You Need To Be A Better Trans Ally (p.s. stop supporting JK Rowling) Pride in Costume 2022

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  • @anniehosking2408
    @anniehosking2408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    ❤Those comments you quoted about talking trans/politics/activism in some groups which include minors really pissed me off. I have a 12 year old grandchild who identifies as non-binary and has for over a year. I guess they wouldn't have a voice in such groups?

    • @lisadianeetheredge5215
      @lisadianeetheredge5215 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      My oldest godchild is trans, and while they are now 18, they shared their gender identity with me about five years ago, so similar to your grandchild, if it is “inappropriate” to discuss anything about the trans experience with children, then we can’t support the trans children who are asking us for help living as their true selves

  • @mxheathcliff
    @mxheathcliff 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    so much of this rang with me, and it's something I think about a lot in this community. Oh gosh, and especially the HP situation. When cis people tell me they were such a fan of the books and it's their comfort place so they could never stop reading or being a fan, as has happened *many times*, I just look at them and wonder whether they've considered that it's not just some noble sacrifice for trans rights for me, but comes from having a special interest completely ruined?? Anyway, brilliantly spoken on all points!

  • @josephineabaird
    @josephineabaird 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Thank you for the wonderful video. My cis wife showed it to me, and as a trans woman, you express so much of my experience and considerations so well. Thank you for sharing this and yourself.

    • @SexManNordin
      @SexManNordin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      youre not a woman and your wife isnt "cis" shes just a real woman

  • @TheEconWoman
    @TheEconWoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    My grandson is eight and has entered the HP world. In his age group it is everywhere. At school, in friends homes, movies and books. So when I told him that I wasn’t going to take him to any HP events or purchase any HP things he was confused. It was a great opportunity to discuss supporting or in this case not supporting people who we feel are bad people. I explained to him that the author was very mean spirited and was horrible to some people. I told him that by going/buying HP things, we would be seen as supporting her and agreeing with her views. At the end of the discussion I believe he understood where I stand and that I won’t be seen as supporting bad people. Oversimplified - yes, great first talk - yes! I know that this is the beginning of many talks but I hope he grows up to be an inclusive and sensitive person.

  • @TamaAnn
    @TamaAnn ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I will definitely share this video. I am cis but I know there are several trans people who follow me on Facebook and there are many others who are somewhere else in the LBGT community. I found your video to be really good. By the way, I shared one of your costuming videos just a bit ago and I had no idea you were trans when I watched it and shared. Anyone who asks what anyone else is needs to get a clue. The only really valid question on first meeting someone is what pronouns do you prefer. I am old but I try to keep learning. I have grandchildren and great grandchildren and I am happy that they are being taught to accept everyone without question. Anyway, you are just lovely and smart and I will be watching more of your videos.

  • @m0L3ify
    @m0L3ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    No one can 'reclaim' Harry Potter because it's not public domain property like a word. She still owns copyright and any money spent on the franchise goes into her pocket. It's also, like you said, so tainted now, it's really painful for a lot of people to see or hear about. I never thought the greatest villain of the series would be the author, but here we are, and we really need to stop supporting her.

    • @jebsmith323
      @jebsmith323 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Why is she a villian for expressing her beliefs? She has as much right to express herself as you do.

    • @EmmaRayne
      @EmmaRayne ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jebsmith323 EXACTLY! If this TH-camr can express their opinions, why can't JK Rowling?

    • @helenlayley
      @helenlayley ปีที่แล้ว +10

      As there is no other reply to the posts above.
      I believe that holding beliefs, or even expressing beliefs, is not the JKR problem.
      The problem with JKR is bullying.
      Repeatedly drawing attention to a group of people that she is not a member of and criticising them, denigrating them, insulting them and actively calling upon her followers to do the same.
      Many many authors of the past held political or religious or other beliefs that are unpalatable to most people today. Few of them actively persecuted the people they disagreed with.

    • @EmmaRayne
      @EmmaRayne ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@helenlayley Good point. And this is why I hate social media. But that's the world we live in today, isn't it? We are given a space to express our beliefs on a minute by minute basis as though that's what is expected of us today. Not saying people should be doing that but we've morphed into this voyeuristic crazy era and now we can't get away from it. I just wish that authors and other famous people should keep their mouths shut. Though I've read most of JKs posts and I don't see how they are bullying. But when people want to be seen as victims everything that disagrees with their pov is seen as bullying.

  • @SkyeID
    @SkyeID 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm nonbinary, and hesitant to join any costumer communities because they'll automatically assume I'm a girl. It would be so nice if people would just not assume, and treat me like a person.

  • @vaaarna
    @vaaarna ปีที่แล้ว +4

    yess!!! hello! im a baby enby and learning to sew , and very happy to see you

  • @LiljaHusmo
    @LiljaHusmo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I think one thing people are afraid of is being seen as not a ”perfect ally”, but that's part of the problem, noone is a ”perfect ally”, it's important to take criticism when trans people point out your mistakes and not get defensive or angry.
    I remember being in the HP fandom on Tumblr as a kid, and I remember all the little trans kids figuring themselves out, headcannoning their fave character as trans, and my heart just breaks for the complete betrayal they must have felt when jk started being publicly transphobic 💔

  • @0merf0
    @0merf0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    im not typically one to comment on videos but smth about your comment about the well of hate being finite really stuck out to me
    there are Definitely days where sometimes that well seems to have so much water that it really might as well be endless, but water will evaporate and, just like any other well, there has to be a bottom somewhere. maybe it keeps getting refilled by a small group of people, but one of these days the well might just. totally be abandoned and forgotten as future generations care for it less and less. one of these days itll dry up and become nothing more than a relic of the past
    its a bit hard to put my exact thoughts into words and i Hope that what im saying gets across ???? but i really like your well analogy and it does ring true to me even if sometimes its hard to stay positive hfdjksf ty for this video and hopefully the well dries up and becomes a relic soon

  • @judih.8754
    @judih.8754 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was a worthwhile rant to watch and listen too. Thank you Ash. I am not into HP or LARP (found you because of sewing). I believe human rights are for all to share and enjoy. Here in the US I follow these issues. I do believe it is a vocal minority that is driving the narrative. We must all speak up!

  • @lauralake7430
    @lauralake7430 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm not trans, but human rights are human rights. From what I can see, being trans is complicated, stressful, hard, and a lot of work, as well as freeing lovely, beautiful, and a source of joy. No one wakes up in the morning and says, you know, I think I will chose a way of life that is complex and stressful. No one. This is me, my non trans take. As a human, we need to support other humans being humans, doing what it takes to be happy, express joy, love, happiness, freedom. I screw up constantly, am terrible at basic social skills, and can barely make a sandwich, so I'm trying to say I support what you are saying. ( Also, commenting on you tube is the only social media I engage in, so this is me trying to be supportive. Delete me if I have been terrible)
    I'm not giving any money to JKR. I'm sad she chose to be a bigot.

  • @isomeme
    @isomeme 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is wonderful, thank you! I'm a trans woman in a small volunteer organization, and have enough political capital that I can afford to allow myself to be the default educator on trans inclusion issues. The other members are going to be vey puzzled when i soon start dropping a serIes of LARP costuming videos on them. 🙂
    I have a few of my talks on non-gender-related topics on TH-cam. On one of them, i got the comment "Why is the presenter wearing a dress?" My first instinct was to delete the comment, then take a scalding shower while screaming occasionally. However, some instinct told me to engage instead. So i replied that I'm a trans woman, with some things like my voice and face shape still in progress. To my enormous surprise and pleasure, the questioner and several others thanked me for explaining, and expressed seemingly genuine empathy for how difficult the process of transition must be. We ended up having a very supportive and productive conversation.
    Obviously, I've also had far more online interactions which were demeaning or threatening. But that one golden comment thread has given me hope. One conversation at a time, we can build a world where we are understood, accepted, and valued. Or perhaps I'm fooling myself, but if so, i choose to live within this illusion. The alternative is unacceptable.

  • @believeinfaeries8713
    @believeinfaeries8713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for this! You make a lot of very good points and have given me a lot to think about. As for the HP issue, I never understood why people can't see that what she's saying and supporting are actively harming people and no matter what you say, people will see that you still participate in the fandom and assume you agree with her. And I absolutely do not want to be even vaguely be associated with her and her vileness.

  • @daisanders82
    @daisanders82 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    All of this so very much. Plus I also feel that so many (cis) people don't think about the whole mental battle a Trans person can go thru just for stepping out the door:
    'Do I look what society considers binary enough to not get harassed on the street? i.e.- do I pass?'.
    'Do I actually care how I look and want to cause gender fuckery confusion?'
    'Do I have enough spoons to handle if someone says something phobic?'
    'Do I dress as assigned at birth gender to not get harassed?'
    "Will I get clocked?"
    The list goes on. Also these questions often apply to the SM side of things too. And yes these questions can 100% be tweaked to fit any minority really. The whole cis people saying they are 'reclaiming' HP for their nostalgia is super on the nose. It smacks of straight people saying we're reclaiming "insert homophobic slur* or white people reclaiming *insert a racist slur*. It's just not how that kind of thing works and I'd like to think that most people wouldn't do that kind of thing because they know it's wrong but they'll turn around and throw trans peeps under the bus by saying they are reclaiming HP *le sigh*.

  • @ievalibeka8171
    @ievalibeka8171 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank You.

  • @SIC647
    @SIC647 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    And one year later it is more relevant than ever.

  • @redwitch95
    @redwitch95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Fellow non-binary adult, I'm basically not out in the vast majority of situations, IRL or on the internet, and honestly it's mostly for the sake of my sanity. I definitely agree it's a vocal minority that makes up the internet transphobes, especially when you look at how things have changed over the last 50 years for the rest of the LGBTQ community - it's absolutely possible for attitudes to change positively towards us, and they already have in many ways in several countries. And I just want to second everything you said about HP. Not to mention JK Rowling herself has said she believes that everyone who continues to support HP also supports her own views. I can't fathom even *wanting* to still engage with HP at this stage.
    Also, since you mentioned it in your video - you definitely do a ton for our community! Both the trans community and the costuming community - it's meant so much to me to see other nonbinary people navigate the costuming community and the issues of dress when it comes to gender.

    • @DashValkyrie
      @DashValkyrie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      same, on all points.

  • @robintheparttimesewer6798
    @robintheparttimesewer6798 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Great video. A lot of what you said resonates with my life as a minority. There are some people that there just isn’t any point in talking to. My life and history isn’t a debate, it’s also amazing what they don’t know or what to know. But still think they can have an opinion. In Canada the news breaking about unmarked graves at residential schools wasn’t a surprise to us. We know who didn’t come home. We also know who came home broken. We know how that effected the community and how much was lost.
    Thank you for putting your struggle into a context that more people can understand. Fighting for rights and a voice is hard. There are so many with preconceived ideas that aren’t true and who have no idea what they are doing to those that do know.
    It’s an up hill battle but hopefully progress will be made. Or at least people will stop worrying about what others are doing. The amount of horrible comments always surprises me. What happened to the idea that if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything?
    I enjoy your channel and have saved a few quotes to think about. Your mini challenge from January is still on my mind as I haven’t cleaned my dam room! I keep getting distracted so it’s a work in progress or procrastinating. A bit of both at this point. I now have incentive… there was a pattern then a trip to the fabric store.

    • @stevezytveld6585
      @stevezytveld6585 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Beautifully said, Ms. Robin.
      - Cathy (&, accidently, Steve), Ottawa/Bytown/Pimisi

  • @stevezytveld6585
    @stevezytveld6585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you, Mx. Ash. A beautifully said important video. Thank you for being an important part in my continuing education - what you are saying is so important.
    JK is a disappointment on so, so, so many levels. When the kids of the community of the Potterverse came out as Trans, instead of support, they were greeted with suspicion and an unexpected level of hatred. Officially Designated Adults (ODAs) do not behave like this. And I am so sorry this happened. Both to you and the larger community of kids who thought they were safe at Hogwarts.
    - Cathy (&, accidently, Steve), Ottawa/Bytown/Pimisi

    • @EmmaRayne
      @EmmaRayne ปีที่แล้ว

      Hatred??? What on earth are you talking about? Her tweets were very much not full of hatred at all. She was expressing her beliefs. Where did she promote hate? Ugh. Did you even read her tweets?

    • @stevezytveld6585
      @stevezytveld6585 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@EmmaRayne Yes. I read J.K.'s tweets. And yes, they qualify as hate speech. Saying an entire group of humans shouldn't exist is hate speech. That meets the basic definition.
      She used her platform and power to support anti-LGBTQ+ groups. Hate crimes have risen. She gets to own part of the blame for that.

  • @azteclady
    @azteclady 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This one hits me squarely on the feels.
    People who are unaffected by specific forms of discrimination, deciding that "it's best" if those who are being discriminated against don't have access to this or that, is such an insidious form of dehumanization. People who need accommodations, for example (blind, low vision, deaf, hard of hearing) do not need abled assholes to make decisions for them--they need accommodations so THEY can decide whether or not to participate in whatever the hell. No matter the marginalization, allow adults to make their own decisions, period, end of, not open for debate, and "but I meant well" means exactly JACK.
    The road to hell is paved with good intentions for a reason: the harm they cause is REAL.
    As for the HP stuff: having people say, "I understand Joanne is a rabid TERF who's uplifting literal FASCISTIC WHITE SUPREMACISTS, but well, I like the movies and the costumes and I like the parks, and it's my channel so I'll keep making this content--but because I'm "such an ally" I'll also donate some money to trans charities" is just. Like, they have a platform. People will see their HP shit and they'll go by that, not by their invisible donations, no matter how ~generous~ those may be. The problem is the amplification and free promo of all things HP that these people are doing for a prominent TERF, and their offered justification (WITH THEIR WHOLE CHEST, UNASKED FOR, IN THEIR OWN CHANNEL), is, "I know it's bad, terrible, dangerous--but I like it, so."
    And they 100% consider themselves the bestest of allies.
    I wonder how their own trans friends feel about that bullshit.
    Further, people who themselves have a strong online presence (as in, they make significant money of it--in some cases it's their whole livelihood) can't really pretend not to know how this works. Symbolic gestures will never outweigh concrete steps, even small ones. Those with large platforms could easily lift up marginalized people with smaller platforms--invite them to their channels! link to their videos! LISTEN TO THEM and then ACT ACCORDINGLY.
    Sorry, I do feel strongly about all this.
    edited to add (because in my indignation I forgot to say it): I hope you are feeling better.

  • @helenlayley
    @helenlayley ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for a thought-provoking video. I have been focussing on the fan fiction side of HP and avoiding anything official. However l can see that people seeing me interact with anything HP themed will consider me a supporter of JKR, which l am not.
    In refusing to use the books in teaching l have referred to her as a bully.
    I don't need to tell my students who she has bullied or what her views are, just that she has gone out of her way to bully people she doesn't like.

  • @maroulio2067
    @maroulio2067 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for continuing.

  • @gail101242
    @gail101242 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am 80, a cis woman so have experienced enough discrimination to empathise with others who are currently fighting the fight. Re the haters - maybe there are just two kinds of people - those for whom the whole world is binary, black/white, woman/man, adult/child, us/them, in/out - and those who see that everything is nuanced shades of grey. This is a difficult way to see life because it means that actually we all experience things in different ways so responses have to always be checked with the other person who will have experienced it differently. It is also a pretty frightening world for the binary thinkers because there is so much evidence around them that rocks their foundations so fear equals aggression maybe. There is not an infinite number of the haters, but there sure are an awful lot of them.

  • @crypticmedicine
    @crypticmedicine ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As someone in their early twenties who's just contemplating returning to forms of social media beyond TH-cam comments, who has just walked away from several groups for similar reasons, and who is an aspiring sewist trying to navigate physical disabilities and trans identity... this hits.
    Text Wall of Hopefullness in reply comment below, included bc I find it comforting to periodically remind myself of my own philosophy of love over hate, and hope it can help someone else do the same:

    • @crypticmedicine
      @crypticmedicine ปีที่แล้ว

      I forget who said this, but unequal societies basically exist thanks to the generosity of the oppressed, who have to take care of one another limitlessly in order to survive while still providing surplus to give the oppressors. Folks don't comply because they love oppression; they comply to protect everything _else_ that they love, and to fight for better ways of living requires stamina and strength in surplus. Biding one's time is the way of the world, in that circumstance.
      The _function,_ then, of hateful rhetoric is to restrict the flow of attention and sympathy, along with anything that could draw energy out of the oppressive system -- to streamline the upward flow of human resources, as it were, and eliminate the "distractions" of love. Hate as we know it, then, is an amalgamation of pro-status-quo strategies, because the status quo today requires the ritual delegitimizing of the needs of the entire world -- human, flora and fauna, etc. -- for the benefit of a selected few.
      Put more directly: the existence of oppression is direct evidence of the supremacy of love over hate. There seems to be no end to hateful rhetoric because that's all it is -- rhetoric, tools. A hateful person is full of anxieties, sympathies, hopes and fears -- sympathetic things -- but they've been socially trained to express themselves in ways that only serves the oppressive system. In turn they are soothed and rewarded for defending the unfair practices and expectations that would be _so easily dismantled_ if all that were at stake were the human beings, not the power and privaledges they represent to those in authority.
      Hate describes a way of dealing with a person or situation in the most hostile way possible.
      Love, on the other hand, encompasses everything from the meeting of companions to the exchange of electrons to the subjective experience of the limitless.
      To frame this as a pairing of Love/Hate, then, is a false equivalency. It falsly assumes that the two are of equal weight.
      Hate is finite and has an objective. It serves a purpose, and so that purpose can be thwarted.
      Love is infinite, and as a word expresses our affection for that which is most beneficial, most positive, in our lives.
      We should cling to the infinite, and let what is finite pass after it has served its purpose. That is why a life destabilized because of oppression and pain benefits from attaching to love and letting go of hate, while a life that clings to hate and oppression will always feel unstable.

  • @Chaiyanlamo
    @Chaiyanlamo หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know this is two years old but if you are still watching any of these comments, thank you for helping me understand my son better.

  • @lisaoxley156
    @lisaoxley156 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a great speaker you are-thanks for sharing-I learned a lot

  • @MiffoKarin
    @MiffoKarin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    As a cis person I always feel weird speaking up about trans issues on social media because I feel like it's not my place to speak. I've managed to curate my followed list to include people that tend to write and share excellent threads about [insert bigoted bullcrap du jour here] for me to read, so I share those instead.

    • @ashfordwyrd7458
      @ashfordwyrd7458 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      sharing and amplifying the voices of trans people is always appropriate, however you shouldn't feel weird about speaking up on your own, so long as your statements are informed by the voices of actual trans persons.

    • @MiffoKarin
      @MiffoKarin ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@callmecharlottex I don't think *anyone* should buy any HP merch tbh.

  • @sadiebeth4658
    @sadiebeth4658 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello! I just found your channel. I see that your channel is generally for LARPing and fantastical costuming, but can you do a critique of Jo Rowling's essay? I did read it and I would love to hear your take on it.

  • @KristinaHoneyHavenFarm
    @KristinaHoneyHavenFarm หลายเดือนก่อน

    I found you because of sewing, but I watch your trans videos so that I can try to understand. I believe that human rights are human rights, regardless of anything else. I think there may be a lot I don't understand just because I taught middle school for a long time. I know that probably sounds odd, but at sixth grade especially you have a lot of androgyny going on. Yes, you have girly girls and boyish boys, but you also have a large population of students whose gender you would not be able to guess just by looking at them or sometimes even also knowing their name. The first thing you need to know about them is that they are a human being with feelings and they are very vulnerable at that age. All that to say there is still a lot I don't understand about trans, but I watch you so I can learn.

  • @cass6020
    @cass6020 ปีที่แล้ว

    On the topic of 'taking back' Harry Potter from JK, there's one way I'd entertain (as proposed by Verity Bitchie, a transfemine TH-camr I love). Taking away the copyright would let the fan works and people who've worked on it before who aren't malicious have an equal stake in how it's represented instead of continuing to find an already wealthy individual
    It still doesn't deserve to be insanely popular or get more stuff constantly hitting the news about it or her. It does seem worth fighting for though, if only because copyrights and patents hurt progress. It wasn't my comfort series or my favorite thing, but I liked reading Tumblr posts about the characters and actors and occasionally making some butter beer at home. I was in the Harry Potter club at my high school and still have the v neck from it (every aspect of it existing is cringe, and it says "American Division" because of a joke I made, but high school was hell for me and it's mostly a reminder that I did anything at all outside of attend class and be at home. I'm not interested in "taking it back" for me or for anyone I know, but taking the actual power (money) away seems like a good step.

  • @luckypup1919
    @luckypup1919 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Your neurodivergent friends notice” 1:37 it’s so hard to express clearly to some people that when you make fun of someone for something they have no control over, or point out a social/conversational/physical trait that you suddenly deem worth ragging on because they don’t agree with you, you set the precedent that you let those traits slide in the people you agree with. That is not allyship, and that also means that once someone makes a mistake, you deem them less than equal again.
    It is frustrating when they go for low hanging fruit already, but when it is the type of insult they would vehemently defend a friend over, then they need to reevaluate how they actually feel about that friend and whether they are just deeming people “one of the good ones” for various communities. It’s just like how bigots often have a “token” of something around them to use as a scapegoat. If you’re “one of the good ones” they do not like you for who you are, they like you for what you can do for them socially/politically. Stay aware of what your words reflect of you.

  • @Marugitto
    @Marugitto 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing! I hope many see this and continue to improve self growth and understanding. Infinitless love! ❤️

  • @pyenygren2299
    @pyenygren2299 ปีที่แล้ว

    And here is a comment for the algorithm. 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍⚧️

  • @TheIntuitiveArtificer
    @TheIntuitiveArtificer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for sharing! Also your tangent about ableism is sooo true...

  • @johnhaynes9442
    @johnhaynes9442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Omg I adore this so much. You're the best.

  • @pippaseaspirit4415
    @pippaseaspirit4415 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was a really great video.

  • @maggie8324
    @maggie8324 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, I keep watching becuase of ALL your Content. I tripped over your channel via Bernadette Banner. Your take on the Game of thrones (Rosamond Pike) costume was creatively and wonderfully left of kilter. I subscribed, Worth it. I think it is worth my time to enjoy people who do it, not just dream it (yeh, Rocky still rocks). I watch because of your content. Not a larper, as for the rest, we are people. I get around pronouns with, sweetie, my lovely and beautiful, as with all people (bloody, terrible at remembering names, so hopeless). fluidity, solidity, you, me, everybody is where we are, when we are. I keep watching because of ALL YOUR CONTENT. Good stuff my lovely.

  • @catherinejustcatherine1778
    @catherinejustcatherine1778 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    *sets out an offering for the Algorithm Gods*
    Im not trans (@ this time). I think it's not my place to elaborate on that. I thank you for the tips you have included for us cis folk.
    I didn't like the fundamental separatistic hierarchy in those books in the first place.

    • @stevezytveld6585
      @stevezytveld6585 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      _Oh Algorithmic Overlords, please accept this as my daily offering, and thus boost the whatever of whatchamacallit_ I'm not trans, but I was raised in the 70's & 80's, so if I had to do it all over again who the heck knows where I'd end up on this spectrum because there were only the binary options available.
      Miss JK (if I had respect for her as a person, it would be "Ms.") breaks my heart on so many levels (most of that breakage is reserved for the kiddos). Here is a person who started out as a teacher, who seemed to understand the development and shielding that children and adolescents need, who created a world for them to wander about in and find a sort of portable home. Who turns around and, to me, _arbitrarily_ decides an entire group of people are not only *not* allowed access into the world but are, somehow, lurkingly... dangerous. And then doubles down by writing a book in which the bad-y is trans. Like, seriously, what the hell...
      I'm a teachers kid. I've seen my parents go through the ride-or-die journey of getting support for students over the years for various issues. In the teaching world, nevermind the wizarding world, anything else is a dereliction of duty. If the kid says "owie", you listen. Full stop.
      Not only is JK not listening, she's making it worse for 'her' kids. Officially Designated Adults (ODAs) do Not make things worse for their kids. But what can you expect of a writer who has a main character who is in the LGBTQ+ closet for the entire series...
      - Cathy (&, accidently, Steve), Ottawa/Bytown/Pimisi

  • @juliabreckner2759
    @juliabreckner2759 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes yes yes. Great video. Loving the series, glad you're posting these kinds of videos.

  • @cheerful_something_something
    @cheerful_something_something 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for the work you have put into this.
    Lots of love, and thank you for being one of the trans voices I turn to when I want to share trans resources.

  • @elsa_g
    @elsa_g 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The sad thing about challenging the views of those drifting to the right people is that then they get mad at you for being upset by their “jokes” and trying to address it/take it seriously. You really can’t win, unless you don’t act upset at all about the hateful things they say, which is really hard. I’m glad it’s me having to dealing with my coworkers rather than a trans person, but it’s still extremely disheartening to see how *many* average people there are who see that hate as reasonable, and how difficult it is to sway them from that.
    Thanks for sharing about such a hard topic. I know it must be tiring to have to articulate this for your audience’s consumption. Personally, I’m glad to have your voice, and it has helped me challenge some notions I had of sewing and womanhood, and the appropriate language to use around the hobby.
    Best wishes!

  • @olivefernando7879
    @olivefernando7879 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i'm really baffled why people think that being trans is sexual/inappropriate, it's just not
    (i actually feel the same way about harry potter, makes me feel gross)

  • @katerrinah5442
    @katerrinah5442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    All of this, thank you for this video ❤️. I

  • @nizarahdragon3973
    @nizarahdragon3973 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have shared this on my FB

  • @maggie8324
    @maggie8324 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Opps apparently it was Wheel of Time. Ah well, I don't own a TV.

  • @Neddoest
    @Neddoest 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    16:40 this is such a cool garment!
    Liked and subscribed 👍

  • @BYBabbra
    @BYBabbra 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank You Ash.

  • @Karin000
    @Karin000 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are enough

  • @katieoaks790
    @katieoaks790 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    08:41 : THANK YOU 😂

  • @JoannaPiancastelli
    @JoannaPiancastelli 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    HP stuff makes me cringe so much at the moment. A lot of folks could probably do with a crash course on the attention economy and how letting something occupy your brainspace pretty much directly correlates to more money for that thing eventually.

  • @pagodrink
    @pagodrink 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video!

  • @camusleon460
    @camusleon460 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    wow. thanks a lot, this was a really good video

  • @karinbaird2499
    @karinbaird2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Another awesome video❤️❤️❤️

  • @haakdraakje
    @haakdraakje 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💕 please stay true to yourself!

  • @thegoatofdoom
    @thegoatofdoom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I mostly agree with your statements on jk rowling, however I do believe that *some* cis people can reclaim Harry Potter (even tho it personally makes me uncomfortable when anyone, trans or cis, reclaims it but oh well). Like if a cis Jewish person wanted to reclaim Harry Potter (the goblins are an antisemitic stereotype) or a cis Black person (the house elves are literally enslaved creatures who enjoy being enslaved) I wouldn’t have as much of an issue with it as I would with some cis white non-Jewish person reclaiming it. However, like I said before, anyone reclaiming Harry Potter just makes me uncomfortable.

  • @annakissed3226
    @annakissed3226 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We used to call the referre - ref. Nope everybody was wearing jeans, T-shirts & sneakers but with cloth tabbard type things on top. Or wooly silver chain main. But people were making real chain mail as well, albeit it took ages to make. One guy did it with spring steel washers. But generally you wound wire round a pencil and then cut the spiral with snips, then used plyers to build out a mesh and then you had the hassle of working around shoulders etc. They must have bought those hats, because we didn't have them. And did you say boffers or dobbers? To dob was to hit someone when you pulled the hit if you screwed up and smegged someone Full force that was bad. But yes most swords were made of curtain rail, carrymat, glue & gaffa tape! Yeah I ended up getting taken to hospital in Chester when I had my shoulder dislocated by someone swiping sideways in a fight on a basic. The standard rule was you had to keep your sheild vertical or you were out disqualified - out of the game - goodbye. We tried to introduce a sheild made out of two pieces of triple thick cardboard at 50° to each other with rope for handles. But people complained they were too light & "not realistic" and they broke down to easily but they were very, very much safer.

    • @annakissed3226
      @annakissed3226 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah there was a colour code from red, orange, green, blue & black. It was also location based. The ref would track where each player had got hit on the battle board during a time out, usually after us monsters had died and then got reset further up the dungeon by the monster ref. Monsters just ran on hits counts. The first guy you see with the beard fighting the guy from Blue Peter is I think Swiftaxe. Don't know about the samurai either that was very much staged for the camera. We didn't have samurai at treasure Trap. But in the main food/booze kit up hall we did have a stand up Defender cabinet. And yes their were rules about no head hitting but stabbing was OK. But again large scale weapons fights were at the end of adventures not practiced on the green as shown on blue Peter. Time freeze is different from Time out which is a ref defined Game stop to do a battle count. Getting the brief from an NPC was the standard start to any adventure. Typically we would break the fourth wall when somebody would turn up and look for the party & everybody would refer to them as Brief! When they were inside at first they are going up the main staircase. Talking about chemicals guess how Balcony Chris got his name... he dropped about 2O foot and kept on running. It looks like they are doing a basic. You started on the 1st floor, then went downstairs to the ground floor then cleared out a bunch of rooms on the basic corridor. The corridor was thick with typically thick with smoke we would later we would use a drum machine but initially we banged our weapons on the concrete floor and have the monsters alternating between higher & lower pitch to pretend like their were loads of us. Yes we were doing it for Blue Peter. There were other groups who came for fun like the special forces teams who just used hand signs, so we (the monsters) couldn't listen in. This is not a basic, its a special, the use of Egyptian monsters but I think they have confused the mummy. Mummy's had to be perm killed by Magic otherwise they would regenerate at X count per hit. So 1 & 2 = 1 hit back, 3 & 4 = 2 hits back. Yes we had resist & no effect, thus requiring cleric or magic. They weren't called that because of possibly getting sued. Bricks spray painted gold, was a standard trick. Also lead spray painted gold. The rocks were expanded polystyrene painted black. 2000 nope never. 200 was most. The first big spin out was Chislehurst cave. There were.a couple of 24 hours adventures running out of navy dockyards. I was involved in the managment of an aborted happening in a place, because we thought we were negotiating with the owners but we were lied to. I sunk about 6 months into the TerraQuest project. That was in a second world war underground city along the M4 corridor.
      BTW both Rob Donaldson & Rob (thingy) were I think from Manchester. But a bunch of people were from the wirral, Liverpool, Berko. I used to hitchhike up from Oxford on Fridays.

  • @gigglepantsiii9350
    @gigglepantsiii9350 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    related to oppressed people aren't required to be nice; it gets really annoying answering the same intro questions to every person who talks to you (and repeating things endlessly for people who were only listening for specific words instead of the whole answer) so yeah even if it seems like a harmless question, it might be worth it to run a quick internet search for at least an idea of what the answer is before demanding answers from others

  • @lugo5678
    @lugo5678 ปีที่แล้ว

    I found myself in the position of discouraging a friend from writing and publishing Potter fan fiction because of the possibility for their work to encourage other people to look up the original material. The part of this conversation that seemed weird to me was they are NB AFAB and was the one to point out to me how fake JK was about her making Dumbledore gay as a retcon.

  • @michaelcook2290
    @michaelcook2290 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Interesting video.

  • @annakissed3226
    @annakissed3226 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    That was rather over the top intro to Big Rob, but that was for the cameras. Steve owned the Superbrain.

    • @annakissed3226
      @annakissed3226 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hadn't at that point got to the point in in the video that you worked out it was a SuperBrain. Bob was one of two founders of Treasure Trap. He was the main games runner whilist Rob ran the finances. Generally people would book adventures in advance but everyone started with their Basic. I assume you know how the combat system worked?? How the system fir adventurers was different than for the monsters. Its interesting how language like time in survives. Does things like cleric & magic user scripts survive. And magic words like a 10 second Halt "Halt I command you to be still" Do you still have crazy classes like hospitalisers (I used to heal the most badly hurt which was usually the monsters)

  • @catherinejustcatherine1778
    @catherinejustcatherine1778 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    *second viewing
    Second offering*

  • @catherinejustcatherine1778
    @catherinejustcatherine1778 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Um, Ash,
    I just found out that there's something called a gender survey, without any geographical boundaries. Is it at all appropriate for me to share the link with you somehow?
    I *fervently* want/hope to be helpful. But, if through ignorance, I have failed. I am sorry! Please delete this post if it's not ok to mention.

    • @AshLG
      @AshLG  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know about the gender survey, no worries!

    • @catherinejustcatherine1778
      @catherinejustcatherine1778 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AshLG I'm glad! I couldn't imagine how it would have missed your attention, I just wanted to be sure.

  • @annakissed3226
    @annakissed3226 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do people really not know anything about this. Would there be interest in this on TH-cam because I plan to stuff in a variety of ways on TH-cam. Besides I did Radical, Socialist & Feminist history at Ruskin College Oxford. Plus secondary courses in Public History. I also did a masters in history of science. So I know about both the academic & popular journalism sides.