the one habit you need: how to set systems (vs goals) ft. tidy with me
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➖ 4 steps to creating your system
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- 0:19 Choose systems rather than goals.
- 0:40 A goal is a specific objective you achieve or not sometime in future. What is waiting to be achieved someday, is a goal.
- 0:45 A system is what is done on a regular basis that achieves odds of overall happiness in long run. What is done everyday, is a system.
- 1:00 A goal is a result to achieve, a system is the process that brings those results. System is the practice, while goal is performance.
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- There are 4 steps to change outputs by changing systems of inputs (each step is numbered in order).
1) 2:09 Identify the why. Reflect on where you are and where like to be. To learn this, a great framework to try is current state vs desired state gap analysis.
2:44 1st in this analysis, find where you are currently in situation, answer questions like "how am I feeling?", "how do I spend time?", and "what is currently driving me?".
3:13 2nd in this analysis, find where you are desired to be in situation, answer questions like "how would I like to be living in an ideal world?", "why do I have this desired state?", and "is my desired state rooted in my values?".
3:48 3rd in this analysis, looking into the gap in between by answering questions like "why does the gap exist?", "why close it?". Also set up systems for your desired state, what makes the desired state work.
2) 6:04 Identify the how. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state. You might try a system to help you get there (the video doesn't provide much more info).
3) 6:57 Execute the what. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state but much more detailed. What actionable steps, where make adjustments, and what small incremental changes can you commit to.
4) 8:03 Assess and adjust. Take a step back and make adjustments to the system. Celebrate small wins. Build systems that best suit you.
8:53 If you desired to build deeper relationships with friends, build a system. Leave phone out of sight during meals, listen during conversations, and ask deep meaningful questions.
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GIRL, Im gonna go take a shower, then come back and rewatch this and take notes. IM GETTIN MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER❤️
You got this ;) wishing you the best
Forever Never felt that
Wow❤
Go girl!
How'd it go?
Your first video on this literally changed my life. I know people say that loosely but I mean it. I saw the first systems, essential, etc video. I watched it 3 times. Then listened to it REPEATEDLY for three days straight. I went out and bought atomic habits and essentialism. And read a section a day. It has truly been a blessing. Also as I move about I consistently mumble “two minute rule” when I try to push off doing an easy task haha my room has STAYED CLEAN! With depression/anxiety keeping a clean room is an accomplishment worth crying over. Either way I am grateful for you.
I am always self reflecting/taking on self development. Your video(s) help me pair my self reflection with ACTION.
Thank you!!!
Thats amazing. Good Job!!
happy for you!! :-)
what is the link of the first video
So proud
Yay !!! I recommend “The Power of Now” by Elkhart Tolle after you read atomic habits
My boyfriend and I always say “no way of knowing” when one of us asks a question, which means that we don’t Google it until we decide on an answer ourselves & give a reason for our answer. It’s just something silly we do, but it’s so fun!
meganeff 😊♥️
that'S REALLY intelligent! I hate that people google everything before trying to find it out. And then feel so clever because they "know" it but forget about it 1 minute after
Very good! Generating Effect will help you remember the right answer. AsapScience Channel has a resent video about it.
that is so cute, what a great idea
I love that! I bet that helps with critical thinking and feels amazing when you surprise yourself with having the right answer
Heyy, do you like to start a podcast? Cause your topics are so interesting omg. And how about writing a book? You are very inspiring
Really nice idea.
Yesterday i realised that I need to change my evening routine and go to bed earlier in order to make my morning more productive and finally stop being late everywhere
And it feels like you read my mind
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Honestly if you’d write books they’d be the only books I’d buy from a youtuber and I’d buy all of them I’ve learned so much from you
*ADVICE FOR YOU, ROWENA* !!! You should have a catch-all basket when you come in for all of your skincare from work... so you don´t put the skincare all over your apartment... then all you have to do, is sort through said skincare basket at some later time... hope this helps :) XX
Too add to your point. If she built her own tribe of ppl or friends who can follow a checklist she provides for reviews. She can get through all of them and save Space and Time :)
I've been taking James Clear's advice and writing down my intended actions, and the time and place in which I will perform them. It seems to be working so far. One thing I've noticed that's crucial for an effective system is to focus on one thing (which Rowena mentions a lot). The moment I give attention to other things time flies and before I know it I've made no progress on what I really want to do. Focusing on one thing is like dancer pose in yoga. In order to maintain your balance in dancer pose, you have to pick one spot on the floor and stare at it, if you look away you lose your balance.
EDIT: I want to be 100% honest with everyone here and say that LITERALLY the day after I left the above comment I TOTALLY failed to follow through on the intention I had written down for that day.
Please my dear remind me the name of the book
Hahaha I read “James clear” as “James Charles” and was really surprised/impressed by his insight. I was like damn the beauty community is getting deep😂
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Aamanda Zittlau lol literally me too
@Josh Shorty This is great suggestions, thank you. I will definitely jot this down 🤗
I know it’s your JOB but the sheer amount of products gave me anxiety ): makes me want to declutter my own beauty products
There's no way only one person can thoroughly test that amount of products
Millennial Stray I felt that too
Millennial Stray Sameeeee
I came here to say the same, it's a lot. I don't mean to sound negative but Rowena should donate some of the products. Minimalists how are ya'll doing? lol
I was wondering how I can trust her recommendations when her face/skin goes tru so much work!
Who else got distracted by the video and the voice over?
So many tubes of skin care 😱
I can say that I enjoyed watching the cleaning up process😅
Whoa! You have a whole drugstore going on there. I've never seen a larger home collection then yours!
Omg she talked about lavendaire!!! My two favourite youtubers right now. 🌸
I'm a guy but I learned many things from both of them. I really love Lavandaire and Rowena Tsai! ♡♡♡
I've never seen so many products outside a store!
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"thinking less, doing more". Hits me hard
Being solely focused on the goal can literally ruin you life. A lot of people deny the value of building processes by creating habits done every day that lead to the end goal, and it's one of the things that I talk about in my channel a lot.
I've been feeling like a mess lately, feeling that there's so much things to do, yet there's 'nothing' to do. Sounds confusing right?😆 Overall, I'm feeling overwhelmed lately due to the transition of being a postgraduate student to a person looking her first permanent job. And I'm glad you shared with us this system, Rowena. I'm gonna try to re-evaluate my life using the system and hopefully will feel better. 💖
I am in the same exact boat as you rn. I just graduated back in December and now I am in the process of just applying to jobs and waiting to hear back. It is a lot of waiting and I am just wishing for the wait to be over. I have been trying this new system rather than goals method to get more clarity in my life and focus on personal goals but it has been hard. I am cheering you on and hope you get your first permanent job soon!
my, my. same sentiments
Hey how'd it go? Don't stress if you didn't hit your target the first time, keep going :)
Hi Anne Amy
Sometimes, it’s ok to decluter our lives from people too
Yesterday when I saw the words "keeping a tidy space" I got up off my lazy butt, did my physical therapy, cleaned my room, got ready, and actually finished my list of to-dos for the day plus more. I'm not sure what kind of sorcery you're using but keep it up because I have never been that productive in my life.
Currently reading Start with Why, Atomic Habits was one of my fave books from last year and I live by the 2 min rule now and it helps so much!
Unrelated but your new rug 💕
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I knew it it was you~ yay! I love both of your vlogs! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Rowena,
Using your video today I identified that the current me is a person who is too tired to clean on weekdays, and spends a big chunk of weekends tidying up and secretly hating my family for not helping me (they work on weekends while I'm the only one at home). What you helped me do is the following:
1) I made a list of chores, dispensed them within family members and made a schedule who does what & when.
2) Also I will change my input by doing my best to return things back to their places after I've used them.
3) I will spend 15 min in the a.m. & the p.m. on weekdays, and 30 min in the a.m. & p.m. on weekends to keep the place clean.
4) I'll create a to do list to remind myself of the things I committed to.
5) I realized I might have to get up 15 min earlier.
Thank you for your wonderful content. That's a like, a subscribe and a bell. Have a wonderful day!
I’ve realized that in the previous year I was setting systems ; I was studying while taking care of myself by doing wht I really like and wht makes me feel better ,but now due to the importance of my school year I’ve been watching so much vids to find the best way to get high grades and all the videos were about setting goals ,this wht makes me sad I’ve transformed to a goal setter person for ‘bout 7 months, I set everyday hard goals and promise to myself to take care of my happiness after achieving them, but I’ve realized that I’ve achieved 50% of them but in a vry boring process ; I’ve never enjoyed the process of studying during those months,so I didn’t last long and at the end I gave up my health.
But now I’m so grateful to find ur channel ,And I’m making progress in my self care/ studying systems ! Thank u so much for saving us, love ya ❤️💫
Rowena: zooming in on the messy parts
me, an actual hoarder: man i wish that were me
I came back to watch this video. I watched it about 6 months ago and accomplished everything I wanted by following your directives. I learned open -water swimming, started a brilliant new lifestyle, and met the love of my life. I will now integrate a system to save money. I'm ever-grateful to you, not least because I love how you present information. Bless you. Love from Croatia.❤️
I think with the toiletries/beauty products I would store it at work. Then shop from work, I need more shower gel, face cream etc, then you bring that home from work as you need it. I also wonder if you bring them home then try them to see if you like it, I would test at work first then only bring home my first choice. You could keep 2 massive plastic no see into boxes with lids under your desk at work to store it all. Great video 😊😊😊
I look forward to my voice hugs every week, also i swear i forget to breathe sometimes when you mentioned it i was like oh crap have i been breathing *takes deep breath*
I legit took out my notebook and wrote everything you said. Truly valuable points you have mentioned.
Thank you so much Rowena✨ feeling refreshed over here!!!!
I’ve found Atomic habits to be sooo inspiring and enlightening and I love that you are creating content on these topics that are so important to me at this stage in my life. I find your videos to be sooo relatable but more specifically so raw and so real and open and thought provoking. It is so great to have your videos to learn from and get inspiration from to help me on my own journey. I wonder if you have any plans to do videos on mental health topics and therapy ( anxiety, cognitive behavioral therapy etc) because I suspect you would be great at helping people in those ways too.
Dear Rowena, your advice and method inspired an aunty of 50yrs old like me so much. So helpful and useful. Sending you loads of HAPPY blessings and 💖 ... keep up the GREAT WORK.
From your senior fan/aunty here.
Andddddd 2 years later I’m back still watching this video. Thank you so much for your wisdom and creativity!
I'm seriously so grateful to have found this video and your channel in general. Thank you!
She’s like Ariel for skin care 💕
I have been binging your videos all week I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this I was so excited to watch it! Your videos came to me at the perfect time in my life. I'm so grateful.
Rowena, this came at a very needed time in my life. I’ve been “meaning to” really track and evaluate my habits and now I have the perfect guide! Shared this with a few of my close friends. Amazing as always
This is such an amazing video, I feel motivated instead of overwhelmed! Usually when people talk about goals it just feels to me like an endless cycle of feeling that I'm not doing enough but I can understand the process and the idea that the systems are always adjusting is such a good mindset thank you so much!
You reminded me to review all my goals and resolutions for this year!! Thank you for always inspiring me to improve myself!!
A lot of powerful advice and tips thank you so much for creating this in going to go check out the rest of the series now 🙏🏽
i agree! Ive been trying out my own systems the last few months and its been easier than I thought it would to keep doing them.
Watching your videos have become part of my favorite weekend morning routines- I love how informative they are, the editing- and most importantly when I finish watching a video I feel like I really learned something. I almost immediately want to implement it! Thank you so much for your hard work~~!
This channel was such a blessing to find
This is incredibly healing, especially for those seriously changing their life. This is one of those videos that changes you, at least for me, because it is exactly what I need ❤️
Love this! It's so satisfying watching someone tidy up! Especially coupled with great tips and advice!
Your content has such a concise/logical flow but still impactful. Thanks for making this!
this is really coming to me in a positive way right now! i've spent the last few days thinking i want to do better by myself and be healthier all around, and this made me sit down and really consider ways to achieve that. thank you always for your thoughtful content, rowena! 💝
i love ur videos about creating systems and finding peace with urself! I think this is something everyone needs rn in the midst of pandemic:)
I just found your videos and honestly I'm so inspired and delighted by your aesthetic. It's extremely relaxing so thank you so much for sharing ✨✨✨
I just live for u, ur voice, ur motivation, ur mindset, JUST YOU
I loved how practical this video is. Truly helpful, it inspires to take effective steps towards our goals! 🌞
I watched the first video about this yesterday and was excited to see this one today! I actually spent an hour watching as I was pausing to take notes. I think this will be so beneficial for me as I'm working to change my outlook on life, and create a calmer environment in myself and around myself.
Thank you so much for this!
What an incredible video! Thank you for making those with so much effort ✨
This is by far your best video! You explained this so well, and really helped me incorporate this into my life. I really like your other videos also but this one my mind was blown! Thanks for much for sharing
Its crazy how all your videos are helpful and worth watching.
That blows my mind. Thank u for the beautiful content.
Thank you for sharing your wise words and content! I also find myself so motivated after watching you! May the new year bring you many blessings. I love you!!
I just finished watching Essentialism because of you and it was incredible. You are such a bright light 💕
I love seeing people organize their stuff lol , i also like organising my own stuff but sometimes i also procrastinate .
Also your voice is so calming for some reason and it helps me relax at night when I've done everything that i had to do on that day .
Hi Rowena ✌🏾Just discovered your channel today:) I appreciate how much work you put into your videos. From 2014-2018 I was mostly goal/outcome oriented, and lately have been trying to be more process/system oriented. I’m currently in the process of reading Atomic Habits. Great book. Great work Rowena!
Been referencing this video over the last couple months to make sure I'm setting up systems for my life. Thank you for sharing this info ❤️
I have a great sense of happiness after watching this video it has given me hope , great tips but most importantly it brought me to your channel 👏🏼
👌 second time I’m listening to this one. I totally agree with this and do my best to keep it in mind. I’m not perfect at it but practice definitely makes perfect. Viewing it like this makes it so much more obtainable.
You're such an amazingggg person Rowenaa, thank u😭💜
Soooo inspiring, as always!! The graphics are so simple, pretty and helpful. Love your apartment.
That bit towards the end about wondering... 👏🏻 I reach for my phone right away for any little wonder that goes through my mind - I should just let my mind wonder more and slow down on seeking the tiniest bits of knowledge
New Subscriber here! I’m so happy I found your videos when I did. I have been trying to live with more intention lately and have been doing alright so far but watching this really helps to give it more structure(I thrive w/structure lol) which makes it seem so much less scary. Definitely going to get these books you mentioned. Keep going! Love your videos
Thank you for making this video and helping us to keep a tidy space and peaceful mind. These two areas of life are so important for overall happiness, and using systems is a great way to live full out!
Soo much to unpack you did your thang here. God bless you for the wisdom you’ve released today.🙌🏽
thank u! I´m so grateful for that. I´ve been feeling stuck and didn´t want to do even the things I like doing... your videos inspired me and now I feel motived ;)
I loved this. This has helped me change my outlook on growth thank you!
This might seem like the weirdest comment, but this video was a mayor part of my Spanish paper in which I focus on emotions and their relation to achieving goals, apart from that it was a video that really inspired me to try and do better.
Thank you a lot!
Seriously, thank you for this. Concise with just the right amount of details. This can be a gamechanger for me!!! 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much. This was such a timely video for me. I've been going to therapy for the last years and made significant progress mentally. but I have trouble implementing change in the day to day and it's been frustrating. So the idea of separating goals from systems makes so much sense and this video is just the extra little nudge i needed to get started. Which is what I will do now. Thank you.
I’ve rewatched this video so many times and finally created my system. Thank you so much for your content! Nothing has ever made more sense. I’ve been too focused on the smallest of details and so focused on perfection. I have watched you, Lavendaire, and Muchelle B for years and always get great lessons. Now kind of “zooming out” to focus on the long term ways I can still have the life I am excited about while crushing goals. Figuring out what was working and what wasn’t.... I’m actually in awe. Thanks again Rowena! 💓
Rowena, Hi! I watch your videos for inspiration and you do that very much. This one is my absolute favorite. I took notes off of this and I plan to abide by it. Thank you so much and I do hope for the best for you. xoxo
Thank you for your organized and humorous video. You make me feel calm and motivated. Thank you!
Rowena, I love all your videos thank you for sharing and making a positive change in your own way.
I was tired when I clicked on this video so when I read the captions I mixed the name Rowena with potatoes into “rowtatoes” 😂😂 great video as always 💖
you have such a soothing way of talking! i just discovered your videos and i am loving them!
Wow! I just came across your TH-cam channel, and I’m so glad it was on my recommended list. You’re a life saver, and your videos are so pleasant and cozy to watch. Thank you much, love from Brazil. 🇧🇷
So much peaceful and helpful.. I love watching your all videos.. Thankyou for your hard work.. Keep up your good work ❣️💞
Everytime I watch your videos, I always have my notes with me because I don't wanna miss any words of wisdom from you hehe. You inspired me to be better. Thank you for existing.
I dont now how, but every week Rowena puts out a video with the element that I'm missing from my life. When I saw the title of this video i felt like my prayers were awnsed and that even tho this week was hard it was going go learn and improve from it especially by seeing this video. Thank u so much 💙💙
thisss is so helpful! just learnt about system and get myself more productive and making good use of my time! thank you for this!
Randomly came across this video yesterday. I never really had goals and so this make more sense to me. I love systems, a systems thinking class during my masters changed my life honestly. I made a list last nigh on how my days were going to look like and today is Day 1 and I already see a major difference. I was already kind of on this path but this video made it seem more tangible and helped me organize my ideas. Thank you!
Thanks so much for making this video. I appreciate you were so succinct and on point with how to make a system. I found it so useful that I’ve even bookmarked it so that I can refer to it later
Thank you so much just wanted to say i’ve learnt something in this video x inspired me to start thinking about my systems :))
your videos, especially these system vs. goal videos are so helpful to me!
also, i'm an elementary school teacher and this i use often: clean desk/work space means clear mind. the students really benefit from a tidy learning space.
Your voice is so calming to listen to 😌
This video and script was sooo good and so packed with valuable content. Worth rewatching a couple of times. Thank you. Would love full book reviews too!
Thank you for a well planned video, simplistic breakdown, and list of sources and resources.
I just want to say this was one of your best videos yet, in my opinion. I wanted to write almost everything you said down, your voice just perfectly emphasized each word and turn of phrase (so jealous of that amazing reading voice). Also really appreciate your detailed description box, as always. Top tier content, you should be proud of yourself, and thank you. Sincerely, a fellow sweet potato. That should be a thing
Thank you for this. I really needed this.
This is great. I’ve learned that my life moves so much smoothly when I use a system. Thanks for the tips!
Exactly!! The journey is key. Loved your video!
I'm going to use this video to help rethink my system I want to make to be more present in the morning. I tried taking morning walks, but it seems to not be quite the "how" that works best for me...
Also, your videos convinced me to start reading Atomic Habits and I'm finding it so helpful too!!
So glad that your channel is promoting these kind of positive thoughts towards having the well-being and being purposeful.
Watching you organize your house is soo relaxing. It feels like you’re putting together my mind.
You are incredible! Every video blows my mind.
Omg the west elm dresser that's been on my wishlist forever 😭😭 great video btw! Thank you for always giving me calming motivation 🥰
Great great great video ! Thank you for being so clear and efficient and practical.
I came across your video when I needed it. I can't thank you enough xxxx
This is just what I have been asking for!! 💚🌱 Thank you