer the door. I've had friends knock for 30 minutes, peep through windows and try to open doors, because I will not answer pop-ups. I will have my tv blasting and as loud as I want to be or quiet as I want to be. I don't pretend that I'm not home because I'm a whole grown-up and don't owe any explanations as to why I don't want to answer the door. That is utter disrespect to me. Rude. I have a house phone, cell phone and several email addresses; don't pop up 😂
And I'm tired of people asking me for money. Just because I'm retired at 39 doesn't mean I want to pass it out. I get asked for money at least twice a month. My "I ain't e-much got it" game is stronger than ever. 😂 I used to give hundreds and thousands of dollars to ungrateful people, now I'm like, "I ain't e-much got it". 😂
Reitired at 39? Congrats. I'm trying to be like you. My plan is to retire quietly (meaning not telling anyone).
Oohh, I am not that bold! But I cackled!
You sound Just like me. I use to loan hundreds and thousands. Never was paid back. I use to treat to things but was treated to little or nothing. I retired early at 46 due to health related issues. People act like I retired because I won the lottery. I'm drained and I'm done. Only about me and my kids now.
Right!!!😏
Okay I am in your business. What did you retire from doing?
I love when you and FJ have discussions like these
It’s the coordinated shirt and watch combos for me!! 😍
That is my bracket!!! I know what you mean. You have worked hard to get where you are!!! I UNDERSTAND!!!!!
Taking stuff without asking! My sister does this and it angers me often! Every time I purchase something I don’t intend to share it. When I finally told her it bothers me her response was “I didn’t think I had to ask.” My response was “if you don’t purchase it do not touch it.” Now she has to replace whatever she eats, drinks, or takes without asking me. I let it go on too long and I didn’t realize she had no respect for me or my stuff.
Don’t pop up or take something without asking.
Love both of you discussing.
My biggest one is when family members treat you like they used to when you was a teenager, even though you are in your 40s. 😢
🇬🇧🙋🏾♀️I'm with you on this one EJ. Too many have an appetite in somebody elses fridge 🤔
Big up FJ it's been too long 😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I like that figure of speech!!
@@lcam9241 I can't take the credit. The phrase came from Judge Judy herself 🙌🏾She is dread 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
I’m trying to figure out how y’all walking around in y’all’s birthday suits with the chilren 😂😂😂
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My dad lived in his whitey tighties at home. He cared not about the kids or thier friends.
They at school...🤣
Whether the children are home or not, it’s their home. They pay the bills. None of my relatives were modest. They didn’t care who was around.
It's very easy I just walked around in my house nude and both are home. It's a way to do it. It's a skill.😃 I have never got caught.😃😃
Yes, I can't stand when people pop up unannounced. Usually the door won't get answered.
You 2 are such a loving, beautiful, bless couple.
I love to see you guys together in conversation.
"when you show up for people, but they never show up for you.." that one hit me deep .
Popping up unannounced is definitely mine, cuz baby this anxiety 😬😬
Anyone can pop up but you won’t get in! I remember one time when a family member of mines stopped by unannounced and I was sitting in my living room with the shades open. It was a nice day and I just finished cleaning the house so I decided to kick my feet up and watch television. He knocked on the door then the window because he could see me in my living room chilling. I didn’t miss a thing that was being said on the TV because I never acknowledged that azz. Needless to say he never stopped by unannounced again and he tells everybody don’t stop by NeNe’s house if she didn’t invite you cause you’re not getting in😃
My biggest pet peeve just popping up. Maybe I'm burrowing under my top sheet and 2 comforters. Now, I gotta see what you want AND fuss because you didn't call. 🙄
Y’all are way younger than me, but y’all are like my aunt and uncle in my head. I love when y’all do videos together!!!!!!🥰🥰🥰
EJ the family talk show host! Love y’all but please don’t pop up unannounced, EJ. Better call first, friend!😂😂 See, it all starts at popping up unannounced because now that you’re here unannounced in my space, you might ask for money or take something I didn’t say you could borrow.😂
That's why they pop up announced. They feel like you won't say no to them that way
Mine is definitely showing up unannounced…. Noooo maybe I don’t want to be bothered. Nope don’t do that!!!!
I feel like there needs to be a part 2 for EJ’s answer because it’s definitely a discussion that needs to be had!
Taking things without asking is my biggest pet peeve. Growing up as the oldest of the three girls my sisters always “borrowed” my stuff. I hated going to look for something and it wasn’t there because one of them had “borrowed” it. Yes, I’m still slightly traumatized. 😑
As an older sister, I second this comment!
As the youngest of four sisters, I apologize for us younger siblings😔
I'm youngest of 7 and everybody took my stuff without asking, including my parents. I'm also traumatized, my answer to anyone wanting to borrow something of mine is always a hard no.
I am the only girl with three brothers. I never had to share ANYTHING!! 😆
@@AccessoriesAddict5528 Not gonna lie, I had three brothers and would steal their shirts sometimes. I was paid back when my sister was born...sigh.
Popping up unannounced: You're asking to be left at the door looking crazy.
Being in my personal business: If I don't tell you, you don't need to know.
Taking my "stuff" without asking: I hope you're not attached to your fingers.
Mine is when my family keep asking me when I'ma have some kids. Or try to sneak diss me because I don't have any......Ok. am I obligated to have kids?? That mess get on my last nerve😂 out of the choices EJ gave, it would be taking things without asking
totally agree.
why I gotta birth babies?because I have a womb?
the one massive thing I despise is judging my life,and you a whole train wreck
You better live your life! I'm just glad you're not treating your seed like a garden and planting everywhere! Plant your seed(s) where it's going to be nurtured and in the right season. If this ain't your season, then go buy dolls for everyone that asks about a baby then ask them to babysit your hypothetical (doll) baby. 😂😂
Word
And they'll keep coming up with versions. 'Why are breastfeeding? Why aren't you breastfeeding? Oh, you're too involved...let the child do what she wants. Lord, why don't you know what you're baby's up to?' Etc. Etc. And the it's all 'when is your cild getting married? When is she gonna have a baby?" 😬
Same!
Taking things without asking is biggest one for me. I do not like people touching my stuff or feeling entitled to it.
Yes glad to see you FJ👍👏👏👏💯
I am 100% with you EJ. DO NOT ASK ME FOR MONEY. Especially not some so-called loan. People who know me, already know to respect themselves and not to utter that questions cause I GOT QUESTIONS which will justify my NO in the end.
Popping up unannounced is number 1, but taking stuff without asking is a close number 2 for sure
My biggest family pet peeve is my mother used to tell my business to others before I was ready for them to know. I solved that by tailoring what I share with her. Popping up unannounced doesn’t bother me because I won’t answer the door 🤷🏾♀️.
I don't even want to hear the knock though (unless I'm expecting you)! 🤣
Lol car sitting outside and everything 🤣🤣🤣
That is me. I am not popping up at your house. And will not answer my door depending on my mood.
Great topic!! It be the family gossip for me, and expecting every holiday to be at they house ..all damn day long 😅
Lol yup. I've moved to another city two hours away and I need to spend some holidays at my own house please and thanks. Or I know they don't mean any harm asking us to come over on Thanksgiving but it means you assume I'm not cooking. I'm grown I'm cooking on Thanksgiving myself even if it's just a little something.
I’m the queen of having family members knock on my door, my blinds are open, they see me, I see them, and I just sit on my couch and continue to drink my juice. Cause you ain’t call me and ask to come over….
I just wish I could do that. I can't so... I keep my blinds closed enough you can't see in. 😆
My biggest family pet peeve is asking for our time on the weekends. We feel obligated to go to a family event. My husband and I work full time jobs and we have 4 children (aged 18,12,8 and 4 at home (it's a total of 5 tho he is 23). Our life is busy every day don't ask us to come to your baby's 1 year old birthday party. Lol..The weekends are all we got
awesome topic.. love it Ej and Fj.
Mine is when the older folk think they can say whatever to you. And then say I don’t mean no harm. When I was younger you could have got away with it cause I had respect. But I’m in my 30’s now Aunt Lucy you can get this work too.
I like how they both are comfortable with each other PLUS I like the way Fred looks at EJ💚👍🏾🙂
I don't have to deal with any of the things mentioned in this video BUT, I certainly have a pet peeve!!
I hate when folks ask me to take them somewhere! Ugh!!!!!! For me that's the worst! I always end up waiting for the person, they have 6 places they need to go "real quick", and they think cars run on love. 😂😂
Popping up unannounced without a doubt is my biggest pet peeve. I had to ask some family members to please stop doing it as it was getting out of hand and stressing me out
Biggest pet peeve is an unannounced visit. I can't.
I got so tired of my family asking me when was I going to have a baby. Now that's father time has ended that. It's when are you getting married. WHEN I GET MARRIED I SAID!!
I love this. It shows what FJ and EJ are comfortable with. I’m with FJ, don’t show up at my place unannounced. I am comfortable with the “no’s”. We all have our own boundaries.🤷🏽♀️ Thanks, EJ and FJ.
I just moved on the same street as my mother and sister. Had to let them know “don’t knock on my door without calling first; you will be standing there!”
6:16 to 6:40 This part!
I used to help folks with a giving heart
...remembering when I didn't have or just needed help (as the last resort) for something.
I always paid folks back.
A switch clicked after I asked for some money one time from one of the few that used to asked me all the time.
That is when I woke up and had to tell everyone no from that point.
To this day, only one person has paid me back. No attempt from others to even mention some type of payback plan.
It is not even about the money but about the type of person one is that can ask but then forget (or don't even care).
It is true what they say. Only give what you can afford to lose.
Actually, just say no.
I feel you on the asking for money part... my family stay asking me. And don't pay back.
I love you and Fred. I just get tickled seeing what the two of you will say.
All of ‘em . Leave me alone and get out my face 😂😂😂
This is a great discussion! My biggest family pet peeve is when my in-laws pop up at our house. Not only do they pop up, but they are from another state so we feel obligated to let them in and they stay for a few days SMH. This always ruins our weekend
What does your hubby say to his parents? Lord I had the best In-laws. They would never when we used to live in the same state. We moved to another state. My mother only visited our home 1 time in the seven years we lived as a married couple in the same state.
We need MORE of these talks. I absolutely ADORE y'all. EJ, you are my favorite TH-camr HANDS DOWN and I love and look forward to your videos and I LOVE when you and Hubby do these. Please do more!!!! I love you guys 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Don't ask me for money... I ain't got it!
Asking for money. I had a family member always asking for money, but I didn't have extra to lend. I would explain I needed back by a certain time and she always swore I would have it, but I had to harass her to get it. Once she didn't get it back to me for 6 months I finally cut her off completely. Peace of mind at last
That's the way to do it!!! Share my favorite scripture in Philippians- Lord you supply ALL MY NEEDS. Tell her to talk to Jesus.
Turns out my friend was texting me for money as I was watching this video.
I live in a new state and recently lost my job but I told her I’ll try to “scrape something together”. Then she texted me at 7a asking if I’m up, she knows daggone well I’m up Lol
I blame myself, I should’ve flat out said no 🤦🏾♀️
My BIGGEST FAMILY PET PEEVE is when they say their coming to family functions and then don't show up. If you're in charge with bringing the potato salad or the extra chairs GIVE A SISTA A HEADS UP SO I CAN GET A BACK UP!!! I understand things come up and you have an emergency but every family function. STOP IT!! Or if you're asking us to include you in the head count when making reservations at the restaurant and you don't show that's rude & awkward. Another family pet peeve is when you airing family drama on the "Obama's Internet" better known as FACEBOOK..WHY SWAY WHY??? THAT'S THE MOST CRAZIEST THING EVER BUT YOU DON'T TELL WHAT YOU DO??? NOW THAT'S STUPID..As you can see I get upset 😡 over this craziness 🤣🤣
the money part always gets me. When I started making grown folks money and posting my travels overseas on social media, all kinds of cousins and aunts that I hadn't seen or talked to in YEARS were suddenly sliding into my DM's asking for money. One BROKE DRUNCLE asked for $8,000, knowing GOOD N WELL he didn't have the means to pay it back. Luckily I can block them and have no issues.
It's assuming, because I'm retired, I'm available (or want) to babysit, dog sit, house sit, go get this/that/the other, pick-up little Susie/Tommy. I don't. That it; that's all.
Eating MY leftovers I brought home. Especially when I've been thinking about it and ready to dig in!!!
Popping up unannounced to asked for money and be up in my business and then taking things without asking
Love it!!💯 Good seeing hubby!❤️
Popping up unannounced is the worst. I just done open the door. Car be sitting out front, tv all loud, looking at me through the window and I still ain’t moving. Call me before you get dressed to leave so I can tell you to stay at home. But I love them though 🤣🤣
I get so offended if someone takes without asking. I’ll give people so much, but be respectful and ASK me first. I may say no for a reason. That truly upsets me 😡
Popping up unannounced! I can’t stand it! I be ready to go to war with anybody disturbing what I got going on in my house 🤣🤣🤣
My sister called me to talk about a cousin of ours whom she(my sister)tried a pop-up visit on; she thought because she drove from Georgia visiting our home town in Blytheville, Arkansas that it was ok to just drop by to see his new house. He came to the door and told her they were not having company that day and advised her to call him when she wanted to visit instead of popping up, he said goodbye and closed the door. She was pissed! I laughed so hard!! Of course didn't see what was funny and then proceeded to talk about him and his wife. I cut her off mid sentence and told her I would've did the same thing, he was well within his rights as THE HOME OWNER! He don't need nobody's permission to not let you in sweetie.
Money! Sometimes family make u feel like ur house is bugged or something cause whenever u have just lil bit extra don’t matter if it’s 5 or 10 dollars someone is callin asking for that exact amount
Family bugged the house!😂😂😂
Acutally that would explain a lot though🤔
Rubbin my eyes & my thighs🤣
Heh heh
Mine is walking off with things and not asking!!! All of the other issues can be addressed with assertiveness and boundaries but a THIEF!?! I can't stand to have something come up missing that I want or need in that moment 😣
Finally another video with FJ 😂 he make me laugh and then both of y’all together I just can’t not laughing so hard lol
That's the one for me. People not paying me back because they think I have it. But when you asked, you used the word borrow though...
I’m gonna have to say my biggest pet peeve is when they try and insert me into their drama. I come from a very messy dramatic family who seems to want to fight all year then come together at funerals and holidays like nothing ever happened. That doesn’t work for me. I’d rather co exist drama free and move in love or not at all. That’s just me though.
Yessss! Exactly! Like no I dont actually want to know or care anything about your drama! Please leave me out of everything!!!! E'rrrythang!! I want to miss all of the drama. And also, if you rope me into the drama and then talk to everyone as normal--im not even going to start on that one
Preach on it! When I finally moved out on my own out from around all that drama, I completely distanced myself from all of them and now sometimes go a couple of years in between seeing any of them and I'm fine with that!
Got the mail on the head. But my MESSY A$$ family will CONTINUE at the funerals. That’s where they shine the most 💩
Showing up unannounced and asking for money. I'm like EJ. I need to master the skills of saying no and not feel that I'm a bad person for saying no.
You & me both!
I just commented somewhere that I’m in a situation of my own and my friend texted me for money last night. I told her my situation but said I’ll try to get her something.
She was on my line at 7a
That’s what I get! Shoulda said no and just shut it down
I could be sitting on my porch and someone pop up announced. Will get a hello and goodbye all in one breath… And Lordt knows don’t ask for me money as I have mastered in the last year the art of NO with no explanation… point blank period😃
Popping up un announced, and I admire the excellent comic couples timing "y'all"have acquired !
The older I've gotten, the easier things have become for me. (a) Popping up unannounced- I will leave you outside (I don't care who you are) (b) Asking for money -NO! (That's a complete sentence, no explanation needed) (c) Being in your personal business- You tell mine, Imma tell yours! (d) Taking things without asking- you won't get invited back to my house again (unless you're my sister)
5:15 fj look was everything lol
Loved that statement "it's your bracket" 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽!!
Being in my business I think. Because it feels like it's always the ones who don't come around and don't talk to me that have A Thought about whatever is going on with me. Like I don't consider my mama as being in my business when she says something or asks me a question. That's care and interest.
But people who don't come around, don't call, don't nothing? They can shut their mouths. It stresses me out so much to have, like an aunt who's not spoken to me a handful of times in the past decade express an opinion about my disability or ask when I'm going to get married or anything else really. Just because you're family doesn't mean you're not strangers.
I love these videos with you two. They’re so good.
Love this couple perspective
I absolutely LOVE it when y'all are together!
Ooh Ooh I got another one too. I asked my sister not to post pics of me on the book of faces. She does it anyway.
My sister doesn’t want to be plastered on fb as well. And those of us on the fb, respect her wishes. 😊
Mine is never responding to the group text about others accomplishments, but quick to post ur announcements, etc
Genuinely applauded along with the sound. Nice to see Fred again.
My pet peeve is the same as EJ. Particularly those family members who ONLY call when they need money. Literally months between communications. No texts, no emails, not even a meme. But when they do pick up the phone it's because they want or need something...usually money. You're right. It's exhausting.
My biggest family pet peeve is people showing up unannounced. My house may not be as clean as I would like to visitors. I think the second the is borrowing things without asking. Then there are some relatives who don’t return what they borrowed.
Yea um do not just SHOW UP at my house. NO MA'AM NO SIR!👀
These comments make me love and appreciate my family even more than I already do!!
My family doesn’t do this either but my pet peeve would likely be asking for money because who really has disposable income these days to be giving away? Any extra dollars need to be going to Savings Retirement or Emergency funds.
We have a few friends that ask for money but it don’t be our families.
My biggest pet peeve is when a family member volunteers me to do something without even asking me.
ALL of them! Boundaries are necessary when dealing with family
E. When I’m talking to YOU and you hand the phone to THEM!!😡🤬 example: having conversation with mom, aunt or brother and I say “how is such and such (your boyfriend, wife etc) and you “here they is” and Just PUT THEM ON THE PHONE!! I 👏🏼 Did 👏🏼 Not 👏🏼 ask 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 speak 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 THEM! I have now started hanging up as IF we got disconnected 🙄
I fully expected EJ's answer to be "taking things without permission," because I know how crazy it makes her when Fred and the kids take her snacks 😂
Yay!! FJ in the house. So glad he is gracing us with his comedy and insight. Love you guys chemistry
My grandmother gathered my aunt, uncle his wife and his two kids one Christmas to show up around eight in the morning. This was after calling to tell my dad (not ask him) that they were coming over. Dad said no, please don’t come here, everybody had been up late, he and mom were exhausted etc etc we’re going to bed. But I guess she thought she would bully her way inside. Let me tell you how pissed they all were that they weren’t allowed in.
I get it from my dad, lmao I’m an introvert don’t show up at my house unannounced, you will be ignored.