answering your questions... coming out, sexuality, and relationships oh my!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ย. 2024
- A little long overdue Q n A! I answer your questions about my gender, gender expression, mental health, and sexuality. #eyeslipsface #elfingamazing #elfcosmetics #pride @elfcosmetics
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It's been a whirlwind! I'm currently still looking for a new apartment, the noise outside my apartment is becoming unbearable so I can't really film at all in the daytime (which sucks because I need sunlight lol) Thank you for being patient and loving with me. Hopefully I can answer some of your questions in this video! If not, leave a question and maybe i'll do a second part to this video!
I just left a comment about that asking if you've been able to sleep well. I hope everything works out with finding a new apartment 🌱
Hello
How r u did u sleep well. Thanks for the video
Please help me i used a lotta hair spray and now my hair is dry and tangly. I can't wash it as i have hair and it will dry more . Is there a way to remove it without washing 🤔
We are always patiently waiting for you take your time sweetheart
I honestly think I'm now able to wear make up confidently partly becuase I saw how proudly you wore make up as another asian creator on the platform! keep doing you boo ✌🏼
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man this feels like therapy... the part about self-worth and relationships resonated a lot with me as a feminine boy aha
sometimes i really do feel like i have to be with whoever likes me in case no one else will ever show up, but the tea is that it's not how relationships work 😭 and you really do need to love yourself and know yourself first and foremost
anyways thanks for this !!!
Love you! Glad it resonated
here ivan, heres your award for the most relaxing voice: 🏆
Aww thank u
I need some relaxing rn
who’s gonna tell him that they are one of the most beautiful people to ever live…. like his makeup…. their wisdom, like they are giving and i am here for it
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I feel like I could write a whole paragraph speaking about how you videos are great, helpful and so freaking peaceful, but all I really wanna say is thank you so much :)
🙏🏻 I feel the love!
you are so genuine and kind, intellectual 😩 the way you explained gender expression *cheff kiss* literally you are inspiring me so much that i feel like im coping you sometimes 👀
You are so sweet!!! Thank u
What I've learned with him the most is to not care about what other people say. Ya'll just have to accept yourself, without thinking about what other people say. I, myself who's on the same shoes as him and as a fellow lgbtq+ who's still on the closet, yeah it might be hard to uncover your real self to the everybody but as long as you accept your real self, then everything will follow. We don't live to impress and be accepted by the society, we're here to see what's on the end of this journey and what it feels to step on evey path in this world. We are here to enjoy, periodt.
I'm so glad you're being so candid on your platform and answering all of these questions! It helps more than you know to feel seen in a content creator we (the viewers) look up to. Love ya Ivan!
Thank you! Love you too
You have such a gentle soul. I feel like having a conversation with you would be so uplifting/revealing/therapeutic!!
No person has ever made me cry on our first encounter, until you excited Ivan.
As a muslim lesbian i did not come out of the closet you helped me a lot I hope to live my gay life in peace and safety, love so much 🏳️🌈😢
Love you!
@@IvanLamLJlove u too
I feel like I’m on the same wavelength with you. So your videos are a good centering part of my day.
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Yess thankyou for explaining that how you look doesn't affect your gender. I don't dress more femenime most of the time cuz um hi 🧚♂️dysphoria 🧚♂️ lol but still when I'm comfotable enough I like wearing eye makeup
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You are so kind. This video and the words you said really made me think and come to terms with being happier in life and with acceptance and loving yourself and loving others for who you and who they are. I’m a huge person on accepting other for who they are and with how society makes you feel a certain way when it comes to sexuality or just being yourself. I really loved everything you said and Thank you so much. Have a great day and rest well☺️
Thank you so much for your words!!!
Thank you so much for sharing all of this with us. It feels really reassuring to me to hear about your opinions and experiences regarding gender identity and sexuality.🙏🏻❤ I've always struggled to find a label for me, I've felt like I'm not fully straight but also didn't really find a label that I felt comfortable with. The only thing I'm a lot more sure about myself is that I identify as demisexual and I kind of also feel like this has made it harder for me to see who I'm attracted to since I'm usually not attracted to anyone akdkskd.
🥲❤️🙏🏻 sending you all the love!
@@IvanLamLJ Thank you so much! Sending you all the love back!!🥺🙏🏻❤
every part of this video is sooooooo validating!!! i especially loved when you talked about others perceptions and how they don’t affect how you view yourself, quite simply you know who you are inside. it’s such a simple yet powerful concept and i feel like we’re conditioned to feel that other’s opinions about us are the truth when in reality all that matters is how we see and feel about ourselves. thank you for always bringing so much light and love into my day, you truly are a ball of sunshine 💛
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Thank you for sharing with us these important and deeply comments and your experiences that make me learn more about some great topics. I am sure that a lot of people will be thankful as I am, I love how you are and the growth that you are showing us during this period of your life, working in order to be the person you want to be, keep smiling and doing what you want Ivan, xx.
Thank you so much for your input!!!
I literally cried whilst watching this cuz I live in an extremely homophobic family and community so Thank you so much Ivan, your videos are really helping me find myself so hopefully in the future I can be happier and comfortable as myself! >3
Hi Ivan! I listened to this as I was on a run today and it made me realize how much I appreciate you and your content. Thank you so much for explaining things as this makes me and many more people feel seen.
Thank u so much! It means a lot!
3rd, Love spending my Quarantine with you Ivan 💖!!
Why quarantine?which country?
Love you!
I just think you don't understand how discovering your videos had such a big impact in my life and on my mental health as well ❤️ thank you so much
Love you so much!!
Ivan, I wouldn't agree more on what you've said, we, human beings are a combination of male and female traits, sometimes 50% -50%, or 70% - 30%; whatever you are just embrace it and enjoy it. Thank your for being the way you are! L. o. love!!!
This was a really good video Ivan and knowing your life been a lil shaky or not so smooth going from your Instagram, you seemed quite calm on the video. Sending sm love and peace to you❤️❤️❤️❤️. Take care and keep growing, WE LOVE YOU ✨
Thank you so much 🥺❤️
Ok but he looks so cute and adorable and good with that makeup 🥺🥺🥺🥺
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Your videos are like a warm hug 🥰🥰
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Ivan thank you so much, your voice calms me down. Your videos, your account is like a comfort place for me. Thank you.
And I can relate so much with the relationship part. I get attached to people whenever they show a bit of acceptance and love. I haven't had a good childhood, I was the unwanted child so ig that has affected me and now I have grown to have both attachment issues and fear of abandonment.
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I'm glad you talked about makeup and expression. That was something I struggled with. I identify as t-male, which for the longest time I stayed away from makeup because I felt it would only reinforce the wrong gender identity. Eventually, I just started doing it and realized that I felt so much happier being able to play with color and my appearance. You speak very well and you manage to explain things in a clear way. I think you hit the nail on the head with taking time. We all discover things at different times and there is no pressure to figure it out quickly. One of these days, I hope to build the skill set with makeup you have because your skills are so good. I totally understand the need to be a certain way because of my identity and it took a long time to realize that identity and expression can be two very different things. It was really nice to hear your thoughts on these topics. I understand that it might have been difficult to talk about at times and I appreciate that you did.
Love you so much, thank you for sharing
Happy pride month my beautiful prince love you so much never change and also I’m here supporting you always and also I proudly support the 🏳️🌈 lgbtq community and also I have had friends come out this week but they thought I was going to not support them but I literally cried when they told me their sexuality love you and today I tragically lost my friend on this day 2019 was the worst for me he shot himself due to not being accepted by everyone around him
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I can't explain how much I adore you!!! Your videos teach me so many new things and growing up these things are important. You make me happy and it's amazing how you share your experiences and express yourself. I love you so much. Have a great day. Stay safe
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you have such a peaceful presence, thank you for sharing ♡
You give me so much peace. It’s like my safe place
same! ivan radiates so much comfort :)
I love ELF as well because you recommended their acne roller gel a number of years ago.
I tried it and it’s amazing!,thank you!
Thank u!
The thing I am more passionate about is the fight against homophobia, racism and the patriarchy. I am constantly speaking up about that and sharing news about it but I feel kind of alone. My parents are already tired of hearing me talk about it (they don't think like me and sometimes it really hurts), some of my friends also agree but are not these passionate. I feel like an outsider in my own "comunity".
I am a cis straight white woman (i guess) and I can still relate to alot of the stuff you talk about. You make me feel okay and respected about doubting my sexuality, you make me wanna fight harder for equality and you inspire me every single time!
This life is too dam short to waste it trying to please society. We should all do our best respecting, accepting and loving ourselves and others.
I hope you know I love you Ivan, you have a beautiful soul and It would be great if I could invite you for some coffe and talk about life. I wish I could be there to tell you everything will be fine and i kinda need someone to do that to me...
I am gratefull that, one day, I came across your chanel because you have impacted me for life!
Please stay healthy and glowing as always !
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Thank you so much for sharing ❤️❤️❤️ everything is connected !
Sending you lot’s of good vibes and love!! Just watched your last two videos back to back and didn’t even notice it 😂 It’s very soothing for me to listen to you!! ❤️❤️ Cute look btw! 😍😘
Thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for showing your emotions to us I'm a new sub and I genuinely love your videos. Never stop being you. I'm so proud of you
i soo glad you made this video because it struck a chord within me, thank you soo much Ivan
Haven't watched it yet ofc but I'm sure it'll be good.have a wonderful day everyone If you see this :D
Thank u so much love!
you are to kind and lovely 💕
your video’s always relax me
keep it up and be happy always 🙂
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You’re literally my comfort character
ivan 🥺💕 thank you for your healing energy x
No thank you!!
Even I have an online class It always stick to my mind this vlog for his channel. So I just click it hehe and ghorl it's more than 20 minutes video but for me it's still worth it so I just watched it. We love you Ivan from Philippines 🥰
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I feel like I can be myself like my REAL self when I'm living sepatately/ independently esp when ur living in a homophobic household and society (not to mention I have tons of friends but can't still express myself because of judgments)
Anyways, thank you for this video. It really helps me realize my worth as a person, coping up with inner debates about labelling myself and stuff.
Thank you!!
So inspiring and helpful thank you Ivan 🥺
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Ive missed watching your videos you’re such an amazing content creator
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Ur literally my soothing pill 🥺🥺🥰🥰
Thank you for taking the time to talk about this topic. Helped me a lot to accept myself 😇
You beautiful, majestic, adorable soul! I feel like watching videos like this is good for so many people. Of course those that are in the same or similar head space and people whom are on opposing sides. I wish everyone could could see that we are all only human and struggle and excel at different things. And sometimes it takes quite a fight to get their along the way. ❤
Thank u!
Thank you for sharing- May the rest of your Pride month, however you celebrate it, be fantabulous, delightful and beautiful 😍!!! I love the look- puts a smile to my face!!! Cheers 🥂 to you always, spectacular, uber cool Ivan!!!!! :D
Thank u!!!!
Ivan im new to your flim but I loved watching your show. It beautiful 😍❤️ and I don't judge people's by their sexuality I love them as my bros and sis always
... I SURPORT them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Smiles..im praying 🙏🙏🙏 for you in good health . 🥰
I love you Ivan, your videos always are motivating and definitely helps me when I need a pick me up!
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Love from Australia 🇦🇺 because of you I use all Korean Skin Care and application not as amazing skin as you but getting there Love ❤️ your videos 😻
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u are such an inspiration i aspire to be like u
Thank you for your vulnerability. I watched this with my boyfriend and it really helped us have a deeper conversation and be more open with each other. Again thank you!
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Thank u for sharing!
Hi!! Thanks for the video!
Ivan love u 💜💜💜✨✨
U r literally the best 💜💜
Your so handsome lol 😁
What a beautiful face. You are definitely not ugly.
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14:00 Yaahhhhhhhh
18:44 Yes , but it’s kind of so sad and terrifies me a lot :(
20:12 yes u are
Your words are so meaningful to me, Ivan.
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thank you ❤️
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Oh that make up is spot on 🥰🥰♥️♥️ 👏👏👏
Thank u!!!
So so much love🥰🥰🥰💜
I like ivan lam voice so cute and handsome and adorable like a baby ❤🎉
bEStie!!!! you're so lovely!!!💗💗 and your reasoning for identifying as nonbinary is something i really relate to !! once again thanks for making me feel less alone:))
Thank you! Love you and you’re not alone
So helpfull! 🥺❤️ loveeeee🤗
Thank you!
Omgg I wish I could hug you. You look like you were about to cry. 🥺
Love you and thank you so much
Please help me i used a lotta hair spray and now my hair is dry and tangly. I can't wash it as i have hair and it will dry more . Is there a way to remove it without washing 🤔
Hmmm use conditioner as shampoo!
@@IvanLamLJ ohhhh so i have to wash it :( . Ok please take care of yourself .. lots of love 💘
So excited!!! Great for closing pride month (◕ᴗ◕✿)
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i need these cat ears , RN !!!!
Thank u vry much 🥰
Hi from Myanmar 🇲🇲🇲🇲❤️❤️ I have oily shin & brown skin. Which is suncream I use?
I literally cried when I saw your face, for me it looks androgynous- I wanna look like you so bad😭
HI, GOOD MORNING❣
here is me coming out to you when i say i had the biggest crush on you still have the biggest crush on you ♡
Happy pride month! Hope ur doing well & find a new place soon :)
honestly love how open you are and also how calm your videos are
love youuuu💕✨
So cuteeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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I'm going to thrift and read brene Brown's books now haha
They’re so good!
Your voice is so deep I love your voice
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Loved the video!❤️
Thank u!
I love you so much 🥺💝💝
Love u too 🥲🎀
IVAN 😍😍😍
Hiii
@@IvanLamLJ hieee
This is off topic but your tattoos are so pretty!! Have you ever had second thoughts about getting one? I would love to get one in the future but am scared I would regret it haha 💕
I never regret any of them!
@@IvanLamLJ thank you!!! 🥺
Eres el mejor, no lo dudes 😊
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Thanks for just being visible ❤️❤️
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i'm hare now ^.^ cool channel :)
Love 💘
Thank you!
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Can u film a night skin care video🥺🥺
Soon haha
Your videos make me relaxing, your soft spoken is so sweet 💗
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Hi? you there? miss your Instagram & YT videos. 💗💖
Non binary. Isn't it a bit weird to take a term that originated in mathematics and apply it to my own identity? I think that complicates things more than it helps. And moreover, 99% of people will not understand it. Nevertheless you are a really nice guy.
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@@IvanLamLJ thanks 😘
This is an amazing video, we adore you ❤️
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LOVE YOU!!!
Love u!!!
Hey sis …first lots of love from India 🇮🇳…and seriously ur thoughts 💭 are very similar to mine n I really like listening to you..😘😘😘
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N this is mine ❤️ for u…
How's meow meow doing with all the noise around?🤔🐱
She’s scared and really wary lol
ahhh im so early!! i appreciate how open you are with us, love you ivan 🤍
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Hiii Ivan, I hope your having a great dayyyy💕
You too!
21:58 no hate, but the audacity of that person really caught me off guard after getting used to the talk about society, gender identity and sexuality