I can't believe the sensation of butterflies is a stress as I had this fluttering feeling as I was breastfeeding my child. The mist heavenly feeling. My last relationship/situationship really seemed to heighten after our first hug. My heart had this wonderful "heart-swelling" feeling that lasted well into the next day. That had never happened to me before..❤🙏
My wife wanted a divorce after 40 years. She said she loved me but wasn't ".in love " with me. I told her "in love was an immature type of love that gets you past the first few uncomfortable years it is love that gets you to the end.
@@Green2Lean I did let myself go but she did also because at one point she weighed almost 400 lbs.she lost 99 percent of the weight. I stuck with her and never felt anything but love for her so that was what made it particularly hard. I guess I thought of myself having a “ bank account” and my goodness toward her was being ignored, if that makes any sense.
True, that's probably why I think of myself as Asexual. I have ran every Version of myself through the mill, and imagined shrugging shoulders and saying oh well to each version.
OMG.. this video literally healed me in 25.11 minutes from the suffering for weeks after a break-up. I actually ended up laughing. So eye opening... Thank You Teal!!!
I was literally just explaining this to someone and how now my pull to people isn't intense passion it's when they bring calmness and a feeling of utter safety x
Biggest lesson to understand is that “attraction cannot be negotiated”. Call it chemistry, vibe, energy whatever you want just know that that for two people to connect you need both love and logic for a healthy and strong relationship to work.
Amen I agree. Schools are by design, there to indoctrinate boys to be feminised / passive & girls to be masculine / non maternal. And to indoctrinate them both to be a worker that keeps their mouth shut & conforms.
The statement that Teal makes about finding the right person and it feeling like you’re coming home is exactly how I felt the first time my husband hugged me. Those are the exact words I would’ve chosen. And he was the perfect partner for me in every way. Unfortunately, because of past abuse I wasn’t able to believe that I could deserve to be happy and I basically threw it all away. I think this is a very profound video and I so wish that someone would’ve taught me this when I was young. This should be taught in schools. Thank you, Teal! Bless you. 💕
I wish too, I sabotaged my 9 years relationship coz I took him for granted and didn't know my abandonment and trauma problems within me from my past. I hope he is getting love he deserves. I didn't know what's wrong with my emotional and mental state and just last year after someone else dumped me I started getting to the bottom of my problems. I wanted to commit suicide. I didn't want to live with so much shame and guilt and I'm 46. I got massively heartbroken again which affected my overal health. I never thought it's possible but it is and I'm gratefull for people like Teal who simply explains where we screwed up and to make a better choices in the future😁
@@andziagreen4922 Wow, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t think anything is worse than hurting the person you love the most and not realizing it until it’s too late to do anything about it. I think we need to give ourselves some credit though for having survived the trauma in the first place and then being willing to do something about it. I wanted to end my life after my husband died, but I have an older sister that needs my help and I would never do that to her. I’m trying to learn to be kind to myself, but it’s difficult. But we need to! That’s so sweet of you to be glad that your loved one will find the love he deserves. I find myself wishing that about my late husband. I wish that he could’ve found a woman earlier in life who would’ve loved him and given him the children he wanted, but as my sister always reminds me, he wouldn’t have wanted that. He would’ve chosen me. I know that’s true, but it still hurts like the devil. Why is it always so much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves? Thanks for sharing. Even though I’m sorry for your situation it kind of makes me feel a little better than I’m not the only person who’s done this. And you and I can’t be the only ones! I keep telling myself I didn’t do it on purpose. Of course I didn’t. And you didn’t either. Adults sure don’t understand how much they can mess up children, can they? I hope you find the healing you deserve and I also hope that happiness lies in your future. And mine! I think we deserve it, too. Thanks again so much for sharing. Take care of your special self! 💕🙏🦋
I totally agree that when I was younger, I was attracted to people and I’d be like “he must be the one”! So silly, but I’m such a hopeless romantic and idealist. Lol.
As a child I was attracted to tall people, I eventually became taller than over 90% of the Dutch population (one of the countries with highest average of tall people). After that I became attract to people who were around the same height, but with more muscle, I eventually build more muscle even though I didn't change any lifestyle habit in order to make this happening. The universe is desperately trying to tell me that I am what I need. I am that strong man who can make myself feel safe, secure and protected. I also have huge feminine energy: I am an emotion/intuition oriented person, I am gentle-hearted, I like to care, feed, heal others. I just need to own my role as the gentle giant in order to find harmony within myself. I am basically Hagrid in human form, and the Hulk who needs to accept his emotions in order to become whole again 💝
this is the sweetest message on the whole internet ♥ I hope you get treated nicely, my boyfriend would describe himself pretty similar and i fell in love with him out of friendship ☺️
You are off the charts brilliant. I learned about this 32yrs ago from the book Embracing Each Other--made sense to me. I've become pretty good at explaining it to myself when needed and others, but you take it to a whole new level--as you do with most of the information you share. Love it. No better way to learn about your repressed self than in a mutually growing relationship--if you can handle it.
@Hardy Harhar its awesome! Last week i got myself a nice present and yesterday i went out for a lovely sunset stroll 😍. I never yell at myself and i even do the dishes! A few days ago i caught myself making a wonderfull dinner for myself. With all the jokes aside, you really should love yourself first. It is your life and your life alone. Be nice for yourself and love yourself to the fullest. Others will notice that love and you will attract love by doing so. Have a great day and i wish you much love. Peace
Ived been single most of my life I gave myself the chance to b in a r a few yrs bck, it did not wrk the way I “expect” for it to end up, but I appreciate that experience I’m still single bck to what I have been familiar my whole existence.
@@anicyb She hasn't said anything new or insightful. Attraction psychology tears this video to shreds. Don't be such a idol worshipper. Healing for example and wholeness doesn't mean anything. Integration does mean something. Too many people fall for this flowery language. Psychoeducation( e.g. family systems and attachment theory), emotional grieving and mindfulness will give you more than this video.
Feeling a sense of relief, exhale and relaxation around someone is exactly how I described my ideal partner! A side of desire too please! Thanks Teal! You’re so helpful and uplifting xoxo
I went on a date the other night and didn’t have very high expectations. I ended up feeling just how you described. Like I could exhale and totally relax. I felt safe, wanted and completely in flow with this guy. I’m not touchy feely at all but found it hard to stay away from him. We laughed until we cried and hugged for hours. I’m open to the very likely possibility of this not turning into a relationship and I’m ok with that, I just want to get to have at least a few amazing experiences with him so that it doesn’t feel too short lived. Wish me luck 😋
@@dopehat868I'm sooo wishing you luck and also happy for you! I'd be exhilarated to see a positive outcome message from you! Love seeing good love stories in TH-cam comments section hahaha
You're the only person on this planet that makes me feel all my life decisions are wrong. I watch your videos and keep questioning my own miserable existence and I can't help but notice that everything you say is very deeply built within myself, I just haven't had the words to express it on my own. This shows that we are so much more than flesh and bone, and even our own soul...because there is a lot of versions of ourselves that we are unaware of...the way our own mother perceives us, the way our best friend sees us, or even our own partner/spouse sees us...it's not that simple...it's easy to lose ourselves just by interacting with other people. Only when we are foced to look deep within our soul is exactly what we are supposed to find and expect from life...it's just not that obvious within our own mortal coil, and some of us, unfortunately, only find the sense of it through death. Life is a journey...we must be careful not to ruin it with our own expectations, or expectations of others. Sorry for bad english...not my native language. Cheers, you are all beautiful, and I...I am a little bit drunk writing this XD
@@paulwoodhouse4757 it's not Teal's material. She constructs her material by using other ppls material and her followers'. She basically plagerizes it but it's hard to tell because she puts her twist on it. I am following her for some yrs now and that is what I have discovered.
This video came at a perfect time, as I was just thinking about my history with romantic relationships, the lessons I've learned and if or when I embark on another relationship, would I revert to my past patterns? I realized listening to this that as an empath I intuitively have great love for people I connect with and I see the good in them. I also realized having grown up in an abusive family I really never understood what love felt like, so I easily confused my innate love of others with being in love. I also realized that the reason all of my relationships have been with narcissists were because 1.) they reflected to me that lost yearning for love that lived deep inside of me and was denied, 2.) my innate love for others activated that part of them so while they fed off of my love energy, they were able to reflect a semblance of love energy back to me allowing me to 3.) project the fairy tale fantasy of my inner desires onto the relationship. For me, this video is deeply powerful and I'm grateful for your message Teal. I always learn so much from you. I'm still processing all I learned from this video about myself and what it means to me but I wanted to share with you the immediate insights you brought into my awareness at a perfect time. Thank you and much love!
Thank you for bringing so much detail of returning to the unknown self remembering and yearning for the loving trusting one inside that has been brutalized. Thank you for committing so deeply. Your voice codes are working!
Well thank you for this comment. My life is just the same and I've been spinning around in the same circle for years. This comment kind of says in couple of sentences something I'm stuggling to sumarize in my head for years. Or maybe since I am born, it all started at the very beggining right? Thank youu thank you
Wow! I relate to you about 1) empath’s way of universal loving 2) childhood trauma creating confusion about love 3) attracting narcissists. Now I’m just wondering how I apply what I’ve learned here to change!
22:08 "We have been conditioned to believe that if we are a genuinely good person, we should be able to have a 'feel good' relationship with anyone and everyone regardless of what role they are playing in our lives. But this is completely false. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference, that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously." You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.
This was a hard truth I had to face! I thought I could create a relationship with my ex partner that would magically become compatible. I now realise how hard I was on him for simply enjoying a different way of being
Great video. I like how you broke down the different areas of human attraction, appreciation, and love. You took it down to bite size pieces so that a person could see how the dynamic starts and moves forward in an intimate relationship whether that intimate relationship starts off emotionally, psychologically, or physically. Thank you for that Teal. ❤️❤️❤️
I believe that the main reason people cheat is from living a lie, living more who they should be because of being taught to sacrifice what they really want in life in general, the life that makes them feel alive, for the one that they should live. As Teal said, we follow attraction because it's the one thing left that gets through the drudgery of living and reminds us what feeling good feels like. Note to all, no matter what you "must" do, create a life around it that you love. And want the same for anyone you care about.
This is amazing. It helps me get over my crush a little. She has everything that I ever wanted in my live. So I thought she was the perfect woman for me. Turns out the things I see in her are the things I lack in my self. Even though we never got into a relationship, I changed so many things about myself and made major life decisions (for the better), because I felt like a failure next to her. I do wonder if I should tell her this someday. Maybe it'll help her someday knowing that she's a role model for someone. And of course i'm secretly hoping she likes me too and we do get in a relationship. :) But I highly doubt that since she's not showing any signs of attraction towards me.
That’s the beauty of being in love! It makes you become a better self, it gives you wings to fly. The problem is that most often you come crushing down to reality! The crushes are sometimes reciprocated! I think you should have told her asap! You might be surprised! I wouldn’t be surprised if she likes you too! Women can be misleading that way! I recognized myself a bit in your post and I admire your honesty!
The societal push and obsession towards finding "the one" or your "soul mate" (or even worse - "twine flame") is downright dangerous. It got me into trouble a handful of times. It causes people to overlook so much in attempt to have the one thing they've been brainwashed into thinking they NEED to complete their lives...
does that also mean we dont need children to complete our lives as well. people don't like that kind of talk. children are supposed to literally be completing their lives.
I needed this comment. I think soulmate means a person that is a catalyst to self love and spiritual awakening. Who freakin knows anything anymore. Its whatever it is bahahha
13:13 Mind Blown 🔥...I’m sharing this with my 24 year old daughter who I gave up for adoption when I was a teenager and is now dealing with insecure hurt feelings because of it . I’m praying that my actions doesn’t affect her relationships 🙏 thank you
I am so happy you described how it is supposed to feel like. I thought I wanted that excited feeling during this lifetime. I found that it feels right when you have this sea of instant calm. Like looking upon a completely still body of water. And time stops just for a little bit. And the whole world falls away in these deep intimate moments. I came to the conclusion this last year actually, that the electric feeling is probably some kind of sign of incompatibility. I like the idea also being shown with someone I respect and view as knowledgeable and balanced, and well versed in wisdom and experience.
23:25 True, we project what we want to see in a person, instead of seeing them for how they truly are. When we finally see reality, we are disappointed and end the relationship, sometimes blaming the other person which is in no way, at fault.
@@marazampariolo3200 a lot of people will lie to get what they want from you. not sure why people are expected to take the blame if they did something while being lied to. some see it as excuses and justification. remember, your abuser wants you to be accountable for the way they treat you.
If I could do it over I'd go to UK in 2008 and start over there. I'd been happy to do a school there and wouldn't have been preset by society. I'd grown up in peace and not in hurt
Me too, I think it's best to stay single, it's probably better to be attracted to oneself, at least that way one can look after themselves with respect🙏love to all, and all to love🙏
*Polarity between energies is a prerequisite for attraction to be genuine.* And as Teal mentioned, there are levels to it. Attraction fluctuates depended on whether the polarity is disturbed or maintained.
Single for 4 years and for some reason i dont even feel attraction for anyone. Its like my feelings are numb yet something inside of me is craving for something....have no idea of what
This helped me so much. It's obviously early yet in the journey but this helped me find closure with the end of a relationship that never got off the ground because there was so much conflict despite the mutual attraction. I finally feel like I don't *need* the other person for those qualities I love--I am drawn to them because I have suppressed them in myself, and in that case, can simply BE those qualities than rely on them in someone else.
@@5000NATE Well, in my eyes, there's a lot of things wrong with it. There's is no proof of any gods. And faith is believing in something for which there is no proof. That is not a good combo, nor principle to live by.
These videos in depth about attraction/desire/attachment are so useful, thank you for making them and please continue to make more to help us understand our feelings/emotions. xx
So basically all the things I reject and am very annoyed by in a relationship with someone I had a massive attraction are the things I need to accept in myself... Super
@@marazampariolo3200 Well that is probably one of the things Teal mentioned. You don't ever do these things because you disown and suppress them in yourself
@@Eclecticgirl17 I agree with Mara. One thing my gf does which I have a problem with is say things without thinking about their impact on others. I love her but she says things which I would never say in a million years because I know how much hurt it can cause.
@@garethmorgan3665 You've disowned that part of you that says something without thinking it through. There was consequences for accidently hurting people in your childhood and so you had to suppress that part of you. It is still rejecting a part of you whether or not you think that part is acceptable.
Thank you so much Teal🙏 As I am an Indian, still my parents believe in arranged marriage and I too believe and your wisdom will help me through the journey of finding the person whom I could get along with.
I found myself pausing the video to reflect multiline times. I reached back to passed relationships and reflected with the concepts one at a time. I'm realizing that keeping a memory of ones past in an accessible way is hugely important for intigration.
This video just appeared at the exact time. Just have been on a dating-event on Thursday, gladly got a match and immediately wrote to her. And then, there is this new video from Teal xD
My god i love you!! I just discovered your channel and you're answering questions i was struggling with for years! Thank you so much you're such a gift❤️
Everything you are saying in this video I literally just realized a few days ago, without even watching it. :) Now I am watching and I really resonate with what you are saying. I realized that soulmates and twin flames are not what we tend to think they are. When we love ourselves, we don’t even need a soulmate, but we get them, though. :)
Teal Swan, you have such a way with words and helping others more simply understand the messages being conveyed. You are highly appreciated by countless individuals currently in different stages of their healing journeys, of this I am certain!
Wow thank you , this has really been an eye opener for me. I cried when you got to the part of the little girl father leaving, always thought I'd dealt with it but I'm totally what you described fiercely independent and can't stand neediness in men. I'm either with needy men or men that are non-commital .
Teal you are such an amazing soul. I have learnt so much from you. This video made me cry , I don't know why. You speak to my heart in a way few do. Thank you teal for all your videos. I love you 💛
I think I still believe that it’s “never too late to find yourself...” Your message is organized, well stated, to the point, and I get it. Yet I, like MOST of Americans, come from broken families where NO parent EVER prepared me for anything, except subconsciously finding my “comfort zone” in more of the same. So after a gazillion years of trying to “make it work,” it’s very scary to think of anything different (including just being alone until my 2 halves are copacetic) bc I truly don’t know HOW to BE with anyone else, and I’ve also never been alone. It’s hard enough to get by financially with 2 ppl so I hit the wall of HUH? to even think of HOW to REALLY do it (rather than just endless fantasizing)... I fear I’ll end up living in a cardboard box in an alley somewhere. So I stay. Safe(er). Desperately unhappy. Just dreaming. So, now what? 💜
Hope you are well. I like listening to Abraham Hicks in addition to Teal and to others. The law of attraction is always at work. You start that wheel turning in your direction when you start appreciating small tiny things, anything, however small and obvious, such as the warmth of the sun, the clean air, the rather clean tap water, your own amazing body and its individual parts, your ability to express your emotions in such clear written form in perfect English, etc, etc. As you keep finding more things to be thankful for your own vibration rises and the world around you starts immediately changing as it adjusts to your new vibratory environment ...now the Universe says: "Oh you LIKE these things now??? Let me bring you more and more pretty things that you might like too 💕 💖 ♥." That is the universal Law of attraction at work all the time. Best wishes. Much love 💕 💖 ♥ ❤ 💜 💛. When you are ready, listen to Matias De Stefano too...it helps to know the larger scope of things to give us better perspective. ✌👍
On days that I feel down I could write exactly the same things you wrote...and as I indulge in those feelings I can (lately) literally feel the environment changing and things around me start just breaking! Uncanny! So now I deliberately take better charge of my emotions and life becomes peaceful again. Keep dreaming. Keep envisioning. Keep finding that FEELING of already having the things you want, and then one day soon they manifest - and they make you wonder where were all these pretty things before?? One vibration or 2 away - that's where they were. Love.
I've been looking deep into certain things with myself and feel that everything you've said relating to attraction vs love is spot on. Love your content, love your energy. Wish I had found your channel a long time ago, but perhaps this is the time I'm ready for it.
25 minutes video took me 125 minutes to understand and digest. stopped video rewinded after every sentence and watced again and again. knowledge is so concentrated. thanks for uploading this video. helped a lot.
"The universe has no interest in denying your needs and desires. What it does want is for those needs and desires to become concious." Wrap it up, guys. Real important... =)
Wow, fragmentation and the two sides of ourself we split into, and how the side that left us hurt and vulnerable is the one we suppress and deny was a HUUGGEEE aha moment for me. Now I know I can use attraction to work toward understanding, accepting and loving that side of me that I "locked away" as a kid. Thank you! Team Humanity!!!
Yes,I have learned to stop and remember to be greatful,even when my dog poops on the floor!! Cause it means I have my beloved dog,and a floor to clean!!!!
the way you told me about myself more than i knew myself is just unbelievable to me.. i guess in the end, there is still those basis all humans have, through which we understand each other
4-6 years bf I met my husband I attracted 2 of the worst narcissists around. I was really devastated and searched deep inside me. Thanks God my husband has nothing to do with such attitudes I feel blessed, I got experience and this is really important
I am so grateful for the algorithm gods…. Putting this on my feed “automatic play next”….. I couldn’t have used such info to consider, at a better time.
I love when you have a serious face and towards the end of a segment you end with a smile lol or when you randomly giggle it's so contagious it makes me wanna smile and laugh
Hi Teal. Great video again. If I may, I have one request. I have noticed you've never did a video on "living a life on autopilot" witch I think it's a very big global problem. I would like to hear your thoughts on the topic and maybe how to truly break autopilot in me (us). Thanks for many great teachings you share with us and i hope you'll do this topic in the near future.
Thank you, Teal. I really like some of the concepts you present here but at the same time I have to wonder - do you imply that a wholesome, healed person will never be attracted to anyone at all? Okay, I suppose while alive we will never be fully complete so the attraction will always be there, but does that mean there is no such thing as healthy attraction that just guides us to a truly compatible person instead of reconciling us with our suppressed parts?
humans are imperfect. it may mean that attraction isnt important. attraction fades. you need a life partner and or good good friends. not a useless string of people you're horny over. society is drenched in sex, it doesnt mean its supposed to be that way.
Attraction is going to be a part of your life. It will be there because it is caused by desire and fragmentation, which is a current reality of life on earth. Unlike love, but like desire, it is not a choice. It is simply important to know where that attraction is coming from and WHY it is there. From there, you can decide consciously what to do in response to it. If what you are wanting is overall wellbeing and happiness within the relationship, the choice of who to partner with must be a multi faceted choice and a conscious choice, not a compulsive one.
Wow - the second example of love sounded e x a c t l y like Johnny and AH. I mean ... exactly! Also love the distinction between Attraction and Love, I never viewed it that way and it actually blew my mind. And the overlay explanation was spot on, I felt that. 😅 Thank you, Teal! ♥
Hey I just discovered your channel today and I want to say thanks for the educational content. Ive never heard of constructive relationships be described in the way you explain them, and didnt even think such a thing existed. Thanks.
This was a conversation and talk I was just having yesterday lol - synchronicity and then some. It always boils down to self awareness. Yes attraction is not love and is self centred.
So well spoken Teal. After my last marriage which was so tumultuous, driving into a tree 70 miles an hours, I’ve totally become more conscious of all my mirror relationships. all my dating experiences I started to look within and this video helps to explain the mirror process much better. I’ve been able to walk away as opposed to tolerate. Now it’s time to heal within. Thank you for the guidance. Which video do you suggest on the healing process?
What you will learn from this video: "You have a lot very complex problems that spring forth as "Attractions"!! " , I think it's important for everyone to still understand that you are human and don't need to be perfect before you can Love or look for a partner, but what you can recognize and heal (which is what Teal teaches), can drastically broaden what you enjoy from life and what is is you really want from a life partner and ultimately , how happy you are with yours. All her teachings so far have gotten me to that conclusion and the work is very detailed and yet explained in such a way, it makes it easy to apply when you resist the urge to argue with whether it's a part that has drifted away or not. PS, Good choice of the red for the video :)
Throughout my life I have only been attracted to one person, it's the first time I have ever felt attraction and I met him at 21. Does this mean that I am a more well-balanced person? I was attracted to his appearance, work ethic, and social life. I have always cherished those traits in him. Beyond that, though we are extremely compatible, hold similar life values, goals, and love languages. He makes me feel almost excited to come home after work to see him or wake up at 6am just to make sure he has a balanced breakfast ready for him before work when I don't need to be up till 10am. I'm almost 24 now so we've been dating for a few years. I have always felt a very intense love for him and I feel that's what he needs the most.
Just make sure you don't prematurely give him wife-privileges until he's earned them, proved himself worthy of you, and demonstrated solid commitment to you by marriage.
@@Mockduck2020 Priviledges exclusive to marriage, priviledges that you don't just hand out during the dating phase until he's earned them & proven via a solid commitment to you as a husband, until after you're married. Don't assume the role nor give him the benefits of wife while he still considers you a girlfriend or a maybe.
I have both attraction and appreciation for my husband ☺️ we could be rich together OR we could hav very little, etc.. and I would still absolutely adore experiencing this life with him! Conscious love! I still really needed this video! Thank you Teal!
Wish I had seen this a few years ago but happy that I get to watch it today while understanding the reasoning and implications with the deepest layers of my being, existence, spirit and soul. Experience is the best education, and this here is a brilliant articulation of this experience.
Compatibility. No one is going to be perfect. As Teal stated, for relationships to work, they have to feel good to both people in the relationship. Icompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously. Incompatibility equals people with these non harmonious differences in roles or positions with each other that require there to be either no difference or that require a difference that is non harmonious in nature to be harmonious. When incompatibility is present in a relationship, it is only a matter of time before either one or both people in the relationship will feel shame for the way they are and for what they want and also feel totally unloved.
@@ichooseme4life "But what incompatibility is really about it is putting people with these non harmonious differences in roles or positions with each other that require there to be either no difference or that require a difference that is non harmonious in nature to be harmonious." I don't follow...can somebody parse/explain this sentence for me? 😅
@@danothebananovitch9678 she's basically saying incompatible relationships come from people with differences that don't work well togther uniting and forcing their non negotiable differences in positions to be negotiable or just deny the existence of those non negotiable differences. Hope it makes sense!
Whenever I'm down, I remind myself, Teal is watching over us, you'll see when she uploads a video. The video is almost always about what was happening in that week. We're all in this together guys💞
The best relationships are the ones in which neither has to work hard for basic decency.
Yes! Same goes for friends and family. No more 'bare minimum' people 😊
Amen lol.
Your comment deserves so many more likes. This took me decades to learn, and the truth of it resonates with me daily.
It's about comfort. When you are comfortable with someone the relationship will flourish. When you meet the right person it'll feel like coming home.
Yay! 333 likes because of teal swan in her self help work....lol
That coming home feeling is so important. "Butterflies" is a stress response.
I can't believe the sensation of butterflies is a stress as I had this fluttering feeling as I was breastfeeding my child.
The mist heavenly feeling.
My last relationship/situationship really seemed to heighten after our first hug. My heart had this wonderful "heart-swelling" feeling that lasted well into the next day.
That had never happened to me before..❤🙏
Obviously I am reading ahead of where I'm at in the video. ( What do you mean " Butterflies is a stress response"?
@@ZFern9390When someone has attachment issues they will say butterflies are a stress response because to them attachment is stressful half the time.
My wife wanted a divorce after 40 years. She said she loved me but wasn't ".in love " with me. I told her "in love was an immature type of love that gets you past the first few uncomfortable years it is love that gets you to the end.
@@Green2Lean I did let myself go but she did also because at one point she weighed almost 400 lbs.she lost 99 percent of the weight. I stuck with her and never felt anything but love for her so that was what made it particularly hard. I guess I thought of myself having a “ bank account” and my goodness toward her was being ignored, if that makes any sense.
It's so weird how most attraction disappears after we learn to accept and love ourselves and make peace with who we are :)
Absolutely
Yes I’ve been noticing this too! I was very surprised by it
It kind of sucks to be honest when you're already committed lol
@@happystar7777 👍😂🤣. but now you have to take the other person as a part of you - if it is possible
True, that's probably why I think of myself as Asexual. I have ran every Version of myself through the mill, and imagined shrugging shoulders and saying oh well to each version.
OMG.. this video literally healed me in 25.11 minutes from the suffering for weeks after a break-up. I actually ended up laughing. So eye opening... Thank You Teal!!!
@tech fx maybe don’t project your personal experience onto others and gaslight them that is very rude ✨
@@benwalker2633 smooth.
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Nehhh, I think maybe you're projecting & getting triggered.
Ppl such as yourself should allow other ppl to express themselves freely 💯
Amazing!
Now go get a cookie 😑
@tech fx that's like saying if you can open a locked door when someone hands you the key you never had, it was never really locked in the first place
I love how she giggles and smirks right before she states obvious facts.
I was literally just explaining this to someone and how now my pull to people isn't intense passion it's when they bring calmness and a feeling of utter safety x
I agree
Usually if you are extremely charmed by someone= red flag.
john miller may I ask why is that I’m genuinely curious
Same
I agree. Does not get me many friends unfortunately, but I know I will enjoy my time with the few that I have.
Biggest lesson to understand is that “attraction cannot be negotiated”. Call it chemistry, vibe, energy whatever you want just know that that for two people to connect you need both love and logic for a healthy and strong relationship to work.
They need to teach this in high-school. It's so important.
Amen I agree. Schools are by design, there to indoctrinate boys to be feminised / passive & girls to be masculine / non maternal. And to indoctrinate them both to be a worker that keeps their mouth shut & conforms.
The statement that Teal makes about finding the right person and it feeling like you’re coming home is exactly how I felt the first time my husband hugged me. Those are the exact words I would’ve chosen. And he was the perfect partner for me in every way. Unfortunately, because of past abuse I wasn’t able to believe that I could deserve to be happy and I basically threw it all away. I think this is a very profound video and I so wish that someone would’ve taught me this when I was young. This should be taught in schools. Thank you, Teal! Bless you. 💕
I wish too, I sabotaged my 9 years relationship coz I took him for granted and didn't know my abandonment and trauma problems within me from my past. I hope he is getting love he deserves. I didn't know what's wrong with my emotional and mental state and just last year after someone else dumped me I started getting to the bottom of my problems. I wanted to commit suicide. I didn't want to live with so much shame and guilt and I'm 46. I got massively heartbroken again which affected my overal health. I never thought it's possible but it is and I'm gratefull for people like Teal who simply explains where we screwed up and to make a better choices in the future😁
@@andziagreen4922 Wow, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t think anything is worse than hurting the person you love the most and not realizing it until it’s too late to do anything about it. I think we need to give ourselves some credit though for having survived the trauma in the first place and then being willing to do something about it. I wanted to end my life after my husband died, but I have an older sister that needs my help and I would never do that to her. I’m trying to learn to be kind to myself, but it’s difficult. But we need to! That’s so sweet of you to be glad that your loved one will find the love he deserves. I find myself wishing that about my late husband. I wish that he could’ve found a woman earlier in life who would’ve loved him and given him the children he wanted, but as my sister always reminds me, he wouldn’t have wanted that. He would’ve chosen me. I know that’s true, but it still hurts like the devil. Why is it always so much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves? Thanks for sharing. Even though I’m sorry for your situation it kind of makes me feel a little better than I’m not the only person who’s done this. And you and I can’t be the only ones! I keep telling myself I didn’t do it on purpose. Of course I didn’t. And you didn’t either. Adults sure don’t understand how much they can mess up children, can they? I hope you find the healing you deserve and I also hope that happiness lies in your future. And mine! I think we deserve it, too. Thanks again so much for sharing. Take care of your special self! 💕🙏🦋
So sorry to hear that you lost that
@@No-ky3kb thank you. I didn’t lose it totally, but I wasted a lot of time and opportunity for love. 😢
She is formidable. I'll give her that
So fascinating to think that once we reintegrate those parts of ourselves the attraction vanishes
On to the next level unless we reject those parts of ourselves we were attracted to in them and discard the person instead
it did for me !
I had to pause this like 10 x to reflect...nicely packaged talk...
can u summarize for us love
I totally agree that when I was younger, I was attracted to people and I’d be like “he must be the one”! So silly, but I’m such a hopeless romantic and idealist. Lol.
@AJtheory I'm in my late 20s and it's one of the saddest times, probably the saddest of my life. I hope you are doing well.
Hopeless romantic = codependent. Guilty 🙋🏼♀️
AJ L I promise you it gets better 💛
story of my life
I'm really attracted to extroverts so I need to let that part out in myself XD
Me too
Same. I always attract extroverts in relationships and I’m the complete opposite.
Comon fellas
This got to me
No, I am enough with relationship with ekstroverts. It is unfulfilling
As a child I was attracted to tall people, I eventually became taller than over 90% of the Dutch population (one of the countries with highest average of tall people). After that I became attract to people who were around the same height, but with more muscle, I eventually build more muscle even though I didn't change any lifestyle habit in order to make this happening.
The universe is desperately trying to tell me that I am what I need. I am that strong man who can make myself feel safe, secure and protected.
I also have huge feminine energy: I am an emotion/intuition oriented person, I am gentle-hearted, I like to care, feed, heal others.
I just need to own my role as the gentle giant in order to find harmony within myself. I am basically Hagrid in human form, and the Hulk who needs to accept his emotions in order to become whole again 💝
:))))
this is the sweetest message on the whole internet ♥ I hope you get treated nicely, my boyfriend would describe himself pretty similar and i fell in love with him out of friendship ☺️
Sending you a big hug Mr. Gentle Giant💛
Are you a Taurus? xP
See this is a gem a lot of people need but only the ones who truly want to know will read and receive the benefits of the message
You are off the charts brilliant. I learned about this 32yrs ago from the book Embracing Each Other--made sense to me. I've become pretty good at explaining it to myself when needed and others, but you take it to a whole new level--as you do with most of the information you share. Love it. No better way to learn about your repressed self than in a mutually growing relationship--if you can handle it.
Thank you!! Bravo
I've been single for a while now...
So far its going pretty good.
I guess i must be the one ^^
🤣
@Hardy Harhar its awesome!
Last week i got myself a nice present and yesterday i went out for a lovely sunset stroll 😍.
I never yell at myself and i even do the dishes!
A few days ago i caught myself making a wonderfull dinner for myself.
With all the jokes aside, you really should love yourself first.
It is your life and your life alone.
Be nice for yourself and love yourself to the fullest.
Others will notice that love and you will attract love by doing so.
Have a great day and i wish you much love. Peace
Ived been single most of my life I gave myself the chance to b in a r a few yrs bck, it did not wrk the way I “expect” for it to end up, but I appreciate that experience I’m still single bck to what I have been familiar my whole existence.
The one that is ok being with themselves which makes it worthy of withstanding time
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you keep blowing my mind. Thank you :)
Exactly what I wanted to comment on this video. This blew my mind
@@anicyb She hasn't said anything new or insightful. Attraction psychology tears this video to shreds. Don't be such a idol worshipper.
Healing for example and wholeness doesn't mean anything. Integration does mean something.
Too many people fall for this flowery language. Psychoeducation( e.g. family systems and attachment theory), emotional grieving and mindfulness will give you more than this video.
You're welcome 😊☺🙂😌💓💗😊☺🙂😌💓💗😊☺🙂😌💓💗
Thank so much
@@RhetoricalMuse @Rhetocalmuse who are you to tell someone else what does or does not resonate with them?
The best is when you are attracted to yourself.
That is TRUTH! 💕
Couldn’t agree more😍😍😍
How can you become attractive to yourself.
Word❤
the best is when you LOVE yourself. to be attracted to yourself would be paradox
Feeling a sense of relief, exhale and relaxation around someone is exactly how I described my ideal partner! A side of desire too please!
Thanks Teal! You’re so helpful and uplifting xoxo
Wise
I went on a date the other night and didn’t have very high expectations. I ended up feeling just how you described. Like I could exhale and totally relax. I felt safe, wanted and completely in flow with this guy. I’m not touchy feely at all but found it hard to stay away from him. We laughed until we cried and hugged for hours. I’m open to the very likely possibility of this not turning into a relationship and I’m ok with that, I just want to get to have at least a few amazing experiences with him so that it doesn’t feel too short lived. Wish me luck 😋
@@dopehat868I'm sooo wishing you luck and also happy for you! I'd be exhilarated to see a positive outcome message from you! Love seeing good love stories in TH-cam comments section hahaha
You're the only person on this planet that makes me feel all my life decisions are wrong. I watch your videos and keep questioning my own miserable existence and I can't help but notice that everything you say is very deeply built within myself, I just haven't had the words to express it on my own. This shows that we are so much more than flesh and bone, and even our own soul...because there is a lot of versions of ourselves that we are unaware of...the way our own mother perceives us, the way our best friend sees us, or even our own partner/spouse sees us...it's not that simple...it's easy to lose ourselves just by interacting with other people. Only when we are foced to look deep within our soul is exactly what we are supposed to find and expect from life...it's just not that obvious within our own mortal coil, and some of us, unfortunately, only find the sense of it through death. Life is a journey...we must be careful not to ruin it with our own expectations, or expectations of others. Sorry for bad english...not my native language. Cheers, you are all beautiful, and I...I am a little bit drunk writing this XD
Beautifully said! I totally agree!
❤
Your English is perfect. You wrote this beautifully and explained how I felt❤
The wisest person I've had the honor to hear in life.
Thank you.
honestly shes bloody incredible
Yago Brasil absolutely... I’m a therapist and often reach to her material
@@paulwoodhouse4757 May I ask what therapist r you?
@@paulwoodhouse4757 it's not Teal's material. She constructs her material by using other ppls material and her followers'. She basically plagerizes it but it's hard to tell because she puts her twist on it. I am following her for some yrs now and that is what I have discovered.
Elá é genial :)
This video came at a perfect time, as I was just thinking about my history with romantic relationships, the lessons I've learned and if or when I embark on another relationship, would I revert to my past patterns? I realized listening to this that as an empath I intuitively have great love for people I connect with and I see the good in them. I also realized having grown up in an abusive family I really never understood what love felt like, so I easily confused my innate love of others with being in love. I also realized that the reason all of my relationships have been with narcissists were because 1.) they reflected to me that lost yearning for love that lived deep inside of me and was denied, 2.) my innate love for others activated that part of them so while they fed off of my love energy, they were able to reflect a semblance of love energy back to me allowing me to 3.) project the fairy tale fantasy of my inner desires onto the relationship.
For me, this video is deeply powerful and I'm grateful for your message Teal. I always learn so much from you. I'm still processing all I learned from this video about myself and what it means to me but I wanted to share with you the immediate insights you brought into my awareness at a perfect time. Thank you and much love!
Thank you for bringing so much detail of returning to the unknown self remembering and yearning for the loving trusting one inside that has been brutalized.
Thank you for committing so deeply. Your voice codes are working!
Well thank you for this comment. My life is just the same and I've been spinning around in the same circle for years. This comment kind of says in couple of sentences something I'm stuggling to sumarize in my head for years. Or maybe since I am born, it all started at the very beggining right? Thank youu thank you
Who cares
Wow! I relate to you about 1) empath’s way of universal loving 2) childhood trauma creating confusion about love 3) attracting narcissists. Now I’m just wondering how I apply what I’ve learned here to change!
22:08 "We have been conditioned to believe that if we are a genuinely good person, we should be able to have a 'feel good' relationship with anyone and everyone regardless of what role they are playing in our lives. But this is completely false. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference, that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously."
You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.
It's like the savior complex. "I can change him/her because i do good things."
Nope.
This was a hard truth I had to face! I thought I could create a relationship with my ex partner that would magically become compatible. I now realise how hard I was on him for simply enjoying a different way of being
Hmmm really?
@@rebeccahepsonwouldn't it be easily solved by being gay? I'm just saying it is...
Great video. I like how you broke down the different areas of human attraction, appreciation, and love. You took it down to bite size pieces so that a person could see how the dynamic starts and moves forward in an intimate relationship whether that intimate relationship starts off emotionally, psychologically, or physically.
Thank you for that Teal. ❤️❤️❤️
I believe that the main reason people cheat is from living a lie, living more who they should be because of being taught to sacrifice what they really want in life in general, the life that makes them feel alive, for the one that they should live. As Teal said, we follow attraction because it's the one thing left that gets through the drudgery of living and reminds us what feeling good feels like. Note to all, no matter what you "must" do, create a life around it that you love. And want the same for anyone you care about.
This is amazing. It helps me get over my crush a little. She has everything that I ever wanted in my live. So I thought she was the perfect woman for me. Turns out the things I see in her are the things I lack in my self. Even though we never got into a relationship, I changed so many things about myself and made major life decisions (for the better), because I felt like a failure next to her.
I do wonder if I should tell her this someday. Maybe it'll help her someday knowing that she's a role model for someone. And of course i'm secretly hoping she likes me too and we do get in a relationship. :) But I highly doubt that since she's not showing any signs of attraction towards me.
That’s the beauty of being in love! It makes you become a better self, it gives you wings to fly. The problem is that most often you come crushing down to reality! The crushes are sometimes reciprocated! I think you should have told her asap! You might be surprised! I wouldn’t be surprised if she likes you too! Women can be misleading that way! I recognized myself a bit in your post and I admire your honesty!
You know what I love - how you LOVE to say the things we all know but won't say ... like we LOVE attraction
and we put up with more from PRETTY PEOPLE
It’s subjective
The societal push and obsession towards finding "the one" or your "soul mate" (or even worse - "twine flame") is downright dangerous. It got me into trouble a handful of times. It causes people to overlook so much in attempt to have the one thing they've been brainwashed into thinking they NEED to complete their lives...
Zelda's Lullaby FACTS
does that also mean we dont need children to complete our lives as well. people don't like that kind of talk. children are supposed to literally be completing their lives.
Totally agree
I needed this comment. I think soulmate means a person that is a catalyst to self love and spiritual awakening. Who freakin knows anything anymore. Its whatever it is bahahha
I would know, too, if I wasn't also "lured" into entrapment by her and/or those around her?
13:13 Mind Blown 🔥...I’m sharing this with my 24 year old daughter who I gave up for adoption when I was a teenager and is now dealing with insecure hurt feelings because of it . I’m praying that my actions doesn’t affect her relationships 🙏 thank you
I am so happy you described how it is supposed to feel like. I thought I wanted that excited feeling during this lifetime. I found that it feels right when you have this sea of instant calm. Like looking upon a completely still body of water. And time stops just for a little bit. And the whole world falls away in these deep intimate moments. I came to the conclusion this last year actually, that the electric feeling is probably some kind of sign of incompatibility. I like the idea also being shown with someone I respect and view as knowledgeable and balanced, and well versed in wisdom and experience.
This just validated my current situation like a hug from a fairy godparent. 💕💕💕💕💕
23:25 True, we project what we want to see in a person, instead of seeing them for how they truly are. When we finally see reality, we are disappointed and end the relationship, sometimes blaming the other person which is in no way, at fault.
I also believe we often project things from our twin flames when we don't realize it that aren't our tfs.
Yeah, well, some people (Narcissists) purposely conceal heir real identity and behavior in the beginning.
@@marazampariolo3200 a lot of people will lie to get what they want from you. not sure why people are expected to take the blame if they did something while being lied to. some see it as excuses and justification. remember, your abuser wants you to be accountable for the way they treat you.
This woman is a literal genius ...this is truly profound
She is not a genius. We a living in the era of information.
@@alejandramarquez6804 ; yes, she is an emotional genlus. She can perceive incredibly subtle things most people dont even know exists
@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Just like Andy Rooney!
I got a bridge. This thing is sweet!
Man I need to start making TH-cam videos if this is how easy it is to convince people you're a genius.
All people should see this video, seriously!!! So insightful. Thanks!!! Feel like this will make my dating life so much easier haha
God I love her voice and the way she say words.. Soothing reassuring ❤️
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! Im currently head over heels about someone. Synchronicity ✨
Darcy Royce The news gets boring after a while. I wanna know why im falling for the person im falling for lol
Same!
If I could do it over I'd go to UK in 2008 and start over there. I'd been happy to do a school there and wouldn't have been preset by society. I'd grown up in peace and not in hurt
Synchronicity or youtube/google algorithm?
Me too ^_^ I just got my ex back haha
I think I'll just stay single :)
Lawrence Lawrence Best comment ever.
🤣🤣🤣
seems to be a lot less complicated, at least according to this video anyway.
Me too, I think it's best to stay single, it's probably better to be attracted to oneself, at least that way one can look after themselves with respect🙏love to all, and all to love🙏
👍Me too
*Polarity between energies is a prerequisite for attraction to be genuine.*
And as Teal mentioned, there are levels to it. Attraction fluctuates depended on whether the polarity is disturbed or maintained.
I watch youtube videos as an excuse to read your comments :)
@@daniela.abendstern ; true. But they are badass.
I love you so much. I'm so proud that you exist
Single for 4 years and for some reason i dont even feel attraction for anyone. Its like my feelings are numb yet something inside of me is craving for something....have no idea of what
Yeah same. What could it be about us?
Same.
You are probably a zombie then. You're just hungry.
Me too 😑
Hello... "Joining to your single group from 2021"😁✌️
This helped me so much. It's obviously early yet in the journey but this helped me find closure with the end of a relationship that never got off the ground because there was so much conflict despite the mutual attraction. I finally feel like I don't *need* the other person for those qualities I love--I am drawn to them because I have suppressed them in myself, and in that case, can simply BE those qualities than rely on them in someone else.
I'm such a hopeless romantic it's crazy. Great video, thanks Teal, appreciate you. ❤️
It feels like I heard myself talking :')
@@Stylies you too?
I’m sorry for all of us.
I'll find a relationship after I'm dead.
Far before, friend. Didnt you hear she said attraction isnt about the other Person
@qzny0s
There was no mention of "God" in this video.
Thank goodness! (Not godness)
The best ones💗
@@huyked what's wrong with God and having faith
@@5000NATE
Well, in my eyes, there's a lot of things wrong with it. There's is no proof of any gods. And faith is believing in something for which there is no proof. That is not a good combo, nor principle to live by.
These videos in depth about attraction/desire/attachment are so useful, thank you for making them and please continue to make more to help us understand our feelings/emotions. xx
Strange but I was having this problem and you just came and gave me a better understanding of myself .
Love to you Teal !!!
I especially relate to the lowest desperate suffering side of the coin. 😂😭
I’m sorry, Sola! Me too...sending some love your way from Arizona 💕
Ok that was funny lol
Yes,I am working on my inner child! Allowing myself to have fun again ! Perfect timing for me on this! Thank You!
i think I killed that one, the one that is playful silly happy. when i was 17. i'm 40 now. it was a mistake
So basically all the things I reject and am very annoyed by in a relationship with someone I had a massive attraction are the things I need to accept in myself... Super
I dunno man. I was annoyed at many things that I am Totally opposite and would NEVER do...
@@marazampariolo3200 Well that is probably one of the things Teal mentioned. You don't ever do these things because you disown and suppress them in yourself
@@Eclecticgirl17 it’s not conscious...
@@Eclecticgirl17 I agree with Mara. One thing my gf does which I have a problem with is say things without thinking about their impact on others. I love her but she says things which I would never say in a million years because I know how much hurt it can cause.
@@garethmorgan3665 You've disowned that part of you that says something without thinking it through. There was consequences for accidently hurting people in your childhood and so you had to suppress that part of you. It is still rejecting a part of you whether or not you think that part is acceptable.
Thank you so much Teal🙏 As I am an Indian, still my parents believe in arranged marriage and I too believe and your wisdom will help me through the journey of finding the person whom I could get along with.
I found myself pausing the video to reflect multiline times. I reached back to passed relationships and reflected with the concepts one at a time. I'm realizing that keeping a memory of ones past in an accessible way is hugely important for intigration.
“The universe’s..loving?...way” died 😂
You are laughing and i'm crying inside 😥
This video just appeared at the exact time. Just have been on a dating-event on Thursday, gladly got a match and immediately wrote to her. And then, there is this new video from Teal xD
Open
I think I need to put this on repeat until I get it
My god i love you!! I just discovered your channel and you're answering questions i was struggling with for years! Thank you so much you're such a gift❤️
Everything you are saying in this video I literally just realized a few days ago, without even watching it. :) Now I am watching and I really resonate with what you are saying. I realized that soulmates and twin flames are not what we tend to think they are. When we love ourselves, we don’t even need a soulmate, but we get them, though. :)
I’m mindblown on how wise Teal Swan is.
@HARRY SHANNON 11 11
Welcome to church of teal swan brother. Take a seat and relax. Let the knowledge flow. 🤗😇🙏
I know right?!
Rocker Chick there’s hands down nobody else like her incarnated 😂
She’s wise yes, but it’s her ability to break down and assimilate energy as information that blows me away. She has an incredible mind 🎁
Or you can imagine yourself blind and then decide if the attractive person's behaviour is right for us.
Omg, she made so much sense with the tiles
Teal Swan, you have such a way with words and helping others more simply understand the messages being conveyed. You are highly appreciated by countless individuals currently in different stages of their healing journeys, of this I am certain!
I love the simplicity and clarity she uses. And the slight "f you" attitude (such as shown in this video at about 10:30 haha).
Wow thank you , this has really been an eye opener for me. I cried when you got to the part of the little girl father leaving, always thought I'd dealt with it but I'm totally what you described fiercely independent and can't stand neediness in men. I'm either with needy men or men that are non-commital .
Wow.. how do we fix that bcuz same here…
Miss you teal. I hope you have been doing great. I love every massage you deliver to my soul 💯❤️
Teal you are such an amazing soul. I have learnt so much from you. This video made me cry , I don't know why. You speak to my heart in a way few do. Thank you teal for all your videos. I love you 💛
Its really bloody simple. We are attracted to what we feel we LACK.
I think I still believe that it’s “never too late to find yourself...” Your message is organized, well stated, to the point, and I get it. Yet I, like MOST of Americans, come from broken families where NO parent EVER prepared me for anything, except subconsciously finding my “comfort zone” in more of the same. So after a gazillion years of trying to “make it work,” it’s very scary to think of anything different (including just being alone until my 2 halves are copacetic) bc I truly don’t know HOW to BE with anyone else, and I’ve also never been alone. It’s hard enough to get by financially with 2 ppl so I hit the wall of HUH? to even think of HOW to REALLY do it (rather than just endless fantasizing)... I fear I’ll end up living in a cardboard box in an alley somewhere. So I stay. Safe(er). Desperately unhappy. Just dreaming. So, now what? 💜
Hope you are well. I like listening to Abraham Hicks in addition to Teal and to others. The law of attraction is always at work. You start that wheel turning in your direction when you start appreciating small tiny things, anything, however small and obvious, such as the warmth of the sun, the clean air, the rather clean tap water, your own amazing body and its individual parts, your ability to express your emotions in such clear written form in perfect English, etc, etc. As you keep finding more things to be thankful for your own vibration rises and the world around you starts immediately changing as it adjusts to your new vibratory environment ...now the Universe says: "Oh you LIKE these things now??? Let me bring you more and more pretty things that you might like too 💕 💖 ♥."
That is the universal Law of attraction at work all the time. Best wishes. Much love 💕 💖 ♥ ❤ 💜 💛. When you are ready, listen to Matias De Stefano too...it helps to know the larger scope of things to give us better perspective. ✌👍
On days that I feel down I could write exactly the same things you wrote...and as I indulge in those feelings I can (lately) literally feel the environment changing and things around me start just breaking! Uncanny! So now I deliberately take better charge of my emotions and life becomes peaceful again. Keep dreaming. Keep envisioning. Keep finding that FEELING of already having the things you want, and then one day soon they manifest - and they make you wonder where were all these pretty things before?? One vibration or 2 away - that's where they were. Love.
I've been looking deep into certain things with myself and feel that everything you've said relating to attraction vs love is spot on. Love your content, love your energy. Wish I had found your channel a long time ago, but perhaps this is the time I'm ready for it.
25 minutes video took me 125 minutes to understand and digest. stopped video rewinded after every sentence and watced again and again. knowledge is so concentrated. thanks for uploading this video. helped a lot.
I agree
This blew my mind! and made so much sense. loved the explanation and where my patterns have been. I am speechless
I am sooooo thankful for you and this video!❤❤❤ so wise and insightful yet simple and easy to understand. Brilliant really 👏
"The universe has no interest in denying your needs and desires. What it does want is for those needs and desires to become concious." Wrap it up, guys. Real important... =)
@MsAgnostica Goes Quantum Lol each people in this planet xD
@MsAgnostica Goes Quantum Nice joke. But beware negative spirits trying to suck in your vitality to themselves in the AfterWorld... =P
Wow, fragmentation and the two sides of ourself we split into, and how the side that left us hurt and vulnerable is the one we suppress and deny was a HUUGGEEE aha moment for me. Now I know I can use attraction to work toward understanding, accepting and loving that side of me that I "locked away" as a kid. Thank you! Team Humanity!!!
The missing link to success is gratitude, as the law of attraction says you have to be grateful for what you have to attract success to you.
Yes,I have learned to stop and remember to be greatful,even when my dog poops on the floor!! Cause it means I have my beloved dog,and a floor to clean!!!!
Not every little thing but more has done assume everything is lessons some things are just dark forced
It’s all about perspective
Your voice is so southing! And what you talk about makes sense even though I don’t know much about the topic. 🖤🙏🏾
the way you told me about myself more than i knew myself is just unbelievable to me.. i guess in the end, there is still those basis all humans have, through which we understand each other
I just got over my crush half way through the video... Thanks XD
4-6 years bf I met my husband I attracted 2 of the worst narcissists around. I was really devastated and searched deep inside me. Thanks God my husband has nothing to do with such attitudes I feel blessed, I got experience and this is really important
I appreciate this video so much. Honestly one of the most eye opening for me. Thank you Teal ❤️
Teal Swan you are changing my life in the best way possible! thank you!
I am so grateful for the algorithm gods…. Putting this on my feed “automatic play next”….. I couldn’t have used such info to consider, at a better time.
I love when you have a serious face and towards the end of a segment you end with a smile lol or when you randomly giggle it's so contagious it makes me wanna smile and laugh
Hi Teal. Great video again. If I may, I have one request. I have noticed you've never did a video on "living a life on autopilot" witch I think it's a very big global problem. I would like to hear your thoughts on the topic and maybe how to truly break autopilot in me (us). Thanks for many great teachings you share with us and i hope you'll do this topic in the near future.
Thank you, Teal. I really like some of the concepts you present here but at the same time I have to wonder - do you imply that a wholesome, healed person will never be attracted to anyone at all? Okay, I suppose while alive we will never be fully complete so the attraction will always be there, but does that mean there is no such thing as healthy attraction that just guides us to a truly compatible person instead of reconciling us with our suppressed parts?
humans are imperfect. it may mean that attraction isnt important. attraction fades. you need a life partner and or good good friends. not a useless string of people you're horny over. society is drenched in sex, it doesnt mean its supposed to be that way.
Attraction is going to be a part of your life. It will be there because it is caused by desire and fragmentation, which is a current reality of life on earth. Unlike love, but like desire, it is not a choice. It is simply important to know where that attraction is coming from and WHY it is there. From there, you can decide consciously what to do in response to it. If what you are wanting is overall wellbeing and happiness within the relationship, the choice of who to partner with must be a multi faceted choice and a conscious choice, not a compulsive one.
Damn same! 🤷♀️🙋😳
Wow - the second example of love sounded e x a c t l y like Johnny and AH. I mean ... exactly! Also love the distinction between Attraction and Love, I never viewed it that way and it actually blew my mind. And the overlay explanation was spot on, I felt that. 😅 Thank you, Teal! ♥
Hey I just discovered your channel today and I want to say thanks for the educational content. Ive never heard of constructive relationships be described in the way you explain them, and didnt even think such a thing existed. Thanks.
This was a conversation and talk I was just having yesterday lol - synchronicity and then some. It always boils down to self awareness. Yes attraction is not love and is self centred.
I’m imagining him looking like Quasimodo right now. 🤣 Thanks Teal 🙏
So well spoken Teal. After my last marriage which was so tumultuous, driving into a tree 70 miles an hours, I’ve totally become more conscious of all my mirror relationships. all my dating experiences I started to look within and this video helps to explain the mirror process much better. I’ve been able to walk away as opposed to tolerate. Now it’s time to heal within. Thank you for the guidance. Which video do you suggest on the healing process?
one of the deepest and most profound video I've watched in last few month, gained so much insights! much appreciate it❤
It took me decades to be alone but it has been 12 great years already. Thanks I love you
What you will learn from this video: "You have a lot very complex problems that spring forth as "Attractions"!! " , I think it's important for everyone to still understand that you are human and don't need to be perfect before you can Love or look for a partner, but what you can recognize and heal (which is what Teal teaches), can drastically broaden what you enjoy from life and what is is you really want from a life partner and ultimately , how happy you are with yours. All her teachings so far have gotten me to that conclusion and the work is very detailed and yet explained in such a way, it makes it easy to apply when you resist the urge to argue with whether it's a part that has drifted away or not. PS, Good choice of the red for the video :)
Throughout my life I have only been attracted to one person, it's the first time I have ever felt attraction and I met him at 21. Does this mean that I am a more well-balanced person? I was attracted to his appearance, work ethic, and social life. I have always cherished those traits in him. Beyond that, though we are extremely compatible, hold similar life values, goals, and love languages. He makes me feel almost excited to come home after work to see him or wake up at 6am just to make sure he has a balanced breakfast ready for him before work when I don't need to be up till 10am. I'm almost 24 now so we've been dating for a few years. I have always felt a very intense love for him and I feel that's what he needs the most.
Just make sure you don't prematurely give him wife-privileges until he's earned them, proved himself worthy of you, and demonstrated solid commitment to you by marriage.
Aww I am happy for you guys ♥♥♥
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@@c.s.70 what are “wife privileges”? 🙁
@@Mockduck2020 Priviledges exclusive to marriage, priviledges that you don't just hand out during the dating phase until he's earned them & proven via a solid commitment to you as a husband, until after you're married. Don't assume the role nor give him the benefits of wife while he still considers you a girlfriend or a maybe.
I have both attraction and appreciation for my husband ☺️ we could be rich together OR we could hav very little, etc.. and I would still absolutely adore experiencing this life with him! Conscious love!
I still really needed this video! Thank you Teal!
Im happy for you. Thats Epic
Wonderful ❤️
Wish I had seen this a few years ago but happy that I get to watch it today while understanding the reasoning and implications with the deepest layers of my being, existence, spirit and soul. Experience is the best education, and this here is a brilliant articulation of this experience.
All in divine timing...
What’s crazy is that I was about to go my entire life without knowing this, until Teal Swan made her video!
If we are always attracting what we are missing then how do we know when our attraction is genuine and not coming from lack?
Scarlett Tantrika peace
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Compatibility. No one is going to be perfect. As Teal stated, for relationships to work, they have to feel good to both people in the relationship. Icompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously. Incompatibility equals people with these non harmonious differences in roles or positions with each other that require there to be either no difference or that require a difference that is non harmonious in nature to be harmonious. When incompatibility is present in a relationship, it is only a matter of time before either one or both people in the relationship will feel shame for the way they are and for what they want and also feel totally unloved.
@@ichooseme4life "But what incompatibility is really about it is putting people with these non harmonious differences in roles or positions with each other that require there to be either no difference or that require a difference that is non harmonious in nature to be harmonious."
I don't follow...can somebody parse/explain this sentence for me? 😅
@@danothebananovitch9678 she's basically saying incompatible relationships come from people with differences that don't work well togther uniting and forcing their non negotiable differences in positions to be negotiable or just deny the existence of those non negotiable differences. Hope it makes sense!
I love how Teal Swan takes a bad situation and turns it into gold. She is an angel.
Whenever I'm down, I remind myself, Teal is watching over us, you'll see when she uploads a video. The video is almost always about what was happening in that week. We're all in this together guys💞
Yes we are!
I agree, it's incredible.
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She's still submissive to her painbody abdominal brain
Indeed
I love that exemple with the tiles, brilliant. Very clear explanation. Thank you Teal.
the blue background makes me feel inspired to promote and support freedom of expression in myself and others! :)
The swimsuit girl in the bacgkround was the best editing ive seen in years...