I love how Hannah's insights go much further than the basic tips you find on many personal finance channels; she instead sheds a light on the many deeper layers behind our shopping behaviors. Because she does this in such an emphatic and introspective way, I am encouraged to finally do some much-needed soul-searching and to actually start implementing some steps to curb some of my bad habits. Thank you Hannah & TFD!
Wow, you're so correct about the *process* of buying being part the entire shopping experience. It's great to know this because you can identify when you're in that *state of wanting* and take yourself out of it, realizing that browsing can be just as bad as shopping. So the key is to nip the entire act in the bud before it even gets to checkout!
For those who shop be they enjoy novelty, it helps to find substitutes, like library books, creative pursuits, and hobbies. Exercise with periods of high intensity (sprints with cardio and lifting heavy weights) also help.
So true, that’s a great tip. We started that this year with our toddler, and the library is so much more satisfying (not to mention space/clutter saving) than buying new kid books. And the community and borrowing aspect of the library we think is super good for her too.
So happy Hannah was brought back. She helped me alot I did a no buy as well. Now I buy what I realistically use . I will never do fancy eye makeup look with wild colors . Since pandemic I did not use much or buy much . Recently with Nordstroms sale I bought alot .But within a week I realized I will not be using this so returned 90% of it Once you go through this you learn to live with less and are so much more happier and content. It’s also easier to get ready and clean
Wow, when you explained the process of wanting to buy something it really resonated with me. Whenever I make my wardrobe list for the new season, I make a detailed list with photos and categories and fantasize about life with the items. This is actually insane to think about.
She is so right. Most of the stuff I used to buy wasn’t so interesting anymore once I had it. With clothes, one good way to find out whether you really want or need an item, is: would I want to walk out of the shop wearing it and would I like to wear it for the rest of the day? If the answer is yes, I seriously consider buying it. If it‘s: no, this would be for some special occasion, I leave it. There is already too much stuff for holidays or special occasions in my wardrobe than I could ever wear in a lifetime.
Replacing actual self-improvement with aspirational purchases is so real. I would buy a ton of makeup because I never liked what my current one looked like (spoiler: it was my face) or I would buy new trendy clothes because I never felt confident in my old ones (spoiler: it was my body), etc. It takes some persuasion to hold off on those urges while you shed this delusion (and mama it comes in layers), but eventually, like Hannah said, it does get easier.
The "add it to a wish list and don't end up buying it" trick kind of blew my mind. It makes so much sense. I've done it by accident a few times, and sure enough, when I came across the items on the list later, I didn't really want them anymore.
I was in a soft lowbuy for a time, because my income had to be adjusted. Now I am slowly allowing myself to buy because I can. SO, besides the fact I can afford, nothing will be as it was before. but you are so right : clothes will not substitute the fact that I need to love my body as it is. New furniture will not work on my 27 years relationship. Abundance will never fill the blanks if you feel lack. Thank you . Wonderful video
I always see a beautiful dress and picture myself far away, wearing it, and happy. I didn't even recognize I did this until you mentioned it here. I'm avoiding and escaping my life hoping that a new dress can change my life. This was a good wake up call. I have found that watching other people shop on youtube or do hauls helps me get my "fix" of shopping. I don't feel such a strong urge when I watch them. But I could see it being a trigger for others. Just a tip, might helps someone else out there as well.
So well-spoken. I'm almost the opposite of a shopaholic in that it takes me months to years to purchase something. But this video made me realize how often I empty browse online, and how often I place fictional ideas of who I could be if I was to simply purchase an item of clothing. It really is just a piece of fabric at the end of the day.
I’m primarily a beauty TH-cam person and the way I tell you I GASPED when I saw this collaboration!!!! I love Hannah’s content (and as a finance professional I love your content).
Can’t be happier for this collaboration. I almost binge watched all of Hannah’s no buy videos. She inspired me to work on my own nobuy 100 days challenge now. Love love love!
I’ve experienced a lot of these benefits without realizing what was happening. The shopping process contains a lot of processes that activate different parts of the brain all simultaneously at times. I especially appreciate the piece about shopping being an obstacle to self-care. That’s so trendy and deceitful! 😅
I just came back from a weeklong beach vacation and a trip to Indiana to take my son to college. To my surprise and delight, I didn’t charge a single thing to my credit card. I used my debit card to pay for everything. This is the first time I have done that and it felt great because I know I will not have to worry about paying anything back next month. I also didn’t purchase a single souvenir item on the trip, not even a keychain or a T-shirt like I usually do. My spending money went to food and lodging. This is by far the best trip I have had with my family because I didn’t spend any money unnecessarily and I don’t have a credit card bill waiting for me. It’s never too late to change.
I was just thinking about those “no shopping” years yesterday so this video came at the perfect time. I try to practice conscious shopping where I think about stuff I really need or haven’t bought in a while
I have been following Hannah since she started her channel in 2018. What a great collab video as her ability to articulate her addictive shopping habits is above and beyond anyone that I have ever watched.
Same. Been with Hannah since the beginning days. It's been really cool watching her grow as a person and be so open about her self reflection, coupled with her ability to articulate in a way that most people can identify with. I'm glad to see her getting recognition for the work that she has done for others in the same predicament. This channel is really the perfect place for her to be able to reach a new audience to share what she learned. She has a lot of relevant information to share, and I'm glad to know that more than just her core audience of "beauty youtube" will benefit from it, because it's not just about beautiful things.
Hi there I am currently doing a no buy August where I'm not buying any of my weaknesses such as clothes ,nailpolish and shoes and can I say what a real challenge. I am constantly scrolling online and placing items in my carts but I have to say I haven't bought anything.I went through my closet and home and realized I had most of these wanted items already in my closet and home the only difference was it is not new items so they kind of lost their shine.Thank you for the advice of making a wishlist and after the month I will check if I really need or want these items anymore. Love these Hannah moments on your channel ❤️
Heck yes Hannah Louise 🙌 😍 👏 she has changed my view on shopping so much from her no-buy year. One thing for me was getting my adhd diagnosis. I had all the knowledge and still wasn't able to not make the purchase, but it wasn't addiction... it was impulsivity cause by untreated adhd. This is also severely underdiagnosed in women, who are conveniently the prime demographic for advertising. So if you are doing everything right, budget, financial literacy, shutting off access to ads, and you still struggle.. seek professional physcological help because it may be something more
@@audreymeach9826 for sure! Literally life changing to be treated. I got diagnosed in December and my shopping and life problems started to just go away so easily!
@@noneofurbusiness5223 I was assessed when I was a kid and they said not ADHD but now that I'm older (and on my way to become a clinical social worker) I wonder if there was maybe some sexism and some problems with the diagnostic tools. I will look into it soon.
I just watched this video multiple times throughout the day because it resonated with me. I'm actually struggling with this exact thing and it was so nice to have Hannah explain and validate my feelings lol... definitely will be checking out her channel, and thank you so much for having her on!!
“New furniture won’t fix a marriage,” for those in the back. 2023 will be a year of actual self-care and not delusional purchasing for me. So many good points in this video.
As insightful as ever. Really love this kind of soul-searching content. Hannah also inspired me to go on a no buy, I am nearly a month in and excited to see where the proces takes me.
Whew! That was an eye-opening message! I've been avoiding the inner nudge to do a no-buy year. Now I see how it's necessary after watching this video. Thank you ❤️
Yay for HLP! I think #3 which she’s talked about in way more depth on her own channel was life changing for me. I used to think the intense time consuming research to buying things and avoiding getting my biggest life problems resolved were 2 separate acts but they are totally linked. When my mind space and time is taken up by this all consuming behavior, I don’t have an opportunity to do the harder reflection and harder tasks to address my big issues. So now when I’m spending a lot of time researching to buy something, I can tell I’m avoiding the elephant in my brain and I’m able to curb it sometimes to focus.
You cannot shop your way out of an unhappy life. Period. I realized I shop A LOT when I feel stressed. It is like a coping mechanism for me to escape from the things that I do not want to face; it almost has nothing to do with me desiring the item lol. This video is a timely reminder. Thank you.
Been watching this video on repeat as it has really been speaking to me. Though I haven't gone into debt or anything from my spending, shopping has really felt SO compulsive for me - I feel like my need for materials and name brands controls me. This video has really helped me reflect and think about the "financial filters" I need to put in place before buying things + the deeper work I need to do with myself. Thank you so much for this video!
Wow! This is how and why I shop. I can't wait for the rest of the series. I'm trying to cut down on my spending less for financial reasons but more for the environment. I'm also worried about the message I'm sending to my kids.
The pandemic truly changed the way I handle my finances due to a forced lifestyle change. Let me tell you, it is incredibly liberating. I’m on a no buy for 2 years now but non nego is a reward every end of the year - any thing I really want and that worked for me because I get to save for that “thing” for an entire year without going off on impulse, without touching my core savings.
I did a Low-buy and it really helped me pull my life together. I feel way more relaxed knowing my finances are secure and I wont die if I don't buy that item - than I would feel giving into all my material impulses.
Excited to see more of Hannah Louise Poston on the Financial Diet 😍 And always happy to watch her talk about her no-buy and what she learned from it. But I think she should be present on the thumbnail of the video
I've created a program called retail detox thanks to my experience of not shopping for clothes for 2 full years. My life changed drastically during that time because I found new creative outlets. I've written a book about it to help other women make smarter shopping decisions, and now I'm just saving to self-publish it!
@@positivelycat wow really?! I plan to start working on translating it to English as soon as I publish the original, so I hope that it will be helpful to you ❤
Oh, Hannah... I feel this so much. Trying to pull myself out of a borderline shopping addiction. So much of what she says in every video speaks to me on a deep level. I needed this.
Very insightful video and you can tell Hannah has really dove into her shopping behavior. I’m in the process my self and keep a wishlist on my phone. I take a screenshot of things I desire and review it time to time. That being said, I would like to add something that I’ve found helpful. I don’t donate to charities or non profits because of all the stories of mishandling. But I was at Target the other day and a family was on the curb in the parking lot. The dad was holding a sign, the mom was nearby taking care of a baby in a stroller and their older child was around as well. I sat in my car in the parking lot and I watched them for around 5 minutes. They had a pack of bottled water near the stroller and an older van nearby that was pretty beat up. Both parents looked tired & stressed, not to mention it was a hot day outside. I thought about this for a minute and I didn’t like it. I don’t like seeing families on curbs in general. It really bothers me that people are going into stores and spending money on useless shit and they see this as they walk in. And I was doing the same thing. I rationalized why they were out there like that. Maybe they made bad decisions. Maybe they use money to buy drugs and alcohol. Maybe this, maybe that. What if I gave them money and they blew on it useless shit like most of us do. I finally pulled up to the mom and the stroller, I called her to the car and gave her a $100 bill. She said god bless you sir and god bless your family. I pulled back into the parking lot and watched them for another couple of minutes. I wanted to see if they were happy now or excited. But they weren’t really. Nothing much changed on the surface. I’m not sure what they did with that $100. I’d like to think they bought food or dinner for their family but I don’t really know and really it’s none of my business. But I can tell you for me, I felt good. I felt like they had a dinner later and maybe I helped with that. So I guess I’d like to add, help out people you see in need if you have the means. You can pick and choose and be discerning and selective, just like when you shop. You never know what it could be used for and you’ll try to rationalize it away but go ahead and try it please. Try giving instead of shopping once in a while, you’re not going to see a major change then and there, but if enough of us do it, maybe we can catch a glimpse.
It’s really novel for me to realize that even though I don’t actually buy that much or overspend, I am using online shopping (looking) as a form of escape, and not in a healthy way. Eye-opening.
Yes, same problem here. My closet is complete and full and i feel kinda let down that I can’t think of and search for something new to add. My addiction began during lockdown watching youtubers do hauls and i would order everything they recommended. I would have to unfollow them and delete shopping apps because i spend 16 hours per day searching. And i still haven’t worn the items I bought because im a stay at home mom. I imagined wearing each piece going to different places but the truth is I don’t go out maybe to grocery or school. My problem now is i can go out but i need to start finding things to occupy my time in a healthy way.
This is so helpful! I’ve fallen into a similar cycle, especially during uncertain times, convincing myself buying a thing will bring me the certainty I’m missing. A no buy seems like a really constructive way of dealing with that impulse. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I can't believe how perfect this video is. I'm going to start my no buy year today. Thankyou for giving us layers and reason, and being so forgiving of yourself for past purchases x
Wow, through this whole FANTASTIC video, I felt like you were talking about me and my life currently. Thank you. You’ve given me some clarity and food for thought on how to handle my shopping addiction moving forward.
Ahhhhh this makes me so happy!! Thank you for including other creators like Hannah. This channel has really been my financial building block as I'm a union electrician apprentice about to journey out. Because I'm in a male dominated industry, its so motivating to see other femme figures on this channel!
One way I combat wanting new things immediately is follow the wishlist method, and then only buy what’s on that list after a significant amount of time. A significant amount of time. An example is an Essence blush I wanted. Put it on the list and waited. A few weeks or a month later, finally purchased it, but have no regrets because it didn’t feel like an impulse. This applies to all areas of my life and highly recommend it to any who struggle with or enjoy shopping. :)
i used to shop for things that would fit my fantasy life because i felt that giving up the pretence that it could happen would be so depressing, i didn't think it was possible but i hoped that i could maintain the comfort of the fantasy of one day not being poor but financially secure to calm my fears
This is a great video! I loved how Hannah talked about the mental health aspects of a no buy and how it's as much about retraining your brain and therefore your habits then it is about money. I am considering a mildly restrictive no buy next year to help save and help some unhelpful pandemic habits and this was super helpful!
This video is reeeeally speaking to me, as a shopping addict in recovery. Thank you for these tips, I have seen many videos about it but your thoughts about the desire to want something etc really helped. About the wishlist, giving myself a week of thinking is often enough to forget the item 😳. If I don’t forget it, I am at least less obsessed or on this emergency state so I can ask myself some questions about why I want this item :-)
This is very relatable topic since I am having a No-shopping month right now. I still buy the essential (mostly foods, hygenge stuffs) but I didn't buy any new clothing, make up, interior stuff. My tactics are very similar to yours, If I want to buy something I just put it on the wishlist or just screencap it and as you said, I don't want those things as much after a few weeks or days. Another working tactic of mine is to clean the closet(or shop one's stash!) I was surprised it gives same kind of joy when you do shopping without the guilt of overspending & harming the environment. There is one thing that makes it hard to resist impulsive shopping, which is limited time off kind of marketing. I myself am marketer and I know what this kind of thing does to your mind. FOMO makes you feel your urge to get something is so urgent and actually beneficial when it's not. I know but it really hard to resist. The only thing I "shop" this month is the supplement for my brain, and i guess it really was for my self care and I am proud myself for sticking to my no shopping goal.
I really needed this video. Its a huge wake up call for me and got me thinking a lot about my spending habits and compulsive desires. I am sort of in financial hardship right now and I keep shopping even though I really shouldnt. This vidoe is definitely opening my eyes and causing me to really try this no-buy year. Highly considering it.
This is such an amazing video that couldn't come at a better time. I just placed an order that I really wanted, knew I didn't need but justified all the reasons I should be excited for it. You hit all the points perfectly. I feel tentatively ready to attempt a no-buy for the last quarter of 2022.
I attempted a no buy clothing challenge for this year and have technically failed (bought shoes for a wedding I was in and then caved and bought some pants I’d been eyeing for a long time when they went on sale) but I made it like 4 months before buying the shoes (which there was a good reason for) and then almost 7 months before buying something just because I wanted it. So pretty good for me and it’s definitely saved me money this year that I have been able to save or use in other life areas. I’m going to keep trying to avoid buying clothes for the rest of 2022 (maybe cave a little bit in between Xmas and NYE when the sales are really good) and we’ll see how it goes.
Can’t begin to say how important this video is and the perspectives that can only be seen through this kind of struggle to heal certain feelings about oneself!
I hope you know what an inspiration you are. I am starting my no spend journey and while I know it will be incredibly difficult, I am not alone. Thank you so much for your honesty and willingness to put yourself out there to help others. 🥰
amazing insight! I think more often the question (for women especially, but not exclusively) that we can ask ourselves in the context of your blouse example is "will this blouse change my appearance?" I think this is often what we ask and its easy to see the answer being yes, of course it will. THIS is the roadblock I struggle with most!
This is the best video I have watched in a very long time! You articulated so well everything that is going on in my mind...Im subscribing!! Thank you for sharing!! See u in a next video 🙂
Well explained! I feel like you're talking about me :) I started a no-buy year 2 months ago (just in regard to clothes because that had been problematic in my life) and I am experiencing similar things like you did.
Hannah was dropping so many gems! I’m so glad the holidays are over because now that free’s up money for my savings and other priorities. I’m practicing only buying my absolute needs and slowly saving overtime for wants instead. I’m super hyper focused on saving and paying off debt that a lot of my shopping wants can wait. I work from home, so I really don’t need lots of clothes since I’m practically in my pajamas everyday 😅 it feels good to save!
I completely stopped buying stuff online after I realized that all the stuff I was buying were things I wouldnt have bought if I saw the real item. Many times, they clothing wouldnt even fit or looked unflattering. Now I wishlist and then go to the store and see it in person.
I Love Love Loveee that my two favorite TH-cam channels have joined forces. You're both such inspirations that have taught me so much about financial health and helped me get my finances in order. I am in such a better place thanks to Hannah and Chelsea :)
You think you’re better than ME!? Just kidding! I love that you’re on the financial diet and I’m looking forward to your other videos. I’m one of your subscribers and no matter how often I watch your tips and lessons, I always come away with something beneficial. Lots of 💙! Thanks, Hannah!
"You cannot shop your way out of an unhappy life." Well said. It's easier to buy a new outfit than learn to love myself.
I love how Hannah's insights go much further than the basic tips you find on many personal finance channels; she instead sheds a light on the many deeper layers behind our shopping behaviors. Because she does this in such an emphatic and introspective way, I am encouraged to finally do some much-needed soul-searching and to actually start implementing some steps to curb some of my bad habits. Thank you Hannah & TFD!
Proud of you! 🙌
Wow, you're so correct about the *process* of buying being part the entire shopping experience. It's great to know this because you can identify when you're in that *state of wanting* and take yourself out of it, realizing that browsing can be just as bad as shopping. So the key is to nip the entire act in the bud before it even gets to checkout!
For those who shop be they enjoy novelty, it helps to find substitutes, like library books, creative pursuits, and hobbies. Exercise with periods of high intensity (sprints with cardio and lifting heavy weights) also help.
So true, that’s a great tip. We started that this year with our toddler, and the library is so much more satisfying (not to mention space/clutter saving) than buying new kid books. And the community and borrowing aspect of the library we think is super good for her too.
I love going to the library :) I also live in an area with dozens of libraries, so just visiting a new library is a novel experience
So happy Hannah was brought back. She helped me alot
I did a no buy as well. Now I buy what I realistically use . I will never do fancy eye makeup look with wild colors .
Since pandemic I did not use much or buy much . Recently with Nordstroms sale I bought alot .But within a week I realized I will not be using this so returned 90% of it
Once you go through this you learn to live with less and are so much more happier and content.
It’s also easier to get ready and clean
In our house we say "A new suitcase is not a vacation". Its so hard to uncouple the thing from the bigger thing/change you want.
How perfectly succinct! 🥰
I’ve watched Hannah for years. However, every time she describes this journey, I learn something new. Kudos to you, dear Hannah ❤️
Wow, when you explained the process of wanting to buy something it really resonated with me. Whenever I make my wardrobe list for the new season, I make a detailed list with photos and categories and fantasize about life with the items. This is actually insane to think about.
She is so right. Most of the stuff I used to buy wasn’t so interesting anymore once I had it.
With clothes, one good way to find out whether you really want or need an item, is: would I want to walk out of the shop wearing it and would I like to wear it for the rest of the day? If the answer is yes, I seriously consider buying it. If it‘s: no, this would be for some special occasion, I leave it.
There is already too much stuff for holidays or special occasions in my wardrobe than I could ever wear in a lifetime.
That's an excellent tip to help keep the fantasy element in check when shopping! I'm going to start using this. :)
Replacing actual self-improvement with aspirational purchases is so real. I would buy a ton of makeup because I never liked what my current one looked like (spoiler: it was my face) or I would buy new trendy clothes because I never felt confident in my old ones (spoiler: it was my body), etc. It takes some persuasion to hold off on those urges while you shed this delusion (and mama it comes in layers), but eventually, like Hannah said, it does get easier.
I needed this comment almost as much as I needed the video!
The "add it to a wish list and don't end up buying it" trick kind of blew my mind. It makes so much sense. I've done it by accident a few times, and sure enough, when I came across the items on the list later, I didn't really want them anymore.
I was in a soft lowbuy for a time, because my income had to be adjusted. Now I am slowly allowing myself to buy because I can. SO, besides the fact I can afford, nothing will be as it was before. but you are so right : clothes will not substitute the fact that I need to love my body as it is. New furniture will not work on my 27 years relationship. Abundance will never fill the blanks if you feel lack. Thank you . Wonderful video
I always see a beautiful dress and picture myself far away, wearing it, and happy. I didn't even recognize I did this until you mentioned it here. I'm avoiding and escaping my life hoping that a new dress can change my life. This was a good wake up call. I have found that watching other people shop on youtube or do hauls helps me get my "fix" of shopping. I don't feel such a strong urge when I watch them. But I could see it being a trigger for others. Just a tip, might helps someone else out there as well.
So well-spoken. I'm almost the opposite of a shopaholic in that it takes me months to years to purchase something. But this video made me realize how often I empty browse online, and how often I place fictional ideas of who I could be if I was to simply purchase an item of clothing. It really is just a piece of fabric at the end of the day.
I’m primarily a beauty TH-cam person and the way I tell you I GASPED when I saw this collaboration!!!! I love Hannah’s content (and as a finance professional I love your content).
Can’t be happier for this collaboration. I almost binge watched all of Hannah’s no buy videos. She inspired me to work on my own nobuy 100 days challenge now. Love love love!
I’ve experienced a lot of these benefits without realizing what was happening. The shopping process contains a lot of processes that activate different parts of the brain all simultaneously at times. I especially appreciate the piece about shopping being an obstacle to self-care. That’s so trendy and deceitful! 😅
I just came back from a weeklong beach vacation and a trip to Indiana to take my son to college. To my surprise and delight, I didn’t charge a single thing to my credit card. I used my debit card to pay for everything. This is the first time I have done that and it felt great because I know I will not have to worry about paying anything back next month. I also didn’t purchase a single souvenir item on the trip, not even a keychain or a T-shirt like I usually do. My spending money went to food and lodging. This is by far the best trip I have had with my family because I didn’t spend any money unnecessarily and I don’t have a credit card bill waiting for me. It’s never too late to change.
I was just thinking about those “no shopping” years yesterday so this video came at the perfect time.
I try to practice conscious shopping where I think about stuff I really need or haven’t bought in a while
I love Hannah. I’ve been following her for awhile. She is incredibly well spoken.
Honestly that's what I noticed as well, she's amazingly articulate.
She has an MFA in poetry 🥰 Her channel is fantastic!
I have been following Hannah since she started her channel in 2018. What a great collab video as her ability to articulate her addictive shopping habits is above and beyond anyone that I have ever watched.
Same. Been with Hannah since the beginning days. It's been really cool watching her grow as a person and be so open about her self reflection, coupled with her ability to articulate in a way that most people can identify with. I'm glad to see her getting recognition for the work that she has done for others in the same predicament. This channel is really the perfect place for her to be able to reach a new audience to share what she learned. She has a lot of relevant information to share, and I'm glad to know that more than just her core audience of "beauty youtube" will benefit from it, because it's not just about beautiful things.
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Hi there I am currently doing a no buy August where I'm not buying any of my weaknesses such as clothes ,nailpolish and shoes and can I say what a real challenge. I am constantly scrolling online and placing items in my carts but I have to say I haven't bought anything.I went through my closet and home and realized I had most of these wanted items already in my closet and home the only difference was it is not new items so they kind of lost their shine.Thank you for the advice of making a wishlist and after the month I will check if I really need or want these items anymore. Love these Hannah moments on your channel ❤️
Heck yes Hannah Louise 🙌 😍 👏 she has changed my view on shopping so much from her no-buy year.
One thing for me was getting my adhd diagnosis. I had all the knowledge and still wasn't able to not make the purchase, but it wasn't addiction... it was impulsivity cause by untreated adhd. This is also severely underdiagnosed in women, who are conveniently the prime demographic for advertising.
So if you are doing everything right, budget, financial literacy, shutting off access to ads, and you still struggle.. seek professional physcological help because it may be something more
The ADHD part 100%!!! So relatable.
@@audreymeach9826 for sure! Literally life changing to be treated. I got diagnosed in December and my shopping and life problems started to just go away so easily!
@@sim771 I think it may be time. I have like half a diagnosis from when I saw a therapist in college. But I think it explains a lot.
I've known have ADHD for 20+ yrs.
Uppers made me evil 😈.
Being on Wellbutrin was wonderful, but I am now allergic 🤧.
I need something!
@@noneofurbusiness5223 I was assessed when I was a kid and they said not ADHD but now that I'm older (and on my way to become a clinical social worker) I wonder if there was maybe some sexism and some problems with the diagnostic tools. I will look into it soon.
I just watched this video multiple times throughout the day because it resonated with me. I'm actually struggling with this exact thing and it was so nice to have Hannah explain and validate my feelings lol... definitely will be checking out her channel, and thank you so much for having her on!!
You described “Shopping as a coping mechanism” in a way that is incredibly gentle but poignant- revolutionary even. 👏
Thrilled Hannah's back! 🙌 She's so amazing ❤️
“New furniture won’t fix a marriage,” for those in the back. 2023 will be a year of actual self-care and not delusional purchasing for me. So many good points in this video.
As insightful as ever. Really love this kind of soul-searching content. Hannah also inspired me to go on a no buy, I am nearly a month in and excited to see where the proces takes me.
Whew! That was an eye-opening message! I've been avoiding the inner nudge to do a no-buy year. Now I see how it's necessary after watching this video. Thank you ❤️
Yay for HLP! I think #3 which she’s talked about in way more depth on her own channel was life changing for me. I used to think the intense time consuming research to buying things and avoiding getting my biggest life problems resolved were 2 separate acts but they are totally linked. When my mind space and time is taken up by this all consuming behavior, I don’t have an opportunity to do the harder reflection and harder tasks to address my big issues.
So now when I’m spending a lot of time researching to buy something, I can tell I’m avoiding the elephant in my brain and I’m able to curb it sometimes to focus.
You cannot shop your way out of an unhappy life. Period.
I realized I shop A LOT when I feel stressed. It is like a coping mechanism for me to escape from the things that I do not want to face; it almost has nothing to do with me desiring the item lol. This video is a timely reminder. Thank you.
Been watching this video on repeat as it has really been speaking to me. Though I haven't gone into debt or anything from my spending, shopping has really felt SO compulsive for me - I feel like my need for materials and name brands controls me. This video has really helped me reflect and think about the "financial filters" I need to put in place before buying things + the deeper work I need to do with myself. Thank you so much for this video!
Wow! This is how and why I shop. I can't wait for the rest of the series. I'm trying to cut down on my spending less for financial reasons but more for the environment. I'm also worried about the message I'm sending to my kids.
The pandemic truly changed the way I handle my finances due to a forced lifestyle change. Let me tell you, it is incredibly liberating. I’m on a no buy for 2 years now but non nego is a reward every end of the year - any thing I really want and that worked for me because I get to save for that “thing” for an entire year without going off on impulse, without touching my core savings.
what did you reward yourself with so far?
Loved this !! Such a healthy message, in a consumeristic society I think it's nice to take a breather from it all!!
Congratulation Hannah! ❤
I still hope, you will write a book about this topic. I often go back and rewatch one of those videos. Like a therapy...☺️
I did a Low-buy and it really helped me pull my life together. I feel way more relaxed knowing my finances are secure and I wont die if I don't buy that item - than I would feel giving into all my material impulses.
This couldn't have landed at a better time for me personally. Thank you @Hannah Louise Poston and TFD xxx
Excited to see more of Hannah Louise Poston on the Financial Diet 😍
And always happy to watch her talk about her no-buy and what she learned from it.
But I think she should be present on the thumbnail of the video
This series is a great idea! I learned about Hannah through her last appearance on TFD and have been following her ever since.
I've created a program called retail detox thanks to my experience of not shopping for clothes for 2 full years. My life changed drastically during that time because I found new creative outlets. I've written a book about it to help other women make smarter shopping decisions, and now I'm just saving to self-publish it!
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I'd be interested in reading such a book.
@@positivelycat wow really?! I plan to start working on translating it to English as soon as I publish the original, so I hope that it will be helpful to you ❤
Oh, Hannah... I feel this so much. Trying to pull myself out of a borderline shopping addiction. So much of what she says in every video speaks to me on a deep level. I needed this.
Very insightful video and you can tell Hannah has really dove into her shopping behavior. I’m in the process my self and keep a wishlist on my phone. I take a screenshot of things I desire and review it time to time. That being said, I would like to add something that I’ve found helpful.
I don’t donate to charities or non profits because of all the stories of mishandling. But I was at Target the other day and a family was on the curb in the parking lot. The dad was holding a sign, the mom was nearby taking care of a baby in a stroller and their older child was around as well. I sat in my car in the parking lot and I watched them for around 5 minutes. They had a pack of bottled water near the stroller and an older van nearby that was pretty beat up. Both parents looked tired & stressed, not to mention it was a hot day outside. I thought about this for a minute and I didn’t like it. I don’t like seeing families on curbs in general. It really bothers me that people are going into stores and spending money on useless shit and they see this as they walk in. And I was doing the same thing.
I rationalized why they were out there like that. Maybe they made bad decisions. Maybe they use money to buy drugs and alcohol. Maybe this, maybe that. What if I gave them money and they blew on it useless shit like most of us do. I finally pulled up to the mom and the stroller, I called her to the car and gave her a $100 bill. She said god bless you sir and god bless your family. I pulled back into the parking lot and watched them for another couple of minutes. I wanted to see if they were happy now or excited. But they weren’t really. Nothing much changed on the surface.
I’m not sure what they did with that $100. I’d like to think they bought food or dinner for their family but I don’t really know and really it’s none of my business. But I can tell you for me, I felt good. I felt like they had a dinner later and maybe I helped with that.
So I guess I’d like to add, help out people you see in need if you have the means. You can pick and choose and be discerning and selective, just like when you shop. You never know what it could be used for and you’ll try to rationalize it away but go ahead and try it please. Try giving instead of shopping once in a while, you’re not going to see a major change then and there, but if enough of us do it, maybe we can catch a glimpse.
It’s really novel for me to realize that even though I don’t actually buy that much or overspend, I am using online shopping (looking) as a form of escape, and not in a healthy way. Eye-opening.
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Yes, same problem here. My closet is complete and full and i feel kinda let down that I can’t think of and search for something new to add. My addiction began during lockdown watching youtubers do hauls and i would order everything they recommended. I would have to unfollow them and delete shopping apps because i spend 16 hours per day searching. And i still haven’t worn the items I bought because im a stay at home mom. I imagined wearing each piece going to different places but the truth is I don’t go out maybe to grocery or school. My problem now is i can go out but i need to start finding things to occupy my time in a healthy way.
HLP is the best! Always incredibly insightful and compassionate. Happy to see her back here!
One of the best videos I’ve seen on this topic.
Geesh, I am looking forward to the next few weeks with Hannah. She is AMAZING!
This is so helpful! I’ve fallen into a similar cycle, especially during uncertain times, convincing myself buying a thing will bring me the certainty I’m missing. A no buy seems like a really constructive way of dealing with that impulse. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I can't believe how perfect this video is. I'm going to start my no buy year today. Thankyou for giving us layers and reason, and being so forgiving of yourself for past purchases x
Wow, through this whole FANTASTIC video, I felt like you were talking about me and my life currently. Thank you. You’ve given me some clarity and food for thought on how to handle my shopping addiction moving forward.
You are diplomatic, knowledgeable of human psychology. And I love how your talk is well - organized.
Ahhhhh this makes me so happy!! Thank you for including other creators like Hannah. This channel has really been my financial building block as I'm a union electrician apprentice about to journey out. Because I'm in a male dominated industry, its so motivating to see other femme figures on this channel!
One way I combat wanting new things immediately is follow the wishlist method, and then only buy what’s on that list after a significant amount of time. A significant amount of time. An example is an Essence blush I wanted. Put it on the list and waited. A few weeks or a month later, finally purchased it, but have no regrets because it didn’t feel like an impulse. This applies to all areas of my life and highly recommend it to any who struggle with or enjoy shopping. :)
i used to shop for things that would fit my fantasy life because i felt that giving up the pretence that it could happen would be so depressing, i didn't think it was possible but i hoped that i could maintain the comfort of the fantasy of one day not being poor but financially secure to calm my fears
This is a great video! I loved how Hannah talked about the mental health aspects of a no buy and how it's as much about retraining your brain and therefore your habits then it is about money.
I am considering a mildly restrictive no buy next year to help save and help some unhelpful pandemic habits and this was super helpful!
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Love you, Hanna Louise! I'm a fellow tango dancer and am making my way through your no buy year videos. ☺️
Hannah is taking over, and I am so here for it ❣️❣️❣️
So beautifully articulated. You were such a pleasure to listen to and I will definitely implement some of these strategies. Love TFD!!!
This video is reeeeally speaking to me, as a shopping addict in recovery. Thank you for these tips, I have seen many videos about it but your thoughts about the desire to want something etc really helped.
About the wishlist, giving myself a week of thinking is often enough to forget the item 😳. If I don’t forget it, I am at least less obsessed or on this emergency state so I can ask myself some questions about why I want this item :-)
This is very relatable topic since I am having a No-shopping month right now. I still buy the essential (mostly foods, hygenge stuffs) but I didn't buy any new clothing, make up, interior stuff. My tactics are very similar to yours, If I want to buy something I just put it on the wishlist or just screencap it and as you said, I don't want those things as much after a few weeks or days.
Another working tactic of mine is to clean the closet(or shop one's stash!) I was surprised it gives same kind of joy when you do shopping without the guilt of overspending & harming the environment.
There is one thing that makes it hard to resist impulsive shopping, which is limited time off kind of marketing. I myself am marketer and I know what this kind of thing does to your mind. FOMO makes you feel your urge to get something is so urgent and actually beneficial when it's not. I know but it really hard to resist.
The only thing I "shop" this month is the supplement for my brain, and i guess it really was for my self care and I am proud myself for sticking to my no shopping goal.
Thank you so much for this video. I really appreciate how vulnerable and insightful it is! I love this 💗
Yessss Hannah! I love this for you
I really needed this video. Its a huge wake up call for me and got me thinking a lot about my spending habits and compulsive desires. I am sort of in financial hardship right now and I keep shopping even though I really shouldnt. This vidoe is definitely opening my eyes and causing me to really try this no-buy year. Highly considering it.
Oh wow this is so helpful. I just went through a shopping binge and I can’t seem to stop myself but I’m going to try this and see if it helps
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This is such an amazing video that couldn't come at a better time. I just placed an order that I really wanted, knew I didn't need but justified all the reasons I should be excited for it. You hit all the points perfectly. I feel tentatively ready to attempt a no-buy for the last quarter of 2022.
Yay, it's so nice to see Hannah here again :) I find ehr so calming
This was a lot more digestible than the podcast version. Thank you for sharing your lessons learned!
Thank you, Chelsea and Thank you, Hannah!! Very helpful and eye-opening insights 😊
I attempted a no buy clothing challenge for this year and have technically failed (bought shoes for a wedding I was in and then caved and bought some pants I’d been eyeing for a long time when they went on sale) but I made it like 4 months before buying the shoes (which there was a good reason for) and then almost 7 months before buying something just because I wanted it. So pretty good for me and it’s definitely saved me money this year that I have been able to save or use in other life areas. I’m going to keep trying to avoid buying clothes for the rest of 2022 (maybe cave a little bit in between Xmas and NYE when the sales are really good) and we’ll see how it goes.
Wow! Thank you thank you thank you. You hit the nail on the heads sooo much.
Yes, Hannah! 👑 The collab of the year
Can’t begin to say how important this video is and the perspectives that can only be seen through this kind of struggle to heal certain feelings about oneself!
I hope you know what an inspiration you are. I am starting my no spend journey and while I know it will be incredibly difficult, I am not alone. Thank you so much for your honesty and willingness to put yourself out there to help others. 🥰
amazing insight! I think more often the question (for women especially, but not exclusively) that we can ask ourselves in the context of your blouse example is "will this blouse change my appearance?" I think this is often what we ask and its easy to see the answer being yes, of course it will. THIS is the roadblock I struggle with most!
I loved your podcast interview with Hannah, and Im so excited that she’s gonna appear more on the channel!
I love her insights! Really looking forward to the rest of this series.
i love how deep your explanation is, and i absolutely understand and relate with everything you mentioned 👍
I have never heard the Experience of the Hedonic Treadmill described so well. You have made a fan.
Wow so well put. I’m very excited for this series. I’m feeling extremely inspired!
Lesson 3 HITS!!!! Thank you for this!!
Wow, this was amazing! I am literally taking notes!
This is the best video I have watched in a very long time! You articulated so well everything that is going on in my mind...Im subscribing!! Thank you for sharing!! See u in a next video 🙂
I think with these contents you are helping a lot people. Well done! 👏🏻
So excited for this series! I started watching Hannah's no-buy videos after seeing her on The Financial Confessions a few weeks ago.
Amazing collab! Can’t wait for the rest of the episodes. Hannah & Chelsea 4ever
Brilliant and thought provoking. I hope many many people see and watch this.
So so so happy to see this collab between TFD and Hannah!
This is so well articulated. Helped me understand myself that I didn’t realize :)
Love the video and love that you brought Hannah back!!
So well spoken and direct to the point! Great video and perspective ☺️
Well explained! I feel like you're talking about me :) I started a no-buy year 2 months ago (just in regard to clothes because that had been problematic in my life) and I am experiencing similar things like you did.
Hannah was dropping so many gems! I’m so glad the holidays are over because now that free’s up money for my savings and other priorities. I’m practicing only buying my absolute needs and slowly saving overtime for wants instead. I’m super hyper focused on saving and paying off debt that a lot of my shopping wants can wait. I work from home, so I really don’t need lots of clothes since I’m practically in my pajamas everyday 😅 it feels good to save!
I loved the interview with Hannah, so glad she'll be on the channel for a little bit!
Very rare to have this kind of clarity... hit the spot with all this analysis
I completely stopped buying stuff online after I realized that all the stuff I was buying were things I wouldnt have bought if I saw the real item. Many times, they clothing wouldnt even fit or looked unflattering. Now I wishlist and then go to the store and see it in person.
That’s really smart!
For me my compulsive spending because self harm instead of self care. I love the messages in this interview, these tips are life changing.
I Love Love Loveee that my two favorite TH-cam channels have joined forces. You're both such inspirations that have taught me so much about financial health and helped me get my finances in order. I am in such a better place thanks to Hannah and Chelsea :)
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Hannah's the best! so excited for this series.
You think you’re better than ME!? Just kidding! I love that you’re on the financial diet and I’m looking forward to your other videos. I’m one of your subscribers and no matter how often I watch your tips and lessons, I always come away with something beneficial. Lots of 💙! Thanks, Hannah!