The issue is men and women have always trapped themselves together, and they always had the children, but everyone in the family worked together and had roles, including the children. All family members had to work to survive: garden or farm, cook from scratch, can and preserve food, hunt, fetch water, cut trees and build fires, feed and care for the farm animals and pets, do all the home repairs, tutor children at home ... Now, no one has a role and hardly anyone is productive. So, there's no purpose any longer in having a family or children. Plus, everyone's miserable because no one has an important place in society. We're all easily replaceable.
Men have always been very replaceable. Remember we produce millions of sperm each day compared to one or 2 eggs a month. Look how valuable eggs are in comparison
Well said! You're spot on there, I mean, if you're productive it makes you feel good and useful and helps with depression too...that's my experience anyway....
This was very comforting to watch. Like hanging out with a friend that's going through so much but also being optimistic at the end. I definitely understand a lot of what you are saying. Also, I deal with chronic illness, divorce, lost my home 2 years ago and moved out to another country to cope financially. Some days are so isolating, it's hard to breath. I feel lucky at the same time too. Your optimism is what carries you through so much. Thank you for including us in your day today.
I’ve found that once you value yourself others then value you. People treat you how you allow them to treat you. Please value yourself more Gerald, you really are a lovely, insightful and intelligent man. Do not accept bad behaviour from anyone.
Wow, almost the same words my Mum said to me once, she said 'Son, let yourself be wanted' This is the translation from Sicilian, it kind of means let yourself be valued and don't chase anybody, let them want to b with you was her message.
gerofiore9695 I am a women myself, I listen to you videos, and it’s pretty sad to hear where we are in our lives in the current world. I hear you and feel you deeply. I also feel self-love, self-respect it’s a way to go. Sending you loads of love. We need you as a man, not only you but in general all men. Those divisions, fights etc are crazy. Everyone at the end of the day wants love, peace and health.
Notice how he “likes” your comment but doesn’t reply . Its an ongoing theme if anyone suggests he actually does something physical like get a job or join a gym . He’s lazy , that’s the problem . Not only that but he hasn’t had a job in decades and is effectively a social misfit (he’s used the word “hermit” to describe himself) so he’d have a nervous breakdown if he got a job in a customer-facing environment and got into an argument . He’s like that prisoner Charles Bronson , effectively “instituionalised” , you’d have to reintroduce him to normality slowly , even then I don’t know if it would work , maybe he’s just a total write-off
Yes, maybe a part time job. The thing is most people work hard and pay tax and often they too have mental and physical health problems. Yet still they carry on,meanwhile certain people seem to always find excuses not to contribute to society although they certainly want to use any benefits going.
@@b.m.t.h.3961 That’s what’s going to be the end of this channel , it’s wasted potential . Gerald is being given great advice but misery loves company and platforms like this encourage the “woe is me” mentality
If your wife doesn't work and your dads money is gone, how the heck are you even eating, surviving? Thats probably why your wife is behaving that way. Im sure resentment has built up on her part
Exactly, for a decade when money was there she was happy, when the money is gone the woman leaves, no matter where the money comes from she should have managed it properly ut she didn't, I left her in charge, that was my mistake
A great test for a young man before any children is to see if the women leaves when you pretend youve lost your job. If she does you know shes a gold digger... if she stays shes a loyal good women to support you genuinely.
Gerald…I’m not going to feel sorry for you. You are the only one who can change your situation as you have the ability to reason and honestly learn to be happier. It’s a conscious decision. It sounds like both you and your wife have some childhood issues you never dealt with ….like us all. You should have hobbies? Reading, photography, music, nature…I don’t know but concentrate on the good things and start doing more of that. I’d also suggest you and your wife have a real honest discussion of what you expect, want and just plain honesty even if it hurts. I am a clinically depressive person. I’ve learnt to look at myself, accept my good and bad, play piano, listen to music. Music heals. Nature heals. Everyone needs to learn to be happy in their own company. Accept yourself in 🎉totality and then others will. Your children feel the tension as well as your dogs. Please…I’m 64 …I’ve lived life. Just learn to ride the waves.✌️. Life is life and you make of it what you need to. Or are you happy being miserable? I empathise, I’m not judging🙏
Nice comment too a degree but I'm pretty sure he has never asked anybody too feel sorry for him if I remember he made it very clear sympathy is the last thing after he just sharing a movie his movie maybe would be cool too hear his chick talking on here too but if you noticed he did say he blames nobody and its not his wife's fault he said her way is her way and he just wishes was different he could run away n dissappear and I'm sure we'll I'm not sure but I assume maybe his parter feels same way and there is a disconnect and he wants too fix it but on fair terms maybe...anyway just a few thoughts but if you were lonely n made such videos I certainly wouldn't assume you after sympathy because your feeling low n speaking quietly n asking questions in consice way...cheers 👍👍
I do find it intresting when men sit n self reflect n admit quietly there problems but do be a bit emotional a bit as all females are why can't men talk n share in the same manner the second a man gets depressed or low ebb n just is low energy why does everybody call them a cry baby when a female cry we run n hug (generally) and take it as a problem n be kind but a male does this he's soft or after sympathy...something too ponder..
@@jshaw4757 I'll go further; if this was a woman speaking, other women would be in the comments piling on saying how "unsupportive" the partner was. As men and women we live VERY different lives. Linda made a couple of good points as you say. Most significantly that we are responsible for our own happiness-I believe that wholeheartedly. What she fails to acknowledge however (and what all women will refuse to acknowledge), is that men are expected to give, not take. Women typically put themselves at the centre of a relationship and make the relationship principally about their happiness. If she's not happy (for whatever reason) it is considered part of the man's job to make her happy again. If he doesn't then that's considered in no small part to be a failing or fault on his part. Something he's doing "wrong". By contrast if a man isn't happy, thats considered entirely his fault and a woman accepts no responsibility for making him happy. It simply doesn't enter her thinking to do so. The same women who would be in the comments calling a man an "unsupportive" partner would be completely silent about a female's refusal to offer support. As I say, I agree with Linda's main thesis-we're all responsible for our own happiness. Whichever way you slice it though, in terms of relationships women live far more selfishly than men and this DOES have an impact on mens ability to work on their happiness WITHIN a relationship. They're expected to do so alone, in silence and without troubling their partner's peace of mind at all. By contrast men are expected to be a supportive resource that the female can draw upon for strength. I repeat, men are expected to give and not take. Our experiences are VERY different. It's night and day.
Yep, I know this feeling and situtatiin Grego. From the very second my wife and I separated... I may as well have been STONE DEAD! I DIDN'T EXIST ANYMORE. With my twin daughter's it was different ...they have always been Daddy's girls. It's just their mother who made me suddenly invisible. It's shocking what people are capable of when love turns to hate! It really is. People become hard, callous and cruel. Even now, nearly five years on, she can barely look at me. Yet I didnt have an affair or treat her badly. I just don't know...I find it hard to talk about! 😢
Sorry to hear that mate, this is what seems to happen when the love has gone, in many cases she becomes frigid, no touch,, no hugs and its like you are living with a stranger, have comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
@@adamhughes4442 Thanks mate, I have found some women can really empathize with us as well, I would have thought not but much like a mother or sister some actually even fight for men's rights, there are a few famous ones, for example, Karen Straugan th-cam.com/video/iwEuZ0b6Du4/w-d-xo.html She is brave to stick her neck out for men, check her out, an amazing person, until I heard her talk I didn't think there were any women who sided with men let alone be involved in a men's rights movement, I found that really interesting,
Honestly I don't think we are biologically wired to be in relationships more than a few years...most people even those we love become very irritating after a while
@@keithparker1346 It could be Hedonic adaptation, i.e. we get used to that thing, person, place, or situation that gave us joy, happiness, the thrill is over after a while and post 'happiness' sets in and you realize in the cold light of the reality that nature set you up to procreate, and as you say move one, maybe marriage is an unnatural thing as you kind of suggest, I thought about that as well in the past, maybe it is.
Mate your wife just don't love ya anymore.. a tough pill to swallow for sure. But you got to snap out of wanting what is evidently not going to be as it used to be.... now you have to look after you and your dogs. The kids will grow up and leave your wife too one day and she will end up alone like you too. This state you're in is temporary... so take action and 'Man up'. Don't let your kids see you as a wimpy who is pussy whipped... write your wife out of the equation and move and and take your dogs with you...they are at least loyal. Kids will grow up with or without you... you MUST look after yourself and heal first... then they the kids will/maybe old enough to choose who they want to live with or have further contact with. Stop being and victim and celebrate being single. Woman are cold and calculating and don't be their victim. Fight on old son.
@@RAFVET and see what your saying about all the silly silly people banging on about we should be ashamed to be a “ white Christian British man “ it’s honestly absolutely absurd man. Every single race across history has had sla##ry. Ghengis Khan wasn’t white, and he and his people conquered 3/4’s of the world 🌍 but being a white man. We’ve to feel ashamed 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ even white men where sla##s by the Middle East but no one is talking about that 🫣🫣🤷♂️🤷♂️. These people are just picking one to attack and it happens to be white people. And it’s definitely not fair or even RIGHT!! It’s actually ridiculous man. Can’t we just all get along and get on with our lives
This is the first video of yours that I've watched. I don't know you, of course, but I'll just say what I think based on first impressions. I think you need to find your voice. You probably should be having these conversations with your family instead of total strangers on YT. Communication is key in every relationship, particularly your wife and children. Perhaps be a little more assertive, and not be a simp. Most women and children want their man/father to be strong and alpha. I've found I can easily sway a man, but that gets old. I loved it when I finally met my human ! He doesn't take any guff or disrespect from anyone, especially me. I always thought I wanted to be the dominant one and control everything. He showed me it was ok for him to take control of things and that I could trust him and let him take the lead. He's the man of the house. Period. He knows his place, and I know mine. He's happier when he's running the show, and so am I. Stand up and show them you are the patriarch of your family.
Oh Ive tried that in the past, ended up in shouting matches and to be honest she kind of broke my will to even try anymore, when police are called out they have you on record, when you smash things cause she doesn't listen and puts yu down you have nothing left, she is the Alpha woman, the boss babe independent woman that needs no man, I do understand what you mean though.
I dont think you need to respond to some comments. People have different opinions. Let them be. Nobody is wrong or right. If you want to let it out, I think youtube is the best way. You can be pathetic here, but with your family just maybe best is to stay silent but in a loving manner. I must say that you are still at more fault. A wife as long as she is not flirting please stay.
Regarding the no carb diet, it’s completely normal to feel like you are. It’s the body craving sugar, if you can make it through that initial period where you feel like crap, (it’s like having flu like symptom’s) you’ll feel absolutely great and full of energy…… the weight drops off as your fat is being used solely for energy. Good luck
Understand the true nature of the people you are dealing with. Once things are "over" there is a short truce - a window of about 9 months for a man to leave his marriage with a modicum of dignity based on mutual self-interest. Once that window closes the dogs of war are unleashed; the heartless cruelty that former spouses are capable of is astonishing.
You say your not whining, but your wanting your wife/kids to ask you out...got to meet half way, get involved for your kids if nothing else.Just allowing life, love ones, responsibilities slide away from you.I understand the difficulties with mental health also but from the videos I have seen I feel you have a far better, comfortable situation than most and could grasp the things you say you want but you have to want it and act upon it, despite mental health issues hindering you...bottom line when kids are in the equation you have to drive yourself on even if you dont want too. Take care 👍
Thanks, yh I suppose today was a very hot and tired, I do make an effort, I played yesterday with my son football, I talk with my daughter made her food and enjoy my time with her we joke and talk about various subjects, but its when they are all together outside they called my eldest, and she called my other kids, I now I should have gone out but felt lie an intruder as she is always either moaning or giving me the silent treatment, the bottom line is I find it very hard pushing a woman that doesn't want to be near me.
@@gerofiore9695 I'm sure its not an easy situation nor is it nice to feel that way.But for your kids sake over your inner thoughts/feelings get out there, as maybe not now but in time to come the feeling could grow that you dont want these times together when you say its not the case. They are both your children not just your wife, let all see you are there and there to be apart of memories.Life is short and as I say if not for your well being for those kids.
Hello, my heart goes out to you. I have Lupus and Psoriatic Arthritis and I've had Brain Tumor surgery. I have Autoimmune disease, but I still look after my Elderly Parents, children and Pets. I always put my Husband First. You guys need Counseling. I hope you get Feeling better. I'm 55 & thankful to be alive!! Take care. Life is Short.🥰😻🇨🇦
Wow, do you have SLE? I have read or seen two books on ppl healing or in remission from Lupus, one is a Christian book to a Christian lady and her experiences when she turned to Jesus, another is with juicing and raw foods and another is Jordan Petersons wife on a Carnivore diet, maybe you can implement some idea from these, I have autoimmune problems as well and believe diet and stress reduction are crucial to help heal the gut lining, leaky gut etc, I have Histamine/Dairy/Gluten intolerances and SIFO as well. I pray you heal and keep healing you seem like a good person. And a good wife too. I asked her if we could go counseling she said F off, Ive purchased these books and given them to her for her Lupus, she never read them
It's usually about resentments that build over a period of time with either or both parties finding it harder to communicate. Life's about hard work, meaning and purpose but happiness is fleeting
This is a very stressful situation Gero , I feel for you I know how difficult it can be when one parent poisons the children against the other it can become very toxic I know there are many factors misunderstandings, health issues , money, shared responsibilities and overall exhaustion Trying to stay calm and communicating with each other is easier said than done, but try over and over again !!! As far as your overall feeling on this new diet I think a daily soapy water enema to cleanse your system would be a great help, give it a try and see if it helps you All the best 🤗🙏
It’s better sometimes to Live alone than the constant reminder that a relationship is no more !! You have the unconditional love of you’re dogs ! You need to build on You’re confidence !
good choice going carnivore, you will think clearer , feel more social, less anxious its a mental health game changer. Is hard to stick too though because its boring and were addicted to sugar/carbs. Goodluck on it, theres plenty of youtubers out there and dr's letting you knwo the amazing benefits from it. it can take like 4 days or longer just having meat till your in ketosis and its a pretty tough few days as your body adapts, some people take much longer, luckily i take around 4 days to go into full ketosis. and strangely it helps me sleep pretty much straight away it balances me out in every way.
I keep switching back to plant based cause i fear my kidneys cashing or heart attack with all that cholesterol, I know the Carni docs will say otherwise but Im cautious as it affects ppl differently, most meats are high in Histamine, beef is rested for 21days here in the UK so that means high histamine, I still get my meat and freeze it immediately so that histamine levels don't increase, I also marinade it in lemon or vinegar that reduces the histamines.fish is particularly high, I had beef today, I can only afford brisket though, it could be a really dangerous diet or it could just be the best, maybe for some it may not be the diet for them for various reasons, histamine is one, if a person has MCAS or genetic mutations such as the hereditary Hemochromatosis etc, so if I do it for prolonged periods I will check blood markers for sure, how are you doing on it, if you are on it now?
You can make art prints and sell prints. What I have seen on YT is people reselling secondhand items they pick at garage sales, estate sales, etc. e.g. 'homeschooling picker' (on YT), but they go out often - it seems quite freeing because they can go out when they feel like it, but they do go out often to pick items to resell. If you get a lawmower - what about mowing lawns and showing it on YT as some do and keep the YT going. Also life is not as simple as it used to be and its easy to get caught out while the world overtakes us and leaves us behind.
Do they sell the garage sale items on ebay? The prints idea maybe a good one, Id have to find a place to sell them, maybe my own website then you have to set up an e commerce site which costs money unless there are now options to sell on already existing sites or platforms. Thanks.
Im used to it mate, but obviously not so used to it cause Im talking about it but its not a way to live, if I did that to a woman Id feel uncomfortable indeed, I don't know how ppl do it
I think it comes down to the sensitivity of a person. My mom was insensitive to my father not long after their marriage. I was my dad’s daughter and sensitive like him but for a brief time I believe she turned me away from him. But soon after I saw my dad was not the issue. I love and admire my dad and always will. I think your kids will come around soon. By the way your dogs are so well behaved and sweet and they enjoy you.
@@exchangemarkets1575 right Geo im calling you cos i cant be arsed to keep on typing Gerald lol. Come up to Glasgow to my gaff with your beautiful dogs and i have a big beautiful park 2 minutes walk from my flat. Then the dogs will be absolutely kool in the hall, my bedroom and the spare room to have a wee wander while you and I go to the local pub which is soooooo friendly man. And we’ll get a couple of chicks back to mine. Badda bing badda boom. You’re having a great time man. Ive been single 2 n a half years now man……… obviously Ive had some sexy times but i must admit last time was about 6 months ago . So the offer there mate. And im not just saying this for the sake of saying something. Come to Glasgow and leave them all to be miserable themselves. And yes the dogs are more than welcome 👍🏻👍🏻🇬🇧🏴
Thank you for posting this video. I can so relate to it and find it comforting in a way. I was "cast out" of my own family as soon as my wife gave birth to our second child. I was excluded from the weekday family meals, my wife organised the children's birthday parties to take place when I was at work so I couldn't attend. I never complained, just kept working at my job while she did little apart from go shopping. I was the sole worker, my wife sent our children to day-care, or her mother who took care of our children during the daytime. Things are much better for me now and I have completely walked away from the family that I loved and raised but was physically and emotionally ostracised from.
I think this is a phenomenon that happens to men, I remember that I tended to spent a lot more time with my mums side of the family and my dads side I found less interesting as I saw them less and kind of liked them less.
It's funny how people attack others if they sense a percived weakness. Dogs do the same to other dogs. I like your honesty its refreshing. Ignore the trolls they have their own issues to deal with.
Thankyou, there was one guy who said its not a midlife crisis its near dead crisis and another said you will be in a box, man they are so nasty but the thing is they hide, if you get the chance to go on their channel and ask them politely they are silent :)
Hi Gerald, you're right, you're not whining, you're not complaining, YOU ARE HURTING!!! This is your family! You're flesh and blood!! It must be awful for you, but as you say, your kids aren't to blame, but I'm sure they sense the situation....Gerald you need some sort of happy, positive boost to your life, then that will give you some sort of hope....actually maybe you just need a big hug!! Sending one your way🤗💗
Feel your pain! This is exactly what narcissists do. My husband has been out for two birthday meals and one celebratory meal with MY family while not paying us maintenance for five whole months!! He left hus wife and his 11 year old in his room while wining and dining my father and sister. Weird right?! It's f**** deliberate. It's cruel and wrong and it's so twisted. They know what they're doing. It's deliberate isolation tactics. Making you feel like you are the outsider?!?! Its your kids!! Theyre to be shared not taken by her. I could cry for you and me. This is not what we deserve. You don't deserve all this. You're a lovely guy and should only be treated with love and respect and admiration. She is evil. I will help you to get out of your situation when I get out of mine. It can't be forever! Things have and need to change!! Nicola
Thanks Nicola, have you spoken to him about this, probably it may be tough as you guys can get into an argument, if he's anything like my wife you can't talk, he will just dismiss you, hopefully not
Coach Corey Wayne on TH-cam is great for understanding woman's psychology and relationships, many of his older videos might be better. Good for any new future possible relationships if it's past repairing current circumstances or just in general is interesting to learn about relationships and woman. Most woman want a man strong and centered in himself, confident, peaceful, certain, seeing him passionate in something, driven achieving his goals, to be in his masculine core providing a stable household making her feel safe, heard and understood. Then the big turn offs to woman are using your girl as your personal therapist, not dating her after marriage or relationship, needy or desperate behavior becoming more of a woman than she is disrupting the polarity of feminine and masculine energy driving her to resent him and lose interest. More to it just going off memory
@@ruporter9834 when you have not worked for 35 years no employer will give you a job. Those jobs you mention have to be applied for online with an assessment. He has no workplace skills and set in his mindset due to not being in the workplace which changed totally in the past twenty five years.
Gerald, I love how honest and raw you are. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I know you will be able to make this TH-cam work as a job. If you do patron I will sub to it, anything to help you out. After you explained about your wife getting half of your property that YOUR parents set you up with made me sad! So, yes write a book, start a patron, I know a lot of people are going to help you ❤❤❤❤❤❤. I am the same age as you so I know how scary it can be ❤❤❤
I think I maybe the female version of you!..I also have mental health issues and have no pension as I can’t work either,insomnia anxiety and depression have kicked my ass,no advice or I wouldn’t be stuck too, but just wanted you to know your not alone,and I watched to the end lol 👍🏻
Wow Ive had a few ppl watch to the end, sorry that you have similar problems, but don't you have a pension, if you claimed benefits that should mean you have some form of state pension they pay your stamps or whatever, cause I avoided benefits cause I felt it was wrong then the gov didn't pay into my pension, this is what I believe anyway is going to happen to me.I was going to say that men maybe are more likely to accept your mental health condition but retracted that thought, ppl find it hard to take our mental health ways, you or I are not dependable, negative many times, nobody wants to be around that, I hear you loud and clear my friend, do ppl ever tell you to pull your socks up? I get that as well, they are well meaning for sure, its very hard to do that though when you don't have any hands so to speak.
Stay strong my friend ,something great and new will happen to you,the night is at darkest before dawn. be your true self and you will see soon a lot of great opportunitys knock on your door.POMISE
Hello Gerald and doggies , it must be hard going through what you are and not feeling included within your own family group. I myself I'm a single man (50's( living on my own in Kent whilst my 2 young children live in Norwich, I have my youngest Son louie for school holidays, 4 weeks from this Saturday, boy do I miss him. If your wife is not willing to be positive in your relationship then try find some things to do with your children, a football , kick around, a kite , colouring books , use some loo roll cardboard to make some characters, relationships are not as important as your kids happiness is whilst they are in your company.
The worst thing that I fear is not greeting my kids after they come back from school and hugging them and saying I love you, and then only seeing them once a week or f their mum takes them to China or on holidays who knows, I will feel so lost, I know its not very manly but I love them a lot and this is my weakness or one of them
@gerofiore9695 I myself have cried many many times handing my Son back knowing it will be 8 weeks plus until next half term. You are not alone my friend, I have been 7 years single now , and tbh I do not wish to go through the heartache of another breakup again. My fun time with louie starts very soon , cannot wait to laugh together again.. Big hugs Gerald.
I love these car chats.. you sound like me when I’m on the phone chatting to family or friends. We talk about everything and everyone. I do find as I get older I find it easier and more enjoyable to chat to people who see things as I do.. if someone starts to get a bit extreme or high and mighty I politely stop engaging with them.
Looks like you've got PTSD. You're in a frozen state. You can talk for hours but you can't take action. You must do 1 thing every day. Forget about rambling on about art. Just get real, go see a lawyer for one consult, then get some relationship counselling. You're all over the place & now this channel has become a new distraction & possibly a tool of self sabotage to prevent you from prioritising.. 1. A solicitor 2. A relationship counsellor.
I suggest you read or watch books written by Rhonda Byren. She wrote The Secret and many amazing books. Also i found that finding ways to increase my income really boost my happiness. Relationship is important, but we have no control over other people. But we can control some areas in our life. I hope it helps
Gerald my dear man become a conscious creator I'm a true believer in our sub-cons minds being fed negative/positive info.Im sure you know this JUST SPEAK TO YOURSELF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS/MEDITATION IT WORKS. IT doesn't have to be the way you're projecting it. The universe is a huge mirror I'm sure deep down you truly know this. I'm one of those women who does empathise with men and women. From my experience it's all within you/us as humans. Nothing on the outside will help. Also have the attitude of NOT caring about anything/anyone as if you're not fazed by life, that's the state you want to aim for. Sending blessings and love to you all.❤️🙏🏴🇬🇧
I'm 43, divorced and have no kids. I'll never commit that mistake again, my solitude life is being 100% better, my own company is the best "place" in this world. Hope you sort your situation mate.
Sorry for your divorce mate, its easier if there are no babies involved, my babies I just pray she doesn't change and restrict them from me.Its great to hear you are doing better and moved on in your ife
Life will get easier and happier for you...I understand you not going to the garden whilst they were having a pinic...I wouldn't push myself into someone else's activity without being invited I'd feel awkward...I like to feel welcome with an invite!...perhaps sometimes things can be deliberately done to upset you as your showing how sensitive you are...I would rise above it all...even if you don't feel like it and put a smile on and go round singing and whistling .... you might just get the break you need....😅
Its good that you are honest with yourself, owning up to your share of the problems. In a similar situation including the victim comment. Not saying it would work for you but for me, moving out has been the best thing, taking control has given me purpose.
Hi watched the whole video. Yes you're a nice warm hearted guy. I'm 40 but have to consider that i'm getting older etc. You're right so much comes down to money. I had over 100k spent it on women and gambling almost impossible to get it back but yes aslong as you have health it could be worse.
Its horrible how we dont realise how much we spend, I kind of spent I the same way, women, 1 woman and gambling, I gambled on a business and failed and lost £70k
very sad. feels like you are betraying your family for views. your depression has turned you into someone your family doesn't know how to reach. only you can pull yourself out of this. try putting their feelings first and doing things you know they would like and to show caring. also trying doing charity work in your free time. focusing on altruism is the way out of the hole you are in. eating fiber and plants is good for the body mind also. your kids will see these videos someday if you leave them up. their friends will see them. all the kids in their glasses will see them. focus on the feeling of others to feel better yourself.
When I separated from my ex wife 12 years ago I was numb. I never really got over it ,however, I'm at peace with myself. I don't suffer any more lies, munipulation or disrespecting. I never went looking for another relationship. At 61 with two failed marriages it's time to live life differently.
WOWWW hang on a minute. Be assured that girls ALWAYS ALWAYS NEED/LOVE their daddies. Men are always expected to carry the burden, but it’s not yours to carry alone. Self care is essential. TAKE time for you and know you are wanted.
So many men go through this... I dont know what it is but I think we all experience these existencial questions... I am dealing with my first one at 35. I think for women we experience it earlier.. Its like you dont know what to do. I used to do everything and know everything, but as I grow older my body changes, energy levels, and desire for many things has faded... I hope watching these channels helps me understand more of my own issues and trying to find healthier coping mechanisms, however I see there really isn't much entertainment after 30s
Dont give up on carnivore,or go alittle slower.im on day 9 ,i eat occasionally eat french stick.living in france i should be happy,im 50 same sort of situation but without children..ptsd can be overcome..i hope it becomes easier for you
All of my relatives especially my mother have treated something like your wife treats you. Its different but very similar in some ways. I just started learning late in life, late forties that ice been very neglected and abused my whole life by all of them and they've always been very psychopathic and narcissistic to me my whole life. Its a long story. God bless you and your family.
You need your own life, your own hobbies, something that the is yours and not your wife's (this channel is a great start!). Make a success of whatever it is. That might win her back and if it doesn't then get a divorce. Also, she is bound to see this video one day, you might want to consider deleting it. And free yourself from those antidepressants. 30 years is long enough.
I think I do need a divorce even though I dont want to, why? Cause she wants me to give her money or buy a house in HER name, lets say I give her 60 or 70%, and Im left with 80K then one day she can THEN ask for a divorce and take half my stuff that I have.left over
Sounds like a lot of her behaviors and attitudes might be cultural. At least in part. If you had money again her whole attitude might change but it wouldn't be real.
This is a little confusing for me what you want is there but, your not a family anymore however the nice gesture would be for you to be i invited to take part. If she asked how would you react maybe is what she is thinking. I do get the picnic family side of things as a family man. I feel like you feel lonely which does come with summertime in my opinion it makes me feel like I'm with mum and dad riding in the park as a family when myself and sibblings were younger but it never comes back that feeling hope that makes sense.
Oh thats a very looooong story, quick summary, I didn't buy them, they came, 10 of them in a litter I got rid of or sold 1, gave 2 to the dogs trust and the rest I tried giving away or selling and one after they either were sick that day or barked the help out of the ppl that came, time passed they bonded to me and I to them, that's a very short summary
Your wife is mean and she is teaching your own children to be cruel to you. Reminds me of Cinderella. She is abusing you. I don’t know the answers for you as I don’t have them for my own self. This life is hard. I am so sorry this is happening to you.
Unfortunately you are not an isolated case. But it takes a lot of courage as a man to talk openly about your problems. In today's society, men are seen by women only as resource suppliers and vicarious agents. As a thank you, they are not respected by their children and despised by their own wife. And when the ATM is empty, the locusts move on. This is the reality in which most men unfortunately only wake up when it is already too late. Keep your head up and good luck from bavaria!!!
Many people in this world, the same situation If they have big house, they live the same but some people have small house they have to live together together
Separation anxiety is a red flag for BPD. Are you "treading on eggshells?" Time for you to initiate time with your kids. You're the parent and no excuses. As for the blame game; what's the point. Just time to move on and reclaim your life. Wishing you well brother
I may be wrong but i think I was saying that Betty my dog has separation anxiety, she needs be the around me, but come to think of it BPD is what my wife may have she blows up, is very abrupt, gives the silent treatment and scowl
@@gerofiore9695 oh, sorry if I misunderstood.No disrespect but it just seems a pretty disfunctional marriage, by anybody's standards. Self worth robbing drain on your soul. I don't think you can make much progress when you are stuck in that home environment but I understand how challenging that is for you currently. I think swapping your car for a campervan might give you the independence you need. Don't need to move out completely, but you will engineer your own liberty and control here. You dont have to wait for the field for a caravan, just park up anywhere. I lived in mine on and off in Sweden, it's fantastic. Car living doesn't come close. Food for thought. Cheers pal
Hi mate, you're entitled to something when you retire, they can't leave you with nothing. They might want to look into your bank account to see if you're struggling. Phone citizens advise.
my grandaughter has Lupus she’s 8, she was tested positive for Lyme twice and her immune went into overdrive. I lost my dad after he had his 5 th covid Vax he’d not had vax in his life his mother didn’t believe in it! he was a very healthy man never even got colds, my son was killed age 39; because of a police mistake of which i’ve taken them to judicial review, I do get a lot of your feelings i really do! did you move to the west ?
Wow, Gerald. No one knows you here & everyone has an "opinion". Food for thought, it appears you can agree no one is to blame. A relationship of zero laughter, intimacy, poor at best communication seems futile. Who wouldn't get sick & depressed living in a relationship as yours, depression & loneliness can lead to illness. By what you say she appears so very cold but all suffer and a kind, compassionate offer in a calm manner to talk might help you both to honor one another & decide as a team what's the best healthy way to move forward. Have you shared all you share here about your concerns with her? She just beats you down it seems; maybe it's her only way she expresses her pain. We all have fears and struggles explaining what is the real issues. Perhaps you both can agree to move on and stop this madness. Why do you both stay together? Living like this would depress most. A fun, laughter, supportive, intimacy relationship can help anyone's health. Again, perhaps the 2 of you could go away for a day, make a picnic for the 2 of you and talk this out. It appears you are wasting one another's time. Children are resilient and even they could be happier and you both can share them separately. For me, I could never live with someone who does not show me they love me and me love them. We are a solid team together. We have a loving communication and supportive. We all have to make a plan and work our plan. What's first? Whose on first and whose on second? Is it find work first to prepare to live?
Remember Gerald, it's the DIRT that is valuable. Over here they bulldoze homes if not fabulous, and it's the DIRT AND PROPERTY THATS where the real money is to a buyer. Even if the house isn't worth much, they want the DIRT, or location, or acredge. Please don't fire and aim under pressure. Kids feel the uncomfortable vibes between you both. You can both carry the weight it's certainly not all you & please do not allow anyone put this monkey on your back. That is not fair in the least to you. Please don't allow her to pull this guilt trip. I met a plumber working on my place and he is buying a trailer and putting it on land he is buying. I am a gardener so it's hard work and can be expensive, very doable, cuttings, make your own fertilizer, bugs eradication with NEEM oil, weeding, and H2O or all dies and all that work. It's called social security and the less one works in the USA the less they get and frankly for all we put into the system it's not enough to pay bills at all, it's chump change and throw in high high inflation! The dollar is worth nothing now. We cannot count on the come, illness comes out of the blue, things always break down, some greedy witch takes all your future from greed, it's always something.
No body grasps what ptsd can do when you are given meds for it they are worse and can change you.i do not recognise myself,mentle emotional rollacoaster.try stick to a carnivore way of eating like i am.You are speaking truthfully,if you feel better like me maybe the relationship might get better,
I'm a champion...lol....you touched on so many subjects I have strong opinions on, including all this ridiculous wokery of our times. Have you thought of setting up a gofundme page? Being self sufficient is an exellent idea in the times we are living in....are you "aware". Btw just for the record, if it helps, stop running yourself down. You're a very decent looking guy with a mischevious grin and a big heart. There's ladies out there that would bite your hand off at the elbow. Sorry to hear about your dad. I know people similar things have happened to.... Can you put up an email address so that your fans can get in touch instead of just leaving messages on here? Proverbs 18:21
Wow, you are one of THEM = a Champion as well! Interesting Proverb quote. Wokery, yh hehe. Aware? Oh its on the Channel tab on MORE then click it and it shows the person's email, I'll give it here but I get thousands of emails, I may have to get a paid one when I have money so I don't get lots of spam and endless emails, Calogerofiore@yahoo.com, I don't show it usually cause Ive got some hater send me bad stuff
Gerald, Please try Roy Masters Seven Minute Meditation. It changes your outlook and brings you into a relaxed and objective state. It's as easy as falling off a log.
Hi Gerald.new to ur vlogs.love seeing ur beautiful dogs,and because the weather was beautiful today,how do u manage to keep them cool?God bless keep safexx
Be thankful u can walk Exercise is important and will take your mind of problems..You are overloaded and need to clear your mind The dogs need walked ..Your daughter can help.
Passing flowers smell is a sign of loved ones in spirit, just letting you know your being guided, even tho it may seem hard, guidance and love is with you
Tha IS WEIRD,I did think this at the time, I got this smell in the house when there was no wind, no flowers just a smell of like perfume suddenly, its sooo weird.
@@shauntaylor-lovelightfamily Ive had some very strange experiences I made 2 videos and will upload soon, one has to do with a colour and the other to do with numbers, I wont tell you exactly but if you watch the videos you'll see what happened.
@@gerofiore9695 oh I’ll definitely look out for them, esoteric paranormal, spiritual stuff, oh that’s my thing there, I always make sure to check your latest stuff, I discovered some older stuff by you, gonna watch it, the German shepherd having babies is right up my street too, amazing are German shepherd, beautiful unique personalities.
Actually that would be interesting to do. Buy a plot of land and do youtube videos of how to survive with little money after a divorce. It will be like a youtube diary of your daily struggles.
I feel your pain Gerald. Good you have started the carnivore diet as you are at least experimenting in life. I think making these videos are helpful for you and hopefully you'll arrive at some conclusions. Ultimately though you cant stay in this passive state. Youre processing what's been going on and i get that but soon you are going to have to decide what you are going to do differently to get different results. Regarding your marriage- from a woman's perspective i would hazard a guess that you have let your wife down in the past and she cant forgive you and she just stays with you for practical reasons now. Perhaps while you were depressed she shouldered alot of responsibilities with the kids and the overall mental load of raising the family and running the house. She probably wanted you to be more of a leader of the family and be working and providing which makes a woman feel safe. If she didn't feel that safety with you it would have been hard for the intimate side of the relationship to work. I think your relationship is over to be honest unless you feel you want to make another attempt at being that man she can rely on etc. it would require a lot of effort and you'd have to really want it which I'm not sure you do and she still might not want to rekindle things. The main thing is you need to move out of this passive state. What actions do YOU need to take to change things? I think in the picnic scenario you should have gone and joined in. You said that in the past that you didn't join in with some of the family activities so you've set that precedent and it was the norm for your wife and kids. Why should your wife come and find you when you were not there in the past? Its up to you to take the intiative and i get that its hard as your wife is hostile but remember you are a role model to your kids and you want to role model being proactive in situations.
Women will never apologise for their behaviour, it is just their nature, no need to be sensitive, so many men go through this experience, take the dogs for a long walk it will make you feel so much better, even if you are tired, I only sleep a maximum of three and a half hours each night, years ago I would sleep 7/8 hours, you change and adapt
I always say sorry if I do something wrong and so do a lot of women. It’s true that there are women out there that are takers and users, but there are also men out there that do this also. Let’s take away the gender issue and realise that we are all people and that some people are well balanced and kind and others are disruptive, mean and thrive on chaos.
Gerry its true half off this team we call relationships the allowness too be open about things n share emotions is a bit one sided and i see why you are pointing out that your thouggts n life n feelings should be registered equal too everybody elses and i noticed that often the idea off a man is like we made off stone and thats how it should be or something like we havnt got a heart also 😂...cheers
Some called me Gerry at school, but now its Gerald, but you can call me Gerry if you like. My wife seems to think men should be tough and have almost no feelings, she gets this from her own Dad, in my family we always hugged, we had totally different upbringings.
@@gerofiore9695 Yh it's strange coz men are tough lol...any physical confrentation or say you need too lift a heavy object or kick a wall down that's us we gonna handle it but too say showing the same type feelings as your equivalent then why are they being that way if they belive is weak its like calling yourself weak by that belief...food for thought Gerald cheers
@@gerofiore9695 Think it's the barbie n Ken paradox or the idea off vikings yes men can turn awfully viking but don't really wish too untill necessary that's what the energy there for so we can go nuts n protect when needed but it's not a constant...its a source can tap in n handle any physical job as n when...just thoughts cheers
Thanks look after yourself my friend
Wow that was awesome of you, nobody ever sent me a £100 Super Thanks, we appreciate that very much. 🙂
The issue is men and women have always trapped themselves together, and they always had the children, but everyone in the family worked together and had roles, including the children.
All family members had to work to survive: garden or farm, cook from scratch, can and preserve food, hunt, fetch water, cut trees and build fires, feed and care for the farm animals and pets, do all the home repairs, tutor children at home ...
Now, no one has a role and hardly anyone is productive. So, there's no purpose any longer in having a family or children. Plus, everyone's miserable because no one has an important place in society. We're all easily replaceable.
Men have always been very replaceable. Remember we produce millions of sperm each day compared to one or 2 eggs a month. Look how valuable eggs are in comparison
That’s very sad but true. I’m very productive and I enjoy staying busy.😊
Well said! You're spot on there, I mean, if you're productive it makes you feel good and useful and helps with depression too...that's my experience anyway....
This was very comforting to watch. Like hanging out with a friend that's going through so much but also being optimistic at the end. I definitely understand a lot of what you are saying. Also, I deal with chronic illness, divorce, lost my home 2 years ago and moved out to another country to cope financially. Some days are so isolating, it's hard to breath. I feel lucky at the same time too. Your optimism is what carries you through so much. Thank you for including us in your day today.
Thankyou for those kind words my friend
I’ve found that once you value yourself others then value you. People treat you how you allow them to treat you. Please value yourself more Gerald, you really are a lovely, insightful and intelligent man. Do not accept bad behaviour from anyone.
Wow, almost the same words my Mum said to me once, she said 'Son, let yourself be wanted' This is the translation from Sicilian, it kind of means let yourself be valued and don't chase anybody, let them want to b with you was her message.
@@gerofiore9695 so very true. It’s worked for me!
gerofiore9695 I am a women myself, I listen to you videos, and it’s pretty sad to hear where we are in our lives in the current world. I hear you and feel you deeply. I also feel self-love, self-respect it’s a way to go. Sending you loads of love. We need you as a man, not only you but in general all men. Those divisions, fights etc are crazy. Everyone at the end of the day wants love, peace and health.
This situation is more common than you think. Feel free to reach out. All is never lost brother. 💪
Thankyou Mark
Gerald you need to get out of the house more like get a job because a job is more then money it's good for your mental health.
Notice how he “likes” your comment but doesn’t reply . Its an ongoing theme if anyone suggests he actually does something physical like get a job or join a gym . He’s lazy , that’s the problem . Not only that but he hasn’t had a job in decades and is effectively a social misfit (he’s used the word “hermit” to describe himself) so he’d have a nervous breakdown if he got a job in a customer-facing environment and got into an argument . He’s like that prisoner Charles Bronson , effectively “instituionalised” , you’d have to reintroduce him to normality slowly , even then I don’t know if it would work , maybe he’s just a total write-off
@@bobmathews9072 And so what?
@@gerofiore9695 And so take the advice you're given or what is the point in your videos ?
Yes, maybe a part time job. The thing is most people work hard and pay tax and often they too have mental and physical health problems. Yet still they carry on,meanwhile certain people seem to always find excuses not to contribute to society although they certainly want to use any benefits going.
@@b.m.t.h.3961 That’s what’s going to be the end of this channel , it’s wasted potential . Gerald is being given great advice but misery loves company and platforms like this encourage the “woe is me” mentality
If your wife doesn't work and your dads money is gone, how the heck are you even eating, surviving? Thats probably why your wife is behaving that way. Im sure resentment has built up on her part
Exactly, for a decade when money was there she was happy, when the money is gone the woman leaves, no matter where the money comes from she should have managed it properly ut she didn't, I left her in charge, that was my mistake
To many women, a man is mainly a source of money.
A great test for a young man before any children is to see if the women leaves when you pretend youve lost your job. If she does you know shes a gold digger... if she stays shes a loyal good women to support you genuinely.
Gerald…I’m not going to feel sorry for you. You are the only one who can change your situation as you have the ability to reason and honestly learn to be happier. It’s a conscious decision. It sounds like both you and your wife have some childhood issues you never dealt with ….like us all. You should have hobbies? Reading, photography, music, nature…I don’t know but concentrate on the good things and start doing more of that. I’d also suggest you and your wife have a real honest discussion of what you expect, want and just plain honesty even if it hurts. I am a clinically depressive person. I’ve learnt to look at myself, accept my good and bad, play piano, listen to music. Music heals. Nature heals. Everyone needs to learn to be happy in their own company. Accept yourself in 🎉totality and then others will. Your children feel the tension as well as your dogs. Please…I’m 64 …I’ve lived life. Just learn to ride the waves.✌️. Life is life and you make of it what you need to. Or are you happy being miserable? I empathise, I’m not judging🙏
Thanks Linda, Yu make good points.
Nice comment too a degree but I'm pretty sure he has never asked anybody too feel sorry for him if I remember he made it very clear sympathy is the last thing after he just sharing a movie his movie maybe would be cool too hear his chick talking on here too but if you noticed he did say he blames nobody and its not his wife's fault he said her way is her way and he just wishes was different he could run away n dissappear and I'm sure we'll I'm not sure but I assume maybe his parter feels same way and there is a disconnect and he wants too fix it but on fair terms maybe...anyway just a few thoughts but if you were lonely n made such videos I certainly wouldn't assume you after sympathy because your feeling low n speaking quietly n asking questions in consice way...cheers 👍👍
I do find it intresting when men sit n self reflect n admit quietly there problems but do be a bit emotional a bit as all females are why can't men talk n share in the same manner the second a man gets depressed or low ebb n just is low energy why does everybody call them a cry baby when a female cry we run n hug (generally) and take it as a problem n be kind but a male does this he's soft or after sympathy...something too ponder..
You are being too condescending by lecturing the guy.
@@jshaw4757 I'll go further; if this was a woman speaking, other women would be in the comments piling on saying how "unsupportive" the partner was. As men and women we live VERY different lives.
Linda made a couple of good points as you say. Most significantly that we are responsible for our own happiness-I believe that wholeheartedly. What she fails to acknowledge however (and what all women will refuse to acknowledge), is that men are expected to give, not take.
Women typically put themselves at the centre of a relationship and make the relationship principally about their happiness. If she's not happy (for whatever reason) it is considered part of the man's job to make her happy again. If he doesn't then that's considered in no small part to be a failing or fault on his part. Something he's doing "wrong".
By contrast if a man isn't happy, thats considered entirely his fault and a woman accepts no responsibility for making him happy. It simply doesn't enter her thinking to do so. The same women who would be in the comments calling a man an "unsupportive" partner would be completely silent about a female's refusal to offer support.
As I say, I agree with Linda's main thesis-we're all responsible for our own happiness. Whichever way you slice it though, in terms of relationships women live far more selfishly than men and this DOES have an impact on mens ability to work on their happiness WITHIN a relationship.
They're expected to do so alone, in silence and without troubling their partner's peace of mind at all. By contrast men are expected to be a supportive resource that the female can draw upon for strength.
I repeat, men are expected to give and not take. Our experiences are VERY different. It's night and day.
You started laughing and then experienced joy in the moment….think about that🙏
Yep, I know this feeling and situtatiin Grego. From the very second my wife and I separated... I may as well have been STONE DEAD! I DIDN'T EXIST ANYMORE. With my twin daughter's it was different ...they have always been Daddy's girls. It's just their mother who made me suddenly invisible. It's shocking what people are capable of when love turns to hate! It really is. People become hard, callous and cruel. Even now, nearly five years on, she can barely look at me. Yet I didnt have an affair or treat her badly. I just don't know...I find it hard to talk about! 😢
Sorry to hear that mate, this is what seems to happen when the love has gone, in many cases she becomes frigid, no touch,, no hugs and its like you are living with a stranger, have comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
@@gerofiore9695 Thank you. There are probably hundreds of men out there in very similar situations. You are not alone.
@@adamhughes4442 Thanks mate, I have found some women can really empathize with us as well, I would have thought not but much like a mother or sister some actually even fight for men's rights, there are a few famous ones, for example, Karen Straugan th-cam.com/video/iwEuZ0b6Du4/w-d-xo.html She is brave to stick her neck out for men, check her out, an amazing person, until I heard her talk I didn't think there were any women who sided with men let alone be involved in a men's rights movement, I found that really interesting,
Honestly I don't think we are biologically wired to be in relationships more than a few years...most people even those we love become very irritating after a while
@@keithparker1346 It could be Hedonic adaptation, i.e. we get used to that thing, person, place, or situation that gave us joy, happiness, the thrill is over after a while and post 'happiness' sets in and you realize in the cold light of the reality that nature set you up to procreate, and as you say move one, maybe marriage is an unnatural thing as you kind of suggest, I thought about that as well in the past, maybe it is.
Mate your wife just don't love ya anymore.. a tough pill to swallow for sure. But you got to snap out of wanting what is evidently not going to be as it used to be.... now you have to look after you and your dogs. The kids will grow up and leave your wife too one day and she will end up alone like you too. This state you're in is temporary... so take action and 'Man up'. Don't let your kids see you as a wimpy who is pussy whipped... write your wife out of the equation and move and and take your dogs with you...they are at least loyal. Kids will grow up with or without you... you MUST look after yourself and heal first... then they the kids will/maybe old enough to choose who they want to live with or have further contact with. Stop being and victim and celebrate being single. Woman are cold and calculating and don't be their victim. Fight on old son.
Absolutely well said man 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻🏴🇬🇧
Yeah, I agree.
@@RAFVET and see what your saying about all the silly silly people banging on about we should be ashamed to be a “ white Christian British man “ it’s honestly absolutely absurd man. Every single race across history has had sla##ry. Ghengis Khan wasn’t white, and he and his people conquered 3/4’s of the world 🌍 but being a white man. We’ve to feel ashamed 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ even white men where sla##s by the Middle East but no one is talking about that 🫣🫣🤷♂️🤷♂️. These people are just picking one to attack and it happens to be white people. And it’s definitely not fair or even RIGHT!! It’s actually ridiculous man. Can’t we just all get along and get on with our lives
Yeah, she told me some time ago when I asked do you love me, she said no, she said we are like friends.
Not all women are cold and calculating, lots are kind and caring, including me!
This is the first video of yours that I've watched. I don't know you, of course, but I'll just say what I think based on first impressions. I think you need to find your voice. You probably should be having these conversations with your family instead of total strangers on YT. Communication is key in every relationship, particularly your wife and children. Perhaps be a little more assertive, and not be a simp. Most women and children want their man/father to be strong and alpha. I've found I can easily sway a man, but that gets old. I loved it when I finally met my human ! He doesn't take any guff or disrespect from anyone, especially me. I always thought I wanted to be the dominant one and control everything. He showed me it was ok for him to take control of things and that I could trust him and let him take the lead. He's the man of the house. Period. He knows his place, and I know mine. He's happier when he's running the show, and so am I. Stand up and show them you are the patriarch of your family.
Oh Ive tried that in the past, ended up in shouting matches and to be honest she kind of broke my will to even try anymore, when police are called out they have you on record, when you smash things cause she doesn't listen and puts yu down you have nothing left, she is the Alpha woman, the boss babe independent woman that needs no man, I do understand what you mean though.
I dont think you need to respond to some comments. People have different opinions. Let them be. Nobody is wrong or right. If you want to let it out, I think youtube is the best way.
You can be pathetic here, but with your family just maybe best is to stay silent but in a loving manner. I must say that you are still at more fault. A wife as long as she is not flirting please stay.
Regarding the no carb diet, it’s completely normal to feel like you are. It’s the body craving sugar, if you can make it through that initial period where you feel like crap, (it’s like having flu like symptom’s) you’ll feel absolutely great and full of energy…… the weight drops off as your fat is being used solely for energy. Good luck
Understand the true nature of the people you are dealing with. Once things are "over" there is a short truce - a window of about 9 months for a man to leave his marriage with a modicum of dignity based on mutual self-interest. Once that window closes the dogs of war are unleashed; the heartless cruelty that former spouses are capable of is astonishing.
That’s not always true if one person wants more than they are entitled to I tried to end my marriage quickly and fairly but my wife had other ideas
You say your not whining, but your wanting your wife/kids to ask you out...got to meet half way, get involved for your kids if nothing else.Just allowing life, love ones, responsibilities slide away from you.I understand the difficulties with mental health also but from the videos I have seen I feel you have a far better, comfortable situation than most and could grasp the things you say you want but you have to want it and act upon it, despite mental health issues hindering you...bottom line when kids are in the equation you have to drive yourself on even if you dont want too. Take care 👍
Thanks, yh I suppose today was a very hot and tired, I do make an effort, I played yesterday with my son football, I talk with my daughter made her food and enjoy my time with her we joke and talk about various subjects, but its when they are all together outside they called my eldest, and she called my other kids, I now I should have gone out but felt lie an intruder as she is always either moaning or giving me the silent treatment, the bottom line is I find it very hard pushing a woman that doesn't want to be near me.
@@gerofiore9695 I'm sure its not an easy situation nor is it nice to feel that way.But for your kids sake over your inner thoughts/feelings get out there, as maybe not now but in time to come the feeling could grow that you dont want these times together when you say its not the case. They are both your children not just your wife, let all see you are there and there to be apart of memories.Life is short and as I say if not for your well being for those kids.
Hello, my heart goes out to you. I have Lupus and Psoriatic Arthritis and I've had Brain Tumor surgery. I have Autoimmune disease, but I still look after my Elderly Parents, children and Pets. I always put my Husband First. You guys need Counseling. I hope you get Feeling better. I'm 55 & thankful to be alive!! Take care. Life is Short.🥰😻🇨🇦
Wow, do you have SLE? I have read or seen two books on ppl healing or in remission from Lupus, one is a Christian book to a Christian lady and her experiences when she turned to Jesus, another is with juicing and raw foods and another is Jordan Petersons wife on a Carnivore diet, maybe you can implement some idea from these, I have autoimmune problems as well and believe diet and stress reduction are crucial to help heal the gut lining, leaky gut etc, I have Histamine/Dairy/Gluten intolerances and SIFO as well. I pray you heal and keep healing you seem like a good person. And a good wife too. I asked her if we could go counseling she said F off, Ive purchased these books and given them to her for her Lupus, she never read them
Yes, Sugar & Chemicals& stress make Lupus Flare. Take care. I'm wishing all the best to you.
It's usually about resentments that build over a period of time with either or both parties finding it harder to communicate. Life's about hard work, meaning and purpose but happiness is fleeting
This is a very stressful situation Gero , I feel for you I know how difficult it can be when one parent poisons the children against the other it can become very toxic I know there are many factors misunderstandings, health issues , money, shared responsibilities and overall exhaustion
Trying to stay calm and communicating with each other is easier said than done, but try over and over again !!!
As far as your overall feeling on this new diet I think a daily soapy water enema to cleanse your system would be a great help, give it a try and see if it helps you
All the best 🤗🙏
It’s better sometimes to
Live alone than the constant reminder that a relationship is no more !! You have the unconditional love of you’re dogs ! You need to build on
You’re confidence !
good choice going carnivore, you will think clearer , feel more social, less anxious its a mental health game changer. Is hard to stick too though because its boring and were addicted to sugar/carbs. Goodluck on it, theres plenty of youtubers out there and dr's letting you knwo the amazing benefits from it. it can take like 4 days or longer just having meat till your in ketosis and its a pretty tough few days as your body adapts, some people take much longer, luckily i take around 4 days to go into full ketosis. and strangely it helps me sleep pretty much straight away it balances me out in every way.
I keep switching back to plant based cause i fear my kidneys cashing or heart attack with all that cholesterol, I know the Carni docs will say otherwise but Im cautious as it affects ppl differently, most meats are high in Histamine, beef is rested for 21days here in the UK so that means high histamine, I still get my meat and freeze it immediately so that histamine levels don't increase, I also marinade it in lemon or vinegar that reduces the histamines.fish is particularly high, I had beef today, I can only afford brisket though, it could be a really dangerous diet or it could just be the best, maybe for some it may not be the diet for them for various reasons, histamine is one, if a person has MCAS or genetic mutations such as the hereditary Hemochromatosis etc, so if I do it for prolonged periods I will check blood markers for sure, how are you doing on it, if you are on it now?
You can make art prints and sell prints. What I have seen on YT is people reselling secondhand items they pick at garage sales, estate sales, etc. e.g. 'homeschooling picker' (on YT), but they go out often - it seems quite freeing because they can go out when they feel like it, but they do go out often to pick items to resell. If you get a lawmower - what about mowing lawns and showing it on YT as some do and keep the YT going. Also life is not as simple as it used to be and its easy to get caught out while the world overtakes us and leaves us behind.
Do they sell the garage sale items on ebay? The prints idea maybe a good one, Id have to find a place to sell them, maybe my own website then you have to set up an e commerce site which costs money unless there are now options to sell on already existing sites or platforms. Thanks.
@@gerofiore9695 yes on Ebay - I have not experience though.
That horrible they didn’t ask you to go and gave a picnic in the garden. I feel for you mate! Go where you are celebrated and not tolerated
Im used to it mate, but obviously not so used to it cause Im talking about it but its not a way to live, if I did that to a woman Id feel uncomfortable indeed, I don't know how ppl do it
I think it comes down to the sensitivity of a person. My mom was insensitive to my father not long after their marriage. I was my dad’s daughter and sensitive like him but for a brief time I believe she turned me away from him. But soon after I saw my dad was not the issue. I love and admire my dad and always will. I think your kids will come around soon. By the way your dogs are so well behaved and sweet and they enjoy you.
@@exchangemarkets1575 right Geo im calling you cos i cant be arsed to keep on typing Gerald lol. Come up to Glasgow to my gaff with your beautiful dogs and i have a big beautiful park 2 minutes walk from my flat. Then the dogs will be absolutely kool in the hall, my bedroom and the spare room to have a wee wander while you and I go to the local pub which is soooooo friendly man. And we’ll get a couple of chicks back to mine. Badda bing badda boom. You’re having a great time man. Ive been single 2 n a half years now man……… obviously Ive had some sexy times but i must admit last time was about 6 months ago . So the offer there mate. And im not just saying this for the sake of saying something. Come to Glasgow and leave them all to be miserable themselves. And yes the dogs are more than welcome 👍🏻👍🏻🇬🇧🏴
Absolutely agree with this! 👏
Ah that's lovely. Go on to Glasgow and the two of yous have the craic. 😊
I don't believe a word of this but going to sub to see how long you can keep it up.
What is it you don't believe bro? I wish it wasn't true
Thank you for posting this video. I can so relate to it and find it comforting in a way. I was "cast out" of my own family as soon as my wife gave birth to our second child. I was excluded from the weekday family meals, my wife organised the children's birthday parties to take place when I was at work so I couldn't attend. I never complained, just kept working at my job while she did little apart from go shopping. I was the sole worker, my wife sent our children to day-care, or her mother who took care of our children during the daytime.
Things are much better for me now and I have completely walked away from the family that I loved and raised but was physically and emotionally ostracised from.
I think this is a phenomenon that happens to men, I remember that I tended to spent a lot more time with my mums side of the family and my dads side I found less interesting as I saw them less and kind of liked them less.
Well your subscribers are going up. 😊
It's funny how people attack others if they sense a percived weakness. Dogs do the same to other dogs. I like your honesty its refreshing. Ignore the trolls they have their own issues to deal with.
Thankyou, there was one guy who said its not a midlife crisis its near dead crisis and another said you will be in a box, man they are so nasty but the thing is they hide, if you get the chance to go on their channel and ask them politely they are silent :)
I've watched a couple of your videos today....blimey !! There are loads of us with very similar lives, diagnosis and yeah... 😊😊😊😊😊
Thanks for watching
I’m concerned for your children and your dogs…I’m passionate about both. Children and animals.
I agree. I'm concerned for him and his whole life where that monster is..she's evil. She needs to go x
Children are animals, too.
Hi Gerald, you're right, you're not whining, you're not complaining, YOU ARE HURTING!!! This is your family! You're flesh and blood!! It must be awful for you, but as you say, your kids aren't to blame, but I'm sure they sense the situation....Gerald you need some sort of happy, positive boost to your life, then that will give you some sort of hope....actually maybe you just need a big hug!! Sending one your way🤗💗
Feel your pain! This is exactly what narcissists do. My husband has been out for two birthday meals and one celebratory meal with MY family while not paying us maintenance for five whole months!! He left hus wife and his 11 year old in his room while wining and dining my father and sister. Weird right?! It's f**** deliberate. It's cruel and wrong and it's so twisted. They know what they're doing. It's deliberate isolation tactics. Making you feel like you are the outsider?!?! Its your kids!! Theyre to be shared not taken by her.
I could cry for you and me. This is not what we deserve. You don't deserve all this. You're a lovely guy and should only be treated with love and respect and admiration. She is evil. I will help you to get out of your situation when I get out of mine. It can't be forever! Things have and need to change!! Nicola
Thanks Nicola, have you spoken to him about this, probably it may be tough as you guys can get into an argument, if he's anything like my wife you can't talk, he will just dismiss you, hopefully not
Coach Corey Wayne on TH-cam is great for understanding woman's psychology and relationships, many of his older videos might be better. Good for any new future possible relationships if it's past repairing current circumstances or just in general is interesting to learn about relationships and woman.
Most woman want a man strong and centered in himself, confident, peaceful, certain, seeing him passionate in something, driven achieving his goals, to be in his masculine core providing a stable household making her feel safe, heard and understood. Then the big turn offs to woman are using your girl as your personal therapist, not dating her after marriage or relationship, needy or desperate behavior becoming more of a woman than she is disrupting the polarity of feminine and masculine energy driving her to resent him and lose interest. More to it just going off memory
you could earn 79 quid for a 5 and 3 quarter shift stacking shelves/its over before you know it x
@@ruporter9834 when you have not worked for 35 years no employer will give you a job. Those jobs you mention have to be applied for online with an assessment. He has no workplace skills and set in his mindset due to not being in the workplace which changed totally in the past twenty five years.
I made it to the end. Your story, though a bit sad and depressing was compelling and interesting. I will continue to watch and I wish you well. 🤞🏽🙏🏾
Thanks for making it to the end
Gerald, I love how honest and raw you are. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I know you will be able to make this TH-cam work as a job. If you do patron I will sub to it, anything to help you out. After you explained about your wife getting half of your property that YOUR parents set you up with made me sad! So, yes write a book, start a patron, I know a lot of people are going to help you ❤❤❤❤❤❤.
I am the same age as you so I know how scary it can be ❤❤❤
You can turn on the thank you button if you need money and someone may help.
I will give you a little in five days.
I think I maybe the female version of you!..I also have mental health issues and have no pension as I can’t work either,insomnia anxiety and depression have kicked my ass,no advice or I wouldn’t be stuck too, but just wanted you to know your not alone,and I watched to the end lol 👍🏻
Wow Ive had a few ppl watch to the end, sorry that you have similar problems, but don't you have a pension, if you claimed benefits that should mean you have some form of state pension they pay your stamps or whatever, cause I avoided benefits cause I felt it was wrong then the gov didn't pay into my pension, this is what I believe anyway is going to happen to me.I was going to say that men maybe are more likely to accept your mental health condition but retracted that thought, ppl find it hard to take our mental health ways, you or I are not dependable, negative many times, nobody wants to be around that, I hear you loud and clear my friend, do ppl ever tell you to pull your socks up? I get that as well, they are well meaning for sure, its very hard to do that though when you don't have any hands so to speak.
One thing i have learned in life there is always two sides to a story . But in the meantime make a plan ❤
Stay strong my friend ,something great and new will happen to you,the night is at darkest before dawn. be your true self and you will see soon a lot of great opportunitys knock on your door.POMISE
You have a wife and family. Stop complaining and be thankful.
Hello Gerald and doggies , it must be hard going through what you are and not feeling included within your own family group.
I myself I'm a single man (50's( living on my own in Kent whilst my 2 young children live in Norwich, I have my youngest Son louie for school holidays, 4 weeks from this Saturday, boy do I miss him.
If your wife is not willing to be positive in your relationship then try find some things to do with your children, a football , kick around, a kite , colouring books , use some loo roll cardboard to make some characters, relationships are not as important as your kids happiness is whilst they are in your company.
The worst thing that I fear is not greeting my kids after they come back from school and hugging them and saying I love you, and then only seeing them once a week or f their mum takes them to China or on holidays who knows, I will feel so lost, I know its not very manly but I love them a lot and this is my weakness or one of them
@gerofiore9695 I myself have cried many many times handing my Son back knowing it will be 8 weeks plus until next half term.
You are not alone my friend, I have been 7 years single now , and tbh I do not wish to go through the heartache of another breakup again.
My fun time with louie starts very soon , cannot wait to laugh together again..
Big hugs Gerald.
@@smithy5271 I think the ppl who do this men or women are evil fullstop. I hope you have a great summer with your son
Just began watching, you need to move out
Gerald just to say beauty is the eye of the beholder and GOD/UNIVERSE live in you don't forget. Love to you❤️🙏🏴🇬🇧
I've watched this video up until now.
@@KAREN-rx9pq Thankyou it is rather long
I love these car chats.. you sound like me when I’m on the phone chatting to family or friends. We talk about everything and everyone. I do find as I get older I find it easier and more enjoyable to chat to people who see things as I do.. if someone starts to get a bit extreme or high and mighty I politely stop engaging with them.
Looks like you've got PTSD. You're in a frozen state. You can talk for hours but you can't take action. You must do 1 thing every day. Forget about rambling on about art. Just get real, go see a lawyer for one consult, then get some relationship counselling. You're all over the place & now this channel has become a new distraction & possibly a tool of self sabotage to prevent you from prioritising..
1. A solicitor
2. A relationship counsellor.
I suggest you read or watch books written by Rhonda Byren. She wrote The Secret and many amazing books. Also i found that finding ways to increase my income really boost my happiness. Relationship is important, but we have no control over other people. But we can control some areas in our life. I hope it helps
I remember watching your first video. I found you interesting and knew one day you would have more people listening. Best wishes always 😊
Thankyou Tanya
How about buy you a coffee option that people can buy you a coffee? People send you money. Don’t give up
Oh Thanks I have to look int that too, there is one called Kofi as well
Thats a great idea👍 lets get all together and see what can happen,thank you Red
@@johnnymouse886 awe 🥰💕
Gerald my dear man become a conscious creator I'm a true believer in our sub-cons minds being fed negative/positive info.Im sure you know this JUST SPEAK TO YOURSELF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS/MEDITATION IT WORKS. IT doesn't have to be the way you're projecting it. The universe is a huge mirror I'm sure deep down you truly know this. I'm one of those women who does empathise with men and women. From my experience it's all within you/us as humans. Nothing on the outside will help. Also have the attitude of NOT caring about anything/anyone as if you're not fazed by life, that's the state you want to aim for. Sending blessings and love to you all.❤️🙏🏴🇬🇧
Hmmm ... Interesting let me start tose affirmations today!!
I'm 43, divorced and have no kids. I'll never commit that mistake again, my solitude life is being 100% better, my own company is the best "place" in this world.
Hope you sort your situation mate.
Sorry for your divorce mate, its easier if there are no babies involved, my babies I just pray she doesn't change and restrict them from me.Its great to hear you are doing better and moved on in your ife
Great to hear but for me I needed a woman in my life and by the grace of God found a great, loyal, loving woman Whatever works for you
Life will get easier and happier for you...I understand you not going to the garden whilst they were having a pinic...I wouldn't push myself into someone else's activity without being invited I'd feel awkward...I like to feel welcome with an invite!...perhaps sometimes things can be deliberately done to upset you as your showing how sensitive you are...I would rise above it all...even if you don't feel like it and put a smile on and go round singing and whistling .... you might just get the break you need....😅
Its good that you are honest with yourself, owning up to your share of the problems. In a similar situation including the victim comment. Not saying it would work for you but for me, moving out has been the best thing, taking control has given me purpose.
Why don’t you invite them all to do something with you?
The kids may come but she wont
@@gerofiore9695that would be great to spend time with your kids alone. Maybe wifey will enjoy some alone time.
Hi watched the whole video. Yes you're a nice warm hearted guy. I'm 40 but have to consider that i'm getting older etc. You're right so much comes down to money. I had over 100k spent it on women and gambling almost impossible to get it back but yes aslong as you have health it could be worse.
Its horrible how we dont realise how much we spend, I kind of spent I the same way, women, 1 woman and gambling, I gambled on a business and failed and lost £70k
I watched till the end. Been praying for you to know the Lord too 🙏 😊
Thankyou Janet, I did pray yesterday and asked Jesus to help me out, maybe I should pray for longer and stay in silence more
very sad. feels like you are betraying your family for views. your depression has turned you into someone your family doesn't know how to reach. only you can pull yourself out of this. try putting their feelings first and doing things you know they would like and to show caring. also trying doing charity work in your free time. focusing on altruism is the way out of the hole you are in. eating fiber and plants is good for the body mind also. your kids will see these videos someday if you leave them up. their friends will see them. all the kids in their glasses will see them. focus on the feeling of others to feel better yourself.
When I separated from my ex wife 12 years ago I was numb. I never really got over it ,however, I'm at peace with myself. I don't suffer any more lies, munipulation or disrespecting. I never went looking for another relationship. At 61 with two failed marriages it's time to live life differently.
WOWWW hang on a minute. Be assured that girls ALWAYS ALWAYS NEED/LOVE their daddies. Men are always expected to carry the burden, but it’s not yours to carry alone. Self care is essential. TAKE time for you and know you are wanted.
So many men go through this... I dont know what it is but I think we all experience these existencial questions... I am dealing with my first one at 35. I think for women we experience it earlier.. Its like you dont know what to do. I used to do everything and know everything, but as I grow older my body changes, energy levels, and desire for many things has faded... I hope watching these channels helps me understand more of my own issues and trying to find healthier coping mechanisms, however I see there really isn't much entertainment after 30s
Dont give up on carnivore,or go alittle slower.im on day 9 ,i eat occasionally eat french stick.living in france i should be happy,im 50 same sort of situation but without children..ptsd can be overcome..i hope it becomes easier for you
All of my relatives especially my mother have treated something like your wife treats you.
Its different but very similar in some ways.
I just started learning late in life, late forties that ice been very neglected and abused my whole life by all of them and they've always been very psychopathic and narcissistic to me my whole life.
Its a long story.
God bless you and your family.
You need your own life, your own hobbies, something that the is yours and not your wife's (this channel is a great start!). Make a success of whatever it is. That might win her back and if it doesn't then get a divorce. Also, she is bound to see this video one day, you might want to consider deleting it. And free yourself from those antidepressants. 30 years is long enough.
I think I do need a divorce even though I dont want to, why? Cause she wants me to give her money or buy a house in HER name, lets say I give her 60 or 70%, and Im left with 80K then one day she can THEN ask for a divorce and take half my stuff that I have.left over
Sounds like a lot of her behaviors and attitudes might be cultural. At least in part. If you had money again her whole attitude might change but it wouldn't be real.
This is a little confusing for me what you want is there but, your not a family anymore however the nice gesture would be for you to be i invited to take part. If she asked how would you react maybe is what she is thinking. I do get the picnic family side of things as a family man. I feel like you feel lonely which does come with summertime in my opinion it makes me feel like I'm with mum and dad riding in the park as a family when myself and sibblings were younger but it never comes back that feeling hope that makes sense.
I stayed until the end of the video.❤
Wow, a real Champion!!! Thankyou You have a lot of patience
With all respect, can i ask why you have so many dogs? Expenses and such
Oh thats a very looooong story, quick summary, I didn't buy them, they came, 10 of them in a litter I got rid of or sold 1, gave 2 to the dogs trust and the rest I tried giving away or selling and one after they either were sick that day or barked the help out of the ppl that came, time passed they bonded to me and I to them, that's a very short summary
Makes sense. Have a great day!
Awww I love your dogs. Love German shepherds, I have a female German shepherd and would love another. Your are like teddy bears, beautiful x
You can do anything if you want to…see it through…take the challenge🤣Learn skills
Your wife is mean and she is teaching your own children to be cruel to you. Reminds me of Cinderella. She is abusing you. I don’t know the answers for you as I don’t have them for my own self. This life is hard. I am so sorry this is happening to you.
Unfortunately you are not an isolated case. But it takes a lot of courage as a man to talk openly about your problems. In today's society, men are seen by women only as resource suppliers and vicarious agents. As a thank you, they are not respected by their children and despised by their own wife. And when the ATM is empty, the locusts move on. This is the reality in which most men unfortunately only wake up when it is already too late. Keep your head up and good luck from bavaria!!!
Thankyou
Anything you do should be from the heart. Then the rest would follow🤷♀️
Many people in this world, the same situation If they have big house, they live the same but some people have small house they have to live together together
Separation anxiety is a red flag for BPD. Are you "treading on eggshells?" Time for you to initiate time with your kids. You're the parent and no excuses. As for the blame game; what's the point. Just time to move on and reclaim your life. Wishing you well brother
I may be wrong but i think I was saying that Betty my dog has separation anxiety, she needs be the around me, but come to think of it BPD is what my wife may have she blows up, is very abrupt, gives the silent treatment and scowl
@@gerofiore9695 oh, sorry if I misunderstood.No disrespect but it just seems a pretty disfunctional marriage, by anybody's standards. Self worth robbing drain on your soul. I don't think you can make much progress when you are stuck in that home environment but I understand how challenging that is for you currently. I think swapping your car for a campervan might give you the independence you need. Don't need to move out completely, but you will engineer your own liberty and control here. You dont have to wait for the field for a caravan, just park up anywhere. I lived in mine on and off in Sweden, it's fantastic. Car living doesn't come close. Food for thought. Cheers pal
Hi mate, you're entitled to something when you retire, they can't leave you with nothing.
They might want to look into your bank account to see if you're struggling.
Phone citizens advise.
Social anxiety is so isloating...in such a similar situation...
Your dogs are Gorgeous!!!♥️ I’m a new subscriber.😊
Medaction anti depressiens can be addictive
Both of u are unwell
U are a nise man..Dont punish yourself
my grandaughter has Lupus she’s 8, she was tested positive for Lyme twice and her immune went into overdrive. I lost my dad after he had his 5 th covid Vax he’d not had vax in his life his mother didn’t believe in it! he was a very healthy man never even got colds, my son was killed age 39; because of a police mistake of which i’ve taken them to judicial review, I do get a lot of your feelings i really do! did you move to the west ?
Wow, Gerald. No one knows you here & everyone has an "opinion". Food for thought, it appears you can agree no one is to blame. A relationship of zero laughter, intimacy, poor at best communication seems futile. Who wouldn't get sick & depressed living in a relationship as yours, depression & loneliness can lead to illness. By what you say she appears so very cold but all suffer and a kind, compassionate offer in a calm manner to talk might help you both to honor one another & decide as a team what's the best healthy way to move forward. Have you shared all you share here about your concerns with her? She just beats you down it seems; maybe it's her only way she expresses her pain. We all have fears and struggles explaining what is the real issues. Perhaps you both can agree to move on and stop this madness. Why do you both stay together? Living like this would depress most. A fun, laughter, supportive, intimacy relationship can help anyone's health. Again, perhaps the 2 of you could go away for a day, make a picnic for the 2 of you and talk this out. It appears you are wasting one another's time. Children are resilient and even they could be happier and you both can share them separately. For me, I could never live with someone who does not show me they love me and me love them. We are a solid team together. We have a loving communication and supportive. We all have to make a plan and work our plan. What's first? Whose on first and whose on second? Is it find work first to prepare to live?
Remember Gerald, it's the DIRT that is valuable. Over here they bulldoze homes if not fabulous, and it's the DIRT AND PROPERTY THATS where the real money is to a buyer. Even if the house isn't worth much, they want the DIRT, or location, or acredge. Please don't fire and aim under pressure. Kids feel the uncomfortable vibes between you both. You can both carry the weight it's certainly not all you & please do not allow anyone put this monkey on your back. That is not fair in the least to you. Please don't allow her to pull this guilt trip. I met a plumber working on my place and he is buying a trailer and putting it on land he is buying. I am a gardener so it's hard work and can be expensive, very doable, cuttings, make your own fertilizer, bugs eradication with NEEM oil, weeding, and H2O or all dies and all that work. It's called social security and the less one works in the USA the less they get and frankly for all we put into the system it's not enough to pay bills at all, it's chump change and throw in high high inflation! The dollar is worth nothing now. We cannot count on the come, illness comes out of the blue, things always break down, some greedy witch takes all your future from greed, it's always something.
Cannot rely on TH-cam - aging out, they could close up, change formats in a heart beat - THE CALVARY IS NOT SHOWING UP!!
You love your Wife and kids
Your dogs are lovely
No body grasps what ptsd can do when you are given meds for it they are worse and can change you.i do not recognise myself,mentle emotional rollacoaster.try stick to a carnivore way of eating like i am.You are speaking truthfully,if you feel better like me maybe the relationship might get better,
Im part of a family but i don't live with them. I'm so alone gerald like you. X
I'm a champion...lol....you touched on so many subjects I have strong opinions on, including all this ridiculous wokery of our times.
Have you thought of setting up a gofundme page?
Being self sufficient is an exellent idea in the times we are living in....are you "aware".
Btw just for the record, if it helps, stop running yourself down. You're a very decent looking guy with a mischevious grin and a big heart. There's ladies out there that would bite your hand off at the elbow.
Sorry to hear about your dad. I know people similar things have happened to....
Can you put up an email address so that your fans can get in touch instead of just leaving messages on here?
Proverbs 18:21
Wow, you are one of THEM = a Champion as well! Interesting Proverb quote. Wokery, yh hehe. Aware? Oh its on the Channel tab on MORE then click it and it shows the person's email, I'll give it here but I get thousands of emails, I may have to get a paid one when I have money so I don't get lots of spam and endless emails, Calogerofiore@yahoo.com, I don't show it usually cause Ive got some hater send me bad stuff
@gerofiore9695 thanks Gerald, look out for mail I've just sent you 😊
Gerald,
Please try Roy Masters Seven Minute Meditation. It changes your outlook and brings you into a relaxed and objective state. It's as easy as falling off a log.
Try smiling more even if you feel down and try going out with friends . Take the family out to a cinema etc. Stop thinking and do more activities.
Good content Geezer 👍👍👍
How can you plan on buying land when you have never worked ? How is it possible ? I been working forever and cant afford a house :(
Hi Gerald.new to ur vlogs.love seeing ur beautiful dogs,and because the weather was beautiful today,how do u manage to keep them cool?God bless keep safexx
They stay indoors where its cool, also they have water to drink
i fast forwarded because i got bored of hearing about the picnic but 15 minutes in dude is still talking about not being invited to that picnic.
I just started watching....I did not understand the answer when Gerald asked, "How was the picnic", what was her reply?
Better days ahead, Gerald.
Thankyou Debbie
Be thankful u can walk
Exercise is important and will take your mind of problems..You are overloaded and need to clear your mind
The dogs need walked ..Your daughter can help.
Sending a hug 🫂 x
Passing flowers smell is a sign of loved ones in spirit, just letting you know your being guided, even tho it may seem hard, guidance and love is with you
Tha IS WEIRD,I did think this at the time, I got this smell in the house when there was no wind, no flowers just a smell of like perfume suddenly, its sooo weird.
@@gerofiore9695 yeah just people on the other side who love you, showing you that they are leading the way , and that it’s all ok
@@shauntaylor-lovelightfamily Ive had some very strange experiences I made 2 videos and will upload soon, one has to do with a colour and the other to do with numbers, I wont tell you exactly but if you watch the videos you'll see what happened.
@@gerofiore9695 oh I’ll definitely look out for them, esoteric paranormal, spiritual stuff, oh that’s my thing there, I always make sure to check your latest stuff, I discovered some older stuff by you, gonna watch it, the German shepherd having babies is right up my street too, amazing are German shepherd, beautiful unique personalities.
Actually that would be interesting to do. Buy a plot of land and do youtube videos of how to survive with little money after a divorce. It will be like a youtube diary of your daily struggles.
I think that may be the case, thanks
Just walk out and join,! barge in your the master of the house.
I feel you dude I haven’t left the house in days it’s hard
I feel your pain Gerald. Good you have started the carnivore diet as you are at least experimenting in life. I think making these videos are helpful for you and hopefully you'll arrive at some conclusions. Ultimately though you cant stay in this passive state. Youre processing what's been going on and i get that but soon you are going to have to decide what you are going to do differently to get different results.
Regarding your marriage- from a woman's perspective i would hazard a guess that you have let your wife down in the past and she cant forgive you and she just stays with you for practical reasons now. Perhaps while you were depressed she shouldered alot of responsibilities with the kids and the overall mental load of raising the family and running the house. She probably wanted you to be more of a leader of the family and be working and providing which makes a woman feel safe. If she didn't feel that safety with you it would have been hard for the intimate side of the relationship to work.
I think your relationship is over to be honest unless you feel you want to make another attempt at being that man she can rely on etc. it would require a lot of effort and you'd have to really want it which I'm not sure you do and she still might not want to rekindle things.
The main thing is you need to move out of this passive state. What actions do YOU need to take to change things? I think in the picnic scenario you should have gone and joined in. You said that in the past that you didn't join in with some of the family activities so you've set that precedent and it was the norm for your wife and kids. Why should your wife come and find you when you were not there in the past? Its up to you to take the intiative and i get that its hard as your wife is hostile but remember you are a role model to your kids and you want to role model being proactive in situations.
Let the dogs out the damn car man! They probably feel as trapped by your self implosion as your family.
Women will never apologise for their behaviour, it is just their nature, no need to be sensitive, so many men go through this experience, take the dogs for a long walk it will make you feel so much better, even if you are tired, I only sleep a maximum of three and a half hours each night, years ago I would sleep 7/8 hours, you change and adapt
Bravo for saying the first phrase. About time men realised women don't really care about men unless they're getting something
I thought it was just my wife, she never says sorry, Im the one always saying sorry I made a mistake
I always say sorry if I do something wrong and so do a lot of women. It’s true that there are women out there that are takers and users, but there are also men out there that do this also. Let’s take away the gender issue and realise that we are all people and that some people are well balanced and kind and others are disruptive, mean and thrive on chaos.
Gerry its true half off this team we call relationships the allowness too be open about things n share emotions is a bit one sided and i see why you are pointing out that your thouggts n life n feelings should be registered equal too everybody elses and i noticed that often the idea off a man is like we made off stone and thats how it should be or something like we havnt got a heart also 😂...cheers
Some called me Gerry at school, but now its Gerald, but you can call me Gerry if you like. My wife seems to think men should be tough and have almost no feelings, she gets this from her own Dad, in my family we always hugged, we had totally different upbringings.
@@gerofiore9695 Yh it's strange coz men are tough lol...any physical confrentation or say you need too lift a heavy object or kick a wall down that's us we gonna handle it but too say showing the same type feelings as your equivalent then why are they being that way if they belive is weak its like calling yourself weak by that belief...food for thought Gerald cheers
@@gerofiore9695 Think it's the barbie n Ken paradox or the idea off vikings yes men can turn awfully viking but don't really wish too untill necessary that's what the energy there for so we can go nuts n protect when needed but it's not a constant...its a source can tap in n handle any physical job as n when...just thoughts cheers
If people don't invite you maybe it's because of you not them...
Oh you are so nice ain’t you 🙄
Is that from experience..
Maybe it is though and there’s no shame in realising that and making adjustments. Sometimes it is us that are hindering ourselves.
At least use your name if you are insulting someone