I’ve long been an advocate of decluttering, there’s something incredibly cathartic about minimising the ‘stuff’ we surround ourselves with. Love your videos Bec 💙
I decluttered during the lockdowns 2 years ago. It was a great relief. Last year I lost my mother so I inherited a lot of her stuff. I hope to be moving house in a year or so, which of course means I'll be decluttering again. For me, decluttering isn't about "throwing things away"; it's about prioritizing what serves a purpose in my life now and what doesn't. I hope you've had a beautiful Sunday. Ever grateful for you and the gift you are to the world.
Sending you a massive hug, David. I love what you said about prioritising what serves a purpose - you're so right. 🧡 I am grateful for YOU (I have probably said that to you over 30 times now right - mean it every time!) 🧡
@@IamBecca I never expect replies from you, and when you do take the time to reply it feels like a warm blanket over my shoulders. Or a massive hug. Sending a massive hug back to you.
I lost my Mom last year also. I've had a pile of her things in the corner of my dining room for over a year. I can't seem to get myself to go through it yet.
I think the problem with “stuff” is it often carries with it the shared memories of times past which somehow seem to embed themselves into the “stuff” until the weight of our real & imagined stuff becomes almost unbearable…music hits me in the same weird way, hijacks you when you least expect it.
My father died two years ago, he was a hoarder; Two years later I'm still decluttering his stuff and I think I will be occupied for a few more years to come. It's so overwhelming and so so much I often take breaks for a few months. I even found my great grandmother's old shoes and handbags; I don't want to end up like this and I don't want my children to go through this when I die.
I'm so sorry to hear that - but I completely agree with you. Part of my want to be a minimalist is so nobody has a lot of things to go through once I'm gone. I hope decluttering is going okay, please be kind to yourself and just do it piece by piece. 🧡
Thank you for sharing! I really enjoy your videos. I am currently in the declutter mode. My husband died of Stage 4 Metastatic Small Cell Lung Cancer 13 months ago. I finally started going thru his things, I got on box done. I also went thru all my books and Bibles, I donated them to the Hospice Store near me. My husband was in Hospice care, and I felt donating would help me move forward just a bit but also help the community I live in. I also decluttered my kitchen, and donated boxes and boxes of kitchen things I will never use. It is very freeing!❤️
Oh wow bless your heart - firstly, I'm so sorry about your husband, the adjustment must be so difficult, but by the sounds of it you're doing him proud. Well done, much love. 🧡
Thank you so much for this video, it just hit so close to home. I have always been someone who keeps the smallest things, the tickets, the cards, all sorts of stupid little things as reminders, but over the last few weeks I have had to clean out my mum and dads house, mum passed a few years ago and dad 12 months ago, I have been putting it off because there were so many memories and my mental health had not been great, but it had to be done and I have found that many of the “things” in the house weren’t the memories, they were just things that weren’t important at all. So while I have kept a small number of items that had special attachment, most of the stuff has just gone, the memories are in your heart and listening to this video just confirmed my feelings. Cleaning out “stuff” has been sad but also made me feel better.
So glad to see you are doing well. I'm slowly decluttering my late husband's and my stuff (mainly his...the man hoarded!). I gave his children the things he wanted them to have. I'm going to do one room at a time, paint, redecorate and make it more my own. I've started going through my old clothes, giving them charity if in good condition and buying myself NEW clothes (which I haven't done in years). Hugs to you sweet girl. 👍❤ 🤣🤣oh my... I didn't realuze this was 4months old. LOL I must have missed it. Oh well better late than never! 🤣🤣🙃
It doesn't matter this was 4 months ago!!! You're welcome here. 🧡 I wish I could help with what you're going through... I'm sending you hugs - it isn't easy, but by the sounds of it you're handling it so well. Sending so much love to you and your family. Oh and treat yourself to new clothes!!!!! You deserve it!! 🧡 🧡🧡🧡
They say sizing down is really sizing up what matters! I always feel so good when I declutter or get rid of things that don't serve me.. it's like everything moves better and you feel so much more like creating NEW things. I also love blank spaces and minimalism. It's so calming! My problem is I really get nostalgic and actually get good feelings looking at the pheasant picture I took from 1995 or the picture of the old coworker I can't remember anymore because it reminds me of happy things. I "museum" things and I love holding on to family mementos for that same reason (Also the fear that if I let go of something from a family member no longer here, I'm letting go of THEM) and my family LOVES pictures - like pictures of family members from the 1890s and I really don't know who the people are. - - but I definitely have to balance both of those worlds! One thing that helps is picking only special representatives of a time or memory. Do I need to keep all grandmother's photos from the beginning of time? Maybe just pick the ones that represent her to me or which are really special. Or maybe I'll keep some of those weird random photos but I don't need to keep all 18 shots of that one flower pot.
UGH I ALWAYS LOVE YOUR COMMENTS AND WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY! (Caps lock was necessary!) This was perfect. I museum things too - but I've never worded it like that before?! I also love to tell people the stories behind things, even if they aren't particularly interested haha. Thank you so much for this. 🧡
Love the main message of clip regarding decluttering / simplifying items we surround ourselves with. I am thankful to hear that you too have such a special and supportive family Becca. Once again thank you for sharing your wisdom and kindness
Hey Becca, another video I can relate to and you're so right, we don't need lots of space or money to find happiness. When the economic situation improves, you can think about getting you're own place again anyway ;) I've lived in Madrid for 15 years, but even so I don't have many possessions as I'm quite minimalist, though when I sometimes think about returning to England to live, I'm like...ok how am I going to move all my stuff back haha
Oh wow Madrid! I bet that is beautiful. And yes - I am actually saving to see a bit of the world next year and then when I come back hopefully the situation will be a little better... (she hopes). Thank you for your comment! 🧡
@@IamBecca Yeah, there are so many beautiful and diverse places here it's incredible, the only bad thing is that in Summer it can get pretty toasty😅. Your plan sounds awesome! Travelling can teach you so much about yourself. You should come and see Madrid too; If you do, you will have a tour guide waiting for you anyway hehe💚
Good video. I have been on the path of getting rid of some things and sometimes you just need to work on 1 thing at a time over time and not all at once can help make it easier.
Definitely - that is great advice. Working on one thing at a time is such a good idea, especially where sentimental items are involved. Thank you so much for this. 🧡
Lol I’m having a good Sunday! Love your videos! I’m laughing at myself this morning, I bought a IPhone finally and left android and at 37 years old, I feel like a old man who can’t figure out technology lol. Not use to it, but, this is great because you have to find laughter in the little things to keep smiling lol. Also I have a farm in Kentucky, 500 acres outside of the city of Cincinnati but south of the Ohio River. I have a little country house too. Fortunately my dad left it to me when he passed away in 09 and to be real I rather have my dad back than the farm, miss him every day. You bring up declutter but I get this sense of anxiety when I go to do that. It’s odd. I don’t have a lot of photos, but I have a-lot of keep sakes. Also didn’t realize you couldn’t recycle photos either lol. Anyways, love the videos!!!! I try and come by every Sunday to catch your videos. Hugs from the states.
I always absolutely adore your comments - you have made me laugh haha! Good luck with the iPhone - hope you power through! I have been an apple user now for about 6 years and I couldn't go back! I completely get what you're saying about your dad - I really hope you're okay. 🧡 It is normal to feel a sense of anxiety when it comes to decluttering - maybe just do a tiny bit at a time? Or find a special place for the possessions you do have? Mahhhooosive hugs to you - thank you for always showing up. 🧡
Loving your channel, as I can relate to your view on life a lot. I’ve always considered myself an old soul who doesn’t really fit in. I have been into minimalism for a while and was adding some videos to my watch later list today when you uploaded this. I just need to be a bit more hardcore with my minimalism. During my depression, I - for some reason - brought loads of dvd boxsets and video games… most of which I have no interest in and will likely not use. I have got rid of some but still struggle with the idea I’ve not used the things and now they’re practically worthless. If I could start again, I’d try to own as little as possible as I get very easily overwhelmed and that feeling is intensified when I’ve got a lot of clutter and different options taking up head space.
This is such a wonderful comment - I think we have shared some lived experiences as I have done the same in the past. I hope the videos you have found start to help you a little bit and thank you so much, always, for your wonderful comment. 🧡
Declutering now that's a word that commands attention. I similarly to yourself had to move out of my 3 bedroom log home on the water when my husband (now late husband) left me. My safe haven was gone! I packed up & put my things in boxes. Unfortunately, the people helping took many boxes to the garbage up the hill. I was in shock when I noticed many boxes were gone. Bye-bye stuff & my painful declutering began. I still had to throw more out into the bin so it would fit my 2 bedroom walk-up. Next, I had to move into a 1 bedroom...yup declutering again to make things liveable. I was becoming a professional declutterer. Year's after, I became ill & you guessed it, more declutering of clothes that I would never wear again or that they didn't fit. Off to goodwill they went. At first, it was very painful & I cried more times than I could count. I'm now looking at the possibility of moving into a Sprinter van or tiny house where you only keep the essentials. I feel like an onion with each layer peeled back it reveals something new. I know I'm strong enough to handle it now bc a home is what you make it to be. I was never suppose to retire at such a young age, hence a small pension. The pension people made an grievous error & it turned out I owe them over $35,000 bc HR omitted to send them the proper paperwork. What a colossal mistake that I'm paying for. The take away is you can decluter even if you think you can't, you're strong enough. Reminds me of George Carlin "A Place For My Stuff". Watch it & I promise you'll get a good giggle. I love all the topics that you've chosen so far because they makes you take stock of your life. Thank you pretty lady, Ta till the next time we see your beautiful mug. Stay well & much ❤️ & hugs from 🇨🇦 ✌️🌹
I always absolutely adore your comments and they make me want to give you a hug. I really hope you're okay and coping - I feel like we would have a lot to talk about over a cuppa! I will definitely give that a watch too. Thank you so much for watching this mug over here!!! Lots of love. 🧡
I moved into my childhood home to be caregiver for my Mom for 10 years until she passed. I accumulated a lot while I lived there. I was able to declutter some while living there and after she passed but did bring quite a bit back to my home. I think the only way I will be fully motivated to downsize is by moving to a smaller house. Maybe the housing market will get affordable again. Thanks for sharing! Enjoy your time with your parents!
Hiya! Thank you for your comment. I deleted them as I was a very different, very young and very heartbroken person back then. This doesn't reflect who I am now and I would like to put out more content that reflects me. 🧡
As we see ourselves as passively reacting emotionally to the world around us, we miss the opportunity to learn the vital life skill of switching emotional gears. It's normal to worry, feel anxious, sad, disappointed, etc. But there comes a time when we have to put those feelings aside and switch gears. If I was with you, face to face, I'd teach you a trick in 15 minutes that would permanently take the sting (and the guilt) from that memory. Since that isn't possible, I can only suggest that you learn to distract yourself, emotionally. What thoughts or activities put you in a better, more positive place? Guilt often masks resentment. Is there someone or something about that incident that you secretly resent? Even if that admission feels shameful, focusing on that resentment should alleviate the guilt feelings. Much love to you Becca ❤️
You're comments are always so insightful - I'm actually going to copy and paste this and keep it with me to remember some of this in the future. Thank you so much for your wise, kind and insightful words - always. 🧡
Whenever I find myself about to indulge in another pointless purchase which I know will just become more clutter in the end. I try to remember that we take none of our material possessions with us when we go. Our clutter will always pass on to somebody else. I try to think of that person whoever it may be that handles my possessions when I go and say to myself, There I've just helped you out a little 😅
I love that! I definitely need to get into this habit again - I used to think like this all the time and I got out of the habit recently. You're comment has motivated me to get back on track with it! Thank you so much, always. 🧡
heres a story i experienced in 2018. i was the first time in amsterdam, and a wonderful warm summer evening, and there i sat, mildly stoned from a not too strong joint at the canal. and i suddenly was realizing that THIS IS THE AUTHENTIC LIFE. this is the good stuff. and weirdly enough i suddenly felt the urge to dump my smartphone into the canal. it was, like, the disturbing element (although it was on mute and all) and the fact that i had it with me in that moment of tranquility and presence....it felt like a hostile element. they have these trees at the canals and they shed little golden leaves, and then on top of all this, a rain of these golden little thingies engulfed me. it was so utter bliss and it made me think hard about, how is this so beautiful and why the hell am i so entangled to this digital fake shizzazz? my favorite band knorkator has a song called "eigentum" ("possession"), roughly translated: i am the property of my own property i am obedient to what obeys me i am possessed with what i possess and i am consumed by what i consume what i do control does control me i am totally taken by everything i took and because my fortune didnt bring me any fortune a little bit of security might give me security ...perhaps! /watch?v=Rhotf2r7o3w
I’ve long been an advocate of decluttering, there’s something incredibly cathartic about minimising the ‘stuff’ we surround ourselves with. Love your videos Bec 💙
Thank you always! Wouldn't exist without you. 🧡
I decluttered during the lockdowns 2 years ago. It was a great relief.
Last year I lost my mother so I inherited a lot of her stuff. I hope to be moving house in a year or so, which of course means I'll be decluttering again. For me, decluttering isn't about "throwing things away"; it's about prioritizing what serves a purpose in my life now and what doesn't.
I hope you've had a beautiful Sunday. Ever grateful for you and the gift you are to the world.
Sending you a massive hug, David. I love what you said about prioritising what serves a purpose - you're so right. 🧡 I am grateful for YOU (I have probably said that to you over 30 times now right - mean it every time!) 🧡
@@IamBecca I never expect replies from you, and when you do take the time to reply it feels like a warm blanket over my shoulders. Or a massive hug. Sending a massive hug back to you.
I lost my Mom last year also. I've had a pile of her things in the corner of my dining room for over a year. I can't seem to get myself to go through it yet.
@Mikey Chan Thank you!
You are amazing! I love your random content! I struggled really hard doing this after my wife passed. Be safe and healthy my dear friend!
I think the problem with “stuff” is it often carries with it the shared memories of times past which somehow seem to embed themselves into the “stuff” until the weight of our real & imagined stuff becomes almost unbearable…music hits me in the same weird way, hijacks you when you least expect it.
Troy you're so right - I couldn't agree more. I love the word hijack here too - I think it is perfect. Thank you for sharing. 🧡
My father died two years ago, he was a hoarder; Two years later I'm still decluttering his stuff and I think I will be occupied for a few more years to come. It's so overwhelming and so so much I often take breaks for a few months. I even found my great grandmother's old shoes and handbags; I don't want to end up like this and I don't want my children to go through this when I die.
I have the same feeling from packing up my loved ones things. It's a lot. I need to think about the people who will pack up my things someday!
I'm so sorry to hear that - but I completely agree with you. Part of my want to be a minimalist is so nobody has a lot of things to go through once I'm gone. I hope decluttering is going okay, please be kind to yourself and just do it piece by piece. 🧡
Thank you for sharing! I really enjoy your videos. I am currently in the declutter mode. My husband died of Stage 4 Metastatic Small Cell Lung Cancer 13 months ago. I finally started going thru his things, I got on box done. I also went thru all my books and Bibles, I donated them to the Hospice Store near me. My husband was in Hospice care, and I felt donating would help me move forward just a bit but also help the community I live in. I also decluttered my kitchen, and donated boxes and boxes of kitchen things I will never use. It is very freeing!❤️
Oh wow bless your heart - firstly, I'm so sorry about your husband, the adjustment must be so difficult, but by the sounds of it you're doing him proud. Well done, much love. 🧡
You have no idea how much I needed this! Thank you! ❤
I hope you're okay! 🧡
Thank you so much for this video, it just hit so close to home. I have always been someone who keeps the smallest things, the tickets, the cards, all sorts of stupid little things as reminders, but over the last few weeks I have had to clean out my mum and dads house, mum passed a few years ago and dad 12 months ago, I have been putting it off because there were so many memories and my mental health had not been great, but it had to be done and I have found that many of the “things” in the house weren’t the memories, they were just things that weren’t important at all. So while I have kept a small number of items that had special attachment, most of the stuff has just gone, the memories are in your heart and listening to this video just confirmed my feelings. Cleaning out “stuff” has been sad but also made me feel better.
Oh Andrew, I read your previous comment just moments ago. I really hope you're doing okay - getting rid of things can be so so hard. 🧡
Good advice lovely - thank you, so enjoy your vlogs ❤
Thank you so much for watching! Massive hugs. 🧡
So glad to see you are doing well. I'm slowly decluttering my late husband's and my stuff (mainly his...the man hoarded!). I gave his children the things he wanted them to have.
I'm going to do one room at a time, paint, redecorate and make it more my own. I've started going through my old clothes, giving them charity if in good condition and buying myself NEW clothes (which I haven't done in years).
Hugs to you sweet girl. 👍❤
🤣🤣oh my... I didn't realuze this was 4months old. LOL I must have missed it. Oh well better late than never! 🤣🤣🙃
It doesn't matter this was 4 months ago!!! You're welcome here. 🧡 I wish I could help with what you're going through... I'm sending you hugs - it isn't easy, but by the sounds of it you're handling it so well. Sending so much love to you and your family. Oh and treat yourself to new clothes!!!!! You deserve it!! 🧡
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They say sizing down is really sizing up what matters! I always feel so good when I declutter or get rid of things that don't serve me.. it's like everything moves better and you feel so much more like creating NEW things. I also love blank spaces and minimalism. It's so calming! My problem is I really get nostalgic and actually get good feelings looking at the pheasant picture I took from 1995 or the picture of the old coworker I can't remember anymore because it reminds me of happy things. I "museum" things and I love holding on to family mementos for that same reason (Also the fear that if I let go of something from a family member no longer here, I'm letting go of THEM) and my family LOVES pictures - like pictures of family members from the 1890s and I really don't know who the people are. - - but I definitely have to balance both of those worlds! One thing that helps is picking only special representatives of a time or memory. Do I need to keep all grandmother's photos from the beginning of time? Maybe just pick the ones that represent her to me or which are really special. Or maybe I'll keep some of those weird random photos but I don't need to keep all 18 shots of that one flower pot.
UGH I ALWAYS LOVE YOUR COMMENTS AND WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY! (Caps lock was necessary!) This was perfect. I museum things too - but I've never worded it like that before?! I also love to tell people the stories behind things, even if they aren't particularly interested haha. Thank you so much for this. 🧡
@@IamBecca I love when my friends or family tell the stories behind things! haha maybe they're not as bored as you think! 😉
All your videos are in line with what I'm going through right now in my life, thank you for being there with your videos. 🧡
Oh Camille, I really hope you're okay. Thank you for turning up and being so supportive. Sending a massive virtual hug. 🧡
@@IamBecca Yes I'm okay, you have to go through that kind of stuff and thinking when you become an adult I guess ! Virtual hug 🧡
Love the main message of clip regarding decluttering / simplifying items we surround ourselves with. I am thankful to hear that you too have such a special and supportive family Becca. Once again thank you for sharing your wisdom and kindness
Thank you for always sharing a kind word with me Timothy - you're so lovely. I am extremely grateful for my family. 🧡
Hey Becca, another video I can relate to and you're so right, we don't need lots of space or money to find happiness. When the economic situation improves, you can think about getting you're own place again anyway ;) I've lived in Madrid for 15 years, but even so I don't have many possessions as I'm quite minimalist, though when I sometimes think about returning to England to live, I'm like...ok how am I going to move all my stuff back haha
Oh wow Madrid! I bet that is beautiful. And yes - I am actually saving to see a bit of the world next year and then when I come back hopefully the situation will be a little better... (she hopes). Thank you for your comment! 🧡
@@IamBecca Yeah, there are so many beautiful and diverse places here it's incredible, the only bad thing is that in Summer it can get pretty toasty😅. Your plan sounds awesome! Travelling can teach you so much about yourself. You should come and see Madrid too; If you do, you will have a tour guide waiting for you anyway hehe💚
Good video. I have been on the path of getting rid of some things and sometimes you just need to work on 1 thing at a time over time and not all at once can help make it easier.
Definitely - that is great advice. Working on one thing at a time is such a good idea, especially where sentimental items are involved. Thank you so much for this. 🧡
Lol I’m having a good Sunday! Love your videos! I’m laughing at myself this morning, I bought a IPhone finally and left android and at 37 years old, I feel like a old man who can’t figure out technology lol. Not use to it, but, this is great because you have to find laughter in the little things to keep smiling lol.
Also I have a farm in Kentucky, 500 acres outside of the city of Cincinnati but south of the Ohio River. I have a little country house too. Fortunately my dad left it to me when he passed away in 09 and to be real I rather have my dad back than the farm, miss him every day.
You bring up declutter but I get this sense of anxiety when I go to do that. It’s odd. I don’t have a lot of photos, but I have a-lot of keep sakes. Also didn’t realize you couldn’t recycle photos either lol.
Anyways, love the videos!!!! I try and come by every Sunday to catch your videos. Hugs from the states.
I always absolutely adore your comments - you have made me laugh haha! Good luck with the iPhone - hope you power through! I have been an apple user now for about 6 years and I couldn't go back! I completely get what you're saying about your dad - I really hope you're okay. 🧡
It is normal to feel a sense of anxiety when it comes to decluttering - maybe just do a tiny bit at a time? Or find a special place for the possessions you do have?
Mahhhooosive hugs to you - thank you for always showing up. 🧡
Loving your channel, as I can relate to your view on life a lot. I’ve always considered myself an old soul who doesn’t really fit in. I have been into minimalism for a while and was adding some videos to my watch later list today when you uploaded this. I just need to be a bit more hardcore with my minimalism. During my depression, I - for some reason - brought loads of dvd boxsets and video games… most of which I have no interest in and will likely not use. I have got rid of some but still struggle with the idea I’ve not used the things and now they’re practically worthless. If I could start again, I’d try to own as little as possible as I get very easily overwhelmed and that feeling is intensified when I’ve got a lot of clutter and different options taking up head space.
This is such a wonderful comment - I think we have shared some lived experiences as I have done the same in the past. I hope the videos you have found start to help you a little bit and thank you so much, always, for your wonderful comment. 🧡
Beautiful video hun thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank YOU for always commenting and being so lovely. 🧡
Keep up the great videos Becca 😊
I'll try! Thank you 🧡
Declutering now that's a word that commands attention. I similarly to yourself had to move out of my 3 bedroom log home on the water when my husband (now late husband) left me. My safe haven was gone! I packed up & put my things in boxes. Unfortunately, the people helping took many boxes to the garbage up the hill. I was in shock when I noticed many boxes were gone. Bye-bye stuff & my painful declutering began. I still had to throw more out into the bin so it would fit my 2 bedroom walk-up. Next, I had to move into a 1 bedroom...yup declutering again to make things liveable. I was becoming a professional declutterer. Year's after, I became ill & you guessed it, more declutering of clothes that I would never wear again or that they didn't fit. Off to goodwill they went. At first, it was very painful & I cried more times than I could count. I'm now looking at the possibility of moving into a Sprinter van or tiny house where you only keep the essentials. I feel like an onion with each layer peeled back it reveals something new. I know I'm strong enough to handle it now bc a home is what you make it to be. I was never suppose to retire at such a young age, hence a small pension. The pension people made an grievous error & it turned out I owe them over $35,000 bc HR omitted to send them the proper paperwork. What a colossal mistake that I'm paying for.
The take away is you can decluter even if you think you can't, you're strong enough. Reminds me of George Carlin "A Place For My Stuff". Watch it & I promise you'll get a good giggle. I love all the topics that you've chosen so far because they makes you take stock of your life. Thank you pretty lady, Ta till the next time we see your beautiful mug. Stay well & much ❤️ & hugs from 🇨🇦 ✌️🌹
I always absolutely adore your comments and they make me want to give you a hug. I really hope you're okay and coping - I feel like we would have a lot to talk about over a cuppa! I will definitely give that a watch too. Thank you so much for watching this mug over here!!! Lots of love. 🧡
With new possessions, comes new memories.
That is also true! 🧡
I moved into my childhood home to be caregiver for my Mom for 10 years until she passed. I accumulated a lot while I lived there. I was able to declutter some while living there and after she passed but did bring quite a bit back to my home. I think the only way I will be fully motivated to downsize is by moving to a smaller house. Maybe the housing market will get affordable again. Thanks for sharing! Enjoy your time with your parents!
Fingers cross it does. I really hope you're coping okay and looking after yourself. You're so lovely. 🧡
You are so wise!
I'm not sure about that but thank you so much for watching. 🧡
do you still have poppy becca? just popped into my head. loving your vids x
I do indeed! She lives happily with my parents and she is so spoilt, my dad adores her. 🧡
@@IamBecca aww that’s lovely! Given me a cosy heart 😊
I need to do a declutter of my storage cupboard
My storage was the worst thing of all to declutter so I feel you pain! 🧡
@@IamBecca its a horrible job isnt. Im trying to find the motivation to start it lol xx
Why did you delete all of your old videos?
Probably wanted to declutter her TH-cam too.im sure there's lots that she wants to move on from
Hiya! Thank you for your comment. I deleted them as I was a very different, very young and very heartbroken person back then. This doesn't reflect who I am now and I would like to put out more content that reflects me. 🧡
@@IamBecca ahhh but going through that has helped make you the person you are now. ❤
@@IamBecca but there were videos of your late husband. So you’re just erasing his memories?
@@shelly7160 that's so rude to say
I am looking for some property in Colchester, fell in love with the area back in 2019, visiting my friend there.
Oh wow how exciting!! Best of luck with your search! 🧡
As we see ourselves as passively reacting emotionally to the world around us, we miss the opportunity to learn the vital life skill of switching emotional gears.
It's normal to worry, feel anxious, sad, disappointed, etc. But there comes a time when we have to put those feelings aside and switch gears. If I was with you, face to face, I'd teach you a trick in 15 minutes that would permanently take the sting (and the guilt) from that memory. Since that isn't possible, I can only suggest that you learn to distract yourself, emotionally. What thoughts or activities put you in a better, more positive place? Guilt often masks resentment. Is there someone or something about that incident that you secretly resent? Even if that admission feels shameful, focusing on that resentment should alleviate the guilt feelings. Much love to you Becca ❤️
You're comments are always so insightful - I'm actually going to copy and paste this and keep it with me to remember some of this in the future. Thank you so much for your wise, kind and insightful words - always. 🧡
@@IamBecca bless your heart my sweet Becca ❤️ you're such an inspiration in the past 4 years and I am Very grateful for that. Much love ❤️❤️
Why do you only post on Sunday??? Can you post more during the exhausting work week????
I can definitely do this if it is something you're interested in! 🧡
@@IamBecca it would help destress me during the week.
Whenever I find myself about to indulge in another pointless purchase which I know will just become more clutter in the end. I try to remember that we take none of our material possessions with us when we go. Our clutter will always pass on to somebody else. I try to think of that person whoever it may be that handles my possessions when I go and say to myself, There I've just helped you out a little 😅
I love that! I definitely need to get into this habit again - I used to think like this all the time and I got out of the habit recently. You're comment has motivated me to get back on track with it! Thank you so much, always. 🧡
Pleasure as always Becci 🙂
Hi from Australia!
Hellooooo! 🧡
I have a 3 year old. Unfortunately he makes sure my house is cluttered with his toys...
Haha I can only imagine! 🧡
heres a story i experienced in 2018.
i was the first time in amsterdam, and a wonderful warm summer evening, and there i sat, mildly stoned from a not too strong joint at the canal. and i suddenly was realizing that THIS IS THE AUTHENTIC LIFE. this is the good stuff. and weirdly enough i suddenly felt the urge to dump my smartphone into the canal. it was, like, the disturbing element (although it was on mute and all) and the fact that i had it with me in that moment of tranquility and presence....it felt like a hostile element. they have these trees at the canals and they shed little golden leaves, and then on top of all this, a rain of these golden little thingies engulfed me. it was so utter bliss and it made me think hard about, how is this so beautiful and why the hell am i so entangled to this digital fake shizzazz?
my favorite band knorkator has a song called "eigentum" ("possession"), roughly translated:
i am the property of my own property
i am obedient to what obeys me
i am possessed with what i possess
and i am consumed by what i consume
what i do control does control me
i am totally taken by everything i took
and because my fortune didnt bring me any fortune
a little bit of security might give me security
...perhaps!
/watch?v=Rhotf2r7o3w
Oh wow! This is amazing - and these lyrics too! I love everything about this - thank you as always for sharing such a beautiful comment with us all. 🧡