Caroline, I almost cried when you shared your story of being shunned by a group of "friends". I remembered the children's story by Andersen about the ugly duckling. When we don't fit in we feel ugly and weird. But actually it's just not a good match and has nothing to do with how wonderful of a person you are. You might have been the swan chick amongst ducks out there. My heart goes out to the younger you and all those feeling ostracized
The topic of friendship is super triggering to me and I am always very interested in any input on the topic at the same time. I feel like as I aged, I've become super picky and have distanced myself from many people I was friends with. And now I feel lonely and crave a true friend, but I don't want to re-connect with any of the people I've distanced myself from. I guess this would be a what to do, but I can't quite formulate the problem. Does it even have a solution? Should I accept loneliness as a phase in my life? I am not young. Not old either
Face on my face is real. Thanks for giving a name for it! I get it not just with my mom. I noticed doing the faces of close friends in specific instances. Every time I happen to see myself on camera or in pictures doing the faces, I can see it very clearly and it’s freaky. I guess it’s an empath thing. I literally morph into other people 😂
I really needed your perspective on dealing with a partner who suffers from depression, anxiety, insomnia etc. I've never thought about this being about me adapting to it, it's always been about me trying to help and fix it in some way. My partner is going through this cyclical depression and every time it happens I just can't stop trying to help. These past two weeks it's been going on again and it hit harder than usual which made me feel so so anxious. It's nice to see how you've been going through the same with your family members or partners. Thank you so muuuch
Jess!! What you described about Ryan’s sleep was my exact experience for yeeears. Turns out I have sleep apnea! I’m young and healthy, and don’t snore loudly, so sleep apnea can easily go unnoticed to partners. Definitely recommend he do a sleep test if possible. It def wouldn’t hurt!! Best of luck 🌷
My dad (66) is a bad sleeper, too. I'm really worried he'll develop sever dementia the older he gets. He started taking Magnesium closer to his bedtime and it has improved his quality/quantity of sleep. Good sleep is really important for your brain to rest and reset. I worry that being ok with insomnia is not ok. Please try taking Magnesium if you are an adult struggling with sleep.
Just make sure it’s the right type of magnesium…. There are several types. Magnesium glycinate combined with zinc is good for sleep. Whereas magnesium oxide is used for digestive issues.
Thank you for naming the face on my face phenomenon!! It happened to me yesterday in yoga class when we had to exhale in a very specific way and my mom's face just appeared before my eyes. It felt like I was a piece of her in that moment, it was sooo weird. Pretty cool coincidence that you talked about it today. As always, love you, girls ❤
Totally face on my face with my mom, and loving those moments, especially after she died - it's like checking in with her. I have it with my sister too (whom I am not friends with anymore) and it annoys me 😄. I guess it doesn't depend on whether you like/love the person whose face comes on my face. Thank you Jessica for coining the term
Adhd-er here. Emotional support slippers are such a vibe. I have seperate indoor and outdoor ones in different colours (light = indoor, dark = outdoor) because I don't want to track nasties in. They're those puffy rubber Asian ones you see people wearing with socks 😬
the adjustment phase! so well said. i recently went through this with a friend. yesterday it felt like we both graduated from that phase. she opened up to me about some personal things but i feel like she tried to do so in a way that respected my boundaries because i think ive slowly and kind of decreitly but sucessfully made my boundaries clear. I then could respond in a way where i was fully receptive and it was even easier to 'stay in my self'. it felt like a beautiful turning of a page into a much more balanced friendship.
Before I left my ex I tested just how much he wanted me in his life. He failed miserably and I realised that there wasn’t any point in why the hell I put so much time and effort into pleasing the narcissist. I was only his personal assistant and his figurative emotional punching bag. That’s when I’d learnt about trauma bonding and within 3 weeks, about 80-90% of the physical pain in my body and muscle strains left my body brought on by the stress of pleasing him. Now I pay a lot of attention to what pain I have in my body and love doing NET therapy to address it. It’s completely changed my life.
I really enjoy your honest talks. I found Caroline first, but Hessica you rock too! I agree about the face on my face thing , I have experienced this! I also am in the midst of a weird sleep cycle fluctuating thing which I'm working out. Hopefully I snap out of it soon like Caroline did. 🎉
Had the same intense negative dream thing when I started SSRIs. It's hard to describe how they hit different but they really do. Also just discovered magnesium, improves my sleep quality massively
Jess, yes! Only not so much face for me. It's an embodiment. It happens most with my mom where BAM I'm her in her body all of a sudden doing or saying the thing and i have to do a double take to realize I'm myself and I'm not all of a sudden my mom.
Magnesium definitely helps for better sleep. Especially for those with ADHD. I take it every night ever since I was on the Pill years ago and realised the foot cramps were from msg deficiency. About 5 years ago realised the Pill strips you of mag and creates deficiency. Went off Pill back then and body still has the deficiency, but with ADHD I also need to supplement the magnesium.
Omg i feel face on my face constantly 😮 sometimes i AM my mum, sometimes my dad, sometimes my grandmother, sometimes my daughter. another day i was explaining this phenomena to my mother and she didn't get it.
Orange lights in the bedroom! Yes it looks weird, but it really helps my brain register "oohh sunset! Sleepy time!". And I mean orange. Not warm lights. Orange bulbs. No caffeine, tea also might help!
I had face on face as a kid, I thought my big brother was so funny and found myself laughing like him, like I was channelling him in funny moments, it was trippy and, for want of a better word, enriching
I've definitely never felt like I'm momentarily embodying a friend or relative before, but I've definitely experienced the phenomenon of face-OFF-my-face where I kind of disassociate from my identity itself and for a few seconds don't even believe that this could possibly be where my life has led to in this moment. Like... THIS is my face? THIS is my job? THIS is my city? Seems fake.
During my first pregnancy I had really bad, brutal and violent dreams. They were very explicit and unlike any other dreams I've ever had. I remember I googled it but didn't find much about it. Interesting, maybe magnesium would have helped?
Anomia: a condition in which someone can not remember words they want to use 😂 I attribute this constant problem to pandemic trauma- it’s beyond my menstrual cycle at this point 😂
Hmm, Face on face. I know what you're talking about. It happened to me many times when I was younger. Especially when someone had a deep impact on me. But sometimes it can be very awkward when the person is my boyfriend's brother. :D So annoying.
Caroline, I almost cried when you shared your story of being shunned by a group of "friends". I remembered the children's story by Andersen about the ugly duckling. When we don't fit in we feel ugly and weird. But actually it's just not a good match and has nothing to do with how wonderful of a person you are. You might have been the swan chick amongst ducks out there. My heart goes out to the younger you and all those feeling ostracized
Same! I was feeling way too much this ep
The topic of friendship is super triggering to me and I am always very interested in any input on the topic at the same time. I feel like as I aged, I've become super picky and have distanced myself from many people I was friends with. And now I feel lonely and crave a true friend, but I don't want to re-connect with any of the people I've distanced myself from. I guess this would be a what to do, but I can't quite formulate the problem. Does it even have a solution? Should I accept loneliness as a phase in my life? I am not young. Not old either
Face on my face is real. Thanks for giving a name for it! I get it not just with my mom. I noticed doing the faces of close friends in specific instances. Every time I happen to see myself on camera or in pictures doing the faces, I can see it very clearly and it’s freaky. I guess it’s an empath thing. I literally morph into other people 😂
I really needed your perspective on dealing with a partner who suffers from depression, anxiety, insomnia etc. I've never thought about this being about me adapting to it, it's always been about me trying to help and fix it in some way. My partner is going through this cyclical depression and every time it happens I just can't stop trying to help. These past two weeks it's been going on again and it hit harder than usual which made me feel so so anxious. It's nice to see how you've been going through the same with your family members or partners. Thank you so muuuch
Jess!! What you described about Ryan’s sleep was my exact experience for yeeears. Turns out I have sleep apnea! I’m young and healthy, and don’t snore loudly, so sleep apnea can easily go unnoticed to partners. Definitely recommend he do a sleep test if possible. It def wouldn’t hurt!! Best of luck 🌷
My dad (66) is a bad sleeper, too. I'm really worried he'll develop sever dementia the older he gets. He started taking Magnesium closer to his bedtime and it has improved his quality/quantity of sleep. Good sleep is really important for your brain to rest and reset. I worry that being ok with insomnia is not ok. Please try taking Magnesium if you are an adult struggling with sleep.
There are doctors treating dementia as diabetes 3. Look it up, may be some helpful info for him ❤
Just make sure it’s the right type of magnesium…. There are several types. Magnesium glycinate combined with zinc is good for sleep. Whereas magnesium oxide is used for digestive issues.
Thank you for naming the face on my face phenomenon!! It happened to me yesterday in yoga class when we had to exhale in a very specific way and my mom's face just appeared before my eyes. It felt like I was a piece of her in that moment, it was sooo weird. Pretty cool coincidence that you talked about it today. As always, love you, girls ❤
Totally face on my face with my mom, and loving those moments, especially after she died - it's like checking in with her. I have it with my sister too (whom I am not friends with anymore) and it annoys me 😄. I guess it doesn't depend on whether you like/love the person whose face comes on my face. Thank you Jessica for coining the term
Adhd-er here. Emotional support slippers are such a vibe. I have seperate indoor and outdoor ones in different colours (light = indoor, dark = outdoor) because I don't want to track nasties in. They're those puffy rubber Asian ones you see people wearing with socks 😬
the adjustment phase! so well said. i recently went through this with a friend. yesterday it felt like we both graduated from that phase. she opened up to me about some personal things but i feel like she tried to do so in a way that respected my boundaries because i think ive slowly and kind of decreitly but sucessfully made my boundaries clear. I then could respond in a way where i was fully receptive and it was even easier to 'stay in my self'. it felt like a beautiful turning of a page into a much more balanced friendship.
Before I left my ex I tested just how much he wanted me in his life. He failed miserably and I realised that there wasn’t any point in why the hell I put so much time and effort into pleasing the narcissist. I was only his personal assistant and his figurative emotional punching bag. That’s when I’d learnt about trauma bonding and within 3 weeks, about 80-90% of the physical pain in my body and muscle strains left my body brought on by the stress of pleasing him. Now I pay a lot of attention to what pain I have in my body and love doing NET therapy to address it. It’s completely changed my life.
I really enjoy your honest talks. I found Caroline first, but Hessica you rock too! I agree about the face on my face thing , I have experienced this! I also am in the midst of a weird sleep cycle fluctuating thing which I'm working out. Hopefully I snap out of it soon like Caroline did. 🎉
Had the same intense negative dream thing when I started SSRIs. It's hard to describe how they hit different but they really do. Also just discovered magnesium, improves my sleep quality massively
OMG! Ryan's voice! *swoon*
Jess, yes! Only not so much face for me. It's an embodiment. It happens most with my mom where BAM I'm her in her body all of a sudden doing or saying the thing and i have to do a double take to realize I'm myself and I'm not all of a sudden my mom.
Magnesium definitely helps for better sleep. Especially for those with ADHD. I take it every night ever since I was on the Pill years ago and realised the foot cramps were from msg deficiency. About 5 years ago realised the Pill strips you of mag and creates deficiency. Went off Pill back then and body still has the deficiency, but with ADHD I also need to supplement the magnesium.
Omg i feel face on my face constantly 😮 sometimes i AM my mum, sometimes my dad, sometimes my grandmother, sometimes my daughter. another day i was explaining this phenomena to my mother and she didn't get it.
Orange lights in the bedroom! Yes it looks weird, but it really helps my brain register "oohh sunset! Sleepy time!".
And I mean orange. Not warm lights. Orange bulbs.
No caffeine, tea also might help!
Magnesium Taurate works best for it!
We are all living the same life 😂😭😭 I always get face on my face with actresses or public figures if I’ve been exposed to them a lot
Face to face is a true thing! I can hear my friends sometimes in my voice 😂
I had face on face as a kid, I thought my big brother was so funny and found myself laughing like him, like I was channelling him in funny moments, it was trippy and, for want of a better word, enriching
Botox for feet! Brilliant! I suffer from freezing cold feet due to sweaty feet in winter too. I always take three pair skiing.
I've definitely never felt like I'm momentarily embodying a friend or relative before, but I've definitely experienced the phenomenon of face-OFF-my-face where I kind of disassociate from my identity itself and for a few seconds don't even believe that this could possibly be where my life has led to in this moment. Like... THIS is my face? THIS is my job? THIS is my city? Seems fake.
Thats derealization maybe?
I have face on my face all of the time. Like i literally feel like the other person for a second while saying or doing something a person i know does
I feel like we’re in that commercial of “you’re turning into your parents”… is it Geico?
During my first pregnancy I had really bad, brutal and violent dreams. They were very explicit and unlike any other dreams I've ever had. I remember I googled it but didn't find much about it. Interesting, maybe magnesium would have helped?
That part of your period where you can't remember idioms 🤣😂😭
Jess juggling her Emotional Support Water Bottle and her package of live fish. 😂
Anomia: a condition in which someone can not remember words they want to use 😂 I attribute this constant problem to pandemic trauma- it’s beyond my menstrual cycle at this point 😂
Jessica, yes I have felt face on my face
How can i send a whatado? 😢
Face on my face is absolutely a thing! I made a face yesterday that made go OMG I am my brother right now lol
Face on face feels like a chameleon thing. Not the narcissist kind, the survival kind. You like a mannerism someone does so you adopt it.
Hmm, Face on face. I know what you're talking about. It happened to me many times when I was younger. Especially when someone had a deep impact on me. But sometimes it can be very awkward when the person is my boyfriend's brother. :D So annoying.
Oh man, Jess would HATE me as a friend.. 😂😳I go incredibly inward and want nothing to do with people in my business when I am dealing with stuffs.
Why is it that insomniacs always end up dating morning people? I am married to a morning person and I am insomniac myself
Mirror neurons