I was literally just explaining this to someone and how now my pull to people isn't intense passion it's when they bring calmness and a feeling of utter safety x
True, that's probably why I think of myself as Asexual. I have ran every Version of myself through the mill, and imagined shrugging shoulders and saying oh well to each version.
I can't believe the sensation of butterflies is a stress as I had this fluttering feeling as I was breastfeeding my child. The mist heavenly feeling. My last relationship/situationship really seemed to heighten after our first hug. My heart had this wonderful "heart-swelling" feeling that lasted well into the next day. That had never happened to me before..❤🙏
My wife wanted a divorce after 40 years. She said she loved me but wasn't ".in love " with me. I told her "in love was an immature type of love that gets you past the first few uncomfortable years it is love that gets you to the end.
@@Green2Lean I did let myself go but she did also because at one point she weighed almost 400 lbs.she lost 99 percent of the weight. I stuck with her and never felt anything but love for her so that was what made it particularly hard. I guess I thought of myself having a “ bank account” and my goodness toward her was being ignored, if that makes any sense.
Biggest lesson to understand is that “attraction cannot be negotiated”. Call it chemistry, vibe, energy whatever you want just know that that for two people to connect you need both love and logic for a healthy and strong relationship to work.
Amen I agree. Schools are by design, there to indoctrinate boys to be feminised / passive & girls to be masculine / non maternal. And to indoctrinate them both to be a worker that keeps their mouth shut & conforms.
OMG.. this video literally healed me in 25.11 minutes from the suffering for weeks after a break-up. I actually ended up laughing. So eye opening... Thank You Teal!!!
@@paulwoodhouse4757 it's not Teal's material. She constructs her material by using other ppls material and her followers'. She basically plagerizes it but it's hard to tell because she puts her twist on it. I am following her for some yrs now and that is what I have discovered.
22:08 "We have been conditioned to believe that if we are a genuinely good person, we should be able to have a 'feel good' relationship with anyone and everyone regardless of what role they are playing in our lives. But this is completely false. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference, that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously." You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.
This was a hard truth I had to face! I thought I could create a relationship with my ex partner that would magically become compatible. I now realise how hard I was on him for simply enjoying a different way of being
Me too, I think it's best to stay single, it's probably better to be attracted to oneself, at least that way one can look after themselves with respect🙏love to all, and all to love🙏
As a child I was attracted to tall people, I eventually became taller than over 90% of the Dutch population (one of the countries with highest average of tall people). After that I became attract to people who were around the same height, but with more muscle, I eventually build more muscle even though I didn't change any lifestyle habit in order to make this happening. The universe is desperately trying to tell me that I am what I need. I am that strong man who can make myself feel safe, secure and protected. I also have huge feminine energy: I am an emotion/intuition oriented person, I am gentle-hearted, I like to care, feed, heal others. I just need to own my role as the gentle giant in order to find harmony within myself. I am basically Hagrid in human form, and the Hulk who needs to accept his emotions in order to become whole again 💝
this is the sweetest message on the whole internet ♥ I hope you get treated nicely, my boyfriend would describe himself pretty similar and i fell in love with him out of friendship ☺️
@Hardy Harhar its awesome! Last week i got myself a nice present and yesterday i went out for a lovely sunset stroll 😍. I never yell at myself and i even do the dishes! A few days ago i caught myself making a wonderfull dinner for myself. With all the jokes aside, you really should love yourself first. It is your life and your life alone. Be nice for yourself and love yourself to the fullest. Others will notice that love and you will attract love by doing so. Have a great day and i wish you much love. Peace
Ived been single most of my life I gave myself the chance to b in a r a few yrs bck, it did not wrk the way I “expect” for it to end up, but I appreciate that experience I’m still single bck to what I have been familiar my whole existence.
23:25 True, we project what we want to see in a person, instead of seeing them for how they truly are. When we finally see reality, we are disappointed and end the relationship, sometimes blaming the other person which is in no way, at fault.
@@marazampariolo3200 a lot of people will lie to get what they want from you. not sure why people are expected to take the blame if they did something while being lied to. some see it as excuses and justification. remember, your abuser wants you to be accountable for the way they treat you.
I believe that the main reason people cheat is from living a lie, living more who they should be because of being taught to sacrifice what they really want in life in general, the life that makes them feel alive, for the one that they should live. As Teal said, we follow attraction because it's the one thing left that gets through the drudgery of living and reminds us what feeling good feels like. Note to all, no matter what you "must" do, create a life around it that you love. And want the same for anyone you care about.
The statement that Teal makes about finding the right person and it feeling like you’re coming home is exactly how I felt the first time my husband hugged me. Those are the exact words I would’ve chosen. And he was the perfect partner for me in every way. Unfortunately, because of past abuse I wasn’t able to believe that I could deserve to be happy and I basically threw it all away. I think this is a very profound video and I so wish that someone would’ve taught me this when I was young. This should be taught in schools. Thank you, Teal! Bless you. 💕
I wish too, I sabotaged my 9 years relationship coz I took him for granted and didn't know my abandonment and trauma problems within me from my past. I hope he is getting love he deserves. I didn't know what's wrong with my emotional and mental state and just last year after someone else dumped me I started getting to the bottom of my problems. I wanted to commit suicide. I didn't want to live with so much shame and guilt and I'm 46. I got massively heartbroken again which affected my overal health. I never thought it's possible but it is and I'm gratefull for people like Teal who simply explains where we screwed up and to make a better choices in the future😁
@@andziagreen4922 Wow, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t think anything is worse than hurting the person you love the most and not realizing it until it’s too late to do anything about it. I think we need to give ourselves some credit though for having survived the trauma in the first place and then being willing to do something about it. I wanted to end my life after my husband died, but I have an older sister that needs my help and I would never do that to her. I’m trying to learn to be kind to myself, but it’s difficult. But we need to! That’s so sweet of you to be glad that your loved one will find the love he deserves. I find myself wishing that about my late husband. I wish that he could’ve found a woman earlier in life who would’ve loved him and given him the children he wanted, but as my sister always reminds me, he wouldn’t have wanted that. He would’ve chosen me. I know that’s true, but it still hurts like the devil. Why is it always so much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves? Thanks for sharing. Even though I’m sorry for your situation it kind of makes me feel a little better than I’m not the only person who’s done this. And you and I can’t be the only ones! I keep telling myself I didn’t do it on purpose. Of course I didn’t. And you didn’t either. Adults sure don’t understand how much they can mess up children, can they? I hope you find the healing you deserve and I also hope that happiness lies in your future. And mine! I think we deserve it, too. Thanks again so much for sharing. Take care of your special self! 💕🙏🦋
This video came at a perfect time, as I was just thinking about my history with romantic relationships, the lessons I've learned and if or when I embark on another relationship, would I revert to my past patterns? I realized listening to this that as an empath I intuitively have great love for people I connect with and I see the good in them. I also realized having grown up in an abusive family I really never understood what love felt like, so I easily confused my innate love of others with being in love. I also realized that the reason all of my relationships have been with narcissists were because 1.) they reflected to me that lost yearning for love that lived deep inside of me and was denied, 2.) my innate love for others activated that part of them so while they fed off of my love energy, they were able to reflect a semblance of love energy back to me allowing me to 3.) project the fairy tale fantasy of my inner desires onto the relationship. For me, this video is deeply powerful and I'm grateful for your message Teal. I always learn so much from you. I'm still processing all I learned from this video about myself and what it means to me but I wanted to share with you the immediate insights you brought into my awareness at a perfect time. Thank you and much love!
Thank you for bringing so much detail of returning to the unknown self remembering and yearning for the loving trusting one inside that has been brutalized. Thank you for committing so deeply. Your voice codes are working!
Well thank you for this comment. My life is just the same and I've been spinning around in the same circle for years. This comment kind of says in couple of sentences something I'm stuggling to sumarize in my head for years. Or maybe since I am born, it all started at the very beggining right? Thank youu thank you
Wow! I relate to you about 1) empath’s way of universal loving 2) childhood trauma creating confusion about love 3) attracting narcissists. Now I’m just wondering how I apply what I’ve learned here to change!
Wow, fragmentation and the two sides of ourself we split into, and how the side that left us hurt and vulnerable is the one we suppress and deny was a HUUGGEEE aha moment for me. Now I know I can use attraction to work toward understanding, accepting and loving that side of me that I "locked away" as a kid. Thank you! Team Humanity!!!
Feeling a sense of relief, exhale and relaxation around someone is exactly how I described my ideal partner! A side of desire too please! Thanks Teal! You’re so helpful and uplifting xoxo
I went on a date the other night and didn’t have very high expectations. I ended up feeling just how you described. Like I could exhale and totally relax. I felt safe, wanted and completely in flow with this guy. I’m not touchy feely at all but found it hard to stay away from him. We laughed until we cried and hugged for hours. I’m open to the very likely possibility of this not turning into a relationship and I’m ok with that, I just want to get to have at least a few amazing experiences with him so that it doesn’t feel too short lived. Wish me luck 😋
@@dopehat868I'm sooo wishing you luck and also happy for you! I'd be exhilarated to see a positive outcome message from you! Love seeing good love stories in TH-cam comments section hahaha
I totally agree that when I was younger, I was attracted to people and I’d be like “he must be the one”! So silly, but I’m such a hopeless romantic and idealist. Lol.
I'm a man that have a history with social anxiety and I tend to be attracted to young shy insecure women who reminds me of myself at that age. If I can do for them what I wish somebody else would have done for me when I was in that situation I think that part of me would be healed. This is something I realized by watching this video.
Happily married to sweetheart of my youth. Cancer caused her to leave the planet too soon. These videos are helping me to understand women, attraction and relationships a lot better. Thank you, Teal Swan.
The societal push and obsession towards finding "the one" or your "soul mate" (or even worse - "twine flame") is downright dangerous. It got me into trouble a handful of times. It causes people to overlook so much in attempt to have the one thing they've been brainwashed into thinking they NEED to complete their lives...
does that also mean we dont need children to complete our lives as well. people don't like that kind of talk. children are supposed to literally be completing their lives.
I needed this comment. I think soulmate means a person that is a catalyst to self love and spiritual awakening. Who freakin knows anything anymore. Its whatever it is bahahha
If I could do it over I'd go to UK in 2008 and start over there. I'd been happy to do a school there and wouldn't have been preset by society. I'd grown up in peace and not in hurt
25 minutes video took me 125 minutes to understand and digest. stopped video rewinded after every sentence and watced again and again. knowledge is so concentrated. thanks for uploading this video. helped a lot.
Teal Swan, you have such a way with words and helping others more simply understand the messages being conveyed. You are highly appreciated by countless individuals currently in different stages of their healing journeys, of this I am certain!
I've been looking deep into certain things with myself and feel that everything you've said relating to attraction vs love is spot on. Love your content, love your energy. Wish I had found your channel a long time ago, but perhaps this is the time I'm ready for it.
This is amazing. It helps me get over my crush a little. She has everything that I ever wanted in my live. So I thought she was the perfect woman for me. Turns out the things I see in her are the things I lack in my self. Even though we never got into a relationship, I changed so many things about myself and made major life decisions (for the better), because I felt like a failure next to her. I do wonder if I should tell her this someday. Maybe it'll help her someday knowing that she's a role model for someone. And of course i'm secretly hoping she likes me too and we do get in a relationship. :) But I highly doubt that since she's not showing any signs of attraction towards me.
That’s the beauty of being in love! It makes you become a better self, it gives you wings to fly. The problem is that most often you come crushing down to reality! The crushes are sometimes reciprocated! I think you should have told her asap! You might be surprised! I wouldn’t be surprised if she likes you too! Women can be misleading that way! I recognized myself a bit in your post and I admire your honesty!
@@5000NATE Well, in my eyes, there's a lot of things wrong with it. There's is no proof of any gods. And faith is believing in something for which there is no proof. That is not a good combo, nor principle to live by.
These videos in depth about attraction/desire/attachment are so useful, thank you for making them and please continue to make more to help us understand our feelings/emotions. xx
You are off the charts brilliant. I learned about this 32yrs ago from the book Embracing Each Other--made sense to me. I've become pretty good at explaining it to myself when needed and others, but you take it to a whole new level--as you do with most of the information you share. Love it. No better way to learn about your repressed self than in a mutually growing relationship--if you can handle it.
Whenever I'm down, I remind myself, Teal is watching over us, you'll see when she uploads a video. The video is almost always about what was happening in that week. We're all in this together guys💞
So basically all the things I reject and am very annoyed by in a relationship with someone I had a massive attraction are the things I need to accept in myself... Super
@@marazampariolo3200 Well that is probably one of the things Teal mentioned. You don't ever do these things because you disown and suppress them in yourself
@@Eclecticgirl17 I agree with Mara. One thing my gf does which I have a problem with is say things without thinking about their impact on others. I love her but she says things which I would never say in a million years because I know how much hurt it can cause.
@@garethmorgan3665 You've disowned that part of you that says something without thinking it through. There was consequences for accidently hurting people in your childhood and so you had to suppress that part of you. It is still rejecting a part of you whether or not you think that part is acceptable.
I love when you have a serious face and towards the end of a segment you end with a smile lol or when you randomly giggle it's so contagious it makes me wanna smile and laugh
Great video. I like how you broke down the different areas of human attraction, appreciation, and love. You took it down to bite size pieces so that a person could see how the dynamic starts and moves forward in an intimate relationship whether that intimate relationship starts off emotionally, psychologically, or physically. Thank you for that Teal. ❤️❤️❤️
Teal Swan has been a favorite of mine for years now and i never stop appreciating how enlightening her content has become. Teal and Leo from actualized are two of my most cherished youtube creators who genuinely care about conciousness work.
@@anicyb She hasn't said anything new or insightful. Attraction psychology tears this video to shreds. Don't be such a idol worshipper. Healing for example and wholeness doesn't mean anything. Integration does mean something. Too many people fall for this flowery language. Psychoeducation( e.g. family systems and attachment theory), emotional grieving and mindfulness will give you more than this video.
What you will learn from this video: "You have a lot very complex problems that spring forth as "Attractions"!! " , I think it's important for everyone to still understand that you are human and don't need to be perfect before you can Love or look for a partner, but what you can recognize and heal (which is what Teal teaches), can drastically broaden what you enjoy from life and what is is you really want from a life partner and ultimately , how happy you are with yours. All her teachings so far have gotten me to that conclusion and the work is very detailed and yet explained in such a way, it makes it easy to apply when you resist the urge to argue with whether it's a part that has drifted away or not. PS, Good choice of the red for the video :)
13:13 Mind Blown 🔥...I’m sharing this with my 24 year old daughter who I gave up for adoption when I was a teenager and is now dealing with insecure hurt feelings because of it . I’m praying that my actions doesn’t affect her relationships 🙏 thank you
Single for 4 years and for some reason i dont even feel attraction for anyone. Its like my feelings are numb yet something inside of me is craving for something....have no idea of what
This was a conversation and talk I was just having yesterday lol - synchronicity and then some. It always boils down to self awareness. Yes attraction is not love and is self centred.
I have both attraction and appreciation for my husband ☺️ we could be rich together OR we could hav very little, etc.. and I would still absolutely adore experiencing this life with him! Conscious love! I still really needed this video! Thank you Teal!
You're the only person on this planet that makes me feel all my life decisions are wrong. I watch your videos and keep questioning my own miserable existence and I can't help but notice that everything you say is very deeply built within myself, I just haven't had the words to express it on my own. This shows that we are so much more than flesh and bone, and even our own soul...because there is a lot of versions of ourselves that we are unaware of...the way our own mother perceives us, the way our best friend sees us, or even our own partner/spouse sees us...it's not that simple...it's easy to lose ourselves just by interacting with other people. Only when we are foced to look deep within our soul is exactly what we are supposed to find and expect from life...it's just not that obvious within our own mortal coil, and some of us, unfortunately, only find the sense of it through death. Life is a journey...we must be careful not to ruin it with our own expectations, or expectations of others. Sorry for bad english...not my native language. Cheers, you are all beautiful, and I...I am a little bit drunk writing this XD
*Polarity between energies is a prerequisite for attraction to be genuine.* And as Teal mentioned, there are levels to it. Attraction fluctuates depended on whether the polarity is disturbed or maintained.
I am so happy you described how it is supposed to feel like. I thought I wanted that excited feeling during this lifetime. I found that it feels right when you have this sea of instant calm. Like looking upon a completely still body of water. And time stops just for a little bit. And the whole world falls away in these deep intimate moments. I came to the conclusion this last year actually, that the electric feeling is probably some kind of sign of incompatibility. I like the idea also being shown with someone I respect and view as knowledgeable and balanced, and well versed in wisdom and experience.
This helped me so much. It's obviously early yet in the journey but this helped me find closure with the end of a relationship that never got off the ground because there was so much conflict despite the mutual attraction. I finally feel like I don't *need* the other person for those qualities I love--I am drawn to them because I have suppressed them in myself, and in that case, can simply BE those qualities than rely on them in someone else.
I just found my favorite relationship/self encouragement guide! Everyday I grow to better myself and find what it is I need by gathering this wisdom, thank you! I find myself resonating with these tools!! I understand my longings and my desires! All I can say is thank you for sharing this beautiful wisdom, can’t wait to hear more!!!
"The universe has no interest in denying your needs and desires. What it does want is for those needs and desires to become concious." Wrap it up, guys. Real important... =)
Thank you so much, Teal Swan!!! You have helped me become more humble and flexible as I've just reached my 73rd year a few weeks ago. I feel wonder for Heart-Growing by hearing ourselves hear the other. It is an amazing atmosphere in your Synchronization Workshops. The people seem distinct and communicating, in a flow rather than raprure.
Less than a minute in and I’m already saying “YES!”. I’ve tried explaining to people that there are different types of “love” but I like the attraction-appreciation-love distinction.
Great talk! It is always the attraction that becomes love, then love becomes friendship and partnership,,,then attraction again with another soul, (long or short term )or you rediscover the attraction once felt with your initial partner and love again comes along. It is a circle that many of us experience, have experienced and will experienced. At 17:28, this is something where attraction has an advantage over good sense. 22:59 We will always give the attraction more time and forgive more because of image, you may become a slave to attraction, an addict.
This is really one of my top favorites of Teals videos. This helps me so much right now in my current situation and also in understanding how far I have come in a personal crisis I'm going through. So thanks a lot Teal! :)
It's a secondary effect from being tuned into her own energy. We all do this if we're serious enough about it, and spend time on it. We are worthy of it.
“Relationships are assignments. They are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit’s blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit’s laboratories in which He brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth. He appraises who can learn most from whom at any given time, and then assigns them to each other. Like a giant universal computer, He knows exactly what combination of energies, in exactly what context, would do the most to further God’s plan… No meetings are accidental.” Marianne W. ♥️ honor your contracts.
I recently ended a room mate situation with a person who was totally psychotic..( threw my food out , sprayed and my clothes with Lysol because she was afraid I'd give her the Corona virus , nagged me constantly etc) I don't believe that this sick person was "destined" to enter my life...it was my fault for not realizing she was completely insane...never again..!!!
Anything wrong with not wanting anything to do with any humans because they are all annoying, sap all of your energy, and spit into your face for preventing them from falling off of a cliff? How does your "assignment" concept relate to my experience? Did I fail, or did they fail? It should help for you to know that I was good to all of those people, made many sacrifices for them and they still put the metaphorical knife into my heart.
This video makes me realize that what i've experienced is feeling of appreciation, attraction (physical or traits). I probably haven't in love with any man yet. Thank you. (Sorry for my english)
I did not realize how UNIQUE your style of organization and delivery are… I always appreciate your scientific approach. You teach from a fundamental level. I’ve watched you for nearly a decade… God is with you. Let it be that you CONTINUE to grow in the WEALTH of God- in all ways. ✨
And when I say “I did not recognize,” I mean that I appreciated it, yet I did not have the enlightenment of sight 👁️ to see that it’s your NICHE ✨ ((And no body does what you to))!!!! You are SO needed
This video helped me get more of the full picture of what I've struggled with. In high school I was awkward and lonely. I felt I wasn't normal cause "everybody" was having relationships but me. Now, a few relationships later, I'm always still searching because they haven't really met my needs. I think what I'm looking for is a "normal" woman to validate that I am normal too. However, I am with a fairly average woman right now, but we don't have much in common. I hold back talking about science and nerdy things, while she mostly talks about stuff that I don't really care about. Now I'm realizing that I need validated some other way. Thank you.
She cant validate you if she doesn't know who you are. She doesn't know who you are because you hide very basic things about yourself. At most you can feel the validation for a character you are playing.
Maybe he has tried talking about his interests and she showed disinterest/disdain enough times that he stopped doing it. I'd break up if that were the case. @@GChan129
Yes,I have learned to stop and remember to be greatful,even when my dog poops on the floor!! Cause it means I have my beloved dog,and a floor to clean!!!!
Finally someone explained it to me. I've been looking for a video like this for AGES. I'm so smart now from all this coaching I watched before that, lol. Thank you for everything girl, you are changing people's lives.
Wow. Powerful. I'm in the first 'real' relationship in my life - and it's bringing everything to the surface. It's beautiful and challenging and my girlfriend and I are communicating our feelings and honesty all the way through it. At least doing our very best to, we're both on our journey of healing. And as long as your intention is to communicate and connect rather than withdraw and resent, then that in itself is the conscious choice to love. And I love her.
I am revisiting this video 2 years after seeing it the first time. Teal dissected attraction in such a comprehensive and succinct way, incorporating different perspectives on attraction. Almost a year ago I met this man, who is handsome, nonchalant, confident and wealthy. We "fell in love" but didn't end up in a relationship mainly because of physical distance. But from the get-go, I recognized incompatibilities between us. Man oh man, the attraction is crazier than I was consciously aware of. Because of Teal's teaching, I asked myself many times what it was that pulled me to this man. After I did the practice of removing his beauty and wealth, I pretty much would just see him as a Joe Schmoe off the street. I admire his ability to bring about abundance effortlessly. So I am starting my own business now.
This video blew my mind... and I am excited because it is so layered with the opportunity of personal growth, revealing what I have been rejecting and what needs I can meet in what ways I want to meet those needs... truly and exceptional information that will keep adding to my growth and expansion. ❤️
4-6 years bf I met my husband I attracted 2 of the worst narcissists around. I was really devastated and searched deep inside me. Thanks God my husband has nothing to do with such attitudes I feel blessed, I got experience and this is really important
I love Teal Swan. Whenever I seek spiritual advice I always turn to her, and she has never failed to inspire. The fact that she never asks for money yet offers her help for free is just an added bonus. How many professional, college-educated so-called "health professionals" ever do that?? I have spend THOUSANDS on such clinical therapists, and although they have been of some benefit, I have found the hard won lessons and wisdom of Teal to be like placing a healing balm on an open wound for me, a miracle in my life.
Everything you are saying in this video I literally just realized a few days ago, without even watching it. :) Now I am watching and I really resonate with what you are saying. I realized that soulmates and twin flames are not what we tend to think they are. When we love ourselves, we don’t even need a soulmate, but we get them, though. :)
I found myself pausing the video to reflect multiline times. I reached back to passed relationships and reflected with the concepts one at a time. I'm realizing that keeping a memory of ones past in an accessible way is hugely important for intigration.
This video just appeared at the exact time. Just have been on a dating-event on Thursday, gladly got a match and immediately wrote to her. And then, there is this new video from Teal xD
Teal is a smart BadA! Very educational. Overlay: "Like moths flying towards a flame thinking it is moonlight". I seem to attract very kind and giving, but anxiously attached, maybe wounded women. They are initially, or onglingly attracted to me, but I'm not able to provide containment for them. Also, being fearful avoidant, it always has ended in pain. Trying to do different for...next time.
I cannot express to you how much you just changed my life. I had been going through an immense longgggg period of mental confusion. Not able to pinpoint certain emotions, not able to tell what they mean, just crazy confusion energy. This literally took me outside of the box I was in and now I can actually see the situations and people involved. I can see the 3D cube, as before I was like a being only able to see 2 dimensions trying to figure out which way was the 3rd. Thank you so so so so so so very much💙💙💙💙💙💙
The best relationships are the ones in which neither has to work hard for basic decency.
Yes! Same goes for friends and family. No more 'bare minimum' people 😊
Amen lol.
Your comment deserves so many more likes. This took me decades to learn, and the truth of it resonates with me daily.
It's about comfort. When you are comfortable with someone the relationship will flourish. When you meet the right person it'll feel like coming home.
Yay! 333 likes because of teal swan in her self help work....lol
I love how she giggles and smirks right before she states obvious facts.
I was literally just explaining this to someone and how now my pull to people isn't intense passion it's when they bring calmness and a feeling of utter safety x
I agree
Usually if you are extremely charmed by someone= red flag.
john miller may I ask why is that I’m genuinely curious
Same
I agree. Does not get me many friends unfortunately, but I know I will enjoy my time with the few that I have.
It's so weird how most attraction disappears after we learn to accept and love ourselves and make peace with who we are :)
Absolutely
Yes I’ve been noticing this too! I was very surprised by it
It kind of sucks to be honest when you're already committed lol
@@happystar7777 👍😂🤣. but now you have to take the other person as a part of you - if it is possible
True, that's probably why I think of myself as Asexual. I have ran every Version of myself through the mill, and imagined shrugging shoulders and saying oh well to each version.
That coming home feeling is so important. "Butterflies" is a stress response.
I can't believe the sensation of butterflies is a stress as I had this fluttering feeling as I was breastfeeding my child.
The mist heavenly feeling.
My last relationship/situationship really seemed to heighten after our first hug. My heart had this wonderful "heart-swelling" feeling that lasted well into the next day.
That had never happened to me before..❤🙏
Obviously I am reading ahead of where I'm at in the video. ( What do you mean " Butterflies is a stress response"?
@@ZFern9390When someone has attachment issues they will say butterflies are a stress response because to them attachment is stressful half the time.
My wife wanted a divorce after 40 years. She said she loved me but wasn't ".in love " with me. I told her "in love was an immature type of love that gets you past the first few uncomfortable years it is love that gets you to the end.
@@Green2Lean I did let myself go but she did also because at one point she weighed almost 400 lbs.she lost 99 percent of the weight. I stuck with her and never felt anything but love for her so that was what made it particularly hard. I guess I thought of myself having a “ bank account” and my goodness toward her was being ignored, if that makes any sense.
Biggest lesson to understand is that “attraction cannot be negotiated”. Call it chemistry, vibe, energy whatever you want just know that that for two people to connect you need both love and logic for a healthy and strong relationship to work.
The best is when you are attracted to yourself.
That is TRUTH! 💕
Couldn’t agree more😍😍😍
How can you become attractive to yourself.
Word❤
the best is when you LOVE yourself. to be attracted to yourself would be paradox
This woman is a literal genius ...this is truly profound
She is not a genius. We a living in the era of information.
@@alejandramarquez6804 ; yes, she is an emotional genlus. She can perceive incredibly subtle things most people dont even know exists
@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Just like Andy Rooney!
I got a bridge. This thing is sweet!
Man I need to start making TH-cam videos if this is how easy it is to convince people you're a genius.
They need to teach this in high-school. It's so important.
Amen I agree. Schools are by design, there to indoctrinate boys to be feminised / passive & girls to be masculine / non maternal. And to indoctrinate them both to be a worker that keeps their mouth shut & conforms.
OMG.. this video literally healed me in 25.11 minutes from the suffering for weeks after a break-up. I actually ended up laughing. So eye opening... Thank You Teal!!!
@tech fx maybe don’t project your personal experience onto others and gaslight them that is very rude ✨
@@benwalker2633 smooth.
@@benwalker2633
Nehhh, I think maybe you're projecting & getting triggered.
Ppl such as yourself should allow other ppl to express themselves freely 💯
Amazing!
Now go get a cookie 😑
@tech fx that's like saying if you can open a locked door when someone hands you the key you never had, it was never really locked in the first place
The wisest person I've had the honor to hear in life.
Thank you.
honestly shes bloody incredible
Yago Brasil absolutely... I’m a therapist and often reach to her material
@@paulwoodhouse4757 May I ask what therapist r you?
@@paulwoodhouse4757 it's not Teal's material. She constructs her material by using other ppls material and her followers'. She basically plagerizes it but it's hard to tell because she puts her twist on it. I am following her for some yrs now and that is what I have discovered.
Elá é genial :)
22:08 "We have been conditioned to believe that if we are a genuinely good person, we should be able to have a 'feel good' relationship with anyone and everyone regardless of what role they are playing in our lives. But this is completely false. Incompatibility is the condition of two things being so different in nature and so uncomplimentary in that difference, that they are incapable of coexisting harmoniously."
You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.
It's like the savior complex. "I can change him/her because i do good things."
Nope.
This was a hard truth I had to face! I thought I could create a relationship with my ex partner that would magically become compatible. I now realise how hard I was on him for simply enjoying a different way of being
Hmmm really?
@@rebeccahepsonwouldn't it be easily solved by being gay? I'm just saying it is...
I think I'll just stay single :)
Lawrence Lawrence Best comment ever.
🤣🤣🤣
seems to be a lot less complicated, at least according to this video anyway.
Me too, I think it's best to stay single, it's probably better to be attracted to oneself, at least that way one can look after themselves with respect🙏love to all, and all to love🙏
👍Me too
As a child I was attracted to tall people, I eventually became taller than over 90% of the Dutch population (one of the countries with highest average of tall people). After that I became attract to people who were around the same height, but with more muscle, I eventually build more muscle even though I didn't change any lifestyle habit in order to make this happening.
The universe is desperately trying to tell me that I am what I need. I am that strong man who can make myself feel safe, secure and protected.
I also have huge feminine energy: I am an emotion/intuition oriented person, I am gentle-hearted, I like to care, feed, heal others.
I just need to own my role as the gentle giant in order to find harmony within myself. I am basically Hagrid in human form, and the Hulk who needs to accept his emotions in order to become whole again 💝
:))))
this is the sweetest message on the whole internet ♥ I hope you get treated nicely, my boyfriend would describe himself pretty similar and i fell in love with him out of friendship ☺️
Sending you a big hug Mr. Gentle Giant💛
Are you a Taurus? xP
See this is a gem a lot of people need but only the ones who truly want to know will read and receive the benefits of the message
I’m mindblown on how wise Teal Swan is.
@HARRY SHANNON 11 11
Welcome to church of teal swan brother. Take a seat and relax. Let the knowledge flow. 🤗😇🙏
I know right?!
Rocker Chick there’s hands down nobody else like her incarnated 😂
She’s wise yes, but it’s her ability to break down and assimilate energy as information that blows me away. She has an incredible mind 🎁
I've been single for a while now...
So far its going pretty good.
I guess i must be the one ^^
🤣
@Hardy Harhar its awesome!
Last week i got myself a nice present and yesterday i went out for a lovely sunset stroll 😍.
I never yell at myself and i even do the dishes!
A few days ago i caught myself making a wonderfull dinner for myself.
With all the jokes aside, you really should love yourself first.
It is your life and your life alone.
Be nice for yourself and love yourself to the fullest.
Others will notice that love and you will attract love by doing so.
Have a great day and i wish you much love. Peace
Ived been single most of my life I gave myself the chance to b in a r a few yrs bck, it did not wrk the way I “expect” for it to end up, but I appreciate that experience I’m still single bck to what I have been familiar my whole existence.
The one that is ok being with themselves which makes it worthy of withstanding time
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23:25 True, we project what we want to see in a person, instead of seeing them for how they truly are. When we finally see reality, we are disappointed and end the relationship, sometimes blaming the other person which is in no way, at fault.
I also believe we often project things from our twin flames when we don't realize it that aren't our tfs.
Yeah, well, some people (Narcissists) purposely conceal heir real identity and behavior in the beginning.
@@marazampariolo3200 a lot of people will lie to get what they want from you. not sure why people are expected to take the blame if they did something while being lied to. some see it as excuses and justification. remember, your abuser wants you to be accountable for the way they treat you.
I believe that the main reason people cheat is from living a lie, living more who they should be because of being taught to sacrifice what they really want in life in general, the life that makes them feel alive, for the one that they should live. As Teal said, we follow attraction because it's the one thing left that gets through the drudgery of living and reminds us what feeling good feels like. Note to all, no matter what you "must" do, create a life around it that you love. And want the same for anyone you care about.
The statement that Teal makes about finding the right person and it feeling like you’re coming home is exactly how I felt the first time my husband hugged me. Those are the exact words I would’ve chosen. And he was the perfect partner for me in every way. Unfortunately, because of past abuse I wasn’t able to believe that I could deserve to be happy and I basically threw it all away. I think this is a very profound video and I so wish that someone would’ve taught me this when I was young. This should be taught in schools. Thank you, Teal! Bless you. 💕
I wish too, I sabotaged my 9 years relationship coz I took him for granted and didn't know my abandonment and trauma problems within me from my past. I hope he is getting love he deserves. I didn't know what's wrong with my emotional and mental state and just last year after someone else dumped me I started getting to the bottom of my problems. I wanted to commit suicide. I didn't want to live with so much shame and guilt and I'm 46. I got massively heartbroken again which affected my overal health. I never thought it's possible but it is and I'm gratefull for people like Teal who simply explains where we screwed up and to make a better choices in the future😁
@@andziagreen4922 Wow, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t think anything is worse than hurting the person you love the most and not realizing it until it’s too late to do anything about it. I think we need to give ourselves some credit though for having survived the trauma in the first place and then being willing to do something about it. I wanted to end my life after my husband died, but I have an older sister that needs my help and I would never do that to her. I’m trying to learn to be kind to myself, but it’s difficult. But we need to! That’s so sweet of you to be glad that your loved one will find the love he deserves. I find myself wishing that about my late husband. I wish that he could’ve found a woman earlier in life who would’ve loved him and given him the children he wanted, but as my sister always reminds me, he wouldn’t have wanted that. He would’ve chosen me. I know that’s true, but it still hurts like the devil. Why is it always so much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves? Thanks for sharing. Even though I’m sorry for your situation it kind of makes me feel a little better than I’m not the only person who’s done this. And you and I can’t be the only ones! I keep telling myself I didn’t do it on purpose. Of course I didn’t. And you didn’t either. Adults sure don’t understand how much they can mess up children, can they? I hope you find the healing you deserve and I also hope that happiness lies in your future. And mine! I think we deserve it, too. Thanks again so much for sharing. Take care of your special self! 💕🙏🦋
So sorry to hear that you lost that
@@No-ky3kb thank you. I didn’t lose it totally, but I wasted a lot of time and opportunity for love. 😢
She is formidable. I'll give her that
I had to pause this like 10 x to reflect...nicely packaged talk...
can u summarize for us love
This video came at a perfect time, as I was just thinking about my history with romantic relationships, the lessons I've learned and if or when I embark on another relationship, would I revert to my past patterns? I realized listening to this that as an empath I intuitively have great love for people I connect with and I see the good in them. I also realized having grown up in an abusive family I really never understood what love felt like, so I easily confused my innate love of others with being in love. I also realized that the reason all of my relationships have been with narcissists were because 1.) they reflected to me that lost yearning for love that lived deep inside of me and was denied, 2.) my innate love for others activated that part of them so while they fed off of my love energy, they were able to reflect a semblance of love energy back to me allowing me to 3.) project the fairy tale fantasy of my inner desires onto the relationship.
For me, this video is deeply powerful and I'm grateful for your message Teal. I always learn so much from you. I'm still processing all I learned from this video about myself and what it means to me but I wanted to share with you the immediate insights you brought into my awareness at a perfect time. Thank you and much love!
Thank you for bringing so much detail of returning to the unknown self remembering and yearning for the loving trusting one inside that has been brutalized.
Thank you for committing so deeply. Your voice codes are working!
Well thank you for this comment. My life is just the same and I've been spinning around in the same circle for years. This comment kind of says in couple of sentences something I'm stuggling to sumarize in my head for years. Or maybe since I am born, it all started at the very beggining right? Thank youu thank you
Who cares
Wow! I relate to you about 1) empath’s way of universal loving 2) childhood trauma creating confusion about love 3) attracting narcissists. Now I’m just wondering how I apply what I’ve learned here to change!
I could have written this
Wow, fragmentation and the two sides of ourself we split into, and how the side that left us hurt and vulnerable is the one we suppress and deny was a HUUGGEEE aha moment for me. Now I know I can use attraction to work toward understanding, accepting and loving that side of me that I "locked away" as a kid. Thank you! Team Humanity!!!
Feeling a sense of relief, exhale and relaxation around someone is exactly how I described my ideal partner! A side of desire too please!
Thanks Teal! You’re so helpful and uplifting xoxo
Wise
I went on a date the other night and didn’t have very high expectations. I ended up feeling just how you described. Like I could exhale and totally relax. I felt safe, wanted and completely in flow with this guy. I’m not touchy feely at all but found it hard to stay away from him. We laughed until we cried and hugged for hours. I’m open to the very likely possibility of this not turning into a relationship and I’m ok with that, I just want to get to have at least a few amazing experiences with him so that it doesn’t feel too short lived. Wish me luck 😋
@@dopehat868I'm sooo wishing you luck and also happy for you! I'd be exhilarated to see a positive outcome message from you! Love seeing good love stories in TH-cam comments section hahaha
I love how Teal Swan takes a bad situation and turns it into gold. She is an angel.
You know what I love - how you LOVE to say the things we all know but won't say ... like we LOVE attraction
and we put up with more from PRETTY PEOPLE
It’s subjective
I totally agree that when I was younger, I was attracted to people and I’d be like “he must be the one”! So silly, but I’m such a hopeless romantic and idealist. Lol.
@AJtheory I'm in my late 20s and it's one of the saddest times, probably the saddest of my life. I hope you are doing well.
Hopeless romantic = codependent. Guilty 🙋🏼♀️
AJ L I promise you it gets better 💛
story of my life
I'm a man that have a history with social anxiety and I tend to be attracted to young shy insecure women who reminds me of myself at that age. If I can do for them what I wish somebody else would have done for me when I was in that situation I think that part of me would be healed. This is something I realized by watching this video.
So fascinating to think that once we reintegrate those parts of ourselves the attraction vanishes
On to the next level unless we reject those parts of ourselves we were attracted to in them and discard the person instead
it did for me !
Happily married to sweetheart of my youth. Cancer caused her to leave the planet too soon. These videos are helping me to understand women, attraction and relationships a lot better. Thank you, Teal Swan.
Toxic friends wrecked my life once. Thank god for books. They keep me sane.
The societal push and obsession towards finding "the one" or your "soul mate" (or even worse - "twine flame") is downright dangerous. It got me into trouble a handful of times. It causes people to overlook so much in attempt to have the one thing they've been brainwashed into thinking they NEED to complete their lives...
Zelda's Lullaby FACTS
does that also mean we dont need children to complete our lives as well. people don't like that kind of talk. children are supposed to literally be completing their lives.
Totally agree
I needed this comment. I think soulmate means a person that is a catalyst to self love and spiritual awakening. Who freakin knows anything anymore. Its whatever it is bahahha
I would know, too, if I wasn't also "lured" into entrapment by her and/or those around her?
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! Im currently head over heels about someone. Synchronicity ✨
Darcy Royce The news gets boring after a while. I wanna know why im falling for the person im falling for lol
Same!
If I could do it over I'd go to UK in 2008 and start over there. I'd been happy to do a school there and wouldn't have been preset by society. I'd grown up in peace and not in hurt
Synchronicity or youtube/google algorithm?
Me too ^_^ I just got my ex back haha
25 minutes video took me 125 minutes to understand and digest. stopped video rewinded after every sentence and watced again and again. knowledge is so concentrated. thanks for uploading this video. helped a lot.
I agree
Teal Swan, you have such a way with words and helping others more simply understand the messages being conveyed. You are highly appreciated by countless individuals currently in different stages of their healing journeys, of this I am certain!
I've been looking deep into certain things with myself and feel that everything you've said relating to attraction vs love is spot on. Love your content, love your energy. Wish I had found your channel a long time ago, but perhaps this is the time I'm ready for it.
Yes,I am working on my inner child! Allowing myself to have fun again ! Perfect timing for me on this! Thank You!
i think I killed that one, the one that is playful silly happy. when i was 17. i'm 40 now. it was a mistake
This is amazing. It helps me get over my crush a little. She has everything that I ever wanted in my live. So I thought she was the perfect woman for me. Turns out the things I see in her are the things I lack in my self. Even though we never got into a relationship, I changed so many things about myself and made major life decisions (for the better), because I felt like a failure next to her.
I do wonder if I should tell her this someday. Maybe it'll help her someday knowing that she's a role model for someone. And of course i'm secretly hoping she likes me too and we do get in a relationship. :) But I highly doubt that since she's not showing any signs of attraction towards me.
That’s the beauty of being in love! It makes you become a better self, it gives you wings to fly. The problem is that most often you come crushing down to reality! The crushes are sometimes reciprocated! I think you should have told her asap! You might be surprised! I wouldn’t be surprised if she likes you too! Women can be misleading that way! I recognized myself a bit in your post and I admire your honesty!
I'll find a relationship after I'm dead.
Far before, friend. Didnt you hear she said attraction isnt about the other Person
@qzny0s
There was no mention of "God" in this video.
Thank goodness! (Not godness)
The best ones💗
@@huyked what's wrong with God and having faith
@@5000NATE
Well, in my eyes, there's a lot of things wrong with it. There's is no proof of any gods. And faith is believing in something for which there is no proof. That is not a good combo, nor principle to live by.
These videos in depth about attraction/desire/attachment are so useful, thank you for making them and please continue to make more to help us understand our feelings/emotions. xx
You are off the charts brilliant. I learned about this 32yrs ago from the book Embracing Each Other--made sense to me. I've become pretty good at explaining it to myself when needed and others, but you take it to a whole new level--as you do with most of the information you share. Love it. No better way to learn about your repressed self than in a mutually growing relationship--if you can handle it.
Thank you!! Bravo
Whenever I'm down, I remind myself, Teal is watching over us, you'll see when she uploads a video. The video is almost always about what was happening in that week. We're all in this together guys💞
Yes we are!
I agree, it's incredible.
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She's still submissive to her painbody abdominal brain
Indeed
So basically all the things I reject and am very annoyed by in a relationship with someone I had a massive attraction are the things I need to accept in myself... Super
I dunno man. I was annoyed at many things that I am Totally opposite and would NEVER do...
@@marazampariolo3200 Well that is probably one of the things Teal mentioned. You don't ever do these things because you disown and suppress them in yourself
@@Eclecticgirl17 it’s not conscious...
@@Eclecticgirl17 I agree with Mara. One thing my gf does which I have a problem with is say things without thinking about their impact on others. I love her but she says things which I would never say in a million years because I know how much hurt it can cause.
@@garethmorgan3665 You've disowned that part of you that says something without thinking it through. There was consequences for accidently hurting people in your childhood and so you had to suppress that part of you. It is still rejecting a part of you whether or not you think that part is acceptable.
I love when you have a serious face and towards the end of a segment you end with a smile lol or when you randomly giggle it's so contagious it makes me wanna smile and laugh
Great video. I like how you broke down the different areas of human attraction, appreciation, and love. You took it down to bite size pieces so that a person could see how the dynamic starts and moves forward in an intimate relationship whether that intimate relationship starts off emotionally, psychologically, or physically.
Thank you for that Teal. ❤️❤️❤️
Teal Swan has been a favorite of mine for years now and i never stop appreciating how enlightening her content has become. Teal and Leo from actualized are two of my most cherished youtube creators who genuinely care about conciousness work.
I'm such a hopeless romantic it's crazy. Great video, thanks Teal, appreciate you. ❤️
It feels like I heard myself talking :')
@@Stylies you too?
I’m sorry for all of us.
you keep blowing my mind. Thank you :)
Exactly what I wanted to comment on this video. This blew my mind
@@anicyb She hasn't said anything new or insightful. Attraction psychology tears this video to shreds. Don't be such a idol worshipper.
Healing for example and wholeness doesn't mean anything. Integration does mean something.
Too many people fall for this flowery language. Psychoeducation( e.g. family systems and attachment theory), emotional grieving and mindfulness will give you more than this video.
You're welcome 😊☺🙂😌💓💗😊☺🙂😌💓💗😊☺🙂😌💓💗
Thank so much
@@RhetoricalMuse @Rhetocalmuse who are you to tell someone else what does or does not resonate with them?
What you will learn from this video: "You have a lot very complex problems that spring forth as "Attractions"!! " , I think it's important for everyone to still understand that you are human and don't need to be perfect before you can Love or look for a partner, but what you can recognize and heal (which is what Teal teaches), can drastically broaden what you enjoy from life and what is is you really want from a life partner and ultimately , how happy you are with yours. All her teachings so far have gotten me to that conclusion and the work is very detailed and yet explained in such a way, it makes it easy to apply when you resist the urge to argue with whether it's a part that has drifted away or not. PS, Good choice of the red for the video :)
13:13 Mind Blown 🔥...I’m sharing this with my 24 year old daughter who I gave up for adoption when I was a teenager and is now dealing with insecure hurt feelings because of it . I’m praying that my actions doesn’t affect her relationships 🙏 thank you
Single for 4 years and for some reason i dont even feel attraction for anyone. Its like my feelings are numb yet something inside of me is craving for something....have no idea of what
Yeah same. What could it be about us?
Same.
You are probably a zombie then. You're just hungry.
Me too 😑
Hello... "Joining to your single group from 2021"😁✌️
This just validated my current situation like a hug from a fairy godparent. 💕💕💕💕💕
This was a conversation and talk I was just having yesterday lol - synchronicity and then some. It always boils down to self awareness. Yes attraction is not love and is self centred.
I have both attraction and appreciation for my husband ☺️ we could be rich together OR we could hav very little, etc.. and I would still absolutely adore experiencing this life with him! Conscious love!
I still really needed this video! Thank you Teal!
Im happy for you. Thats Epic
Wonderful ❤️
I absolutely casted my marriage, and now the role has changed. One of the most impactful Teal videos, for me. 🙏
You're the only person on this planet that makes me feel all my life decisions are wrong. I watch your videos and keep questioning my own miserable existence and I can't help but notice that everything you say is very deeply built within myself, I just haven't had the words to express it on my own. This shows that we are so much more than flesh and bone, and even our own soul...because there is a lot of versions of ourselves that we are unaware of...the way our own mother perceives us, the way our best friend sees us, or even our own partner/spouse sees us...it's not that simple...it's easy to lose ourselves just by interacting with other people. Only when we are foced to look deep within our soul is exactly what we are supposed to find and expect from life...it's just not that obvious within our own mortal coil, and some of us, unfortunately, only find the sense of it through death. Life is a journey...we must be careful not to ruin it with our own expectations, or expectations of others. Sorry for bad english...not my native language. Cheers, you are all beautiful, and I...I am a little bit drunk writing this XD
Beautifully said! I totally agree!
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Your English is perfect. You wrote this beautifully and explained how I felt❤
I especially relate to the lowest desperate suffering side of the coin. 😂😭
I’m sorry, Sola! Me too...sending some love your way from Arizona 💕
Ok that was funny lol
This is basic psychology and she articulates it beautifully. A wise teacher.
*Polarity between energies is a prerequisite for attraction to be genuine.*
And as Teal mentioned, there are levels to it. Attraction fluctuates depended on whether the polarity is disturbed or maintained.
I watch youtube videos as an excuse to read your comments :)
@@daniela.abendstern ; true. But they are badass.
I am so happy you described how it is supposed to feel like. I thought I wanted that excited feeling during this lifetime. I found that it feels right when you have this sea of instant calm. Like looking upon a completely still body of water. And time stops just for a little bit. And the whole world falls away in these deep intimate moments. I came to the conclusion this last year actually, that the electric feeling is probably some kind of sign of incompatibility. I like the idea also being shown with someone I respect and view as knowledgeable and balanced, and well versed in wisdom and experience.
God I love her voice and the way she say words.. Soothing reassuring ❤️
This helped me so much. It's obviously early yet in the journey but this helped me find closure with the end of a relationship that never got off the ground because there was so much conflict despite the mutual attraction. I finally feel like I don't *need* the other person for those qualities I love--I am drawn to them because I have suppressed them in myself, and in that case, can simply BE those qualities than rely on them in someone else.
I'm really attracted to extroverts so I need to let that part out in myself XD
Me too
Same. I always attract extroverts in relationships and I’m the complete opposite.
Comon fellas
This got to me
No, I am enough with relationship with ekstroverts. It is unfulfilling
I’ve thought this for years- I’m glad someone is now saying it.
All people should see this video, seriously!!! So insightful. Thanks!!! Feel like this will make my dating life so much easier haha
I just found my favorite relationship/self encouragement guide! Everyday I grow to better myself and find what it is I need by gathering this wisdom, thank you!
I find myself resonating with these tools!! I understand my longings and my desires! All I can say is thank you for sharing this beautiful wisdom, can’t wait to hear more!!!
"The universe has no interest in denying your needs and desires. What it does want is for those needs and desires to become concious." Wrap it up, guys. Real important... =)
@MsAgnostica Goes Quantum Lol each people in this planet xD
@MsAgnostica Goes Quantum Nice joke. But beware negative spirits trying to suck in your vitality to themselves in the AfterWorld... =P
I appreciate this video so much. Honestly one of the most eye opening for me. Thank you Teal ❤️
Thank you so much, Teal Swan!!! You have helped me become more humble and flexible as I've just reached my 73rd year a few weeks ago. I feel wonder for Heart-Growing by hearing ourselves hear the other. It is an amazing atmosphere in your Synchronization Workshops. The people seem distinct and communicating, in a flow rather than raprure.
Less than a minute in and I’m already saying “YES!”. I’ve tried explaining to people that there are different types of “love” but I like the attraction-appreciation-love distinction.
That was eye opening, especially the part where you explained the switch that may happen when you get closer to someone / -thing. Thank you!
Great talk! It is always the attraction that becomes love, then love becomes friendship and partnership,,,then attraction again with another soul, (long or short term )or you rediscover the attraction once felt with your initial partner and love again comes along. It is a circle that many of us experience, have experienced and will experienced. At 17:28, this is something where attraction has an advantage over good sense. 22:59 We will always give the attraction more time and forgive more because of image, you may become a slave to attraction, an addict.
I think I need to put this on repeat until I get it
The swimsuit girl in the bacgkround was the best editing ive seen in years...
This is such wisdom. I'm sure many people understand this innately, I have not always been able to decode why or what I'm attracted to, or craving...
This is really one of my top favorites of Teals videos. This helps me so much right now in my current situation and also in understanding how far I have come in a personal crisis I'm going through. So thanks a lot Teal! :)
I don’t know why but she is GLOWING
Bokeh
It's a secondary effect from being tuned into her own energy. We all do this if we're serious enough about it, and spend time on it. We are worthy of it.
“Relationships are assignments. They are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit’s blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit’s laboratories in which He brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth. He appraises who can learn most from whom at any given time, and then assigns them to each other. Like a giant universal computer, He knows exactly what combination of energies, in exactly what context, would do the most to further God’s plan… No meetings are accidental.” Marianne W. ♥️ honor your contracts.
I recently ended a room mate situation with a person who was totally psychotic..( threw my food out , sprayed and my clothes with Lysol because she was afraid I'd give her the Corona virus , nagged me constantly etc) I don't believe that this sick person was "destined" to enter my life...it was my fault for not realizing she was completely insane...never again..!!!
When I replace "He" with Source or the Universe, then there is no resistance and I'm able to understand it better.
@@theancientandreios7417 the kool thing is it almost the same thing behind the names
Anything wrong with not wanting anything to do with any humans because they are all annoying, sap all of your energy, and spit into your face for preventing them from falling off of a cliff? How does your "assignment" concept relate to my experience? Did I fail, or did they fail? It should help for you to know that I was good to all of those people, made many sacrifices for them and they still put the metaphorical knife into my heart.
@@tedmalley7636 That was the lesson, learning the warning signs so you don't have to put up with that again in the future!
This video makes me realize that what i've experienced is feeling of appreciation, attraction (physical or traits). I probably haven't in love with any man yet. Thank you. (Sorry for my english)
Purple Kitty your English is great! seriously! :)
Same here.
Same
I did not realize how UNIQUE your style of organization and delivery are… I always appreciate your scientific approach. You teach from a fundamental level. I’ve watched you for nearly a decade… God is with you. Let it be that you CONTINUE to grow in the WEALTH of God- in all ways. ✨
And when I say “I did not recognize,” I mean that I appreciated it, yet I did not have the enlightenment of sight 👁️ to see that it’s your NICHE ✨
((And no body does what you to))!!!! You are SO needed
This video helped me get more of the full picture of what I've struggled with. In high school I was awkward and lonely. I felt I wasn't normal cause "everybody" was having relationships but me. Now, a few relationships later, I'm always still searching because they haven't really met my needs. I think what I'm looking for is a "normal" woman to validate that I am normal too. However, I am with a fairly average woman right now, but we don't have much in common. I hold back talking about science and nerdy things, while she mostly talks about stuff that I don't really care about. Now I'm realizing that I need validated some other way. Thank you.
She cant validate you if she doesn't know who you are. She doesn't know who you are because you hide very basic things about yourself. At most you can feel the validation for a character you are playing.
Maybe he has tried talking about his interests and she showed disinterest/disdain enough times that he stopped doing it. I'd break up if that were the case. @@GChan129
Or go to couples therapy first, I guess.
The missing link to success is gratitude, as the law of attraction says you have to be grateful for what you have to attract success to you.
Yes,I have learned to stop and remember to be greatful,even when my dog poops on the floor!! Cause it means I have my beloved dog,and a floor to clean!!!!
Not every little thing but more has done assume everything is lessons some things are just dark forced
It’s all about perspective
Finally someone explained it to me. I've been looking for a video like this for AGES. I'm so smart now from all this coaching I watched before that, lol. Thank you for everything girl, you are changing people's lives.
Wow. Powerful. I'm in the first 'real' relationship in my life - and it's bringing everything to the surface. It's beautiful and challenging and my girlfriend and I are communicating our feelings and honesty all the way through it. At least doing our very best to, we're both on our journey of healing. And as long as your intention is to communicate and connect rather than withdraw and resent, then that in itself is the conscious choice to love. And I love her.
I am revisiting this video 2 years after seeing it the first time. Teal dissected attraction in such a comprehensive and succinct way, incorporating different perspectives on attraction.
Almost a year ago I met this man, who is handsome, nonchalant, confident and wealthy. We "fell in love" but didn't end up in a relationship mainly because of physical distance. But from the get-go, I recognized incompatibilities between us.
Man oh man, the attraction is crazier than I was consciously aware of. Because of Teal's teaching, I asked myself many times what it was that pulled me to this man. After I did the practice of removing his beauty and wealth, I pretty much would just see him as a Joe Schmoe off the street. I admire his ability to bring about abundance effortlessly. So I am starting my own business now.
This video blew my mind... and I am excited because it is so layered with the opportunity of personal growth, revealing what I have been rejecting and what needs I can meet in what ways I want to meet those needs... truly and exceptional information that will keep adding to my growth and expansion. ❤️
4-6 years bf I met my husband I attracted 2 of the worst narcissists around. I was really devastated and searched deep inside me. Thanks God my husband has nothing to do with such attitudes I feel blessed, I got experience and this is really important
Dear Teal, the videos you upload are the messages I need to hear in that particular moment. I am so grateful I found your wisdom.
I feel very attracted to Teal and feel a deep sense of appreciation and love towards her. Thank you Teal💚 Great video!!! 😘
I love Teal Swan. Whenever I seek spiritual advice I always turn to her, and she has never failed to inspire. The fact that she never asks for money yet offers her help for free is just an added bonus. How many professional, college-educated so-called "health professionals" ever do that?? I have spend THOUSANDS on such clinical therapists, and although they have been of some benefit, I have found the hard won lessons and wisdom of Teal to be like placing a healing balm on an open wound for me, a miracle in my life.
I adore how teal interjects these images to soften what is really heavy information to ingest.
A spoonful of sugar
Everything you are saying in this video I literally just realized a few days ago, without even watching it. :) Now I am watching and I really resonate with what you are saying. I realized that soulmates and twin flames are not what we tend to think they are. When we love ourselves, we don’t even need a soulmate, but we get them, though. :)
What am amazing video! Seriously struggling over here in missing someone and this video has opened a space to question and reflect. Thank you Teal.
Its really bloody simple. We are attracted to what we feel we LACK.
I found myself pausing the video to reflect multiline times. I reached back to passed relationships and reflected with the concepts one at a time. I'm realizing that keeping a memory of ones past in an accessible way is hugely important for intigration.
Teal videos are always timed perfectly
I needed to hear this today, I’m sitting with tears of relief streaming down my face. Thank you so much 🙏🏻
This video just appeared at the exact time. Just have been on a dating-event on Thursday, gladly got a match and immediately wrote to her. And then, there is this new video from Teal xD
Open
its also great to realize that past life affinity is also a big part of attraction . . .
Teal is a smart BadA! Very educational. Overlay: "Like moths flying towards a flame thinking it is moonlight".
I seem to attract very kind and giving, but anxiously attached, maybe wounded women. They are initially, or onglingly attracted to me, but I'm not able to provide containment for them. Also, being fearful avoidant, it always has ended in pain. Trying to do different for...next time.
I cannot express to you how much you just changed my life. I had been going through an immense longgggg period of mental confusion. Not able to pinpoint certain emotions, not able to tell what they mean, just crazy confusion energy. This literally took me outside of the box I was in and now I can actually see the situations and people involved. I can see the 3D cube, as before I was like a being only able to see 2 dimensions trying to figure out which way was the 3rd. Thank you so so so so so so very much💙💙💙💙💙💙
My king of swords just turned upright and I truly understand it now