I will NEVER forget when my little brother turned 6 and not a single kid from his class came to the party. He was so excited because he finally had his group, but my POS mom didn’t send invitations (or plan the party) until a couple of days BEFORE it. It enraged me. I was 16 at the time and felt the worst heartbreak ever. So the following year when I turned 17, 3 months later, I saved my money from my part time job and took him to monster jam, with pit passes. He had been before, but didn’t remember them. Plus it was just he and I and he still remembers that day. It’s something I hope my kid will never have to feel. The neglect is so upsetting. It comes in all forms. Not just in the typical ways.
Thank you for doing that. My sister is 12 years older than me and SHE is the one who did all the special childhood things with me (and my younger sister). She took us to the zoo, amusements parks, restaurants, even Disney. My mom didn’t… but my sister fulfilled that for me. I would walk through fire for her (and I’m 51 now)! What you did, are doing for your younger brother is wonderful & so special. Also my sister didn’t have money. She saved and sacrificed just like you. And now as an adult understanding that I still could weep over that goodness. You’re amazing.
And the comment regarding N, was ABSOLUTELY disgusting. A grown adult attacking a CHILD is ABSURD. All because N stood up for herself and called Alisha's bluff. I also wish all of the best, happiness and love her way! She deserves it!
This is exactly what I was gonna say! James took the time to look at each gift as well instead of ripping & roaring thru them like all the other kids!! I just love James & Bree! Lush makes me so angry at the way she treats James!!
James is the only one of the children that actually takes the time to look at every single gift, looking at it and then thanking the giver of the gift, he is such a wonderful young man.. i feel so sorry for him having to live in that toxic environment...
I find myself crying through this entire video watching James. I just want to hug him and tell him he is a great kid and there are people who do love him for him.
I can't stand this 'one size fits all' parenting. My mom always told me 'if you treat all kids equally, then you are treating someone unfairly'. It took me a while to realize what she meant, but when I finally understood, that was a game changer. Fair and equal are not the same. Explain why she makes the same lunch for a 5 year old and a 17 year old? I'm sorry, these videos fucking hurt my heart.
That's a really good point and way to look at it. Thank you for commenting that as some days I struggle working out what my 3 children need because they are different and need different things off me. Great advice from your Mum 🙂
I’ve had to explain this to my child since we’ve had another baby. I’ve also had to let my oldest know that I did the same for them as a baby as I do for my littlest now since oldest gets upset I do a lot for littlest.
Your Mom is 100% right. Some neighbours asked me why I throw a big birthday party for my 8 year old when my 3 year old just had two friends over to our place for cake. Well because he can have a big party when he's old enough to appreciate it instead of getting overwhelmed. Maybe by then my older son will just want pizza and a movie with some friends instead of a party. It should be about the kid, not about the guests or how it looks to them.
James is the kid who wants to be a chef right? I can think of 100 better and more thoughtful gift ideas for him than his own mom. Not another friggin video game or electronics chair for Christ sake. How about a subscription to Gordon Ramsay’s masterclass? A nice set of pots and pans or a new fun appliance like an instant pot or air fryer. How about some cook books to go along with those things? What about a trip to a chefs school? Or a trip to an ultra fancy nyc restaurant to experience fine dining and what a successful chef can do? He’s 17, how about a CAR?! She is so careless and thoughtless it breaks my heart for James.
His bio family got him a personalized wooden spoon for Christmas and you could tell he was so thankful for the thought put into it. It wasn't about the cost but someone paying attention to HIM and his hope to become a chef. She fails these kids over and over and over again but is so self absorbed she doesn't see it nor does she care. I hope he accomplishes everything his heart desires in life and never looks back. He deserves it, they all do
There are so many great gift opportunities related to cooking. We got a friend of mine an afternoon in the kitchen of a Michelin star restaurant working as a (supervised) sous chef. I'm sure James would have loved something like that.
I’m new to the Dougherty Dozen, even though I live in the Rochester area, I’ve never heard of them before. James seems like such a sweet kid. If he likes cooking so much why didn’t she sign him up for some cooking lessons for his birthday? Then maybe buy him his own chef’s jacket to wear at home so he can help prepare dinner and show her what he learned. He might enjoy that. I felt so bad for him that none of his siblings took an interest in watching him open his gifts. Maybe Mommy dearest should include the other children when it comes to shopping for the birthday gifts so the gifts can be given from the siblings also, not just the parents. It might help generate some interest when a sibling is opening gifts. My husband and I have always done that on birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, etc. It helps the other children feel included. Josh is right, what a sad birthday. 😔
If I was her kid I would keep asking for expensive gifts just so that I could resell them and save the money to get the hell out of there. She wouldn't even notice what she bought was missing because she buys so much shit.
James, I hope you can see this video, and understand, this isn't acceptable for a 17th birthday. None of this is your fault. You deserve so much more. You are a complete sweetheart. And soon to be a young man in this world. You have a bunch of strangers out here rooting for ya. I hope the day you leave this house, you can have the most wonderful adventure of good fortune and finding your tribe that can celebrate you genuinely. Your mother and father are holding you back..... ❤😊 better days ahead for you young man. 🙏
Good catch on the choice of words here. There is absolutely fucking NOTHING funny about a child in the foster care system struggling with their mental health.
The fact that she stooped that LOW with the crossing out N’s name on the sign and made a point to have it in the background is just disgusting!! Sadly I am not surprised either because she has proven that she has no qualms about saying/doing things that negatively impact some of the kids. And esp when N’s brother is still living there!! Obv he sees what she did and she’s prob saying stuff to him too….in order to alienate him from his own blood….she shouldn’t be allowed to adopt or foster. Happy Birthday James! 🎉❤ James is def a fav for us on the DCP channel! He really is such a good hearted kid….always grateful for ANYTHING he gets…says thank you…..takes care of the family dog as well as D’S dog. I could see the sadness in his eyes which is heartbreaking…..he tries to put on a happy face as he is opening gifts-but I think he wanted everyone to be there for him on his day. Sending James lots of love! ❤❤❤❤❤ He is turning into a really genuine and awesome man.
this is genuinely one of the saddest videos i've seen. he was sitting alone with nana and papa while all the other kids were at another table? the look on jame's face when they were singing to him almost brought me to tears. there's just lots of sadness in his eyes. he's such a sweet kid :( alicia is horrible
That’s what parents say but usually it’s bc there wasn’t parenting even going on. They haven’t been given attention, love, expectations (which they actual do want). There is no sense accomplishment when they do something for themselves.
Narcissistic behavior 101- about age 12 when the child begins to be independent and get an identity the ugly gets worse- took me 40 years to be comfortable with who Iwas - hell to even know who I was
Out of every birthday vlog you have covered of DD I have never seen a child who is genuinely thankful for what they open. This was literally the only one I have seen with a child who takes time to open the gifts to give each one the appropriate appreciation and saying thanks. James seems to be such a sweet kid that just likes to make others feel good. Alicia so obviously favors certain kids which is so sad for the other kids 😔
N needs to do a Tell All on Lush and Josh when she is healed from the trauma she experienced. I was also abused growing up and what helped me was telling my story.
I don’t think that would be great for her because of lushes Stans, they’d probably go after her & if she already struggles with mental health issues & thoughts/ actions of harming herself I don’t think getting a ton of hate and threats would be beneficial to her. Maybe when she’s an adult and is ready to talk about it but I don’t think a child should be in that situation. I’d like to think grown adults online wouldn’t send that type of stuff to a child but it’s the internet & people are sick.
Josh skipped over when James opens his present from his friend at Laser tag. James was genuinely excited his friend got him fishing line. But when he opened all the presents from his mom he was just showing polite interest, because James is a sensitive soul. Also, how many times did we see Harlee at Laser tag and only saw James a when it was cake time. Sad.
Because 17year olds don’t need to hang around their mom at an arcade, especially when they have friends there, where as the 5 year old needs help from mom?????
@@Momoftwo2017 fair answer. But I have noticed this is what happens at everyone's birthday, not just James. The grandparents are always there, why can't they watch Harlee so Alisha has more opportunity to video the child whose birthday it is. The video was titled "James birthday vlog" not Harlee's. Just an observation.
james is honestly so precious he’s 17 and still shows more appreciation for the very little love and attention he gets.😓 by far my favorite child who deserves such an amazing future.❤
My heart breaks for James 😢 I wonder if he has conditioned himself to be happy with the bare minimum or if he’s just swallowing all that grief and sadness down inside and will one day be too much. She is the worst mom I’ve ever seen, she doesn’t deserve any of the money, fame or innocent children whose lives she’s destroyed for fame.
Why does james showing so much genuine appreciation for his gifts only make me feel sadder. Hes such a good kid and he deserves just as much love and appreciation back to him as he gives out.
J is such a good kid. Probably the best there could be, honestly. The dogs loving him so much says it better than anything. They can always tell when someone's a good person. He deserves to be treated so much better. Lush obviously doesn't give a damn.
James is so sweet. When he sat down and opened his gifts, you could tell that he was thankful for taking the time to open each gift. I hope he sees your videos and all of our comments about him cheering him on and the positive affirmations that he is a good kid.
I like how James takes the time to acknowledge each of his gifts. James seem s to be a smart kid and the only one thinking about his future. Let's all pray he can be successful in his culinary arts program and make a great life for himself.
She has the money to pay someone to make amazing cakes for each of her kids, and she gets them the ugliest cakes 🙄 On another note.. James is the sweetest, loving, kindhearted, most gentle soul & it hurts my heart so bad that his parents can’t see that & cherish him the way he deserves 💔 Watching how happy & thankful James is for his gifts makes my heart overflow 🥹 I would be so proud to have him as a son & show what unconditional love is by your parent!
Mom liked to get nasty apple spice cake every week like what was the use to ask us what cake we wanted if you would guilt us to get apple spice cake just so you could eat a pickle with it I wanted white or confetti but what did I get? The same cake WE HAD EVERY WEEK
I hope N speaks up!!! This was the saddest birthday vlog I've ever seen. I can't believe the favoritism she has over the other kids. A counter full of Goldfish, some socks, Josh wasn't there to celebrate as usual, and the fact that none of the other kids were there to watch him open presents. Just sad. I love James. He's the best and I hope he sees It in himself
Her actions remind me a lot of an aunt that I have. It's really sad how people can be. The kid moved out but she is boiling about it, she will never let that go for some reason. I moved out of state to attend college and stayed with an aunt and uncle who was I really close with. My cousins and I got along, we all respected each other. I met a guy, got engaged and was getting married so I moved out a few months before the wedding. Well, when I told my aunt she couldn't even look at me. The day I moved out, she ignored me and my husband and I packed up everything. My cousins wouldn't even speak to me besides a hello. It was like walking on eggshells. Once I was not living there anymore I barely heard from any of them. They came to the wedding, we got a little friendly after we got back from our honeymoon but you could tell she couldn't be happy for us. This is a grown adult, married over 20 years who has kids of her own. Why would she act this way? I was always reaching out to her. Even now. Almost 15 years after I lived with them there is hardly a relationship there. It's just too much work to put in to someone who is fake. I have to take care of my own family now I don't have time to try to fix things. It will never go back to how it was. Some people get bitter and they stay bitter.
and you know what is sad if James wants to go into culinary school you would think that lush has an idea that he likes to cook and would let him do that once in a while for the family. To encourage him give him free range to come up with a good menu.
It's so sad to see how she favors other kids versus James. He's such a sweet appreciative kid and the fact that she didn't even invite any friends to his birthday and it was just his siblings breaks my heart. I hope this kid gets out and can experience a true loving family dynamic
I’ve gotta say,I love James,mainly for the way he is with the dogs,but he seems like a lovely kid especially in the birthday vlog,so grateful for his stuff and took his time to look at everything and say thank you,instead of just flinging it on the floor like the others do!
bless James he reminds me of my nephew a soul so giving and kind and its missed by everyone in that family. i hope someday he is treated like the gift he is .. he deserves so much more than he is getting.
Imagine being the sort of person who tries to bully and make life more difficult for a child who is clearly already struggling! I hope N at last has the support and love she deserves. I hope she has a wonderful life and knows that these days will pass and life has so much to offer her in the future even when it looks like things will never change..they will.
J has the kindest heart and appreciates everything he receives. He doesn’t get that from his parents that’s for sure. He wants the attention from his parents that they don’t give him. His wife in the future will be lucky to get him. Happiest birthday J 🎉
Alicia should be sued until she is homeless for what she said about a child placed in her care. There are HIPAA laws, im quite sure there has to be laws to protect children’s privacy in foster care.
I have a soft spot for James. He's just an awesome kid. He's so sweet with his siblings. He's also very smart and communicates extremely well. He was excited and so thankful for every thing he got for his bday despite Alicia putting no effort into it. He deserves soooo much better.
I hope James watches your videos so he can hear the nice things you say about him! And so many people here as well. James is a sweet young man and I pray he will do amazing things in the future.
No I hope he doesn’t , honestly even though Josh means well I don’t think it’s a good idea for him to hear people talking about how bad they feel for him and people talking about how no one went to his party and how sad it was.
Tracy, I couldn't agree with you more. I called her out when he had his wisdom teeth removed and she didn't get him any soft food for days and then made him carry in all the groceries while he was in pain all because she didn't want to bother Alex or Dayshawn. James deserves so much.
I see a bit of myself in James too. He has such a good heart, and I love how he tries to connect and comment on each gift and show appreciation. Good kid.
25:52 that smudged out heart is seriously f*cked up. It’s a glaring sign to the other children that if you resist , THIS will be YOU also smeared off this family board.
Yeah that was really awful to look at. We have 4 small kdis ourselves and my daughter says Zoey is going to be the one to spill the beans 🫘 because she's just like Zoey ! ALUSHA could have just turned the heart around or filled it in w some flowers or something like re writing the entire heart with everyone's name. It's so obvious it's smeared out!
For some reason I got so sad watching James open his gifts :( you can tell how sweet he is & to know he isn't treated how he should be is heartbreaking.
This made me so sick and pissed. As a social worker, as a person who is recovering from self harm, I lost my shit. I posted on the video. She is disgusting. She needs to be investigated for a lot.
@@mariahmangram1621it would pass with no problems. Cps/ social workers are a joke for kids!!! They don’t help them at best but. They help the parents 100%
Annddd...James opening his presents brought tears to me eyes. He's such a great kid and is so appreciative, like my kids are. I want to hug him so hard.
as someone who grew up also needing razors locked away this REALLY upsets me. granted all of alicia’s videos do but this one really hit home. i couldn’t imagine seeing my mom talk about me that way. what a sick individual. i truly hope neither n or d come across this because it’s just so disheartening.
It infuriates me how freely she gives away personal information about her kids for the world to hear. It embarassed me when my mom disclosed something to family. Can only imagine the magnitude it would be if she told complete strangers.
He looks and sounds sad ... your birthday is supposed to be a really happy day. He seems like the sweetest teenager to. I feel like he is under appreciated.
I was always sad because Ik my cake would be apple spice cake literally we had that every week just so mom could eat a pickle with cake FOR 10 YEARS and then she wondered why it spoiled before it was eaten halfway for the last 5 oh I don't MAYBE BECAUSE WE WERE ALL TIRED OF IT I WANTED CONFETTI OR WHITE CAKE
D life is probably better, whereas girls as teens struggle more mentally worrying about everything!! D is getting the best of everything materially and support in sports. That goes along way with boys!!! I see why he likes it. He came out of his shell living with the Dougherty family. I bet he's really confident and popular at school now.
And even more disgusting is that Alisha is calculating her way into driving a divide between N and her brother. All they have is each other and she’s more than happy to rip them apart.
@@GoldenEve23 Do you hear yourself? “Personally” ? You don’t know N or D personally, all you see it what Alisha curates for you to see. You have no idea what their relationship is. Furthermore, even more reason that Alisha should be helping foster their relationship. And NO, it’s NOT D’s “choice to become a Dougherty”. That’s about as ignorant of a statement I’ve heard. If it was his choice he probably would have chose his mom making better decisions and staying with her. Kids DON’t GET A CHOICE. when he is 18 he can decide what he wants to do but believe your eyes and ears that Alisha is tempting him with every dollar she has.
@@s.k.1603 There were 12 children up until very recently. The latest 2 children were a “kinship” placement. Two teens, a boy and a girl. Their mom was apparently a drug user and knew Alisha to some degree so Alisha agreed to take the kids in. She slathered them with gifts and things as she blew their personal story all over her social media. You know, typical child exploitation is what she does best. It was evident that the sister was unhappy there. She very much didn’t want to be in the videos and it showed. We aren’t sure exactly how it went down but she found a way out and likely another family to stay with. Since she’s been gone Alisha had been snide and bitter, making comments or blatantly removing any sign of her living there. The sister is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and wasn’t swayed by “luxury” that Alisha offered.
James is definitely one of my most favorites. Such a sweet boy ( from what we see ). He’s so appreciative and it warms my heart to see his mannerisms even through all this wickedness. ❤
See how J talks about his gifts and says Thank you to his family !!! And they just keep going about the VIDEO !!! No you welcome you deserve all of this 🥺
He is a sweet boy. It broke my heart watching your face while watching him open his gifts. You can see in your face that you care about these kids. You’re doing a good job and hope one day you’ll change the world!
the fact that she never questions WHY these kids want to leave is so telling. its always a "problem" with the child and never an issue with the parenting or lack thereof.
At the beginning of this video, she states that goldfish are James favorite snack. In all the grocery hauls when she buy them, she has always said that she's buying them for Harley. I found that odd.
Thank you for the reminder to always show your kids love. I actually have tears in my eyes, seeing this birthday. Tonight I will definitely give my girls extra hugs remind them again of how much I love them. Josh... you're a great dad!
He does seem like such a sweet kid. Honestly i pray that once he is done with school he leaves and never looks back. He is gonna go far in his life and he is the only one who actually said thank u. He is an amazingly well rounded kid considering the family he lives with 🤪
Typical reaction for a narcissist when you leave them or cross them. Sad when it’s against a child who is running to save themself. I hope the best for N. As far as James, he does more parenting than Lush or Josh has ever done. ❤😊
Lush is a b.... She is a grown woman and for the last couple days she has been purposely throwing shade at a child, because she couldnt buy her love. Lush is a horrible person.
I want nothing but the best for J. He is so humble and thankful. May he stay blessed! He truly is a light! I wish his mother acknowledged this. We see you, J! Hang in there!
No driving permits? No guys over to hang out around the fire pit? No movie night with friends? So much they could have done for him to make it special. Did he get to pick the food for the meals that day like all the others? Did Alex ever get a vehicle? She stunts their growth.
She made a stupid comment on how some people learn faster then others and driving just dont come naturally to some. and that James needs the more practice before he can get his license to drive his car.
I saw her video on Pinterest about how she’s super organized and makes all her kids breakfast. The premise was nice but something about her gave me the ick factor and all I had to do was put their vlog name into TH-cam and got your channel. You’re doing good work calling these creators out who are exploiting these kids.
You can see the difference in Naveah and Dayshawn. Naveah looked miserable but was happy to have her brother around. Where as Dayshawn you could see was doing alot better and making some progress. Probably it was a big change to the conditions he was in before and of course the type of lifestyle in gifts.
I will NEVER forget when my little brother turned 6 and not a single kid from his class came to the party. He was so excited because he finally had his group, but my POS mom didn’t send invitations (or plan the party) until a couple of days BEFORE it. It enraged me. I was 16 at the time and felt the worst heartbreak ever. So the following year when I turned 17, 3 months later, I saved my money from my part time job and took him to monster jam, with pit passes. He had been before, but didn’t remember them. Plus it was just he and I and he still remembers that day. It’s something I hope my kid will never have to feel. The neglect is so upsetting. It comes in all forms. Not just in the typical ways.
You are very thoughtful sister
❤ amazing
That was so nice of you 🥰
Thank you for doing that. My sister is 12 years older than me and SHE is the one who did all the special childhood things with me (and my younger sister). She took us to the zoo, amusements parks, restaurants, even Disney. My mom didn’t… but my sister fulfilled that for me. I would walk through fire for her (and I’m 51 now)! What you did, are doing for your younger brother is wonderful & so special. Also my sister didn’t have money. She saved and sacrificed just like you. And now as an adult understanding that I still could weep over that goodness. You’re amazing.
That's so sweet
And the comment regarding N, was ABSOLUTELY disgusting. A grown adult attacking a CHILD is ABSURD. All because N stood up for herself and called Alisha's bluff. I also wish all of the best, happiness and love her way! She deserves it!
James is the only Dougherty child that I ever heard say “thank you” when opening gifts. He is such a lovable kid.
And bree don’t know if you say here name like that
James and Bree.
Ironically it is Alex and her bio kids who seem to never say thank you.
This is exactly what I was gonna say! James took the time to look at each gift as well instead of ripping & roaring thru them like all the other kids!! I just love James & Bree! Lush makes me so angry at the way she treats James!!
Brie and her brother always are grateful. But I think there not her biological children .
James is the only one of the children that actually takes the time to look at every single gift, looking at it and then thanking the giver of the gift, he is such a wonderful young man.. i feel so sorry for him having to live in that toxic environment...
I loved that James wanted to make sure he knew each gift was from and that he read each card out loud-and said a genuine thank you to each person!
I find myself crying through this entire video watching James. I just want to hug him and tell him he is a great kid and there are people who do love him for him.
I can't stand this 'one size fits all' parenting. My mom always told me 'if you treat all kids equally, then you are treating someone unfairly'. It took me a while to realize what she meant, but when I finally understood, that was a game changer. Fair and equal are not the same. Explain why she makes the same lunch for a 5 year old and a 17 year old? I'm sorry, these videos fucking hurt my heart.
That's a really good point and way to look at it. Thank you for commenting that as some days I struggle working out what my 3 children need because they are different and need different things off me. Great advice from your Mum 🙂
And she dresses them all the same aged 5 to 17 I believe these kids must get bullied for her shit and dressing them like minions 😮
I’ve had to explain this to my child since we’ve had another baby. I’ve also had to let my oldest know that I did the same for them as a baby as I do for my littlest now since oldest gets upset I do a lot for littlest.
Your Mother is a smart lady. Love it!
Your Mom is 100% right. Some neighbours asked me why I throw a big birthday party for my 8 year old when my 3 year old just had two friends over to our place for cake. Well because he can have a big party when he's old enough to appreciate it instead of getting overwhelmed. Maybe by then my older son will just want pizza and a movie with some friends instead of a party. It should be about the kid, not about the guests or how it looks to them.
James is the kid who wants to be a chef right? I can think of 100 better and more thoughtful gift ideas for him than his own mom. Not another friggin video game or electronics chair for Christ sake. How about a subscription to Gordon Ramsay’s masterclass? A nice set of pots and pans or a new fun appliance like an instant pot or air fryer. How about some cook books to go along with those things? What about a trip to a chefs school? Or a trip to an ultra fancy nyc restaurant to experience fine dining and what a successful chef can do? He’s 17, how about a CAR?! She is so careless and thoughtless it breaks my heart for James.
His bio family got him a personalized wooden spoon for Christmas and you could tell he was so thankful for the thought put into it. It wasn't about the cost but someone paying attention to HIM and his hope to become a chef. She fails these kids over and over and over again but is so self absorbed she doesn't see it nor does she care. I hope he accomplishes everything his heart desires in life and never looks back. He deserves it, they all do
Agree with this comment 100 percent all the kids get the same gifts no thought pur in
There are so many great gift opportunities related to cooking. We got a friend of mine an afternoon in the kitchen of a Michelin star restaurant working as a (supervised) sous chef. I'm sure James would have loved something like that.
I’m new to the Dougherty Dozen, even though I live in the Rochester area, I’ve never heard of them before. James seems like such a sweet kid. If he likes cooking so much why didn’t she sign him up for some cooking lessons for his birthday? Then maybe buy him his own chef’s jacket to wear at home so he can help prepare dinner and show her what he learned. He might enjoy that. I felt so bad for him that none of his siblings took an interest in watching him open his gifts. Maybe Mommy dearest should include the other children when it comes to shopping for the birthday gifts so the gifts can be given from the siblings also, not just the parents. It might help generate some interest when a sibling is opening gifts. My husband and I have always done that on birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, etc. It helps the other children feel included. Josh is right, what a sad birthday. 😔
He does have a car I don't remember when exactly but they gave him a car
If I was her kid I would keep asking for expensive gifts just so that I could resell them and save the money to get the hell out of there. She wouldn't even notice what she bought was missing because she buys so much shit.
maybe they are already doing this!
I can see D doing this already!
@@faithmonteirohe is literally the only one who seems to love that house
Maybe that is where all the switches, games, and ear buds have gone.
@@annoar9776 I think A does this already and oldest J is probably thinking about it.
James, I hope you can see this video, and understand, this isn't acceptable for a 17th birthday. None of this is your fault. You deserve so much more. You are a complete sweetheart. And soon to be a young man in this world. You have a bunch of strangers out here rooting for ya. I hope the day you leave this house, you can have the most wonderful adventure of good fortune and finding your tribe that can celebrate you genuinely.
Your mother and father are holding you back.....
❤😊 better days ahead for you young man. 🙏
HOW is it “a funny story” when you have to lock razors away from a CHILD?! 😡
Good catch on the choice of words here. There is absolutely fucking NOTHING funny about a child in the foster care system struggling with their mental health.
Disgusting person
I am sorry that was pure accident....absolutley nothing funny...did change it.
Alicia thinks everything is funny the idiot no love in that home at all😮
@@debrapointer1529 huh?
James is such a sweetie. Breaks my heart to watch. You can feel his energy through the screen.
So she's outing an actual child on the internet for having perhaps been suicidal........there are no words
And its a funny Story for her.... Poor, poor Child 😢
The fact that she stooped that LOW with the crossing out N’s name on the sign and made a point to have it in the background is just disgusting!! Sadly I am not surprised either because she has proven that she has no qualms about saying/doing things that negatively impact some of the kids.
And esp when N’s brother is still living there!! Obv he sees what she did and she’s prob saying stuff to him too….in order to alienate him from his own blood….she shouldn’t be allowed to adopt or foster.
Happy Birthday James! 🎉❤
James is def a fav for us on the DCP channel! He really is such a good hearted kid….always grateful for ANYTHING he gets…says thank you…..takes care of the family dog as well as D’S dog.
I could see the sadness in his eyes which is heartbreaking…..he tries to put on a happy face as he is opening gifts-but I think he wanted everyone to be there for him on his day.
Sending James lots of love! ❤❤❤❤❤
He is turning into a really genuine and awesome man.
James is such a pleasant and polite young man,she dosentcdeserve him
this is genuinely one of the saddest videos i've seen. he was sitting alone with nana and papa while all the other kids were at another table? the look on jame's face when they were singing to him almost brought me to tears. there's just lots of sadness in his eyes. he's such a sweet kid :( alicia is horrible
Once they can’t control a kid, they act immature & vindictive.
Exactly.
Thats narcissist
That’s what parents say but usually it’s bc there wasn’t parenting even going on. They haven’t been given attention, love, expectations (which they actual do want). There is no sense accomplishment when they do something for themselves.
Narcissistic behavior 101- about age 12 when the child begins to be independent and get an identity the ugly gets worse- took me 40 years to be comfortable with who Iwas - hell to even know who I was
classic narcissism
I agree, James is sad. He’s treated like trash because he is the kindest. How sad.. but his best years are yet to come. May he find his way ❤️
As an adult who struggled with self-harm as a teen, this is absolutely disgusting! Shaming her instead of helping her. I just want to 👊
Same. The comment she made was so unnecessary. She could have left that part of the story out.
@stephaniecamille947 exactly, she shouldn't speak about her at all. It's sad that she's without her brother, too. My heart goes out to N ❤️
@stephaniecamille947 My hope is that it doesn't cause a trigger for N
I hope you’re doing well now.
@@kimmylawyer4105 hopefully she isn't watching Alica, and she is in a home with love and support.
Out of every birthday vlog you have covered of DD I have never seen a child who is genuinely thankful for what they open. This was literally the only one I have seen with a child who takes time to open the gifts to give each one the appropriate appreciation and saying thanks. James seems to be such a sweet kid that just likes to make others feel good. Alicia so obviously favors certain kids which is so sad for the other kids 😔
I honestly didn’t think that it was possible for me to dislike her more than I already do.
agree
Why are you so obsessed with her?
@solunalunasol1211 why are you? You came here defending her. Can we say crazy obsessed fangirl!
Wait who's obsessed😂😂😂
I thought this too a year ago...update I dislike her EVEN MORE NOW
Every child deserves a parent but every person doesn’t deserve a child
N needs to do a Tell All on Lush and Josh when she is healed from the trauma she experienced. I was also abused growing up and what helped me was telling my story.
Totally agree!
Would love that
Yes, and she can make some money instead after lush.
I want this to happen, but I also don’t bc N is so young.
I don’t think that would be great for her because of lushes Stans, they’d probably go after her & if she already struggles with mental health issues & thoughts/ actions of harming herself I don’t think getting a ton of hate and threats would be beneficial to her. Maybe when she’s an adult and is ready to talk about it but I don’t think a child should be in that situation. I’d like to think grown adults online wouldn’t send that type of stuff to a child but it’s the internet & people are sick.
That last minute of you talking about what kids need, helped heal my inner child 🥺
Josh skipped over when James opens his present from his friend at Laser tag. James was genuinely excited his friend got him fishing line. But when he opened all the presents from his mom he was just showing polite interest, because James is a sensitive soul.
Also, how many times did we see Harlee at Laser tag and only saw James a when it was cake time. Sad.
Because 17year olds don’t need to hang around their mom at an arcade, especially when they have friends there, where as the 5 year old needs help from mom?????
@@Momoftwo2017 fair answer. But I have noticed this is what happens at everyone's birthday, not just James. The grandparents are always there, why can't they watch Harlee so Alisha has more opportunity to video the child whose birthday it is. The video was titled "James birthday vlog" not Harlee's. Just an observation.
The audience loves harlee. Probably cause at least 50% of her fans are pedoes. Get these poor kids off the Internet :(
james is honestly so precious he’s 17 and still shows more appreciation for the very little love and attention he gets.😓
by far my favorite child who deserves such an amazing future.❤
I hope that N finds the healing she needs. God bless you, N, we’re pulling for you❤
Josh I love your compassion for James… he’s a cool kid.
I just couldn't imagine caring that little about my kids.
It breaks my heart watching James, not even a small smile while singing happy bday. I wish I could hug him. God please watch over him❤
Notice Nana was the only one sitting with James while they were eating pizza (34:30), he is the birthday boy for god sakes 😢
I didn’t even notice that the first time watching! 🥺 I’m so glad he has Nana there for him.
i thought that.. it made me feel so sad for him..
Heartbreaking 😔
My heart breaks for James 😢 I wonder if he has conditioned himself to be happy with the bare minimum or if he’s just swallowing all that grief and sadness down inside and will one day be too much. She is the worst mom I’ve ever seen, she doesn’t deserve any of the money, fame or innocent children whose lives she’s destroyed for fame.
Because he's older he's boring is my bet with the brats bet they only came because of the arcade
Why does james showing so much genuine appreciation for his gifts only make me feel sadder. Hes such a good kid and he deserves just as much love and appreciation back to him as he gives out.
J is such a good kid. Probably the best there could be, honestly. The dogs loving him so much says it better than anything. They can always tell when someone's a good person. He deserves to be treated so much better. Lush obviously doesn't give a damn.
James is so sweet. When he sat down and opened his gifts, you could tell that he was thankful for taking the time to open each gift. I hope he sees your videos and all of our comments about him cheering him on and the positive affirmations that he is a good kid.
If anyone should’ve gotten a dog for their birthday, it should’ve been James he’s the only one that takes care of those dogs!
Maybe he will take the dogs when he escapes the hell hole.
I believe one of the dogs, Miracle is his therapy dog.
Ugh i just want to give james a big hug. Hes such a sweet soul and hes treated as such an after thought 😭
I like how James takes the time to acknowledge each of his gifts. James seem s to be a smart kid and the only one thinking about his future. Let's all pray he can be successful in his culinary arts program and make a great life for himself.
She has the money to pay someone to make amazing cakes for each of her kids, and she gets them the ugliest cakes 🙄
On another note.. James is the sweetest, loving, kindhearted, most gentle soul & it hurts my heart so bad that his parents can’t see that & cherish him the way he deserves 💔 Watching how happy & thankful James is for his gifts makes my heart overflow 🥹 I would be so proud to have him as a son & show what unconditional love is by your parent!
Mom liked to get nasty apple spice cake every week like what was the use to ask us what cake we wanted if you would guilt us to get apple spice cake just so you could eat a pickle with it I wanted white or confetti but what did I get? The same cake WE HAD EVERY WEEK
I hope N speaks up!!! This was the saddest birthday vlog I've ever seen. I can't believe the favoritism she has over the other kids. A counter full of Goldfish, some socks, Josh wasn't there to celebrate as usual, and the fact that none of the other kids were there to watch him open presents. Just sad. I love James. He's the best and I hope he sees It in himself
I hope James. escapes the wicked witch lushy.
Her actions remind me a lot of an aunt that I have. It's really sad how people can be. The kid moved out but she is boiling about it, she will never let that go for some reason. I moved out of state to attend college and stayed with an aunt and uncle who was I really close with. My cousins and I got along, we all respected each other. I met a guy, got engaged and was getting married so I moved out a few months before the wedding. Well, when I told my aunt she couldn't even look at me. The day I moved out, she ignored me and my husband and I packed up everything. My cousins wouldn't even speak to me besides a hello. It was like walking on eggshells. Once I was not living there anymore I barely heard from any of them. They came to the wedding, we got a little friendly after we got back from our honeymoon but you could tell she couldn't be happy for us. This is a grown adult, married over 20 years who has kids of her own. Why would she act this way? I was always reaching out to her. Even now. Almost 15 years after I lived with them there is hardly a relationship there. It's just too much work to put in to someone who is fake. I have to take care of my own family now I don't have time to try to fix things. It will never go back to how it was. Some people get bitter and they stay bitter.
So sorry she did this to you.😂💜🕊🙏😘
James 1 year. Off to a new adventure. Culinary greatness awaits you.
and you know what is sad if James wants to go into culinary school you would think that lush has an idea that he likes to cook and would let him do that once in a while for the family. To encourage him give him free range to come up with a good menu.
It's so sad to see how she favors other kids versus James. He's such a sweet appreciative kid and the fact that she didn't even invite any friends to his birthday and it was just his siblings breaks my heart. I hope this kid gets out and can experience a true loving family dynamic
That she is referring N but prefaces it as a “ fun story” ?!?!?!?!???
Shame
Right. What the eff is fun about that. Vile, vile, vile.
Like what was fun about that story? She's completely insane
I feel so sorry for James. He deserves so much live and attention. He is so kindhearted
I’ve gotta say,I love James,mainly for the way he is with the dogs,but he seems like a lovely kid especially in the birthday vlog,so grateful for his stuff and took his time to look at everything and say thank you,instead of just flinging it on the floor like the others do!
I just want to hug James. He is the absolute sweetest.
She is so concerned about her subscribers not getting a migraine, but not about her kids getting diabetes
bless James he reminds me of my nephew a soul so giving and kind and its missed by everyone in that family. i hope someday he is treated like the gift he is .. he deserves so much more than he is getting.
Imagine being the sort of person who tries to bully and make life more difficult for a child who is clearly already struggling! I hope N at last has the support and love she deserves. I hope she has a wonderful life and knows that these days will pass and life has so much to offer her in the future even when it looks like things will never change..they will.
J has the kindest heart and appreciates everything he receives. He doesn’t get that from his parents that’s for sure. He wants the attention from his parents that they don’t give him. His wife in the future will be lucky to get him. Happiest birthday J 🎉
Good for N for getting out. What a vile person Alicia is for saying what she said.
Can you imagine how angry dayshawn gets seeing how this lady treats his sister?!? Blood is blood!!
@@GG_LlcBut does he?? He still lives there right and would rather stay? I don’t keep up so is that correct?
Alicia should be sued until she is homeless for what she said about a child placed in her care. There are HIPAA laws, im quite sure there has to be laws to protect children’s privacy in foster care.
Why would he want to leave? He gets anything he wants! Teens are that way! @@GG_Llc
@@GG_Llc D doesn't give a shit about it, neber heard him talking about N since she leaved. Like she never exist 😡
I have a soft spot for James. He's just an awesome kid. He's so sweet with his siblings. He's also very smart and communicates extremely well. He was excited and so thankful for every thing he got for his bday despite Alicia putting no effort into it. He deserves soooo much better.
James is such a sweet kid, hopefully he'll grow up and maintain his caring humble attitude. He deserves a better family
This truly made me so sick and sad and mad😢😭 like James seems so sweet and I wish we could all just give him a hug😭
I hope James watches your videos so he can hear the nice things you say about him! And so many people here as well. James is a sweet young man and I pray he will do amazing things in the future.
No I hope he doesn’t , honestly even though Josh means well I don’t think it’s a good idea for him to hear people talking about how bad they feel for him and people talking about how no one went to his party and how sad it was.
I love how he thoughtfully looks at each gift because he’s so thankful ❤❤
Came here to say the same thing. What a sweetheart.
How is this not a form of abuse and neglect-she is ruining these kids all for the all mighty dollar 💔
Naveah, baby girl..I hope you are healthy, happy and thriving right now and forever. We stand with you.
I felt so much sadness for James in this video.
He seems like such a sweet kid and you can tell how emotionally abused he is .
@@heavenj7she is setting them up not to be able to ever leave her reign
She makes them dependent on her, so they can't leave the house and she can keep controlling them@@heavenj7
Why does she have to shake gist twirl everything
Tracy, I couldn't agree with you more. I called her out when he had his wisdom teeth removed and she didn't get him any soft food for days and then made him carry in all the groceries while he was in pain all because she didn't want to bother Alex or Dayshawn. James deserves so much.
I see a bit of myself in James too. He has such a good heart, and I love how he tries to connect and comment on each gift and show appreciation. Good kid.
Quite telling how James in so much ways shows he loves dogs more than people. I would go crazy in that house too.
I love James. He’s so appreciative. Such a joy. My heart breaks for him
25:52 that smudged out heart is seriously f*cked up.
It’s a glaring sign to the other children that if you resist , THIS will be YOU also smeared off this family board.
Yeah that was really awful to look at. We have 4 small kdis ourselves and my daughter says Zoey is going to be the one to spill the beans 🫘 because she's just like Zoey ! ALUSHA could have just turned the heart around or filled it in w some flowers or something like re writing the entire heart with everyone's name. It's so obvious it's smeared out!
For some reason I got so sad watching James open his gifts :( you can tell how sweet he is & to know he isn't treated how he should be is heartbreaking.
My heart breaks for James. You can see he’s desperate for love 🥺
Josh you have a gracious and sincere heart.. i love your videos eapecially these.
This made me so sick and pissed. As a social worker, as a person who is recovering from self harm, I lost my shit. I posted on the video. She is disgusting. She needs to be investigated for a lot.
Don't social workers do surprise visits on foster parents? Would her house even pass investigation?
Social workers are the scourge of society.
ooh good question on the house. i would hope not considering her food hoard probably has rats. @@mariahmangram1621
@@mariahmangram1621it would pass with no problems. Cps/ social workers are a joke for kids!!! They don’t help them at best but. They help the parents 100%
CPS SHOULD SEE THESE VIDEOS PERIOD 😡
Annddd...James opening his presents brought tears to me eyes. He's such a great kid and is so appreciative, like my kids are. I want to hug him so hard.
I feel so bad for james. He is such a sweet kid and deserves so much more.
The time he took to look at and appreciate each gift 🥹
as someone who grew up also needing razors locked away this REALLY upsets me. granted all of alicia’s videos do but this one really hit home. i couldn’t imagine seeing my mom talk about me that way. what a sick individual. i truly hope neither n or d come across this because it’s just so disheartening.
My heart sank for her.. what a total creep 😳
It infuriates me how freely she gives away personal information about her kids for the world to hear. It embarassed me when my mom disclosed something to family. Can only imagine the magnitude it would be if she told complete strangers.
He looks and sounds sad ... your birthday is supposed to be a really happy day. He seems like the sweetest teenager to. I feel like he is under appreciated.
I was always sad because Ik my cake would be apple spice cake literally we had that every week just so mom could eat a pickle with cake FOR 10 YEARS and then she wondered why it spoiled before it was eaten halfway for the last 5 oh I don't MAYBE BECAUSE WE WERE ALL TIRED OF IT I WANTED CONFETTI OR WHITE CAKE
The fact that two biological siblings (N and D) are separated, proves that NO ONE has these children’s best interests at heart.
D life is probably better, whereas girls as teens struggle more mentally worrying about everything!! D is getting the best of everything materially and support in sports. That goes along way with boys!!! I see why he likes it. He came out of his shell living with the Dougherty family. I bet he's really confident and popular at school now.
dayshawn was bribed with gifts. the dog, the jordans, all the video games and sports equipment
@@sarahweld4533 It sure is!!!
James breaks my heart. Such a sweetheart who is treated cruelly. Yes, that's the right word.
And even more disgusting is that Alisha is calculating her way into driving a divide between N and her brother. All they have is each other and she’s more than happy to rip them apart.
Agree! It's so sad.
@@GoldenEve23 Do you hear yourself? “Personally” ? You don’t know N or D personally, all you see it what Alisha curates for you to see. You have no idea what their relationship is. Furthermore, even more reason that Alisha should be helping foster their relationship.
And NO, it’s NOT D’s “choice to become a Dougherty”. That’s about as ignorant of a statement I’ve heard. If it was his choice he probably would have chose his mom making better decisions and staying with her. Kids DON’t GET A CHOICE. when he is 18 he can decide what he wants to do but believe your eyes and ears that Alisha is tempting him with every dollar she has.
So there was another child in the family? Did they leave because they are of majority age or for other reasons?
@@s.k.1603 There were 12 children up until very recently. The latest 2 children were a “kinship” placement. Two teens, a boy and a girl. Their mom was apparently a drug user and knew Alisha to some degree so Alisha agreed to take the kids in. She slathered them with gifts and things as she blew their personal story all over her social media. You know, typical child exploitation is what she does best.
It was evident that the sister was unhappy there. She very much didn’t want to be in the videos and it showed. We aren’t sure exactly how it went down but she found a way out and likely another family to stay with. Since she’s been gone Alisha had been snide and bitter, making comments or blatantly removing any sign of her living there. The sister is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and wasn’t swayed by “luxury” that Alisha offered.
James is definitely one of my most favorites. Such a sweet boy ( from what we see ). He’s so appreciative and it warms my heart to see his mannerisms even through all this wickedness. ❤
James does seem like the sweetest, humble kid. He deserves to be made a big deal of like the other kids. He deserves better.
this one made me cry, poor James. Thanks for always looking out for kids
See how J talks about his gifts and says Thank you to his family !!! And they just keep going about the VIDEO !!! No you welcome you deserve all of this 🥺
He is a sweet boy. It broke my heart watching your face while watching him open his gifts. You can see in your face that you care about these kids. You’re doing a good job and hope one day you’ll change the world!
I was waiting for your video on this....that poor kid. I can only Imagine what she has to say about the family
the fact that she never questions WHY these kids want to leave is so telling. its always a "problem" with the child and never an issue with the parenting or lack thereof.
At the beginning of this video, she states that goldfish are James favorite snack. In all the grocery hauls when she buy them, she has always said that she's buying them for Harley. I found that odd.
It’s not THAT odd, she’s lying. She just wants to portray herself as the best “mom” ever because she buys them their “favorite” things
For the longest time she'd say bree and harlee. She's full of herself. It's gross to me how she acts.
Awe James is just so sweet. He is truly thankful for his gifts.
Josh, you talking at the end after your deep breath really touched my heart ❤️ more parents need to do these things!
Love this channel! I was a victim of child abuse and I appreciate what you do!
Have you noticed how she is buying dayshawn special food now. He’s trying to eat healthier but she’s still feeding the rest of the kids junk.
Thank you for the reminder to always show your kids love. I actually have tears in my eyes, seeing this birthday. Tonight I will definitely give my girls extra hugs remind them again of how much I love them. Josh... you're a great dad!
He does seem like such a sweet kid. Honestly i pray that once he is done with school he leaves and never looks back. He is gonna go far in his life and he is the only one who actually said thank u. He is an amazingly well rounded kid considering the family he lives with 🤪
James seems like such a sweetheart🥺 I just want to give him a big hug
Typical reaction for a narcissist when you leave them or cross them. Sad when it’s against a child who is running to save themself. I hope the best for N. As far as James, he does more parenting than Lush or Josh has ever done. ❤😊
Hats off and hugs to N for escaping the madness.
I wish we could do something for James. I hope he knows his golden heart and spirit will take him so far in his life.
Lush is a b.... She is a grown woman and for the last couple days she has been purposely throwing shade at a child, because she couldnt buy her love. Lush is a horrible person.
I want nothing but the best for J. He is so humble and thankful. May he stay blessed! He truly is a light! I wish his mother acknowledged this. We see you, J! Hang in there!
No driving permits? No guys over to hang out around the fire pit? No movie night with friends? So much they could have done for him to make it special. Did he get to pick the food for the meals that day like all the others? Did Alex ever get a vehicle? She stunts their growth.
You can def tell which kids are more liked then others
She made a stupid comment on how some people learn faster then others and driving just dont come naturally to some. and that James needs the more practice before he can get his license to drive his car.
He does have his permit and has for a year but not his license.
@@Jenny_Hink never a video of him practicing. Fun videos! Great memory videos. Treasures keepsakes. Nope. Vids of herself wrapping candy and junk.
@rachelm1812 I know I agree with you she shows nothing good. Just the bad .
I feel like you can really tell what a kind soul he is.. hit me in my feels watching him open his presents and how he really took time with each other
This breaks my heart. James reminds me of my younger brother that I lost 14 years ago. I have such a soft spot for him
The dig at N.. I am left speechless
I saw her video on Pinterest about how she’s super organized and makes all her kids breakfast. The premise was nice but something about her gave me the ick factor and all I had to do was put their vlog name into TH-cam and got your channel. You’re doing good work calling these creators out who are exploiting these kids.
You can see the difference in Naveah and Dayshawn. Naveah looked miserable but was happy to have her brother around. Where as Dayshawn you could see was doing alot better and making some progress. Probably it was a big change to the conditions he was in before and of course the type of lifestyle in gifts.
….And he gets to be laid up with his girlfriend