😳 MY MARRIAGE IS OVER 💔💍 & I DIDN'T SAVE! SELLING MY BIRKIN & CHANEL BAGS 👛👜 AT HALF PRICE!💰I FDV
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
- SAYING GOODBYE TO OUR OLD HOUSE | Empty house tour | Fumi Desalu-Vold
• SAYING GOODBYE TO OUR ...
EMPTY HOUSE TOUR! OUR NEW HOME 2019 | Fumi Desalu-Vold.
• EMPTY HOUSE TOUR! OUR ...
👗 SHOP MY MERCH, FDV SPORT 🏃🏿♀️💨💨 HERE - fumi-desalu-vo... 👗
INSTAGRAM - / fumidesaluvold
MY LINKTREE
linktr.ee/Fumi...
I'm also an Amazon Influencer so support & shop :)
THIS IS MY USA 🇺🇸 AMAZON STORE FRONT (UK 🇬🇧 VERSION COMING VERY SOON) 😊
www.amazon.com...
FANCY LADYZ FASHION
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 10% OFF on all FANCY LADYZ FASHION.
★FANY LADYZ DISCOUNT CODE★
CODE FUMI
www.fancyladyz...
JUVIAS PLACE
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 10% OFF on all Juvia's Place Beauty Products. ★JUVIA'S PLACE DISCOUNT CODE★
www.juviasplac...
PUSH UP TAPE
MY LINK pushuptape.com...
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 15% OFF on all PUSH UP TAPE Products. ★PUSH UP TAPE DISCOUNT CODE★
pushuptape.com/
COLOURPOP COSMETICS
Use my discount code '5FUMI" to get 10% OFF on EVERYTHING & ANYTHING on the website. ★COLOURPOP DISCOUNT CODE★
colourpop.com/
COLOURED RAINE
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 10% OFF on all COLOURED RAINE Beauty Products. ★COLOURED RAINE DISCOUNT CODE★
colouredraine....
GERARD COSMETICS
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 20% OFF on all GERARD COSMETICS Beauty Products. ★GERARD COSMETICS DISCOUNT CODE★
gerardcosmetic...
BEAUTY BAKERIE
Use my discount code 'FUMI" to get 10% OFF on all BEAUTY BAKERIE Beauty Products. ★BEAUTY BAKERIE DISCOUNT CODE★
www.beautybake...
...............................................
Smiling & waving to you all.
F.D.V.
PLS don't 4get to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT & SHARE! :)))
FUMI DESALU-VOLD FILM REEL.
• Video
MY NATIONAL COMMERCIALS
1- Walden University Online Distance Learning Advertisement
• Walden University Onli...
This video is copy protected and cannot be downloaded or used in any capacity without my permission.
.....................................................................................................................
SOCIAL NETWORKS
Fumidesaluvold@gmail.com
SNAPCHAT - FumiDesaluVold1
Follow me on Instagram - / fumidesaluvold
Like me on FaceBook - / fumi-desalu-vold-17645...
My Twitter - / fumidesaluvold
Pinterest - / fumisfashion
BUSINESS
For make-up bookings and general enquiries please email
FumiDesaluVold@gmail.com
FUMI DESALU-VOLD IMDB
www.imdb.com/na...
DISCLAIMER: This video and description may contain affiliate links, which means that if you click on one of the product links and make a purchase, I may receive a small commission. This helps support the channel and allows us to continue to make videos like this. Thank you for the support!
Director Ole Desalu-Vold
MUSIC BY - MUSIC TUBE - THE EPIDEMIC SOUND PLAYER.
..............................................
#MONEY #fumidesaluvold #sister2sister #relationships #love #heartbreak #marriage #youtube #celebrity #celebritybreakups
I am 35 year old reading all the older ladies' comments and learning from you all. Thanks for the wisdom and sisterhood!
Same! Def some great advice up in here! Stay Safe fam! 💜🙏✨✌️
Don’t listen to the bitter old ladies. I’m 54 have a great husband and children. Stayed home to raised them.
Same! Listening, learning and taking notes!
@@katemiller7874 Good on you Kate enjoy your home👍
Same !
I'm 24 and I'm not even married or dating but this message has sunk deep into my soul....
Thanks a lot Aunty Fumi.. Such a wonderful piece. I really learnt a lot. Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬
24 as well, no kids, not married, not dating but i'm definitely listening. I will not put myself in a vulnerable position.
I am also 24, not dating or married but this also hit me hard
Never forget it
Is a blessing for all of you still young to have come across her on time so you have a life of no regret because you have being well guided.
Before I got married, actually when I realized that the gentleman and I were heading towards a steady relationship, I told him let us open a savings account for the household. He said no. I decided to save for myself. Thirty years after I am now retired, marriage on the rocks, but I saved enough to last me for two lifetimes. I still engage in saving and have roped in the younger of my two sons in the saving habit. The older of the two has not been taking my advice. I would be wanting for nothing after divorce because I had the foresight to save my own money, just in case! Great advice Fumi! Don't depend on the man's money!! Set aside your own.
But dont both parties have to split all assets upon divorce?
@@Aoneify yes. You split assets that is made during marriage including retirement money after divorce. No other way. Unless he said that he didn't want anything from her.
@@Aoneify in USA. That is the Law. Maybe she didn't know the Law. Whoever has more money/assets pays in USA Law.
@@Aoneify or maybe she is not legally married to him
@@Aoneify if there is an asset to be divided.
My dad was the provider. My mom stayed home. My father gave my mother money to go to the market every week for groceries. He gave her let's say $100. My mom clipped coupons like crazy. Well all those years the money she saved with the coupons is what she stashed away. I never knew about it until I was older. Mother had a nice savings account from those coupon clippings. Every little bit adds up
You are the epitome of Elegance. Your accent, your style, the way you talk. You remind me of royalty.
Real Talk. 👑🥰
She is juggling a make-up tutorial and advising on a serious topic, and killing both 🤧🤧🤧 Not even losing train of thought, get out!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yes she is amazing!!!
I agree! So annoying
I'm in that situation. My ex left me after cheating with nothing. Took my son. And everyone was ok with it. I struggled a lot till l humbled myself to get a job as a maid.
She's amazing! Thank you Fumi.
I was thinking the same! She’s lovely! 💖
My father always told me “your savings will save you”. I switched careers once before and I’m switching careers again so that I can get into more remote work. If I hadn’t saved even as a single woman none of that would’ve been possible. Always have skills and save money its important.
I love that saying and it's so true
Sounds like your father and my father has something in common...INDEED. I've appreciated my career journey and with the influence of my father (and even my husband) and my own inner feeling, I do not stay stagnant and I answer the opportunity as much as it becomes available.
The best BEST decision I ever made was collecting skills like I saved money - and after my divorce, I started my own business. After 5 years divorced, my net worth was 7xs more than when I was married - and growing. Collect skills like you save money and you’ll never be broke.
Yes. Have skills and save money. If you don’t mind me askin, what career are switching to, to have more remote opportunities?
Always have a Plan B in place when it comes to your personal life goals. Good for you and be Encouraged.
Fumi, we are the same age, but when I listen to you I feel like I have a loving big sister. Love you.
Me too!!!
Good for you! We can learn from just about everyone we encounter in life. PVEL.
8f
How old is she?
Wow. 5am
I wish I had heard this a few years ago. My husband took care of myself and our 8 children. I was a stay at home mom while homeschooling. He decided he didn’t want our life anymore. He eventually left me and the children for another woman. I HAD NOTHING. I’m in the process of rebuilding my life from the ground up.
Bless you my sister
The nice thing is that the kids are growing while you are rebuilding, it aint easy though.
I was going to comment and say I know what you feel and what you are going through. But that's a lie. I absolutely cannot imagine having to take care of 8 children and having to rebuild. I hope you are in a better place.
wow 8 kids ?? always have a plan B...men do
@@peacefaith560 men do!!!!!!
I know this.
Dears...Fumi is SO right! I've been married nearly 30-years and nothing is ever guaranteed. We just buried one of my husband's close friends from an unexpected heart-attack. Expect the unexpected. You don't need the latest fashion that will eventually be donated to your local Goodwill or Consignment store. Take that $600 you're paying for Red Bottoms and put it into an investment plan. If not, we will be saying "Hello" to you as a Walmart greeter. "Prioritize".
Facts!!!!!
I agree , can you reveal a excellent investment co.?
My grandmother always taught us girls to have our own money and never tell our husbands/boyfriends about it. Always always always. She is passed now, but I still think of this very much. This story time reminded me again of this.
My grandmother told us the account you acquired before marriage stays in your name because you worked for that money. When married start an account together, still keep putting in your own account. When you have to buy a pair of shoes, deodorant etc you buy them for yourself. I preach this advice to young women.
My bank manager's advice is to save 10% of any money you receive. He says if you lent money to someone and they repay you put aside 10% from that repayment even if that 10% is $2, it will add up.
Absolutely right! Don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.
@@lenetteranger8327 my grandmother told me this too! & feed em with a long handle spoon!
I taught myself that anything a man gives you are just extras . Keep your own bag because at any moment homeboy can just 🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♂️Or 🏃🏾♂️
Please have Life Insurance too people… it’s very important to have… if something happens to you or your husband/ partner, your child or partner is covered. I never understood what it was until I got a call from those companies and actually listened to them instead of hanging up the phone and saying “not interested”
I have been saying this for years. Save the money even if there are no red flags. Divorce is not the only incident in life. Many people never think about these things, but I do. I'm glad I'm this way, I'm always ready. Thank you Fumi.
thank you for this. so educational and eye opening even for those who are not yet married.❤️
Guess what it ain't being negative either its just smart
Right people don’t think about death. What if the husband never has a retirement account? What if he does but it’s not enough to sustain you for longer than a year or two? It’s best to have your own however I still believe the man should be the main provider. The women are always the main ones to handle take the majority responsibility for the children.
I had a male sociology teacher that said this. Not just divorce. Death. Illness. Tragic accidents. It’s always best to be prepared. He was married to a nurse and he encouraged both parties to have jobs for that reason.
My mom taught me to put money to the side.... you can have a joint amount BUT ALWAYS keep a separate account in the event something happen.
Thank you for this talk. I make good money in oil & gas and my fiance wanted me to quit my job so he can be "The Man". I refused so I had to let him go plus he was a chauvinist and want me home to be the baby maker and maid. I would never put myself in a situation where I have to ask a man for money no matter how much he says he loves me and the kids. Mad day will always come ladies. Make sure you can take care of yourself and your kids when it does. You have the power when you don't need a man.
THISSS!!! 💯 NEVER give up your independence!! Work and have YOUR OWN, maintain yourself so that when you meet someone you are with them because you WANT to be, not because you HAVE to be. And you can walk away (or show them the door) without worry, should it ever come to that. My husband and I both make 6 figures, but I make approximately 32% more than him so if something was to happen, my daughter and I would be just fine. My mother raised me to NEVER depend on a man, and my husband 100000% appreciates that about me. He is not treated like an ATM and his wife is his *partner*. And we are raising our daughter with the same strong sense of independence and smart financial management.
So if I have a kid with my husband I’ll eventually be a single mother ?
@@lauraquinones1877 depends on the integrity of the man. My husband just left after more than a decade so he could sleep around😬
Well said!
Hey gorgeous ☺️ If you quit your job and let him provide, you’ll have more time and freedom to have another stream of income by your own
The best BEST decision I ever made was collecting skills like I saved money - and after my divorce, I started my own business. After 5 years divorced, my net worth was 7xs more than when I was married - and growing. Collect skills like you save money and you’ll never be broke.
What kind of business is it? I am having trouble figuring out what to do.
what kind of skills and business?
@ymarrero23 do you live in the 1950s?
@ymarrero23 how to admit you lack comprehension skills:
How did you collect skills? How did you set up your plan? Did you go back to school?
You scared me with that title...thank God you're not talking about your marriage. Blessings always 🤗💕
Her topics are typically story time so not really her present day situations. Sometimes she gets letters from subscribers telling their story or asking for advise so that is where her topics come from.
Girl.m me too, I was like 😳
😀😀😀 I knew it wasn't about her, that's how strong I believe in her and Ole. Amandla✊🏽 all the way from South Africa loves 😍
@@bellatalkssa405 I honestly felt that one in my chest and started to pray. I'm relatively new to her channel so I wasn't accustomed to her titles. I can not tell you how much I celebrate in her success. So I rebuke any negative news. Wishing everyone peace.
Me too! I was like WHEWWWWW!!! 😅
Fumi my first daughter father died when she was three years old and I was only twenty three years old. I didn't have anything to fall back on. Unfortunately, the same situation happened to me again. My second daughter died when she was eight months old. This time I was working and doing my degree. It's now eight years since his death and I have acquired a plot of land and build my house, bought a car and sending my two children to school. Those unexpected situations caused me to realize that in the blink of an eye your life can change. This is life changing advice you giving and I do appreciate you for it. I am always elated when you post because it is always interesting to watch and listen. You are my virtual big auntie and I love you dearly.
❤️
❤️
Your story is so inspirational. So proud of you sis. Wishing you and your kids all the very best.
♥️
Omg, you are so correct! My husband and I have been married for 19 years. I have always worked. I set up my accounts to automatically save and invest 10% of my monthly income from the moment we met. I have saved every bonus I get. Today, I can retire and take care of both of us 😆. I don't have brand name clothing but I have quality pieces that's are clean and tidy. My grandmother always say you must save for a rainy day.
My first red flag was when we stopped holding hands while watching tv. There were others to come, but I made a conscious decision to ignore them. I have always saved, so when the marriage ended I wasn’t caught flat footed.
All it takes is for one partner to change his or her mind and the marriage is over.
Great sage advice Fumi. Thanks for sharing.
love it!!!
You are so RIGHT!
Before my ex-husband abandoned me, I had money saved in a separate bank account already.
Thank God!!!!!!!
Yes 🙌
Smart lady
One of the best piece of advice my mother gave me was to always have my own secret bank account. Her first husband passed away from a heart attack at age 26 leaving her with 4 small children. It was a lesson she never forgot and I've always followed. I don't care how small my money is. If I make a dollar I'm saving a quarter.
Facts!
I love makeup and fashion, I buy wholesale,thrift stores, dress up beautiful always, and sell in ebay and other sites, sometimes my closet gets empty after I sell most of the clothes that I buy, this way I enjoy dressing up and making money at the same time.
Hello how’re you doing?
I have tears in my eyes. I’m going through this. Mrs. Fumi you just made me stronger. Thank You.
I'm a late citizen to FumiNation and never have I felt such a strong need to be in the presence of a stranger. I just want to hug your neck and tell you thank you thank you thank you! So much wisdom grace and love. I'm a STAHM and I've been feeling bored. I'm currently looking for WFH jobs in Healthcare after a situation played out while we were on vacay this summer. I told myself I need my own and never again be totally 100% dependent financially on my hubby.
Fumi, when you said “I’m dark” I felt jealous for about three seconds. Your skin is so beautiful and striking. The makeup was nice too, but God did that!
She's absolutely gorgeous 😍
She is so beautiful 😍 her bone structure, internal and external beauty!
I stay jealous! 😍
Fumi you are so on point with this message. I've told my girlfriends over the years, that every woman needs to have her own savings. I've been independent since the age of 16, and my mother thought me the importance of saving. I got married in my 30's and have two boys. My husband has a very good job, and he has always provided for our family, but I work and contribute to our household as well. You never know what life has in store for you, and it's better to be prepared for the unexpected rather than the unexpected thrusting you into a tailspin. Love your channel, because you always keep it real.
Make sure you are saving as much as possible in a separate account
Taught*
Thank you Fumi. I appreciate your openness and how you love us to prepare us for the facts of life. You are a great Mom to many of us.
You are the best, I wasn't prepared when my husband died I was lost had to go back to work at 63yrs. Fumi is correct on every issue. Thank you
Your Houston fan
I’m so glad you posted this today ♥️ I am in quite a similar position. I am blessed to be A stay at home mom. I struggle with the back and forth of working and not working everyday. Even though I technically do work I don’t receive a pay check and sometimes I feel like I should be contributing financially. These past 2 months have been rough as far as my marriage goes. I hate that I don’t have the option to just leave because financially I am not secure. It’s a position I put myself in and if I could warn anyone I would say don’t ever get yourself in a relationship where you are dependent financially on the other. I love you Dahling! Have a blessed day!
Good luck 🙏🙏🙏
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
It’s never too late to start working on your financial security. It might not happen as fast as you would like but you can still make steps towards that goal, and one day all these little steps will accumulate and will lead somewhere, maybe somewhere you didn’t expect 🤩
my older sis is in the same position married to a wealthy man and totally dependent on him. She worries night and day even though the marriage is stable married 19+ years but I told her to get a part time job atleast since her kids are off to college now and she has some time to spend outside the home. There is security in having some of your own funds - anything can happen to your spouse - not that we pray for bad things but it is good to keep your skills current and have some finances stashed away
I have always been a stay at home mom but have always saved for a ‘rainy’ day. I made sure I could pickup and go if I ever needed to. I’m lucky enough to be in a position where my husband gives me whatever I want but it wasn’t always like that and things ebb and flow as we all know.
Love you! You are wise, loving, and gorgeous!
“You don’t need 10 Birkin bags,
You are not Cardi B -neither am I.
I’m not Kimmy -neither are you.
We don’t have that kind of coin”
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Hello how are you doing?
Humble Facts & A Profound Conclusion. 👏🏾🙌🏾🥰
Love your story. One time I said to my mom, daddy pays for everything and gives you everything. She said, There is a price to pay for this. My dad loved my mom so much and even when they split (not divorced) he still paid for everything and never remarried. But..she said every man will not do this. So prepare. I totally understand and appreciate her telling me this. You are so right Fumi! But we need to stay ready.
This was the best clickbait experience. You definitely turned a negative mindset into an open one. I was expecting to be horrified but instead I’m looking into my fiancé and I future and saving plans . Very grateful for what we have and our goals we are looking to accomplish.Your delivery and presence are both very beautiful.
I'm glad I've never taken interest in brand names. For as long as it looks nice and fits me, I'm good to go. Growing up my parents always emphasized on how important it was to own land. In my small African country young women are buying plots of land. It's almost the thing there for young people to do.
Yes! The same in the South. Land = $$$ and security.
Which country in Africa? My background is Ghanaian and I am considering purchasing some land myself. Starting small. I'm 32 and back in College so I have to b strategic and budget.
@PauI Barron Network advertise it on your own channel. We are talking serious business. We're not here to steal from innocent people
Which country and how do you do it?
Which country and how do you do it?
Thank you for this Fumi. I equally thought i didnt need to do anything concerning my finances since my partner had it sorted. But then he actually was the one to say i needed savings if anything should happen to him. And this was his idea, not mine. Thats how i knew he loves me deeply. Fast forward to now, i have savings and also a business he's invested in so i can be busy and make some money.
Real talk, true facts i always believe a woman should be able to stand on her own two feet and not depend on a man for anything if he offers fine but to be financially independent is the most liberating feeling every woman can be proud of.
This is my first time watching you here. I just stumbled across this video. Who are you? I love you. I read the comments of your viewers, and I agree totally. Your mannerisms, how you talk, your TRUTH, and your beauty. You have got it all, sister. Yes, I have my own, and I have a great marriage of almost 30 years this December 2022. So happy that I watched your video in its entirety. What a gem. Golden. You love makeup from your soul..It is like you are making love to it with each brush stroke. This is amazing. Take Care.
Omg when u said he was just sleeping and you were so happy to see him, girl I was happy that nothing bad happened
Save more when the money is good. Life can change at anytime. This was a really good video and I need that Morphe complexion palette!
Farida B. That was an excellent comment about saving when the money is good. Many women say they don't know how to start. Maybe they never worked. Start with the grocery money. Save $20 a month. But just start.
I love you Fumi, my mom was widowed with 5 children when my father was murdered. She always saved and stretched her dollars and showed me how to survive. I'm so very grateful to her. Mami, as I call her is 84 years old now. She's still making me smile and her life story is incredible, Although she struggled, having lost her Mom to Cancer at the age of 12, and being the oldest of 9 (the baby was 10 months old in cloth diapers) she never gave up and passed that along to us. She helped raise her siblings and other children as well. My Dad did not want her to work or go to school. She went to school anyway, graduated with a nursing degree and shortly after my Dad was killed. Her strength and her faith in God, showed me who I wanted to be. Her example was a gift, I'm eternally grateful for. It's wonderful to see and hear you giving such gifts to all. So many people are lost in this world and you my darling are a sweet breath of fresh air. Blessings to you and your family.
Gladys
Your mom is a very strong woman ❣️
Your Mum is a angel. She is so strong. Amazing mom. May God keep her for you. Happy and blessed year!!!
Amazing story it’s so important to have your own
You sound like you need to write a book, or something showing your mom's life. Her story sounds incredible! Bless her and the fight in her - an inspiration
@@Hellydragon Her mom's story is the story of many Black people
When the money is great, get ur self a good education. Nothing beats knowledge, when he’s gone get a job and continue ur life.Always be a independent woman 👩 never depends on a 👨even in a marriage.
Super facts sis!
Wow, this video has resonated with me so much. I've felt so ashamed of the position I am in: broken marriage and I thought I had it all, the beautiful house, nice car, fancy vacation but at the end of the day I really had nothing to truly call my own. Now going back to school and will be finishing soon and I cannot wait for the day when I will feel liberated. I've already told him: his cheating will turn out to be the best thing that has ever happened to be because it would have forced me to truly be the woman I was meant to be. Thank You for Sharing...sometimes there is so much stigma attached to topics like these and it feels great to address it.
You are telling the truth. People are living beyond their means and have no savings for emergencies or even retirement for that matter. Married or not women need to save their money. New subby here.💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for addressing this. So many are trying to live like they are royalty when they may be 1-2 paychecks away from poverty. We (women) have to make sure to save for the “what if” days. I love glam and expensive stuff BUT even if I was Cardi or Kim, I would still be a bit more frugal to secure my security.
Get insurance on your husbands, ladies! That way if he suddenly drops down dead, at least you get paid. Insurance is the way to go in a marriage. That's what rich folks do. They take out insurances on their husbands because it's usually men who die first leaving behind a wife, children, mortgage, debt and lots of bills. Get life insurance now not later, ladies.
Definitely taking ur advice
😮😮😮
Dear Fumi, Thank you for the words of truth. My Uncle used to say ," It is a poor rat that has only one hole." He was a brilliant man. Ladies, life is ever changing. Fumi is right. Develop streams of income. Start small if you have to. There is no shame in that. Save $20 from your grocery money. Save birthday money. Save pay increases. God will bless it and increase it.
Funmy you are the mother, that older cousin/sister that I never had. I think many of us never did. You are like those ladies from the 50's with that especial touch. Thank you Tia(aunty funny) Funmy
This video is so helpful to hear as a young woman in her 20s and I had to click as soon as I saw the thumbnail I was thought how stunning this woman is ❤️
You are a phenomenal storyteller. I have to say my heart was in my mouth when you were talking about your husband and not hearing him upstairs!! I am so glad he is doing well.
Uj90
Independence is key whether IN or OUT of a marriage. Never, ever leave it up to someone else to take care of you. Take hold of YOUR OWN LIFE and you will never be left out IN THE COLD.
Fabulous Fumi, you DROP SOME GEMS nobody can dispute. My parents were married for 30+ yrs and when my dad died, he left her a house and that was it ( I don't know the details of what went wrong, that was between them). The thing is my mom knew how to save and did not miss a beat after. She lived comfortably until the day she passed. Thank you Fumi for just stating the plain TRUTH, somebody got to say it!
Great advice, Ms. Fumi. I grew up as a daughter of Depression Era parents and they taught me to save money from the time I was a child. I can spend it with the best of them but I also saved. I’ve never been married, I worked hard for 47 years, and now I’m retired. My life style isn’t extravagant but, thank God, I’m comfortable. Your advice is SO important. I love how you were able to multi-task and not only tell your story so engagingly but also apply your impeccable make-up and look so fabulous. Loving your channel!! Bless you!!
Sister Fumi 🔥🔥🔥 the story telling, the makeup, the wisdom in everything ✨️
You are PREACHING!!!! This was a fabulous video (as always) and an excellent message! I’m 36 and I follow women of all ages… I see A LOT of women in their 20’s who spew this idea that “you should just depend on your husband, he’s a provider, so let him provide.” That’s all fine and well until life hits. I’m glad that you are here to share the truth. Hopefully, many more women will take heed!
Honey, Any one with common sense knows that those ladies do not mean literally. Any woman born after a certain era already has their own bank accounts/ savings and know that they should have back up for a rainy day. When it comes to marriage, ive noticed that many of these women here who were left high and dry did not marry well or even insured that an alimony was discussed should anything happen.
@@gailainsley6939 It is not only for divorce. It is morally wrong to be a parasite or leacher depending on a man or even the woman to provide everything for the family. Such stress can kill the provider easily. I have seen it happen. No matter how small or how rich the partner one should have not only savings but contribute to family.
@@zikaenendu6214 It's not a leech if the woman takes care of the home and children. In my opinion, men should provide 100% financially and the woman responsible for the home (even if she works as well). The higher class have this dynamic more often and the divorce rate is also lower. It's an even exchange.
Yes I agree. I can never depend on a man, even my husband as much as i love him, i learned early on from my mom to always make sure i have something saved. It is essential all the time. Sometimes, its not even about your man. It is about you. Take care of yourself financially as much as you do internally and externally because there are always seasons. Seasons for plenty and seasons for less. Thanks so much for sharing Sis :D
This talk was so needed. Us Women need to learn to save. I've been saving for a very long time and I will never stop. Thanks Fumi, this was Beautiful.
@@neurodivergentpixi6736 it's crazy how much money we wasted or was spent coercively
Love love this story. Your the best Fumi ❤
This channel has changed my life,the least I can do to show my appreciation is by sharing your videos.love you auntie Fumi
Hi, Fumi, I came across this video of yours on 8/01/2022. I work from home and was tidying up my sewing area while listening to you and I absolutely love your spirit. I got the Fumi passport and I am now a citizen. Thank you for your Sister 2 Sister moments. You have great values and have a lot to teach your nation, you absolutely have excellent advice. I am hooked on your videos now believe me. Thank you again.
Thank you for sharing your story Fumi! I have 5 chronic illnesses and cannot work during the marriage. Still cannot. However, 6 years ago, I got divorced and sold we sold our house. -- no money was saved and I downsized my life. I am so so happy now. In my own studio apartment. For the last three years. However, I’m in love again and I will plan to do exactly what you said and suggested in this video. This 2nd time around! Thank you so much! I absolutely love and adore your personality and bubbly aura.
This was much needed. I’m not married yet but it’s a definite eye opener to have your own especially when you have kids
This was on point regardless your married or not even parents can pass away and you start taking care of your young bros and sisters saving is the key 🥰🙏
Oh my God thank you for your storytime today. I'm 57 and really needed this. My 1st husband died while serving in the military but my 2nd husband cheated every chance he got. I have 4 step children all born while we were married. I'm still struggling at 57 I don't have a large nest egg thank God I'm able and strong and have a decent job I will be able to depend on me. But if I could tell my 20 year old self anything. Don't tell your man everything, you bring You to the table and your heart is pure, and good and that's what you are able to share. 2 days ago I was asked what I bring to a relationship and I was at a loss for words. However my light shines and draws others in don't down play that. You deserve what you want stop allowing small minds to belittle you. I love you Fumi thank you for your love.
You’re so beautiful I wish you all the best🥰🥰🥰
Ok am I reading correctly? Are you saying your husband fathered 4 outside children being that he was married to you at the same time? I mean are the two of you still married? Otherwise, if you're not, although you feel you're struggling independently, at least your efforts and work is just for YOU. If you're still in the marriage, I mean...for what it's worth to stay, no matter what I'm thinking or what anyone else is thinking...I've since come to realize that everyone has to make their own personal choice to stay or go, use the moment of his financial contributions, (no matter how little he contributes), to hoard your own money. Also, you may need to consider getting a side gig or side gigs so that some or all of the side gig money can go to savings and some can go towards your daily livelihood. Good luck.
You are a good person you bring yourself your love your loyalty head up keep loving
So sorry to hear you went through this. That's why they say leave after the first time bc it doesn't get better.
Start a Creche Maa. My mum started a creche around your age and she's doing well now. its not easy but after some time you would be able to hire people and can be financially stable. You can also invest into a car washing bay at a vantage point. Or start a nanny, maid, or care giver agency. These are things you can do at your age which will require little to no Capital.
What a woman!!! Such a mother figure to us all 💝
I have now watched several of your videos and want to say how valuable they are to me and I believe to the collective. You are genuine, informative, funny and open up conversation that is real and raw.
Yes! Real & Raw. Much ❤
I love you auntie Fumi…I am an imported wife from Nigeria, now residing in the States…I must say that you are so lucky to have a husband that pays for everything.. Most women have never experienced such, I know I have never..
When I first arrived in the States, my now ex wanted me to immediately start working to start paying bills. I told him I wanted to go to school, he said he didn’t bring me to U.S to go to school…. the rest of the 25 years of my life with him was SLAVERY..! I never did go to school…
I have to actually divorce him for me to even have control of my own money…!
But thank God, I’m free now. My kids are all adults and I’m basically FREE from his bondage and slavery and I’m very happy. Mine was no marriage, it was slavery..
I will say it once again, Auntie Fumi, you got a GOLDEN husband…! Some of us women are never that lucky..!
Must I also add that the whole 25 years, the man never knew there’s a kitchen in that house, never cooked not even once..! Fumi you are very blessed 😇
Wow so sorry to hear that 25 yrs of your youth was wasted with a cruel man. Wish you had left much earlier though. Congratulations on finally getting your life back
You Igbo?
Happy you're finally free
Imported wife??? Please elaborate
Jeez...I'm happy to know you're finally free. ..Ladies should be very Careful...
Great advice for every woman at any age! Always save your money put something aside for a rainy day, after 2020 this was/is the motto. When I was growing up my grandmother also made sure that she had Life insurance and burial policy she was only making minimum wage and she said that you can be here today and gone tomorrow.
True. Wise woman
You are one beautiful woman to me Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. I love everything about you and this video was spot on. My mindset was like this when I was 11 years old. Long story short my dad was an alcoholic, wreck everything from car's, house and his marriage. My mom lose the house but I also gain a lot from experiencing that is that at that point it's not about sitting down and looking loss. My mom was a strong go getter. My mom stood up and didn't sit down until retirement. I am a jack of all trades from laying sewer pipes to having a degree in criminal justice. This video was perfect!!!!! Love you for this Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Happy holiday's and stay blessed.
Fumi, I discovered you today and am already obsessed aaah! My mom always tells me to not be too dependent on a man, to always have my own money. Even my dad always emphasized on working hard and having my own job because you never know of the tomorrow. I am 22 and I have also seen how my relatives' marriages were jeopradized and they had to go back to square one. People change, things change. Tomorrow isn't promised my sisters. Work hard and have your own money. Mtegemea cha nduguye hufa maskini ( One who depends on his siblings dies a poor person) a Swahili proverb.
Ahsante kutuwakilisha from Tanzania also.love you
Wow Ni vizuri kuona watu WA kwetu wakiwa hapa kwa huu mutandao. 🇰🇪
Watching one year later and it resonates!!! Being a single mom since forever, ...it's overwhelming and life doesn't go easy on some of us. Be real with oneself - thank you Fumi💌
Hello Auntie Fumi. I found out a few weeks ago we share a birthday. Yes, yes, I was born on April 16th, 1990. You are so fabulous. When I watch your videos I actually see an older version of myself in a lot of ways. It makes me happy as I live my life, day by day and with the grace of God I know I am a success story. The bible talks about older women advising the younger and I love that you do this. This is also something I'd like to do when I am a bit older and have gained more life experience as well. So I am learning a lot from you. Thank you so much for inspiring us all.
Oh my, u share an exact birthday with my darling elder sister!!!!!! 😃😃😃 Maria was born on the 16th of April 1990!!!! So ur like my sister from across the world 🤗
Same as my sister Shalawam
You are so right Fumi, I am a living example of what you just described. Young ladies, learn how to save while you still have something to save. May God bless you Fumi, so proud of you. Keep educating and encouraging our young ladies: mothers, sisters and why not your aunties like me!🙏🤗
Seriously. Going through that right now.
I wasted my hard earn money buying stupid stuff, traveling with so called friends. And now I have nothing to show for it.
No money, and left to stay with the father of my child.
Love you Fumi!! Keep'n it real!! I lost my dear husband love after 34years of marriage and fighting through a six year illness before he passed away. What you're saying here is so true!! Tried as I might to be prepared when the wheels fell off my life I still wasn't ready!!
I just lost my husband a few months ago unexpectedly. We were only married for 15 months, and he never got around to adding my name to any of his financial affairs ( like I did for him). When he died, there was nothing there for me to live off of. When I say nothing... I mean absolutely nothing. It all went to his previous family, because he didn't remove their names from his paperwork, even though he led me to believe he took care of things, and that I'd be provided for, should something happen to him. I could t believe it! If it wasn't for me having my own savings and assets, and very good friends that helped to provide the cushion I needed to keep me afloat, I don't know where I would be.
I learned the following lessons: As a woman... keep saving your own money, even if you're married because tomorrow is not promised, your life can change in the blink of an eye like mine did, and most importantly, sometimes men screw up, and we're left to clean up the mess.
@@calvthomas6153 thank u ma for the revealing sensitive issue and the timely advice 🙏💯❤
Fumi your advice transcends to young and older women alike. I have to say this is my favorite TH-cam channel. I get great makeup tips, great advice and I LOVE story time. Thank you for sharing your skills, wisdom and knowledge! ❤
This is a wonderful conversation. I just found you and I am so happy that I did. Thank you for focusing on women and especially women in their 50's.
Spot on Aunty Funmi. I believe in the power of a woman having her own money through savings. I love you
Great advice
My sister that's exactly what I say to my children boys and girls.
My friends to.
I am sharing this to my female friends. Your wisdom needs to be share, and this advice goes to ANYBODY , men and women !!! SAVE YOUR MONEY!!
please do more and more of sister to sister especially for young followers. Ive been following you all of my twenties... and I am 29 now
Great advice! I'm not married but the women in my family ALWAYS taught me to have my own money if I'm in a relationship and to have my own separate bank account because you just never know!
Fumi you are so correct! Women must make sure to earn and save, save big!! You will feel so much confidence and no fear. Keep working and saving.
The face beat is gorgeous as usual, and the topic/advice is an extremely life saving one. 🤗
😂😂😂😂 it's always her laughter for me. Love the vibes it add to her videos.
We African(Diaspora) Women are strong! I love you and what you are doing! Keep up the great work!
Thanks for keeping it real with the facts we woman need in life
This is my first time watching you & i must say your bone structure is magnificent. Story telling skills on point. You’re giving me rich auntie vibes & i love it ❤️
I swear you are Grace Jones and Iman with all that grandeur and not to mention the realness!!!! Yaaaassssss!!!! Talk Truth Fumi!!!!
Every woman needs a big sister or a solid group of sister friends! The way it’s done home in Africa! That’s how we survive and thrive
Thank you for sharing this wisdom!! I found my self suddenly divorced after a 28 and a half year marriage.I lived very well.Left with nothing! Your words are wise and true!!
Yes indeed your words can save many if they take practical steps now.You look amazing darling!! Amazing!!
This is therapy, Fumi. Thank you for being so candid
My mom always said "Have your own money"! Fumi, this is excellent, excellent advice for young women and those of us that are a "particular" age. Tomorrow is NOT promised! Be prepared for the possibility of the unexpected.
This really hit me‼My parents operated exactly like yours. My father provided for our family, he paid all the bills, mortgage and car notes. My mother also worked. She provided things for the house and provided for my sisters and I. Things like clothing, getting our hair done, extra curricular activities, etc. My mother, always from the time we were young girls, drilled it into her daughter's and any young woman she came across to have your own (job, savings, car, etc...). I appreciate her teachings so much and I miss she and my father as they have both passed on. I am the youngest (53) and have never been married nor do I have children. I always wanted a family; husband, kids, the house. I have faith that it will all come to pass for me. Even the child, although at this point not in the conventional way. Maybe the man I marry will have a child. Thank you Fumi for this reminder‼ You are truly a blessing. I hope one of your big announcements is your bra line coming to fruition for us heavy chested girls 🥰‼Happy Holidays🎄🎆🥂
I am the same as you,what is to be,will be,not all of us will marry and I love my single life,it speaks,freedom!!
I pray that you find the man of your dreams and I give you a big hug 😊😊
Merry Christmas and Happy new year 🎆🎊
You need to get out and date. Step out of your comfort zone. The man is not going to magically come to your doorstep. I wish you all the best. Romance and love are powerful things.
You can still a adopt!
You're the auntie that I have always wanted!!!!! when i watch your vids i really feel like you're talking to me alone and giving me guidance. You have a way of giving your opinion or guidance without malice or being passive aggressive. When other ppl tell me these things they make it seem like im doing something wrong or i should do what they said BECAUSE they're older, a im right and you're wrong aura to them.
Hi! So, I was on the edge of my seat with a racing heart listening to this amazing story and I became emotional for you…for other women and myself and I’m not married. This is the second time your page has popped up on my feed. I subscribed because you made me think and laugh. And your makeup is as beautiful as the energy you give to your subscribers. Thank you!
I love how she's story telling and talking about her makeup at the same time 💖what a amazing woman ✨
Awesome Lady!!
Her advice is great but I found it annoying the way she kept shortening her story to talk about her makeup at every instant.
I was surprised at the title! Noooooo! Not Fumi and Ole! But I watched. I wanted to make sure aunty Fumi is doing OK. Thank you for the wisdom, the storytime, and the make-up tutorial!!!
Jesus this message was for someone. Just the plain speaking truth that we needed. Yes fumination we are 300k. Let’s get to 500k. 🕺🏾💃🏾
My mother always taught me to have and be able to save money. She always said if push came to shove you should have a stash of cash. Anything can happen and the deer in the headlights look is not going to take care of you and your kids! This is an excellent word, Lady Fumi 💜
Are you Jamaican?
@@Chrissysings was about to ask the same thing..lol
@@Chrissysings! 5
I'm not married but this advice you posted was right on time!!!! I use to be that person..buying expensive clothes and handbags and there's nothing wrong with that if one can afford it. I remember I use to have every credit card for every store...the only saving grace was the cards didn't have balances. I've been in debt which is a special kind of hell! Oh I wanted every designer handbag...not anymore. Now I want travel experiences not things. I am glad I wised up!!!!! I remember someone told me, prepare and save in the good times for the bad times and that's what I live by. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I am a subscriber for life.
Yes. Please save like your life depends on it. Otherwise, celebrate the new adventurous you. ❤️
This is scary real and i appreciate you so much for sharing this! I am not even 30 yet and have already been married 5 years, everything is going well but as you said it will be that way until it is not! thank you for bringing security to my attention because I am very comfortable ...until im not. We have two children this was such a wake up call because i am sure that if things ever went left I know the Lord will take care of us but i am sure the children will come with me simply because they already spend every moment with me and i have to have a plan ...... I have made changes already thanks to you! Bless you and Happy New Years!!
Fumi, thank you so much for this reminder. Working together is lovely, but having your own is just so different and fulfilling; never put all your eggs in one basket. Also, the look is GIVING gorgeousness!!!
I’m learning this even now with my SD, things can change in a minute. Always have your own
where can I find one? @J Renee
Fumi I too found my self in that situation.... no money no where to go had to start over from the bottom. #lessonlearned...wise now and smarter 👌. Still a work in progress but it's not as bad .....thanks for this opportunity of knowing you and Fumi Nation my confidence is coming back. Love in the house❤💞💐 from Trinidad 🇹🇹 😍
Dear Fumi, I'm going to be honest with you: I was a little judgmental and thought that this was a possibly going to be a shallow little clip for posh girls... Apologies, I was so wrong! I love your vibrant joie de vivre, your honesty and keeping it real and still got so much glam and style that I just started to feel hopeful and alive again. There is a life for me and colours and fun even after 43. I just read a little bit about your biography... Kudos, madame 💐✨❤️ thanks a million for your inspiration, glam and generosity
Please Subscribe, Like and share with your friends and loved ones 🤗
This exactly what I have been taught my entire life! While I have had friends that have every designer this and that in their closet with no savings or 401K. I watch my spending and will buy classic pieces to mix and match with good pieces. I have a nice 401k and savings account. I have a separate account from my boyfriend. I don't play when it comes to my coins.
ALRIGHT NOW