Thank you so much for having me Mark! Within the time since I've done this interview, I was able to check with my DA and I have the ok to make his name public. His name is Kevin Ahern. On Megan's law you can find his picture and info, he is also still currently absconded although DA investigators are still looking. I'm happy that I'm able to share his name, I just wanted to be sure I had permission because he was found guilty but not sentenced. Luckily this is all public information and I am not bound by any laws to keep his identity a secret. I am touched by the comments, I have been met with nothing but love and support... and also those of you fellow survivors in the comments, nothing but bravery and strength. Thank you. I'm speechless.
You are so brave. I'm sorry for what you have been through; it's horrific. You are a survivor and your voice and strength will help someone else. Whether it helps them with their trauma or helps them to avoid being traumatized. God Bless you.
A great example that we can heal and grow from our trauma. We carry these pieces of time with us but it's up to us what we do with it. Kudos for you for putting the work Kaitlin! I didn't know you before but, today you seem like an amazing strong woman that has healed and grown so much! I will be Following your channel and hope to hear more about your journey and therapeutic path to healing. Your so inspirational and brave for speaking up 🙏
I love that Kaitlin mentions that "you don't need to forgive someone to heal." Absolutely! Certain people don't deserve forgiveness, especially when they are deliberate and aren't sorry for what they've done or continue to do. She will persevere and overcome this tragedy.
For me it can be a tricky word … for unforgivable actions… I have just decided in my life to let go of hating them. I don’t know if that is forgiveness… they are not off the hook for their actions… I don’t want the hate I have towards them to eat me up anymore. It’s a process… some days I struggle more to release the hate than others. It’s not a one-and-done decision.
A few days ago my 71 year old mother told me about an encounter she had with a family friend when she was 13 and he was 17. He tried to rape her but she got away. She never told anyone and just told me about it. It infuriates me that this happens to girls and they are afraid to tell. I actually see the guy often that did this to my mom and it takes everything in me not to hit him with my car when I see him out!
Incredibly terrifying and disappointing that he’s still out there, but sadly not surprising. Thanks for sharing your story, Kaitlin. You are a strong woman and I hope you continue to heal.
Dear Kaitlin, Thank you for sharing your story. You deserve so much love and happiness and I hope you continue to find it on your healing journey. You have inspired me to open up to my therapist more and I thank you for that
"You don't need to forgive in order to heal". Sexual abuse survivor here. I couldn't agree more! People demanding forgiveness from me was by far the most damaging part of my healing journey. Peace to you. ❤
Eye movement desensitization reprocessing. I would look for a therapist who specializes specifically in trauma therapy and there might be a good chance they are trained.
Im a guy who was assaulted when i was a kid by a teen girl. I actually just came out of one of the best counseling sessions in years where some things finally clicked about healing. This video amongst others really resonated with me. I cant take you two enough for sharing, despite how painful it must be.
I have never ever commented on a video before, but I just wanted to tell Kaitlin how important and helpful this interview has been for me. I think you would be an amazing counselor if that’s something you’d be interested in. When you write your book, please tell us about it. I’ll be your first customer.
Not possible 24/7. And your children have friends...you can't monitor what is accessible when they are with their friends or even when they are at school or hanging out somewhere. Laptops are ubiquitous and pretty much a requirement for school. Where there's a will there's a way. Finding ways to restrict access online is a lost battle.
24/7 ? I’m going to assume your parents knew your every move when you were younger. And that you never told them a lie or did anything deceptive behind their backs. That is the only way you get to leave such a ridiculous comment
I very much liked when she said, ' You don't need to forgive someone to heal. If there is a god, that's his job to forgive." I get so frustrated with people who want to forgive the worst kind of people because they are afraid they won't get to heaven if they don't or because they think they won't heal. I hope she eventually gets to expose what his name is.
I think the greatest gift we receive from these interviews is listening to extraordinary people survive the unthinkable . So wise . I’ve learned so much today .
She is so right! Sex offenders need to be outed. There is no rehabilitation for it. Even if she was the only person he did it to up until this point, that is enough to know that she wont be the last. I do not know the solution, but I do know that I have a huge disdain for sex offenders, and with my love for humanity, it leaves me conflicted. I just cannot stand the pain they infict on people. Thank you for your story, Kaitlin. I have a feeling more people will look into EDMR and get the help they need because of you and this interview.
I really relate to your story and when you said you don’t have to forgive people who’ve harmed you- THANK YOU! I was kept from healing for so long because I was always told I couldn’t heal till I forgave the person who harmed me, then I finally met a therapist who said “Why should you forgive someone who would rape a child? Have they ever apologized? Or do you think they ate probably still doing it to others!” it was the best thing I actually needed to forgive myself and be ok with NOT forgiving them. Thanks for sharing your story and for normalizing NOT forgiving evil. ❤️
All of his most viewed videos are demonetised, and other times are just simply taken off the platform. Idiots. Mark is rich. Before making this channel. He's was a photographer for major brands. @bettynuggz
This woman is a survivor not a victim ❤she has survived one of the most horrific traumatic experiences. To be raped as a child is the most horrific trauma out there , these are OUR babies ,OUR FUTURE, 😢MAY GOD FIND THE PERPETRATOR THE BEAST WHO DID THIS AND BANISH HIM BACK TO HELL
"You don't need to forgive to heal". I 100% have always believed this even though people adamantly disagree. You are so brave and I hope they catch him soon.
I’m not trying to change your mind on forgiveness but I asked ChatGPT Why Christians believe we must forgive. Here’s what ChatGPT said… “In Christian theology, the concept of forgiveness is central to the teachings of Jesus Christ. The idea is rooted in principles of love, compassion, and redemption. Here are a few key reasons why forgiveness is emphasized in Christianity: 1. **Divine Example:** Christians believe that God is a forgiving God and that He offers forgiveness to humanity through Jesus Christ. This serves as a model for Christians to follow in their interactions with others. 2. **Redemption and Salvation:** Forgiveness is seen as a pathway to redemption and salvation. Christians believe that through forgiveness, individuals can be reconciled with God and find spiritual healing. 3. **Love and Compassion:** Jesus taught the importance of loving one's neighbor and showing compassion. Forgiveness is seen as an act of love and mercy towards others, even when they have wronged you. 4. **Breaking the Cycle:** Forgiveness is often seen as a way to break the cycle of hatred, revenge, and resentment. By forgiving others, Christians aim to promote peace and reconciliation. 5. **Personal Growth:** Forgiving others can also lead to personal growth and emotional healing. It can free individuals from the burden of holding onto anger and grudges. It's important to note that forgiveness in Christianity is not always easy, and it does not mean condoning or excusing wrongdoing. This concept of forgiveness is deeply rooted in Christian teachings and values.”
My dear Kaitlin, you are so beautiful and self-aware! Just keep working like you’re doing right now and I truly believe you’ll become the human you want to be! I think you’re beautiful human being as you sit today. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m a survivor of sexual abuse, physical violence, emotional abuse, and it feels like it’s a daily job to keep the mental, physical and emotional health in alignment.
We should teach kids about online safety… but the biggest issue we should focus on is not her being online at 14 but the fact this man was already convicted and still was free to chat up a young teen online. This man was/is dangerous and in my opinion law enforcement consistently does not do enough to keep young people safe from crimes/people like this. Thank you Mark and Kaitlin for sharing this story because this is a conversation that needs to get louder.
The punishment for sex crimes will never be harsh enough because of all the rich that do it. Why are Epstein's celeb customers not heard about. I just told you. They are rich
Kaitlin, You are are beautiful young lady! ❣ You are very graceful & well spoken! I am so sorry you had this horrific experience happen to you. It's was a very brave decision to share your story & go to law enforcement as I know you were retraumatized having to relive it all in your testimony. I am sorry that has to be part of the process when trying to convict a vile criminal. It's also amazing to see from the comments that sharing your story on Mark's channel, has had a positive affect on many that have experienced the same or similar atrocities as you! Good for you for taking care of yourself thru therapy! I have heard EMDR therapy mentioned quite a bit lately & all of it has been positive. I am so glad there are therapies like this available that do a good job at helping people who need help managing & navigating life as a result of their trauma! Most of us seem to need help these days just managing life without trauma in the mix! All the best to you going forward! I have faith in you that you will reach the goals you have for yourself! Be Well!
This is why young teenagers shouldn't be on social media platforms like Facebook and need education around online safety etc. There's so much danger that they can find themselves in.
I think the tech should have built in safety. If mods can flag random messages they have every opportunity to pick up on this type of conversation, right?? Or is this serving a nefarious purpose for Tech big wigs??
@@sandraleonard945 probably because he was white and wasn't viewed as a threat in the eyes of the court and she said he lived in hidden hills, which you can't find a house in Hidden Hills under 4 Million. rich and white you're getting bail.
I really found this interview inspiring because of the amount of self respect this woman projected in her attitude & honesty about the tragedy she suffered in her early youth.
Your story is incredible. Thank you for being such a strong voice. Your next chapter looks immensely bright 🌄 You have more support than you'll ever know.
Hey Kaitlin 💕, I believe your story. I hear your pain and I wish you peace, love & prosperity… From a fellow multiple SA survivor. 💝 P.s - You’re absolutely fucking right about not needing to forgive to heal. I was also going to take my trauma to the grave with me. I figured it had already began to bury me… why not die with it? Since, I’m already serving a life sentence. But, you’re absolutely correct! I will NEVER forgive them for robbing me of my childhood, innocence & identity for such an excruciating amount of time. ‼️💯
Kaitlin you are an amazing woman who has rose from the ashes. If you are reading the comments, take the hateful ones with a grain of salt. a bunch of losers who have nothing better to do than only sit, watch, and comment instead of taking action like you did by reaching out to Mark, sitting infront of a camera speaking up about your trauma for the world to see. you are a beautiful woman who deserves the world and I hope you get it some day. I wish you all the best and I hope you are on a path of healing 🤍
S.A. survivors do not like to be touched without knowing someone is going to. Nice way to lose a few teeth. The older a survivor the stronger the reaction can be. Boundaries!!
You are a incredibly strong person. You still have your whole life ahead of you. With your strength and the many opportunities you have taken to get through life it shows how much you are striving to overcome and achieve your goals. I’m so proud that you are aware of your surroundings and your future goals. That’s a huge blessing. Stay positive and live your life to the fullest. You deserve to be happy. Thanks for sharing.
U are an amazing lady for the traumatic event u have being through,u are giving other people that have being through shit like u have being through the confidence to come forever and speak up and bring these bastards to justice,stay strong and i wish u the best of luck going forward with ur life
I am so sorry my phone is acting up. I am so proud of this young lady for turning him in. It had to be so very hard to face that creep in court. She saved her self many more years of suffering, by getting it out and standing up for her self against a creep who has gotten away for years, hurting other young women. I was raped at 19 years old, and i know how it screwed me up for many many years, because I could not turn him in. I always was grateful he did not do to me what that savage did to this young woman. Katelin, your my hero. You will not have another nervous break down. Please don't worry about that. No more secrets to carry. Your free now. CA. needs that law changed. No way should it be against the law after what he did to you, for you not to be able to warn other women of who he is. Thank you for sharing your story Katelin. You will save another young person, by telling yours. I wish you all the best now and in your future.
It's awful that the man who brutally attacked her, stole her innocence and left her with this trauma continues to roam freely. I'm glad she's taken steps to heal --- I have not done EMDR yet, but I've heard good things about it. From what she has shared, it sounds like she also has supportive and loving parents, which is such a blessing. I wish her continued healing and I hope she will be able to pursue her dreams.
agreed... They can track down anyone they want to these days. I find it hard to believe that they "can't." How is he surviving? Does he have a cell phone, a car? The government tracks us more than most recognize. Think about how they're listening in in every way possible, and we give them permission to do so every time we use Facebook or other apps. @@moisturisedgnome1181
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story with us. You deserve all the love and healing in the world. You are so powerful & we’re all frankly in awe of you.
Such a strong, wonderful woman with an amazing spirit and self-awareness. Keep your strength at the forefront. You are a warrior. Thanks for sharing. All the best to you.
Kaitlin is strong, brave, and courageous. As a psychotherapist forgiveness can be detrimental to healing on many fronts. A father who forgives a child's rapist can send a message to the child that the rape was not all that bad or even significant. There is a certain karmic rhythm to life. Sometimes karma dictates we move on however we do not forgive. Keep going Kaitlin you are a powerful force for good.
I’d love an update on Kaitlyn! Very brave of you to share your story. Can we find the perpetrators information on Michelle’s law to get his face out there? We need to know his name to protect our children. Keep on healing love! I’m rooting for you, I personally know it can be a life long process but it gets better, one day it will be a distant memory that no longer hurts you physically.
This is a PSA for parents- letting your kids get on social media with no supervision has its consequences. Be invasive when it comes to monitoring what your kids are doing online- you could save them from something like this happening to them.
Thank you for sharing and by telling your story you’re helping others 💕. I was sexually violated for a while by a man in his 60’s when I was 5. My mom made a bad choice for a babysitter and I paid the price. It still affects me to some degree 50 years later. Wishing you much happiness 🙏🏻
Thanks Mark for sharing Katlins story. This is one of the reasons why kids should be monitored on the Internet be it on the computers or through video games where they play/talk with gamers who they don't know etc. God bless you Katlin. ❤
I am so sorry for what you went through. It’s tough trying to hold that in all that time. These horrible things are happening to girls and boys all over the world. As a parent I swore I would never let that happened to one of my children, but it unfortunately did to one and it was someone right down the street and was her age. I pray you get even better and stronger in your life and that God Blesses you and helps you do all the things you’ve wanted to do. 🙏🏻😇💗
Very traumatic experience. It's a shame that this predator is still out there. Kaitlin you are a very strong and courageous young woman. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the best. ❤🙏🏾
Kaitlin please speak out more if possible I'm always so worried about my 12 year old daughter getting into a situation like this and if other girls can hear your story you just might help them prevent it from happening to them. Thank you for sharing your story. He will pay for what he's done it's only a matter of time. I wish you nothing but happiness love and a great life ❤️
people who say you should forgive people who have no remorse and aren't asking for forgiveness are, whether openly or secretly, pieces of sh who don't want the consequences of their actions. You don't need to forgive anyone to move on. The only catch is that you also cannot dwell on wishing you could get back at them. You have to move on and focus on your own future. But that isn't the same as forgiveness. F that. If they ever need your help, ignore them, or like for her if you have the opportunity to put them in prison for their actions, do it. They deserve it. Also, people who genuinely ask for and earn forgiveness is a different story
Marc you are an amazing person and all you do for the hurting, homeless and just different walks of life around the world and you make it know and seen in such a different light than what some others may perceive it to be. You are a great person and have such an incredible impact on shedding the light on everyones different stories. ❤🙏.
Kaitlin, you are so brave and I admire that. You are such an incredible human, keep shining! ❤️ I am a survivor of child s*x abuse but I am scared to sit in from of a camera like that, to let the world hear my story. Maybe one day. But as for you, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ and I am so happy to hear that you said “you don’t need to forgive someone to heal”…. Damn right! I’ve always said this myself!! Thank you!! 🥲❤️
Sweetheart you returned to the abusers house because he had groomed you! Your young mind had been skilfully conditioned. I so admire you. You are extraordinarily strong.
My heart hurts for Caitlin but so thankful to hear she’s been healing! She’s so beautiful too I pray she doesn’t fall backwards mentally but I think she is such a bright young woman she’ll continue to thrive❤
I'm so glad you are getting help. I wish I would have gotten help. I was only 12 years old. But back then no one wanted to talk about it. Keep it hush hush.
Kaitlin your so brave for sharing your story. Glad your receiving so much help and support. Makes me angry that your not able to out this scum. Take care.
I’m so sorry this happened to you Kaitlin. Now that we know his name, we can all check Megan’s Law and see what he looks like. Hopefully someone will recognize him and turn him in! So much respect for you! ❤
Imagine how many children wouldn't be sexually assaulted if parents kept open eyes and paid them attention, instead of strangers taking advantage of them.
Thank you for sharing your story, Kaitlin. It is not easy to do and I respect you for doing so. May you find healing and peace to carry you through life. You are so much better than the monster who hurt you. You were an innocent child and this man took complete advantage of your vulnerability. I pray he is found. Maybe some little girl's dad found out about him and he's at the bottom of a lake somewhere! We can only hope.
The two sentences "He had a prior" and "It took several years to take it to court" just make me want to rage I do not understand. We need to get the internet to find him
LIFE CAN BE SO CRUEL. KAITLN SHOULD KNOW THAT CERTAIN PAINFUL THINGS DON'T HAVE TO DEFINE OUR ENTIRE LIFE. BUT CAN IF WE ALLOW IT. LOOK FORWARD NOT BACK. I KNOW I HAD A HARD CHILDHOOD, AND LET THAT EFFECT MY WHOLE LIFE. IM NOW 66 WITH REGRETS OF LIFE CHOICES AND DIRECTION OF MY LIFE. MY BEST WISH KAITLIN.
I am so proud of her for testifying and I am proud that her family supported her. Families are not always supportive expecially when the molester is a family member
Behold a beautiful and intelligent young woman. You blow me away with your strength Kaitlin. I was molested and carry that with me. May God give you peace and happiness.
Children need to be primed to the fact that the strangers are charm is the key to potential harm. I know it's tough especially for kids that feel they never receive warmth at home. They get love bombed and attention which is flattering with low self esteem
At 14 she must’ve been a lonely, naive, mixed up, adolescent, but for the life of me, why did she go back that second time, having realized that this much older guy was a predatory conman ?
thank you for sharing your horrifying story and so very angry that this monster continues to roam free.. how is that even possible?? I can only hope that he is forced to live like a fugitive at very best. But you have grown up to be beautiful, brave, self aware and honest - please come back for a follow up in a few years as I bet you will have an interesting story and life!
you are very brave to tell everyone about what u have exprienced in full detail ... i myself cant do that. im not afraid but dying inside slowly.i just dont know.
Kaitlin, I’m so sorry. I’m deeply sorry to my core. You are beautiful ❤you are loved❤ you are a survivor! Thank you for talking about EMDR. I’ve thought about doing it. I’m scared. I hope the best for you and your pup
Martial arts. Someone who feels not safe or in control needs to learn how to defend themselves with skill. It will also boost one’s confidence, reduce stress, which will lead to better sleep.
How is it that he was allowed out of jail after being convicted, before sentencing? He had a prior and had fled on that one, seems like he would not have been allowed to bail out given his flight risk. And for such a heinous crime. Sometimes our justice system just boggles my mind.
HONEY...NEVER BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR IT. NOT YOUR FAULT. THIS GROWN MAN TOOK ADVANTAGE OF A YOUNG LADY WHO WAS JUST BEGINNING HER LIFE. HE KNEW THAT. HE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT HE WAS DOING. WHAT HE WAS TELLING YOU. AND WHAT HE NEEDED TO TELL YOU. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY WAY SHAPE OR FORM. LIVE YOUR LIFE IN PEACE AND GET MAD. MAD ENOUGH TO HELP THOSE YOUNG GIRLS WHO ARE IMMATURE AND DONT KNOW THE EVIL WAYS OF THESE MEN. YOU WILL HEAL YOURSELF BY HELPING OTHERS. AND REMEMBER HONEY LIFE IS ONE DAY AT A TIME. YOU DONT NEED TO DRINK OR DO DRUGS TO TRY FEEL BETTER. HEAL BY HELPING. DONT LET THIS MAN FOR ONE MINUTE RUIN YOUR LIFE. GET MAD CAUSE ITS OKAY TO GET MAD.
Thank you so much for having me Mark!
Within the time since I've done this interview, I was able to check with my DA and I have the ok to make his name public.
His name is Kevin Ahern.
On Megan's law you can find his picture and info, he is also still currently absconded although DA investigators are still looking.
I'm happy that I'm able to share his name, I just wanted to be sure I had permission because he was found guilty but not sentenced. Luckily this is all public information and I am not bound by any laws to keep his identity a secret.
I am touched by the comments, I have been met with nothing but love and support... and also those of you fellow survivors in the comments, nothing but bravery and strength. Thank you. I'm speechless.
You’re amazing and you will continue to be!😊
You are so brave. I'm sorry for what you have been through; it's horrific. You are a survivor and your voice and strength will help someone else. Whether it helps them with their trauma or helps them to avoid being traumatized. God Bless you.
A great example that we can heal and grow from our trauma. We carry these pieces of time with us but it's up to us what we do with it. Kudos for you for putting the work Kaitlin! I didn't know you before but, today you seem like an amazing strong woman that has healed and grown so much! I will be Following your channel and hope to hear more about your journey and therapeutic path to healing. Your so inspirational and brave for speaking up 🙏
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Hugs to you, and thank you for your bravery❤
"You don't need to forgive someone to heal."
A powerful truth.
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I love that Kaitlin mentions that "you don't need to forgive someone to heal." Absolutely! Certain people don't deserve forgiveness, especially when they are deliberate and aren't sorry for what they've done or continue to do.
She will persevere and overcome this tragedy.
Maybe ppl shouldn’t promote forgiveness but more of a learning to let go of the pain.
@the herseyfamily forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
For me it can be a tricky word … for unforgivable actions… I have just decided in my life to let go of hating them.
I don’t know if that is forgiveness… they are not off the hook for their actions… I don’t want the hate I have towards them to eat me up anymore. It’s a process… some days I struggle more to release the hate than others. It’s not a one-and-done decision.
Forgiveness is overrated
You’re all wrong. Forgiveness is really important. Forgiveness is absolutely needed to heal.
A few days ago my 71 year old mother told me about an encounter she had with a family friend when she was 13 and he was 17. He tried to rape her but she got away. She never told anyone and just told me about it. It infuriates me that this happens to girls and they are afraid to tell. I actually see the guy often that did this to my mom and it takes everything in me not to hit him with my car when I see him out!
Incredibly terrifying and disappointing that he’s still out there, but sadly not surprising. Thanks for sharing your story, Kaitlin. You are a strong woman and I hope you continue to heal.
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Sadly sometimes the court will protect the rapist and not the victim. It is really sad.
Kind of how google/yt protects pedos?@@brandiva96
Kaitlin is a very strong, brave & articulate young woman. Stay safe, sister. Praying for you. Thx so much for telling your story.💖🙏🦮
Dear Kaitlin, Thank you for sharing your story. You deserve so much love and happiness and I hope you continue to find it on your healing journey. You have inspired me to open up to my therapist more and I thank you for that
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"You don't need to forgive in order to heal". Sexual abuse survivor here.
I couldn't agree more! People demanding forgiveness from me was by far the most damaging part of my healing journey.
Peace to you. ❤
Congrats on being a survivor. Prayers for your well being & safety.🙏💖😊
Same. 💯🖤
Another beautiful interview, Mark. Thank you for this.
Everything you do shines.
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I’m glad she spoke out about EMDR. It’s amazing and helps tremendously. I recommend it, especially for childhood trauma.
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What does it stand for and how do you look for a specialist in that department
Eye movement desensitization reprocessing. I would look for a therapist who specializes specifically in trauma therapy and there might be a good chance they are trained.
@@Sarah-bq1oy do they use special lights or something? Is it talk therapy?
Im a guy who was assaulted when i was a kid by a teen girl. I actually just came out of one of the best counseling sessions in years where some things finally clicked about healing. This video amongst others really resonated with me. I cant take you two enough for sharing, despite how painful it must be.
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What did she do to you
@manikyum don't be a weirdo, bro.
I have never ever commented on a video before, but I just wanted to tell Kaitlin how important and helpful this interview has been for me. I think you would be an amazing counselor if that’s something you’d be interested in. When you write your book, please tell us about it. I’ll be your first customer.
Monitor your children when they are online, please.
Not possible 24/7. And your children have friends...you can't monitor what is accessible when they are with their friends or even when they are at school or hanging out somewhere. Laptops are ubiquitous and pretty much a requirement for school. Where there's a will there's a way. Finding ways to restrict access online is a lost battle.
@@karenfryberger4260 If not possible, only let them on for an hour a day when they can be watched.
24/7 ?
I’m going to assume your parents knew your every move when you were younger. And that you never told them a lie or did anything deceptive behind their backs. That is the only way you get to leave such a ridiculous comment
Or better yet, don’t meet up with strangers online, don’t give money to strangers, and if they are not sure of something come ask their parents.
Teach them the reality
I very much liked when she said, ' You don't need to forgive someone to heal. If there is a god, that's his job to forgive." I get so frustrated with people who want to forgive the worst kind of people because they are afraid they won't get to heaven if they don't or because they think they won't heal. I hope she eventually gets to expose what his name is.
I think the greatest gift we receive from these interviews is listening to extraordinary people survive the unthinkable .
So wise . I’ve learned so much today .
Absolutely 💜🙏
@@WalkHard1why do you comment this on so many videos? It’s very strange.
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She is so right! Sex offenders need to be outed. There is no rehabilitation for it. Even if she was the only person he did it to up until this point, that is enough to know that she wont be the last. I do not know the solution, but I do know that I have a huge disdain for sex offenders, and with my love for humanity, it leaves me conflicted. I just cannot stand the pain they infict on people. Thank you for your story, Kaitlin. I have a feeling more people will look into EDMR and get the help they need because of you and this interview.
i’m literally reading ll about right now after this i battle with the worst night terrors anxiety and want help so bad it’s very depressing
I really relate to your story and when you said you don’t have to forgive people who’ve harmed you- THANK YOU! I was kept from healing for so long because I was always told I couldn’t heal till I forgave the person who harmed me, then I finally met a therapist who said “Why should you forgive someone who would rape a child? Have they ever apologized? Or do you think they ate probably still doing it to others!” it was the best thing I actually needed to forgive myself and be ok with NOT forgiving them. Thanks for sharing your story and for normalizing NOT forgiving evil. ❤️
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Thank you for sharing Kaitlin. Wishing you well…
Just amazing how considerate Mark is of his subjects' pace.
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@@bettynuggzDo you acknowledge he uses the money to help many people?
At least he doesn't support pedophiles like google/youtube does.@@bettynuggz
People like this idiot who are so sure and think they know something others don't, lol! @bettynuggz
All of his most viewed videos are demonetised, and other times are just simply taken off the platform. Idiots. Mark is rich. Before making this channel. He's was a photographer for major brands. @bettynuggz
Kaitlin you are so brave. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you find peace and know you are strong, courageous and a voice to the voiceless.
This woman is a survivor not a victim ❤she has survived one of the most horrific traumatic experiences. To be raped as a child is the most horrific trauma out there , these are OUR babies ,OUR FUTURE, 😢MAY GOD FIND THE PERPETRATOR THE BEAST WHO DID THIS AND BANISH HIM BACK TO HELL
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Damn, man...grow up,get a life,gain some wisdom.
@@iseeowls2496are you gonna cry about it?
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"You don't need to forgive to heal". I 100% have always believed this even though people adamantly disagree. You are so brave and I hope they catch him soon.
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I’m not trying to change your mind on forgiveness but I asked ChatGPT Why Christians believe we must forgive. Here’s what ChatGPT said…
“In Christian theology, the concept of forgiveness is central to the teachings of Jesus Christ. The idea is rooted in principles of love, compassion, and redemption. Here are a few key reasons why forgiveness is emphasized in Christianity:
1. **Divine Example:** Christians believe that God is a forgiving God and that He offers forgiveness to humanity through Jesus Christ. This serves as a model for Christians to follow in their interactions with others.
2. **Redemption and Salvation:** Forgiveness is seen as a pathway to redemption and salvation. Christians believe that through forgiveness, individuals can be reconciled with God and find spiritual healing.
3. **Love and Compassion:** Jesus taught the importance of loving one's neighbor and showing compassion. Forgiveness is seen as an act of love and mercy towards others, even when they have wronged you.
4. **Breaking the Cycle:** Forgiveness is often seen as a way to break the cycle of hatred, revenge, and resentment. By forgiving others, Christians aim to promote peace and reconciliation.
5. **Personal Growth:** Forgiving others can also lead to personal growth and emotional healing. It can free individuals from the burden of holding onto anger and grudges.
It's important to note that forgiveness in Christianity is not always easy, and it does not mean condoning or excusing wrongdoing. This concept of forgiveness is deeply rooted in Christian teachings and values.”
“You don’t need to forgive in order to heal!” - Powerful sentence!
My dear Kaitlin, you are so beautiful and self-aware! Just keep working like you’re doing right now and I truly believe you’ll become the human you want to be! I think you’re beautiful human being as you sit today. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m a survivor of sexual abuse, physical violence, emotional abuse, and it feels like it’s a daily job to keep the mental, physical and emotional health in alignment.
Kaitlin, you are so so strong for never backing down! I hope you write that book 🩷
We should teach kids about online safety… but the biggest issue we should focus on is not her being online at 14 but the fact this man was already convicted and still was free to chat up a young teen online.
This man was/is dangerous and in my opinion law enforcement consistently does not do enough to keep young people safe from crimes/people like this.
Thank you Mark and Kaitlin for sharing this story because this is a conversation that needs to get louder.
The punishment for sex crimes will never be harsh enough because of all the rich that do it. Why are Epstein's celeb customers not heard about. I just told you. They are rich
Also the Gods are pedos, cult leaders are pedos
@@luvyatuberswhat God's? Yours?
I've heard a lot of positive things about EMDR lately. So glad it's helping people. Best wishes in your healing, Kaitlin.
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Absolutely agree that you do not have to forgive a person to heal!
These interviews are incredible….
❤ from Phoenix, Az You’re amazing Kaitlin. Parents…watch those kids.
Kaitlin, You are are beautiful young lady! ❣ You are very graceful & well spoken! I am so sorry you had this horrific experience happen to you. It's was a very brave decision to share your story & go to law enforcement as I know you were retraumatized having to relive it all in your testimony. I am sorry that has to be part of the process when trying to convict a vile criminal. It's also amazing to see from the comments that sharing your story on Mark's channel, has had a positive affect on many that have experienced the same or similar atrocities as you! Good for you for taking care of yourself thru therapy! I have heard EMDR therapy mentioned quite a bit lately & all of it has been positive. I am so glad there are therapies like this available that do a good job at helping people who need help managing & navigating life as a result of their trauma! Most of us seem to need help these days just managing life without trauma in the mix! All the best to you going forward! I have faith in you that you will reach the goals you have for yourself! Be Well!
This is why young teenagers shouldn't be on social media platforms like Facebook and need education around online safety etc. There's so much danger that they can find themselves in.
I think the tech should have built in safety. If mods can flag random messages they have every opportunity to pick up on this type of conversation, right?? Or is this serving a nefarious purpose for Tech big wigs??
Why was he given bail in was just gone to do this again
@@sandraleonard945 probably because he was white and wasn't viewed as a threat in the eyes of the court and she said he lived in hidden hills, which you can't find a house in Hidden Hills under 4 Million. rich and white you're getting bail.
I really found this interview inspiring because of the amount of self respect this woman projected in her attitude & honesty about the tragedy she suffered in her early youth.
What a beautiful and strong woman❤ mark , your work is tremendous !
Your story is incredible. Thank you for being such a strong voice. Your next chapter looks immensely bright 🌄 You have more support than you'll ever know.
Mark you need your own tv show you are an amazing interviewer and a kind person i love your content God bless
Hey Kaitlin 💕, I believe your story. I hear your pain and I wish you peace, love & prosperity… From a fellow multiple SA survivor. 💝 P.s - You’re absolutely fucking right about not needing to forgive to heal. I was also going to take my trauma to the grave with me. I figured it had already began to bury me… why not die with it? Since, I’m already serving a life sentence. But, you’re absolutely correct! I will NEVER forgive them for robbing me of my childhood, innocence & identity for such an excruciating amount of time. ‼️💯
Kaitlin you are an amazing woman who has rose from the ashes. If you are reading the comments, take the hateful ones with a grain of salt. a bunch of losers who have nothing better to do than only sit, watch, and comment instead of taking action like you did by reaching out to Mark, sitting infront of a camera speaking up about your trauma for the world to see. you are a beautiful woman who deserves the world and I hope you get it some day. I wish you all the best and I hope you are on a path of healing 🤍
Horrifying. I can't even begin to imagine... I wish I could give Kaitlin a tight hug.
S.A. survivors do not like to be touched without knowing someone is going to. Nice way to lose a few teeth. The older a survivor the stronger the reaction can be. Boundaries!!
I’d imagine she would hate that
There is a reason for which i said "I wish I could"!
@@norte182 facesaver
I always love when there’s no title. Just their name and face. So menacing lmfao 😂
“Kaitlin” 👁️ 👄 👁️
You are a incredibly strong person. You still have your whole life ahead of you. With your strength and the many opportunities you have taken to get through life it shows how much you are striving to overcome and achieve your goals. I’m so proud that you are aware of your surroundings and your future goals. That’s a huge blessing. Stay positive and live your life to the fullest. You deserve to be happy. Thanks for sharing.
U are an amazing lady for the traumatic event u have being through,u are giving other people that have being through shit like u have being through the confidence to come forever and speak up and bring these bastards to justice,stay strong and i wish u the best of luck going forward with ur life
The grammar in many of these comments are like 3rd grade, I swear!
@@aspartamekillsyaknow9019 it's the thought that counts.
@aspartamekillsyaknow9019 ur a sad prick to focus on grammar get a life dickhead
I am so sorry my phone is acting up. I am so proud of this young lady for turning him in. It had to be so very hard to face that creep in court. She saved her self many more years of suffering, by getting it out and standing up for her self against a creep who has gotten away for years, hurting other young women. I was raped at 19 years old, and i know how it screwed me up for many many years, because I could not turn him in. I always was grateful he did not do to me what that savage did to this young woman. Katelin, your my hero. You will not have another nervous break down. Please don't worry about that. No more secrets to carry. Your free now. CA. needs that law changed. No way should it be against the law after what he did to you, for you not to be able to warn other women of who he is. Thank you for sharing your story Katelin. You will save another young person, by telling yours. I wish you all the best now and in your future.
It's awful that the man who brutally attacked her, stole her innocence and left her with this trauma continues to roam freely. I'm glad she's taken steps to heal --- I have not done EMDR yet, but I've heard good things about it. From what she has shared, it sounds like she also has supportive and loving parents, which is such a blessing. I wish her continued healing and I hope she will be able to pursue her dreams.
I think with the right resources he could be tracked down. There should be an agency commited to the task imho.
agreed... They can track down anyone they want to these days. I find it hard to believe that they "can't." How is he surviving? Does he have a cell phone, a car? The government tracks us more than most recognize. Think about how they're listening in in every way possible, and we give them permission to do so every time we use Facebook or other apps. @@moisturisedgnome1181
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This is why I wish hiring hitmen was legal
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story with us. You deserve all the love and healing in the world. You are so powerful & we’re all frankly in awe of you.
Such a strong, wonderful woman with an amazing spirit and self-awareness. Keep your strength at the forefront. You are a warrior. Thanks for sharing. All the best to you.
Kaitlin is strong, brave, and courageous. As a psychotherapist forgiveness can be detrimental to healing on many fronts. A father who forgives a child's rapist can send a message to the child that the rape was not all that bad or even significant. There is a certain karmic rhythm to life. Sometimes karma dictates we move on however we do not forgive. Keep going Kaitlin you are a powerful force for good.
I’d love an update on Kaitlyn! Very brave of you to share your story. Can we find the perpetrators information on Michelle’s law to get his face out there? We need to know his name to protect our children.
Keep on healing love! I’m rooting for you, I personally know it can be a life long process but it gets better, one day it will be a distant memory that no longer hurts you physically.
Nearly 2.5k views. Let's have this guys picture and name and let's find him.
You're gonna do that? Didn't think so
Who has his name and picture? Because it should be out there so people can look.
She need to say his name
I hope he’s hunted down fr… Get this woman’s justice back in blood.
@@bur2576 We must try...
This is a PSA for parents- letting your kids get on social media with no supervision has its consequences. Be invasive when it comes to monitoring what your kids are doing online- you could save them from something like this happening to them.
Absolutely. 😢
Thank you for sharing and by telling your story you’re helping others 💕. I was sexually violated for a while by a man in his 60’s when I was 5. My mom made a bad choice for a babysitter and I paid the price. It still affects me to some degree 50 years later. Wishing you much happiness 🙏🏻
Thanks Mark for sharing Katlins story. This is one of the reasons why kids should be monitored on the Internet be it on the computers or through video games where they play/talk with gamers who they don't know etc. God bless you Katlin. ❤
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This girl is strong as hell. I pray for so many amazing things for her future
I am so sorry for what you went through. It’s tough trying to hold that in all that time. These horrible things are happening to girls and boys all over the world. As a parent I swore I would never let that happened to one of my children, but it unfortunately did to one and it was someone right down the street and was her age. I pray you get even better and stronger in your life and that God Blesses you and helps you do all the things you’ve wanted to do. 🙏🏻😇💗
Thank you for sharing your story Kaitlin, prayers for you to continue healing! ❤
Huge fan of EMDR. Its helped me so much with my PTSD.
Thank you for having the courage to talk about this.
Very well spoken, beautiful young lady. I hope she overcomes this terrible experience she endured.
So sorry to hear this!
Continue forward and make your life the best possible you can, you do deserves it, and I wish you all the best
Very traumatic experience. It's a shame that this predator is still out there. Kaitlin you are a very strong and courageous young woman. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the best. ❤🙏🏾
Kaitlin please speak out more if possible I'm always so worried about my 12 year old daughter getting into a situation like this and if other girls can hear your story you just might help them prevent it from happening to them. Thank you for sharing your story. He will pay for what he's done it's only a matter of time. I wish you nothing but happiness love and a great life ❤️
One way to keep men away from you is weighting over 300 pounds.
@@GothTransCarluse this comment as a "this guy is utterly worthless" button.
@@youtubeuser908 I’m a woman. And I’m flagging all your hate comments and discriminating against us trans women by purposely misgendering me!
@@GothTransCarl
Whilst you body shame people? 😂
Clown.
people who say you should forgive people who have no remorse and aren't asking for forgiveness are, whether openly or secretly, pieces of sh who don't want the consequences of their actions.
You don't need to forgive anyone to move on. The only catch is that you also cannot dwell on wishing you could get back at them. You have to move on and focus on your own future. But that isn't the same as forgiveness. F that. If they ever need your help, ignore them, or like for her if you have the opportunity to put them in prison for their actions, do it. They deserve it.
Also, people who genuinely ask for and earn forgiveness is a different story
I can understand this point your making. Great point❤
@@skavenqblightforgiveness is not "Christian"💀
Hoping a few of those internet sleuths can help locate this predator for her
Marc you are an amazing person and all you do for the hurting, homeless and just different walks of life around the world and you make it know and seen in such a different light than what some others may perceive it to be. You are a great person and have such an incredible impact on shedding the light on everyones different stories. ❤🙏.
Kaitlin, you are strong beyond means and the way you are taking care of yourself is inspiring. Write that book!!!
Wauw ! What a woman. How great she is for telling her story
Kaitlin, you are so brave and I admire that. You are such an incredible human, keep shining! ❤️
I am a survivor of child s*x abuse but I am scared to sit in from of a camera like that, to let the world hear my story. Maybe one day.
But as for you, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ and I am so happy to hear that you said “you don’t need to forgive someone to heal”…. Damn right! I’ve always said this myself!! Thank you!! 🥲❤️
Sweetheart you returned to the abusers house because he had groomed you! Your young mind had been skilfully conditioned. I so admire you. You are extraordinarily strong.
I'm so sorry that that happened to you, Kaitlin. How horrible. I think you are very brave, and I wish you all the best.
Why wasn't he held in jail after being found guilty for r*p*
he was white and affluent she mentioned he lived in Hidden hills, there's nothing in Hidden hills under 4 Million
Extremely strong young woman. Absolute respect for sharing your story ❤
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EMDR was a total game changer for me in my CPTSD healing.
My heart hurts for Caitlin but so thankful to hear she’s been healing! She’s so beautiful too I pray she doesn’t fall backwards mentally but I think she is such a bright young woman she’ll continue to thrive❤
I'm so glad you are getting help. I wish I would have gotten help. I was only 12 years old. But back then no one wanted to talk about it. Keep it hush hush.
Kaitlin your so brave for sharing your story. Glad your receiving so much help and support. Makes me angry that your not able to out this scum. Take care.
I’m so sorry this happened to you Kaitlin. Now that we know his name, we can all check Megan’s Law and see what he looks like. Hopefully someone will recognize him and turn him in! So much respect for you! ❤
The fact that he is in the wind would cause me endless sleepless nights!
Your so strong! You are so brave!
Imagine how many children wouldn't be sexually assaulted if parents kept open eyes and paid them attention, instead of strangers taking advantage of them.
Thank you for sharing your story, Kaitlin. It is not easy to do and I respect you for doing so. May you find healing and peace to carry you through life. You are so much better than the monster who hurt you. You were an innocent child and this man took complete advantage of your vulnerability. I pray he is found. Maybe some little girl's dad found out about him and he's at the bottom of a lake somewhere! We can only hope.
Kaitlin you are very brave. Good for you to go to the police. If the cops did their jobs you could have saved a lot of girls from this monster.
If the cops did their jobs ? Sounds like they did . When she decided to tell her story he was arrested . He bail jumped
Forgiveness has nothing to do with letting someone "off the hook". It's about cutting the cancer out of your own soul.
The two sentences "He had a prior" and "It took several years to take it to court" just make me want to rage
I do not understand. We need to get the internet to find him
Hope she is ok in life! 😌
Your words help me so much. Thank you for your strength and courage. I really admire you and Wish you all the best(sorry for my poor English)
Wise words- something I’ll be pondering for my own healing. Hope he’s caught!
Poor sweet woman. This is heartbreaking and scary, I need to take sooooo many steps ive never thought of to protect my babies
LIFE CAN BE SO CRUEL. KAITLN SHOULD KNOW
THAT CERTAIN PAINFUL THINGS DON'T HAVE
TO DEFINE OUR ENTIRE LIFE. BUT CAN IF WE
ALLOW IT. LOOK FORWARD NOT BACK. I KNOW
I HAD A HARD CHILDHOOD, AND LET THAT
EFFECT MY WHOLE LIFE. IM NOW 66 WITH
REGRETS OF LIFE CHOICES AND DIRECTION
OF MY LIFE.
MY BEST WISH KAITLIN.
I support you for not forgiving this monster! Actions like this are unforgivable, that's why the word exists in our language.
I am so proud of her for testifying and I am proud that her family supported her. Families are not always supportive expecially when the molester is a family member
Behold a beautiful and intelligent young woman. You blow me away with your strength Kaitlin. I was molested and carry that with me. May God give you peace and happiness.
Stop with your nonsense and overuse of lying adjectives.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ You are brave!!!
Children need to be primed to the fact that the strangers are charm is the key to potential harm.
I know it's tough especially for kids that feel they never receive warmth at home. They get love bombed and attention which is flattering with low self esteem
Soooo Heartbreaking. She will b fine. Resilient Young Woman ❤
At 14 she must’ve been a lonely, naive, mixed up, adolescent, but for the life of me, why did she go back that second time, having realized that this much older guy was a predatory conman ?
thank you for sharing your horrifying story and so very angry that this monster continues to roam free.. how is that even possible?? I can only hope that he is forced to live like a fugitive at very best. But you have grown up to be beautiful, brave, self aware and honest - please come back for a follow up in a few years as I bet you will have an interesting story and life!
you are very brave to tell everyone about what u have exprienced in full detail ... i myself cant do that. im not afraid but dying inside slowly.i just dont know.
Kaitlin, I’m so sorry. I’m deeply sorry to my core. You are beautiful ❤you are loved❤ you are a survivor! Thank you for talking about EMDR. I’ve thought about doing it. I’m scared. I hope the best for you and your pup
Tnaks for sharing your story, Kaitlin.
Please, what medication for the nightmares? 🙏 Thank you so much for sharing your story 💙
I take a rx called prazosin for nightmares. Wonder if she takes the same?
Martial arts. Someone who feels not safe or in control needs to learn how to defend themselves with skill. It will also boost one’s confidence, reduce stress, which will lead to better sleep.
How is it that he was allowed out of jail after being convicted, before sentencing? He had a prior and had fled on that one, seems like he would not have been allowed to bail out given his flight risk. And for such a heinous crime. Sometimes our justice system just boggles my mind.
HONEY...NEVER BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR IT. NOT YOUR FAULT. THIS GROWN MAN TOOK ADVANTAGE OF A YOUNG LADY WHO WAS JUST BEGINNING HER LIFE. HE KNEW THAT. HE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT HE WAS DOING. WHAT HE WAS TELLING YOU. AND WHAT HE NEEDED TO TELL YOU. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY WAY SHAPE OR FORM. LIVE YOUR LIFE IN PEACE AND GET MAD. MAD ENOUGH TO HELP THOSE YOUNG GIRLS WHO ARE IMMATURE AND DONT KNOW THE EVIL WAYS OF THESE MEN. YOU WILL HEAL YOURSELF BY HELPING OTHERS. AND REMEMBER HONEY LIFE IS ONE DAY AT A TIME. YOU DONT NEED TO DRINK OR DO DRUGS TO TRY FEEL BETTER. HEAL BY HELPING. DONT LET THIS MAN FOR ONE MINUTE RUIN YOUR LIFE. GET MAD CAUSE ITS OKAY TO GET MAD.