@@platzpropeller858 It does. It means that anyone is used by someone at some point, to be used (as stated) as a tool for someone's goal. Becoming a means to an end.
Happily ever after is a lie. Even if you meet the love of your life - one of you will die first, leaving the other one bereft and alone. Lost my wife 6 years ago today. We had 35 years together.
Learned this from bojack horseman. You may never have a happily ever after. And even if you do, it doesnt last forever. Theres the day after that. And the day after that. And the next.
Here's one I have trouble accepting: your life will never just fall into place. it will always have ups and downs, and sometimes, you just have to struggle through it
Awfully axiomatic in a world where there ARE people who have everything, and can erase with the stroke of a pen or toss of a numbered piece of plastic problems 99% of us cannot possibly solve.
@@piaschlomer8630 (in this case) someone who has an unfair opinion (stating that it’s a fact when it’s really an opinion) and not respect the other persons opinion/not letting them state why they have that opinion
Can relate. Not only can people in my life not acknowledge the wrong they've done to me, I've also found that those same people want some semblance of credit or praise for my successes in overcoming those wrongdoings. Very frustrating.
We only like sympathetic villains in fiction. In real life, if we see someone as the bad guy, we will ignore any possible good the person did as well as what may have gotten them to that point of "villainy," and demonize that person as much as possible to justify hating them.
I see this happen alot and as someone who had a mentor growing up we had alot of deep talks. One of them was about saving people because they clearly dont want to be saved. And like one post on the vid said was that people fully believe and accept they're products of their reality and wil have a hard time dealing with change. But it isn't impossble just difficult. So he opened my eyes after talking that there are alot who can be saved they just need someone to help them save themselves and others just dont care. Personally its like Darth Vader and so in my mind i call it the Darth Vader effect because vader needed and wanted luke to help turn him to a better path even if he wasn't fully aware of what he wanted. But for most people its always gonna be the one person who means the most to them that has the save them. I called it the vader effect and i keep it in mind when i see sad or angry people or have friends that way.
I think majority of the reason why we never want to accept real villains in real life it's because those people are personal to us. Have betrayed us and have gas-lit us and traumatized Us in some way. I don't mean to speak generally, I'm just speaking for those who can't seem to tell the difference between an actual abuser and somebody who's done some petty shit. It's easier to forgive someone who's genuinely terribly sorry for what they have done to hurt you. Usually fictional villains have some sort of story arc that we can kind of tap into. And it's usually mentally ill villains that we all like to empathize with because media villainizes mental illness in general. The moment we actually meet somebody on the outside world that says they have a psychosis or personality disorder, it's immediate judgment. Regardless if we have any background on if that person's getting treatment, or isn't violent or is genuinely an actual good person with disorder.
I remember even as a kid I never really hated villains and there is one thing my friend said which stuck to me for many years " even if they have done bad things there still people and have feelings and there own lives" In short what im trying to say is that bad things and action dont make a bad person its what other people do about the bad things that make them who they are.
The most obnoxious rude people get what they want. Lol once a flight got cancelled, the people who went up and complained and whined got a free holiday and free flights home. The people who were politely waiting had to pay for the rescheduled flight, have the inconvenience of waiting an extra day, and find accommodation for that night. The world we live in...
Sometimes it do be like that. I think, the lesson here is to speak up when your right is violated. If you didn't, no one will. Asking for your right =/= being rude. However, asking agressively is rude, but hey to each their own methods.
Funny enough I've always felt it's been the opposite the more you genuinely accept reality the more you don't have to be bothered by nonsense insanity and the way human society has been for wherever you are and whatever part of the world you are in ... pointless to deal with nonsensical struggles when you could live the best way you want except reality and recognize that it's a brilliant thing it may not be brilliant right now but you can build it to something...that way look over the reality of what is there and recognize that it doesn't have to be like this or when you think of how reality should be... Personally never understood why people wanted to be in their own problematic pitfalls... people want to be in there even if people complain honestly it's because they don't want to leave their comfort of it but they don't want to succeed but they want to try more so they just sit there and complain about where they are and where they want to go.. an endless cycle a very tragic way too
@@Ixe2077 yeah unfortunately.... When I started to grow and build myself up a bit more I found a good quote that said we are not as afraid of how weak we are as much as we are afraid how much we are capable of doing we can do a lot and that terrifies us more than a little we can do... Because when you get rid of some limitations or some ideals that you thought were necessary but are actually ridiculous and you open yourself up to other possibilities...but how do you quantify all the kind of things you're capable of doing after that?
Harshest truth I learned. Overall, people don't care about you. Not because they dont want to. But because they can't. They don't know who you are. They dont know you're struggle. And they have their own shitty problems to deal with before they can figure out yours. And vice versa. You don't care about everyone. Not because you don't want to. But because you can't. You can't expect to get something in return you dont give.
This. Sometimes I feel really like a bad person when I met a stranger and they told me something but unfortunately I didn't really care because we haven't established any relationship so they are just a stranger to me in the end so I don't know much about them.
@@zanizone3617 there are strange cases where someone is capable of having 100 friends and remember them. Doesn't mean the Dunbar number is wrong but is nice to hear theres people like that.
Then where do I fit in this? Am I the only one that genuinely has compassion and empathy for most? If someone online told me that they needed to escape a bad situation, I'd always offer advice or ways to help or be a listening ear. I know it's not healthy and I'm working on it. I just want to know where I stand But then I'm completely in a whirlwind of emotions when I truly realized that nobody ever will genuinely care as much as I do for them. It's a lonely place to be in and a harsh reality especially when you come from an abusive childhood
TLDR; its ok to do what you do. Just know your limits Hey, I've been thinking a lot about your comment. There are a lot of layers. Good has to come from somewhere But you can only do so much. You can't fix everything. And You're only 1 person. But then again, good has to come from somewhere But it may not be the help they need It may not be the help they want And they may not actually need help But then again, good has to come from somewhere But you're in pain You're suffering You need help instead But then again, good has to come from somewhere No greater love than this than a man layeth down his life for a friend Good has to come from somewhere. If not you, than who? The world has become a dark place. And a famous quote. "In the darkest of times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength." Us humans have the ability to take a harsh truth and reality, and just not believe in it. "Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love... true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn't matter if it's true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in." -Secondhand Lions And also "Some believe it is only great power that can hold evil in check, but that is not what I have found. It is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love." --Gandalf Never forget the harsh reality though. Know your limits. And Boldly stop before you go to deep. You can't save the world, and you yourself have to be in a good state to be able to do the most good. Just never expect anything in return.
More exactly, bad things happen to good people because we live in a universe that is inherently chaotic and uncaring. There is no god or gods looking out for anyone. Maybe there is something that could be called a god out there, but they sure as hell aren’t paying attention to us. Most likely, the universe exists by pure coincidence and nothing ever happens for any reason other than random chance or the direct result of the actions of people. There is no inherent meaning to life, the universe, or anything. But that’s good! That means you get to carve out your own meaning in this brief miracle of chance we call life.
@@WASDLeftClick honestly while i beliwvw gods and other intellwgent non human beings exist , i also believe that those gods do not give 2 shits about the majority of us. I find christians have this feeling that they do good stuff because god watches and judges. I do good stuf because i can and morally its what is right. It doesnt matter if someone cares you did good, yes its nice to be rewarded but the reward isnt why i do it
@@WASDLeftClick just to call out one point you made, say if there was some type of omniscient being out there in the universe, I find it interesting how people like to think that they like manipulate and control our world. Like as if were that interesting. Or when some people say they hate god because he is letting all of the bad things in the world happen. We’re very entitled beings aren’t we
You can't fix someone else's problems for them no matter how hard it is to watch. Whether it's relationships or addictions. They have to want to change.
That's not to say it's not okay to assume and offer help. I will go out of my way for most people in the world, but if make it clear you're not wanting my help or don't actually need it I won't. Scrub you knee? Get up, walk it off. You're not feeling well? Here's some meds and a Gatorade. Drug problems? Here's rehab info and some water. Homelessness? I won't give you anything besides a ride to a shelter and a job. Stuff can happen out of.your control and it can be hard to pull yourself out of it, but this isn't an excuse to do nothing. If the system makes it hard for you, beat it anyway- Fuck that nerd shit and beat them at their own game.
Some people only change if you make it very uncomfortable not to and also give them a way out and some people need to change to make things better overall. Those two things rarely overlap in an unavoidable way but when they do... it's usually worth writing down the result.
Some women just don't want kids and shouldn't have them. That was hard for me growing up to learn as it was a desire I had since I was a child myself, to be a mother. I was one of those "you don't want them now but you will later" No. Just no. Some women shouldn't even have kids to begin with, so it's a blessing when you find one that realizes this and doesn't have one. Tbeh themselves have the self awareness to know they would be bad as a parent and there for don't become them. That, is a hero folks. Someone that realizes they don't want kids and so they don't have them.
Yes exactly. I already know that I never want to be pregnant and most likely will probably not want kids. However, no one will believe me. They always pull out the "well what if your partner wants kids" and all I can say is "well then they won't be my partner." I am not going to have a kid that I end up not loving because I didn't want a child. I don't want to put a child through that yet many still refuse to believe that there are many women that just don't want kids
@@patrickharvey158 They may not be heroes, but damn it they're better than monsters who have kids, hate their kids, kick them out into the world, and start them on the path to a ruined and miserable life that may end in a reasonable suicide.
Don't assume people tells the truth. Everyone LIES, some more than others. And Trust, once lost, it's incredible difficult to regain or imposible in some cases. Keep your promises people.
My friend told me to be honest with him. I said no to him about going out to do something because I just didn't want and it was pretty boring. He got angry at me. Being honest sucks, don't do it
People need to realize that we didn’t ask to be in this world. We didn’t have the option to not exist. We were created by someone else’s desires, expected to live a certain way and behave and contribute in a society where demands are so high but everyone does them so seemingly simple. We are all destined to fill a gap in our parents’ lives, be better than them, make them proud. There is no other way to live in this world, we are only here to serve others.
@@minklemadness5532 we kinda are enslaved to everyone’s expectations to act a certain way and do certain things. Only freedom there is we get to choose where we aim towards
If you're Disabled, people will literally feel uncomfortable around you because you remind them they aren't invincible, will grow old, frail, and die. Not talking about these issues with kids spares them one uncomfortable conversation in exchange for comfortable ignorance and a lifetime of frustration and resentment for the Disabled kid.
Sorry for a late reply. What you say is certainly true about some people. I think everybody else is uncomfortable around disabled people just because they have not spent much, if any, time with disabled people and haven't learned or been taught what to do, not do, or behave. Uncertainty due to lack of experience, therefore hesitation.
So real. I'm in the middle that is probably slightly above middle an I get to witness both ends of the spectrum, since neither extreme happens to me and I'm actually treated as a person fairly because of it.
@@periodictable118 this shit is really depressing, actually. Regardless of what the normies keep babbling about incels, they do have a point, and I'm quite thankful to have been "attractive", as people call it, lately.
To people who STRONGLY support any politician/political party: They don't care about you. At all. And you're making a fool of yourself waving their flag and singing their praises.
That's why I try to tell everyone in my life that I don't care if they don't agree with me, I just want them to think through their ideals themselves and do what they think is right, not to follow the ideology of a figure
Exactly politics is just a giant mind manipulation game but every time I tell this to my family they tell me I'm full of " liberal propaganda " i didn't even say anything ghat aligned with any political opinion.
That's the point of capitalism. Everyone acting in their own self-interest, while accidentally helping all of society along the way. There are parties/ideologies out there who ask for your vote because it would benefit YOU, not them. That's who you should vote for.
im not sure if this applies and i dont remember the original person who made this but The 4 stages of trying something new 1) they laugh at you 2) they challenge you 3) they'reimpressed by you 4) they use you as example
It's funny how whenever someone makes realistic comments, they're almost always perceived as "edgy" or "emo", when in reality people are just too delusional to know better. Not saying it's bad to keep a positive mindset, but sometimes it's good to come to terms with reality rather than deluding yourself into believing that all that is negative is not real.
You family doesn't always have to come first. Many people are abused, even as adults, by family members who exploit the "family first" concept, knowing that you'll willingly make great sacrifices for the sake of a blood relation. Don't do this. You shouldn't need to give more than you received. If your family has done you wrong, or been neglectful toward you, then they are the ones who never practiced what they preach, and they're only telling you to put family first to guilt and manipulate you into servitude. I've known too many people who have sacrificed everything for family; quit their job in a good career, or dropped out of school, or ended a relationship with a person they love, or generally hold themselves back from succeeding in life, uprooting and moving across the country, or to another country entirely. It breaks my heart to see every time. And to be clear, I don't mean your kids (although you DO deserve the occasional "me" time). And I don't mean the good families who maybe made a mistake or two. If your family members have done right by you, then by all means return the good they've given. What I mean is you shouldn't feel obligated to care for a grandparent who never loved you, or a parent who physically abused you, or a drug-addled aunt, or a cousin who is in and out of jail, as examples.
While it is true that family won't always come first I don't exactly see family in the biological sense but in a more emotional sense. The life of one or the lives many -definitely the many.
Some of them contradict each other, like "nobody cares" alongside "everyone will judge you", or "nobody is equal" with "nobody is special". Some of them don't even sound that bad, like "life is temporary and nobody cares about you" ok, so I don't have to worry about my actions?
Thats literally all anyone who tries to be the “accept reality” type lol alot do it out of bitterness especially w the way they word it. Especially the ones about relationships
I agree! I feel like some of these people are very sad miserable people with no one in their life who cares about them and that's why they claim it's a harsh reality that no one actually cares about you across the board. It hurts them to think that their case isn't the norm and the vast majority of people have at least one person in their life who truly cares about them. Whether that's a grandparent or sibling or friend or friends parent or teacher or child or parent. The people who think no one actually cares about any one else are the ones living in a delusion. Or maybe it's because they don't actually have anyone they truly care about and they fake it so they assume everyone else is faking it too. Either way that isn't the norm for most people.
3:50 is so right. Humans are shallow. The way I was treated when I was less attractive is SO different than how I'm treated now. And when I dated a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive, he showed me ways that I got benefits as a cute lady whereas he'd often be discriminated against for his looks. Although I hope most adults have the heart to not let that bias show towards children.
yeah, i got just a little bit bigger, and also get the "wow. you got so big" "you should be a football player" "you should lose some" btw these are the exact same people who told me as a kid i need meat on my bones, then i got older and depressed, now the only thing that has me alive for now is jjba part 6 and rick and morty season 5.
@@CertainOverlord are you sure it’s only a little bit bigger because I found that what other people say about you usually has some truth to it so if a lot of people says you got big than you should probably do something about it because you might be unhealthy unless you got big because of muscle, instead of running away from other people comment you should try to see what they say is true or not without bias and I repeat without making any excuses of yourself.
This!!! I thought I was just going mad for thinking this. I've always been a solid 6 but since the start of this year I noticeably got a much better jawline and more muscles and I swear to god people started being more eager to talk to me, everyone assumes I'm super friendly
That was Heinlein referencing the 2nd law of Thermodynamics as applied to social situations. "Gospodin," he said presently, "you used an odd word earlier--odd to me, I mean..." "Oh, 'tanstaafl.' Means ~There ain't no such thing as a free lunch.' And isn't," I added, pointing to a FREE LUNCH sign across room, "or these drinks would cost half as much. Was reminding her that anything free costs twice as much in long run or turns out worthless." "An interesting philosophy." "Not philosophy, fact. One way or other, what you get, you pay for."
Often said by people who regularly receive free lunches, to those who slave to make sure those people can have them for free, while trying to afford their own lunches.
@@NieroshaiTheSable - hey, as the quote came from a ‘50’s sci-fi novel, I’ve always been under the impression it meant that you pay for what you get, one way or another. Sci fi or no, I don’t think the man quite had your notion in mind.
I'm straying further and further from my friend that I've know for 5 years now, on Xbox, and i feel like he's my only friend that will always be there, but lately I've been talking to him less and playing less, it's gonna succ when I lose my only friend that was there during my toughest times
@@metra8604 yea I get that sometimes. I get told iys not "woman like" and that crying isn't going to attract anyone. Iys a shame Noone is aloud to do a natural human thing.
@@texisman3068 ironically, time outs is where this works. You are given enough time away from the conflict to think about it, calm down and understand the pros and cons, long term. Knowing where you should release your pain is a habit needed to go through life. Parents just suck at diminishing whatever you're in pain about, based on their mindsets and not yours. Kids don't help being overly emotional in public, but they don't know better yet.
19:08 "The world doesn't owe you anything" Well in turn, we don't owe this world anything either. None of us asked to be here. Matter of fact, who tf even asked for all this
"You are the bad guy in someone else's story" That one actually got to me.. I felt that one. I know there are people who think that way about me. and it kind of hurts.
@@souldanny. Realized that after having seen some wikipedia article written in english vs. my home countries language. That definitively was something.
not everyone understands mental illness. i've been suffering with anxiety and depression for years, and although my parents are willing to send me to counselling, they just think it's "emotions" and "being dramatic". they don't understand because I have friends, go to uni, live under a roof with food and water. I just wish they could understand me more
I think it stems from the "others have it worse than you, so be happy" mentality. The issue with this is that you can't compare trauma nor should you. Say there's a girl with rich parents, never has to want for anything, big house, great clothes, any and everything material a person could want. You're told to be happy because there are people going through what you are without all your luxuries. This is true but that doesn't make you feel any better, does it
I sympathize with this. Grew up with ASD and ADHD and I was met with criticism and mockery on a regular basis. Only in recent years have I grown some "teeth and claws", but our postmodern society doesn't tolerate self-defense... it prefers victim morality and falling in with the group. We've become livestock animals... and it's hard for me to admit, but I am no different.
This is an old as take so imma fix it for you. The reality about weed is that there IS a culture surrounding it, if someone includes weed in their daily life and would prefer to hang around someone who also smokes weed its because there is a culture surrounding smoking weed lol thats the reality yall gotta accept
They're trying to meet other stoners and they also want you to know how big of a deal it is to them. I've known a few broken people who genuinely need it to function and they work only at jobs that don't care if they come in high.
Nobody owes you forgiveness. Nobody has to accept your apology. Nobody needs to give you a second chance. You arent owed an opportunity to fix things. Sometimes when you cause damage, you can only accept it and move forward. Forgiveness is great and all, but it's not the responsibility of the people you've hurt to make you feel better about hurting them. If someone doesn't forgive you, accept it and move on. It's not on them to assuage your guilt. They can be mad, they can stay mad, you don't get to demand they change how they feel about what you did to them just because it makes you uncomfortable.
100% true that parents sometimes don't love their children.. I was one of those children.. it can mess you up for life cause you are constantly trying to get them to love you. They can't move on!
Same, mine abused me and we were homeless becuase of there drug issues even when we did get a house my parents sold me off for r4pe so they could get drugs started when i was 4 was eventally removed from my home at 11 after 28 reports to CPS.
On the topic of "looks dont matter", i think what people mean is looks shouldn't be a contributor to your self esteem. That's how i viewed it at least, because of course looks matter to others, its the only thing they can judge you on before getting to know you
This comment reminds me a lot of the Greek Minotaur story. Everyone has a beast-like animal side to them and everyone has a human and caring side to them. It’s how we handle things and how we choose to react which dictates if we will become the raging beast of the Minotaur, or remain with good human qualities.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Not to sound mean, but how did you approach this subject? Because with heavy topics like these I feel like you need to build up towards it, if you suddenly out of nowhere drop info like that on someone it can kind of be baffling yknow.
Antinatalism is the best viewpoint. It would have been better to not born at all. Life is full of loss, misery, sickness, wage slavery, violence, and much more.
As a “pretty” person, you never know when someone is REALLY interested in YOU or if they are only invested in your looks, which will fade. People also always judge your relationships. I’ve been told that I moved my current companion into the 5-6 range from the 2-3 he WAS in because I was there to improve his image. I had never felt so much like a fucking object, and my anger was so intense I almost snapped and decked the bastard who dared to insult my object of affection. Pretty privilege definitely exists, and I’ll never say that my looks didn’t get me ahead. But I hate the way our society champions something so shallow and ultimately insignificant.
Humans are visual creatures, so looks are always going to be the first thing someone notices. It’s not right, but it’s simply how we’ve evolved and we can’t change that. Now, people are not going to stay in a long term relationship with someone if their personality is crap, so take comfort knowing you are truly enjoyable to be around.
If someone stays for more than a few months, chances are they actually like you. Just don’t smash on the first night and you’re good, you’re looks draw them in, your personality keeps them and when it gets tough your looks will make it harder for them to leave you.
Beauty is prioritized, because it indicates health. Good healthy genes are universally attractive. Ugly= lowborn=poor=unfit highborn men, and to some extent women, typically can choose an optimally attractive mate, whereas the poorest/weakest men have generally had to be content with the leftovers. It is a positive thing for the species that we select this way, but it really sucks for the individuals who fall on the short end of the biological/socioeconomic end of things.
No, beauty is power; beauty is political. Why do you think Hera, the Queen of the Gods, was called "cow-faced"? Why do you think royalty is always depicted as fat way back when? Why do you think there are literally thousands of statuettes craved similarly towards the Venus of Vivendorf? It comes from those who have authority; You could say that we value symmetry, because of fruit-bearing plants; but there's no evidence to say that beauty is biological.
But everything about a person can be an indicator of health, including mental traits, so this would not explain why beauty is prioritized. I believe the reason why beauty is sometimes still prioritized is because unlike other traits, physical traits are your first impression on someone.
Beauty changes, and survival of the fittest doesn't mean survival of the strongest or most ideal. It means survival of those who can overcome selection pressures.
@@NieroshaiTheSable yawn. Civilization relieves traditional pressures in exchange for surrogate luxury aesthetic idealism selection. Proportion being a constant standard for beauty. Beauty is constant, fads notwithstanding
I’ve always gotten dumped in my relationships. The problem is that I don’t know if I did something or she just didn’t like me anymore because they never talked to me about anything. Not a single issue or problem was brought up.. ever
Girls like to trade up man. It's probably not your fault they just don't see you as high value and moved on to greener pastures. Just be your best dude and everything will be cool man. You don't need a woman to be a good man.
Another thing is that sometimes nobody is the bad guy. My ex broke up with me and, while I was deeply heartbroken, I can respect her. While I still believe we were right for each other, she was never a bad gf and I don't think I was ever a bad bf. We had our flaws, including me, but it was no red flags or anything.
The bits about the advantage of beauty are spot on. I’m an average looking guy (probably a 5-6, 7 on a *really* good day) and when I worked at bars I made a point of making the beautiful people wait a bit. Not too long, as it’s unfair to single anyone out because of how they look, but just enough to let them know that not everyone is going to give them what they want. I also taught a girl who was very pretty. At age 18 she knew she could use her looks to get what she wanted, but she had a really good mind and I wanted her to know just how much more of an advantage it is to be intelligent. She never liked doing homework and tried to flirt her way out, but unfortunately for her I prefer women my own age (early 40s) and wasn’t having any of it. Put simply, a sad truth about being beautiful is that if it ever goes away you’ve got nothing left unless you worked hard at something when you were younger.
No one cares about your feelings. No one will hand you everything you want or think you deserve. You go out there and earn it. And sometimes, even if you do earn it, you don't always get it. Accept it and move on. Nobody said life was fair.
All right, I've been thinking, when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade! Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life's manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man whose gonna burn your house down - with the lemons!
1. Not true for the vast majority of people. 2. Absolutely not true for the lucky few, or do you not believe in inherited wealth? 3. See point 2. 4. Valid, but needlessly condescending. 5. Plenty of people do say life is fair. Most of those people are religious, or believe virtue translates to success. They're wrong, but they DO SAY it. God, people try to sound deep on here and just sound like asses who wouldn't take what they say to heart if someone said it to them.
we control life- if all it takes is one man to wipe out millions of lives over six years and change the geopolitical landscape for decades after..think about everything hundreds, thousands, or millions could do if they tried. no one cares because there is no benefit of caring. no one will hand out anything because it never happened to them, we have to earn everything because of the choices less then 1% of the population makes and has been making since the dawn of time. the 99.9% of the rest just go along with everything like a mindless horde of zombies
7:45 that’s weird. As someone who took grievance counselling at the start of the pandemic after my death anxiety drove me to the point of psychosis… the reason I’m not "taking this situation seriously" and putting my self and others at risk isn’t because I’m struggling to come to terms with death, it’s because I’m acutely aware of how little time I have left in life. The people hiding at home and telling everybody else what to do are the ones who are really avoiding death.
@@meow_meow_J the thing is that realistically nothing is ever a fact. Everything is based off theories. In reality we know nothing about ourselves or anything. I'm not saying that's how I think but it's the argument that bring the question into what you define as fact
Earnestness, not honesty. You don't need to tell the truth, you just need to seem to be somebody who tells the truth. The success of swindlers is due to this. The success of corporations is due to this. The success of politicians is due to this.
Favorite child thing sucks. My mom’s favorite is my older sister, dad’s favorite is younger sister. Being the middle child also means being forgotten and ignored a lot. Both my sisters get along well cuz they have common interests. But I don’t, so I’m even more of an outcast. They r both really bad people, younger not nearly as much as older tho. So I can’t even try to initiate a conversation cuz they just try to find something to fight over and u can guess how every fight turns out. With my parents supporting them cuz they r the favorites. It sucks, a lot.
I'm in the same situation. My sisters are blessed with good looks and genes while I'm not. I get forgotten and ignored a lot too, I'm just lucky to have my older sister
“ Energy cannot be created nor destroyed. You can’t make things that won’t ever exist. You can’t destroy something indestructible. Energy is always balanced. There is always good to outweigh the bad and bad to outweigh the good. It is always balanced. At some point you will experience enough happiness as you have pain. “ ~ Madison Lindsey
“Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing.”
A lot of the "resistance" to change is in aspects of the other person's life they don't quite feel comfortable discussing with you; because they don't have full control over them, maybe you do and refuse to adjust accordingly while still holding them accountable and pretending as though you're not aware of your part.
sometimes your not gonna get through it, ive always had told people that they are gonna get through, including myself. but mental health can leave personal scars, and sometimes your just gonna give up.
I think everybody wants someone they can depend on and look up to, but no-one wants to be that person. What I mean is everyone lectures me on being mindful and empathic, but when I expect compassion from them they say they’re not obligated or responsible for solving my problems.
Harsh reality that no one accepts?! The fact that you don't have to accept most 'harsh realities,'' you have all the power to create your own reality, by any means possible... ANY. Even if it means doing evil things to deal with evil problems. Life became SO MUCH LESS stressful, so much easier and so much more freeing once I started living like this. For example, one of the things (and this is also one of the best things I did ever since) is that I quit my job to re-sell used stuff, mostly used cars and tech, for profit. Now I don't have a job and earn more than even most large business owners, while having all the free time in the world, no worries, no stress, no one to tell me what to do and look down on me... And so on and so forth... Once you realize YOU control your life and that ''harsh realities'' don't actually exist, life becomes so much easier...
Just recently I've been practicing LETTING GO. Letting go of perfection, letting go of a lot of things, people in your life you'd like to control/change, physical things about you you wish you could change. IT WILL NEVER BE PERFECT. Just LET GO OF IT. Live your life and ACCEPT IMPERFECTION. Alive, and alone, and learning to enjoy that experience is a SUPER POWER.
Honestly, I know someone who is slowly killing her husband, has accidentally killed over 5 animals, she is an awful person. I am gonna give her some hard truth soon.
**"slowly killing her husband"** wtf? Is she poisoning his food, or something?? And as far as killing the animals is concerned, there is a saying I'm reminded of - "once is an event, twice is a coincidence, and three times is a pattern". Give us some more details!!
"Feelings and priorities can change". My mother always said don't act on your feelings because they are fickle and can change at any moment. Besides "advocate for yourself" this was the best advice she has ever given me
The fact that humans, and basically all life forms on this planet, are fundamentally egoistical. There are no selfless acts, because all the things we do can be reduced to the pleasure we get out of them. On the deepest psychological level no one cares about you. Not your best friend, not your girlfriend not your wife not even your own mother. All acts come down to avoiding pain and seeking pleasure for oneself.
LOL I remember this one time where one of my homies brought back a HUMAN BRAIN and then he said "I can't do it." so I said "Well, I'll do it." and I took a bite out of that brain. Turns out the human brain is poisonous, I was tripping like crazy! It felt good though. Note to self: Don't eat human brains if you know what's good for ya!
Not sure that's true when there are people that care more about their partner than themselves and would give their life for them. If someone cares more about someone else so much that they'd give their own life to let the other's continue, I'm sure that proves you're wrong
@@seymourkrelborn4780 No it doesn't. If someone gives his life for someone else, that means he values the life of someone else more than his own, meaning he saves what HE thinks is more valuable. It'a a way to avoid suffering. If the death of someone else causes more suffering to you than your own death, it makes sense from an egoistical point of view to give your life for someone else because that would cause less suffering to you personally. Egoism doesn't necessary mean saving your own a**, it means doing what you think is best for yourself. And that's the case here. It is impossible for you to do something you don't want to do.
@@JohnCena8351 If it's not about the suffering and is about the desire for that person to live a happy healthy life. You could say satisfying that desire before death is selfish, but if they're losing their life, when it's avoidable at the expense of the other, it's definitely not the selfish of the choices. People care, we have whole structures in our brains meant for empathy.
There is not and will never be real equality. I know alot of people who fight for and believe in equality, but the fact is people are different and vary widely in their ideas, their values and their ambitions. Some people are natural leaders while most aren't, some people are exceptionally intelligent while many people are frankly dumb as rocks, some people are gifted and talented in the arts or any number of things. So there will always be people who rise to the top while others sink to the bottom. Race, gender and other things may and often do factor into your place in the world sadly, but too often these are used as excuses for poor choices and abused to play the system, which ends up hurting all of us. Equality as an idea is only applicable on a basic level. Etc everyone has one vote in an election, everyone should have an equal right to speak their mind and so on, but we must accept that any system run by people will inevitably be flawed as well because people are flawed. Human nature is selfish and avoids responsibility, exceptions do exist but are few and greatly outnumbered. There will always be flaws in our society and it will never be perfect, someone will always be at the bottom, no matter what we do to fix it or make it better. Utopia is a fool's dream and the pursuit of it is rooted in naive optimism and has led to much suffering in history.
Ikr we’re so focused on destroying our selves that aliens could just come to earth and kill all of us within a second and all of that fighting would have been for nothing
Pursuit of equality has always had tangible results, though. Trying to improve lives usually improves lives. Even if true equality is an unreachable goal, chasing it has dragged us up out of the middle ages, eliminated chattel slavery, and more. History itself proves you wrong. Failing at one goal can still bring success in another, and that's a reality that's harsh only to people who radically oppose change. You're using the internet because of a woman, thank the suffrage movement. You're literate without needing to join the clergy, thank defiance of a corrupt church's status quo. You can still eat despite a MASSIVE population, thank scientists. We're always chasing utopia, despite naysayers, and we're not there yet. We'll never get there. But we KEEP. GETTING. CLOSER. Because we try.
@@NieroshaiTheSable We should always try to make the world better and more fair for everyone. We have come a long way from the days of slavery to be sure but there will always be inequality in the world, that is simply an unavoidable truth.
Its pretty safe to assume that a lot of the missing women/children cases are linked to Human Trafficking. Human Trafficking is like fight club it is not brought up enough in these cases.
The "Some people cant be saved" one I really feel is a big one today. So many people seem to have completely internalized the idea that all problems are just the result of misunderstanding, and if you can just sit down and have a nice long talk with the drug addicted multiple fellon and really get through to him then he will turn his life around. Some conflicts come because you understand what the other side wants all to clearly, not because your ignorant of their goals or situation.
Being and staying mediocre. Most people are in competitive mode, because they can't accept that fact. Being mediocre is not a bad thing. It's the norm.
Tbh, I love those stories. Or when the hero becomes the villain. Or both. I've only found 1 that does both and it's my favorite show I've watched (Attack on Titan)
The universe, on a deep level does not care. Not about you, it just doesn't care period, if the universe was sentient it would be the burnt out college student that no longer has any f()cks to give.
It works so well with anxieties and fears as well... World is very frightening but the same time it's not out to try to kill you...work with your surroundings and you shouldn't be afraid even if things are a little scary
I always find it sad that some parents don't love their children. A lot of this is to do with the fact that the way we raise our children is extremely unnatural. The saying is "it takes a village to raise a child" which is the truth. Children in tribes will group together to entertain one another, and the entire tribe will keep an eye on them; each tribe filling some role for the kids. The parents have the same roles, of course, but the pressure is elevated by the kids entertaining themselves and having other adults protect them as well. In the modern world, kids need their parents to be Everything, because we don't have a community to watch them. And it's just not possible for a parent to do everything. It is a huge strain on parents. They start to resent their kids and don't have time to enjoy and appreciate their kids.
I'm never gonna look at the life the same way again. And learn to hurt people, because being good doesn't always help. Sometimes you have to hurt people to gain something important. Thanks to Reddit
You can end up in a relationship after a couple of times speaking with someone you're interested in...Not entirely sure why people assume a relationship should be a violent struggle it's just people... people aren't complicated not if you don't want to make it complicated
Mine is that sometimes, people doing awful things to you don’t do it out of malice. Granted it isn’t exactly in your overall best interest, hell it probably isn’t in your best interest at all, but they likely aren’t thinking anything along the lines of “If if say this to them, it’ll ruin their week and they’ll be miserable for days.”. Most likely, they do or say that thing without much coherent thought. The worse an action against someone is, the less verbal their thought process is- because they can’t accept that reality. It’s easy to want to believe that people who make you miserable are bad people in general, and that may even be true, but if you continue wondering what exactly they were THINKING, you’ll paint a worse image of them than there is, and drive yourself mad in the meantime. It doesn’t make the actions worse, it doesn’t make the impact better, but it’s something to take into mind when looking for someone to blame. For example, my older sister often comments on my weight and what I eat. Sometimes it’s something small like “There’s a lot of sugar in that.” Or sometimes it’s big, like “She doesn’t have big hips, it’s just fatty tissue.”. I feel horrible about my weight, but I know that she doesn’t do it with the thought process of “If I point out her jiggly thighs, it’ll make her ashamed of them.” Because I know she doesn’t think it through coherently at all. She likely doesn’t even realise she’s doing it. It doesn’t make the effect smaller, I still hate my body, but it helps me accept that I can’t resent her for it completely and is likely gone be the reason I don’t hate her when I’m grown.
Being able to recognize you are not always the good guy really also goes hand in hand with taking responsibility for your actions namely your mistakes in order to make them right. Those that think they're the good guy no matter what, are the same individuals that blame everyone else for their mistakes and always say everything that goes wrong is someone else's fault.
Some emotions and reactions _are_ invalid and teaching children emotional self-control is not repression. In essence, if being told to calm down, be civil, or be rational makes you fly off the handle, you probably really do need to calm down, be civil, or be rational.
So when you get older you start seeing people's true intentions which is why older people go out a lot less and have fewer friends. I used to have more friends than I know what to do with. Then when I realised who was actually my friend and not just hanging around for their own personal gain my circle got really tight.
People aren't interested in disabilities. Most people with disabilities aren't included in most social activities because society is designed for non-disabilities/fully abled people.
The one about feeling your incisions is true. I had a major surgery and I remember waking myself up screaming during and a nurse was really irritated and telling me to stop yelling but I couldn’t because I wasn’t really conscious like I could hear myself screaming but it felt like I was dreaming and I couldn’t stop. But I also couldn’t feel anything so it was weird and I don’t know why I was screaming because I don’t remember feeling anything. It was very strange
You are probably never really going to matter in the grand scheme of things...and that's fine. We're always told in younger years and school "you can be anything or anyone you want to be" when in reality that just isn't the case. Wanting something hard enough and even working your arse off for it does not mean it will ever happen. I wish people would stop being told "work hard and get what you want". It's not always that simple.
If you want big muscles you have to lift heavy things. If you lift heavy things wrong you can get injured. If you're injured you can't lift heavy things. If you don't lift heavy things you don't get big muscles. inb4 pedants ruin everything
A part of me will never understand why people would rather live in constant fear, than live for what life brings you. Sure, I'm afraid of dying, I wish I was immortal or at least ageless, but I'm so young, I have a whole life ahead of me, and there's so much I can do if I choose to do so. It's counter intuitive to regret past mistakes and avoid issues at present, you're letting something rule and govern you, as if a puppet master controls everything you do and feel. Is that what people want? To live in fear so somebody can coddle them 'till their dying moments?
(⚠️ NOTE: UNLESS THE PERSON IS DIAGNOSE WITH MUM BRAIN SINCE CHILDHOOD, OR ALZHEIMER’S. And UNLESS THE PERSON ACCIDENTALLY HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS WITH MULTIPLE PEOPLE ⚠️). *IF NONE OF THOSE ABOVE MENTION, and the person confirmed to have a NORMAL FUNCTIONING BRAIN, and still he or she REMEMBERS EVERYONE SO WELL, except for you, either your existence OR YOUR NAME. For example you’ve seen this person you knew 6 years ago, and when you greeted him or her, they don’t recognize you, but when you mention someone else’s name you live with and the person knows off, REMEMBERS IT chances are that person SUBCONSCIOUSLY wasn’t enough interested with your presence, you could even be family members or ex-coworkers and that person remembers A LOT of people from your working place but you or except for you and a few numbers of people, it means, they din’t valued your presence enough EITHER THIS AS INTENTIONALLY OR UNINTENTIONALLY(which in most cases it is) this leads them to forgetting you. Even if you have them some remembrance or tell them memories of the activities or past conversations you’ve had, and still the person had hard times remembering you, then they’d never valued you, AND IN MANY CASES, THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW THIS, THEY AREN’T AWARE. Just like in school subjects, there’s one or two subject you’re forced to have interest in order to pass, but you still fail them regardless of how much efforts you make for it, it’s because that subject is BORING, that subject you’re interested in the MOST notice how much you excel in it compared to the other average subjects.
"Life is pain. Anyone who says otherwise is trying to sell you something."
- Westley, _The Princess Bride_
I love that movie
I wonder how many would accept and how many would reject this quote of mine: everyone and everything is a tool for someone or something else.
@@fiyahquacker2835 this doesnt make sense at all
"Dream on until it becomes true" - Aerosmith - Dream On
@@platzpropeller858 It does. It means that anyone is used by someone at some point, to be used (as stated) as a tool for someone's goal. Becoming a means to an end.
Happily ever after is a lie. Even if you meet the love of your life - one of you will die first, leaving the other one bereft and alone. Lost my wife 6 years ago today. We had 35 years together.
I'm sorry man.
Learned this from bojack horseman. You may never have a happily ever after. And even if you do, it doesnt last forever. Theres the day after that. And the day after that. And the next.
can't.....even.....imagine. sry about losing her too soon pal. respect.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔
Some people just have different luck, life truly is unfair. Sorry about your wife by the way
"You wasted more time on Reddit than you should"
Jokes on you, I'm on TH-cam
“You wasted more time on TH-cam than you should”
lol. respect.
You wasted more time on social than you should.
@@kybx4337 no jokes on you, for now
@@alexm7777 covid-19 says hi
Here's one I have trouble accepting:
your life will never just fall into place. it will always have ups and downs, and sometimes, you just have to struggle through it
Awfully axiomatic in a world where there ARE people who have everything, and can erase with the stroke of a pen or toss of a numbered piece of plastic problems 99% of us cannot possibly solve.
Joda
Many of them had to go through a lot of hardship to get to that point, but those who were born into it have no excuses.
I mean everyone alreayd knows that.
Sometimes it's the choices you make that help it fall into place.
There’s a difference between having an opinion and being a jerk
What is a jerk in Your opinion?
@@piaschlomer8630 (in this case) someone who has an unfair opinion (stating that it’s a fact when it’s really an opinion) and not respect the other persons opinion/not letting them state why they have that opinion
@@thebreathtakingpotato thank you for Your answer
Now i understand your comment better
@@piaschlomer8630 You're unironically the nicest person on TH-cam, literally lmao
@@isimpfortoomanypeople5223 aha
Okay thanks for Your view/opinion
The person who was talking about their 3 kids just made this video a little happier
It made me a little mad ngl
@@deadtheories4170 how
@@deadtheories4170 How? Please explain.
@@take1835 because they are mad people can be happy.
@@theautisticartist9370 What? I have no idea what you mean. Please elaborate.
This might just be a personal problem, but ALOT of people in my life can’t accept that something is their fault, and it’s FRUSTRATING
trust me, that's not a personal problem, and it's jarring af
Well ain't that the dam truth.
Can relate. Not only can people in my life not acknowledge the wrong they've done to me, I've also found that those same people want some semblance of credit or praise for my successes in overcoming those wrongdoings. Very frustrating.
Same dude some people are asshats
Some people don’t like to accept that actions have consequences.
We only like sympathetic villains in fiction. In real life, if we see someone as the bad guy, we will ignore any possible good the person did as well as what may have gotten them to that point of "villainy," and demonize that person as much as possible to justify hating them.
I think that reason is because in fiction you get to see them more as a whole person than you do in real life
I see this happen alot and as someone who had a mentor growing up we had alot of deep talks. One of them was about saving people because they clearly dont want to be saved. And like one post on the vid said was that people fully believe and accept they're products of their reality and wil have a hard time dealing with change. But it isn't impossble just difficult. So he opened my eyes after talking that there are alot who can be saved they just need someone to help them save themselves and others just dont care. Personally its like Darth Vader and so in my mind i call it the Darth Vader effect because vader needed and wanted luke to help turn him to a better path even if he wasn't fully aware of what he wanted. But for most people its always gonna be the one person who means the most to them that has the save them. I called it the vader effect and i keep it in mind when i see sad or angry people or have friends that way.
I think majority of the reason why we never want to accept real villains in real life it's because those people are personal to us. Have betrayed us and have gas-lit us and traumatized Us in some way. I don't mean to speak generally, I'm just speaking for those who can't seem to tell the difference between an actual abuser and somebody who's done some petty shit.
It's easier to forgive someone who's genuinely terribly sorry for what they have done to hurt you. Usually fictional villains have some sort of story arc that we can kind of tap into. And it's usually mentally ill villains that we all like to empathize with because media villainizes mental illness in general. The moment we actually meet somebody on the outside world that says they have a psychosis or personality disorder, it's immediate judgment. Regardless if we have any background on if that person's getting treatment, or isn't violent or is genuinely an actual good person with disorder.
I remember even as a kid I never really hated villains and there is one thing my friend said which stuck to me for many years " even if they have done bad things there still people and have feelings and there own lives" In short what im trying to say is that bad things and action dont make a bad person its what other people do about the bad things that make them who they are.
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Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child.
The most obnoxious rude people get what they want.
Lol once a flight got cancelled, the people who went up and complained and whined got a free holiday and free flights home. The people who were politely waiting had to pay for the rescheduled flight, have the inconvenience of waiting an extra day, and find accommodation for that night.
The world we live in...
Sometimes it do be like that. I think, the lesson here is to speak up when your right is violated. If you didn't, no one will. Asking for your right =/= being rude. However, asking agressively is rude, but hey to each their own methods.
When you stop pretending is when you have to really start accepting reality. Sometimes there is no happy endings.
No happy endings - Tangerine Dreams. Great song, hard truth.
In the end nothing is happy as death is not a theme that should be loved.
Funny enough I've always felt it's been the opposite the more you genuinely accept reality the more you don't have to be bothered by nonsense insanity and the way human society has been for wherever you are and whatever part of the world you are in ... pointless to deal with nonsensical struggles when you could live the best way you want except reality and recognize that it's a brilliant thing it may not be brilliant right now but you can build it to something...that way look over the reality of what is there and recognize that it doesn't have to be like this or when you think of how reality should be... Personally never understood why people wanted to be in their own problematic pitfalls... people want to be in there even if people complain honestly it's because they don't want to leave their comfort of it but they don't want to succeed but they want to try more so they just sit there and complain about where they are and where they want to go.. an endless cycle a very tragic way too
@@MegaHellrasier Ah, Cycle of Pain. Its just alluring to humans I think.
@@Ixe2077 yeah unfortunately.... When I started to grow and build myself up a bit more I found a good quote that said we are not as afraid of how weak we are as much as we are afraid how much we are capable of doing we can do a lot and that terrifies us more than a little we can do... Because when you get rid of some limitations or some ideals that you thought were necessary but are actually ridiculous and you open yourself up to other possibilities...but how do you quantify all the kind of things you're capable of doing after that?
Harshest truth I learned. Overall, people don't care about you.
Not because they dont want to. But because they can't.
They don't know who you are. They dont know you're struggle. And they have their own shitty problems to deal with before they can figure out yours.
And vice versa.
You don't care about everyone.
Not because you don't want to.
But because you can't.
You can't expect to get something in return you dont give.
This. Sometimes I feel really like a bad person when I met a stranger and they told me something but unfortunately I didn't really care because we haven't established any relationship so they are just a stranger to me in the end so I don't know much about them.
Dunbar number. Look it up.
@@zanizone3617 there are strange cases where someone is capable of having 100 friends and remember them. Doesn't mean the Dunbar number is wrong but is nice to hear theres people like that.
Then where do I fit in this? Am I the only one that genuinely has compassion and empathy for most?
If someone online told me that they needed to escape a bad situation, I'd always offer advice or ways to help or be a listening ear. I know it's not healthy and I'm working on it. I just want to know where I stand
But then I'm completely in a whirlwind of emotions when I truly realized that nobody ever will genuinely care as much as I do for them. It's a lonely place to be in and a harsh reality especially when you come from an abusive childhood
TLDR; its ok to do what you do. Just know your limits
Hey, I've been thinking a lot about your comment. There are a lot of layers.
Good has to come from somewhere
But you can only do so much.
You can't fix everything.
And You're only 1 person.
But then again, good has to come from somewhere
But it may not be the help they need
It may not be the help they want
And they may not actually need help
But then again, good has to come from somewhere
But you're in pain
You're suffering
You need help instead
But then again, good has to come from somewhere
No greater love than this than a man layeth down his life for a friend
Good has to come from somewhere. If not you, than who?
The world has become a dark place.
And a famous quote. "In the darkest of times, hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength."
Us humans have the ability to take a harsh truth and reality, and just not believe in it.
"Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love... true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn't matter if it's true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in."
-Secondhand Lions
And also
"Some believe it is only great power that can hold evil in check, but that is not what I have found. It is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love."
--Gandalf
Never forget the harsh reality though.
Know your limits. And Boldly stop before you go to deep. You can't save the world, and you yourself have to be in a good state to be able to do the most good.
Just never expect anything in return.
"Why do bad things happen to good people?" Because when bad things happen to bad people we call it justice.
More exactly, bad things happen to good people because we live in a universe that is inherently chaotic and uncaring. There is no god or gods looking out for anyone. Maybe there is something that could be called a god out there, but they sure as hell aren’t paying attention to us. Most likely, the universe exists by pure coincidence and nothing ever happens for any reason other than random chance or the direct result of the actions of people. There is no inherent meaning to life, the universe, or anything. But that’s good! That means you get to carve out your own meaning in this brief miracle of chance we call life.
@@WASDLeftClick honestly while i beliwvw gods and other intellwgent non human beings exist , i also believe that those gods do not give 2 shits about the majority of us. I find christians have this feeling that they do good stuff because god watches and judges. I do good stuf because i can and morally its what is right. It doesnt matter if someone cares you did good, yes its nice to be rewarded but the reward isnt why i do it
@@WASDLeftClick just to call out one point you made, say if there was some type of omniscient being out there in the universe, I find it interesting how people like to think that they like manipulate and control our world. Like as if were that interesting. Or when some people say they hate god because he is letting all of the bad things in the world happen. We’re very entitled beings aren’t we
@@jayd7439 Good way of putting it. I thought that but didn't knew how to express it.
@@WASDLeftClick I do believe that there is a god, but you make a pretty good point
You can't fix someone else's problems for them no matter how hard it is to watch. Whether it's relationships or addictions. They have to want to change.
Some people get mad at you for trying to help, as a result, I stopped caring about other people’s suffering and became more selfish.
That's not to say it's not okay to assume and offer help.
I will go out of my way for most people in the world, but if make it clear you're not wanting my help or don't actually need it I won't. Scrub you knee? Get up, walk it off. You're not feeling well? Here's some meds and a Gatorade. Drug problems? Here's rehab info and some water. Homelessness? I won't give you anything besides a ride to a shelter and a job.
Stuff can happen out of.your control and it can be hard to pull yourself out of it, but this isn't an excuse to do nothing. If the system makes it hard for you, beat it anyway- Fuck that nerd shit and beat them at their own game.
Some people only change if you make it very uncomfortable not to and also give them a way out and some people need to change to make things better overall. Those two things rarely overlap in an unavoidable way but when they do... it's usually worth writing down the result.
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Some women just don't want kids and shouldn't have them. That was hard for me growing up to learn as it was a desire I had since I was a child myself, to be a mother.
I was one of those "you don't want them now but you will later"
No. Just no. Some women shouldn't even have kids to begin with, so it's a blessing when you find one that realizes this and doesn't have one. Tbeh themselves have the self awareness to know they would be bad as a parent and there for don't become them. That, is a hero folks. Someone that realizes they don't want kids and so they don't have them.
Yes exactly. I already know that I never want to be pregnant and most likely will probably not want kids. However, no one will believe me. They always pull out the "well what if your partner wants kids" and all I can say is "well then they won't be my partner." I am not going to have a kid that I end up not loving because I didn't want a child. I don't want to put a child through that yet many still refuse to believe that there are many women that just don't want kids
Heh jokes on you i am Infertile never had kids never will and yet people still call me mommy.
I see this as a win in every way.
Calling that a hero is a very long stretch
@@patrickharvey158
They may not be heroes, but damn it they're better than monsters who have kids, hate their kids, kick them out into the world, and start them on the path to a ruined and miserable life that may end in a reasonable suicide.
Not having kids if you don't want kids dosen't make you a hero, its makes you sensible lol
A girl can’t just suddenly be your girlfriend by dreaming enough
Don't call me out like this, man
*I’ll pretend I didn’t see that*
I feel a pain in my chest
you're hurting me stop
Actually in lucid dreams
Don't assume people tells the truth. Everyone LIES, some more than others.
And Trust, once lost, it's incredible difficult to regain or imposible in some cases. Keep your promises people.
To Add on to trust- you should give trust to people who you can trust not others can trust
My friend told me to be honest with him. I said no to him about going out to do something because I just didn't want and it was pretty boring. He got angry at me. Being honest sucks, don't do it
@@GiammiTheBest well, do it. Every lie has consequences, minor ones or major ones, but every single lie has consequences.
@@gettingshotsomeonesgonnapa8635 Do what? Being honest or lie?
@@GiammiTheBest be honest.
People need to realize that we didn’t ask to be in this world. We didn’t have the option to not exist. We were created by someone else’s desires, expected to live a certain way and behave and contribute in a society where demands are so high but everyone does them so seemingly simple. We are all destined to fill a gap in our parents’ lives, be better than them, make them proud. There is no other way to live in this world, we are only here to serve others.
this ending kinda sounds like slavery
@@minklemadness5532 we kinda are enslaved to everyone’s expectations to act a certain way and do certain things. Only freedom there is we get to choose where we aim towards
I’m pretty sure @Pursuit of Wonder made a video on this
The chances that any given individual exists at all are so remote that it can’t hurt to wonder how you can live a more fulfilling life.
Well 2 types of desires failed protection
1 actually wanting child
If you're Disabled, people will literally feel uncomfortable around you because you remind them they aren't invincible, will grow old, frail, and die. Not talking about these issues with kids spares them one uncomfortable conversation in exchange for comfortable ignorance and a lifetime of frustration and resentment for the Disabled kid.
True. As soon as my close friends found out I had autism several weeks ago, it was like I told them I caught leprosy.
Sorry for a late reply. What you say is certainly true about some people. I think everybody else is uncomfortable around disabled people just because they have not spent much, if any, time with disabled people and haven't learned or been taught what to do, not do, or behave. Uncertainty due to lack of experience, therefore hesitation.
They were never your friends to begin with. Find people who accept you for who you are and stick with them. It’ll be your former friends’ losses.
@@charlee_hotelThat seems a bit extreme. Is it possible your autism warped the way you interpreted their reactions ?
As someone who went from ugly to what is considered hot, people absolutely treat you differently when you’re “attractive” and it’s heartbreaking.
So real. I'm in the middle that is probably slightly above middle an I get to witness both ends of the spectrum, since neither extreme happens to me and I'm actually treated as a person fairly because of it.
@@periodictable118 this shit is really depressing, actually. Regardless of what the normies keep babbling about incels, they do have a point, and I'm quite thankful to have been "attractive", as people call it, lately.
That halo effect is powerful. And unfortunately for some, the horns effect just as much.
The harsh reality no one accept is the fact that I am so handsome and intelligent.
The fun part is even reality doesn't accept it.
LMAO
Even your dreams won’t except it.
Oof
Indeed
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To people who STRONGLY support any politician/political party: They don't care about you. At all. And you're making a fool of yourself waving their flag and singing their praises.
Faxx
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That's why I try to tell everyone in my life that I don't care if they don't agree with me, I just want them to think through their ideals themselves and do what they think is right, not to follow the ideology of a figure
Exactly politics is just a giant mind manipulation game but every time I tell this to my family they tell me I'm full of " liberal propaganda " i didn't even say anything ghat aligned with any political opinion.
That's the point of capitalism. Everyone acting in their own self-interest, while accidentally helping all of society along the way. There are parties/ideologies out there who ask for your vote because it would benefit YOU, not them. That's who you should vote for.
im not sure if this applies and i dont remember the original person who made this but
The 4 stages of trying something new
1) they laugh at you
2) they challenge you
3) they'reimpressed by you
4) they use you as example
Motivational
I've made it to stage 3 multiple times in the past few weeks and it feels GRAND!
Not all babies are cute.
Many look like Churchill.
But mine is :)
It's funny how whenever someone makes realistic comments, they're almost always perceived as "edgy" or "emo", when in reality people are just too delusional to know better. Not saying it's bad to keep a positive mindset, but sometimes it's good to come to terms with reality rather than deluding yourself into believing that all that is negative is not real.
You family doesn't always have to come first.
Many people are abused, even as adults, by family members who exploit the "family first" concept, knowing that you'll willingly make great sacrifices for the sake of a blood relation.
Don't do this. You shouldn't need to give more than you received. If your family has done you wrong, or been neglectful toward you, then they are the ones who never practiced what they preach, and they're only telling you to put family first to guilt and manipulate you into servitude.
I've known too many people who have sacrificed everything for family; quit their job in a good career, or dropped out of school, or ended a relationship with a person they love, or generally hold themselves back from succeeding in life, uprooting and moving across the country, or to another country entirely. It breaks my heart to see every time.
And to be clear, I don't mean your kids (although you DO deserve the occasional "me" time). And I don't mean the good families who maybe made a mistake or two. If your family members have done right by you, then by all means return the good they've given. What I mean is you shouldn't feel obligated to care for a grandparent who never loved you, or a parent who physically abused you, or a drug-addled aunt, or a cousin who is in and out of jail, as examples.
While it is true that family won't always come first I don't exactly see family in the biological sense but in a more emotional sense. The life of one or the lives many -definitely the many.
Amen. "Blood is thicker than water" is bs
@@avacadotoast5571 the posion makes the blood thinner resulting in the water being thicker instead.
Ehhh
Remember people were only 2% different from chimpanzees.
Some of these are true, but not gonna lie, some are just depressing for the sake of being depressing and sounding deep and mature.
Some of them contradict each other, like "nobody cares" alongside "everyone will judge you", or "nobody is equal" with "nobody is special". Some of them don't even sound that bad, like "life is temporary and nobody cares about you" ok, so I don't have to worry about my actions?
on these types of videos there's at least one person saying something AT LEAST similar to: 'life is pointless'
@Juan Herrera ikr?
Thats literally all anyone who tries to be the “accept reality” type lol alot do it out of bitterness especially w the way they word it. Especially the ones about relationships
I agree! I feel like some of these people are very sad miserable people with no one in their life who cares about them and that's why they claim it's a harsh reality that no one actually cares about you across the board. It hurts them to think that their case isn't the norm and the vast majority of people have at least one person in their life who truly cares about them. Whether that's a grandparent or sibling or friend or friends parent or teacher or child or parent. The people who think no one actually cares about any one else are the ones living in a delusion. Or maybe it's because they don't actually have anyone they truly care about and they fake it so they assume everyone else is faking it too. Either way that isn't the norm for most people.
The more you say sorry to someone the less it means to that person.
sorry
Law of diminishing return
Canadians: oh shit
3:50 is so right. Humans are shallow. The way I was treated when I was less attractive is SO different than how I'm treated now. And when I dated a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive, he showed me ways that I got benefits as a cute lady whereas he'd often be discriminated against for his looks. Although I hope most adults have the heart to not let that bias show towards children.
yeah, i got just a little bit bigger, and also get the "wow. you got so big" "you should be a football player" "you should lose some" btw these are the exact same people who told me as a kid i need meat on my bones, then i got older and depressed, now the only thing that has me alive for now is jjba part 6 and rick and morty season 5.
@@CertainOverlord A man of culture i see.People will always say stuff its best to try to not care you know🤝
@@CertainOverlord are you sure it’s only a little bit bigger because I found that what other people say about you usually has some truth to it so if a lot of people says you got big than you should probably do something about it because you might be unhealthy unless you got big because of muscle, instead of running away from other people comment you should try to see what they say is true or not without bias and I repeat without making any excuses of yourself.
@@anobodylikeyou168 only went from 120 - 125 pounds, i'd say that's a little
This!!! I thought I was just going mad for thinking this. I've always been a solid 6 but since the start of this year I noticeably got a much better jawline and more muscles and I swear to god people started being more eager to talk to me, everyone assumes I'm super friendly
Robert Heinlein: TANSTAAFL - There ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.
That was Heinlein referencing the 2nd law of Thermodynamics as applied to social situations.
"Gospodin," he said presently, "you used an odd word earlier--odd to me, I mean..."
"Oh, 'tanstaafl.' Means ~There ain't no such thing as a free lunch.' And isn't," I added, pointing to a FREE LUNCH sign across room, "or these drinks would cost half as much. Was reminding her that anything free costs twice as much in long run or turns out worthless."
"An interesting philosophy."
"Not philosophy, fact. One way or other, what you get, you pay for."
Often said by people who regularly receive free lunches, to those who slave to make sure those people can have them for free, while trying to afford their own lunches.
@@NieroshaiTheSable - hey, as the quote came from a ‘50’s sci-fi novel, I’ve always been under the impression it meant that you pay for what you get, one way or another. Sci fi or no, I don’t think the man quite had your notion in mind.
you're not going to be friends with everyone forever and it's okay to lose friends and best friends
And sometimes losing friends is what's best for your personal development and growth. Sometimes old friends hold you back.
@DJ TH-camr TMJ tyy
@DJ TH-camr TMJ ikrrr, it sucks 😭
Had to deal with this about 4-5 days ago
Sucks but that's life
I'm straying further and further from my friend that I've know for 5 years now, on Xbox, and i feel like he's my only friend that will always be there, but lately I've been talking to him less and playing less, it's gonna succ when I lose my only friend that was there during my toughest times
Your allowed to feel angry, and take your anger out on something, like punching a pillow or crying.
Ik I hate when parents tell you to stop crying
@@texisman3068 and it isn't only for boys. I'm female yet im told crying is bad
@@metra8604 yea I get that sometimes. I get told iys not "woman like" and that crying isn't going to attract anyone. Iys a shame Noone is aloud to do a natural human thing.
@@randomname1875 fr
@@texisman3068 ironically, time outs is where this works. You are given enough time away from the conflict to think about it, calm down and understand the pros and cons, long term.
Knowing where you should release your pain is a habit needed to go through life. Parents just suck at diminishing whatever you're in pain about, based on their mindsets and not yours. Kids don't help being overly emotional in public, but they don't know better yet.
19:08 "The world doesn't owe you anything"
Well in turn, we don't owe this world anything either. None of us asked to be here. Matter of fact, who tf even asked for all this
Atoms
Plus us to the earth is no different than viruses to us.
@@fiyahquacker2835 very true. Annoying, but it’ll disappear eventually.
Take it up with the magical sky daddy.
@TheCeilingFanCollectorHD
Do you believe in the L.O.A.?
"You are the bad guy in someone else's story"
That one actually got to me.. I felt that one. I know there are people who think that way about me. and it kind of hurts.
Your country isn't always the hero or morally right, and your history isn't either, you only get a propagandised version of it
History is written by the victors and all that
@@souldanny. Realized that after having seen some wikipedia article written in english vs. my home countries language.
That definitively was something.
@@bloedjohan7602 Wikipedia is owned by foreigner ECHOrootless internationals. Lying is all they know.
true
@@bloedjohan7602 what is your country
not everyone understands mental illness. i've been suffering with anxiety and depression for years, and although my parents are willing to send me to counselling, they just think it's "emotions" and "being dramatic".
they don't understand because I have friends, go to uni, live under a roof with food and water. I just wish they could understand me more
I think it stems from the "others have it worse than you, so be happy" mentality. The issue with this is that you can't compare trauma nor should you. Say there's a girl with rich parents, never has to want for anything, big house, great clothes, any and everything material a person could want. You're told to be happy because there are people going through what you are without all your luxuries. This is true but that doesn't make you feel any better, does it
@@GyeongmiBaeb My mother thinks like that
@Duke Tango yeah because mental health is just excuses, right? please don't comment, I don't want your stupidity, mate
I sympathize with this. Grew up with ASD and ADHD and I was met with criticism and mockery on a regular basis. Only in recent years have I grown some "teeth and claws", but our postmodern society doesn't tolerate self-defense... it prefers victim morality and falling in with the group. We've become livestock animals... and it's hard for me to admit, but I am no different.
You should drop out of uni and abandon friendships to make them understand.
Smoking weed is not a personality.
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This is an old as take so imma fix it for you. The reality about weed is that there IS a culture surrounding it, if someone includes weed in their daily life and would prefer to hang around someone who also smokes weed its because there is a culture surrounding smoking weed lol thats the reality yall gotta accept
@@cremepuffle aka being an addict
Recreational drugs and drug addiction are not a personality. They are character flaws that eventually lead to ruined lives and death.
They're trying to meet other stoners and they also want you to know how big of a deal it is to them. I've known a few broken people who genuinely need it to function and they work only at jobs that don't care if they come in high.
Nobody owes you forgiveness.
Nobody has to accept your apology.
Nobody needs to give you a second chance.
You arent owed an opportunity to fix things.
Sometimes when you cause damage, you can only accept it and move forward.
Forgiveness is great and all, but it's not the responsibility of the people you've hurt to make you feel better about hurting them. If someone doesn't forgive you, accept it and move on. It's not on them to assuage your guilt.
They can be mad, they can stay mad, you don't get to demand they change how they feel about what you did to them just because it makes you uncomfortable.
@@kr3642 I love that. I wish I had known that stuff growing up. You're a great parent.
TRUTH!!!!!
100% true that parents sometimes don't love their children.. I was one of those children.. it can mess you up for life cause you are constantly trying to get them to love you. They can't move on!
I'm so sorry, I hope you have found peace since then. Truly
Same, mine abused me and we were homeless becuase of there drug issues even when we did get a house my parents sold me off for r4pe so they could get drugs started when i was 4 was eventally removed from my home at 11 after 28 reports to CPS.
@@berserkagain7976 ☹️ that's really horrific! I really hope your life has gotten better. Some people have zero business bringing kids into this world.
On the topic of "looks dont matter", i think what people mean is looks shouldn't be a contributor to your self esteem. That's how i viewed it at least, because of course looks matter to others, its the only thing they can judge you on before getting to know you
Most people are monsters. Some can't hide it, some can.
This comment reminds me a lot of the Greek Minotaur story. Everyone has a beast-like animal side to them and everyone has a human and caring side to them. It’s how we handle things and how we choose to react which dictates if we will become the raging beast of the Minotaur, or remain with good human qualities.
Nothing wrong with being a beast when its time
Everyone's metric for monstrosity is different.
I mentioned to someone I was getting to know that I wanted to kill myself.
She said bye and deleted all missives.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 Not to sound mean, but how did you approach this subject? Because with heavy topics like these I feel like you need to build up towards it, if you suddenly out of nowhere drop info like that on someone it can kind of be baffling yknow.
"Life IS pain. Anyone who says differently is selling something." - The Dread Pirate Roberts.
Life doesn't have to be pain. But only you can determine whether you want your life to suck or not.
@@granda3649 found the guy trying to sell us something
I don't know about you, but I think if humanity was destroyed by an asteroid or something it wouldn't be that bad.
@@granda3649 people dont choose to have misery around them. It just happens.
Antinatalism is the best viewpoint. It would have been better to not born at all. Life is full of loss, misery, sickness, wage slavery, violence, and much more.
“You are the bad guy in someone’s story” me: it’s time to live up to their expectations! 🦹♀️ muahahahahahaha
Yeah this didn't age well
lol
Go for it. You can't please everyone, so do good things for the ones you care about and forsake everyone else. It's a highly efficient system.
better up my presentation game to become a supervillain then
People are gonna die. Sometimes its a 99 year old from old age
Sometimes its a 7 year old in the wrong place at the wrong time.
As a “pretty” person, you never know when someone is REALLY interested in YOU or if they are only invested in your looks, which will fade. People also always judge your relationships. I’ve been told that I moved my current companion into the 5-6 range from the 2-3 he WAS in because I was there to improve his image. I had never felt so much like a fucking object, and my anger was so intense I almost snapped and decked the bastard who dared to insult my object of affection. Pretty privilege definitely exists, and I’ll never say that my looks didn’t get me ahead. But I hate the way our society champions something so shallow and ultimately insignificant.
Humans are visual creatures, so looks are always going to be the first thing someone notices. It’s not right, but it’s simply how we’ve evolved and we can’t change that. Now, people are not going to stay in a long term relationship with someone if their personality is crap, so take comfort knowing you are truly enjoyable to be around.
If someone stays for more than a few months, chances are they actually like you. Just don’t smash on the first night and you’re good, you’re looks draw them in, your personality keeps them and when it gets tough your looks will make it harder for them to leave you.
Just because you dont know someone doesn't mean I can't care about an absolute stranger. I've worried about strangers more than I have for myself.
Here I am, an imperfect stranger.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 well hello there, Stranger! You doing okay? You need a hug?
What’s the harsh reality that no one excepts?: the fact that someone willingly created that thumbnail
Yes
Beauty is prioritized, because it indicates health. Good healthy genes are universally attractive. Ugly= lowborn=poor=unfit highborn men, and to some extent women, typically can choose an optimally attractive mate, whereas the poorest/weakest men have generally had to be content with the leftovers. It is a positive thing for the species that we select this way, but it really sucks for the individuals who fall on the short end of the biological/socioeconomic end of things.
No, beauty is power; beauty is political.
Why do you think Hera, the Queen of the Gods, was called "cow-faced"? Why do you think royalty is always depicted as fat way back when?
Why do you think there are literally thousands of statuettes craved similarly towards the Venus of Vivendorf?
It comes from those who have authority;
You could say that we value symmetry, because of fruit-bearing plants; but there's no evidence to say that beauty is biological.
But everything about a person can be an indicator of health, including mental traits, so this would not explain why beauty is prioritized. I believe the reason why beauty is sometimes still prioritized is because unlike other traits, physical traits are your first impression on someone.
Beauty changes, and survival of the fittest doesn't mean survival of the strongest or most ideal. It means survival of those who can overcome selection pressures.
@@NieroshaiTheSable yawn. Civilization relieves traditional pressures in exchange for surrogate luxury aesthetic idealism selection. Proportion being a constant standard for beauty. Beauty is constant, fads notwithstanding
^^^wut
I’ve always gotten dumped in my relationships. The problem is that I don’t know if I did something or she just didn’t like me anymore because they never talked to me about anything. Not a single issue or problem was brought up.. ever
Girls like to trade up man. It's probably not your fault they just don't see you as high value and moved on to greener pastures. Just be your best dude and everything will be cool man. You don't need a woman to be a good man.
@@Redskies453 king
It's just some people can't afford to keep the good ones like you... it'll pass. You're a great man. ✌️Have a nice day.
Same, at least my last ex was open about why she left, even if it was something she definitely should have talked about earlier.
Another thing is that sometimes nobody is the bad guy. My ex broke up with me and, while I was deeply heartbroken, I can respect her. While I still believe we were right for each other, she was never a bad gf and I don't think I was ever a bad bf. We had our flaws, including me, but it was no red flags or anything.
The bits about the advantage of beauty are spot on. I’m an average looking guy (probably a 5-6, 7 on a *really* good day) and when I worked at bars I made a point of making the beautiful people wait a bit. Not too long, as it’s unfair to single anyone out because of how they look, but just enough to let them know that not everyone is going to give them what they want.
I also taught a girl who was very pretty. At age 18 she knew she could use her looks to get what she wanted, but she had a really good mind and I wanted her to know just how much more of an advantage it is to be intelligent. She never liked doing homework and tried to flirt her way out, but unfortunately for her I prefer women my own age (early 40s) and wasn’t having any of it.
Put simply, a sad truth about being beautiful is that if it ever goes away you’ve got nothing left unless you worked hard at something when you were younger.
We all gonna die and obsessing over stupid drama aint worth it
No one cares about your feelings.
No one will hand you everything you want or think you deserve.
You go out there and earn it.
And sometimes, even if you do earn it, you don't always get it. Accept it and move on.
Nobody said life was fair.
All right, I've been thinking, when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade! Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life's manager!
Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man whose gonna burn your house down - with the lemons!
Steal it
1. Not true for the vast majority of people.
2. Absolutely not true for the lucky few, or do you not believe in inherited wealth?
3. See point 2.
4. Valid, but needlessly condescending.
5. Plenty of people do say life is fair. Most of those people are religious, or believe virtue translates to success. They're wrong, but they DO SAY it.
God, people try to sound deep on here and just sound like asses who wouldn't take what they say to heart if someone said it to them.
Another thing. I don't care if someone in the other side of the world I don't even know dies. Call it a sin, but seriously, I don't care.
we control life- if all it takes is one man to wipe out millions of lives over six years and change the geopolitical landscape for decades after..think about everything hundreds, thousands, or millions could do if they tried. no one cares because there is no benefit of caring. no one will hand out anything because it never happened to them, we have to earn everything because of the choices less then 1% of the population makes and has been making since the dawn of time. the 99.9% of the rest just go along with everything like a mindless horde of zombies
Life is tragic, we live our whole lives to find people we can love, just to lose them in the end anyway.
7:45 that’s weird. As someone who took grievance counselling at the start of the pandemic after my death anxiety drove me to the point of psychosis… the reason I’m not "taking this situation seriously" and putting my self and others at risk isn’t because I’m struggling to come to terms with death, it’s because I’m acutely aware of how little time I have left in life. The people hiding at home and telling everybody else what to do are the ones who are really avoiding death.
You're entitled to your opinion. You are not entitled to respect for that opinion. You are not entitled to have everyone agree with you.
You’re not entitled to your own opinion, you’re entitled to the facts, no more, no less than that
@@meow_meow_J the thing is that realistically nothing is ever a fact. Everything is based off theories. In reality we know nothing about ourselves or anything. I'm not saying that's how I think but it's the argument that bring the question into what you define as fact
@@majaquinn I define it is something that can reasonably be confirmed as true
One of my favorite bumper stickers i saw last year was "GIANT METEOR 2020"
It was styled like an election supporter sticker.
Reverend Ike: Money makes an ugly man handsome.
Me: Flattery gets you almost everywhere.
Honesty gets you in almost every heart/bed/mind.
Earnestness, not honesty. You don't need to tell the truth, you just need to seem to be somebody who tells the truth. The success of swindlers is due to this. The success of corporations is due to this. The success of politicians is due to this.
Favorite child thing sucks. My mom’s favorite is my older sister, dad’s favorite is younger sister. Being the middle child also means being forgotten and ignored a lot. Both my sisters get along well cuz they have common interests. But I don’t, so I’m even more of an outcast. They r both really bad people, younger not nearly as much as older tho. So I can’t even try to initiate a conversation cuz they just try to find something to fight over and u can guess how every fight turns out. With my parents supporting them cuz they r the favorites. It sucks, a lot.
I'm in the same situation. My sisters are blessed with good looks and genes while I'm not. I get forgotten and ignored a lot too, I'm just lucky to have my older sister
@@angrykitteh9589 Hopefully times will get better for you buddy
With the whole starting fights. I seriously try SO HARD to avoid fights but by brother tries so hard to have fights.
Sounds like you are just a nuisance if everyone is against you.
I'm sure this isn't a one sided story that would change context of both parties got to explain their side...
“ Energy cannot be created nor destroyed. You can’t make things that won’t ever exist. You can’t destroy something indestructible. Energy is always balanced. There is always good to outweigh the bad and bad to outweigh the good. It is always balanced. At some point you will experience enough happiness as you have pain. “ ~ Madison Lindsey
“Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.”
Aight Macbeth
A lot of the "resistance" to change is in aspects of the other person's life they don't quite feel comfortable discussing with you; because they don't have full control over them, maybe you do and refuse to adjust accordingly while still holding them accountable and pretending as though you're not aware of your part.
sometimes your not gonna get through it, ive always had told people that they are gonna get through, including myself. but mental health can leave personal scars, and sometimes your just gonna give up.
I think everybody wants someone they can depend on and look up to, but no-one wants to be that person.
What I mean is everyone lectures me on being mindful and empathic, but when I expect compassion from them they say they’re not obligated or responsible for solving my problems.
Harsh reality that no one accepts?! The fact that you don't have to accept most 'harsh realities,'' you have all the power to create your own reality, by any means possible... ANY. Even if it means doing evil things to deal with evil problems. Life became SO MUCH LESS stressful, so much easier and so much more freeing once I started living like this. For example, one of the things (and this is also one of the best things I did ever since) is that I quit my job to re-sell used stuff, mostly used cars and tech, for profit. Now I don't have a job and earn more than even most large business owners, while having all the free time in the world, no worries, no stress, no one to tell me what to do and look down on me... And so on and so forth... Once you realize YOU control your life and that ''harsh realities'' don't actually exist, life becomes so much easier...
Just recently I've been practicing LETTING GO. Letting go of perfection, letting go of a lot of things, people in your life you'd like to control/change, physical things about you you wish you could change. IT WILL NEVER BE PERFECT. Just LET GO OF IT. Live your life and ACCEPT IMPERFECTION. Alive, and alone, and learning to enjoy that experience is a SUPER POWER.
We’ll all die someday. Your achievements, your wealth, anything you’ve ever done in life won’t matter when you kick the bucket.
It will matter to other people though.
@@liagamer4265 but how long...
@@xcx3572umm look at the beatles. Vincent van gogh
Honestly, I know someone who is slowly killing her husband, has accidentally killed over 5 animals, she is an awful person. I am gonna give her some hard truth soon.
Don’t leave it.
Use a hollow point to her dome.
Soon?
How is she _"slowly"_ killing her husband??
**"slowly killing her husband"** wtf? Is she poisoning his food, or something?? And as far as killing the animals is concerned, there is a saying I'm reminded of - "once is an event, twice is a coincidence, and three times is a pattern". Give us some more details!!
I feel so deep right now
Same lol
Fact is fact, no matter how uncomfortable or offensive it is, fact is fact
"Feelings and priorities can change". My mother always said don't act on your feelings because they are fickle and can change at any moment. Besides "advocate for yourself" this was the best advice she has ever given me
The fact that humans, and basically all life forms on this planet, are fundamentally egoistical. There are no selfless acts, because all the things we do can be reduced to the pleasure we get out of them.
On the deepest psychological level no one cares about you. Not your best friend, not your girlfriend not your wife not even your own mother. All acts come down to avoiding pain and seeking pleasure for oneself.
LOL I remember this one time where one of my homies brought back a HUMAN BRAIN and then he said "I can't do it." so I said "Well, I'll do it." and I took a bite out of that brain. Turns out the human brain is poisonous, I was tripping like crazy! It felt good though.
Note to self: Don't eat human brains if you know what's good for ya!
That’s definitely one of those things that I try my best *not* to think about
Not sure that's true when there are people that care more about their partner than themselves and would give their life for them. If someone cares more about someone else so much that they'd give their own life to let the other's continue, I'm sure that proves you're wrong
@@seymourkrelborn4780 No it doesn't. If someone gives his life for someone else, that means he values the life of someone else more than his own, meaning he saves what HE thinks is more valuable. It'a a way to avoid suffering. If the death of someone else causes more suffering to you than your own death, it makes sense from an egoistical point of view to give your life for someone else because that would cause less suffering to you personally. Egoism doesn't necessary mean saving your own a**, it means doing what you think is best for yourself. And that's the case here. It is impossible for you to do something you don't want to do.
@@JohnCena8351 If it's not about the suffering and is about the desire for that person to live a happy healthy life.
You could say satisfying that desire before death is selfish, but if they're losing their life, when it's avoidable at the expense of the other, it's definitely not the selfish of the choices.
People care, we have whole structures in our brains meant for empathy.
There is not and will never be real equality. I know alot of people who fight for and believe in equality, but the fact is people are different and vary widely in their ideas, their values and their ambitions. Some people are natural leaders while most aren't, some people are exceptionally intelligent while many people are frankly dumb as rocks, some people are gifted and talented in the arts or any number of things. So there will always be people who rise to the top while others sink to the bottom.
Race, gender and other things may and often do factor into your place in the world sadly, but too often these are used as excuses for poor choices and abused to play the system, which ends up hurting all of us.
Equality as an idea is only applicable on a basic level. Etc everyone has one vote in an election, everyone should have an equal right to speak their mind and so on, but we must accept that any system run by people will inevitably be flawed as well because people are flawed. Human nature is selfish and avoids responsibility, exceptions do exist but are few and greatly outnumbered.
There will always be flaws in our society and it will never be perfect, someone will always be at the bottom, no matter what we do to fix it or make it better. Utopia is a fool's dream and the pursuit of it is rooted in naive optimism and has led to much suffering in history.
Ikr we’re so focused on destroying our selves that aliens could just come to earth and kill all of us within a second and all of that fighting would have been for nothing
True equality only exist in something everyone can exist in, AKA death.
Pursuit of equality has always had tangible results, though. Trying to improve lives usually improves lives. Even if true equality is an unreachable goal, chasing it has dragged us up out of the middle ages, eliminated chattel slavery, and more. History itself proves you wrong. Failing at one goal can still bring success in another, and that's a reality that's harsh only to people who radically oppose change. You're using the internet because of a woman, thank the suffrage movement. You're literate without needing to join the clergy, thank defiance of a corrupt church's status quo. You can still eat despite a MASSIVE population, thank scientists. We're always chasing utopia, despite naysayers, and we're not there yet. We'll never get there. But we KEEP. GETTING. CLOSER. Because we try.
@@NieroshaiTheSable We should always try to make the world better and more fair for everyone. We have come a long way from the days of slavery to be sure but there will always be inequality in the world, that is simply an unavoidable truth.
@@NieroshaiTheSable so basically, equality is an asymptote
Its pretty safe to assume that a lot of the missing women/children cases are linked to Human Trafficking. Human Trafficking is like fight club it is not brought up enough in these cases.
The "Some people cant be saved" one I really feel is a big one today. So many people seem to have completely internalized the idea that all problems are just the result of misunderstanding, and if you can just sit down and have a nice long talk with the drug addicted multiple fellon and really get through to him then he will turn his life around.
Some conflicts come because you understand what the other side wants all to clearly, not because your ignorant of their goals or situation.
Wait I’m the bad guy in someone’s story, I’m so happy to be included
Being and staying mediocre. Most people are in competitive mode, because they can't accept that fact.
Being mediocre is not a bad thing. It's the norm.
Sometimes the hero dies in the end.
Tbh, I love those stories. Or when the hero becomes the villain. Or both. I've only found 1 that does both and it's my favorite show I've watched (Attack on Titan)
The universe, on a deep level does not care. Not about you, it just doesn't care period, if the universe was sentient it would be the burnt out college student that no longer has any f()cks to give.
It works so well with anxieties and fears as well... World is very frightening but the same time it's not out to try to kill you...work with your surroundings and you shouldn't be afraid even if things are a little scary
Yep. Physics will do as physics does, zero f**ks given.
I always find it sad that some parents don't love their children. A lot of this is to do with the fact that the way we raise our children is extremely unnatural. The saying is "it takes a village to raise a child" which is the truth. Children in tribes will group together to entertain one another, and the entire tribe will keep an eye on them; each tribe filling some role for the kids. The parents have the same roles, of course, but the pressure is elevated by the kids entertaining themselves and having other adults protect them as well. In the modern world, kids need their parents to be Everything, because we don't have a community to watch them. And it's just not possible for a parent to do everything. It is a huge strain on parents. They start to resent their kids and don't have time to enjoy and appreciate their kids.
The idea that "the entire tribe will keep an eye on them" seems false.
@@billolsen4360 Unless a child wonders off by his/herself, I don't see how it is improbable.
@@nothanks1239 Maybe you're relying on all those adults in the tribe to be good.
@@billolsen4360 Well, if they're not good, the numbers in the tribe would dwindle and they wouldn't exist.
I'm never gonna look at the life the same way again. And learn to hurt people, because being good doesn't always help. Sometimes you have to hurt people to gain something important. Thanks to Reddit
Alot of kids grow up without father's because your mother felt she had something to prove.
You can end up in a relationship after a couple of times speaking with someone you're interested in...Not entirely sure why people assume a relationship should be a violent struggle it's just people... people aren't complicated not if you don't want to make it complicated
My mom always said a relationship should be relatively easy to maintain, as in no crazy high bars or double standards or long arguments.
"Some parents just don't love their children" That broke me. Jesus christ
Mine is that sometimes, people doing awful things to you don’t do it out of malice. Granted it isn’t exactly in your overall best interest, hell it probably isn’t in your best interest at all, but they likely aren’t thinking anything along the lines of “If if say this to them, it’ll ruin their week and they’ll be miserable for days.”. Most likely, they do or say that thing without much coherent thought. The worse an action against someone is, the less verbal their thought process is- because they can’t accept that reality.
It’s easy to want to believe that people who make you miserable are bad people in general, and that may even be true, but if you continue wondering what exactly they were THINKING, you’ll paint a worse image of them than there is, and drive yourself mad in the meantime.
It doesn’t make the actions worse, it doesn’t make the impact better, but it’s something to take into mind when looking for someone to blame.
For example, my older sister often comments on my weight and what I eat. Sometimes it’s something small like “There’s a lot of sugar in that.” Or sometimes it’s big, like “She doesn’t have big hips, it’s just fatty tissue.”. I feel horrible about my weight, but I know that she doesn’t do it with the thought process of “If I point out her jiggly thighs, it’ll make her ashamed of them.” Because I know she doesn’t think it through coherently at all. She likely doesn’t even realise she’s doing it.
It doesn’t make the effect smaller, I still hate my body, but it helps me accept that I can’t resent her for it completely and is likely gone be the reason I don’t hate her when I’m grown.
A harsh reality that people struggle with realizing is how imprisoned and unfree they are at the hands of people.
Being able to recognize you are not always the good guy really also goes hand in hand with taking responsibility for your actions namely your mistakes in order to make them right. Those that think they're the good guy no matter what, are the same individuals that blame everyone else for their mistakes and always say everything that goes wrong is someone else's fault.
Actually, it's a very good one, i feel I needed to see / read this
Just because I don’t like talking doesn’t mean i’m dumb.
Some emotions and reactions _are_ invalid and teaching children emotional self-control is not repression. In essence, if being told to calm down, be civil, or be rational makes you fly off the handle, you probably really do need to calm down, be civil, or be rational.
"Do not tell but teach as that is how the immature become mature".
When did telling someone to calm down do anything
So when you get older you start seeing people's true intentions which is why older people go out a lot less and have fewer friends. I used to have more friends than I know what to do with. Then when I realised who was actually my friend and not just hanging around for their own personal gain my circle got really tight.
Had this same thought last night
Even if you have something to escape reality you can never really avoid it even in the thing you use to forget reality.
That there probably isn't a greater meaning to life or existence besides it just there and we are just here.
I disagree, this life is utterly consistent... Might as well take it at face value... There has to be an explanation that can be put into words
@@Pabliski577 i agree im so split on it tho
People aren't interested in disabilities. Most people with disabilities aren't included in most social activities because society is designed for non-disabilities/fully abled people.
The one about feeling your incisions is true. I had a major surgery and I remember waking myself up screaming during and a nurse was really irritated and telling me to stop yelling but I couldn’t because I wasn’t really conscious like I could hear myself screaming but it felt like I was dreaming and I couldn’t stop. But I also couldn’t feel anything so it was weird and I don’t know why I was screaming because I don’t remember feeling anything. It was very strange
You are probably never really going to matter in the grand scheme of things...and that's fine. We're always told in younger years and school "you can be anything or anyone you want to be" when in reality that just isn't the case. Wanting something hard enough and even working your arse off for it does not mean it will ever happen. I wish people would stop being told "work hard and get what you want". It's not always that simple.
yeah exactly, you could be working hard most of your life then get shot in an alley, just like that, all that saved progress gone...
We’re all human, and fighting each other creates nothing but unnecessary suffering.
If you want big muscles you have to lift heavy things.
If you lift heavy things wrong you can get injured.
If you're injured you can't lift heavy things.
If you don't lift heavy things you don't get big muscles.
inb4 pedants ruin everything
what is this rock paper scissors
Rock paper muscle
You lift the rock
You write how many rock lifts
You muscle
Science
14:09 I can say a lot of folks are lost to history already while still being alive!
A part of me will never understand why people would rather live in constant fear, than live for what life brings you. Sure, I'm afraid of dying, I wish I was immortal or at least ageless, but I'm so young, I have a whole life ahead of me, and there's so much I can do if I choose to do so. It's counter intuitive to regret past mistakes and avoid issues at present, you're letting something rule and govern you, as if a puppet master controls everything you do and feel. Is that what people want? To live in fear so somebody can coddle them 'till their dying moments?
(⚠️ NOTE: UNLESS THE PERSON IS DIAGNOSE WITH MUM BRAIN SINCE CHILDHOOD, OR ALZHEIMER’S. And UNLESS THE PERSON ACCIDENTALLY HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS WITH MULTIPLE PEOPLE ⚠️). *IF NONE OF THOSE ABOVE MENTION, and the person confirmed to have a NORMAL FUNCTIONING BRAIN, and still he or she REMEMBERS EVERYONE SO WELL, except for you, either your existence OR YOUR NAME. For example you’ve seen this person you knew 6 years ago, and when you greeted him or her, they don’t recognize you, but when you mention someone else’s name you live with and the person knows off, REMEMBERS IT chances are that person SUBCONSCIOUSLY wasn’t enough interested with your presence, you could even be family members or ex-coworkers and that person remembers A LOT of people from your working place but you or except for you and a few numbers of people, it means, they din’t valued your presence enough EITHER THIS AS INTENTIONALLY OR UNINTENTIONALLY(which in most cases it is) this leads them to forgetting you. Even if you have them some remembrance or tell them memories of the activities or past conversations you’ve had, and still the person had hard times remembering you, then they’d never valued you, AND IN MANY CASES, THEY DON’T EVEN KNOW THIS, THEY AREN’T AWARE. Just like in school subjects, there’s one or two subject you’re forced to have interest in order to pass, but you still fail them regardless of how much efforts you make for it, it’s because that subject is BORING, that subject you’re interested in the MOST notice how much you excel in it compared to the other average subjects.
Life won't wait for you to heal it'll still continue to move forward even if you're moving in reverse