Best Tip For Healthy Dating | Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 มี.ค. 2014
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Here's me and Alyssa each giving one piece of advice for a healthy dating relationship.
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Hope this video is an encouragement! Not making your boyfriend or girlfriend an idol, and communicating in 3 different ways are two tips we had for a healthy relationship that we've learned in the past (and still are learning today!).
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The way she looks at him
Your right! She genuine loves/likes him.
The way she looks at him you know she loves and adore her husband! Wow How Awesome 💕💕💕
The way he talks though, its like she isn't even there.... no eye contact
I really needed to hear this. I am 21 years old and in college. Life is hard and confusing. I was raised a christian but never truly have known God or Jesus so when I went to college I let partying and bad relationships take over my life. You two are very encouraging to me, I have made mistakes in my past, especially with dating the wrong guys and giving my whole self to them but I want to have a Godly relationship like you two. Keep making these videos please because they really do help. I am trying harder to get to know God and I am amazed by how strong you guys' faith is.
lol my pet peeve! When people say " God and Jesus " Jesus is God. Father, Son, Holy Spirit - God head three in one. Lol sorry. God bless you and Shalom! Jesus be with you sister
I know this is like almost a whole year later, but I hope things have gotten better for you. It's always so positive to hear of people wanting to draw nearer to God, through His Son, Jesus, because truly, life is meaningless without Him. Know that you are loved by God with an unfailing love and I pray that the peace of Christ and His everlasting love, would just completely fill your heart and embrace you.
you have my support sister
I think the love and admiration written all over her face for The man, Her man, that stands up for Christ and speaks for him says it all. It's nice whrn a woman doesn't have to speak because she can fully trust her man to say and do what is right. It's a relief really. Almost like he speaks straight from her heart and all she has to do is love and support him. Awesome stuff!
The first thing you said Jeff really touched me to the core. I was sexually assaulted as a teen & now my boyfriend of over a year has helped me overcome so many things. But sometimes I forget that he's not the one that can calm my anxiety, that he can't always be there to help me feel ok in social situations, etc...you Jeff have helped me learn that God is what's going to ultimately heal me, not just a really awesome guy!
You guys are both so awesome!! :) I love how much you both love the Lord!
I was totally not expecting that voice to come out of that woman
Lol why?
@@MegaCadette55 Alyssa's voice is super high lol it seems like her voice would be deeper but it's not.
@@nanyummyify her voice is cute
Haha same
My church only just posted your "Why I hate religion but love Jesus" video this morning and it's the first time I've heard of you guys.
Three hours later and a lot of putting off errands until tomorrow and I am hooked!
You guys are such a beautiful couple in Christ and in the short space of time I've been watching your videos - you have already being enlightening me with your teachings!
You guys have a true gift and are a blessing at giving His message.
This lesson in particular I think is very important to me, coming from an extremely unhealthy relationship before I accepted Jesus into my heart and now being unwilling to enter another from my experience - this is a hopeful kind of thing to take into account for the future.
Absolutely amazing, you guys! Really really enjoying your videos!
God Bless!
He is doing the youth ministry at LifeChurch right now.
You guys make a beautiful couple. I think it's by the grace of God that beautiful couples exist.
this channel is such a blessing.
I LOVE the dating series videos. These are keeping my perspective of dating Christ-driven and focused, which is the best way for any relationship to start. Thank you for sharing!
this series is very inspiring you guys are such a blessing
Hey guys! Don't forget to checkout the free audiobook of Jesus > Religion in the links in the description! PS thanks for all your feedback on this video! Appreciate you all
I've been listening to your book this week and I love it! You bring up some awesome points and things that I haven't thought of before. You also address things that I've been struggling with, thank you for setting a good example of a follower of Jesus
When's the baby due? :D
Hey jeff next time you put another book out on my bday can you send me a free copy lol help a brotha out I love to read
hey Jeff, my name is maria, im 17 years old and here is my story. i watched your videos so many times and i love how you reach out to others:) God bless you! i just wanted to ask, i'm currently in a relationship with a non-christian, and i love him. He knows i love God and i cant give up God for him, and i'm really scared that if we continue our relationship God may turn his back on me. HELP!!! I've seen your video on christian and non-christian dating, but i cant let go of him. One main reason i cant let go of him is because because of me he has changed his life around, he stopped smoking pot, cussing, pron, everything for me. i'm scared if i leave him he will go back to his old ways. i just want him to believe in the same God as me. i'm scared of loosing myself but even more scared of having him live his life without knowing God. i don't know what to do. my parents approve of him because he treats me right and everything but i want him to also love God! what do i do?
hi maria my name is Patrick I just happened to read your post and I have something that may help you. The first thing you should do is go to God in prayer and ask him for direction about the relationship if you got to fast do that too. Secondly whatever God tells you to do, do it. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide your life and be persistent in prayer. Meditate on Proverbs 3:5-6 and let God direct your steps and don't allow your feelings to dictate where you go. One of the things I have learned in my life is that you cant make people believe what you know to be true but as long as your lifestyle aligns with God's word he will draw people by his Spirit. Also pray for the person your in a relationship with that he will receive the message of the Gospel but I say this again where ever God tells you to do just do it. Seek his face my sister and God bless.
I love your videos and how you guys explain everything! God bless your marriage!! You're such a blessing for a lot of people...
I just love how Jeff is saying "uhu hmm" after everything that Alyssa said while she was just quiet and listened at what he had to say. haha(:
Love these videos by you guys. You definitely provide encouragement for me in looking for a Godly relationship in the future. Keep up the great work guys.
NEW VIDEO!!
YEA
Thanks for the video Jeff, are we going to see any spoken word from you soon? Love these, love those as well.
Thank you!
amazing as always!!!
Hey Jeff it's Jesse from YFC impact
He makes some good points. God first, don't dedicate yourself to something importantly unless it's the Lord himself
Thank you for this Jeff and Alyssa. Really needed this one after doing a tough decision that I did. Holiness first before happiness. Jesus is our everything.
You two are amazing. This is exactly what I needed to hear in my situation right now. God bless you two, you're wise beyond your years.
Such amazing words of wisdom! Definitely teaching me something. Love u guys!
I really love that Triangle Example lol soooo goood
I want to thank you guys for doing these videos. I don't have a church that I can attend and feel as though I'm growing in my faith, but watching your videos and applying what I learn to my faith and other aspects of my life have been honestly so helpful. Listening to your words and reading through the bible as a story more than anything else has helped me so much on my walk. And I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this. I had so many bad things happen that left me broken that I thought I was to broken to ever be loved and when I was pushed from my old church it made me belive that if church people can't love me who can but you taught me I was looking in the wrong place and now that my faith has grown I have been blessed that now I'm in a healthy relationship with God and with my boyfriend who has been growing with me watching you guys. I honestly can't say thank you enough
God bless
K
What Jefferson does during Alyssa's talk (hmm, mhmm) is hilarious. Great video. Thank y'all!
This video is seriously SOOOO encouraging and oddly specific to my relationship right now. So good and I hope you two realize how much of a light your wisdom and encouragement is to us viewers. Keep up the awesome vids(:
Love the triangle analogy.
I'd love to hear alyssa singing! I just love her voice!
Great video, great people, GREAT GOD ❤️
Great video! I would really like it if you guys did a video on fears and doubts. Alyssa briefly mentioned them but it would be good if she expanded on what to do when they do arise and how to better prepare when you do have a conflict with the person! Also, I want to hear Alyssa speak even more!! She's awesome
I wish u both write book about dating. So blessed by ur videos! :D
I love this, this videos! They're amazing and I'm really happy that you two take the time to share this important stuff with us. I needed to know this, and I'll always need to keep it in mind, so thank you.
always leaving hyped as ever after watching your vids.
Wish I would've remembered Alyssa's advice in this video sooner - my boyfriend and I struggled with a lot of unspoken doubts, and by God's grace we're working them out, but I completely forgot Alyssa had already covered that here! Amazing!
I've never thought about dating this way EVER. But it seems so smart and mature and in some ways beyond my understanding. I'd really like to give it a try.
Alyssa looks like Kate Middleton to me ♥
I get so excited when I see a new video on my subscriptions page from youu! Jeff, you and Alyssa are so amazing and so encouraging. :) will be donating to your funds page soon!
I loved this. My son will be turning 16 this August and will be allowed to start dating, so I want to add this to my fave vids to show to him when that time comes. Thanks for sharing guys :)
ROFL . Highly doubt your son will be getting any
I too enjoy this video! He is making some good points! I never thought about the triangle! God on the top as we both focus on him it brings the relationship closer wow!
The first quote Jeff talked about is from Lecrae's "Free from it All". Love that lyric as it applies to many situations outside of dating as well.
Alyssa's voice is so cute 😋
My 3rd video and my views on dating have changed dramatically! Love this Channel!
God Bless you both!
Nice tips. I feel it is really about regularly renewing your intentions, make sure your intentions are set right in order to pull you toward succeeding in your Mariage.
Your relationship looks and sounds healthy. I hope the day I get marry I can have the same healthy relationship.
I love this! I am so glad my friend brought me to your videos! I recently broke up with my first serious boyfriend of 4 years...and your videos are so helpful and inspiring. it is eye-opening to hear you say these things, because you don't even realize it when you are the one in the equation. thank you!!!
This video has really convicted me-- thanks Jeff & Alyssa!
Watching this years later, thank you! learned a lot!!
I went on a little marathon of your videos tonight, because I've been particularly struggling with a lot, especially regarding a relationship I'm in. I just wanted to say though that you both are such a blessing, and just keep doing what you're doing :) I'm someone who struggles with being stubborn, prideful, and depressed, but your videos are helping to bring me down back to a humble level and to stop running/hiding from God. So thank you :)
soo true!!! Love it! God bless you guys!!
Hey I remember the triangle analogy! It been one that's stuck with me
BTW you guys are a beautiful Christian couple :)
You're both so real and down to earth, you don't put on a fake perfect front and that's what I love about you both. Thanks for the godly advice you both constantly bring :)
I would just like to say thank you these videos are so helpful and so informative and you and your wife are an absolute inspiration
Thanks so much guys I really need to hear this!
Thank you for sharing! I've been struggling this last week.
You guys are truly a blessing! Love these videos!!
You guys are awesome. I watched these videos when I was single and now I'm in a relationship with a great man of God. Watching these videos now is quite different from when I was single, but I'm so glad you guys made these videos! I look at both of you as my mentors
Thank you both for you ministry- has been a huge blessing in my life!
That triangle analogy is perfect! Thanks guys
Yep. I agree with this. I'm not going to date someone and then lose myself in them. I'm actually really happy being single. Turning to God for things, finding my hope, peace and love in him. Lovely video. I always learn so much from you so thanks!
You always kill it...thanks again for your wisdom. God bless you
I'm so glad I saw this video I can't tell you how much this answered my prayers as to why I'm still trying to get over my ex. Love you guys I pray that you guys continue to do what yall do. :)
This could NOT have come at a better time for me. Seriously, thank you so much. Ya'll are great
"If you live for someones praise, you die for their rejection." Wow. Pretty powerful.
I thought your shirt said I'd rather be drinking. Apparently there was more to it. Lol!
COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!!!!! Great work
Just love you guys! thank you for allowing the King to use you all to help others! I love all of you all's videos.
Really loving this series! Y'all are such an adorable couple. :) I'd love to hear any advice y'all have for people whom have never dated or are in a time of singleness. Thank you, and God bless!
I appreciate your channel so much. I love that you and Alyssa are so confident in each other and the Lord also, and that you admit your faults and use them to give advice we can all learn from instead of acting "holier than thou". Keep up the amazing work you two and congratulations on baby Bethke :)
i have your books and i have learned so much about relationships!! God bless you guys
I wrote a senior thesis (undergrad) about family communication and how it can be applied to the Church. In my interpersonal comm. classes, I learned that communicating through conflict and working it out actually makes relationships stronger, not weaker. (I think I incorporated this into my thesis.) It is a misconception, not just by the culture that we live in, but even in the Church that we should avoid conflict. As Christians we need to love each other which means getting along all of the time. This just is not realistic. Conflict is inevitable. We even see it in the Bible. For example, Paul and Peter. We hear Paul set Peter straight on somethings that he is not doing. Jesus even had to set his disciples straight on issues. It is more of a weakness to sweep conflict under the rug. The result of that is a lack of authenticity and honesty and relational wounds that have never been cleaned out which leads to inward thoughts of bitterness (an infection if you will). The point is that the Church needs to address conflict and discuss it. Sometimes those discussions will get heated. Emotions will take over and those who are starting to bicker most likely need to step away from the problem and calm down before they can find a solution. Fair fighting is another term that I have learned too. Discuss your feelings, but do not bring up past disagreements or wrongs. This just adds damage. Take time to step away if you need it, but do not let the problem fester into a deep wound. Solve it once you can.
This video really meant a lot to me, thank both of you so much.
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years now & I found this video very helpful, thank-you!!
Amen,thank you guys for sharing.May God bless your relationship and may it keep glorifying Him
Y'all are so sweet! I love this!
Thank you for the inspiration and advice on your perception of a healthy relationship. It helped me to understand a bit more about my very own relationship. Bless.
Thanks for sharing this! Definitely an eye opener
Thank you guys for being real:) God bless you
such great people! we need more people like this on TH-cam.
God bless you guys! Love your videos. With love from Brazil!
I love your metaphor of cultivating plants after they sprouted as very similar to relationships. I had a revelation about sin recently when I was pulling the weeds off my brick sidewalk (where as weeds recently sin in one's life) - its so easy to pluck little weeds(sin) when they didn't take deep root, but once the weeds(sin) matures, it the roots sink into the soil and it takes a lot more force to remove mature weeds(sin).
Such great stuff to hear right now. So thankful for their videos and wisdom! Timing is also pretty great. =)
Youd think that with all of Jeffersons fame he could pull hotter bitches. Alyssa's face kinda makes me think of diarrhea
How to deal with conflict in the relationship and maintain a healthy relationship. And tips on dealing with arguments or disagreements in a healthy manner while putting God first. Even along the lines of controlling your temper and holding back words that will only hurt the other person.
You both are an amazing inspiration thank you! :)
I was just sharing this same wisdom in a group discussion the other day. Glad to listen to like minded individuals. #itsnotjustme
This video helped so much, thank you guys!
Wow else words are exactly what my girlfriend and I need to hear. Thank you so much.
Thank you, watched all your videos, your one of my main life inspirations
You guys really are a gift sent to me from Christ. You both know how to speak life into people and into their situations. I pray for the flourishment of Y'all's marriage and i pray that the ministry you both have here on TH-cam grows like no other. Thank you God for these amazing people.
5:53 - Too funny Jeff! lol.
Great video by the way.
You both should come to my church in Paraguay some day to preach about all the stuff you know. It'd be more than great!
I have been going back and forth in a very hard and emotional relationship, and letting go of something that you've tied yourself to is so hard. Hearing the tips, the love of God, and encouragement you guys have really helps me to feel at ease as I'm attempting to get over a broken relationship and seek God.
Thank you so much.
God bless your family. I hope I find someone that can give me the love and strength you guys give each other and has the desire to run towards God.
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles, which so many of us can relate to. I pray that you would experience the incomparable love and peace of Christ, and that you would learn each day to become more and more satisfied in God, in His goodness and in His everlasting love for you. I pray that You would delight in Him above all else, prize Him above all else and treasure Him more than anything because, there is actually nothing worth more than Jesus. This is so not easy to do. There will be so many difficult days. But as God's children, we're all in this together, and above all, the Holy Spirit lives and He will strengthen us, help us, encourage us and comfort us.
Thank you both! I am from Argentina. I love your videos! you bless me :) thank you! God bless you both so much!
Thank you, needed to hear this!
I wish y'all went to my church so y'all could be my mentors lol love you guys!
thanks for telling me what the shirt said! I thought it said "I would rather be drinking" and I was really confused!
Wonderful video! I am a Christian, but I feel as though pieces of this video could even pertain to an atheist in the dating realm concerning communication not only between the two people in the relationship, but also communicating with trusted people around them. Thanks again for another wonderful video!
And congratulations on the beautiful new baby girl Kinsley!
One last thing, I just wanted to say Alyssa has beautiful eyes!!
Thanks again!
Thank you so much Jeff and Alyssa! You both make me fall in love with The Lord and His great works all over again with each new video. Thank you for what you both do!
I'm not sure you will see this, but I would appreciate it so much if you could talk about a topic I've always had an issue with. It would be that I am convinced that I have to be perfectly happy with who I am and 100% confident to be in a relationship. All of my relationships, even with friends, have suffered because of this. Please help, I would love to hear what you both have to say about it! Love and blessings!
Love y'all! These videos help a lot
I love what y'all said, i totally believe in it. This kind of relationsship is what the holy spirit told me to have buy last girl i dated told me i wanted something to serious and it lead to a break up i was really depressed, it felt like God left me cause the pain was real but watching this has renewed my faith and i know that what i wanted is right thank you guys so much i wish i could tell you how much you have helped my Christian life. May you never depart from his grace.
This was really good advice im new to this channel and I love it all please keep it up..thanks again
Thank you, these help so much
Love the relationship videos, keep it up!
I love hearing you guys talk and give advice as a couple. I was wondering if you guys would make a video kind of expanding on what to do while you're waiting with Jesus while you're single? I know you guys talk a lot about dating and relationships but I haven't heard much on what to do when you're not in a relationship and how to stay hopeful and obedient in that process. This topic keeps being brought up in conversation with my friends so I would love to hear some input on this!! You guys rock, hope you see this!
Grateful for your content. Thank you
Solid video guys. This is just an all around healthy video.