Love Languages | Men's Round Table | A Black Love Series
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- The Round Table begins February discussing love languages, the importance of communication and why it's valuable to communicate while emotional, balancing physical touch, and the influence of family in interpersonal relationships.
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Men's Round Table, hosted by Brandon Bryant @Wallstreetpaper, features black men of differing ages and relationship status weighing in on everything love and relationships, from dating apps to commitment and marriage.
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Don’t miss the point people.... Men are openly expressing themselves. We Need more discussions like this. The interchange was rich.
We shouldn't give them a pass because they opened up. They should have come prepared. To have taken the test and seen what it really was about. They missed the point.
These same women criticizing will wonder why they dont have closeness in their relationships with their men. Its because their judgment is the distance.
@@poeticallyaware1 You missed the point. Reading a book doesn't "introduce" you to love languages. It's JUST A BOOK. It's not about giving anybody a pass. They are expressing their feelings and experiences. The video is mislabeled but that's it.
@@poeticallyaware1 It bridges the gap. As a man, our perspective is totally different. Naming the love languages may have been a miss but expressing themselves through experience is a win in any conversation. We build off that.
@@rochellegayden8442 That was deep. Especially from an emotional connection standpoint. Accepting perspective is a big part of growth
For those saying communication is not a love language: Communication can be translated to “Words of affirmation” he values words. What you say and how he interprets those words is important to him.
I absolutely love and applaud you Men so much for this round table!! This is what we need more often!! I have so much respect and admiration for you guys ❤❤💜💜
Okay. I was thinking it could be Quality Time. The attention, time out, reflection etc
Yes Grace he may be words and one on one quality time. You can have two that stand out.
As a woman, I appreciated listening to this conversation from these mature Black men. HOWEVER, not NAAN of them came prepared talking about communication is a love language 🤦🏽♀️😂 they should've ran through the 5 love languages prior to making this video. Communication isn't a love language, it's a necessity.
That’s because most people don’t read the book and the narratives that provide context. I prefer ppl not to assign themselves a primary love language if they haven’t done the reading or quiz 😅. Oftentimes people shoot from the hip on what they think their love language is rather than doing a self investigation on how it is so. I expected all 5 of them to say what a lot of men say and thas “pHyZiCaL tOuCh iZ mAh LuV LaNgUaGe” lol. Instead they came with other good view points. I’m not really sure if The 5 Love Languages really teach others about how to love the other as much as it suggests conditioning of certain kinds of treatment 😕. The jury is still out for me on the usefulness of them.
Agreed lol I was like Communication is not a love language
Agreed. Dr. Gary Chapman, creator of the 5 Love Languages, also stated in his book that love languages can change throughout your life. Plus, you can have two primary love languages if the number is tied. The ways I show love are Acts of Service and Gifts. The ways I receive love are Qualit Time and Physical Touch.
They really should. This wasn’t great to watch for that reason. Poor execution
@@jayc5756
The thing I had to learn (and still am) is that you have to treat your wife how SHE wants to be treated. It's a challenge because we grow to think that treating someone how you'd like to be treated is respectful...but it can be conflicting most times. Either way it's not good enough.
Why are all these brothers so beautiful, I love to listen to our men talk with substance and be vulnerable
ThnkU Sis...
There are 5 love languages
Acts of service
Quality time
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Receiving gifts
That’s what Gary Chapman thinks... there is more. Signed a marriage/life coach
says who?
@@blkyogi999 can’t the more be roughly categorised under the 5 that Gary gives?
@@JJ-mx3pd they can.
@@JJ-mx3pd oh my dear... love languages existed prior to Gary Chapman.. he coined the term but the concept was already in the world. I’m done with this topic.
I love seeing men being vulnerable amongst one another. This is sexy.
Very sexy .
🍯😌yes maim
I see NO vulnerability at all here. I see power. And its also in words
Ppl keep saying "communication isn't a love language" but I'm trying to understand who determines what is and isn't a love language for someone? The purpose of a "love language" is a determination of how love resonates with them. I think the 5 love languages are a guide, not a blueprint. Fluidity in a relationship is a necessity, but if that's what I appreciate and need the most it's MY love language. Imo 🤷🏿
Thank you for saying this. Focus on the message not the title of the video. Our Brothas openly expressing themselves about love and love languages. Guess what? I’m actually happier that they haven’t read the book and if they have, they chose to speak on THEIR love languages. Instead of being stuck on what someone else decided that the “5 love languages” are.....let’s listen and hear and pay attention to what our partner needs. Find that out. Seek that out. Let’s not be so strict on ourselves or our people that we think their love language has to be defined in a book written by someone other than self or your partner. Truly, read their book. Their inner book. Your persons inner book. Let’s not limit ourselves and let’s not limit our partner based on someone else’s outline/guide....I pray that when love finds me....I can be open to all of the possibilities of the way my person loves and Vice versa. 🖤
@@tiffanynoe5068 Facts. But unfortunately most ppl have a "sheepish" mentality. They can only consume what's PLACED in front of them, very few think outside of the box with any depth. And it's not an insult on their intellect, some ppl are book smart and others are investigators and get their understanding out the mud themselves......
..... but everyone is a boss 😒🙄
But that's another topic for another day lol
Yes. Exactly. As if the man who wrote that book speaks for all humans everywhere. If these brothas are saying XYZ is their love language.....how can anyone argue with that? You can’t. Furthermore, forget that book- hear what the person sitting across from you is saying? Does your understanding or innerstanding only come from what someone else tells you it is???!! As you said, it isn’t a diss on intellect...more of wake up call..a reminder even....use your own mind, think for self, dig deeper, acknowledge that concepts, truths, facts exists outside of what is written and what is already “known”. Don’t let someone feed you everything. Search for your own knowledge and overstanding and innerstanding.
Words of affirmation is communication. So communication is a love language.
🙌🙌🙌 You said it... it’s a guide not a Blueprint🙌
Real Men having real raw discussion about real issues! Love This!!
As a black woman I’m here for this!! And to make it even better. A black man with a therapist!! Yes💕
I feel you. I was like a black man so self aware that he is seeing a therapist to be a better version of himself?! That's so awesome.
I hope to get more of this. Women need to hear from men what men want.
If as a woman you find yourself judging this conversation and criticizing their knowledge of the love languages - that could be an indicator of something you need to look into. Learn to listen to our men without judgement or the need to assess them relative to your approach.
I agreed with the comments thinking pretty much this same thing.
On the real though, this is a big challenge I believe most women have.
Amen and amen again
agreed
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Say that Allison, they are the type that would publicly correct a man for using a salad fork versus a dinner fork.
I think its interesting how men talking about how they give/understand love is being combated with “its not a love language” just because its not written like that in the 5 love languages book... i love this content btw.. keep the convos coming
SPEAK, SIR!!!
So true, just listen to the content and draw from that. This is why people don't talk... I love you enough to treat you the way you like that is respectful. Back in the day communication and action were love languages. Daddy loved you- he may not have hugged you or other acts of physical touch, but the lights were on. It's just different now...
@@momstinson9005 exaaaaaactly! they are being disregarded just for the sake of "feeling right"
That is what bothers me most. Instead of appreciating men opening up and hopefully, gaining insight and learning something some want to counter that what they are saying ISNT a love language. If this man says this is how he loves and what he needs...THAT IS HIS LOVE LANGUAGE. Why are people so caught up on a certain author’s description of what he deems love languages are? They are literally saying “Communication is my love language. Laughter is my love language.” Who is anyone else to say “that’s not a love language”. Maybe that isn’t what yt man Chapman said is a love language but can our brothas express themselves without being confined and defined by someone else’s ideas and thoughts of what a love language is.
Mannnnnnnnnnn
The good thing about this is that BLACK MEN ARE TALKING!!!! They should definitely take the love language test though. But I enjoyed it.
That part! 🗣
Hello la otra how are you
Everybody’s love language is different! The book is written from the writer’s POV. This conversation was genuine and from the heart🙏🏽
Agreed. I thoroughly enjoyed it.
true
Ase'. Can we just listen and 'be' sometimes without critique or correction? I'm just happy to see some beautiful brothers having an open and fair dialog.
See... these types of conversations are Sliver and Gold! Love languages should *NOT* be limited to the 5 we read in the book on "5 love languages". I think these men are talking about how they organically express Love as opposed to which of the 5 love languages they practice. And there's something very important ladies.. It's important that we learn to LISTEN and hear our men. It's not so much important that we didn't hear acts of service or words of affirmation verbatim.. one mentions communication and how honesty & transparency matters in his expression.. and so words of affirmation can't be out of reach. All love languages ARE a necessity just as much as communication is, depending on who's on the receiving end and their own needs. Point is, when you ask your man his love language and he doesn't cite 1 from the 5 we all know... lean in even closer. That's a teaching moment. His interpretation of love language and how HE expresses his love gives you the power to operate from a place of KNOWLEDGE. When you know your man, you understand him better. Then, go ahead and explain to him your own love language(s) out of the 5 and let him know what you expect to receive from him to feel Loved. When we really listen to one another... We learn better how to love one another. Selah
Facts!!
This is indeed a great conversation and needed. I get what you’re saying, but communication is not a love language but rather a tool/skill. Love languages in themselves are way of communicating in general. It’s the way you give/receive (communicate) love to one another.
Woooooooooooooooh!!! You spoke right into my spirit. At first I was like 'communication' is not a love language y'all. But it hit me, why I'm I limiting myself to the 5 love languages I was told are love languages. I love that each of them expressed how communication is important and I am learning to sit still and just listen. Don't ever make anyone feel that they don't know anything simply because their truth is not your truth.
@@janegachiri2163 yes Sis.. you're absolutely right. When people think of words of affirmation as a love language and try to separate that from communication, I'm perplexed. Lots of people know how to effectively communicate in areas of work and in their regular relating but there Are some of those who don't necessarily know how to be vulnerable when communicating especially when emotions are high.. (which was one context explained by a man in this vid)so a person who says they lay emphasis on that kind of communication in expressing their love... It definitely is valid. The 5 love languages are just a guide to identify which ways of expressing affection take priority for each of us. The questions designed in the quizz only factor in those 5 parameters. But what of people who place a greater importance on say spiritual covering through prayer as means of expressing love? Those people who share everything they have with those they love as a way of expressing their love? Children express love in very different ways also. To always want to make people you love laugh (like for one in the vid) is a legit way of expressing love. What happens to all these other forms too? My point is... Over 7 billion people on earth of varying backgrounds, upbringings, languages and we expect that all these people will have only 5 ways of expressing love? Really? Sigh. Whats most important is knowing how the people we love want to be loved and how they express theirs. The rest is just information that can be very useful when applied correctly!! Jus sayin. (All this said in love and respect) Salaam.
@@rabeedee1805 this is pure wisdom!!!! Let's not limit people from expressing how they love and would want to be loved. Thank you for sharing.
As a black woman we need to listen more..allow our men to share and express themselves without being so focus on the words “5 love languages” it’s no such thing as 5 love languages..these men are sharing how they feel and expressing their love languages this is a way for us to learn how to compliment our black men Love this platform Thank you for this video I’m listening and learning at 45
Omg!!!! Would you please say it again!!!! I loved this!
It’s the VULNERABILITY for me!! Speaking straight from their heart and emotions!! They are men and their brains wired differently LOL so they will go off the subject Natural born free stylers and I love it..Keep speaking y’all truth beautiful brothers
This is amazing we need more support system like this for black people
Most especially Men
Ladies don't get lost in the "love languages" listen to "their languages"
I love a man who is self aware of his short comings . That’s the first step to change . Let’s all keep trying to be better
I respect the guy who advised the guy to possibly see a therapist
Respect!!!
While communication is not necessarily a love language, it’s an essential human skill that many of us don’t have. It’s not just about open expression but the ability to understand what someone is trying to communicate. This man may be saying he needs his partner to meet him at communicating before crossing the bridge of “love language”. If we can, we need to meet people where they are and find out if we can grow from there.
This was enjoyable to watch. Suggestion...maybe everyone should have taken the love language test. It's interesting to find that your LL may NOT be what you think. I find that the most interesting thing about it is it's also how you interpret love as well as how you express love.
Or more so how you receive love. A love language shows *how you like to be loved* and someone elses love language is how they want you to *show love to them* .
@@jayc5756 you can Google it or buy the book. The book gives greater insight than just taking the test
Yeah, most people typically give love how they want to receive love.. every time I’ve taken the LL Quiz, mine is consistent lol. Quality time & Words of Affirmation being my top two and Physical touch is least (I hate being touched)
Sir in the black casual shirt doesn’t have off-putting energy at all!! He seems solid all around from just his look and demeanor. I like all of that. Father/daddy/lover energy.
is this sarcasm?
@@Dolce305 Not at all.
I agree, I love how he expressed himself. What’s his name? I’ve seen him before but can’t recall his name. Great conversation overall, they didn’t specifically name the 5 LLs but everything they discussed and described fell under them and I think that’s the take away IMO.
Men want to communicate just like us!
Love is so subjective that you may notice that hardly any of them talked about the 5 known love languages, but how they give and receive love. There’s no wrong answer - just what comes out of experience and trial and error of past relationships. Men communicate differently than women and that’s probably why they didn’t stick to the subject as much as we was looking forward to
To see black kings display a detailed description of transparency and vulnerability is a true attraction . Ladies they’re showing what boaz is. Response show the world the Ruth.
Excellent 👏🏽
Hala
Its awesome to see men communicating. People remember that this is how your woman deserves to be addressed as well, with vulnerability, intellect, respect, calmness and honesty. Thanks for sharing!
I truly commend these fellas for their honesty and transparency, love it! More men need to talk!
This is great content I love the way everyone listened to each other
And related and laughed😌
I totally agree. I’m not sure why there are so many negative comments. Personally I would love love love for my husband to have a circle of friends like these guys. I wonder how many of the nay sayers are actually in a relationship?
Hello Dannie greething from panama
That man said “chill” at home and take care of of the kids. He’s in for a rude awakening if he thinking being a stay at home parent means you get to “chill” at home with the kids.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
It didn't sit right with me when he said that. Sounds lazy.
@@StrongnBeautiful really? Her career kicks off then someone has to stay home with the kids and it’s ok that daddy stays home and nurture the kids. Nothing lazy about instilling values in the kids at home whether mommy or daddy.
But I hear what you are saying too 😌
Yeah, because his wife will expect him to tend to the kids, the household chores, etc. and THEN do all the other things that men do that women can't or refuse to do. We don't need to list them because we know very well what they are.
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Come on women stop focusing on the book “love language.” The fact these men are talking about relationships and their heart interpretation of their love languages. Women open ears heart and mind close mouths. Be blessed and thank you men I hear and will continue to listen.
Facts! Being that communication is a #1 barrier of thriving, successful relationships, I personally am SO PROUD that men are starting to realize just how important the subject matter is! ❤️❤️
Absolutely! Very well said.
I don’t know if this was about love languages but I did like where it was going & could be expanded upon. How their journey in emotional healing & gaining emotional intelligence is allowing them to develop more meaningful relationships & the importance of it. This was a fresh outlook, we don’t get to hear men talk about emotions often. It would be awesome to see a spin off series on this topic with different men.
Agree
I love the way Timon showed how he checked his woman. Very masculine and respectfully done.
While most ladies are pointing out how these brothers didn’t deeply discuss or know enough about the love languages, did u gather any understanding from a male POV??? Bro said he believes it’s more than 5. The title may have been like that to reel you in to test u not to judge the title and miss the message. That clearly shows how/why misunderstandings happen and how you don’t understand each other’s “languages” bcuz you speak your language and aren’t PATIENT enuff to teach or break urs down & also don’t study theirs. If you religious, understand each other’s role and how to help each be the best in their own role. Don’t try to fill their role bcuz it isn’t up to par but help them to be better or understand their role as well. Don’t assume ur version of help is best either, learn how to ask “how can I help you” and actually listen, respect and lovingly pursue it.
As a woman, this was my EXACT response to the other women pointing out everything EXCEPT the men's POV. Thank you for your comment.
@@tatianadaniel3569 no doubt sis, thank u for acknowledging 🙏🏽
Concentrating on the wrong things. I knew those weren’t the love languages but was more interested in what they had to say and how they expressed their feelings. Good stuff.
Agree. Because they basically didn't do a book review something is wrong? So-called "Love Languages" are intuitive. As a guy whose been married well over a decade I understood exactly where they were coming from.
Thank you! They were expressing their feelings, what moves them and helps them to grow to be better. So what if its not the textbook love languages, at least they are talking and sharing. I appreciated this one.
I LOVE THIS MEN'S ROUNDTABLE PODCAST❤ EXCELLENT JOB KINGS..
It’s refreshing to see men have open and vulnerable conversations like these. Love this series!
Salute to these guys for a really good in-depth conversation. It's unfortunate that some people will get hung up on word semantics. I've been married to wife well over a decade. And I've never read Gary Chapman's book. I don't need him to tell me about love languages. I need to listen to and observe my wife and let her tell me HER love languages. And then act accordingly.
I also need to have enough self awareness to know my own. And then I need the proper communication skill to express it to her. Some of you care more about the theory (Chapman's specific 5) than listening to men express reality. If that's the case why even watch this video? Go watch a video of Gary Chapman talking about his book.
Exactly,
Lol ...this video is the prime example of how miscommunication occurs. None of the 5 love languages was discussed.
I will say that the key part of learning someone ELSE’S love language is to figure out how to meet THEIR needs. Most time people have disagreements when they force their partner to conform to their own language. Everyone receives and gives love differently and it’s out job in relationships to adjust to meet the needs of our loved ones.
Can’t wait to watch more episodes :)
They talking about how they prefer to be loved. Not the book
Exactly! Many people have become selfish by concentrated on the things *they want* , or *how they feel you should be* , or *what they believe* when it comes to relationships - which is why many relationships fail before they can even get started. I believe the key to relationships (besides communication) is COMPROMISE - at least if you care about them - and learning what makes the other person who they are today.
Wait....how about they just threw out random things
Oh wow... I’m a Therapist and I approve their conversation and all of the love languages/ channels they explored ... we are too fixated on Gary Chapman and HIS five love languages but don’t be deceived because there’s more.
@@blkyogi999 As a non therapist and empathetic woman it's moreso the title that ppl may get hung up on. The grander scheme of their conversation was about their non negotiables in love. And maybe we can invite Chapman's construct of love languages to the convo as well.
This is so refreshing to hear you men speak because we need our strong men but it’s also ok to be vulnerable. This makes me know there’s hope since most of you men love language is communication, our men have been afraid to speak out . In some homes or society make them believe it was a sign of weakness but it’s actually a sign of strength.
This is why men are dying 😪 most men are loners & only have their wives as best friends, because we've been wounded by men [ usually our fathers] and we don't trust other men.
I just appreciate these brothers having a healthy and honest dialogue that fosters positive relations. It’s wonderful to hear brothers dive deep into their emotions and thoughts in a safe space. Love it. 🥰
I appreciated listening. Thank you all for being open.
I appreciate the conversation and thought it was cute that they weren't prepared and created their own. I asked my husband what would he consider his love languages outside of the 5... on another note, I appreciate the brother to the right of the screen in the red shirt because he knew what all the 5 languages were but didn't feel he needed to correct them. That takes wisdom ...to understand you can still reach the objective without being particular about the content
I enjoyed watching the show, it was insightful and educational as well. The round table is a good please to see African American men express themselves especially in the culture we have today. Where women and men are giving up on love and finding situationships to settle into. Thank you for your service.
LOVE seeing the authenticity, transparency n vulnerability show up in this discussion, Fellahs! We need more of this! #KEEPgoing -BBnBaB
It’s a beautiful thing to see these mature men sitting around the table willing to have this discussion. I definitely appreciate the insight!
Loved listening to these guys. It's good to hear intelligent, mature, fellas speak about their feelings in a open, honest and vulnerable way. Great job
I never knew men could actually sit down shed their tough exterior to talk. Men usually internalize their feelings, this is so applauding, gives me hope of finding a genuine partner one day.
But we need to hear from more men and not be judgmental.
This was a great discussion. That was cool that they added their individual love languages. Just because the book itself has five doesn’t mean they can’t add to the list. That’s a part of growth.
This was good hearing men speak up. Stop criticizing them for not using the terms you wanted to hear! This was a great place to get insight on how our men feel and what is important to them!
1.communication is important
2. Respect
3. They want to be providers
3. They like privacy
4.They like things in moderation
5.They want to be understood
Loved hearing nature black men speak openly. ❣️ thank you
So proud of these men..esp the lighter skin guy addressing his anger and knowing that it needed a lot of work and help.
Self evaluation and development is a good practice.
I appreciate the honest conversations that we may still need to learn our own love languages to communicate with our significant other.
This is GOLD!! Men communicate love like MEN!
Communication is not a love language it's a necessity and the foundation of all relationships. Yes, there are several love languages in addition to the five. The five are a starting point.
It would've been nice if all of them had knowledge of the 5 LL.
@@kkjannah lord have mercy on you...
@@kkjannah I agree - that was just his way of describing it
@@kkjannah I have to disagree with some of what you said. Words of affirmation is a type of communication and a love language, not the other way around. I do agree that knowing how to communicate with your partner so they feel loved is essential, but words of affirmation is distinct and specific. Everyone needs good communication for their relationship to thrive and not just survive. But not everyone needs their partner to compliment them to feel loved. That's not to say that chronic negative talk to and about your partner is not damaging
I agree - The guys definitely should've read up on the basic love languages before sitting down to have this discussion.
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Came to the comments to post about how they aren’t really discussing love languages, but I see everyone already has that covered! Lol
Me too! This makes the title misleading
As a man, I will defend... the title is jacked up lol but the content is rich nonetheless.
@@ALLICANDOISTRY42 I definitely agree it’s a good conversation. I just wish they would have either labeled the discussion differently or had them actually talk about their love languages.
@@shannon9849 I’m with the Fellas in this Vid. I definitely had to Google what the Languages were too lol. Baby steps lol
Me too!!! Still happy they are Talking
I wish more men around the world would have conversations like this. This is truly beautiful ☺️
Timon tickled me with the cat analogy! You can show me affection, but after a short while - bam! Get back cause you're smothering me. I need my space!😑😑😑😑😑
Lol Same here!
I laughed so hard when he said that because this is me too. I even have a cat tattoo.
I must say that this is a Very Much needed conversation to have among Men. This is something US as Black Women wanted to see from Our Black Men. I Commend y'all. Please continue😪mamashod💔
I can so relate to having rough edges and strict boundaries and regard for privacy and restrictions on personal sharing. I hate to have something I shared personally mentioned to someone else,, unless I initiate it.
Communication is not a love language. Communication is necessary for a relationship to work. Love language is different for everyone but very important to know about each other.
But good for you for opening up.
I related with Will, this was interesting to watch. My husband of 11 years now wants a divorce. He's military background and didn't have a great relationship with his mother. I'm praying for his healing in that area.
Be blessed as you deal with this challenging life circumstance. Love yourself first.
@@baritunde thank you
I am sorry to hear about your current situation. I would suggest you encourage your husband to see a therapist, the unresolved issues with his mother may be the root cause of your current situation.
@@beautifullybroken1510 I appreciate your encouragement 🙏🏾
Okay but how are you🥺. I wanna hug you.
These comments have me rolling! It is nice to see black men being vulnerable and sharing their thoughts. Of course, when you are sharing your truth, there is no wrong answer. We are most often used to hosts/moderators leading the dialogue differently than we see here so I understand where people are coming from. We click on the video because we want to hear their perspectives on the topic being mentioned but the conversations get off track and the questions are not always understood by the guests.
I loved this. We need more of this. Plus can I say they fine too. Mental wellness looks great on black men 💕💕💕🙏🏽✨
I love this, they are so open and transparent, we need more open discussions like this!
Great convo. Thanks for sharing!
Excellent job gents! Shout out to the last gent for suggesting seeing a therapist for getting to the root of the other guys dilemma that he has had in relationships. It's so helpful to talk to someone who can provide professional help!
Thank you. Loved it. I listened without thinking about the book, just how they wanted to see love.
Laughter is such a beautiful characteristics of quality time. That correction is love driving the impact of allowing others to understand the value. It speaks to the operative in quality time. The value is still available even though the conversation has ended. My love language is quality time above everything. I have all of them and can do without them, with the exception of quality time.
Gifts is on the bottom. It's hysterical when I sit through times that people don't understand. My second would be acts of service, touch is third, and fourth would be words of affirmation.
I felt like I was sitting at that table!! Great job, brothers!!
Well this is my first time being on here and I have to say I enjoyed listening to the men's round table and speaking on love languages The point that I cherish so much is the fact that we dig deep down inside and look at ourselves from our childhood and from our experiences and we learn and grow from them and the mistakes we've made and to learn to be a better version of ourselves So I truly enjoyed the gentleman that talked about going to therapy but I truly enjoyed all of them because as men sometimes and meaning sometimes and some people do not open up and share their feelings so I really appreciate the communication and wanting to dig down deep and learn more about yourself and wanted to grow and do better and then realize the mistakes that we've made in the past and we don't want to repeat those same mistakes So I thank you so much for your enlightenment of your conversation from a man's perspective which is always as a woman so I might need to find out God bless you all from Teresa.
What I find is most of the time people tend to love others in their language instead of loving the other person like they need to be loved. My husband feels love when I do things for him, I need words...cards,conversation,
compliments...once you recognize what you need let the other person know. Just because you take care of everything doesn’t mean a person feels loved. I appreciate when my husband does things for me, but his love expressed in words means the world to me. And when God is in the mist it all works even better...🥰
Words of affirmation go a really long way 😊
That’s the part I was missing. Each person needs to learn their partners love language for this to be effective. You may give all the words of affirmation because thats what works for YOU but if your parts language is something different those words may not work as well for them. I do believe people have more than one language but some are valued more than others 🥰
This love conversation is needed. Black love matters. Fitness starts with effective communications.
Y’all better be honest and transparent! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yes! Therapy! Healing! Emotions! ❤️❤️❤️ I love it!
I'm with Timon, laughter is a great love language as it eases the pathway to communication. Mature laughter though..not the evasive "let's laugh to graze over real and deep conversations" kinda deal.
I love to see this! Black men speaking openly for us to LISTEN and better understand
This was beautiful. Thank you all!!! ❤️🌻
Communication and affection are huge for me. I'm very open and honest in conversation but I consciously make a point to come from a place of love and kindness when I speak and have learned to take accountability whenever I am out of line. Words live on forever so we need to choose them wisely. 🖤💯
For me quality time
You can't give any love without Communication. People who have problems with any form of communication can not fully express love to someone else
Our young black youth need us now more then ever, all it takes is mentors like us to make a difference
Humor is definitely the 6th love language... get me to laughing and it’s a bonding moment
Comes under quality time... laughing is one of the things you typically do when you are spending one on one time.
I really enjoyed this honest communication. I care not about the book's author's point of view. I love the vulnerability, genuine, truth spoken here. Sending love and good vibes keep talking my brothers. Yeeeessss. I'm here for it.
*Love Languages* are great but there has to be *Reciprocation* to meet each other's language. Also, these love languages can be easliy *influenced or manipulated* be mature and wise in how you implement them in your Marriage or Relationship.
I love this entire dialogue with the Black man. It’s apparent that “communication” is the key component that black men value. This panel is diverse from married-single-in a relationship and they all share the same concern. Lesson from this is for woman to truly listen (without judging or waiting to respond) and value their men’s shares. Speak out of love and from a gentle spirit...
Great convo, thanks for sharing Gentlemen 💖🎯
I can see how and agree that communication is a love language. So much success, progress & reward can come from proper-efficient communication.
Very good Roundtable table discussion, i enjoyed it. The handsome in black T-shirt 😉😊.
I appreciate the mens discussion in this video. To be open and transparent isn't easy and I respect them for sharing! Many Blessings!!
Great conversation, Love languages!!!! I do believe that there are more than the 5. How would things look if you had an issue with any of the Love languages? How would you be able to examine that Love language and Heal within yourself and with someone else? How would each Love language embrace the other?
Wonderful panel. It’s good to hear the black man communicate and be vulnerable. Our men are raised to not show emotion and the lack of seeing love results in the lack of not knowing how to love. Matured and honest conversation!🥰
I definitely agree with the comments. Yall are talking about a topic only some of you actually know about. Why didnt anyone jump in and explain it to the other men? Smh, no thanks. Change the title.
They understand how they want/need to be love.
The 5 love languages book provides a general overview of this subject.
There are subcategories that exist and they are addressing those.
This is a great conversation.
Don't miss out on good content over a title.
No, they have done their research and came prepared to talk about the topic. Stop making excuses for them. Also, the coordinator of this discussion should have given them some literature to read to be prepared. They need to change the title of this.
I enjoyed listening to grown men discuss love openly.
Why people trying to box then into their feelings? Be happy to even see our black men expressing themselves. People want to still critique while they are opening up... smh
I don’t have a clue why this showed up in my algorithm, I haven’t watched anything similar to this at all. But I am grateful for this, I love hearing from emotionally mature men. Prep time, my husband is on his way.
Good discussion. It just wasn't a good discussion on "Love Languages". As someone already suggested they should have taken the test and had a frank discussion about what they discovered. I think a lot of assumptions were made in regards to that. Other than that I thought the overall discussion was great. It was open and honest.
This is from these black men’s perspectives so I appreciate their viewpoints.
Siri, what are the five love languages?
Siri: 1. Acts of service
2. Words of affirmation
3. Gifts 🎁
4. Physical touch
5. Quality time
Oh my gosh thank you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😂😂😂
This is great insight though 😊
The minimum I would have expected from them was to know the 5 love languages (not necessarily read the book) and use that as a point of discussion something to expand on.
@@sublimeimg Exactly.
Thank you 🖤
This is good, I'm loving this, need more Black men round table.
This is more of what we need to see. I’ve been seeing a lot of superficial BS lately.
This was powerful and we need more of this. I love the fact that they are expressing themselves.