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These teachings should be taught at schools, the life lessons I have learned from this channel alone are priceless. I'm already introducing these teachings to my 6yo boy. Please keep up your awesome life changing work / teachings x
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I loved how you likened people to snowflakes. True you wouldn’t compare 2 snowflakes... you’d appreciate their individual beauty. That’s what I want to work on... I no longer want to compare myself or anyone else. I want to appreciate the individual beauty in myself and in others!❤️❤️
Hi Oxfordhappy, Thank you for your ongoing support and dedication! We're delighted to have you as part of our community. Keep enjoying and learning as we continue on the path of resolving issues together. Kind Regards, David
So glad to found you . Thank you, Thank you , Thank you ! Each video make me realize how we force actually ourselves not feeling good , no body does but us ......
It's awesome that you have found us and we're glad the teachings have helped you! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Really enjoy watching these, i notice Alex nearly always asks a well timed, pertinent question, to bringing the discussion back into balance, learning a lot from these talks
Awesome video! I recently heard a great analogy. A faulty belief is like a splinter. The pain it causes is the emotion. To get rid of an emotion, you need to remove the splinter.
Thank you David and Alex. A video that is full of valuable teachings. Perfect timing, from my experience it is quite a lot of work with the Inner Child and it doesn’t happen over night. Therefore you must keep going 🙏 Brilliant teaching and Life Lessons.
the lesson i get from this video are that i should have not make other people believe/saying into our life we may disagree, on other that the problem is how to make our foundation on a rock ? I have learn from this video that 1.i should rebuild our non steady foudation life in a sand into a rock ... 2.I also learn in this video that in life i should let go the wrong thinking that cause by wrong belive from years ago 3. No need to think on other people think of you, in 10 poeple impression about me is different, live the way of harmony without ccj 4. Dont plan seed of doubt
I love these videos, but David should take it down a notch. His aggressiveness is overpowering his compassion and it comes off as criticizing. And yes I know that may be my inner child speaking, but when it comes to inner child work, compassion is essential. Thanks!
@@maximehamilton1452 I agree with you. If he was monotone, it wouldn’t have the same good effect on me anymore. However, I understand that it’s a matter of preference.
Thank you for your wonderful inspiration in this video. You truly are my greatest source of knowledge on my life history at the moment. My only hope is that I can show this video to the 'competitive' company that I work for. 😂
Hi Michael - these are great questions! You will know when you have rebalanced the Inner Child when you experience positive green light feelings. Wu Wei describes and state of energetic balance and harmony - it is not fixed and it is always moving and transforming in response to circumstances. There also no absolute or 100% as the Human Centred Mind/Ego craves. Life can knock us off balance but the aim is to return to a wu wei state of internal harmony as quickly as possible. This video explains more about wu wei: th-cam.com/video/7hY-nn5vDn0/w-d-xo.html
Hi Thanks for watching and commenting. Here's a video we've done on jealousy and insecurity - we hope it helps you: th-cam.com/video/HbwpmGe--m8/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hey guys! 💕 so if you guys are clearly saying that CCJ is clearly not working, then could you do a tutorial on "How to Self-Refere"? There is no practical instruction out there to become totally emotionally independent and hermetic from others. Is that even possible? Also, what about a situation when we have certain values such as respect to other animals or our romantic partners and we feel like we need to be disgusted by other people's toxic behaviours, such as animal abuse or promiscuity, to give an example in relation to the above. Because it sounds almost like we have to become totally hermetic, but don't we need a certain contrast which will internally manifest as some kind of degree of disgust or hatered to strengthen our internal value system? And another question, after we succesfully heal from the CCJ, can there possibly be a way to sneak a small amount of the CCJ back into our system without getting overwhelmed by it, with intention of strengthening the ego by experiencing the contrast? Or is this question the inner child trying to take over? And if such is the case, is there a way to create a compromise with the inner child with aim to combine self-sufficiency with the CCJ and therefore create some kind of a mixture of both inner dimensions that actually works? What if we get to the point when we gain enough self-respect to not need the CCJ, but part of us wants it with the purpose of building back a strong sense of self? In other words, the question might be, how to brighten our inner purity if we'll cut ourselves from the toxicity of modern society? Don't we need some dose of contrast to experience a teenagy inner rebellion that we needed in our formative years to form our sense of self? If we are born blank and the contrast shapes our sense of self, wouldn't we feel empty without engaging in CCJ to a certain degree? Is there a healthy way to consciously participate in the CCJ then? Please explain! Would you guys consider doing perhaps a follow-up video explaining just that?
Hi Luis, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I think you are referring to Shen in our model. Have a quick look at the Shen videos and see if it answers your question, Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Thank you for these videos. They have really been helpful. What is your advice on how to respond when people are talking in a ccj way about other people to you I don't want to get sucked in
Hi Hakan - we're glad you enjoyed the video! Recommendations: The Tao of Pooh (Benjamin Hoff), Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life (Wayne Dyer), several books by Carol K. Anthony (including the Guide to the I Ching), and of course any teachings by Alan Watts... this should keep you busy! x
Oh man that client did exactly what I do. Judge myself super hard so I know everything that’s wrong with me at all times everything I’m doing that could be misunderstood and the way it might come out and what people’s associations are to a certain word I said so I have to elaborate on what I mean before they can ask or correct me, but that’s about being wrong I fear being wrong. I also have to know all my flaws and almost be self aware just so that if someone else who is more self aware comes along can’t shock me with their opinions of me or worse someone who is not self aware but can still see my weaknesses will use them against me so I’d rather just say I know what my issues are. I know I know I know. And I’m working on it. Lol and I can even make fun of myself about my issues to the point where it then sometimes turns into what feels like self sabotage.
Can i recommend these videos to my adult son ? He is going through a lot emotionally but he might be resistant to this ,how to convince him and understand it too
Hi Reena yes, you can suggest he takes a look at our videos. Tell him what you think about them and ask him to take a look and ask him for his thoughts and opinions on the teachings. This will open up a healthy discussion even if he does not share your viewpoint. We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Thankyou so much❤❤ I have a question, when RLFs come up,iam mostly somewhere engaging with other people etc In that moment i cannot just pause and say oh i do the golden thread now haha But then in a situation what do you do with this RLFs in the moment Ignore them? Try to think positive things? Accept and allow them? I mean in a situation with people and you cannot pause and look at it
Hi @infinity-vv4yj, Thank you for your heartfelt message and excellent question! When RLFs (Red Light Feelings) arise in social situations, it's indeed challenging to pause and work through them. In such moments, acknowledging the RLFs internally without judgment can be a good start. Accepting that they are present, without letting them dictate your actions, can help. Later, when you have some private time, you can revisit these feelings using the Golden Thread technique to understand and resolve them more deeply. Remember, it's about progress, not perfection. You're doing great by being aware of these feelings in the first place! Kind Regards, David
what if i CCJ others? when i ccj myself i can say i’m lovable i’m worthy and can cope but how do i stop judging others? And comparing my parents to other parents? And criticizing everything they do bc i’m so resentful
Hello Cherry, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why would you want to CCJ? Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023 Kind regards, David.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why are you CCJ'ing yourself? Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Something I find myself doing continuously is blaming my parents for my problems, I learned everything from them so shouldn’t I blame them? If I had parents that were a little bit more normal I think I wouldn’t be dealing with many problems that I have been.
I blame my mother for me being insecure cause she’s the most insecure person on the face of the planet, I love the way I look so I don’t understand why I’m insecure it’s just a feeling
You could blame them but it doesn't help. So we should take responsibility for our well being now. Like we were wrongly imprisoned, once released do we still try to live a normal life?
Hi guys. would it also be true to say that ccj can be a form of payback for some people? In other words they are criticizing, judging and comparing because that's what was done to them at a much younger age and now the inner child does it as a form of payback. It believes it feels entitled to cause hurt the same way it was hurt? Just an observation.
What about when u r judging how other people who r treating their children horribly???? They neglect them beat themcontrol them and u see how they r behaving and you despise them. Is this judging? And am i not rightto judge in such an occasion? How am i supposed to see this????
Hi Ing, great question! We are looking for the supporting evidence of the original 'lie' (I'm not good enough / I can't cope / I'm unlovable)... once the lie is formed in your belief system (typically in childhood) this then negatively influences your self-talk, thoughts, life choices and actions from that point onwards... so any outcomes are then the *result* of believing the lie/s and are NOT the *original evidence* is the causation of the lie. The truth is that the 'lie' is always based on a misunderstanding, and so this is why we need to teach our Inner child the Life Lesson around this misunderstanding in order to reach a resolution. We hope this now makes sense!
It is not reliable evidence when you are viewing the world through the filter of your inner child, then the focus will always be biased that you are at fault. To change this, you must follow David's golden thread teachings to show you can learn & grow from these results in a positive way, rather than seeing them as confirmation you are inferior.
Why do you say "this is crazy" and "what´s the matter with you" in a video that is supposed to teach you to stop being criticising and being judmental (to yourself and others)?
Hi @anoukappolonio2512, Thank you for pointing that out. Your feedback is invaluable, and it helps us improve our approach to teaching and communicating effectively. We aim to create an environment that is supportive and non-judgmental, and we apologise if any language used in the video did not reflect that intention. We will take this into consideration for our future content to ensure our messages are clear and aligned with our principles of kindness and understanding. Thank you for your vigilance and for being part of the conversation. Your input helps us grow and better serve our community. Kind Regards, David
So though I really like your videos it’s getting a bit tough for me to here David every single video call the audience and people who are experiencing these red light feelings or in this case judgement “crazy” it almost feels like a judgment on us people who judge a lot lol... “this is crazy! What is the matter with you” is not exactly a great sentence to hear. I have triggers around both of those sentences and I can’t imagine I’m the only one. Also I understand logically he’s just excited and trying to help but this all knowing almost like” duh what are you doing” attitude doesn’t really help...
Hello Carmen, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
Hello Saji., Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Hi, I’ve been watching your videos and while they have helped me a lot I don’t agree with the judgmental part. I believe that there are genuinely despicable people in the world. I believe that there’s a point where your actions and the affects of your actions are outside the realm of understanding and acceptance. Not too long ago some guy in Vancouver recorded another man being killed and posted it because he wanted to go viral on the internet. I’m sorry but in no way can I sit there and say “well who am i to judge him, we’re all human and we all make mistakes”. People like him are disgusting filth and deserved to be labeled as such. Sorry if i’m coming off as aggressive, this is just something i’m struggling with.
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These teachings should be taught at schools, the life lessons I have learned from this channel alone are priceless.
I'm already introducing these teachings to my 6yo boy.
Please keep up your awesome life changing work / teachings x
Thank you Jason! Have an awesome week :) x
I agree with you 💯 I’m also learning so much and passing these teaching to my kids
" if you're not getting anything wrong you're not trying hard enough" that was brilliant
Keep hearing you repeat "you're awesome" I might even start to believe it... Thanks!
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
@@WuWeiWisdom Already done, it helps!
I LOVE YOU TWO. YOU BOTH SAVED MY LIFE!! I'm rooting for you bunch, to keep guiding, keep advising, and keep inspiring!!
I loved how you likened people to snowflakes. True you wouldn’t compare 2 snowflakes... you’d appreciate their individual beauty. That’s what I want to work on... I no longer want to compare myself or anyone else. I want to appreciate the individual beauty in myself and in others!❤️❤️
As usual, brilliant. I listen every day.
Hi Oxfordhappy,
Thank you for your ongoing support and dedication! We're delighted to have you as part of our community. Keep enjoying and learning as we continue on the path of resolving issues together.
Kind Regards,
David
Such profound teachings explained simply. Thank you David and Alex!
So glad to found you . Thank you, Thank you , Thank you ! Each video make me realize how we force actually ourselves not feeling good , no body does but us ......
It's awesome that you have found us and we're glad the teachings have helped you!
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video).
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Alex + David x
Really enjoy watching these, i notice Alex nearly always asks a well timed, pertinent question, to bringing the discussion back into balance, learning a lot from these talks
Awesome video! I recently heard a great analogy. A faulty belief is like a splinter. The pain it causes is the emotion. To get rid of an emotion, you need to remove the splinter.
Wu Wei rocks! Happy Sunday. Thank you for posting.
Sending love Judith! x
Thank you David and Alex. A video that is full of valuable teachings. Perfect timing, from my experience it is quite a lot of work with the Inner Child and it doesn’t happen over night. Therefore you must keep going 🙏 Brilliant teaching and Life Lessons.
Thanks Brenda, we appreciate your support! x
Good happy Sunday morning to you wu wei
Wishing you a peaceful Sunday and new week ahead. x
the lesson i get from this video are that i should have not make other people believe/saying into our life we may disagree, on other that the problem is how to make our foundation on a rock ?
I have learn from this video that
1.i should rebuild our non steady foudation life in a sand into a rock ...
2.I also learn in this video that in life i should let go the wrong thinking that cause by wrong belive from years ago
3. No need to think on other people think of you, in 10 poeple impression about me is different, live the way of harmony without ccj
4. Dont plan seed of doubt
Hi David and Alex .Thankyou very much for this video..xx
Thank you Denise! Sending love. x
Such helpful information! Thank you so much.
I love these videos, but David should take it down a notch. His aggressiveness is overpowering his compassion and it comes off as criticizing. And yes I know that may be my inner child speaking, but when it comes to inner child work, compassion is essential. Thanks!
I agree with you
I actually appreciate his honesty and passion, I would rather David's straight talking stance over someone sounding patronising and passive
@@maximehamilton1452 I agree with you. If he was monotone, it wouldn’t have the same good effect on me anymore. However, I understand that it’s a matter of preference.
I agree with you, but the way I spoke to myself was much more severe.. so I find him pretty mild.
I get stressed listening to David when he starts raising his voice.
This one is good. Can't wait to watch it 😍
We hope you enjoy it! x
Thank you for your wonderful inspiration in this video.
You truly are my greatest source of knowledge on my life history at the moment.
My only hope is that I can show this video to the 'competitive' company that I work for. 😂
You are very welcome
A big, big topic, and right on time too. Thanks Alex, for explaining. We will soon dig deeper into this subject David. Thank you both ❤️
Heres a question for David, how do you know when the inner child is healed? Is wu wei state of mind something you can be in 100% of the time?
Hi Michael - these are great questions! You will know when you have rebalanced the Inner Child when you experience positive green light feelings. Wu Wei describes and state of energetic balance and harmony - it is not fixed and it is always moving and transforming in response to circumstances. There also no absolute or 100% as the Human Centred Mind/Ego craves. Life can knock us off balance but the aim is to return to a wu wei state of internal harmony as quickly as possible. This video explains more about wu wei: th-cam.com/video/7hY-nn5vDn0/w-d-xo.html
Can you please do a video on jealousy? Jealousy on everything not just in romantic relationships
Hi Thanks for watching and commenting. Here's a video we've done on jealousy and insecurity - we hope it helps you: th-cam.com/video/HbwpmGe--m8/w-d-xo.html
If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos.
If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video).
We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Alex + David x
Please do an video that helps people know what they are to God
Thank you so much💖! CCJ is a big problem for me🙄🙄
Hey guys! 💕 so if you guys are clearly saying that CCJ is clearly not working, then could you do a tutorial on "How to Self-Refere"? There is no practical instruction out there to become totally emotionally independent and hermetic from others. Is that even possible?
Also, what about a situation when we have certain values such as respect to other animals or our romantic partners and we feel like we need to be disgusted by other people's toxic behaviours, such as animal abuse or promiscuity, to give an example in relation to the above. Because it sounds almost like we have to become totally hermetic, but don't we need a certain contrast which will internally manifest as some kind of degree of disgust or hatered to strengthen our internal value system?
And another question, after we succesfully heal from the CCJ, can there possibly be a way to sneak a small amount of the CCJ back into our system without getting overwhelmed by it, with intention of strengthening the ego by experiencing the contrast? Or is this question the inner child trying to take over? And if such is the case, is there a way to create a compromise with the inner child with aim to combine self-sufficiency with the CCJ and therefore create some kind of a mixture of both inner dimensions that actually works?
What if we get to the point when we gain enough self-respect to not need the CCJ, but part of us wants it with the purpose of building back a strong sense of self? In other words, the question might be, how to brighten our inner purity if we'll cut ourselves from the toxicity of modern society?
Don't we need some dose of contrast to experience a teenagy inner rebellion that we needed in our formative years to form our sense of self? If we are born blank and the contrast shapes our sense of self, wouldn't we feel empty without engaging in CCJ to a certain degree? Is there a healthy way to consciously participate in the CCJ then? Please explain! Would you guys consider doing perhaps a follow-up video explaining just that?
Hi Luis, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I think you are referring to Shen in our model. Have a quick look at the Shen videos and see if it answers your question, Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Great video !
Glad you enjoyed it Kind regards, David.
Thank you for these videos. They have really been helpful. What is your advice on how to respond when people are talking in a ccj way about other people to you
I don't want to get sucked in
Great as usual. Are there any other Taoist books or teachings than Dao de Jing that you would recommend?
Hi Hakan - we're glad you enjoyed the video! Recommendations: The Tao of Pooh (Benjamin Hoff), Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life (Wayne Dyer), several books by Carol K. Anthony (including the Guide to the I Ching), and of course any teachings by Alan Watts... this should keep you busy! x
Oh man that client did exactly what I do. Judge myself super hard so I know everything that’s wrong with me at all times everything I’m doing that could be misunderstood and the way it might come out and what people’s associations are to a certain word I said so I have to elaborate on what I mean before they can ask or correct me, but that’s about being wrong I fear being wrong. I also have to know all my flaws and almost be self aware just so that if someone else who is more self aware comes along can’t shock me with their opinions of me or worse someone who is not self aware but can still see my weaknesses will use them against me so I’d rather just say I know what my issues are. I know I know I know. And I’m working on it. Lol and I can even make fun of myself about my issues to the point where it then sometimes turns into what feels like self sabotage.
Self sabotage or a comedy stand up special. Sometimes I can’t tell the difference.
Can i recommend these videos to my adult son ? He is going through a lot emotionally but he might be resistant to this ,how to convince him and understand it too
Hi Reena yes, you can suggest he takes a look at our videos. Tell him what you think about them and ask him to take a look and ask him for his thoughts and opinions on the teachings. This will open up a healthy discussion even if he does not share your viewpoint. We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Thankyou so much❤❤
I have a question, when RLFs come up,iam mostly somewhere engaging with other people etc
In that moment i cannot just pause and say oh i do the golden thread now haha
But then in a situation what do you do with this RLFs in the moment
Ignore them? Try to think positive things? Accept and allow them?
I mean in a situation with people and you cannot pause and look at it
Hi @infinity-vv4yj,
Thank you for your heartfelt message and excellent question! When RLFs (Red Light Feelings) arise in social situations, it's indeed challenging to pause and work through them. In such moments, acknowledging the RLFs internally without judgment can be a good start. Accepting that they are present, without letting them dictate your actions, can help. Later, when you have some private time, you can revisit these feelings using the Golden Thread technique to understand and resolve them more deeply. Remember, it's about progress, not perfection. You're doing great by being aware of these feelings in the first place!
Kind Regards,
David
what if i CCJ others? when i ccj myself i can say i’m lovable i’m worthy and can cope but how do i stop judging others? And comparing my parents to other parents? And criticizing everything they do bc i’m so resentful
Hello Cherry, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why would you want to CCJ? Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023 Kind regards, David.
I have a problem that...lessons gets me out of my negative emotions temporarily and not permanent....
That is because change doesn’t happen over night. It takes years of hard work in order to see a little bit of improvement. You can do it! Keep it up!
What if you are getting negative responses from multiple people?
Yeah what if my fiends say nice things about me lol I like what they say so can’t it be true in that case?
What happens David if you judge yourself because of current behaviors that stemmed from bire childhood beliefs..it's the shame of choices today
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why are you CCJ'ing yourself? Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Something I find myself doing continuously is blaming my parents for my problems, I learned everything from them so shouldn’t I blame them? If I had parents that were a little bit more normal I think I wouldn’t be dealing with many problems that I have been.
I blame my mother for me being insecure cause she’s the most insecure person on the face of the planet, I love the way I look so I don’t understand why I’m insecure it’s just a feeling
You could blame them but it doesn't help. So we should take responsibility for our well being now. Like we were wrongly imprisoned, once released do we still try to live a normal life?
Who decides appropriateness?
Hi guys. would it also be true to say that ccj can be a form of payback for some people?
In other words they are criticizing, judging and comparing because that's what was done to them at a much younger age and now the inner child does it as a form of payback.
It believes it feels entitled to cause hurt the same way it was hurt? Just an observation.
It's a natural instinct to do so because it doesn't help the healing.
What about when u r judging how other people who r treating their children horribly???? They neglect them beat themcontrol them and u see how they r behaving and you despise them. Is this judging? And am i not rightto judge in such an occasion? How am i supposed to see this????
since when is the result not the evidence?
Hi Ing, great question! We are looking for the supporting evidence of the original 'lie' (I'm not good enough / I can't cope / I'm unlovable)... once the lie is formed in your belief system (typically in childhood) this then negatively influences your self-talk, thoughts, life choices and actions from that point onwards... so any outcomes are then the *result* of believing the lie/s and are NOT the *original evidence* is the causation of the lie. The truth is that the 'lie' is always based on a misunderstanding, and so this is why we need to teach our Inner child the Life Lesson around this misunderstanding in order to reach a resolution. We hope this now makes sense!
It is not reliable evidence when you are viewing the world through the filter of your inner child, then the focus will always be biased that you are at fault.
To change this, you must follow David's golden thread teachings to show you can learn & grow from these results in a positive way, rather than seeing them as confirmation you are inferior.
Why do you say "this is crazy" and "what´s the matter with you" in a video that is supposed to teach you to stop being criticising and being judmental (to yourself and others)?
Hi @anoukappolonio2512,
Thank you for pointing that out. Your feedback is invaluable, and it helps us improve our approach to teaching and communicating effectively. We aim to create an environment that is supportive and non-judgmental, and we apologise if any language used in the video did not reflect that intention. We will take this into consideration for our future content to ensure our messages are clear and aligned with our principles of kindness and understanding.
Thank you for your vigilance and for being part of the conversation. Your input helps us grow and better serve our community.
Kind Regards,
David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you!
So though I really like your videos it’s getting a bit tough for me to here David every single video call the audience and people who are experiencing these red light feelings or in this case judgement “crazy” it almost feels like a judgment on us people who judge a lot lol... “this is crazy! What is the matter with you” is not exactly a great sentence to hear. I have triggers around both of those sentences and I can’t imagine I’m the only one. Also I understand logically he’s just excited and trying to help but this all knowing almost like” duh what are you doing” attitude doesn’t really help...
I completely agree with you. He sounds very harsh exactly like my inner critic.
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Hi, I’ve been watching your videos and while they have helped me a lot I don’t agree with the judgmental part.
I believe that there are genuinely despicable people in the world. I believe that there’s a point where your actions and the affects of your actions are outside the realm of understanding and acceptance.
Not too long ago some guy in Vancouver recorded another man being killed and posted it because he wanted to go viral on the internet. I’m sorry but in no way can I sit there and say “well who am i to judge him, we’re all human and we all make mistakes”. People like him are disgusting filth and deserved to be labeled as such.
Sorry if i’m coming off as aggressive, this is just something i’m struggling with.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Who decides appropriateness?