This is so to the point! I don’t think Therapists get it close to how you do. Please continue to teach how to heal and recover from control issues ! Much needed 😊
Mark Thank you. Thank you! I needed this very message. I am doung lunch w/a sister in the Lord and was planning to continue on w/badgering her w/,Grace verses and expect her to just be complacent. This video came at the right time. ☝🏼🎯📖❤️😢
Thank you Mark for breaking down what the process looks like to start to overcome. I tend to recognize the problem, but sometimes don’t understand what the solution is and what that look likes. These videos are so helpful as they provide steps to start taking to move in the right direction to allow the freedom Christ died to give. 🙏🏽 God bless you and the family.
Thank you so much for your ministry Mark. You have no idea how much hope this gives me. I can’t find any material like this anywhere else!! Your talks describe exactly my condition. I bought your OCD healing journey book and can’t wait to dive in!!! My dear mother in law introduced me to your videos and I’m so so thankful, it’s my lifeline for healing that really needs to happen ❤️🩹. I’ve been recommending your materials to others dealing with OCD 🙏🏻
I am very thankful for you Mark! You deliver in such a loving balanced way. For someone that is healing from shame based thinking, it's very very appreciated. The understanding behind it....for example control issues is not because someone is a bleep lol it's because of fear. Compassion for myself is also what has helped me the most as well. Thanks Brother ❤
One thing i remember learning is that sometimes part of letting go of trying to control an abuser is realizing to stay alive or somewhat safe it's better to love/not control from a distance. I didn't understand before that not controlling nd forgiveness didn't mean maintaining proximity or allowing myself to victimized.
Good teaching🙏🥰 I am free in Christ, Controlling people have hurt me so deeply, I will not associate with them anymore, coming out of a relationship that traumatized me, almost killed me, I want nothing to do with them. They don’t seem to suffer as much as the lives they hurt, works of Satan. My advice, leave people alone if you can’t be decent, to communicate, hear, listen, and have empathy. Or go away, world is a happier place without control freaks. Creates narcissist it’s abuse. You have no control, you just hurt your relationships, and chase away genuine people who have no desire to control you, nor do they need this poison in their life.
My X husband was extremely controlling tantrums outburst of anger he was loud and overpowering conversation with whom ever he spoke too. I could not think for my self 😔” I had shrunk and lost myself. I’m a overcomer now yay! 😃 and I’m growing and enjoying the light bulb moment from good teachings like from you mark 😊Thank you for all you do! 🎉
Thanks a whoooole lot, brother Mark. Recently I was watching a song from the Chosen series that is about Thomas giving up control. I watched it again, again and again. And then you also made this video here, so hmm... I wonder if I have a lot of control issues also. It is not good really. you can get into this false dichtomy: either you control stuff too much in your life so you get a lot of anxiety or then you think if I let go then chaos comes in and a lot of problems - lol. When in God is true freedom found as we let go. It is much easier for me to say this... so if you could say a prayer for me to realize in actions how to really let go of these control issues and not just talk about it I would appreciate that :)
Thank you so much for this video! This really helps me understand my co-worker who has control and anxiety issues. Now that I have a better understanding of what she may be going through internally I feel more sympathetic towards her and why she acts the way she does. Her and I have a strained relationship which is really sad because she’s the only other Christian in my office. I’d love to see more videos about control and also how to deal with people with this issue in a loving and biblical way. 🙏 Jen Haley
My boyfriend mentioned to me today; that i am controlling. My first response of course was defense, and for some reason in that moment i couldn't admit it. It felt like if i admit it, i am evil for being controlling and thats it for me. This video helped me alot, My boyfriend hit a soft spot and he was the first step for me to realize i have this problem. Feels like i am swallowing a piece of gum right now. Thank you for your content. I hope i can be a better person.
I do all of the list of what I need to “let go”…and have been working on them in therapy. As a child I walked on egg shells when I was in the presence of my dad. Felt uneasy just sitting at the dinner table . Even if you weren’t fearing one of his blow ups, he just made us feel uncomfortable. When he’d leave to work or even just leave the room, your body went into relief mode. When he walked in, we’d stiffen. He was an alcoholic with many abusive words to throw out and some physical abuse. Been working on these issues my whole adult life. I became a controlling parent. Raised my two kids in the church, but ended up putting them on guilt trips like my father did me. My son estranged from me seven years ago. Mark, do you ever touch on the results of OCD when it’s loss of adult children? Would love to hear you speak on this epidemic.
@@MelissaDeJesus777 thank you so much Melissa. I saw it today. I started to cry when Mark read my comment. He read me exactly. He knew exactly my issues. He really gets it. It’s all very hard though and sometimes I just feel I will never get better. I don’t really know what “normal” life feels like. But I will keep watching. You are both so wonderful and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️
How do I differentiate between having control, and being responsible? Cuz seems like I'm having a hard time telling people the difference and they always think I'm controlling. It's really frustrating. I know I have control issues and them working on the best I can, yet those two comparisons trying to show it is really really hard.
Dear God, heal my eye please. I come to you now, and I ask Jesus Your Son to come into my heart, to not only save me but heal me, all of me. For your honor and your glory, Amen❤
Hi there! May I encourage you not to put yourself in that label box? It comes from trauma. You can heal step by step. The label in my opinion is not helpful as professionals speak as if it's permanent. No the symptoms are from pain. Having compassion for those versions of you that was scared or hurt or abandoned.... Will help. It will get us out of the shame cycle. The shame we get from our mistakes or lack of regulation keeps the cycle going. You are loved. You are valuable. You are not stuck in a labeled box.
Controlling people are insecure how can you control life. Things are going happen that will be out ur control in life ( sickness, natural disasters, people behavior, world economy , death.
“God’s not even trying to control YOU right now.” Boom!! What an eye-opener!
This is so to the point! I don’t think Therapists get it close to how you do. Please continue to teach how to heal and recover from control issues ! Much needed 😊
This is off topic but I legit look forward to the church lady segment every Sunday now and it's your fault 😂 y'all are hilarious ❤
😂😂😂😂😂
Me too
So true, our inner child needs to be held
Mark
Thank you. Thank you!
I needed this very message.
I am doung lunch w/a sister in the Lord and was planning to continue on w/badgering her w/,Grace verses and expect her to just be complacent.
This video came at the right time. ☝🏼🎯📖❤️😢
Thank you Mark for breaking down what the process looks like to start to overcome. I tend to recognize the problem, but sometimes don’t understand what the solution is and what that look likes. These videos are so helpful as they provide steps to start taking to move in the right direction to allow the freedom Christ died to give. 🙏🏽 God bless you and the family.
Thank you so much for your ministry Mark. You have no idea how much hope this gives me. I can’t find any material like this anywhere else!! Your talks describe exactly my condition. I bought your OCD healing journey book and can’t wait to dive in!!! My dear mother in law introduced me to your videos and I’m so so thankful, it’s my lifeline for healing that really needs to happen ❤️🩹. I’ve been recommending your materials to others dealing with OCD 🙏🏻
I’m always so blessed every time you surprise us with a video! Like what did we do to deserve such amazing content 😂❤
God is so OTHER right
And He's using Mark and Melissa in a very special, unique way ❤️
Thank you for this. I was just talking to God about this minutes ago. He answers! Pray for me please 😅
I am very thankful for you Mark! You deliver in such a loving balanced way. For someone that is healing from shame based thinking, it's very very appreciated. The understanding behind it....for example control issues is not because someone is a bleep lol it's because of fear.
Compassion for myself is also what has helped me the most as well. Thanks Brother ❤
One thing i remember learning is that sometimes part of letting go of trying to control an abuser is realizing to stay alive or somewhat safe it's better to love/not control from a distance. I didn't understand before that not controlling nd forgiveness didn't mean maintaining proximity or allowing myself to victimized.
Loved this! I have control issues!!
My mom used to say “do it afraid”
Mark, this is just what I needed! Thank you! Glory to God!🎉
Good teaching🙏🥰 I am free in Christ, Controlling people have hurt me so deeply, I will not associate with them anymore, coming out of a relationship that traumatized me, almost killed me, I want nothing to do with them.
They don’t seem to suffer as much as the lives they hurt, works of Satan.
My advice, leave people alone if you can’t be decent, to communicate, hear, listen, and have empathy.
Or go away, world is a happier place without control freaks. Creates narcissist it’s abuse.
You have no control, you just hurt your relationships, and chase away genuine people who have no desire to control you, nor do they need this poison in their life.
Absolute perfect timing. Thank you Mark and Melissa for your wisdom. You have been a major light in my life!
So much truth here ‼️
My X husband was extremely controlling tantrums outburst of anger he was loud and overpowering conversation with whom ever he spoke too. I could not think for my self 😔” I had shrunk and lost myself. I’m a overcomer now yay! 😃 and I’m growing and enjoying the light bulb moment from good teachings like from you mark 😊Thank you for all you do! 🎉
Thanks a whoooole lot, brother Mark.
Recently I was watching a song from the Chosen series that is about Thomas giving up control. I watched it again, again and again. And then you also made this video here, so hmm... I wonder if I have a lot of control issues also. It is not good really. you can get into this false dichtomy: either you control stuff too much in your life so you get a lot of anxiety or then you think if I let go then chaos comes in and a lot of problems - lol. When in God is true freedom found as we let go. It is much easier for me to say this... so if you could say a prayer for me to realize in actions how to really let go of these control issues and not just talk about it I would appreciate that :)
Why are you reading my whole life right now???? I needed this so much
Thank you so much for this video! This really helps me understand my co-worker who has control and anxiety issues. Now that I have a better understanding of what she may be going through internally I feel more sympathetic towards her and why she acts the way she does. Her and I have a strained relationship which is really sad because she’s the only other Christian in my office. I’d love to see more videos about control and also how to deal with people with this issue in a loving and biblical way. 🙏 Jen Haley
Wow! It’s like you’ve been watching my life! Crazy 😊
Thanks, Mark.
Beautiful
Something to practice 😊
God bless you!
Thank you brother for this!! You’re always helping me after God and I appreciate it
My boyfriend mentioned to me today; that i am controlling. My first response of course was defense, and for some reason in that moment i couldn't admit it. It felt like if i admit it, i am evil for being controlling and thats it for me. This video helped me alot, My boyfriend hit a soft spot and he was the first step for me to realize i have this problem. Feels like i am swallowing a piece of gum right now. Thank you for your content. I hope i can be a better person.
This is so me. So good Thank you Mark!!!
❤❤❤
Mark… Thank you so much for this video!!! Your wording and discussion on controlling is well placed.
Thank you! Very helpful!
Thank you . This was brilliant ❤
Thank you!❤
This is such a blessing. Thank you.
Thank you for this life changing video. God Bless 🙏🏽
Excellent stuff as always, Mark! Love you brother.
Thanks! God bless you and your family. ❤
"perceived lack of safety" oh man that hurt
omg thank you thank you i needed to watch this
I do all of the list of what I need to “let go”…and have been working on them in therapy. As a child I walked on egg shells when I was in the presence of my dad. Felt uneasy just sitting at the dinner table . Even if you weren’t fearing one of his blow ups, he just made us feel uncomfortable. When he’d leave to work or even just leave the room, your body went into relief mode. When he walked in, we’d stiffen. He was an alcoholic with many abusive words to throw out and some physical abuse. Been working on these issues my whole adult life. I became a controlling parent. Raised my two kids in the church, but ended up putting them on guilt trips like my father did me. My son estranged from me seven years ago. Mark, do you ever touch on the results of OCD when it’s loss of adult children? Would love to hear you speak on this epidemic.
I can understand….
Incase, you didn't watch last nights live, I wanted to let you know that I gave your comment to Mark and he responded :) Blessings
@@MelissaDeJesus777 thank you so much Melissa. I saw it today. I started to cry when Mark read my comment. He read me exactly. He knew exactly my issues. He really gets it. It’s all very hard though and sometimes I just feel I will never get better. I don’t really know what “normal” life feels like. But I will keep watching. You are both so wonderful and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️
Thank you mark I feel like I had break through
Very apt! As always Mark!👏🏾👏🏾😊😊
How do I differentiate between having control, and being responsible? Cuz seems like I'm having a hard time telling people the difference and they always think I'm controlling. It's really frustrating. I know I have control issues and them working on the best I can, yet those two comparisons trying to show it is really really hard.
Dear God, heal my eye please. I come to you now, and I ask Jesus Your Son to come into my heart, to not only save me but heal me, all of me. For your honor and your glory, Amen❤
God is not in control! God gave us control! He gave us authority! That’s what makes it so hard!
Lack of safety and fear.
Canadian Health care when u can't afford private doctors_ = FEAR
I have BPD with these issues . Why can’t I control myself
Hi there! May I encourage you not to put yourself in that label box? It comes from trauma. You can heal step by step. The label in my opinion is not helpful as professionals speak as if it's permanent.
No the symptoms are from pain. Having compassion for those versions of you that was scared or hurt or abandoned.... Will help. It will get us out of the shame cycle. The shame we get from our mistakes or lack of regulation keeps the cycle going.
You are loved. You are valuable. You are not stuck in a labeled box.
Hey, I think you need to do this and this and this argggg heck just do what you do😊. Is a constant joker an issue ?.
Controlling people are insecure how can you control life. Things are going happen that will be out ur control in life ( sickness, natural disasters, people behavior, world economy , death.