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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 พ.ค. 2022
- I made this 45 minute animated presentation about internalised PDA for the 2022 PDA Space Summit.
I use the metaphor of being a safari-style tour guide inviting viewers to explore the PDA continent. We can see some geographical features (traits) from space - namely The Great Quicksand of Demand Avoidance, The Icy Cliffs of Anxiety, The Precarious Boulders of Control-Need, The Volcanic Ridge of Fiery Emotions, The Misty Margins of Fantasy and Role-Play, The Village of Social-Focus and The Temple of People Obsession - but other parts of the PDA continent are hidden beneath deep forest. These are the internalised parts. Coming down to ground level and entering into the forest, we discover the trait of masking in a Mass of Camouflage Trees; then see the Glooping Quagmire of Internalised Meltdowns. After this is The Secret Glade of Spare Play. And then the Predatory Icicles of Selective Mutism. The final place we visit is the Frantic Fringes of Frenzy where we find a variety of little known adrenaline responses.
I’d like to thank singer and lyricist Dick Lucas for kindly giving me permission to use Messed Up, from his 1986 Culture Shock anarcho-punk LP Onwards and Upwards, for the soundtrack.
PS there are a few small glitches, which bug me, but I maxed my animating software out and can't correct them :/
The fact that I LOOOOOOVED Jim Carrey in "The Mask" as a kid is very interesting now that I just learned about PDA and find myself in it SO strongly. The mask jumping onto his face on it's own.... I used to literally act that scene out, trying to 'pull off the mask' as a kid lol.
I just want to thank you sooo much! As soneone who is currently, due to a major mental crisis, going through adult diagnosis with autism and very likely PDA as well (based on how well this hidden continent explains my behaviors and feelings), your video means so much to me! The animations and the fantasy inspired names and explanations makes me anle to understand and process the message - not like the psychiatric language, where I often understand neither the words or questions I am being asked, but a lifelong (only 25 years) experience of internalizing and masking screams at me, that I'm supposed to "act normal" by faking that I understand what I'm being asked. For me, this understanding of my behavior now allows me to cast away the act in situations where it is actually harmfull to myself - fx when visiting my doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or when explaining to close loved ones.
So an immensive thank you for shoving me that I'm not allone in the forrested jungle of the internalized PDAers and that someone else out there is willing to be my tour guide for the day ❤
Best regards Anne Louise, Denmark.
You are not alone! 🧡
yess! i love how you explained the experience, i can totally relate!
Thank you so much! The effort of overcoming your PDA long enough to produce this was extremely worth while, thank you again, it is such clearly presented and valuable information. Much empathy, warmth and gratitude from a fellow PDAer.
Thank you for this, I was already pretty sure when I stumbled across the PDA profile description, but this video pretty much confirms for me that I have the internalized version. I've been searching for 15+ years.
Wow, this was so good. "Don't be proud" the guy on tv said...yep, pride is my problem, sure! Everything immediately after that was the most on point for me. I sometimes pick up the "go away" signals after the fact. When you mentioned "welcome" signals, I literally thought "you mean there are welcome signals?"
I think the lying happens because people try to pressure us as to why we won't do something, not understanding that it's not won't it's can't.
Love…sending love. Im recently dx’d autistic & I believe my partner has PDA & is seeking diagnosis. I just learned about PDA just last wk & found your channel today….YAY!!!!
spectacular content! "internalized meltdowns" is a term i hadnt heard before and it explains a lot. i really appreciate you sharing your perspective, thank you!
This is the most brilliant video thank you - this is my daughter and you have helped understand- thank you ever so much
Thank you for this! It's been IMMENSELY helpful for me!
I can't begin to express in words how brilliant this video is. Enlightening and inspirational. I've learnt a few things about myself too.
This channel is incredible! Thank you for all your hard work x
thankyou so much I rlly appreciate this video its the only explanation of my feelings that has ever made sense to me, nobody else's models of understanding ever felt right. I told them it's not attention levels it's stress levels. exactly! thankyou. Your video is so good and it makes me want to write about it too and (very unusual for me) talk about it to everybody
Always find your content absolutely fascinating. Really helps with my pda daughter 👍
Thanks! This really was a very informative video, and a lot easier to watch than read through
Thank you. Helping me deeply understand myself and two of my three pda kids.
One of my three pda is externalised and easier for me to understand but this is absolutely me and two of my other kids.
Thank you
Love the music by the way
So amazing thank you for making this!! This describes me so well!
„Who is behind the mask“ ❤ so glad, I stumbled upon your videos!
I'm very much an internalised PDA person and I've only come to realise it this year, nine years after my autism diagnosis
Absolutely brilliant, so enlightening, thank you.
Thank you for shining a light on this. I'm wondering if you have a similar video without all the music and effects. They make it hard for me to concentrate. Thanks.
As someone diagnosed as autistic in early childhood I'm starting to wonder if I might be PDA as I would make enough eye contact in early childhood that specialist initially thought I couldn't be autistic, but I have read that using socially acceptable eye contact is more common in PDA, and part of why I was diagnosed is that I was observed watching and mimicking the behavior of other children. I also would think of myself as an equal to adults, and that initially punishment would visibly not work on me, and then it would cause me to hide my anxiety about being told what to do. I also found that some of the typical acomadations for autism were somewhat stressful.
Informative & entertaining
🙂
Nice music
Miss Sally, I so appreciate your presentation and the work that it took to create this informative and engaging video. I am just beginning my quest to understand PDA and your video was recommended. I have watched your others as well. I began with, "Introduction to PDA". Thank you, thank you, thank you
Thank you much, but my senses can't take the music.
❤️
I've spent years trying to understand someone's behaviour. Your video maps heaps of it.
Do you make the script available somewhere to read?
Speaking as a mental health professional working with autism/PDA, first, I thank you for this content. second, for my own note-taking purposes, do you have any official license or background so I can cite this for work? (to reiterate, still love the material even if not)
It's great to cite this work So clear and empathic ❤
How are PDA individuals around animals.
I personally am absolutely terrified of all animals except for cats.
My mum was told that I can't have the PDA profile as I have Selective Mutism.
My Selective Mutism occurs when I can't control the conversation and what the other person replies with. I have severe separation anxiety and an obsession with my mum. I'm always anxious about something. I've never really had any friends because I would unintentionally make them awkward with my less than conventional sense of humour. The CAMHS psychologist actually told my mum that she wasn't strict enough with me. Discipline didn't work as I would copy the entire strategy and use it in another situation such as at school to gain control of my classmates. If this didn't work then I would disrupt the lesson to get sent to the Headteachers office and my mum would come and get me (this would happen most days especially when there was a lesson i didn't like)
I am brand new to PDA awareness at 55yo despite catching onto my Asperger’s at 40yo. But heck, I only discovered the ADHD component this year as well. But the tracers of PDA predate signs of either ASD or ADHD, as I see them now. I was NOT a good pet minder in my childhood, but I loved animals none-the-less. But how many kids are? Some girls might be from toddler age on, but those are special kids in other regards. As an adult, I’m not that great. But my appreciation of animals has grown right along with my age.
We have a couple of old-timer dogs. I’ve learned from them and some fosters I got to meet and even dog-sit.
But the big thing has also been this year, indoor rabbits. PDA tugs and delays tasks, but I am so invested in these furballs and the love we share, they don’t go wanting. Their litter boxes, which hardly stink, can be a chore to get through strictly because it’s a chore that’s easy to put off another day.
So I’m struggling, but happy I am giving them this for what they give me.
As to fears of animals, I would quickly say, without qualification, that I hear control issues. The cat is so self-regulating, the situation is tolerable. But if you are any kind of blind at all to animal emotions, you will have no idea what they will do next or where they might hide and what might cause that animal to flip out? Why don’t zip just freeze and avoid all triggers. I have hand-fed raccoons and feared for my fingers every time! I have even been over-careful with my rabbits, but now we are all pretty comfortable around my fingers.
I’ve learned a lot from animals, but I went through anxieties of vulnerability the whole way. I’ve only pushed on due to love, otherwise I would be shed of the whole lot way back. I do think it was in isolated, no one to play with, times that I fancied animals filling that role. They actually suck on fulfilling my fantasies, but can be quite valuable with pragmatic and emotional goals.
A wild cottontail baby came into my care because long story. But it was the assumption that since I have house rabbits, I could deal with a wild orphan. I was quick to find out, no I couldn’t. Luckily I reached a rehabber quickly and she took over and wild-released it weeks later. But my anxiety shot through the roof once I realized I was not qualified and he was not going to be my experiment. I was a wreck because I worried about breaking his fragile little systems. I could barely handle because I couldn’t stand to squeeze him. Fear is about the unknown. Don’t force yourself, but do seek out small steps to test yourself from time to time.
This music seems a bit over the top. Loud and raucous. Pushing me toward a meltdown myself.
I loved the music 😂
@@itzelalba8538 it's a good thing everyone is exactly like you.
Great topic but can't cope with the sudden loud weird music sorry. Must be my autism 🤔😞😒
nitpick: that music is jarring and irritating (to me at least)
I agree... but I held on and pushed through because the information was wonderful.
Music is awesome
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