BLACK WOMEN ARE TOO MASCULINE FOR BLACK MEN
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2024
- Alot of black men don't like how I talk about black women. I choose to take up for them and they act like their is something wrong with that. How that is? I don't know! But it amazes me that my views aren't more popular in the manosphere. A man believing that he is capable of being the head of a household that occupies a strong black woman and advocates for other black men to feel the same way should be respected. Instead I'm having men that believe in Red Pill and SYSBM ideology criticize my views. "Black women are too masculine for black men." I hear that alot. And maybe they are masculine, but to forget what they have been through and not be understanding should be a crime. Masculine women are a result of having too many feminine men and that's just the bottom line. Too many generations of men being raised by their mom's has caused this and we gotta start trying to fix the damage while we still have a chance. I wish that they would have an open mind, but it's fine if they don't. What they don't realize is that I am totally invested in helping the black community come together and I am willing to face whatever comes with it. Black men and black women should not be trying to tear each other down. We need each other and I'm standing on that.
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Thank you for your very kind words, you make me feel very proud to be a black woman.
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FINALLY......a Black MAN with some good old fashion, grounded common sense.
Thank you for being a Wise Black Man
WORD!
FACTS💙
Girlfriend u said it. Need I say more? Aint he bad? He finally saw the truth!!!
black women are taught to disprespect black men
I’m crying right now. I’ve never heard a black man literally understand what we’re going through. Your a true king sir
i appreciate you
I so enjoyed this... I just said , to another. You think women want to play 75 different ppl and roles.
We want a strong black man to come and lead but give us something to do so with. Its just sad out here... women, be happy with you first and then go find love in the purest form.
@Mason Mikey ok,lol
I’m glad I’m not the only woman who got a little emotional to hear this because of my 27 years on earth this has to be one of the most genuine non-pandering commentaries on black women and black relationships FROM A BLACK MAN ! It’s touching. We appreciate it @The Shumake Way !
Young brother you giving me chills to know someone in your age group is still standing tall for our women salute old soul
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“You think black women wanna be hard all day?” Our nature is soft and when we feel safe, like any other flower we open up. Great content
I am self-sufficient and handier around the house than most men I know, not because I necessarily want to be, but because I have had no choice. I submitted to an unworthy fool once, I shall not do it again.
@@gymeni amen 🙏🏾
Well you have to act like. You can't be soft and nice for alittle bit and go back to acting like a man. Be that good woman every day and not when you feel like it.
@@gymeni I get mad when I meet a guy who can't change a tire. Understand what you're saying.
Right! But also like many flowers depending on the environment. We must adapt to the conditions but, nevertheless we are flowers that bear fruit when in the right condition.
I appreciate your support of the black woman. It is rare.
No problem. Thank you for checking my channel out.
@@TheShumakeWay you make black American men look good. I thought all of you black American men were a closed case . The world is watching and even though I’m not American TH-cam really puts me off is ever dating one!!
Very rare. I had lost all hope for the bm. ALL until this channel.
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Ir sho'll is!
“Give women something to submit to”........ now that’s a word !!!!!!
This fool don't even have a black women as a wife.And he preaching about how much he love black woman.Why would you want a black woman who look like your sister,mom etc that's disgusting.Love you sister,mom etc those are the only black women you would be concerned about because you know them.But praising blackwomen as queens is your first mistake.Why call any woman a queen unless her name is queen.You just talking homie.Find you a black woman and making her your wife and spend by your time talking how much you love her instead of talking about how much you love black women but you don't even have one.Dont be naive.You fool for this one.
He is married to a black woman don’t believe the commentor
It’s funny how y’all submit to some d*ck but not a marriage its always something else why.
@@ts2371 I have absolutely no words 🙃
@@ts2371 🙄🙄😒😒😒😒
Now this is how a real black man should talk ..🙏🏿💕
Thank you ❤️
EXACTLYYYYYY
This is how a real SIMP should talk!!!
But girl this ninja said in another vid he made a blkwmn a babymama (x2). We for that now?
@@TheShumakeWay sir did u just decide to become responsible? Y did u turn a black woman n2 a babymama & now u talking about finding yourself a 'successful' black woman? Do a video on that!
This brought tears to my eyes...we really didn’t ask for this... forced to wear shoes that don’t fit... but had to wear them anyway...
Facts 💯 not fair at all!
Good analogy
@@aredub6924 thank you... think about the blisters you get from ill fitting shoes... after a while they won’t be pretty
I felt this in the depths of my soul💜
Beautifully said..
Im latina and i rather die before a man put their hands on me. I didnt take shit from my shitty father, i wont take shit from anyone. Black women have make me realized that, and im stronger for that. Thank you black women you're an inspiration for women all across the world, we love you.
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We Love you back Queen you can also be an inspiration to us as well💯🌷🌷🌷🌷
I love you too ❤️
@Antis Tobacco yeah, thats how it works. All black women are like u said just bc u said so.
We love you too! Women solidarity is so important. Glad you found your worth!
Probably because bm have become more and more feminine.
Amen
Facts
YES !
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Come through with the facts.
My grandfather was a true alpha male. He could hunt, fish and grow food. He used to say that he didn't need a woman, financially. He was a true provider. #RIPGRANDDAD
My grandad is the same way. That’s actually who my role model is. I want to be the same way. He was with my grandma until the day she died. Only time I ever saw him cry was when she died too.
Those guys aren't dead you guys aren't looking for us. Look at my page and see some of the things I do. I grow my own food don't drink or smoke, have no problem taking care of a woman as it should be but I swear I can't get a woman to look my way for nothing. A lot of woman aren't satisfied with what a man can provide and want more than what he can do and that is a major turn off for guys.
@@diante229 The right one will find you, don't focus on the ones that are not interested in you and cannot appreciate you.
@@melliem7481 thanks but I posted that to say that those types of men aren't all gone. It's crazy because for the past several years I have dated foreigners because they actually like men like me. Also I feel like I have to add that they are black just because of the text of the whole message at hand. Black american women also need to recognize when they are not being true to character.
@@diante229 Maybe it's the women that you are attracting try dating BW OR WOMEN that share similar interests and values!
"Don't think Running to another culture because you ain't strong enough or man enough to get your own women to see your vision is going to change anything" had me in tears.
My children's father could not understand why I was so submissive with the man I dated after him. I told him I didnt have to parent him and take care of him.
Exactly,men like that are the ones who vent the MOST.
They wanna demand, demand, demand,but never wanna give
Submission comes naturally to a woman when she is cherished, loved, respected, and cared for. When she feels safe with the partner she's with.
Boom!
Girl!
right....
“Have white women been oppressed like black woman have been?” Amen..
Thank you, that’s all I’m saying.
Are BW only because they've been oppressed? What about the fact that BW are confused. Thats the part too many BW have to much pride for. Fragile egos are a huge problem. You never cant admit your mistakes as a group. And you've been socially engineered to be combative, Feminist and flaunting a know it all Superior attitude.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 lemme guess Becky hasnt false accused you yet ....times to king bruh 🤣🤣
@@franklyi7530
What does Becky accusing me have to do with many BW having masculine and disrespectful attitudes. Those attitudes are now a part of the culture. Its a huge problem. When you get exposed to other cultures you see it more clearly. Understanding doesn't make disrespect, combativeness and masculinity coming from a woman more tolerable. The creator of the video is giving this a pass and BW don't need the pass they need the truth.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 The truth? The truth is you are public failures & embarrassments as men.
I’m literally about to cry. I feel hopeless as a black woman, I’m 25. Im scared for my future, black men act like they hate me. I’m happy you are speaking on it ! Gratitude. Please stay on our side and we love and appreciate you too 💜💜
NO! Black men don’t hate you..yes I admit there are some blacks men out there who are brainwashed and have completely lost their identity who oppress black women, yes I know there are but they are a minority just that those fools make a lot of noise...we black men LOVE and ADORE black women sometimes you might not feel it but we love you..I till the day I die I will always express love to my BLACK GIRLS in particular..I was raised by black parents and I have big sisters and my mum that love me with all their strengths this made me adore even black women more and I know BLACK WOMEN understand me more that’s a fact!..don’t loose hope and you’ll find that black man with whom you will build your legacy and cut the bad cycle..love you❤️
Good for u
I thought I was the only one feeling teary eyed, this message was needed!
Awww, don’t give up sis❤️😪 try dating outside your race
We got you Tori ✊🏾
No woman is submissive, no matter her culture or race, unless she’s with a providing man whose worthy of her submission. Power struggles are real in a lot of relationships. I have a provider husband but we still have power struggles at times because I wasn’t taught how to rest in my femininity as I should have.
We all have a lot to learn. Especially about each other.
Truth for most bw 💯
You're absolutely right. If a man treats his woman right emotionally, mentally& physically, women will be submissive to a point to where it's satisfying to love, care & support like the way God created us.
Say That Sis💯.. We too stressed out working the full load so what you get is what we go through. Let us rest and be appreciated and we will be every woman for you.
I'm older now so I don't think the opportunity to marry will happen and I think that's for the best! All this submitting is something that I didn't even hear in my twenties or thirties and who's got time for that now? Submitting to what and why? I told my mother that what exactly would I get out of marriage at this point, not biological children for sure! I'll have to do two of everything I do now like washing two loads of clothes instead of one, two sets of dishes, possibly making dinner for two three or four nights a week and picking up after a man! When I get healthier and more financially sound then I would like a good boyfriend but marriage, I don't think so! Not saying never but it's not a goal or even a real desire anymore!!
"You think a woman wanna be hard all damn day?" That tugged at my heart strings... Everything said is 100% truth. We have no choice but to provide, protect and do for ourselves. It's heart breaking when we still have hope for our black men but for the most part are still being miss treated by our own. Women that desire to be submissive to a masculine black man are starting to give up. Well let me speak for myself. It seems like many of our black men are either mentally/emotionally damaged, more feminine than women or into playing mind games and entertaining other women as if they're still in high school. Receptivity is definitely what we need in order to come strong. Too many pointing fingers at one another...
Yes you do
This is one of the only straight men I can absolutely rally behind! He is doing what I fail to see so many black straight men do. He's just putting accountability where it needs to be placed. He is speaking the things I have said as a gay man. Yet I would be told that I'm wrong simply because I'm not straight. I totally respect this man. Thank you for actually saying things that can actually help the culture and not hurt it.
Some things just aren’t our place to speak on but we can always support the truth
when today's men become protectors, providers and responsible, then black women can trust you, submit to you and truly respect you. Most women would like to have a man to be head of household .
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Tbh a lot of women want a man like this, but don't qualify to get one. You can't get sugar when you're shit. Same goes for the men who try to get good women to make them their wife. Men usually accept this, but I think women can be in a fantasy land sometimes and think they can get a good man simply because they are a woman.
@@kelseylatham8126 How do she qualify when you yourself don't qualify
Alot of y'all don't value black men that are like this
@@fancyface9271 that's all I was saying. You're pretty much agreeing with what I just said
Good video; my granddaddy once told me: if you lead correctly; she'll submit naturally 💯
Amén
Thank u
Absolutely!
Preach! Truth! Say it again for the people in the back!!
what's up with this submissive stuff? why submission like you're a broken animal..smh
Respect brother....this is what needs to be changed....we have to protect our women and love them...it is pathetic how these "black" men do. Black women are so sacred and special and how did we get here. REAL TALK BROTHER. Subbing to you.
As black man who have 2 kids son and daughter I myself worried about my daughter future my brother...... Black women suffer so much trauma and pain more than any other race of women.... We love ❤️ 🥰🥰and support you black women ....
As long as you show her love and teach her to be secure with herself, you won't have anything to worry about : ).
Love you right back, Dan Dan!!!!
Ditto!
Thank you brother ! Alot of us love and support you as well. 🥰👏
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When a man calls a man that respects woman a simp, he has let us know that he's the actual simp. I appreciate constructive criticism and I appreciate people that like to equally receive it. I like your abusive household analogy, because that's exactly what has happened to us as a people. We got to get our heart and minds right.
I don't think you know what a simp is... but carry on
@@tonyalston4838 can you explain then? Because I’ve seen a guy call a married man a simp when it comes to his wife. The one he took vows to honor and cherish
Nice try at gaslighting and shaming language. He is a simp
My thoughts exactly. Or he’s worse… a hater that failed to become a real man.
I've been married for 25 years and have 7 grown children. I'm a black woman married to a black man who hasn't always been the man i needed him to be. I loved my husband through his ignorance and prayed him into the man he is today. Thank you for making these videos. 😊
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Stay blessed😎
I'm sorry, but I'm not wasting my time and energy raising a man.
Gtfo with that old mammy Bs
Blk women moving on to where we are loved and protected
Thanks for sharing, but not only is your scenario the exception, but it lacks sufficient context for us to believe that muling for ignorant BM is a wise investment of our time.
This comment is so needed becuz we all broken sometimes with love pray submission can change him
we are too “masculine” for black men..think about the statistics ,, it all falls back on black men
here’s an example . a black father stepping out of a child’s life ,, leads to the mother having to play both roles in the house hold.
leaving the daughter to pick up after the mother..
Preach
Story of my life, I am that daughter having to pick up after the mother.
why is this so hard for black people to understand
@@CatherineCherlene cognitive dissonance at its best.
Just like how so many BM think they’ll be rappers, ballers and or fall for every get rich quick scheme.
Many a time I see some of these women being extremely dramatic. I recall allot of drama my brother went thru. When he finally left allot of drama came with him he trying to be in her daughters life. I have few people that I know that keep the kid away from the father. My brother is a provider has married and takes care of his boys. and pays support for my niece. We haven’t seen his daughter in 15yrs because the drama is beyond measure. As a woman I told him always take care of her even if you don’t see her one day she will know the truth. No matter what children shouldn’t pay the price. I raised my son alone but he knows his father and any beef they have has nothing to do with me. I never kept him away because I want the best for my son. My son is like my dad and his dad in some ways because he always had male imprint. He is a strong healthy black man that will marry a sound black women who had dignity and class from what he has told me. To many sisters use their children as pawns. They are rejected and pass it on to the children which isn’t right.
It’s refreshing to hear a black men lifting us up for a change😊
He is lifting you FOR YOUR CHANGE. Wake up for once..This is the new black hustle. Get a pretty black woman to tell black men what they want to hear JESSICA X. And they will throw money at her. Get a pretty black man to tell black women what they want yo hear DERRICK JAXN and now this player. And you will throw money at them.
HUSTLE all day long.
Everyone hustling and pandering to black men and women..... ppl getting rich off black folks trauma and pain ... TH-cam pandering society.. I believe this brother speaking truth not pandering...
@@fender1000100 yet YOU are HERE.....hahaha!!!
Yes honey
@@fender1000100 what is talking about some of y’all really need to get heads out the news and just go outside once in a while.
I was never allowed to cry growing up. Watching you speak and hearing the vibration of your voice brought tears to my eyes. I wholeheartedly thank you for your compassion and empathy towards our struggles.
I'm Latina, and we will cut you if you do us wrong. My fiance is white and he treats me like a queen, I haven't had the need to go crazy because I feel safe. I don't know who told those dudes that we were submissive. LOL. Black women have been severely underserved and continuously disrespected, when you go through that trauma you find yourself always being in survival mode which makes you tough. Because you don't feel safe. I stand.
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Nice stereotype lmfao!
Yes 👏🏿 I always said Latina women do not play games. Try telling these men but they don’t listen.
@@lavonnealexander6936 🤣🤣🤣 low self esteem
@@lavonnealexander6936 I beg to differ, my girlfriend is from Mexico and she's pretty submissive
American Latinas like this chick are not my cup of tea
The balance between masculine and feminine has been so badly traumatized because they know if they can keep us fighting each other for power and domination, the wreck the family. If they can keep us divided, we are more easily conquered. Thank you so much for speaking on this.
I agree
FACTS..
While at the same time, they're distracting BM so that they become weak allies. Sometimes I don't think BM understand what's at stake anymore... It's actually worrisome tbh
I almost Cried.. thank you for speaking up for us. We really do need more men like you please don’t stop making these videos.
When a BM says they don’t want a BW it’s due to self hate or deep seated mommy issues. These men tell us where they are with self growth and healing. A man who says these things need to heal.
Or dont want to fall into a death trap!
Or it could just be that he is not attracted to you. He has the right to have a choice just like you divester types do.
When BW date out, it is celebrated.
Or maybe theyre tired of the attitudes??
I felt that when you said, " I created a black woman..." I'm a new subbie and enjoy your content.
I appreciate you ❤️
Amen🥰🥰
Black women have been hated by all men and envied by ALL women. Our beauty and bodies have been stolen by the world!
@Kimmminem West
You need to brush up on your Biology ma'am. Men/males determine the sex of a baby because they give either an X or Y chromosome while a woman can only give an X chromosome. With that being said, the brother is ABSOLUTELY correct!
@Kimmminem West You sound angry and bitter. Your issue with men sounds personal.
Hi bro, I'm from England and you speak the truth. I've been married to my wife for 32 years and I hear you. I'm in a interracial marriage, but everything you say is true. We need to show the love for our own women. I don't hate any race of women I have respect for them all, but only black women really understand what a black man is going through and that's the truth!! As much as I love my wife and she's been there for me through thick and thin and have seen some serious shit happen to me. She will never understand my struggle. Peace & love bro
Stockholm Syndrome is what alot of us are suffering from. PTSD trauma of generations of oppressed growth. Not realizing we are the trend we are the light literally!! If we could only tap out of this mass hypnosis and realize how much we need each other... You spoke big Facts, while driving lol, the focus was on point.. I appreciate the message
You’re right and thank you 🙏🏽
You are 100% right, totally agree.
So true and the only way we get theough our trauma is being able to speak on it so we can process everything without getting shut down. I don’t think a lot of ppl understand that they seem to get angry when we bring up things. But how else are we supposed to move on?
@@amaniiexxchnge You are absolutely right, we have to be able to talk about it to process it out of our systems, but it's so difficult to find a safe "space", meaning a person or group of people, to talk with who will listen and not get angry and attack us. It's the worst when you are talking about your trauma, and it triggers someone else's trauma. They either shut you down and walk away, which hurts, or they attack you and invalidate you. It makes the trauma worse. It is so important to share these things with the right people. I wish I had a place where I could bring people together. I worked in a rehab as a counselor, fights were always breaking out, the place itself was like a jail, it was so hard for the people who really wanted help to be there with people who didn't choose to be there. It was overwhelming for me too, it was my first counseling job and I had no idea how to deal with large groups of traumatized people. I would go home sobbing and shaking every day from the things I heard and the attacks on me. I wish you much love and healing. We can get there!
@@Quantum36911 thank you love 💕 exactly right about everything you said. If we think about it black ppl have never really been able to deal with our trauma. It’s still fairly a new concept talking about it. I’m sorry you went through that i honestly don’t think you would be in that position if you weren’t able to handle it. (I don’t mean that in any disrespect) I think everything happens for a reason and maybe you found that position because god knows you’re strong enough and have something to help guide people out of their pain. You have been blessed with a gift to ease pain and that gets stronger over time. (we all have them it’s up to us to tap into it or not and sounds like you did, I’m envious hahaha) and it’s not easy to handle sometimes. I hope you have people to lean on around you. It Can really help if you don’t already have someone. You’re ability to empathize will help many I wish you well sweetheart listen to you’re signs💕 we can help our community when we are open to things like this and we will be able to help/teach generations after us. But it has to start now.
BM: "Teaching people to turn their backs on them"...on the internet....Wow that's deep. Hit a nerve because it's true...💜
We need more of this 😭🙌🏽 much love to everyone speaking the importance of accountability & healthy family dynamics in black homes, it makes me so proud. I can’t hear/see it enough.
My fiance never forced me to "submit". He gave me the option. "Babe i could work and you could stay home. I make enough for you to do that" and then when I wanted to keep working, he supported me. I take care of our finances because im better at it. I make the bigger decisions because im better at it. He feels like my strength is OUR strength when the black men i dated were threatened by it.
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A woman should have more than home skills. If something temporary/permanent should happen to her fiance she'll have some type of work experience.
@John Williams Yeah...im allowed to have pride lol just like he's allowed to have his. Just like youre allowed to have yours?
I lived that for 30 years! Glad you found a man who appreciates your strengths!
Shut up lmao
The Bashing of Black Woman has become the GO TO money making content on TH-cam. If you're a black man and you want to make money on TH-cam, just create content on any deficiency you see in the black woman and you will get picked up by the YT algorithm. It's called the Kevin Samuels Effect.
Black women need to stop watching videos from these clowns. You have the black women who have the nerve to state that they love his show...and the others are wasting time arguing with these clowns. Anything degrading/negative towards black women gets blocked from my YT list...period..
BW have always been that... from black exploration movies to Rap to utube bashing.
@@chrissy1448 Oh yes, I always click not interested.
Your're such a handsome man. Thankyou for standing up for our black women. x
Thank you
Thank you. Also can you make a video dedicated to men that make similar content ? I think some women loose faith temporarily because they watch a lot of these videos of men bashing women. I know there are more men out there like you. There has to be 💝
Sir you are the chosen of few. May God bless you. All black women want is respect, care, and preservation for our future generations. That's all.
i appreciate you
We want true love and loyalty too.
The only BM who has common sense when it comes to this subject.
Malcolm X,Martin Luther king, Mohammed Ali,Steve Biko, Nelson Mandela and every other black man who fought or spoke for black people's rights would be VERY disappointed with today's black men.
Instead of fighting for economic freedom,racism,police brutality, inequality and discrimination in America they're busy fighting women...and run back to the same women they insulted when they get abused. That's literally what the BLM is about,black men running to BW for help
How are bm running to be for help? They can’t even lift a barbell 😂.
Now that is masculinity❣
Coming from a black man.. this sh×t was touching. Your awareness and understanding brought a tear to my eye. Yes Father there are some left.
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Wow!
someone taught you how to be a real man
@Mason Mikey A real man takes responsibility
Must have started with his mother and a deep love for his mother....thank you, you're my hero and may God bless you and whomever you decide to share you life with. IJN.
I am a traumatized black man, but I trying my best to overcome and do my best not to tear down but rather uplift.
You got this 🙏🏾💖
God bless you
Blessings to you.
Stay away from black women as you are “trying your best” . Glad you are recognizing this but it’s not our job to fix anyone.
Real shit.
The question is can the black man take the LEAD? As you can see the other type of women are submissive because their men showed that they can LEAD by being the HEAD of their households
and HEAD of their communities.
Those men didn’t have to do it in foreign land. They would do it in their own country with their own set of culture traditions.
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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 preach !!!!!!!! We need more brothers like you in our community. Thank you for holding these black men and black women accountable. As a people for decades and decades we are in so much turmoil spiritually and physically. We are so far gone that I don't know if we are ready for healing.
It’s definitely going to be a struggle, but we don’t have a choice. We gotta change for real. Not just talk! We actually gotta heal and start taking better care of each other.
100% accountability on both sides
I am in tears right now 😭😭. You really hit the core of it all. I will be submissive to a man that is willing to say ' I got your back ' and he really does 🤴🤴
Is this man ever going to get to his destination?
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LOOOOLLLLL
He will when he does his final video...
Lol!
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I just don’t understand what’s so hard to understand about what you are saying.......
It’s going to take a lot of work to undo this mess and they don’t want to do it. They would rather jump ship because they don’t want to man up.
@@TheShumakeWay Indeed it takes a lot a work, most don't want to do the work.
@@TheShumakeWay Thank you for your efforts! B1❤️
@@TheShumakeWay Facts
@@TheShumakeWay it's truly hard when you have people constantly close to Broken human beans facilitating and in encouraging this kind of behavior. The thing is if you're always right, how do you know when you're wrong because nobody ever held them accountable. They don't know the truth stands alone for a reason.
Subs brother. I appreciate this. &I hope black women know there are some of us that want to be, and are actively becoming the men ya'll need. Strong, protective and understanding. Men you will be proud of. Blessings.
I appreciate that bro. 💯💯💯
Thank you James W, we love our Brothers like you.💖💋
God bless you, God brother.
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I'm Only Submissive To My Husband
Yep! That's the only man you are required to submit to.
@@RobertaS127 Right!Folks Don't Understand That!
👏👏👏 That's right.
Thoses Who SINGLE or Widows Encouraged To RAISE Healthy Guy...Don't Need A Submissive Woman Cause It's 💯 💯 FAIRNESS... PERIOD...Nor Submissive Man. A Insecure Person Need A Woman to Be Less To Be Strong.
Yep! Same!!
“Y’all ain’t giving constructive criticism” true, they’re just being emotionally and psychologically abusive.
Just abusing BW cz they're too afraid to address the elephant in the room. Kinda like a drink dad that beats his wife and kids cz at work he's nothing
Black women would love to be a little submissive but we can’t afford to, if we don’t put our foot down....SOME BLACK MEN will step all over us. I would love to have a black man to be in my life to give me comfort when I need it and I in return give him the comfort that he needs. I love to cook for my man, and rub his back and listen to vent and express their anger. We need to get back to the time when all we was each other and we protected each other.
I appreciate your balanced presentation. No blaming anyone, just pure good sense.
I respect your opinion the red pill guys ain't really balanced with their views you earned a subscriber.
Thank you
Hi @awele are you a guy? I'm anambra, Nigeria.
They truley are not balanced! It's just something off about a guy who talks bad about the woman he's meant to lead but fails to realize that he has no where to go and still expects her to follow but because she wont he speaks down on her in a public forum.
@@QueenLDes yeah I am I'm from delta nigeria.
@@QueenLDes Aye!! My fellow Anambra babe!! 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬
I remembered when they would say Sarena Williams was too masculine.
She dated black men for the longest 😩 , but some not all blacks males in the comment section would talk about how masculine she was. I think she is naturally pretty.
Thanks, for the uplifting videos. I don't think black women or men are giving up on each other, people have to choose better partners. There is still 80% of black males and females still dating each other. If we could increase marriage 💑 would be great or stable home structures.
This man needs to travel America to hold "Man" classes. Bless his knowledge to be contagious to all black men. "We failed women in a lot of different ways". He knows how deep the wound goes and how far back it stems from slavery. If you want an old school woman be that old school MAN. Give a reason for your black woman to retire her sword and shield instead of inflicting more pain.
I wish he would black men neeedd him and Jesus!
Absolutely! Men need to be held accountable and steered back on the right path. Most are so lost, full of hate for the women that birthed them and alot women of their race.
Sickening
We not paying this panderer no mind
Black men like you are rare today, I really admire your boldness and your message. I hope your platform brings about a much needed newer perspective amongst our community.
I really needed to hear this King 👑. As a black woman 👑 I’ve often wonder why hate us then expect us to defend them when being accused have we have your back the way all the way we just want same energy. Black Woman 👑 didn’t chose to BE HARD. Life Happens and we had to protect ourselves from outsiders and unfortunately our men as well.
I appreciate you. I got married when I was 48 and had 2 girls. I married a man who said he loved me and he would take care of me as best he could for as long as he could and I was on board. Other men told me I had a nice job and a home why did they need to take care of me. I did not need to be taken care of, I just needed to know their intentions . He came in asking what it cost to maintain this home and I told him and he met those costs from then on, we got married 6 months after we met and have been married for 15 years. We banned together to take care of each other and love and support each other and are very happy. He never tried to control me, he supports me and I always respect him and his leadership in regards to our family❤
HELLO EVERYONE, WHEW, THIS IS ON POINT! AS BLACK WOMEN, WE DON'T HAVE A CHOICE BUT TO WOMAN UP. I HAVE A STRONG PERSONALITY, HOWEVER, I HAVE HEART OF GOLD. SO TO ALL OF MY BEAUTIFUL QUEENS, I LOVE YOU FOR FREE!💝
Strong personality = Argumentative and masculine
@@tonyalston4838 HAPPY SUNDAY, IM NOT QUITE SURE WHAT THAT COMMENT WAS ABOUT. I WAS JUST SAYING THAT WE AS STRONG WOMEN, ARE LEFT WITH NO CHOICE, BUT TO BOSS UP. PLEASE REMEMBER, A WEAK FEMALE, CAN'T OFFER YOU NOTHING. BE GOOD MY KING.💝
Black American women have always had to woman up because that’s what America made us do.
@@leonalove336 SHO YA RIGHT😊
Love you too Queen 👸🏿👑💝💖
Wow, this young man is wise beyond his years. I can see it in his eyes, he knows what the future holds for black people because of their disdain for Black Women.
This is so moving. Tears flow from the heart ❤. Someone who finally understands.
I have said said it once and I will say it again: no other race defame and degrade their women as publicly and pefusly as the black community. Period. You dont hear it from Latinx, Asian, White, Middle Eastern, Samoan, etc. They protect their women. If they have to they correct them privately like the Bible says. All that and black women still fighting and marching for our black men. We still love yah inspite of it all. As black women we need to fix some things too, period. Point of fact: in nature there are only few Alpha males. True Alpha males don't need to say that they Alphas. Men who do that are omega males trying to prove something. Not all woman want an Alpha male thats a myth. Stop comparing yourself to animals we are better than the animals we have been given dominion.
Being latina myself this holds so much truth. That said ,it doesn't mean that we still don't have issues within in our community. Its just that the comparison to the black community makes its so damn pronounced and its honestly sad. Also sidenote, the term is just Latino
It is difficult for some black women to be feminine. My father, a black man , was useless and diabolic. I have not seen him, my black dad , in 27 years. I went to University and have been independent since I was young. I had to be hard-working, creative, assertive, defend, attack and still keep a sense of humour. It is hard to be over-responsible since 9 years old with three younger siblings and a crying mother and be feminine. I can't stand a man with victim mentality. I need my burden lightened and burdened with some strange man with stories and excuses.
damn, sound like my life. i was gonna say age 8-9 also. shit is beyond overbearing.
Thay's right sis. We all need our burdens lightened!
It takes a special woman to be submissive to a man who was manipulative and abusive to his wife at home yet very gentle, soft spoken and very nice to everyone, especially other women who met or worked with him. That submissive person was my mom and that was in the 50's and 60's. Divorce was not a popular option. She wanted to keep us intact and she sacrificed a lot to give us a stable home. When we all grew up and left home, they were now left together by themselves and they were perfect strangers.Each one could not stand the other and eventually I would have her come to live with me for a long break from him. That experience marred my conception of marriage for life. Submissiveness is not the answer. If a man cannot lead by example, provide for his home and love his family, then he is a hypocrite and an imposter and while a woman will pretend to submit, deep down she will resent and secretly have no respect for her man. What a miserable marriage wee all witnessed growing up. Submission is not the answer. Take it from me.
You need therapy
Great content. 🙏🏿 I’m 34 and have gotten to the point where I’m extremely content being alone. It’s not because I gave up on BM, I know there are good BM out there. But babyyyy, I got bills to pay and a life to live that ain’t always easy as a BW. I created my own environment where I can be soft and loving because I simply can’t wait. I haven’t given up on finding my Black love story, but it’s a fantasy until it’s a reality for me. I’m not trying to be masculine and don’t want to be a man, but as a single BW, no one will have my back like me. However, if I do find my partner, it will ONLY be with a BM cause I’m not building no other community but ours.
Peace and blessings to you, sista
Second this Proudlu Alone 😊
I feel so validated 🥲😢😥
Thank You Brother!!!
Nothing but facts....
Omg I LOVE your passion and truth in this video 💪🏽🙌🏽thank you for telling grown folk stuff they should already know 🥰
I appreciate you, you are the men we don’t want to divest from tbh but there are not many of you 💛 bless you. Get your money!
I appreciate you 🙏🏽
Music to my ears!!
@@TheShumakeWay We will always love our Real BM..we know you guys still exist..please try and help as many other brothers as possible...
#blackexcellence
IDK why I'm in tears, probably because you remind me of my grandfather. You're awesome. Keep holding both Black men and women accountable, there's issues on both sides and no one is above reproach.
He ain’t holding no woman accountable
I'm so glad you're here on this earth, speaking the truth 🌟
OTHER GROUPS OF WOMEN DO HAVE SOMETHING WE BLACK WOMEN DONT HAVE..... THEIR MEN PROTECT, PROVIDE, AND VALUE THEM. 🤷🏽♀️💅🏽
Black women have the same ting but blackwomen stop the black men to provide because black women always want to take control not let the black men do what he have to do, than you have black women that say we don’t protect but when we do black men we get turn away and laugh at so what’s the purpose to do all of that for black women and not get applause for it or recognize for it
@@devonte7650 you sound like a victim
@@devonte7650 yall don't know what to do half of the time. You probably don't want to listen. Its a partnership and its things us women understand that yall don't so instead of taking her advice, you get mad that we trying to help but your ego gets in tge way. That ain't our fault
Amen..
@@devonte7650 that’s because no one is going to go without, waiting for someone to step to the plate. what is she suppose to do stand by and starve waiting so a man can get a golden star for finally providing. Nah that’s not how it works. A man needs to show and prove he can handle the responsibility once the woman knows her house hold is safe she submits to that man because he has shown he is capable of leading.
No woman wants to live her life balled up like a fist, once protected and safe the fist will unfurl. I have finally gotten to a point in my life where the fist is a relaxed hand. My soft nature is uncomplicated, my love is uncomplicated, I'm relaxed and there is a freedom in that. There is a freedom in being able to be vulnerable, a freedom in being able to be comfortable in who you are with the person you love, submissive isn't a bad word, it's also not the only way, but as it turns out it is my way. I'm fortunate to have figured this out while I'm still young. Protect Black girls! I won't get into my personal traumas but i will say that I'll fight till my final breath on this earth to call attention to the abuses young girls face, I'm lucky in a way that I came out with my sanity and the ability to unball the fist. Not all of my sisters are that lucky.
Exactly,do you think anyone (regardless of race) wants to submit to a jobless,wannabe rapper?
I rather stand beside my man, not behind him. We can both shine!✨✨✨🌠💯
What you said is beautiful and true... I have never allowed Society to dictate my vulnerability, softness, playfulness... I'm a black woman, but I refuse to be a stereotype, and I refuse to be somebody that I'm not because Society tries to make me feel that I need to be hard and tough and brutal. I love what you said! Keep being uses :-) you are precious and beautiful!
Powerful young sister!!!!!
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 Exactly. The only time we need to stand behind a man is when he's protecting us from harm!
I'm finding your videos and I just appreciate to hear a black man talk about us black queens in a light for a change. It's just refreshing to see this, you have my support, cause some men act like they don't see the struggle we been through. I just sometimes want our black men to fight for us, and love and treat us right we can be submissive, but we got to have something to be submissive to. We are Royalty, but I wish our black people knew. We are Queens and Kings!!! I just want to say Thank You for this, it makes my heart smile!!! We need to all be accountable for our actions! You a real man for this!!!! We got to fix these issues!!! God Bless You!!!
Who bestowed the title queen onto you?
We need more aware, woke real men like you, thanks for standing up for black women and spreading the love for black women, I appreciate your video, yoy don't have much content like this, may God bless you!!
I appreciate you ❤️
Truth is never bashing,especially wen it backed up with facts and stats.
EXACTLYYYYYY
@@humilityiswisdom23 EXACTLYYYYYY
As a mature Black Woman of a particular age, I not only thank you for this video, I also approve the entire message.
We're all responsible for ourselves. Let's try to uplift each other. Thank you for this message.
It's not just black women, it's all women, there are so many single moms with NO SUPPORT, where are the men??? Chasing other skirts, living with their mom, not being responsible for their families and neglecting being a provider for the kids they brought into the world... This is happening to all of us women. We don't have hope anymore. I've given up on men altogether. I'm not even angry, I'm accepting it and having to be like a man to survive, meaning embracing more masculine energy to take care of things that need to be provided since there are no men around me providing anything for us. It's ok, women are going to be stronger because of it but the men always resent us for our strength when they forced us to be this way.
they do hate our strength. I feel its because no matter what situation we are forced into, we will conform and perform relentlessly. When they suffer from discipline issues, they get angry because they know its only a matter of time before you leave them for their inability to perform
While you may have a point, this conversation is about black women and their men. You may not mean any harm but speaking for black women I will ask why do women from other races seem to always want to say "it's not just black women" when our men praise us, but not when our men put us down. Where are you guys to say "it's not just black women" then? In short, our men praise other races over us all the time so when one FINALLY shows us love, fall back and let us heal with our men and stop injecting yourself. It's annoying and dismissive even if that is not your intent. This just simply is not about you.
@D for Daphne Which is why I said she had a point and that she may have meant no harm. I didn't say I did not understand her anger, I said this wasn't the conversation to discuss it. I hope this helps you.
That is a very twisted view of things, and I am a white man speaking from your point on feminism which is what you just described. White women have been shoving no slamming themselves into feminism hey remember #metoo #feminism # girl power that is all over the web right now. Then you say men force you to be strong independent and masculine? No, no, no kiddo those are all your ideas, so don't complain now. There was this woman who came to my apartment to buy an item I had posted on craigslist. I have a job in marketing, have my own apartment in CA, I don't have an expensive car..yet. She had a kid and was married, well after she bought the item she wanted to come back up to my apartment I agreed she told me how her husband was weird, seemed like she was stressed and was probably with some wimpy guy as she was here doing this transaction and he wasn't and other things we talked about that gave me clues. So one thing leads to another and I am just well I am all over her, but then I thought about #metoo and how I am with this woman who just bought this item off of me and now I am grabbing her breasts etc and I am all alone with her in my apartment and she is married so if something goes wrong in any way she can cry rape or at least assault as well she is buying something and I have her money which can be proven and she is married if this goes to hell I'm screwed so I just stop and suggest I am not that interested like I just wanted to cop a feel but really I could have been much more to her and her to I. My life has been filled with these type of situations with women recently ever since all of you have become hardcore feminists. You say they are chasing skirts, they aren't chasing skirts or leaving you out in the wind you did this .Currently with feminisms and society's current state that is the safest bet. You chose it to be like this, not us.
@D for Daphne wake up.
I ain't going to lie he's right... I approve this message...
I didn’t expect to be crying like a baby. Listening to this 😭
Me too I felt this so hard 😭
This the first channel I've come across like this. Love your content keep spreading love!
I appreciate you ❤️
You don’t know how rare your channel is! You are spitting game, the honest truth of what is going on out here
This guy I’m dating says the exact same thing! Anytime he sides with black women other black men give him so much shit for it. For the life of me I can’t understand it. Your content is appreciated and I’m glad to see it (shocked honestly). I don’t get the Derrick Jaxn pandering vibes from you either lol. Subscribed!
Because we get flack from all angles and as a blk man he shud be able to see that not hust side with u in the hope of Wednesday pussy
Cause Black women compared to black men have a walk in the park. Who comes back 50yrs on a black woman saying she molested him??? How many black women you know gotta pay for respect??? How many black women you know are gunned down in the streets by cops??? How many innocent black women you know are doing 30 plus years in prison??? How black women you know are talk down on cause she struggling??? How many black men are in prison trying to provide??? How many homeless black men out here actually trying??? Yet the black woman is excused from her struggles by society or Section 8 programs!!! I'm not providing shit until I see a worthy woman!!! She doesn't have to pay for my respect or love!!!!
Yikes. The fact that you highlight your struggles while dismissing that black women struggle at all. Is what he’s trying to explain to you.
You attack your #1 ally and are shocked she now gives you the same energy you give back?
With the way you victimize yourself you are not desirable and not ready to be a mate to anyone. Heal yourself. Stop blaming your struggles on black women. Stop blaming our overcoming on white programs.
We are murdered by black men every 5.5 hours.
We are, outside of Native American women being trafficked at an alarming rate.
We are 50% more likely to die in child birth than any other race in America.
Every time a black woman has been murdered by police aside from two. You men are nowhere around.
If she’s left alone to raise her black children because a black man left her. It’s HER fault alone. She’s not praised for finding her children shelter. You expect them to be homeless.
A black woman speaking up about sexual abuse does not mean we do not hold black women who abuse accountable. Speak up so that support can be given.
Black women also spend life in prison but unlike majority of black men they have no advocates to protest their release.
How many homeless black women are out there with no protection and often the children she was tricked into having.
Basically I’m saying all this to say that other people have plights. Black women have been sympathetic to the black man’s hardship in America since we have been here. However as the generations of black men grow you all recognize ours less and less.
This is giving yt woman energy. Victim hood is not a competition. There is no award and neither genders suffering is more grand than the other. Heal yourself so you can stop being so angry and hateful. Stop blaming black women for finding a way to live in the same environment you are in. How can you hate us for overcoming but demand love, respect. And praise for the black man overcoming?
How do you put conditions on respecting black women and what she has to be. But expect us to believe all black men are worthy? If you loved all black women without her having to give or do something for you. You might be surprised how much your world view opens.
We are one. Do better
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I am from Ethiopia and the oldest human (Lucy) was a black woman, black woman nurtured not only human kind but civilizations too. when i look at black women all i see is orgin of life, do your research about eve gene, only then you know wasup, i can't imagine myself with anyone else.
I thought am z only one wathching zis video from Ethiopia LOl ...and he is good looking😭
He does look Ethiopia 🇪🇹to me too.
I love how blacks we look different based on nationalities.
There have been attempts to literally and figuratively castrate Black men in some form or another since we arrived in this hemisphere. We MUST identify and understand the pathology that we engage in as a people. To see that there are unhealthy behaviors from generations past that were normalized as survival mechanisms and are still producing unhealthy behaviors today. And they will continue into the future if they remain unaddressed. How can our women trust us if we don't provide, protect and care for them?
I agree with you
That is our conundrum. As Black women, even though Black men have been dating and marrying Yte women, we have stood by Black men and even fought for justice towards them. I believe more Black men have to understand that it is impossible for one group to be healed, if all are not healed, and also take responsibilty for our community.
Appreciate you King. 🙌🏾🌹🙏🏾 thank you for coming through with all of this understanding and empathy. This video is so beautiful. ♥️♥️♥️ and healing. ♥️
The other day I found myself recounting to my teen daughter how I was almost raped in college, more than once. Two different occasions. The guys didn't know how to attract/talk to women, so they'd corner women. I told her about how many times I'd been grabbed by the throat by men, men that looked like my cousins and friends. I'm not a talker, I'm introverted, and I spent a lot of time in my 20's trying to figure out what I was doing to make these men think it was ok to put their hands on me. My grandad raised me, and I'd never had that happen before, being strangled when things didn't progress the way they wanted. It took years to find out that the problem wasn't with me, it was with those men, their culture and values. Over those years I developed a hard attitude as a result. It took being loved by a wonderful black man to help me heal. It's not all black men. It's just that the bad apples loom large in our narrative.
I was wondering....during those times when this was happening to you did you ever considered reporting them to someone? They truly needed to be exposed. Sorry for your humiliation you experienced at that time.
D Mann thank for your story. Most of us have one. It was kind of u to share. I hope you have healed. Stay blessed & happy 😊.
I’m sorry to hear this I pray you find peace
So much love and respect for you. The more I listened to you, I just felt an inner guard coming down that I didn’t even know resisted. It is natural for women to submit to men who they respect and feel safe with (mentally, physically, and spiritually). Thank you for the great, unbiased content.
Man. I really love listening to you talk, this is refreshing. And comforting, and somehow healing to know someone feels this way. The love of black women is real, their strength is real, their power. They deserve so much more, and we all need to support each other, so we don't all have to be hard all the time. Black men have to be hard, black women have to be hard. When's it going to stop if we can't carry each other? We're all human, and want someone to make us feel okay and to help someone else feel okay as well. Humans are so soft, we're not meant for this separation.
Mane, it's almost 2 am and I've been binge watching your videos. I have now sent two to both of my brothers. They need a little waking up they aren't the ones to publicly bash bw but they definitely have some internalized racism that I honestly don't think they are aware of and I'm sure I'm not exempt. Men don't tend to seek answers and help like women do. Lastly the messenger is also a black man, I don't think they have heard truth to power for someone like themselves. I think this will rock their worlds. Thank you for your content and keep on the great work. You are much needed in this sphere 🤍
We’re generally strong enough to do it all, but we don’t want to HAVE to. Strong people are the ones that silently suffer the most. People rarely check on them to see if they’re ok.
Thank you for giving me, (South African woman) hope that there are builders among our BP. The battle that is on the internet amongst siblings(bw&bm) has been worrying. I like that you are explaining the deeper meaning to all this stuff.
It has been worrying me too. It’s crazy! I appreciate you ❤️
I truly did not expect to cry watching this video. But I have never in my life heard a black man defend black women like this. I have never had a black man say anything supportive towards their counterparts. Not like this. Sexualized complements aren't the same and hold little value in my heart. I truly appreciated this video.
I love black men, but I don't date them anymore because I honestly feel betrayed and mistreated by them. I've never felt protected or loved. Thank you, it's good to know men like you are out here.
So very true. For years I came across as hard because I had to be. I was raised by a single mother and I had to look out for and do for myself. Then I started working at a company full of mostly white men who opened the door for me, carried things for me, and paid attention to me. They were always quick to ask me if I needed anything and genuinely didn't mind being inconvenienced on my behalf. If somebody came at me the wrong way, they stepped up and handled the situation without being asked. Guess what? As I began to feel safe, I became more feminine and was able to relax. I am able to be vulnerable and trust people because someone has my back. I love black men, but I got tired of being mocked about how I speak and being made fun of for loving to read. Shocker, the guy I'm talking to now is white. We read the same books and love to discuss them.
I think I'm the generation of black women who were raised by the rhetoric of "Tommy" and other black men like him, calling us undesirable and unwanted and masculine. And all it did was push me away from black men. I have never dated a black man because of it and that says a lot and it's sad. With how they talked about us I thought that as a whole black men didnt want us, so i never put myself out there towards them.
@raj jar i was a young teenager 14-15 hearing this stuff from tommy and a mix of the men in my environment. made me have this opinion.
I think the same about black men they all hate us. I even think my own male family members think bad of me now.
Truth spoken! People that are truly happy and at peace aren't out here spewing words full of hatred and anger. You don't have to tear others down to lift others up.
👏👏👏
Such powerful words I'm in tears 😢. I've been divorced for 10 years now and took afraid to allow a black man to come in and tear my house down. I'm successful, raising a beautiful black lady. Supportive of so many people, family, and my community. The black men I encounter are looking for a maid/psychotherapist instead of a woman. Black " males" are Non Supportive of my feelings and our well-being either i see too much selfishness. Not Supportive of any of my challenges because I'm not suppose to have any. I'm open to all men. It's the character of the person.