Why do we (yes, I am gay too) even have to "come out" at all? Straight people don't think of themselves as coming out when they mention their partner to colleagues or leave a photo of their husband or wife on their desk. Coming out can be a joyful event and a act of liberation but even in tolerant, progressive environments, coming out can be extremely difficult. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Love you guys.
Peter, thank you for sharing your story. It was very moving. As I was listening, I was comparing your story to my own with my parents. I told my parents almost 40 years ago now, when it was much less accepted than it is today. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Thomas, I like the fact that you could compare with your story while I was telling mine 😊 It must have been so hard coming out 40 years ago, you're really brave for doing so ❤️
Peter and Tommy, I think your situation is wonderful and I just subbed. I am so happy for both of you. I am sorry for your parents' lack of understanding at the beginning. I have always liked the saying: "Out of adversity comes the call to greatness." You two prove the truth of that. I am so proud and happy for both of you......hugs.........Ray
Hello Tommy and Peter, how are you? Oh Peter, I am so sorry that you experienced that. You are such a kind , sweet man , I would find it difficult to be upset with you. I’m glad you had Tommy to turn during this time, I know it can be a very lonely, and sad time . Did your parents apologize to you for how they treated you? I know they came to accept you but , they said a lot of hurtful 😔 things. I’m glad your father did not kill Tommy, did your father ever address his threat with Tommy? I did see the video with your parents, and they seemed very loving and caring. They even did chores on your property. I thought your mom was very beautiful, and your dad was very handsome. I assumed they would be because, you are very handsome as well. I must admit, after seeing your interaction with your parents, I was surprised to hear your story. I’m glad your story has a happy ending. 😃 My parents are not religious, they were even friends with a lesbian couple ( I came out to them first). Their reaction was not good, luckily I was 20 years old at the time. Had I been under 18 , they would have sent me to conversion therapy. My grandmother was the most accepting family member , she said , I don’t care if you are gay or straight, you will always be my grandson. Thank you for sharing your story with us, it made me a little tearful 😢. Thankfully, it’s all in the past, and you and Tommy are happy. 😘🌈❤️
Hello Alex, thank you for your kind words ❤️ Well, my parents didn't literally apologize but their acts show they are sorry and they told Tommy many times they wouldn't want me to be with anyone else. My father was probably just in shock when he came with the killing babble. Fortunately it all worked out and all is good now, but it wasn't an easy time for me back then of course. I am glad that at least your grandmother was so accepting. Similar as my grandpa, I miss him... 💔
That was quite a difficult period of your life, Peter! I’m so sorry you went through that. Your parents’ reactions were very hard. I congratulate you and I’m proud of you for standing up to them and confronting them. They had to wake up and see how being finally yourself was making you happy. My coming out to my parents wasn’t so bad. I told my mum first and she was chocked and not completely accepting and understanding. I don’t think she fully accepts it even nowadays, though. I then told my dad and he was totally open about it. Very supportive. I think I was around 20 or 21 when I came out to my parents. I was always telling myself that I’d never tell them, that I’d keep the secret to the grave, but the day came when I couldn’t hold it anymore. I was terrified. But it all went well enough. It’s different for each individual.
Thanks Sébastien! It was really difficult but luckily it got better over time. Good to hear that your dad took it so well, it isn't an easy thing to do so support is always needed 😊
Awwwwww boys!!!! This video is soooooo full of love and passion...as you know we completely understand you 🌈🌈🌈 you have all our support and love :) Ps still watching the video but we have to stop it to write this comment! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌈🌈🌈
Hi guys, I enjoyed your coming out story, Peter! It takes "balls" (literally!!!) to open up so widely about one of our largest transitions in life. I was fortunate that my parents reacted favorably, and even asked me to spend the night. My dad drove me back to college in the morning. Of course, I'm editing out details, but still, I recall that day with so much intensity. Now I want to hear Tommy's story, too! Take care of each other. xx Robert
Wonderfully clear story Peter. Thanks for sharing. Loved the line about your parents not swapping Tommy for any woman. My late mother used to say the same about my own husband. Best wishes, Stefan in Ireland. 😀
Hi Bill, thanks for subscribing to our channel! We're glad you enjoyed Peter's story. Everything worked out great in the end for which we're very grateful 😊
Peter. Your story was so very near my own. I relived my fears and pain as you told your story. We never fully forget such deep pain and scars left from parental rejection. You found yourself, your life's love in Tommy, and time helped your family love you for yourself. Tommy - thank you for being there for Peter during his journey. Your love for him then, and now, proves Peter made the best choice! I fully enjoy watching your TH-cam videos - you both are genuine souls - keep sharing your happiness with the world. I smile and laugh with you.
Hey David, thank you for your support! You are very right that we never fully forget these pains... Sadly it is what it is. I am just glad it all worked out in the end. Tommy is my rock 🥰
Hi guys just recently started following you on instagram and TH-cam i have just watch your coming out video. Thank you for sharing a very difficult subject with us. It takes strength and courage to be able to do that. And I am so pleased for you both that it has all worked out. Like you said Peter we don't choose to be gay we are born that way. You both seem very kind and loving people . Tommy I thought it was beautiful how you reassured Peter when he was telling us the very hurtful part of the story how you were touching him and showing him so much love.bravo to you. May your love grow stronger ,may you life together be blessed. and may happiness good health and prosperity alway be with you both. From William in Melbourne Australia 🌈🙏🏻🇦🇺🥂
Peter it takes a lot of courage to tell the world your story but if just one person could get help and insight from what you went through and to see the positive facets of your life now with Tommy it was worth bringing back old unpleasant memories. Thanks so much to you both.
Hello Tommy and Peter! Wow!!! Peter what a beautiful coming out story! I'm sorry for the hard times you had to go through but I'm glad you meet Tommy and he was there with you💕 I really enjoyed listening to this story!! I'm very very glad that your parents came around too! You both are the best!!😁✌🏿 Stay safe!
Peter, I watched your coming out story and realize how difficult it was for you and how sad you were. It was great that you had Tommy's and others support. Must have been very difficult especially you were still attending the university. I can't imagine the amount of stress you experienced. I think Tommy is right. It just takes time for parents to accept the reality of it all. I guess all parents have this perceived idea of what their children's lives should be like. I am sure they were disappointed, but look at it now. They seem to be happy the the outcome. Thanks for sharing. Tony
Hey Tony, thanks for your kind words 🤗 It definitely wasn't easy but I guess that's life. I am so thankful that Tommy was by my side, he helped me a lot. And the main thing is that it got better over time and my parents came around 🙂
Thanks so much for making this video. It's stunningly honest with so much great insight. I'm so pleased there was no killing. Is it possible to clone Tommy? We all need a Tommy in our lives. Take good care of yourselves xx
Thank you very much for watching! We're very happy both of us are still alive as well 😄 Maybe once cloning is possible, we'll start selling copies of Tommy online 😁
You guys are so sweet. Thank you so much for sharing your story Peter. We all have a story and so many similarities and so...I am very old now and still there are so many painful things linger after so many years. I never came out to my parents but looking back, I can see that they must have known. It seems that everyone knew before I did.
Thank for watching my story! Sorry to hear you didn't come out to your parents but as you said, parents often know before we do, even if sometimes they're afraid to admit it to themselves as well.
Peters “mean” letter would be a nice letter from me when I was in that situation with my parents lol. Love you two and it was beautiful hearing Peters coming out story ❤️
I am truly blown away by your courage to relive the trauma in front of a camera, and in a foreign language no less. You did a brilliant job and had me tearing up more than once. Hats off to you for your persistence! The world needs more people like you, the adorable grandpa and your mother's brother, your sister who's ridden out being the black sheep. And fewer people like me who can't justify or forgive parents who gave their gay kids such a hard time, my own ones included. Glad to know your parents can now see you for who you really are, living proof that they did not fail in your upbringing.
Thank you, it was quite important for me to tell the story. Not always is it pretty, but it might help somebody on their journey. Sad to hear it was hard for you too 😕 Life is not fair, but that's just how it is. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, I guess... 😉
I'm glad that Peter's parents finally accepted both his sexuality & his relationship with Tommy. It's clear that their initial overreaction, accusations & condemnation affected & still affects Peter emotionally. I was more fortunate my parents were non-religious, liberal & aware that sexuality isn't a choice so when I came out aged 13 they accepted, embraced & fully supported me.
That's awesome! It's so nice to hear successful coming out stories 😊 It was a hard time but fortunately we won the parents over by showing them ourselves that being gay doesn't change anything.
Wow, thank you for sharing your story. Everyone goes through coming out differently and especially in countries that don't recognize gay people. Love how the story came around to you guys meeting each other for the first time. We have tried "coming out" before, but really never felt that we needed to as it didn't change who we were. So sorry that your parents reacted that way. The same thing happens with our families too in that we are together, but they don't really acknowledge our relationship. Your love for each other is so BEAUTIFUL! At the end of the day, they all love you and you are their son and that still doesn't change.
Thank you so much guys! You're absolutely right about everything, it just took my parents a bit longer to realize 😊 We hope your families will properly acknowledge your relationship one day 💕
Thanks for sharing your story, Peter. My parents had a similarly negative reaction. It also took them some time to come around, but eventually they did. I'm so glad it worked out well for you eventually. :)
How wonderful you had an understanding sister and Tommy to help you deal with your parents when you came out. It is sad that your parents were so ignorant about homosexuality and that you can have a family, children if you want them, and a person who loves you to live your life with, even when your spouse is the same sex as you. I can see the love in Tommy’s eyes when he looks at you, and in yours when you look back at him. So happy for you that your parents came around in the end, and gained another son instead of losing one. ❤️ from Ed and Zack
Thanks, Ed. Well written ❤️ All that matters now is that we couldn't have asked for a better relationship with our parents so it all worked out great in the end.
Very genuine, very inspirational! I'm 75, so "coming out" didn't really exist when I was young. I figured that if people were perceptive, they would realize it, and I always thought that "straight" people didn't need to "come out", so why should I need to? My grandparents never actually mentioned it directly, but they knew, and if they heard anyone being homophobic in my presence, they would come to me afterwards and tell me how ignorant that person was and that I shouldn't pay any attention to what they had said. Interestingly, my grandparents came from very large families, and they had a number of LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and cousins. Really enjoy your postings!
Thank you! Things must have been much more challenging when you were growing up. It's good to hear you had such supportive grandparents back then. You mentioned you were "very old" at 75 so maybe you'll be happy to hear we have also viewers who are in their 80's which makes you quite young 😊
👍🏻😘we need more love in this crazy world. My son is transgender so he will be a she and my daughter. So proud of her! Just be yourself. That is what matter most. Hope you both will be very happy now and in the future. 🥰🥰
Hi Peter. Your excellent way of telling your story is an important gift to all who hear it. This is a way to Chang hearts and minds. You and Tommy are awesome.
Watching your coming out story for a second time, Peter, this time after watching the 'HIKING IN THE COUNTRYSIDE | Weekend with Peter's' parents video I was amazed at how they have changed to the extent that you've morphed into a happy family with Tommy now their favoured son-in-law, Peter's mom planting trees in the garden, his dad setting up the new rainwater barrel... It's good to see that people can change for the better and that love can conquer all ❤️👬❤️
Peter! That is so great that you had lady friends that understood you & supported you through this! I had to figure it out all by myself I had a hard time expressing myself because I was told as a child I was to be seen & not heard! ! It was a very difficult time in my life! I kept it to myself for a very long time! I did not tell anyone because for me I needed to be accepted!
Peter, your story made me cry and one can. see you found the telling a little difficult. But a lovely story. One day I might tell my very troubled up bringing. Hugs xx
Peter you have such a rock in Tommy. How he comforts you when hard emotional parts of your journey came up. You're lucky to have each other. As you said your mom and dad had to absorb it, as you changed what, in their minds, what they had hoped for you. ♥️🌈♥️🌈♥️🌈
What a great telling of your coming out experince. I always knew I preferred guys, I had crushes on them as early as 8 or 9 years old. But telling the world was another matter, so I waited until I was 28!
Peter, thank you for sharing your story with us. I remember how difficult it was for our son, David, to come out to us. I thought he was going to tell me he had some fatal disease and all it was, was that he is gay. Our daughter, Amy, came out at his wedding. They are both happily married now, too. Congratulations to you and Tommy! Love is love.
Thank you for sharing your story, Peter! I’m sorry that it took your parents awhile to come around, but I’m so glad they did. I absolutely LOVE your grandpa’s reaction to finding out that you and Tommy were married! And so sweet that Tommy was there to encourage you to tell your story. 💕
Hi guys! From North America, but not USA,!,i saw another video of you previously, and didn’t like as much as I thought . But this one is great, l learn more about Czech Republic, and also about the peoples . I’m twice your age ,and it wasn’t so easy in the 70’s-80’s also . Knowing how religious Czech Republic is or was now, and struggled to money survive, can be very thought. I saw things that peoples are ready to do , because they need money. Now I think the peoples getting religion out of their beliefs,and happiness come 1st. I will look to all your vids, and be happy as you are ! Nice couple.
Hi Chris! Greetings to North America. We're fortunate our country hasn't been religious for decades so we didn't have to deal with that while coming out. We hope you'll enjoy our videos 😊
I do appreciate your vids guys ! I think it’s a wonderful story, you took your life in your own hands,no matter . From North America as Quebec, speaking more French, so you know some peoples speak others
I can so relate. When I first told my parents I was gay it did not go over well. In time my father really embraced my husband. My mother on the other hand would not talk about it or even call my husband by his name even to her last days.
We can say that it's still a pretty story that ends well. The conflict did not last too long and I am sure your mother will one day ask you for a small child. You told your story very well and the French subtitles were very understandable, I understood everything perfectly. Maybe it's because you speak slowly and articulate well. I kiss you both. Thank you
Thank you, we're glad you liked the story and we're happy to hear it was easy to understand with the subtitles! You are right, it was a happy end and now everything is great 😊
Hi friends, I just watched Peter's coming out video for the second time. It was really moving and I cried. I just turned 70 today and haven't done mine yet. The anguish to say it comes back to me and I'm not very well. Lots of love.
As all ways PETER YOU hit the nail on the head for sure... Peter, thank you for sharing your story. Kindness your way Neil { Lochness Scottish Highlands }
Thanks Peter for sharing your difficult story It was certainly very hard. I am glad that your parents now accept your way of life, you are so full of kindness. You were lucky to have Tommy to help you during this time. I hope you could share a lot of love together.
Thank you for being so sincere and as Tommy said there is no good or bad method of coming out. But I am glad for you both that you a have a nice relationship.
Peter, I'm excited that you and Tommy are together! You guys make an amazing couple love how you both love death other and are so genuine in all your videos!!
I never came out to my parents. They were both dead by the time I came out. By that time I was married to a woman with three children. I can’t even imagine your sadness with your parents. I can with what I went through. Your story had me in tears at points. I am so pleased you’ve found Tommy and love each other so much.
Hi James, thanks for watching! It can be very difficult to come out, whether to parents or to wife and kids (wow!), it doesn't matter. It takes courage! My situation got better over time and my parents came around, hopefully it got better for you too 🙂
Thanks for sharing!! Hope some young LGBT people find this as an inspiration for taking the risk and come out!! Personally, I would like to tell you that it took to my mom 15 years but she acceptes me as I am(be patience, I'm 27 by the way )
We should all be able to be who we are without having to defend everything about ourselves to other people. I'm sorry you had to go through hardship. You deserved better. You guys are adorable. I want to make you tea, bake you a cake and hug both of you.
Thank you, Irina, you are absolutely right! It wasn't easy but luckily it worked out fine. Should we send the address so you can deliver the tea, cake and hugs? 🥰😁
Love your story. So happy to hear how it all worked out. I never had bad reactions just confused reactions. Is that because you are vegetarian? Many ppl including family had just never thought about gay things. 30 years later they accept fully my husband as brother in law or uncle.
Thank you, I am also happy it all worked out fine. Haha, here nobody thought it could be because of someone being vegetarian 😄 But you are right, sometimes people are just confused. Glad that they fully accepted you 😊
Peter that was well done in telling your coming out story. I'm sorry what you had to go through.but I'm very proud of you and that your life is full of love and happiness 💙 Thanks for sharing this part of your life with us ❤️ you are amazing and adorable ♥️ love you and till next time be safe and healthy ♥️🤠
Hi guys, I was born in 1953 in the east end of London, in 1967 it just decriminalised, I was 14 and trying to come to terms with being gay, a few years later I was driving my mother home and decided to tell her I was gay, we were both watching the road and I said mum I need to tell you something I'm gay, she carried on watching the road and just said I know I've always known, it's funny how different parents react to the same news about their child, I very lucky my mother knew me and understood this is who I was, as always take care of each other
Thank you for sharing your story it was one I can relate to and I am so glad you had a happy ending Peter. I was born in 1979 in Dallas/FT Worth, Texas USA and for most of my youth till the 90's I believe, it was illegal to be gay. You could be fired from your job if they found out, if you held hands or kissed in public you could be arrested, or worse. Weird to think that I grew up in such times. This is important because I didn't come out till the 90's. I want to say I was 16 or so years old at the time. All I can remember is giving in to the questions one day and just admitting the truth. From the time I was a child around elementary school years (grades 1-4) my female cousins use to tell me all the time that I was gay. I didn't understand what that meant and I hated them telling me that constantly. It was not till 4th or 5th grade that I realized I liked guys but was not in a world were I had examples of what that meant. So, I didn't really understand until I was maybe 15 or 16 years old. I still didn't really understand even then. But I started to make friends with people who were bi etc. and that caused my mother to ask. Long story short, my Dad had always asked from an early age if I was. He always said if it was the case he would be ok with it and would still love me. But I never would admit it to him. I guess because my father was in the military I was unsure if he could be trusted. Even though he told me stories of his friends who were and how he liked them and was ok with people being gay. Strangely he was the last to be told and what he said was true he was ok with it and has always been supportive of me and my husband. My mother on the other hand was not as accepting. What I remember is that we had an argument because she felt it would pass and that I was really straight just confused etc., so needless to say things were not great. But I was in high school and didn't have the ability to leave. You see my parents had been divorced since I was 4 years old. I lived with my mother at the time and my Dad lived in a far away city. Our relationship has always been strained because of this. Even now that is the case. She likes my husband and knew him when he was just my boyfriend even. Despite that we have been together for 14 years, she still is not completely accepting. In person, she is kind and accommodating to a degree and always treats us with respect and love. However, when I want to talk about my relationship most of the time she is fairly silent. Sadly, I have to come to terms with it there is no other choice. In regards to my grandparents, all of my grandfathers had died before I was born except one. But he and I had never been close. My grandmother on my moms side and her mom I never ever told. My dads mother also I never told. They knew I think and had even asked later in life but I always denied it. I just couldn't bear to see how they might actually react, as I was very close with two of them. I was very jealous to hear the part about you grandfather Peter, it made me tear up with happiness for you. Wish I had that experience myself. Sorry to ramble on like this. I love your channel and your Vlogs. Your relationship reminds me of my own and it is interesting to see the similarities. So glad you guys are out there and thank you for always being your selves. Lots of love from Louisiana, USA.
Hello Stephen, thank you very much for sharing your story, it's always interesting to hear what others had to go through. It seems like it's only rarely an easy journey. It's quite scary that it was even illegal to be gay till the 90's. Here it was legal even in the communism times. We are happy you've been enjoying our vlogs and we love to hear that you are in a happy relationship 😊
It never changes, I remember back in 1976 and my Mother accused me of being Gay and my Father saying that I was nothing but shit. I was 29 and I ran away with a bag filled with some clothes. I had to get Legal help to be able to get the rest of my belongings. I am now 76 years old. It is ok, with time they realized that we are all just Human Beings having a Human Experience!
Wow, that sounds so bad, Louis... Glad that it somehow worked out over time, same as with my parents. But it's sad that we had to go through such situations...
dont know why, but this sounds so familiar, anyone i know (including my own cousine, myself, friends, anyone i know from former yugoslavia or slavic countries )have almost identical stories, especially us from early 2000 till 2010.. my cousin was 16 when came out as transgender, it was hell, but luckily for her , her siblings, me and my siblings (minus my brother) we all livd certain time in west europe, me and my sister were refugees in iceland for 4 years, his siblings were same in sweden and we spent most important developing years in those countries and it changed us somehow, so we brought that with us, so we took her side and basicaly told all 4 parents to get a fckn grip, when she almost commited suicide we all steped in, her siser and brother took her to ireland, i had melting down with her parents, told them so many things. pissed me the most they kept blaiming this or that influence. my parents went nuts when i was in my mid 20ties and start dating trans man who was back then in transition, so when they found out he is actually cis woman, but trans man and wil have surgery soon, hell got loose, they could not figure out wth is going on in my head, so they start blaming him, my friend also in that time came out to his parents, omg they were so angry, blamining his bf to turning him.. i get sick everytime i remember that period, like me, all of my friends, my cousin like it all went downhill. my friend ended up being kicked out from house, his bf was cut of of money, i had my drama going on, we all ended up in zagreb, found jobs, rent a place and just stayed toggether. eventualy i went to visit my parents just told them i am pansexual, thaz how it is, deal with it how ever you want i dont cae, thaz who i am, take it or leave it, it is up to you.. we never spoke about it, they have no idea who i was dating for many years, my friend eventualy done same, ended up in canada, got married in 2016, last year got a baby, still today his parents act like his husband does not exist, they accepted the child, he cut them off this year, he told them if he is not welcome, i am not welcome, he did not spoke to them for 6 months now... my brother killed himself in 2016 and that same year my parents actually opened the subject for the first time and are more involved in my life. i hate that so many of us had to go thru this shit.. dont see a point, some people are not strictly gay or str8, some others are, i just dont get why people from certain areas cant understand that, we fall in love with a person.... i am glad peter's parents came around...
Guess it must have been similar for a lot of people. People (mainly older ones) seem to be quite close minded, sadly. So glad my parents came around but as you were writing, that's not the case for everyone and it's really sad that we have to go through this... 😕 You've had a difficult journey too.
@@tommyandpeter but with slavs that sentence i want grandkids, you fuc*** it all up, you will never have kids, and a family, dont you want a family, you will get aids its like their mantra, everyone hears all of them or at least one or 2.. that one with kids pisses me off every time, you want grand kids, wth go and foster kids if you want to take care of kids.... they were raised differently, you must get married, must have kids, must this or that, what will people say, my blood always boiled on those, my dad since the end of a war is more drunk than sober, so things with him were hard for everyone, but he got a grip when my brother killed himself, something changed, we obviously need to do our things, cut them off or reduce the contanct until they are rdy to talk and accept us as we are..
You are sadly right... Literally all of those things. I was ready to cut contact with my parents, like if they want to be stupid, I don't care. Luckily it turned out ok, but it shouldn't be like that for anyone.
a ray of hope for a gay kid in a country where being me isn't allowed but i'm happy my lgbtq fam is free somewhere in the world and it does get better one day much love
Sadly your parents reaction is not that unusual even in the US. Remember it took a while for you to come to terms with being gay yourself so your parents needed time as well. But a happy ending is great. Some kids never talk to their parents again sadly. Much happiness to you both.
Wow! When I first dated david at the time! David had a friend that told his parents that I was his b/f and we were gay! David's parents did not talk to him for over a year and hated me because his mother thought I made her son gay! So Tommy I understand how you feel! Davids mother also said that she will never have grandchildren! This was in the early 80's for me & david and at the time society did not know how to accept gays!
Things sure have changed a lot since then, fortunately for us! I hope it all worked out for you later. It did for us and all our parents are happy with our relationship now 😊
Just watched this for a second time. People's sexuality really shouldn't be an issue these days, but they came round in the end. I suppose when you look at it, it took you many, many years to come to terms with who you are, so why would we expect parents to accept it in a couple of months. All's well that end's well.
Yes, you are right. But the sad thing is, that it really shouldn't be an issue. Even I didn't want to admit to myself that I was gay at first, because it was associated with negative thoughts, like I would be something less. Luckily this seems to be changing for future generations 🙂
I am so glad your parents finally accepted that both of you are gay and in love. So many times when a gay person tells their parents that they are gay, they do get basically thrown out of the house and never accepted at all. Which to my way of thinking is very silly, and the parents loss.
Parent: This is horrible, this is unnatural, you'll get AIDS, and I won't have any grandchildren! Waaaah! Yeah, a lot of us have had this stale song sung before. My grandmother who hadn't been to church in 20 years, threatened to have me see a priest. I said, "Only if he's cute." Then she started screaming in Italian.
... did'nt you watch porn as a teenager?, and found yourself interested more in the guys..? its a good indicator newbie to your channel, now for some catching up, also just found Noah Roth s channel, completely diff story....
@@tommyandpeter i am sorry for you, i could never forgive my father if he said that stuff to me.... you are a great human-being Peter, but happy for you that they support you now. i suspect your dad couldn't get his image of the bedroom stuff out of his head, dads sometimes fixate on their son doing what we do there...
Thank you for your channel your videos made me happy. Make peace of mind with Ukrainian/Russian music videos during your breaks. It would be great if we could be friends and click red Done Button in the end. [Ukraine/Russian Music 공칠이삼이삼사오]
I love how Tommy caress(fondle) Peter when he is telling the taughtest parts: this is the beauty of your relationship LOVE, LOVE, LOVE
It's important to support each other in every relationship 😊
@@tommyandpeter it is !
@@tommyandpeter The simplest of touches can be so very loving and powerful!
They have much much love for each other!
Why do we (yes, I am gay too) even have to "come out" at all? Straight people don't think of themselves as coming out when they mention their partner to colleagues or leave a photo of their husband or wife on their desk. Coming out can be a joyful event and a act of liberation but even in tolerant, progressive environments, coming out can be extremely difficult. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Love you guys.
You are right Heinrich, why do we even have to come out at all? But the world is sadly not fair. Thank you for watching my story 🤗
Exactly.
Peter, thank you for sharing your story. It was very moving. As I was listening, I was comparing your story to my own with my parents. I told my parents almost 40 years ago now, when it was much less accepted than it is today. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Thomas, I like the fact that you could compare with your story while I was telling mine 😊 It must have been so hard coming out 40 years ago, you're really brave for doing so ❤️
Peter and Tommy, I think your situation is wonderful and I just subbed. I am so happy for both of you. I am sorry for your parents' lack of understanding at the beginning. I have always liked the saying: "Out of adversity comes the call to greatness." You two prove the truth of that. I am so proud and happy for both of you......hugs.........Ray
Hi Ray, welcome to our channel 😊 We are glad that in the end it worked out fine with my parents. Thank you 😉
Hello Tommy and Peter, how are you? Oh Peter, I am so sorry that you experienced that. You are such a kind , sweet man , I would find it difficult to be upset with you.
I’m glad you had Tommy to turn during this time, I know it can be a very lonely, and sad time . Did your parents apologize to you for how they treated you? I know they came to accept you but , they said a lot of hurtful 😔 things.
I’m glad your father did not kill Tommy, did your father ever address his threat with Tommy?
I did see the video with your parents, and they seemed very loving and caring. They even did chores on your property. I thought your mom was very beautiful, and your dad was very handsome. I assumed they would be because, you are very handsome as well.
I must admit, after seeing your interaction with your parents, I was surprised to hear your story. I’m glad your story has a happy ending. 😃
My parents are not religious, they were even friends with a lesbian couple ( I came out to them first). Their reaction was not good, luckily I was 20 years old at the time. Had I been under 18 , they would have sent me to conversion therapy. My grandmother was the most accepting family member , she said , I don’t care if you are gay or straight, you will always be my grandson.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, it made me a little tearful 😢. Thankfully, it’s all in the past, and you and Tommy are happy. 😘🌈❤️
Hello Alex, thank you for your kind words ❤️ Well, my parents didn't literally apologize but their acts show they are sorry and they told Tommy many times they wouldn't want me to be with anyone else. My father was probably just in shock when he came with the killing babble. Fortunately it all worked out and all is good now, but it wasn't an easy time for me back then of course. I am glad that at least your grandmother was so accepting. Similar as my grandpa, I miss him... 💔
That was quite a difficult period of your life, Peter! I’m so sorry you went through that. Your parents’ reactions were very hard. I congratulate you and I’m proud of you for standing up to them and confronting them. They had to wake up and see how being finally yourself was making you happy. My coming out to my parents wasn’t so bad. I told my mum first and she was chocked and not completely accepting and understanding. I don’t think she fully accepts it even nowadays, though. I then told my dad and he was totally open about it. Very supportive. I think I was around 20 or 21 when I came out to my parents. I was always telling myself that I’d never tell them, that I’d keep the secret to the grave, but the day came when I couldn’t hold it anymore. I was terrified. But it all went well enough. It’s different for each individual.
Thanks Sébastien! It was really difficult but luckily it got better over time. Good to hear that your dad took it so well, it isn't an easy thing to do so support is always needed 😊
Awwwwww boys!!!! This video is soooooo full of love and passion...as you know we completely understand you 🌈🌈🌈 you have all our support and love :) Ps still watching the video but we have to stop it to write this comment! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌈🌈🌈
Thank you guys! We really appreciate your support ❤️
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Hi guys, I enjoyed your coming out story, Peter! It takes "balls" (literally!!!) to open up so widely about one of our largest transitions in life. I was fortunate that my parents reacted favorably, and even asked me to spend the night. My dad drove me back to college in the morning. Of course, I'm editing out details, but still, I recall that day with so much intensity. Now I want to hear Tommy's story, too! Take care of each other. xx Robert
Hi Robert, I know what you mean, it is probably always an intensive experience. I am glad your coming out was nicer than mine ❤️
Wonderfully clear story Peter. Thanks for sharing. Loved the line about your parents not swapping Tommy for any woman. My late mother used to say the same about my own husband. Best wishes, Stefan in Ireland. 😀
Hello Stefan, good thing both our husbands got approved in the end 😁
Guys, what a story. Even though it started off sad and hurtful, the end result was happiness. I'm so happy for you both.I'm subscribed.
Hi Bill, thanks for subscribing to our channel! We're glad you enjoyed Peter's story. Everything worked out great in the end for which we're very grateful 😊
Peter. Your story was so very near my own. I relived my fears and pain as you told your story. We never fully forget such deep pain and scars left from parental rejection. You found yourself, your life's love in Tommy, and time helped your family love you for yourself. Tommy - thank you for being there for Peter during his journey. Your love for him then, and now, proves Peter made the best choice! I fully enjoy watching your TH-cam videos - you both are genuine souls - keep sharing your happiness with the world. I smile and laugh with you.
Hey David, thank you for your support! You are very right that we never fully forget these pains... Sadly it is what it is. I am just glad it all worked out in the end. Tommy is my rock 🥰
Hi guys just recently started following you on instagram and TH-cam
i have just watch your coming out video. Thank you for sharing a very difficult subject with us. It takes strength and courage to be able to do that. And I am so pleased for you both that it has all worked out. Like you said Peter we don't choose to be gay we are born that way. You both seem very kind and loving people . Tommy I thought it was beautiful how you reassured Peter when he was telling us the very hurtful part of the story how you were touching him and showing him so much love.bravo to you.
May your love grow stronger ,may you life together be blessed. and may happiness good health and prosperity alway be with you both. From William in Melbourne Australia 🌈🙏🏻🇦🇺🥂
Hi William, thank you for your kind words and thanks for watching 😊 Hope you'll stick around 😉
Peter it takes a lot of courage to tell the world your story but if just one person could get help and insight from what you went through and to see the positive facets of your life now with Tommy it was worth bringing back old unpleasant memories. Thanks so much to you both.
Don, thank you for the wise words, you are so right! 😉
Hello Tommy and Peter!
Wow!!! Peter what a beautiful coming out story! I'm sorry for the hard times you had to go through but I'm glad you meet Tommy and he was there with you💕 I really enjoyed listening to this story!! I'm very very glad that your parents came around too! You both are the best!!😁✌🏿 Stay safe!
Thank you! Tommy was really my savior in all of this, he helped me a lot. I am really glad that my parents came around over time 😊
Thanks for sharing your story! It definitely is a difficult thing to do! Stay safe guys
Thank you boys! Fortunately now it's only a distant memory 😊
Hi! Thank you for sharing your experience! Peter, you are veeeery brave! Cheers
Thank you Mariusz 😊
0 dislikes, I have never seen that. Your story interests us. Keep going and be safe.
Thanks! We're surprised as well, usually we get at least 1 dislike on every video 😃
Peter, I watched your coming out story and realize how difficult it was for you and how sad you were. It was great that you had Tommy's and others support. Must have been very difficult especially you were still attending the university. I can't imagine the amount of stress you experienced. I think Tommy is right. It just takes time for parents to accept the reality of it all. I guess all parents have this perceived idea of what their children's lives should be like. I am sure they were disappointed, but look at it now. They seem to be happy the the outcome. Thanks for sharing. Tony
Hey Tony, thanks for your kind words 🤗 It definitely wasn't easy but I guess that's life. I am so thankful that Tommy was by my side, he helped me a lot. And the main thing is that it got better over time and my parents came around 🙂
Thanks so much for making this video. It's stunningly honest with so much great insight. I'm so pleased there was no killing. Is it possible to clone Tommy? We all need a Tommy in our lives. Take good care of yourselves xx
Thank you very much for watching! We're very happy both of us are still alive as well 😄 Maybe once cloning is possible, we'll start selling copies of Tommy online 😁
You guys are so sweet. Thank you so much for sharing your story Peter. We all have a story and so many similarities and so...I am very old now and still there are so many painful things linger after so many years. I never came out to my parents but looking back, I can see that they must have known. It seems that everyone knew before I did.
Thank for watching my story! Sorry to hear you didn't come out to your parents but as you said, parents often know before we do, even if sometimes they're afraid to admit it to themselves as well.
Peters “mean” letter would be a nice letter from me when I was in that situation with my parents lol. Love you two and it was beautiful hearing Peters coming out story ❤️
Haha it was mean considering the good relationship I had with my parents before coming out 😁 Glad you liked the story!
I am truly blown away by your courage to relive the trauma in front of a camera, and in a foreign language no less. You did a brilliant job and had me tearing up more than once. Hats off to you for your persistence! The world needs more people like you, the adorable grandpa and your mother's brother, your sister who's ridden out being the black sheep. And fewer people like me who can't justify or forgive parents who gave their gay kids such a hard time, my own ones included. Glad to know your parents can now see you for who you really are, living proof that they did not fail in your upbringing.
Thank you, it was quite important for me to tell the story. Not always is it pretty, but it might help somebody on their journey. Sad to hear it was hard for you too 😕 Life is not fair, but that's just how it is. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, I guess... 😉
I'm glad that Peter's parents finally accepted both his sexuality & his relationship with Tommy. It's clear that their initial overreaction, accusations & condemnation affected & still affects Peter emotionally. I was more fortunate my parents were non-religious, liberal & aware that sexuality isn't a choice so when I came out aged 13 they accepted, embraced & fully supported me.
That's awesome! It's so nice to hear successful coming out stories 😊 It was a hard time but fortunately we won the parents over by showing them ourselves that being gay doesn't change anything.
Wow, thank you for sharing your story. Everyone goes through coming out differently and especially in countries that don't recognize gay people. Love how the story came around to you guys meeting each other for the first time. We have tried "coming out" before, but really never felt that we needed to as it didn't change who we were. So sorry that your parents reacted that way. The same thing happens with our families too in that we are together, but they don't really acknowledge our relationship. Your love for each other is so BEAUTIFUL! At the end of the day, they all love you and you are their son and that still doesn't change.
Thank you so much guys! You're absolutely right about everything, it just took my parents a bit longer to realize 😊 We hope your families will properly acknowledge your relationship one day 💕
@@tommyandpeter Let's just keep supporting each other and sending love
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Thanks for sharing your story, Peter. My parents had a similarly negative reaction. It also took them some time to come around, but eventually they did. I'm so glad it worked out well for you eventually. :)
Hi Roger! Yeah, negative reactions are bad... Luckily it all worked out, I am glad that in your case too 😊
How wonderful you had an understanding sister and Tommy to help you deal with your parents when you came out. It is sad that your parents were so ignorant about homosexuality and that you can have a family, children if you want them, and a person who loves you to live your life with, even when your spouse is the same sex as you. I can see the love in Tommy’s eyes when he looks at you, and in yours when you look back at him. So happy for you that your parents came around in the end, and gained another son instead of losing one. ❤️ from Ed and Zack
Thanks, Ed. Well written ❤️ All that matters now is that we couldn't have asked for a better relationship with our parents so it all worked out great in the end.
Great job! Glad you are doing well. It is always a stress to tell a personal story. Take care and keep doing the videos.
Thank you Glen! 🙂 We will keep making videos, don't worry 😁
Very genuine, very inspirational! I'm 75, so "coming out" didn't really exist when I was young. I figured that if people were perceptive, they would realize it, and I always thought that "straight" people didn't need to "come out", so why should I need to? My grandparents never actually mentioned it directly, but they knew, and if they heard anyone being homophobic in my presence, they would come to me afterwards and tell me how ignorant that person was and that I shouldn't pay any attention to what they had said. Interestingly, my grandparents came from very large families, and they had a number of LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and cousins. Really enjoy your postings!
Thank you! Things must have been much more challenging when you were growing up. It's good to hear you had such supportive grandparents back then. You mentioned you were "very old" at 75 so maybe you'll be happy to hear we have also viewers who are in their 80's which makes you quite young 😊
interesting how the parents react at first and then come around after time. A happy ending! Very nice.
We are glad they came around eventually 🙂
👍🏻😘we need more love in this crazy world. My son is transgender so he will be a she and my daughter. So proud of her! Just be yourself. That is what matter most. Hope you both will be very happy now and in the future. 🥰🥰
Aww, your kid is so incredibly lucky to have such a supportive mum! Lots of love to you and your family! 💕
Hi Peter. Your excellent way of telling your story is an important gift to all who hear it. This is a way to Chang hearts and minds. You and Tommy are awesome.
Hi Yotts, thank you very much! It wasn't easy to let it all out in a way that made sense, so I am glad that I managed 😊
Watching your coming out story for a second time, Peter, this time after watching the 'HIKING IN THE COUNTRYSIDE | Weekend with Peter's' parents video I was amazed at how they have changed to the extent that you've morphed into a happy family with Tommy now their favoured son-in-law, Peter's mom planting trees in the garden, his dad setting up the new rainwater barrel... It's good to see that people can change for the better and that love can conquer all ❤️👬❤️
Yeah, luckily everything worked out in the end which I am very glad of course. Love wins 🙂
Peter! That is so great that you had lady friends that understood you & supported you through this! I had to figure it out all by myself I had a hard time expressing myself because I was told as a child I was to be seen & not heard! ! It was a very difficult time in my life! I kept it to myself for a very long time! I did not tell anyone because for me I needed to be accepted!
Sorry to hear that! It must have been so hard back then. We're really lucky we grew up in times when homosexuality wasn't a taboo anymore.
Peter, your story made me cry and one can. see you found the telling a little difficult. But a lovely story. One day I might tell my very troubled up bringing. Hugs xx
Thank you. It was quite difficult to tell but I am glad it's out there. Sorry to hear your upbringing was not great 😕
Well guys: love is love, that is what my mother 👵🏻 teached us, it has nothing to do with the orientation someone has. And she put it into practice.
Love wins always, your mother taught you well 🌈💕
Peter you have such a rock in Tommy. How he comforts you when hard emotional parts of your journey came up. You're lucky to have each other. As you said your mom and dad had to absorb it, as you changed what, in their minds, what they had hoped for you. ♥️🌈♥️🌈♥️🌈
Absolutely. As you said, we're very lucky to have each other. We complement each other and together we are whole 😊
hi guys, the relevance of pride, being open, so the world sees how diverse our community is, put into this heartbreaking story, thanks for this..
Thank you, Tom. I'm just happy I could share my story with you 🙂
What a great telling of your coming out experince. I always knew I preferred guys, I had crushes on them as early as 8 or 9 years old. But telling the world was another matter, so I waited until I was 28!
Thank you, Jeff. Yeah, it can be hard, and it's no fun that we have to "tell it".
Peter, thank you for sharing your story with us. I remember how difficult it was for our son, David, to come out to us. I thought he was going to tell me he had some fatal disease and all it was, was that he is gay. Our daughter, Amy, came out at his wedding. They are both happily married now, too. Congratulations to you and Tommy! Love is love.
Thank you 😉 Sounds like your children are very lucky to have you for parents. That's how it should be, amazing ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story, Peter! I’m sorry that it took your parents awhile to come around, but I’m so glad they did. I absolutely LOVE your grandpa’s reaction to finding out that you and Tommy were married! And so sweet that Tommy was there to encourage you to tell your story. 💕
Hello Cindy, we are really glad that their view changed over time 🙂 I miss my grandpa, he was the best ❤️
A difficult beginning for Peter's pearents, but it's good that they accepted and apprroved of your relationship after time for thought.
Yes, we are glad it all worked out over time. Thanks 😊
Hi guys! From North America, but not USA,!,i saw another video of you previously, and didn’t like as much as I thought . But this one is great, l learn more about Czech Republic, and also about the peoples . I’m twice your age ,and it wasn’t so easy in the 70’s-80’s also . Knowing how religious Czech Republic is or was now, and struggled to money survive, can be very thought. I saw things that peoples are ready to do , because they need money. Now I think the peoples getting religion out of their beliefs,and happiness come 1st.
I will look to all your vids, and be happy as you are ! Nice couple.
Hi Chris! Greetings to North America. We're fortunate our country hasn't been religious for decades so we didn't have to deal with that while coming out. We hope you'll enjoy our videos 😊
I do appreciate your vids guys ! I think it’s a wonderful story, you took your life in your own hands,no matter . From North America as Quebec, speaking more French, so you know some peoples speak others
I can so relate. When I first told my parents I was gay it did not go over well. In time my father really embraced my husband. My mother on the other hand would not talk about it or even call my husband by his name even to her last days.
We're sorry to hear it wasn't easy for you either. Glad to hear at least your father came to his senses eventually.
I just love how suportive you are of oneanother
We try to always be there for each other 😊
@@tommyandpeter 😄
We can say that it's still a pretty story that ends well. The conflict did not last too long and I am sure your mother will one day ask you for a small child. You told your story very well and the French subtitles were very understandable, I understood everything perfectly. Maybe it's because you speak slowly and articulate well. I kiss you both. Thank you
Thank you, we're glad you liked the story and we're happy to hear it was easy to understand with the subtitles! You are right, it was a happy end and now everything is great 😊
Hi friends,
I just watched Peter's coming out video for the second time. It was really moving and I cried. I just turned 70 today and haven't done mine yet. The anguish to say it comes back to me and I'm not very well. Lots of love.
As all ways PETER YOU hit the nail on the head for sure... Peter, thank you for sharing your story.
Kindness your way
Neil { Lochness Scottish Highlands }
Thank you very much Neil, I am glad you liked the story 😉
sometimes in the US gays create a new family in the gay community.
That's nice, it's important that the person is not alone in such situations 🙂
Thanks Peter for sharing your difficult story It was certainly very hard. I am glad that your parents now accept your way of life, you are so full of kindness. You were lucky to have Tommy to help you during this time. I hope you could share a lot of love together.
I was very lucky to have Tommy by my side while all of this went down. And now my parents are supportive, we are happy about that 🙂
We're already married for 30 years now and it wasn't easy at the time we got out so many years ago. You're beautiful and lovely!!!Hugs from Berlin!!!
Wow 30 years, that's so great! 💕 Thank you for watching. Liebe Grüße nach Berlin 😊
Thank you for the lovely coming out story and that your parents now love Tommy!
Thanks for watching 😉 We are glad it all worked out 😊
Kochani pozdrawiam Was z POLSKI,super ,super.Kocham Was,jestescie naprawde wspaniali,Pa,Andrzej
Cześć Andrzej, dziękujemy bardzo 🤗
Thanks for sharing your story. You are such a nice couple Tommy and Peter. Greetings from Norway 🇳🇴
Takk! We're glad you enjoyed the story 😊
Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for watching 😊
you guys are so awesome! LOVE your channel and your personalities. I'm happy you were/are able to live out your TRUE and authentic life.
Thanks! We're fortunate to live in a country where we can be ourselves.
Such a great story iam so glad it all turned out well keep well ❤
Thank you. I was also glad that in the end it worked out fine 😊 But those were stressful times...
Thank you for being so sincere and as Tommy said there is no good or bad method of coming out. But I am glad for you both that you a have a nice relationship.
Everyone should definitely do it on their own terms. We're glad it worked out for us.
@@tommyandpeter you are so right. I really love your approach of life.
I am glad your parents came around eventually. And maybe you will still give them grandchildren :-)
We are glad, too! We don't know about grandchildren, it's not something we're currently planning but never say never I guess 😁
You're so sweet! Thank you for sharing.
I hope to see a day when it doesn't matter anymore, and we can marry all across Europe.
Hopefully one day. Thank you 😊
Peter, I'm excited that you and Tommy are together! You guys make an amazing couple love how you both love death other and are so genuine in all your videos!!
Thank you, Jodie! We're so happy we found each other, neither of us can imagine being with anyone else ❤️
@@tommyandpeter You're both welcome, you two complete each other ♥️
Thank You for sharing your story!
Thank you for watching it! 😊
Thanks for sharing your story!
Hey Stephen, glad you liked it 🙂
I never came out to my parents. They were both dead by the time I came out. By that time I was married to a woman with three children. I can’t even imagine your sadness with your parents. I can with what I went through. Your story had me in tears at points. I am so pleased you’ve found Tommy and love each other so much.
Hi James, thanks for watching! It can be very difficult to come out, whether to parents or to wife and kids (wow!), it doesn't matter. It takes courage! My situation got better over time and my parents came around, hopefully it got better for you too 🙂
Thanks for sharing!! Hope some young LGBT people find this as an inspiration for taking the risk and come out!! Personally, I would like to tell you that it took to my mom 15 years but she acceptes me as I am(be patience, I'm 27 by the way )
We're glad to hear your mom accepts you now ❤️ We can only hope others will be accepted by their families and friends as well.
We should all be able to be who we are without having to defend everything about ourselves to other people. I'm sorry you had to go through hardship. You deserved better. You guys are adorable. I want to make you tea, bake you a cake and hug both of you.
Thank you, Irina, you are absolutely right! It wasn't easy but luckily it worked out fine. Should we send the address so you can deliver the tea, cake and hugs? 🥰😁
Love your story. So happy to hear how it all worked out. I never had bad reactions just confused reactions. Is that because you are vegetarian? Many ppl including family had just never thought about gay things. 30 years later they accept fully my husband as brother in law or uncle.
Thank you, I am also happy it all worked out fine. Haha, here nobody thought it could be because of someone being vegetarian 😄 But you are right, sometimes people are just confused. Glad that they fully accepted you 😊
Peter that was well done in telling your coming out story. I'm sorry what you had to go through.but I'm very proud of you and that your life is full of love and happiness 💙 Thanks for sharing this part of your life with us ❤️ you are amazing and adorable ♥️ love you and till next time be safe and healthy ♥️🤠
Thank you, it wasn't easy but luckily it all worked out in the end. Hopefully it made me stronger!
@@tommyandpeter Peter it has made you stronger just look in a mirror and see the man you. become ♥️🤠
You guys are so adorable. Good video
Thank you, we are glad you liked it 😊
Oh I want to give you a big hug. Oh my gosh the aids paranoia - Im so happy you found each other. Big virtual hugs 🤗
Thank you, Jackie 😊 I am glad it all worked out fine in the end but those were stressful times for sure...
Hi guys, I was born in 1953 in the east end of London, in 1967 it just decriminalised, I was 14 and trying to come to terms with being gay, a few years later I was driving my mother home and decided to tell her I was gay, we were both watching the road and I said mum I need to tell you something I'm gay, she carried on watching the road and just said I know I've always known, it's funny how different parents react to the same news about their child, I very lucky my mother knew me and understood this is who I was, as always take care of each other
Seems like you were lucky with such a nice reaction from your mum 😊 It's so interesting how everyone's story is different.
So funny! But your poor Mom just standing there! Sorry! 😂
Love you Peter and Tommy!
Hi Patrick, welcome to our channel! We hope you'll enjoy our videos 😊
You're wonderful. Love you guys!!! 😘😘😘😘
Thank you, Silvia 🥰
Thank you for sharing your story it was one I can relate to and I am so glad you had a happy ending Peter. I was born in 1979 in Dallas/FT Worth, Texas USA and for most of my youth till the 90's I believe, it was illegal to be gay. You could be fired from your job if they found out, if you held hands or kissed in public you could be arrested, or worse. Weird to think that I grew up in such times. This is important because I didn't come out till the 90's. I want to say I was 16 or so years old at the time. All I can remember is giving in to the questions one day and just admitting the truth. From the time I was a child around elementary school years (grades 1-4) my female cousins use to tell me all the time that I was gay. I didn't understand what that meant and I hated them telling me that constantly. It was not till 4th or 5th grade that I realized I liked guys but was not in a world were I had examples of what that meant. So, I didn't really understand until I was maybe 15 or 16 years old. I still didn't really understand even then. But I started to make friends with people who were bi etc. and that caused my mother to ask. Long story short, my Dad had always asked from an early age if I was. He always said if it was the case he would be ok with it and would still love me. But I never would admit it to him. I guess because my father was in the military I was unsure if he could be trusted. Even though he told me stories of his friends who were and how he liked them and was ok with people being gay. Strangely he was the last to be told and what he said was true he was ok with it and has always been supportive of me and my husband. My mother on the other hand was not as accepting. What I remember is that we had an argument because she felt it would pass and that I was really straight just confused etc., so needless to say things were not great. But I was in high school and didn't have the ability to leave. You see my parents had been divorced since I was 4 years old. I lived with my mother at the time and my Dad lived in a far away city. Our relationship has always been strained because of this. Even now that is the case. She likes my husband and knew him when he was just my boyfriend even. Despite that we have been together for 14 years, she still is not completely accepting. In person, she is kind and accommodating to a degree and always treats us with respect and love. However, when I want to talk about my relationship most of the time she is fairly silent. Sadly, I have to come to terms with it there is no other choice. In regards to my grandparents, all of my grandfathers had died before I was born except one. But he and I had never been close. My grandmother on my moms side and her mom I never ever told. My dads mother also I never told. They knew I think and had even asked later in life but I always denied it. I just couldn't bear to see how they might actually react, as I was very close with two of them. I was very jealous to hear the part about you grandfather Peter, it made me tear up with happiness for you. Wish I had that experience myself. Sorry to ramble on like this. I love your channel and your Vlogs. Your relationship reminds me of my own and it is interesting to see the similarities. So glad you guys are out there and thank you for always being your selves. Lots of love from Louisiana, USA.
Hello Stephen, thank you very much for sharing your story, it's always interesting to hear what others had to go through. It seems like it's only rarely an easy journey. It's quite scary that it was even illegal to be gay till the 90's. Here it was legal even in the communism times.
We are happy you've been enjoying our vlogs and we love to hear that you are in a happy relationship 😊
You two are just wild and crazy wonderful guys:)
Aww, thank you Jay 🥰
It never changes, I remember back in 1976 and my Mother accused me of being Gay and my Father saying that I was nothing but shit. I was 29 and I ran away with a bag filled with some clothes. I had to get Legal help to be able to get the rest of my belongings. I am now 76 years old. It is ok, with time they realized that we are all just Human Beings having a Human Experience!
Wow, that sounds so bad, Louis... Glad that it somehow worked out over time, same as with my parents. But it's sad that we had to go through such situations...
dont know why, but this sounds so familiar, anyone i know (including my own cousine, myself, friends, anyone i know from former yugoslavia or slavic countries )have almost identical stories, especially us from early 2000 till 2010.. my cousin was 16 when came out as transgender, it was hell, but luckily for her , her siblings, me and my siblings (minus my brother) we all livd certain time in west europe, me and my sister were refugees in iceland for 4 years, his siblings were same in sweden and we spent most important developing years in those countries and it changed us somehow, so we brought that with us, so we took her side and basicaly told all 4 parents to get a fckn grip, when she almost commited suicide we all steped in, her siser and brother took her to ireland, i had melting down with her parents, told them so many things. pissed me the most they kept blaiming this or that influence. my parents went nuts when i was in my mid 20ties and start dating trans man who was back then in transition, so when they found out he is actually cis woman, but trans man and wil have surgery soon, hell got loose, they could not figure out wth is going on in my head, so they start blaming him, my friend also in that time came out to his parents, omg they were so angry, blamining his bf to turning him.. i get sick everytime i remember that period, like me, all of my friends, my cousin like it all went downhill. my friend ended up being kicked out from house, his bf was cut of of money, i had my drama going on, we all ended up in zagreb, found jobs, rent a place and just stayed toggether. eventualy i went to visit my parents just told them i am pansexual, thaz how it is, deal with it how ever you want i dont cae, thaz who i am, take it or leave it, it is up to you.. we never spoke about it, they have no idea who i was dating for many years, my friend eventualy done same, ended up in canada, got married in 2016, last year got a baby, still today his parents act like his husband does not exist, they accepted the child, he cut them off this year, he told them if he is not welcome, i am not welcome, he did not spoke to them for 6 months now... my brother killed himself in 2016 and that same year my parents actually opened the subject for the first time and are more involved in my life. i hate that so many of us had to go thru this shit.. dont see a point, some people are not strictly gay or str8, some others are, i just dont get why people from certain areas cant understand that, we fall in love with a person.... i am glad peter's parents came around...
Guess it must have been similar for a lot of people. People (mainly older ones) seem to be quite close minded, sadly. So glad my parents came around but as you were writing, that's not the case for everyone and it's really sad that we have to go through this... 😕 You've had a difficult journey too.
@@tommyandpeter but with slavs that sentence i want grandkids, you fuc*** it all up, you will never have kids, and a family, dont you want a family, you will get aids its like their mantra, everyone hears all of them or at least one or 2.. that one with kids pisses me off every time, you want grand kids, wth go and foster kids if you want to take care of kids.... they were raised differently, you must get married, must have kids, must this or that, what will people say, my blood always boiled on those, my dad since the end of a war is more drunk than sober, so things with him were hard for everyone, but he got a grip when my brother killed himself, something changed, we obviously need to do our things, cut them off or reduce the contanct until they are rdy to talk and accept us as we are..
You are sadly right... Literally all of those things. I was ready to cut contact with my parents, like if they want to be stupid, I don't care. Luckily it turned out ok, but it shouldn't be like that for anyone.
a ray of hope for a gay kid in a country where being me isn't allowed
but i'm happy my lgbtq fam is free somewhere in the world and it does get better one day
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Sadly your parents reaction is not that unusual even in the US. Remember it took a while for you to come to terms with being gay yourself so your parents needed time as well. But a happy ending is great. Some kids never talk to their parents again sadly. Much happiness to you both.
That's true. We're just happy it's all behind us and everyone's happy now. It could have gone much worse.
Wow! When I first dated david at the time! David had a friend that told his parents that I was his b/f and we were gay! David's parents did not talk to him for over a year and hated me because his mother thought I made her son gay! So Tommy I understand how you feel! Davids mother also said that she will never have grandchildren! This was in the early 80's for me & david and at the time society did not know how to accept gays!
Things sure have changed a lot since then, fortunately for us! I hope it all worked out for you later. It did for us and all our parents are happy with our relationship now 😊
Just watched this for a second time. People's sexuality really shouldn't be an issue these days, but they came round in the end. I suppose when you look at it, it took you many, many years to come to terms with who you are, so why would we expect parents to accept it in a couple of months. All's well that end's well.
Yes, you are right. But the sad thing is, that it really shouldn't be an issue. Even I didn't want to admit to myself that I was gay at first, because it was associated with negative thoughts, like I would be something less. Luckily this seems to be changing for future generations 🙂
I am so glad your parents finally accepted that both of you are gay and in love. So many times when a gay person tells their parents that they are gay, they do get basically thrown out of the house and never accepted at all. Which to my way of thinking is very silly, and the parents loss.
Thanks, luckily in the end everything worked out fine, even if it looked bad at first.
Good luck Peter!
Thank you! Luckily everything worked out and it's fine now 😊
Such a happy ending.
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@@tommyandpeter My story is somehow like Peters'story. The only different is I am still in the closet.
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This is horrible, this is unnatural, you'll get AIDS, and I won't have any grandchildren! Waaaah!
Yeah, a lot of us have had this stale song sung before. My grandmother who hadn't been to church in 20 years, threatened to have me see a priest. I said, "Only if he's cute." Then she started screaming in Italian.
Yes, so sad that a lot of us have to go through this. Nice job with your grandmother 😀
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Peter I feel your pain while your in the garden with your parents!
It is horrible when parents say that it is our choice ❤
Yeah, so sad... Luckily it all worked out fine in the end, but those times were hard.
What language do you speak with each other, when you are alone at home? Czech? Slovak? English?
Hi Leon, we speak mixture of Czech and Slovak 🙂 Our languages are very similar so Czechs and Slovaks understand each other perfectly.
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... did'nt you watch porn as a teenager?, and found yourself interested more in the guys..?
its a good indicator
newbie to your channel, now for some catching up, also just found Noah Roth s channel, completely diff story....
I think you're right but I didn't want to admit it to myself. We're glad you found us, enjoy catching up on our channel 😁
@@tommyandpeter i am sorry for you, i could never forgive my father if he said that stuff to me.... you are a great human-being Peter, but happy for you that they support you now.
i suspect your dad couldn't get his image of the bedroom stuff out of his head, dads sometimes fixate on their son doing what we do there...
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