I burnt out at my last job. While they talked up "work-life balance" and "flexibility", in reality everyone was working 50+ hours a week, and those who didn't were frowned upon. Since then, I've learned that I hate committing to long-term employment, and will be looking at project-based employment instead. I love coming in, helping fix problems, and then moving on to the next thing.
Yes I understand this so well. Corporate expectations vs the phrases they like to use to boost morale. I hope you can find the project based employment you are seeking. I would like to find it as well. I am sure it is!
I love this Warrior and Artisan distinction. Thank you Lauren. I do all these things instinctively: slow down, project switch, take daydream breaks, appreciate beauty. It's nice to see them validated and think about how to lean into them more
my last job was so toxic that I'll never allow another human being to talk to me the way my previous boss did. I still have so much anger towards this person's awful behavior.
I'm unquestionable a true Warrior. The problem is - I'm a warrior for everyone by myself. And I burn out trying to fix everyone else's life until I'm a pile of wreckage.
Chronic stress + candy= adrenals cooking, danger zone. I did the same thing, burned out after 3rd big tech corporate job, toxic enviros, not self aware enough, disintegrated shadow, also rare disease. Autism diagnosis at 36 helped me understand autistic burnout has long lasting neurological implications. A lot of people like me have the COMT warrior/worrier gene flipped on, which in females shows up as Hashimoto’s, PMDD, ADHD like symptoms. I did 13 Ironmans before my body and adrenals quit in late 30s. Guess what I learned? I’m not a warrior. Hehe. My burnout has lasted 4 years, starting to peek out the other side when I stopped pushing to maintain old standards and met myself where I’m at instead. Such a great video. Not pushing myself to go to the groups or stay friends with folks I’ve outgrown. Cannot wait to turn 40 in April! 🙌🏽✨ Life is about BEing and creating peace and joy now in artisan phase. 😊
INFJ- Burnout going on 2 & half years now. Insomnia M-F, then sleep the entire weekend (15+hrs) to be able to do it all over again the next week. Struggle to get out of bed to go to work. Staying employed! 😮
Wow, giving you a virtual hug and just wanna tell you that I’m PROUD of you. I hope you stumble upon new things that will help you settle into this journey with a bit more ease. 🙏🏻 big or small
I really love that you mention using color to entertain our artisan brains and help with organizing our supplies and to-do lists. I seem to be the only artisan type among my family and friends, and no one gets why I’m so picky when it comes to following color schemes in my bedroom or choosing small-business products over mass-produced ones. I didn’t realize until you said it that I NEED color, I NEED originality and variety and thought to go into every decision, and thanks to you I don’t feel like an oddball anymore. It’s just who I am ❤
You just explained my whole life... Its my 60th Birthday today and youve explained my messy desk.. My multi coloures post it notes all over the place. How colour and variety are lifes breath.. Ive been facking Warrior Virgo mode for so long I have had many Burn Out illnesses. But no more.. After the Eclipse yesterday and this info today I feel a new love for my Inner "Authentic " Child.. Thank You
I hate works that include tons of confronting and detail-oriented communication. Gosh, it’s so damn frustrating to deal with. Sadly, my current job requires me to do so. I felt burnt out already.
Lauren, I genuinely adore you. I love your videos because every time I watch one I feel truly understood, in a world that doesn't understand me. Thank you.
i was already aware of this. My body crashed several times and i developed a scary autoimmune disease. I stopped working as i used to, started to rest and replenish. But how on earth am i going to make money??? ive been resting for several years now, changed my diet, spending time in nature, being creative, being alone to recharge, slowing down a lot, cultivating beauty, etc. And i still dont know what im here to do in the most nourishing way for me, so i can make money effortlessly. So frustrating.
I am exactly in that same boat. I burned out to a crisp after a 30 year career and am basically considering myself retired. But I'm not wealthy and I am still a bit young for retirement. I am healthier than ever and in a good place mentally. But the big problem is how does one earn any money. It almost seems that we either sacrifice our health to our jobs or we save our health and lose our jobs. 🤔
@@YAMISOOLD2009 totally get it and so true about the sacrificing part. But there must must must be another way. And yes, i too have the feeling that i could be retiring :)) and this will literally happen in a few years from now, but there is also this stronger inner knowing that i am not done yet, that im here to make a huge contribution and i will be famous for it. What is this about? i dont know! I still hope that the path will be revealed to me. I am practicing trust, acceptance and patience as much as possible, but its not easy.
@@dumitriudaniela I have seen doors open easily multiple times in my life. It seems that when something is supposed to be that it opens up and we almost glide into it. I hope that happens for both you and I!☺️
As an artisan type, I find I get the most done when I allow myself to do ANY work I feel like, but I don’t allow myself to stop moving. I can take things slow, but I can’t just stop. That works very well for me.
Im an INFJ, but on the fence whether I am more warrior or artisan. I feel comfortable in both roles, but feel more "me" as an artisan. I lived the straight up warrior life, if only just for survival, and while I know how to make it work for me now. But, boy did it bring out my shadow and God help you if I appear alert and emotionless. Tired and emotionless is one thing, but if I'm alert and shutting them off, I'm in business mode. Lol. Awesome video!
Wow!!! You are a life saver. This information has helped me so much. I am totally not a warrior. I am the artisan. I love time to myself and rotate between different projects. OMG, I love you. That is why I do not stick to one thing. I rotate my focus.
Perfect take! From the what I wear on a given day to how I want to function. Pressure or challenge me and I WILL oppose and counter. I hate external targets but usually exceed external targets by applying my own unique approach. Weird?
Lauren I'm so glad I found your channel. Your content is spot-on in helping me better understand myself as an INFJ. Thank you for all the good work you're doing!
I am an INFJ (I have strong INFJ traits) with a warrior character; but I think that I like challenges because they involve highly repetitive tasks that calm me down because of the proximity with the autistic spectrum.
Fantastic! Thank you Lauren. ❤ I recognize so much!! After 40 years with a tough and stressed job I became burnout. Late in life I am trying this other way - which is THE REAL ME!! 🍀🦋
Love, love, love this Artisan archetype. And this video crystallizes beautifully what I KNOW in myself 🙏 I have seen warrior in myself, but in VERY VERY specific situations, and probably exacerbated by conditioning. Thank you!! 🌻🦋🌺🐦❣️
Thank you for saying this. Yeah, I started figuring out that bootcamp mentality makes me shut down. I can't do people yelling, being condescending, tall expectations...it just makes me feel bad. I also don't like micro-managing. I need a nice balance of structure that I can also do my own thing in and am trusted to get it done.
Interesting. I've burned out as you describe a few times--once in college. I do have the "warrior" thing, but not as naturally as, for instance, my brother (former Marine). Martial arts really kinda balanced me out, b/c I'm so cerebral+daydreamy. Anything interoceptive has been helpful on that score. I didn't even notice that I was ADHD, even my mom (a special ed teacher) failed to recognize, until I was injured...then holy crap, I realized rigorous exercise was taking care of like half of my ADHD tendencies. I certainly don't have the "warrior gene" as it is called, as no matter how much I trained, I never did actually like hitting people...some people really get into it like that, but not me (more of a lover, negotiator-type)
Burned out in social work career 2.5 times interrupting the last time since experienced vicarious traumatization plus working multiple jobs at the same time. Social work usually very little beauty. I’ve learned my lesson.
This was a super informative video Lauren and I needed it badly. Even among INFJ's there is quite a diversity in terms of how we work. This artisan/warrior archetype breakdown is helpful. I think I am an artisan who was raised among warriors and has tried to be a warrior for most of my life. But it just burned me out like your title suggests. I am trying to go forward in life knowing who I am and what works best for me so that my last decades of life will be much more compatible with who I am rather than with who I think I should be! Thank you!!
I have the warrior archetype, Mars and Venus are my ruling planets and if I can't do it, my productivity depends on my mood for that day. My mom bombards me with negativity hatred, harshness rudeness, aggressiveness and strictness, and she's been continuously doing that for around 3-4 months and it was already there since the beginning. She uses such a threatening reptilian tone of voice as if she's insulting me, rejecting me or treating me as a very stupid person who doesn't know anything, she deliberately notices what task I'm going to do independently of my own conscience and she intercepts me to dictate that same task as if I'm stupid and need to be told everything. They don't know how to treat people kindly and compassionately, I've even seen them take pleasure out of natural disasters, calamities and my emotional and physical pain. They claim I don't care about them at all that I'm selfish. But how can I care about others when I'm not given my introverted alone time to recharge? I can't care for others if I'm burnt out and exhausted. They don't let me take care of myself. They make me dependent on them for approval and I value my independence and freedom as a result. I really get pissed off when someone says something impolitely about what I should do or not. And it gets even more terrifying when I call them out on it to stop screaming and shouting or use rude tone of voice because they Gaslight me that they spoke normally. And they make a fool out of me on various occasions that's hard to describe. They set me up for failure, as an INFJ my Insights and predictions are rarely wrong. So my decisions are solid, I know when things are going to end well or not. But rather than trust me on my instincts they trust outsiders who fool them and they take wrong self sabotaging decisions and then suffer. And most of all they hurt me again and again until I'm completely numb and broken into pieces and have a hard time picking myself up. I can't do anything if I'm being controlled or misunderstood my intention or intellect or reasoning behind what I'm doing especially when it is good for me. She misplaced my things, doesn't let me organise properly as per my own needs and convenience so that I can remember where they're kept. I have severe trauma and memory issues and I'm always angry and suicidal. Worst of all when I'm reading my Gurbani by myself by gods grace even then she has to say something that hurts me. Even that she has to take control of me and make me feel unworthy or diminished. She's controlling everything I do, the way I walk talk, exercise, eat food and whenever I'm asking for healthy food or bring it myself , they object to it. I'm at a stage of awakening when I do not eat just for the taste of it. I was controlling my taste buds, limiting sugar and eating healthy food so that my brain and body heals and start working properly and for my brain and physical health. Nutrition is very good thing for INFJs and INFPs, I feel.like we should have a lots of fruits and green leafy vegetables and fibre rich food so that it helps in digestion but neither I'm provided or allowed to bring it by myself. I can't tolerate this mental and physical slavery of my family and on top of that they treat me as a little child with no boundaries. They're serving a distorted truth about me which is vicious and poisonous. In their version of reality I'm the perpetrator and I'm responsible for their problems and miserable attitude. Whenever they find me happy, positive and motivated and calm they can't tolerate it, they have to turn every Normal and manageable situation that can be dealt with easily into a heated and aggressive frustrating argument that goes around in circles and she comes out victorious and me devastated and confused. If I ever assert or point out her mistake she'll go crazy and become a victim and start blaming me for everything and claim she only cares about me and threatens me with leaving me or suicide or blackmails me. She has everyone's support, my sociopath sibling and narcissistic relatives and family members. They keep making me feel greedy and I don't want money just for the sake of it. Yes I want to buy and own certain stuff that will make my life more enjoyable but that's not materialistic pleasure. I don't feel.like myself lately, the burden of negativity and past mistakes and loss has hindered my ability to function on day to day life. I like sketching and drawing and painting a lot but I'm afraid if I succeed my family will get aggressive. Or try to trample over it with their hideous and insidious control tactics where they claim they are happy for me and the next thing I know they're causing some sort of trouble. My mom is 73 years old and has knee and back pain. I keep telling her not to do too much physical work because that's bad for her health and she doesn't listen to me. Whatever advice she gives to me first of all I don't need it because I know a lot more than her, secondly she's quite rude with it and it doesn't come from a genuine caring place, it comes from a narcissistic grandiosity where she wants to be the better reason even though she doesn't listen to her own advice and acts opposite of what she says. She doesn't give me a chance to speak or explain things while she's the one accusing me of the same thing. And then she calls me belittling and hateful names. All the time. Doesn't make any sense that she has a lot of pain in hr body but unlimited energy to hurt others with her words and taunts and means attitude. She can never admit her mistake ever. According to her everyone is wrong and she is right. Even her own siblings hate her. Even her siblings hate her and are controlling her and fooling her. And when I try to protect her from it she says I'm an idiot. When I'm going out with her, she deliberately shows me as a weak shy and defeated person in front of others and due to which I can't behave confidently in front of others. I'm afraid of bringing any friends. She will make me feel inferior to other people and cause toxic shame to build up in mez when those people in fact are less than me. After a certain point time I broke and started feeling terrible and completely drained of energy and slumped. They don't even let me rest properly. They'll disturb me early in the morning. I never refuse to do any task for her whether it be the littlest thing often at the cost of sabotaging my own work (which she never understands is important) but still she claims I don't help her at all. This is character assassination. It's in my nature to help others in need. But they don't understand that their timing is wrong. And they treat me as if they are the first priority. I should always put them first and never take care of myself so that they get a chance to blame me for not doing that and being dependent on them which I don't want to be. Which is confusing because they don't actually understand what I need. Even I started cooking my own meal but she caused a drama. They induce in me a feeling of shame, guilt and regret and reject my personality so that I can't feel like myself and sabotage and abandon myself, which I lately notice I've been doing. I maintain a journal but now I'm scared they will read it and do something bad. They hud the last few journals and diaries away and never returned it to me claiming that they don't know what I'm talking about. I had to retrieve my sketchbook. They have a right to get angry and furious at the littlest thing that can be overlooked, managed and forgiven while I have no right to get least bit angry at their insulting and dominating manipulative behavior. I'm supposed to suppress my anger all the time and bypass it by doing some other activity. Now that anger becomes depression and solitude. I never feel alone when all by myself. But I feel alone around my family members who I plan to leave forever.
Workaholism is not a choice we are psychologically abused because we don’t push back enough. It becomes the most agreeable way to succeed is to be meticulous about the health of your body to prevent burnout. Burnout is what gives more power over you. It becomes a survival battle. Advantage is always gained in your weak moments. I am a warrior that has only recently learned rebellion. Out survive them then transition to a more equitable environment and never lose ground again. Show mercy to manipulators but don’t ever forgive unless you are given reason. Why you shouldn’t forgive is warriors survive by strength but the infj is a pacifist warrior. We shield more than strike. This makes us surpass others until the shield comes down. All defense no offense. Our defense is immense. If we combine this with strategic positioning and measured offense no one can outshine us.
Recently learning about HSP's brought me here.. This language is new to me, but your distinctions are very very helpful! I've felt very alone within myself, and have been "Warrior-ing" it to this day... I'm exhausted, and needing beauty..
Also, I feel like the warrior method could work for me in one circumstance- that the drill Sargent was a strong intuitive Mr Miagi, then I could silence my inner rebel and be like, “no this guy really knows his stuff”
Oh my gosh...I am learning so much about myself through your videos. The pieces of my puzzle of who I am and why I do what I do and how I feel....I want to 😢❤
Well I’m definitely the artisan, slow pace, change things around, have time to reflect and think and recharge, feel comfortable, that’s so important. People who are warriors wear me out after a while, all those lists and logistics and eating on the go and talking too fast 😂
… or maybe bullying yourself into doing it… so interesting to imagine the family dynamics that lives in our heads lol- that should make a Pixar movie like inside out but with inner parent/ child, etc dynamic instead..😂
This resonates so well with me. I had no idea this was even a thing! Thank you for helping me see it’s not that I’m broken, just applying the wrong methodology.
I have a lot of warrior in me. In fact that is how many people would describe me and I am an INFJ. In fact I push myself too much more than the average person and get burnout because I don’t know when to t tags a break.
I LOVE how much you crossed out my list. Is like I needed permission for that even though I already knew that was what was reasonable for me. Do less, and do it more slowly- lately I’ve been doing this but feeling so darn guilty about it, but in the end, this is the way I can do the thing well, and not hate and resent life along the way. I’ve been reminding myself of the 80/20 rule until bow and appeasing my conscience that I’m focusing on the 20% that matters and that’s just plain more efficient. But hearing outloud is helpful, so thanks ❤. Also balance too though… is a constant tapdance for me.
This video really got me thinking. I've always thought of myself more as a warrior, as I enjoy warrior things like martial arts and guns and what not, and have taken on and completed physical and mental toughness challenges. But somehting is certainly missing, and I believe I am out of touch with my inner artisan. I also seem to approach these warrior activites in a more artisan way, with a less rigid structure and a need for novelty to keep them interesting. So it would seem I have both the warrior and the artisan, but the warrior may be learned and the artisan within is what drives how I approach those activies 🤔 Need to reflect and learn how to truly channel my artisan. Could even make me a better warrior. Allow them to work together.... Thank you for all of your insights Laura, really gets the wheels spinning in my brain.
Lauren (and other commenters), is there a specific archetype system that you usually reference? I've seen a few different ones with a different number of archetypes
Thanx so much for this video. This explains why I've felt off for the past four years, because I was trying to self improve but I've been using methods that feel off to me.
Warriors need someone to conquer, have power over, bring down. Controllers. No, that type thinks my cooperative, hard working nature makes me compliant.. until I catch on.. then they end up hating me, target my sensitivities etc, for just staying in my lane..
Thank you for this video, Lauren. I've learned so much more about myself. I've done the MBTI twice. The results were practically the same; high percentage INFJ. I would like to learn more about the Artisan type. Could you please share any links or information that would be helpful. Sincerely, Eric.
Currently experiencing burnout now in my job.. I am miserable, stern, can’t even smile anymore at work, way too much sensory overload, constant music playing loud all day, man.. the amount of times I think about walking out everyday is high, I’m going on vacation this weekend & I can’t wait to leave, I get anxiety as soon as I walk in the building. How do I help myself, I am even worried to apply for other jobs cause I have no experience or degree, & I have low self worth so job interviews always make me nervous, because I can’t tell the interviewer why they should hire me. Idk man.. thoughts?
I'm at 7:46 and you still haven't gotten beyond defining the warrior mindset. "Warrior" has replaced "INFJ/INFP" as the most overused expression in this video. I hope you have so.ething more to say beyond sign up for my class.
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I burnt out at my last job. While they talked up "work-life balance" and "flexibility", in reality everyone was working 50+ hours a week, and those who didn't were frowned upon. Since then, I've learned that I hate committing to long-term employment, and will be looking at project-based employment instead. I love coming in, helping fix problems, and then moving on to the next thing.
Yes I understand this so well. Corporate expectations vs the phrases they like to use to boost morale. I hope you can find the project based employment you are seeking. I would like to find it as well. I am sure it is!
I love this Warrior and Artisan distinction. Thank you Lauren. I do all these things instinctively: slow down, project switch, take daydream breaks, appreciate beauty. It's nice to see them validated and think about how to lean into them more
my last job was so toxic that I'll never allow another human being to talk to me the way my previous boss did. I still have so much anger towards this person's awful behavior.
As an INFJ when I look back I realize that I have worked and operated in the Warrior but escaped and lived in the Artisan.
I'm unquestionable a true Warrior. The problem is - I'm a warrior for everyone by myself. And I burn out trying to fix everyone else's life until I'm a pile of wreckage.
Chronic stress + candy= adrenals cooking, danger zone. I did the same thing, burned out after 3rd big tech corporate job, toxic enviros, not self aware enough, disintegrated shadow, also rare disease. Autism diagnosis at 36 helped me understand autistic burnout has long lasting neurological implications. A lot of people like me have the COMT warrior/worrier gene flipped on, which in females shows up as Hashimoto’s, PMDD, ADHD like symptoms. I did 13 Ironmans before my body and adrenals quit in late 30s. Guess what I learned? I’m not a warrior. Hehe. My burnout has lasted 4 years, starting to peek out the other side when I stopped pushing to maintain old standards and met myself where I’m at instead. Such a great video. Not pushing myself to go to the groups or stay friends with folks I’ve outgrown. Cannot wait to turn 40 in April! 🙌🏽✨ Life is about BEing and creating peace and joy now in artisan phase. 😊
Its great that you have discovered yourself before 40! You have a great future because of it!
INFJ- Burnout going on 2 & half years now. Insomnia M-F, then sleep the entire weekend (15+hrs) to be able to do it all over again the next week. Struggle to get out of bed to go to work. Staying employed! 😮
Wow, giving you a virtual hug and just wanna tell you that I’m PROUD of you. I hope you stumble upon new things that will help you settle into this journey with a bit more ease. 🙏🏻 big or small
I really love that you mention using color to entertain our artisan brains and help with organizing our supplies and to-do lists. I seem to be the only artisan type among my family and friends, and no one gets why I’m so picky when it comes to following color schemes in my bedroom or choosing small-business products over mass-produced ones. I didn’t realize until you said it that I NEED color, I NEED originality and variety and thought to go into every decision, and thanks to you I don’t feel like an oddball anymore. It’s just who I am ❤
You just explained my whole life... Its my 60th Birthday today and youve explained my messy desk.. My multi coloures post it notes all over the place. How colour and variety are lifes breath.. Ive been facking Warrior Virgo mode for so long I have had many Burn Out illnesses. But no more.. After the Eclipse yesterday and this info today I feel a new love for my Inner "Authentic
" Child.. Thank You
I hate works that include tons of confronting and detail-oriented communication. Gosh, it’s so damn frustrating to deal with. Sadly, my current job requires me to do so. I felt burnt out already.
But i wanna be a warrior😭😭😭
I certainly do have a lot of wOrrier in me :D
Have been called out for doing things slowly in a work environment. Called lazy, stupid, etc. Typical INFJ problem.
I feel I have both artisan and warrior in me equally.
Lauren, I genuinely adore you. I love your videos because every time I watch one I feel truly understood, in a world that doesn't understand me. Thank you.
i was already aware of this. My body crashed several times and i developed a scary autoimmune disease. I stopped working as i used to, started to rest and replenish. But how on earth am i going to make money??? ive been resting for several years now, changed my diet, spending time in nature, being creative, being alone to recharge, slowing down a lot, cultivating beauty, etc. And i still dont know what im here to do in the most nourishing way for me, so i can make money effortlessly. So frustrating.
I am exactly in that same boat. I burned out to a crisp after a 30 year career and am basically considering myself retired. But I'm not wealthy and I am still a bit young for retirement. I am healthier than ever and in a good place mentally. But the big problem is how does one earn any money. It almost seems that we either sacrifice our health to our jobs or we save our health and lose our jobs. 🤔
@@YAMISOOLD2009 totally get it and so true about the sacrificing part. But there must must must be another way. And yes, i too have the feeling that i could be retiring :)) and this will literally happen in a few years from now, but there is also this stronger inner knowing that i am not done yet, that im here to make a huge contribution and i will be famous for it. What is this about? i dont know! I still hope that the path will be revealed to me. I am practicing trust, acceptance and patience as much as possible, but its not easy.
@@dumitriudaniela I have seen doors open easily multiple times in my life. It seems that when something is supposed to be that it opens up and we almost glide into it. I hope that happens for both you and I!☺️
@@YAMISOOLD2009 thank you! i need all the encouragement i can get :). Wishing all the best to you too.
@@dumitriudaniela you are very welcome 🙏
As an artisan type, I find I get the most done when I allow myself to do ANY work I feel like, but I don’t allow myself to stop moving. I can take things slow, but I can’t just stop. That works very well for me.
Im an INFJ, but on the fence whether I am more warrior or artisan. I feel comfortable in both roles, but feel more "me" as an artisan. I lived the straight up warrior life, if only just for survival, and while I know how to make it work for me now. But, boy did it bring out my shadow and God help you if I appear alert and emotionless. Tired and emotionless is one thing, but if I'm alert and shutting them off, I'm in business mode. Lol. Awesome video!
Wow!!! You are a life saver. This information has helped me so much. I am totally not a warrior. I am the artisan. I love time to myself and rotate between different projects. OMG, I love you. That is why I do not stick to one thing. I rotate my focus.
Perfect take! From the what I wear on a given day to how I want to function. Pressure or challenge me and I WILL oppose and counter. I hate external targets but usually exceed external targets by applying my own unique approach. Weird?
Not at all. I hate external targets as well but also end up usually exceeding them in my own way. That is the INFJ way!😊
Lauren I'm so glad I found your channel. Your content is spot-on in helping me better understand myself as an INFJ. Thank you for all the good work you're doing!
I am an INFJ (I have strong INFJ traits) with a warrior character; but I think that I like challenges because they involve highly repetitive tasks that calm me down because of the proximity with the autistic spectrum.
Fantastic! Thank you Lauren. ❤ I recognize so much!! After 40 years with a tough and stressed job I became burnout. Late in life I am trying this other way - which is THE REAL ME!!
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Love, love, love this Artisan archetype. And this video crystallizes beautifully what I KNOW in myself 🙏
I have seen warrior in myself, but in VERY VERY specific situations, and probably exacerbated by conditioning. Thank you!! 🌻🦋🌺🐦❣️
Thank you for saying this. Yeah, I started figuring out that bootcamp mentality makes me shut down. I can't do people yelling, being condescending, tall expectations...it just makes me feel bad. I also don't like micro-managing. I need a nice balance of structure that I can also do my own thing in and am trusted to get it done.
This "warrior personality trait" makes so much sense! It's a genius realisation!
As a infp this is really a great video!! Thank you!!
Interesting. I've burned out as you describe a few times--once in college. I do have the "warrior" thing, but not as naturally as, for instance, my brother (former Marine). Martial arts really kinda balanced me out, b/c I'm so cerebral+daydreamy. Anything interoceptive has been helpful on that score. I didn't even notice that I was ADHD, even my mom (a special ed teacher) failed to recognize, until I was injured...then holy crap, I realized rigorous exercise was taking care of like half of my ADHD tendencies. I certainly don't have the "warrior gene" as it is called, as no matter how much I trained, I never did actually like hitting people...some people really get into it like that, but not me (more of a lover, negotiator-type)
Yes, it's hard to find a way to not burnout.
And I'm celebrating you for spreading this message!! ❣️❣️❣️
Can’t believe how spot-on the artisan/warrior distinction felt for me. I am so CLEARLY an artisan!😅
Wow discovering you has been life changing
Burned out in social work career 2.5 times interrupting the last time since experienced vicarious traumatization plus working multiple jobs at the same time. Social work usually very little beauty. I’ve learned my lesson.
Wow, I feel so seen, thank you 🤍
Thank you for describing the artisan method. Didn't even know what anything but the warrior style might look or feel like, to embody it
This was a super informative video Lauren and I needed it badly. Even among INFJ's there is quite a diversity in terms of how we work. This artisan/warrior archetype breakdown is helpful. I think I am an artisan who was raised among warriors and has tried to be a warrior for most of my life. But it just burned me out like your title suggests. I am trying to go forward in life knowing who I am and what works best for me so that my last decades of life will be much more compatible with who I am rather than with who I think I should be! Thank you!!
I’m new to your channel. This was spot-on for me, thank you Lauren! 🍀😊
I have the warrior archetype, Mars and Venus are my ruling planets and if I can't do it, my productivity depends on my mood for that day. My mom bombards me with negativity hatred, harshness rudeness, aggressiveness and strictness, and she's been continuously doing that for around 3-4 months and it was already there since the beginning. She uses such a threatening reptilian tone of voice as if she's insulting me, rejecting me or treating me as a very stupid person who doesn't know anything, she deliberately notices what task I'm going to do independently of my own conscience and she intercepts me to dictate that same task as if I'm stupid and need to be told everything. They don't know how to treat people kindly and compassionately, I've even seen them take pleasure out of natural disasters, calamities and my emotional and physical pain. They claim I don't care about them at all that I'm selfish. But how can I care about others when I'm not given my introverted alone time to recharge? I can't care for others if I'm burnt out and exhausted. They don't let me take care of myself. They make me dependent on them for approval and I value my independence and freedom as a result. I really get pissed off when someone says something impolitely about what I should do or not. And it gets even more terrifying when I call them out on it to stop screaming and shouting or use rude tone of voice because they Gaslight me that they spoke normally. And they make a fool out of me on various occasions that's hard to describe. They set me up for failure, as an INFJ my Insights and predictions are rarely wrong. So my decisions are solid, I know when things are going to end well or not. But rather than trust me on my instincts they trust outsiders who fool them and they take wrong self sabotaging decisions and then suffer. And most of all they hurt me again and again until I'm completely numb and broken into pieces and have a hard time picking myself up. I can't do anything if I'm being controlled or misunderstood my intention or intellect or reasoning behind what I'm doing especially when it is good for me. She misplaced my things, doesn't let me organise properly as per my own needs and convenience so that I can remember where they're kept. I have severe trauma and memory issues and I'm always angry and suicidal. Worst of all when I'm reading my Gurbani by myself by gods grace even then she has to say something that hurts me. Even that she has to take control of me and make me feel unworthy or diminished. She's controlling everything I do, the way I walk talk, exercise, eat food and whenever I'm asking for healthy food or bring it myself , they object to it. I'm at a stage of awakening when I do not eat just for the taste of it. I was controlling my taste buds, limiting sugar and eating healthy food so that my brain and body heals and start working properly and for my brain and physical health. Nutrition is very good thing for INFJs and INFPs, I feel.like we should have a lots of fruits and green leafy vegetables and fibre rich food so that it helps in digestion but neither I'm provided or allowed to bring it by myself. I can't tolerate this mental and physical slavery of my family and on top of that they treat me as a little child with no boundaries. They're serving a distorted truth about me which is vicious and poisonous. In their version of reality I'm the perpetrator and I'm responsible for their problems and miserable attitude. Whenever they find me happy, positive and motivated and calm they can't tolerate it, they have to turn every Normal and manageable situation that can be dealt with easily into a heated and aggressive frustrating argument that goes around in circles and she comes out victorious and me devastated and confused. If I ever assert or point out her mistake she'll go crazy and become a victim and start blaming me for everything and claim she only cares about me and threatens me with leaving me or suicide or blackmails me. She has everyone's support, my sociopath sibling and narcissistic relatives and family members. They keep making me feel greedy and I don't want money just for the sake of it. Yes I want to buy and own certain stuff that will make my life more enjoyable but that's not materialistic pleasure. I don't feel.like myself lately, the burden of negativity and past mistakes and loss has hindered my ability to function on day to day life. I like sketching and drawing and painting a lot but I'm afraid if I succeed my family will get aggressive. Or try to trample over it with their hideous and insidious control tactics where they claim they are happy for me and the next thing I know they're causing some sort of trouble. My mom is 73 years old and has knee and back pain. I keep telling her not to do too much physical work because that's bad for her health and she doesn't listen to me. Whatever advice she gives to me first of all I don't need it because I know a lot more than her, secondly she's quite rude with it and it doesn't come from a genuine caring place, it comes from a narcissistic grandiosity where she wants to be the better reason even though she doesn't listen to her own advice and acts opposite of what she says. She doesn't give me a chance to speak or explain things while she's the one accusing me of the same thing. And then she calls me belittling and hateful names. All the time. Doesn't make any sense that she has a lot of pain in hr body but unlimited energy to hurt others with her words and taunts and means attitude. She can never admit her mistake ever. According to her everyone is wrong and she is right. Even her own siblings hate her. Even her siblings hate her and are controlling her and fooling her. And when I try to protect her from it she says I'm an idiot. When I'm going out with her, she deliberately shows me as a weak shy and defeated person in front of others and due to which I can't behave confidently in front of others. I'm afraid of bringing any friends. She will make me feel inferior to other people and cause toxic shame to build up in mez when those people in fact are less than me. After a certain point time I broke and started feeling terrible and completely drained of energy and slumped. They don't even let me rest properly. They'll disturb me early in the morning. I never refuse to do any task for her whether it be the littlest thing often at the cost of sabotaging my own work (which she never understands is important) but still she claims I don't help her at all. This is character assassination. It's in my nature to help others in need. But they don't understand that their timing is wrong. And they treat me as if they are the first priority. I should always put them first and never take care of myself so that they get a chance to blame me for not doing that and being dependent on them which I don't want to be. Which is confusing because they don't actually understand what I need. Even I started cooking my own meal but she caused a drama. They induce in me a feeling of shame, guilt and regret and reject my personality so that I can't feel like myself and sabotage and abandon myself, which I lately notice I've been doing. I maintain a journal but now I'm scared they will read it and do something bad. They hud the last few journals and diaries away and never returned it to me claiming that they don't know what I'm talking about. I had to retrieve my sketchbook. They have a right to get angry and furious at the littlest thing that can be overlooked, managed and forgiven while I have no right to get least bit angry at their insulting and dominating manipulative behavior. I'm supposed to suppress my anger all the time and bypass it by doing some other activity. Now that anger becomes depression and solitude. I never feel alone when all by myself. But I feel alone around my family members who I plan to leave forever.
Workaholism is not a choice we are psychologically abused because we don’t push back enough. It becomes the most agreeable way to succeed is to be meticulous about the health of your body to prevent burnout. Burnout is what gives more power over you. It becomes a survival battle. Advantage is always gained in your weak moments. I am a warrior that has only recently learned rebellion. Out survive them then transition to a more equitable environment and never lose ground again. Show mercy to manipulators but don’t ever forgive unless you are given reason. Why you shouldn’t forgive is warriors survive by strength but the infj is a pacifist warrior. We shield more than strike. This makes us surpass others until the shield comes down. All defense no offense. Our defense is immense. If we combine this with strategic positioning and measured offense no one can outshine us.
I know for a fact I'm an INFJ warrior, but this video explains more and helps me to understand myself more
Wow, the Artisan really explains a lot about me, thank you so much for this insight.
Recently learning about HSP's brought me here.. This language is new to me, but your distinctions are very very helpful! I've felt very alone within myself, and have been "Warrior-ing" it to this day... I'm exhausted, and needing beauty..
Yea, I am an INFJ Warrior but burnout still can happen.
Thank you. Definitely an artisan! This explains a lot!
solution: artisan method, focus on beauty, slowing down, breaks, music, task reduction, minimizing, novelty
Also, I feel like the warrior method could work for me in one circumstance- that the drill Sargent was a strong intuitive Mr Miagi, then I could silence my inner rebel and be like, “no this guy really knows his stuff”
Oh my gosh...I am learning so much about myself through your videos. The pieces of my puzzle of who I am and why I do what I do and how I feel....I want to 😢❤
Well I’m definitely the artisan, slow pace, change things around, have time to reflect and think and recharge, feel comfortable, that’s so important. People who are warriors wear me out after a while, all those lists and logistics and eating on the go and talking too fast 😂
… or maybe bullying yourself into doing it… so interesting to imagine the family dynamics that lives in our heads lol- that should make a Pixar movie like inside out but with inner parent/ child, etc dynamic instead..😂
This resonates so well with me. I had no idea this was even a thing! Thank you for helping me see it’s not that I’m broken, just applying the wrong methodology.
I have a lot of warrior in me. In fact that is how many people would describe me and I am an INFJ. In fact I push myself too much more than the average person and get burnout because I don’t know when to t tags a break.
I LOVE how much you crossed out my list. Is like I needed permission for that even though I already knew that was what was reasonable for me. Do less, and do it more slowly- lately I’ve been doing this but feeling so darn guilty about it, but in the end, this is the way I can do the thing well, and not hate and resent life along the way. I’ve been reminding myself of the 80/20 rule until bow and appeasing my conscience that I’m focusing on the 20% that matters and that’s just plain more efficient. But hearing outloud is helpful, so thanks ❤. Also balance too though… is a constant tapdance for me.
This video really got me thinking. I've always thought of myself more as a warrior, as I enjoy warrior things like martial arts and guns and what not, and have taken on and completed physical and mental toughness challenges. But somehting is certainly missing, and I believe I am out of touch with my inner artisan. I also seem to approach these warrior activites in a more artisan way, with a less rigid structure and a need for novelty to keep them interesting. So it would seem I have both the warrior and the artisan, but the warrior may be learned and the artisan within is what drives how I approach those activies 🤔 Need to reflect and learn how to truly channel my artisan. Could even make me a better warrior. Allow them to work together.... Thank you for all of your insights Laura, really gets the wheels spinning in my brain.
This is an awesome video, thank you!!
Lauren (and other commenters), is there a specific archetype system that you usually reference? I've seen a few different ones with a different number of archetypes
Also wondering about this
Thank you ❤. I think you’ve just saved my life 🎉🥳✨🌟🙏🙏🙏
Thanx so much for this video. This explains why I've felt off for the past four years, because I was trying to self improve but I've been using methods that feel off to me.
So helpful thank you 😊
I love it, super useful information. Thinking of joining your classes. The clarity your help brings is much appreciated. Thank you!
Thank you
Warriors need someone to conquer, have power over, bring down. Controllers. No, that type thinks my cooperative, hard working nature makes me compliant.. until I catch on.. then they end up hating me, target my sensitivities etc, for just staying in my lane..
wow! Im an artisan!
Artisan.....most definitely...
Thank you for this video, Lauren. I've learned so much more about myself. I've done the MBTI twice. The results were practically the same; high percentage INFJ. I would like to learn more about the Artisan type. Could you please share any links or information that would be helpful. Sincerely, Eric.
Currently experiencing burnout now in my job.. I am miserable, stern, can’t even smile anymore at work, way too much sensory overload, constant music playing loud all day, man.. the amount of times I think about walking out everyday is high, I’m going on vacation this weekend & I can’t wait to leave, I get anxiety as soon as I walk in the building. How do I help myself, I am even worried to apply for other jobs cause I have no experience or degree, & I have low self worth so job interviews always make me nervous, because I can’t tell the interviewer why they should hire me. Idk man.. thoughts?
That was so helpful !
This helps me so much ❤
This was helpful. Thank you.
So how to do the artisan approach when surrounded by, and employed by, and being taught by, warriors :/
Can you do a video on how infjs can handle personal caregiver roles for like bedridden with chronic pain parents do they do not burnout?
artisan 11:40
How do artisans make money?
IN 2 WISHIN.
Is it possible to be both?
Something is missing in your topic 😮
I'm at 7:46 and you still haven't gotten beyond defining the warrior mindset. "Warrior" has replaced "INFJ/INFP" as the most overused expression in this video. I hope you have so.ething more to say beyond sign up for my class.