“NARCOMETER” - Seeing Narcissists Everywhere
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ต.ค. 2024
- In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC, CADC, explains how overcoming Self-Love Deficit Disorder or Codependency allows you to “detect” narcissists to avoid them, instead of being irresistibly “magnetized” and attracted to them. Learn more at SelfLoveRecovery.com.
ROSS ROSENBERG BIOGRAPHY
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.
Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.
His global impact is best illustrated by his 23 million viewed/240,000 subscribed TH-cam channel and the sale of 150,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages.
In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.
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It's unsettling just how many there are.
Glad I'm finally aware.
Me 2
Seems like there's so many. Or were they always there? And if you speak up or try to defend yourself they all rain down on you at once because "HOW dare YOU?!?!" THIS has always been my truth.
I taught for 30 years. The last ten there were three to four narc colleagues on every job and a profusion in the classroom and parent population. Glad I’m out and living in the country. 😊
@@brendab.5111 I'm in my 60s now and grew up in New Zealand in the 60s and 70s and remember many highly narcissistic, or much worse, adults, including my parents, so people who lack empathy and compassion have always been in society.
I believe that certain types of them are escalating now though, due to social media and other reasons. I see a lot of parents engrossed in their phones while with their children when I'm out and about, so they're obviously being neglected, or using phones as well, which breaks my heart. 😥
@@cyndigooch1162 Have you ever seen two narcissists fight? I have. There are so many out there now that they're actually fighting each other for space, territory, position, power, authority, you name it. I say empaths, and other sensitive souls step back and see what's happening. It looks a little scary maybe, but just watch.
Yes can’t unsee it
Once you see it, you CAN’T unsee it. It’s my superpower now.
Knowledge is power!
Even before they speak... you know, you recognize it, totally undeniable.
Uno, it is not always easy because not immediate when they're Borderline. And most people have not the tools for
There’s a very unsettling vibe that they give off. And if you’ve been through the abuse, you can sense it like an animal can sense a sound that we can’t we hear.
A lot of them have a certain type of haughty expression on their face, especially the 50+ ones. I guess that expression gets stuck on their face.
I remember seeing my best friend's dad after years. As soon as I looked at the expression on his face, I knew he was a narc. He looked exactly like my dad does. And unfortunately that friend also went down the narcissistic route.
Yeah it's creepy how they boggle your mind
Everything is energy. It's energy. It's real
Now that I'm aware I do see them everywhere even in my own family and I cut out all toxic people and I found more peace than I've had my entire life
Did you ever consider that the reason you are seeing narcissists everywhere is because you are the narcissist?
Well that makes no sense nice try
Is it best to cut off a non toxic person , but the non toxic person is not ready to cut off the narcissist (toxic) ppl in there lives?
Exactly why I went NO CONTACT with my 3 EX-SIBLINGS and who I determined to be a secret FLYING MONKEY for them.
Call me "paranoid" all you want, YOU TWISTED SICK WORLD! You can go worship THE CULT OF FAMILY and enabling PSYCHOS all by yourselves, you EMOTIONAL ABUSERS. Because you don't have me to kick around easily anymore
Yes! The Geiger counter. They are so visible, not because of what they do, not for the red flags, but how I feel - an exact, certain feeling.
What you're feeling is your spirit sensing a demonic spirit inside that person.
Yep! You discern it now!
Narcometer = discernment. Simply put, a gift from God.
It’s frightening how many there are!
terrifying how many there are! I know they say 30% but I think its closer to 50%
Actually I feel it's higher than that.
@@michaelstapelberg7751 there are some that do have the traits. They aren't full blown narcs. My ex bf is full blown narc. My old female friend is transitioning to full blown narc. Although she can be dangerous. I couldn't believe that the two of them hated each other. That's what they told me. But, He quite often kept asking about her. To the point I said. Let me ask if I can give you get number. She said hell no. But you know, they could talk on fb. Soooo they're both gone. My female friend, never realized she was so selfish. I also thought they both had mental issues. She always said that every guy she met. Which means, slept with. They were all in love with her. Both addicted to sex. She's gotten older now. So she gets the bums. Alcoholics etc. I do think that once we learn about this. We start applying it to everybody we know. Some may have tendencies. But they both were users, liars, and self centered. I don't know if she's a cheater. But he was. Cheaters never change. Accuse others of cheating, When it's them cheating. Oddly, she was jealous when he bought me a 200$ necklace for Christmas one year. It seemed really strange at the time. But also, His Mom was NOT to know what He bought me. Hmmmmm I'm better off without them. I'm ok now. Don't want them back. Too much drama, and pain with him.
I use the sword of the spirit the word of God
It's what the Democrats are
I recently made a new friend. But every time I was around her I felt bad afterwards. Eventually realizing the disrespect and condescending remarks were her narcissism showing!! As much as I would love to have a friend……..but not her.
Energy doesn’t lie. You lose energy when you are around narc very draining
im so sorry. keep looking. there are people out there who are kind, caring, and empathetic. hugs to you
Once I started feeling the same as you, I said to myself, NAH, NOPE, NOT THIS PERSON.
They have a way of revealing themselves. If we just OBSERVE and LISTEN to them.
We will GET our ANSWERS.
I realized that I can't be quick to form connections with people.
We have to take our time.
We have to be VERY CAREFUL!
Enjoy your own company.
I went through that as well. I felt bad in a way because she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder yet I couldn't shake this weird gut feeling that she used that as a tactic or something. She explained she went to therapy for a good 3 months (court ordered) before being diagnosed with that and so on and so forth with her sob story. Getting to know her, I believed she was wrongfully diagnosed if she was actually diagnosed with that because she kept on giving me malignant narcissistic behavior, day in and day out. I found myself having mini or mild panic attacks when we would talk about something serious or something I was passionate about because she was quick to call me names or degrade me. Then she would start blowing up my phone with voice notes (15-30 of them and about 2 minutes long) and long text messages (30+ of them ) of how angry she was at what I said. Something told me to not let her know where I live and I'm happy I didn't because she eventually told me she's the type to show up unannounced and break your door down if she's mad. She sent me a video of her spitting on her aunt's belongings because her aunt told her to do something (we got into an argument over that as well). She reminded me of both my parents who are narcissists (my mother was diagnosed while my father hasn't been because he refuses to seek therapy). Having her in my life made me look into narcissism even more and learn the difference types there are.
I totally relate. You deserve healthy connections friend 🤗
I walked away from 3 Brothers. Sister ..and all relatives along with several so called friends over a decade ago and live a peaceful ....joyful life!!! They unfortunately are EVERYWHERE! PLEASE BE MINDFUL OF THIS!!!
Thank you theresa for validating the depth of this wickedness and having the insight to protect and enhance your life.
Yes Indeed!!! You develop this Narcometer and it's like the sixth sense, "I See Dead People". Non-Empathic people who are so deeply insecure. You feel the so uneasy around them and actually feel like you want to run.
Traumatized and abused ppl act the same way they dont trust their guts anymore
But there is also the appreciation of kind, genuine people who now stand out.
After getting the knowledge i realised my close friend too was
So glad to hear this. I thought I was hyper vigilant/paranoid. But they are literally EVERYWHERE.
Yes Shannon. They are wolves in Sheep’s Clothing. They are users. And they are abusers. And they love picking fights. In fact this is how you can spot them is when they open up their mouth to insult you. Name calling and insults and threats. This is what they do. To build themselves up while tearing you down. So don’t ever trust a narcissist or a sociopath. Because they are manipulative and deceitful. Mind Games and Guilt Trips is their favorite weapons that they use to destroy another person’s mental health and emotional health. And that’s not love. That’s mental abuse and emotional abuse. And that’s narcissistic abuse. And you are not hyper vigilant or paranoid. You have been given a gift from GOD. And it’s a gift that will protect you from these users and abusers. And that’s what they are. Users. And abusers. So don’t ignore the name calling. And don’t ignore the insulting comments and rude remarks. And if they make you feel uncomfortable when you’re around them? Then cut that narcissist out of your life forever. And you will see that they don’t deserve your friendship. Because they were never your friend to being with. So here’s what to look out for when you suspect that you may be dealing with either a narcissist or a sociopath… Narcissists are Prideful and Arrogant. And Narcissists are Selfish and Self Centered and Self Absorbed. And the only one that the Narcissist really and truly loves is themselves. And they love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. And this is why they are so exhausting to be around is because they love picking fights. Be Safe. And Protect your Peace. And don’t ignore the Gift that GOD has given you. And Peace be with you. GOD IS GOOD! And Jesus Is Lord. 🙏✝️❤️
Yep I see them everywhere. And they know you know who they are when you awaken and have self-love
Yes Sir. Your 100% Spot On. I can spot a narcissist as soon as they open up their mouth and start disrespecting me. A little insulting comment here. And another insulting comment there. They’re easy to spot once you know what to look out for. Another thing that I realized about narcissists is that they love to pick fights. And they love to argue. This is how they initiate their crazy making narcissistic behavior is by starting a fight. And when a narcissist or a sociopath starts to antagonize me and provoke me by picking a fight with me? That’s when my narcmeter goes off and says… Somethings not right with this person. These are usually the covert narcissist who are harder to spot. But the overt narcissist is easy to spot because they tend to be hateful, spiteful and mean. And they are prideful and arrogant and impossible to get along with. And they too love picking fights. And narcissists are master manipulators and are deceitful. Thank you for all of your TH-cam Videos. You have helped me more than you will ever know. Thank GOD for people like you who are exposing these toxic and abusive narcissists to the world. And GOD Bless You for helping me to know what to look out for when dealing with a malignant narcissist.
Run from them or you will be drained of energy
OMG! I thought it was just me! Kudos to all y’all narcometers out there!!!
It honestly makes me a bit sad when I finally realized how many narcissistic people are around. It feels like more narcs than altruistic people and its scary to think that.
EXACTLY True....you feel creepy around them....
I felt like I was going crazy! But I started seeing narcs more and more in my life but now I'm more equipped with the tools to fight against the abuse, my boundaries are stronger, and I have a greater sense of who I am. . . maybe that's why, the narcs feed off of authenticity and true happiness
I’m telling you, now that I’ve experienced malignant narcissistic abuse and studied/researched for ten years, I can’t go in public anymore without being drained from seeing it everywhere and the kicker is when you can now see it in your family you grew up with dynamic. Shit gets real, real fast. I sometimes wish I could go back to oblivious.
No, you don’t. Then you would be taken advantage of again. No more!
Yup! I see almost my entire family is narcissist and even friends I went on vacation with.
It’s a rude awakening but it saves us from ever going through those things again.
Thank you for recognising this as a thing. I said to my counsellor that I can sense narcissists in a room and her response was that I am hyper vigilant. I know it’s my intuition as the scapegoat and codependent partner of a narcissist
It’s a survival instinct. My neck and shoulder muscles tighten, mouth goes dry, and I want to run.
@@salliegallegos918 and of course you bet we’ll should 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
T T It’s a learning experience. Now that you recognize what has happened to you, you need to learn how wonderful YOU are and how to love yourself and know you deserve a better life.
Time to get rid of your counsellor if she is that dimwitted ( or corrupt)
Repress the smile that comes with recognition and walk away forever.
It's like when you buy a car, you start seeing your car every where on the road more so than you did before you bought that type of car. You can pick up on a narcissist faster and more intuitively once you figure out what they are. Each type reads from the same play book, basically.
This is so true....I have a Teflon shield for narcissistic people...I recognize it so easily....having exposed to many narcissistic traumas....
A Teflon Shield! 😂😂😂 Love it! ❤
Protect this man at all cost... cause this is soooooooooo True
He is not lying I can smell a Narc from a mile a way now. To bad it took so long to be able to do this.
I noticed years ago that the further I distanced myself from my own ego, the more I became aware of other people's egos. Other people's egos used to be like a cobra in a basket to me. You had to tease it out. After years of work on myself, I don't even see the basket anymore, just the cobra.
So true! I now have a Narcometer…. After learning my value! I was raised by 1….married 2!! Wow! Never again!!
You are truly a survivor.
They are everywhere its , so much clearer to identify and see them coming from a mile away now!
It is shocking how many they are. I think sometimes that I am crazy seeing they every were. Thank you Ross ♥
True ... They seem to operate on a much lower vibrational level that leaves one feeling drained rather than uplifted by their energy and words.
Once I realized that I was autistic (& diagnosed), at age 41, I now see autistic people everywhere.
There’s a lot more of us autistics than people realize!
Im accually gratefully today for my experience with more than none narcissists because i am on a whole new level of awareness of people and this man is so true in this.
Once seen for what it is....
Can never be unseen
Fabulous!
Thanks for sharing this video!!♥️⚘
Yes. I've noticed that I pick up on that earlier now
Yup see them, experience them everywhere. See the ones I knew from the past I didn't know existed at that time.
Yep.
I have a Pervometer, too, for creepers.
Facts. Being with a narcissist wakes you up. Even when I’m meeting new people on a platonic level, I can see it. I used to be so quick to attach to people, friend or partner, now I am quick to identify to red flags, shit that doesn’t seem right, things that are reflective of narcissistic character traits. If you listen carefully and are aware, people will reveal everything you need to know about them from the first time you meet or hang out with them. Once you become fully conscious, you can never unsee it. You are tuned into people in a completely different way than you were before as an unaware codependent. The things that seemed iffy but you kind of passed it off to the side and focused on the good traits instead, are now the things that appear as bright red lashing lights, and the “good qualities” are of way less interest. Something inside of you becomes triggered and you have sort of a silent ptsd response within you.
70% narcs
30 % Empath on this globe
Yes, maybe closer to 80.% because 2TIMOTHY 3:1-5 is being fulfilled to the the very high degree we are seeing all around us, and because Bible end times are now here.
I thought I was crazy once but it’s true. Remember Noah’s day. 😢
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Patricia Anderson I totally agree that there's more highly narcissistic people, yet I've heard narcissism counsellors state that it's the other way around.
They clearly haven't been part of my life and I realise that there's an abundance of empathetic people online; however, most mention that nearly all of their family members and so-called friends and others fit the description, so that's another indicator. 🙁
And 20% of those empaths are actually narcissists. I think to call yourself an “empath” is pretty narcissistic in itself.
They are Demons. Peace & light flush them out
I have one now! After a lot of continuing innerwork on Codependency, I see them, and my body confirms their presence. I went out and just observed behaviors. I can point out the coverts narcissists in a room full of people. Holy cow, run!
This is so true. It’s not that they weren’t visible, it’s just that I always thought they were normal, since that’s what I grew up with. But once I recognized (over several years of studying it) the narcissistic abuse I was raised in, it clicked. Now it becomes apparent, very quickly, when I’m dealing with someone on the far end of the spectrum.
At that point, I walk away, but I do it silently. I don’t return calls/texts and I find any reason possible to stay out of their sphere.
Yea I have the narcometer now! It’s a little sad and lonely because I’ve realized my life is riddled with them and I’ve had to back away. Time to rebuild I guess.
Eyes…Pay attention to their eyes, it’s the window to the soul.
ONE THING I HAVE TO SAY, I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY JOURNEY FOR IT WAS THE KEY TO FINDING MY TRUE SELF.
I’ve attracted so many narcs in my days, grew up with so many tht I could literally spot a narc across the street with their mouths closed. It’s jst always there. U know them when you see them. They jst give it up. Everyone can be convinced tht this or the person is such a nice person and I see right thru it and boom, they reveal themselves
Wow, I wish you lived around me. I am so curious about my boss; but as I see some traits, he did apologize to me on 2 occasions; that throws me off 🧐, but he still has a ego/ self centered ways.
yeah it only took 30 years but I believe you are right. Only problem. Is the pain and ruination of me was so deep I never looked for another relationship. Lonely but safe.
yes once you survive a narcissistic person you see them everywhere. It's good you recognise them and keep away or learn techniques if you need to work with them. I found that narcissistic people stay away once they recognise you recognise them. Yes to the narcometre.
It's amazing how I detect them.I thank god I know now after being married 36 years and in the process of getting divorce.I am so glad more people are speaking out about this more.
It's like my eyes changed....eyeballs don't change how it seems they did. My self did. It's saddening, yet amazing.
Very true..I been saying that a long time..they are everywhere.
Exactly....they feel creepy to have contact with them.
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Heightened sensitivity, trauma response!
Not only do you see it but you feel it. You don’t feel yourself around them. Even if you’re having happy times with them, deep down you almost feel afraid. Like you know if you were to piss that person off there would be hell to pay..
Very true..
It's like I have finally graduated out of my stupidity for these personality types..!!
What the f*** was I thinking..!🤔
Don.t blame yourself. You have a conscience,are not manipulative and are not souless..
Damn so that's what I been experiencing I thought I was the only one thanks for this
Self Love Defecit Disorder (SLDD) I love this!
It has changed my perspective… People are less annoying whenever you understand the vicious mental cycle that keeps them trapped in their own heads.
They really are everywhere. I feel like I’m in a battle zone. Like I really cannot with these people. Demons.
Your 100% correct. I have one installed too. All thanks to you and Lisa A Romano
You’re right I had alarms going off everywhere and I didn’t know what the heck was going on, seemed like a nice person man was I wrong
Now that's the truth! Only positive thing to come out of the situation.
About 85% families are having different level of dysfunctions, that means about half of these 85% are probably narcissistic people. So, they are indeed everywhere. Especially with these days social media toxic influence, you see narcissistic people every where. ( note: I said narcissistic, not just NPD, not all narcissistic people are NPD but they are all very toxic and dysfunctional and will cause damage to other’s life). Now I am more healthier, I see these people everywhere. Also don’t forgot the toxic codependent ( self love deficit people), you don’t want to get close to them too. They are unhealthy and they just like narcs don’t think they have any problem. So now I spend most time alone. This gives me real peace.
Yes, I'm recognizing it more and more. When you feel good about yourself and are coming from a healthy place you will attract healthy people and the same is true for unhealthy attracting unhealthy.
Such an eye opener!🙌🏼💕
I finally installed my own NARCOMETER!
OMG it works wonders!
Thank you INVENTING the NARCOMETER!
Good to know. I thought I may be over reacting because of past trauma.
If one is unaware there is a target instead of an alarm! They're are unaware everywhere!
There is a great meme I saw online of a little child in a horror setting. He is labelled as an empath and the talk bubble from him is "I see narcissists..." Wish I knew how to post it here. It always gives me a chuckle
Yes it's like you've developed a narc radar all of a sudden. Problem for me was decades of ignorance while in the trap. I survive
Very true this is after and beyond healthy healing that self love opening of the mind and soul.
Once u see them n their patterns, u can't ever unsee them n their patterns.
Totally. There are so so so so many. Oh my God save us from the insufferable hoards.
Love this!!! I too can sniff them out of anywhere!! I too have a narcometer !!! Lol !!! Feels great!!!
I always use the term: “I am severely allergic to narcissists” so I get it lol
They are everywhere!
Yes, I recognize them now. There are a lot more than what the statistics report. I'm repulsed by them. I avoid them at all cost. If I do have to interact with them I keep it brief. I guard my energy, and I don't give them any reaction.
Yes sir I need some sunglasses there everywhere
💯 I see it now so easily. I will start to date someone. I start recognizing their behavior. I bring it to their attention once and once only now. They do it again. I'm literally not interested anymore. I let them know the relationship isn't going to go any further. Almost always they tell me I'm bringing my baggage and putting it on them. No, I am bringing my knowledge and life education and no longer allowing it in my life. I'm just observing and saying no to THEIR behavior. Yeah it's like my ex. Not because I'm delusional, because they are behaving the exact same way. Hence the word behaviors!! lol
Good for you & your eagle eye & sharper intuition and for being upfront/calling them out early & leaving. I’m very happy for you.
@@AM-.. It took me years, because I wanted to believe ppl were good by default. & just hurt, but that's neither here nor there anymore. It's not my job. I know I've also changed. Cuz my words as far as not interested, no thanks, match my actions and behaviors!
Thank u btw❤️
O my word, I thought it was only me!! To find out I'm not alone in having a narcometer (?!) is another healing step! Who knew!
I'm aware. I'm self aware. I'm educated. Yet I've just ended the, atleast, 8th narc ship including a 13 yr marriage. They have come in soooo many different forms. I've even dated men I wasn't initially attracted to in order to avoid the narcissist. No matter what, within a few months their colors begin to come thru. By then I'm already invested and feel I need to try. Maybe they aren't full blown. Hell I have some characteristics myself. Nobody is perfect. Who am I to judge? By about the year mark the ship is usually a shit show and I bail. The last few men I have dated ended up showing some seriously dangerous personality disorders. They are getting worse. What am I missing??
It's what you're not missing. You are seeing them now.
Thank God for my Narcometer,
It's normal to judge by looks, but it's just as normal to get it wrong.
People use their looks and charisma to get ahead in life, but it makes a great façade. People usually reflect the attitude that you approach them with. I'm sure he will always be able to find narcissism in everyone.
Narcometer! Made my day
Yep
They are EVERYWHERE .
Its crazy how many there really are out there.
YES !!!!,, Thank you RADAR!!!
This is so real.
🤓Lol, darn, glasses. I can't turn these narcvisions off. 🤭🤣
You see those rats everywhere! When you have Self-love and self care you see you and them! They see nothing lol🤣🤣🤣🤣
After being abused by my ex I identify them, gee I had a gal friend I thought bff but I can to a point girl I hated her manipulation I hate now hate having to do things like errands or whatever I don't like to do, yet still found myself doing, so sadly I cut her out my life. Today I don't get manipulated. I spot it !
Yesss, there's an abundance of narcs everywhere.
Ive probably watched like close to 50 hours of video on TH-cam on narcissist, since I just ended my friendship of 13 years with my best friend who is a malignant grandiose narcissist. I couldn’t stand him anyone. Now I see it in narcissistic behavior in certain people/friends and it’s such a massive red flag.
Narcissist’s are hard to spot sometimes because they can appear to be charming and “nice.” But it can be done. My method is to test by randomly saying “no” when they say something in conversation. If they are emotionally healthy they may ask me why I don’t agree, and be genuinely interested in a difference of opinion, or may just be ok with me not agreeing. If however there is a narcissist lurking underneath, they will become explosive and either argue and be rude, or stomp off only to come back later composed and act like nothing just happened. Either way I have seen what I need to see before I get in too deep and can’t get out.
I feel like I'm bulletproof now!
It’s the weirdest shit Eva now I just walk away 😂I thought it was me 😂😂😂🎉🎉
They try to tell you that you're the crazy one when you point it out or you talk about it even in the mental health world. 😢
Some mental health therapist are narcissistic too😮.