Losing My Son and Grieving as a Mom | Rebecca Hewitt and Susan Casey

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  • @gradosa8272
    @gradosa8272 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I lost my beautiful daughter Sofia 2 weeks ago. I don’t know how to move on. I’m crushed. All my life I was so strong that nothing scared me. But her lost, Drained my drive. Nothing give me enjoyment. 😭🙏🏼😭

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am so deeply sorry that lost your beautiful daughter @gradosa8272. My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm sending you love, light, and prayers.

    • @jclilstar1973
      @jclilstar1973 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sorry to hear about your loss. Your in prayers

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This heartache is impossible. I’m so very sorry.

    • @sueparker4391
      @sueparker4391 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son Bobby to suicide three months ago.

    • @gradosa8272
      @gradosa8272 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sueparker4391 My deepest condolences. The pain of losing a child is unbearable. Our lives will never be the same. May God give you the strength to keep going. Prayers and masses were my only support. 😭😭😭Receive a hug from a mother that knows how hard it is.

  • @aimeelena5505
    @aimeelena5505 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Her story is my own of profound tragedy. So many can't or won't talk about these kinds of losses because so few can understand it without having actually lived through fighting for your child to save their life. And facing this finality. I would like to contact Rebecca... our stories are so very similar. Thank you again for sharing this.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Aimee, it's embarrassing to say, but I'm just learning about all these comments on my channel. Were you able to find Becky? Her Instagram account is mourningskygriefcoach. Thank you for listening and responding. My love and light goes out to you over the loss of your child. With love, Susan

  • @shirleysarradet9486
    @shirleysarradet9486 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You described it so well! Paul died over 10 months ago. My whole life. We are so old and been together for 68 years. I thought I would die. Die. Yes. Existing.
    You stay alive until you can live again.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      Shirley I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine losing a partner I’ve spent the past 68 years with. Are you involved in any bereavement groups to help support you?

  • @BackwoodsPhotographyME
    @BackwoodsPhotographyME 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I simply can't believe how much strength this took. I love you. You, my friend, are a fantastic Mother. Always watching over...

  • @percubit10
    @percubit10 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I lost two brothers. My mother was devastated and I became very depressed and anxious. Now I am suffering from depression and anxiety all the time and now I am a hermit and don't have to deal with the world anymore. O lost my career and everything I worked for lost my zest for life and all the good things it had to offer, I feel like an empty shell. I was a good student and I always wanted to make a difference, I turned to drugs and knew that was not the answer, I loved learning and wanted to become the best version of myself, and I lost the will to live. I was a good student and loved learning worker. Loved what I was doing, Bad influences in my life and bad friends. Lige can be beautiful if you surround yourself with the right people

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I am so sorry to hear all that you've been through. I was in such a dark place of despair after my brother died...I do know that place of anxiety and depression...and I promise you, it can and does get better. Can I ask you, are you receiving any group or individual support for your heartache and subsequent depression, anxiety, and drug use? If you'd like help or referrals or resources, please email me at rockyourshine@gmail.com. I'm sending you love, light and blessings.

    • @cassandraburton6132
      @cassandraburton6132 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My heart goes out to you. Know love is near the broken in heart. You may feel very alone but there are many with you. Please look up. 🦋🇦🇺❤️

  • @jennebeattie3168
    @jennebeattie3168 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow ladies, am I glad I found you. Lost my 14 year old Branson a year ago and this information is invaluable. THANK YOU ❤

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      First, I am so sorry about the loss of your son. I hope you have found the support you need to help you through the unimaginable. And I am so grateful that you found this interview to be helpful to you.
      I want to share a beautiful organization that is specific to parents who have lost their children: www.compassionatefriends.org/
      If you've not heard of them, they are a wonderful organization. Also, this mother, Rebecca in the interview, also offers grief and loss coaching. Here is her link: instagram.com/mourningskygriefcoach/
      Sending you love and light,
      Susan
      website: rockyourshine.com

    • @jennebeattie3168
      @jennebeattie3168 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Rockyourshine thank you for the response and further resources. I appreciate you 🙏🏻

  • @androulagray2065
    @androulagray2065 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you, I'm four months in with a very similar situation. Trying to do all the self care, but finding it still feels so unreal. X

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so sorry that you've lost a child. I hope you are receiving support to help you with your profound grief. Sending you love and light, Susan

  • @shirleysarradet9486
    @shirleysarradet9486 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So sorry. Your heartache. Your son’s life.

  • @selahroseofsharon
    @selahroseofsharon ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My story is so similar to hers! I just lost my son on March 26, 2023 and we had his celebration of life service on the first Monday in April. And my son made it to age 31 and I know how this mama felt. I see now my son could not help it either and he felt like he let us down over and over and that would bring shame I think. But I wish he could have known we loved him unconditionally and I tried everything to save his life, we did the re habs, and jail, and such a similar story its unreal. And I was so close to him, and he was the youngest for a long time he was 14 before we had another child but her has older siblings and all of them grew up only about a year apart. And how about this, the day we put our son in the ground my oldest daughter his oldest sister OD from a half a xanex she got from someone so she could deal with watching her brother be put in the ground. She took 1/2 a xanex and she turned purple around her lips in the car and they just happened to be in front of an ER Praise the Lord or I would have lost two children within a week! It has not hit the month mark yet, I cannot still imagine my life without him. He had gotton his life I thought to a great point! He started going back to church he got re baptized and was joining the church band, Zack had a HUGE musical gift and he sang and played the guitar and wrote his own music and he wrote the sweetest song for me almost a year ago. Its on my you tube page

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry I didn't reply sooner to this message. I am so sorry for your loss and so relieved for you all that your daughter was saved. The pain is just so unbearable at times. I lost my younger brother in 2014, which is why I started this podcast. If you think your daughter would read it or if you think it could be helpful, I'd be happy to send you a my book on sibling grief and loss.
      I hope that you have found some support to help you through this tragedy.
      I want to share a beautiful organization that is specific to parents who have lost their children: www.compassionatefriends.org/ If you've not heard of them, they are a wonderful organization.
      Also, this mother, Rebecca in the interview, also offers grief and loss coaching. Here is her link: instagram.com/mourningskygriefcoach/
      Sending you love and light,
      Susan
      website: rockyourshine.com

    • @jclilstar1973
      @jclilstar1973 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Im sorry for the loss of your son. I know just how you feel. My son was 33 when he passed in Nov 2022. Every day I miss him but I am thankful for all the years that God has given me time with him. As I grieve I learn something new about myself as his mom, and that I did all I could to help him and love him before he took his own life. May the Lord wipe your tears and bring you comfort and love as you miss your son

  • @peggyjohns7893
    @peggyjohns7893 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    She is telling my story.

  • @myrnahernandez6244
    @myrnahernandez6244 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    😢you are very brave. Yes, we die with our sons. I lost my only child/son Erick 7/20/21 due to covid 😢 the heartbreak is unbearable 🙏🙏

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so sorry to hear about your son. I've never had children and only know the heartbreak of losing my brother and supporting my parents deep grief. I hope these stories can provide you with some measure of comfort knowing you are not alone. Sending you love, light and prayers.

  • @jclilstar1973
    @jclilstar1973 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I can relate to your story. My son Jesse shared with me before a year before he took his life in 2022 about anxiety. Then my son was subjected to 2 years living in a apartment with black mold. My son Jesse was very healthy, worked out and worked at the hospital as a sterilization technician. When my son passed i feel a part of me passed too. Im so so thankful that God is helping me to stay focused. It feels so unreal not having my son here. Im so glad I found this mom that shared about her loss. Its hard for me to find others that understand or can relate. At times i just cry by myself and cry out to God and thank him for all the years i had with Jesse. He got really sick before he ened his life and loss a lot of weight. My son will forever be in my heart

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh I am so sorry. I can feel your pain in this email. Have you reached out for any help since the death of your son? I want to share a beautiful organization that is specific to parents who have lost their children: www.compassionatefriends.org/
      If you've not heard of them, they are a wonderful organization. Also, this mother, Rebecca in the interview, also offers grief and loss coaching. Here is her link: instagram.com/mourningskygriefcoach/
      I also have another colleague who lost her son to suicide and she has a beautiful book out: Diary of a Broken Mind and great resources: annemossrogers.com/
      I am sending you love and light,
      Susan
      Website: Rockyourshine.com

    • @kellierae7602
      @kellierae7602 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I loss my son Jesse in October 28 2022 .my son was born in October and he died in October, My life has changed forever. I miss my son so much

    • @jclilstar1973
      @jclilstar1973 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kellierae7602 Your in my prayers as you grieve your sons 1 year this month of him passing. My son's name is Jesse and he passed in November 2022. It feels still unreal.

  • @jennifersetser9091
    @jennifersetser9091 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I just lost my son at 47..he had suffered from schizoaffective disorder since 15. Jeff was a beautiful young man,but started to tattoo his face,and entire body with scary tattoos..trying to keep anyone from trying to hurt him. He was married to a gal who also has problems..they were together for 14 yrs. Chris doesn’t bathe,is a hoarder..but he loved her. It just hurt to see him in the icu,dirty,scarred,I felt heartbroken and guilty,too ,for not trying harder to help them. We are raising his son, since he was four days old. Just praying that he will not have our sons problems..he is sl autistic,but happy, and is a normal teen. Our son had been into body building, had lost so much weight..we knew he was sick,but nothing showed up at first..was scheduled for tests that kept being delayed..and then it was too late. He collapsed and died at the bus stop,his wife was trying to make him get up,but finally called 911.. it’s too hard just trying to get through the days for his sons sake,and my husband,too.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi Jennifer. I am so sorry to hear about your son, Jeff. You mention you wish you do more to help them, but it sounds to me that you did what you could and raising his son. Is there any greater gift you could have offered your son? Are you getting any help for your deep grief? Please let me know if you'd like me to send you some resources. Holding you in love and light, Susan

    • @jennifersetser9091
      @jennifersetser9091 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Rockyourshine thank you for your kind words. It’s deeply appreciated. I think it will be a while before I’m ready to talk to anyone,but my grandsons counselor is available..we are in northern Michigan , near the top of the mitt, just being in the woods,away from everything helps. I know it’s nuts to everyone else,but I am looking forward to the peace and solitude that winter brings. Thank you,again,and blessings to you. Jenn

    • @jclilstar1973
      @jclilstar1973 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers goes out to you. My son that was 33 passed in nov 2022. He committed suicide due to him being in a partment that had blackmold. The love a mom has for her children is so amazing, even when they are not here with us they will forever be in our hearts. ❤

    • @jennifersetser9091
      @jennifersetser9091 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you,and I’ll pray that we all find peace,and the strength to carry on.

  • @brandyfuller515
    @brandyfuller515 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I've lost my son and daughter to fentenal im lost and still grieving

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh Brandy, I am so so sorry to hear this devastating news. You lost two kids to fentanyl? I hope you are getting support either through group work or counseling or church. What I've grown to understand is how often people suffer in silence and solitude...this is why I've dedicated my life to offering support and resources to people who are in deep grief. Please know if you're not receiving any support that there is help out there and you don't have to do this alone. Sending you love, light and deep blessings.

  • @judyhollenbeck6523
    @judyhollenbeck6523 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So sorry for your loss. Praying for all of you ❤.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for listening and taking the time to respond.

  • @kendrawilliamson1737
    @kendrawilliamson1737 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love my son 44 years old in September. I hope a strong. 😢

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so deeply sorry for your loss Kendra❤️🙏

  • @petersmith2486
    @petersmith2486 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So beautiful. Thank you

  • @cassandraburton6132
    @cassandraburton6132 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thankyou both so very much. Such gentleness has helped me a lot.🦋🇦🇺❤️

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Cassandra. Thank you for your comment. I'm so happy to hear that the episode brought you some comfort. Sending you much love and light.

  • @paulasgmoya6783
    @paulasgmoya6783 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ITS BEN 8YRS NOW SEPT 29 TWO DAY AFTER MY BIRTHDAY BUT MINES WASNT A LOST SOMEONE TOKE MY SONS LIFE N FRONT OF ME & YES I NO YOUR HURT YOUR PAIN .. IAM SO TRYIN CUZ MY PAIN IS BEARABLE TRUAMA & I DO NOT WISH THIS IN NO MAMA’S NOR ANY ONE .. MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU & YOUR FAMILY WIT SO MANY BLESSES & COMFORTING YOU & ALL YOURS THRU YOUR LOST

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Paula...I send my deepest condolences to you. Sending you love and light, Susan

  • @daniellesosa-jr7wo
    @daniellesosa-jr7wo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my son Justin, 24 years old 3 weeks ago. I am beyond broken.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Compassionatefriends.com is an incredibly supportive site for grieving parents. Sending you much love, light and healing.

  • @user-dt2gg2zg5p
    @user-dt2gg2zg5p 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I lost my son Vicente Arvizo September. 1,2023 to gun violence.. he had just turned 24 years old.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am so very sorry for this senseless act of violence. I live in Maine and we just lost 18 people in Lewiston from a mass shooting. My heart just breaks for the devastation this has caused to so many families. I send my love and light to you over your loss and hope you have loving support as you grieve this horrific loss in your life.

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so very sorry.💔

  • @bernieryan1343
    @bernieryan1343 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So sad. Drugs so terrible. Tragic

  • @danbaron9094
    @danbaron9094 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I Love You, Mitchell. Dad

  • @tessap5280
    @tessap5280 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just lost my son a few months ago he was at a sober living facility wish I would have been more present in that one last moment that I could have made a difference

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m so sorry.😢

    • @tessap5280
      @tessap5280 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mourningskygriefcoach it hurts so bad

  • @Allengo2
    @Allengo2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can completely understand

  • @marie2721
    @marie2721 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sounds like my story

  • @jolantashereshaw2477
    @jolantashereshaw2477 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That was my story too.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Jolan, what helped you with your loss?

  • @doreen1289
    @doreen1289 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Prozac is the worst

  • @shirleysarradet9486
    @shirleysarradet9486 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When did this drug epidemic start?? This is pure evil.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hi Shirley. Great question. I found a some detailed info to answer this question. Thank you for listening!
      Three Waves of Opioid Overdose Deaths
      From 1999-2020, more than 564,000 people died from an overdose involving any opioid, including prescription and illicit opioids1.
      This rise in opioid overdose deaths can be outlined in three distinct waves.
      The first wave began with increased prescribing of opioids in the 1990s, with overdose deaths involving prescription opioids (natural and semi-synthetic opioids and methadone) increasing since at least 1999.
      The second wave began in 2010, with rapid increases in overdose deaths involving heroin.
      The third wave began in 2013, with significant increases in overdose deaths involving synthetic opioids, particularly those involving illicitly manufactured fentanyl
      The market for illicitly manufactured fentanyl continues to change, and it can be found in combination with heroin, counterfeit pills, and cocaine.
      Many opioid-involved overdose deaths also include other drugs

    • @gradosa8272
      @gradosa8272 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the drug epidemic started in the 50’s. The first time, I witnessed a mother destroyed, wailing, crying desperately for her 14 year old son dead from the first time he tried heroin. I was 4 years old. Till this day, I can recall that scene of desperation from losing a son. Losing a child is something that I can’t describe. Lost my daughter 2 weeks ago. I’m broken, confused and lost my drive. I don’t know what or how I’m doing to do to heal. 😭🙏🏼😭

    • @gradosa8272
      @gradosa8272 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the drug epidemic is pure greed. The pushers, the producers. They care only about the i’ll gotten money. Those are going to get their pay and judgment in front of God. Those precious sons and daughters lost had a purpose. And those evil ones cut God’s plans for each one of them. God have mercy on every mother’s pain after losing our children. Give us the comfort that you trusted us with their care. 🙏🏼😭🙏🏼Rest in peace my beautiful Sofia. I will pray for you.

  • @doreen3763
    @doreen3763 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    4 am wow.. no medication.. pot is better
    Hard ass

  • @LisaAnderson-t6p
    @LisaAnderson-t6p หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why is this woman talking about this subject and laughing??? If I was telling the story about my son’s death and someone I was talking with laughed i would probably go off on her! My son did pass and couldn’t do that interview I’m sorry. She then talks about her brother passing that’s nothing compared to a child loss. I know also from experience I lost my only brother as well and that was just first and worst loss up until I lost my son. It’s been two and a half years since I lost my son and I can’t talk about him for a minute without crying this interview is weird

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is the first time I’ve experienced a griever judging other grievers. It makes me sad. We all grieve differently. Please try to be kind. I’m so sorry your son died.

  • @doriwalsh8692
    @doriwalsh8692 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    " its funny" as you started your statement about your brother ...this isnt funny

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m sorry, but you don’t know her, or the hell she went through after the loss of her brother. Please be compassionate, and don’t judge. Thank you.

    • @doriwalsh8692
      @doriwalsh8692 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@mourningskygriefcoach I apologize if this was not perceived as I intended, I'm at a delicate time, as well, hearing people say " its funny" I should respect their words and feelings.
      I am not judgemental, just compassionate to all who are on this tough road. Picky with words, I'm sorry to hurt or offend.
      I'm not to the point of thinking funny things yet regarding a child loss. 😥💞

    • @mourningskygriefcoach
      @mourningskygriefcoach 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for the reply. I assure you that she doesn’t think any of this is funny. She has dedicated her life to helping the grieving.

    • @Rockyourshine
      @Rockyourshine  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you @mourningskygriefcoach for helping to clarify my statement, "it's funny." And yes, you're right, it was meant more in an ironic way than actually being funny.
      I will be more sensitive to the language I use, because I do understand, @doriwalsh8692, that using the word "funny" in the space of losing a loved one can be a trigger. So to both of you, I thank you for your commentary. I deeply appreciate being able to have the space here where we can all come together in compassion, love, and a shared understanding.
      Thank you both for taking the time to leave comments.

    • @doriwalsh8692
      @doriwalsh8692 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your comment and insight, we are pained with our losses, and I admit I've been "critical" with words. I was short and blunt, I apologize. We feel and say what we feel, words dont come out, or understood as we want with everyone. I'm in my first year of child loss and it hurts. Words affect me, without taking into consideration the big picture. God Bless you, and all who have lost a child or loved one. The greatest pain one endures. 😢

  • @craziiegrl2657
    @craziiegrl2657 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    LOVE,💞 HUGS & PRAYERS..🙏🙏🙏🫶
    Stephen Blair
    5/8/90💔6/20/19
    #4EvR29