the health problems I got from living with a narc was insane. lost weight, lost my period, lost soooo much hair, headaches all day everyday, ended up in the hospital twice, I got weird spots in my eyesight, all the while being told that I was being treated very well!!! run if you can, people. they're walking, talking demons who think they're kind good people...
Isn't that crazy...I was being told the same ..& in my unwell, exhausted & confusion of being in the actual marriage at the time I couldn't quite put it into words as I didn't really know what narcissism is because my mother is also one & I was brought up believing I was the problem from very young & that I had to be selfless to my own needs & mainly that meant my boundaries & health & everything else.other wise it meant I was selfish,I got that from both of them but I couldn't work out what I was doing that was selfish.even if I tried to get a moment of rest because I wasn't getting any & needed it because I developed heart problems & other health conditions...I was being lazy...even though I did everything in & around the home.
@@ladyqweem8254 my ex narcissistic husband told me that when he have sex with me he is revenging for me that I took time to agree to date him .and I was most in pain after sex .one time he could just lay on top of me and he was very heavy .now I left him after 20 years and I look back and feel disgusted .I am always tired .I have C- PTSD ,endometriosis ,diabetes ,ulcer active colitis ,depression ,my body just ache ,I hardly sleep and am in therapy with narcissist specialist and she understand it very well.
That soul sucking sound of narcissistic abuse results in physical, mental, and spiritual exhaustion from the victims continuous need to remain hypervigilant! Thanks, Danish.
Yes. My last narc said: "people feed off you". He literally said it to me face. So that proves not only are you correct..but they are completely aware of it. Evil 👿
Ver true. I had chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia from living with the narcissist for 20 years and the symptoms vanished soon after I separated from him.
Agree. My fibromyalgia is gone. Just have to deal with the occasional anxiety attack (when triggered by a memory or one of exs actions) and osteoporosis. Healing daily. I'm trying to be in no contact, but he is using kids to still get his little stabs into my life.
Not lazy..freeze response..! I was the same. When i met him, slim, fit and healthy. 5 years later obese, severely depressed, feeling paralysed every day, panic attacks, lost all hope and ambition. 😠
I was wiped for like a year and a half after dealing with my sociopathic narc family AND narc friends. I almost went to the hospital because I thought it couldn't have just been fatigue from dealing with their bs but it really was just that!!!
I was that person who went to the hospital. I literally collapsed from how overwhelming it all was. It compounded my mental and physical problems 10 fold. I was a wreck.
I was like this, so exhausted after getting away, and it took years to get my energy back up again, Thank you for this explanation, it makes sense "Soul Fatigue", 👍💯
True. True. True they can turn a person into just a dead body who eats and breathes, but can't even move. I know someone very closely who suffers this hell everyday ...
I know. I relate. And it's my neighbor. And one natural herb that I am using to combat fatigue is cayenne. I have been taking it 4 times a day in tomato juice and my energy is finally returning.
My malignant narc older sister used to call me at work just to extols her virtues that she actually never exhibited. When my coworkers heard her talk (speaker on) they all asked "what's wrong with her"? I just had no answer then....until now. Thanks Danish!
So true. I remember feeling like I need a lot of sleep, naps and shutting down in the active phase of healing during detachment from the narcissist. Thank you.
Nark sharks 🦈 Time to get out of the water 🌊once one bites into you, they all start to swarm and feed on your flesh 🫀🩸they smell fresh blood a mile away and together they will all finish you off if you can't break free.
That is so true. I told him I could feel him stealing my soul piece by piece. By the end of dealing with two, I couldn't even feel my soul. 😢 She's back better than ever now though!
God bless you. This is exactly what I feel like now...still......a 20+ years worth of abuse from my narcissist ex wife. I just don't feel like doing ANYTHING anymore. Don't do any of the things I use to love to do.
No contact 4 months now! I got a cat and quit the coffee and wine; finally sleep through the night. but still feel drained. Self confidence is starting to bubble up.Blessed relief!
I've often described the extreme fatigue as my life force being drained , it sure does feel like my soul is very tired now , this narcissistic abuse spans 40 years of my life .
Get a full panel nutritional blood test for all your vitamins and minerals. Narcissistic abuse is a trauma that stresses the body's reserves of nutrients. We burn through more nutrients when under stress especially trauma from things like abuse or neglect. It is very important to identify and correct any and all vitamin and mineral deficiencies. Get as much tested as your insurance will cover then pay out of pocket for additional tests if you can and keep retesting every few months after adding in the foods and supplements to help get your numbers in range.
Yes, I'm still recovering and tired after recently going No Contact; however, I have noticed I'm taking fewer pain meds than before. It's a start and definitely a confirmation I did the right thing!
Bravo! Good for you that you have finally decided to take off. It's time for you to choose you! Narcissistic people are never satisfied. They keep taking and taking from you. You feel like they are sucking the life out of you. Your healing pretty much starts when you leave, so congratulations! Much love ❤️ Take care of yourself 😂
@@haddytaal1293 but this is a family member. They had a 50th wedding celebration last weekend but didn't go because I couldn't. Long story but I know that all the relatives and all who were there think the worse of me now.
@Di Mine has been 30 years plus. It's been almost 2 years now since i finally got the courage to call it quits. I am still healing. However, I feel happy and at peace. The truth will prevail. Focus more on you, and the rest will fall in place.
@@di4085i feel your pain. It was a close family member with me too. 47 years. It's so hard accepting no contact. It feels like they died! But worse than that! Is the betrayal. The fact that they succeeded in ruining my life. Its literally murder. Thats how i feel. Like i was murdered. I cant start over now, ill never have a family of my own. And they just get away with it 😈
exactly. Then a spiritual friend said I am being negative calling them "demon", it is holding heaviness and causing me health issues. She said to keep blessing that demon anytime any hurt comes up. I cannot. It has started messing my healing. I was neutral. Wished him neither bad or good. But doing this blessing exercise is making me miss him again and make me wish that demonic druglike person to reach out to me. 😢 She is like they were this way due to their own experience. I said that does not give them the right to abuse anyone. She is highly spiritual and strict but this advice does not sit well with me.
High cortisol levels which causes all kinds of physical ailments. I developed anxiety, depression (mental) and osteoporosis (physical). Slept a lot because it was a way to escape my circumstances.
Omg i thought i was the only one who collapsed! They suspected adrenal insufficiency or a heart problem. They even thought i had systemic / heart infection from the tooth abcess i had. Nothing was diagnosed. It just felt like i couldnt take it any more. I thought i was dying.
@@sjla2009 because they're literally harvesting your life force. They have no power of their own( they live outside their body) and they need to siphon others' energy to exist. Affecting/ impacting someone greatly gives them power/ fuel
My first reaction always was this, how can I prevent these things from actually happening, how can I turn around those crazy decisions and save my life and the life of my daughter?
The worst controlling narcissist I ever knew caused chronic fatigue syndrome in me 10 years ago. Hit me like a truck and I never recovered. Got covid and the flu a year ago, just compounded the cfs. Now I'm trying to operate at 15% of my former energy level. Imagine having a phone that only charged to 15%. It/You'd be worn out by 10am. And that is correct. I've lost everyone, everything and even my cats. Only enough energy for basic survival. I consider ending it every single day.
I can tell you since the narc left my house the over heavy feeling in our house dropped to nil..my hubby is happier he doesn’t have to deal with the snark and I have lost weight and my liver pain totally decreased..it’s been a month. I have more energy and I sleep normal now lol. So yeah..bad vibes gone quality of life improves.
And im still hypervigilant even tho ive said out loud any and every thing these psychopaths could possibly want to know. Idk how tf im going to get out or if ill be safe once i do. If im fkn not i hope these youtube comments help bring justice to my family.
I always felt exhorted for many hours after my mother used me as a punching bad, for no fault of mine. First, couldn't sleep for many hours after being verbally abused, then, had to get up to go to school, and tired as I was had to concentrate highly to bring straight A's to avoid more abuse. I am a perfectionist. Can you guess why?
A long period of adrenal use by your brain you will be exhausted real quick, and you can get sick as a result. I finally left the AA group I was attending because they would not stop interfering with my life via slander, gossip and isolating me from everyone I talked to including both male and female. I had so few friends after a year of this I left to protect myself. After four months of being away from those people I'm starting to heal and changing the direction of my life. It is spiritual warfare and I'm convinced that the main girl spreading this stuff might have a demon. Everyone thinks she is so sweat, I think she is evil.
how to battle this doctor. I am so tired .. immensely tired😪 he was a dream in the beginning. but when he trapped me. he threatened me and his house is full of weapons. like a katana and a tomahawk and huntersknifes. I needed to stand up at 5 o'clock in the morning and needed to join construction work. he has a own business. I needed to clean cook etc. I needed to watch movies on Netflix the whole evening and I needed to go bed at 8 o'clock in the evening. which i couldnt because i needed to wash etc.. and when I got to bed I couldnt sleep because of his neighbor's being very antisocial and hammering on the walls. I am so tired... when I sleep I cant get up anymore. help me please God!
Whats it mean when youve gotten to the point wgere the narcs mom is watching you via your phone, the dads watching you physically, so you start talking to yourself in your room saying everythinf thats ever happened in the relationship out loud and they just keep collecting everuthing tryinh to make sure they can out lie your truth? I cant even safely leave without all 3 of them tracking me at this point.
dear Danish, can we do this without pill or must get it, at night time i cant sleep, i am sad, angry, raging, crying is there something naturally to help this to go away
I like that term "Soul Fatigue" that's the best explanation I have come across.
Same I was like this right here! 💪 is exactly the term I feel
Same
It is soul fatigue 😊
Exactly
The more I learn the more I realize I was dealing with an earthbound demon!
the health problems I got from living with a narc was insane. lost weight, lost my period, lost soooo much hair, headaches all day everyday, ended up in the hospital twice, I got weird spots in my eyesight, all the while being told that I was being treated very well!!! run if you can, people. they're walking, talking demons who think they're kind good people...
💯💯💯💯👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏💪
There is nothing good about them they are Pure Evil, and they never change, 😏🚩🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Isn't that crazy...I was being told the same ..& in my unwell, exhausted & confusion of being in the actual marriage at the time I couldn't quite put it into words as I didn't really know what narcissism is because my mother is also one & I was brought up believing I was the problem from very young & that I had to be selfless to my own needs & mainly that meant my boundaries & health & everything else.other wise it meant I was selfish,I got that from both of them but I couldn't work out what I was doing that was selfish.even if I tried to get a moment of rest because I wasn't getting any & needed it because I developed heart problems & other health conditions...I was being lazy...even though I did everything in & around the home.
Some of them know what they are doing that is why they pretend at first or try to pretend they are just cruel and some of them know it
@@ladyqweem8254 my ex narcissistic husband told me that when he have sex with me he is revenging for me that I took time to agree to date him .and I was most in pain after sex .one time he could just lay on top of me and he was very heavy .now I left him after 20 years and I look back and feel disgusted .I am always tired .I have C- PTSD ,endometriosis ,diabetes ,ulcer active colitis ,depression ,my body just ache ,I hardly sleep and am in therapy with narcissist specialist and she understand it very well.
That soul sucking sound of narcissistic abuse results in physical, mental, and spiritual exhaustion from the victims continuous need to remain hypervigilant! Thanks, Danish.
How long that last?? 🤪
Because they suck all your energy
Yes. My last narc said: "people feed off you".
He literally said it to me face. So that proves not only are you correct..but they are completely aware of it. Evil 👿
Yes, constantly happened with me. Couldn't study, couldn't do anything but laying on bed all day long !
I was the same, could hardly do anything when I got free , permanently exhausted too 😏🚩🏃♀️
Ver true. I had chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia from living with the narcissist for 20 years and the symptoms vanished soon after I separated from him.
Agree. My fibromyalgia is gone. Just have to deal with the occasional anxiety attack (when triggered by a memory or one of exs actions) and osteoporosis. Healing daily. I'm trying to be in no contact, but he is using kids to still get his little stabs into my life.
@@cornelia-wp5hj I too experience occasional bouts of pain, healing in process. Wishing you more power💪. Lots of love and hug to you.
SOUL FATIGUE
Fight or Flight is exhausting !!!
Life is hard enuff without a narc !!!
Thank you, you are awesome Danish,, he told me I was lazy, didn't want to do anything in life..
Not lazy..freeze response..!
I was the same. When i met him, slim, fit and healthy. 5 years later obese, severely depressed, feeling paralysed every day, panic attacks, lost all hope and ambition.
😠
I slept for a year after getting away from my narc husband. Total exhaustion, mentally, physically, spiritually.
I was wiped for like a year and a half after dealing with my sociopathic narc family AND narc friends. I almost went to the hospital because I thought it couldn't have just been fatigue from dealing with their bs but it really was just that!!!
I was that person who went to the hospital. I literally collapsed from how overwhelming it all was. It compounded my mental and physical problems 10 fold. I was a wreck.
I was like this, so exhausted after getting away, and it took years to get my energy back up again, Thank you for this explanation, it makes sense "Soul Fatigue", 👍💯
True. True. True they can turn a person into just a dead body who eats and breathes, but can't even move. I know someone very closely who suffers this hell everyday ...
I know. I relate. And it's my neighbor. And one natural herb that I am using to combat fatigue is cayenne. I have been taking it 4 times a day in tomato juice and my energy is finally returning.
Get a blood test too if you can you could be low in things like Vitamin B12, Vitamin D3, and Magnesium RBC.
Oh thanks. I hadn’t heard about ceyenne. I have been trying other vitamins… still exhausted
I was just sitting here thinking. Wait a min im not tired anymore. 5 weeks free
Yes going through this first year's, no matter how much sleep I get its not enough. I'm completely drained
Yes totally soul draining
VAMPIRES, RUN.........!!!
My malignant narc older sister used to call me at work just to extols her virtues that she actually never exhibited. When my coworkers heard her talk (speaker on) they all asked "what's wrong with her"? I just had no answer then....until now. Thanks Danish!
So true. I remember feeling like I need a lot of sleep, naps and shutting down in the active phase of healing during detachment from the narcissist. Thank you.
I have CFS, I was born into a narc family...then I married a nark
Nark sharks 🦈 Time to get out of the water 🌊once one bites into you, they all start to swarm and feed on your flesh 🫀🩸they smell fresh blood a mile away and together they will all finish you off if you can't break free.
💯% right all your energy is completely drained out of you.
You won't catch up on sleep until you get the hell away.
That is so true. I told him I could feel him stealing my soul piece by piece. By the end of dealing with two, I couldn't even feel my soul. 😢 She's back better than ever now though!
I felt like I was dying. Mentally and physically.
Yes...Spot on!!!
Its so so so true... You helped me to understand myself and my situation...
Killing me softly with his song, this guy. 😂
Wow so true. ❤
This is very insightful. Had not thought about that connection. Yes you have to be careful about what you share…
God bless you. This is exactly what I feel like now...still......a 20+ years worth of abuse from my narcissist ex wife. I just don't feel like doing ANYTHING anymore. Don't do any of the things I use to love to do.
I know. It's so hard. Narc abuse changes you for life.
But remember the goal is to destroy you and leave you lifeless.
Take your power back!!
Super helpful Danish! You are a Blessing 😊
I know this to well... Finally set free after 14 years.
I have thought about it a lot
No contact 4 months now! I got a cat and quit the coffee and wine; finally sleep through the night. but still feel drained. Self confidence is starting to bubble up.Blessed relief!
This s so true irs one drama after the other its WEB OF LIES CHOAS N CONFLICTS ONE AFTER ANOTHER. may tgeir karmas reach them sooner than expected.
I've often described the extreme fatigue as my life force being drained , it sure does feel like my soul is very tired now , this narcissistic abuse spans 40 years of my life .
Get a full panel nutritional blood test for all your vitamins and minerals. Narcissistic abuse is a trauma that stresses the body's reserves of nutrients. We burn through more nutrients when under stress especially trauma from things like abuse or neglect.
It is very important to identify and correct any and all vitamin and mineral deficiencies.
Get as much tested as your insurance will cover then pay out of pocket for additional tests if you can and keep retesting every few months after adding in the foods and supplements to help get your numbers in range.
Yes, I'm still recovering and tired after recently going No Contact; however, I have noticed I'm taking fewer pain meds than before. It's a start and definitely a confirmation I did the right thing!
Exactly !!! Thank you Danish , for putting these things into words .,for making things clear...God bless you dear ....
So very true. It's a sad way to live
You always speak truth ...this is really how it is,..thank you 🙏💖
Good vid and yes i literally got heavy c.f. after 5yrs of heavy duty dark behaviors from my best friend😥
I totally endorse what Danish says. I'm living proof of that
I been waiting for this one 👆💯 facts.
I've been in survival mode for 45 years and I'm done. I've had to separate myself this past year. I just need to heal.
Bravo! Good for you that you have finally decided to take off. It's time for you to choose you! Narcissistic people are never satisfied. They keep taking and taking from you. You feel like they are sucking the life out of you. Your healing pretty much starts when you leave, so congratulations!
Much love ❤️ Take care of yourself 😂
@@haddytaal1293 but this is a family member. They had a 50th wedding celebration last weekend but didn't go because I couldn't. Long story but I know that all the relatives and all who were there think the worse of me now.
@Di Mine has been 30 years plus. It's been almost 2 years now since i finally got the courage to call it quits. I am still healing. However, I feel happy and at peace.
The truth will prevail. Focus more on you, and the rest will fall in place.
@@di4085i feel your pain. It was a close family member with me too. 47 years. It's so hard accepting no contact. It feels like they died! But worse than that! Is the betrayal. The fact that they succeeded in ruining my life.
Its literally murder. Thats how i feel. Like i was murdered. I cant start over now, ill never have a family of my own.
And they just get away with it 😈
Thank you for the explanation.
exactly. Then a spiritual friend said I am being negative calling them "demon", it is holding heaviness and causing me health issues. She said to keep blessing that demon anytime any hurt comes up. I cannot. It has started messing my healing. I was neutral. Wished him neither bad or good. But doing this blessing exercise is making me miss him again and make me wish that demonic druglike person to reach out to me. 😢 She is like they were this way due to their own experience. I said that does not give them the right to abuse anyone. She is highly spiritual and strict but this advice does not sit well with me.
so thats why i react with impulse and emotionally
High cortisol levels which causes all kinds of physical ailments. I developed anxiety, depression (mental) and osteoporosis (physical). Slept a lot because it was a way to escape my circumstances.
💚💚
I was diagnosed with complete adrenal depletion when i finally collasped after leaving.
# war for your soul
Omg i thought i was the only one who collapsed!
They suspected adrenal insufficiency or a heart problem. They even thought i had systemic / heart infection from the tooth abcess i had. Nothing was diagnosed.
It just felt like i couldnt take it any more. I thought i was dying.
@@sjla2009 because they're literally harvesting your life force. They have no power of their own( they live outside their body) and they need to siphon others' energy to exist.
Affecting/ impacting someone greatly gives them power/ fuel
So true
My first reaction always was this, how can I prevent these things from actually happening, how can I turn around those crazy decisions and save my life and the life of my daughter?
Yes, even in remotely.
So true!
Soul and body fatigue I am going through .,
Thank you Danish
Amen thank you
Every second of my life even though i've been gone three months. I just fall asleep everywhere now
The worst controlling narcissist I ever knew caused chronic fatigue syndrome in me 10 years ago.
Hit me like a truck and I never recovered.
Got covid and the flu a year ago, just compounded the cfs. Now I'm trying to operate at 15% of my former energy level.
Imagine having a phone that only charged to 15%. It/You'd be worn out by 10am. And that is correct. I've lost everyone, everything and even my cats. Only enough energy for basic survival. I consider ending it every single day.
I'm drained exhausted and sick can't even stay on my feet😢😢😢😢😢
I can tell you since the narc left my house the over heavy feeling in our house dropped to nil..my hubby is happier he doesn’t have to deal with the snark and I have lost weight and my liver pain totally decreased..it’s been a month. I have more energy and I sleep normal now lol. So yeah..bad vibes gone quality of life improves.
Indeed
And im still hypervigilant even tho ive said out loud any and every thing these psychopaths could possibly want to know. Idk how tf im going to get out or if ill be safe once i do. If im fkn not i hope these youtube comments help bring justice to my family.
Yes
thankyou so much danish ❤
I always felt exhorted for many hours after my mother used me as a punching bad, for no fault of mine. First, couldn't sleep for many hours after being verbally abused, then, had to get up to go to school, and tired as I was had to concentrate highly to bring straight A's to avoid more abuse. I am a perfectionist. Can you guess why?
A long period of adrenal use by your brain you will be exhausted real quick, and you can get sick as a result. I finally left the AA group I was attending because they would not stop interfering with my life via slander, gossip and isolating me from everyone I talked to including both male and female. I had so few friends after a year of this I left to protect myself. After four months of being away from those people I'm starting to heal and changing the direction of my life. It is spiritual warfare and I'm convinced that the main girl spreading this stuff might have a demon. Everyone thinks she is so sweat, I think she is evil.
💯
Yes I am passing through this situation,
lost of all interest
How can I restore myself again in less time?
Can anyone help ?
Almost lost my dam job
Omg
how to battle this doctor. I am so tired .. immensely tired😪
he was a dream in the beginning. but when he trapped me. he threatened me and his house is full of weapons. like a katana and a tomahawk and huntersknifes. I needed to stand up at 5 o'clock in the morning and needed to join construction work. he has a own business. I needed to clean cook etc. I needed to watch movies on Netflix the whole evening and I needed to go bed at 8 o'clock in the evening. which i couldnt because i needed to wash etc.. and when I got to bed I couldnt sleep because of his neighbor's being very antisocial and hammering on the walls. I am so tired... when I sleep I cant get up anymore. help me please God!
Whats it mean when youve gotten to the point wgere the narcs mom is watching you via your phone, the dads watching you physically, so you start talking to yourself in your room saying everythinf thats ever happened in the relationship out loud and they just keep collecting everuthing tryinh to make sure they can out lie your truth? I cant even safely leave without all 3 of them tracking me at this point.
How to protect myself from this?
dear Danish, can we do this without pill or must get it, at night time i cant sleep, i am sad, angry, raging, crying is there something naturally to help this to go away
⛑️
Me rn 🙃