I was once fired from a job I hated and was afraid to leave. It was the best thing that could have happened to me. I learned from that experience that when in pain I try to look at it as a lesson. It works
It's not nonsensical so much as it as a buzzword, like so much else in DBT. It can mean anything, or nothing, and whether or not one is truly practicing it is debatable
@@MechaJutaro I got a good chuckle out of this, the only reason being, is that I literally cannot figure any of that at out and honestly, I'm not interested in trying lol.
So I need to accept that I had no mother and a negligent drug addled father. I can grieve my childhood and forgive my father for choosing drugs over interactions. Now I’m 50 and have struggled with letting go of him, I’ve been stuck in a loop. So radical acceptance tells me that he’s not going to change, I must change to get out of the loop. The only way to change and keep my core Christian beliefs of honoring my parents ( worthy or not) is to walk away and leave all expectations of any future relationship with him behind?
Accepting that he is not capable of having a relationship might be helpful. My father chose alcohol. I never let go I just stopped being angry with him I learned to forgive him, and then I made the best of the relationship he was capable of having. As a Christian, I honored him as my father by recognizing his humanity, including all the ugly.
You don't listen well. You can accept ur horrible past w/o liking it or u can fight ur reality (what u are doing). But if u fight facts that u don't like (unpleasant reality that can't be changed) u will continue living in misery. There are only 2 choices accepting radically or rejecting ur reality. Watch the video again. I am 70, accepting that my reality is hell due to my family and bipol a r disorder. This video changed my life.
The way radical acceptance is defined here, everyone already does it without thinking, it's not a skill. If it's just saying, 'This sucks, but it's happening...' everyone already does that. I mean, if I'm getting stabbed, I'm not thinking, 'Gee, I wish I wasn't getting stabbed right now, it sort of sucks, but I accept that I'm being stabbed right now, so whatever.' No, you're thinking, 'I'm being fucking stabbed, make this stop immediately.' If you just radically accept you're being stabbed, well... I guess you'll die thinking you had radical acceptance figured out a few moments later.
This(what is meant by "acceptance")is a serious flaw in all of the mindfulness, heavy therapies, all of which were created by self-described flower children of the 60s and 70s, who took Buddhist concepts out of their religious contexts and have tried to fit them into a secular mold. Whether or not one is practicing "true" acceptance is in the eye of the beholder
I was once fired from a job I hated and was afraid to leave. It was the best thing that could have happened to me. I learned from that experience that when in pain I try to look at it as a lesson. It works
Great video, thanks very much. I am struggling with a few things I must accept and your words are helping.
The best explanation of RA in utube.
I was going to toss this concept out as another nonsensical practice, until this video; thanks for being practical and clear in your words.
It's not nonsensical so much as it as a buzzword, like so much else in DBT. It can mean anything, or nothing, and whether or not one is truly practicing it is debatable
@@MechaJutaro I got a good chuckle out of this, the only reason being, is that I literally cannot figure any of that at out and honestly, I'm not interested in trying lol.
@@CobraAquinas You can't figure it out, just as no one can figure out what the hell Radical Acceptance is
@@MechaJutaro LMFAO
This is the best summary of radical acceptance on TH-cam IMO.
Well described this can be tricky, good skill to gain knowledge with experience.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for posting
Thank you so much for this
So I need to accept that I had no mother and a negligent drug addled father. I can grieve my childhood and forgive my father for choosing drugs over interactions. Now I’m 50 and have struggled with letting go of him, I’ve been stuck in a loop. So radical acceptance tells me that he’s not going to change, I must change to get out of the loop. The only way to change and keep my core Christian beliefs of honoring my parents ( worthy or not) is to walk away and leave all expectations of any future relationship with him behind?
Accepting that he is not capable of having a relationship might be helpful. My father chose alcohol. I never let go I just stopped being angry with him I learned to forgive him, and then I made the best of the relationship he was capable of having. As a Christian, I honored him as my father by recognizing his humanity, including all the ugly.
You don't listen well. You can accept ur horrible past w/o liking it or u can fight ur reality (what u are doing). But if u fight facts that u don't like (unpleasant reality that can't be changed) u will continue living in misery. There are only 2 choices accepting radically or rejecting ur reality. Watch the video again. I am 70, accepting that my reality is hell due to my family and bipol a r disorder. This video changed my life.
Jesus calls it forgiveness. So yeah. Move on, for yourself. For your health. For you. Holy spirit gets credit.
Very good thank you
Long suffering 2010. I must Radical Acceptance. I can't embrace it but need acceptance. It's not okay great point.
Acceptance is not approval. Thank you for saying that.
The way radical acceptance is defined here, everyone already does it without thinking, it's not a skill. If it's just saying, 'This sucks, but it's happening...' everyone already does that. I mean, if I'm getting stabbed, I'm not thinking, 'Gee, I wish I wasn't getting stabbed right now, it sort of sucks, but I accept that I'm being stabbed right now, so whatever.' No, you're thinking, 'I'm being fucking stabbed, make this stop immediately.' If you just radically accept you're being stabbed, well... I guess you'll die thinking you had radical acceptance figured out a few moments later.
This(what is meant by "acceptance")is a serious flaw in all of the mindfulness, heavy therapies, all of which were created by self-described flower children of the 60s and 70s, who took Buddhist concepts out of their religious contexts and have tried to fit them into a secular mold. Whether or not one is practicing "true" acceptance is in the eye of the beholder
Depends on the individual person temperament and what horror has transpired. Not second nature to all to accept quickly.